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Creepy but Crucial Information: “You Shall Know the Truth and Advanced Grooming as Described by the Truth Shall Make You Flinch.” Sex Offenders Death by Power Point! May challenge your beliefs. Will review many studies and some information is anecdotal information from offenders that is Cory Jewell Jensen, M.S. relevant to law enforcement, child protective CBI Consulting, Inc. services/child advocates, courts, youth service organizations and risk management professionals. Video clips and quotes/client confidentiality. [email protected] Some newer, some older, some very old…..
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Sex Offenders Historical Perspective Are Not All the Same
Heterogeneous group that come in all shapes and sizes Variety of histories and risk levels (low, medium and high) We are starting to forget what we have already learned! Different treatment/supervision needs in the community Complex etiologies Some of you will not have heard some of this before.
Children with sexual behavior problems Some of you will not understand the
Sexually reactive children importance/relevance of what we learned during the
Youth with sexual behavior problems past 2 decades. Adult sex offenders Our field has moved on to bigger and “better” things. Child molestation, pedophilia, sexual assault, rape, Some of us are old! exhibitionism, voyeurism, bestiality and internet
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Selection, Engagement and Seduction of Children and Adult by Child Molesters, (Jewell Jensen, Jensen & Bailey, 2002
Why does grooming work? Most adult don’t know what to look for. Most adults don’t want to see it or believe it. How does grooming work? By targeting specific children, families and communities to exploit. Seducing the child/ren and adults. Preparing for disclosure/confrontation Learning from experience.
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Adverse childhood experiences, paraphilias, and Sexual Assault of Young Children as Reported to serious criminal violence among federal sex offenders Law Enforcement: Victim, Incident and Offender (Drury et. al, 2016) Characteristics (Snyder, 2000)
40% of the offenders of children under 6 were 225 Federal sex offenders other children.
36% reported abandonment by father/neglect 13% of offenders were age 7 to 11
28% physical abuse 27% were age 12 to 17. 27% sexual abuse 39% of offenders of children age 6 to 11 were 24% verbal/emotional abuse juveniles. 27% of juvenile victims (11 yrs+) were abused by
Reported an average of 5 paraphilias juvenile offenders.
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Polygraph Testing Leads to Better A Prospective Examination of Whether Understanding of Adult and Juvenile Sex Childhood Sexual Abuse Predicts Subsequent Offenders (Hindman, J. & Peters, J., 2001) Sexual Offending (Widom & Massey, 2015) Published in the Journal of Pediatrics Adult Offenders Pre-polygraph Post-polygraph 908 children (age 0 to 11 at time of abuse) with Ave. # of 2.9 11.6 substantiated physical abuse, sexual abuse or neglect
Victims 667 control cases
Mean age of 51 years at time of study. Sexually Abused 61% 30% Criminal history collected from both federal and state. As Child Childhood abuse was found to increase risk for arrest for adult sex crime but childhood sex abuse, by itself, did not. Sexually Abusing 27% 76% Physical abuse and neglect did pose increased risk. As Child Physically abused males (not females) had a higher mean number of sex crime arrests. 9 10
Early Atypical Sexual Experiences in Children Leading to Heightened Sexual How Many Offenders Are Out There? Interests and Pedophilic Interest in Adults
Early sexual contact with other children and 5% of the male population (1 in 20 men) animals, and early masturbation. suffer from Pedophilia (Seto, 2008). (Houtepen, Sijtsema & Bogaerts, 2016; Levenson, et al., 2017; Neutz et al., 2011; Riegel, 2004. Early intercourse Fewer than 5% of sex offenders
(Kjellgren, et al. 2010; Seto & Lalumiere, 2010) are ever apprehended. Early intentional viewing of pornography or sexually explicit material (SEM), 4 % to 7% “Dunkelfeld” (male and (Simons et al., 2008; Smallbone & McCabe 2008). females combined) offenders in
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Sexual Crimes Among Males Average Crime Statistics
5% to 33% of males have committed at least one 100% / 10%-30% / 30% A high risk group of sexual offense (Grotpellier & Elliot, 2002; Koss, 1987; (Dept of Justice, 1996; offenders self-reported an Lisak & Miller, 2002, Abbey, et al. 2001). NYPD SVU, 2015; average of 119.7 sex Nationally, 1 out of every 184 US males is a registered Delaware SP, 2018; Hawaii crimes before they were sex offender (NCMEC, 2017) PD, 2018) caught (Weinrott, 1998). Only 3% of crimes had As of May 2017, one out of every 80 (+/- 2%) Oregon been reported & males was a registered sex offender (NCMEC, 2017). A low risk sample of prosecuted (Abel, 1986). offenders who underwent Approximately 1 in 20 males suffer from pedophilic 52% of offenders reported polygraph examinations arousal/interests/preference (Seto, 2008) discovery, but no one admitted an average of Between 5% and 10% of adult males have molested contacted authorities. 198 sex crimes (O’Connell, children (Lewis, 1986 & DOJ, 1997). (CBI ,1992 & 2002) 1998) 13
The dark figure of sexual offending: new “Crossover” or “Crime Switching” evidence from federal sex offenders Behavior (DeLisi, et al. 2016) Some exhibitionists and voyeurs target children. Others go on to commit “hands on crimes” or rape. After beginning Typical number of child 32% (non-poly study) to 64% (poly study) of rapists molest children. specialized treatment victims was 8 to 13 40% to 60% of Rape III / Statutory offenders molest younger children. in various programs, 85% of child porn offenders have molested children. Average number of 30% to 60% of adult and juvenile child molesters sex offenders initially events per victim was abuse boys and girls. under-reported the 10 Most offenders cross “relationships” number of sex crimes 65% of “incest offenders have abused by 5-8X to 75X children outside of the family. 80 to 130 crimes 53% of extra-familial offenders have abused their own children
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Selection, Engagement and Seduction of PROTECTING YOUR CHILDREN: Children and Adult by Child Molesters, (Jewell Jensen, Jensen & Bailey, 2002) “Advice From Child Molesters” 1989 Sex Offender Group Why does grooming work? Westridge Elementary Most adult don’t know what to look for. School and LO PD Most adults don’t want to see it or believe it. Washington County Sheriff’s Office How does grooming work? Oregon State & USA By targeting specific children, families and communities to exploit. “No one wants to have to tell their children about Seducing the child/ren and adults. sexual abuse. On the other Preparing for disclosure/confrontation hand, do you want them to learn about it from a child Learning from experience. molester instead?” 17 18
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Offender Relationship to Victim Other Studies Huot, 1999
1652 sex offenders Biological parent 16% Half of offenders Family members make Stepparent 14% 95% were child against children are up a quarter to a third Other relative 16% molesters. acquaintances of offenders (Grand, uncle, sib) (Wonderlich, 1996 Majority of victims (Finkelhor, 2005) Friend of parent 26% Bolen, 1999; under 12 years old. Person in authority 22% (clergy, teacher, Finkelhor, 2005) Strangers make up 7% coach) to 25% Stranger 05% Other 01% (Finkelhor, 2005)
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Research on Grooming 80’s to now Interpersonal Journal of Violence, 2018. Vol. 33 (1) 3-4.
How Sex Offenders “Lure” Children A comparative study of (Lang & Frenzel, 1988) demographic data related to intra Words Matter: In The Concept of Grooming What Sex Offenders Tell Us About –and extra-familial child sexual Introduction to a and How It Can Help Prevention Strategies abusers and professional (Conte, Wolf & Smith, 1989) perpetrators. (Sullivan & Beech, Commentary on Grooming Victims. Modus Operandi: Accuracy in self- 2004) By Jon Conte. By Lucy Berliner reported use of threats and Modus Operandi of Sexual The Evolution of Grooming and Seduction coercion. (Kaufman et al. 1993) Offenders Working or Doing Grooming: The Concept By Park Dietz Child Sexual Abuse Prevention: Volunteer Work with Children and Adolescents (Leclerc, et al. 2005) What Offenders Tell Us. By Ken Lanning ( Elliot & Brown, et al., 1995) Examining the modus operandi of On the Origin Of Grooming Child Sexual Abuse: Offender sexual offenders against children Characteristics and Modus and it’s practical implication By Ann Wolbert Burgess and Operandi (Smallbone & Wortley, (Leclerec, et al. 2009) Carol Hartman 2001)
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Most Important Concepts The Concept of Grooming and “For every paraphilia, there is some job or hobby that provides How It Can Help Victims exposure to the preferred imagery.” Dietz, 1983 (Lucy Berliner, 2018) “Target rich environments” Old debate about whether i.e. YSO’s. to call it grooming, Self blame and shame Over time, increased seduction, coercion or Majority of CSA is “non- over their own behavior feeling of being “complicit manipulation. violent” due to pursuit of before and during abuse in their own abuse.” “relationship” with child. Difficulty distinguishing because they “went along” Failure to stop it. normal parental behavior Specific strategies are without protest as Failure to report or from grooming determined by offender’s increasingly intimate and attempts to hide abuse past success and relationship Process described as inappropriate behavior from others. with the child and the targeting/recruitment for was introduced. Side benefits from abuse. “developmental stages, needs victimization re childhood and vulnerabilities of the vulnerabilities targeted child victim.” 23 24
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Motivational VS Operational Legal Definitions Goals and Behaviors
“Grooming is the process of cultivating trust with a Pre-Offending Behavior Place self in situation or victim and gradually introducing sexual behaviors Public/family image relationship to have sexual until reaching the point where it is possible to Engagement with child contact with child/ren. and family perpetrate a sexual crime against the victim.” Avoid disclosure, Control and ongoing detection and reporting. (Piercefield v. State, 2007) access Enhance sexual/intimate Offending Behavior experience with victim. Gradual desensitization Enhance the “thrill of “…the process of eroding a victim’s boundaries to and sexualization getting away with it.” physical touch and desensitizing them to sexual Post Offending Behavior Be able to pursue new issues.” (State v. Berosik, 2009) Denial, alignment, victims 25 escape 26
Predators, Pedophiles, Rapists “Grooming” Definitions and the Law and Other Sex Offenders (Gillespie, 2004) (Salter, 2002)
“The establishment and (eventual betrayal) of “Grooming is a transient process that is affection and trust occupies a central role in the difficulty to capture and virtually impossible child molester’s interactions with children…The to pinpoint as to when it begins and ends.” grooming process often seems similar from offender to offender, largely because it takes little to discover that emotional seduction is the most “These difficulties stem from the fact that it is effective way to manipulate children.” difficult to make a clear distinction between friendly behavior toward a child and something that has a more sinister motive.”
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Stages of Grooming Grooming Dynamics (McAlinden, 2006) (Center for Missing and Exploited Children, 2016)
1) Befriending potential child 3) Offender uses “forbidding fruit” victim by getting to know their such as swearing, dirty jokes/sex Identifying and targeting victim interests/ weaknesses, being talk/porn and rule breaking to Gaining trust and access helpful and confiding in order normalize sex and entrap child to gain confidence and trust. into us/them mentality and Playing a role in the child’s life feelings of culpability. 2) Cultivate a “special Isolating the child relationship” be bestowing 4) Offender will exploit child’s inducements and encouraging naivety and trust by introducing Creating secrecy around the relationship exclusivity to distance others. increasingly intimate physical contact then escalate boundary Initiating sexual contact violations which also serves to decrease reporting. Controlling the relationship
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Sexual Grooming of Children: Review of literature FBI Behavioral Analysis Unit and theoretical considerations. Offender Typology – Grooming (Craven, Brown and Gilcrist, 2006) (Fifth Edition, 2010) Identity potential target
Self-grooming Availability – Vulnerability – Desirability Grooming the environment Gather information about needs and - vulnerabilities Grooming significant others and potential onlookers Via communication or interaction/observation with others Grooming the child Establish a connection
Access via relationship, activity, and/or organization (alienate or ingratiate caretakers)
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FBI Behavioral Analysis Unit FBI Behavioral Analysis Unit Offender Typology – Grooming Offender Typology – Grooming (Fifth Edition, 2010) (Fifth Edition, 2010) Fill needs and vulnerabilities Constellation of behaviors
Core grooming behaviors, influenced by Offender supplies both emotional and tangible offender’s skill and child’s reaction things, may try to fill “void” in victim’s Lower inhibitions (the “pay off”) life/situation.
Introduce sexualized talk, touch, play, nudity, Attention, recognition, affection, kindness, porn, etc. romance, intimidation Preserve the process Gifts, staples, drugs/alcohol, privileges, relax rules, allowing the forbidden, breaking down Prevent disclosure, repeat victimization, encourage victim compliancy/collaboration roles/boundaries that usually exist between children/adults, student/teacher, coach/player 33 34
FBI Behavioral Analysis Unit The Pedophile’s Guide to Love and Pleasure: A Offender Typology – Grooming Child-lover’s Code of Conduct (2nd Edition. 2010) (Fifth Edition, 2010) by Phillip Greaves.
Grooming is tailored to specific victims and “Pedophiles must care for and befriend their young lovers. families/agencies (via church – offender may They are concerned for the wellbeing and pleasure of their portray self as extremely religious) little friends, always putting the juvenile’s pleasure and happiness first.” Adolescent males “When Pedophiles interact with children, they do so The 3 D’s - driving, drinking, dirty pictures through their own inner child and enter into an equality of Boys and girls personhood with their young friend.” Some children are innately attracted to pedo/juviphilies. Attention, affection, assets Recommend teen magazines for “handsome, fresh faces” and latex finger coits for little penises.
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Online Solicitation or Internet Grooming
. The danger of online solicitation by a stranger is much lower that off-line risk from someone know to the child. . Online grooming allows the offender to move from “stranger” status to “known” friend.
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However…. Typologies
2001 – 1 in 5 youth experienced online Child pornography offenders solicitation (Mitchell, Finkelhor & Wolak) Contact driven offenders (who groom for 2009 – 21% increase in online victimization the purpose of offline sex) (Mitchell, Finklehor, Jones & Wolak) Fantasy driven offenders (who seen to be 13 to 17 year olds are the most common age satisfied with keeping the relationship online group to be solicited. and is satiated by discussing taboo sexual Online offenders are younger and more likely to topics with minors online) be single.
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A linguistic analysis of grooming strategies of online sex offenders: Implications for our understanding of predatory sexual behavior in an increasingly computer-mediated world. 5 Stages of Online Grooming (Black, et al. 2015) Friendship Forming Team analyzed and coded transcripts of online Makes contact, gets to know, small talk and gathering information about offender communication with decoys. target. Relationship Forming Identified 5 stages (friendship forming, relationship Forms bond, discusses friends/family, school and social life.
forming, risk assessment, exclusivity stage, sexual Offenders acts compassionate and understanding, gains trust. stages. Risk Assessment Determined that online offenders had fewer Inquiries about victim and parent schedule, parental oversight. “gates” to control for (non-verbal communication, Exclusivity Stage fewer potential observers), which made the Creates “us against them” perception to promote secrecy . various stages in grooming easier to move through Sexual Stages more quickly. Sex talk about past experiences/interests, trade nude photos and then plan. 41 42
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Targeting Communities and Institutions
Picking a community or institution
Setting provides access to children.
Offender is “unknown” or “unsuspected.”
Atmosphere of “tolerance and acceptance.”
Community appears “gullible, naïve and non- confrontive.”
Has fluid or “loose” boundaries.
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“Setting Em Up: Personal, Familial and Instructional Grooming in the Sexual Other Tactics Abuse of Children. (McAlinden, 2006)
Choosing to work opposite schedule from “They fail to consider that offenders may groom partner/NOS. not only the child but also their family and even Arranging to do transportation, homework, chores, the local community who may act as the discipline, chaperone dances/sleepovers/field gatekeepers of access. They also ignore what trips, etc. can be termed “institutional grooming”- that Volunteering to work with toughest students. sex offenders may groom criminal justice and other institutions into believing that they present no risk to children.”
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Family Offenders: Exploring Sex Offender Grooming More or Less Dangerous? Tanner and Brake, 2013
Overcoming resistance Chronic deception with intimate partner. Normalizing the assault Unique degree of access and control. Stepwise progression and desensitization Unique ability to undermine child’s relationships, Maintaining access
activities, and isolation. Keeping victim available
Unique ability to twist other people’s perception of Social /personal position child’s credibility. Minimizing disclosure Unique ability to create greater fear of disclosure. Bonding Unique ability to control child’s response to Push/pull (emotional support and isolation from others) disclosure or detection. Induce fear and guilt 47 48
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More “Seduction.”
“I’d do some of those things in front of other adults or the kid’s parents just to get everybody comfortable with my interactions with kids.”
“When I got ready to push for sex, I’d test the kid by touching them on their private parts to see how they would react. If they stiffened up or acted scared, I’d back off and try again later.”
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Running spouse/parents down Discrediting the child.
Criticizing other parent in front of victim “I told them she was mad at me because I punished her.” Becoming the favored/more trusted/more fun/hipper parent/friend. “I said she wanted to go live with her mother so she accused me of this to get out of the house and my rules.” Creating an “us against them” mentality. “I said she said I did this because I wouldn’t let her date.” “I said her friend made something like this up and got a “If someone is paying more attention to your child lot of attention so she did it.” than you are, be concerned.” “I told people that her mother coached her to get back at me.”
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Targeting Families
Family Single, absent or “uninvolved” parents, Gullibility, stress, poverty. Lack of bonding, lack of supervision, lack of boundaries, Lack of assertiveness Prior victimization of parent/s. Disabilities or other vulnerabilities. Indiscriminate trust of others. Parents who don’t seem to understand normal
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Victim Selection “Study and Befriend”
Gender and tanner stage “Everybody liked me and people were comfortable with my interactions with kids.” Personality characteristics “I treated them like they were adults.” Relationship with caretakers/support system “I acted like a big kid.” Protective Factors (self-esteem, assertiveness, “I complimented them and bought them things.” awareness and instincts) “I stuck up for them and helped them with their chores.” “I never disciplined them.” Personal, physical boundaries “I paid lots of attention to them and gave them lots of Bargaining power affection.” “Kids liked me and adults thought I was good with kids.”
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Entrapping the Innocent: Toward A Theory of Choosing “At Risk” Children Child Sexual Predators (Olson, Daggs, Ellevold and Rogers, 2007)
Less believable Factors offenders describe as causing Lower level of supervision children to have less supervision and/or be Needier for attention/affection more vulnerable to abuse
May have been abused “broken in” before Single parent home
Less willing to risk telling on teacher, coach, Parents with substance abuse problems
minister, favorite parent/uncle….. Emotion or mental health problems
More bargaining power………. Marital discord or domestic violence
Neglectful of children in general
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Identifying Sexual Grooming Themes Used by Internet Offenders Children With a History of Abuse (Williams, Elliot and Beech, 2013)
Children who have been molested are more likely Children who are isolated and lack social (3-6X) to be re-abused by a new offender (Finkelhor, 2007). support are more likely to engage with a person/stranger who offers acceptance. Healthy adults ignore or seek help for children with sexual behavior problems.
Offenders may sexualize children they know, or suspect, have been abused. 59 60
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“False” Allegations versus Medical Findings of CSA “Mistakes” Do children lie? Heger, et al. 2002 5 year prospective study of 2384 children The “pee” story. 96.3% had “normal medical findings.” The “coat in the hall closet” story. Kellog, et., al., 2004 The “Michael Jackson” story. 36 pregnant teens, only 2 showed evidence of penetration Adams, et al., 2009
“Unfounded” versus “False” 236 children, mean age = 9 Divorce/custody cases. “suspicious” findings in 9% and abnormal in 14% Anderst, et al., 2009 2 to 12% depending on age. 506 CSA victims Only 4% of CSA victims have abnormal physical “Most victims who reported repetitive penile-genital contact with examinations (Heger, et. al. 2002) some degree of perceived penetration had no definitive evidence of penetration on the hymen.” 61 62
Scientifically Rigorous Studies on Creating Access and Adult Sexual Assault Gaining Opportunity
Victoria Police, Australia British Home Office 2003 “Sometimes I offered to babysit while my girlfriend 2005 850 cases did the shopping and pushed the notion that she 2,643 2.1% classified as false. needed to take time for herself once in a while.” Toronto Metropolitan 2.5% classified as false Police British Home Office, “I made sure I was the one who read them 1992 1977 bedtime stories and tucked them in.” 116 cases 348 cases “I offered to take him on special outings.” 6% classified as false. 8.3% classified as false Making a Difference” study “I drugged the mother so she got sleepy early.” Date unknown 2,059 cases 7% classified as false. 63 64
Do Sex Offenders Molest When Other Persons How Victim Age Affects the Context and Are Present? A Preliminary Investigation Timing of Child Sexual Abuse (Underwood, Patch, Cappelletty & Wolfe, 1999) (McKillop, Brown, Wortley and Smallbone, 2015)
131 adult SOs Age of victims Most abuse of teens occurred 25% molested when another 11% of victims under 5. during later hours (9 PM and 6 55% of the child molesters child was in the same bed AM), outside the home and 42% age 6-11 reported molesting 12% molested when another perpetrators was more often children when another adult was in the bed 47% 12 and older unrelated. child was present 77% said offending with others Abuse of younger children 53% of offenders reported that Occurred during “normal” 24% molested when present made it “more exciting” a relative was their first victim. and gave them a sense of activities in the home st another adult was present 66% knew 1 victim for a year or “mastery” Perpetrator was a relative or live in more. (but unaware) 75% said they were being “too 2/3 of incidents occurred while 14% molested when compulsive to inhibit desires another person was nearby, in the another adult and another 39% said they were “stupid.” same house or present in the same child were present room. 65 66
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Seduction of Children Child Sexual Abuse Prevention: What Offenders Tell Us. “Monsters do not get children, nice men do.” ( Elliot, Brown & Kilcoyne, 1995) Engagement, desensitization and sexualization. 91 adult SO in TX in UK, 46% said they created Study and befriend the child. semi-structure interview “special relationship” Develop a peer relationship or elevate the child 53% used “play or 46% used gifts/bribery to an “adult status” in the relationship. teaching” to seduce child 44% used coercion and Promote physical contact - “wrestling, hugging, 49% talked “about sex” persuasion tickling, kissing, massages, lap sitting and 47% used “accidental 21% used pornography to backrubs.” touching” desensitize Confidence building by “over complimenting/ 39% “never worried’ about flattery, confiding, “sticking up for them.” child telling Test child’s ability to “keep secrets.”
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More Behaviors “I found Jesus on the way to court.”
Remorse can be faked. Playing hide and seek Cuddling on the couch, Remorse can be self-centered/self-serving. in the dark under a blanket while Angry/sad victim rejected or told on them. watching TV Strip poker Believe victim led them on or didn’t resist. Swimming nude Having the child sleep Angry/sad they got caught and punished Victim was equally to blame for what happened. Drying a child off with in same bed with SO Believe they were the person most harmed. Sneaking into child’s a towel Don’t really appreciate harm to victim. bedroom at night. Massaging an injury Angry/sad about ongoing consequences to themselves, “not a day goes by that I don’t live with the consequences of what I did.”
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More “We” Tactics More “Seduction.”
Get victim to go “lock the front door.” “In order to normalize what I was doing to her, I’d playfully Go “get the lubricant.” grope her mother in front of her.” “Close the blind.” “I would leave the bathroom door open and let them see “Send the other kids out to play.” me masturbating.” “Call mom to see how long it will be before she will “I found them looking at a porn site and let them keep get home.” looking at it instead of punishing them.” Text/email/kick with victim about sex and send “I would put on a porn video and started rubbing myself nude photos. while she was in the room, you wouldn’t believe how curious 11 year old girls are about stuff like that.”
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Progression of Sexual Contact Keeping Children From Telling
Fondling Tell them it’s “not a big deal and everyone already knows.” French kissing, body kissing and licking, oral sex Suggest “no one will believe them.” “Rope them into doing something bad so they won’t want Digital Penetration everything to come out.” Simulated or Actual Intercourse “I said people would blame them, and it would Orgasm hurt our family. Posing for “sexy” pictures. “I told her we would get a divorce and the other kids would lose their dad.” “I told him the other students would hate him.”
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Seducing Adults – Exploiting our “Lying, it’s easy.” Strengths and Weaknesses.
“My persona was upstanding, law abiding, bill- “I said I couldn’t’ believe people would believe I paying, intelligent and kind.” was the kind of person who would do something “I made myself out to be a pillar of the like that. community” “I said I would not admit to something I didn’t do.” Verbalized “hatred” toward sex offenders. “I said I was never alone with her and they “I was always helpful and polite.” believed me.” I’d “set things up to make the kid look like a liar.” “I said my wife was out to get me and coached If “head of the household,” he may be controlling, her.” run his wife down, interfere with her relationships “I said my brother in law always wanted me out with children/victims. the family and this was his way of doing it.” 75 76
“How I avoiding getting reported.” Going to Court
“I said it was an accident, a mistake or the first “I had my whole family believing she lied. They even time something like this has ever happened.” wrote character letters to the Judge for me saying what an honest person I was and how they knew I “I told them that I felt terrible about it and would would never hurt a child.” be willing to go to therapy.” “Most of the mothers of my victims knew about my “I told them that it would ruin my life if violent side and kept their daughters from they reported me.” testifying.” “I told them it was the child’s fault.” “I downloaded some junk about how to pass the polygraph and it worked.” “I told them I’d been molested as a child.”
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Lived Experiences of Grooming Among Examining the modus operandi of sexual Male Survivors of CSA offenders against children and it’s (Plummer, 2017) practical implication (Leclerec, et al. 2009)
He knew I was a bit of a fish out of water and he exploited that. Suggests we view sex offender behavior as a Here’s me, young and naïve, and he’s giving me things I couldn’t’ “rational choice,” that occurs during all criminal even imagine. It was more affection that I got from the rest of the acts i.e.., maximizing gain while minimizing risk of world.” apprehension “It started out reasonably ambiguous. When it crossed the line the first time, he was comforting me, you know, a hug from Evidence that offenders’ MO changes with age and behind, then he rested his hand on my genitals and I thought, experience to increase success. ‘was that an accident.’” Suggests a broader view of MO that incorporates He knew I was putty in his hands. He never had to threaten me victim characteristics and behavior because he knew I would never open my mouth.”
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I Knew It All Along: The Sexual Grooming Behaviors of Child Molesters and the Hindsight Bias Review (Winters & Jeglic, 2015)
What percentage of Without specialized training most grooming behavior is How many offenders are children? difficult to distinguish from normal adult/child interactions. out there? What is the disclosure Following detection, onlookers have an exaggerated belief How many crimes per rate? that others would/should have been able to detect offender? grooming behavior or perceive that the suspect was What is the rate of false How many child molesters offending. allegations in child sex abuse girls and boys? abuse cases? Hindsight bias may be counterproductive in that it might How many cross “incite blaming of the victim’s family or community for What is the risk that child relationship categories? failing to act.” victims will be abused by What is the reoffense an new offender. rate? Average number of victims Does treatment work? 81 per offender? 82
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