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SECURITY AND DIPLOMACY

Continued from page 11 Stoltenberg in Brussels. Israel has been were led by Habayit Hayehudi chairman accepted as a partner to the organization . but not a member. In response to the question of IDF Deputy Chief of Staff Maj. Gen. who would be the best alternative to Yair Golan was also there, the highest- Netanyahu, 21 percent said that it would ranking Israeli official to meet with NATO be Lapid, 12 percent chose Bennett, representatives. 7 percent Gideon Saar, and 6 percent While in Brussels, Golan also met with named Moshe Yaalon. the head of the Turkish Armed Forces Under all scenarios, the joint power of Gen. Hulusi Akar. It was the highest- Zionist Union/ would be between level meeting since the exchange of 36 and 37 seats, while the constellation ambassadors between Yerushalayim of , Habayit Hayehudi, and Yisrael and Ankara following the signing of the Beytenu would range between 42 and 45. reconciliation agreement. In all scenarios would Golan also met with several Arab maintain 13 seats, meaning that, taking military leaders on the sidelines. Among into account the likely refusal of chareidi Arab countries represented at the parties to join a Lapid-led government, the meeting were Algeria, Egypt, Jordan, only way for Lapid to form a government Lebanon, Bahrain, Kuwait, Morocco and would be to include the Arab list, also a very Tunisia. Edi Israel/Flash90 unlikely scenario. An Israeli Navy vessel seen off the coast of Gaza. Navy Gets Boost to Protect Israel Opens NATO Office in Offshore Oil and Gas Zone Ministry declines to say how much it waiting to be found in the blocks and Tie-Strengthening Move has since received. hopes to choose two or three foreign Israel is boosting spending on its navy The increase was tied to the need to consortia to drill. Israel has opened its first office in to better protect offshore oil and gas defend the oil and gas development, and Investors say the steps are reas­ NATO headquarters, as it develops closer deposits and secure a large maritime zone the current spending comes as Israel suring. ties with the European defense alliance, that abuts that of its neighbor and enemy, begins accepting bids from companies “We have full confidence in the Ynet reported last week. Lebanon. that want to explore 24 offshore blocks Israeli government’s ability to protect A number of high-ranking NATO The navy in 2013 asked for an increase in the eastern Mediterranean that Israel’s territory and the development officials were on hand as Roni Leshno in its budget of $700 million to build up adjoin the vast Leviathan deposit. of its natural resources,” Mathios Rigas, Yaar formally submitted his credentials its systems and $100 million annually Israel estimates 2,137 billion cubic the chief executive of Greek energy firm to NATO Secretary-General Jens to maintain them, though the Defense meters and 6.6 billion barrels of oil are Energean, told Reuters.

Women in the Workforce — Vataas b’Chefetz Kapehah The Quality ‘No’ SHAINDY BABAD last minute work. They know the rules. refuse the request being made. Perhaps York. Everyone in your Yerushalayim Explore the possibility for a reciprocal it is too taxing and will impinge on our community has a friend or family member The title of this piece is not a typo. favor. You don’t have to grumble or turn ability to function in critical parts of our they need to send a package to. You are We are gomlei chassadim by birthright, them away. Try to ask for a discount on lives, perhaps we are not at liberty to going straight from the airport to a series and as such, it pains us when we need to their products for you in exchange for the grant the request. Whatever the reason, of meetings until late at night, followed refuse a request. Our “default mode” is one rush job at the regular price. They may not saying no with proper etiquette protects by a full day conference the next, leaving of giving and sharing, helping and assisting. have enough budget to cover your extra your relationship and your reputation, straight back to the airport. Much as you’d So why talk about saying no? fee, and this would be an elegant way to and enables you to leave the door open for love to accommodate, you aren’t even going Mastering the art of offering a quality get what you deserve. Even if it becomes future interactions, despite the refusal to have time to visit your sister! She’ll meet no, when you have to refuse a request, is a impossible, by suggesting an exchange you now. you for coffee during one of your breaks at critical skill, and useful in every sphere of communicate your value as well. As a well-known specialty cake baker the conference hall. The way you say no our lives. You’ve been asked to speak for a you find that you are getting frequent will soften the disappointment and help conference. The offer would give you requests for “just one small, easy cake” your community understand why you are When ‘No’ Is ‘Maybe Later’ very valuable exposure, but it would be from friends, neighbors and the parents refusing. By explaining your constraints Often, it’s the time, timing or location a volunteer engagement (something you of your kids’ classmates. While you’d and clearly stating what you can or of the request that is the problem, not the don’t usually do) and is scheduled for love to help everyone, you need the time can’t do without being defensive or actual request. When you sense that this the one Sunday you committed to spend to focus on paying clients. Establish offensive, you’ll be pleasantly surprised at is the case, use these tips to reschedule shopping with your teens this month. public boundaries and stick to them. If the understanding and empathy you’ll get considering the request. This usually Should you accept? Ask for time to everyone in your neighborhood knows that instead of disappointment and complaints. results in a better result, or at the very least check. Giving yourself time to reconsider you offer each grade one cake for asiyum or By offering a quality no when one is preserves a great relationship when a “no” the options and possibly free up time chagigah each year for free, it will be easier called for, you empower yourself to say yes must eventually be delivered. makes it more likely you will be able to to refer them to your pro bono work and when you can while buffering any negative It’s five minutes to closing. Four accommodate the request. Even if the turn down excessive requests during the fallout now. customers with overfilled wagons are other party is pressured to get an answer, rest of the year. waiting for checkout and your daughter explaining that taking the time you need Your very best friend asks you to watch needs a ride to her school practice in 15 will make it more likely that you’ll be able her kids while she and her husband get minutes. One customer asks if you make to accede to their request will give you away for the weekend. This is your best calls to all other branches of the franchise the space you need and the goodwill and friend — and she has certainly done the for an out-of-stock item she really likes. understanding of others. same for you many times over the years. She’s a good customer and you’d like to Your immediate manager’s boss stops You’d love to accommodate, but after grant her request, but now will really not by your cubicle and asks you to prepare months of hectic schedules that felt like work, and the last thing you want is three a report for a confidential meeting. This you and your spouse were “ships passing in other customers happy to make similar is highly unusual and you are worried the night” you’ve committed this weekend Temech is a nonprofit organization that requests this close to closing. Defer the about the implications of saying either to quality couple time to recharge. Your promotes employment, entrepreneurship decision to a better time or place. You yes or no. Seems like a lose-lose situation. husband needs to be away for an extended and professional development for women can take the sting out of the “no” and keep Graciously say you’ll check to see if it is period starting Sunday, so it isn’t possible in Israel. Shaindy Babad is the CEO of your relationship pleasant by advising her possible and then discuss the pros and to change the timing. Say yes to the Temech. Shaindy joined Temech in 2008 to call you in the morning, during the slow cons with a trusted confidante. It will be person and no to the request. You’ll have after working in high-tech and as a seri- hours, to check for her then. easier to make a clear-headed decision as to say no, but make sure that you tell her al social entrepreneur. She also advises A business you work for regularly doing well as formulate a professional and polite how much you value and appreciate her women, companies and organizations aim- freelance graphic work asks you for a rush response either way you decide once you and your relationship even though you ing for success. job at the regular price. Its erev chag, and do. must say no this once. Remind her that We want to hear from you! This while they are really desperate you are over you will be pleased to do it another time discourse is for and about you, me, all your head. You can get it done, but would When No Is No because she is so important to you. of us. Please send your comments and normally charge a higher rate for such Other times, we have no choice but to You are traveling for business to New thoughts to [email protected]