PRINCETON DAY SCHOOL On the Cover PRINCETON DAY SCHOOL

BOARD OF TRUSTEES John P. Hall, Jr., Chairm an Deborah Sze Modzelewski, Vice C hair C. Treby McLaughlin Williams ’80, Vice C hair Jack Z. Rabinowitz, Treasurer John M. Peach, Secretary/Parliamentarian Barbara Griffin Cole ’78 Patrice Coleman-Boatwright Judith R. Fox, Head of School Julia Penick Garry ’77 Marilyn W. Grounds Daniel J. Graziano, Jr. Inside the Mind's Eye Brooke R. Gunn Joseph H. Highland Donald J. Hofmann Jr. Computers Enhance Curriculum Raman Kapur Nancy Weiss Malkiel Edward E. Matthews Andrew M. Okun Robert H. Olsson ’78 Marc J. Ostro he designs on our front cover were Carl D. Reimers Jr. created by kindergarten classes in the Ruthellen S. Rubin Menachem Sternberg Lower School computer lab. “In this Penny B. Thomas type of class, it’s okay to look at someone else’s paper” Elaine Torres-Melendez says Bonnie Hunter, the LS computer coordinator. John D. W allace ’4 8 James W. Wickenden She teaches classes designed to augment classroom Robert N. Wilson curriculum from junior kindergarten through fourth Elizabeth C. Dilworth, Trustee Emerita grade where computer screens are the students’ palette. Betty Wold Johnson, Trustee Emerita Samuel W. Lambert III, Trustee Emeritus “ The lab is a place to collaborate and be supportive of 2002-2003 ALUMNI BOARD each other’s work,” she says. In the lab, which offers Robert H. Olsson ’78, President each student a computer, students learn about a Jamie Phares Jacobson ’80, Vice President different kind of tool box; an electronic one that includes dust busters, spray cans, Philip E. Clippinger ’83, Treasurer Newell Thompson ’82 E x Officio textured paint, pencils, filled circles and rectangles, ink droppers, paint brushes and a John C. Baker ’62 ruler. To produce the designs displayed on the cover, they learned advanced applications Carol Katz Connolly ’77 of these tools and how symmetry can be found in nature, on a butterfly’s wings, for Elizabeth Bylin Cook ’90 Louis Guarino ’79 example. Eventually, the art is printed onto clear window decal sheets, trimmed and Judson R. Henderson ’92 taken home to enjoy displayed in a window. The learning curve not only renders Sandra Kimbrough ’81 Livia Wong McCarthy ’77 colorful, creative work, but, says Ms. Hunter, familiarizes students with tools that are Katie Poole ’71 very much like the ones they will use in Middle and Upper School, and even as adults. Courtney L. Shannon ’88 “Students create art, do online research, produce graphs and tri-fold brochures and, Linda Maxwell Stefanelli ’62 as they gain proficiency, use PowerPoint to ALUMNI AND DEVELOPMENT present their class projects,” says Dina Bray, Andrew C. Hamlin, Director of Advancement Stephanie J. Briody, Director of Alumni Relations Head of the Lower School. Each grade has a Jenna Hilton, Database Administrator different project. First graders illustrate seed Colleen Mote, Associate Director of Communications Danielle Nutt, Administrative Assistant to Directors packets for the science lair; second graders of Alumni Relations and Annual Fund come into the lab with a “create a culture” Anne Marie Russo, Director of Communications social studies unit, incorporating HyperStudio; Kathleen Troy, Assistant Director of the Annual Fund Ann M. Wiley ’70, Associate Director of third graders work as teams which create a desktop publishing project; and fourth grade Development students present a project, like extensive research of a food chain, for instance, in Dolores Wright, Administrative Assistant to Director of Advancement PowerPoint. “At that level,” Ms. Hunter says “she serves as a coach for students who can teach each other a variety of new skills and approaches.” ADMINISTRATION Judith R. Fox, Head of School Dina Bray, Head of Lower School Cover art by class of 2015, from left: Top row, Samantha Romanoff, Sophie Ward, Medha Alex Curtis, Director of Admission Alavalapati, William Feuer; second row, Jeremy LeMenager, Alexis Slattery, Sabrina Matlock, Warren Gould, Director of Academic Affairs Sara Dwyer; third row, Anna Williams, Kayla Stokes, Dallas Devlin, Bian Maloney; fourth row, Andrew C. Hamlin, Director of Advancement Andrew Erickson, Isabella Crane, Lachlin Robertson, Jacob Shavel; fifth row: D.J. Modzelewski, Dean Jacoby, Director of College Guidance Tatiana Seay-Reynolds, Morgan Foster, Campbell Goldsmith. Above, top to bottom: Class of ’15: John Levandowski, Director of Athletics Jacob Shavel, Alexis Slattery, Medha Alavalapati and an animal by Jane Coates ’11. John Ora, Head of Middle School Cindy Shapiro, Business Manager Carlton Tucker, Head of Upper School SPRING 2003 JOURNAL

Editor: Anne Marie Russo, Director of Communications • [email protected] Princeton Day School complies with all federal Associate Editor: Colleen Mote, Associate Director of Communications and state laws prohibiting discrimination in its Designer: Maria Kauzmann, MK Design • Printed by Garrison Printing Company, Pennsauken, NJ admissions, employment and administrative polices. Ji IN X

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Volume 40, Number 1 • SPRING 2003

Pretty Brook Cottage Peer G roup

Poetry at PDS Alumni Awards

Features Alumni News 5 History of Head's House 26 Alumni Weekend News 10 Peer G roup Program 28 Service Award 17 Alumni Look Back 29 Achievement Award 19 Creating a Vision of Poetry 30 Athletic Hall of Fame 21 Poetry in Motion 34 Alumni Focus - Thomas Bohnett'02 24 Edward Hirsch Visits 35 Alumni Focus - Andy Golda '96 25 Poet Mark Doty Speaks 37 Alumni Board News 66 Alumni Games Campus News 67 Alumni Gatherings 4 From the Head of School 38 Performing Arts Program Class Notes Photos clockwise: Pretty Brook Cottage; Peer Group leader Justin 38 Pride & Prejudice 41 Miss Fine's School Revelle ’03, with, from left, Colin 39 Mack & Mabel Wollack, Rishi Patel, Adam Savitzky, 49 Princeton Country Day School Rebecca Stanko, Sanjeev Sharma, 40 Faculty News Andrew Davidson, Zachary Cherry, 55 Princeton Day School all class of 2006; Sanders Maxwell ’32; Poet Paul Muldoon at PDS. 64 In M em oriam

SPRING 2003 • PRINCETON DAY SCHOOL • 3 Photo by Anne Marie Russo PICTN A COL•SRN 2003 SPRING • DAYSCHOOL PRINCETON • 4 From the the From Cottage Home Head of School of Head Brook Pretty At In col today. school alumni offer an ongoing connection to the traditions and values of our our of values and traditions the to connection ongoing an offer Miss our alumni from fame, classmates of hall with athletic exchanged the notes into the how inducted observe being and those and awards alumni our enriches that poetry student and faculty the through and computer leadership program that allows seniors to help younger students. Please Please students. younger help to peer- seniors our of allows power that the see also program may You leadership divisions. the across curriculum Fine’s School alumnae, Princeton County Day School alumni, and PDS PDS and alumni, School Day County Princeton alumnae, School Fine’s the of recipients proud are who alumni those to moment applaud a take Through-out home. my to guests other and faculty trustees, welcoming as head of school in the summer of 2001, I was able to personalize the the personalize to able was I 2001, of summer the in school of head as the year I host a series of faculty-partner gatherings, where 10 to 12 of of 12 to 10 where gatherings, faculty-partner of series a host I year the arrived first I hen W resided. have school of heads past and alumni both interior and make the home my own. my home the make and interior In addition to appreciating its lovely setting on the campus, I enjoy enjoy I campus, the on setting lovely its appreciating to addition In for me to share with you the rich history of the house house the of history rich the you with share to me for Over the past seventy years, it has been a place where where place a been has it years, seventy past the Over the of pages following he I call home on the Princeton Day School campus. School Day Princeton the on home call I you will enjoy the journey through just a small small a just through journey the enjoy will you dedicated our about more learn to me for way cover art created by kindergarten students on on students kindergarten by created art cover cup a for afternoon the in assemble faculty our of the vitality of our school as expressed in the the in expressed as school our of vitality the of history. our of part hope I place. special a it to make bring that they school our energy and skills the and teachers wonderful a is It better. to bit a get and another one dinner for know evening the in or tea of Elsewhere in the the in Elsewhere nal a rn u o J o nal, a rn Jou provide an opportunity opportunity an provide you will get a sense sense a get will you Alumnae, School Heads and Ghosts Call Sr-vvic Urtfjvij & Home

By Linda Maxwell Stefanelli ’62

ne of the land used by the school’s top administrators for “It was heaven,’’ says Ms. Sanford. marks on the the last 17 years, it was once home to four “It was absolutely beautiful to grow up Princeton Day Miss Fine’s School students who enjoyed there and to have so much to enjoy. There School campus is the beauty of the natural surroundings wasn’t anything better. We had wild the Head’s House, much as PDS students do today. strawberries where the tennis courts are. a charming stone In 1951 Karl Behr and his wife Elaine And the orchard was harvested every year, cottage nestled into the trees just beyond moved from Morristown, NJ to the house so we’d bring the apples into the root cellar the Lisa McGraw '44 Skating Rink. then known as Pretty Brook Cottage. which was below the pool house. We were Students are used to seeing the head of Mr. Behr’s mother was married to PDS like lour little princesses growing up.” school coming and going as they pass by on benefactor Dean Mathey and they lived Ms. King agrees. “It was a wonder­ their way to a pond study class or a soccer up the lane at Pretty Brook Farm. At that land,” she says. “It was an absolutely story­ game. However, they may be surprised to time, the Mathey property included over book setting.’’ learn that although the house has been 100 acres of woodlands, ponds and The eldest daughter, Ms. Travers, was meadows which became an enchanted nine at the time of the move. “For me, it playground for the Behr’s four daughters: was pretty scary coming to Princeton — Linda M axwell Stefanelli 62, is a Susan Travers ’60, Sally Ogden ’66, Helen freelance writer living in Pennington. “Lynn” Sanford ’68 and Elaine “Winkie” From 1983 to 2000 she was alumni director K in g’71. and then director o f publications at PDS.

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"It was a wonderland, an absolutely story book setting." WINKIE BEHR KING '71

because I was going to go to Miss Fine’s, and they told me Miss Fine’s was really Laughlins Linked to PDS tough,” she says. “So I was more terrified The Laughlin family was the of going to school than of where I was first occupant of Pretty Brook going to live. But I remember loving the Cottage in the 1930s. Ledlie and property, the nature. There was this wonderful stream and we’d go down and Roberta Laughlin sent all four of find little crayfish.” their sons to Princeton Country “It was an active farm,” Ms. Sanford Day School: Leighton '41, says. ’’There was a cider press and an ice Ledlie, Jr. '45, James '43 and house. We had cows, Black Angus, lots of Robert '49. sheep and always a wild ram chasing us in The two brothers who the barn. And we always went out to the remained in the area after woods and cut our own Christmas trees. marriage sent their own children It was just one of those old-time, idyllic to MFS, PCD and/or PDS. lifestyles.” Leighton's children are Leighton, Another wonderful feature of the property was the fact that their grand­ Jr. ("Toby") PCD '64, a former mother lived right next door. The young PDS trustee; Alexander PDS '72 girls were always running back and forth, and Carin Hoffman PDS '74. and actually wore a path through the Three of the Behr sisters enjoy sledding in James married MFS alumna woods between the two houses. They their back yard in the 1950s. From the top they Julia Gallup '55 and they are the preferred it the driveway, even when are Sally Ogden ’66, Lynn Sanford ’68 and parents of Ophelia "Fifi" Keller going to dinner in their Sunday best. Winkie King ’71. PDS '77, who received the “We always called Pretty Brook Farm Alumni Achievement Award in the Big House,” Ms. Sanford says. “Then make multiple trips to the school each 1992; and James, Jr. PDS '80, there was Lake Superior, (that’s what day. Understandably, she was not eager to who teaches kindergarten and Uncle Dean called it,) which is the little make an extra trip to take them into town pond and then there was Poppy’s Pond, coaches soccer at PDS. for social events. which was the one with the cabin on it. Logan Laughlin is a PDS “We were too far out,” Ms. Travers says. It was the original pond and none of the freshman and represents the But they had no problem luring friends other ones around it were there. There was to their house to swim in the pool, skate third generation of Laughlins at a stream that filtered into it and little on the ponds or explore the woods. They the school. He is the son of bridges and paths that we took to get there also had an ever-changing menagerie of Toby and his wife Nancy, who and we all learned how to skate there.” wild animals. was a Purnell School roommate “One summer we had starlings that Pets and Playmates of "W inkie" Behr King PDS '71. were called Gin and Tonic,” Ms. Sanford Ms. Laughlin spent many says. “Sal (her sister Sally Ogden) and I weekends as a guest at Pretty Hard as it may be to imagine today, in found them by the Big House. They’d Brook Cottage before she even the 1950s 1 he Great Road area was quite fallen out of their nest. We brought them isolated and was considered a long way met her husband and learned of home and raised them on bread soaked in from the center of town. Each of the Behr his family's ties to the house. milk and egg with tweezers. They grew up children were excused from MFS at a to the point where we would walk up the The two women remain good different time so their mother had to Osage orange alley to go to the swimming friends, extending the Behr/ pool, and they would come and find us Laughlin connection. and tell us it was time to feed them. We would bring them home, riding on our shoulders.”

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"...I can still see that guy with a watch chain going across his chest..." LEIGHTON LAUGHLIN PCD '41

“Winkie had a pet cow,” recalls Ms. Travers. “Her name was Elsie and she started out as a little calf and Winkie just loved her. She got bigger and bigger, and Winkie used to ride her up and down the driveway.” Ms. King explains that Elsie was a substitute for the horse she wanted so much when she was seven. Her mother would not let her have one, but after watching her ride a cow for five years, she relented.

Ghost Takes Up Residence

The Behrs were not the first family to Two of the Behr sisters add credence to Another Mathey feature was the live in Pretty Brook Cottage. After Mr. Mr. Laughlins story. Ms. Sanford admits massive garage doors, designed to look like Mathey bought and enlarged Pretty Brook she “experienced” the ghost as a wind a continuation of the house. They swung Farm for his own family in 1929, he built tunnel and Ms. King tells of hearing loud, out to open and were shingled like the Pretty Brook Cottage for Ledlie Laughlin, unexplained crashing noises in the night. opposite wing. They had real shutters, real a classmate from Princeton University. Mr. “I could swear my bureau had just double-hung windows with curtains, and Laughlin had moved from Pittsburgh with toppled over,” she says. “Ld wake up, snap even window boxes with real flowers. Ms. his wife and sons and was waiting to move on the light and everything would be fine.” Sanford remembers her parents struggling into a house he was building on Drake’s to clear snow from the driveway so they Corner Road. He had one of the finest Architectural Quirks could get the doors open on cold winter collections of American pewter in the Become Mathey Trademark mornings. country, so Mr. Mathey had special shelves “One morning it took Mother and installed in the cottage to display the Mr. Mathey was a successful invest­ Dad forever to get the snow out from in prized pieces. ment banker but he had always been front of the doors,” Ms. Sanford says. “She The four Laughlin boys, Leighton ’41, fascinated with architecture. One of his finally watched him drive out of the garage James 43, Ledlie, Jr. ’45 and Robert ’49, innovations added to the mystery of the and go off to work, and then all the snow went to Princeton Country Day School cottage. There was a section of the living fell off the roof into the driveway. She still with Mr. Mathey’s sons, Dean, Jr. ’43, room bookcase that swung out on hidden had to take all of us to school, so she had MacDonald ’44 and David ’47. hinges to reveal a secret niche in which a to shovel it all again.” Leighton Laughlin still has vivid Murphy bed was installed. Although the hinged doors were memories of a particular “gentleman in a “Dad always said that was going to be eventually replaced with more practical brown suit and waistcoat” who would visit saved for our Yale boyfriends," Ms. Travers ones that retract overhead, their purpose the house at night as he was trying to get says. “It never got used! Dad specified they is still camouflaged amazingly well. to sleep. He says he knew it was a ghost had to be from Yale because he went there.” Mr. Mathey also had strong ideas about by its shimmering outline. Ever vigilant, Ms. Behr worried that her decorating the inside of the house, which “I was just a little boy, but I can still girls might be tempted to play hide and proved a bit frustrating for Ms. Behr who see that guy with a watch chain going seek behind the shelves and then be unable was trained as an interior designer. He had across his chest,” he says. to open the heavy bookcase to get out, so the dining room wallpapered with a scenic she placed her most precious china plates mural, similar to one that once adorned on one of the shelves as a silent, but stern the White House’s Oval Office. It showed reminder not to move the secret doors. “Uncle Dean loved those little tricks,’ Ms. Sanford says. “He loved architecture.”

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"I can remember in the spring, the lilac bushes were just outside my window and they were huge, the smell was heaven." susantravers eo

geographic points of interest, such as “It was cozy,” adds Ms. Travers. Niagara Falls and West Point. He also “That’s the nice thing about it, it’s cozy, Did You Know . . . hung a portrait of a British Redcoat over but expansive on the inside. And, of the mantle in the living room. course, those big windows in the living Mr. Mathey's first wife was “The eyes followed you all around the room and the dining room looking out Gertrude Winans, an MFS room,” Ms. Ogden remembers. “It scared at all that nature were really wonderful. alumna and teacher. After her all of us.” I remember sitting on the white sofa for death he married Helen Behr, Even so, they all loved the house. hours and just watching the scenes in the the widow of his Davis Cup “It was unbelievably cute,” says Ms. King, back.” tennis partner. The men had who was born two years after her parents The four sisters certainly enjoyed the moved in. “There was so much ivy luxury of each having their own bedroom. been best friends at Princeton growing up the sides of the house you “I can remember in the spring, the lilac University and played doubles could barely see the stone.” bushes were just outside my window at Wimbledon. There were also mature stands of elm and they were huge,” Ms. Travers says. and dogwood trees which have since fallen “The smell was heaven.” victim to disease. And the ever-present Update on deer made gardening difficult. Ms. Ogden A Change in Ownership Former PDS Heads remembers them eating the bulbs her mother planted and most of the peony One day, Mr. Mathey summoned Duncan Ailing is in te rim bushes around the house. But they ignored the Behrs to Pretty Brook Farm for an head at Kenston Forest School the boxwood garden which formed a important announcement. in Blackstone, VA, a pre-K perfect square on the back lawn and was “I remember the moment when we through 12, coed school. He a favorite place for the girls to play. were at the Big House,” Ms. Sanford says. and his wife Cynthia have two “There was an elm tree right off the “Uncle Dean said, ‘I’m going to give the back porch where we had a basketball young grandsons who live land behind your house to the school. net,” Ms. Travers says. “I remember PCD and Miss Fine’s are merging and they outside of Boston. playing basketball with Dad on the terrace need a place for the school and I think this After working for an below it, and we had hopscotch drawn is the best way to preserve this land educational consulting on the flagstone.” forever.’” company in Florida and There was also plenty of action on the That decision came as quite a surprise taking some time off to travel, inside of the cottage with four young girls. and heralded the beginning of change for Lila Lohr is back in her hom e Ms. King remembers them riding their the Behr sisters. Their grandmother passed state of Maryland. She is bicycles through the downstairs rooms and away in 1965. Mr. and Ms. Behr contin­ riding “anything we could find” down a Head of The Friends School ued living at Pretty Brook Cottage after substantial hill in the dirt floor of the PDS was completed, but began spending of Baltimore, a 200-year-old, basement. winters in Florida in 1971. coed school with 1,000 “There were times when we would have The pine forest and cedar knoll at the students in grades JK-12. a fire and enjoy music in the living room peak of the ridge where the girls used to Last June she married Robert with everybody,” Ms. Sanford says. “That play with homemade spears disappeared to Ittmann and she is enjoying was one of my favorites things. The house make way for the new school building and a new granddaughter, Lucie was really beautifully done in terms of playing fields. They still felt secluded, Lohr, who lives nearby in being a part of the farm. It had a very however, since the school could barely be Washington, DC. secure, lovely atmosphere.” seen from the house and students were not allowed to walk down their lane. It was not until the rink parking lot was built that the school began to encroach on their awareness.

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"It was just one of those old-time, idyllic lifestyles." HELEN 'LYNN' SANFORD '68

In 1986, after almost 35 years in the “It’s a perfect, perfect place,” Ms. Lohr Growing up in such an idyllic natural cottage, Mr. and Ms. Behr moved to Long says. “It’s convenient to school, but yet not setting has imbued each of the Behr sisters Island. (Sadly, both are now deceased.) right at the front door.” with a profound love of nature which they Once they left, the house was deeded to Present Head of School Judy Fox have tried to perpetuate within their own the school, as Mr. Mathey had instructed. endorses that opinion. “I love this house,” families. Ms. Sanford lives on a farm in she says with enthusiasm. “The first thing Princeton where she has plenty of room PDS Heads Make Cottage Home I love is that from the outside it looks like for her horses and dogs. She enjoys an understated Dutch Colonial, but inside sweeping views over Hopewell Valley Duncan Ailing became the first head of it’s expansive.” toward the Sourland Mountains. school to live in Pretty Brook Cottage on She described the hexagonal landing at Ms. Ogden lives in her maternal his arrival in 1986. His wife Cynthia the top of the stairs, off which the grandparents’ former house in Greenwich, added her own gracious touches to the bedrooms are situated. Two are very large, CT with her family and assorted chickens, house. She had the entry hall papered with approximately 20 by 30 feet. There are horses, dogs and cats. grasscloth she had brought from Dayton, two other bedrooms and two small rooms “She doesn’t have a farm,” Ms. Sanford Ohio and painted the exterior shutters at either end of the house. One was laughs, “but she might as well have.” brick red to pick up the colors in the stone transformed into a laundry room by Ms. King has a true farm in Dover, MA and on the slate roof. She personalized the M s. Lohr. and is a dressage rider, having recently rooms with her beautiful collection of “It’s the only oak-floored laundry room retired from the strenuous and dangerous antiques, needlepoint and old silver. around,” Dr. Fox maintains. She refers to sport of three-day eventing. Ms. Travers “Mr. Behr called on me when we first the other small room as her Imelda Room. recently moved into Princeton from her moved in, which was so sweet of him," “It’s where I have all my shoes and boxes,” home in the country, but she hasn’t given she says. “I asked him in for tea and he she says. up her cats and she says, “I still love told me all about the house and the secret Dr. Fox was forced to retire the famous walking in the woods, the quiet and the panel in the bookcase.” Murphy bed due to mold and decay, but birds.” The Allings shared the house with has discovered another use for the secret Their Uncle Dean would be pleased. many members of the school community niche. She finds it is a great place to hide He understood the importance of beauti­ by hosting a variety of social events. They Christmas presents. ful natural surroundings. He even insisted initiated special dinners for small groups “W hat’s so lovely at PDS is that they on being buried on his property and gave of faculty and staff and lunches for the give you a chance to personalize the specific instructions for his epitaph. administrative staff. house,” she says. “I’m at home here.” Students can find his grave in the woods The kitchen and bathrooms were near Pretty Brook Road. The small area remodeled before Lila Lohr arrived in Full Circle is enclosed by a simple white picket 1995. She added bold, sunny colors to the fence and shaded by tall woodland trees. walls and did not waste any time before All four of the Behrs’ daughters came to His unassuming headstone reads, “Si beginning to entertain. She remembers an feel passionately about Pretty Brook monumentum requiria circumnpice. If evening shortly after she moved in. Cottage and the land around it. And when you are looking for a monument, you “My friends were still inside hanging they married, each of them chose to hold have only to look around you.” pictures,” she says, “while I was out on the their wedding receptions on the back lawn Those who are lucky enough to spend lawn hosting the coaches supper.” of the cottage. Ms. Travers’ daughter time on the PDS campus will understand She invited seniors to dinner in small Kimmy became the first of the second exactly what he means. groups and continued the dinners for generation to celebrate her marriage on the — Jacquie Asplundh contributed to this story. faculty. Trustees, parents, alumni, and even grounds when she held her reception at a third grade class studying the Under­ Pretty Brook Farm in 1993. The circle will ground Railroad, all had special visits to expand this June when Dr. Fox is married the house. there with the entire PDS faculty invited to the celebration to follow.

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oanna Bowen plays soccer, basketball and softball, co-heads the PDS committee on Community Service, teaches Sunday school and tutors younger students at PDS. Justin Revelle captained the football team this fall, sings in three PDS choirs, has served as class president for the past two years and performs regularly in musical theater. A varsity field hockey player in the fall, Danielle Leonard skis on a National Ski Patrol every winter weekend, and rides with the Jamesburg First Aid Squad every Thursday night as an Emergency Medical Technician. Peter Fisher helps head up the EnAct Club, tutors at the PDS Writing Center, researches legal issues as part of Mock

Trial, and captains the boys’ lacrosse team. Jill Thomas, Peer Group program director.

At first glance, these four seniors would esteem, cliques, party protocol, resolving seem to have little time to think about the conflict, friendships, fitting in, problems lives of Princeton Day School ninth grad­ with parents, body image, harassment, ers, much less go out of their way to talk tolerance, and cheating. to them. But they and 14 other seniors do They must be willing and able to talk that and much more as part of a peer openly about their opinions and decisions education program that PDS pioneered regarding tough questions, and to extend more than 20 years ago. They serve as Peer a hand to those students just entering the Group leaders, and as such, they share a world they have grown up in. collective purpose within their diverse “When I was a freshman, I was afraid company: to help freshmen navigate the of the seniors,” says Justin Revelle, explain­ minefield of new experiences that is high ing his interest in Peer Group. “They school. didn’t talk to me. Not that they were In doing so, they must wrestle publicly trying not to, but they had no reason. By Jacquie Asplundh with all the serious issues facing adoles­ I remember, one time, I tripped in the cents: dating, drug use, sexuality, self hall and some of them laughed, and it made me feel bad. So I decided, as a senior, I would rather freshmen not feel afraid of me. I want them to know that they can come up and talk to me.” Facing page: Katie James, left, and Rebecca Fein, both class of 2006, in a peer group class.

Feature photos by Anne Marie Russo

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"To watch kids teaching kids, it's the ultimate education." JILL THOMAS, Peer Group program director

Peer Group is a classroom experience The Peer Group advisors leave the designed to provide ninth graders with a seniors on their own to divide themselves safe place to communicate in an organized into groups of three leaders, called tri­ way with their peers about things that angles. Each triangle must include one boy really matter to them, according to Jill or girl; the rest is up to the seniors them­ Thomas, head of the health and physical selves to work out. education department, who has directed “Because we are teaching a diverse the program at PDS since the early 1990s. group of kids, we didn’t want the leaders “It begins to unify them as a class, to to all be the same kind of person,” says help them learn to articulate their opinions Fisher. in both large and small groups, to actively But while diversity of leadership is listen to and respect others’ opinions,” she important to the program, having a tri­ says. “Hopefully, it gives them a place angle of class leaders who work well to­ where they can feel comfortable talking gether can be even more critical. One about issues, and where they can get to current senior says she had a lackluster know other freshmen they wouldn’t know Peer Group experience as a ninth grader otherwise. And it is a way for them to because her leaders did not work cohe­ know seniors.” sively, which drove her to “hold out” for the right partners as a leader this year. Becoming a Peer Group leader “You had to be stubborn in one way, because you want to be with people you Students who want to be Peer Group can work with,” says Joanna Bowen. leaders must fill out lengthy applications, “We write lesson plans, do group exercises, Joanna Bowen ’03, Peer Group leader. along with faculty recommendations, all that. But we had to be flexible as well during the spring of junior year. Thomas so that we could all form into groups.” says she gets between 40 and 80 applica­ After leaders are chosen, they undergo Once the triangles are formed, the tions annually, from which the final 18 are an intensive training period to prepare leaders are ready to begin preparing for selected. She and the other Peer Group them for leading their weekly freshman their freshman classes. In addition to advisors (eighth grade dean Donna classes. T hey attend a three-day overnight meeting as a class three times weekly with Zarzecki, upper school science teacher retreat before the start of the school year, Thomas and the other faculty, they must Jessie Willing, and health/physical educa­ where the program’s advisors describe the write lesson plans together each week, tion teacher Peter Higgins) try to put responsibility inherent in leading 13- and which are evaluated by the advisors, who together a group of nine young men and 14-year-olds in discussions of intimate also observe the classes they teach. Peer nine young women who represent a true and serious issues. They talk about how Group leaders write impressions of each cross section of the PDS student body, and important confidentiality and trust are to class in journals, which are also evaluated who will commit themselves to the time- the program’s success. They also lead the by advisors. consuming, delicate and often arduous seniors through the kind of activities they work of counseling their peers. themselves would use later as classroom tools. “At the end of spending an entire two days together, we all felt comfortable saying anything to each other,” says Peter Fisher. Then we had to sit down and split ourselves up.”

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"I've learned that it's quite different being on the other side of the classroom." PETER FISHER '03, Peer G roup Leader

Talking about the tough issues Revelle says that one of the best classes his triangle has done focused on tolerance. The heart of the Peer Group experience “We showed them a South Park cartoon to happens during the class period when the start off,” he says. “You wouldn’t think freshmen meet with their leaders. Each that would be a great introduction to triangle leads a class of 18, and each week tolerance but it really worked and got they introduce a different topic, using them talking.” various teaching techniques to encourage Another popular topic was cheating, he respectful listening and open discussion. adds. “We thought we would do a class on Such methods include skits, role playing, plagiarism because it has become such a breaking down into small groups, and big deal over the past lew years,” says using a “fishbowl” approach to questions, Revelle. “We weren’t sure they would be where kids are able to write down their interested, but they were. T hey did not concerns anonymously and put them in a know a lot about it and wanted details. fishbowl at the front of the classroom, to It was new information for them.” be read aloud and answered by seniors. Weed says her triangle had a similar “We work with some set guidelines. experience when they did a class on sexual There are certain basic issues we talk harassment; many of the ninth graders about, like drugs and alcohol, sex, peer were not familiar with the concept as it pressure,” says Revelle. “But we are al­ related to high school behavior. “I think lowed to choose how we want to approach they came out of it thinking maybe I a subject.” shouldn’t do that anymore,” says Weed. Ultimately, it is not technique that “Or maybe I don’t have to play along encourages the younger students to open Justin Revelle ’03, Peer Group leader. with that.” up, peer leaders say. It is trust. “When you become personal with Of course, leading a Peer Group class Someone to talk to them, they talk to you,” says Danielle involves much more than talking (or not) Leonard, in explaining how being a Peer about one’s personal experiences. Accord­ Peer leaders are advised to go to Tho­ Group leader has sometimes required ing to the seniors involved, it requires a mas or the school counselor if they feel fielding tough questions about her own constant balancing act between authority they are privy to information about a beliefs and actions. “They want to know and friendship. ninth grader that needs adult intervention; the story of our lives,” agrees senior leader “We walk a fine line as peer group for example, if someone were to threaten Julia Kay. leaders,” says Revelle. “We are not there to suicide. Such drastic action is extremely Peer Group leaders must decide for condone something like drug use, or say rare however. What most freshmen need is themselves how much personal informa­ what’s acceptable. We are there to give simply an older peer who cares and is tion they want to divulge when students information, give some advice, and per­ willing to listen and give them a little ask about delicate matters. haps tell them that maybe this is some­ guidance. “When we discussed sex with them, the thing you don’t want to get involved with three of us (seniors) decided beforehand right now.” that this was not going to be about our Bowen agrees, adding, “It’s about personal lives,” says Morgan Weed, “Ev­ understanding who you are, being able to erybody decides for themselves where they say, ‘This is som ething I feel strongly want to draw the line.” about. This was my decision and this was why I made it. We talk about why we’ve made the choices we’ve made and hope that helps them when the time comes for them to make some of their own.”

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"It begins to unify them as a class, to help them learn to articulate their opinions in both large and small groups, to actively listen to and respect others' opinions." JILL THOMAS, Peer Group program director

“Seniors know how to deal with things,” explains Fisher. “For example, one of the kids in our group made a bad decision. He broke something and then initially lied about it because he was so afraid of what would happen. But when he talked to us, we could tell him that if he just told the truth it would be OK, and it was.” Another leader, Russell Nemiroff, says he goes out of his way to talk to freshmen outside of class, even if they are not in his group. He says he considers such behavior part of his commitment to Peer Group, an assessment with which many other seniors agreed. Often, just making herself available helps, according to Danielle Leonard, who says ninth grade girls seek her out privately to ask questions they would rather not pose in front of the entire class. “ Most of their questions are in refer­ ence to issues that deal with sex and sexual Morgan Weed ’03, Peer Group leader. intercourse, as well as eating disorders,” she explains. “They come up to me and PDS a pioneer in peer education Stolztfus and David Bogle. They were the find me in the hallways, or most of the pioneers of peer education in the private time, pull me into the bathroom, which Peer education classes, although now schools.” seems to be a private place to talk about growing in popularity at schools across the Dr. Powell says one of the greatest private things.” state, were a bold experiment when PDS things about the PDS Peer Group, which Leonard says she remembers what it began its Peer Group in the early 1980s. she ran for its first decade, was the positive was like to have a serious question and yet 1.0031 psychologist Sharon Powell, who feedback it generated. “We kept hearing not know where to turn for the answer. founded a similar class at Princeton High from other private schools in the area, that She is comfortable discussing “anything” School during the same era, spearheaded they had heard about this amazing pro­ with them, and has even researched a the program. L}r. Powell now heads up the gram, and wanted one for their students,” question one student had for which she at Princeton Leadership Training Center, a she says. Dr. Powell went on to design peer first didn’t know the answer. nonprofit organization that designs and education programs for independent “They (the freshmen girls) always say implements all types of adult and student schools such as Peddie, Lawrenceville, they feel better, and that the talk really leadership programs nationwide. Pennington, Pingry and Wardlaw helped, even the times 1 have just sat there “Back in 1979, I had developed a peer Hartridge, all of which she says are still in and not said a word,” says Leonard. “Most leadership program at Princeton High place today. of the time, they just need someone who School, and Sandy Bing (then head of Dr Powell says she is not surprised at will sit and listen to them, about their tipper school) heard about it and asked me the success and longevity of Peer Group. lives, and know that it is completely confi­ to develop a similar program for PDS,” dential.” says Dr. Powell. “So I trained a team of great people to help run it, including former teachers Anne Shepherd, Janet

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"It's comforting to know that I can always go to my peer group leaders..." ETHAN BUCHSBAUM '06

During Tucker’s tenure, he says he helped move the class to become more academically rigorous, with summer reading, regular reporting requirements and grading, and additional contact be­ tween peer leaders and faculty. The biggest change though was moving from two leaders per class to three (the triangle concept), which advisors did to increase the diversity of the leaders in one group. “Peer Group is a very valuable pro­ gram,” adds Tucker. “It helps train bud­ ding leaders and gives seniors some honor and responsibility. Having ninth graders know and interact with three seniors is terrific for building a community. It also breaks down some of the traditional hier­ archy in high schools. Generally, PDS is porous with regard to grade level thinking, and this is one more way to reinforce that.”

Ben Johnson ’03, Peer Group leader. Freshmen offer their opinions

“It works for a couple of reasons,” she Thomas agrees wholeheartedly. “It is Freshman reaction to Peer Group is says. “It works for the kids because it’s a labor of love,” she says. “To watch kids as diverse as the group itself. peer-to-peer. It’s older kids learning leader­ teaching kids, it’s the ultimate in educa­ Kiran Vepuri, who is new to PDS this ship skills and practicing them regularly, tion. It’s getting to see kids develop skills year, says the class has been especially all year long with the same group of fresh­ that are life lessons, not just two plus two valuable to him because it has helped men, around the most critical issue for or where to put a comma.” familiarize him with both the students them: their adjustment to high school. Donna Zarzecki, who has been a Peer and the new surroundings. “I got a whole That’s why it works on one level. Group advisor almost as many years as bunch of new friends in my grade that “Institutionally, it works because of the Thomas, says she gains as much from her I probably would not have met without team of adults that supports it, the teach­ com m itm ent to the program as do the Peer Group,’ he says, “I expected it to be ers who give it their time and resources, students. “It enables me to see them from more of a lecture-structured class, but then carrying it forward year to year,” she adds. a different angle; it’s about educating the I realized that the class revolves around the “It works because the faculty team makes whole child,” she explains. “You can make students.” it their own. I know teachers who have better connections as a teacher when you delayed retirement just to keep working have an awareness of what’s going on with with peer education. It’s sharing leadership kids today. It also makes us more three- with kids. It is really a gift for your best dimensional for them, more real.” teachers.” When upper school Head Carlton Tucker came to PDS in the mid-1990s, he worked as a Peer Group advisor to get to know the students on a more intimate and meaningful level.

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"It enables me to see (the students) from a different angle..." DONNA ZARZECKI, Peer Group advisor

Becky Stanko says she found the class Joanna Bowen may end up being one on drinking the most informative, particu­ of those students who has found her larly because the Peer Group leaders shared professional niche through Peer Group. their personal insights. “It’s cool to know “For me, this experience has been perhaps what the leaders have to say about issues my best high school experience,” she says. that we don’t normally get an older “These leadership skills are something I person’s opinion on,” she says. “It’s also want to continue to develop. I have en­ fun to have a class where the teacher is joyed this experience so much that I don’t someone we can relate to.” want it to end, and I am looking for Ethan Buchsbaum says one of the something similar in which I can partici­ benefits of Peer Group is finding out you pate in the future.” are not alone in your concerns. “I have For all the senior leaders, who also learned that I’m not the only person who include Amy Gallo, Emily Hamlin, Ben has thoughts about drugs or friends in my Johnson, James Bird, Anita Deshpande, head,” he says. “It’s comforting to know Joey Joiner, Ross Carmichael, Stephen that I can always go to my peer group Dool, Lisa Laudenberger and James leaders if I have any questions, because Ramos, regardless of what futures they they are very casual, and they make me feel aspire to, the Peer Group leadership expe­ like I’m important to them.” rience has altered their final year at Becky Gallagher says she has been Princeton Day School in a profound impressed with the leadership skills of her manner. seniors, and the balance they strike be­ “It’s tough to put into words,” says tween controlling and inspiring the class. Fisher. “But if you think about when Laurie Cartwright ’06, in a peer group class. She adds that sometimes talking about people describe all the learning that can be tough issues can be a challenge. “Talking done outside of a classroom, and then you about issues I feel strongly about have been Fisher. “The class demands a lot of confi­ create a course about that learning, your the hardest,” she explains. “It can be scary dence as well as a great deal of reflection result is Peer Group.” all of a sudden being really vocal.” on how I interact with others, how I feel Senior leaders naturally have a very about society, about stereotypes, about Jacquie Asplundh is a freelance writer and different perspective on the whole experi­ social things I want changed. The program editor. She was director o f communications at ence; for many of them it is the sensation asks each one of us to think about our PDS from 1993-2000, and worked as a of being catapulted into an adult role — actions and our choices not only over the health and education reporter for the The with all its accompanying responsibilities past four years, but with each new day.” Princeton Packet from 1992-1993. She — that leaves the most lasting impression. Allison Marshall, another Peer Group worked as a reporter and editor for a number “As a freshman, I never realized how leader, says the experience has changed the o f news publications in the Boston area much my peer leaders put into each class. way she views the classroom experience in during the 1980s. I’ve learned that it’s quite different being general. “It’s given me a tremendous re­ on the other side of the classroom,” says spect for teachers,” she says. “Trying to get the students to listen.. .it’s a real challenge. To write lesson plans each week...it’s intense. 1 here is so much more work to teaching than I ever realized.”

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Alumni look back on Peer Group By Jacquie Asplundh

or more than 20 years now, older kids the freshmen wanted to spend ing freshmen. I definitely held myself to a PDS students have gradu­ time with. The best leaders are the ones different standard within school and in the ated with a unique course who can do that, the ones who are liked by classroom.” as part of their high school the freshmen while at the same time main­ “As a Peer Group leader I believe I was diploma — Peer Group, taining a level of respect.” able to not only learn a lot about myself, a class designed to help “The retreats both before and during but also about the many similarities and young people figure out school are definitely memorable,” says differences in the incoming freshmen,” how they fit into the world as human beings Sapna Thotattil 00. “Getting away, into says Mike Zarzecki 97.” The program faced with multiple choices and challenges. the woods and by a lake was a great break, provided and excellent opportunity to be a For many alumnae, the impact of the and allowed us to get to know other mentor for the first time, as well as the Peer Group program has remained, despite people better. I remember one instance, opportunity to become a better listener.” the years intervening since graduation. For on the senior retreat, during an activity “As far as qualities of a good Peer Group them, the time elapsed has added its own where all the leaders were gathered around leader, I think they vary,” says DeCore. “I perspective to the experience. What they see a circle, sharing something important to knew leaders whom I felt were terrific who now, as adults looking back, only confirms us, one of the leaders broke down and were both introverted and extroverted, ath­ what they felt as senior Peer Group leaders. started crying, revealing to us her mom’s letes and non-athletes. Overall though, the “For me it was the best part of high health problems. I had never known about qualities that were consistent amongst all school; it was fabulous.” says Debra Levy this leader’s mother before, and was so these people were that they were indepen­ 82, who belonged to the very first class touched that she shared this information. dent thinkers; they were not persuaded by of Princeton Day School’s Peer Group We definitely became closer because peer pressure but rather, made decisions leaders, and who today serves on the people were so open during the retreat.” based on their own high values.” board of Princeton’s Center for Leader­ “As a freshman, Peer Group offered me Advisor Peter Higgins, who teaches ship Training, headed by Sharon Powell, a chance to bond with people that I typi­ physical education and health, says PDS the same person who founded Peer cally wouldn’t have had a chance to get to students interact with each other differ­ Group at PDS. know,” says Dana DeCore, who graduated ently than at other schools, something he “What it provides is so different than in 1996. “In high school, often times you attributes partly to Peer Group. “The first what you normally get in a school setting,” are friends with people who share com­ day I stepped on the field to coach football says Levy. “Instead of asking questions like mon interests. In Peer Group, because you here three years ago, I noticed something Did you make the team or not? Did you are put into groups arbitrarily, you are unique about how the upper classmen make the play or not? Did you make an A forced to interact with people outside of treated the freshmen,” he says. or not?' Peer Group approaches children as your social circles. I made friends through human beings. Knowing that you are still Peer Group that lasted throughout my Bringing students together developing in high school, dealing with high school years.” issues of growth, the program helps you by Matt Zarzecki, who graduated in 1996, asking, ‘What do you think?’ It helps you What it means to be a leader says, “One of the primary benefits I notice develop your own core.” now that I wouldn’t have in the past is the “I really enjoyed my freshmen Peer Being a Peer Group leader clearly made function that Peer Group serves in bring­ Group experience,” says Elif Sen 02. an impression on alumnae, both in terms ing together a group of students who “That was a big part of why I applied to be of their own behavior and how they wouldn’t necessarily have had any interac­ a leader. The key was to find a balance be­ viewed leadership itself. tion otherwise.” tween being the authority and being the “As a leader, I found myself having to be more friendly to people,” says Thotattil. “I couldn’t walk around in a bubble ignor­

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"For me it was the best part of high school; it was fabulous/' DEBRA LEVY '82, member of the first class of PDS Peer Group leaders

“As high school freshmen, cliques were, “I would highly recommend the pro­ listen,” he adds. “It also enables them to and 1 am sure are still, quite prevalent,” he gram to any administrator,” says Matt reflect on their experience, to see how far adds. “Peer Group helps diminish that po­ Zarzecki. “The ability to generate a forum they have come. These are life skills.” larity. In our discussions, as opinions came of interaction between students is an in­ Bonini says it took her “five or ten out and past experiences were shared, hope­ valuable accomplishment and addition to years after participating in the program as fully there was a realization that despite the the school community. There exist various a senior leader to truly realize its impact.” differences in their social or extracurricular school-sanctioned extracurriculars, from Now a teacher, she says Peer Group “didn’t interests, comparable issues were being ex­ clubs to teams, but Peer Group offers change me as much as direct me, and set perienced, and students had more in com­ something that those don’t; Peer Group up some ideals worth bringing to any mon then they chose to acknowledge.” affords students the venue for anything community.” “There was a boy in my Peer Group that doesn’t fit into the cookie-cutter spe­ “The Peer Leadership Program was a who came into the experience very soft- cifics of other activities.” great model when I was at PDS and I’m spoken and hesitant to participate.” says Jen Bonini, who graduated from PDS sure it has blossomed with time,” she adds. DeCore. “My co-leader and I took the time in 1987, concurs, saying, “Adolescence is “It set a model for communication, com­ to get to know him and tried to integrate such a murky time in life, as your mind munity and just making connections with him as much as possible. As the year pro­ grows, your body changes, and you people. Now as an adult, generating a ve­ gressed, he became more self-confident and struggle to discover who you are or who hicle for kids to connect, with each other, we both noticed him emerge into one you want to be. Add to that the complex with teachers, has become a large focus of of our more gregarious peer groupies. I think additions of divorce, abuse, or just the my mission as an educator.” that he took that experience and applied it strain of a fast-paced life on the family Jill Thomas, who has headed up the to other areas of his life including classroom unit, and I would hope beyond hope that PDS Peer Group program since the early and extracurricular activities.” schools are working to find a way to gener­ 1990s, says it is not uncommon for alum­ “As its name suggests, it is often diffi­ ate a safe place for kids to turn - a place nae who were senior leaders to stop back cult for a freshman to approach a teacher that they aren’t required to go to just be­ to see her when they are in town. “We with a personal issue, or with something cause their teachers have become con­ have a bond,” she says. “It really made an that is bothering them,” says Matt cerned, but a place for those that are per­ impact on their lives. I know some who Zarzecki. “Don’t get me wrong, it is not haps confused but not in dire straits. A have gone into counseling because of the easy for them to come to a student either; place where they can know that they are Peer Group experience.” but if one student can find an avenue to not alone.” “As an adult and educator, I became assist in alleviating the difficulties of high Levy says one of the striking aspects of significantly more impressed with the care school, the program is well worth it.” Peer Group is the way it is structured to Sharon Powell and the teachers put into For Whitney Ross ’84, now a Ph.D. empower teachers and students alike. “I this unique effort,” comments Bonini. candidate in clinical psychology, the pro­ like the fact that it can be replicated by “The significance of the outreach effort to gram made a lasting impression. “Dr. institutions,” she says. “Once they are freshmen - to provide a safe place to con­ Powell is one of the most dynamic, tal­ trained, they can have it forever, adapting nect at a time in life that can be especially ented women I know, and I credit her and it year after year to their specific needs. It challenging - was an important program Peer Group with my desire and goal to doesn’t cost anything. You don’t have to to support. Knowing now about all that become a psychologist. The training I re­ bring in outsiders to do this. Peer Group does not exist in many schools, makes me ceived as a peer leader at PDS has proven teaches teachers how to keep the program better appreciate the teachers, seniors and to be invaluable. I continue to benefit going in perpetuity.” administrative support.” from it 19 years later.” Now having taught PDS Peer Group for several years, Higgins says he thinks the What Peer Group adds to school program, in addition to improving com­ munication across grade levels, has long- Alumnae Peer Group leaders enthusias­ lasting effects on the seniors who become tically support the idea of peer education. leaders. “They learn how to say, ‘This is what I need from you and this is what gets in the way,’ and they learn how to actively

18 • PRINCETON DAY SCHOOL • SPRING 2003 Creating a Vision of Poetry Integral to Learning

By David LaMotte

"The respect that we as a com m unity ast September, Upper School English Having come of age in a time when poetry teacher Liz Cutler and I took a group accord poets— often seemed to be a sort of dead butterfly, of about 20 upper school students to visiting poets and pressed and annotated in the pages of one the Geraldine R. Dodge Poetry Festival at the poets among us “New Critical” anthology or another, I am Waterloo Village. Although I’ve now attended always a little stunned by the power of the — is a tribute, I think, Lthis bi-annual event three or four times, it still Dodge Poetry Festival, the power of poetry to takes my breath away: thousands of high to the innovative bring people together in an activity at once school students and teachers fanning out teaching of poetry urgent and ordinary, intimate and communal. through the colonial village to encounter poets in all three divisions For our students, too, the Festival is an known and unknown, old and young, in inspiring event, of the school." gatherings large and small. and yet they At one moment, we find ourselves under — David LaMotte the big tent, listening to poet laureate Billy Collins speak about the teaching of poetry to an audience of a thousand or more students and teachers. Later, I’m part of a small group in the village chapel, having a conversation about poetry and silence with Coleman Barks, translator of the mystical poems of the 13th century Persian poet, Rumi. Later still, I’m one of several hundred listeners at a reading by 2001 and 2002 winners of the New Jersey High School Poetry Contest. Of the twenty winners from each year, PDS had three winners in 2001 (Bianca Gersten, Xan Nowakowski ’01, and Marissa Vahlsing ’01) and five winners in 2002 (seniors Anne Bodel, Bianca Gersten again, Stefan Hirniak, Erich Matthes, and Jan Trumbauer).

Irish poet Paul Muldoon, right, who visited PDS last spring as part of the “Imagine the Possibilities” program, says: “It’s absolutely vital that school children get to see poets in the flesh. Too often poets are thought of as being dead. That poets are ordinary, living people with a particular way of trying to make sense of themselves in the world that’s no better or worse than the next way is a fact of which young people need to be made aware.”

P hoto by Andrea Kane Poetry In Motion

"The Dodge Poetry Festival may come often seem less around only once about the writer’s in January of this year. Both of these surprised than I at the every two years, work, the student’s visits have come about through the sheer vitality of the but poetry is its own work, and the initiative and generosity of our own Poet- Festival. There is, I challenges that we all In-Residence, Judy Michaels, who helped big tent at PDS, suspect, a wonderful share when we face the fund these visits through her stipend as reason for this: Our and something's blank page. For several First recipient of the C arl D. Reimers students already think happening there years, “Imagine the Distinguished Teaching Chair. of poetry as a living even now." Possibilities,” the John enterprise. D. Wallace, Jr. ’78 One measure Memorial Guest Artist The accompanying articles reprinted of this is the pin- Series, has given from the Spokesman offer a glimpse dropping silence that students in all three of these two recent visits from the comes over an upper divisions the perspective of our students. And Judy school assembly when our students read opportunity to work with a wide variety Michael’s own article, “Poetry in their poetry to one another and when of artists and writers. Last year, for Motion,” captures the rich variety of visiting poets come to share their work example, Irish poet Paul Muldoon— ways in which poetry is, indeed, a living with us. The respect that we as a according to the Times Literary practice woven into the daily life of our community accord poets—visiting poets Supplement, “the most significant English- school. Judy herself deserves much of the and the poets among us— is a tribute, language poet born since the Second credit for this; she has worked tirelessly I think, to the innovative teaching of World War”— spent to articulate— in our poetry in all three divisions of the school. two days on the PDS classrooms and in her We aim to transform “the poetry unit,” campus, working with two books on the "Our students that fossilized beast that terrorized students in various teaching of poetry— previous generations of students, into a classes, giving a reading already think a vision of poetry as living practice in which poetry becomes to the entire upper of poetry as a integral to the learning a way of exploring, in and through school, and holding a living enterprise." process. To highlight language, the world in us and around us. special two-hour poetry Judy’s work is not to Because language is part of what makes us workshop with twelve diminish in any way human, there is a very real sense in which of our most committed the creativity and poetry— a heightened attentiveness to student poets. commitment that go language as an expression of who we We want our into the teaching, are— goes to the heart of learning (and students to leave writing, and sharing the learning of the heart). PDS with a sense of of poetry among all ownership and mastery our faculty and F of their skills of self- students. The Dodge Lor all our students, not just those expression, and to Poetry Festival may with a special interest in writing, nothing further that aim we come around only brings the written word to life more hope to put in place a visiting writers once every two years, but poetry is its dramatically than the opportunity to read program specifically for the upper school. own big tent at PDS, and something’s a writer’s work and then sit in a classroom Over the past two years we have happening there even now. with him or her, engaged in conversation established a precedent for such a program by bringing to campus two — David LaMotte is the Upper distinguished poets: Mark Doty in School English Department chair January of 2002, and Edward Hirsch

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By Judy Rowe Michaels

We have to learn the desperate faith of sleepwalkers who rise out of their calm beds t was 3:40, and poet, and walk through the skin of another life. more of them.” And of translator and Two Suitcases o f Childrens columnist Ed Hirsch, We have to drink the stupefying cup of darkness Drawings from Terezin, winner of the National 1942-1944: “I loved how and wake up to ourselves, nourished and surprised. Book Critics Circle Award you give voice to the Iand newly appointed head unknown drawings and fro m For the Sleepwalkers, by Edward Hirsch of the Guggenheim children make their Foundation, had a train to imaginations and colors catch. He’d just taught three gatherings of seven classes, grades come alive in your words.” And one by wrote: 9 through 12, spent an hour and a half with the English “Your deep belief in the significance of Department, and given an assembly to the Upper School, but five poetry (and art in general) has influenced students had stayed on to ask more questions. He was giving each my work and my life, more than any one, separately, his earnest attention; to a bystander it looked as other artist.” English teacher and poet if their questions were the most important thing he had on his Chris Cunningham, when asked by the mind. Then he was buttonholed by an English teacher who had school newspaper for his opinion of the questions to ask and a poem to give him that had been inspired visit, said simply, “Ed Hirsch is my hero.” by Hirsch’s Sleepwalkers. Finally I got him to the train. Last winter the visiting poet was All the English classes had discussed a number of his poems Mark Doty, author of six poetry before his visit. A few weeks later, a students mother called to collections and two memoirs, winner tell me that her daughter, not usually addicted to poetry, of the National Book Critics Circle had spent the long ride home describing Hirsch’s visit Award, and the only American and reading aloud from his poems, till her younger poet to have won Britian’s brother also caught fire and selected Hirsch as the T.S. Eliot Prize. Doty gave subject for his eighth-grade poetry project. One up his lunch break to spend of my own students wrote in her thank you note: time with the student Gay “Thank you for answering my question about Straight Alliance. I think ‘gold coins’ in your poem Cemeteries by the Sea. it’s important to bring It has evoked a feeling that I’ve been trying to i writers who genuinely care put into words, the unreal feeling after seeing a about students and their phenomenal thing, but makes it feel simple at lives. the same time.” A second wrote, “There was great emotion, courage, and love in all of your poems about family. I will continue to read

Judy Rowe Michaels

Photo by Anne Marie Russo Poetry In Motion

These past two years I’ve been lucky member Susan Stein taught in the writing I am working on a fourth book, enough to be able to support these visits program at Bennington College last exchange poems with my colleagues for as the recipient of the first Carl D. summer and writes poetry. Chris “peer editing,” give workshops around the Reimers Distinguished Teaching Chair, Cunningham, another English teacher, country and readings with the local a three-year appointment, named in attends readings regularly at Manhattan’s women’s poetry collective “Cool Women,” honor of PDS Trustee Rev. Carl Reimers, 92nd Street Y and has studied poetry at and take students to Princeton University’s Jr., retired head of the religion depart­ Robert Frost Place Center for Poetry and reading series at 185 Nassau Street. Writers ment and former upper school dean. the Arts in Franconia, New Hampshire, lurk in other departments as well. The With support from professional develop­ which recently accepted one of his poems Upper School is truly fortunate to have so ment funds raised by the Parents for an upcoming many faculty members who practice and Association’s annual auction, I have taken anthology. care intensely about this art. I was struck workshops with both poets and thus was by the energy in the air when able to persuade them to make one of I came back to the English office their rare school visits. after teaching a class and found colleagues still gathered around Ed Hirsch, discussing everything tudents and teachers alike from villanelles to what it means need to hear professional writers to be Jewish in Princeton. read and talk about their work, Given this faculty enthusiasm, just as we need live artists it’s not surprising that the Upper exhibiting and speaking in the School can field a twenty-six week gallery and actors, dancers, and poetry elective every year, produces musicians performing in the theater. a prize-winning literary magazine, Like the members of our visual and Cymbals, has ever since the Rutgers/ performing arts departments, many Newark state poetry writing contest of us in the English Department begun won more than our share of twenty practice our art for pleasure and for prizes (five last year), sends two vans of publication and share drafts, students to Waterloo Village regularly for frustrations, and successes with our the biennial Geraldine R. Dodge Poetry students. Many of our faculty have Festival (along with most of the English attended the summer writing Department and our prize-winning workshop, Weaving Words, organized by Two books by Judy Rowe Michaels: students, who give a reading there), and Dancing with Words, Helping Students third grade teacher and Lower School each spring holds poetry cafes on campus Love Language through Authentic Language Arts Coordinator Bev in Shepherd Commons for all our Vocabulary Instruction and Risking Gallagher, and held at PDS each year. Intensity, Reading and Writing Poetry budding freshman poets. Every summer, Upper School English Department head with High School Students. lately, a few students have been accepted David LaMotte and English teacher Tom into creative writing programs at Iowa, Quigley, both published poets, have Kenyon, Bennington, Naropa, or Spoleto. created the Writing Center and each year Another annual event is the poetry train new students as Writing Mentors for the center. English department faculty

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"Students and teachers alike need to hear professional writers partnerships established through letters, perhaps be available to projects. I get to spend read and talk about classroom visits, and shared poems the staff of the literary time with the sixth- between the junior/senior poetry class magazine. It’s a very their work, just as grade Humanities and third-grade writers. part-time job, generally we need live artists classes writing their Then there’s the “heart-mapping” lasting for only a year exhibiting and own T ’ang Dynasty project and the two-voice “I remember” or two while the writer poems on scrolls. speaking in the gallery poems that emerge from a collaboration finished up a book. Fifth-graders look at between kindergarten students and and actors, dancers, my writing notebooks twelfth grade anatomy students. And, of LJ and musicians and learn to use theirs course, the Upper School participated in I I aving taught performing in the to gather words they annual John D. Wallace, Jr. ’78 Memorial full-time in the Upper love the sounds of, or theater. " Guest Artist Series “Imagine the School English Depart­ words with multiple Possibilities'” each April that brings a series ment for many years meanings, or fascinat­ of visiting artists and writers — last year and served as pre K-12 arts education ing words from science articles in The it included a workshop given by poet Paul coordinator for twenty-three, I’ve been in a New York Times. They read me their own Muldoon for twelve of our top poetry good position to shape the residency into drafts, and I read them one of mine. students. This spring, a return visit from something that crosses school division and Third-graders, amazingly, are ready to Palestinian American poet Naomi Shihab disciplines. I know the curriculum pretty explore the shell as a metaphor for the Nye, is anticipated. well and am gradually growing, reflecting mind; we look at Assigning a poet to getting a sense of what passages and drawings from Paul Valery’s "I've become aware, work throughout the a first grader can do wonderful meditative little book, Sea school helps makes this in the course of with language, what a Shells. This past fall, a class of first grade excitement and giving presentations seventh grader needs to truck experts sat on the rug by the easel continuity possible. to a number of be reminded he can do, and together we created a poem on “what During the twelve years and how a senior can trucks dream about.” In January, other schools and I’ve served as poet-in- fall in love with the Lower School classes wrote with me about residence, I’ve become conferences, that Muse even in the midst what it might be like to “have a mind of aware, in the course of PDS is highly unusual of churning out college winter” — their first taste of Wallace giving presentations to a in the kind of artist applications. I give Steven’s poetry. Recently, using Richard number of schools and poetry workshops to Wilbur’s wonderful rhyming picture book residencies it conferences, that PDS teachers — another on The Disappearing Alphabet, a junior is highly unusual in the encourages — in good w ay for me to kindergarten class talked with me about kind of artist residencies theater, art, music, learn more about what we’d lose if certain letters disap­ it encourages — in poetry." what’s going on. And peared. Suppose they fell off, one by one, theater, art, music, I can even watch a like beads from a necklace? poetry. Those school promising first-grader One red-headed young man screwed that do keep a professional writer on develop into a Cymbals editor. I’ve helped his face up, thinking hard: “Then we’d campus, for example — and they are few junior history classes comb local and lose the whole world.” — generally ask only that he or she give national newspapers to create poems based an occasional reading, work with an elite on Walt Whitman’s snapshots of Ameri­ group of junior and senior writers, and cans at work. I visit Upper School English classes to help demonstrate revision. I help eighth-graders with their poetry packet

SPRING 2003 • PRINCETON DAY SCHOOL • 23 Poetry In Motion

Hirsch Shares Acclaimed Verse with Students

By Mendy Fisch ’06, Senior Staff Writer, The Spokesman

Reprinted from the February 2003 issue to some kids before the lecture,” Hirsch (1998), Earthly Measures (1994), The Night o f the student newspaper The Spokesman. said, “I asked them why they were there. Parade (1989), Wild Gratitude (1986), re­ They said, ‘Our teacher said we get extra ceiver of the National Book Critics Circle dward Hirsch, a renowned poet who credit if we go to the reading, but as soon as Award, and For the Sleepwalkers (1981), win­ is the author of five books including this boring, old guy starts the lecture, we’re ner of the Lavan Younger Poets Award from the National Book Critics Circle going to sneak out.’ Well, The Academy of American Award winner Wild Gratitude, recently pre­that didn’t make me feel too Poets and the Delmore sented his poetry to Upper School groupsgood, but I got a laugh when Schwartz Memorial Award Eboth large and small. I saw the looks on their faces from New York University. On Monday, January 13 he discussed his after 1 was introduced.” Formerly a professor at poetry with English classes and at a school- Hirsch went on to read the University of Houston, wide assembly. from his book How to Read a he was brought to the East Hirsch was brought to the school by Poem and Fall in Love with Coast this year after becom­ Upper School English teacher and Poet-in- Poetry. The passage that he ing President of the John Residence Judy Michaels. Ms. Michaels met read, from the chapter “Three Simon Guggenheim Me­ Hirsch while taking a weekend poetry work­ Initiations,” described his first morial Foundation. shop with him. “He was warm and very giv­ introduction to poetry. p Hirsch is the third poet 0) ... ing,” Ms. Michaels remembered. “I was initiated into the | to visit in three years. Ms. “He and I really connected, which is poetry of trance on a rainy <1>w Michaels funded the visit unusual over a weekend workshop. He Saturday afternoon in mid- ™ with a grant she received knew just about every poem ever written. October 1958 when I wan­ < three years ago to honor He even wrote a blurb for the back of my dered down to the basement Edward Hirsch Reverend Carl Reimers, the new book, which my publisher was thrilled of our house to pick through some of my former head of PDS’ religion department, about,” she said. grandfather’s forgotten books,” Hirsch read. which has also brought poets Naomi Shihab Hirsch began the day by speaking to two The passage went on to describe how he Nye and Mark Doty to the school. groups of freshman and sophomore English found the poem “Spellbound,” by Emily Hirsch’s lecture style appealed to a wide classes, reading and discussing his poems. Bronte, mysteriously presented with no au­ variety of upper schoolers. Senior Chris He told the students that it was at their age thor in a musty anthology, and fell in love White enjoyed Hirsch’s deep sense of feel­ that he first became profoundly interested with it. “Clouds beyond clouds above me; / ings and emotional capacity. “He was so in writing poetry. Wastes beyond wastes below; / But nothing engrossing because he was interested in the “When I was your age, I loved to play drear can move me; / I will not, cannot go,” emotions behind poetry. His poetry was sports,” he said. “But I felt that I had too ran the last stanza of the poem. Hirsch was deep and full of passion and he tried to ex­ many emotions to be able to express them spellbound. plain all of the feelings behind the poems,” all on the playing field. I turned to writing “Suddenly I was in two places at once: I he recollected. poetry as a way to be able to put my feelings was standing next to a bookshelf in my par­ Junior Heidi Lam felt inspired by the on paper,” he continued. ents’ basement, and I was lost in the middle question and answer session that followed Hirsch’s sensitive, emotional nature was of a field somewhere in Southern Latvia with the assembly for juniors and seniors in block exhibited by his long, detailed answers to a storm wildly brewing around me. I felt as five English electives. “I really admire his questions during his lectures to the classes. though the words of the poem, like the language. It is very philosophical and makes “Hirsch would give a very thorough, storm itself, had cast a ‘tyrant spell’ upon you stop and think for a while. When I was emotional answer to any question that you me. I couldn’t move,” he told the audience. speaking to him about his ‘Cemeteries by asked him,” recalled freshman Sara Martin, After this, Hirsch read some of his own the Sea,’ he was really able to explain the who attended one of Hirsch’s sessions. poems. Two of the poems that he read, “Fast kind of unreal feelings that he wanted to “It was apparent that what he was saying Break,” and “Execution” were about sports. evoke,” she said. was from the bottom of his heart,” she said. Another poem, “In the Underground Garage,” The PDS community responded enthu­ After lunch with the English Depart­ described Hirsch’s reunion with an old friend. siastically to Hirsch’s visit. Head of the Up­ ment, Hirsch spoke to the entire Upper Hirsch, 52 and a native of Chicago, at­ per School Carlton Tucker reflected, “I was School during a 40-minute assembly. tended Grinnell College, and received his very interested in his choice of readings. He told everybody that he was “a little doctorate degree from the University of Most of the poetry that he read seemed to be bit nervous” because of an incident at an­ Pennsylvania. stemming from his life experience, and that’s other school where he spoke. “I was talking His poetry books include On Love what made it so real.”

24 • PRINCETON DAY SCHOOL • SPRING 2003 Poetry In Motion

Poet Mark Doty Speaks to Hearts A cclaimed Writer Reads Work to English Classes, Assembly

By Dan Crosta '02, Arts Editor, The Spokesman

Reprinted from the February 2002 issue After reading the poem, he confessed to publishes a book, he still revises his writing. o f the student newspaper The Spokesman. the students that “I gave myself permission “I was at a poetry reading for my new book, to lie." After five drafts of the “truth,” and I realized that I wanted to cut a few n January 23, PDS was visited by (in real life, Doty didn’t immediately return more words from my poem,” he explained. poetic luminary Mark Doty, who to get the tattoo) he allowed himself to Later in the day, Mr. Doty visited several spoke to the Upper School at “make the poem more interesting.” English classes, including Tom Quigley’s Oassembly and visited several English classes. “When I tried to write a poem about not Creative Writing Class. The focus of the class Doty has written six books of poetry and getting a tattoo, it seemed lifeless,” he added. was a question-and-answer with Mr. Doty. three of prose, whose focus ranges from grief As an afterthought, Doty added, “Even­ Doty was questioned in the Creative over his partner’s death, to a young child’s tually, I did get a tattoo, but not the one in Writing Class about the significance of drawing in, to life through the eyes of his dog. the poem.” some of the seemingly worthless objects in Doty, who lives in Provincetown, Massa­ Another poem, Golden Retrievals, is his writing — Doty wrote about wrecked, chusetts, on Cape Cod, currently serves as a written from the point of view of Doty’s rusted ships, and all kinds of decaying fellow at the Center for Scholars and Writers golden retriever, Beau. matter. at the New York Public Library. “I was approached by “Why does anything matter? I don’t Additionally, Doty has the publisher of a book know—so I start writing,” Mr. Doty advised received many writing called Unleashed, in which the elective, adding, “if you pay attention, awards, including the Na­ all poems had to be written you will be rewarded.” tional Poetry Series Prize, the in the voice of a dog,” Doty He also faced the class with questions Los Angeles Times Book explained. about writing, to encourage creative think­ Award and the National Book Initially, he resisted the ing: “W hat makes you feel part of something Critics’ Circle Award. prompt, but one day found bigger?” and, “What happens to the body Doty was introduced at the inspiration while walking his when you die?” assembly by senior Thomas dog in the park. Mr. Doty’s visit was made possible Bohnett. “Each one of us has “Fetch? Balls and sticks through PDS’ Poet-in-Residence and US at least one person whom we capture my attention/sec- English Teacher Judy Michaels. Michaels admire from afar,” Bohnett onds at a time,” the poem first met Mr. Doty at the Key West Literary began. “This morning, begins. seminar several years ago. though, the distance is “[My dog] wanted to “The topic that year was ‘Literature in erased...it is a privilege and an write a sonnet...he’s very the Time of AIDS,’ and he gave a reading in Mark Doty honor to welcome Mark Doty.” fond of puns,” Doty told, a church in the heart of town,” Ms. Michaels Bohnett’s stirring introduction reminded eliciting laughter from the crowd. recalled. Mr. Doty of a similar experience when he In all, he read four poems in the 45- Last summer, Ms. Michaels attended a was young, meeting his idol James Merril. minute assembly, three of which were seminar held by Mr. Doty in his hometown “I felt I knew him backwards and forwards... published. of Provincetown, Massachusetts. when I met him, I realized that I only knew Brian, Age 7 describes a picture hanging “I was impressed with him as a teacher, his poetry.” Doty concluded by reminding in a store window that caught Doty’s eye, and asked him whether he would consider the audience that it’s healthy to have idols, and nagged at his brain for weeks until he coming to PDS,” Ms. Michaels said. “I people whose work and life you can “admire could write about it. emailed him later, and he said yes.” from afar,” in the words of Bohnett. Reflecting on Brian Age 7, Doty ex­ The seminar Ms. Michaels attended was Instead of just reading his poetry at the plained the way that writing helps him set made possible by an anonymous donation, assembly, as other visiting writers have, Doty things straight in his mind. “After I wrote honoring Reverend Carl Reimers, former took a few minutes to explain the story be­ the poem, I took a step back and thought, head of PDS’ religion department. The hind his poems, to give some context to the ‘Wow, was that actually my reaction? ” money increases the salary of all PDS teach­ audience. In the last few minutes of the assembly, ers, and also allows for a three-year grant to The first that he read, My Tattoo, tells Doty took questions from the audience. enhance the recipient’s teaching, according the story of Doty’s first tattoo. In the “When do you think it’s time to put to Ms. Michaels. poem, he enters the tattoo parlor, but has down a poem?” one student asked. “I was the [recipient,]” Ms. Michaels doubts. He leaves, but eventually returns to “When you’re dead,” was Doty’s witty summarized, “and I use part of the grant get the tattoo. reply. As he went on to explain, even after he to bring Mark Doty to PDS.”

SPRING 2003 • PRINCETON DAY SCHOOL • 25 Alumn Weekend

Princeton Day School ALUMNI WEEKEND 2003 May 16 & 17,2003 On Friday sit in on classes and enjoy lunch on Alumni Visiting Day and join in the Miss Fine’s Maypole Celebratinn. Friday evening see your favorite teachers at the First Annual Alumni/Faculty Reunion and All Alumni Gathering.

On Saturday attend the Alumni Awards Reception, play in the Alumni Athletic Games, enjoy a family Clambake and Fun Festival, and stroll the campus for an AHS Walk followed by the Athletic Hall of Fame ceremony. Saturday night celebrate at Reunion Class Parties.

hi M m 5th Reunion 15th Reunion Stewart von Oehsen 25th Reunion Marin Blitzer • 617-686-7003 Courtney Shannon *212-717-0483 609-466-5400 • [email protected] Lucy Brinster • 609-466-8322 [email protected] [email protected] Andy Hawkes • 978-255-1677 [email protected] Erin Conroy • 212-706-2574 Julia Herr • 212-988-4528 [email protected] Jenny Hauge • 973-984-0663 erin. con roy@gs. com [email protected] Zoe Nicolich Nelson [email protected] 732-233-6888 10th Reunion 20th Reunion Carol Schoenberg • 718-522-2618 [email protected] [email protected] Stacy Ho • 609-947-2501 Jan Carver • 781-857-1259 Kelly Lambert Walker [email protected] [email protected] Suzanne Vine • 973-763-2785 508-748-1019 [email protected] Dan Ragsdale • 646-336-6363 Rena Whitehouse • 404-898-0484 [email protected] [email protected] [email protected] Rob Olsson • 609-897-9109 Laurie Gallup Fusco [email protected] Michelle Boyd • 303-494-4192 Sarah Cragg Johnson 973-226-2719 Tom Gates • 609-730-0277 [email protected] 609-896-1309 • scjl [email protected] lgfusco@comcast. net [email protected]

>6 • PRINCETON DAY SCHOOL • SPRING 2003 Alumni Weekend

Friday, M ay 16 Saturday, M ay 17

8 :0 0 A.M. Alumni Golf • Bedens Brook ($150/person) 10:00 A.M . Moment of Remembrance • Rothrock Garden Come challenge your classmates in the Blue & Join us for a ceremony honoring alumni, faculty and White Cup. Early morning golf at Bedens Brook, PDS friends who have passed away in the past year. followed by lunch. Prizes will be awarded. Register early as space is limited. 1 1:00 A.M . Alumni Awards Reception • Reunion Tent Opening remarks on “Teaching Globalization,’’ 10:00 A.M. Alumni Visiting Day by Upper School history teacher, George Sanderson; Alumni are invited to spend the morning attending 2003 Alumni Achievement Award presented to classes and stay for lunch (pre-registration is required). *Elizabeth Hutner Flemer 73; 2003 Alumni Service Award presented to Sanders Maxwell ’32. Continen­ 1 1:00 A.M. Miss Fine’s Maypole Celebration • Colross Lawn tal breakfast provided. *awardedposthumously Second graders meet their Miss Fine’s penpals and perform the Maypole Dance. Luncheon with Head 12:00 Noon Alumni Family Clambake and Fun Festival of School Judy Fox follows. • New Fields Complex ($25/person) PantherPal Care (for children ages 2-12) 12:00- 2:00 7 :0 0 P.M. First Annual Alumni/Faculty Reunion P.M. ($10/child, includes lunch, games and a PDS and All Alumni Gathering • Under the Tent student chaperone, pre-registration required). Visit with your favorite teachers and coaches (they’ll be there!!) and fellow classmates. Great food, great 1 :3 0 P.M. Alumni Athletic Games • New Fields Complex music, beer and wine provided. ($25/person) Kim Bedesem Alumnae Lacrosse Game • Bob PantherPaJ Care (for children ages 2-12) 6:30-11:00 P.M. Krueger Alumni Lacrosse Game • Alumni Baseball/ ($5/child/hour, includes dinner, pre-registration Softball Game. required) 3 :0 0 P.M. Alumni Arts Walk • Anne Reid Art Gallery A self-guided tour of the PDS permanent collection displayed throughout the campus. Pick up a tour All visitors please REGISTER at Colross packet at the Gallery. to receive event tickets and reunion class packets. 5:30 P.M. Athletic Hall of Fame Reception • Reunion Tent Registration begins daily at 9 a.m. and closes at 6 p.m. Alumni, faculty and friends will honor this year’s inductees: Lily Buchanan Agar 38, www.pds.org George C. Hackl ’48, Robert H. Olsson ’78, Michele Plante ’78, *William S. Smoyer ’60, PDS Alumni Office: 877-924-ALUM (2586) and Lester Tibbals. Cocktails and hors d’oeuvres provided. *awarded posthumously

E l 30th Reunion Jody Miller-Olcott 45th Reunion • www.pds.org 55th Reunion • www.pds.org Martha Sullivan Sword 609-466-1944 50th Reunion 60th Reunion 609-921-3649 • [email protected] Ellen Fisher Stockmayer MFS: MFS: Marion Huston Lisko 781-631-0671 • [email protected] Caroline Rosenblum Moseley www.pds.org 206-762-4422 35th Reunion • www.pds.org 609-921-8584 [email protected] PCD: [email protected] Peter Erdman • 609-924-0623 Ginna Vogt • 617-969-6971 40th Reunion Anne Carples Denny ginna @alumni.princeton.edu Bob Dougherty • 609-924-1268 MFS: 804-740-5156 • [email protected] Laurie Rogers • 203-973-7279 William Warren • 504-949-1805 PCD: wwl [email protected] [email protected] Ken Scasserra • 609-448-4277 Peter Moore • 207-865-6548 Colleen Coffee Hall [email protected] Please see the latest reunion petej moore@aol. com 609-924-4940 • [email protected] information at www.pds.org Buzz Woodworth • 609-924-0506 PCD: www.pds.org or call the Alumni Office at [email protected] 877-924-ALUM (2586).

SPRING 2003 • PRINCETON DAY SCHOOL • 27 Alumni Service Award

Sharing His Passion for Music

andy Maxwell PCD ’32 will commuting by train to the city when receive the Alumni Service he worked in advertising. Eventually, Award for his efforts to give he rolled the time on the rails into his back to the Princeton Day School music, playing piano and keyboard. community. The long-time Princeton Today people enjoy hearing him at resident has been sharing his musical his regular Friday and Saturday night talent for more than half a century. “gig” at Aqua, a restaurant and club Sandy, now in his eighties, is an active in Somerville. He says he’s “played professional musician, playing at as far north as Norway, as far east as Princeton-area gatherings. Cairo, as far south as San Antonio When Sandy attended PCD, there and as far west as Chicago.” He’s were 55 boys. Today he marvels at the played at the Century Club, the size of PDS. “Its amazing to see the Union Club and the Union League growth. It is a terrific school,” he says. Club in New York City, as well as He attended PCD from fifth through under tents in backyards and mead­ ninth grade, and went on to the Taft ows around the area, performing at School. He returned to Princeton to just about every kind of occasion, attend college, graduating from including weddings, anniversaries, Princeton University with a degree in Sanders Maxwell '32 birthdays, cocktail parties, receptions classics. “PCD gave me a solid ground­ and even funerals. He has played at ing in the classics,” he says, and influ­ Princeton University reunions every enced his decision to study classics at year since he graduation. Princeton. Latin began in fifth grade at 4 > u » g At Princeton he is an emeritus PCD. In addition to playing the »«■ member of the Triangle Club board, ^ ,oshi"B „ fM b ^ i orm " nA otve requisite ice hockey at Baker Rink and oi f* r* ’ to thrte <&***£ and is on the board of the Princeton some baseball, Sandy was editor-in- V *shingtoo » ? £ £ ,, „ . f vnic. ^ U h e r s and Summer Theater. He has served on - 01oltheo^'t: the oia schoA “mlly there ^ Cj<;0[g e ^ chief of the Junior Journal. He had a the boards of the Princeton Child flare for writing. That ability would £ . " . € « 3 £ s e 2 s S !3 - Development Institute, Princeton serve him well during a 40-year career Symphony and McCarter Theater. readily see Twei he 0i ^ working in New York advertising IS entha^ ^ He was an intelligence officer in the agencies. At Young and Rubicam he From the Junior Journal, March 1932. U.S. Eighth Air Force from 1942 to combined his writing and musical 1945, stationed in Chelveston, En­ talent, creating print ads and radio and TV jingles and spots. gland. He and his late wife, Patricia, married for 58 years, had four During the 1950s, he was a trustee at PCD. children who are alumni as well: Lee and Rob Maxwell, both PCD At PDS, he has been a perennial part of the Parents Associa­ ’62, Linda Stefanelli ’62, and Donna Griggs ’64. tion’s Auction, offering his piano playing for parties. At the school’s Sandy seems to be as timeless as the music he plays which centennial celebration in 1999, he accompanied alumni from Miss includes a repertoire of Big Band, Swing, Latin, Country, Fine’s School, PCD and PDS in an original musical revue at the Dixieland, and show tunes. Ms. Stefanelli ’62, says “One of the Herbert and Marguerite Theater. It featured students and alumni great things about Dad is his curiosity and his willingness to try doing wonderful old musical comedy bits under the direction of new things. He dives into Tai Chi with the same enthusiasm he PDS Artist-in-Residence Ross Hindley. He has participated in the tackles a new computer program that writes sheet music. He loves school’s career-day as a panelist, and the Middle School mini-week exploring new places and is always way ahead of his children, programs, sharing his love of music and his advertising experience. grandchildren and even great-grandchildren when it comes to hot He is largely a self-taught musician who says ‘he likes to write new trends and hit music.” tunes.” He began taking piano lessons at age six and took up banjo and guitar at 13. His family acquired their first piano, an upright, The Alumni Service Award is given to an alumna or alumnus whose efforts to when his grandmother won a $ 150 credit at a local music store. give back to the community and/or Princeton Day School reflect the highest ideals o f the school and inspire others through his or her example o f sensitivity He has been playing ever since. or generosity. PD S welcomes nominations for the award each year. He figures he spent about three years of his life, all tolled,

28 • PRINCETON DAY SCHOOL • SPRING 2003 Alumni Achievement Award

A Poet and Writer Completing a Circle

lizabeth Hutner Flemer, Ph.D., After two years of teaching at PDS ’73 will receive the PDS, Liz moved to New York with Princeton Day School 2003 her first husband Alexander Sheers. Alumni Achievement Award posthu­ She gave birth to their son, Sam, in mously, for her lifelong devotion to 1986. Tragedy struck Liz’s life years scholarship and creativity that epito­ before her own cancer diagnosis, mize the traits PDS strives to develop through the death of her son, who in its students. She was a gifted poet died at age six from leukemia. Sam’s and writer who inspired many to illness and subsequent death, as well write. Liz passed away last December as her divorce, shaped her courage after a long battle with breast cancer. and determination towards facing Along the way she was a source of life’s challenges and tragedies. She encouragement to others fighting the found solace for the loss of her son battle with cancer. Her husband, through poetry. Her book, “Life with William Flemer IV ’71, will accept Sam: Poems,” has just been pub­ the award on her behalf. lished by CavanKerry Press. The The culmination of Liz’s scholarly book includes photographs taken by pursuits took place only days before her brother, Simeon, a film editor, her death at the age of 47, when — Elizabeth Hutner Flemer ’73 with her son Will, in 1994. who documented Sam’s life through from her hospital bed— she success­ the course of his illness. fully defended her dissertation on the Other World In 1993, Liz returned to the poetry of Horace and John Donne. Princeton area with her second She received her doctorate in com­ Maybe I have waited for disease husband, Bill Flemer ’71, whom she parative literature from Princeton Carried by my blood into the bone had known since high school. Their University, something she had been son Will was born in 1994. She and To offer me the chance I think I need working towards since the early Bill shared a love for folk and coun­ When life without you leaves me too alone. 1980s. Her brother, Simeon Hutner try music. They performed original ’77, who was gathered with her Now I will suffer all that you endured songs locally and recorded a CD. Liz family at the hospital on that occa­ When doctors gave you needles, pills and fear. was first diagnosed with breast cancer sion said “It was very heartfelt. She And since for you, we never found a cure, shortly after W ill’s birth. The battle was articulate and passionate about My illness is the thing that we can share. would consume her health over the the work even though she was very If I catch a glimpse of where you are next seven years. Her sister, Louise weak and could barely sit up.” Hutner ’70, described Liz as deter­ It tantalizes. What have I to lose? As a student at PDS, Liz was a mined and one who had tremendous No, I could go — it really isn’t far. passionate poet and writer, a dancer, perseverance. “She had a real ability weaver and musician. Her interest in Everything depends on what I choose. to stay with something, in addition poetry began in Upper School English But I have other loves for whom I stay. to being extremely bright and capable classes taught by one of her favorite I must turn back and let you slip away. intellectually, and that was one of the teachers, the late Moyne Smith. She main things that got her through.” — Elizabeth Hutner Flemer ’73 went on to graduate magna cum laude Other MFS, PCD and PDS from Yale University with a degree in alumni in her family include: Nat English and classics, later returning to PDS to teach English. Hutner '65, Heidi Flemer Hesselein ’70, William Flemer III ’37 Former English Department Chair Steve Lawrence recalled the day and Elizabeth Sinclair Flemer ’43. he hired Liz. “It was clear to me from the minute I met her, at the interview, that this was a person with boundless energy and enthu­ Established in 1986, the Alumni Achievement award is given to an alumnus siasm, brightness, fine education and a great love of the school or alumna who has achieved excellence in his or her chosen field, made a commitment to helping others and has inspired others by his or her example. where she had been a student. She felt she was completing a circle PDS welcomes nominations for the award each year. by coming to teach at the institution she loved, he said.

SPRING 2003 • PRINCETON DAY SCHOOL • 29 Hall of Fame

Lily Buchanan Agar ’38 ily “Nan” Buchanan Agar was awarded the Gold “F”, the Athletic highest award for athletic ability, sportsmanship and participation given to a Miss Fine’s students. She played field hockey, basketball and baseball. In addition, she recalls Hall of Fame playing a competitive game of soccer during recess, though soccer was not an official sport of the Miss Fine’s at that time. The April 1938 issue of The Link noted “a highly successful hockey season” with victories over the Trenton Hockey Club, Kent Place School, Inducts Six and Hartridge. At Smith College, Mrs. Agar learned to ski and to fly with the College’s Flying Club. She was a member of the Outing (Hiking) This spring, five exceptional Club as well. A former president of the Princeton Ski Club, she now skis with the 70+ Ski Club, a national organization. athletes will be inducted into She began an interest in horseback riding early on, when fourth grade students at Miss Fine’s were given lessons at the the Athletic Hall of Fame, R.O.T.C. arena. She became a serious rider in middle age, owned as well as one former faculty a horse and competed in several disciplines. In 1998 she became a member of the United States Dressage Federation’s Century Club, member and coach who is where the combined ages of horse and rider equal 100 or more. She is co-founder and former president of Heads Up Special being honored for extraordinary Riders, a group that offers handicapped children and adults a chance to horseback ride. achievement. The inductees are Lily Buchanan Agar ’38, George C. Hackl ’48, Robert FL Olsson ’78, Michele Plante ’78, William S. Smoyer ’60, who is being honored posthumously, and Lester Tibbals. The ceremony will take place during Alumni Weekend on Saturday, May 17, under the Reunion Tent, beginning at 5:30 p.m.

30 • PRINCETON DAY SCHOOL • SPRING 2003 Hall of Fame

George C. Hackl ’48 Robert Olsson ’78 eorge Hackl was an outstanding student athlete and was obert Olsson was an outstanding student athlete in any awarded the Athletics Cup in 1948, one of the highest sport he played. He was awarded both the Silver and honors in sports at Princeton Country Day. He played Gold “P”, in recognition of his athletic ability, sports­ varsity soccer, ice hockey and baseball for three years. He also manship and participation. He played four years of varsity played tennis and basketball lor two years. In track, he won first, football and lacrosse, and three years of varsity ice hockey. As second and third places in various events. He played a year of six- captain of each team during his senior year, he was an excellent man football. He was awarded varsity letters in soccer, hockey, leader who took a genuine interest in inspiring his teammates, baseball and tennis. particularly the younger players. He played fullback and line­ At Phillips Exeter Academy he played three years of varsity backer on the PDS team. He was named to the New Jersey Prep soccer and ice hockey. He also spent three years pole vaulting with League Championships in 1976 and on the New Jersey Prep the school’s track team. League All Star Team in 1977. He was named MVP in both At Princeton University, Hackl played two years of varsity football and lacrosse in his senior year. soccer, three of varsity hockey, and was the captain of the hockey As a midfielder in lacrosse he helped lead the team to the team and high scorer in the same year. He was awarded the Garden State Lacrosse League Champions in 1975 and 1976, and Blackwell Trophy for Sportsmanship and Contributions to the NJ Prep B Champions in 1977 and 1978. He was named the Hockey. Following college, in the early 1960s, he founded the MVP in the Garden State Lacrosse League Championship Game Princeton University Hockey Association of which he was in 1976 and the All-League Midfielder in the League that same president for five years. Mr. Hackl continued to play hockey for year. The following year he received the NJ Lacrosse Coaches town teams in the Princeton area. In more recent years, he Outstanding Player Award. received honors in golf. In 1996 he was Club Champion at the As a defenseman in ice hockey he helped lead the team to the Bald Peak Colony Club in New Hampshire. He has won various championship in the PDS Invitational Tournament and received satellite tournaments as well. Presently, he is a member of the the PDS Invitational Tournament Sportsmanship Award in 1978. United State Seniors Golf Association. At Dartmouth he played varsity lacrosse all four years. During college he was named to the First Team for All New England La­ crosse and received Honorable Mention in All American in 1982. He played in the Division I/North-South Lacrosse Game. Follow­ ing college he played with the New Jersey (Montclair) Lacrosse Club. He has been assistant coach for mens varsity lacrosse at Princeton University, and for high school varsity teams near his home. Last year he was head coach for the West Windsor/Plainsboro Girls Recreation Soccer Club and assistant coach for the town’s girls third and fourth grade lacrosse. At PDS, Rob has been president of the Alumni Board for the last two years.

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Michele Plante ’78 William S. Smoyer ’60 ichele Plante excelled at any sport she played as a illiam S. Smoyer is being honored posthumously. student athlete at PDS. Over four years she played field He was an athlete and leader who was killed in Vietnam hockey, lacrosse, basketball, volleyball and girls ice in 1968. “Bill’’ is remembered as an exemplary leader, hockey. Throughout her high school and college career she re­ especially to younger athletes, as well as a great sportsman at ceived awards recognizing her sportsmanship and athletic ability. Princeton Country Day. An outstanding athlete, he was captain In 1977, she was named All American High School Athlete for of the soccer and hockey teams. He was awarded the Athletic Cup Outstanding Ability in Field Hockey. That same year, she was for best all-around athlete. named to the New Jersey Independent Schools Association All- At Andover he was a three-sport athlete, playing soccer, hockey Star Field Hockey team. At PDS she played varsity field hockey and baseball at the varsity level in his sophomore, junior and all four years and was team captain. She played varsity lacrosse for senior years. He was captain of the soccer team. In his senior year, three years and was team captain. She also played junior varsity he was elected chairman of the Athletic Advisory Board, a group basketball as a freshman, varsity volleyball for two years, and ice consisting of all the varsity team captains. hockey her senior year. At Dartmouth College he was considered one of their finest At Middlebury College she received the Hezelteine Klevenau athletes and received six varsity letters in all. He was named the Award, the college’s award for outstanding athletic and academic All-Ivy halfback in soccer; received honorable mention, All-Ivy in achievement. Ms. Plante played three years of varsity field hockey hockey; was captain of the freshman hockey team; and the leading and was selected for three consecutive years for the North Eastern scorer for two years straight. College Field Hockey Association’s First Team. She was also On May 18, 2001, the William S. Smoyer ’60 Memorial Field selected for U.S. Field Hockey team tryouts. She played varsity at PDS was dedicated. Stanley Smoyer, Bill’s father, wanted to lacrosse during all four years and was captain of the team during support PDS and the sport that his son loved, soccer. Mr. Smoyer, her junior and senior years. In addition, she was selected as a together with his wife Marjorie, and Bill’s sister, Nancy Smoyer member of the First Team of the New England Women’s Lacrosse ’61, and his brother, David ’56 (a 1998 Hall of Fame inductee), Association for four years. In 1981 and 1982, she was named and the PDS community joined in remembering his athletic MVP. Ms. Plante also played three years of ice hockey on a club excellence. The inscription on the plaque installed beside the team and continues to be an avid skier. soccer field reads: “A leader, scholar, and outstanding athlete who gave his life for his country while serving in Vietnam, and in whose loving memory this field was dedicated.”

32 • PRINCETON DAY SCHOOL • SPRING 2003 1997 Inductees *Kim Tumilty Bedesem...... (Coach) Eric M. Bylin ’85...... (PDS) Donald P. Cogsville ’8 4 ...... (PDS) John F. Cook ’5 6 ...... (PCD) Hope Thompson Kerr ’5 3 ...... (MFS) L. Chloe King’55 ...... (MFS) Louise S. Matthews 8 3 ...... (PDS) *James Sloane ’3 6 ...... (PCD) William M. Sloane ’3 6 ...... (PCD) Lester Tibbals Ellen Fisher Stockmayer ’7 3 ...... (PDS) Lester “Bud” Tibbals is being honored for his extraordinary 1998 Inductees achievement and versatility as a coach, former faculty member Andrew D. Bing ’8 4 ...... (PDS) and avid supporter of Princeton County Day School and, later, Elizabeth (Betty) Cobb...... (Coach) PDS athletics. Anne Harrison-Clark ’56 ...... (MFS) Bud joined the faculty at PCD in 1947. A dedicated educator, David B. Smoyer ’5 6 ...... (PCD) he was one of several Princeton Country Day teachers who made Karen Callaway Urisko ’8 5 ...... (PDS) the move to PDS at the school’s inception in 1966. He came to Michael F. Walters ’7 8 ...... (PDS) Princeton after a stint in the Navy from 1941-45, having earned a George C. Young ’3 3 ...... (PCD) bachelor of arts in history and economics from Trinity College before serving. In the 1950s while he was teaching at PCD, he 1999 Inductees Laura Farina ’7 9 ...... (PDS) completed a master’s degree in history at Princeton University. Suzanne Haynes Halle ’8 2 ...... (PDS) During his years with the two schools he taught European and Robert S. Krueger...... (Coach) U.S. History. At PCD he was the athletic director from 1958 Dean W. Mathey ’4 3 ...... (PCD) until 1965, where his duties included scheduling games, anticipat­ Randolph Melville ’7 7 ...... (PDS) ing equipment needs, hiring officials and coaching. Martha Heath Yerkes ’4 2 ...... (MFS) Bud coached tennis, hockey and football and assisted with the skating program when the Lisa McGraw ’44 Rink was built. Before 2000 Inductees the rink was built on campus, he led daily practice at the ice at Sarah Berkman ’9 2 ...... (PDS) Princeton University’s Baker Rink. He compiled a fine record in the Barbara Russell Flight ’77 ...... (PDS) sports he coached and his enthusiasm never faded. He retired in Sandra Strachan Froehlich ’57 ...... (MFS) *E. Webb Harrison, Jr. ’5 7 ...... (PCD) 1981. At PCD, most faculty members coached or in some way William Martin, Jr. ’76 ...... (PDS) were involved in supervision of various athletic activities. Through Timothy R. Murdoch ’8 0 ...... (PDS) the years he worked with other faculty coaches such as Harry Alberto Petrella ...... (Special) Rulon-Miller 51, Bob Whitlock and Wes McCaughan. At PCD, athletics and academics were both very highly considered and 2001 Inductees supported by the school. Elizabeth Bylin Cook ’90 ...... (PDS) When Bud learned he would be inducted in to the Hall of Ruth Kemmerer Dorf’2 7 ...... (MFS) Fame he spoke of the teams he coached. “I always thought we did *Frank Konstantynowicz ’7 6 ...... (Special) remarkably well with the small numbers of kids we had playing. William E. Rigot ’6 8 ...... (PDS) Often we beat teams that were bigger than we were.” Retired PDS Henry Rulon-Miller’51 ...... (Special) history teacher Garry Lott, who taught and coached for more 2002 Inductees than 40 years, said “both in the classroom and on the playing Janet L. Baker...... (Special) fields, Bud deserves to be honored.” *Daniel Barren...... (Coach) Annabelle Brainard Canning ’7 7 ...... (PDS) Coleman Donaldson ’6 2 ...... (PCD) Linda Maxwell Stefanelli ’6 2 ...... (MFS) Newell Woodworth III ’7 3 ...... (PDS)

2003 Inductees Lily Buchanan Agar ’3 8...... (MFS) George C. S. Hackl ’4 8 ...... (PCD) Robert Olsson ’7 8 ...... (PDS) Michele Plante ’7 8 ...... (PDS) ’William Smoyer ’60...... (PCD) Lester Tibbals...... (Extraordinary Achievement)

*Awarded posthumously

SPRING 2003 • PRINCETON DAY SCHOOL • 33 Alumni Focus

Time Off

By Thomas Bohnett '02

’ve read chat some mara­ became clear that supporting Lautenberg Where I’m at right now is a definite bit thoners cant readily stop would be an implicit endorsement ol a of proof that while my time as a student at policy on international engagement that PDS is over, the benefits of being a part of I running after 26.2 miles, their ran counter to everything I believed in on the community are not. I’m in the middle muscles hours before having been the subject. In a decision that I was able to of a six-week internship with Isles, Inc., a locked into a pounding rhythm by make because of the dabbler’s freedom Trenton-based community redevelopment desire. Last June, stepping down afforded by the length and nature ol my and environmental organization founded from the podium after receiving break, I resigned and found myself march­ and run by Martin Johnson, father of ing against the war effort with tens of Jeremiah 02, Lon, and Colin. The my diploma, 1 did not feel relieved thousands of others in the same city I had internship is a fusion of many personal so much as I felt uneasy about not entered only four months hence with interests, and has already challenged some having something to be nervous complete awe. It was a turn of events that I of my most closely held beliefs and about. After four years of racing, my couldn’t have possibly predicted; a kind of introduced me to a city only 15 minutes pulse didn’t know what resting was. I had experience perfectly balanced by strato­ from Princeton but really a world away in so completely bought into an ethic of spheric highs and canyon-deep lows. I was every way. achievement, one that always left me one exhilarated to accept these events as evi­ My experiences — from Washington to step short of academic satisfaction, that dence of a new, less-structured reality. New Jersey to Italy to New Jersey again — not even that most final of achievements Sipping cappuccino, reading Where have been positive, but I’m not writing this of high school seemed as fulfilling as it Angels Fear To Tread, and gazing at a to pontificate on the virtues of my own should have been. Tuscan sunset in Siena were pretty good decision. I can’t; I don’t know if I, in the antidotes to those midst of something I needed time to relearn how to gaze months of American somewhat experi­ inward instead of always looking narrowly “It was a turn o f events electoral politics, mental and unpre­ forward. And I knew that I wouldn’t learn and I was lucky to that I couldn’t have dictable, can how to emotionally and intellectually be able to liberally possibly predicted... ” accurately project manage my work by taking a year on the partake of all three any long-term beach in Florida. So only about a month last November and December. My daily outcomes of the decision to defer. But if I alter Commencement, I took the train responsibilities were, for almost two had to guess about one lesson I’ve learned down to our nation’s capital and jumped months, to wander in the art museums and say, “Yeah, that one will change your feet-first into a job that was completely until satisfied, pick up a bit of the native life,’’ my only thought would be this: that new and fresh in its challenges, but per­ tongue in casual daily language classes, and learning to be satisfied with one day’s work fectly familiar in its intensity. And after a take advantage of the cuisine as often as - meaning much smaller goals - has led summer of that, one full of proximity-to- possible. I am proud to report that, while me to satisfaction with a week’s work, a power thrills interning for former Senator my grasp of Italian, never sturdy, is already month’s work, even a season’s work. To Robert Torricelli, I was enthused enough faltering, and that I met the third goal appropriate the title of the final English about my boss and the process to join the maybe a little too well, I left the country course PDS seniors take, I’m learning to Senator’s reelection campaign back in New with a smile on my face and a buoyant live a life that works, day by day. Jersey. For two and a hall months of seven- spirit - that time was the first time I’d ever (And also, I fell in love.) day weeks and 14-hour days I was in the had to concentrate for an extended period thick of one ol the most twisted congres­ on how I could improve my relationship sional races in the nation’s history doing Thomas Bohnett was co-Editor-in-Chief of with my work, academic or otherwise. The Spokesman, the brutish work ol a low-level campaign the award-winning, Having gotten my fill of the dis- ; field organizer. 1 persevered through the student-run newspaper during his senior gruntled-American-expatriate-in-Europe infamous candidate switch and supported year. He was cited several times in statewide gig, though, I came home eager to work and regional journalism competitions during Frank Lautenberg’s candidacy until it lor what I believed in, but looking for a his junior and senior years. He deferred different structure than I’d previously had admission to Princeton University until to do that work. September o f 2003.

34 • PRINCETON DAY SCHOOL • SPRING 2003 Alumni Focus

Making a Difference

By Andy Golda '96

Peace Corps Day, February 23, 2003, became obvious that the damage was is a celebration o f the Peace Corps, overwhelming, the Soviets pushed the number into the 9 range. Today most begun in 1961 by President John F. people say it was 8 on the 10-point Rich­ Kennedy. It’s inception was a call for ter scale and 10 on the 15-point scale. (1 Americans to serve their country and think one measures the tremors and the the world. Andy Golda ’96, has been other the damage caused by the earth­ serving as a Peace Corps Volunteer in quake.) The casualty count went as high as 80,000, but more realistically was in the Dilijian, Armenia since June, 2001. 30,000 to 40,000 range. Prior to serving, he received a bachelor Today in the communities of Gyumri, o f arts in Russian Studies and Politics Spitak, Vanadzor and Stepanavan, thou­ from New York University, and worked sands of people are still living in make­ the December 7, 1988, earthquake as an act shift shelters, which are slowly being at the American Counsels o f Interna­ of nature, but insist it was “set off” replaced by apartments tional Education. Andy completes his by a Soviet Nuclear bomb. under the USAID hous­ service this June, and his family is Living for three months ing program or inde­ hoping he will return home. He wrote in Gyumri gave me a vague pendent efforts spear­ sense of what it must be headed by the Li ncy the following reflections about his like when in 45 seconds Foundation. Spitak experiences while visiting sites in the entire world crumbles is located 5 kilom e­ Armenia, devastated 14years ago around you. My friend ters from the epicen­ by an earthquake. Ararat, who grew up in ter (which was in the Gyumri but is now serving village of Nalband, ecember 7, 2002: Fourteen years ago, in the Armenian Army in now called Shirakamut), I remember fuzzy pictures on televi­ Artashat, was a little kid then, and suffered the sion: concrete buildings that had but he remembers his grandfather earthquake’s greatest losses. The tumbled into a gorge, people behind the taking him outside after the first shock. name Spitak means white in Armenian. Iron Curtain searching frantically throughHe recalls feeling a giant hammer hitting During Soviet times, Spitak had an enor­ Simmense piles of rubble. These images were the earth from mous sugar refinery filed away somewhere deep inside my below. After fleeing that exported to memory. Then, when we had training last their house, he “ Living for three months in Moscow and be­ summer in Gyumri (formerly Leninakan), watched it collapse yond. All but three those memories pieced themselves together. in the second wave, Gyumri gave me a vague of the town’s b uild­ I think the gorge was the ravine that cuts which he said felt sense o f what it must be ings were destroyed through Gyumri’s downtown, a gorge now like the earth had like when in 45 seconds in the earthquake, filled with metal shipping containers turned turned into a turbu­ and approximately into houses. And then new photographs lent ocean. There the entire world crumbles 6,000 to 11,000 are stories of people people from Spitak joined the montage: people who couldn’t around you. ” come to grips with entire schools being surviving jumps out (about a fourth to a crushed, people who hadn’t yet received a of 8-story windows because they timed half of the town’s population) died. real home to live in but still, more than a the waves correctly. On December 7, I went to visit Ben decade later, were living inside “domiks” or At the time, Soviet authorities said the Cunningham who lives in one of the two shipping containers, people who can’t accept earthquake measured 6.7 on the Richter apartment buildings that didn’t fall down. scale. They hoped to minimize foreign involvement in the cleanup. As it soon

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Making a Difference Proposed Amendment to Constitution continued from previous page Princeton Day School Alumni Association

At about 11:15 a.m., we walked into the THIS AMENDMENT is effective as of May 17, 2003. cemetery and started climbing up to the hastily built aluminum church con­ WHEREAS, the Princeton Day School Alumni Association (“Association”) structed within months of the earthquake is governed by a Constitution (“Constitution”) as revised on June 11, 1997 to accommodate the massive amounts of and the substance of this amendment has been submitted to members or funerals. We passed a few lone people in published in advance; and the cemetery and grave upon grave. Armenian graves are unique. Often they N O W THEREFORE, by two-thirds vote of the members who are present have a picture of the deceased person, and at the annual meeting of the Alumni Association on May 17, 2003, this in the case of the earthquake, many of Amendment is accepted and incorporated into the Constitution as follows: them carry pictures of ruined buildings and a clock, with its hands forever mark­ 1. AMENDMENT TO CONSTITUTION ing 11:41 a.m. 'Throughout the cemetery, tombstones read “1953 — 7 XII 1988,” 1.1 Section 5.1 of the Constitution is amended to provide for new officer “1910 — 7 XII 1988,” “1947 — 7 XII roles as follows: 1988,” “1985 — 7 XII 1988.” There are tombstones with entire families pictured Alumni Board The management of this Association is vested in an Alumni on them. "There are tombstones that have Board made up of a president, a vice president — alumni activities, a vice the father of the family on them. There president — school relationships, up to twelve elected representatives and are tombstones that carry pictures of all a member of the School staff appointed by the Head of School. the children in a family. As we reached the church at the top of 1.2 The second sentence of Section 5.2 of the Constitution is amended to the cemetery, more families arrived. All of provide for new officer roles as follows: them brought flowers and cleaned up the family plot. In little bowls near the graves Executive Committee This committee comprises the president, vice- they burned incense, and those who president — alumni activities, vice-president — school relationships, and couldn’t afford incense gathered aromatic the School appointee. pine boughs and lit fires next to the 1.3 Section 5.4 of the Constitution is deleted and is replaced with the graves. Older women, dressed in black, following: started lamenting in bittersweet songs. “Armen I wish it were I not you. The Vice President, Alumni Activities The Vice President, Alumni Activities milk is cold.” At 11:41 a.m., a sea of leads representatives of the Alumni Board and volunteer members in people filled the cemetery. As if on cue, it activities to build cohesive connections among members of the Association, began to snow. By noon, the place was to reach out to diverse member groups, to recognize member achievements, full of wailing and scented smoke drifting and to celebrate major member class reunions. He/She oversees all leaders towards heaven. of committees that pertain to above areas. The Vice President, Alumni Throughout the day, the entire town Activities acts in the place of the President in his or her absence or disability. would visit the graveyard and leave a reminder for their loved ones. As we left, 1.4 Section 5.5 of the Constitution is deleted and is replaced with the I asked Ben about what people blame for following: the earthquake, and he told me a story told to him by the town priest. Approxi­ Vice President, School Relationships The Vice President, School mately a year before the earthquake, a Relationships leads representatives of the Alumni Board and volunteer number of women saw visions of God members in activities that support Princeton Day School, are aligned with who told them to build him a new the school’s strategic direction, and which strengthen relationships between church in Spitak. The church was not members of the Association and Princeton Day School, including the built. The day before the 1988 earth­ administration and staff, faculty, students, and the parents association. quake, another dream was seen and God He/She oversees all leaders of committees that pertain to above areas. said he would destroy the entire town. The next day the earthquake struck.

36 • PRINCETON DAY SCHOOL • SPRING 2003 Alumni Board

A Letter from the Alumni Board President

D ear A lum n i,

In May at the annual meeting of alumni, Jamie Phares Jacobson ’80 will be confirmed as the new President of the Association of Alumni of Miss Fine’s School, Princeton Country Day, and Princeton Day School. Jamie brings wonderful enthusiasm and a deep commitment to pursuing the work of the Alumni Board to connect alumni and to build strong alumni - school relationships. As my term as President of the Alumni Association comes to a close, I am struck by the realization that PDS continues to be such an impor­ tant part of my life, twenty-five years after graduation. Certainly, my days at PDS as a student left me with great memories, but now, added to those are many more terrific times I have experienced as an alumnus. Rob Olsson The Alumni Thanksgiving Games, the New Year’s Day skating party with family and friends, the New York City party, the, now annual, local alumni party at The Rusty Scupper, the PDS parents auction, Career Day, working on the strategic plan and in being involved in a variety of other activities with alumni and the school have tightened the bonds I have with friends, teachers and the institution. Thank you for the opportunity to represent you as President of the Alumni Association. It has been a challenging, fun, and rewarding experience. I encourage all of you to become involved as alumni. Your life experiences have prepared you to give back to your school in a meaningful way, and like me, I know that you will enjoy the many new experiences that involvement with the school will bring. I look forward to seeing you at the Alumni/Faculty Reunion at 7 p.m. on Friday, May 16th of Alumni Weekend. It should be a great reunion!

Best Regards, Rob Olsson ’78

Incoming Alumni Board Officers:

Jamie Phares Jud Henderson ’92, Courtney Shannon ’88, Jacobson ’94, Vice President Elect, Vice President Elect, President Elect Alumni Activites School Relationships Alumni nominated to serve on the Alumni Board:

Photos by Anne Marie Russo Evelyn Turner Counts '74 Douglas Fein '79 Sarah Maloney ’02 Eric Wolarsky '92

SPRING 2003 • PRINCETON DAY SCHOOL • 37 The Princeton Day School community became immersed in the romance of 18th century England, as audiences were treated to the classical production of Jane Austen’s P ride & P reju d ice presented by the Princeton Day School award-winning Performing Arts Program on November 6 -9 , 2002 under the direction of Artist-in- Residence Ross Hindley.

The cast included Upper School students from left: Top row: Al Alsup as Mr. Collins; Morgan Weed in the role of Elizabeth Bennet; Julia Kay as Lydia Bennet; Amelia Baxter-Stoltzfus as Catherine Bennet; Adam Sussman as Mr. Bingley; Second row: Bianca Gersten as Lady Catherine de Bourg; Weed, Kay, Crumiller, Richard Dreher as Mr. Darcy. Bottom row: Erich Matthes as Mr. Bennet; Anita Deshpande as Mary Bennet; Melissa Rosenberg as Mrs. Bennet; and Molly Jamieson as Jane Bennet. Photos Photos by Anne Marie Russo

38 • PRINCE TON DAY SCHOOL • SPRING 2003 Mack & Habel

Another extraordinary production came alive in this romantic comedy performed in the Herbert and Marguerite MeAneny Theater on February 21 & 22.

Top row, from left: Nick Perold in the role of Frank; Morgan Weed in the role of Mabel; Julia Kay as Lottie; Richard Dreher as Mack Katie Fanok; Second row: Weed, Justin Revelle as Eddie; Dreher, center, with Evan Crumiller as Wally, Al Alsup as Kessell, Revelle, Perold, Mike Highland as Andy, and Rajiv Mallipudi as Baumann. Third row: Mallipudi, Kay, Alsup; Crumiller, and Dreher Company dancers, from left: Amelia Baxter-Stoltzfus, Emily Penick, Katie James, Amy Gallo, Courtney Leopold, Julie Foster, Danielle Horowitz, Katie Fanok, Annie Bodel and Elli Guild, under the direction of Ross Hindley, PDS artist-in-residence Photos Photos by Hal Brown

SPRING 2003 • PRINCETON DAY SCHOOL • 39 Faculty News

Faculty News

Miss Fine's School Sabbatical for 2003-2004 Carl D. Reimers Distinguished Teaching Chair Spanish Teacher to Develop Middle School Teacher Bette Soloway Named Cultural Exchange Program Recipient of Three-year Appointment

Upper School Spanish teacher Denise Bencivengo, who is also Middle School History Department Chair Bette Soloway, has Dean of Students for 10th grade, has been awarded a one year been named the recipient of the Carl D. Reimers Distinguished sabbatical for the 2003-04 school year. “Throughout my twenty Teaching Chair, a three year appointment which recognizes years of teaching at Princeton Day School, I have looked for exceptional teaching and devotion to students. Named in honor different and varied ways to engage my students in learning of Rev. Carl Reimers Jr., retired long-time PDS teacher and head of firsthand about Spanish the religion department language, history and and current PDS trustee, culture,” she said in her the award provides the proposal. She will use her chair holder $2,500 sabbatical to develop a annually to enhance his home stay and exchange or her work as a teacher program for PDS and at PDS. In the past, Ms. cultural units in the Soloway received the Spanish curriculum in Robert C. Whitlock grades JK-12. “Over the Award for Distinguished years I have discovered that Teaching, the school’s home stay programs and highest honor for faculty. exchange programs have “I am particularly provided students with interested in promoting wonderful opportunities to understanding and truly experience living in a respect for the traditions Spanish speaking country and beliefs of other and becoming part ol a cultures,” said Mrs. fam ily,” she said. It was her Soloway who has been own experience as a teaching at PDS for 19 student abroad in Mexico, Upper School Spanish teacher Middle School History teacher years. Prior to teaching . „ Denise Bencivengo Bette Soloway Spam and Peru that led her MS humanities, being to becoming a Spanish teacher. During her sabbatical Mrs. the humanities coordinator and becoming the history chair, she Bencivengo will observe and study the school culture in Rafaela, taught in the Lower School. “In my classroom, I want children to Argentina. The school, La Escuela de la Plaza, will work with her learn about themselves in connection to the curriculum. In the to develop an exchange program with PDS students. In addition, sixth grade humanities curriculum we learn about the historical she hopes to observe school in Cuba, with the support of context and tenets of Buddhism, Taoism, Confucianism, and Instituto Cubano de Amistad con los Pueblos, which facilitates Islam. Students begin to see similarities, notice differences, and visits by American educators to Cuban schools. appreciate the guidelines for living that other traditions promote,” she said. The Reimers Chair was endowed by a group of anonymous donors with a $1.5 million gift in 2000. Mrs. Soloway is the second recipient of the Chair. Poet-in-residence Judy Rowe Michaels was the first recipient.

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1930 IN MEMORY friends. My plan is to go to Spain Please note: in April with two of them. I have Class notes include columns Margaretta Cowenhoven not seen Anne Welch Gordon, submitted by the class 442 Heron Point Joyce Tattersall Flagg or Sally Chestertown, MD 21620-1680 correspondents, as well as Jenks for a year and a half. Maybe next summer!” notes submitted directly to 1 9 3 1 -1 9 3 2 PDS. Classes without a 1940 correspondent may send PDS Communications Office

notes to: Anne Guthrie Yokana [email protected] 1 9 3 3 87 Battle Road or Princeton, NJ 08540-4945 PDS Communications Office PDS Communications Office Carol Furman Kirkwood wrote:; Princeton Day School We learned the news of the death “My life has entered a new exciting P.O. Box 75 of Elizabeth Menzies, who died Elizabeth Hill Stretch phase. I moved from Minnesota to Princeton, NJ 08542 in January. She attended Miss From The Link, 1938 Albuquerque, New Mexico, just Fine’s from second through before Christmas to be near my twelfth grade. She was a retired 1938 daughter and her family.” 1 9 2 5 -1 9 2 9 photographer. PDS Communications Office 1941 IN MEMORY PDS Communications Office Helen Crossley wrote: “Back in Princeton, living in the same Correspondent Needed We received the sad news of house I grew up in, after a career the death of Margaret Maier in public opinion research, fol­ 1942 DeForest ’28, who died in lowing in my father’s footsteps. September 1999. Retired from the U.S. Informa­ Mary Roberts Woodbridge Margaret Lowry Butler ’29 tion Agency, now working on 2316 Windrows Drive sent this note: “An early Novem­ Princeton, NJ 08540-5020 archiving family research papers ber visit to my son in Montana (Dad’s and mine). Still active in Joan “Johnnie” Thomas Purnell via the huge Denver airport for Society of Musical Amateurs, wrote: “I will move January 30, change of planes—got a wheel­ ! started at MFS in 1936.” 2003 to casita (little house) in chair! A nice visit to Ashville, Roberta Harper Lawrence wrote: Samaritan Village continuing care North Carolina, with my daugh­ “We now have five great grandchil­ facility. I have many friends there. ter and her husband at Thanks­ dren, the offspring of three grand­ No more outdoor property to giving, on my own power.” Elizabeth Menzies From The Link, 1933 sons. Still spending six months in care for!” IN MEMORY Vero Beach, Florida, and six 1934 months in Ann Arbor, Michigan.” '194 3 Our condolences to the family Wihelmina Foster Reynolds and friends of Elizabeth Hill Marjorie Libby Moore 588 Ott Road Stretch who passed away recently. 90 Woolsey Court Bala-Cynwyd, PA 19004-2510 Pennington, NJ 08534-1428 Jane Lewis Dusenberry wrote: 1939 “I am happy, busy and enjoy 1944 being close to my children here. Therese Critchlow Correspondent Needed Just lost son Michael to a stroke 11 W estcott Road Princeton, NJ 08540-3059 in Carmel, California; hard to Consuelo Kuhn Wassink sent this bear. I do like reading the Journal Catherine W. Rodwell Hill sent note after she received the Fall you send. Keep it up!” this note: “I am still living in 2002Journal in the mail in Florida: Wellfleet, leading a very busy life “Happy New Year 2003! Lakeland, 1935-1937 printing, reading (we have a won­ Florida, is not my currently perma­ Margaret Maier DeForest derful library a stone’s throw from nent home. It’s been in Anchorage, From The Link, 1928 PDS Communications Office my house) and seeing all my Alaska and will be until I move to

SPRING 2003 • PRINCETON DAY SCHOOL • 41 Ohio during summer 2003. I want Washington, D.C. for three Elaine Polhemus Frost wrote to be near Marietta, Ohio, to do conferences relating to the work of this note about just how small the genealogical research and be nearer ECAAR. I spent Christmas in world can seem: “On Martha’s New Jersey. I went to Bryn Mawr deep snow in Cherry Valley, New Vineyard in September, I at­ College after graduating from Miss York, with my son Alex and his tended an event celebrating the Fine’s School.” wife, and three-year-old son. My 200th anniversary of the “discov­ older son, Daniel, and his family ery” of the Vineyard by 1945 had Christmas dinner with my Bartholomew Gosnold. I started brother, John Law ’48, and his talking to a woman sitting next to Sylvia Taylor Healy extensive family in Palo Alto, me and we discovered we had P.O. Box 1535 California.” both gone to MFS! It was Sally Princeton, NJ 08542-1535 Montford Maruca ’50. We had a great time talking and hope to get Our love and deepest sympathy to 1950 together next summer. She and Mary Jo Fenton whose husband, her husband have retired to the Dick, died in November 2002. Correspondent Needed Vineyard. I have spoken with Mickey Meyers Shriver MFS Caroline Savage Langan, ’46 ran into Sesaly Gould Krafft 1951 Caroline Rosenblum Moseley while vacationing at Elbow Cay in and Mary Butler Nickerson the Bahamas, and they had a fun Nellie Oliphant Duncan Hadley Hope Malatich grand­ Coventry Farm during this year and we’re all time catching up on Princeton. daughter of Katherine Gulick 549 The Great Road looking forward to our 50th. The peripatetic Krafft s Christmas Wertgardner ’48. Princeton, NJ 08540-2537 Heard from Wendy Hall Alden letter was full of their many [email protected] which was fun. Can’t wait to see travels, including a wonderful everyone!” September trip from Scotland 1948 Our deepest sympathy to Nellie down through Wales to Cornwall Oliphant Duncan whose son John Joan Smith Krosen and other parts of England. Coulter Duncan ’74 died. 1954 1-17 Shirley Lane Barbara Cart Macauley’s grand­ Lawrenceville, NJ 08648-1922 1952 Katherine Webster Dwight daughter has been accepted at Yale 115 Windsor Road Katherine Gulick (Wert) Gardner for next year. Congratulations! Tenafly, NJ 07670-2615 My neck cancer, diagnosed last wrote: “Alf (PCD ’44) and I have Jean Samuels Stephens [email protected] May, is in remission thanks to been married five years and we 16 Stonerise Drive radiation. My only problem is that spend half the year in La Quinta, Lawrenceville, NJ 08648-5533 Aggie Fulper sent a card from I still cannot swallow and am California, and the summers in snowy Massachusetts where she tube-fed. How I long for a glass of Mantoloking, New Jersey. This 1953 was visiting Pat Robinson Mor­ water! past year my daughter Becky gan. Aggie is still living in New Wishing that some of you out became a grandmother, and I a Anne Carples Denny Mexico but comes East for 33 Runswick Drive there would send news.!’’ great grandmother to Hadley Christmas. Richmond, VA 23233 Hope Malatich, born April 8, Aggie sent an additional note (Editor’s note: We wish Sylvia a [email protected] full recovery from her surgery. We 2002, weighing less than one and to PDS: “Am retired from real received a recent note from Mary a half pounds and just ten inches I received this e-mail from Hilary estate. Living in Albuquerque, Jo, who is finding solace in the long, born at 261/> weeks. Hadley Thompson Kenyon who just New Mexico with a view of the warm Arizona weather and her is small, however, she is now returned from a trip to Antarctica Sandia Mountains. Studying busy lifestyle.) doing very well and sitting up by with her sister, Hope Thompson voice and taking art courses at the herself and wants everything at Kerr. ... “The trip was nine months! I have 12 grandchil­ terrific. We went on 1946 dren and Alf has two grandchil­ the Marco Polo and dren. We are truly blessed! We sailed for eight days Correspondent Needed play a lot of golf, and love having visiting several Antarc­ our friends and kids visit.” tica islands and the 1947 mainland. The weather 1949 was perfect... best, they Barbara Petit Finch say, in years with little Pour les Oiseaux Kirby Thompson Hall wind. In fact it was 63 Centre Street warmer there than in 12 Monmouth Hills Hilary Thompson Kenyon ’53 with her sister, Hope Concord, NH 03301-4260 Highlands, NJ 07732 CT. The penguins are Thompson Kerr '53, on their trip to Antartica. [email protected] wonderful, stoic and Lucy Law Webster wrote: “I great to just watch. The scenery of University of New Mexico. Plan continue in my job as Program icebergs and rocky islands plus the to include photography next Reunion Weekend Director of Economists Allied for ice were gorgeous. We met several semester. Visit family in Yardley, Arms Reduction, which I repre­ fun people and had a good time Pennsylvania and Princeton twice Friday & Saturday, sented at the World Summit on doing a lot, attending lectures, a year.” May 16 & 17, 2003 Sustainable Development in watching musical entertainment, Several other cards came from Johannesburg in September. More etc. Naturally, I, both of us, have classmates, and in January I had a recently I made three trips to lots of photos.” letter from Mary Runyon Obaidy,

42 • PRINCETON DAY SCHOOL • SPRING 2003 a classmate who moved away after wrote that she is having a delight­ After traveling extensively, of scene. She is also a Hospice second grade. I remember Mary ful life! “My three children and Mexico is the spot for me. Love volunteer, a Board Manager at her because she lived across from me five grandchildren are on hold for the people, food, colors and the church, and a grandmother of on Boudinot St. Imagine that she me right now. I am in a master’s general pace of life. This country four — two on Martha’s Vineyard has thought of us after so many level program for a year to be­ moves way too fast. People have and two in California. Her years! come a chemical dependency forgotten about taking time for favorite activities are kayaking In thinking about our 50th counselor. I have 35 hours a week each other, and the dollar is the and cross country skiing. She is Reunion which will occur next of clinical experience and 22 answer for many. I would love to happy living in Ipswich, Ma. with year, I note that nine members of hours of class. I love the chal­ hear from MFS classmates. her partner Sally, an Education the class have been in touch with lenge. I have never worked so ([email protected])” Coordinator for Mass. Audubon. me at some time over the past hard in my life. It has shown me Lucy Busselle Myers sent news ([email protected]) several years. Out of 14 still-living that age has nothing to do with of her retirement ... after almost Laura Travers Pardee has been members that is pretty good. In anything, and I feel as though I 40 years of teaching. She is teach­ busy traveling, too. She and her addition, three classmates who left can do whatever I want.” Ty has ing just one course at Northern husband, Fred, spent a week in prior to graduation have kept in spent the last eight years in Essex Community College, and is January visiting their son in touch. Please keep our reunion in Mexico, a month or so at a time. enjoying the different age group Connecticut. The Pardees are now mind and plan to attend in mid- “Mexico is a passion of mine. (from high school) and the change in Florida visiting friends and May 2004. family. They are planning another trip to Italy for the month of May. 1955 Laura and Fred keep busy with their volunteer assignments at the L. Chloe King Miss Fine’s School Class of 1956 cathedral in Denver, so time races Memorial Garden 64 Carey Road by. ([email protected]) Given in honor and in memory of all members of the Class of 1956. Needham, MA 02494-1 104 Joan Pearce Anselm Kathleen Dunn Lyman Jean Crawford sent news of [email protected] Elizabeth MacNcil Boggess Mary Wade McGrath Carol Harris Bradley Grace Morton her growing family. Her dad is Margaret Pacsu-Campbell Marina Turkevich Naumann Charlotte H. Cook Whitney Wing Oppersdorff almost 99, and her youngest I have had a super time JoAnn Buck Dunaway Elisabeth Thomas Peterson Kingsley Hubby Gallup Sara Sikes Prescott* Anne Harrison-Clark grandchild is 10 months old. She e-mailing classmates and sending Lucilc Stafford Proctor Elizabeth Alsop Hinchman Cicely Tomlinson Richardson Sandra Sloan Husted* Marian Lapsley Schwarz is expecting her 8th grandchild in postcards to those whose e-mails Elizabeth Hall Hutz Pamela Thompson Sinkler-Todd Rosemarie Rubino Johnson Ann A. Smith May, thanks to her daughter Pam are unknown! Next time, I hope Hester Delafield Keller* Patricia Andrews Steffan Patricia Henderson Lincoln Elisa Strachan Wickenden* more people will respond to my and her husband Neil Delehey. plea for news. I continue to enjoy ‘We ryden forth oure weye” He grew up in Pennington. William Chaucer Jeannie feels blessed that three traveling! A month in Europe last “Canterbury Tales” spring on a trip called The Great May 18, 2002 of her four daughters and their Trains of Europe; in May this year families live nearby, and the fourth daughter and family are a trip to Northern Mexico and the in Maine for summers. Copper Canyon! Flute lessons and Memorial Garden ([email protected]) practices continue to challenge Miss Fine’s class of 1956 dedicated a memorial garden at me. Still enjoy skiing (alpine and PDS last spring which was given in honor and memory of cross country), and am a golf 1956 fanatic! In order to continue my all members of the class. The garden sits on the grounds Correspondent Needed active life, I work out regularly at a just beside Colross and includes daffodils, lilies, hyacinths, wonderful, small wellness club to Virginia blue bells and mountain laurel. Classmates Anne We learned the sad news that Ann which I ride my bike - when snow Harrison-Clark and Cicely Tomlinson Richardson lead the Smith died in February 2003, and temperature permit. Hope to effort, reaching out to each classmate. “Lockie” Stafford from injuries sustained in a car hear from more classmates in the Proctor, a classmate with garden expertise, helped design accident. Our condolences to her future. It’s great to catch up with and oversee the planting. The plaque installed in the gar­ family. people after nearly 50 years! den carries the name of each classmate, denoting two class­ Merriol Baring-Gould Almond mates who are deceased. Sadly, just recently, classmate Ann 1957 had enjoyed traveling, recently to Smith died. The Chaucer quote engraved on the plaque, Madeira Island and Lisbon. She Susan Barclay W alcott heartily recommends Madeira; its “We ryden forth oure weye,” was born out of the class’s 27 East Welling Avenue rugged terrain, pleasant climate 1956 Link whose playful art, below, was inspired by Can­ Pennington, NJ 08534 and friendly people make it a place terbury Tales. Helen C. Wilmerding Milner to re-visit. Merriol is deeply wrote from Princeton: “In April concerned over the direction in I married Lord Milner of Leeds. which our country’s leadership is Michael and I were neighbors in taking us. She said “I do think London 36 years ago, and he is a Mrs. Shepherd would have given good father to my son, Alan. George W. Bush a hard time in Please enjoy the Garden Cafe at class, and perhaps it would have the YMCA. Alan is a great chef made a difference.” Merriol would and he and Marguerite are won­ love to hear from other MFSers. derful caterers. Caroline and (Merrioll@attibi. com) Brooke (PDS 15) Heap are Mary Tyson Goodridge Lund impressive waitresses.”

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Correspondent Needed

Betsy Bannerman wrote: “My son Cody is a senior in high school, pondering his choices for next year. I continue to proofread, edit, write, substitute teach, run SPCA camps. Life is pretty good! (Memory not so good!)”

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Ann Kinczel Clapp 5709 Visitation Way Baltimore, MD 21210 [email protected]

Ann Kinczel Clapp sent this e-mail column: “In between traveling to London, Africa, Dublin, and several US locales, Nan Nicholes Goodrich has acquired two new granddaugh­ Class of '60 Florida Reunion ters. Dana Conroy Amand is Amanda Pearson ’60 wrote: “Sally Hagen Schmidt got everyone together in November 2002. We met moving to a wonderful lakeside at Sally’s apartment in Del Ray Beach. Everyone had a fantastic time. It was really a one of a kind property outside Jackson where experience for all of us. Sally did an enormous amount of work and the reunion went off like they are creating a house small gangbusters. Here are the names of the players beginning with the back row going left to right: enough to make them get rid of Martha Thompson Eckfeldt, Jane Dielhenn Otis, Mary Elizabeth Alexander, Cathy Otis Farrell, some things! Newborn grandson, Amanda Maugham Pearson, Nancy Davis Sachner, Harriet Gaston Davison (from England), and Axel, accompanied them to the Susan Carter Avanzino. Front Row: Penny Hart Mead, Carol Garrigues Scofield, Sally Hagen Utah Olympics. Dana is now Schmid, Susan Behr Travers, Louise Scheide Marshall, Eileen Baker Strathnaver (also from working half time at the univer­ England).” sity. They celebrate their 40th in June. I am anticipating my son’s age 60 thing—but an absolutely than some) of life’s slings and Fiona Morgan Fein writes: wedding on May 31.” wonderful event, thanks in large arrows, but we have survived as “Nancy Smoyer is in Spain con­ measure to Sally’s generosity and an energetic, warm, and funny tinuing her studies of Spanish and 1960 advance planning. Besides some bunch of women with wisdom to Spanish culture—she was in Cuba tennis and ocean swimming, we share. In fact, we were so taken last year, remember?—so I’m Penny Hart Bragonier did nothing but talk and laugh, with each other’s company that taking my turn with the notes. 2 Acorn Street both of which could have gone we decided to reconvene the last Lucia Norton Woodruff and her Boston, MA 02108 on forever. weekend in September ’03, this [email protected] husband Paul were in Vietnam last Most of us came from the East time at Mary Liz’s family’s camp fall: “Our trip to S.E. Asia was Penny Hart Bragonier, the new Coast: M ary Liz Alexander, in the Adirondacks. fantastic and left me with a desire class correspondent, sent this e- Martha Thompson Eckfeldt, We hope that we can draw in to return. We are adjusting to ‘real mail column: “Joan Nadler Amanda Maugham Pearson, and even more of our classmates this life,’ but it’s taking a while! Cathy Davison has done a super job as Cathy Otis Farrell from New York time. Since our contact informa­ Otis Farrell (MFS ’60) loved her our one and only class secretary City; Susan Carter Avanzino and tion for a number of people is MFS 60th birthday reunion, I since June of I960. She has earned Nancy Davis Sachner from sketchy (particularly for those who hope we do something. We need our thanks, a virtual gold watch, Connecticut; Sue Behr Travers went away to school), please let to celebrate that milestone.” and the right to hand the task off from Princeton: Louise Scheide me know where you are, how you Polly Bussell Bishop and Julie to someone else. That someone is Marshall from Camden, N.J.; are, and if you might join us in Fulper Hardt both spend time in me, but I hope not for a forty-year Carol Garrigues Schofield from September.” the summer in Old Brookville, term like Joan’s. Lake Placid; and I from Boston. Maine. It was the site of our sum­ I feel particularly full of affec­ But Jane Dielhenn Otis flew in 1961 mer reunion a few years ago, as tion for the Class o f’60 after a from Chicago and, most remark­ you’ll remember. The photo (see four-day slumber party we held ably, Eileen Baker Strathnaver and Fiona Morgan Fein next page) makes it look like a last November to celebrate our Harriet Gaston Davison, made 10 West 66th Street, #25D good summer for both. Ann collective sixtieth birthday. the transatlantic crossing from New York, NY 10023-6212 Davidson Zweede wrote at Christ­ Fourteen of us converged on Sally England (Harriet with Tiki et Taki ffein@ bellatlantic.net mas that she has a new grandson, Hagen Schmidt in Delray, in her bag). Nancy Smoyer Caleb. “He is adorable, a joy and Florida, taking possession of her We discovered that sixty years 375 Crystal Road a blessing!” condo and a beach house across have left us in a good place. Most Fairbanks, Alaska 99712-1249 Cary Armstrong Rothe sent a the way. A nasty statistic—that of us have suffered some (or more [email protected] beautiful handmade card at Christ­

44 • PRINCETON DAY SCHOOL • SPRING 2003 mas. She’s using her considerable morning...In the afternoon Ned stairs, we ventured up a narrow care of an aged parent. Harvey artistic talents fully and has a whole and I had a Quaker meeting in staircase into a small room with has been asked to put his turned line of cards in a number of media the garden. He had set his watch wall-to-wall pale green carpeting, wooden bowls in two shows at a from drawing to photography. alarm for 8:46 A.M., E.S.T., and a balcony for the women (which gallery in L.A. — a welcome and From the photos enclosed, it looks the faint electronic beeps g~ave the we did not have to use). I didn’t much appreciated acknowledge­ as if she and Paul, sons Jamie and impression of hearing church bells understand what happened to ment ol his talent and hard work. Chris Tall, and parents Carol and ringing across the Atlantic from change the program, but we ended I think a lot about using my Jim Armstrong are all doing well. Boston and Cambridge.” In early up sitting respectfully on the floor underwater photos in some other Joan Yeaton Seaman renewed her October Sheila traveled to Bel­ while the Moslems said their way than showing them on the invitation to visit her in her new gium for the annual francophone evening prayers, following which wall — stay tuned! We are doing home in Williamsburg, VA. She Monastic Interreligious Dialogue they invited us to pray. Pere less traveling this year than in the and Hal have taken two trips to workshop, the subject of which Francois improvised a prayer for past, but couldn’t give up our peace.. .and then we all stood and annual two weeks in St. John for said the Lord’s Prayer. As we left, which we leave on February 28th, after long, drawn-out good-byes, our 17th wedding anniversary. one of the teenagers stood by the So what about Lucia’s idea of a door to offer us a final treat of 60th birthday bash? I’m willing chocolate candy bars.” to organize it, but I need a little On her way home Sheila visited enthusiastic support from you the Benedictine monastery in troopers out there. Send me Liege where she spent time with e-mails to signify yours!” “their 16-year-old Sunday organ­ Lucia Norton Woodruff sent ist, a genius, a Wundekind’ who this note: “Saul and I plan a fall demonstrated the instrument for ‘sabbatical’ from our jobs in Sheila. “After the Zen-like simplic­ Austin. We’ll spend three months ity of Maumont, the sensory in New England and then take a Julie Fulper Hardt '61 and Polly Busselle Bishop ’61 share a meal on the opulence of Liege, both visual and trip to Southeast Asia, returning Maine Coast, summer of 2002. auditory, came as a pleasant shock. home in December (‘God willin’ Even my room in the community and the creek don’t rise,’ as they Europe—The Hague and Dublin, was, not surprisingly, Islam at the felt luxurious, with its beautiful say in the Texas Hill Country.)” and then Brussels, Normandy, and doors of our monasteries “chosen old wooden Brittany. Joanie’s son, John, is a not only because of the world bedstead and major and expected to be assigned situation, but also because, in armoire, an to NATO. “Another highlight for Europe, Moslems, especially armchair us was [daughter] Julie and Shaun’s women, come to Christian monas­ upholstered in move to their new house in Arling­ teries seeking spiritual direction, olive green ton, VA. Julie continues her work without any thought of converting velvet, and a as a corporate lawyer in D C ... to Christianity.. .The speakers at heated, modern Every six weeks we are able to have the workshop included a bathroom grandson Mark here for a visit Franciscan and a Dominican across the hall. overnight—such a pleasure!” priest, each of whom have written They also have Tibby Chase Dennis visited books about Islam, a Dominican a comfortable with Sheila Long when she was nun who had lived in Iraq for guesthouse, here in February. Tibby is busy in twelve years and returned there should any of Northampton, as always, and last summer, a Turkish professor you be going to house sits/rents a place on Cape of Islamic religion form Liege, an Liege and need Cod. She’s visited Elise Bruml and Algerian Sufi sheikh, and one of a place to stay.” Lucia Norton Woodruff ’61 and husband Paul visited her family in Alexandria, VA. his disciples, an Algerian woman Sheila also said Vietnam in 2002. Sheila was in the U.S. for her ‘of a certain age,’ who had been that there’s annual month-long visit and her father’s disciple before the been a documentary film made 1962 happily found time to come to father’s death. While at the work­ about life at her monastery in NYC where she and Cynthia shop, participants, both men and southwestern France. The seriously Susan Mathews Heard Weinrich spent a morning to­ women, visited a Turkish mosque curious who can understand 204 Cordova Street gether. 1 joined them for lunch at where they were all welcomed French and could pay for the Pasadena, CA 91101-2425 Cynny’s. It was wonderful to see graciously “in the recreation room conversion from European video­ [email protected] Sheila, even if briefly. Our lively, on the ground floor of the cassettes to American VCR for­ Gail Cotton wrote: “It was terrific far-reaching conversation made mosque, a space from which even mat, can communicate with me seeing everyone at our reunion last me wish she lived nearer! At their wives are excluded.. .After and I’ll see about getting it for May. I arrived early and was able Christmas Sheila wrote: “The refreshments, there was an an­ you!” to see family and friends and really Almighty sent me some sweet nouncement to the effect that we Harvey and I are well. Life is catch up with their news. Susan consolation for the September would all go upstairs for the call to filled with the usual, including Shew Jennings and our respective 11th anniversary, in the form of an evening prayer, but that we would daughters, Kathryn and Anne, [email protected] old friend from Cambridge. We leave before the actual prayer managed several long visits. Ann had a mass for peace early in the started. Leaving our shoes down­ Wiley ’70, Linda Maxwell

SPRING 2003 • PRINCETON DAY SCHOOL • 45 Stefanelli, Janie Cormack Addison throughout the US, and some Boyle Heights, which is in East wife, Macaca, who is a set de­ and I had a wonderful lunch parts of Mexico and Canada. I Los Angeles. It has 5000 students signer, plan to live in New York together. Linda, Janie and I spent evaluate programs and schools and on three tracks! It is an exciting next year. Will is planning to go to another couple of hours together check up on “my kids” once they and challenging job, and I still Columbia graduate school in the after Ann had to return to work. are placed. It is a burgeoning field love it after all this time. I am directing program. My thanks to Paula Cook Sculley and I am constantly stimulated married to a science teacher, Ron I would love to hear from any and Susie Shea McPherson for and stretched by the situations Ozuna, who also works at of you!” providing wonderful opportunities that families present to me. I can Roosevelt, and we team teach, Dabby Bishop Palmer to visit and great food! Many also say that in this field, Nick has which is great fun. We share the ([email protected]) wrote that she thanks also to Linda for her bang- been my greatest teacher. I am also same kids - he teaches them is “still here in Hopewell with my up job on the reunion column for happy to say that he is currently Marine Biology and then they husband David and my 17-year- the Journal doing well as a junior at Temple come to me for Literature of the old daughter Amanda. David still University and I couldn’t be Sea. We also run an outdoor has his own consulting business, 1963 happier with his progress. education program together and also of 17 years, emergency My daughter, Sarah, finished take students to Mono Lake and response planning and manage­ Alice Jacobson Amherst and is ensconced in a job Catalina Island every year. We ment. He does disaster and mitiga­ 2924 NE 21st Avenue in Boston with a state representa­ have been married eight years as of tion planning with states and Portland, OR 9 7 212-344 4 tive. Having graduated two years February 18. I recommend mar­ municipal governments and has [email protected] ago, the thought of graduate riage to everyone over 40. I was recently developed a software school looms in her future, but she finally old enough to appreciate it! product to help with this. About a 1964 just hasn’t made the commitment When I am not teaching, I year and a half ago I took a leap of yet. The possibility of spending a write poems and I am about to faith and left my full time job as Barbara Rose Callaway year in New Zealand seems to be publish my fourth book, called an administrator at Hunterdon 223 Sea Marsh Drive much more appealing to her right Livelihood, which is a book of Medical Center’s Behavioral Kiawah Island, SC 29455 now than graduate school. [email protected] poems about teaching, my attempt Health Department and began My husband Jamie is the CEO to understand what exactly it is working with David. Much to of Institutional Shareholders 1965 that I do every day! With four everyone’s delight, we’re still Services, advising institutional other poets, I am part of a small married, talking to each other and investors on corporate governance. Elise Rosenhaupt Noble and wonderful publishing venture, have reasonably good humors, 31-A Old Arroya Chamisa Road He travels a tremendous amount Cahuenga Press, which is a poets’ although Amanda assures us that Sante Fe, NM 87505 both in the states and abroad, cooperative press. My book will be our sense of humor is weird!!!! So [email protected] hence our time together has our thirteenth book. The Los life is good. become even more precious. Alison Hubby Hoversten Angeles literary scene is warm and Amanda is a senior at Hopewell 1183 Cabin Circle As of late, my passions also active one, and I have been very Valley Central High School. She’s Vail, CO 8 1 657-510 7 include Paris and yoga. I go to fortunate to have been a part of it a soul transported from the France every time 1 get the chance since I have been here. ’60s...loves The Beatles, and told Elise Rosenhaupt Noble sent the and, last summer, spent the month I have two grown sons. Ocean me with great excitement about following column via e-mail: of August there. Granted, there are MacAdams lives in Brooklyn, New having discovered this “Thanks to the women of the class not many Parisians there then, but York, with his wife Suzanna, and is singer.. .Joni M itchell...whom she of 1965 who sent news and the experience was wonderful and the Managing Editor ol MTV thought we might enjoy. Amanda thoughts for the spring Journal." I hope to repeat it this year. Just News. He has been there for a is a dancer (ballet), is in the The collection of their e-mails wandering the streets of Paris is while and still loves the music theatrical productions at school, a follows, along with information uplifting for me, and I am con­ news business, in spite of all its class officer (Liaison, which means provided to her by each on how to tinually enchanted by stepping out nonsense. Every now and then I she is the verbal communicator for reach classmates: of my world into theirs. Taking a get to see him on TV, which is a the class - a true fit of personality Ellen Aronis Heard yoga class in French is an experi­ big thrill for me. Most of the time to a job), is active in youth group ([email protected]) wrote the ence everyone should try. I was he is behind the scenes, however, at St. Matthew’s Episcopal Church following: “At the ripe age of 50, I delighted to hear all the news and not on camera. (Small world in Pennington, and this year is realized that the quintessential about our class and look forward bulletin from Elise: My daughter most excited to be her school’s wallpaper no longer had the draw to continuing the dialogue with an Kate met Ocean in the spring of representative to the teen council that it once did for me and the even broader base of participants.” 1996 when she was an intern at of HiTops (Health Interested design world was soon to lose one Phoebe Russell (Ozuna,1223 MTV; they figured out their Teens Own Program on Sexual­ of its members. To be really Grace Drive, Pasadena CA 91105, mothers’ connection.) ity). This is an agency in Princeton honest, I think I was pushed more [email protected]) sent her My son, Will, lives in New which promotes teen education than anything, for it was around news: “I have been living in the Haven, where he is has been very and sexual safety. They operate a that time that we were struggling Los Angeles area for 15 years — active in the New Haven theater confidential health clinic for teens, with very challenging behavior hard to believe — and in Pasadena community. He has won all kinds run a professional counseling from our son, Nick. I got involved for the past 5. I teach English and of awards for his work in a com­ program, and do educating with the world of educational Creative Writing at a huge inner munity theater, and until recently through the teen council. The kids consulting for kids who struggle city high school, Roosevelt, in ran an art organization called City in teen council are trained in peer with emotional and behavioral Kids, which is an after-school arts presentations and group discus­ problems and haven’t looked back program for high school students. sions, as well as in all areas of since. I currently specialize in [email protected] He is getting married this summer sexuality, HIV, STD, homophobia residential placements only and stay, cottnec 'fe d / (in our garden!) and he and his etc. and are invited by schools in travel about a third of my time

46 • PRINCETON DAY SCHOOL • SPRING 2003 the area to do presentations and is termed a ‘mild' traumatic brain discussions. She’s loving it, and injury sustained in ’96. I decided judging from the one presentation then that if I kept the right friends ALUMNI HIGHLIGHT I’ve attended, it is really cool to see and made the right enemies, I’d the response of the audience to know I was headed in the right this information. Amanda will be direction. Molly Grover Shallow '41 going to Muhlenburg College next My sons, for instance, both year, a small liberal arts school in attended our ceremony to repre­ Honoring mi Art Teacher Allentown, PA. She had that sent, one said, the support of the “ahaa” experience when she genetic family — the only sup­ On behalf of Miss Fine’s class of 1941, M olly Grover visited, and was accepted Early port. Ben is a film editor now Shallow ’41 recently gave three pieces of her artwork to Decision. working on trailers which appear And me, I’m busy at work, and regularly on TV and as theater PDS in memory of art teacher Frances Jane Stratton. involved through church with a previews. Jonathan, a computer The colorful computer-manipulated abstract Giclee variety of social service programs graphic artist and refugee from dot prints were created on watercolor paper. and quite frankly love being in com world, teaches art, photogra­ The image reproduced on our back cover is a vibrant charge of my own time! I would phy, and theater in Denver. example of the art she gave the school and previously love to hear more about what As our ceremony happened to compiled for an exhibit held in December 2001, at the everyone in our class is up to.” coincide with our town’s debate on Lucky Street Gallery in Key West where she has resided Lauren Adams Fortmiller (email: establishing a registiy of domestic for more than ten years. She manipulates slides and partners, Pam and photographs using an Apple i-mac and Adobe I found ourselves PhotoShop to create her artwork. “Transom,” the image interviewed not only in the local papers featured, is an abstract of a dinghy with a blue-painted but also in The New bottom which was taken in Bermuda. York Times. From Before relocating to Florida, she conducted seminars that, we have been on artists’ photography at the Ecole des Beaux Arts in asked to speak to a Paris and at Artists Equity in New York. A gallery number of groups. critique of her work said, “Her work enables the viewer A national policy to have an experience of seeing something not allowing gay mar­ ordinarily emphasized and to find elusive patterns, riage (a civil, not a textures and shapes. She reinvents with computer religious issue) equipment using her color slides and prints from Paris, would overcome the Venice and the Irish countryside. Each new print is Lauren Adams Fortmiller, ’65, (left) and Pamela last socially accept­ Thiele at their ceremony in Sag Harbor, NY, able and governmen- unique because the colors have been slightly altered in December 28, 2002. tally sanctioned each triage. Archival treatment on specially coated prejudice in the US. watercolor paper preserves the subtle color sensations. [email protected]) who left I’d like to see all committed gay Giclee work is evolving and experiments continue in Miss Fines after ninth grade, also couples file joint income tax this new field of contemporary art.” wrote. She called the class notes in returns and let the IRS figure out The Link from her graduation in June 1941 noted the Fall 2002Journal a “personal if it’s worth untangling the mess. her talent. Classmates referred to her as a “sensational perspective column,” and com­ Same with medical benefits: sign artist” and a student who was known for “vigorous mented, “Compare the interest up as spouses and file the claim. level to the ‘just the facts’ entries.” At a time when national fear sketching,” sometimes even during classes and, Lauren wrote: “My facts: I’m in my and economic competition again sometimes, to the “dismay of her teachers.” second year as the first woman threaten to pull us away from our elected mayor of Sag Harbor, NY. democratic values, we have to be At the end of December, after a sure of ourselves and articulate in civil union in Vermont, Pamela our arguments. One consequence Thiele and I had a ceremony to of our inadvertently public stand include our friends in Sag Harbor. is that Pam and I were invited to A lot of media coverage! I never set the annual Human Rights Cam­ Class Notes ~ out to be a controversial figure or a paign dinner at the Waldorf where pioneer; I’ve just been doing the PDSer Chris Reeve is the featured Send us your news for the Fall J o u rn a l! next thing that felt right in my life. speaker. Talk about a role model!” Each step has come at a cost, but Elise concludes: “We hope that Send your information and photographs via e-mail or the rewards have been consistently all you wondrous women of the regular mail to the class correspondent listed at the top greater, and always from unex­ class o f’65, including the many of your class listing. If there is no class correspondent, pected directions. When I was friends who, like Lauren, left Miss please send your information to our special mailbox running for mayor, a friend asked if Fine’s before commencement at PDS lor class notes: [email protected]. I would be strong enough emotion­ 1965, will share your perspectives ally to handle the pressure, given as well as the “facts” of vour lives.” The deadline for the Fall Journal is June 27, 2003 that I’m still recovering from what

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1944 1951 1955 Please note: Class notes include columns submitted by Correspondent Needed Edw in H. M e tc a lf Guy K. Dean III the class correspondents, as 23 Toth Lane 11 Lemore Circle Rocky Hill, NJ 08553-1025 Rocky Hill, NJ 08553-1007 well as notes submitted 1945 [email protected] directly to PDS. Classes 1952 without a correspondent may John R. Heher 38 Stanford Road East 1956 send notes to: Pennington, NJ 08534-5162 Philip Kopper [email protected] or 4610 DeRussey Parkway Donald C. S tuart III PDS Com munications Office Chevy Chase, MD 20815-5332 32 Nelson Ridge Road 1946 [email protected] Princeton Day School Princeton, NJ 08540 P.O. Box 75 Correspondent Needed 1953 Congratulations to Donald (Jeb) Princeton, NJ 08542 Stuart on the marriage of his 1947 Kenneth C. Scasserra daughter, Lauren Stuart ’89. And, 2 C hippin Court his son Craig Stuart ’87 also got 1932 Peter R. R ossm assler Robbinsville, NJ 08691-3039 married! 149 Mountain View Road [email protected] PDS Communications Office Princeton, NJ 08540-7704 Kenneth Scasserra sent this e-mail 1957 David Rogers wrote: “Really en­ column: “Elof and Marie 1933 joyed reunion weekend and a Rosenblad lead a very busy life in James Carey, Jr. 545 Washington Street chance to stay with Peter Sarasota, Florida especially now PDS Communications Office Dedham, MA 02026-4438 Rossmassler and have dinner with that Marie has been elected [email protected] Commodore of their yacht club. 1 9 3 4 -1 9 3 7 Paul and Janice Roediger. It was tremendous fun — and the school The first woman ever elected Tim Carey sent the following was impressive, even in a power Commodore of the club. The news from classmates in an effort PDS Communications Office outage! My wife, Mary Alice, is at Times o f Trenton during the to make up for some lost time: home in hospice care after a coura­ professional football season has “I am not sure how long I have 1938 geous five-year battle with colon had a few articles on John been the class secretary, but I do cancer.” Kerney’s son, Patrick, who is a know one thing. If I were up for PDS Communications Office standout defensive end for the review on job performance, I 1948 Atlanta Falcons. Patrick received would rank at the bottom. Well, 1939 a signing bonus of $8.5 million now that I have turned sixty and and a contract of $40 million that birthday happens to coincide Harold B. Erdman John D. W allace over a seven-to-five-year period with a year long sabbatical from 47 Winfield Road 90 Audubon Lane Princeton, NJ 08540-2301 my job, I told myself that I would Princeton, NJ 08540-2431 depending on incentives. Proud [email protected] really be the class secretary for the [email protected] Papa John has turned a number of people from Cape May to first time. I wrote to all of the 1949 Newtown, Pa from Eagle green to members of the class for whom 1940 I had addresses and asked that Falcon red and black, as well as they send in information about Jam es K. M e ritt Correspondent Needed recruited them for Kerney’s Krew where they were, what they had 809 Saratoga Terrace for when they play in Philly or Wallace “Butch” Palmer wrote: been doing and anything else that Turnersville, NJ 08012-1227 Giant’s Stadium.” “Enjoying retirement on the coast would bring the rest of our class 1942 of Maine. Jack Gulick ’41 and his up to date. I had pretty good luck, wife visited us last summer. Good 1954 hearing from eleven folks. My hope is that when those who did Correspondent Needed to see old friends from Princeton!” Fred M. Blaicher, Jr. not respond get this issue of the 710 Manatee CV Journal, they will drop me a note 1943 1950 Vero Beach, FL 32 963 -3 7 2 8 so that I can include them in the following issue. Peter E. B. Erdman William Wallace 219 Russell Road 25 Barnsdale Road At first I thought I would take Princeton, NJ 08540-6733 Short Hills, NJ 07078-2018 what I received and edit it for the

SPRING 2003 • PRINCETON DAY SCHOOL • 49 Journal, but the responses were so I am still very much alive. My Spanish at Rider University. passion in life have centered on good and varied that I have taken sabbatical has been wonderful. I Daughter Caroline graduated Physicians for Social Responsibil­ the liberty to leave them pretty have spent much of my time here from Villanova (A.B. Spanish) and ity, where I have served on the much as they were when I got in Boston, but got to Maine for Rutgers (M.A. Education), taught national board for over a decade, them. I trust that those who sent periods during the fall. I will be Spanish at Peddie School and West including a stint as president. material will not be upset, but I taking a cycling trip to Vietnam Windsor High School, and is now I have three children, a daugh­ felt that their words were so much for three weeks in March and then Vice Principal of an elementary ter who is a missionary in Peru, a more true than whatever I might head to New Zealand for ten days. school in Fort Lauderdale, Florida. second daughter who completed a have come up with in truncated At the end of the spring I will go She is engaged to be married in tour in Honduras with the Peace form. With each, I get a real pic­ to Paris to see several days of the Fort Lauderdale in April. Son, Corps and is now working on ture of the person I remember French Open tennis tournament Jonn graduated from University of sustainable development in Port­ from so long ago. 1 trust you will and some of the sights in the city. Michigan (A.B., Business Admin­ land, and a son who just graduated all have the same reaction. I will return to Nobles in the fall, istration), started an Internet from Stanford and is now working Tim Carey: “Following my but this time away from work has advertising business, and then sold in San Francisco. graduation from Middlebury made me realize that there is much the business to Grey Advertising. I don’t get back to the Princeton College, I went west to California in life to do outside of work.” He now lives in Ann Arbor, area much anymore since both my and taught English at The Bill Smith: The 46 years after Michigan with wife Aimee and parents are deceased. The excep­ Thacher School for three years. PCD have been busy. After gradu­ year-old son Zach. tion may be our 50th reunion in 1 married Peggy Chase during my ating from Lawrenceville School, And then there is brother JJ ’59. 2007. Now that is a humbling third year and we moved in 1968 Princeton University, and Univer­ He is an antiques dealer. He now thought!” back to Middlebury where, over sity of Virginia Law School, I went lives in Windsor, Connecticut Steve Crawford: “Good to hear time, I worked in the Admissions into the banking business in New with wife Stefany and their two from you and learn some of the office, the Dean of Students landmarks in your life the past Office, taught some English and several decades. I was especially coached some hockey We left interested to read about your Middlebury in 1974 and moved planned trip to Vietnam. I served to Boston, and I taught English there as an infantry officer in and headed the department at 1966-67, went back as a tourist The Roxbury Latin School for in 1999, and then again in Janu­ two years. ary, 2001, to adopt a 16-month- Following that I moved to old orphan. Her name is Pascal; Noble and Greenough in 1976 she turned three in Aug. and she is and have been there ever since. a joy most of the time. What I have loved about the I divorced my first wife, but school is my being given opportu­ have been happily married to nities to do a number of different Liliane Floge for almost 25 years. jobs: teaching, coaching, heading We met at Columbia U. where we a department, heading the middle were both completing Ph.D.s in school and serving as the Dean of Sociology, and for several years she Faculty. In 1992, after having been taught at Bowdoin College while divorced for fifteen years or so, Tim Carey ’57 sent this photo of his family: (left to right) son-in-law Brian, I taught at Bates. Later we drifted I married Mary Burchenal, a daughters Farr and Edie, Tim, his wife Mary and youngest daughter Zoe into administration, she as an Princeton graduate. She too is an in front. associate provost, I as the executive English teacher who is presently York City. Then, after four years children - JJ Jr. (age three) and director of a succession of policy in her thirteenth year at Brookline with Chemical Bank (now Abigail (age one).” oriented non-profits. I am now High School, one of the best JPMorgan Chase) and 23 years Andy Harris: “It was good to the vice president of the National schools in the Boston area. I have with HSBC, my banking career hear from you and get caught up Policy Association in Washington, three children. Farr, who is mar­ took an interesting turn. I have on your life. I have some fond DC., but am about to start a what ried to Brian Arnold, a faculty come to specialize in representing memories of playing at your house promises to be a very interesting member in photography at Alfred Asian banks in New York City. I when we were kids in the same new job as a Director of Policy University in western New York. was General Manager of Seoul neighborhood. I particularly re­ Studies — one of five, my area She is in the process of getting her Bank, New York Agency, and am member the first (and probably being employment and social doctorate in psychology at Alfred. now Assistant General Manager the last) time I tried smoking a policy — at the National Gover­ Edie, my second daughter, is trav­ and Chief Loan Officer of Bank of cigarette, an event which occurred nors’ Association. I was active in eling the country as a singer- China, New York Branch. behind the bushes adjacent to the politics for about six years, and songwriter and is just finishing The last 20 years have been front door of your house. Ah, was the Democratic nominee for off her third cd (she is in the same particularly busy. I married Maria youth! Congress in Maryland’s 6th dis­ business with Alistair Moock, son Rugeles (a lawyer-banker from I’ve been living in Salem, trict in 1996. After losing that of Peter '56). If interested, you can Caracas, Venezuela), and acquired Oregon since 1974. I’ve cut my exhausting race, I scaled back. look her up on the Internet at by the marriage two terrific chil­ practice of ophthalmology back to I am now an elected member ediecarey.com. My youngest is dren (Caroline and Jonn). Wife half time and hope soon to move of the county school board (56 Zoe, age 8, and she is plowing her Maria got a master’s degree from north to the San Juan Islands schools), and find that is more way through third grade and re­ New York University, and is now where I have built a home. than enough. I get to Maine most minding me at every turn that an Adjunct Assistant Professor of My particular interest and summers to visit my parents who

50 • PRINCETON DAY SCHOOL • SPRING 2003 still summer in Camden, and to Schoppert & Smith LLP. I organized regional reunions, Nineties in NYC and England. He see my sister and nieces who live So now, here we are: We’ve been served at phonothons and, of and two partners then began a there. Mom is 91 but still manages very lucky these past 30 years. course, raised money for the an­ wireless banking software/software a good bridge game and a little Susan and I are still in love. She is nual fund. Not bad for a guy who company in London. I am pleased golf. Dad is 98 and losing some a greeting card designer published was misunderstood. Boo, hoo. to say that the company is not short-term memory, not to men­ with Recycled Paper Products in Twenty-two years ago I wrote a only solvent but growing.” tion hearing, sight and balance, Chicago. She also has a Web site note to you that I did not send. Rob Kuser: “Mary Kay and I but otherwise he is remarkable with animated electronic cards In it, I described my career in have been married 36 years (Jan. 7 healthy and sharp. (cgreetings.com — any ideas on sculpture and the foundry arts. I is our anniversary!) and have been The only contact I’ve had with how to make it make money???). mastered the craft of casting wax living in Lawrenceville almost all anyone from PCD, if you can call She sells her Maine coast art (wa­ vis a vis “the lost wax process,” and that time. We have three children. it contact, is that I have read and ter colors and oils) through a myriad other media for art as well Chris (34) is married to Mary. immensely admired two of Adam gallery on Little Cranberry. I still as architecture. If my memory They live in Los Angeles and just Hochschild’s books, Half the Way do corporate and partnership (and serves me correctly I wrote that had a daughter, Anna, on Novem­ Home and King Leopold’s Ghost." some tax) law for high and mid Ihad met and cast art for some of ber 3 (our first and only grand­ Staff Keegin - I960: Graduated tech companies on the fringe of the finest artists of the day, such child). Chris works at DreamWorks from Darrow School. 1964: Silicon Valley. So far, no serious as, Georgia O’Keefe, Marisol and developing new stories for ani­ Graduated from Dartmouth repercussions from the crash. George Segal. mated feature films. Jim (31) is (where I played some hockey and We’re quite involved in local stuff I have always enjoyed the single, living in New York and lacrosse) and got married, went to here in town and we spend six hands-on experience. I did cook­ working for Merrill Lynch’s Private work for Harrison A. Williams, weeks in Maine each summer. I book chemistry at EMR, an elec- Client Services. Katherine (27) is USS (Dem. N.J. of Abscam fame), sail an old beautiful dark green tron-physics lab in Princeton single, living in New York and on the Hill as a legislative aid and Hinckley 41 yawl, which is a Junction during the late ‘60s. working for DDB Worldwide case assistant. 1968: Graduated fabulous boat, if I may say so.” We made the directional system Communications (advertising) as a from Washington & Lee Law Jerry Gildar: “I’m glad you did for the RANGER rocket which client representative. School and came to San Francisco something about your annual took the first photos of the moon I am in my 37th year at The with large law firm doing corpo­ pang (Jerry is referring to the guilt at 28 miles. In the ‘70s, I printed Bank of New York. I do strategic rate and partnership work. 1970: 1 mentioned in the letter sent to The Wall St. Journal, worked with planning, mergers and acquisitions Wheels came off marriage. We had the class for being such a poor the inventor of the digital watch, and capital spending administra­ one child (Kacia, currently in class secretary). I have had not a at Forestall (in the cyclotron tion. They keep me busy. advertising in LA). 1973: Got it few that I have had to assuage. bldg.), married, had a child, and Bob Smyth, Stu Robson and I right this time and married Susan One of which, having been a divorced. In the ‘80s, I subcon­ attended our 45th PCD (PDS) Landor, a native San Franciscan disruptive student, led me back to tracted two Epcot Pavilions. The reunion last May. It was good to and world class graphic designer. the next school I attended after Moroccan and The Republic of get together. We thought the class Great mother, too. 1975: Child PCD. Although I did not graduate Italy (The Doge’s Palace). Quite should make a push for the 50th. No. 2 came along (Hillary, now a from Rutgers Preparatory School, a lot of hands on, if I do say so As it turns out, there are six or graduate of NYU Graduate Acting and upon hearing that “our” class myself. seven classmates in the Princeton and working in NYC — some secretary quit over a bad soccer In the ‘90s I went back to area.” stage and TV work). 1980: Child call against his child from Pingry, school and finished my degree, in Stu Robson: “Thank you for No. 3 arrived (Emily, now a senior I wrote to the president of the Art History. Since I have amassed the letter. I got a kick out of your at Bennington and a dynamite alumni telling him that I was more than enough electives, made statement “For the past few years photographer). I left my law part­ kicked out of that school, I was enough art, developed unique I have been .... our class secretary.” nership to take up a semi-aca- available and that the letter I had techniques and taught enough It’s been more than 40 years, hasn’t demic position at the National composed was not computer apprentices to have my masters, I it? (It probably has, but I have Economic Development Law ready. This began to quiet pang only wanted to gain an AA degree. successfully blocked out that fact) Center at Berkeley (boy, was that a one. The Development Office was It took ten years to have main­ I’m sure you’ve heard from Bob different experience — I got hired so pleased (hungry) that they said tained a 1 OK average. Sweet Smyth that he, Rob Kuser and as part of their affirmative action they’d take my notes if they were agony for a dyslexic. Yes, I also I attended a luncheon during the program!). 1985: Child No. 4 on paper towels. From that wel­ “passed with feebler steps along Alumni Weekend last Spring. showed up (Katie, now a senior at come on I gave back to RPS all these once familiar halls” on While we might have hoped a Marin Academy and a four-year that I could have taken —had the Broadmead, at Art Shows; and couple more of the local alumni soccer letter winner. College appli­ administration recognized my: I’ve helped a few people, who would have shown up, for the 45th cations are all around the house). Dyslexia, ADS and strabismus. had PDS ties, to make art. Kit anniversary of what was basically a Speaking of which, we move to My work that first year, includ­ Raymond ’69 and Gar Waterman grammar school class, percentage our current house at 26 Miller ing writing to and phoning my ’74 come to mind. Though I wise, the three was not insignifi­ Avenue, Sausalito. And I become a classmates, brought as many back haven’t participated in our Form’s cant. Unfortunately, it was a damp, partner in the largest firm in to a 30th Reunion as came to that campus activities I have attended raw day which curtailed much of Marin County (very small by any year’s 25th. When I was elected to art openings of clients whose work the planned outdoor activity. standards — was then and still is). the Board of Trustees, and then I helped to create, and were shown My vocation has been in real 1989: Got another house, this Alumni Rep to the board, I was at the PDS art gallery. estate valuation. (Not a glamorous time on Great Cranberry Island, on the Education Committee Finally, my son, Ed, accepted or exciting bio which is why I Maine. 1993: Triple Bypass critiquing the faculty for The when he was fifteen, graduated never bothered to note it.) Wife (Ugh...). 2001: Firm changed its Mid-Atlantic States Accreditation. Cornell and was an International Ruth and one of our three grand­ name to Keegin Harrison On The Development Committee Bond Trader during The Roaring children attended the alumni

SPRING 2003 • PRINCETON DAY SCHOOL • 51 luncheon with me. Older son lived have been married 20 years. I have sculpture for a penurious living, doubt of outcome, etc.), but have in Boston where he got an MA at been with the State of New Jersey and spent a turn around the sun run every day since (in a pro­ Simmons and taught in Somerville for 31 years (this Feb.), with about wondering what hit me. longed campaign against the Grim for a year, then went to the United 10 years each in, chronologically, I figured it out sufficiently to Reaper, no doubt) and am closing Arab Emirates and taught ESL for the Department of Community know that I had to be near my kids in on my second trip around the two years. Now back in New Affairs (Division of State & Re­ so I moved to the Hartford area globe at the equator. Jersey and in second year teaching gional Planning), Department of and took on English and film Louise and I have a sturdy and in nearby Hillsborough school Treasury (Office of Management teaching responsibilities at fast sailboat (a Cal) which we enjoy system. Younger son works at & Budget and Division of Plan­ Kingswood-Oxford School. on Long island Sound and which Lehman Bros, in Manhattan. ning), and currently the Depart­ I earned a CAS degree in American we take to the Vineyard in the Daughter is an assistant teacher in ment of Banking and Insurance Film History and Auteur Theory summer. Charlie, who now lives Pennington Montessori.” (Division of Finance and Adminis­ and developed an empire at K-O year-round on Martha’s Vineyard, Darien Gardner: “I got a B.A. tration). Plans are to retire at 62, with eager students who, pushed by sailed for the Virgin Islands in the from Haverford College in 1965, when social security plus a good film study’s many challenges, came Barcelona Olympics (Tornado class M.S. in Information Sciences from pension plan will put me in a on strong as writers as well as cats) and is married to a wonderful Lehigh University in 1968, M.S. position where if I retire, I’ll make people interested in movies as young lady who is a member of the in Computer and Communication more than if I come to work. As serious works. The school built two Island’s oldest family. He is a car­ Sciences from University of Michi­ I have nearly every summer of my theatres for my program, I took to penter in the winter and sails in the gan in 1972. I married Kathleen life, I continue to spend time in collecting 16 mm film prints, and spring, summer, and fall, often with O’Kane in 1984 and was divorced the Adirondack Mountains, on the I wrote a never-to-be-published the Rich and Famous who call the from her in 2000. I have two shore of Lake Champlain, where text that was a perfect vehicle for Vineyard their vacation home. children: my son Nolan (now 14) from our front porch we look secondary school work that Aubrey, who at 31 is a very inde­ and my daughter Clara (now 11) directly across the Lake at Burling­ blended English skills with learning pendent person who just recently who live with me 50% of the ton. My dad died in 1988, but my about cinema. I married the right announced her decision to marry time. For a long time I couldn’t mom turned 89 in September and girl the second time around, and, her main man of these several years, figure out what to do for work, still spends every summer at the while she combined her Williams lives in the Village and works for a finally became a computer pro­ Lake. My brother Charlie has lived art history degree with a second New York firm which sends her all grammer and a Unix operating in Seattle for over 30 years, and sheepskin in electricity’s various over the planet in order to set up system administrator. joins us occasionally at the Lake or aspects, worked at Bell Labs (in NJ) kick-off bashes for cutting edge Bob Smyth: “Just turned 60 in Princeton. At the PCD Class of for a year in a think tank and drug products. Who knew? recently, and at a party my wife, 1957’s 45th reunion this past wound up ministering to MRI So, you and I have trod parallel Debbie, put together for me at the May at PDS, Robson and Kuser machines closer to home, and then paths in professional, marital, and Sovereign Bank Arena in Trenton joined me, and we had a great decided to get a law degree, we held parental efforts. My youngest (where a minor league hockey time catching up. Robson I had off on children for 15 years. She child—hah!—is also eight, but his team, called the Trenton Titans, seen a couple of times, but not now specializes in settling cases niece is a year older (can you top compete in the East Coast Hockey Kuser. Jerome Gildar was sup­ involving law suits and CEOs, and it?) than he is. My sabbatical, from League — two levels below the posed to come, but had a prior Emmet Shipway is eight years old, Kingswood a dozen years ago, was NHL — and whose roster in­ commitment. plays on Avon’s town soccer and devoted to getting work on various cludes some Princeton U. players), Morgan Shipway: “When hockey teams, crews for his dad in film and video projects in the Hart­ both John ’56 and Steve ’59, Cook I was put out to pasture (having, summer sailing races, delights his ford area, and I rose from lowly PA were in attendance. I believe, achieved a memorable parents with his sense of humor to such glorious heights as co­ I’m heavily into hockey at many record of passing one course) in and other charms, and seems to be producer on a Public Television levels — season ticket holder at 1957, I needed a swift kick and a great kid. documentary about Long Island the Titans and Princeton Univer­ a little success to pull things to­ In my mid-thirties, when life’s Sound and script supervisor (for sity, player/general manager of the gether. Westminster was just the abuses began to become clearer, two years) on Martha Stewart’s Kingston Hockey Club (founded place for me. So, I went on to I started running and soon lost television show. When you get back back in the 1950’s as the Princeton Princeton a year behind our PCD 30 of my 170 lbs. and was trans­ from Vietnam, perhaps we will Hockey Club by John’s father- mates, but I had a successful expe­ formed into one of those haunted have common experiences to share “Noogie”- the Erdmans, and the rience in many, many ways, gradu­ looking fellows the sightseer sees (in the war-stories mode)? Schluters, and which currently ated cum laude in English, and staggering through Central Park After a sufficient time learning fields two teams - an over 30 hastened off to Duke for an MAT on the first Sunday of November. about film making from the non- group and an over 40 contingent degree. I spent two years in a big I improved a good deal by work­ graduate-school point of view, — although most of us are over public high school in Richmond, ing hard, ran 28 marathons (top I was ready to go back to teaching 50), youth coach (in-house and and then accepted the invitation 5% in both NY and Boston), full time, and I wanted to return travel) the past seven years in the of Salisbury School to come on competed for Wesleyan on a team to the scene of my own turn­ Nassau Hockey League (out of board as an English teacher, coach which also included Bill Rodgers around as a student. I am instruct­ PDS), and current coach in an in- and newspaper faculty advisor. and Amby Burfoot, and ran com­ ing English and study skills here at house league in a commercial rink 1, meanwhile, avoided the clutches petitively at many other distances Westminster, coaching cross­ (Ice Land) in Hamilton Township. of the Army, got married, was the and with enough success to collect country and the junior varsity As you might have guessed, proud father of Charles M. Ship- a few shelvesful of plastic trophies. girls’ hockey team, as well as being I have a son, Rob, who plays way IV and Aubrey Lanfare Ship- I almost checked out when I fell the head track coach, a job like no hockey, He’s 15 and in the ninth way, became Chairman of the hard on my pate while sailing in other. The big 6-0 went by this grade. My wite (second) is a phar­ English Department, got divorced the Gulf Stream in 1985 (Coast summer, and though it takes macist, and next October we will and was crushed, made mobile Guard heroics, brain surgery, longer and longer to run distances

52 • PRINCETON DAY SCHOOL • SPRING 2003 which used to seem so easy, my and presumed that Michael back to Dave’s and his fathers were other news, Tom saw Randy streak of padding highway and by­ Kamenstein had taken my place. great cronies during their days at Hobler mesmerizing a Christmas way continues without interrup­ I never even received my copy of P.U. As for Tom and his clan, all party for hours with his piano tion. Helping Emmet along his the Fall 2002Journal until last goes well. His wife, Carolyn, works skills. The only news of him seems way keeps one looking forward as week when I stopped by PDS. as a free-lance writer, older son to be that the “Ra Man” is consult­ well. School work, as you say, Gad zooks, was I in for a shock! John is with American Home ing these days. Lastly, Tom spoke of offers one a lot of time to do Tom Chubet had actually sent me Mortgage Holdings, and son his uncle Herb Davison ‘31 and things that a strict routine would some copy! A first! Then I was Charlie is a senior at the University cousin John Davison ’56, who runs make impossible, and I’m happy politely reminded that I had to do of Vermont. Tom seemed to be in the radio division of Walt Disney. to be part of a good marriage and something fast for this issue. So, disbelief that he now has been with Tom definitely is on a roll. family, a good school, and a very with two days til the deadline and Morgan Stanley for thirty-one Talking about Dave Petito, enjoyable yearly calendar.” a blizzard about to hit the North­ years. Yeah, how time flies when I tried to call him at his home in Tim concludes, “my thanks to east, here’s the latest drift...... you’re having fun. Tequesta, Florida, but he was away all who dropped me a note. I am visiting son Deven up in Boston. hopeful those of you who did not Instead, I did speak with wife do so this time around will fill us Sally, who was most gracious to a in for the next issue. The one complete stranger. She spoke of person who seems to have disap­ first son, Westy, who graduated peared is Dick Rotnem. If anyone from the University of Florida and knows of his whereabouts, please now works in the Washington, let me know. I hope you all are D.C. area and looking forward to doing well, and let’s start thinking being in Princeton because of about how we might get a number Deven soon change ol schools. of us back for the 50th reunion a I will have more information few years hence. Best to you all.” about Dave for the next issue, Congratulations to Donald if I’m not again under a rock. (Jeb) Stuart whose daughter, By now the snow was at three Lauren Stuart ’89, was married in inches an hour. Who else would June. be better to talk to then our ever- so-young and energetic classmate 1958 Hank Tomlinson? He’s still doing great. The Albuquerque Kid told C. R. Perry Rodgers, Jr. that the high-end winter sports 80 Stony Brook Road equipment business was total Hopewell, NJ 08525-2710 madness at this time of year and he’s on the road full time. So, I 1959 asked if he had run across Peter Kirkpatrick lately in his South­ S tephen S. Cook Above: Bob Mueller ’59 west travels. So far no, but he 566 River Road standing and expects to run into him at a Den­ Belle Mead, NJ 08502-4702 Dave Smoyer ’56 ver show in April. As to his fam­ [email protected] on horse. ily, all goes well. Wife Kathy continues to teach in special 1960 At right: Rob Kuser ’57 education, while the kids con­ in Jackson, Wyoming. tinue to . . . continue being kids. Karl D. P e ttit III Annie is 13 and becoming quite 2432 Linden Drive the track star, “Petie” with the Havertown, PA 19083-1652 broken skateboard foot is 11, and kpettit@ hillier.com Tom Chubet still writes in long- I asked if he was still playing the twins, Julia and Sarah (30 G. Thomas Reynolds, Jr. hand. . . Gee Tom, where were you hockey like the Cook brothers, seconds later) are nine. Hank 34 Pin Oak Road when we took penmanship in First John '56 and Steve ’59, or Bloxie spoke well of a reunion with his Skillman, NJ 08558-1320 Form? Whoa! Something about Baker ’60. . . . Bad subject. Tom mother and sisters, Missy MFS [email protected] Dave Petito s younger son, Deven. hung up his stick about five years 62, Sarah MFS ’65 and Nancy As to make all easier, ago after injuring his leg in a water late last year. I told him that 1961 I called Tom for clarification; he skiing accident. Good subject. . . . Princeton and the Northeast were was as jovial as ever. The material His great love of golf and how does about to get a great Presidents’ J. Ward Kuser he sent was from the Phillips he play! Multi tournaments each Day blizzard and he howled. 1154 Stuart Road Andover newspaper which raved year and even honored as “Golfer Apparently, this winter in his area Princeton, NJ 08540-1222 about Deven, a senior, being a chip of the Year” at Wingfoot in 2002! has been mostly in the 50’s and Well, some where along the line off the old man’s block - a terror He wanted me to downplay that dry as a bone. Could I send some last September, I got lost on the on the links and plays great hockey. last one, but still the guy can play snow for his retail customers? latest tales about the Boys from Must be a good student too since the game. Now, if I can just get [email protected] Broadmead. Sorry, but I heard he starts at Princeton next Septem­ him to play Dave Petito and Hy nothing from Madam Editor ber. Tom’s interest in Deven goes Young some time. . . . As to his stcM connected/

SPRING 2003 • PRINCETON DAY SCHOOL • 53 OK, I was on a roll, so I de­ seen at a PU b-ball game and Clooney, Sean Coombs, Matt Brooksville, Maine. We had hoped cided to try once again and called confessed that he hadn’t written a Damon, Derek Jeter, Tobey to be in by the Fourth of July, but John Becker. Not only was he word for his class. Jack McCarthy Maquire and Tiger Woods (and the painters were not yet finished home in his West Tisbury, Massa­ ’62 also at the same game said others) is our own Woody with the exterior work. So for two chusetts soon-to-be-snowed-in that he had written a lot for his Johnson, owner of the NFL Jets. weeks we rented the same little red abode, but anxious to hear all the class. John Cook’s ’56 youngest Congrats, Woody, sorry, ladies and cottage that we have stayed in the latest about the class. Wow, that’s child, Emily, transferred this past thanks to Laila and Rick Eckels past four summers. It was wonder­ a bit to tell after forty years, but fall to PDS as a seventh grader who passed this news on from ful when we were finally able to what about his travels? Well after and among other things has Memphis, Tennessee.” move in and Judy’s parents and her PCD, he had an adventurous demonstrated her skills in field Bill Walker sent his annual cousin, Nancy, were able to come educational trip through the hockey and ice hockey, as well season’s greetings to the Develop­ visit. Solebury School, Bard College, as in the classroom. Mrs. Smyth ment Office. He wrote: “2002 has The only other big news is that and the San Francisco Art Insti­ continues every Friday at the been a relatively quiet year for us. we bought a 25-foot sailboat — a tute. He suggested that at times Medical Center with her volun­ No foreign conferences, no Colo­ Catalina25, for those of you that he was “under a rock ”. . . . I teer duties at the front desk. rado ski trips, no great sailing know such things. We are fortu­ doubt it. . . . He admits to actu­ She’s now given over fifty years adventures. Guess that’s what to nate enough to keep it moored in ally remembering the ‘70s and of service to the community. expect with a two-year-old in the front of our house where we can ‘80s! John’s been a builder/de­ Those sages, Bud Tibbals, family. keep an eye on it and get to it signer of residential architecture “Uncle Stooie” Robson, and Wes Jessie is becoming a beautiful quickly when we need to get away. for over twenty-five years and McCaughan, still hang out and and funny “big girl” who is a We were able to get away for an describes his efforts as mostly pontificate in the mornings at delight to be with. Mondays she overnight mini-cruise while Jessie second homes. Married since the Princeton Shopping Center’s goes to tumbling class with Judy, enjoyed a break with her grand­ 1972, John’s wife Valerie teaches Cafe, which is attached to the Wednesdays to reading group at parents. We all especially enjoyed computer at a local elementary temporarily-located Princeton the library, and Fridays they the weekly square dances at the school. Their eighteen-year-old Public Library. Obviously, their spend free time together. Tuesday Bucks Harbor Yacht Club. son wants to go to the University fame and knowledge are touching and Thursday mornings she is in We are incredibly blessed and of Vermont and loves to write new minds every day. an at-home day care. She spends thankful for all that we have. We “slam poetry”. As to recollections Lastly, the PDS Alumni Week­ her afternoons napping at home pray that our family’s and friends’ of yesteryear, John pleaded the end is Friday and Saturday, May with her Dad. She is a real “ham” live might be as rich as ours.” Fifth, but soon began to open up 16 and 17. There will be a special like both of her grandfathers and a bit. He had fond memories event honoring Bill Smoyer and yet quite sensitive, often crying in 1963 of “Ancient Herb” McAneny his contributions to the school. sympathy when other kids start caring about students, recalled Presumably, there will be many crying. John A. Ritchie 6014 Walton Road “Uncle Stooie” Robson with his people of our era that will be Judy continues to work to­ firecrackers in the Science Lab, returning. Maybe some us should Bethesda, MD 20817-2519 wards tenure in the Department jritch8@ aol.com and remembered “Uncle Hank” come back, at least to show we’re of Communication Science and Ross being very concerned at one alive. In his latest newsletter, John Disorders at the University of 1964 student assembly about the then Sheehan promised to return from Maine by focusing her efforts on civil rights movement. I was able Nigeria for this event and sing hits getting her research published W illia m E. Ring to update him about most of the from his third and latest CD and applying for grant money. I 2118 Wilshire Boulevard, #336 class, but nothing about Gene “Father John Socks It To Ya”. am still working mornings as the Santa Monica, CA 90403 Armstrong, Towney Blodget, What more of a reason to come Administrative Assistant at the [email protected] Robin Kerney, Peter Mills, Tom back? Look, we batted zero at our Orono United Methodist Church Regan, and Rich Reynolds. Fortieth Reunion in 01. Give it Donald E. Woodbridge producing the weekly Sunday Maybe next time. Any way, some thought and clue me in. 64 Depot Hill Road bulletins and monthly newslet­ Amenia, NY 12501-5817 John’s seems to be doing fine. I will be in touch with you. ters. As Membership Secretary I [email protected] A few other recent notes . . . So for now, that’s about all the have been cleaning up the long- Donna Ayers, Robert Ayers’ news about the Boys from neglected membership records. 1965 widow is adapting by continuing Broadmead. This summer we moved into with her interior design work, our vacation home in South Correspondent Needed she and son Austin have sold the 1962 family D.C. home and have moved to Chevy Chase, and John F. M cC arth y III finally Austin is anxiously waiting 87 Ettl Circle CareerlnterLink )NLI to hear from colleges, especially Princeton, NJ 08540-2334 Looking for help with career transitions? Using the Boston College (?). I saw Regan [email protected] PDS website (www.pds.org), go to the Alumni Kerney at the Lawrenceville Ice Jack McCarthy writes: “Pop Quiz section and click on Career Interlink. You can now Hockey Tournament in Decem­ for Miss Fine’s School classes of access a database of alumni who have offered to ber and all goes well with teach­ 1965 and 1964: What member of assist other PDS alums in answering questions ing at L-ville and life in general. our class (remember our ’62 stands According to Mrs. Kane, Gibbie for our 9th grade graduation) was about career choices. I here is also a section on the Kane is a grandfather again and recently named one of the 10 most page for you to add your name to the database as a finds it “amusing ”. Pepper Pettit eligible bachelors in America by career resource. 60 after long hibernation was Parade Magazine? Joining George www.pds.org

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Historic Preservation at the U of Pam Orr Marck’s Christmas Please note: Class notes Penn. I branched out and created letter had lots of other include columns submitted two new photography shows. by the class correspondents, ? news to report. Her as well as notes submitted Eric conquered a few mountains daughters are growing- directly to PDS. Classes on our trip to Acadia National Jenni is out of college, without a correspondent Park in Maine. Best wishes to Melissa is in college and may send notes to: all in 2003!” Hilary is in high school. PDS Communications Office Pam and Jack did plenty Princeton Day School 1969 of business and family RO. Box 75 traveling this year includ­ Princeton, NJ 08542 Susan Denise Harris ing trips to the Caribbean, 324 South Bald Hill Road E-mail: [email protected] Florida, Arizona, and New Canaan, CT 06840-2902 Hawaii. [email protected] I have kept myself too 1966 Craig Page was married busy with PDS and church to Laura Ezersky in a activities. At one point this Lynn Wiley Hoffman ceremony in New York past fall, I was serving on 5225 E. Charleston Blvd. in December 2002. eight different committees at # 2 0 1 7 News of their wedding my church. In November, I Las Vegas, NV 89142-1070 rhoffma@ earthlink.net was published in the went with a group from church “Vows” column of to Haiti for six days. We held 1967 The New York Times. medical clinics and painted. It was my fourth trip and unfortu­

Julia Lockwood, M.D. 1970 nately one does not see any P0 Box 739 progress in the plight of the in­ South Freeport, ME 04078-0739 Ann M. Wiley credibly poor Haitian people. As 33 Cold Soil Road I write this in mid-February, I am 1968 Lawrenceville, NJ 08648-1054 about to leave for a long weekend [email protected] in Iceland. Probably not the most Mary Hobler Hyson It seems like a few of our class­ by the Lake...’ to Chris; it had ideal time to travel to Iceland but 1067 Wolf Hill Road mates went all out to celebrate everyone who hadn’t gone to pri­ the temperature there today is Cheshire, CT 06 410-173 2 their 50th birthdays. In an article vate school in tears laughing. It warmer than in New Jersey. [email protected] titled, “I’m 40! Come Risk Your was wonderful to see Chris and Wendy Lawson-Johnston M ary Hobler Hyson sent this Life With Me” in the December 6 Dana.” Pam Orr Marck and her McNeil sent a note saying that note: “The sugar maples are bare New York Times, Wendy Lawson- husband, Jack, share the same her daughter, Lawson, is getting and the garden is put to rest for Johnson McNeil was featured birthday Their daughters held a married to Romesh Wijesooriya, the winter, reminders that the celebrating her 50th with family surprise party for them with lots in September. They will be living holidays are upon us. David is and friends in Glacier National of friends and neightiors. Allison in Charlottesville, VA while he in his second year at Colgate. A Park in Montana. A note from Gilbert Kozicharow reported that finishes up medical school at the German major, he also plays in Heidi Flemer Hesselein reported she and Hilary Martin got to­ University of Virginia. Her son, the pep band and helps out with that she, Bumper White, Freddy gether to celebrate their birthdays. Tucker, is the personal assistant a computer hotline. Katie’s year Erdman, Deebs Young, and Pooh Did anyone else do anything fun to Christie Whitman at the EPA was filled with kids, kids and more Holt ’69 all met up at Chris or unusual? and loves his work traveling with kids! She worked in a day care and Reeve’s birthday party at the Rebecca Bushnell sent in a note Christie and being in D.C. a summer camp and now is stu­ Tribeca Grill in NYC. Heidi wrote saying that as of July 1, she will be Wendy’s husband, Tom, is dent teaching in a first grade. that the party given by Chris’s the Dean of the College at the commuting to Guyana with a She graduates next June from wife, Dana, was marvelous, “with University of Pennsylvania. She timber export business. Dartmouth. Chris and Sarah family and friends from the earli­ will be responsible for undergradu­ We send our deepest sympathy moved to Philadelphia, where they est days of Chris’s life, with some ate education in the School of Arts to Louise Hutner on the death are pursuing their passions. Chris really wonderful stories recounted and Sciences. Her new book, of her sister, Liz Hutner Fleming is doing an internship in museum about Chris. One of the best was Green Desire: Imaging Early Mod­ ’73. Liz was married to Heidi studies at Valley Forge. Sarah is hearing Deebs, Freddy and ern English Gardens, will be pub­ Flemer Hesselein’s brother, Bill studying for a master’s degree in Bumper sing the PCD song, ‘Hard lished this summer. Flemer ’71.

SPRING 2003 • PRINCETON DAY SCHOOL • 55 1971 been unemployed for about six 1975 1977 months. He’s trying to start his Louise Broad Lavine own company with some former Yuki Moore Laurenti Alice Graff Looney 2016 W. Club Boulevard colleagues. My son, Oliver, is a 464 Hamilton Avenue 9108 Shad Lane Durham, NC 27705-3210 junior at the local high school, so Trenton, NJ 08609-271 1 Potomac, MD 20854 [email protected] [email protected] [email protected] he is beginning to look at col­ Nina Shafran wrote: “I joined leges. We’ll be back in Princeton Janet Quigley wrote: “This year PDS received some news about the “Feds” last tall (2001), leaving this spring so he can look at the I was promoted to broadcasting Tony Knott: “Tony won the 2002 law firm life at least for a while, university. He is receiving his department head at a division of Area Director’s Award for Out­ but continuing in the same field Eagle Scout in March. My oldest American Forces Radio and Televi­ standing Health Care Provider — broadcast regulation. So far I daughter, Meriwether, is writing sion. This took me to Spain, from the Navajo Indian Health am very happy with my decision. for the school paper and doing Greece, Iceland, Japan, Hawaii, Service. The citation reads: “For The whole family is still adjusting well in school. My youngest Singapore and Bahrain — a busy constantly demonstrating a com­ to the void left by my sister Kyra daughter, Georgiana, is finishing year! I often think of the great passionate and caring attitude to ’73 — a profound loss from which elementary school at the same people I knew at PDS, and how both patients and staff, and for we will never fully recover.” school where I still work, happily, they accomplished so much so providing outstanding customer Laurie Bryant Young sent this as a ‘paraprofessional teacher early in life. It’s never too early to service on behalf of the Kayenta note: “We’re starting our fourth aide.’ This year Georgie enjoyed start!” Service Unit.” An article from year in a row in the United States being on the student council, a Harvard magazine describes the — it’s nice to get a longer stint at first for our family. That’s it from 1976 clinic where Tony works with a home. (We work for State Depart­ here. I hope to hear more from group of doctors as the only medi­ ment, so we move around a lot.) some of my classmates.” Creigh Duncan cal facility in a 70-mile radius. The My son has started at Rutgers, M ary G. Johnson sent this 549 The Great Road government provides pre-fab hous­ which has the Arabic Language/ note: “Have moved to Darby, Princeton, NJ 08540-2537 ing to the doctors who agree to Middle East Studies program he Vermont to a beautiful little farm [email protected] stay at least two years. Many of the wanted after a few tours in the Navajo elders speak no English, where we raise organic beef cattle, E.J. Barnes wrote: “My 3-minute Middle East. My daughter has horses, chickens, Jack Russells, you animated film, “Leathering Bat,” 70% of the patients have no started high school, where she phone and 50% have no electricity name it! Work in local library, also was included in the shorts pro­ enjoys crew and track.” or running water. Many do not part time at local design firm. gram in the 2002 Northampton consider themselves poor but Have two daughters living with us Independent Film Festival, consider their way of life a tradi­ 1972 and oldest is at St. Georges, Rhode which ran in Northampton, tional Navajo way. Cultural mis­ Island, to graduate in 2003 — so Massachussets, in November Jan Hall Burruss understandings and conflicts make sorry to have missed the reunion. 2002. “Leathering Bat” is based 69 Forest Street It sounded very fun!” the practice of medicine challeng­ Sherborn, MA 01770-1619 on the Appalachian folk ballad Karen Turner wrote: “I am ing, especially with respect to [email protected] of the same name, and includes children. Tony came to his career completing my third and final year my vocals as well as my artwork.” in medicine late, although certain Jan Hall Burruss sent this e-mail as Chair of the Journalism Depart­ Our deepest sympathy to column: “This time, I heard from ment at Temple University. This Creigh Duncan whose brother of his friends remember that in high school he used to say he Fred Dalrymple, who lives nearby has been an exciting year as we John Coulter Duncan ’74 died me in Wellesley. He is married to celebrate our 75th anniversary. recently. wanted to become a doctor to Ann,who has two children who are The department is one of the serve the poor in Africa.” now in college. Enjoying the peace oldest in the country. I look for­ of their empty house has been ward to teaching more and having pleasantly different, Fred says. He time for my research.” is starting a computer company, and was looking for a technical 1973 writer, so he called me. I am no longer doing that, having been Correspondent Needed back in teaching since 1995, but Glena Weisberg Andersen wrote: we had a great chat, and it was “Still living in McLean, Virginia, good to catch up. working too hard, delivering ba­ The news from Holbrook Farm bies day and night! Kids are great is a bit sad. My father was diag­ — all is well!” nosed with mesothelioma, a form of asbestos-related cancer, late last summer, and he died very 1974 quickly, at the end of September. Keith D. P lapinger We miss him terribly, but, hap­ 25 Joy Street Looking back: (left to right) Class of ’78 members, Barry pily, he didn’t suffer long. We are Boston, MA 02114-4149 Smith, Jenny Chandler and the late Fred Woodbridge were the taking good care of my mother, [email protected] first three graduates to have completed Kindergarten through who lives nearby. My husband, 12th grade all at PDS. They gave benches to the school when John, was hit hard by the tele­ they graduated. communications crisis, and has

56 • PRINCETON DAY SCHOOL • SPRING 2003 tinuing to love not always cherished my only the career, but interaction with the flexibility and ‘Morn’ or ‘Mrs. Price’ balance it affords my (depending on how life as a mom.” disgusted with me she To check out was at the time), “Isabel Sharpe on throughout my late the Web, please visit teens. Again, our con­ www.IsabelSharpe.com dolences over this loss. and enjoy! Chris Horan and Geoff George is wife, Laurie Lehnert, supplanted in the have a boy, Sean frozen tundra of St. Dr. H. London Press, with Donna and Harry Christopher and his Paul, Minnesota. He Reichard. )jtt]e sjsteri Katie Dee. has worked for many They reside in Chalfont, PA. Chris, years as a Director of aka ‘Alvin’, works as a Senior Photography for Film Project Manager for Earth Tech, an & Television. Of late, environmental consulting and Muna Shehadi Sills '79 sent this photo of sons Geoff has added Fash­ clean up firm owned by Tyco, Alec, 4 1/2, and Jason, 8 1/2. ion Photography to his located in Trevose, PA. I know for a creative repertoire. fact that wife Laurie is upset with George Zoukee wrote: “I’ve Anyone from the Class o f’79 hubby Chris because he definitely now been living in New Hamp­ HAS TO come to our 25th next misses Nick & Evan. shire for ten years and am still year because Geoff has guaranteed thoroughly enjoying it despite the his presence! Shake off those icicles and come on in outta the cold, cold, snowy weather. The 25th (right) Nevin and reunion was great!” mister. Hartley Press Jennifer Weiss wrote: “I am still Obviously, Geoff simply misses at Halloween enjoying serving in the North Nick & Evan... and their dad, Evan Press ’79 Carolina House of Representatives Eric Reichard, wife Linda, and (above). and was re-elected in November 7 1/2 year old son, Kyle, refuse to 2002. Bruce and I are amazed at report anything on the grounds Harry & Donna that it may incriminate them. how quickly Max, 12, and Anna, Reichard hosted They do report that Eric’s younger 9, are growing up.” and the Press boys sister and PDSer, Elisabeth ’83 took full advan­ 1978 and her husband Jim, had a baby tage...eventually boy named William Lee Roberts having to be asked (he goes by Lee), 8 lb 11 oz, born Catherine Ferrante Tapsall to leave! A fine/ at Fairfax, Virginia, on T hursday, 66 Park Avenue South wine time was had Old Greenwich, CT 06870-1732 May 23, at 3:52 p.m. by all. Eric did catherine.tapsall@ verizon.com I visited my parents. My father, mention that he Dr. Press, enjoyed a wild and Robyn Ultan wrote: “Looking feels guilty for wanton evening at my parents’ NOT missing Nick forward to seeing everyone at the warm & cozy home in Princeton. 25th reunion!” & Evan... Chris Price, and 1979 wife Barbara, have three sons...imitat­

N icolas R. D onath ing Chris and his 2 3859 Almondwood Drive brothers! They are Las Vegas, NV 89120-1447 Jordan, Everett, with Cheney being Evan R. Press the last on October 1116 1/2 South Rexford Drive 30th of 2000 Chris Horan '79 and his wife, Laurie, with their Los Angeles, CA 90035-1243 [email protected] Mischief Night!!! children' Ka,ie and Sean' The Prices reside in New Provi- Nick Donath has written in. Evan Press sent this column dence, NJ, about 30 miles west of Prepare yourself before reading... by e-mail: Muna Shehadi Sill Manhattan, and they spend much ‘You’re all old. Old Old Old Old. writes, “Still living in Milwaukee of the summer in Cape Cod. Have a real estate and investment with her two sons, still writing On a sad note, as many of you company here in Las Vegas. Your romance novels for Harlequin already know, Chris’ mother not so faithful (and sane) Assis- under the pseudonym Isabel passed away on May 20th of tant/Co-Class Secretary, (President, Sharpe, still enjoying life, but 2001. She was a loving mother Ivy League Realty & Investments, wishing George Bush and his Evil Eric Reichard ’79 and son, Kyle, and grandmother and, while I Inc. [email protected]) Empire would go away. I’m con- at Halloween. hadn’t seen her in 20 years, I have I speak to Nick on an ongoing

SPRING 2003 • PRINCETON DAY SCHOOL • 57 and inconsistent basis, and I see mises of the Dubrovsky/Waugh him periodically. All I can say is household in the event of a territo­ that what he wrote was one of his rial war breaking out between the more lucid ramblings. And some­ two new sisters. One insider how he coerced his poor parents speculated that this event may not out of their safe, comfy confines be too far away since the elder in Princeton and into the shady, sister was seen to be throwing unconventional way of life in raspberries freely. Las Vegas, NV. There are tons of great pix on Ben Dubrovsky and wife, Alice the Waugh/Dubrovsky site. Waugh, have the most fantastic, Alison Lockwood s married family Web site imaginable! Actu­ name is now Cronson, and Alison ally, it’s all Alice’s doing...which lives in Framingham, MA. Son, we all would assume... To, liter­ Jeremy, will be six in October, ally, learn everything you would while little sister, Rachel, will turn want to know about Alice & Ben, four in March. Adorable! and their two precious girls, Laurie Lockwood ’82 is one of Betsy Stephens Ellsworth '79 with her husband, Scott, and their twin please go to: http://web.mit.edu/ three persons that claim responsi­ sons, John and William, during a visit in the fall, shown here in front of awaugh/www/sarah.html bility for getting my wife and I Stephens House at the Lawrenceville School. I do have to include this from together. While these words of Ben. I, (Evan), have one girl and hers are not super current, (Laurie hear and see elephants, hyena, Come April 28th, I will not one boy. My second child arrived now resides in Sarasota, Florida lion, warthog, impala (antelope), have slept in four years. two months before Ben’s second with her boyfriend, Ian), they hippos, and crocs. And a host of My wife is a VP of Retail Mar­ child. This is what he wrote in an need to be read. Very amazing other animals. I think we will be keting & National Promotions at email to me: stuff! here for about two years but MGM Studios. She is an Episco­ “BROOKLINE, MA: Not “Ian and I are now living in thankfully we will get to Europe, palian from Mississippi. I do not wanting to be outdone by his Zambia. Our company asked us South Africa and USA a few times know how this happened. We erstwhile high-school mate, Ben to move here to help start up the a year. I will need civilization every are hoping to relocate to the East Dubrovsky reported today that he, safari lodge business for them. now and then.” Coast in the next 10 to 20 months. We will be managing a luxurious Jonathan Stockwell Baker is Come April 28th, she will not 44-bed tented camp in the north­ running the show in Venice, have slept in four years. ern Serengeti for about seven to California, for the owner of For those of you that don’t eight months and then moving to ‘Bountiful’, one of the most her­ know, my Mother passed away in the town of Arusha (near the base alded, antique stores to the stars February of 2001, just a few of Mt. Kilimanjaro) and heading in Southern California. ‘JB ’ has months prior to Mrs. Price. ‘Doc’ up the company’s operations for had several dates in the last Press is living in Philly, and doing Tanzania. The camp is called year...they have ALL been with well. Migration Camp and is based my daughter, Hartley, who is I miss you all, as well as ‘my along the route of the famous eerily fascinated by anything he home away from home’... wildebeest and zebra migration. says or does. Jonathan’s only Everybody get ready for our “We are now employed by Hal­ ‘shout out’ is to Bill Jacobus: 25th. (Good God...) cyon Hotels which owns and oper­ Bill, if you read this, please don’t Betsy Stephens Ellsworth sent ates restaurants, hotels and safari get in touch with me. this: “The big news in our lives is lodges in South Africa, Tanzania As for yours truly, I am going that my husband Scott and I had and Zanzibar. If anyone is inter­ to be 42 in June. I am old and our first children, twin sons, on ested, the Web site address for fat. I play in two hardball leagues. April 16, 2002. John Roper and Alison Lockwood Cronson’s ’79 Halcyon is www.halcyonhotels.com One is 18 and up, the other is 28 William Upfield were born big children Rachel and Jeremy. and you will be able to see a few and up. I play in an ongoing and healthy and we’re all having a pictures of our new home in the tennis league. I am a stay-at- ball. We were all back East last Serengeti. home Dad to Hartley, four in September to baptize John and too, now is a proud lather of two. “One of the nice things about April, (same birthday as Nick Will in the Lawrenceville Chapel, However, in a bout of dubious this new job is that our salary will Donath - he’s one of the three and it was great to see Joyce and one-up manship, Dubrovsky was now be paid in US dollars...a persons that claim responsibility Gary Lott, and Shawn ’77 and quoted as saying, “yeah? but I got tremendous improvement for us as for getting my wife and I to­ Robbie Ellsworth at the event. 2 of a kind” referring to the sex of the SA Rand and Namibian Dollar gether), and her baby monster Since Scott is a writer and self- the new baby. It has been widely are severely devalued and not brother, Nevin, who will be two employed, he’s Mr. Mom, and I’m reported that the weight of the expected to recover any time soon in December if he lasts that long. back at work full time as the asso­ new baby, referred to by some as due to the Zimbabwe crises which By the time this goes to print, ciate dean of admission at Reed Rebecca Jessica Hazel, was well in is effecting all of southern Africa. I will have umpired some high College in Portland Oregon, where the normal range at 7.5 pounds, We are currently living on the school baseball games in Califor­ I’ve been for the past seven years. and that while there was no height edge of the Kafue National Park nia! And, 1 have a small, product- My job has brought me back to reported, a length of 19.5 inches on the banks of the Kafue River. oriented company that is moving PDS a few times since I recruit in was discussed. Reporters will con­ The lodge is under renovations so at a snail’s pace due to my priori­ the Mid-Atlantic and South. tinue to be stationed at the pre­ I get no sleep past 6:00 am. We ties, ie. the kiddies! We’ve gotten some wonderful

58 • PRINCETON DAY SCHOOL • SPRING 2003 applicants from PDS, and have a network security space. Hopefully of skiing while at Steamboat, Orchestra’s summer home (think freshman here this year. That’s all in a few years we can make the Colorado with three girlfriends. Tanglewood). The CSO makes from here. My email address is 25th reunion. Unfortunately, My husband Mike has been great music for gardening. Still [email protected] and I have little reason to come back spending several weekends sky­ working at Liederbach Graaham we’re hoping to get to the 25 th to New Jersey these daysr^s my diving in a wind tunnel in Or­ Architects doing very fancy reunion in 2004.” family is scattered up and down lando. Our four-year-old houses.” Karen Polcer Bdera sent this the east coast but not in Emerson continues with German Lorna Mack Sheridan wrote: note: “I continue to racewalk/walk Princeton anymore. 1 hope you language classes once a week and “My husband and I and our three through life — Nick and I com­ are well. Please pass along some our second child, Holden, is still children (7, 5, 2) have moved pleted the 2002 Portland Oregon tidbits from others if you have working on the basics of English. back from Miami to Weston, CT, Marathon this past October, and them.” Please send class news to me! where we have enjoyed running ran in the NYC Marathon in Alice Ganoe sent this into Kitty Ijams Butt ’82 and November. And 1 have note: “I continue to live and Andy Davidson from PDS who walked in my third Avon work in NYC. Been at JP live here as well.” Breast Cancer 3-Day, raising Morgan for 14 plus years. over S i4,000 this year (I’ve Can’t believe it! Running and raised over $35,000 over the lots of time in the past three years.) Life is good, Adirondacks keep me sane!” busy, fun and energizing.” Leslie Pell Linnehan sent We received a note that a note that her son, Gibson, Andy Jensen is teaching was born on August 1, 2002, social studies at Broomfield joining big sister Kate. Con­ ✓ High School in Broomfield, gratulations! Colorado. He was featured in Christopher “Kip” a local newspaper and photo­ Thomas sent this note: “My graphed teaching an ad­ wife, Evan, and I had a baby Elisabeth Reichard Robert’s ’83 vanced placement Human girl on March 16, 2002, son, William Lee Roberts, was Geography class, as part of an named Annabel M. Thomas, born last May. article about how teachers who arrived on moving day! integrated the terrorist at­ (from Hopewell to Ringoes).” 1984 tacks of September 11, 2001, Kang Na wrote: “Thriv­ into their teaching. ing in Amish country! If you Adrienne Spiegel McMullen happen to be in Western 612 West Surf Street #2B 1980 Pennsylvania, come by (New Chicago, IL 60657-5341 Castle).” [email protected] Jennifer Dutton Whyte Jeff Perlman wrote: “The Edward J. Willard 990 Singleton Avenue annual Frankie K. Basketball 3236 Lenape Drive Woodmere, NY 11598-1718 The children of Andy Charen ’81 on a recent game saw an improvement in Dresher, PA 19025-1804 trip to New Orleans, Emily, Rebecca and Jake. attendance at reunions, Congratulations to Sara twillard@ comcast.net however, the average age of Cooper who announced her the players has dropped consider­ Edward “Ted” Willard sent this: engagement to Michael Delehanty. ably. After chasing these twenty- “I just wanted to let everyone A May wedding is planned. 1982 year-olds for 40 minutes, I realized know that my wife, Courtney, accepted a position as a Residen­ Lorraine Herr that the 20 years since we gradu­ tial Designer at Chatham, Inc., 1981 9 South 021 ated have caused some minor in Elkin, North Carolina (30 Skyland Drive deterioration in certain skills, such miles west of Winston-Salem). Cami Carrington Levy Naperville, IL 60564 as breathing, per se!” 2212 Weymouth Street [email protected] Therefore, I left my position at Moscow, ID 83843-9618 Prudential Financial to stay at Anne Metcalf phoned during the [email protected] 1 9 8 3 home with my daughters, holidays for a quick catch up. She Caroline and Jayne, while our Kristine Anastasio Manning was circling a busy Manhattan 403 Rock Rest Road Noeile Damico son, Christopher, is at school. block with her boys JJ, Henry and Pittsboro, NC 27312-6914 17 Dyke Road Fortunately, daycare will be Andrew while husband John was [email protected] Setauket, NY 11733-3014 starting soon so I can hopefully in a nearby store picking up a [email protected] find something outside of the Andy Charen sent this e-mail: Christmas present. We reminisced home! If you are in the area, “Thought I’d share an update. about calmer days spent at a re­ Rena Ann Whitehouse 240 North Avenue #1303 heading to Charlotte, give me a Living in a northern suburb of treat in Norwich, Connecticut Atlanta, GA 30308 call. We’d love to see you!” Chicago. We have been here for during the summer of 2001. Anne [email protected] Daniel Herr wrote: “I started a more than five years. My wife, and her family are able to visit consulting firm, Chancellor Avia­ Debbie, and I have three children, frequently with her parents in Erica Weeder wrote: “I’m living tion, to assist people who own Jake is six, Emily is three and Princeton and with John’s parents, with my husband John and fractional shares in corporate jets. Rebecca is 16-months old. (see also in New Jersey. daughter Lena north of Chicago, We offer bill auditing, as well as photo) I work in sales and business I spent five days in February two blocks away from Ravinia assistance in buying and selling. It development in the information/ reacquainting myself with the art Park, the Chicago Symphony is a good use of my background in

SPRING 2003 • PRINCETON DAY SCHOOL • 59 aviation insurance and aircraft Steve Sinaiko wrote: “I am still Salkind is making documen­ management. Kay is still with JP practicing law in Manhattan, and taries—his latest is currently Morgan Investment Management, was recently elected a partner in showing at the Museum of covering office and industrial the litigation department at Sex in New York —but REIT stocks.” Kramer Levin Naftalis & Frankel.” which one? Can we show it at the clambake? 1985 1986 Jessie Robertson has two wonderful children, Kate (2) Lynne Erdman O'Donnell Susan Franz Murphy and Jack (7 mos. in June). 4804 S.W. Orchard Lane 388 Pennington-Titusville Road On top of that, she will be P ortland, OR 9 7 219-336 6 Pennington, NJ 08534 starting as Assistant Medical [email protected] [email protected] Director of Lung Transplan­ Andrew J. Schragger tation at Columbia Univer­ 7233 Foxtail Court 1987 sity and Assistant Professor Lawrenceville, NJ 08648-2842 of Clinical Medicine in July. [email protected] Craig C. S tuart “Great job, and a great 495 Douglass Street #2 opportunity—I am so ex­ Kathryn Jennings sent this e-mail: San Francisco, CA 941 14-2751 “I continue to be a roving (or [email protected] cited,” she writes. Alas, no “...a photo of the beagle I wish I had,” raving?) Surface Designer, mostly photos. Sofia Xethalis says Elizabeth Hare '88. As I’ve been flying below in Mercer and Bucks County. 440 North Street, Apartment 31 the alumni radar for a while, I Have resolved to work more often The Greystone category can inspire in New York­ in the Philadelphia and Pittsfield, MA 01201-4618 decided to make my notes sparkle Wilmington areas — they’re on ers with cramped apartments. by going after the most colorful the way to Florida, after all. Own Congratulations to Rachel Enclosed is a photo of the beagle I class subject I’m still in touch with, tools, will travel! I had a painting Lilenthal Stark, who wrote: “We wish I had—a sentimental nod to Arianna (see interview). Here’s her job in St. Kitts/Nevis in spring welcomed our second son, Evan, unrealized dreams in our reunion Zagat’s: She got off the corporate 2001, which hopefully will turn into the world on September 6, year. Christine abandoned the art bandwagon after “four insane years into the next project later this year 2002. After the initial shock, big business a few years ago and went at AOL” and is now “executive — I just visit the Caribbean now! brother Noah (two) seems to be back to school. She received her editor ofDailyCandy.com.” Living in paradise was a bit dras­ adjusting.” master’s in Social Work from NYU Arianna freelances for The New tic, but the view was great. It’s We received a note that Eliza­ in May 2002 and as of this writing York Times and “other far less im­ hard to believe I have been back in beth Hoover Moore is living in is doing post-graduate practice in pressive publications.” At one time, NJ for three years! Am residing Princeton and works in labor and psychoanalysis at the Training Jeremy Raab and Mike Lingle again in Mill Hill, in Trenton, but delivery at the Medical Center of Institute for Mental Health in moved in “directly” across the street find myself gravitating to Princeton. Chelsea. from her on 2nd Avenue, though Wilmington. As for Trenton, I Jon McConaughy ’85 wrote: Julia Herr Smith married Scott Mike has since moved even farther urge you to attend a hockey game “My wife, Robin Cook, and I just Smith in 2002, whom she met downtown, presumably to be closer at the arena and stop by my neigh­ had a new baby boy born October while at Kellogg Business School. to the SoHo offices of his “software bors’ restaurant, The Urban Word 16, 2002 — his name is Drew. Classmates attending the nuptials company” and optional “com- Cafe, or the adjacent nightclub, Brother Finn is doing well with at the family farm in Stanton, New mune-style” loft apartments. I The Conduit (where I painted the the new addition and hasn’t yet Jersey, included Andrea Hall Elish, grabbed lunch with Mike in Janu­ ceiling). I’m somewhat the same asked when Drew is leaving!” Landis Greathouse and Laura ary and thought his business and — drinking TAB but trying to Congratulations to Craig Heins. Her sister, Lorraine Herr creative pursuits sounded very take life less seriously! Forget the Stuart, son of Donald Stuart III ’82, and brother Daniel Herr ’84, engaging. Perricone Prescription — mirth is PCD ’56, who was married to were there along with Deirdre Other ’88ers who have been the antidote to aging. Celebrated Susan Kim in Andover. Griesyer ’89. Time for a nostalgic seen in and around Manhattan my 35th birthday with friends in tangent: Laura, Julia and Andrea include: Kit Greenberg (who Brighton and Norwich, England, 1988 share the dubious honor of inclu­ amusingly came as someone’s date on the proverbial shoestring. sion in my complete set of hallway to Christine’s husband’s birthday Missed a Coldplay concert because Amy Venable Ciuffreda locker partners. In February Julia last summer, and also appeared at 8 Rydal Drive my flight was late, but ate lots of was conspiring with Courtney a business meeting Mike was Lawrenceville, NJ 08648-3653 Shannon to plan our reunion and having with NBC), Ed Eglin really yummy cheese. When my [email protected] father wins the lottery, I’m going to called me to solicit ideas. (No (who I ran into on a bus once retire from painting to raise goats Elizabeth Hare perms!) Courtney is living on the with Jeremy), Jim Strugger, and and make fancy cheese. Ha-ha. 95 Cabrini Boulevard Upper East Side and occasionally Liz W itt. As of press time, Ed, Apartment 5H More realistic predictions for 2003: teaches the odd superstar’s progeny Liz and Jim’s publicists were not New York, NY 10033-3442 paint more “framed” artworks, read their vowels. Laura is working at available for comment. But I did a lot, find apartment, and adopt Elizabeth Hare sent this column: Morgan Stanley and gets to fly have the pleasure of bumping another shelter dog — one that “I went to the 127th Westminster around the world for 30-minute into Matt Lucas and Nils Von doesn’t shed! Not necessarily in Kennel Club Dog Show in Febru­ meetings, and I heard that Andrea Zelowitz at George Dodds’ wed­ that order, of course. If you need ary with Christine Grounds. We and her husband will be expecting ding in 2001, and neither of decorating advice, or eastern Car­ ooohed and aaahed and felt the their first child right around re­ them recognized me. George and ibbean travel tips, contact: keen pangs of longing that only union time. his wife, Alison, settled in [email protected]” perky contestants in the Sporting More class “G” (gossip): Jamie Lambertville, and 1 know Nils

60 • PRINCETON DAY SCHOOL • SPRING 2003 and his wife are living in the City 1989 I hope all is well with everyone! If Kate Marquis wrote: “Jane and that Nils works in advertising. you’re Boston-bound, let me Lovey (ESU student '91-’92) Arianna was my guinea pig for Christina Frank know: [email protected]” visited me in Virginia this past my new PDS Journal idea, the 147 East Delaware Avenue Congratulations to James fall while on a grand tour of the where-are-they-now profile (with Pennington, NJ 08534 Gray who was married to Jessica East coast. My family was also apologies to and Vanity Fair Lauren B. French Knoble in September 2002, in visiting at the time from Proust). 571 North Street New York. Scottsdale, Arizona. Karen, Kate, Meadeville, PA 16335 Liz, Eleanor and Jesse were able Q: When did you last cause a [email protected] 1991 to share some quality time around 'Don'tyou know who I am?’ the dinner table again — the -style rumpus in a guest list queue? L. Doria R oberts T im othy C. B abbitt same table we shared in Princeton A: 1993. 14 Wiley Avenue Trenton, NJ 08638 309 Jefferson Street 2L ten years ago, actually, only now Brooklyn, NY 11237 it’s installed in my house in Q: Do you buy your own clothes or Meg Young Yoder ’89 sent a pho­ [email protected] does someone buy them for you? Fairfax, rather than my parents.” tograph (below) of her children Congratulations to Rebecca A: Have you seen my closet? All I Irene L. Kim Mary (2 1/2) and Nancy (14 Grounds who was married in May own are shoes. And a few nice 137 Mercer Street Apt. 2 months) and said they “keep me 2002, to Micah Gorin in Boston. skirts and sweaters. Jersey City, NJ 07302-3473 very busy and are lots of fun! [email protected] Congratulations to Carin Q: In case any o f our female readers Moonin and Justin Grow ’91, who are interested, are you single? were married on June 2, 2002. A: Please define “single.” 1993 Q: Where are you right now? A: In Los Angeles, working on Darcey Carlson Leonard two books that may never see 29 West Cedar Street the light of day. But I’m usually Boston, MA 02108-121 1 in downtown New York. [email protected]

Q: What do you wish you knew then ? A dam D. Petrick A: That life is better when I’m not 1776 Yardley Road Yardley, PA 19067 taking myself too seriously. Darcey Carlson Leonard send this Journal idea no.2: What are column: “Dan Bushell currently your incredibly small world sto­ lives in Pittsburgh, PA with his ries about fellow alums? I could Mary (2 1/2) and Nancy (14 months), children of Meg Young Yoder ’89 wife Rivka and two daughters fill the next two columns with my Malky and Nechami. He gradu­ own (usually involving Arianna) ated from the University of Michi­ but I’m really hoping to receive We received a note that Ingrid Sarah Beatty Raterman 1240 Wisteria Drive gan in December 1996, spent 2 yours instead. Mail to: Hoover Smith is expecting her third child in May 2003. Apartment 312 years in Israel, and returned to the [email protected]. Ann Arbor, Ml 48104-4657 states to attend law school at Penn Congratulations to the following Unconfirmed “G” and non- Law, graduating in 2002. He is class of 1989 alumni who cel­ Congratulations to Melissa Museum of Sex-ready photos are currently working for a class ac­ ebrated marriages: Lauren Stuart, Rosendorf who was married to always accepted.” tion law firm. Brian Bilello has daughter of Donald C. Stuart III Charles Calvert on August 2, 2002. Kaaari Moradoff Schulsinger just returned from the West Coast PCD ’56, was married on June 8, And congratulations to alumni sent this note: “We had a baby to start a new job with the New 2002, to Richard Downs, in Cali­ Justin Grow and Carin Moonin girl on October 4, 2002. Her England Patriots/New England fornia; Justin Geisel was married ’92, who were married on June 2, name is Ariel Jenna. David and I Revolution/Gillette Stadium. to Mackenzie Day on October 5, 2002. are living in New York City and Through a reunion questionnaire, 2002 in Virginia; Geoff Maletta we hope to see those PDS alumni we have learned Walter Hosey is was married on June 22, 2002, to who are in New York as well.” 1992 currently studying for his Ph.D. at Melanie Morse; and Macky Alston Elisa De Rochi sent this note: Howard University. He’s also been celebrated his partnership with “I am still living in Montclair, Meghan Bencze a player/coach in Oaxaca, Mexico Nicholas Gottlieb in a commit­ New Jersey, and working at 486 State Street for Universidad Mesoamericana ment ceremony in September in Apartment 1 Montclair Kimberley Academy. and the director of study abroad I was engaged in March 2002 and New York. Brooklyn, NY 11217 [email protected] programs in Mexico, Spain, Costa am getting married in July.” Rica and the Dominican Republic.” 1990 Blair F. Young Congratulations to the follow­ P0 Box 1027 ing alumni who celebrated mar­ Edw ards, CO 81632 Jonathan P. Clancy riages: Hillary Hayes was married 48 Carson Road [email protected] on November 2, 2002, to Ian Princeton, NJ 08540 [email protected] Carolyn Cooper wrote: “Still Donavan Griffith, in a ceremony stacf connected/ Lylah Alphonse wrote: “Still living working on my Ph.D. in com­ at the Princeton University in Westford, Mass., renovating the puter science at Johns Hopkins. Chapel; Scott Feldman was mar­ house, and working at The Globe. Should only be another year or so!” ried to Jayme Radding in New

SPRING 2003 • PRINCETON DAY SCHOOL • 61 York; and Courtney Eckardt was 181st Commencement of the needed vacation to Tokyo!! Sounds 2000 recently married to William Philadelphia College of Pharmacy great to me! As for myself, I am Mangarelli at Trinity Episcopal at University of Sciences in Phila­ back in school! I recently began Jessica L. B att Church in Princeton. delphia. He graduated Summa studying for a degree in Fashion 32 Fox Grape Road We received a note that Emily Cum Laude with the highest Marketing from Parsons School of Flemington, NJ 08822-4011 Hoover Schuller is living in Natick, grade point average in both the Design here in the city, it is a lot of N atasha K. Jacques Massachusetts and both she and undergraduate and graduate cur- work, but I absolutely love it. As 51 B erkley A venue her husband work in Boston. riculums. He is also the recipient for the rest of you guys I hope to Belle Mead, NJ 08502-4622 of the Chairman of the Board of hear from you soon.” [email protected] Ted Chase’s family sent this 1994 Trustee’a Award (cash), Scholastic M a tth e w S. M cG ow an Award, Johnson & Johnson Award note: “Ted graduated from Brown 941 Lyndale Avenue C. Justin Hillenbrand (cash), Lilly Achievement Award, in 2001, and is now living near Trenton, NJ 08629-2409 300 East 59th Street Merck Award, Alumni Association Union Square in Manhattan and Sapna E. T h o tta th il Apartment 1001 Award and Delaware Valley Soci­ working in the business end of the 28630 N. Skycrest Drive New York, NY 10022-2061 ety of Health-System Pharmacist television industry.” [email protected] Ivanhoe, IL 60060 Award. He was the past president [email protected] Marika Sardar of Rho Chi, the National Honor 1998 670 Fulton Street, #2 Society of Pharmacy for the year Sapna Thottathil sent this note: Brooklyn, NY 11217 2000-2001. He is currently en­ M arin S. B litzer “This past year I have been work­ [email protected] rolled in the Clinical Residency 31 S terns Road # 2 ing with a student environmental Brookline, MA 02446 group on campus to make the We received a note that Andrew program at the University of marinblitzerl 980@ hotmail.com University of Chicago more energy Sicora announced, in November, Wisconsin in Madison. efficient. I’ve also been working his upcoming wedding to take Katherine Knapp announced G iovanna G. Torchio on a campaign to push renewable place in Quito, Ecuador. He is her engagement to Jordan Forister 1895 Jackson Street, #702 San Francisco, CA 94109 energy in Chicago. A new wind marrying Patricia Castro, a Schaeffer. They are planning a [email protected] farm is being planned in Illinois woman he met on his first AFS summer wedding and then she by a company that is currently program some years ago. will be attending law school in Mike Bracken sent this note: supplying wind power to many Veronica WTiite sent Colorado in the fall. “Working at investment banking East Coast schools. Hopefully, this note: “Working at the firm, Sandler O’Neill & Partners our administration and facilities Metropolitian Museum of Art on 1997 in New York City.” will join all of your schools back a sculpture exhibition and on a home and make the decision to Ph.D. in art history at Columbia Mandy Rabinowitz 1999 purchase renewable wind energy University.” 1429 2nd Avenue Apartment 4 by the end of this academic year! New York, NY 10021 Nikhil Agharkar Anyway, that’s what I’ve been 35 Pettit Place 1995 [email protected] focusing most of my academic Princeton, NJ 08540 year on. I hope all of you are Ellyn R. Rajfer [email protected] Eric S. S chorr proud of your schools, and will 13 Derby Street 37 Fitch Way Robyn Wells continue to fight for such ethical Reading Princeton, NJ 08540-7609 479 Jefferson Road Berkshire RG1 7NX, [email protected] causes!” Princeton, NJ 08540 [email protected] [email protected] Mandy Rabinowitz sent this col­ 2001 Melissa J. Woodruff umn by e-mail: “As always I hope Joanna B. W o o d ru ff 436 Mount Lucas Road this installment of the Journal finds 43 Partridge Run Nick Sardar Princeton, NJ 08540 everyone well. Unfortunately some Belle Mead, NJ 08502 9 B raem ar Drive [email protected] of you guys just aren’t keeping me [email protected] Princeton, NJ 08540 Congratulations to Melissa informed like you used to... so [email protected] Sean Merriweather wrote: “So Morgenstern who was married in I bring you whatever information far this year is going well. I’m Ashton Todd December 2002, to Shawn Burger. I can, and expect to get some new excited about finishing up. During 20 Boudinot Street and exciting stuff for next time Princeton, NJ 08540 our homecoming week at Emory, 1996 around! In NYC, I have seen a few [email protected] of you, Janie Egan is still working I actually won the Ms. Emory title hard at Morgan Stanley. One recent — it’s pretty funny. Hope every­ Jessica Feig sent this note: “LOV­ Sonal M. Mahida one is doing well.” ING GW ...I am double majoring 10 Colt Circle evening the two of us were fortu­ Kelila Green wrote: “Just in the business school, concentrat­ Princeton Junction, NJ 08550-2247 nate enough to run into John Whittaker who is working as a wanted to say “hi” and see how ing in marketing and events man­ Karen B. M asciu lli pharmaceutical rep. I often see everyone is doing. I am loving agement. I am currently interning 2535 Sunset Drive another one of our classmates from Boston; the city is great, and for the Washington Wizards bas­ Apartment 360 I cannot wait to get out there in ketball team, and just finished Longmont, CO 80501 the old days; Chuck Buck is work­ the “real world” Mr. Q always serving as public relations chair­ [email protected] ing at Deutsche Bank (or should I say living there) and residing in the talked about.” man for my sorority, and will be We received the following news via East Village. As for Bryan Esposito, recruitment chairman for spring e-mail about Edward Li: He re­ and fall of 2003.” he is in Atlantic City where he [email protected] ceived his Doctor of Pharmacy The college guidance depart­ works for Ballys. In February Mike c o n n e c te d / degree on May 21, 2002 at the Zarzecki was able to take a much- ment at PDS received word from

62 • PRINCETON DAY SCHOOL • SPRING 2003 Colgate University that Michael a Rotary International Exchange Fishbein was recently inducted to Program in Chile, learning Span­ Phi Eta Sigma, their academic ish, studying the culture, and honor society which is based on learning a lot about life, both my high academic achievement during own and the idea in general. So CareerlnterLink the first year at the university. far it has been an incredible six Congratulations! months. Hello to everyone I have Matthew Levine wrote: “I am not seen since August.” ONLINE a sophomore at Emory University As for me, I have been loving where I was named to the Dean’s Stanford and the west coast. I get List freshman year and inducted to train with some of the fastest into the National Society of Colle­ swimmers in the nation, and it is Looking for help with career transitions? giate Scholars this past fall. I was truly the most fun I’ve had on a accepted into the Goizueta Busi­ team. We are currently ranked Using the PDS website (www.pds.org), ness School beginning the spring eighth in the nation, but we are 2003 term.” going to finish much higher than go to the Alumni section and click on that at NCAAs. We have a great Career Interlink. You can now access a 2002 shot at winning! I’m loving the quarter-system and my classes. I’ll database of alumni who have offered to Andrea Swaney be staying here over the summer Stanford University to train and to possibly do some assist other PDS alums in answering RO. Box 14652 research regarding the social sci­ Stanford, CA 94309 ences with a professor I have this [email protected] questions about career choices. There is quarter. Margaret Sayen Sarah Elmaleh sent this note: also a section on the page for you to add 18 Maple Lane “Just completed six months in Pennington, NJ 08534-3313 Vietnam and Thailand, traveling your name to the database as a career Andrea Swaney sent this e-mail and working. I will be a deckhand column from California: “Amy on a schooner for three months resource. Perlman, a student at American and will be going to Wesleyan www.pds.org University in D.C., has been University in the fall of 2003.” taking advantage of all the area and university have to offer. She recently met Bradley Whitford, cast member in the NBC series “The West W ing,” during a shoot in Dupont Circle. She sees and gets together with class o f’02 classmate Brett Haroldson fre­ Class Notes quently. She has also joined the Alpha Lamda Delta National Send us vour news for the Flonor Society. Brett, also at American, says he is really enjoy­ Fall 2003 Journal! ing college. He loves his classes, and is also making plans to pro­ duce and possibly act in several If you enjoy reading about your classmates in the Journal, please share TV shows on AU’s TV station: your news! Send your information and photographs via e-mail or regular ATV. mail to the class correspondent listed at the top of your class listing. Ari Paul, a student at UPenn, was on the Ivy League Division- If there is no class correspondent, please send your information winning fencing squad. He is to our special mailbox at PDS for class notes: competing on the Varsity Fencing Team. He is also involved with some research of the Fragile X Syndrome in Stellar-Chance [email protected] Laboratories of the University of Pennsylvania Department of The deadline for the Fall Journal is: Genetics. He is the librarian of June 27, 2003 the Philomathean Society, an organization dedicated to all matters intellectual. Princeton Day School does not verify the information in the Class Notes section and cannot Jeremy Johnson wrote: “I be responsible for the accuracy. The Class Notes section o f the Journal is offered to alumni decided to take a year off. Since for their use in exchanging news and updates on their classmates. August I have been taking part in

SPRING 2003 • PRINCETON DAY SCHOOL • 63 IN MEMORIAM

We wish to extend our deepest sympathy to the families and friends of the following alumni, faculty, trustees, and alumni parents.

Saul Amarel John Lapsley ’50 Father of Dan Amarel ’76 Chris Lazzaretto Elizabeth Nawrath Cobb Husband of Nora Cuesta Lazzaretto ’78, brother-in-law of Former physical education faculty at Miss Fine’s and PDS, Carolyn Cuesta ’83, and son-in-law of Marcelino Cuesta former coach and a 1998 Athletic Hall of Fame Inductee and Nora Cuesta, former faculty members

Darryl Crossland Elizabeth Menzies ’33 Brother of Dawn Crossland ’83 Ryan James Mullaly 01 Margaret Maier de Forest ’28 Leonore Paneyko John Coulter Duncan ’74 Grandmother of Caroline Paneyko ’09, Son of Nellie “Petie” Oliphant Duncan 51 and former trustee Lauren Paneyko 13, and Julia Paneyko 15 Stuart Duncan II and brother of C. Allison Duncan '79 and Henry Stuart Patterson II Creigh Duncan ’76 Former trustee and father of Abby Patterson ’69, Phyllis Feller Henry S. Patterson III ’70 and Michael V. Patterson ’77 Mother of Joseph M. Feller ’76 and Michelle R. Feller ’85 Elizabeth Price Richard Fenton Wife of Carl Price and mother of A. Turner Price ’72 Husband of Mary Jo Gardner Fenton ’45 and Chris W.H. Price ’79

Elizabeth Bunting Fine Milton Salmon Former faculty Grandfather of Bennett J. Matelson ’88 and Sara J. Matelson ’90 Elizabeth Hutner Flemer ’73 Wife of William Flemer IV ’71, sister of Louise Hutner ’70, Jay Santarlasci ’93 Nat Hutner ’65, Simeon Hutner ’77, and sister-in-law Fay Ginsburg Schragger of Heidi Flemer Hesselein ’70, daughter-in-law of Grandmother of Andrew Schragger ’85, William Flemer III ’37 and Elizabeth Sinclair Flemer ’43 Richard Schragger ’88 and Michael Schragger ’92 William A. Hall, M.D. Ann Smith ’56 Father of Jan Hall Burrus ’72 Sister of Ralph Smith ’57, great aunt of Claire Stanton ’11 Dorothy M. Hindley and Eloise Stanton ’ 14 Mother of PDS Artist-In-Residence Elizabeth Hill Stretch Ross A. Hindley Sister of Joyce Hill Moore ’42 Donald J. Hofmann, Sr. John Tassie Jr. ’58 Father ol Trustee Donald J. Hofmann, Jr. Brother of Mark Tassie ’67 and former and Grandfather of Jeremy Hofmann ’04 PDS teacher Sara Boyd, uncle of Amanda and Jonathan Hofmann 06 Scherck 96, John-Henry Scherck 04, Virginia Wikoff Hudler Chris Boyd ’99 and Jess Boyd ’97. Mother of Nancy Hudler Keuffel '58 Peter Laird Vielbig ’89 Eileen Douglas Johnson Brother of Leslie Del Col ’85 and W ile ofTristam B. Johnson ’34 Alexander Vielbig ’92

Mary M. Johnson David Wilkinson Former Miss Fine's School faculty Father of Kent Wilkinson ’79

Frederick Knott Harry Woolf Father ol Dr. Anthony Frederick Knott ’77 Father of Aaron Woolf ’82 Photo by Elizabeth Menzies ’33. and Sara Woolf’85 Reprinted from The Link, April 1938

• PRINCETON DAY SCHOOL • SPRING 2003 IN MEMORIAM

Two Former Faculty Remembered Elizabeth Bunting Finey Elizabeth Nawrath Cobb

Elizabeth Bunting Fine she moved to Ann Arbor in the fall of 1989. There she tutored various high school and university students in Latin. lizabeth Bunting Fine, a former faculty member, died She is survived by her son John V.A. Fine, Jr. (a Professor of at home in Ann Arbor, Michigan on November 26 at History at the University of Michigan), her daughter-in-law the age of 94. She grew up in Madison Wisconsin, E Gena Fine, and two grandsons, Alexander (Sasha) and Paul. graduated from the University of Wisconsin in 1928. She Memorial contributions may be made to the scholarship went to Yale, where she fund of Princeton Day School or the League of Women earned her Ph.D. in 1933 Voters (local or national). under the direction of Michael Rostovtzeff. There she met her Elizabeth Nawrath Cobb husband, John V.A. Fine (a nephew of school ormer coach and physical education teacher Elizabeth founder May Margaret “Betty” Jane Nawrath Cobb passed away on February Fine), who received a 27, 2003 in Waterville, Maine, near Belgrade where Ph.D. in Classics the same she lived with her husband, Philip. She died after a long year. After several years in battle with lung cancer. Williams-town Mass., the She came to Miss Fine’s in 1951 when couple moved to she was a member of the United States Princeton, where her Women’s Lacrosse Touring Team. She husband had a distin­ toured with the team for two seasons in guished career teaching Europe in 1949 and 1950. With some Greek History at time off to raise her family, she taught at Princeton from 1940 to MFS for 14 years and continued at PDS 1971. Elizabeth was very until her retirement in 1968. active in Princeton, teaching Greek and Latin at Miss Fine’s In 1998, she was inducted in the Elizabeth Cobb from the 1950 s until her retirement in June 1988 at the age of PDS Athletic Hall of Fame and honored from the 1960 Link. 80. She is fondly remembered as a teacher and lover of books. as an exceptional coach and physical education teacher at In addition to her teaching, she was very much involved Miss Fine’s School. During her tenure, P.E. classes and in Princeton community affairs, working actively for the practices doubled, and she added lacrosse, archery and League of Women Voters and various town commissions, tennis to the sports offered. She fashioned the MFS athletic especially involved in open spaces, parks, and recreation. She program into a modern, competitive and highly respected played an model at a time when many schools did not even offer girls interscholastic competition. Latin Prize Named in Honor of Fine instrumental role in From the age of eight, Betty spent every summer but PDS has named the latin prize, which will establishing one, during World War II, in children’s camps either as a be awarded to a graduating senior each the first camper, counselor or director. In 1959, she and her husband year, in honor of the late Elizabeth Fine, public bought and began running Camp Runoia in Belgrade Lakes, former Upper School language teacher. swim m ing Maine. She spent more than 65 years in organized children’s pool in camps and received the Halsey Gulick Award for Distin­ Princeton, in developing open housing, and in establishing guished Service from the Maine Youth Camping Association, parks, particularly those that preserved the environment, the as well as various service awards from the American Camp­ most prominent of which was the Princeton Arboretum ing Association’s New England Section. (formerly the Veblen Woods). She also actively fought for Memorial contributions may be made in her name to the consolidation of Princeton borough and township in two Camp Runoia Alumnae Organization Scholarship Fund, d o hard-fought campaigns, the first of which was sponsored by Treasurer Lucy Baruch, 101 Overbrook Road, Piscataway, the League of Women Voters. After the death of her husband, NJ 08854.

SPRING 2003 • PRINCETON DAY SCHOOL • Alumni Games

(above) The women’s game saw PDS varisty players enjoy battling with some stellar (left to right) Alumni soccer game. Left to right, Dave alumnae ice hockey players. Front row, I to r: John Cook ’56, Robin Cook McConaughy McCord ’79 with son Douglas, Tony Dell '80 with son ’87 with a friend’s child, Varsity Coach Meghan Hishmeh, Christina Koerte '02, Jamie Andrew and Lou Guarino ’79 with son Charlie all of Martin ’03, Christina Costa ’05, Heidi Morse’04. Back row, I to r: Cynthia Griffin Ferris '81, whom enjoyed playing in the Alumni Soccer Game. Phoebe Vaughn Outerbridge '84, Carly Berger ’04, Claire Hoppenot '03.

(above) Alumni soccer game. Front row, I to r: Chris Palsho ’02, Alex Stanko ’02, Tom Feurstein ’03, Alex Sussman ’02, Cynthia Griffin Ferris ’81, Adam Sternberg ’85, L.indsey Sternberg '95, Gerard Sternberg. Michele Sternberg '87, Mike Sieglen ’02, Dave McCord was coaxed into playing ’79. Second row, I to r: Nick Sardar ’01, Lauren Sanders ’01, Andrew Miller ’01, Zack Faigen ’01, Lou Guarino ’79 (with by her sisters Barbie Charlie in front), Aaron Schomberg LS science teacher, Larry Pierson’80. Third row: I to r Russell Nemiroff ’02, Ryan Griffin Cole ’78 and Sarah Palsho '05, Will Dewey '03, Larry Pierson’s son, Theo. Griffin Thompson ’84.

66 • PRINCETON DAY SCHOOL • SPRING 2003 Alumni Gatherings

(above, and above left) On Wednesday, October 23, 2002 the alumnae/i of Miss Fine’s, Princeton Country Day and Princeton Day School in the New York City region gathered for a cocktail party at the home of Ken and Susan Schildkraut Wallach ’64 with Head of School Judy Fox.

(below) Newell Thompson ’82 and Sarah Griffin Thompson ’84 hosted the first annual dinner of the past presidents of the Alumni Board in their Princeton home. Pictured from left, seated, are: A. Markell (Mickey) Shriver ’46, Thomas Gates ’78, Sarah Thompson, Head of School Dr. Judy Fox and Newell Thompson. In back: Anne Williams '74, left, and Cary Dufresne '77. Alumni Board President Rob Olsson ’78, not shown, joined the group for an evening of reminiscing about their tenure as president.

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