The Many Levels of Patricia Rozema By Ramona Westgate ing the making of “Grey Gardens.” applies to her films. f you are a lesbian over the age She described her creative process as With the frequent of 30, then as a rite of passage how she uses what she has learned in eruption of belly Iit is unlikely you have not seen life and applies it to her work. Sharing laughs from the au- “When Night is Falling.” Although an analogy of how she incorporates ditorium, it is not it is no more wondrous than any of what she learned at her Calvin College so surprising that writer/director Patricia Rozema’s philosophy class about a glass (or a Patricia describes work, it was at the time a rare op- pen) existing on a multitude of levels. herself as “inher- portunity to see two women falling It ‘functions on an aesthetic level, ently funny” if not in love and making love on screen. a historical level…, an economical somewhat ironic Patricia was recently in Halifax to level…, on a biological or chemical when she calls her- headline the first ever WIFT-AT level… the more levels you can ad- self “laughable re- “Women Making Waves” conference. dress on each square of the world ally.” At one point I had the distinct pleasure of both the richer it is.” This combined with admitting she al- sitting in on the opening session, A her first (borrowed) mantra as a film ways “had the de- Voyage of Discovery, and was able to maker to “make it simple but burst- sire to be on the chat with Patricia later that morning. ing at the seams.” She strategized to outside of the law” During the opening session, Patri- “always trying to find that central and is thankful that cia discussed her work in an interview line, that one cord that runs through her Calvinist up- you can create something that is very love of women and sincere apprecia- format with art journalist Christina the whole thing. It’s simple at the bringing meant “the law was don’t beautiful from beginning to end and tion of her friendships with men. She McLean. Christina led Patricia on a beginning, I clutter it up with feel- buy things on Sunday, because if it it will always remain thus.” is remarkably modest for her stature, chronological journey through her ing and thought and image, reaction had been normal, I’d be selling meth Sitting down with Patricia one on so much so that conversing with her feature films. Participants were given and style and atmosphere and plot, or something.” All joking aside, she one, it is easy to see there are just as was so engaging that it felt more like a glimpse into how Patricia’s mind plot, plot… Then I strip away again credits her success to hard work, and many levels to her as her philosophi- meeting a new acquaintance at les- works as she shared her insights from to find the line, that simplicity and her need to explore new avenues for cal glass of water, and she seems to bian dinner party than interviewing herself described surprise success of hopefully there is a beautiful, simple her artistic expression. She admits value them all on the same level. She an Emmy award winner. Yet there “I’ve Heard the Mermaids Singing” rich essence left.” she craves the challenging insecuri- appears to take a great deal of joy is something mesmerizing about her to her conflicting feelings on “the Patricia appeared to captivate ties of “I want to be a little nervous from her parenting. She is proud to passion for life and her work that thrill of voyeurism” as we “enter a conference participants with the if I can pull it off.” Ultimately she be a Canadian, stating that “Canada sets her apart and reminds you that new era of less and less privacy and same “one half drama, one half describes what she terms the dream is the best place to live in the world if more and more exhibitionism” dur- humour” recipe for success that she of all dreams is to “defeat death… if you are a lesbian.” She has a genuine Cont’d on page 4

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awareness event at the Champlain Also, we have been working on Mall. On February 12 at 12:30 p.m., creating awareness posters, which we a few dozen people froze for three will launch during this year’s Sexual minutes in a certain pose close to Diversity Awareness week (March the food court. With Valentine’s 21-25). The posters feature members Day nearby, we created this event to of the Un sur Dix Association and raise awareness of the diversity of University of Moncton students and couples and to send out the message have the following themes: stere- that “love is love, no matter what otypes, homophobia, love is love and your sexual orientation.” Although educating children. the public was wondering what was If you wish to be a member of Un going on at first, they read our signs sur Dix and/or if you need support, Un sur Dix Sexual Diversity March during Sexual Diversity Awareness Week in March 2010. They marched around University of and understood the meaning of the you can contact us by e-mail at un- Moncton’s Campus with the pride flag, posters and signs, and will be doing it again on March 22 as part of Sexual Diversity Week 2011. event and even applauded once we [email protected]. We also have had finished. We had attracted the a website (etudiants.umoncton.ca/ media (Here Magazine), which did umcm-unsurdix) where we regularly by Chantal Thanh Laplante sexual orientation, awareness booths community. an article on our “Love Freeze” the post our past and upcoming activities. n sur Dix is a University of and presentations, support and dis- Although many people might week after. Moncton association for the cussion groups and more. Following think that universities are homopho- ULGBT community and their our presentations with high school bia-free environments, this is not the allies. Our mission is to ensure their students, many French schools have case. At University of Moncton, we well-being, as well as to end homo- created their own Gay-Straight Al- often have our posters ripped off the Regular Columns phobia. The services and activities liances (GSA). We have an annual walls or thrown in the garbage. LGBT Chef’s Corner 10 • Groups & Services 12 • I Am What are not only for students, but for “Sexual diversity awareness week” students are laughed at or criticized I Amherst 5 • Kibitz and Bitch 6 • Lesbian Soap Box the entire community as well. The in March where LGBT students and for their “feminine” or “masculine” Diaries 4 • Ramblings From The Sanctuary Garden 11 • 2010-2011 executive consists of allies walk around the Moncton uni- styles; we know of at least three Last Word 14 president Chantal Thanh Laplante, versity campus with rainbow flags, LGBT students that tried to commit vice-president Jean-Roch Savoie, and awareness posters and signs. We par- suicide in the last year. This is why an Deadline for May issue: Friday, Apr. 1 (first executive members Estelle Lanteigne, ticipated in 2010’s Pride Parade and association like “Un sur Dix” exists Friday of every month!) submissions@wayves. Lyne Michaud and Céline Comeau. did an interview on Radio-Canada’s on campus and will continue to offer ca • Online: www.wayves.ca • Join us on Face- We hold regular activities such as show “Luc et Luc” this past January, services for the community. book: Wayves Magazine Rocks! • and Twitter: monthly pizza lunches, movies on which gave us a lot of visibility in the We recently organized a public @WayvesMagazine 2 — April 2011 — Wayves Fetish Ball in Halifax By Don Murchy play we can find before show time. New this year, the School of Kink The Eighth Annual Fetish Ball will The Fetish Contest at 11:00 p.m. will be hosting an Interactive Dun- be held this year on April 30 at the will be judged by three local celeb- geon from noon to 4:00 p.m. The Fleet Club in Barrington St. Doors rities from the local Community. Interactive Dungeon will showcase will open at 8:00 p.m. and close at Simple rules: all genitals are covered, some of the Fetish community’s 2:00 a.m. The Show starts at 9:00 p.m. as well as female breasts, and no butt most popular forms of play. We’ll with the Fetish Wear Contest at 11:00 cheeks are to be showing. The outfit have flogging, spanking, and other p.m. and dancing till close. can be spiky, lacey, leathery, rubbery, forms of impact play, as well as nee- The Fetish Ball is the biggest fun- latex-y… you get the idea. We are dle play, wax play, fire play, and the draiser for a number of local fetish here to have fun with people who we always popular violet wand and rope groups and not-for-profit groups. have gotten to know over the years bondage. The three to four hundred people and with new folks of a like minded This is a perfect opportunity for from all orientations that participate attitude. the public to come out and experience always have a great time, and have Some of the reasons to come to what we do first-hand. Many of our a chance to win some decent prizes the Fetish Ball are to support our lo- local community members have vol- from the local Sponsors like Venus cal fetish groups, check out the latest unteered their time and expertise to Envy, Halfway Creations, Night fetish fashions, connect with the best make sure the experience is a positive Magic, Booty Boutique, Wayves and Dom(mes) and subs in the Maritimes, and safe one. Everyone is welcome to the Coast. see how to join some of the local fet- try out anything being showcased as Our host this year will be Rouge ish and BDSM groups, see the erotic either the giver or the receiver. We’ll Fatale. The show, which includes the and exotic acts being put together by give tips and hints to make sure you Noveltease exotic dancers, displays local groups and to feel free to be feel comfortable with whatever you involving bondage, Vac Bed, flog- who you really are—even if it is only choose to experience. ging, violet wand play, foot worship for a night. Please join us April 30 from noon and trampling, gender bending, At this year’s Fetish Ball Weekend, to 4:00 p.m. at the School of Kink’s Puppy and Kitten play, rope dancing Masque will host the Friday Evening Interactive Dungeon and then the and suspension and any other edge party. Fetish Ball at 8:00 p.m. Atlantic News Continued next page and has become an annual us to ponder action speaking louder May event around the world. than words. Demonstration at a previous Fetish Ball. We remember those we have The reading of names of the loved lost to HIV/AIDS, and offer ones we have lost is always the most Safe Harbour at p.m. For more information please support to people living with touching part of the evening. call (902) 866-1003, e-mail at jaki. HIV/AIDS. At AIDS Saint So please join us on Sunday, May Crossroads [email protected] or visit the website John, we have been dedicated 15, at 7:00 p.m. at St. Vincent’s Con- At the end of the service on March at www.jakidurocher.com. to celebrating this event since vent Chapel (side entrance) on Cliff 20, Safe Harbour MCC’s minister the late 1980s. St . You being with us matters. Jennifer Paty announced that she This year, reflective music In addition, please mark your can no longer continue with the Corbet In Russia provided by local artists such calendars for the AIDS Saint John congregation. Wayves contributor and acclaimed as Debbie Adshade, Theresa Annual General Meeting, to be held Paty cited financial reasons — the Canadian portrait artist Christian Rogers, and the Saint John Wednesday, May 25 at 6:30 p.m. at very modest Safe Harbour stipend vs. Corbet is the first Canadian artist to AIDS Saint John String Quartet will set the tone for a Centenary Queen Square on Went- the cost of living and taxes in Canada have a sculpture added to the perma- very powerful evening. Once again, worth Street. For more information ­— and spiritual divisiveness within nent collection of the State Darwin Memorial we will be joined by dancers from the call (506) 652-2437 or e-mail aidssj@ the congregation which have only Museum in Russia. The International AIDS Candlelight Port City Dance Academy. Father Bill nb.aibn.com. seen modest improvements during Corbet was commissioned in Memorial had its beginnings in 1983 Elliott, our guest speaker, will call on her time with Safe Harbour. 2009 to create Board member Angela Croft con- a portrait bust firmed that the organization is not of Charles financially stable. Darwin on The church will examine its future the bicente- at the Annual General Meeting after nary of Dar- the service on April 3. win’s birth. Charles Dar- win (1809- HERSTORY 1882) was a HERSTORY is a passionate visual Naturalist and ART show about our grandmoth- most famous for his groundbreaking ers’, aunts’, and mothers’ influences writing entitled: “On the Origin of and how these translate into our own Species” published in 1859. Corbet creative processes. It is a reflection of was a natural selection to sculpt this their stories fused within our own. portrait, as the Corbet family had Local artists Dawn Josey and Jaki known Charles Darwin. Durocher will exhibit their art at the Nicolas Simakov of the State Nova Scotia Archives Gallery located Darwin Museum at The Museum of at 6016 University Avenue, Halifax, Natural History in Moscow wrote in for the month of April. Opening an email statement“…I have told to night is April 6 from 6:00 – 9:00 our keepers in order to find out if

Allan James Francis This world has become a little bit t h o s e dimmer. Allan James Francis, 35, h i g h - from Indianbrook, “Little Al,” h e e l e d “Alexis From Texas,” “Allen Fufu,” sneakers “Alley Kat”as we knew her has left that no us to join the spiritual world. Little one else Al lived all of her life with courage had or and style, always dressing and cel- could walk in. Even in ebrating her woman spirit. Life on Maine she would be raking blueber- the Rez and in the blueberry camps ries in full drag, never getting dirty at Maine was a bit more fabulous and keeping up with any of the with her there. All the Shubiewacker men. Little Al is survived by her women were a bit envious when family and friends and by her drag Little Al appeared, especially with sister and best friend, Rob Michael. Wayves ­— April 2011 — 3 Order Flowers, Receive Homophobia by Nathan Adams to celebrate what is important in ises has caused much uproar with “I am choosing to decline your busi- your life,” he stated. “This is going the gay community, resulting in ness. As a born again Christian, I to stay with them for years, because numerous petitions, news cover- must respect my conscience before they were again told that their lives age, and on Saturday, March 19, God and have no part in this matter.” are not okay.” about sixty people gathered for a This is what’s stated in the e-mail Kim It is hard to believe that in this day peaceful protest in front of the Evans, owner of Petals and Promises, so much fear still exists in society, yet Riverview shop. a flower shop in Riverview, NB, sent religion is supposed to justify it? Well, In an effort to show that this is to a lesbian couple who were prepar- I’m sorry, Kim Evans, but my God not going to be forgotten, mem- ing for their wedding. At first Ms. is a loving God who loves all of his bers of the LGBT community Evans had agreed to make the floral children equally! and supporters rallied at Petals and arrangements for the wedding, but Section 5 of the New Brunswick Promises, leaving flowers on the when she learned it was for a same sex Human Rights Act states that “No doorstep. Meredith Martell, organ- wedding… an anxious couple waiting person shall deny to any person or izer of the event, stated that it was to see their beautiful flowers received class of person, any accommodation, an absolutely incredible turnout. nothing but homophobia. services or facilities available to the “Thank you, thank you, thank you Although the couple wishes to re- public because of race, color, religion, everyone who came out today, it About 60 people showed up for the peaceful demonstration in Riverview, N.B. against a flower main silent, Mario Bourgeois Leduc, national origin, ancestry, place of could not have gone better, you are shop that refused to sell to a same-sex couple, citing religious beliefs. Photo by Nathan Adams. the couple’s wedding planner, stated origin, age, physical disability, mental all just awesome!” on an interview with CBC radio disability, marital status, sexual orien- There was no negativity and no Meredith added. and make a stand for what is right. that he was appalled by the florist’s tation, sex, social conditions, political hostility. “We will give the florist It was an amazing feeling to wit- As long as we all keep reaching out e-mail. “You’re celebrating love and beliefs or activities.” what she was incapable of giving ness the LGBT community and its and moving forward, together we will you’re going against all of the odds The attitude of Petals and Prom- our community, a bit of kindness,” supporters pull together like they did make homophobia a part of the past.

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Rozema Cont’d from Page 1 you are in the company of great tal- lesbian romances because I can do a little time outside of the conference otherwise; I have ent. She has that hopeless romantic straight romance and I can be the guy, to enjoy the city. She did say that “I no doubt she will air about her and seems profoundly or I can be the woman in that. That’s have in the past really loved this city be successful in idealistic. When I asked her if she actually can be just as exciting to me, because I think it’s actually a genu- all of her future felt that being a woman and/or to imagine myself as another sort of inely creative place [and] a genuinely endeavours. lesbian had ever affected her ability being. ‘When Night is Falling’ was warm place. There is a kind of open- For more in- to find work in the film industry she very personal in that it was a struggle ness between people that is actually formation about replied, “I’m a bit oblivious at the in a religious context to come out. It really… relaxed and genuine.” Women in Film best of times. No, really, I’m kind of was a struggle in a religious context to Patricia will soon be flying to the and Television relentlessly, preposterously, optimis- actually really like yourself. And not Thai Burmese border to begin work Atlantic please Acclaimed director Patricia Rozema (centre) runs through a scene tic, so… it may have happened and I think you are a product of damage, or on her next project: a prison film. It is visit the website at from Blue Valentine with actors Lise Cormier and Jim Fowler, didn’t notice.” somehow some psychological incom- not expected to be released for a year www.wift-at.com. while actors Kristin Langille and Anthony Black look on, during the Ironically she thinks the lesbian pleteness. It was always confusing to or more. However, whether it is on a Working with Actors workshop at Women Making Waves, hosted themes contained in “I’ve Heard the me because… in that world they tell personal level, a professional level, or by Women in Film & Television-Atlantic March 4-6 in Halifax. Mermaids Singing” got it “set apart you oh, if you were abused maybe from the hordes… and got it into that would happen or if you had Cannes. I was just lucky that I dared some terrible experience with men. I to treat that sexuality at that time, it had this model childhood and model was 1987. And I was lucky that I did upbringing and model everything it with humour.” I told you she was [yet] here I was, loving women.” modest! She is open regarding her sexual- Patricia admits that she first fell in ity but admits she has “not always love with a woman when she was 15, chosen to discuss it when there was but continued to date men into her a tape recorder in the room because twenties. “It was always pretty clear to I was always terrified that some me that I loved women. What wasn’t creepy guy… would ask me, ‘Tell me clear was whether or not I could love about your first time with a woman?’ a man. I never really fall in love with Sometimes you just don’t want to talk a guy…. I can’t answer why a woman about your sexual history with stran- is a much more intriguing creature to gers. It feels like a bit of an oppres- me than a man. It was traumatic when sion, that I wouldn’t if I was straight I was a teenager for sure. I felt like oh, talk about my first sexual experiences, my gosh my life is gonna be so hard. I and my first sexual desires… because was very, very frightened of my future what makes me different from a almost, when I realized that I would heterosexual filmmaker is sexual, love women and that would be my often I have to talk about that stuff… primary attachment. I was frightened but I don’t want to because… it’s by what my life might look like and personal.” of being humiliated. Being told that I But she is no less proud of be- had less value than anyone else. Now ing a lesbian. “I’m so proud to be a the world has changed very dramati- lesbian. I’m so happy to be a lesbian. cally over the course of my lifetime. It’s a wonderful way to walk down the It’s actually beautiful. It’s beautiful to road; I get the company of extraor- have seen it.” dinary women. I get the intimacy of With regard to “When Night is extraordinary women. I love it!” Falling” she denies any direct paral- Although Patricia has a deep love lels in her character development to of women, you won’t see her march- her own coming out process. On a ing down the aisle anytime soon. “factual” level she does admit “that Patricia feels “anybody who wants to it’s there are on an emotional level marry should be able to marry. I am completely… basically [I] took two absolutely in favour of gay marriage sides of myself and then put them for those that want gay marriage. I in opposition and attraction to each have never wanted to get married. other. Actually three sides, ‘cause I have never felt the desire to bring the male side too… when you write the state into my personal life. I’ve characters you can imagine yourself always thought it was more romantic as another woman, but you can also to choose to be with someone every imagine yourself as another man, you day.” can imagine yourself as a child, or a Patricia returned home to Toronto nold dog. That’s why I don’t only do after a mere 24 hours, which left her Wayves ­— April 2011 — 5 I Am What I Amherst Amherst Church: Yes To Marriage By Gerard Veldhoven at Tidnish Provincial Park; July 11: ing services to be carried out in that rights activist David Kato who re- By the time this reaches the pages Pride Flag raising ceremony, hosted church. On February 27 the congre- cently was brutally murdered. The of Wayves, we will be into the spring by the town of Amherst; July 12: Car gation adopted to marry same-sex pastor conducting his funeral service season. We can now look back on a wash fundraiser; July 13: Barbecue in couples. This follows the decision by told the mourners that all gays and horrific winter, especially in this neck downtown Amherst; July 14: Cosmic Sackville United Church in Sackville lesbians will go to Hell, causing an of the woods. The cold temperatures, Bowling; July 15: Chill night at the New Brunswick and St. Andrew’s uproar—the mourners grabbed the the huge snow falls and icy condi- shore; July 16: Pride dance! United in Truro to allow such mar- microphone from his hands. An An- tions were rather unusual, even in More details will be available from riages. Trinity was slow in following glican priest made certain Kato had blueberry country. However, now Cumberland Pride as time progresses in their footsteps, but nevertheless a proper burial. One may well ask if lishment carries other magazines we look back and wonder what all and these will appear in Wayves. This the outcome is extremely positive and that sort of behaviour could happen with suggestive advertisements and the fuss was about. The queer com- year’s Pride Committee members are welcome to those wishing to marry here and the answer is a resounding pictures of nude individuals. This munity here is back into full swing Lloyd Petrie, Carrie Everill, Chrystal in a church. I approached Trinity-St. yes. Even as we experience problems is purely a case of discrimination making preparations for our annual Schippers-Everill, Sue Reid, Linda Stephen to hold a re-vote two years here at home, people generally are of against our community. Kudos to Pride Week. Lamirande, Chris Trenholm and ago and lately I wrote again and the the opinion it will not happen in their Janet Hammock and Marilyn Lurch This year Pride Week in Amherst Gerard Veldhoven. decision was made to have another town. Let’s take the blinders off, folks, for approaching the owner, since it will take place from July 10 to 16. Trinity-St. Stephen United Church vote. Kudos to the congregation for and observe all the wrongs we still seems he made up his mind after be- Events have been decided on and the in Amherst voted 75% in favour of recognizing diversity within their experience on a daily basis. ing approached by various customers committee will get all details ironed same-sex marriages in their facility. church and accepting members of We also are concerned about complaining about the advertisement out as time progresses. I am able to This has been a struggle in the past the queer community. Wayves being pulled from the shelves on the back of Wayves. report on each day’s events during as a vote was held on January 27, As we ponder this development of places such as Mel’s Diner in That’s all from Amherst for now, that week: 2002 when it was decided 45 to 40 in Amherst, I am reminded of the Sackville. Double standards remain but check the future pages of Wayves July 10: A Pride Family Picnic not to permit same-sex covenant- funeral of Uganda’s prominent gay a problem, as this particular estab- for updates. Looking Both Ways The Third Sexual Orientation By Sara Montgomery feeling it was this deep and dark had been my roommate and we had as lucky to meet the person of our from its 1995 publication, but very It seems that the hardest part about secret. grooved at a caliber the highest qual- dreams” type of thing. We laughed well researched. Also, more recently, owning one’s bisexuality is resisting At a Grade Nine dance at another ity of mint. We were like in a type and goofed around and agreed to “Sexual Fluidity: Understanding the pressure to choose one label over junior high besides my own, I was of ecstasy in one another’s “het” meet up again later that day for drinks Women’s Love and Desire” by Lisa the other. Everyone wants you to do struck by someone. She was sitting company until she moved away and and supper at Gatsby’s and The Bit- M. Diamond, published by Harvard that. There’s a very strong pull to on a bench in the semi-darkness, we just kept in regular contact. Her six ter End for more tête-à-tête or heart in 2008. choose one and say that it’s better and looking a touch sad, perhaps waiting week stint working with Air Canada in to heart. By talking to people of the third that the “other one” is an aberration. for a dance. She looked forlorn and Halifax had come to an end and she I have been researching bisexuality very real sexual orientation, and read- “Bi Any Other Name – Bisexual beautiful and Cupid’s arrow struck was headed back to home town Que- for two years now. There really isn’t ing about it by experts, I feel that People Speak Out” (1991 – Edited deep into my heart. What the hell? bec City to study nutrition at Laval. a lot out there on the shelves com- this grey area is so multi-layered, so by Loraine Hutchins and Lani Kaa- Funny, but we ended up being I finally decided it was time I told pared to books on homosexuality. buried, so personal and deep, and humanu) close friends all through high school someone about all this heavy stuff. But in particular, I would personally especially from the heterosexual and Some say bisexuality doesn’t exist, and it was a relationship both exhila- One spring sunny day I met my recommend “Vice Versa: Bisexual- gay communities; so full of myths. or shouldn’t exist, that it is all black rating and agonizing. So close but so sister (married/kids) for lunch in ity and the Eroticism of Everyday Bisexuality is natural, confound- and white with a conspicuous absence far away. Boyfriends filled our lives. Point Pleasant Park. We were sitting Life” by Marjorie Garber, a bit dated ing, and ubiquitous. of grey shades. Grey must signify in- Deep down I thought I must be some and dining on the dirt, looking over visibility; however, I would venture to kind of freak! I wouldn’t tell a soul, at a blue sparkling sea. say that non-black and non-white are not even my diary. If someone read “I have something serious to tell From Citadel Hill to Sable Island…I’m here to help. technically in existence but perhaps it, it would be like confessing to a ya.” Leonard Preyra buried deep in an abyss, at most times. murderous atrocity. “It sounds serious. Go on, you can MLA, Halifax Citadel-Sable Island As a quiet, pretty, studious el- By the time I was thirty, I still self- tell me anything.” ementary school girl I had a crush identified as heterosexual. Despite A pause and then I just blurted it “Our ambition should be to rule ourselves, on a dark-haired boy who didn’t say that I was in love with one of my out: “I love Nathalie!” a whole lot in class either. Never did good friends, a woman my age who A pause and then my sister blurted the true kingdom for each one of us; and I reveal how I felt about him and the out, “Oh my God, the same thing true progress is to know more, and be harrowing heart throbbing lasted un- happened to me!” more, and to do more.” Oscar Wilde til junior high. At this point I fell “in We walked the shaded park letting love” with another boy who I wrote loads of crusty old bricks off of our Community Office about incessantly and privately, not chests. We naturally decided to see the 179-7001 Wayves 1_6_K 2/9/07 12:15 PM Page 1 989 Young Avenue Tel: 444.3238 saying a word about my feelings to glass as half full: “Well, we’re twice [email protected], www.preyra.ca even my closest friends. I remember

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At least that’s my rationale for it. the time you get this letter, we may be in the midst of minorities also fall to the bottom. been shown to have higher rates of There are even some crocuses coming up next to my of an election campaign. My bias against Harper is Without a doubt, members of Nova suicide, unemployment and home- gargoyle. (Sounds like the kind of thing your doctor well known to you, Tom, but the number of missteps Scotia’s LGBTQ community are lessness than average citizens. These would prescribe cream for, doesn’t it?) by the “Harper government” is really piling up lately. an underserviced population in our and other social determinants of I am trying to make some minor changes to my Bev Oda accused of lying to parliament, the “book health care system. The Nova Scotia health conspire to reduce the health eating and exercise habits. Things like focusing on keeping” disagreement about use of campaign funds, Rainbow Action Project (NSRAP) of trans Nova Scotians. vegetables for meals with meat or fish as incidentals trying to cut funding to the CBC and on and on. has previously worked with other In Nova Scotia, trans people rather than the center of attention, and walking Most unforgivable in my view is that Harper is just organizations and independently have only been recently identified more, which is easier now that the daylight has so unattractive. I don’t mean in the sense of body to improve the health of LGBTQ as a group that can benefit from returned. Several of us at work have been talking image or anything, I just don’t ever get any impres- Nova Scotians. Over the last year, targeted health care and the need for sion of him as a physical, sexual, sensual being. I NSRAP has formed its own Health increased sensitivity from practition- about trying to be more active and fit. The Anthill Committee to address the disparities ers. After being “off the radar,” trans even has one of those exercise balls in her office. can forgive a lot—and god knows with politicians that LGBTQ people face in the health Nova Scotians face disadvantages in The other day I was attempting to demonstrate a one has to—but I never have any sense of him as care system. our health care system. However, pose called the Plank which is supposed to be es- a person. Maybe it’s because he avoids any contact The health the work of pecially good for the shoulders, back and abs. You with the press and the public that he hasn’t set up needs of LG- There is a higher prevalence many health are supposed to rest your elbows on the ball and and orchestrated himself that he doesn’t project BTQ people in our community of people care profes- put the rest of your weight on your toes with the any human qualities. For all I know he could be an are significant sionals should body in a straight line, like a plank, hence the name. alien, like the pod people from Invasion of the Body and often very struggling with mental not go unno- It looked so easy when the hunky fitness trainer on Snatchers. Come to think of it, that would explain a complicated. ticed. Known to TV demonstrated it but as soon as I put my elbows lot. Oh sure, laugh, Tom, but mark my words. Health care can illness, substance abuse, many commu- on the ball it tried to roll away. The fact that I had Because the world news is so dire these days be preventative nity members in or treatment- smoking and other concerns. the HRM, there only one leg in position meant that I had no leverage I’ve made a conscious effort to lighten the effect focused, but exists a group to stop it. There I am scrambling around with one on me but checking out all the silly and odd items LGBTQ persons often do not have of dedicated social workers, psy- leg extended showing all the grace of a crab with that show up on my Yahoo! homepage. I’ve found access to resources that exist for chiatrists, general practitioners and cramps much to the amusement of the Anthill when some useful things too like the many health proper- them. The reasons for this are nu- endocrinologists that tackle the needs the ball—and my head—met with the side of a table ties of lentils, cinnamon and sweet potato. But my merous, but certainly include fear of of trans Nova Scotians with the in- and stopped. Grunting curses under my breath and real favourites are articles on “Surprising things to real or potential discrimination from sufficient resources they have. These telling the Anthill—heretofore one of my dearest do with a vegetable peeler” or “How digital inserts health care workers. Many LGBTQ services are regrettably only accessed friends—to stop laughing only succeeded in making can add to your life.” I mean really, Tom, how can Nova Scotians also lack extensive so- by a fraction of the population that her laugh louder and longer. On my second attempt one resist? I don’t enjoy knowing about the baby cial and family networks and financial needs them. I did accomplish the proper position and urged her who chain smokes, or the dog that ate some of his reserves that help ease the burden of Across the province, NSRAP master’s toes while he slept. Nor, do I really care illness. There is a higher prevalence will campaign for targeted health to try it. I was standing behind her to help support in our community of people strug- care initiatives, such as mental health her legs when her fit of the giggles came on again, which Hollywood celebs are sleeping with or break- gling with mental illness, substance programs and dedicated practitioners she lost control of her arms and sprawled in a ing up with other celebs. But give me a video of a abuse, smoking and other concerns. to help LGBTQ persons and par- rather ungainly fashion across the ball, ass in the streaker at a football match or voiceovers of exotic In recent years, there have been tre- ticularly trans people cope with the air and the ball vibrating from her laughter. It was animals making rude remarks and I’m happy. Oh, mendous strides toward acceptance greater challenges so many of them at this point that our supervisor opened the door gotta go, Tom. Someone just emailed me a list of of LGBTQ people and the efforts face. In addition to primary health to ask a question. The question was never voiced, funny church signs. Those things kill me. of health care workers and policy care, we also need provincially funded however, since at this point both the Anthill and Love ya! makers have improved the care of our programs that provide access to other I were helpless with hilarity and could not have community. Although many LGBTQ medical interventions related to trans formed comprehensible words. Slowly backing up Nova Scotians would consider their health, such as sex reassignment sur- and shaking her head, the supervisor said not a word access to health care resources gen- geries (SRS). Many provinces publicly erally fair and equitable, more work fund SRS and other interventions, as she softly reclosed the door. must be done to ensure better access resulting in a glaring disparity be- A little mirth is a necessary thing these days with for all members of the community. tween Nova Scotians and Canadians disasters of several different kinds coming in from Despite our progress, there exists in other provinces. NSRAP advocates a disparity with regards to the trans for public funding of medically nec- population. Profound and unaccepta- ble inequalities exist in social settings, Cont’d next page N Desig NN Fly N

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Cont’d from page 6 and encourage resource allocation essary interventions related to trans to better improve the health of our health, which is guaranteed under the community, with particular regard for Canada Health Act. This is a position trans Nova Scotians. that Doctors Nova Scotia and The Faced with great challenges, our Provincial Human Rights Commis- community demonstrates an out- sion support. standing resilience and strength. NSRAP works on societal initia- We stand on foundations built by tives that aim to reduce the inequali- previous advocates for change and ties that lead to the marginalization are poised to work in our own com- of LGBTQ persons and predispose munities to improve our health and them to poorer health care. The exercise our rights as Nova Scotians. NSRAP Health Committee works NSRAP is committed to our health to address the specific needs of LG- care rights and asks for support as BTQ persons, remove policy barriers we make progress in this initisative.

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8 — April 2011 — Wayves Fredericton Travesty Cafe by Eugene Campbell If you are looking for a place to go and show off your poetry skills, read your short stories, present your own style of music, or if you are merely looking for some place to go to enjoy such work, then look no further. There is a place for you. Travesty Cafe, the brainchild of UNB PhD student in Sociol- ogy Shaun Bartone, is open to the public the first Thursday of each month at the UNB Grad House—the Al- den Nowlan House, in Windsor Street on campus. Bartone, a well- Greg Perry, backed by the recorded sounds of his band, known poet, has only “Equal Humanity,” belts out a number, showing his talent been in Fredericton for the Pride week CD release night, held at BOOM nightclub Matt Legere, lead singer of “The Waking Night,” is shown here two years, but has be- in downtown Fredericton during Pride week. Perry is one of doing his thing at the 2010 NB AIDS Walk, held in Fredericton on come very actively in- Local poet Shaun Bartone reciting one of his works. Very eleven contributors to “Just Love.” Proceeds from the sale of September 11 at Officer’s Square. The Waking Night was the featured volved in gay affairs. A active in the local gay community, he is the founder of the the CD will go towards upcoming Pride activities. Photo by act of an afternoon of top-notch entertainment, opened by another native of Providence, Travesty Cafe and, along with Debi Skidmore, is actively Eugene Campbell local rock group, “Midnight Ramblers.” Photo by Eugene Campbell Rhode Island, he is a working towards the opening of a Gay Cultural Centre in former law graduate, downtown Fredericton. Bartone’s composition, “We Dance Sex having practiced the Magik,” is his contribution to the Pride CD, “Just Love.” profession in Massa- Photo by Eugene Campbell chusetts for eight years. Ivan Coyote, who writes short stories, Just Love Openly gay and transgendered, has agreed to come out to do a read- by Eugene Campbell You Know.” Joyce was accompanied singer Jamey Luvs and “Trans- Bartone says he always connected ing at Travesty in March. He said that As part of this year’s Pride Week for one number by fiddler George Sisters.” Luvs said, “It’s really good with being gay, through literature. funding for the appearance has been celebrations in Fredericton, a CD Steeves. The fiddler had previously to be here celebrating Pride with you Although unpublished as a poet, he made available from the League of was launched featuring the works wowed audiences at the gathering guys.” “TransSisters” only exists on contributed to the recently-launched Canadian Poets. and talents of eleven Fredericton- at Officer’s Square following the the internet. She said, “They are all Gay Pride CD, “Just Love,” with his “Erotica is allowed,” he said. “Aca- based artists. A special launch party Pride Parade, with his rendition of transexuals, like me. They are from poem, “We Dance Sex Magik.” He demic work, articles, essays, in fact, was held in honour of the release, at the fiddle classic, “Orange Blossom all over the world.” said that coming out is about telling anything you can read. We also wel- BOOM nightclub, Fredericton’s only Special,” for which he did it credit. Well-known local entertainer people you are gay. “Most people, come small performances, like poetry. gay-friendly gathering spot. Many of Joyce was followed by LOLA Lindsay Morgan performed next. you can’t tell they are gay unless they We have had some of all that stuff.” the performers who contributed to (“Loved Or Left Alone”). Made up She said of “Just Love”: “It’s hot.” tell you. That is what coming out is He said they get at least five people the project were on hand to present of the trio of Barb McMullin, Sarah She entertained the full house with a all about—telling people.” He said each month. “It’s very real—very their recorded work. McAdam and LA Henry, they opened variety of music, including her rendi- that a critical part of coming out is open—that’s what is allowed there. Contributing poet Shaun Bartone, with their rendition of “Fever.” The tion of the Michael Jackson hit “Billy “exploring it through other people’s We have had just about everything. who recited his composition, “We group showed their versatility by Jean.” She was later joined by Sarah stories—thus Travesty Cafe—a place It’s a small group, but every month Dance Sex Magik,” best summed up performing everything from original McAdam and together they received where you can tell those stories. That everybody shows up.” the performances, saying, “We are numbers to “Ring of Fire.” Their cheers for the CD. Morgan said, “It is why I started this thing, because I There is no admission fee to at- here tonight to show the world how contribution to the CD was “When is most likely one of the only Pride just wanted to shout out, ‘I’m Gay!’” tend, and Bartone said that everyone Fredericton does Pride!” Following Your Story’s Told,” written by Mc- CDs in the world.” He says that you don’t have to be is allowed. “It is open to anyone over Bartone was Evans McGee, who Adam and LA Henry. “Just Love” is available at BOOM gay to present your work at Travesty 18. If you are not a UNB student, you performed his contribution, “Street Greg Perry, backed by the re- nightclub in Queen Street in Fre- Cafe, however. “It’s not just for gay have to come as a guest of a UNB Light,” as well as some original mu- corded sounds of his band, “Equal dericton, Tony’s Music Box, and people. It’s for everyone. This is a student,” but he welcomes all. “They sic. He was followed by Moon Joyce, Humanity,” performed his contribu- Backstreet Records, both also in place where you can read gay lit- sell beer to everyone,” he said. “It is who did “Dance the Dance that tion next, followed by transgendered Queen Street. erature, for example. We started out really fun. It is very supportive. Dur- with poetry, short stories, music and ing the school year, it focuses more more.” Now, he is in the process of on poetry and literature. It is a little bit asking the two local rock bands to quieter.” If you would like to attend perform at the monthly get-together. and present your work at the monthly He went on to say that he is pleased get-together, you can reach Bartone to announce that transgender author, at [email protected]. Wayves ­— April 2011 — 9 Diamond Divas Revue 11

Hello darlings! On February 19, Diamond Divas returned to the I would like to take this time to tell you all about Diamond Capitol Theatre in Moncton. Divas, a proud supporter of the CARA Helpline. “This year’s fundraiser to benefit the C.A.R.A. Helpline Inc. has new Each year the producer and director seek out and pick talent, new acts and a few added the best female impersonators from across the Maritimes surprises” said show Producer, Steve to volunteer their time and talents for a wonderful cause. Laviolette. “The Maritimes best Fe- male Impersonators will be having I remember four years ago when I was asked by Wayne you do double takes on some of the Richard and Steve Laviolette to perform for this great cause most famous Divas.” that Diamond Divas supports. I was shocked yet honored and Laviolette added,“Our volunteers of course I said, “Yes!” are golden. Without them this event would not have been possible. And Steve and I e-mailed back and forth a lot on what kind of special thanks, as well, go out to the characters I should choose to perform for this event. I finally ASL interpreters.” settled on Cher and Judy Garland. This was my first time Karen Eustace from CARA would with the company at the Capitol Theatre. like to thank Steve Laviolette and Wayne As show time grew near, so did the rehearsals. Wayne Richard for all their hard work and effort over the years. “It was a fun, entertaining greeted me backstage and showed me around, guiding me evening. Comments were tremendous to the stage for the very first time. I was nervous but glad, and the performers were top of the line.” because I was there for a wonderful cause and to support Clockwise from top left: Elle Noir Cara Helpline. as Patti LaBelle; Deva Station as Cruella When we finished the show and took our final bows, I DeVille; Dyna Might as Christina Aguil- era; Kara Mylk as Donna Summer; Shirley thought, “Wow, this is a great company. I’m very blessed to Albert, ECMA Country Artist; Rouge work with each of these talented performers.” Fatale as Wynonna; Deva Station as Reba; The Capitol Theatre has been very helpful in providing a Empress XI - Ms. Vicki DeKnight; Natas- sha N! as Annie Lennox. great venue for Diamond Divas for 11 years. Photos by Jake Stevens and Ewan Love. Until next year! Miss Julia Jeffries 10 — April 2011 — Wayves

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This will be a 1/4 cup dried shitake mushrooms 2 stalks celery (small dice) nice change of pace with a familiar 1 stalk lemon grass (chopped) concept just re-jigged a bit. Garnish 4 pieces Chinese broccoli down into leaves) The folding of the wontons is dif- 1/2 carrot (julienne) 1 tbsp sliced pickled gin- (Gai-lang) or several broc- 1/2 red pepper (julienne) ficult to explain in words, but when 1 tbsp toasted sesame seeds ger coli fleurettes, cut to bite 1/2 yellow pepper (juli- you see it it’s an “Oh, I see!” type of 2 tbsp scallions cut on the chili infused oil (optional) size pieces enne) moment. bias 2 baby bok choi (broken So I suggest that you Google it or go to YouTube for a live demo. Method This soup is wonderful paired 1. In a 5 qt saucepan on medium heat, sweat the broth vegetables and spices in 1 tbsp of light vegetable oil until with an Austrian Gruner Veltiliner softened. Add the Mirin and reduce by half. 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Review You Better Watch Out by Greg Malone (i.e., he was not a misfit, had lots of away from the Church? “Yes,” he interview with Greg about his Vintage Canada, 2010 friends, and could generally give as said jokingly, he would still like to be book on the CBC’s “As It Hap- Review by Bill McKinnon good as he got in the rough and tum- Pope and “yes,” with sincerity he is pens,” go to www.cbc.ca/asith- Greg Malone, actor, impression- ble St. John’s world of young toughs), still devoted to Dominic Savio, but appens/episode/2009/12/21/ ist, AIDS activist, environmentalist but he was also different in ways with he has otherwise mostly rejected the december-21-2009/ and click and master storyteller, co-founded which some us can identify. He wasn’t Church and believes many boys were “Listen to Part Two.” For more Codco with the late Tommy Sexton. into rugged sports like hockey or severely damaged by their school about Greg see en.wikipedia. Codco was on CBC TV from 1987 soccer, he liked playing house with experiences. org/wiki/Greg_Malone_(actor) to 1992. Greg has numerous stage, girl friends and got called a sissy for How has St. John’s changed since and for more about Codco see film and TV credits and awards and doing it, frequently described some Greg was a boy? Well, in those days, en.wikipedia.org/wiki/COD- is famous for his impersonations of other boys as handsome, had a vivid your door was always open to stran- CO. Episodes of Codco can be the late Barbara Frum, Jean Chretien imagination, liked performing, was gers, but not so much nowadays, viewed on YouTube. and Queen Elizabeth II and has been devoted to his patron saint, Dominic and back then the kids spent most “You Better Watch Out” is described as a comic genius. Greg Savio, liked dressing up in his moth- of their time outdoors, not inside, available your local library, and has written a book about growing er’s clothes, and was scolded by his but today you hardly see any kids on you can buy it online or from the up in St. John’s, Newfoundland in mother for practice kissing with his the street. Bookmark in Halifax or Charlot- the 1950’s, a place and time seem- next younger brother in a game called To listen to Carol Off’s 2009 tetown. ingly magical and different from most “Marilyn and the Monster.” Perhaps people’s home towns and early years. the most telling incident was when, at The stories of Greg’s childhood age 13, he and his closest male friend (his first 13 years) are both hilarious came out to each other. and touching, poignant and charming. I had difficulty putting down Author Joan Clark described Malone Greg’s memoir once I started to Time… as “a writer of deep intelligence with read it, and enjoyed talking to him a profound understanding of the briefly at his recent reading in Hali- to think about investing. absurdities of life.” fax. I look forward to his next book, In many ways Greg’s upbring- “Don’t Tell the Newfoundlanders,” ing was not so much different from the real story of how Newfoundland It’s never too early, or too late, to start investing. that of hundreds of other good joined Canada. It’s not yet published But what’s the best option for you and your lifestyle? Catholic boys growing up in a per- but will be soon. Will Greg write a fect (but maybe not so perfect) sequel covering Codco and other That’s where a qualied Investors Group Consultant family with strict but loving parents events of his later life? 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™Trademarks owned by IGM Financial Inc. and licensed to its subsidiary corporations. MP1343 (10/2007) Wayves ­— April 2011 — 11 Ramblings from the Sanctuary Garden Fracturing the Concrete By Bethana Sullivan information and insight, altering the concrete reality so that…”—this is evidenced by GLBTT reality and by Where am I rambling today as the landscape the questions are embed- the sentence I began and it is a good the complexity of multiple feminist garden is wet, the sky grey and the ded in. And isn’t that how life works, example of the habituation of ideas realities, multiplicity lives, diversity is air cool? Such a contrast to yesterday not as a macrocosm but as a micro- and positions- illustrating wonderfully necessary and interconnections hold when the sky was blue, the air sun- cosm of the yes and the no, of insight the embeddedness of Newtonian us together. warmed and the grass such a green and denial, of possibilities moving us physics in that it is hard to give up Coming back to the lived exist- in some microcosmic garden spots. forward and holding us back at the the idea of a one-reality world. The ence of my garden and my life I am I am reminded that the world holds same time. It reminds me of a couple world, in whatever size it exists, is facing the possibility of change in a all in its hands, the dark and the of precepts from “The Dancing Wu- dominated by certain ideas, genders, big way: for example changing my light, the growth and the destruc- Lui Masters” lists of dancing lessons philosophies and so on yet the word actions in relationships feels like the tion. How can I speak today of the for quantum mechanics: predicting itself-world-holds many possibilities rubbing of the core plates together issues I encounter in my everyday probabilities and observing some- and realities, where gay marriage ex- as in the Japanese earthquake. On a ramblings over the land, when the thing changes it. ists alongside religious opposition, lesser scale, the garden needs some world herself has moved and shaken I think of how the Internet, very feminists come in many colours, fundamental reshaping, involving and rearranged the priorities of costal concretely, though it is only the struc- genders and ages, working alongside time, energy and money, all in short Mary Wesley quote seems appropri- Japanese, when nuclear meltdown is tures of communication that appear each other sometimes against each supply these days it seems to me. So ate here: “They may turn out to be a not an idea but a real possibility. I find concrete, has drawn us into the reality other, where the world is at eye level I am going to learn from the Japanese great disappointment, or perhaps they myself thinking about the decisions of interconnectedness of all that is. of the viewer, from an inset or baby preparations for disaster—plan ahead may be full of enchanting surprises.” the Japanese face as a country, as a We are a web of life, what I do today to an astronaut in space. How percep- as much as you can; work together In writing about interconnected- people who live on top of the so- in my life, in my actions, in my garden, tions change! to recover, heal and build anew; wel- ness it seems appropriate to me to called “ring of fire.” Not that I am affects all. It is a majestic perception So in a quantum physics world it come help and be stoic until a more invite you to send in your feedback, presuming these issues have not been and a humbling one. It can paralyze is possible to experience the domina- appropriate time for grief and other suggest ideas for the column and discussed, argued and reconciled over and it can enable. tion of some by others, the fracture feelings. I will add this to list-where ask questions. Let’s build something and over again in the history of that “But somehow it seems to me lines of that domination, the estab- necessary look at possibilities that at together. Send your words to laby- country. Each generation faces new we still live in a world dominated by lishment of an alternate reality and as first glance seem inconceivable. A [email protected].

Lesbians and STIs by Valerie Windsor of contracting HIV. More research is and keep bodily fluids from entering Did you ask her if she has any sexu- needed on woman to woman trans- each other’s bodies. ally transmitted infections? Do you mission of HIV. Get regular Pap smears and STI have any? What about HIV/AIDS? Chlamydia and Gonorrhea (aka checks. A Pap test is a simple test Nothing like spoiling a romantic mo- the clap) – Both are bacterial infec- that can help prevent cancer of the ment to ask these tough ques- cervix. Women often assume tions before you jump into If your partner does not want that a doctor will automatically bed. But the sobering reality check for STIs when doing a is that women having sex with to disclose her history or refuses Pap smear. This is not usually women can transmit viruses, the case, especially for women bacteria, infections through to use protection at your request, in their late 30s and beyond. sexual contact like touching, You should ask your doctor kissing, exchange of bodily then you might want to re- to check for STIs. fluids, including vagina fluids consider that relationship. Remember, when you are and especially blood to blood partying, that drugs and alco- contact. Lesbians are just as likely tions and can easily be transmitted hol can blur your decision-making to contract an STI as heterosexual through vaginal, oral or anal sex. ability and put you at risk. Infected women. Young sexually active women should menstruating women can easily You need to know each other’s get tested routinely because women transmit an infection. 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Where there is a pos- financial marketplace for the RRSP sibility of infection or one of you has tested positive, you should use solution that is right for you. latex protection to minimize the risk 12 — April 2011 — Wayves W ay v e s G r o u p s A n d S e r v i c e s Atlantic Canada and games to more serious current event ship!. 506-634-8288 email: cqsunited@ regarding PFLAG Canada contact Gemma St, Halifax (Use side door near Maritime discussions impacting the GLTBQ commu- nb.aibn.com web: www.cqsunited.ca, meets Schlamp-Hickey, Atlantic Director at gem- Centre at bottom of stairs) Al-Anon/Alateen: for families & friends of nity. email: [email protected] web: http:// every Sunday (10:30am) at 215 Wentworth [email protected] or Diana Deacon, St. Anonymous HIV/AIDS Testing: 455-9656 problem drinkers. Does someone you know www.unb.ca/clubs/spectrum/ (Group Meets St, Saint John, NB John’s chapter contact at [email protected]) have a drinking problem?. 466-7077 web: Bedford United Church: An Affirming Min- Fridays at 5:30 pm (subject to change, see AIDS Saint John: To improve the quality St. John’s Pride: St. John’s Official Pride www.freewebs.com/alanonmaritimes webpage for updates)) at University of New istry of the United Church of Canada - ALL of life for those infected & affected by HIV/ Organization. web: www.facebook.com/ welcome. 835-8497 email: bedfordunited@ AtlanticCanadianLesbians: Online Group Brunswick - Fredericton Campus, Marshall AIDS, and to reduce the spread of HIV group.php?gid=2497860774 For Lesbians from the Atlantic Provinces. D’Avry Hall, Room 235 eastlink.ca web: www.bedfordunited.com, through education and a needle exchange meets every Sunday (9 am service - Casual AtlanticPoz: A new discussion group is UNB/STU Women’s Collective: Women of program. Call the office for details. 652-2437 Nova Scotia (902) and contemporary - with free coffee and muf- for individuals living with HIV in Atlantic all ages and orientations. , meets every email: [email protected] web: www.aids- Hepatitis Outreach Society: Since 1999 fins before church to take into this service. Canada. web: health.groups.yahoo.com/ Monday at 5pm at the University Women’s saintjohn.com the Hepatitis Outreach Society has been 11 am service - Quieter and more reverent in group/atlanticpoz/ Centre at the SUB Gay Men’s Supper Club: web: www.port- providing support, education and prevention tone, coffee after service. June 13 to around Egale Canada - Atlantic: (888) 204-7777 cityrainbowpride.com, meets 3rd Saturday information for those infected and affected September 12 we have one 10 am service.) email: [email protected] web: www. Moncton (See webpage for more information) at 220 by hepatitis in the province of Nova Scotia. at 1200 Bedford Hwy at Sullivan’s Hill, near Germain St. Saint John New Brunswick 420-1767 in HRM or 1-800-521-0572 Atlantic Gardens egale.ca AIDS Moncton: offers support to people liv- Gender Expressions Atlantic: Support for PFLAG: Provides support to anyone deal- email: [email protected] web: BLT-Womyn of Halifax: Bi Sexauls, Lesbian, ing with HIV and their families and friends, www.HepatitisOutreach.com at Our office transgendered individuals ranging from education and awareness. 506-859-9616 ing with issues of sexual orientation and/or Transgender Womyn’s Discussion Group. Crossdressers to Transexuals. email: gen- gender identity. (506)648-9700 or 648-9227 is located at 2973 Oxford Street, between Sue’s # 499-0335 email: sueandrews1964@ email: [email protected] Liverpool and Cork streets. Please call to [email protected] (No sched- web: www.sida-aidsmoncton.com at (506- email: [email protected] web: hotmail.com web: ca.groups.yahoo.com/ uled meeting. Occasional social events, by www.pflagcanada.ca/saintjohn, meets 1st make an appointment or email Program@ group/blt-womynofhalifax/ (Every second 859-4726 fax) 80 Weldon St, Moncton, NB, HepatitisOutreach.com. invitation only.) E1C 5V8 Friday (1st Friday of each month September Sunday evening 6pm - 7:30pm ) at Dalhousie Healing Our Nations: Healing Our Na- - June from 7:00- 9:00 p.m. No meeting in SUNS GLB Constituency Committee: 494- Women’s Centre 6286 South Street (Beside Moncton Line Dancing: LINE DANCING for July & August. ) at 116 Coburg Street in Saint 6654 at c/o the Students’ Union of NS Dalplex Driveway) Hope to see you at the tions is an Aboriginal HIV/AIDS service all levels from beginner to advanced. No organization that serves the Atlantic region. John, New Brunswick in the Community The Rainbow - Atlantic Awareness Society: next meeting! partner required. No dress code. , meets Health Centre next to St. Joseph’s Hospital. 1.800.565.4255 email: director@access- every Wednesday (8:30pm sharp) at Trian- email: [email protected] DalOUT: DalOUT is the award-winning wave.ca web: www.hon93.ca (Training of- gles Bar, corner of St. George and Archibald. Port City Rainbow Pride: Pride Celebrations Venus Envy Bursary Society: An annual LGBTQ society at Dalhousie University. Committee. email: events@portcityrainbow- We pride ourselves on hosting fun, engag- fered on request at no charge for Aboriginal PFLAG: Supporting all people with ques- award open to all women studying in NS. peoples and/or organizations.) at 15 Alder- pride.com web: www.portcityrainbowpride. web: www.venusenvy.ca/halifax ing and educational events for the entire tions or concerns about sexual orientation com Halifax community. email: [email protected] ney Dr., Suite 3, Dartmouth, NS. B2Y2N2 and gender identity issues. (506) 869-8191 Maritime Transgender Workplace Solutions Saint John LGBTQ Lending Library: over 300 web: www.dalout.ca, meets 2nd Thursday, email: [email protected] web: Amherst and 4th Thursday (from 6 p.m. until 7 p.m.) at Project: Transgender Issues Workshops and www.pflagcanada.ca/moncton.html, meets fiction and non-fiction titles. 634-8288 email: information resource. email: denisesined@ [email protected] (open Monday Sexual Health Centre Cumberland County: the Dalhousie Student Union Building (6136 3rd Monday (Occassionally on the 2nd University Ave., Room 321) ns.sympatico.ca web: www3.ns.sympatico. Monday — please call) at 7:30-9:30pm, through Friday, 9 AM to noon.) at the office Open and inclusive services: information, ca/winpapernews (No meetings, Workshops University of Moncton, Adrien-J.-Cormier of Centenary Queen Square United Church education, workshops, free condoms. 667- Frontrunners Halifax: Running/walking club. by arrangements, Information source when Bldg., Room 302 at 215 Wentworth Street. 7500 email: [email protected] web: 422-7579 email: Bruce.Greenfield@dal. cumberlandcounty.cfsh.info (9 - 5 drop-in or ca web: www.frontrunners.org/clubs/index. requested. Newsletter Odds & Sods bi- River of Pride-riviere de fierte INC. of Greater The UNBSJ Q-Collective: A social and sup- weekly) port organisation for UNBSJ students, staff appt) at 11 Elmwood Drive (Side entrance). php?club=Halifax, meets every Saturday, Moncton: The organization meets regularly, Confidential, hassle-free. Free condoms. and every Tuesday, and every Thursday Mr Atlantic Canada Leather Society: Dedi- to discuss upcoming events and activities, and faculty. 506-648-5737 email: QCollect@ cated to developing gay leather communi- UNBSJ.ca web: www.unbsj.ca/clubs/qcollec- The Cumberland Pride Society: for: gay, les- (Sat: 9:30am, Tue: 6:00 pm, Thu: 6:00pm ) everyone is welcome to attend. check out at Main gates of the Halifax Public Gardens, ties in the Atlantic region. email: waydo7@ time / location posted on the website. Media tive (The UNBSJ Q-Collective is interested bian, bisexual, transgender and transsexual hotmail.com in hearing from other university LGBTQ or- individuals. 660-5143 email: cumberland- corner of Spring Garden Road and South and general inquiries, including registration Park Street. of volunteers and parade particpation, can ganisations and would like to possibly meet [email protected] web: cumberland-pride. Names Project (AIDS Memorial Quilt): sytes.net, meets 3rd Monday (7-9 PM) panels - helping create, and lending. 902- be made from the website or by email. or collaborate.) at Various locations; event GAY, LESBIAN & BISEXUAL YOUTH 454-5158 email: [email protected]. email: [email protected] web: particulars will be emailed to anyone who GROUP AT Q.E.H.: Jeanie Buffet, Counsel- ca web: www.quilt.ca (Call if interested in www.fiertemonctonpride.ca (See webpage registers with the UNBSJ Q-Collective and/ Antigonish lor, at 421-6797 volunteering or making a panel) at 3544 for schedule.) or who gets the UNBSJ weekly “E News”. Get Out, Halifax!: Recreation activities (team Past events include the annual Rainbow Rainbow Warriors: Rainbow Warriors is a Acadia St. Halifax, NS B3K 3P2 Safe Spaces Moncton Region: Education on youth-run support group for LGBTQ youth activities, cycling, running, rowing - you Peace March, guest speakers, movie nights, name it) for metro & beyond!. web: www. Narcotics Anonymous: a fellowship of re- how to create safe environments for GLBT- participation in Maritime Pride Parades, Sup- and allies in Antigonish. We hold social covering drug addicts who meet regularly to TQQ youth. 859-9616 events such as picnics and game nights, getouthalifax.ca at Visit and get on the email porters of PFLAG Canada’s “Communities list for more info. help each other stay clean. 1-800-205-8402 Transgendered Peer Support Group : Encourage Campaign” and “Champions have educational discussions around top- web: centralnovaarea.ca at Call the phone Open to all M2F, F2M, Andro and trans- Against Homophobia”. ics such as stereotypes/assumptions and Girl-ish Productions: Girl-ish puts on hot number or visit the web page for meeting supporters from across Atlantic Canada. transsexuality, and raise awareness in the and heavy bi-monthly-ish dance parties times and places. email: [email protected] surrounding community by participating for queer-ish folks and their friends. web: Woodstock www.girlish.ca Project E: Presentation for youth, on gender UN sur DIX - l’Association des étudiant.e.s in functions such as the Highland Games expression, myth busters, proper terminol- GLB de l’Université de Moncton: Vise à édu- Woodstock GLBT Youth Advocate and Parade and the Farmers’ Market. While our Hal-Gal Mailing List: Low-traffic Yahoo group ogy and other facts. web: www.freewebs. quer, à sensibiliser et à offrir des ressources Family OutReach: Books, movies, advice, group is youth-focused everyone is regard- providing events and information for queer com/xprojecte/ at available via web page dans la langue française. email: unsurdix@ directions, contacts, and support etc. for less of age, and gender identity or sexual women in the Halifax area. email: hal-gal@ the family. 328-4868 email: richardb@ orientation! Find our group on Facebook Wayves Magazine: Atlantic Canada’s umoncton.ca web: www.umoncton.ca/un- yahoogroups.com web: groups.yahoo.com/ surdix/ (Visitez le site Web ou envoyez un nbnet.nb.ca “Rainbow Warriors - AAHA!”. email: an- group/hal-gal/ (Join the list to keep in touch queer news and lifestyle magazine!. email: [email protected], meets [email protected] web: wayves.ca courriel pour en apprendre davantage au or post your events.) sujet du travail que nous accomplissons. ) Newfoundland & every Monday (3:00-5:00pm) at The Antigo- (Deadline: the first Friday of every month; nish Women’s Resource Centre, located in Halifax Sexual Health Centre: Anonymous Editorial meeting: the Monday following that; Lab (709) the Kirk Building at 219 Main Street, Suite HIV testing, open and inclusive sexual health layout the Sunday following that. Email us to Petit-Rocher Frontrunners Newfoundland and Labrador: 204 (above Tim Hortons). clinical services, education and workshops. be put on our notification list!) Running/walking club. 722-5791 or 753- Everyone welcome. Confidential and non- (Bathurst area) X-Pride: social & support group at X. 867- judgmental. 455-9656 web: www.HSHC.ca 9529 email: tonybrathwaite@bellaliant. 5007 web: www.stfx.ca/people/xpride New Brunswick Gais.es Nor Gays Inc. (GNG): A bilingual net,[email protected] (meeting Imperial and Sovereign Court of Atlantic (506) volunteer association serving gay men, times can be flexible to accommodate new Nova Society: Fundraising. 902-449-7612 lesbians and bisexuals of northern New runners.) Bridgewater web: www.imperialcourtns.com, meets Brunswick. email: [email protected] web: Sexual Health Centre for Lunenburg County: 1st Sunday, and 2nd Sunday (Executive Fredericton www.gngnb.ca (Dances are held at GNG Meetings Are Currently Held Every Second club every Saturday night. See www.gngnb. St. John’s Confidential info, education&support for eve- AIDS New Brunswick / SIDA Nouveau- ryone. Safer sex supplies, library, pamphlets, Sunday) at Meeting Locations Vary Brunswick: committed to facilitating com- ca for a list of upcoming events.) at 702 AIDS Committee of Newfoundland & Lab- rue Principale, Petit-Rocher NB. Look for workshops. 527-2868 email: LunCo@NS- Integrity: Integrity is an organization of GLBT munity-based responses to the issues of rador: HIV/AIDS education and support for SexualHealth.ca web: www.theSHaC.org Anglicans and their friends, to encourage HIV/AIDS. Needle exchange located in rainbow flag and/or door with pink triangle male/female/transgendered, all ages, New- at rear of parking lot. (Hours vary. Open by appointment or by Christian gay men and lesbians in their office at 65 Brunswick Street Fred. E3B foundland and Labrador 579-8656 email: chance. Please call ahead. ) at 4 Hillcrest spiritual life; to support the Church in its 1G5. 459-7518 email: jennifer@aidsnb. [email protected] web: www.acnl.net Street Unit 8, Bridgewater. (On the corner commitment to seek and serve Christ in all com web: www.aidsnb.com (Office Hours: Sackville NB/ Gay Urban Youth Zone Project: designed of Dufferin and Hillcrest Streets). Closed people; and to reach out to the GLBT com- Monday to Friday, 8:30AM to 12:30PM and Amherst NS to increase HIV/AIDS, Hepatitis C, and STI during summers. munity in Christian love and service. (902) 1:30PM to 4:30PM) knowledge and awareness 579-8656 (ext. 425-8383 web: www.integritycanada.org, Catalyst: Catalyst, Mount Allison’s Queer- South Shore Pride Social Club: for 19 & Fredericton Lesbians and Gays: Email 28) web: www.acnl.net at Tommy Sexton older. 530-5986 web: www.southshorepride. meets 3rd Sunday (4:00pm) at All Saints Straight Alliance, provides support & in- Centre 47 Janeway Place Pleasantville, Cathedral listserv of events/news in the Fredericton for formation for all Mt. A students, staff, and ca, meets 3rd Saturday (-- dances -- 9:00PM gblt men and women. email: [email protected] across from the old Janeway Hospital AIDS to 1:00AM) at Call or email for location. Koinonia Ecumenical Church: Meaning faculty through meetings, seminars, and Committee of Newfoundland and Labrador Integrity: Supports and encourages Gays social events. Everyone is welcome. email: ‘community’. Koinonia is an ecumenical faith and Lesbians in their spiritual lives. email: [email protected] web: www.mta.ca/clubs/ LBGT-MUN Resource Centre: LBGT-MUN is Halifax community offering open membership, equal [email protected] web: www.fa- catalyst/ (Catalyst meets approximately an information/resource, service, and peer marriage, practicing bible, church, religious cebook.com/group.php?gid=46207976587, every week from Sept-Dec and Jan-April. support centre staffed by trained volunteers!. Affirm United: GLBT & Friends support, ac- and soul freedom,as well as open table meets 3rd Sunday (4:00pm) at Unitarian For meeting info contact the president at 737-7619 email: [email protected] (Open tion and worshipping community within the communion. Koinonia offers Spiritual Care. Fellowship of Fredericton at 874 York Street [email protected] or the Students’ Adminis- Monday-Friday 9-4. Biweekly meetings for United Church. 461-4528 email: alstew@ Crisis support visitation and counselling for members and volunteers. ) at Smallwood/ eastlink.ca PFLAG: Support & education on issues of trative Council at [email protected].) an honorarium. ALL are Welcome who cel- University Center, UC-6022. Building located AIDS Coalition of Nova Scotia: non-profit, ebrate God’s Covenant to Love All of God’s sexual orientation & gender identity. (506) on Prince Phillip Drive. Call us! Get involved! 455-7190 email: [email protected] Sackville community-based AIDS organization, pro- Creation. We are a registered charitable or- web: www.geocities.com/Pflagfredericton/, LBGTQ Youth Group: A monthly gathering vincially mandated. Provides direct service ganization accepting donations from all who meets 4th Tuesday (7-9 pm (except Decem- PFLAG: Support and education for GLBT- for queer, allied, questioning, and any inter- and support for people living with HIV/AIDS believe in the promotion of our all-inclusive ber: 2nd Tuesday)) at Unitarian Fellowship T2IQQ persons, friends & family. 506-536- ested youth. We offer social events such as and also offers various prevention programs community of faith. Contact Rev. Elaine @ of Fredericton 874 York St. Fredericton NB 4245 email: [email protected], meets bowling, movie nights, and coffee houses. across NS. You can reach us locally to HRM 902-876-8771 for more information, or mail E3B 3R8 2nd Monday (7:30 to 9:30pm No meeting Contact group coordinator Rob Sinnott at at 425-4882 or across the province at 1-800- your contribution to 2410 St. Margaret’s in July and August.) at Meeting location: the number listed, email, or visit the web 566-2437. (902)425-4882 email: acns@ Bay Road Halifax N.S. B3T 1H1 with your Spectrum: Spectrum is a social/support United Church Parlours, 112 Main Street in page for more info. 699-0509 email: lbgtq@ acns.ns.ca web: www.acns.ns.ca name and address so we can issue your tax group celebrating the diversity of the GLBTQ Sackville, NB nlsexualhealthcentre.org web: nlsexual- Alcoholics Anonymous: Live & Let Live AA receipt. 876-8771 email: koinonia@eastlink. community and gay-friendly peoples at UNB healthcentre.org ca (we gather bi-weekly at 12:30pm - 1:30 and STU. Weekly meetings are open for both Group for LGBT community. (902) 425- 8383/422-4972 email: courage449@yahoo. followed by a time of fellowship) at Petrie’s students and non-students to attend, and Saint John PFLAG Canada: Information or referral to Halifax Feast Dinner Theatre, Maritime may feature various ‘theme’ nights from fun one of our parents. web: www.pflag.ca (For com, meets every Monday (at 8pm) at St Affirming United Church - Centenary - Queen Matthews United Church, 1479 Barrington Centre - entrance on the corner of Barrington Square United Church: invites you to wor- support or information on chapter meetings & Salter Streets Wayves ­— April 2011 — 13

Manna For Health: A special needs referral Team Halifax: All GLBT over 18, athletes Middleton Street, Sydney NS at P.O. Box 550, Nova Scotia Agricultural food bank for those living with life threatening and performance artists, as well as anyone Pride Cape Breton Society: Dances and So- College, Truro, N.S. B2N 5E3 illness. 429-7670 willing to help out. 422-9510 web: www. PFLAG: Information and support for GLBT community and their friends and families. cial Events. Monthly dances are Adults Only! SAAFE (Supporting An Alternative Friendly Mount Pride: LGBTQ group at Mount Saint teamhalifax.com (No fixed schedule at this Check website community events. (902) Environment): Social/support group at the time, look on website for further details.) 902-825-0548 email: middletonns@pflag- Vincent University. email: mountpride@ canada.ca web: www.pflagcanada.ca/mid- 539-4627 email: [email protected] NS Agricultural College. 893-6300 email: mountstudents.ca, meets 1st Tuesday, and The Masculine Spectrum: is a new support dleton.html (Check online for meeting times web: www.pridecapebreton.com (Dances [email protected] (Meetings as requested. 3rd Tuesday (bi-weekly on Tuesdays at 245 group for all transgender, transsexual, & and locations- or phone 825-0548) on the last Saturday of every month. Check Membership changes each academic year.) ) at Meetings in the Diversity Center in Rose- trans men, FtMs, female assigned at birth website for dance and special event dates!) ria. Possible events that are being planned genderqueers, two-spirited, intersexed, & at Southend Community Centre. Maps are Wolfville for the year include sexuality awareness, questioning people 18 years of age or older, New Glasgow at our website. movies nights, social events, guest speak- of all sexual orientations. No significant oth- Pictou County Centre for Sexual Health: 695- Acadia Women’s Centre: 585-2140 email: ers, and many more. There are always LG- ers, friends, family, or allies please. web: 3366 email: [email protected] Tatamagouche [email protected] (Acadia SUB BTQ community events to be involved with ca.groups.yahoo.com/group/genderspec- Second Level Balcony) Pictou County Women’s Centre: Offering Tatamagouche Centre: We are an affirm- and events that are always fun. This group trum/, meets 2nd Sunday at Just Us Cafe, Individual Support Counselling and Crisis is open to anyone who would like to join. 5896 Spring Garden Road ing centre, welcoming all gay, lesbian, and Yarmouth Intervention, Information and Referral, transgendered people. 1.800.218.2220 Nova Scotia Rainbow Action Project: The Youth Project: Support, education and Advocacy and Accompaniment, Programs South West Nova Pride: GLBT of any age NSRAP, the Nova Scotia Rainbow Action social activities for youth 25 and under email: [email protected] web: www. and Community Education. 755-4647 email: tatacentre.ca are invited,we meet as a social gathering Project: for 15 years the leading advocate for across Nova Scotia. Weekly events, plus a [email protected] and peer support group on the 2nd last Nova Scotia’s Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and youth food bank and Health nurse on site. Wednesday of each month at 7:00PM in the Transgender Community. Fostering change 429-5429 email: youthproject@youthproject. Truro Beacon United Church parlour 25 Beacon in our communities through education, out- New Minas / ns.ca web: www.youthproject.ns.ca (Please Annapolis Valley Central Nova Women’s Resource Centre: St. Yarmouth. We are not church affiliated. reach, and political action. 444.3206 email: see our website for an up-to-date calendar Resources, programs and services available 645-2914 email: [email protected] [email protected] web: www.nsrap.ca at TBA of events.) Valley Youth Project: Sexual Orientation. for all women identified women. Advocacy web: SWNovaPride.com Outlaw: GLBTQ & Allies Law Students As- Trans Family Nova Scotia: Trans Family Gender Identity. Allies. Youth. email: val- and support - with outreach to rural areas. sociation at Dalhousie Law School. email: is an open & supportive space welcoming [email protected] (6-8:30 most Also, see our Facebook group. Central Nova Prince Edward [email protected] web: www.facebook. families,friends and allies as well as trans Wednesdays through May) at New Minas Women’s Resource Centre http://cnwrc. com/group.php?gid=2416842853 (Meetings and genderqueer folk themselves. If you are Civic Center, 9209 Commercial St. Ages 25 weebly.com, [email protected] 535 Prince Island (902) vary. Please email for further information unable to join us at a meeting for any reason, & under. Free bus tickets available. Free Street, Truro, NS B2N 1E8 (902) 895-4295. Gay PEI Mailing List: Electronic mailing list or check out our Facebook group.) at Dal- we can you help source resources and refer food. Fun activities. Join us on Facebook web: cnwrc.weebly.com for all GLBT, questioning and friendly, focus houisie Law School. 6061 University Avenue. you to other appropriate organizations to at http://www.facebook.com/pages/Valley- is on PEI. email: gay-pei-owner@yahoog- Colchester Sexual Assault Centre: Provides roups.com web: groups.yahoo.com/group/ Halifax, Nova Scotia. help meet your needs. For more information, Youth-Project/22418494995 support and information to anyone (GBLTQ PFLAG: Support & education on issues of please feel free to call or email Michelle. 902- gay-pei at All first posts are moderated to included) affected by sexual assault and stop spambots, otherwise, it’s an open list. sexual orientation & gender identity. These 431-8500 email: [email protected], Sydney abuse. 902-897-4366 email: trurosexualas- meetings are open to all. For more informa- meets 3rd Monday (6:30 to 8:30 pm) at The [email protected] (Centre Hours Mon- GLBT Youth group: Safe Space Drop-Ins. tion please feel free to contact Michelle Mal- Youth Project 2281 Brunswick St., Halifax AIDS Coalition of Cape Breton: Support, 367-3408 or toll free 1 877 380 5776 (E-mail advocacy, prevention/education for those Thurs 9:30-4:30) at 80 Glenwood Drive, ette by phone or email. Hope you’ll join us!. Universalist Unitarian Church: an inclusive Truro Nova Scotia us for further details.) at 144 Prince St. 431-8500 email: halifaxns@pflagcanada. infected or affected by HIV/AIDS. Free con- liberal religious community 429-5500 email: doms! Queer Advocacy and Education, Nee- Northern AIDS Connection Society: HIV PFLAG Canada - PEI: Providing support, ca, meets 1st Thursday (We meet on the [email protected] web: UUCH.ca , prevention education initiative serving education and advocacy for GLBT persons, 1st Thursday of each month from 6:30 -8:30 dle Distribrution, Food Bank, Coffee,Safe meets every Sunday (10:30; see website for Space for those infected or affected. (902) counties Colchester, Pictou, Cumberland & their families and friends in PEI. 902-887- pm 902-431-8500) at Youth Project, 2281 special events) at 5500 Inglis St East Hants. 895-0931 email: nacs@eastlink. 3620 email: [email protected] web: www. Brunswick St, Halifax 567-1766 Toll Free 1-877-597-9255 email: [email protected] web: www. ca web: northernaidsconnectionsociety.ca pflagcanada.ca (Meetings take place on an Play Group for Queer Families: 422-8780 Kentville accb.ns.ca (Free Anonmymous Testing (Our Board of Directors meet bi-monthly as needs basis.) at Check with Mary or Bill (3-5pm) at Board Room (Play Room) at 1-902-567-1123 Monday and Tuesday each on the third Thursday of the month. Annual Kendrick on this months location by calling Needham Community Recreation Centre, Red Door: Youth Health & Support Centre. 902-887-3620. Information and services for sexual health. week from 8:30 to 4:30 and Thursdays from General Meeting held regularly in June. See 3372 Devonshire St (north end Halifax, near 8:30 to Noon. Check our Website for events webpage for contact numbers in your area intersection of Duffus & Novalea, bus routes Ages 13 - 30. 679-1411 web: thereddoor. ca (Monday to Friday 2pm to 6pm) at 150 and updates. ) at 150 Bentinck St, Sydney, of northern Nova Scotia.) at 33 Pleasant Charlottetown 7 & 9) Bring a snack for your child(ren). We N.S. B1P 1G6 Street, Truro, N.S. will be collecting money from each family Park Street AIDS PEI: AIDS PEI offers HIV prevention Cape Breton University Sexual Diversity Rainbow Proud: Rainbow Proud sup- and support services to all residents of PEI. to cover the cost of the room rental, likely ports the LGBT** community of Truro and $2-4 per week. Kingston Centre: We provide a welcoming environ- 902-566-2437 email: [email protected] web: ment for GLBTQ people and their Allies. surrounding areas. Our small group of www.aidspei.com at 375 University Ave, Unit Pride Week: Producers of Atlantic Canada’s Valley Gay Men’s Coffee House: socials for 902-563-1481 email: [email protected] volunteers work hard to put events together 2, Charlottetown PE, C1A 4N4 largest LGBTQ cultural festival. 431-1194 gay men; gay & lesbian dances 19+. 825- (Monday to Thursday 8:30-5 or by appoint- for everyones enjoyment. Any feedback email: [email protected] web: www. 3197,363-2055 email: menembracingmen@ ment) at the Students’ Union Building, Cape will be considered and can be sent to our ARC -- Abegweit Rainbow Collective: halifaxpride.ca yahoo.ca web: faceitwithpride.tripod.com Breton University. email address. We hope you continue to Serving GLBT Islanders, their friends and (Coffee every Thursday 7-9pm, Dances on come celebrate our community together. families. 894-5776 email: [email protected] prideHealth: prideHealth is a program of PFLAG: Peer support & education on issues web: www.arcofpei.com, meets 1st Monday Capital Health and the IWK Health Centre. the first Saturday of the month, for the excep- of sexual orientation & gender identity. email: email: [email protected] web: tion of in November. There is two dances rainbowproudnovascotia.ca (See webpage (6:00pm at 375 University Ave Suite # 2 If you are a member of the pride community [email protected], meets last Charlottetown, PE) and need support with any kind of health held in October, On the First Saturday and Sunday (of the month from 6:30-8:30pm. 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Online! ads clut- compatible” to my initial suggestion I agree, but nor do I believe it’s a to low attendance and close up shop tering up my Facebook profile and of coffee. I can’t say it was all nega- simple black and white situation, that (I mean, I still want to go back to decided to deactivate my account for tive or indifferent, since I have made the Internet is completely to blame. Provincetown for Bear Week, but this my yearly online detox. I also took a a few good friends from my online The sheer expense of travel (where time without an entourage of crazy long look at how much time I was activities. Just no ro- “run-type” gather- people). We humans are social crea- spending in front of the computer mance. I have abso- We humans are ings such as the ill- tures and cannot exist in the cloud checking on the various profiles I’ve lutely no luck with social creatures and fated International alone. I don’t know about the rest been maintaining on numerous dat- online dating. Obvi- Bear Rendezvous of you, but I like the idea of getting ing sites. I said to myself, time for a ously it’s different cannot exist in the are concerned), vol- together in social spaces. I don’t want back in the land of the connected. change. for the thousands unteer availability to spend my life always dependent on As for that elusive date, I’m still So I deleted the whole lot. All of others who have cloud alone… and burnout (we a little glowing screen for the prospect looking….) of them. struck it lucky—apparently eHar- all know that the biggest events are of companionship. [email protected] Simple reasoning—I’ve been mony has insane numbers of success always run by a small group of dedi- I’m not saying we should all turn spending a great deal of time and stories, and if you believe what you cated volunteers who find out after a off our devices. I, for one, never did effort for no return on investment. read on the side of the bus, smokin’ few kicks at the can they’re not super- excel at the telephone tree and when it I’m told it’s the “Law of Internet hot Amy and Matt are shackin’ up human after all), changing personal comes to getting the word out quickly Attraction”: guys whose postal codes and we should follow their story on priorities and needs, the “been there, to large numbers, Facebook and Twit- do not start with B appear to be the metroclassifieds.ca. I’m just not built done them all” factor are just a few ter are must-haves. And someone has most interesting and the most inter- for the online hookup. possible reasons. to look at all those hot guys on Scruff! ested. When it comes to appreciation Here’s the real irony: at this point I attended my first bear event in But instead of sitting alone at our from afar, my virtual cup was always in my life I’m better connected than Fredericton in 1996, an event I would desks window-shopping at midnight overflowing. Gorgeous, sexy, woofy, I’ve ever been in my life, in all the not have known about had I not been for Mr. Right or Mr. Right Now, let’s hot—the descriptors abounded, years I’ve been online. I think we all online. Hell, I wouldn’t have been at- use our technological prowess to cre- pouring effortlessly from my inbox are. For all that connectivity, though, tuned at all to the existence of bears ate and populate more social events like wine. Such flattery would have how much time do we spend social- and bear culture as a fragment move- and venues were real connections gotten these men into my pants, had izing face-to-face or in groups? 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Professional Realty Wayves ­— April 2011 — 15 Hello Sailor! is Coming! This spring Halifax’s Maritime Mu- histories in their research but for the particular deals with Polari, the jar- to put on an exhibition about homo- seum of the Atlantic will play host exhibit many more stories were used gonized (and dying) language used by sexuality because it’s still a difficult to a one-of-a-kind exhibit of gay along with a plethora of physical many British subcultures in the 19th subject, and museums often have to life at sea. Hello Sailor! is travelling specimens. to the mid-20th be family friendly and to have topics from its home at the Merseyside The Halifax The Halifax landing century. in the national curriculum,” she adds. Maritime Museum in the port of landing of the In a video The intricacies of Hello Sailor! Liverpool, England for a special exhibit, while of the exhibit, while interview with are being worked out but an an- engagement across the pond. retaining the Jo Stanley, she nouncement of the opening dates The exhibit “…looks at life on design of the retaining the design of indicates her and a more extensive feature will be board passenger and merchant original, will ex- the original, will expand delight with published in an upcoming issue of ships from the 1950s to 1980s, a pand on local the Merseyside Wayves. In the meantime, visit the time when homosexuality was il- stories gathered on local stories gathered exhibit: “This exhibit’s Merseyside website at www. legal and for gay men there were by researchers material is too liverpoolmuseums.org.uk/maritime/ few places to be safe.” It was based here. The ex- by researchers here. good to be just exhibitions/gaylife, where you can get on a book “Hello Sailor! The Hid- hibit comprises about ten large in a book, it needs to be displayed in a feel for the exhibit’s history. There’s den History of Gay Life at Sea” “posters” and a recreation of one of an exhibition.” a link to the above-noted short (but by Jo Stanley and Paul Baker. The the gay stewards’ cabins. Each poster “It was a very brave decision of engaging) video interview with Jo authors drew on roughly five oral deals with a different topic… one in the [Merseyside] Maritime Museum Stanley in the Video section. Swoon: Art, Antiques, Fashion Swoon – Fine Art, Antiques & plan to have some outdoor events you are always the outsider looking Fashion is like no other shop in when it’s warmer that people can in on what others perceive as living a Nova Scotia. This unique space come and participate in rather 'normal life.' With time I came to re- located in a beautiful Victorian than just see”. alize that there are many people who farmhouse, just outside of Halifax I asked Brandt how being live on the outside of society but for on the Hammonds Plains Road a gay man influenced the way many different reasons. Artists are opened Oct. 22, 2010. things are done at Swoon. “I just one of these groups and I feel Owner and gallery director don’t think that being gay neces- that I have a wonderful opportunity Brandt Eisner attributes the suc- sarily influences how I do things to provide them with a space where cess of Swoon to a powerhouse as a business person any more they can feel free to be and do what of support from the local com- than any other life experience. comes naturally." munity and the gallery artists What it does affect is how I Swoon – Fine Art, Antiques & that he represents. “Swoon is a perceive the world and others. 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