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THE VERMONT PARENTS’ HOME COMPANION & RESOURCE DIREctORY Our 32nd Edition Introduction Each child is unique and special. Deciding to become a parent means taking on the responsibility of helping that unique and special personality to achieve his fullest potential. Providing for needs such as food, clothing and shelter is only the first step in shaping your child’s future. Creating a safe, loving environment that builds your child’s self-esteem and makes him feel good about himself is equally important. Education on parenting and child development can make a difference for you and your child. Parents aren’t expected to be perfect, but all of us want to be very good at the job. This booklet provides some tips and a Resource Directory of support services organized by county. Included are sections on the growth and developmental stages of children, information for helping parents deal with stress, and child safety tips for when you and your child are apart. There are several keys to surviving parenthood — one is information, another is support. This booklet is designed to provide you with some good strategies to help you along the way and the names of organizations that have support and caring to offer. Editor’s Note: To avoid the awkwardness of he/she or his/her, our editors have identified children as he in one section, and she in the next. Each implies all children, of course. 4 The Vermont Parents’ Home Companion 2021 A Note from the American Academy of Pediatrics Dear Parents, Parenting is the single most important and challenging job that we face. We all enter our roles as parents or caretakers with expectations, hopes, dreams, and worries and for most of us with minimal experience. We want the best for our children and we want to do our best. We try to learn anyway we can, including drawing from our experience, asking advice from family, medical professionals and friends. We all reach out to whatever resources we have and for many this happens in the face of limited resources. The role of the Pediatrician and the American Academy of Pediatrics in helping parents is central to their success. Pediatricians and Family Practitioners are trained to support, advise, offer suggestions and reassurance for this most important role, parenting. We cannot do this in a vacuum and we are lucky to have this wonderful resource, The Parents Home Companion to help us. Jill Rinehart, M.D. Vermont Chapter of the American Academy of Pediatrics “We believe in the inherent worth of all children. They are our most enduring and vulnerable legacy.” — American Academy of Pediatrics From the Board of Prevent Child Abuse Vermont Raising a child in the 21st century is complicated, and not necessarily natural or instinctive for every parent. Families are no longer defined by a two parent, two child unit, where mom stays at home in a neighborhood with similar families. There are single parents, step-parents in blended families, grandparents, and couples all trying to be good parents. Parents are influenced by relatives, friends, co-workers and child care providers, and new parents are often inundated with well- meaning and over-whelming advice. Just as there are no perfect children, there are no perfect parents, and all of us have made mistakes during our parenting journeys. In this age of social media, memes of good and bad parenting skills are rampant, and all parents can identify with each of the situations depicted. Online influencers, are not substitutes for trusted advice when dealing with a newborn, toddler, youth, tween or teen. All children need a nurturing environment full of love, support, kindness, and respect. This book serves as a source of information and support to help you navigate the challenging, but most rewarding journey of becoming a family. May your parenting successes be far more frequent than your challenges. Leslie DeMars, MD Board Secretary Prevent Child Abuse Vermont A Letter From The Executive Director Dear Parents, During the Covid 19 pandemic, the demands parents have today are more challenging than ever before. It is important to remember that we can create safe, nurturing environments for children if we also do what we can to take time to nurture ourselves. The Vermont Parents’ Home Companion and Resource Directory is an attempt to give you up to date information and lots of support. Professionals throughout Vermont and nationally have knowledge, skills and help for parents and children can be found in this Directory. If you are struggling with questions about Covid 19 and your child, school attendance, childcare, vaccines, testing, etc. please reach out to the Vermont Department of Health. If you are stressed and seeking support and or referrals call us at 1-800 CHILDREN, 211 or one or more of the caring organizations listed in the Directory. It not only takes a village to raise a child, it takes a village to support a parent and this year, more than ever before. For Our Children, Linda E. Johnson, Executive Director, Prevent Child Abuse Vermont The Vermont Parents’ Home Companion 2021 5 Table of Contents Introduction ....................................................... 4 When Kids Fight ............................................ 65 Knowing What to Expect: Infants ................................ 8 Children at Home Alone .................................... 66 Learning More: After Childbirth ................................... 9 Kids and Television ......................................... 67 Baby-Parent Relationship ................................... 10 Positive Discipline .......................................... 68 If You Have Chosen Adoption ............................... 12 Selecting the Right Pet for Your Children .................... 69 Parenting Tips for Fathers .................................. 13 Taking Your Child to the Hospital ........................... 70 How Parents Can Prevent SIDS ............................. 15 Parenting in a Military Family ............................... 71 What Is Shaken Baby Syndrome? ........................... 17 Protecting Your Child from Sexual Abuse. 73 Caring for Your Premature Infant ........................... 18 Families and Death ......................................... 74 Sleeping with Your Baby: Is It Safe? .......................... 19 Media and Children ......................................... 75 Immunizations and Well Child Check-Ups .................. 21 Families and Divorce ....................................... 77 Dealing With Stress ......................................... 23 Being A Stepparent ........................................ 78 Health Care ................................................ 25 When a Parent Goes to Prison .............................. 79 Knowing What to Expect: Toddlers .............................. 26 Parenting a Child With Physical Disabilities ................. 80 Learning More: Feeding Problems ................................ 27 Children and Domestic Violence ............................ 81 Healthy Sexual Development of Children ................... 28 Knowing What to Expect: Early Adolescence . 82 How to Keep Children Safe from Lead Poisoning ............ 30 Learning More: What is Bullying? .................................. 84 Toilet Training .............................................. 31 Child to Child Sexual Abuse ................................ 88 Child Care .................................................. 32 Keeping Children Safe in a Technology Saturated World ..... 90 Single Parenting ........................................... 34 Preventing Substance Abuse Among Children ............. 93 Raising Your Kin ............................................. 35 Knowing What to Expect: Middle Adolescence .................. 94 Oral Health ................................................. 37 Learning More: Teenage Depression ............................. 95 Food Allergies .............................................. 39 Recognizing the Potential for Suicide ....................... 96 Knowing What to Expect: Preschoolers .......................... 40 Pornography’s Impact on Children’s Sexual Development ... 97 Learning More: Fat or Fluffy? ...................................... 41 Talking with Children About Racism ........................ 98 Make Meal Time Healthy Time! .............................. 43 Knowing What to Expect: Late Adolescence ..................... 99 Your Child’s Communication: Learning More: Time to Listen — Time to Share ................. 100 Speech, Language, and Hearing ........................ 44 Conclusion ...................................................... 101 Teaching Children to Be Humane ........................... 45 National Resources ............................................... 104 Childhood Asthma ......................................... 47 Statewide Organizations ......................................... 106 Give Your Child a Great “Heart Start” ........................ 48 Resources by County ............................................. 116 Bedtime Solutions .......................................... 52 Thank You’s ....................................................... 145 Hitting, Kicking, Biting and Hair Pulling ..................... 53 Children with Autism ....................................... 54 Knowing What to Expect: 6-10 Year Olds ........................ 56 Learning More: Friendly Advice ................................... 57 Supporting Your LGBTQ+* Child ............................ 58 When Your Child Misbehaves .............................. 61 Helping Your