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Kane, Bernadette (2018) An exploration of the experience of birth mothers who relinquished a child for adoption between 1960 and 1990 and who subsequently initiated contact with the relinquished child: the clinical implications for practitioners. DProf thesis, Middlesex University / Metanoia Institute. [Thesis]
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An exploration of the experience of birth mothers who relinquished a child for adoption between 1960 and 1990 and who subsequently initiated contact with the relinquished child: The clinical implications for practitioners.
Bernadette Kane
A joint programme between Middlesex University and Metanoia Institute
A project submitted to Middlesex University and Metanoia Institute in partial fulfilment of the requirements for the award of the Doctorate in Psychotherapy by Professional Studies
2018
For Niamh
Acknowledgments
I wish to thank both my supervisors, Dr. Marie Adams and Professor Colin Feltham for their encouragement and support throughout this research. I also wish to thank the many friends that supported me along the way, particularly Janice Morgan, Eamonn O’Reilly, and Lorna Elliott, who gave so generously of their time. Thank you also to my family, for quietly being there for me.
Finally, I am indebted to the women who shared their stories with me – without them, this would not have been possible.
Abstract
This is a phenomenological study exploring the experiences of seven birth mothers who relinquished a child for adoption between 1960 and 1990. The aim of the study is to understand the depth and breadth of the experience of relinquishment and to establish whether the impact of relinquishment is long-term. This study explores the relationship between the moral values and social policies that existed during the era of the study and how these factors influenced the birth mothers’ decision-making. The objective of the study is to use the findings to develop therapeutic guidance for practitioners working with birth mothers who have lost a child through adoption. The data was gathered through semi-structured interviews and was analysed using Interpretative Phenomenological Analysis. The women provided compelling accounts of lives consisting of secrecy, shame and loss, harsh treatment by family and professionals, and an absence of any emotional support. Additionally, most of their stories had not been heard before. Three master themes emerged from the findings: 1) The power of social stigmatisation; 2) The unique experience of relinquishment; 3) Experiencing psychological distress. The study shows that the impact of the experience of relinquishment is indeed long term, with a diminishing of the intensity of emotions over time. The lack of acknowledgement of the experience was a significant contributory factor in the longevity of the impact.
Clinical implications and recommendations for practitioners who support birth mothers in Adoption Support Agencies are presented. It is anticipated that the recommendations will also be useful for practitioners currently supporting birth mothers whose children have been, or are presently being, taken into care and subsequently adopted. Many of the themes identified in this study, such as loss and stigmatisation, have been shown in the literature to be also present for this group. The findings and clinical implications would therefore have some relevance in supporting these birth mothers.
Table of contents
Acknowledgements
Abstract
1. Introduction 1.1 Introduction 1 1.2 Title and research aims 2 1.3 Personal motivation for this research 3 1.4 Definition of adoption 8 1.5 Overview of adoption in the U.K. in the 20th and 21st centuries 10 1.6 The current landscape of adoption in the U.K. 14 1.7 Contribution to knowledge 17 1.8 Reflexivity in research 19 1.9 Outline of thesis 21
2. Literature Review 2.1 Introduction 22 2.2 Overview of literature 22 2.3 Attachment and adoption 25 2.4 Whose child is it anyway? 29 2.5 Stigmatisation and adoption 30 2.6 Motivation for relinquishment 37 2.7 The impact of relinquishment 41 2.8 Psychotherapy and the birth mother 49 2.9 Summary of findings 54 2.10 The current study 55
3. Methodology
3.1 Introduction 57 3.2 Theoretical framework 57 3.3 Phenomenology 60 3.4 Interpretative Phenomenological Analysis 61 3.5 Research method 64 3.6 Evaluation of methodology 65 3.7 Interview design 66 3.8 Recruitment of participants 69 3.9 Bracketing 72 3.10 Analysis of data 76 3.11 Quality of the research 78 3.12 Ethical considerations 84 3.13 Ethical dilemma 88 3.14 Reflexive statement in relation to methodology 89 3.15 Summary 93
4. Findings 4.1 Introduction 95 4.2 Master theme One: The power of social stigmatisation 98 4.2.1 Superordinate theme: Secret, shame and lies 99 4.2.2 Superordinate theme: The cruelty of others 103 4.3 Master theme Two: Relinquishment as a unique experience 106 4.3.1 Superordinate theme: Traumatic childbirth 106 4.3.2 Superordinate theme: The pain of parting 109 4.3.3 Superordinate theme: The joy and pain of reunion 115 4.4. Master theme Three: Experiencing psychological distress 123 4.4.1 Superordinate theme: Being invisible 124 4.4.2 Superordinate theme: Feeling alone 127 4.4.3 Superordinate theme: A lifetime of pain 129 4.5 Reflexive statement 135 4.6 Summary 137
5. Discussion 5.1 Introduction 138 5.2 Theme One: The power of social stigma 143 5.3 Theme Two: Relinquishment as a unique experience 143 5.4 Theme Three: Experiencing psychological distress 147 5.5 Summary of the discussion 150 5.6 Contribution to knowledge 155 5.7 The relevance of the research 157 5.8 Limitations of the study and future research 159
6. Clinical Implications for practitioners 6.1 Introduction 161 6.2 Support for birth parents 161 6.3 Key therapeutic issues from findings 162 6.4 Implications for practitioners 164 6.4.1 Therapist’s own bias 165 6.4.2 Differentiating between guilt and shame 166 6.4.3 A visceral grief 167 6.4.4 Individuality of stories 168 6.4.5 The relationship with no name 169 6.4.6 The role of empathy 170 6.5 Skills required from practitioners 172 6.6 Support groups 175 6.7 Birth mothers today whose children are taken into the care system 175 6.8 Dissemination of the findings 176 6.9 Summary 176
7. Reflections on the process 7.1 Reflections 179
8. Concluding statement
8.1 Introduction 183 8.2 Research aims and objectives 183 8.3 Literature review 184 8.4 Methodology 185 8.5 Findings 185 8.6 Contribution to knowledge 186 8.7 Guidance for practitioners 187 8.8 Conclusions 188
References 190
Appendices 208
Appendix A Interview schedule
Appendix B Recruitment web page
Appendix C Doreen’s transcript
Appendix D Doreen’s transcript: Excerpt with Stage I and 2 annotations
Appendix E Doreen’s emerging themes
Appendix F Doreen’s superordinate themes
Appendix G Ethical consideration
Appendix H Participant information sheet
Appendix I Participant informed consent sheet
Appendix J Insider researcher
Appendix K Draft outline of workshop
List of Figures
Figure 1 Countries with the largest numbers of adoptions: 1999-2005
Figure 2 Number of adoptions in England and Wales: Specific years between 1940 and 2010.
Figure 3 Reasons for relinquishment
Figure 4 Core issues in adoption
Figure 5 Fears on reunion
Figure 6 Table of master and superordinate themes
Figure 7 Presence of themes across interviews
Figure 8 Skills for practitioners.
1. Introduction
1. 1 Introduction
Within academia, there is very little literature that specifically addresses the nature of therapeutic support required for birth mothers to address the psychological impact of relinquishing a child to adoption. This paucity of commentary has created a noticeable knowledge gap in the literature, which in turn impacts upon therapeutic practice for birth mothers who have relinquished a child. Relinquishment, in the context of adoption law, refers to a birth parent voluntarily giving up his or her parental rights so that the child may be adopted. Therefore, this thesis seeks to further academic understanding of the factors that influenced women to make the decision to give up a child for adoption and the psychological impacts of relinquishment on birth mothers. This is to be achieved by utilising empirical research to explore the experiences of women who gave up a child for adoption between 1960 and 1990 and who subsequently engaged in the process of looking for their child later in life in what is known as the ‘searching process’. In gaining this insight, the research sets out to inform the development of clinical guidance for therapists and other practitioners working with this client group.
This chapter will outline the structure of the thesis and explain the use of reflexivity in qualitative research. Additionally, it will seek to place the research within context by providing an historical overview of 20th century adoption in the UK and summarising the existing relevant literature. Furthermore, it will illustrate the expected contribution of this research to our current understanding of the experience of birth mothers, and how this can inform therapeutic guidance for practitioners working with this client group. This introductory chapter will first address the research aims and my personal interest and motivation.
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1.2 Title and research aims
An exploration of the experiences of birth mothers who relinquished a child for adoption between 1960 and 1990, and who subsequently engaged in the searching process.
The research aims are as follows: