Arthur: the Ups & Downs of Friendship. an Activity Booklet for Parents and Kids

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AUTHOR Schottman, Elly TITLE Arthur: The Ups & Downs of Friendship. An Activity Booklet for Parents and Kids. INSTITUTION WGBH-TV, Boston, MA. SPONS AGENCY Department of Education, Washington, DC.; Corporation for Public Broadcasting, Washington, DC. PUB DATE 2000-00-00 NOTE 17p.; For related documents, see PS 028 991-998. Illustrated by Marc Brown. PUB TYPE Guides Non-Classroom (055) EDRS PRICE MF01/PC01 Plus Postage. DESCRIPTORS Childrens Television; Early Childhood Education; *Friendship; *Parent Child Relationship; Parent Materials; Parents as Teachers; *Peer Relationship; *Young Children IDENTIFIERS *Arthur (Television Series); Public Broadcasting

ABSTRACT Noting that helping children deal with the ups and downs of friendship is one of the challenges parents face, this activity booklet provides a read-aloud story for parents to share with their children to help them deal with friendship and peer relationships. The story features the Public Broadcasting System characters Arthur and his sister D.W., and includes suggested questions for parents to ask their children. The booklet also contains a game for parents and children to play together, and suggests books and Arthur videotapes with stories about friendship. Tips for parents include the following:(1) discuss "getting along" rules;(2) take time to listen; and (3) be supportive. The booklet concludes with specific suggestions for parents of children ages 3 to 5 years, 5 to 7 years, and 7 to 9 years. (KB)

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"Oh, brother!" says D.W. and she leaves in disgust. "Good," says Francine. "We could use 0 0 more rules in this club." "We should charge dues!" says Muffy. "Wait!" protests Arthur. "The tree house has always been free."

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Buster heads back to the tree house. "Hi," he says. "Can I come in?" O OC 0' "No," says Arthur. "Read our new club rules, Sue Ellen." "Anyone can join except Buster Baxter who's a rotten traitor for joining Muffy's stinky club," Sue Ellen reads. "Big deal," says Buster. "I'll make my own club."

C Soon everyone has his or her own club. Buster has his own Reading Comic 0 Books Under a Blanket Club. O Sue Ellen has her own Reading and Walking Club. O And Brain has The Fun Club. O But with just one member, the club O meetings aren't very much fun.

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Just then, Buster and Muffy walk by. "Can we come up?" they call. "Sure!" says Arthur. Francine, Binky, Sue Ellen, and Brain turn up, too. Soon the tree house is full of kids.

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Watch these ARTHUR shows with your children, or ask them to tell you the story. It's a good way to start a conversation about getting along with friends. You can find these ARTHUR home videos at your library, video store, or bookstore. Read the books, too!

ArthurMakes the Team The whole teamgroans when Arthur stepsup to bat. Frensky Can Coach figureout a way the kids to help buildteam spirit, good sports, be and havefun? Tooth Arthur's has lost Everyone inArthur's class AR,THIlkt ASK YOUR Arthur. Francine CHILD: atoothexcept 1001'H a baby. How do and calls him Arthurand Francine teases him about their feel baseballteam? ASK YOURCHILD: What do Francineand Arthur that helps do think Francine solve theproblem? Why do you teased Arthur? Haveyou ever been I on a team think Arthurfelt? El wheresome of the How do you I1 playerswere else do not verygood? How What did hedo? What did youfeel have done? about it?What you thinkhe could can a teamdo to helpeveryone teased you? havemore fun? Have yourfriends ever did you How did youfeel? What say ordo? _ INLII 1111_1111_11_illi N-s-----iirs-`

El El ITI he friends in these stories share adventures THE ADVENTURESOF-1 SUGAR AND and good times. Sometimes they argue. JUNIOR The Adventures of Sugar and Read and talk about these books with your Juniorby Angela Shelf Medearis. kids.They'll get lots of good ideas about ways (Holiday House) These best friends friends can have fun and solve problems. are lucky. They live in the same El apartment building! (Ages 6-8) I

I) N 4 Frog and Toad Are Friends by Arnold Lobel. (HarperCollins) Five funny stories about two great pals. (Ages 4-8)

I Jamaica and Briannaby Juanita Havill. (Houghton Mifflin) When Brianna says that Jamaica is wearing boy boots, Jamaica says that Brianna's boots are ugly. (Ages 3-6)

I Yang the Youngest and His N Terrible Earby Lensey Namioka. (Yearling Books) Yang and his El friend Matthew would love to 3 trade places. (Ages 7 and up)

1-_.,_1LIVIICFor Parents Vou can help your children deal with the .I. ups and downs of friendship by listening, being supportive, and sharing friendship "getting stories from your own life. Here are some Discuss ideas you can try. along" rules. Talk with yourkids aboutthese with basic rules forgetting along other people. are Use yourwords when you angry. It'snot OK tohit.

Treat eachother withrespect. Don't yell orcall names. Listen to eachother's ideas. situation Don't stay angryonce the funny is over.Remember good or person. times you'vehad with the Do something you enjoy together.

23 ( SPACZ F1 2- 111_1_111LIVILIAILI_.__111_111__111_111____ 4ENTILIviiiic_ PARENTS' CORNER Take timeto listen. OOOOOOO As often "When my daughter was being teased by as possible, set asidetime to relax and talkwith your child. her friends, we talked about different things she could do. She could try to take Choose a low-stresstime to chat the teasing as a joke, tell her friends to together, such as mealtime, bath- cut it out, hang out with other time, bedtime, or on the bus. friends, ask a grownup for Let your childtalk about things help, etc. It helped her to that interest him Be supportive. know that she had choices; or her. upset, try theseideas. If your child is there were things she could Listen, askquestions, and share questions try"Laurie K. Listensympathetically. Ask stories fromyour own life. to find out more:.That sounds like This is a timeto learn more about next? it was hard.What happened "I try to help my child think your child's worldand what your How did youfeel? Often justtalking good things about himself. child thinks andfeels. about the situationand feelings will If he believes good things help your childfeel better. about himself, then he will be able to walk away not to react too Stay calm. Try from the teasing and not be that each strongly. Remember bothered by it"RuthdeliaA. his child involvedwill have her or own ideaof what happened. "I tell my child that when solver. kids tease him, they're Let your childbe a problem bad looking for a response. You might say,I know it feels If he cries or yells, they that Nia won'tshare her ball. will tease him more. If he What can youdo to makeyourself yawns, like it's old news, feel better? he will get teased less." Anthony M.

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Akids grow older, their understandings about Ages 5-7 friendship change. Gradually, they learn how to Children give and take, control their anger, and see someone this ageare still self- centered. They else's point of view. At each stage, there are ways often can'treally understand you can support your child's growth. anotherperson's feelings.

Friendly play is oftenstopped by arguments aboutwho goes first, who cheated, and whowon. Ages3-5 YOUCAN provideopportunities able to for your Children this ageare only childrento play with point other kids see thingsfrom their own at the park,at home, or other places. of view. Theytend to focus on Getting along -..1111111.-_ with friends one thingat a time.If two kids is somethingthat same kids must both want toplay with the learn to do.The more they practice, toy, this canlead to conflict. the betterthey get! reminded to Children needto be fists. use theirwords, not their about YOU CANhelp kids talk might their ownfeelings. You shoes! say, Youtied your own Lisa You mustfeel so proud! or wasn't veryfriendly to you. Are your feelingshurt? Learning feelings is to nametheir own a first steptoward recognizing the feelingsof others.

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"When a friend rejectsyour child's invitation to play houseor ball, Ages 7-9 your child to encourage ask, Doyou want to play something else?'This helps Children arebeginning to under- your child sort out whetherthe friend stand that othershave feelings, does notwant to play houseor ball now, it is still hard or does notwant too. However, to play withyour child for them to seethings fromthe now.'=Jim D. point of view. other child's "My grandson was sad becausehis friend Children this agereally want to didn't wantto play with himanymore. Yet, groups At first Isaid, 'Play belong to a group. with otherkids.' exclude, But thatdidn't of childrenoften gossip, seem helpful.So then of others. I justlistened and and make fun said thingslike, It soundslike your help children become feelingsare really YOU CAN hurt,' and`You wish of how theirwords your friendwould more aware play withyou like he their friends. used to.' and actions affect That madea big difference." Ask, How would youfeel if AnaMargarita C. someone said ordid that to you? Help your childrenthink of creative ways tosolve their of conflicts. Ask,Can you think what to do soboth of youwould feel OK?

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Director, Educational Writer Funding for Aroma is provided by the U.S. Department of Education, From WGBH Boston and MAR Corporation Print and Outreach El ly Schottman the Corporation for Public Broadcasting and public televison viewers. Corporate funding is provided by Libby's° Juicy Juice, PostAlpha-Bits AROJK IRV Karen Barss Designers Cereal, and LEGO°. Manager, Danielle Edson Educational Print Tong-Mei Chan ID 2000 WGBH Educational Foundation. All rights reserved. All characters Sonja Latimore 1E60 and underlying materials (including artwork) copyright by Marc Brown. Print Production Arthur, D.W., and the other Airrnua characters are trademarks of Marc Brown. Editors Lenore Lanier Gibson PBS Kids and the PBS Kids logo are service marks and/or trademarks of the Public Broadcasting Service. Used with permission. DVS° is a registered El ly Schottman Advisors trademark of WGBH. Permission is granted for reproduction of this printed Cyrisse Jaffee CC Akrinia is closed captioned for viewers who are deaf or hard-of-hearing. material for educational use only. All other rights reserved. Other than as Ana Margarita Cebollero discussed above, no part of The Ups and Downs of Friendship may be Illustrator Elizabeth Crary reproduced, stored In a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by Marc Brown Sherry) Browne Graves ) ARTHUR is described by Descriptive Video Service. (DVS') for audiences any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, or otherwise, D who are blind or visually impaired. To access DVS, activate the second without the prior written permission of the WGBH Educational Foundation, Donar Juba audio program (S.A.P.) on your stereo TV or VCR. 125 Western Avenue, Boston, MA 02134. Marisa Peralta 17 U.S. Department of Education ® Office of Educational Research and Improvement (OERI) National Library of Education (NLE) IC Educational Resources Information Center (ERIC)

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