THE CATHOLIC MIRROR

Vol. 54, No. 11 November 20, 2020

As virus cases soar, diocese takes protective measures

Bishop William Joensen s requir- continue to gather around the events will be suspended in all together. By Anne Marie Cox ing face masks or coverings at all Eucharistic altar – the source and 80 parishes beginning Nov. 23 Parish activities such as Staff Writer public events in diocesan church summit of our faith – and wor- through Jan. 10 out of a con- faith formation and public wor- buildings until Feb 2, when it ship together,” he wrote in a Nov. cern for the physical health of ship will continue under current Following a spike in will be reviewed. 11 letter to the faithful. the faithful, and their spiritual guidelines of physical distanc- COVID-19-related infection, “I have taken this crit- In addition, diocesan health, by hopefully preserving hospitalization and mortality, ical step so we may responsibly and parish-sponsored social the faithful’s ability to worship Continued on page 8

Thanksgiving inspires gratitude, Creative ways to be together reflection and over the holidays giving back

By Kelly Mescher Collins Staff Writer

Even in the midst of a glob- al pandemic, there are reasons to give thanks, said Maureen Kenney, director of Stewardship for the Diocese of Des Moines. We can take a cue from St. Paul, Kenney said, whose letters often begin and end in Thanksgiving. “Give thanks in all circum- stances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you...Continue stead- fastly in prayer, being watchful in it with thanksgiving,” he wrote. Traditionally, the holidays are a time when many people give back to their church community or those in need. This has been a tough year though, Ken- ney concedes, noting that not everyone is in a position to give back financially Last year’s Christmas gathering for the extended Fangman family (pictured above) looked very different due to pandemic induced furloughs, job from how it will look this year. Sue McEntee of Assumption Parish in Granger (center, kneeling) has fun loss or hardships created by local, natu- virtual activities planned for her family Christmas celebration next month. ral disasters. “Are there other ways God “We’re just going to have a thanksgiving – what we’re thankful for. is calling you to use the gifts and tal- By Kelly Mescher Collins Staff Writer big Zoom with all of the extended fam- And then we dig in.” ents he has asked you to cultivate and ily…,” said Mesink, a mental health It’s not your typical Thanks- grow?” Kenney added. therapist at the Catholic Charities Coun- giving gathering, Mensink admits. But Volunteering your time and seling Center in Des Moines. “We’re at least they can still be together. talents to help those in need is just one Carol Mensink and 17 family members will be gathering around the going to have our laptops, dinner is “It’s going to be weird,” Men- way we can be of service. planned at the same time and we’re all sink said. “We know we’re going to The Catholic Charities Food table for next Thursday’s Thanksgiving holiday. Only this year, they’ll be gath- going to have our own turkey and carve Pantry is always looking for volunteers, our own turkey. We’ll say the prayers of said Leslie Van Der Molen, poverty re- ering virtually. Continued on page 9 duction program manager. “It’s a good way to be able to give back and see all the need in our community,” she said. New initiative heals post-election wounds “When COVID first hit we lost 60 percent of our volunteers,” Van Der Molen continued. “We changed how we By Kelly Mescher Collins Civilize It: Dignity Beyond tion have not been magically serve people to make sure everyone is Staff Writer the Debate, an initiative to pro- forgotten. safe. We were really able to adapt, but mote civility, clarity and com- “Those wounds ha- we still have volunteer needs.” In the months leading passion. ven’t gone away,” he said. Some volunteers perform du- up to the presidential election, Now, post-election, “They might become less vis- ties that have minimal contact with there were people who took the Diocese of Des Moines has ible after the election, but they others, such as building food packs, breaks from social media and launched Civilize It Iowa, to are still there.” while others safely interact with the avoided talking politics with promote healing and unity. The solution? Love public. The Catholic Charities Food family and friends because of “We saw a lot of di- and compassion. Pantry works hard on sanitation and so- the strain it puts on relation- vision [before the election],” “Jesus tells us that Take a photo of this QR cial distancing to prevent the spread of ships. said diocesan Vice Chancellor our call is to love on another code with your cell phone COVID-19 and ensure safety for every- To address the divi- Adam Storey. “But that divi- and that if I want to see char- to connect with the sions, the U.S. Conference of sion obviously still exists.” ity in the world, that charity Civilize It Iowa website. Catholic Bishops launched Hurtful words ex- has to dwell in my own heart Continued on page 7 changed leading up to the elec- first,” Storey said. Continued on page 3 www.dmdiocese.org 2 The Catholic Mirror November 20, 2020 Night Saving Time My brother David suf- sense and robust faith. Wellness to God’s tug on our hearts will Love to “presence” itself in the fered a freak accident several By experts will dispense the usual nudge us to be “alone with the acute absences that beset us. We weeks ago when he was opening Bishop advice about preventive measures Alone,” to allow God to share must pass into a night that is not a plastic drink container and the William that will sustain mental health our discomfort, and to commu- oppressive, a night not made by cap shot into his right eye, driv- Joensen (e.g., plenty of sleep, temperance nicate what only the Creator of human hands, a night that—dare ing the natural lens back to the in food and drink, moderate ex- both night and day knows--above I say it—is ‘pregnant’ with life in retina and leaving the eyeball ercise, intentional outreach to all those unspoken words, “I am communion that no virus can take filled with blood. The trauma folks who would delight in hear- with you.” from us. left him grappling with the pros- tion of what lies ahead is shroud- ing from us, fasting from media As the prophet Daniel Thanks to a skillful pect of being permanently blind ed by our present life disruptions or conversations that rile us up acclaims in an alternating play surgeon and, by his own ac- in one eye—his depth perception and the specter that things are go- and rob us of our peace). Yet of praise, “Nights and days, bless count, the power of prayers, my compromised, his field of vision ing to get much worse this winter our faith offers resources beyond the Lord. Light and darkness, brother Dave can now see colors reduced. His family and circle before they get better. what modern medicine or self- bless the Lord.” We need not be and shapes in his damaged eye, of people in his life ramped up We might feel both ac- help guides supply. Our prayer, anywhere other than where we though he awaits the insertion of the prayers. And though he was tual and anticipatory grief, inten- with varied courses of thanksgiv- are for God to find us, so that we an artificial lens. His traumatic attended by great MercyOne and sified by our November -remem ing, petition, and praise—some might discover the elusive peace experience was a night of faith in Wolfe Clinic medical staffs and brance of the souls who have from the treasury of Scripture and that only Jesus can bestow. While which God’s goodness and care surrounded by a lot of love, there gone before us in faith, whose Catholic tradition—is so vital if we have a natural preference for for him was confirmed, and we was an inevitable sense of isola- absence from the dinner table is we are to keep hope alive, to be light, and recoil from anything are all profoundly grateful. Yet tion and wrestling with uncertain- compounded by the prospective able to yield to sleep and awaken that would snatch sight from us, even if he had lost his sight, as ty and discomfort by himself that inability to even gather with fam- and step into the next day. our lives inevitably present us grievously tough as that might no one else could alleviate. ily members and friends whose The first century St. with darkness we did not choose. have been, God’s promise and As we draw close to fond stories of lost loved ones Pope Clement of Rome draws We can run from it and hide, or presence would have not have Thanksgiving and the season might spark laughter and sup- from Psalm 19 in reminding us we can choose to let the Author been diminished, for night and of Advent that quickly follows, ply balm for the soul. And, of that we are always in God’s pres- of both night and day enlist the day both belong to God. Advent I wonder if Dave’s experience course, we dare not broach the ence, and that he is always poised night to save us from ourselves, came early, though it still awaits captures what we all face as we topic of the recent election, lest to communicate his life and grace from our surrender to despair. all of us. The poet Robert Con- trudge onward through the pan- we squander any enduring sense to us: “Day unto day pours forth As we approach an Ad- quest sets the table for what lies demic. Infection rates are rising, of connection and goodwill that speech; night unto night whis- vent unlike any other, we cannot ahead: the admonitions not to gather for helps us hang together despite it pers knowledge. There is no do an end run around darkness traditional holiday meals and cus- all. Sigh. . . speech, no words; their voice is and hope to have our joy and Soft sounds and odours brim up tomary socializing are growing I’m not trying to plunge not heard.” Yet still, “A report peace replenished. Unlike the through the night more strident. The waning day- into the pool of melancholy or goes through all the earth, their artificial night of sin and solitary A wealth below the light makes us all vulnerable to a draw you with me below the sur- messages to the end of the earth.” confinement, a night “where no level of the eye. seasonal affective disorder of the face, but to simply name what is God’s Spirit wants to whisper to man can work,” (John 9:4), God Out of the black, soul that leaves us feeling sad, an- and what is not. Light and dark- us, but only if we take a risk and himself is at work, offering this an almost violet sky gry, and disoriented as we try to ness, sight and blindness mingle open our hearts to the darkness graceful season as his personal Abundance flowers into negotiate our way through half- these days in degrees we best en- that would befriend us. Only gift to us. He promises to reveal points of light. light, half-darkness. Our percep- gage with a healthy dose of good a holy boldness that responds his gentleness, his capacity for Horario de Invierno Mi hermano David sufrió su vida se lanzaron a la oración. Y bros de nuestra familia y amigos vital si queremos mantener la espe- Al acercarnos a un Advi- un extraño accidente hace varias aunque le atendieron los excelentes cuyas tiernas historias de los seres ranza viva, para ceder al sueño dis- ento como nunca a existido, no po- semanas cuando al estar abriendo equipos médicos de MercyOne y de queridos que hemos perdido nos puestos a despertar y comenzar un demos esforzarnos en la oscuridad una bebida en envase de plástico la Wolfe Clinic y estuvo rodeado de provocan risas y que son un un- nuevo día. y esperar que se llenen nuevamente tapadera le saltó a su ojo derecho, mucho amor, existía el inevitable güento para el alma. Y, por supues- En el primer siglo el papa nuestra paz y nuestro gozo. A dif- empujando su lente natural hacia sentido de aislamiento y el enfrenta to, no podemos atrevernos a tocas Clemente de Roma se refiere al sal- erencia de la noche artificial del la retina y dejando su ojo lleno de rse a la incertidumbre e incomodi- el tema de las recientes elecciones, mo 19 al recordarnos que estamos pecado y el confinamiento solitario, sangre. El trauma le hizo enfrentar dad por sí mismo, algo que nadie a menos que queramos agotar el siempre en la presencia de Dios una noche, “cuando nadie puede la posibilidad de quedar ciego de puede aliviar. mínimo sentido de conexión y bue- y que él está siempre dispuesto a trabajar,” (Juan 9:4), Dios mis- un ojo permanentemente – afectan- Al acercarnos al Día de na voluntad que nos ayuda a estar comunicar su vida y gracia con mo está trabajando, ofreciéndonos do su percepción de profundidad Acción de Gracias y a la temporada unidos a pesar de todo. En fin… nosotros: “Día a día nos llena de esta temporada de gracia como su y reduciendo su campo visual. Su de Adviento que le sigue inmediat- No estoy tratando de sal- diálogo; noche a noche susurra regalo personal para nosotros. Él familia y el círculo de personas en amente, me pregunto si la experien- tar en la piscina de la melancolía o conocimiento. No hay discurso, promete revelarnos su gentileza, su cia de Dave capta lo que enfrentam- hundirles conmigo bajo la superfi- no hay palabras, no se escucha su capacidad de Amor para “estar pre- os todos en nuestra marcha por esta cie, pero simplemente nombrar lo voz.” Aún así, “Se hace un reporte sente” sí mismo en las agudas au- pandemia. Las proporciones en in- que es y lo que no es. Luz y oscu- a toda la tierra, su mensaje llega sencias que nos afectan. Debemos THE CATHOLIC fecciones están aumentando, siguen ridad, vista y ceguera se mezclan hasta los confines de la tierra.” El entonces pasar hacia una noche creciendo más estridentemente las en estos días a un grado que es Espíritu de Dios quiere hablarnos que no oprime, una noche que no recomendaciones de no reunirnos mejor enfrentarlos con una salud- en susurro, pero solo si tomamos el está hecha por manos humanas, para las tradicionales comidas y re- able dosis de buen humor y de fe riesgo de abrir nuestros corazones a una noche que – me atrevo a decir MIRROR uniones sociales en las fiestas. La robusta. Los expertos en bienestar la oscuridad que pudiera envolver- – está ‘embarazada’ con vida en co- decreciente luz del día nos hace nos llenan de sus usuales conse- nos. Solamente una seguridad santa munión que ningún virus nos puede Bishop William Joensen vulnerables a un desorden afectivo jos sobre medidas preventivas que que responde al jalón que Dios da arrebatar. Publisher temporal en el alma que nos hace nos ayuden a conservar nuestra a nuestros corazones, nos llevará Gracias a un habilidoso [email protected] sentir tristes, enojados y desorien- salud mental (por ejemplo, dormir a estar “solos con el Solo” para cirujano y, según sus propias pal- tados al tratar de navegar a través lo suficiente, temperamento en el poder compartir con Dios nuestras abras, el poder de las oraciones, mi Anne Marie Cox de luz y oscuridad parciales. Nues- consumo de alimentos y bebidas, adversidades y comunicar lo que hermano Dave ya puede ver colores Editor tra percepción de los que nos espera ejercicio moderado, un esfuerzo in- solamente el creador del día y de la y formas con su ojo, y que espera [email protected] el día de mañana se nubla por las tencional de conectarse con aquel- noche sabe – por encima de todas que le coloquen un lente artificial. interrupciones de nuestra vida pre- los a quienes les daría gusta saber esas palabras sin pronunciar, “estoy Su traumática experiencia fue una sente y el espectro de que las cosas de nosotros, liberarnos de la prensa contigo.” noche de fe en la que la que se con- Kelly Mescher Collins van a empeorar este invierno antes o de conversaciones que nos alteran Tal como lo aclama el pro- firmó bondad y el cuidado de Dios Staff Writer de ver cualquier mejora. o que nos roban la paz.) Nuestra fe feta Daniel en su alternante canto de por él, y por lo que todos estamos [email protected] Podemos sentir el dolor nos sigue ofreciendo recursos más alabanza, “Noches y días, bendigan agradecidos. Aún si él hubiera per- tanto presente como anticipado, in- allá de lo que pueden ofrecernos la al Señor. Luz y oscuridad, bendigan dido la vista, con lo doloroso que The Catholic Mirror (ISSN tensificándose por nuestro recuerdo medicina moderna o sistemas de al Señor.” No debemos estar en otro eso hubiera sido, no se hubieran en noviembre de las almas que han auto ayuda. Nuestra oración, con lugar más que en donde estamos disminuido la promesa y presencia 0896-6869) is published partido en fe antes que nosotros., y sus variaciones de acción de gra- para que Dios pueda encontrarnos, de Dios, porque el día y la noche monthly for $20 per year by cuya ausencia en la mesa se hace cias, petición y alabanza – alguna para que podamos descubrir la paz le pertenecen a Dios. El Adviento the Diocese of Des Moines, más pesada con la perspectiva de no forma de tesoro que consta de Es- elusiva que solamente puede con- llegó temprano, aunque aun nos 601 Grand Ave., Des Moines, poder siquiera reunirnos con miem- critura y tradición católica – es tan cedernos. Ciertamente tenemos está esperando a todos. El poeta Iowa 50309. Periodicals post- una preferencia natural por la luz, Robert Conquest pone la mesa de age paid at Des Moines. y nos alejamos de cualquier cosa lo que nos depara: POSTMASTER: Send changes Consejero sobre Asistencia de Víctimas que pueda bloquear nuestra vista, to THE CATHOLIC MIR- nuestras vidas nos presentan inev- Sonidos y olores ROR, 601 Grand Ave., Des El Consejero sobre Asistencia de Víctimas es un empleado de Polk itablemente con oscuridades que no suaves llenan toda la noche Moines, Iowa 50309. County Victim Services. Ella ayuda a víctimas de abuso sexual por elegimos. Podemos huir de estas y Una riqueza debajo PHONE: (515)237-5046 parte del clero durante el proceso de la queja y buscando servicios escondernos, o podemos optar por del nivel del ojo. EMAIL: mirror@dmdiocese. permitir al Autor del día y de la Fuera de lo negro, org de apoyo y consejería. Pueden comunicarse al 515-286-2028 o en noche alistar la noche para salvar- un cielo casi violeta DIOCESAN WEBSITE: [email protected]. nos de nosotros mismos, de que nos Abundantes flores www.dmdiocese.org rindamos a la desesperación. en puntas de luz. 3 www.dmdiocese.org The Catholic Mirror November 20, 2020 Registration Mission accomplished for Catholic Youth Camp In sorrow or joy, deacon challenged others to find God in their experiences now open By Gregg Lagan Contributing Writer Registration for Catholic Youth Camp for the summer of 2021 opened at noon on Nov. 15. The clock would strike Campers driving to the 8:30 a.m. at MercyOne Des St. Thomas More Center in Pan- Moines Medical Center, and ora next June, July and August the sound of bells was heard will find new cabins, a renovat- throughout the halls. ed Dingman Lodge and double Then came the familiar, the number of paid summer staff booming greeting: “Good morn- hired to ensure safety procedures ing, MercyOne!” as Deacon are followed so everyone can Dave O’Brien captured attention have a safe experience. and shared a morning message COVID-19 prompted the and prayer. closing of CYC last summer as a For 14 years, he led precautionary step toward pro- pastoral care, reminding staff, tecting families from the spread visitors and patients that the of the virus. healing ministry of Jesus is alive Administrators took ad- and present for them. vantage that free time to make During the first week major changes. Without youth of November, Deacon O’Brien at the camp, construction moved started a new chapter in his life forward on new cabins and side- as he retired. walks. Dingman Lodge, which He wasn’t looking for houses a kitchen and space for a job when his ministry went in group activities, is undergoing a new direction. With a 32-year Photo by Gregg Lagan renovation now. career in public and Catholic ed- Deacon Dave O’Brien distributes communion to a patient at MercyOne Des Moines. In addition, over the last ucation and coaching, in 2006 he few months leaders have learned was teaching at Dowling Catho- from health experts and talking lic High School and serving at St. loss. During his first week, he to someone one day, and it was to serve the sick from all faiths with other youth camps about Francis of Assisi Parish in West was called to the pediatric unit, for him. Those at the wedding by connecting to others on their how to host groups safely in the Des Moines. Also a member of where a 15-month-old child had did not know her. spiritual journey and walk them age of the coronavirus. St. Francis, MercyOne Central died. When he arrived, Deacon Reflecting back, he said through their crises. “Over the last six Iowa Chief Mission Officer Lau- O’Brien saw the nurse gently he believes these events were “I witnessed him com- months, we’ve gained valuable ra Wenman experienced first- placing the child in the mother’s ways God was answering his fort a man who had just lost his information about COVID-19 hand Deacon O’Brien’s strong arms, much like the Blessed Vir- questions. mother, and the same with par- safety,” said Alex Kautzky, exec- faith and energy. She approached gin held Jesus. The family had He served patients, ents who gave birth to a stillborn utive director of the center. “This him about the need for a director asked for Deacon O’Brien spe- their families and the staff. baby,” said Wenman. “This hap- includes field-tested best practices of pastoral care at MercyOne. cifically, as they knew he worked “Serving in health care pened every day, and his pres- from countless childcare centers, With no clinical back- at the hospital. is very rewarding but it also ence to our patients, families and schools and businesses that have ground nor idea of what to “This was very chal- takes its toll on all caregivers,” colleagues was dearly appreciat- reopened and used various strat- expect, Deacon O’Brien ap- lenging and I wasn’t sure I could said Wenman. “For the Mercy- ed. We will miss him, but are so egies to create a safe and health proached retired Bishop Joseph do this,” he said. One family, Dave helped bring joyful he can spend the time with community.” Charron, who led the diocese at Shortly afterward, he perspective to moments of both his beloved grandchildren.” CYC serves about 1,500 the time, for counsel. officiated at a family wedding in sorrow and joy, always chal- His goal was focused youth over the summer who come “Approaching Catho- Buffalo, New York. During the lenging us to see where God was on mission: “When a person is for a week-long adventure of lic health care is a mission not a reception, a woman approached present in our experience.” discharged, their faith should be building friendships, creating fun cause,” Bishop Charron advised. him and gave Deacon O’Brien Deacon O’Brien began better as well.” memories and growing in their While serving in health an image of Jesus watching over to better understand the bishop’s Catholic faith. care, Deacon O’Brien quickly a surgeon. The woman said she advice. It became clearer that he For information on how experienced joy and the pain of had been told she should give it and his colleagues were there to register, go to stmcenter.com.

Healing post- election wounds

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Becoming more like Je- sus and increasing in holiness will help us better see our neighbors as sons and daughters of God – in- stead of political party affiliation. We are grateful for the many ways the community has come together to support “Even in the end if we disagree, the relationship is im- our students and teachers during the pandemic. As we focus on fulfilling our portant,” said John Gaffney, di- mission, support of the We Are Maroons Annual Appeal is more important than ocesan director of Evangelization and Catechesis. “That ongoing ever before. commitment to the dignity of the person right in front of us is [vi- tal].” Now is the perfect time to make a gift to DCHS. The CARES Act relief initiative Civilize It Iowa invites allows taxpayers to deduct up to $300 of their cash donations made in 2020 to people to make a personal com- mitment to pray, fast and give qualifying organizations like ours. This new tax deduction helps provide alms in small ways for the sake of COVID-19 relief by giving any taxpayer, whether or not you itemize, a tax break charity in our hearts and for our nation. for your generosity. To learn more about Civilize It Iowa and sign up for monthly emails highlighting re- Your support can truly make a difference in preparing Leaders for Life, Centered sources that help foster unity, go on Christ. To donate, please visit www.dowlingcatholic.org/donate or mail a check to CivilizeItIowa.com or in Span- ish at CivilizaloIowa.com to Dowling Catholic High School, 1400 Buffalo Road, West Des Moines, IA 50265. 4 www.dmdiocese.org The Catholic Mirror November 20, 2020 Emmaus House begins Finding faith online

pilgrimage to new home By Kelly Mescher Collins Staff Writer

The pandemic has af- fected the faith community’s ability to gather. In response, Emmaus House is offering a number of virtual opportunities. “People are connect- ing that maybe wouldn’t have before,” said Kevin O’Donnell, co-director of Emmaus House. “Maybe people can’t get away or wouldn’t be able to drive to us, but they can join for a Zoom called Reflecting on Our Experi- gathering. “ ence every Saturday at 10 a.m. People from out of state Emmaus is also offer- have even joined, opening up the ing a variety of virtual events in possibilities, O’Donnell added. the month of December, includ- In fact, this year’s online Ignati- ing an Advent Evening Retreat. an retreat had 70 attendees – up Virtual spiritual direc- from approximately 45 people tion is available by appointment last year. with O’Donnell or Emmaus “People are very much co-director Father Dan Krettek. The new home of Emmaus House, located in Urbandale, is expected to have the appreciating the space to gath- “From the feedback $450,000 renovation project complete by spring 2021. The property at 1521 Center er and find a way to connect,” we’ve gotten, people are still just Street in Des Moines is for sale. O’Donnell said. very much appreciating [what Attendees appreciate we offer] during this difficult ence.” Bishop Joensen. “The tradition the intimacy of seeing each oth- time,” O’Donnell said. “People By Kelly Mescher Collins “We plan to create that of providing spiritual direction, er in virtual gatherings. If these are looking for spaces to nour- Staff Writer homelike, warm feeling that reflection, faith formation, and same gatherings were in person, ish their spiritual life and finding we’ve always had,” added Kev- mediating the fruits of the Holy they would be spread out six feet Emmaus is a wonderful place for The Catholic spirituality in O’Donnell, who co-directs Spirit for folks of different ages apart and wearing masks. that… People are very much ex- center Emmaus House will soon Emmaus House with Father Dan and faiths will be magnified with The Catholic spirituali- periencing God’s presence and be moving from its longtime lo- Krettek. Both men also offer the enlarged, accessible spaces ty center offers virtual centering entering into those gatherings.” cation on Center Street in the spiritual direction. that will retain the human-friend- prayer every Wednesday at noon, Learn more and register Sherman Hill neighborhood of The renovation project ly, inviting character of its former guided prayerful meditation ev- for virtual opportunities at th- Des Moines to its new home in will include a new HVAC system, home once renovations are com- ery Friday at noon and a session eEmmausHouse.org. Urbandale. roof, windows and lift. Comple- pleted. The new building, pur- tion of the $450,000 renovation “The Emmaus board, chased in May, is the former Ur- is projected for Spring 2021. in collaboration with my prede- th Emmaus Advent Evening Retreat bandale City Hall, at 3315 70 St. This progress could not cessor, Emeritus Bishop (Rich- An anonymous do- have been possible without the ard) Pates, and dedicated donors Virtual Advent Evening Retreat: nor was the catalyst for raising support of some “fantastic do- and supporters are bringing a matching renovation dollars, said Hope in the Midst of the Imperfect nors,” said board member Mary long-germinating vision to frui- board chairperson Mary Ann Van O’Brien. However, they are still tion,” Bishop Joensen continued. Dyke. Thursday, Dec. 3 accepting donations to reach full “The strategic location will en- 6:00 - 8:00 P.M. The complete internal renovation. able individuals to drop in during demolition and rebuild will offer Emmaus House has the the day for spiritual renewal amid Whether 2,000 years ago or the year 2020, this hopeful truth re- a modern, handicap accessible full support of Bishop William their busy work, family, and oth- mains: God enters, God resides. During this holiday season, when oasis for those seeking to deepen Joensen. er commitments. Truly, it will their spirituality and be part of a our lives and celebrations may not be as we hoped, join Emmaus “I’m inspired as the remain an oasis of peace and life for a quiet evening of prayer, and listen for God's gentle voice faith community. 46-year-old history of Emmaus that will kindle hearts just as the “It will have the essence reminding us of our true hope: God enters, God resides...even in House now makes ‘pilgrimage’ first disciples discovered at Em- these apparently imperfect moments of our lives. of Emmaus House, even though from its long-time Sherman maus.” the building doesn’t appear to be Hill location to the demograph- Learn more at TheEm Register for this virtual retreat at a house,” Van Dyke said. “It’s ic center of the diocese in the mausHouse.org. TheEmmausHouse.org what inside that makes the differ- old Urbandale City Hall,” said St. Luke in Ankeny breaks ground for expansion

St. Luke the Evangelist and more storage space to accom- Catholic School and Parish in An- modate our growth now and for keny broke ground on their expan- years to come.” sion project Oct. 27. St. Luke Catholic School Expansion includes six grew by more than 35 percent this new classrooms, a multipurpose past year. Growth is likely con- meeting room, expanded parking, nected to educational continuity storage, and storm shelter. Com- the school provided to families pletion is expected in July 2021 during the pandemic. - just in time for the new school Last spring as schools year. across the state closed, the Diocese Funding for construc- of Des Moines Catholic schools - tion is provided through its capital including St. Luke - quickly imple- campaign. The St. Luke commu- mented a high-quality, interactive nity has secured $3.2 million in distance learning program for all pledged gifts and cash for the $3.5 students. million project. A groundbreaking “I am so excited to see ceremony was held our building expand, which will “This project has been a allow our school to continue to long time coming and we have had grow,” said Misty Hade, school a number of iterations of the plans, administrator. but it is finally happening,” said To learn more about en- Father Ken Halbur, pastor. “It is rollment opportunities, visit slte- a wonderful blessing for the parish school.org or call 515-985-7074. Father Ken Halbur leads the groundbreaking ceremony at St. Luke Catholic School to add classrooms, meeting rooms, and Parish in Ankeny on Oct. 27 for its $3.5 million expansion project. www.dmdiocese.org The Catholic Mirror November 20, 2020 5

Working to break the cycle of poverty by helping low-income people participate in decisions that affect their lives, families, and communities.

For over 50 years, CCHD has been working to empower new mothers, immigrants, the elderly, and families to together address the root causes of poverty in their communities.

Celebrate CCHD’s 50th anniversary and social justice work with their annual national collection happening the weekend of November 21-22.

our support for this collection brings change to com- Ymunities across the country and empowers those liv- ing in poverty to transform the places where they live into reflections of the Kingdom of God. In addition to the na- tional impact, those living in poverty in our own diocese may benefit through the 25% share of our collection that stays in the Des Moines diocese. Most Rev. William M. Joensen, Ph.D. Bishop of Des Moines

FOR MORE INFORMATION, PLEASE CONTACT: Debra Powers, Catholic Charities Development Director at 563-275-9643 or [email protected]

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To reduce the spread of COVID-19, is intended for ministers, pastoral and hope. The Advent series will be learn how we address homelessness register, at 515-480-3314 (Bill) 641- all diocesan and parish-sponsored or agents, catechists, RCIA facilita- held on the first three Thursdays in in our community. Register at https:// 425-0109 (Ann) or email them. For hosted social events are suspended tors, lay leaders, pastors, deacons, December either at 2 p.m. or 7 p.m. www.catholiccharitiesdm.org/nri/. more information visit the Catholic’s between Nov. 23 and Jan. 10. As the youth ministers, parents, etc. Reg- Contact John Gaffney at jgaffney@ Raffle tickets available at https:// Divorce Survival Guide website. Church enters the season of Advent, ister by going to https://zoom.us/ dmdiocese.org for more information www.catholiccharitiesdm.org/nativi there are opportunities for the faith- meeting/register/tJUrd-GprDMqE- or to receive the Zoom link. ty/ Now ful to be community by gathering 9BoN-_-GpRgruMMKhaJRrHV. CYC Registration Open online. Sessions will also be held Jan. 5, 12 Dec. 4 Friday Dec. 6 Sunday Catholic Youth Camp is of- and 19. No Room at the Inn Goes Catholic’s Divorce Survival Guide fering new cabins, a renovated Ding- Dec. 1, 8 VIRTUAL DIVORCED? The Catho- man Lodge and double the number Workshop in Spanish about Dec. 3, 10, 17 Thursdays Join Bishop William Jo- lic’s DIVORCE SURVIVAL Guide of paid summer staff to ensure safety Implementation of Directory for Advent Retreat Opportunity ensen and the Catholic Charities 12-week group begins Dec. 6 at Holy procedures are followed so everyone Catechesis The diocese is offering a Board of Directors for 2020 No Trinity Parish, 2926 Beaver Ave, can have a safe, faith-filled, fun sum- The U.S. bishops and the virtual retreat during Advent called Room at the Inn VIRTUAL. This Des Moines, IA. Meetings are from mer experience. Registration is now national Hispanic Ministry dioc- “Hope in the Midst of the Storm.” year the entire family can join in 6-7:30 p.m. Cost of $30 per person open at stmcenter.com. esan directors along with Sadlier The three-week online retreat pro- from the comfort and safety of your includes a “Personal Survival Guide” Religion are offering workshops in vides sacred space to journey through home. Listen to some holiday music, and all materials for 12 weeks. Find Spanish about the implementation Advent in contemplation and con- have some fun trying to spot all the comfort and counsel consistent with of the New Directory for Catechesis versation with others along the way. candy canes, and go on virtual tours Catholic teachings. Call Bill and Ann in the Hispanic Community. This It’s designed to help you find solace of Catholic Charities programs and Moore for more information, or to No Room at the Inn VIRTUAL is the safe way to celebrate

Is anyone in YOUR family DIVORCED? Please give someone a copy of this ad or invite them to The Catholic’s DIVORCE SURVIVAL Guide 12-week group which begins December 6th at Holy Trinity Parish, 2926 Beaver Ave, Des Moines, IA 50310. Cost of $30 per person includes a “Personal Survival Guide” and all materials for 12 weeks. Find com- fort and counsel consistent with Catholic teachings. Call Bill and Ann Moore for more information, or to register, at 515-480-3314 (Bill) 641-425-0109 (Ann) or email [email protected]. For more information visit www.catholicsdivorce.com Phil Koehler, of Our Lady’s Immaculate Heart Parish in Ankeny, hand carved a nativity scene for a raffle for No Room at the Inn. Tune in to By Beth Gibbins gency Family Shelter, Refugee Contributing Writer Services, and the Domestic Vi- Making it Personal with olence Shelter. “We hope that people Bishop Joensen No Room at the will join us online,” said Com- Inn has been a staple holiday munity Outreach Manager Hol- fundraising event for Catholic ly Ackermann. “We have some Charities for many years. It has great musical performances. endured winter storms and a This year the whole family can major gas leak. watch together and count candy The pandemic was canes throughout the show!” this year’s unexpected twist. “This year has been Fortunately, it did not derail the very challenging for Catholic event, just sent it down a differ- Charities. We have implement- ent track. ed cost-saving measures at ev- This year’s event will ery turn, in order to keep our be broadcast on the Catholic programs open,” said Decker. Charities website. It will air on “The need is greater than ever Friday, Dec. 4, at 7 p.m. Pre- for No Room at the Inn, so we senting sponsors are Mercy- hope people will not only give, One and Ryan Staiert Interior but join us online for a fun and Design. Anyone who donates educational evening.” to No Room at the Inn VIRTU- Another tradition is AL will receive the computer the raffle of a hand-carved na- link to the broadcast to watch tivity by Phil Kohler of Our La- from the comfort and safety of dy’s Immaculate Heart Parish in their own home. Ankeny. This year’s eight-piece Bishop William Jo- nativity features a single figure Pictured are Sinishaw Iticha ensen and Barbara Decker, of the holy family sleeping. of Catholic Charities Refu- Heard every Friday morning at 9 a.m. executive director of Catholic Tickets are $20 or six tickets for gee Program and his 5-year- Charities, will host the show. $100. old son, Yerosan. Yerosan Iowa Catholic Radio: 1150 AM | 88.5 FM | 94.5 FM The evening’s theme is “from For more information, shares his parents’ refugee our home to yours,” and is set in call Holly Ackermann at 515- and citizenship story and or stream at www.IowaCatholicRadio.com the bishop’s home. We will fea- 237-5027. To register, buy raffle reads a prayer at the begin- Spirit Catholic Radio Network: 102.7 FM ture Catholic Charities housing tickets, and donate, go to www. ning of the broadcast of No initiatives, including the Emer- catholiccharitiesdm.org/nri. Room at the Inn. The Catholic Mirror November 20, 2020 7 Thanksgiving inspires gratitude, giving back Matching funds sweeten gift Continued from page 1 Catholic parishes across the dio- do during this COVID crisis,” cese have not been immune from he wrote. “We thought long and for Catholic school students one, she added. the negative, economic impacts hard about maybe having an The Food Pantry serves of COVID-19. abbreviated or modified event. Father Joel McNeil, However when you get into the almost 400 people per day By Anne Marie Cox the east side of the diocese all pastor of St. Patrick Parish in specifics of volunteers and tasks during the daily distribution. Staff Writer the way over to St. Albert on Many volunteers enjoy Dunlap and Sacred Heart Par- and distancing, we realized it the west side, with St. Malachy, the camaraderie and friendships ish in Woodbine, said the parish just wasn’t feasible.” A matching grant from Shelby County, and St. Patrick they have developed. had to cancel this year’s annual He closed his letter, the Reichardt family is making in Perry in between, if families “But it’s also a mean- fall festival, one of their biggest asking “that you consider the financial gifts for Catholic school qualify, they get help,” Wells ingful opportunity to give back fundraisers of the year. amount you might have spent on students go a little farther. said. “Every school has families to the community,” she said. With Mass attendance donations, food tickets, raffles, The Reichardt Family in need.” “Some of our volunteers have down to about one-third of pre- auctions, games, etc.,” and make Foundation is doubling contri- The Iowa legislature been here for a really long time COVID attendance, would peo- a donation to the parish. butions from new donors to the created school tuition organi- and have built a rapport with ple still remember their church Parishioners gave, sur- Catholic Tuition Organization, zations in 2006, allowing for some of the clients we serve.” community? passing Father McNeil’s expec- which provides financial assis- $2.5 million in tax credits split For those who are in a In lieu of a fall festival, tations. tance to needy families who want among the nonpublic schools position to give back financial- Father McNeil wrote a letter to “We gave the reasons their children educated in Catho- in the state. The state has incre- ly, there are a variety of ways all parishioners explaining their why the fall festival was im- lic schools. mentally increased the cap in tax to serve those in need with their situation. portant and they stepped up in a A $1,000 gift to the credits over the years. Last year, treasures, Kenney added. “We have had several big way,” he said. “We’re very CTO that’s intended to help pay the state allocated for this school meetings to figure out what to gratified that even in the midst of the tuition for students becomes year up to $15 million to non- COVID, people have been con- $2,000 thanks to the matching public schools. cerned about the parish. They grant. The $1,000 gift also earns “Many times, the leg- have not forgotten about us and state tax credits. islature came together to say continued to send in their dona- The generosity of the yes, we’re going to encourage tions.” Reichardt family will help the school choice,” Wells said. Since He is grateful for their CTO reach its $3.9 million goal the start of the program, “we’ve continued support. for this calendar year. given more than 20,000 awards “Because the bills don’t “We felt very fortunate to families amounting to $31 stop coming in,” Father McNeil to be able to send our kids to million in the Diocese of Des said. “Even though the ministry Dowling. We think it’s important Moines.” has declined, most of the ex- that others have the opportunity The CTO benefits both penses are pretty static….I still who could not otherwise afford families and donors. have to heat the church, wheth- the tuition have the same oppor- Families apply to the er there’s 300 people in it or 30 tunity,” according to the Reich- CTO for help with tuition. The people in it.” ardt family. application goes to a third-party Reaching parishioners Roughly a third of the vendor to determine whether the at home with technology so students in the 16 schools in the family meets the criteria to get a they can continue joining in the Diocese of Des Moines -- 2,063 grant. celebration of Mass has meant kids -- are learning reading, Donors give to the CTO increased costs, from upgraded math and more in a faith-based and get 65 percent of their con- internet services to new equip- environment right now thanks to tributions back with tax credits ment, such as an iPad and cam- tuition assistance from the CTO. that can reduce their state income era. Jeanne Wells, the or- taxes while sharing their finan- The parish also offers ganization’s executive director, cial resources with others. significant support to their youth says she’s leaving no stone un- Wells encourages do- so they can attend Catholic turned as she invites donors to nors to check out CTOIowa.org Youth Camp and the National help families. She needs to meet to learn how a gift to help fam- Catholic Youth Conference – her goal by Dec. 31 to help as ilies through the CTO would “really important evangelization many students as possible. work for them. opportunities for our students,” “From St. Joseph on he added.

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Masks or face coverings required at all events in Church buildings

Dear Friends in Christ, Queridos amigos en Cristo, Estoy muy consciente que en el estado de Iowa y en nuestro país la incidencia de infección, I am acutely aware that in the State of Iowa and in our country the incidence of infec- hospitalización y mortalidad debida al coronavirus que causa el Covid-19 está aumentando tion, hospitalization, and mortality due to the coronavirus that causes Covid-19 is rising significativamente justo ahora que empezamos los días festivos y la temporada de invierno. significantly just as we as enter the holiday and winter seasons. I conclude that it is Concluyo que es necesario exigir a la gente el uso de cubre bocas o cubiertas para asistir a necessary to require face masks or coverings at all public Masses, sacramental cele- todas las misas públicas, celebraciones sacramentales y otros eventos en los edificios de la brations, and other events in Church buildings in the Diocese of Des Moines, effective Iglesia en la Diócesis de Des Moines, con efecto inmediato. Este requisito se extiende has- immediately. This requirement extends through February 2, 2021 (The Feast of the ta el 2 de febrero del 2021 (La Fiesta de la Presentación), momento en el que se revisará. Presentation), at which time it will be reviewed. I have taken this critical step so we He dado este paso crítico para que podamos seguir reuniéndonos responsablemente alrede- may responsibly continue to gather around the Eucharistic altar – the source and summit dor del altar eucarístico -la fuente y la cumbre de nuestra fe- y seguir adorando juntos. of our faith – and worship together. La Eucaristía es la perla preciosa ganada a costa del sacrificio salvador de Cristo en la The Eucharist is the pearl of great price won at the cost of Christ’s saving sacrifice on Cruz. El sacrificio tanto personal como comunitario que implica llevar un cubre boca es the Cross. The personal and communal sacrifice entailed in wearing a mask, while it para muchos el renunciar a nuestra voluntad y preferencia personal y a nuestra comodidad, involves for many a yielding of our will and personal preference and comfort, pales in pero eso no es nada cuando se compara con el privilegio de participar en la Misa. Nuestra comparison to the privilege of participating in the Mass. Our ability to continue to ex- habilidad para seguir experimentando la gracia de Dios en la vida sacramental de la Iglesia perience God’s grace in the sacramental life of the Church is directly linked to our abil- está directamente relacionada con nuestra habilidad para reducir el riesgo de infecciones ity to mitigate the risk of COVID infections; therefore, a mask requirement is prudent de COVID; por lo tanto, el requerir el uso de cubre bocas es prudente en este momento. at this time. Moreover, simple charity obliges us to take into account the physical and Además, la simple caridad nos obliga a tener en cuenta la salud física de todos los parro- psychic health of others as a way to ensure that worship is relatively safe and accessible quianos como una forma de garantizar que la Misa sea relativamente segura y accesible al to as many parishioners as possible. None of us wants to be the cause for someone else mayor número posible de parroquianos. Ninguno de nosotros quiere ser la causa para que otra persona se retire o se abstenga de la asistencia a la Misa porque ciertos miembros de to withdraw or refrain from Mass attendance because certain members of a congrega- una congregación no emplean este medio básico de protección para nuestro prójimo. tion fail to employ this basic means of protection for our neighbor. Este requisito diocesano se aplica a todos aquellos mayores de cinco años, que no tengan This diocesan requirement applies to all those over the age of five, who do not have a una condición médica o psicológica que prohíba el uso de cubre bocas. Una preferencia medical or psychological condition prohibiting mask use. A personal preference op- personal opuesta al uso de cubre bocas, o la creencia de que los cubre bocas no son efecti- posed to mask use, or the belief that masks are not effective, does not qualify as a con- vos, no califica como una condición que libre a la persona del uso del cubre bocas. Si los dition exempting one from mask use. If parishioners are unsure whether an exemption parroquianos no están seguros de sí pueden o no usar su cubre bocas deben consultar con applies to them, they should consult with their pastor who can assist in discernment. su párroco, quien puede ayudarles en el discernimiento.

The Diocese asks parishes to communicate this requirement to all parishioners, and to La Diócesis pide a las parroquias que comuniquen este requisito a todos los parroquianos, ensure observance by the faithful. Again, the one thing needful is to be able to place y que garanticen que se lleve a cabo por parte de los fieles. Una vez más, lo único que se ourselves at Jesus’ feet, to heed his command to take, eat, and drink his sacramental necesita es ser capaces de ponernos a los pies de Jesús, para escuchar su orden de tomar, Body and Blood. We are consoled and revived in our belief that Jesus continues to meet comer y beber su Cuerpo y Sangre. Nos consuela y revivimos en nuestra creencia de que us in the Eucharist; we continue to support each other as the family of God, and we Jesús continúa encontrándonos en la Eucaristía; seguimos apoyándonos mutuamente como remain in God’s providential care. As Cardinal Robert Sarah has reminded us in his la familia de Dios, y permanecemos en el cuidado providencial de Dios. Como nos ha letter, Let Us Return to the Eucharist with Joy, “The Church will continue to cherish the recordado el Cardenal Robert Sarah en su carta: Volvamos a la Eucaristía con Alegría: human person as a whole. She bears witness to hope, invites us to trust in God, recalls “La Iglesia seguirá atesorando a la persona humana. Nos da testimonio de esperanza, nos that earthly existence is important, but much more important is eternal life: sharing the invita a confiar en Dios, nos recuerda que la existencia terrenal es importante, pero mucho same life with God for eternity is our goal, our vocation.” más importante es la vida eterna: compartir la misma vida con Dios para toda la eternidad es nuestra meta, nuestra vocación”. The Sunday Mass obligation remains suspended. For those who are not able to attend La obligación de la Misa Dominical permanece suspendida. Para aquellos que no asisten a Mass during the pandemic because of personal vulnerability, God’s infinite grace and la Misa durante la pandemia, la infinita gracia y misericordia de Dios permanecen abun- mercy remain abundantly available. dantemente disponibles.

Faithfully in Christ, Fielmente en Cristo,

Bishop William Joensen Karla Vaquerano Willis of Sacred Heart Parish in West Des Moines

As virus cases soar, protective measures taken Prayer for those unable Continued from page 1 are working with public health hand hygiene.” to receive the Eucharist partners to meet the communi- Being attentive to ty needs, MercyOne Dr. Hijinio COVID-19 mitigation practic- ing, hand sanitizing and the use Carreon asked every Iowan to es is a way to serve the common of masks as a means of protect- Prayer for spiritual communion for those who would like to do what he or she can to limit the good and show loving concern for ing each other from the spread of receive the Eucharist but cannot during the pandemic. spread of the virus. our neighbor, and it helps ensure COVID-19. “It’s going to take every that the Catholic community can These changes came Iowan to do their part to get this continue to worship together and as cases of COVID-19 surged in Jesus, I believe that You are present virus under control,” he said at a celebrate the Eucharist, the source Iowa. At press time, nearly 1,400 in the Most Holy Sacrament news conference. “I’m asking you and summit of the faith. people with the virus were in Iowa I love you above all things, as an emergency room physician, The Sunday Mass ob- hospitals. During a spring peak, and I desire to receive You into my soul. as a father and as a husband, please ligation remains suspended. For there were 417 patients with the Since I cannot at this moment receive you sacramentally, protect your families, our commu- those who do not attend Mass virus in Iowa hospitals, according come at least spiritually into my heart. I embrace You as nity and our healthcare workers during the pandemic because of to the Iowa Department of Public if You were already there and unite myself wholly to You. by wearing a mask, avoiding large personal vulnerability, God’s in- Health. Never permit me to be separated from You. gatherings, maintaining physical finite grace and mercy remain While medical centers Amen. distancing and using meticulous abundantly available. The Catholic Mirror November 20, 2020 The Catholic Mirror November 20, 2020 9 Tips for making the best of COVID-19 socially distanced holidays It’s harder to find the happy

Drastic differences in centerpiece, or perhaps a can- this year’s holiday gatherings can dle lit during a holiday. If you this 2020 holiday season trigger a variety of emotions, from can, take part in a voluntary grief to guilt or anger, said Carol activity that your loved one “I’ve seen people who restored their faith during this, and I’ve seen people abandon Mensink, mental health counselor used to do. faith during this,” said Deacon Randy Kiel. at Catholic Charities Counseling • If in-person religious services Center. Mensink points to Magel- or events have changed, see gling to cope – COVID-19 has financial impact of the virus. lan Health recommendations: if you can still participate via By Kelly Mescher Collins been associated with mental • Marked concern that for- televised services, video chats Staff Writer health challenges. According to eigners spread the disease. • Think about changing your and online prayer meetings. the CDC, last June 40 percent of • Related symptoms of trau- family traditions to adapt to A list of Christmas Masses U.S. adults reported struggling matic stress. social distancing. Consider available online in the Des Brightening spirits with mental health or substance • Compulsive checking and virtual alternatives to keep in Moines diocese will be in this holiday season amidst the abuse. seeking reassurance. touch with important people the December edition of The COVID-19 “new normal” will COVID-19 is an unin- in your life. Catholic Mirror. be more difficult. vited guest at the table this hol- People react differently • Follow the CDC’s recom- • Most importantly, take care The Centers for Dis- iday season, said Deacon Randy to the COVID-induced upheaval mendations when organizing of your mental health. Try to ease Control and Prevention Kiel, founder of Kardia Coun- in their lives. a gathering at your home. If replace negative thoughts by recommends social distancing seling in Clive. But we have to “I’ve seen people who possible, hold outdoor events focusing on the things you and avoiding large gatherings as make room for it, whether we restored their faith during this, with a small group of local can control. Building your re- a way of protecting others from like it or not, for the health and and I’ve seen people abandon friends and family members, silience skills can help protect contracting the virus. safety of ourselves and our loved faith during this,” Deacon Kiel make sure everyone wears a your mental health. “For many people, this ones. said. mask, maintain 6-foot social is the first time they have been This pandemic has had Accepting that distance and do not share food Find more tips at the confronted with empty chairs such a strong impact that the COVID-19 is here versus a re- or drinks. CDC website, bit.ly/dailylifecop at the table because loved ones American Psychiatric Associ- fusal to accept it comes in stages, • If you have lost a loved one, ing. cannot or are unwilling to attend ation has even identified a new Deacon Kiel added. honor their memory with a family gatherings,” said Carol syndrome – the COVID Stress That means grieving special ornament, wreath or Mensink, mental health therapist Syndrome. the way life used to be in order at the Catholic Charities Coun- “We have been charged to move forward into our new seling Center. as clinicians to be watchful for reality, he added. “Cherished traditions people’s mental health,” he said. “We really have to and religious events may have Five indicators of COVID Stress grieve the way life used to be Knights serve Central been canceled due to the virus, Syndrome are: in order to accept the way life with no clear end in sight due to • Fear of danger from is becoming,” Deacon Kiel said. Iowa Shelter & Services social distancing restrictions,” COVID-19 and getting in- “And fortunately, God created she said. “People who live alone fected by different means the brain to always find normal. or far from family, or who have e.g. touching contaminated We will stabilize with it.” lost loved ones, may find holi- objects, breathing contami- days especially difficult.” nated air. People have been strug- • Worry about the social and

Creative ways to be together for the holidays

Carol Mesnick’s family gathers around the computer every Saturday evening. They also plan to be together at Thanksgiving virtually.

Bruce Kalisek (left) and Rob Ryan (right) fry fish at the Cen- Sue McEntee is large family. tral Iowa Shelter & Services in downtown Des Moines in Continued from page 1 bummed their house won’t be “It’s going to be a virtu- October. COVID-19 caused the Knights of Columbus from filled with family at Thanks- al Zoom Christmas,” said McEn- Council 12422 to cancel a Lenten fish fry last March. Knights from St. Francis of Assisi Parish in West Des Moines had laugh and we can’t change it, we giving or Christmas, but un- tee, who created secret boxes to already purchased the frozen food for the meal. Due to the can’t control it. So I know it’s derstands precautions need to be ship to families members, filled uncertainty of hosting a fish fry at the parish, the Knights hard to be optimistic, but it’s go- taken for the safety of everyone. with surprises and activities that donated the food and their time to serve about 200 guests ing to help you get through it.” “This is my favorite they’ll do together on December at CISS. Photo provided by Ryan Johnson/Knights of Co- On the bright side, their time of the year – and to have 12. “What they know now is that lumbus Council 12422 virtual Thanksgiving celebration everyone in one place – there’s they are all have to dress Christ- will include many more relatives just nothing like that,” said mas-y.” than one of their houses would McEntee, who is executive di- The secret box will typically be able to handle if rector of the Catholic Founda- include a Christmas scavenger they gathered in person. Eigh- tion of Southwest Iowa. “It’s just hunt, Christmas bingo, cookie Reach 35,000 households by teen relatives from Clear Lake, a really fun time and we usual- decorating and more. Prizes will placing an ad in Clive, Waterloo, Texas, Nebras- ly do things like bowling, ugly be mailed out to the winning ka and Minneapolis will all be sweater contests. We’ve had a teams after the family’s virtual together virtually. The bonus: Caribbean Themed Christmas, Christmas. The Catholic Mirror. zero hours spent driving to their we’ve done a gingerbread con- Though 2020 has been destination. test. There’s all kinds of things a tough year, there’s still reason “We are going to be we do together and silly games for hope. Contact Kelly at able to connect with a lot more we play.” “I think it’s made [my people than we were able to last In lieu of the in-person faith] much stronger…,” McEn- [email protected] or Thanksgiving,” Mensink said. gathering, McEntee has already tee said. “We just have to be- call 515-237-5054 to learn more. “Everybody gets to be includ- planned out a day of virtual lieve that we’re all going to get ed.” Christmas festivities for their through this.” 10 www.dmdiocese.org The Catholic Mirror November 20, 2020 Memorial honors victims of COVID-19

sculpture with cranes several them,” she said. “Grieving is a By Anne Marie Cox years ago and has incorporated difficult process for some peo- Staff Writer it in her church’s décor for All ple and they just need someone One by one, Pam Doug- Saints Day and All Souls Day to listen to them and befriend las folds a colorful piece of paper since then. She adapted her art- them.” into an origami crane. work when she read about a Cal- Douglas plans to keep Each crane represents ifornian who was attempting to adding to the banners until the one Iowan who has died from create a paper crane art installa- end of November, when the art COVID-19. tion that represents each person installation comes down so that More than 1,600 paper in the United States who lost his the church can be prepared for birds have been created and hung or her life to the virus. Advent. like banners in the sanctuary of With a prayerful heart After that, she’ll contin- Sacred Heart Church in West for the men or women who died ue making the cranes. Des Moines. Two banners, each and for their families, she recent- “I will continue to make about 10 feet long, flank a sculp- ly added another 100 cranes rep- the cranes, even if they’re boxed ture of Jesus on the cross. resenting the number of Iowans up because the pandemic is still The art installation, put who died of the virus in just eight going on. We’re still losing peo- up Oct. 16, illustrates the toll the days. Each crane is colorful, rep- ple. They still need to be remem- virus has taken in Iowa. resenting the victims’ unique bered. Prayers still need to be “This is a beautiful trib- personalities, and about 200 have said for the families.” ute at Sacred Heart to those that names on them for the people she Anyone in Iowa who we have lost this year in the state could identify who have died. would like to have the name of Iowa to Covid-19,” said Fa- “It makes people think of someone who died from ther Chris Hartshorn, the pastor. about other families and what COVID-19 written on a crane in “There has been so much loss they’re experiencing,” said the memorial can call the church and so much grief upon grief this Douglas. “People are dying from office at 515-225-6414 to give year. These are not just numbers, this terrible pandemic. There are the name to the receiptionist. they are people. Let us hold them people left grieving and they’ve The art installation can never had to grieve this way be- be seen at Sacred Heart Church Photos by Bob Nandell in prayer.” Douglas chose the fore.” in West Des Moines between Pam Douglas crane for her artwork because the Many of the victims 8:30 a.m. and 3:30 p.m. Monday is making a bird, with its broad wing span, have died without their families through Friday and before and paper crane carries much symbolism in some at their side because of the risk after weekend Masses. Go to the for each Iowan of contracting the illness. The main church office doors during who has died of cultures. A victim of the nuclear bombing of Hiroshima in 1945 thought of a loved one dying the week to gain access to the COVID-19. The alone creates an added dimen- sanctuary. photo was taken began a tradition of paper crane sion to the grief, she said. from a safe so- folding to encourage healing and cial distance. hope. “We have to figure out Douglas created a different ways to reach out to Priest’s vocation brings him across the world

By Stanley Asjes turing his faith. technical school to build on his Staff Writer “I went to church with background in plumbing and con- my friends, and not specifically struction. During this time, he the Catholic Church, but I joined was a lay member of the Society Father Raphael Assamah them at other churches,” he said. of the Divine Word missionaries. has been serving St. Mary Par- “Then my mom started encour- After completing some prerequi- ish in Shenandoah and St. Mary aging me to go to the Catholic site studies, he entered seminary Parish in Hamburg since Oct. 7, Church. I remember I was in the where he studied with Father 2016. church close to where we lived, James Ahenkora and Father Philip He arrived with a fellow but because of my friends, I didn’t Bempong. priest from the Diocese of Accra pay attention. My mom saw that He was ordained a priest in Ghana, Father James Ahenko- and she took me to a church far for the Diocese of Accra on Aug. ra. away. So when I went there, I had 23, 2008, and served in parishes Father Assamah is a no friends so I had to be attentive. for six years. priest of broad cultural experi- That is how the whole thing start- Celebrating Mass is his ence. His story begins in Accra, ed.” special encounter with Christ, he the capitol of Ghana.His mother As his faith grew and he said. Father Raphael Assamah with a parishioner. played an important role in nur- received the sacraments, Father “The mystery for me is Assamah started to hear a call to that these feeble hands with my the priesthood through the exam- weaknesses can transform bread ple of his parish priest, who later and wine into the body and blood became the archbishop who or- of Christ,” he said. dained him. When a need arose for “I started going to priests in Jamaica, he and Father church, I was very active in the al- Ahenkora volunteered, serving tar serving,” said Father Assamah. there for three years. He used to make a thu- “Jamaica has really add- rible, which holds incense, at ed to my liturgy and to my percep- home out of an empty can with tion about life and spirituality and charcoal and say his own “Mass” growth. It helped me to appreciate at home with incense. people and how to relate to them,” “When we had the altar he said. servers’ rehearsal, I always played Fathers Ahenkora and the role of the priest in teaching Assamah then came to Iowa. Fa- them how to serve so people ther Assamah described the warm started alluding to the fact that I welcome he received in Hamburg looked like a seminarian because and Shenandoah, where he has of how I behaved, and the way I been serving since 2016. was very influential among the His parishioners check youth,” he said. “That was when in on him frequently, bringing a I started nurturing the call, even bounty from their gardens. though I had it in mind, but it “They all show the love wasn’t concrete.” they have for you. It is the love Before he made the that keeps me going,” he said. decision to enter the seminary, Father Assamah first went to The Catholic Mirror November 20, 2020 Thankful and blessed 11 Parishes and schools around the diocese are expressing gratitude for their educators and faith formation volunteers and staff who’ve experienced a challenging year.

St. Patrick Parish in Corning is grate- ful for its fourth through eighth grade religious education students who made paper chain rosaries for their church door and the parish center bulletin boards. Middle school and high school youth groups made a balloon rosary for the church lawn and one to share with parishioners at Mass, according to par- ish office manager Jane Rychnovsky.

St. Albert Catholic School is Donna Huehold began grateful for Lisa Rosloniec, helping at St. Theresa mother of Lena ‘23, Molli ‘26, Catholic School many and Michael ‘30. “Lisa is a regu- years ago. “Though she lar volunteer in our building run- is not back with us yet ning the St. Albert Spirit Store, this year due to COVID, which has raised thousands of she has been integral to dollars for the school,” said Ka- the development of our tie Fischer Grudle, the school’s backpack program,” said director of mission. “Lisa also principal Ellen Stemler. is the head of the Falcon Family “Donna also volunteered Connection, the elementary par- every morning as a prima- ent support group. She greets ry classroom aid.” students every day and also as- sists in the cafeteria.” Donna Huehold began helping at St. Theresa Lisa Rosloniec and her son, Catholic School when she Michael, wear the blackout for retired. childhood cancer shirts that raised more than $2,000 for An- gels Among Us, an organization that assists children with child- hood cancer including two of St. Albert Catholic School stu- dents. OPINION 12 www.dmdiocese.org The Catholic Mirror November 20, 2020 Hospitality at six feet: keeping our distance while letting others in

“Can you come in?” It’s forming unfair and unfavorable ideas the year 516. He believed guests should be My grandma’s favorite question is about others based on our own insecuri- warmly received upon arrival and departure. one we now discourage her from uttering. Twenty Something ties and ignorance. This means hospitality Doesn’t it feel good when a host grabs your The impulse to swing open her is not so much an act as a disposition. It is bag as you enter or walks you out as you door and her arms, honed over nine decades recognizing the opportunity to be Christ to leave? and stitched into her Irish-Catholic DNA, is others and to receive Christ from others. St. Benedict emphasized the “hu- not easily thwarted. Yet we have attempted It does not require uncluttered mility” at the core of hospitality, and he to do so this year. counters. It does require an uncluttered described it in action: a host should bow to She’s doing her best, but she By name heart. their guests to adore the Christ within, pray doesn’t like it one bit. Social distancing goes Christina Capecchi Emily Stimpson Chapman, author with them, sit with them and wash their against every fiber of her being. of “The Catholic Table,” taught me this back hands. At 90, Grandma still lives in the sense. The word originates from the Latin when visions of immaculate Pinterest boards The spirit of those gestures can be two-story brick home where she raised her word for hospital. Grandma’s expression of held me back. “When we think of hospitality done from a distance, even remotely: listen- six kids. It is the hub for our sprawling ex- hospitality does indeed turn her home into not as impressing people but as loving people, ing well, affirming others, praying for them, tended family. We all gather there on Christ- a hospital: a refuge for the sad and lonely, a it’s easier to let go of all the extras that make checking in, mailing cards, leaving banana mas Eve, when she’s perched at the piano, place for healing. welcoming people into our home stressful bread at the front door. plucking out carols we sing along to across I’ve been reflecting on the virtue or expensive,” the Pittsburgh mom told me. We can smile with our eyes even the living room. of hospitality, which feels more needed than The Biblical command to care when our mouths are masked. Perhaps that’s Individually, we flee there on ever and also harder than ever to exercise for those in need does not exclude times a metaphor for hospitality in 2020: We have bad days, when we need a sympathetic ear amid a pandemic. How are we to practice of pandemic, Emily pointed out. It does less to work with, but we’re doing what we and a soft place to land. She sits by the hospitality now, when our faces are covered require greater creativity and greater can. We’re trusting that, once again, God fireplace, a candy dish at one elbow and and our reserves are depleted? How are we courage. “What God calls us to, he al- will give us the grace. a basket of newspapers and magazines at to embrace the stranger while keeping six- ways gives us the grace to do,” she said. the other. She listens so wholeheartedly, feet distance? The Benedictines consider hospi- with appreciative sounds and interjections, If hospitality is defined as kind- tality a charism, a special spiritual gift. St. Christina Capecchi is a freelance writer and instantly everything seems better. ness toward strangers, the friendly reception Benedict explored the topic in a chapter from Inver Grove Heights, Minn. That is hospitality in its truest of guests, then the opposite is judgment. of his book “Rule of Benedict,” written in I need a hug! Especially in these times, don’t touched in life are further bonds with our also how we define the level of significance we all need a hug? Let’s Get Beloved, whose touch should make us all within a relationship. I suppose the following story has quiver. Psyched Family therapist Virginia Satir said been told in a variety of ways, yet it illus- Let us see that this is exactly what that we need 4 hugs a day for survival, 8 trates so well the heart-cry of all mankind. God does for us in Jesus Christ. He becomes hugs a day for maintenance, and 12 hugs a As I heard it, a little boy woke up in the midst one of us so that we can touch the Father and day for growth. While that may sound like a of a violent storm. He was frightened by the be touched back by him. It is within this pro- lot, it is for sure that many hugs are far better thunder and lightning so he cried out for his By cess of touch that we are eternally changed. than no hugs. Physical touch opens us, heals mother. She reassured him, and told him nev- As an old Gospel hymn says: Deacon Randy Kiel us, and ultimately brings us profound peace. er to be afraid of the dark or the storm be- He touched me, Oh, He touched me All the senses become further experienced cause God was right there with him. In a few And oh the joy that floods my soul suffering’s intercessor, and our Savior from through physical touch, therefore broadening minutes, the child cried out again, and the Something happened and now I know the ailments of life and death. the depth and texture of life and our aware- mother went back to his side and once again He touched me and make me whole As God created us, we are wired to ness of it. told him that God was with him in the storm. Matthew 9:29 says: “Then he touch and be touched. When a child is born, Perhaps the most powerful touches “I know,” said the boy, “but I want someone touched their eyes and said, ‘According to it is through physical touch that they bond we encounter are those that are unplanned, with skin on!” your faith be it done unto you.” with their mother. Our wiring system com- unrehearsed, and unannounced. When we Don’t we all? “Oh, how lucky to be those touched putes touch everywhere. Every cell in our risk leaning into these unrehearsed touches Just like we crave food when we by Christ himself,” we might think. Then we body knows when we touch or are touched. from life, we discover the need to be further are hungry, and crave sleep when we are realize, “Oh wait, we are those!” God gave So, therefore, it is foreign for us to neither open to life. While it is a present necessity, tired, so also do we crave touch when we are himself to us in the Eucharist not only so that think about nor experience physical touch. social distancing creates a human hardship. expressing our emotions outwardly. Without we could see him spiritually, not only so that Multitudes of studies show People can become touch deprived. Sponta- touch, all will be lonely. And to be lonely is we could touch him physically, but also so that within the brain, touch signals a sense neous hugs are “Temporarily Out of Order.” quite often too vulnerable. that our total internal self would be united of safety and trust, therefore it comforts the It is known that touch deprivation can con- While some religions are based on with him as we consume him through Holy mind and soothes anxiety. Apart from the tribute to mental health decline. During this noble thoughts or impersonal cosmic forces, Communion. brain, basic warm touch calms cardiovas- time, we must be open to other ways for life others have been centered around idols made I don’t know of any better or deeper cular stress, demonstrating that we impera- to touch us while we are unable to have a hug of wood or stone. These approaches to con- way to experience a hug. tively need touch. Positive human touch is from a neighbor or even a high five from a nect with a deity have never sufficed the deep an integral part of our relational interaction. friend. Life will continue to touch us. Wheth- longing within the human soul. We humans Deacon Randy Kiel is the founder of Kardia Whether it’s a warm embrace, a reassuring er we are touched in ways that are ecstatic, hunger for a God with whom we can have Counseling and serves Holy Trinity Parish in hand on the shoulder, one arm linked through peaceful, or joy-filled, or in ways that are a communal and yet personal living experi- Des Moines. To connect with him email ran- another, or a hug, physical contact is a large painful, fearful, or despairing, we are being ence. We seek a God whom we can touch. [email protected]. part of how we show concern and establish invited into a bond that is patristic in nature One that is our path toward life eternal, our camaraderie with friends and loved ones. It is and eternal in spirit. All the ways that we are Letter to the We do not walk alone during these challenging times Editor It reminds me that we are not walking That the love of the Father, the Son, alone and that the love of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit be with you all. From March Guest Column is with us giving us comfort. One way we pray for 2020 until now, it seems that things in life are The Holy Spirit reminds us that in the dead is with a Mass in- getting complicated every day. our baptism we received the three theological tention. Although this brings The newscast bombards us with virtues - faith, hope and charity - and the gifts some comfort, there is an news of the pandemic COVID-19, the death of the Holy Spirit. We are equipped to face the uplifting moment when we of George Floyd and the racial injustice public hardness of life. actually hear our loved one’s manifestations, the derecho, the political elec- This is the time to unpack our gifts By Eliabeth name. I understand that each tions, and U.S. Supreme Court nomination. and use them. pastor decides whether the Balcarcel With all of that, I have seen dis- Use the wisdom, understanding, name is heard. Some parish- couragement, deception, frustration, anxiety, counsel, fortitude, knowledge, piety, and fear of es include the Mass intention depression, despair, anguish, incredibility, Mercy, listening to different religious men and God that was poured on us. hopelessness, fear, and much more among the women talk, and take online religious classes My brain sees images when I talk during the prayer petitions or community. while I was walking. about things or am listening to someone else. at the beginning of the liturgy. Definitely, practicing my faith in this That is something I couldn’t have I imagine that someplace in my house there is Sadly, some parishes do not hard time has made a difference for my family done in a normal time due to all my daily chores a box full of gifts I received and have not used oblige. and me. and work responsibilities that consume most of lately. I take out the box of gifts. I start to dust Hearing the name is From an early age, I have learned to my time. and clean them until I can see them glow and an important part of remem- find the goodness inside of difficulties. With the I also have seen committed and con- shine. brance. The name unites us social distance rules the hectic daily sounds and cerned people doing good for others: to ensure The more I used them, the more they in the communion of saints. that others have food on their tables; provide activities of life have been reduced, and with glow and shine. The most beautiful thing is that It matters. I ask each pastor to resources to pay their basic expenses; share the that, comes the opportunity to be by myself in we all have these gifts. practice the following spiritu- silence, to meditate, and pray. little they have with others; clean up after the Take out yours. al work of mercy: To comfort It gives me the opportunity to redis- natural disaster; provide comfort to the ones cover myself and to explore where I am in my struggling with the loss of a family member due Balcarcel is a member of St. Anthony Parish the sorrowful. relationship with God. to the pandemic; and help those who face other in Des Moines and a participant in the Dioc- Early this year I took long walks everyday difficulties. esan Lay Formation Program. She was among Michaelene Zawistowski alone, where I used social media and YouTube That reinforces my faith and brings the honorees for the 2020 Iowa Latino Hall of St. Theresa for praying the rosary, the Crown of Divine me hope. Fame. OPINION www.dmdiocese.org The Catholic Mirror November 20, 2020 13

Ask a Priest Structure, ritual, and habit as anchoring love, prayer and service

be worn down by time, familiarity, boredom, mis- Guest Column understanding, tiredness, wound, and new obses- Q. How is God able to an- times, after we’ve made a sions that emotionally tempt you elsewhere. So swer/listen to all the prayers decision, we decide to go an- how can you sustain yourself in a commitment all the time? other way. Some important through periods of dryness? David Brook’s an- A. We tend to think of God questions you can ask your- swer is a good one - by building a structure of in HUMAN terms. We self when trying to decide: behavior for exactly those moments. know that God is pure spirit What do I like to do? What By Father How do you do that? Through rou- and has no physical elements. have people told me that Ron Rolheiser tine, ritual, and habit. Anchor your person and We refer to God as “he” but I’m good at? Do I have the your commitment in ritual habits that steady and we know that God is neither patience to undertake the hold you beyond your feelings on any given day. male nor female. It’s the best task? It’s also important to In his book, The Second Mountain Da- Set rituals for yourself, certain ritual behaviors, we can do with the limits of ask advice from people you vid Brooks suggests that a key to sustaining fi- which you will do regularly no matter how you language. So, God doesn’t trust. delity in any vocation is to build a structure of feel. have ears or eyes or arms or behavior for those moments when love falters. For me, as a priest, some of these are legs. When we pray, we try Q. How old was Jesus when He’s right. pre-set. As a priest, you are to daily pray the Of- to connect ourselves to the He died? Anybody who has made a commitment fice of the Church as a prayer for the world, no creator of the universe who A. We don’t know for sure, to be faithful for the long haul inside a marriage, matter how you feel. You are to celebrate the Eu- sent us Jesus to show in con- but most estimates put a friendship, a faith community, or a vocation to charist for others regularly, irrespective of wheth- crete ways how best to live his age in his early thir- serve others, will need more than initial enthusi- er or not this is personally meaningful to you on our lives. There are lots of ties. Thirty-three is the most asm, bare-footed sincerity, affective energy, and any given day. You are to do some private prayer other things we don’t know, common answer. good resolutions to sustain himself or herself on daily, particularly when you don’t feel like it. The but our faith tells us that we that road. It’s one thing to have a honeymoon list goes on. These rituals give you structure and are made in God’s image and Q. Who wrote the Bible? with someone, it’s another to be in a marriage healthy routines, and they are needed because in likeness. A. No, it wasn’t John over many years. It’s one thing to be an enthusi- the priesthood as in every other vocation, there Grisham – although he has astic neophyte on a spiritual journey, it’s another are times of fervor when feelings are enough to Q. If God knows a person’s written many books. Rath- thing to remain faithful inside that journey for sustain you; however there are also desert times, future, why does He keep bad er, lots and lots of people are seventy or eighty years. And it’s one thing to go bitter times, angry times, times when love falters. people in the world? responsible for the sections of out for a season and serve meals to the homeless, It’s then that a structure of behavior can steady A. It might be hard for the bible over several centu- it’s something else to be Dorothy Day. and sustain you. us to believe, but, for God, ries. The bible is a collection So the question is: how do we sustain The same holds true for marriage. Cou- there are only good people of writings that have been our initial enthusiasm, sincerity, affective energy, ples have to build a structure of behavior for those who make bad decisions put together in one volume and good resolutions through the boredom, heart- times when love falters. To name one such ritual: and choices. The doctrine for convenience. It would break, misunderstanding, tiredness, and tempta- a wife and husband need to have some ritual ex- of redemption says that we almost be like asking “Who tions all of us will undergo in our lives, whether pression of affection when they wish each other can improve our lives. Even wrote the library?” What’s that be in our marriage, our vocation, our church a good day as they part each morning, no matter our prison system (that has more, not all the material life, our prayer life, or our service to others? their emotions and feelings on a given day. That many inadequacies) is often in the bible is of the same That question was put to me recent- ritual is a container, an ark, which locks them called the department of cor- type. There are songs, let- ly, speaking to a group of young seminarians, I in and holds them together until a better season rections. People can change ters, histories, etc. Read a shared that I had just celebrated forty-eight years and better feelings return. Ritual can sustain love their ways, can make up for gospel all the way through – of ministry. The seminarians peppered me with when it falters. past mistakes, can say “I’m its not as long as you might questions: What’s the secret? How do you get In understanding this, we need to be- sorry.” If that weren’t the think. Or read the book of through the rough times? How do you sustain ware of “Job’s friends,” that is, beware of the case maybe God would get Genesis and see the wonder- good intention, good will, and good energy year various books and gurus on spirituality, prayer, rid of all of us! ful stories it contains. Don’t after year? How do you sustain your prayer life and marriage that give you the impression there’s try to read the whole bible all over forty or fifty years? something wrong with you if your enthusiasm Q. How do you know if God at once. I answered with an insight from Diet- and emotional affectivity are not the glue that dai- wants you to do something or rich Bonhoeffer who, whenever he officiated at ly sustains you in your commitment. Simply put, if you should do something Q. Are we all related? a wedding, would tell the couple: Today you are these are books written by spiritual novices and else? A. I believe we are. That’s very much in love and think your love will sus- marriage manuals written by someone confusing A. The Jesuits are well the reason that wars and con- tain your marriage. It can’t. But your marriage a honeymoon for a marriage. versed in the “discernment flicts and racial hatred and can sustain your love. I advised the seminarians Enthusiasm and good feelings are won- of spirits.” They have a slavery and greed are to be in the same way: don’t trust your present enthusi- derful, but they can’t sustain you through a mara- whole process of deciding condemned. We’re all one asm and good energy to sustain your priesthood; thon. For a marathon you need to have long-prac- what we should do in a par- human family with lots and let your priesthood sustain your enthusiasm and ticed strategies to carry you through the long ticular case. Often enough it lots of differences. energy. What’s at stake here? tiring miles in the middle and at the end. has to do with a path of life – A genuine commitment in faith, love, should we study law or med- or service becomes a ritual container, an ark, like icine? Should we marry a Got a question for “Ask a Noah’s, that existentially locks you in. And the Oblate Father Ron Rolheiser is a theologian, particular person? Should we Priest” and its author, Fa- fact that you’re locked in is exactly what makes teacher, and award-winning author. He can be think about a religious voca- ther John Ludwig? Send it the commitment work. You enter naïvely, believ- contacted through his website Ronrolheiser.com. tion? But less life-changing to communications@dmdio ing that your good feelings and affective energies decisions need our discern- cese.org. will sustain you. They won’t. Inevitably they will ment as well. And some- Finding St. Paul’s confidence

While our calendar year ends in a I have to admit I don’t always Over 2,000 years ago, Jesus little more than a month, our liturgical year Marriage and Family Life have St. Paul’s confidence in this truth, and joined the family of Israel, which is a pret- is ending sooner. yet, by God’s grace, I’ve caught glimpses ty messy, imperfect, and broken family. The last Sunday of the liturgical of it, and I pray often for the grace to see He came to heal wounds, to free people year is always the solemnity of Christ the more clearly. from sin, and to bring new life. He seeks to King, which this year is Nov. 22nd. This so- It is important to remind our- dwell with us still, even in the midst of our lemnity is a reminder that death has been By Adam Storey selves that we have victory in Christ and own messiness. conquered, that God reigns, and that we not despair in these challenging and uncer- Even in the midst of the challeng- are all held in his providential care. I know tain times. es of this year, even in the divisions we ex- for me, this is a vital message to hear at the hoped in Christ, we are the most pitiable However, God is not a tyrant, and perience, and even when we feel isolated end of 2020. people of all” (1 Corinthians 15:19). so he will only reign in my life if I invite from each other, still Jesus comes. I pray In the midst of a chaotic and pain- But the reign of God can, and him to be king of it. This requires my for- that this year we can be reminded of Jesus’ ful year, I know I’ve needed to be regu- should, give us St. Paul’s confidence when saking false gods. I get to experience God kingship and his presence. larly reminded that Christ still reigns. I’ve he says to the Romans: “What will sepa- as trustworthy by actually trusting him. I May we have the courage to in- needed to examine my conscience, asking rate us from the love of Christ? Will an- come to know he’s reliable by relying on vite his reign and presence into our lives myself if I’ve sought my hope in Christ, or guish, or distress, or persecution, or fam- him. Lord, give me this grace! more fully. in things that never satisfy: my own abili- ine, or nakedness, or peril, or the sword?” Beyond the feast of Christ the ties, an illusion of control, and other dis- (Romans 8:35). King, it’s also worthwhile to reflect on tractions. This year has presented plenty how our liturgical year begins. Adam Storey is the diocesan director of God’s reign is not an easy con- of anguish, distress, and even peril, yet Advent is meant to help us pre- Marriage and Family Life. He can be solation, for it doesn’t promise us that ev- we have the knowledge that we “conquer pare for the Incarnation, when we encoun- reached at [email protected] or at erything will go according to our plans. As overwhelmingly” through Jesus Christ ter the stunning reality that God chooses to 515-237-5056. St. Paul says, “If for this life only we have who saves us. live among us. 14 www.dmdiocese.org The Catholic Mirror November 20, 2020 Watch Bishop Joensen’s reflections McCarrick report continues ...plus, his Wednesday Mass livestreamed at 12:10pm on Facebook Church’s action toward accountability, transparency

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By Cindy Woodsen eradicate this evil.” After reading Catholic News Service his brief comment on the report, the pope bowed his head and closed his eyes in silent prayer. VATICAN CITY (CNS) In February 2019, after -- Although dogged for years by a canonical process found Mc- rumors of sexual impropriety, Carrick guilty of “solicitation in Theodore E. McCarrick was able Happy Thanksgiving! the sacrament of confession and to rise up the Catholic hierarchi- sins against the Sixth Command- cal structure based on personal ment with minors and with adults, contacts, protestations of his in- All of us here at Iowa Catholic Radio would like with the aggravating factor of the nocence and a lack of church of- abuse of power,” Pope Francis to offer our thanks to our wonderful listeners and ficials reporting and investigating dismissed him from the priest- accusations, according to the Vat- supporters. May you have a joyful Holiday with hood. ican report on the matter. “I welcome the report of your loved ones. In choosing then-Arch- the Holy See’s investigation into bishop Theodore E. McCarrick its knowledge and decision-mak- of Newark in 2000 to be arch- ing regarding Theodore McCa- bishop of Washington and later Iowa Catholic rrick during his long career as a Giving Tuesday a cardinal, St. John Paul II likely priest, bishop and cardinal,” said overlooked rumors and allega- Radio’s annual Los Angeles Archbishop José Tuesday, December 1, tions about McCarrick’s sexual H. Gomez, president of the U.S. join the rest of America in a Dinner in December misconduct because of a long re- Conference of Catholic Bishops. lationship with him, McCarrick’s national day of giving. “We are studying these findings, has been postponed. own strong denial and the pope’s and we are grateful to our Holy Support for Iowa Catholic experience with communist au- Father Pope Francis for his pas- thorities in Poland making accu- Radio on Giving Tuesday Rescheduled date to be toral concern for the family of sations to discredit the church, the helps us reach our annual God in the United States and his announced at a later time. report said. leadership in calling the Church operational goal to keep But, in fact, rumors of to greater accountability and us on the air and bringing McCarrick’s conduct led the Vat- If you have purchased tickets transparency in addressing issues ican to decide it would be “im- local and national Catholic and would like a refund, of abuse and the mishandling of prudent” to promote him when programming to Iowa. abuse claims at every level. please email looking for candidates to become In a statement issued [email protected] archbishop of Chicago in 1997, Visit our website for more with the report, Cardinal Piet- New York in 1999-2000 and, information. ro Parolin, Vatican secretary of initially, of Washington in July state, said the contributions of 2000, the report said. survivors were “fundamental.” The text of the report Over the course of the makes clear that because the al- two years it took to complete the legations involved behavior with investigation and compile the re- adult men, not minors, both di- port, “we have taken significant ocesan and Vatican officials did steps forward to ensure greater not consider McCarrick’s actions attention to the protection of mi- abusive, made excuses for Mc- Got a story idea? nors and more effective interven- Carrick based on his lack of real tions to avoid” repeating errors of family ties and were overwhelm- the past, he said. ingly concerned with the church’s Baltimore Archbish- We are looking for stories reputation, not the health or safe- op William E. Lori said the ty of his alleged victims. of faith, hope and inspiration! long-awaited Vatican report on The “Report on the Holy former cardinal Theodore E. Mc- See’s Institutional Knowledge Carrick “brings us to another mo- and Decision-Making Related to ment of painful awareness of our Former Cardinal Theodore Edgar Tell us your idea and we may feature it in an church’s past failures.” McCarrick” was released Nov. But “it also marks a new upcoming issue of The Catholic Mirror. 10. era of transparency in our church, During his general au- which the lay faithful have rightly Email Kelly at [email protected]. or dience on Nov. 11, Pope Francis demanded,” he wrote. said: “I renew my closeness to all Anne Marie at [email protected]. victims of every form of abuse and the church’s commitment to www.dmdiocese.org The Catholic Mirror November 20, 2020 15 Cardinals-designate facing quarantine, Italian dioceses celebrate 190th trip cancellations due to pandemic anniversary of Marian apparition VATICAN CITY (CNS) -- Cardinal-designate Jose Advincula As the consistory to create 13 new “the option not to go to Rome for cardinals approached, the corona- the consistory.” virus pandemic forced two cardi- The consistory is sched- nals-designate to cancel their trips uled to take place at the Vatican to Rome while one was placed in Nov. 28. quarantine upon arrival. Father Arbatin said that According to the Philip- although Cardinal-designate Ad- pine bishops’ news service Nov. vincula initially purchased a plane 11, Father Emilio Arbatin, spokes- ticket to Rome, he ultimately de- man for Archdiocese of Capiz, con- cided to cancel. He also said that firmed that given the rising number Cardinal-designate Cornelius Sim of COVID-19 cases in Italy, the of Brunei canceled his trip to Rome apostolic nunciature in Manila gave due to the pandemic.

Pope Francis congratulates president-elect

WILMINGTON, Del. released by Biden’s transition team (CNS) -- Pope Francis called Pres- in Wlmington. ident-elect Joe Biden early Nov. 12 Biden will be the nation’s to congratulate him on winning the second Catholic president, after U.S. presidential election. John F. Kennedy, who was elect- “The president-elect ed to the nation’s highest office 60 thanked His Holiness for extend- years ago, on Nov. 8, 1960. ing blessings and congratulations On Nov. 7, the media de- and noted his appreciation for His clared Biden the winner of the Nov. Holiness’s leadership in promoting 3 election, but as of press time Pres- peace, reconciliation and the com- ident Donald Trump had not con- mon bonds of humanity around the ceded. world,” said a readout on the call

Game show host Alex Trebek dies at 80

WASHINGTON (CNS) In an interview last year Pope Francis places a rosary in front of a statue of Our Lady of the Miraculous Medal -- When the death of Alex Trebek -- with ABC’s “2020,” he said: during a private audience at the Vatican Nov. 11, 2020. The statue was about to begin beloved longtime host of “Jeopar- “Laughter is one of the greatest a pilgrimage through Italian dioceses marking the 190th anniversary of Mary’s appari- dy!” -- was announced, celebrities cures that we can possibly have. tion to St. Catherine Laboure. (CNS photo/Vatican Media) and fans around the country took to It’s right up there with prayer, be- social media to express their grief. lieve me.” Trebek, a Canadian-born He also said he wanted American who was educated in to be remembered as a “nice man” Catholic schools, died of pancreatic who “helped people through his cancer at his home Nov. 8. He was charity work” and was “kind to ev- 80. erybody he encountered.” He was consistently de- Trebek was born in north- scribed as calm, reliable, intelligent ern Ontario, Canada, and attended and personable with a dry sense of Jesuit schools there until age 12 humor. He was known as a com- when he went to a boarding school forting presence in America’s fam- run by a missionary religious con- ily rooms with a show that always gregation. stayed with its simple format.

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