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Table of Contents [Cover Story] 38 Gem of a CEO: Diamondbacks bring fun and funds to community 41 Jewish Community Day May 26 [Focus] UPFRONT /Real Estate 10 Michael Pollack: Centering communities 13 Up close with Ronit Urman aRTS & ENTERTAINMENT 14 MIM hosts three Jewish performers in May 16 likeable Dan Schay draws support for arts HEALTH 19 “Jewish diseases” do exist FOOD 44 Chef’s Corner by Lisa Glickman 46 Where Do Jewish People Eat? COMMUNITY 48 Free Money for lifetime needs ISRAEL 50 IDF has Friends in Arizona 52 Obama’s popularity soars during visit 54 Simple pleasures 38 HISTORY 56 First Jewish female pioneer created legacy SINGLES 58 Single fun near and far 60 looking for Love FAMILY 62 Freedom and Judaism at family’s core EDUCATION 64 Jewish learning integrates generations TRAVEL 66 Jewish Edmonton [Seniors/Special Section 22-37] New retirees need two financial advisors, Resort living at Maravilla, Passing the torch of Holocaust memory, Gerda Klein insists Citizenship Counts, Parkinson’s and creativity, Senior care professionals react to baby boomers 28 expectations, Stay informed on parent’s healthcare [Columns] 20 Fashionista by Kira Brown 23 Money Matters by Thomas K. Brueckner 52 an American in Israel by Mylan Tanzer 54 life on the Other Side by Anne Kleinberg 55 To Life by Amy Hirschberg Lederman 61 Family Time by Debra Rich Gettleman [Connect] 69 Happenings Cover photo: Diamondbacks CEO Derrick Hall. 62 Photo by Diamondbacks team photographer Jon Willey 4 MAY 2013 | ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE Pinnacle Nissan in North Scottsdale Arizona’s Premier Nissan dealership.

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We’re listening gear to get our August issue into your homes by the first week We are so pleased with all the great of August. feedback we have been getting from you, This month we have two focus sections – Commercial Real our wonderful readers. So many of you Estate and Seniors. Our Upfront story on Michael Pollack, real have told us how much you’ve enjoyed estate developer extraordinaire, anchors our focus on the busi- reading about people and programs in ness and development side of real estate. We also talked to de- our beautiful state, and you have shared veloper and property management expert Ronit Urman. In the new ideas for more inspiring stories for June/July issue, we will continue our exploration of Arizona’s future issues. We’ve also been learning exciting real estate market with a look at residential property. about the rhythm of Arizona life. One Our Senior section is chock-full of interesting people and thing that has become apparent is summer is a season for head- trends, along with investment advice for retirees. ing out for cooler climes or holing up in air-conditioned homes, To get you in the mood for the Diamondbacks Jewish businesses and resorts, with those having swimming pools and Community Day on May 26, we’ve devoted our cover story to other cool recreation getting top billing. Diamondbacks President and CEO Derrick Hall. The team’s We are listening and we understand the ebb and flow. So we commitment to philanthropy carries over here, with contribu- have decided to make June/July a double issue. The June/July tions of $2 per ticket sold through Jewish Day promotions to issue of Arizona Jewish Life will be delivered about June 1. Over be divided between two deserving Jewish groups: Camp Daisy the summer break, be sure to check our online edition (azjewish- and Harry Stein, and the Council for Jews with Special Needs. life.com), especially the calendar page, for late-breaking events. Arizona Jewish Life will also make a donation to these two We’ll also continue to send out our weekly e-newsletter. You can organizations in honor of Jewish Community Day. sign up to get the latest news delivered to your inbox each week; We also are cosponsoring a fun fashion program May 23 just visit our website and fill in the newsletter request form on that will benefit the Fresh Start Women’s Foundation. You can our home page. find details about that event in the Fashion section of this issue. Our lazy days of summer will end early as we kick into high Hope to see you at the ballpark!

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By David M. Brown ichael A. Pollack just doesn’t renovate shopping centers; he helps renew communities. “The Renovation King of Distressed Prop- erties,” Pollack is in his 40th year in real estate development and is widely known, and appreciated, for acquir- Ming and refurbishing deteriorating commercial and industrial properties. “Aside from its financial benefits, I enjoy this business be- cause I can make a difference in the communities I serve,” says Pollack, who lives in Chandler with wife Cheryl and family. His Mesa-based Pollack Investments, one of Arizona’s largest independently owned and operated real estate companies, also manages and constructs projects. “These are centers that have been forgotten by time – some in deplorable condition – and by turning them around and by providing something for the neighborhood, I feel proud,” says

Left: Pollack Investments is based in a 31,000-square-foot former Pollack, who has been involved with 11 million square feet of retail showroom, which has been luxuriously remodeled during renovation and new builds in his career – about half of that in the last 13 years. Above: Along the hallways of his headquarters, the Valley of the Sun. “That contribution means a lot to me.” Pollack has hung photographs of his many projects in Arizona and “When I walk down our halls and look at the before-and-af- elsewhere. Everardo Keeme Photography ter pictures of all of our projects over the years, I’m happy to see what we’ve done, and as long as I keep receiving emails from people and messages commending our company for what we’ve Pollack and his associates have transformed into gilded offices, accomplished for neighborhoods, I’ll keep doing this for as long with hallway showcases documenting the company’s success as I am able,” he says with characteristic optimism. and, uniquely, one of the great advertising-collectibles showcases Those picture-filled walls are in the company’s anywhere in the world: The Pollack Advertising Museum. 31,000-square-foot headquarters, 1136 W. Baseline Road – a “In my 40-year career, I’ve never been an arm-chair con- former well-worn retail showroom that, during the last 13 years, tractor,” he says. “I have walked all 11 million square feet of my 10 MAY 2013 | ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE Michael Pollack hosts magazine editor Chrissy May at his advertising museum in Mesa. Everardo Keeme Photography

projects to ensure quality and value to my tenants, who trust in us to provide them opportunities to build their businesses and serve Thinking of our area.” The company writes from 350 to 400 leases annually – national companies as well as local mom and pop businesses. investing in Most of these centers are in East Valley cities — Tempe, Chandler, Mesa — but Pollack has also completed them in Phoenix, Peoria, Glendale and Tucson. The work is real estate? extensive, reinvigorating the interior spaces as well as completely refacading the exteri- ors for overall cohesiveness. The Pollack result: neighborhood centers with “check-me- “Not sure if this out” curb appeal – and high-occupancy rates. Family, Faith, Fun is the right time” Pollack is three generations removed from his European roots, Russia, perhaps. His great-grandparents probably arrived in the United States in one of the great immigra- Investment tion waves of the mid-19th century. As with so many Jews from Europe, they came Consulting & optimistically looking toward the great lamp of opportunity and freedom from oppres- sion. Acquisition His grandfather began as a rancher and meatpacker in California; his father went into the scrap metal business in the San Jose area. Then, sometime in the 1940s, his dad and grandfather entered the real estate development business, specifically, multi-family Commercial & and industrial. Residential In 1973, Pollack began independently developing apartment complexes and commercial projects in California and later worked in Oklahoma, Texas, Louisiana, Leasing & Sales Nevada and other states as well as throughout California. In 1990, he came to Arizona, envisioning its great future. “My faith is important to me,” he says. “But I don’t pray for money; I may pray for Commercial & health but not for prosperity. I was born a Jew and will die a Jew, and that isn’t going Residential to change. But that doesn’t mean I believe in everything Judaism offers,” he adds. “In one way, I believe in all religions to the extent that God gives us each a mind to make Property decisions according to the dictates of our hearts and consciences.” Management While his parents were building their businesses, they would take him to flea mar- kets and antique stores; they collected antiquities. Quickly picking up on that passion, he began acquiring advertising curios and collectibles. Mostly, these are display pieces as far back as the18th century for merchandising wares in stores and storefronts — from diamonds to soap, tea and tires to lingerie. He also has a world-class collection of slot machines as far back as the late 1800s and metal lunch boxes. His collection totals more than 8,000 items – many one-of- CONTACT OUR OFFICE TODAY: ones when they were created, others the only example remaining, as far as is known. Today, tours of The Pollack Advertising Museum are available by appointment: Ronit Urman Here, you can see manikins of Mr. Magoo, Tom Corbett and the Frito Kid; a penny Designated Broker slot machine that was set aside at the Flamingo in Las Vegas for comedian Jack Benny, email: [email protected] known for his parsimony; and numerous one-off hand-carved slot machine figures by Arizonan Frank Polk, including one of legendary cowboy-actor John Wayne. Offi ce (480) 483-7211 Of particular note is a collection of Beranger mechanical vignettes used in jewelry Cell (602) 541-2186 stores beginning in the 1930s to sell diamonds, bracelets, watches and other luxuries; they depict in intricate moving scenes, for example, Santa’s elves making presents or www.urmanent.com people skating. ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE | MAY 2013 11 Special Section [Upfront: Real Estate]

He has amassed, through phone calls, the Internet and personal visits to collectors, 135 of the 165 of these pieces made in the original Pasadena factory, some with runs of just 30. And they all work – a pains- taking process for both the craftsman and for Pollack. Are you looking for the other 30? “Every day,” he says, with a smile. Scheduled for May or June dedication, the 13,000-square-foot Pollack Chabad Center will serve the East Valley for services, education, social events and other functions. A Chabad in the East Valley? You’re Kidding! The Pollacks contribute widely to local charities and arts orga- nizations, financially and with their time. A superb drummer, the recession, which lasted almost five years in Arizona, kept the Pollack volunteers his band, “Corporate Affair,” for events such building on what Pollack calls “Gilligan’s Island, shipwrecked as parades and fundraisers. and sitting.” Meanwhile, the Chabad of the East Valley acquired And, almost 13 years ago, he renovated an obsolete six-plex the land and completed the onsite infrastructure. cinema in one of his centers as the Pollack Tempe Cinemas. In May or June, with the help of Pollack’s monetary contri- Here, at maybe break-even revenues, he plays current movies butions and his leveraged influence, the multi-purpose Pollack amidst an environment of arcades, cinemabilia and manikin and Chabad Center of the East Valley will be dedicated, with its figurine assemblages such as characters from “The Wizard of chandeliered entry rotunda, a social hall, six classrooms, chil- Oz” and “Star Wars” movies. What’s out in the lobby is as much dren’s play area, library, gift shop, kitchen, rabbi’s office and a fun as what’s inside on the big screen. Doug fir-domed sanctuary housing an ark for three Torahs, one His current project is particularly dear: a 13,000-square-foot scribed in Jerusalem. Chabad Center that will serve the East Valley for services, edu- “It’s coming to fruition now,” says Pollack, who provided cation, social events and other functions. many of the design details such as the Mediterranean styling, About 14 years, ago, Rabbi Mendy Deitsch approached cornice moldings, gold-leaf work, sconces, domes and entry Pollack and told him his vision for the building. “‘We are going columns. “I’m excited about seeing it finished.” to do this,’” the rabbi said to me. “Well, with all respect, I replied Rabbi Deitsch has already marked a place for Pollack in the to him, ‘Who’s we?’” blessing service. Pollack added: “You are kidding? A Chabad in the East Val- “Michael has a great appreciation for the continuity of ley?” Most of the Jewish population in the Valley of the Sun lives Judaism, and for this I am forever grateful to the Almighty for in Phoenix, Scottsdale and Paradise Valley. allowing us to meet and become good friends,” he says. “He But Pollack thought about the rabbi’s idea. “I’m a bacon- knows that the future is met with optimism and strength. and-eggs-on-Saturday person,” he says, with a laugh. “When we “He is a deeply committed person with a passion for doing were children, we had a Hanukkah bush.” (Pollack Investments, the right thing and making a positive impact in the community,” by the way, annually decorates its headquarters in grand holiday he adds. “A brilliant businessman, he has a deep understanding lights that attract families and tour buses Valleywide.) “More of the way things work – and from where all blessings come.” n and more, I liked the idea and the fact that the rabbi didn’t expect me to accept all of his beliefs,” Pollack says. David M. Brown (azwriter.com) is a Valley-based freelancer. The local Jewish population had to catch up to the vision, and 12 MAY 2013 | ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE Up Close and Personal with Ronit

By Masada Siegel onit Urman is the owner and a broker for Urman Enterprises, LLC. She has more than 20 years of experience in residential and commercial sales as well as development and property management. Her “When the economy slowed journey to start a real estate company in the Valley has taken we decided to use our time Rher from Israel to Canada to Arizona. Along the way she has helped countless people and companies find their respective wisely. In addition to our homes and offices as well as set up a not-for-profit giving back to the people in the community. work, we established a We spoke with her recently and asked her to share her nonprofit organization called expertise in her own words. Her answers have been edited for brevity. Wheelers 4 Warriors.”

Tell me about Urman Enterprises, how you decided to start it? We started our business in 1992; about a year after we moved to Arizona from Montreal, Canada. The reason we moved to Arizona Where are you from and how did you decide to come to Arizona? was because we found it to be a growing community, unlike Mon- I was born in Israel and grew up in Ramhat Hashron. My parents treal. Initially we started working for another broker; however we moved to California when I was a senior in high school. My dad, saw so many opportunities that we decided to pursue our own way. may he rest in peace, promised me a car, I fell for it and we moved to the L.A. area. There were many Israelis in the area, so right away I What makes Urman Enterprises different? What services do you made friends. provide that distinguish you? I met my husband at the accounting firm where I was working We are a full service real estate brokerage firm. Our office handles and we got married and moved to Montreal. sales and leasing in both the residential and commercial markets. In We lived there for five years, but taking a girl from Israel that addition, we assist in the development of commercial buildings for used to be in a sailing club on the beach five days of the week to lease and residential properties for sale. Our experience is in many freezing Montreal did not work very well. So we decided to make different aspects of real estate so we are able to provide our custom- a change and heard that in Arizona and Colorado the market was ers with a wide variety of information as we work with everyone growing. from the city: architects, engineering, banks, contractors, sale teams We came to Arizona to see the real estate market and were and more. We can structure all the stages of developing a real estate impressed and we realized it was a growing community and market project from the ground up and all the way to sale or rent. We think with many opportunities. like a landlord, because we are one; therefore, we keep the landlord in mind all the time. What did you do when the real estate market hit difficult times in Arizona? What is your background in real estate? Why are you passionate When the economy slowed we decided to use our time wisely. In and excited about what you do? addition to our work, we established a nonprofit organization called My husband’s family has developed properties for generations. His Wheelers 4 Warriors. The mission of W4W is to restore vehicles grandfather (from his mother’s side) built the old port in Haifa as used by veterans and wounded warriors and, in doing so, promote well as the Technion in Haifa. He grew up learning about buying, self-reliance, independence, confidence and healing, and share our planning and construction. collective gratitude for those who serve and have served. My background in accounting came in handy because I can W4W’s brings together automotive aftermarket enthusiasts, com- analyze costs for putting a project together and know what the sale panies and other interested organizations to help improve the lives prices will be and understand if is it marketable for the area. and give back to our warriors and their families by making necessary Additionally, we are both very passionate about putting all repairs, improvements and/or modifications to the vehicles of veter- aspects of a project together and seeing it develop successfully. ans and wounded warriors. n ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE | MAY 2013 13 [arts/Entertainment] Béla Fleck – Taking the Banjo Solo

By Elizabeth Schwartz ew adjectives sum up Béla Fleck’s career better than Fleck sees jazz pianist Keith Jarrett’s improvised solo concerts “eclectic.” The 54-year-old banjo virtuoso has performed as a model for his own gigs. “It was impressive to see him walk just about every kind of music you can imagine, with just out on stage and create on the spot. To be very exposed and create about everybody in the business. In addition to bluegrass, something in front of an audience is something I’ve never done, so Fleck plays classical, world fusion, jazz, klezmer, original compo- I think it’s something I should be doing. I want to get at a deeper Fsitions and African music, gaining new fans every time he releases expression and have freedom I don’t have in a group context. On another recording. This month, Fleck ranges into new territory, some level I think it could be the best thing I know how to do.” as he presents an evening of solo banjo on May 15 at the Musical The May 15 concert launches a series of solo appearances for Instrument Museum in Phoenix. Fleck, and allows him to introduce audiences to the virtuosity Fleck has wanted to go solo for many years, but the demands and versatility of the banjo as a solo instrument. “The banjo hasn’t of such a concert have been daunting. “It’s a new direction, a gotten a fair shake as a solo voice, certainly not by me,” he says. different kind of a high jump,” he acknowledges. “I’m develop- “I love playing solo; when I hear my instrument fill up a room, it ing ideas for it: some improvisation, some set pieces.” Fleck has turns me on and I get musically inspired. These concerts are the often played one solo in concert, but a whole evening of solo beginning of something I’ll be doing for the rest of my life.” music requires a higher level of self-confidence than Fleck felt he Fleck, whose full name is Béla Anton Leoš Fleck, was born

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“That’s the first time I heard klezmer and realized how beautiful it was. It’s some of the deepest music I’ve ever heard.” – Béla Fleck

and raised in New York City. His father named him after classical composers Béla Bartók, Anton Webern and Leoš Janáček. “I’m lucky I wasn’t named Ludwig, which my older brother got stuck with,” comments Fleck wryly. He began playing guitar while in elemen- tary school. Fleck switched to banjo at age 15 after falling in love with the sound of Earl Scruggs’ banjo on the theme song to the television show, “The Beverly Hillbillies.” “It was like sparks going off in my head,” he remembers. “At that time I was playing guitar because I hadn’t figured out what I really wanted to play. My possessed until now. “Sometimes playing solo is the high point of grandfather saw a banjo at a garage sale in 1973, and he thought the show for me; since I’ve been soloing on different shows, folks I might like it. When I visited him, I was so excited to see that like (jazz keyboardist and composer) Chick Corea suggested I banjo; it’s what I wanted all along.” should do a solo show. I think it’s an experiment worth trying, and Before he finished high school, Fleck had joined his first blue- it should be part of what I do. At 54, I’m feeling confident enough grass band, Wicker’s Creek, and at 19 he recorded his first album, to try it.” on Rounder Records. Fleck continued playing bluegrass and jazz 14 MAY 2013 | ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE

Jewish musicians at Musical Simone Dinnerstein Instrument Museum in May & Tift Merritt Saturday, May 4 | 7:30 pm | David Bromberg Tickets: $29.50-37.50 Friday, May 3 | 7:30 pm | Tickets: Simone Dinnerstein, a Juilliard-trained $37.50-42.50 classical pianist, and Tift Merritt, a He has played with everyone, he singer-songwriter whose father taught has toured everywhere, and he can her to play piano and guitar by ear, join lead a raucous big band or hold an forces for the first time in “Night,” a audience silent with a solo acoustic unique collaboration that explores the blues rendition. David Bromberg is a common terrain among classical, folk master’s master, a string wizard and and rock music. multi-instrumentalist whose virtuosity “Night” features new songs written especially for Dinnerstein led him to be a first-call, “hired gun” and Merritt by Brad Mehldau (“I Shall Weep at Night”) and Patty guitarist for many recording sessions. Griffin (“Night”), as well as Merritt’s own songs (“Only in Songs,” He has played with scores of “Still Not Home,” “Colors” and “Feel of the World”) and classical famous musicians, including Bob Dylan, Jerry Jeff Walker, Link selections (an arrangement of Schubert’s “Night and Dreams” Wray, the Eagles, Ringo Starr, The Grateful Dead, Willie Nelson and Bach’s Prelude in B minor). and Carly Simon, among others. Influenced by Pete Seeger Dinnerstein, based in Brooklyn, NY, gained an international and the Weavers and, through them, Reverend Gary Davis, he following after the remarkable success of her recording of discovered Big Bill Broonzy, Muddy Waters and the Chicago Bach’s Goldberg Variations, which was released in 2007 on blues. At the same time, he was listening to Lester Flatt and Earl Telarc. The recording ranked number one on the U.S. Billboard Scruggs, Bill Monroe and Doc Watson. classical chart in its first week of sales and was named to Over time, Bromberg’s range of material, based in the folk and the New York Times, Los Angeles Times and the New Yorker’s blues idioms, grew to include bluegrass, jazz, ragtime, country “Best of 2007” lists. Her next album, “The Berlin Concert,” also and ethnic music. In 2011 Bromberg released a new album, reached the top position on the Billboard classical chart. Now “Use Me,” featuring collaborations with John Hiatt, the late Levon signed to Sony Classical, Dinnerstein released “Bach: A Strange Helm, Los Lobos, Tim O’Brien, Vince Gill, Widespread Panic, Dr. Beauty” in January 2011. It has defied boundaries as one of the John, Keb’ Mo’ and Linda Ronstadt. few classical albums to grace the Billboard Top 200. n

with a variety of musicians through the 1980s. Fleck grew up assimilated and says he doesn’t have “a strong Jewish aspect” to his identity. “We’re the lost generation,” he says of himself and his siblings. During his high school years at the LaGuardia School for Music and Art and the Performing Arts, Fleck met klezmer musician, multi-instrumentalist and composer Andy Statman, whom Fleck considers one of his musical heroes. “That’s the first time I heard klezmer and realized how beautiful it was. It’s some of the deepest music I’ve ever heard.” That search for depth has inspired Fleck in his musical wanderings through bluegrass, jazz, African, Indian, world and classical music over the past 30 years. Today’s audiences are accustomed to the concept of the “crossover” musician, but when Fleck branched out of bluegrass, crossover artists were charting new territory. Or were they? Fleck isn’t so sure. “I think crossover has been going on all along,” he maintains. “The ’60s were a great example of that; the Beatles brought classical sounds into popular music and (sitar virtuoso) Ravi Shankar played at rock festivals. Growing up in the ’60s, I saw all those doors swing wide open; it seemed natural to me. Anything I heard that was intriguing I’d try to play, from an Irish jig to a Bach partita to Chick Corea’s jazz.” Fleck’s musical interests reflect Duke Ellington’s famous quote: “If it sounds good, it IS good.” As Fleck explains, “I love all deeply expressed music; I don’t care what idiom it is. There are people in every form of music who take it to the deepest level. If you hear something and you’re not digging it, you’re probably not hearing the best stuff out there.”n ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE | MAY 2013 15 [arts/Entertainment] Likeable and experienced, Dan Schay raises support for arts

By Janet Arnold ne look at that cherubic face and en- dearing smile and you think you’re going to like this guy. And once you hear the Osincerity, kindness and intelligence coming from the deep, raspy voice, you’re sure of it. Daniel Schay is just so easy to like. That’s one reason he’s been successful around Arizona in raising support and funding for the arts. It doesn’t hurt that he has the education and expe- rience to back up his ideas and passions. Born in Middleton, NY, Dan is the grandson of Russian immigrants. His grandparents came from a shtetl near Minsk. One night they were told to leave immediately to avoid a pogrom Barbara, Adam and Dan Schay. (Cossack attack). His grandmother grabbed a clock, a vase and a copper pot and their adven- Theater Works ture to America began. They settled in New Ha- Peoria Performing Arts Center, 8355 W Peoria Ave., Peoria, AZ ven, CT, where they opened a liquor/drugstore, 623-815-7930 | Theaterworks.org with a soda fountain (of course), and lived above the store. That’s where Dan’s father studied and The Rupert Holmes comic mystery “Accomplice” worked hard and won one of the few scholarships plays in the smaller theater at Theater Works through May 12, Yale then awarded to exceptional local Jewish with popular local actress Cathy Dresbach. students. “The handful of Jewish kids would meet The children’s division, Youth Works, will perform together in a corner of the Yale library where “Hansel and Gretel” May 10 to 26. they’d feel comfortable,” Dan remembers his father telling him.

At Yale Dan majored in English but always had a penchant “When you’re up against Superman all for theater. He kept eyeing a ruined squash court in the base- ment of his dorm. It had been destroyed by flooding, but Dan the time, you figure it’s time to move on.” had the feeling that with a little money and lots of creativity and love, it could become a small black box theater. He transformed – Dan Schay, talking about competing the court and proudly remarks, “It remains a theater still used by the school today.” against Christopher Reeve in high school Even before college, while in high school in Princeton, NJ, Dan was involved with theater, mostly as an actor. A particular monologue competitions student from another school always seemed to be pitted against him. In monologue competitions sometimes Dan would win, sometimes the other fellow would – it would go back and forth. His nemesis was Christopher Reeve. “When you’re up against It was a point of pride for the family that all three Schay Superman all the time, you figure it’s time to move on,” Dan children, Dan and his two sisters, graduated from Yale University. grins. “When my second sister graduated, we bought my father a silver And move on he did. He had actually been producing on a punch ladle with our names and dates of graduation on it to small scale since he was 16 years old, when he produced a sum- represent all the money he had been ladling out over the years,” mer series of Ionesco’s Theatre of the Absurd plays in a church Dan recalls. basement. He realized he loved putting projects together and felt 16 MAY 2013 | ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE ANNOUNCING THE 2013-2014 SEASON!

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ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE | MAY 2013 17 that directing and producing were really the directions he needed beautiful towns in the country. From 1995–2001 he developed to go. and managed a 50-acre campus of arts and education facilities, Through the years he was able to pick up administrative jobs including the Georgia Frontiere Pavilion for the Performing at such prestigious companies as Long Wharf Theatre, Pitts- Arts. To keep his plate full, he simultaneously served as execu- burgh Public Theater and Cincinnati Playhouse; then he landed tive director for the Sedona Film Festival, then showing more his first executive director position at Hippodrome State Theatre than 50 international films annually. in Gainesville, FL. He was the first executive director the new, Initial hopes were that the Pavilion would become “Tangle- emerging theater ever had. From 1980 to 82, Dan oversaw the wood West” – a summer home for arts organizations including company’s conversion to an Equity (professional union) house, as Southwest Shakespeare Company and the Phoenix Symphony, well as the construction of a two-theater plus gallery facility in a but after 9/11 the project lost momentum. The Cultural Park is former Florida courthouse. now closed, waiting for its next incarnation. For several years Dan worked with the Pennsylvania and Dan and Barbara knew it was time to get back to an urban Maine arts councils, as well as the National Institute of Arts environment. Their son, Adam, was born during a snowstorm Management, and acted as a consultant to dozens of theaters in Cottonwood, AZ, on April 1, 1999, and they wanted him around the country. At the same time he was the producing to have a Jewish upbringing and a variety of educational director of the Merrimack Repertory Theatre in Lowell, MA. opportunities. Dan had been involved with Phoenix Theatre’s It was here, overseeing the New England Playwright’s Compe- New Works summer program for several years, commuting to tition, that Dan became involved with new works – plays that Phoenix to collaborate with playwrights and professional actors have not yet been produced. to develop new plays. It was natural that when Phoenix Theatre His last job before moving to Arizona was managing director was looking for an executive director, they would offer the of the Philadelphia Drama Guild, a major professional theater position to Dan. company performing in a 950-seat theater within the Annenberg The family moved to Phoenix and joined Temple Chai. Center. And about this time he met Barbara Waldstein, whom “I had been a very secular Jew all this time,” Dan confides. he now calls his “beautiful bride.” When the offer came for a “With Barbara’s slight nudge, we knew we wanted a Jewish chance to develop and promote the Sedona Cultural Park, Dan education for Adam.” and Barbara looked at each other and nodded. They knew this Adam, a student at Arizona School for the Arts, became was their next adventure. Dan was hired as the president and ex- a bar mitzvah last year at Temple Chai. When it came time ecutive director of the Cultural Park in arguably one of the most for the father-to-son speech, Dan had to improvise a bit. “I couldn’t honestly say he was continuing the family chain; rath- er, I told him he was mending it. We talked about what that meant, and he was very proud to be in that position.” Dan “moonlighted” as a director for a variety of local the- aters during his seven seasons at Phoenix Theatre, including directing “Vilna’s Got a Golem,” “The Last Night of Ballyhoo” and “Parted Waters,” a play about Crypto-Judaism that he also helped develop for the Arizona Jewish Theatre Company. Last year Dan moved to Theater Works, a well-established community theater in Peoria that had just signed an agreement with Actors Equity to use some professional actors. Dan was eager to help bring the theater to “full flower.” Plus he would HELP WANTED have occasional opportunities to direct and even act, something he had been missing. It was a particular treat for him to appear Ad Sales Associate wanted for on stage with his son Adam in the company’s annual produc- tion of “A Christmas Carol” this past December. Arizona Jewish Life magazine Dan thinks of Theater Works as having “professional standards while maintaining its community roots.” The theater Arizona Jewish Life is a community builder — a monthly also boasts a large youth department, with classes, workshops, lifestyle magazine celebrating the vitality, diversity, camps and children’s shows. challenges and accomplishments of the Jewish community. Dan is currently busy trying to develop not only new sources of revenue, but also new and diverse programming for the Peo- Come join our team! ria Performing Arts Center, where Theater Works is located. Through an agreement with the city, the company gets a break on its rent, and in turn, the city insists there be arts besides [email protected] | www.azjewishlife.com theater at the venue. Others might be daunted by the require- ments, but Dan, ever confident and positive, has already started negotiating for jazz and folk music concerts, dance programs and stand-up comedy and improv shows. With two theaters in the facility, he hopes to keep the joint jumping. n

18 MAY 2013 | ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE [Health]

Close-knit shtetls meant any genetic Founder Effect mutation stayed in community By Janet Arnold ne in 15 Ashkenazi Jewish individuals is a carrier for Gaucher Disease. Thus reads the opening statement on the Jewish Genetic ODiseases Center’s website (jewishgeneticsphx.org). It’s a startling fact, and the rest of the site is also filled with facts Andi and Dr. and figures many people work hard to ignore. We don’t want to Sherman Minkoff, think about it, don’t want to imagine the worst. founders of the But we do need to be realistic, informed and aware. In the 1970s Jewish Genetic Jewish young adults were screened for Tay-Sachs, a devastating Jew- Diseases Center ish genetic disease found in those of Ashkenazi descent. But then of Greater the issue seemed to quiet down. Phoenix, at a With the mapping of the human genome, however, has come recent screening greater knowledge and understanding. The local Jewish Genetic event. Diseases Center of Greater Phoenix now screens for 18 different  What’s in Your Genes? diseases, including Tay-Sachs and Gaucher’s along with cystic WHAT: Brunch and fashion show from the fibrosis, familial dysautonomia and spinal muscular atrophy, to name Scottsdale Jean Company just some of the more common diseases found in this particular WHEN: 11 am-1 pm, May 2 population. WHY: Fun fundraiser for Jewish Genetic Diseases Center How does it happen? How can a “religion” have its own diseases? | Wear jeans and bring an extra new or gently used pair But then Jews don’t just pray together. Historically they have for the “jean pool” to be distributed to the needy through lived together. They set up towns and villages and lived in shtetls. Jewish Family and Children’s Services Like many other ethnic groups living in close proximity, Ashkenazi SPEAKER: Randy Gold, founder of Gene Screen in Atlanta Jews, those from Central and Eastern Europe, practiced endogamy, WHERE: Ancala Country Club, 11700 E. Via Linda, marrying within a specific group. The genetic result is known as the Scottsdale “Founder Effect,” a loss of genetic variation created when a new COST: $46 ($2 for each chromosome!) community is established by a very small number of individuals from RSVP: 480-668-3347 or jewishgeneticsphx.org a larger population. Similar anomalies are found in other close-knit groups as well, from the Amish to African-Americans to Cajuns. A mutated gene makes its way into the population and spreads. Andi and Dr. Sherman Minkoff were in a Havurah in the late offer screenings – now for 18 diseases – for $60 a person. 1990s when the studies on the Human Genome project were coming Carrier testing is offered twice a year. Screening involves a to light. If genes could be isolated and tested, what would that mean simple blood test, and results come back within four to six weeks. to families? Their group talked about Jewish ethical questions: would If a person is not a carrier, he or she is informed by mail. Carriers this lead to “designer” babies, would there be more abortions if are called and come in for an appointment. But, as Andi reinforces, fetuses were found to be imperfect and so on? The discussions were both parents have to be carriers before a child would be affected. heated and fascinating. “Even if both parents are carriers,” she adds, “there is a one in four When it was discovered that certain gene mutations were preva- chance of having an affected child. They still have a wide variety of lent in the Jewish community, the Minkoffs gathered some funding options available to them with all the advances in fertility therapy.” and offered educational information to clergy and doctors. They The national Jewish Genetic Disease Consortium (jewishgenet- figured that would be their contribution to help individuals make icdiseases.org), a somewhat informal group, recommends screening informed decisions. if even one grandparent is Jewish. JGDC also lists 16 diseases more But as the information got out, some people were understandably prevalent in the Sephardic and Mizrahi communities, but there is frightened. The prognoses of these diseases are horrific. Young adults currently no one-panel screening. All Jews are encouraged to be wanted to be screened, but costs for the screening panels were up to screened for cystic fibrosis and spinal muscular atrophy. $4,000. The local screening does not include the BRCA gene mutations, “That’s when we realized we had a tiger by the tail,” says Andi. which are linked to hereditary breast and ovarian cancer. “Those are “We had to do more.” As long-time, devoted members of the Jewish dominant genes,” explains Andi. “The others are recessive. If you community in the greater Phoenix area, the Minkoffs set about have a dominant gene mutation, you yourself can be affected by the creating a local chapter of the Jewish Genetic Diseases Center. They disease. That type of screening needs to be more individualized.” raised money, “worked a deal” with a laboratory and started spreading The center has recently expanded its mission to provide neces- the word. On their own they delivered fliers, talked to groups, did all sary resources and support to individuals who wish to learn more they could to let people know that the center was here and ready to about their personal risks for these diseases.n ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE | MAY 2013 19 [fashion]

Style Tip FASHIONISTA of the Month: Store Your Shoes with Care – Don’t just throw your shoes in the back of the closet. Use Wear & Where proper shoe racks, wooden shoe inserts for expensive pairs and clear storage boxes to influences shoe selection protect your favorite and investment pairs.

Main image: A black patent pump is a classic – great with jeans and workwear. Above: Men’s Sperry Top Siders. Left: Wedges are a comfortable I read recently that most women average option for height 17 pairs of shoes, though they regularly and style. wear only three pairs. As I look over at my own closet, a quick count seems about right. I have 21 pairs (I shop a lot with clients, so that seems conservative to me). I too usually wear about two to three pairs – a black flat, a black patent pump and a wedge (depending on the out- fit). Though women typically love shoes more, and spend a great deal more on them than men do, everyone in the family needs a solid wardrobe of shoes to mix and match for both form and function. Shoes protect and support your body from the ground up, so investing in quality, comfortable shoes for the entire family should be a shopping priority each year. For kids new shoes may be necessary every six months, due to wear and tear and rapid growth. I personally invest annually in two to four new pairs – depending on the current style and what has worn out from my wardrobe inventory. By rotating and adding just a few pairs each year, I keep a current, comfortable se- lection in my closet to avoid the, “I don’t know what to wear!” drama while dressing.

20 MAY 2013 | ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE Saving money, shoe-wise: Heels on both men’s and women’s shoes can be repaired, as can broken ankle straps and adornments. Before you toss your favorite work or dress shoe, check a local shoe repair specialist’s costs. In my experience, heel repairs can start at E&J’s Designer Shoe Outlet just $5-10 per heel depending on the quality of shoe. And straps and leathers that have torn sometimes can be repaired for a small & Arizona Jewish Life invite you to fee. Don’t forget regular cleaning for your investment. A baby wipe is great to deodorize and wipe inside the shoe. Leather cleaners and Shop, Mingle & Nosh waterproof treatments can extend the life of your shoes, as well. Please join us on Thursday, May 23rd, Shoes make as much of a fashion statement as an outfit itself. for an evening of shoe shopping, And the right shoe or the wrong footwear style can complement or mingling, and noshing at sabotage an outfit instantly. the new E&J’s Designer Shoe At minimum I suggest every woman have one pair each Outlet location. of the following in their closet to mix and match easily with their base wardrobe: Black ballet flats Black or brown boots Black heels Neutral sandals White or neutral wedges Athletic footwear

For men I suggest one pair each of the following basics: 6:00pm Athletic footwear 6378 N. Scottsdale Road Black or brown boots for winter (sw corner of Scottsdale Road & Lincoln Drive) Black dress shoes RSVP: 602 485-7673 Black or brown loafers Neutral or canvas topsiders Hors d’oeuvres & wine 15% discount on purchases that evening For kids I suggest: Two pairs of athletic shoes “Define Your Style” One pair each of dress shoes, winter boots and sandals A shoe presentation by Mary Beth Stern A fashion presentation by Kira Brown

Depending on your ‘wear’ (how you like to dress) and ‘where’ ** Please bring gently used clothing and (where you spend the most time) habits, you may want to double up shoes for Fresh Start Women’s Foundation.** on some basics. One example is having a black, brown and metallic flat if you find flats to be the most comfortable as a stay-at-home mom. Or if you work in a business professional atmosphere, doubling up on your favorite men’s dress shoes by purchasing the same or multiple colors can save you time and extend the life of your shoes with rotation. Shopping for shoes is one of my favorite forms of retail therapy. And like most shoppers, finding a high-style shoe on a shoestring budget can feel like a lottery win! Online deals can be found every- where from eBay to Zappos and more; just make sure to check the e-tailers return policy as most shoe sizing isn’t standard and returns can be a hassle. Overall if a shoe is comfortable, and if it mixes and matches with your overall style, daily function and wardrobe, definitely buy it, wear it! You know what they say, “If the shoe fits…” n Kira Brown is a certified personal stylist and fashion writer. Kira has interviewed many fashion icons including Tim Gunn, Jeweler Neil Lane, International Makeup Artist Jemma Kidd, Ken Downing of Neiman Marcus and more. In addition to writing, Kira offers virtual style consultations for women and men. Contact her at [email protected].

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22 MAY 2013 | ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE Why Every New Retiree Should Have Two Financial Advisors

By Thomas K. Brueckner important issue to those clients. n an article in Smart Money magazine, author Glenn The investment charts used by these advisors still assume Ruffenach made the point that the advisor who got you to reinvested dividends – even though you and most of your friends retirement is very often not the specialist you’ll need to get have begun enjoying that dividend income in retirement – ren- you through retirement. dering those charts misrepresentative of your market experience When we were in our 30s, 40s and 50s, an advisor’s mis- and goals. (Incidentally, those charts also don’t include fees, Ision was to get us to our target retirement date by growing our expenses, taxes or inflation.) Their time-worn clichés still roll retirement savings subject to risk, primarily in the stock market. off their advisors’ lips like compliance disclaimers (“past history When the market grew, we benefitted fully from that advance. is no guarantee of future performance”), even as you and your When the market retreated, we were reminded that we were spouse yearn for non-legalese, plain-spoken, common-sense long-term investors with a 20+ year time horizon, and that we candor in plain English, and the approach and product recom- should remain invested “for the long term, because most at- mendations that should accompany it. He/she “can’t guarantee” tempts at timing the market are unsuccessful.” It was understood at precisely the stage in life where you want guarantees – guar- that our time in was more important than our timing. During antees against market losses, accompanied by tax advantages, these decades, we also remained active contributors to our leverage for heirs and reasonable rates of return. You don’t care if accounts at work, and those 401(k)s and SEP-IRAs benefitted you never hit another home run again – and you’d be happy hit- from continual feeding and ongoing investment. Any non-qual- ting singles, doubles and the occasional triple – but you simply ified (non-IRA) investment accounts we had also benefitted by can’t afford to lose the game swinging for the fences any more. the reinvestment (rather than the taking) of dividends, as the In the same way that many of us have a dentist and an flattering market history charts on the walls of our stock broker’s orthodontist, a tax preparer and an estate planning attorney, a office just naturally assumed. primary care physician and a specialist (oncologist, cardiologist, If you’ve arrived at your 60s with financial scar tissue still visi- etc.) based on past treatment history – so too should we have ble all over your disfigured retirement accounts, you’re not alone. two financial advisors: a growth money manager whose special- The last 13 years have devastated many investors, even as they ties are risk-based, and a safe-money advisor who specializes in poured precious assets into the sieve that was Wall Street from guarantees, income-planning, wealth transfer, long-term care 2000-2013. You understand that now is the time to emphasize planning and reasonable rates of return on your money. And this preserving – more than or at least as much as growing – your brings me to my final point, and it’s an important one: If either accounts, for you and your spouse, as well as any legacy you hope of these two advisors are unwilling to work together on your be- to leave your children. As such, you now believe that the major- half (like doctors sharing treatment regimens out of professional ity of your holdings should be in safe, guaranteed instruments, courtesy), you should seriously consider finding a replacement with a minority share remaining in a conservatively managed, for that person. Specialties should be respected, not disparaged, and well-diversified equities account. especially when one is dealing with monies that it’s taken one’s But herein lies the rub: The advisor who handles this client 40 years to save. After all, it’s not their now-smaller piece often doesn’t have the training, perspective money, it’s yours. n or skill set and expertise to also handle the larger, safety-focused piece. As a revealing study in Financial Planning magazine Thomas K. Brueckner, CLTC, is founder, president recently showed, most risk-based advisors are woefully out of and CEO of Strategic Asset Conservation in Scotts- touch with the primary goals of their retired clients: When dale, AZ, and was a 2011 national finalist for SMA’s clients were asked what their top concern was, 86.6% said Advisor of the Year. He may be reached at 480-661- “losing their wealth.” When their advisors were asked the same 6800 or online at go2knight.com. question, only 15.4% believed “losing their wealth” was the most ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE | MAY 2013 23 Special Section [Seniors] Retirement Resort Living

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he Senior Resource Group’s Maravilla Scottsdale Senior Living Community is a beautiful example of what many of today’sT new retirees look for when deciding to move to a luxury multi-service residence. From the moment you turn into the sweeping Euro- pean-style driveway, you notice that the archi- tecture and interior design do what is intended – make you feel as if you’ve just walked into a 5-star resort and also make you feel at home. It combines a blend of comfort and style in the many public “living rooms,” along with social opportunities and safety and wellness/health programs. Executive Director Tim Cowen is proud to say that Maravilla is unlike other senior com- munities where the future resident’s children are often the ones considering Above: Stan and Arlene Spiegel at dinner. a spot for their parent. Left: Bill and Betty Linz (foreground), and “Here the residents are Ralph Bingenheimer and Mary Jane Evans coming in saying that they enjoy a new game of Rummikub. are at the point where they want to see what they can to make everyone happy. The amenity fee do to enjoy their retire- includes one meal a day in a beautiful ment more and have the dining room – which several residents hotel quality experiences have called “one of the best parts of living while they’re still active; here” – utilities (except for phone), weekly and then if they need extra housekeeping and linen laundry service, as help later on – it will be well as a 24-hour reception and Emer- here for them.” Cowen gency Call System, local transportation, explains that the extra help a gym, pools, OSHER classes taught by most often means services Arizona State University staff and many will come to residents in other amenities. There is also a grab-and- their homes rather than go restaurant in the independent living requiring that they move into a different place. “Yet, we do have area and a dining room located in the memory-care unit. An a memory-care unit and an assisted-care area if required. And indoor pool/whirlpool and a full-service spa are located next to Scottsdale Healthcare Center is just up the street,” he adds. the gym. Maravilla Scottsdale is located at 7325 E. Princess Blvd., Miravilla opened May 1, 2012, and is now 35% occupied. Scottsdale. It sits on 25 acres next door to the AAA 5-diamond According to Cowen this is quite an achievement for a new Fairmont Scottsdale Princess Resort and the Tournament complex. More than 217 residences span the independent, assist- Players Club Scottsdale golf course – both readily available for ed-care and memory-care areas. Maravilla residents. Program Director Elizabeth Bradford, who has been with Independent casita and courtyard residences range from SRG at several resorts, says the residents here are far more active 900 to 2,100 square feet. With several entrance fees to choose than in other place where she has created programs. She says from, as well as a basic monthly fee, there are plenty of options that makes it fun to put together. Bradford oversees the activities 24 MAY 2013 | ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE activities, besides many exercise classes, include arts and crafts, painting and a movie theater that offers a new feature daily. Another favorite is the wine tasting event. “We’ve even gone to a Bruce Springsteen concert. It’s great to have a group that when we get together, we all have such a neat time,” Bradford says. Several of the residents took time to share their experiences and reasoning behind moving to Maravilla. They all agree on their love of the state-of-the-art gym and classes ranging from water aerobics and yoga to bocce ball. Bradford says that the latter has become so popular that the one court is not near enough, and she has suggested to corporate that they should add several more. As to why they chose Maravilla, Stan Spiegel says that he and his wife, Arlene, looked at three other campuses but found them to be too institutional. They even put down a deposit on one, but cancelled the sale when they saw the architecture and design of Maravilla. “That and the food. Arlene loves that we can enjoy such wonderful meals and that she no longer has to cook!” That sentiment is shared by fellow residents, Ed Levy, Bill Linz, and Morry and Sue Himmel. Linz, who had open-heart surgery about five years ago, decided that it was a good time for him and his wife, Bette, to Sue and Morry Himmel getting ready for an evening out and starting find a place where they could still enjoy their lifestyle with an early supper in the sit-down restaurant. but, if something happened, that they’d be well taken care of and feel safe. “We are so happy we came here. The other residents, the staff – we’re all a family. There’s nothing to compare this with – it “For me moving here with the wonderful was a great choice.” Linz agrees. He and his wife, Jeanne, have lived in Scottsdale staff and the great neighbors was the for 34 years, but were ready to give up their home and stop hav- second best decision I ever made. ing to take care of its maintenance. “It was our decision and we’ve found the camaraderie here to be the best.” The first was marrying Morry!” Everyone also loves the games. Sue loves bridge and a game – Sue Himmel called Rummikub, which she and the others had never heard of until they moved in. Rummikub was invented more than 50 years ago by Ephraim Hertzano, a Romanian-born Jew living in Israel, for all three areas of the campus as well as transportation for who combined elements of rummy, chess, dominoes and mah the residents. jongg to develop the game. “We have about seven to eight set activities a day. Our parties As for the dining room, Spiegel, who is on the food com- are phenomenal! The residents get so excited about all of them mittee, says, “The food is really excellent. We have a chef and he and the turnout is fantastic. We held an Oscar-themed night gives us lots of wonderful selections.” and everyone dressed in gowns and tuxedos! For our Mardi Gras Levy agrees: “This is not a hospital. If you have a special diet, event, the costumes and masks were amazing. there’s no problem. He (the chef ) accommodates your needs. It’s “We haven’t been opened long, but our Jewish residents held up to you. You feel as if you’re in a top-notch establishment. The a Passover seder and right now, we’re getting together with some staff is warm and friendly and remembers a lot about your needs.” of them to organize some activities and holiday observances Linz adds, “I’ve had heart surgery, so I ask for my food to be for them for the coming year. We’re hoping to really have some prepared without salt. And there’s always fresh salmon or roasted interesting events.” chicken on the menu.” Bradford says they schedule transportation to many of the cul- Have any of them suggested friends and family move to tural events in the area: symphonies, plays, the races and casinos. Miravilla? The Himmels, Linz, Levy and Spiegel reply with a “One of the outings I love is the ‘Shop Til You Drop’ day! It’s resounding group, “Yes!” all the ladies. Men are invited, but it’s usually all the women. Sue Himmel describes her feelings this way: “For me We recently went to the new outlet mall in Chandler; we go to moving here with the wonderful staff and the great neighbors Goodwill if they want and out to lunch. We have a blast and do was the second best decision I ever made. The first was marrying this about once a month.” Morry!” n Suggestions and changes in the community are welcomed with monthly meetings between staff and residents. The regular Carine Nadel is a freelance writer who recently relocated to the Valley. ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE | MAY 2013 25 Special Section [Seniors] Passing the Torch As Holocaust survivors pass on, new generations shoulder responsibility for memories

By Deborah Moon Janice Friebaum speaks eople inherit many things from their parents – money, to a crowd of about possessions, values, genes – but many children of Holo- 300 people at an event cosponsored by the caust survivors feel they also inherit the responsibility to Phoenix Holocaust Peducate future generations about what happens when people Survivors Association stand idly by as evil flourishes. and Jewish Family and “Second-Hand Survival: Inheriting the Holocaust” drew Children’s Services. nearly 300 people to Feb. 26 event cosponsored by Jewish Fam- “Second-Hand Survival: ily and Children’s Services and Phoenix Holocaust Survivors Inheriting the Holocaust” Association. The event featured guest panelists Howard Reich, featured panelists Dr. journalist, author and son of Holocaust survivors; and Marc Marc Agronin (left), and Agronin, MD, geriatric psychiatrist at Miami Jewish Health Howard Reich, joined here Systems, who were in town for a JFCS mental health workshop by his wife, Pam. Photos by on deferred post-traumatic stress the following day. Following Michelle Kelker the program, about 75 children and grandchildren of survivors gathered to discuss how to create a local second generation and worked through (the group here. difficult issues of growing Janice Friebaum, who moved to Scottsdale up as a survivor’s child). two years ago, has helped start or been involved Now more are focused in groups for children of Holocaust survivors in on continuing education Florida, Washington and Oregon. The collab- around the Holocaust for orative event arose after Janice heard about the the Jewish and general JFCS event while trying to develop a Phoenix communities.” group. Janice says while she is willing to share Since Holocaust her expertise from working with groups else- education will soon enter where, she hopes her leadership is temporary the post-survivor era, and others will step forward to lead the new many second and third group. generation survivors Most second-generation survivors range in are stepping forward to age from their 40s to early 70s, she says, noting bear witness. Many say many are in their 60s due to a post-World War they feel a responsibility II baby boom among survivors that mirrored to ensure their families’ that phenomenon in the general community. stories continue to be told Like many of her peers, Janice says, “From a and feel they are the best very early age I knew something was different people to do so. with Daddy.” But whenever she asked him, his Janice says three other response was always the same two words, “The War.” It wasn’t areas of interest to many second- and third-generation survivors until Janice was nearly 30 that he began to speak about his expe- are: social justice issues from our perspective as survivors’ chil- riences in the Warsaw Ghetto, Jewish children’s hospital, Radom dren; assistance to elderly survivors; and compiling oral histories Ghetto, slave labor camps, Dachau, Death March and liberation. of our families – “there is a real sense of urgency to get this done Her father, Morris Friebaum, came to the United States in 1946 now.” with the aid of HIAS (Hebrew Immigrant Aid Society) and in At the special session after the February program, Janice says 1958 married Ruth (now deceased). He now lives in Florida. attendees filled out a survey that shows most are interested in Janice’s own extensive research revealed that all his immediate educational programs and social events. Those who expressed in- family had perished in the Holocaust. terest in helping formalize a next generations group are current- “Interests have changed as the cohort has aged,” says Jan- ly working to develop a mission statement and begin planning ice. “Twenty or 30 years ago the theme was introspection and activities. For updates on the group, visit phoenixphsa.org and support for one another. Now I find most children have matured click on “generations after” or email [email protected]. n 26 MAY 2013 | ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE What does well-being look like? Care at Maravilla Scottsdale. It’s the perfect blend of comfort, convenience and a personalized approach that only Maravilla Scottsdale can offer. It’s all here for you, in a beautifully crafted, comfortable community in the heart of Scottsdale. From basic assistance with activities of daily living to our award-winning InTouch® memory care program, you’ll fi nd Maravilla’s well-appointed private alcove and one-bedroom residences to be the perfect fi t. Residency is available to the public on a convenient monthly fee basis, with no entrance fee required. Come see how rewarding and reassuring Maravilla’s specially designed approach to care can be. 7375 E. Princess Blvd. Scottsdale, AZ 85255 ASSISTED LIVING | MEMORY CARE 480.359.1345 MaravillaScottsdale.com

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Gerda Klein and Citizenship Counts! Holocaust survivor and immigrant shares miracle of America with youth

By Carine Nadel erda Klein loves America. Almost 89, Klein is a humani- Gtarian, author of nine books, a human rights activist, Ho- locaust survivor and a proud naturalized citizen. During years of speaking nationally about the Holo- caust, Klein frequently spoke of how small acts of kindness helped her remember her humanity during those dark years. Klein shares the story of her liberation at the end of a four-month death march where only 120 of thousands of women survived. She says that when the Nazis locked Alysa Ullman and Gerda Klein. Photo by Miriam Lomaskin the survivors in a barn and fled leaving behind a bomb that Citizenship Counts!: citizenshipcounts.org failed to detonate, she recalls “no feeling at all.” It took an act of kindness from a stranger to remind her she was human and to allow the joy of freedom to flow into her. When the first American soldier approached the barn, she “To perpetuate the miracle that is felt obligated to tell him, “We are Jews.” When he finally choked out, “‘So am I,’ that was the greatest moment in my life,” Klein America, we must teach our children says. When she turned to take him into the barn to see the other about its rich history as a nation survivors, she says, “He held the door open for me and let me precede him and in that beautiful, symbolic gesture, he restored of immigrants who chose me to humanity.” The soldier later became her husband and took her to America. this country and have given She feels a need to pass on the importance of recognizing the meaning to its ideals.” great chances this country gives to those from different countries and cultural backgrounds. Her way of creating this type of per- – Gerda Klein sonal legacy was to found the 5-year-old nonprofit organization 28 MAY 2013 | ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE she named Citizenship Counts! small citizens’ groups or entire grade levels, according to Klein. Klein describes her passion for her educational program “We have a series of six lessons that correlate directly to what in these words: “America is a unique, diverse and wondrous the responsibilities are for those who adopt this country and country, comprised both of those who know its magnificence as the chances it gives them for a life where their dreams can be their birthright, and others, like me, who are privileged to call realized. My dream was to live, have a family and become a our adopted country ‘our own.’ What we all share is a desire for writer. Because of this country, I was able to have it all and I’m our families to enjoy America’s boundless opportunities while so grateful. I have a real need to educate today’s young people as extending to all our fellow citizens justice and the blessings and to all America offers them.” freedoms upon which the nation was founded. Ullman says the program often culminates with the class “To perpetuate the miracle that is America, we must teach participating in a citizenship ceremony by hosting a reception our children about its rich history as a nation of immigrants who for the new citizens. “The first time I went down to the Phoenix chose this country and have given meaning to its ideals.” courthouse with my grandmother, we couldn’t help but become Alysa Ullman, Klein’s granddaughter, believed so much in very emotional at how much it meant for those who were about her grandmother’s dream that she happily put her writing career to become new citizens of America to have the celebration. I es- aside to become the nonprofit’s executive director and manage it pecially remember one Taiwanese gentleman who came dressed from its very beginnings. in a tuxedo and he was crying. I was able to speak with him Ullman says they started the pilot program in Arizona. Since afterwards. He told me that while he was there by himself – his then, interest in the program has grown so much that they now family was still in Taiwan – that this was the first step of being oversee the classes in more than 18 states. able to bring over his wife and children. He wore the tux because “Our mission is to educate today’s youth on the tenets of citi- this ceremony and his wedding were the two most important zenship, encourage them to appreciate their rights and responsi- days of his life. For him the tux was proof of his love for both his bilities as Americans, and give them an opportunity to celebrate family and his new country.” citizenship by engaging in a naturalization ceremony or partici- “That’s what my grandmother wants to provide: a deeper pating in a service-learning project,” says Klein. understanding and acceptance of the role that legal immigration The program is available free to all educators and can be has played in creating our diverse and dynamic country.” n downloaded online. It has been used for individual classes,

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ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE | MAY 2013 29 Special Section [Seniors] Parkinson’s Creativity Patients treated with dopamine-enhancing drugs are developing artistic talents

By American Friends of Tel Aviv University together case studies from around the world, she examined the arkinson’s experts across the world have been reporting details of each patient to uncover a common underlying factor a remarkable phenomenon – many patients treated with – all were being treated with either synthetic precursors of dopa- drugs to increase the activity of dopamine in the brain mine or dopamine receptor agonists, which increase the amount as a therapy for motor symptoms such as tremors and of dopamine activity in the brain by stimulating receptors. Her muscle rigidity are developing new creative talents, including report will be published in the journal Behavioral Neuroscience. painting, sculpting, writing and more. P Giving in to artistic impulse Prof. Rivka Inzelberg of Tel Aviv University’s Sackler Faculty of Medicine first noticed the trend in her own Sheba Medical Dopamine is involved in several neurological systems, explains Center clinic when the usual holiday presents from patients Inzelberg. Its main purpose is to aid in the transmission of mo- – typically chocolates or similar gifts – took a surprising turn. tor commands, which is why a lack of dopamine in Parkinson’s “Instead, patients starting bringing us art they had made them- patients is associated with tremors and a difficulty in coordinat- selves,” she says. ing their movements. Inspired by the discovery, Inzelberg sought out evidence But it’s also involved in the brain’s “reward system” – the sat- of this rise in creativity in current medical literature. Bringing isfaction or happiness we experience from an accomplishment. 30 MAY 2013 | ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE Therapeutic value This is the system that Inzelberg predicts is associated with Inzelberg believes that such artistic expressions have promising increasing creativity. Dopamine and artistry have long been con- therapeutic potential, both psychologically and physiologically. nected, she points out, citing the example of Vincent Van Gogh, Her patients report being happier when they are busy with their who suffered from psychosis. It’s possible that his creativity was art, and have noted that motor handicaps can lessen significantly. the result of this psychosis, thought to be caused by a sponta- One such patient is usually wheelchair-bound or dependent on neous spiking of dopamine levels in the brain. a walker, but creates intricate wooden sculptures that have been There are seemingly no limits to the types of artistic work displayed in galleries. External stimuli can sometimes bypass for which patients develop talents, observes Inzelberg. Cases motor issues and foster normal movement, she explains. include an architect who began to draw and paint human figures Similar types of art therapy are already used for dementia and after treatment, and a patient who, after treatment, became a stroke patients to help mitigate the loss of verbal communication prize-winning poet though he had never been involved in the skills, for example. arts before. The next step is to try to characterize those patients who be- It’s possible that these patients are expressing latent talents come more creative through treatment through comparing them they never had the courage to demonstrate before, she suggests. to patients who do not experience a growth in artistic output. Dopamine-inducing therapies are also connected to a loss of “We want to screen patients under treatment for creativity impulse control, and sometimes result in behaviors like excessive and impulsivity to see if we can identify what is unique in those gambling or obsessional hobbies. An increase in artistic drive who do become more creative,” says Inzelberg. She also believes could be linked to this lowering of inhibitions, allowing patients that such research could provide valuable insights into creativity to embrace their creativity. Some patients have even reported a in healthy populations, too. n connection between their artistic sensibilities and medication dose, noting that they feel they can create more freely when the American Friends of Tel Aviv University (aftau.org) supports world’s 94th dose is higher. ranked top universities for the impact of its research. TAU’s innovations and discoveries are cited more often by the global scientific community than all but 10 other universities.

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Baby boomers’ expectations about aging differ from those of previous generations, which may have helped create many new trends in senior care. Can you describe how your organization is dealing with new expectations?

Mary Poisson Director of Sales & Marketing La Siena A 190-unit senior living community offering independent and assisted living in Phoenix

According to Ann Clurman, author of Generation Ageless: How Baby Boomers are Changing the Way We Live Today, “aging boom- ers are reconsidering and reinventing their sense of self.” Reject- ing the view of themselves as old people, they are planning for Mary Poisson an age in which they are no less active, involved or important than they are today. Jerry Pagels At La Siena senior living community, we have embraced this understanding – that as a resident, your lifestyle continues here. Active, engaged and relevant, today’s retirement expectations are no longer just about fulfilling a need but instead about person- alization, growth and transformation. Whether you are looking for opportunities to socialize, enjoy new experiences, continue lifelong learning goals or delight in delicious culinary creations and the maintenance-free lifestyle, our goal is to provide you with an engaging setting in which to pursue your passions. And, should the need arise, residents can take comfort in knowing that a full menu of licensed assisted-living care is available to meet your needs, today and tomorrow. La Siena is an SRG senior living community. For more than Tim Cowen 25 years, we’ve been creating environments that enhance the quality of people’s lives.

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Baby boomers are influencing the attitudes and culture of aging. They’re more active and engaged, and they desire retirement Kathleen Weber communities that embrace these differences. At Maravilla Scottsdale, an award-winning continuum of care community in Scottsdale, retirement living has been rede-

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Arte_JCC_halfpage.indd 4 4/18/13 11:51 AM Be Prepared: Staying in the loop with Our Parents’ Healthcare By Jacqueline Shore assover’s focus on freedom rings true for seniors struggling to live independently. As we age, time can take a toll on our self-reliance. While it’s important for seniors Spring is to retain control, it is critical adult children stay in the loop with their parents’ more Phealthcare. Here are some things we can do to ensure our elders remain self-sufficient and well-protected. The first step is communication. As parents grow older and roles begin to change, they Notes: withwonderful friends, should know that the care we provide is done out of love. Remind them how they gave of themselves for so many years – now it’s our turn. Discussions should include family and K at Pueblo Norte. friends (preferably with everyone together), as directed by the parents. Visiting with ourNA seniors helps us stay in the loop. Many times older adults go through behavior changes, Y which may be symptomatic of other illnesses. If you visit (or have someone else visit) regNA - Lawn mowing ularly, you will recognize these changes early. Telephone and video calls also help you keep M or garden-growing? in touch. NA Next, we need to establish advanced directives – powers of attorney, wills, do not C NA Feeling the heat resuscitate orders, emergency contacts, etc. Many online resources are available,Colors including azag.gov. Different states have different rules, so do your research. (In Arizona you should or cool by the pool? include a durable mental health power of attorney.) Make sure the doctors have these documents and inform family members where papers are stored! Staying at home Doctors require signed authorization to discuss patient information with others, so make sure your parents designate their representatives. Most doctors prefer that you select or staying social? one family member for this role. A family member with a medical background would be a good choice. Plan for long-term care and look while your parents are healthy. Visit rehabilitation nstead of worrying about home centers, assisted living facilities and adult communities. You can visit projects.propublica. De:Ae:Date: mdk Rnd~Ver: jm 04.09.2012 r01•vA Imaintenance, what’s for dinner, or org/nursing-homes or ahrq.gov/patients-consumers/index.html as a starting point; howev- getting to appointments, our residents er, the data you find may be subjective or outdated. There is nothing better than visiting a enjoy Five Star living with friends, facility in person. exceptional care, and a calendar of Finally, keep a concise medical profile. Start with a medication list, past surgeries, opportunities to experience spring immunizations and allergies; you can also include family history. Get copies of all medical records (they’re yours – you’re entitled to them!) and share the information with all doctors. in full bloom. Keep copies of diagnostic reports, x-rays, etc. Doctors are not required to keep information forever; if you request medical records periodically, you will have a running history. CALL FOR OUR SPRING Even the most diligent patient (or the most dedicated family members) can find them- MOVE-IN SPECIALS! selves “out of their element.” In addition to online resources, you can employ the services of a professional nurse patient advocate, who acts solely on the behalf of the client. Patient advocates can be invaluable in keeping families in the loop, because they:

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Gem of a CEO Diamondbacks leader and team united in efforts to bring fun and funds to community By Deborah Moon

The Arizona Diamondbacks Manager Kirk Gibson and President and CEO Derrick Hall look over Chase Field in Phoenix 2011. Under Gibson, the team posted a 94-win season in 2011, the third-highest total in franchise history, and Gibson was named NL Manager of the Year. Photo by Jordan Megenhardt/Arizona Diamondbacks 38 MAY 2013 | ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE This work of art depicts 26 current and former Jewish baseball players and nine Jewish baseball executives, sportscasters and entertainers with baseball ties, including the Diamondbacks CEO Derrick Hall, second from left in front row of stands, and Sandy Koufax, front and center, Dodgers number 32. To order this litho: visit JewishBaseballPlayer.com or call 847-924-6140. Courtesy Greg Harris

“We take pride in being the most or Arizona Diamondbacks President and CEO Derrick Hall, Judaism and baseball fan-friendly go together like America and team in sports.” apple pie. “As a people, we’re about bring- – Josh Rawitch, ing people together and bettering Diamondbacks our community, which is what the Diamondbacks are about as well, senior VP which is why it’s such a perfect fit for me,” says Derrick. “If we can serve our commu- nity and make it a better place to live, we are doing our job. We can put smiles on faces – that’s the beauty of the industry we are in.” Jointly, Derrick and the Diamondbacks have been work- ing together to improve their community since Derrick joined the club in May 2005 as senior vice president of communications. He was named president in September 2006 and added the title of CEO in Janu- ary 2009. Now 44, he is one of the youngest major league presidents. As a team, the Diamondbacks have given Arizona plenty to smile about. They ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE | MAY 2013 39 [Cover]

Derrick Hall and his family enjoy a 2011 Diamondbacks game at Chase Field. From left: Derrick, Amy, Kylie, Hayden and Logan. Photo by Jordan Megenhardt/Arizona Diamondbacks

are known in the sports world as something of an upstart – in are near the top. From management to players, the Diamond- only their fourth season as an expansion team, the Diamond- backs have a strong philosophy of giving back, which aligns with backs won the World Series (2001). And when their young my Jewish upbringing,” he says. president took the helm, the young team continued its winning On a personal level, Derrick is a force all his own. He serves ways. Since Derrick arrived, they have won the National League on 25 boards, including the Arizona Mexico Commission, Great Western Division twice (2007, 2011) and reached the NL Hearts Academies, Arizona Chamber of Commerce, Greater Championship Series once (2007). But the 15-year-old team is Phoenix Convention & Visitors Bureau, Muscular Dystrophy also one of the largest philanthropic entities in the Valley, donat- Association (national vice president), National Advisory Coun- ing more money each year than all the other local sports teams cil for Pancreatic Cancer, US Airways Education Foundation, combined, and it is near the top in donations among all baseball Make-A-Wish Foundation and Positive Coaching Alliance. teams, Derrick says proudly. In its short history, the Arizona A frequent keynote speaker on leadership, customer service Diamondbacks Foundation and organization have provided $33 and culture, he donates all speaking engagement fees to the million in charitable giving, including more than $19 million Arizona Diamondbacks Foundation and other nonprofits he during Derrick’s seven years of leadership. supports. Volunteering is also a priority. Derrick says Diamondbacks Though he doesn’t serve on any Jewish boards, he says he employees from the front office to players volunteer “without is involved with AIPAC and Temple Solel, where his wife, cameras because it’s the right thing to do.” Amy, serves on the board of trustees. Their sons Logan, 17, and “Tikkun olam is a passion of mine and an alignment for me Hayden, 14, each became a bar mitzvah at the Reform congre- to baseball … philanthropy is common in the industry, but we gation in Paradise Valley, and daughter, Kylie, 11, already has her 40 MAY 2013 | ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE bat mitzvah date scheduled. Derrick calls Rabbi John Linder “a dear friend.” And the rabbi reciprocates the feeling: “I count as one of my great blessings in serving as Temple Solel’s senior rabbi my Jewish cherished friendship with Derrick and the Hall family.” “Derrick Hall is a great Jewish role model,” adds Linder. Community Day “Given the public nature of Derrick’s position, he is aware that his actions reflect upon the Jewish people as a whole. We May 26 couldn’t have a better ambassador! Derrick and Amy understand that to be a Jew is to be in community. The Arizona Diamondbacks offer discount tickets for Both at the helm of the Diamondbacks and personally, the Fourth Annual Jewish Community Day May 26. Derrick’s influence to help all those in the community in need, The Diamiondbacks will take the field against the Jews and non-Jews, reflects the core biblical dictum: ‘Love your Padres at 1:10 pm. A portion of each ticket sold through the flyers or dbacks. neighbor as you love yourself.’” com/jewish for Jewish Community Day will be donated to Perhaps that explains why Derrick serves on so many boards. Camp Stein and Council for Jews with Special Needs. Each Or maybe he just doesn’t know how to say no. group will receive $1 per qualifying ticket. “When you call Derrick to ask for anything, he is unstinting- Cantor Melissa Berman of Congregation Or Chadash will ly generous with his time and resources,” says Linder. sing the National Anthem before the game. Kids can run the Ask Derrick why he is so involved, and his answer isn’t that bases after the game. different: “Personal connections who ask if I could help.” After Chase Field allows you to bring in kosher or any food items a friend asked him to visit a facility for blind children, he felt he in clear plastic bags or a soft cooler that fit under a stadium had to help. Since many Jewish families have children with au- seat. Sealed or empty water bottles and sealed single serving tism, “I feel I have a responsibility.” Because the 26-year-old wife juice boxes are allowed. No metal or glass containers or hard of a Diamondback’s employee was diagnosed with melanoma, he coolers are permitted. For tickets, visit dbacks.com/jewish. Use password: jewish. became a Stand Up 2 Cancer Melanoma Dream Team Sponsor. For accessible seating or groups of 12 or larger, please Cancer organizations have a deeply personal pull on Derrick. contact Johanna Kasdorf at 602-462-4113 or jkasdorf@ As the Diamondbacks were battling for the pennant in 2011, dbacks.com. Derrick was diagnosed with prostate cancer. In December of that year, his father died after a three-year battle with pancreatic Camp Daisy & Harry Stein cancer. Camp Daisy & Harry Stein is a Reform Jewish overnight camp located in Prescott, AZ. The camp serves youth between the ages of 6-15 from all over the Southwest. Campers are able to swim, horseback ride, hike, rock climb and do so much more while making friendships that last a lifetime. The camp provides many campers scholarship opportunities, so the funds raised by Diamondbacks Jewish Community Day will help even more campers enjoy a summer of a lifetime!

Council for Jews with Special Needs “We can put smiles Since 1985 the Council for Jews with Special Needs has worked to create a on faces – that’s welcoming, inclusive community that respects the beauty of the and values each person and their unique contributions. The Council provides disability industry we are in.” resources to children and adults including school and camp inclusion supports, sign – Derrick Hall, language interpreters, adult social groups, assistance to family and caregivers, residential Diamondbacks options, community education, national information and referral, and partnerships with president and CEO other disability organizations. The funds raised by Diamondbacks Jewish Community Day will benefit the participants in the agency’s two social groups, providing much needed funding for their twice-monthly activities.

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Of his diagnosis, Derrick says: “I look at a challenge as an George Weisz, who co-owns two of the Diamondbacks opportunity … for me to drive awareness to get men to get out minor league affiliates, says he sits a few rows behind Derrick at and get tested.” Diamondbacks games. “He sits in the stands, not some luxury This year Derrick and Amy plan to launch the Derrick Hall box. He is foremost a true fan of the game. Whether they are Pro-State Foundation. “That’s Pro state of mind, not prostate staff or the fan who wants to just say hello, he always has a smile cancer,” he explains. Derrick wants the foundation to be a and outreached hand. He likes, and yearns, to get input from the resource for those who have been diagnosed with prostate cancer fans. He likes to encounter fans, whether they have complaints and for their families to help them understand the challenges or compliments, so he can ensure that they have the best possible and choices they face and how they can maintain a “pro” state of experience at the park.” mind. Giving fans the best possible experience is a formal policy of For Derrick, the epitome of a “pro” is his dear friend Sandy the Diamondbacks. Derrick focuses the organization’s efforts in Koufax, whom he deeply admires for having chosen not to pitch five areas called the “Circle of Success” – fan experience, perfor- on Yom Kippur during the 1965 World Series. “He is a man of mance, community, culture and financial efficiency. dignity, character and strength. He is so private.” With a focus on creating the best fan experience in all of Derrick says he enjoyed meeting his friend for dinner while sports, Derrick named and created a FAWTSY (Find A Way To Koufax was in Arizona for Spring Training, and he’s also proud Say Yes) customer service policy throughout the organization, ac- to be on the Jewish Baseball Players lithograph with Koufax and cording to Josh Rawitch, senior vice president, communications. 25 other famous Jewish baseball players. The players are arrayed And the team offers the lowest Fan Cost Index in Major in front of the dugout, but a few Jewish baseball execs, including League Baseball. Josh explains that is calculated based on ticket Derrick, are portrayed in the stands behind the dugout. (See price, parking, food and a souvenir. poster photo for ordering information.) “We take pride in being the most fan-friendly team in sports,” Sitting in the stands and interacting with fans is how Derrick says Josh. The Diamondbacks home, Chase Field, has “a safe and likes to experience the game. friendly area – The Sandlot – on the second deck with a play area 42 MAY 2013 | ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE “Derrick Hall is a great Jewish role model.” – Rabbi John Linder,

At left, Derrick Hall (top row second from right), Josh Rawitch Temple Solel (front row middle) visit Japan to meet with representatives of the Yomiuri Giants. They were joined by Diamondbacks General Manager Kevin Towers and legend Luis Gonzalez (top, left and second to left). Above Diamondbacks CEO Derrick Hall talks with broadcasters.

for kids from toddlers through 8 or 9 and batting cages for older Josh, who lived out his player fantasy playing in Dodger kids.” Stadium for the city high school baseball championship, says Additionally, Josh points out that Derrick has created a that for those who can’t play professional ball, “the passion of workplace culture that made the Diamondbacks the first sports the front office is how we express” that love for the game. “Being organization to be named among the “Best Places to Work” by part of a game that is part of our country’s history” fuels that the Phoenix Business Journal and BestCompaniesAZ for six passion. “Jackie Robinson breaking the color barrier is part of consecutive years. the fabric of our country and our own lives,” Josh explains. “What Derrick has created with the team is a family and Diversity in baseball is another area where Derrick plays a community,” says Josh. “People truly love working for the Dia- major role. He serves on the MLB diversity committee and on mondbacks,” says Josh, and he should know. Baseball Commissioner Bud Selig’s on-field diversity task force. Josh says Derrick promised him a fun, rewarding place to “I obsess with baseball because it brought my father and me work when he recruited Josh from the Dodgers front office. Josh close early in my childhood,” says Derrick. “His love for the left the team he started working for as an intern at age 18 and game was passed on to me and became my passion in life.” joined the Diamondbacks 18 months ago. Both Jewish, the two Now Derrick hopes his push to enhance the fan experience had worked together when Derrick spent parts of 12 seasons and make Diamondbacks games relatively inexpensive for with the Los Angeles Dodgers, joining the organization’s families will complete the circle. And what could be better than Single-A Florida State League affiliate as an intern in 1992 and transmitting the Hall family’s deeply rooted love for America’s departing as the club’s senior vice president of communications pastime to a new generation? n in 2004. Josh says he and his wife have yet to join a congregation, but their children attend preschool at the Jewish Community Center in Scottsdale. He calls the JCC and the preschool “the center of our social world.” ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE | MAY 2013 43 [Food] CHEF’S CORNER Ricotta pancakes perfect for Mother’s Day or Shavuot By Lisa Glickman

Even if you work outside the home Happy Mother’s Day Joanne loves raspberries and lemon, full time, mom duties are still 24/7. We My mother encourages so I have combined them to make these have an 12-year-old son with a very busy My mother’s a dream fluffy and delicious ricotta pancakes. It schedule. He plays several sports, studies My mother is amazing is super easy to make your own ricotta hard at school, practices on the piano And she’s always on my team cheese and fresh lemon curd and they every day and studies Hebrew to prepare My mother cooks taste so much better than the kind you for his bar mitzvah. My mother cleans buy in stores. The buttermilk adds a rich It seems like just yesterday I was My mother is a lean machine and tangy flavor that makes these pan- holding his hand and walking him to And she never, ever, is mean cakes very special. The sweet dusting of elementary school where I would kiss him I Love you Mom! powdered sugar balances the tart lemon good-bye and he would reluctantly let go Isn’t that about the most poetic thing curd making this a spectacular breakfast of my hand to go inside. Now, he is eager you have ever read! OK, so he’s no Maya in bed for Mother’s Day. It also makes a to take on any challenge, and kissing and Angelou, but it made me well up. So, any great dairy meal to celebrate Shavuot. cuddling mostly happen when no one kids out there, feel free to plagiarize! else is around. But he never forgets me on This recipe is for my mother-in-law Fluffy Ricotta Pancakes Mother’s Day. I keep his past Mother’s Joanne. She is a loving, supportive mom ¾ cup all-purpose flour ¼ cup semolina flour Day cards tucked away to glance at every and still refers to her son as “Buddy Boy,” (can use all-purpose flour) now and then. This one is from around even now that he is in his 50s! That’s just 1 teaspoon baking powder fourth grade: what Jewish moms do. ¼ teaspoon Kosher salt 4 large eggs, room temperature and separated 1 recipe homemade ricotta cheese (about 1 cup) 1 tablespoon melted butter 1 teaspoon vanilla extract 1 cup buttermilk 1 tablespoon sugar fresh raspberries Powdered sugar for dusting Butter for griddle In a small bowl, combine flours, bak- ing powder and salt. In a larger bowl, whisk together egg yolks, melted butter, vanilla extract, ricotta cheese and buttermilk. Add flour mixture and stir until just combined. In another bowl (preferably copper) beat egg whites until soft peaks appear. Add sugar to whites and whisk to combine. Gently fold egg whites into ricotta mixture. Heat griddle over medium heat and add butter. Drop batter using a ¹/3-cup measure to form pancakes. Place a few raspberries on top of each pancake. Cook until golden on both sides, about 2 minutes per side. Serve immediately with liberal dusting of powdered sugar and lemon curd on the side. Arizona’s Premier Jewish Summer Overnight Camp

Homemade Ricotta Cheese 4 cups whole milk 1 cup buttermilk Kosher salt to taste Deep fry thermometer Cheesecloth Stack four large squares of cheesecloth in a colander, leaving overhang. Place over a bowl. Combine milk and buttermilk in heavy large pot. Attach deep-fry thermometer to side of pot. Place pot over high heat. Stir occasionally. As the mixture heats, curds (small clumps) will begin to form. When thermometer reg- isters 175° to 180°, curds will separate from whey (liquid) and float to the top. Turn off heat. Using a large slotted spoon or skimmer, transfer curds to prepared colander. Gather cheesecloth around ricotta. Press gently, releasing some liquid (don’t press too much or the cheese could be too dry). Return ball of cheese to colander and let rest 20 minutes. Transfer ricotta to medium bowl. Sprinkle with kosher salt; mix gently. Can be made one day ahead.

Fresh Lemon Curd 4 lemons 1½ cups sugar ½ cup (1 stick) unsalted butter, softened 4 eggs ½ cup lemon juice Pinch of Kosher salt JUNE 12 - JULY 30 Use a vegetable peeler to remove the zest from three of the lemons. Juice all lemons to create ½ cup juice and set aside. Place lemon zest and sugar in bowl of food processor. Pulse until zest is very finely minced into sugar. Cream the butter and sugar in a medium bowl. Add eggs, one at a time then add lemon juice and salt. Pour mixture into a 2-quart saucepan and cook over low heat stirring constantly until mixture thickens, about 10 minutes. Pour through a strainer into a bowl pushing on solids as much as possible. Cool or refrigerate. LIVING JUDAISM Lisa Glickman is a private chef and teacher, and she recently made a TV appearance on summer of fun the Cooking Channel’s “The Perfect Three.” Lifetime of Memories She can be reached via email at lisa@ lisaglickman.com. For more information, contact Director Brian Mitchell at [email protected] or (480) 951-7150

ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE | MAY 2013 45 [Food] Where do JEWISH PEOPLE EAT? Cocktail Hour By A. Noshman t is often said that Jewish people aren’t drinkers. If that’s true, I don’t know any of them. I come from a long line of Jewish cocktailers. My grandfather served as his Temple’s president twice. Not two terms, he was elected two differ- ent times during his life. He was dedicated and observant. He Ialso observed the cocktail hour. Without fail, my grandparents mixed cocktails at 6 pm after a long day at the office. Lawrence Welk played on TV, and we kids would be sipping kiddie cock- tails (Shirley Temples or Rob Roys) with maraschino cherries amd waiting to change the channel when gramps wasn’t looking. Cocktails were about winding down, socializing, having fun and spending time together. Cocktailing is an art form, much like cooking. It means having all of the ingredients on hand to meet a guest’s request, and having the tools (including cocktail napkins with witty sayings) to make all kinds of concoctions from a martini to a brandy alexander. The cocktail hour was also observed whenever we went to experience that, “I’ve never tasted anything like this before” feel- a restaurant, and I think that is a key point to my experience. ing. They were sweet, creamy, complex but comforting morsels Cocktails were always a prelude to food. Perhaps that is the that were devoured in seconds. The sautéed spinach provided a “Jewish” part of drinking, in that the drink is not the last activity welcome contrasting crunch to the soft texture of the rest of the – it is the warm up to good times with friends and family. dish. It’s the kind of thing that makes you believe you could be a There are hundreds of great restaurants and bars in Arizo- vegetarian for life. na ranging from cowboy saloons to thumping dance clubs. I We started with a couple of martinis. I ordered mine gibson recently went to rediscover some classic places and to find a new (with an onion), she had the chocolate, which was very tasty one where the views of the city are spectacular, the appetizers are (I wouldn’t be surprised if they used Godiva). They were $13 a wonderful and the art of the cocktail is observed. piece but don’t forget, you’re also paying for that spectacular view and their liability insurance for being perched on that mountain Different Pointe of View $$$ top. You have to go there! at The Pointe Hilton Tapatillo Cliffs 11111 N. 7th St., Phoenix, AZ 85020 Wrigley Mansion Club $$ 602-866-7500 | differentpointeofview.com 2501 E. Telawa Trail, Phoenix, AZ 85016 Let me get this out of the way right off the bat. The drive from 602-955-4079 | wrigleymansionclub.com the hotel entrance up to its mountain top restaurant is a bit Built in the late 1920s by chewing gum manufacturer William harrowing but totally worth it. Leave the stick shift at home be- Wrigley as a private residence, this elegant structure sits atop a cause it’s straight up. Constructed in the 70s by local developer hill with elegant views of Phoenix and the surrounding moun- Bob Gosnell, the Pointe hotels dot the mountains in and around tains. Now owned by Geordie Hormel (of Hormel Meat Pack- Phoenix and this property is particularly breathtaking. Try to ing Co. fame), the fully restored mansion serves as a restaurant make it before sunset. Here’s what we had on a recent visit. and bar to its members and to the general public during happy Roasted Butternut Squash Ravioli $11.75 hour. Needless to say, I am the general public, although mem- Sage, Parmesan, Sautéed Spinach, Roasted Crimini Brandy bership is only $10 a year. On a recent happy hour visit with Crème There’s a reason I am describing the appetizer first. This a non-drinking lover of architecture and elegance, we had the is the kind of dish where you put the fork in your mouth and following: 46 MAY 2013 | ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE WM Manhattan $13 (not on the happy hour menu) Makers Mark, vermouth, bitters Shirley Temple $3 Blue Truffle Mac and Cheese $4 (half off the regular price for happy hour) The Manhattan was crisp and slightly sweet and elegantly served. The Shirley Temple I’m sure was sweet and the cherries were eaten. Our appetizer was served piping hot in a beautiful covered ceramic pot. It was penne pasta cooked al dente in a creamy cheese sauce with a hint of blue cheese and truffle oil. The top had crispy bits of sprinkled cheese. The views were fantastic and half the fun was wandering the mansion, peeking into all the nooks, crannies and balconies. Overlooking the Biltmore Hotel, it is centrally located and a must see. 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ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE | MAY 2013 47 [Community]

Arizona’s two free loan associations Free Money are ready to help from birth to burial By Janet Arnold ree Money: Sound too good to be true? That’s exactly what brew Free Loan in Tucson. “We are constantly trying to get the those in need from the Jewish community can count on word out to let people know we’re here to help.” through the Jewish Free Loan Association in the Valley More than 40 Jewish Free Loan organizations exist through- Fand the Hebrew Free Loan Association in Tucson. Need some out the world – in both North and South America, Australia, unexpected dental work? Your air-conditioning unit suddenly South Africa and Israel. Some have different names and each has gave out? Just when you were getting your finances under control! its own independent requirements, but they are all set up with And how can you possibly handle the extra costs of your son or the same directive in mind: to follow the biblical passage, Exodus daughter going to college? Even the best of planners can easily 22:24: “Thou shall not exact interest from the needy among you.” find themselves in a financial bind, particularly in today’s unpre- They all further a belief in gemilut chasadim, acts of loving kind- dictable economy. ness. In this case the term applies to helping people to become or remain self-supporting, self-respecting members of their commu- nity. The Power of One The Phoenix organization be- gan in the 1940s and has given out WHAT: Annual Meeting of the Jewish Free Loan thousands of loans over the decades Association with presentation of Presidential Award to individuals and families in need. to Marilyn and Joel Zolondek and installation of “We can tailor the payments to the 2013-14 Board of Directors. Outgoing President Fred Wabnik; Incoming President Barrett Silver. Far left: Barbara Mehl-Goldman has a very personal reason for creating WHEN: 7 pm, May 9 a Jewish Free Loan fund. Below and WHERE: Valley of the Sun JCC, 12701 N. Scottsdale right: These children’s drawings were Road, Scottsdale. winners in last year’s art contest for elementary students. The winning COST: $18 for dairy dessert reception drawings now adorn the tzedakah boxes distributed by JFL. RSVP to 602-230-7983 or jewishfreeloan.org

Jewish Free Loan in the Valley: jewishfreeloan.org Hebrew Free Loan in Tucson: 520-297-5360 [email protected]

In the Phoenix area, interest-free loans ranging from an emergency $500 up to $20,000 toward a four-year college education, and lots of options in between, are available through the local office of the Jewish Free Loan. “We like to say we’re here for life’s ups and downs, and everything in between,” states Ellen Sacks, director of programs and public relations for JFL. As of 1997 the Phoenix or- ganization loans only to those who are Jewish in order to help meet the needs of the specific community. The Tucson office will loan to any- one with the proper criteria of residency and co-signers. A typical loan ranges from $1,200 for an individual to $2,400 for couples, though they have loaned more when warranted. “I’m afraid we’re a well-kept secret here,” admits Phil Bregman, president of the He- 48 MAY 2013 | ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE individual,” explains Sacks. “We understand that some people may need a few extra months, depending on the situation.” There are a number of Named Donor Funds available, includ- ing the Fran and Al Sachs Jewish Adoption Fund, which was set up to support the adoption process for parents who intend to raise a Jewish child; three business development funds to help with job training, or establishing or expanding a small business; a number of educational funds, which can be used for Jewish camps as well as all levels of education; medical/emergency funds; personal crisis funds; and even designated burial funds. Education Fund Deadline – May 15, 2013 Jewish residents of Arizona enrolled in or starting their studies in the fall of 2013 need to submit their information and application Above: These fund and legacy donors to the Jewish Free Loan Association enjoy the JFL’s Shabbat Mishpatim luncheon in February.

When her first husband, Harold Mehl, was in hospice, he told Barbara he wanted her to start a fund to stand as a legacy as well as a thank you for all the support she had received over the years. He chose to donate his body to science through Science Care, and asked Barbara to take the money that would have been spent on a funeral to start funds at JFL, both in Israel and in Phoenix, since they had family in both locales. The Mehl Fund in Israel recently helped a couple adopt seven children from one family after their birth parents were killed in an attack. While the local fund is generally designated for higher education, Barbara recently received a call from JFL asking if she would be willing to have her funds used to help a local family adopt. Barbara has an adopted child herself, so there was no question in her mind. “Absolutely!” she replied to the request. Because JFL has a 98% loan repayment rate, donors can be assured that their funds will be used over and to JFL by May 15 if they want to qualify for a loan. Individuals over again. can qualify for up to $5,000 per year for four years. Interest-free “We think of it as the best kind of recycling there can be!” education loans can be used to attend community college and Sacks says with a smile. “With the repayments coming in, we can technical or vocational school programs as well as universities. ensure that JFL will be here to help. Of course the more funds we Thirty-six JFL educational loans are currently helping students have, the more people we can assist. We know there are still many not only at Arizona State University, University of Arizona and unmet needs in our community.” Northern Arizona University, but also at Ben-Gurion University Both JFL and HFLA in Tucson are eligible to receive dona- in Israel and schools such as Stanford, New York University, Em- tions as part of the Arizona Working Poor Tax Credit. Donations ory and the University of Southern California. Qualifications and made this way can reduce Arizona state tax liability up to $200 more information can be found at jewishfreeloan.org. per person or $400 per couple. This year JFL received funds from the Jewish Community Reaching out to children, last year JFL held an art contest Foundation and the Jewish Community Association, but most among elementary school students. The winning drawings now funding for the organizations in both communities comes from adorn the tzedakah boxes distributed by JFL. This year JFL hosted individuals. an essay contest, with the topics being “What does tzedakah look Barbara Mehl-Goldman had a very personal reason for start- like to you?” and “Why is a hand-up better than a hand-out?” ing her fund at the Jewish Free Loan. As a youngster in Chicago, “We do lots of collaborating to help get the word out about she and her sister spent several years in an orphanage while her what we do,” Sacks explains. “We work with the B’nai Tzedek family sorted out various problems. The costs were absorbed by program that gives hands-on experience to teen philanthropists, the JPI, the Jewish People’s Institute. Even after she and her sister for example. Once young people know how good it feels to be were reunited with their family, the JPI ensured that they could able to help others, they are more likely to continue to do so. We go to Jewish summer camps. The concept of Jews helping Jews also work closely with Jewish Family and Children’s Services, resonated with Barbara and became implanted in her. particularly to provide economic crisis loans for basic needs.” n ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE | MAY 2013 49 [Israel] IDF has Friends in Arizona

By Deborah Moon Jerami Shecter says her life changed dramati- cally when she went on a Birthright Israel trip in 2001. The experience prompted her move from working in the corporate world to living in Israel. Now she is director of the Arizo- na Chapter of Friends of the Israel Defense Forces. Shecter lived in Israel from 2008-11 where she met her husband, Nir Peled, who served in an elite unit of the IDF. After their daugh- ter, Eden, was born, the couple decided to move to the States. Shecter had worked as a Jewish professional for 12 years and had been involved in FIDF for about a decade. When her husband got a job at Intel in Chandler, the national FIDF office asked if she would be interested in heading an Arizona chapter. Jay Bycer and Laurie Schwartz had hosted a launch event in Decem- ber 2010, and Shecter officially opened the new chapter in early 2011. FIDF National Pres- ident Julian Josephson says the Arizona chapter has gotten off to a great start. FIDF is designed to develop and nurture bonds between U.S. citi- zens and members of the Top: Dr. Nathan and Judy Laufer at Auschwitz on the FIDF National Mission to Poland and Friends of the IDF/Arizona Chapter: FIDF.org Israel last year, left, with IDF Chief of Staff [email protected] | 602-388-8344 Benny Gantz, above, with Israel’s President Shimon Peres. Photos courtesy of Dr. Nathan Laufer

have a family of people here who love and care about them.” IDF, says Josephson, emphasizing that FIDF provides for the Since her husband served in the IDF and her grandfather, welfare of soldiers and never funds weapons or equipment. now 94, was an American liberator of the camps in Europe, she “We’ve gotten tremendous interest from the community,” he has a deep connection to both ends of an annual FIDF trip to says, noting Arizona has hosted several IDF soldiers to enhance Poland and Israel called “Holocaust to Independence.” that bond. This year’s April 8-19 trip took more than 100 prominent Shecter says she loves bringing the soldiers to Phoenix and FIDF lay leaders and supporters from the United States and Tucson, noting that the impact of the soldiers on American sup- Panama accompanied by 50 IDF officers to Poland and Israel. porters is profound. Not only do they speak at synagogues and On the eve of his departure for the trip, Arizona FIDF to youth groups, but they stay with host families who develop member George Weisz recalled growing up among a large deep connections with the soldiers. concentration of Holocaust survivors in Skokie, IL. He says he She says the soldiers, most of whom are on their first visit to and his wife, Leesa, both learned about the Holocaust “from the the United States, also get a lot out of the visit: “They walk away first-hand accounts of neighbors who had numbers branded into saying, ‘People from Scottsdale care about us.’ They know they their arms.” 50 MAY 2013 | ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE “I have always wanted to visit the concentration camps, al- “We learned IDF was not just a word or an organization,” though with mixed emotions as anyone has who travels to these says Judy. “We saw and met these bright young soldiers. We horrific sites,” says George. “But you know you must go” to learn, were able to talk with them and hear their stories, their passion witness and understand the unthinkable in order to help ensure for defending the homeland. We saw where the dollars go when that “we will never forget … (and) that it will never happen we visited the bases – a new gym, a synagogue, a hospital – again.” things that make the young soldiers’ lives just a little bit easier. “Now, imagine traveling to those sites escorted by Israeli Their appreciation was overwhelming for all the funds that they soldiers and survivors carrying the Israeli flag who perform received from FIDF. They are putting their lives on the line special ceremonies at each location and then fly to Israel aboard every day and they were thanking us!” an Israeli air force plane in time for the celebration of Israel George agrees: “FIDF fulfills David Ben-Gurion’s vision Independence Day and dinner with the President of Israel. It is for an American pillar of support for Israel’s soldiers. To those the ultimate symbol of our survival.” unfamiliar with the FIDF, I describe it as the USO of Israel. But Last year Arizona FIDF Leadership Council Chair Judy it is the USO on steroids. It not only provides … comfort (to) Laufer and her husband, Nathan, participated in the journey. our men and women in uniform, but it provides resources for “My husband and I were reluctant to go back to Poland, where families of soldiers killed in the line of duty, rehabilitation for both our families had been victimized, but knowing that we wounded soldiers, spiritual resources and college scholarships would be walking into the death camps with the Israeli soldiers, for service personnel. It also builds synagogues and wellness we decided to go,” she says. “We felt great pride marching into centers on military bases and provides financial aid so soldiers Auschwitz with Israeli officers, a Torah, and the Israeli and IDF can do their jobs without the constant worry of supporting their flags. Heading to Israel and celebrating Israel Independence Day families back home.” gave us a whole new appreciation for our history and the need George and Leesa say they are involved with numerous to secure our homeland. We take great pride in our soldiers and valuable pro-Israel and Jewish community organizations, but realize that as long as we have Israel and its proud military, there “discovered FIDF was the only organization that provided will never be another Jewish Holocaust.” resources directly to the Israeli soldiers, those on the front lines, Both couples say they support IDF because, as its mission every single day, protecting a nation and our heritage. … They statement says, “Their job is to look after Israel. Ours is to look not only protect Israeli citizens, they are protecting a land that is after them.” a crucial haven and home for every Jew around the world.” n

FIDF initiates and helps support educational, social, cultural and recreational programs and facilities for the young men and women soldiers of Israel who defend the Jewish homeland. FIDF also supports the families of fallen soldiers.

Their job is To look afTer israel. ours is To look afTer Them.

To learn more contact Friends of the Israel Defense Forces, Arizona Chapter, 10645 North Tatum | Phoenix | AZ | 85028 602-388-8344 | Email: [email protected] www.fidf.org

ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE | MAY 2013 51 [An American inIsrael] Visit sends Obama’s relationship with Israel to unexpected heights

By Mylan Tanzer assover is one of the most anticipated times of the year The answer lies in an amazing performance by Obama. His in Israel. This festive holiday marks the beginning of personal skills allowed him to convey what we hope to be his spring, and the seder reaffirms who and why we are sincere understanding, appreciation, friendship and admiration Jews – even for the most secular Israelis. for Israel, as well as our collective need to be understood and This year there was an uncharacteristic feeling of anticlimax. appreciated by Obama. PNot that Passover was less enjoyable. But the week before, we Of course the extraordinarily well-planned visit with brilliant experienced the biggest political and media event since Anwar and sensitive implementation organized by the White House Sadat’s 1977 historic visit – Barak Obama’s first trip to Israel as helped as well. One analyst called it “a perfect production by U.S. president. American directors with Israeli actors.” It is difficult to convey the holiday atmosphere and media cir- Obama pushed all the right buttons with his words and cus that ensued. In terms of coverage, The Truman Show (1998 demeanor during visits to Yad Vashem, Mt. Herzl and Rabin’s satirical comedy-drama starring Jim Carrey) comes to mind. grave, where he showed a profound personal connection to our Every minute detail was reported. central symbols. But it was also clear from the arrival ceremo- Blogger Uri Elitzur wrote: “We went overboard. We acted ny that Obama chose to visit due to the realization that his like teenage girls who scream at a concert of their pop idol. Yes, first-term Middle East strategy was not only a strategic failure, the leader of the free world, an important visit, our biggest ally, but also contradicted his personal convictions. The aim of his etc. But pre-empting all radio and TV programs, live broadcasts visit was to reset both and to try to talk directly with the Israeli on all channels during each day, reporting on the most trivial public. trifles like what he ate, an interview with one of the girls from Alon Pinkus, the former Israeli Consul in New York, said the choir who sang to him and with another child who shook in an interview that Obama could no longer tolerate the gulf his hand, which beauty queen was invited to the gala dinner? between his strategic support and his strong personal feelings Overkill!” towards Israel, and the perception of him as the most anti-Is- This blogger might have a point, but commercial media out- rael U.S. president in decades. “He came because of his need to lets give the public what it wants. bridge this gulf, both for U.S. interests but also on a personal I doubt any city or country has been so preoccupied, and level as well.” perhaps touched, by a presidential visit of Obama. Of course people wondered if this was a working visit with a One has to understand Obama’s unpopularity among the strategic aim or, as Jeffrey Goldberg of Atlantic Monthly dubbed Israeli public on the eve of the visit. While many of us are it, “Operation Desert Schmooze.” I think it is safe to assume fascinated that the leader of the free world has a cool, urban cha- that Obama came with a diplomatic agenda, such as requesting/ risma, he was viewed with suspicion by most of us and even as a demanding that Netanyahu wait for America’s lead on Iran, and ticking time bomb by some. discussing ways to resume negotiations with the Palestinians His first-term attempt to woo the Islamic world at the ex- and how to prevent a regionally toxic meltdown in Syria. The pense of Israel and the cold manner in which he treated Net- latter apparently spawned the one diplomatic achievement: an anyahu both alienated and frightened Israelis. Obama-initiated phone call between Netanyahu and Turkish The irony here is that this antipathy toward Obama devel- Prime Minister Erdogan in which Netanyahu apologized for the oped despite an unprecedented upgrading of security cooper- Marmara incident three years ago, enabling the re-establishment ation and aid during his first term. In December’s column, I of ties between Israel and Turkey just in time to cooperate to attributed this discrepancy to his inability to understand that the contain Syrian fallout. Even the divisive and sensitive question United States and Israel have had both a strategic and a special of why Israel should apologize to Turkey, which was the provo- relationship. Without acknowledging the special relationship, cateur, passed without too much controversy due to Obamapho- the close security coordination and the military aid seem to ria. be strategic American interests that also benefit Israel. While But the answer to why Obama came was provided with the Obama may think the Palestinians might be one of the most climax of the visit – his speech to students in Jerusalem’s Civic occupied people on Earth, we Israelis are certainly the most Auditorium. Obama chose not to make his keynote address threatened on the planet. to the Knesset, but rather to speak to Israelis directly. Despite So how was it possible that just two days after Air Force One the graciousness, warmth and smiles displayed with Netanyahu landed in Israel, the morning headlines read, “Israel in Love,” (Obama referred to him as Bibi during the entire visit), Peres “Feeling Right at Home” and “You’re Astonishing.” and others, he chose to go over their heads to share his feelings 52 MAY 2013 | ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE and dreams with Israel. “Obama did not bring in his speech a political plan, nor a roadmap to one. He came to soothe, convince and conquer … and he conquered the audience by storm,” wrote Nahum Barnea in Yediot. “There have been many speeches, but Obama’s was unique and singular. It was a rare mixture of historical knowl- edge, a world view of morality, personal experience, emotions, warmth and targeted criticism.” Obama inspired in Israelis the necessary security to accept his vision with his words: “For the Jewish people, the quest for the promised land continued through every generation and included suffering, exile, prejudice, pogroms and even genocide. ” “I think of five Israelis that boarded a bus in Bulgaria and were blown up because of where they came from … therefore every righteous nation must condemn Hezbollah for what they are, a terrorist organization.” “Israel’s security is so important because it cannot be taken for granted … and I want to say to you, especially the youth, as long as the USA exists, you are not alone (the last four words spoken CASA CAESAREA in Hebrew).” He also won over the audience when he said that the sup- posed tension between himself and Bibi is just a hoax to provide Boutique material to the writers of “Eretz Nehederet,” the Israeli Saturday Night Live. Bed & Breakfast With the crowd giving him standing ovations after almost every sentence, he then got to the point: “Peace must be made Golf Residence, Caesarea, Israel between peoples and not governments.” “I speak to you as a worried friend committed to your future.” ~ He said that although the Palestinians turned to terror and Casa Caesarea is an oasis on the green, have missed numerous historical opportunities for peace with offering luxury suites, gourmet meals Israel, their aspirations must be recognized. “Look at the world through their eyes.” He then went on to mention the daily hard- and spectacular views - all in a totally ships imposed on West Bank Palestinians due to Israeli security private setting. considerations. Even during this part of his speech, the ovations didn’t die down, and even when he mentioned terms like expul- Close to the beach, antiquities and harbor. sion and occupation, the politically mixed audience remained Available for short or extended stays. enthusiastic. Agree or not, the audience was enthralled and enraptured, as ~ was the entire country. Sever Plotzker wrote in Yediot: “Not only Anne Kleinberg – Author & Proprietor was the young crowd spiritually uplifted, but from my nearby seat, it was clear that this leader, known for his cool composure and complete self control was surprised and touched and by the enthusiastic way he was received. After every ovation, he scanned the hall and couldn’t quite believe his eyes … He won their heart. They won his spirit.” What concrete results will emerge are unknown. What is certain is that the relationship has been reset. Israel is enamored of Obama, and I would like to think that Obama was genuine. But I did have my doubts about his sincerity at one point during the visit. When a high-tech company’s computerized robot brought Obama a piece of matzah, Obama remarked, “Now that’s good matzah!” Good matzah? At that moment, he was being gracious but definitely not sincere.n

Mylan Tanzer is an American who moved to Israel in 1981. Tanzer lives in Tel Aviv with his wife and five children. He can be reached at [email protected]. www.casacaesarea.com

ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE | MAY 2013 53 [Israel] Life on the Other Side Wisteria Blooms and Other Snippets of Delight

by Anne Kleinberg hen you live in Israel, you grab your moments had a wisteria bush bloom in my New York days. of joy wherever and whenever you can. Because OK, so it’s not all sweet-smelling, lilac-colored flowers every if you don’t – you might not survive to have day. Some days you want to punch the clerk in the post office. another opportunity. (I hate that we even have to go to the post office, but come the I’m exaggerating of course. On the contrary, Israel is a pretty 15th of every other month, it’s time to pay the value-added tax.) niceW place to live. I know we have wars and terrorist incidents; And when you wait on line in the supermarket and someone enemies surround us and the whole world seems against us at pushes ahead of you because she has only three items compared times (too many times). But the truth is people know how to to your seven, you do a “Huh, are you kidding me?” But let’s not live here – and rather than sit around and kvetch about all the consider those moments of intense aggravation. problems, they’re out there enjoying life. Looking at my wiste- Let’s consider the Arab butcher who answers your question ria bush the other day and seeing the very first bloom since we about how to say chicken leg in Hebrew – “Pulkeh!” Or the planted it seven years ago, I was overwhelmed with joy. I never Russian taxi driver who offers to give you a list of local business- es that use his service and can benefit from yours. Or the tele- phone operator, who instead of giving you the telephone number you’re asking for, gives you advice along with it. And then there’s the weather. Do you have any idea how fabulous it is to sit at an outdoor cafe in the Caesarea harbor in January, enjoying fresh grilled fish accompanied by a side dish of bright, warm sunshine? To know that eight months out of the year, you’ll be more or less guaran- teed a rain-free day, day after day? And when it does rain, more often than not you will experience a rainbow right after? How about the unique serene silence of a Friday afternoon when no one stirs because everyone is taking a pre-Shabbat nap? Or the experience of people wishing you a Shabbat shalom the way they once said, “Have a good day” in the United States – and they mean it. And the comedy – the cynical satirical shows that shine on television! These people are loaded with self-deprecating humor – about themselves, their leaders, their enemies (real and imagined). Imagine every stereotype you can think of about an Israeli – and know that an Israeli has already thought about it and made fun of it. So I’m going to really enjoy this new wisteria blossom. Because it is a sign for me that everything here is just fine.n

Anne Kleinberg, author of Menopause in Man- hattan and several cookbooks, left a cushy life in Manhattan to begin a new one in Israel. Now she’s opened a boutique bed and breakfast in her home on the golf course in Caesarea. For details, visit annekleinberg.com and casacaesarea.com. [To Life] My Road Trip to Paradise

By Amy Hirshberg Lederman It’s not often that one arrives at her childhood s a child, I grew up paradise, so of course we had to spend the night. It listening to music on was a bit disappointing to learn, however, that the hotel our family’s prized pos- walls were made of plaster and wood, and no squirrels session,A a stereo system nestled answered to the name of Squeaky or Scrumpy. deep within a richly oiled ma- Paradise is a complex and intriguing idea that hogany cabinet with two huge speakers has been a part of the human experience since the that dominated the corners of our beginning of time. In many cultures and reli- living room. Sunday mornings gions, paradise was imagined as a garden, a place of were dedicated to classical music, extreme beauty and perfection like the Garden of the afternoons were filled with Eden. In fact, the Hebrew word for paradise comes Broadway musicals from the root word for pardes, which means and the evenings orchard. were a potpour- Most world religions identify ri ranging from paradise as the physical place where classical guitar and folk to righteous souls ascend after death Calypso and Big Band. It was to dwell with God. But the concept is not as during these wonderful forays that Rex clear in Judaism, where ideas about the afterlife Harrison and Julie Andrews taught me that are varied and somewhat difficult to define. There is “the rain in Spain stays mainly on the plane,” no mention of heaven or the afterlife in the Torah, although and John Gary wooed my heart with “This is there is reference to a place called Gehinnom or Sheol (hell). All I Ask.” The Talmud, the Zohar and later rabbinic teachings refer to But one of my all-time favorites an afterlife and Olam Ha Bah, or the World to Come. This is was a tune by Burl Ives, his sugary viewed as both a place in time and a physical place: an era in voice eliciting images of delight in history heralded by the coming of the Messiah, as well as the my 7-year-old heart. I later found out that place where righteous souls will be rewarded after death to “feast the “Big Rock Candy Mountain” was origi- on the brightness of the Divine Presence.” nally recorded by Harry McClintock in 1928 I was only 7 when I first began to imagine my own personal and described a hobo’s idea of paradise. Ives sanitized paradise as a rock candy mountain where I could feast on an ice the version, substituting peppermint trees for cigarette trees and cream house and talk to animals. But as my needs and desires deleting all references to alcohol! have changed, as my age and health and family have grown and The chorus in Ives’ children’s version went like this: evolved, so has my concept of paradise. “Oh the buzzin’ of the bees in the peppermint trees near the In my earlier years, it was related to what I didn’t have – to soda water fountain, at the lemonade springs where the blue bird what I hoped to achieve, to my goals and dreams for the future. sings on the Big Rock Candy Mountain.” But as I approach my 60th year and celebrate my 30th wed- I would dream of this magical place and the house I would ding anniversary, paradise is more about what I do have – the build. The walls were made of chocolate chip ice cream, the roof blessings of good health, a husband I cherish, the love of family of crunchy peanut brittle. There was a swimming pool filled with and friends, and work that is meaningful. Paradise for me is not ginger ale that I could drink to my heart’s content. And the yard a far-off place. Paradise is right here and now. had lollypop and gumdrop flowers, and talking squirrels with Each one of us may have our Big Rock Candy Mountain and names like Squeaky and Scrumpy. not even realize it. Perhaps that’s why we took the longer route Fast forward to the summer of 2011: My husband Ray and through Utah, so that I could find mine once I were driving from Montana to Tucson on a back-road route again. n – Highway 89. As we followed a winding turn, a magnificent golden peak loomed large, taking us totally by surprise. And Amy Hirshberg Lederman is an author, Jewish when I read the sign, I literally screamed out in delight, causing educator, public speaker and attorney. Her columns my road-weary husband to jump out of his seat. have won awards from the American Jewish Press As- “Wait, pull over, right now! Look where we are!” sociation, the Arizona Newspapers Association and It was then that he noticed the sign. The Big Rock Candy the Arizona Press Club for excellence in commentary. Mountain was staring us in the face. Visit her website at amyhirshberglederman.com. ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE | MAY 2013 55 [History]

Arizona Territory’s first Jewish female created legacy from hardship

By Eileen R. Warshaw, Ph.D. setting off for Tucson. he most accu- Rosa likely did not know she rate description was destined to become one of the of the pioneer wom- first Eastern European and the first en of Arizona is best Jewish female resident in the Arizona discovered somewhere Territory. Her reminiscence explains between the historical why no one had preceded her and records and the “embroi- why, for the next dozen years, only dered” passed-down family the most dutiful, love-struck or des- stories. Without a doubt the women perate Jewish women heeded the call of the 1860s and ’70s who arrived in of the Arizona wilds. Rosa recorded the Territory were fearless, dedicated her journey in her diary: individuals who brought with them “We started for Tucson on Octo- the traditions and culture of their ber 21, 1868. We traveled in a four faith and homeland. horse ambulance which was a relic; of One such woman’s story begins in the Civil War. We had provisions and Baltimore in 1868. Rosa Katzenstein camped out. was raised in the comfort of middle “Our bedding was spread on the class society. As with most Jewish ground, and that is the way we slept. marriages of the day, the bride and “We traveled at the rate of 25 groom’s families were related by blood miles per day and camped near or marriage, and Rosa’s marriage to stage coach stations where I saw the Tucson businessman Phillip Drach- roughest and worst class of men. man on April 12, 1868, was arranged “As we traveled we passed many through family ties. How much graves of poor people who had been Rosa knew about her future life with murdered by the Indians or the des- Phillip in Tucson is uncertain. It is perate characters. We were detained believed that Rosa knew Phillip was en route by many mishaps to our a man of means and well-respected team. Our friend, L.M. Jacobs who in her extended family circle, but like was traveling with us, got disgusted most eastern brides, she knew little and got a buckboard and continued about the hardships of the western on to Tucson ahead of us. frontier. “After we left Yuma, we had to Shortly after their New York wed- cross a mountain and upon arrival on ding, the couple boarded the steam- the other side we saw eight graves. ship Arizona for the trip to Panama, This place was called Oatman Flat. and then boarded a wagon for the Top: Rosa Katzenstein with her 10 children. The story was that a family had met dangerous trip across the bug-infest- Bottom: Rosa Katzenstein the Apaches and was kind to them, ed isthmus and finally another ship gave them provisions and tobacco. to San Francisco. From there they The Indians assisted them down the traveled to Los Angeles and then by mountain and then murdered them stagecoach to San Bernardino, CA, all with the exception of one girl, where they visited with Phillip’s sister whom they made a captive. and waited for cooler weather before “When Mr. Jacobs arrived in Tuc- 56 MAY 2013 | ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE son he told my brother-in-law, Sam Drachman, of our mishaps and when we arrived at a station called Blue Water, we found a team with ten armed men to escort us to Tucson. Sam had sent the team and also a mattress. “After another long and tedious journey across the desert, Jewish Arizona where there was nothing but cactus, sand and brush and occa- sionally an immense freight team which they called ‘Arizona Schooners’ and mighty glad to see them, we arrived in Tucson on November 15th, twenty four days after leaving San Bernardino.” 1950 Phillip arranged for a home for the couple to live in shortly after their arrival, a home of adobe walls, a mud-packed saguaro cactus rib roof and shutters to cover the windows. There was no stove to cook on and refrigeration was a hole dug in the mud floor. Phillip eventually added wood to cover the traditional packed mud floor, a floor that is believed to have been one of the first residential wood floors in Tucson. Life settled into a pioneer pace and, although difficult, Rosa’s home included the traditions of her Jewish upbringing. In 1869 Rosa and Phillip became the parents of the first Anglo child born in the Arizona Territory. Harry A. (possibly Aaron) Drach- man was born in the early morning hours in the family’s home on Alameda Street in Tucson. The closest mohel was an eight- day stagecoach ride to the Jewish community in San Bernardino. According to the family stories, Rosa, the newborn and a wet nurse boarded the “Butterfield” stagecoach at noon the same day that the baby was born for the eight-day journey to San Bernardino. Night and day the stage rolled on at a pace from 5 to 12 miles an hour across scorching deserts, jagged mountain An interactive exhibit that explores the passes and rivers cursed with quicksand. The coach stopped only to change horses or let passengers slug down a cup of coffee 1950s post war world of the Southern with their provisions. The stage arrived eight days later and Arizona Jewish community baby boy Drachman was circumcised at sundown on the eighth day in San Bernadino. The new mother and child remained in California for a few months and then returned to Tucson, where Exhibit dates: March 21 through over the subsequent years Rosa would give birth to nine more June 15, 2013 children. Phillip Drachman died in 1889 when their youngest child, Wed., Thurs., Sat., and Sun. - 1 to 5 pm Phyllis, was 1 year old. Rosa raised the 10 children without ben- Fri. - Noon to 3 pm efit of indoor plumbing, running water, electric lights, gas stoves Group tours by arrangement or air-conditioning. Harry A. Drachman grew up to be a proud Tucson busi- General admission: $5.00 nessman, and in adult life he legally changed his name to Harry Students & 2013 JHM Members - Free Arizona Drachman. Rosa Katzenstein Drachman died in California in July 1918. Her body was brought back to Tucson, the town she loved, for Jewish History Museum burial. One of the local newspapers wrote: “Mrs. Drachman 564 South Stone Avenue was beloved by all who knew her. She raised a large family of children and they are among the most progressive and respected Tucson, Arizona 85701 of our citizens. There never was a better woman than mother 520-670-9073 Drachman.” Rosa’s life, embroidered with family lore, is the very essence www.jewishhistorymuseum.org of those pioneer women who risked it all to help build a new life and raise a family in the Old West. Today we honor them as the women who brought culture, grace and the faith and traditions of Judaism to our state and the next generation. n

Eileen R. Warshaw, Ph.D., is the executive director of the Jewish History Museum in Tucson.

ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE | MAY 2013 57 [Singles]

Swinging singles and Near & Far worldwide adventures By Masada Siegel ife is meant to be lived, so don’t wait to enjoy yourself to the fullest just because you don’t have a significant other. I’ve explored countless countries on my own, and the truth is, when you travel solo, you are never alone. Why not travel to places that are fun, filled with interesting Lpeople and have possibilities for a good time? Just remember to keep your eyes open in case your soul mate bumps into you some- where along the way. Here are a few suggestions. Best case scenario is you meet the love of your life; if not, you see the world, have a fun adventure, make some new friends and have entertaining stories to share on that next date! Phoenix: Arizona has a myriad of places to hang out. If you are looking for a sophisticated crowd, treat yourself like a celebrity, enjoy a meal and check out the bars in the places described below. When the Royal Palms opened in 1948, it catered to celebrities such as Groucho Marx and Helena Rubenstein. Today it is still the resort of choice for the rich and powerful because of its privacy and beauty. Nestled against Camelback Mountain, the resort boasts elegant rooms tucked between lush gardens and The Eiffel Tower, citrus groves. It is home to T. Cooks Restaurant Paris, France where the atmosphere is inviting and relaxed. The lounge always has a festive atmosphere filled with live entertainment and smiling patrons. Another fantastic place is LON’s at the Hermosa Inn. It is a taste of the Wild West, albeit an elegant one. Executive chef Jeremy Pacheco selects fresh herbs and vegetables from the one- acre organic hotel garden for his mouthwatering creations such as Himalayan salt-seared ahi tuna. The Last Drop patio happy hour Top: Marquee at The Cosmopolitan, Las Vegas, Nevada. Above: offers a different deal daily. Add culture to your night and walk Sunset in Tel Aviv, Israel. around the grounds and view the $2 million art installment from Figarelli Fine Art. tional visitors flock to Las Vegas, so the possibilities of people you If mingling with a high-energy crowd while watching the des- can meet are literally all over the map. On a recent trip, I chatted ert display a spectacular sunset sounds appealing, dine at Elements with an Orthodox Jewish man from B’nei Brak, Jerusalem, whom on Camelback Mountain. Chef Beau MacMillan’s creations are a I sat next to at the roulette table (no joke). Then I enjoyed myself fusion of farm-fresh American cuisine with an Asian flair. Indulge hanging out with some Harvard graduates. in dishes such as miso-glazed Scottish salmon. Be sure to check Go to TAO at The Venetian for a scrumptious dinner and out the bar area and the fire pits. Elements draws an eclectic stick around and investigate the 10,000-square-foot TAO crowd ranging from locals to people on business trips. Nightclub. It is the place to see and be seen, attracting world- class DJs and celebrities such as Madonna, Jay Z, Usher, Drake, Las Vegas: Rihanna, Heidi Klum, Kim Kardashian, Jamie Foxx and Bono. Las Vegas is always entertaining, and while you might question it It’s a racy place, filled with unusual sites such as models im- as a place to meet a potential mate, let’s focus on the positive. Peo- mersed in rose petal baths. ple go to Las Vegas to have a good time; everyone is happy – at Another venue to visit is Marquee at The Cosmopolitan. It’s an least when they arrive and still have cash in their wallets. Interna- uber friendly nightclub – from the staff to the customers. You can 58 MAY 2013 | ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE mix and mingle with thousands of people partying the night away. The club has something for everyone, from a relaxed atmosphere in the outside balcony to a pumping dance floor where the energy is so amped up, it is like being at a rocking New Year’s Eve Party. Paris, France: PARTY of You might ask, “Why would I go to such a romantic place as a single person?” The answer is simple: Paris is a spectacular city and worth a visit. Don’t wait to see places you want to go because you are not with the love of your life. Life is filled with surprises; I have a friend who met her husband while out clubbing while on vacation in Paris. They now live in a castle outside Rome. One of the best ways to experience Paris is to check out the happening areas around town. Venture to cafés in the Marais, oNE? the Jewish area, where the nightlife is always happening and the kosher restaurants are among the finest in the world. One of the more sophisticated places to meet people is in the Hotel Fouquet’s Barriere, located on the Champs Elysees. While most people know the café, which is still the place to see and be seen, many miss the interior outside garden and Le Lucien bar, SINGLE located on the first floor of the hotel. The crowd is over-the-top elegant, interesting and, when the weather is wonderful, it is an ideal location to enjoy the perfection DIVoRCED of Paris.

Tel Aviv, Israel: Tel Aviv was voted one of the “Top 10 City Beaches in the World” WIDoWED in a recent survey appearing on Yahoo Travel and Smartertravel. com. From the surf to the sand to the boardwalk filled with hip- we want to hear sters, the beach offers more than just a tan. Relax and be mesmer- from you! ized as the sun sets over the Mediterranean, painting the sky a vivid pink, orange and gold. Explore HaTachana, Tel Aviv’s old railway station revamped into an uber-hip destination filled with cafés, restaurants and quirky shops. Indulge in appetizers and drinks at Vicky Cristina, fILL ouT ouR a tapas and wine bar. Vicky is the tapas restaurant, and Cristina is the bar where you can try more than 100 wines. Rotating exhibits and street performances are offered weekly. Be sure to walk over to oNLINE SuRVEY nearby Neve Tzedek, a lively and trendy neighborhood filled with renovated pastel houses and designer boutiques. In order for us to get to know you Tel Aviv has plenty of hip places to explore. For starters have better, and provide you with the a coffee at 57 Shenkin Street at the legendary Café Tamar. It’s the place to mingle with writers, poets and sometimes politi- resources and articles of interest to cians. Stop by at nearby Nachalat Benjamin Street on a Tuesday you, take a moment and fill out our or Friday as it comes alive with an arts and crafts fair, where you can find handmade creative pieces ranging from jewelry to home brief confidential online survey at décor. It is adjacent to Shuk Ha’Carmel, a lively market filled with shopkeepers yelling out about their wares. Stroll through and marvel at the colorful fruits, aromatic vegetables, endless trays of www.azjewishlife.com/singles candy and fragrant spices. Check out TouristIsrael.com for fun Israel independent travel and for great places to see and meet other adventurous people.

Wandering around town or the world is sure to be an adven- ture, and while you are out living the dream, you just might find someone to join you on your next journey! Happy traveling! n

Masada Siegel lives in Scottsdale. Her new book, Window Dressings, is available at masadasiegelauthor.com.

ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE | MAY 2013 59 [Singles] Looking for Love Why are the Nice Boys Being Left Behind?

By Ellen Gerst Jewish mothers take care to raise their sons to be kind, considerate, caring and generally nice guys. Doesn’t this sound like every toward creating an environment in which both partners feel safe enough to admit their hopes woman’s dream match? Unfortunately, many seem to be more and dreams, as well as their fears and failures. interested in “bad boys” – the ones who treat them horribly and 3. Being able to take charge of a situation is break their hearts. Why do they come back for more, and, if another admirable trait. However, couples need to accept that one person can’t be in you’re a nice guy, why are you being left behind? charge all the time. That doesn’t mean, though, that you relinquish your power if you’re not in In the past 30 years, the rules of dating ally come with a deep sense of entitlement. charge. No matter the configuration, it always have changed, but no one seems to be ex- This makes them self-centered, not very adds up to 100%, so couples must learn how actly sure what they are. Men are confused sensitive or kind and focused on their own to care for each other without jockeying for about how to act and what to say. The needs. And women are still surprised when position. Learn how to determine the appropri- women seem to be confused, too, which is their needs are not met! Be forewarned: if ate time to take charge and when to step back. evident in the dichotomy between the type you marry a so-called super star, he’s going of partner they think they want and the to crave the spotlight at your expense. 4. A man needs to be confident in his abilities type they are choosing to date. What about the nice guys who are and ambitious enough to always do his best Granted, women are infinitely more in- willing to bend and aren’t threatened by work. He should also be proud of his mate’s dependent these days. They’ve been taught showing their more feminine side? They are accomplishments and, if she surpasses him in it’s possible to have it all – a career, mar- mistakenly being labeled by women as too the business world in either position or money, riage and a family. This is a terrific goal, wishy-washy or weak. not take it as a slap against his manhood. but it seems to be a closely guarded secret Secure individuals share in the success and how to juggle all those balls – including Something is not computing here. Instead of believing that you’ll be able to tame happiness of a partner and don’t feel it makes finding the time to actually enjoy every- them less of a person. thing they have worked so hard to achieve that bad boy and transform him into Prince Charming, here are five qualities to search for: AND choosing the type of partner needed 5. You want someone who makes you feel good to make it all run smoothly. 1. Strength is a great quality in a guy, but some- about yourself. This is a person who allows Don’t get me wrong! The strength and times a man’s greatest strength is being able you the freedom to discover who and what you independence evident in women today can to admit his doubts and fears. If a guy can cry want to be when you grow up. Life is a journey help in building a dynamic relationship. in front of you and not feel any less a man, this of exploration, and you need a partner willing However, they must be channeled in a is the one you want. It means he’s in touch with to take your hand healthy manner and with the right person. his feelings and knows it’s OK to hurt and face (sometimes leading This allows people to form unions because problems. He won’t bury his pain only to have it and sometimes follow- they desire to do so versus needing, either erupt years later and be directed at you. ing) as you face the economically or emotionally, to be with ever-changing future each other. These types of unions also together. allow partners to remain individuals who 2. The ability to communicate, during both good respect each other rather than those who times and bad, is of utmost importance. It’s im- Be on the lookout for develop co-dependent and dysfunctional perative to remember that your partner doesn’t these five characteris- patterns. have ESP. Don’t assume he knows if you’re tics, and you will find Why are strong, smart and competent feeling hurt, fearful, sad or even happy. Work your own nice guy. n women, who can easily run a company, still drawn to those bad boys? These guys Ellen Gerst is a relationship coach, author and workshop leader. Visit LNGerst. may be sexy, dangerous and exciting; how- com. To ask Ellen a question to be answered in a future column, email her at ever, when you look beneath their often [email protected] beautiful exterior, you find that they usu- 60 MAY 2013 | ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE [Family Time] Devoted mom or sinister stalker? You be the judge by Debra Rich Gettleman I call my 9-year-old son, Eli, “my little bunny.” Today I tossed back to where he “belongs” and where I’ll be best able to keep out the endearing appellation and he looked at me askew and my Machiavellian claws dug deep into his stifled spirit. said, “Why do you call me that?” Oh, how horrific. I told him it was from one of my favorite children’s books, “If you become a sailboat and sail away from me,” says the The Runaway Bunny, which I used to read to him when he was a fictitious rabbit, “I will become the wind and blow you where I toddler. He had no recollection of the book. want you to go.” “Oh, it was such a sweet book,” I recounted. “It was about this This mother will stop at nothing to get her wayward young- little bunny who wanted to run away from his mother.” Hmmm ster back. The saddest part of the whole story is that by the end, ... in this instant it didn’t seem all that sweet to me. “And no the poor hare, whose only goal was to get away from his domi- matter how he imagines himself running away, his mother neering matriarch, gives up entirely and resigns himself to an oe- always finds a way to hunt him down and drag him back to their dipal life with mama rabbit, eating carrots and believing himself sheltered little bunny hole.” OK, I didn’t actually say that last incapable of ever venturing into the world on his own. part. But it’s the truth. Suddenly I am not sure what was wrong Eli is going to overnight camp in California this summer for with me that I not only read that book to my little boy count- the very first time. He only agreed to go under duress. Although less times, but that I dubbed it my favorite and actually took to he’s excited to meet his counselors and a whole new cadre of calling him “my little bunny.” OMG, I’m a monster. potential pals, I’m petrified. I went back and reread the book, and my greatest fears were Letting them “run away,” even if it’s just confirmed. Talk about helicopter moms. Everything was starting across state lines and just for 12 days, is harder to make sense: Eli’s hesitant approach to social situations, his than you’d think. Maybe I’m being too hard continued vows to not live on campus when he goes to Arizona on mama rabbit. n State University, his insistence that he will never (ever) leave home. It was all my fault. The poor boy thinks that if he even Debra Rich Gettleman is a mother and blogger ventures a few miles away from the homestead, I will come after based in the Phoenix area. For more of her work, him like some kind of vicious cassowary and forcibly “guide” him visit unmotherlyinsights.com.

ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE | MAY 2013 61 [Family] Freedom & Judaism Permeate Home Immigrant couple’s children find success parents envisioned when they left Ukraine

By Debra Rich Gettleman s you enter Inna and Alex Khazanovich’s home, you immediately feel the couple’s warmth, comfort and creativity. Inna’s artistic talents are everywhere. From the diagonally laid wooden floorboards that allow for not a single threshold through- outA the house (it’s all about freedom and flow for these folks), to the handcrafted Frank Lloyd Wright French door glass, and the 12 magnificent, framed Chagall-win- dow needlepoints Inna’s mother made for her daughter for her first apartment, their home is a paean to modern Jewish culture, art and family. The kitchen walls are peppered with Passover plates and Judaica, while multiple Shabbat candlesticks and Hanukkiot are displayed above the cabinets. Their set of steam-punk metal table and chairs, once a rusted-over ga- rage sale find, is truly spectacular. The smell of homemade soup wafts through the air, and you know immediately that Inna Khazanovich is a woman who can turn anything ordinary into something extraordinary. Inna offers me a beverage and invites me to sit at the Courtesy of the Khazanovich dining room table while Alex prepares a cup of coffee family: from left, Mark, Alex, Inna, for his wife. I pull out a chair and am gently asked not Jakob and Corey Khazanovich; not to sit at the head of the table. “That place is reserved for pictured is son Zakhary. Alex,” she says respectfully. “Nobody sits at the head of the household’s seat but him.” She adds their now grown boys sit at various seats at the table, depending on who has friends an ASU grad turned business analyst living in Tempe. He and with them at any given meal. his girlfriend Brooke stop by to help with Passover preparations “But we are the parents,” Inna clarifies. “I sit here, to the right and slip into our conversation easily. Zakhary, 22, lives in Tucson of Alex, because I am his right hand. The boys can sit anywhere with his wife. Jakob, 19, is at ASU studying biomedical engi- else.” This message of parental separateness is a key component neering and premed. Corey, their youngest at 16, is enrolled in to Alex and Inna’s parenting philosophy. “Children need to the Center for Research in Engineering, Science and Technol- understand parental authority,” she explains. “I really believe you ogy program, a small specialty school on the campus of Paradise are doing your children a disservice if you don’t teach them to Valley High School. respect their parents and authority. This is how you raise self-suf- As I visit, the family is planning two seders – with 25 people ficient, respectful human beings.” at each one. “The kids always ask us how many friends they can In today’s child-centered society, that might sound severe. But bring,” explains Inna. Alex chimes in, “I tell them, ‘Let all who Inna’s intention and thoughtfulness around this issue suggest are hungry come and eat.’ So we add a table. We pour another a well-designed philosophy developed consciously by both cup of water in the chicken soup.” The two laugh warmly, and parents. It’s hard to argue given, the four happy, successful and I think about abandoning my own family for an invite to their well-adjusted boys the Khazanovichs have raised. Mark, 24, is second seder. 62 MAY 2013 | ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE Religious freedom is a core value at the Khazanovich home. The way they display their culture and heritage is key to who they are and why they came to United States. Their home is beautifully covered in Judaica and Jewish art including needlepoints of Chagall windows made by Inna Khazanovich’s mother, such as the one bottom right. Photos by Mark Gluckman.

Both Inna and Alex were born in Kiev, Ukraine, in the former Soviet Union. They left in the 1970s. Inna, her mother and her brother emigrated to Toronto, Canada. Alex and his family went to Edmonton. The two met as adults after Alex gradu- ated college and stopped in Toronto after a student advocacy trip to Israel in 1986. They dated for two weeks, became engaged and married three months later. In September they celebrated their 25th wed- ding anniversary. I inquired about how they ended up in Phoenix. After their second son, Zakhary, was diagnosed with cerebral palsy at 7 months old, him and ganging up Alex, who was working as an engineer at Honeywell, applied for in unfair packs against a transfer. Both Inna and Alex had strong business backgrounds him. “There was so much propaganda,” Alex offers, “It was a and were given work permits to come to the United States. A government tool to promote hate.” Jewish kids had little or no self-made success and hard worker, Alex contends, “If people chance to get into colleges in Russia. “It was practically impos- want to find a job, they’ll find one.” sible,” he says. “We left after high school. My sister and I were “We came for Zakhary,” says Inna. “He had gross motor able to go to university in Edmonton.” Keeping in the family difficulties, and we wanted him to be in a warm climate where tradition of high achievement, his sister is now a well-respected he could be outside year-round.” She adds that contrary to what biochemist in Edmonton. so many people believe these days, “The medical care in the “We were allowed two suitcases per person when we left and States is so much better than in Canada. If we need an MRI, we exactly $63 each.” Alex wearily shares. “We were the lucky ones. get one. We don’t have to wait 2 years because 5 million other Right before the invasion of Afghanistan, the Russian border people are waiting to get MRIs.” was completely closed. The number of Jews who could leave was Inna became a U.S. citizen in 2005. Alex gained his citizen- a trickle at most.” ship in 2007. Asked if either had ever been back to Russia, Inna Both Inna and Alex wanted to live openly as Jews and cele- exclaims, “I will never go back. I have no relatives there, no con- brate their history and heritage. “We left for religious freedom,” nection, except negative. I don’t want to waste the money to go Inna tells me pointedly. I look past her at the stunning nee- there when there are so many other places I’d really like to see.” dlepoint Chagall windows surrounding the dining room, and Mark respectfully disagrees and hopes that Alex will accom- suddenly it all makes sense. The Khazanovichs are living their pany him to Russia at some point. “I want to know about my Judaism out loud, and it is artistically reflected everywhere I heritage,” Mark says. “I know my mom will never go back. But look. “My mother made those needlepoints for me when I left I’d like to go there with my father, who understands the culture home,” she tells me. “She asked me what she could make for and the language better than I do.” me that would be special. I told her I’d always loved the Cha- Inna, on the other hand, wants to forget the past. “If I didn’t gall windows.” The day she moved into her first apartment, her have this Russian accent,” she confides, “I would never admit mother presented her with all 12 of the window pieces. “Now,” that I was from there.” says Inna, “Wherever we live, the first thing I do is hang these Both Alex and Inna share a few memories of the anti-Semi- pieces. Because once they are up, it always feels like home.” n tism they encountered as children. “I remember friends, neigh- bors, telling me at 9 years old not to look at a Jew,” says Inna. Debra Rich Gettleman is a freelance writer based in Phoenix. Alex was 16 when he left. He recalls boys picking fights with ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE | MAY 2013 63 [fashion][Education]

Temple Beth Shalom Religious School integrates young and old, new and Filling a Need longtime members

By Elizabeth Schwartz hen Temple Beth Shalom opened its religious school five years ago, it faced a unique problem: how to create a synagogue community that integrates its newer members, mostly families with children of schoolW age, with its longtime members, primarily se- niors. “We have 400 member families; about 45 of those families are involved in the religious school,” says Pro- gram Director Elissa Rose. “We didn’t want to become two congregations, young and old.” About eight years ago the Northwest Valley’s housing boom brought a number of younger Jewish families into an area that had been known as an enclave for seniors. As the only synagogue serving the Northwest Valley, TBS quickly realized the need to start a religious school for the growing numbers of children in its community. “We opened the school with nine kids,” Rose remem- bers. “Now we have about 60 students in the school, ranging from kindergarten through eighth grade.” Kelly Pile, mother of a 13-year-old in TBS’ reli-

Temple Beth Shalom Religious School: gious school, applauds Rose’s efforts to integrate newer and older 12202 N 101st Ave., Sun City | 623-977-3240 members. “Elissa started a program that incorporates individual [email protected] | templebethshalomaz.org students into the Friday night services,” she says. “The kids come with their families, so now there’s also a steady stream of young Top: Rabbi Shelly W. Moss and Cantorial Soloist Baruch Koritan lead families attending services, which is new for this community. It’s a Havdalah services for the religious school. Left: Temple Beth Shalom win-win situation in that the older generation seems to appreciate congregant Diane Shapiro makes hamantaschen with a religious the kids leading prayers during services. We also have multigener- school student. ational community family dinners before services.” Rose has spent her professional life as an educator, both in the only Jewish kid in their school; this is one place where they can religious and public school settings. A native of Phoenix, Rose identify as part of a Jewish community,” she explains. “It’s import- also knows first-hand both the geographic and social challenges of ant to have a vital Jewish community on the west side of Phoenix, Jewish life in the Northwest Valley. “Most of our students may be because all the other Jewish institutions are concentrated in Scotts- 64 MAY 2013 | ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE dale or northeast of Phoenix, at least half an hour’s drive away.” TBS’ religious school succeeds because of Rose, according to Pile. “She’s a warm, caring person who cares passionately about educating our Jewish youth. She also has the experience and knowledge to provide a good education for our kids, and she’s hired a terrific staff.” Most importantly, says Pile, Rose has created a warm, welcoming environment for young families and their kids. Rose believes that the atmosphere of TBS’ school is as import- ant as the subjects it teaches. “One thing I personally do is make sure everyone who comes in the door feels like they’re coming to grandma’s house,” says Rose. “I want everyone to feel that they’re a part of a bigger family, that they’re linked to a Jewish community.” Like many liberal congregations, TBS has a number of inter- faith families, and Rose goes out of her way to make non-Jewish spouses feel at home. “We welcome non-Jewish parents with open arms,” she says. “I’ve done a lot of self-learning about Judaism; it’s an ongoing process. I have a great love for our tradition, and I want to share that love with all our congregants.”

Left top: Song time at TBS Religious School. Left bottom: Rabbi Shelly Moss shows the megillah to students while studying Purim. Above: TBS boys take a break from class to clown around.

Rose and TBS Rabbi Sheldon Moss, known to his congregants as Shelly, also offer a unique series of training seminars to fami- lies with kids preparing for b’nai mitzvah. “It’s based on the book Putting God on the Guest List by Rabbi Jeffrey K. Salkin,” says Rose. “It’s an opportunity for the families to bond with one another as we teach them about the ceremony.” Pile and her son Danny enjoyed the experience of preparing for his bar mitzvah, which they celebrated last November. “Dan- ny’s tutor, Judy Gabai, who is also his religious school teacher, is fantastic,” says Pile. “She created an amazing bond with Danny, and that inspired and motivated him to learn a lot about what it means to become a bar mitzvah.” Pile is equally enthusiastic about Tammy Mandel, a law student who teaches Mishnah to the seventh and eighth grades. “Her curriculum is based on Jewish ethics and looking at Jewish law from a grown-up perspective, and Danny’s really enjoying her class. At that age it’s difficult to get kids excited about regular school, much less religious school, and The TBS religious school offers an impressive array of classes having interesting topics to discuss really engages them.” Danny is and programs. Students attend classes twice a week, on Wednes- also enjoying his role as tutor for younger students just beginning days and Sundays. In addition to the Reform movement’s K-8 their Hebrew studies. Chai Learning for Jewish Life curriculum, TBS offers supplemen- Pile also likes the small, relaxed atmosphere at TBS. “Com- tal units on Israel, Jewish holidays, Jewish customs and practices, pared to my experience as a child – I went to a large synagogue Bible history and Torah, ethics/values, prayer/God/spirituality – the youth population here is smaller. It’s a very family-like and Hebrew. “We’re also expanding into a confirmation program, atmosphere, and the teachers give the kids a lot of one-on-one youth groups for each grade level, a preschool and bringing in attention. Every child, no matter their learning style, is given the NFTY (National Federation of Temple Youth) for high school means to be successful in the program. We know each other better, students,” Rose adds. and I think the kids feel pretty connected to each other.”n ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE | MAY 2013 65 [Travel] Jewish Edmonton

The Rocky Mountaineer travels along rugged cliffs on the route to Edmonton. Below left: Edmonton City Hall sits in Sir Winston Churchill Square. Below right: Edmonton Councilor Karen Leibovici. Photos by Joseph Lieberman

By Joseph Lieberman dmonton is the dynamic capital of Al- berta, located almost in the geographic center of the province. Remarkably, Ewithin a few hours of arriving there, I was able to personally meet with both a high-ranking city councilor and then the mayor of Edmon- ton – both of them Jewish! The journey overland to get to Edmonton was equally remarkable. Alberta’s western edge touches British Columbia, their borders dramatized by the Canadian Rocky Moun- tains National Park. I made the trip using two luxurious trains similar to the Orient Express. The Rocky Mountaineer brought me there spotted grazing elk and deer, a from Vancouver, BC, and VIA Rail carried me back. Both trains few bears and shaggy mountain goats. provide dome cars with arching windows, charming 1930s-style Rocky Mountaineer’s final destination is Calgary, but many lounge cars and superb dining. passengers disembark at Banff. From there, we drove a rental car Before departing from Vancouver, I stayed a couple of nights up Highway 93, stopping at spectacular Lake Louise, Columbia at the Sunset Inn & Suites, in a vibrant West End neighborhood Icefield and Jasper National Park, with an overnight at Jasper’s close to Stanley Park. This welcoming accommodation offers popular Whistlers Inn. spacious furnished apartments, complete with fully equipped Much of Alberta is pure nature, but in the urban hearts of kitchens, for less cost than a good hotel. With a family in tow, it’s Calgary and Edmonton, glittering towers of glass, brick and steel a perfect alternative. take their place. From a distance, the city silhouettes rise like sky- My rail adventure began aboard the Rocky Mountaineer’s scraper forests above flat, grassy prairies that stretch for hundreds Gold Leaf double-decker dome cars (there’s also less expensive of miles. single-deck Red Leaf service), climbing in a few hours past Through an Edmonton friend, I contacted Councilor Karen cascading rapids and rugged cliffs. From the train windows, we Leibovici, who suggested we meet at Edmonton’s most conspic- 66 MAY 2013 | ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE Find out what the buzz is all about... ArizonA Jewish life The Jewish lifestyle magazine for Arizona

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uous landmark, the historic Fairmont Hotel Macdonald. Built Sir Winston Churchill Square. After viewing the exhibits there, I in 1915 by a railway company in classic French Chateau style, it grabbed an artfully designed lunch at their Zinc Cafe and waited was named after Canada’s first prime minister, John Alexander for His Honor. Macdonald. The Fairmont’s elegant Harvest Room restaurant Minutes later, Mayor Mandel bounded up the stairs, filled made for a fitting backdrop to greet the councilor. with ebullient energy. An active volunteer in the Jewish commu- “There’s a modestly sized Jewish presence here,” Leibovici nity, up to a few years ago, Mandel could also be seen on the ice said, “but it’s influential. Even so, I’d prefer to think that my in- or at baseball diamonds as a member of the Jewish hockey and volvement in social work, being a labor relations officer, housing baseball leagues, but a heart bypass operation a few years ago put the homeless, being president of the Federation of Canadian a halt to those activities. Municipalities and my efforts to capture the 2017 World Expo “There’s still so much to do here!” the mayor enthused, “espe- for Canada’s 150th birthday were greater influences in my elec- cially for families. I’ve got two children with my wife Lynn. En- tions.” joy history? We love going to Ft. Edmonton, to talk with pioneer The Jewish presence may be modest, but it does include some fur traders and ride an authentic steam train. Like dinosaurs? heavy hitters. The Ghermezian family of Iranian Jewish origin At Jurassic Forest, there are life-size electronic tyrannosaurs and have developed several of the world’s largest shopping malls, in- brontosaurs roaring in the woods.” cluding the Mall of America in Minnesota and West Edmonton Mandel’s family are members of the city’s Reform congrega- Mall, the first and second largest indoor shopping malls in North tion, Temple Beth Ora, where Rabbi Lindsey bat Joseph de- America. scribes the mayor as a longtime temple supporter who is “quietly “Actually, the one in Edmonton is more like a Disney park,” generous without a lot of fanfare.” Leibovici said, “with dozens of amusement rides, a section resem- Talk about friendly – Mandel even set me up to dine with bling a quaint ‘European quarter,’ a full-size version of a Spanish local reality-TV celebrity Amy Quon at her Lingnan Chinese galleon, and a giant wave pool and beach, open year-round.” restaurant. Her family’s TV show, called “The Quon Dynasty,” Another powerful Jewish dynasty is the Katz family, who own ran for 13 episodes in 2011. one of the largest houses in Edmonton, the franchises for several Before we parted, Mandel added one more bit of promo. professional sports teams, and more than 1,800 pharmacies in the “With so much land in the territories above us, people are United States and Canada, including Rexall. amazed that Edmonton is the most northerly major city in Can- “Daryl Allan Katz, with an estimated net worth of $2.5 bil- ada,” he said. “Even so, it’s also one of Canada’s sunniest loca- lion, is quite the philanthropist,” Leibovici explained, “donating tions, which allows us to host more than 30 major festivals each many millions of dollars to universities and hospitals.” year celebrating art, music, culture and sports.” Leibovici asked if I also wanted to meet with Edmonton’s From Edmonton, it’s a straight shot south 277 kilometers to first Jewish mayor, Stephen Mandel. “He’s since been re-elect- Calgary, where the slender form of Calgary Tower, similar to Se- ed twice,” she said. “In 1997-98, he was president of the Jewish attle’s “Space Needle,” rises above the plain. Too soon, it seemed, Federation of Edmonton and a board member of the Beit Horim I returned to Vancouver on the alternate VIA Rail line. The Society, a group dedicated to establishing a Jewish seniors resi- rhythm of the train rocked me to sleep as the darkening Canadi- dence.” an Rockies once again flew past my window. n Of course I wanted to shake his hand! With one quick call, Leibovici arranged a meeting inside the stunningly modern Art Joseph Lieberman is a frequent traveler and freelance writer. Gallery of Alberta, located across from Edmonton City Hall in 68 MAY 2013 | ARIZONA JEWISH LIFE MAY CALENDAR

May 2-19 Beth Tefillah’s Got Talent showcases a group of May 8 Clybourne Park, winner of both a Tony Award for talented young people with an array of talents: ADL Arizona Centennial Luncheon celebrates the Best Play and a Pulitzer Prize, is being presented by comedy, music, dance, magic, juggling and more. founding of the Anti-Defamation League nationally Arizona Theatre Company. Written by Bruce Norris, Special performance by Brazilian-born resident and its impact in Arizona. For 100 years ADL has this comedy “spins the events of A Raisin in the Sun Dr. Michele Adler Cohen, a concert piano virtuoso endeavored to “…stop the defamation of the Jewish into an unforgettable new story about race and real and Carnegie Hall veteran. 5:30-7:30 pm at the people, and secure justice and fair treatment under estate in America.” Days and times vary. At Her- east school building on the Valley of the Sun JCC the law for all.” Speaker Morris S. Casuto served berger Theater Center in Phoenix, 222 E. Monroe. campus, 12753 N. Scottsdale Road. $6 includes as the regional director of ADL in San Diego from 602-256-6995, arizonatheatre.org Family Feast and show. Dietary laws observed. 480- 1978-2010, and helped establish the Arizona 580-5685, [email protected] Regional office. Noon-1:30 pm at the Sheraton May 3 Phoenix Downtown Hotel, 340 N. Third St. $100. Dave and Busters Outing for those in grades 4-8 in RSVP by May 6: 602-274-0991 String virtuoso David Bromberg is a master’s mas- the Phoenix area. In partnership with BBYO Con- ter, ultimately playing on hundreds of records by nect, play fun video games with friends at Dave and May 9 artists including Bob Dylan, Link Wray, the Eagles, Busters at Desert Ridge. Meet at the JCC at 12:45 The Power of One is the theme for the Annual Ringo Starr, Willie Nelson and Carly Simon. Brom- pm to ride the bus over, return at 3:15 pm. $30 Meeting of the Jewish Free Loan, presenting its berg’s range of material, based in the folk and blues member, $40 non-member. RSVP required to Youth Presidential Award to Marilyn and Joel Zolondek idioms, has grown to encompass all influences Dept.: 480-634-4949, vosjcc.org of bluegrass, ragtime, country and ethnic music. and installing its 2013-14 board of directors. $18 for dairy dessert reception. 7 pm at the Valley of the $37.50-$42.50 at 7:30 at the Musical Instrument Floral Arrangements presented by the Jewish Wom- Sun JCC, 12701 N. Scottsdale Road, Scottsdale. Museum, 4725 E Mayo Blvd, Phoenix. 480- 478- en’s Circle of Arizona in honor of Shavuot. 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Event repeats on the 14th. Register at: artists who draw from their memories to recreate May 5 carriecurranart.com, click on Calendar and CCFA the games played as a child. A two-week run of 10th Annual Kahn Classic Golf Tournament to Event. children’s creations from the Spring 2013 session benefit Congregation Beth Israel is being held at the of Start With Art will be included as a mini-exhibit at Phoenician Golf Course, 6000 E. Camelback Road May 7 Prescott Center for the Arts Gallery, 208 N. Marina in Scottsdale. Check in opens at 6:45 am, 7:30 am St. 928-445-3286 or pac-az.net Six Days in June: The War That Reshaped the Middle shotgun start. $150 per golfer, with sponsorship East is a documentary film about Israel’s Six Day opportunities also. Registration forms: cbiaz.org, May 14-16 War in June 1967. 7 pm at the Cutler-Plotkin Jewish [email protected] or 480-951-0323 Heritage Center, 122 E. Culver St., Phoenix. 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May 16 Dayan: Israel’s Controversial Hero by Mordechai Bar- On is this month’s book with discussion led by AzJHS Executive Director Larry Bell. 7 pm at the Cutler-Plot- kin Jewish Heritage Center, 122 E. Culver St., Phoe- nix. Free. RSVP: [email protected] or 602-241-7870.

May 19 Arizona Jewish Historical Society Annual Meeting includes a kosher-style brunch and musical enter- tainment performed by the award-winning students from Arizona School for the Arts. $25. 11 am-1 pm at Cutler-Plotkin Jewish Heritage Center, 122 E. Culver St, Phoenix. RSVP: 602-241-7870 or [email protected]

May 21 Taking G-d Out of the Closet is the topic for this month’s Arizona Interfaith Movement Monthly Faith 1 Forum. An honest discussion of Faith and Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Issues. What does it mean to be homosexual from a 21st century evolving religious perspective? At 11:30am-1pm at the Cutler-Plotkin Jewish Heritage Center, 122 E. Culver St., free and open to the public. azifm.org

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