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2 REFRESHED | August 2015 contents
FEATURES 6 Born dead 6 Baby defi es odds after traumatic delivery 12 From sponsorship to friendship A young man’s investment in a Malawi teenager reaps dividends for both 16 The preacher in the park 100 years ago ballplayer-turned-evangelist Billy Sunday preached at the Organ Pavilion in Balboa Park 18 Skin cancer real threat to SoCal sun lovers 12
COLUMNS 5 Dean Nelson | in plain sight Married to selfl essness 24 Mark Larson | on the mark Waving hello to old memories 25 Daniel Jenkins | reality check 16 Are you wired, tired, or mentally inspired? 26 Janice Thompson | on the money Practically speaking… Becoming a wise investor - Part 2 27 Michael Foust | purposeful parenting 3 ways to raise modest kids (in an immodest world) 28 Barnabas Piper | inspired living Knowing God without knowing all of God 30 Joanne Brokaw | that’s life! Only in my dreams 26
DEPARTMENTS 20 Tunes 21 Outtakes 22 Community news
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4 REFRESHED | August 2015 in plain sight
DEAN NELSON
Married to selfl essness
August is the month of my wed- fi rst. Taking this new riageri made in Heaven ding anniversary, and I was reminded opportunity was not is one where a man recently of one of the confl icts we had in her best interests. and a woman be- within the fi rst couple of years of our She didn’t think it come more richly life together. was right. I needed themselves to- We were both in jobs that we didn’t to honor that and gether than the like, living in a city that we didn’t like. keep looking for chances are either When a friend called about a job op- something where of them could portunity that would employ both my both of us had ever have man- wife and me, I couldn’t believe it. The confi dence. aged to become arrangement sounded perfect. I couldn’t We had a alone. When Jesus wait to tell her. meeting at our changed the water But when I told her about it, she kitchen table. She into wine at the wed- thought it sounded terrible. went fi rst. ding in Cana, perhaps What was wrong with her, I won- “God showed iit was a way of saying dered? me that I was mmore or less the same We had a real dilemma. Who was putting my own ththing.” right? priorities fi rst,” God became hu- I was absolutely convinced that this she began. “I was mman to make his love was the answer to my prayers of needing being selfi sh. I mmore tangible. Mar- an escape from a rapidly deteriorating want God to use rriagei continues that situation at work. She was equally con- you in the best iincarnation. Marriage vinced that this was the kind of assign- way possible, and mmirrors Christ’s self- ment that would make her miserable. if that means I need lless love. Family life It might be a good match for my gifts, to set my own wishes in general is a series but it wasn’t for hers, she said. We were aside, I am willing of small surrenders stuck. to do that. I think we that move us to be- We decided to take a few days to should take the new come advocates for think and pray about it, and ask for di- job.” one another, where rection from God. At fi rst I prayed that At fi rst I was we take delight in my wife would see the light and stop be- confused. What? letting someone ing so stubborn and see things the right She pretty much else’s life be more way (which, of course, was “my way”). I stole everything I important than our can’t tell you how she prayed. was about to say. Is it own. As author Anne Eventually, my prayer shifted a little. plagiarism if someone says Lamott says, married It was no longer a prayer of pleading something as her own words if you were life is one spouse secretly thinking he or that she would give in, but it became a about to say the same thing? Eventually she got the better deal. prayer of direction for what would be I said virtually the same thing she had I know I did. the best thing for the two of us. The said to me, which made me sound lame, prayer evolved into what would make because she had already pretty much Dean Nelson directs the the two of us the best people, and what said it. So we had a new dilemma. Now journalism program at would be best for our marriage? what do we do? Point Loma Nazarene Within a few days my priority shifted We didn’t go. And that was the right University in San Diego. from what would be best for me, to what decision. I recommended someone else His book about seeing would be best for her and for us. I felt for the job, and it was perfect for him God in everyday life is that God was showing me that I was and his wife. “God Hides in Plain Sight: being selfi sh. I needed to put my wife Frederick Buechner said that “A mar- How to See the Sacred in a Chaotic World.”
August 2015 | REFRESHED 5 6 REFRESHED | August 2015 BORN DEAD
Baby defi es odds after traumatic delivery story by LORI ARNOLD photos by HEATHER K. PHOTOGRAPHY
eather Hoffman was just hours from delivering her fourth child. She was nesting at home. Her Hhusband Neil was vacuuming and doing some other fi nal cleaning chores while they waited Heather’s progression of labor, along with their midwife and doula. Just as Heather had seen in a vision six years earlier, the house was fi lled with laughter. “I was drinking a green smoothie and walking laps in the hallway,” she said. “I sensed the Holy Spirit in the sweetness of every moment. I actually kept joking that it seemed too fun to be real labor!” Three hours later, Heather had nearly advanced to the pushing phase. The laughter stopped. “There was intense pain,” the El Cajon resident said. “I remember hearing ‘popping.’ It literally felt like my insides were ripping apart.” The midwife immediately recognized the signs. Her patient’s uterus had ruptured. The baby’s heart rate had dropped. Neil called 9-1-1.
August 2015 | REFRESHED 7 “Somehow in the chaos I was in a supernaturally peaceful state,” Heather said. “I had my eyes closed, expression- less, and emotionless on the bed. I had no idea how I was holding it together so well. I was in horrible pain and knew ex- actly what was going on and how bad it could be, but the best way I can describe “Seeing Ryden completely lifeless in that room so thick I’d be unable to stand. it is I felt like I wasn’t really there.” the NICU, hooked up to too many ma- I’d fall on my knees crying and worship- At the hospital she was rushed into chines to count, then having to come ing, so grateful He was bearing this with emergency surgery for a C-section. home to a house with an empty crib, a us.” “I remember waking up in pain, ask- dresser fi lled with pre-washed newborn The environment at the hospital was ing for Ryden,” she said. “No one would clothes, and an oh-so-still baby swing the same. Nurses told the Hoffmans that answer me completely because I learned with new batteries in it, was the worst, they requested assignment to Ryden’s later that he was born dead. When I read most painful night of my entire life,” she room because there was a presence there his discharge summary later on, it said said. that was not felt anywhere else in the he was born gray and fl oppy. No heart- Doctors offered little hope for Ryden’s hospital. beat. No breath. They got his heart going survival. Scans showed catastrophic but had to put a ventilator in to get him brain damage and his body language mir- Expecting victory breathing.” rored the diagnosis. He couldn’t breath Early on, the Hoffmans said they saw Doctors eventually broke the news. on his own, he didn’t move or respond one of two victories for Ryden. “Ryden went 43 minutes without to pain, he had no refl exes and wouldn’t “The fi rst victory being that we get suffi cient oxygen and suffered severely gag or swallow. His eyes remained open a miracle and Ryden can come home massive brain damage,” his mother said, for hours without blinking. and live life with the ability to grow in adding that her newborn was transferred “Ryden was a dead baby with a heart his love and knowledge of the Lord,” his to another hospital where he could get beat,” his mother said. “Picturing myself father, the college pastor at Foothills the specialized critical care treatment he boxing up his unused newborn clothes, Christian Church in El Cajon, said in a needed. tearing apart the crib we built for him, blog post on Facebook. “The second vic- Despite her ruptured uterus, Heather a tiny casket, it all hurt so deep it was tory being that he gets to go Home to be was released from the hospital less than painful to breathe.” with his Heavenly Father where there is 24 hours after the ordeal. Doctors attrib- Even with the grief and uncertainty, no pain, suffering, or damaged body or uted her quick recovery to Ryden. Heather said they both felt tremendous brain. We trust God for whatever victory “The surgeon told us that it seemed peace, a supernatural peace, throughout He wants to bring.” one of the only reasons I did not die their journey, much like she had during That trust was tested several weeks or bleed out was because, when he cut the traumatic delivery at home. She also after Ryden’s birth after more scans me open, Ryden’s head was completely clung to the promises of Ephesians 6:10, showed the newborn to be in a vegeta- blocking the tear,” she said. “Be strong in the Lord and in the strength tive state. The couple was told that even though of his might.” “We decided to put Ryden in God’s she was minutes away from delivery “It was such a relief not needing to hands, literally, and let Him decide when her uterus ruptured, “Ryden re- muster up my own strength to face each which victory we were going to have,” versed and was positioned in such a way day and all its uncertainties, I needed Heather said. that literally saved my life.” only to rely on His strength, and His So Neil and Heather gathered their grace … His power really was perfected immediate family as they prepared to A parent’s nightmare in my weakness,” she said. take Ryden off of life support. Ryden’s After her own release from the hos- “There would be times I’d be at home older brothers, Gavin, 6, Josiah, 4, and pital, Heather headed across town to see doing dishes or laundry, and suddenly Landon, 3, took turns holding their the son who saved her life. the Presence of God would come into baby sibling, each giving him a special
8 REFRESHED | August 2015 toy they had picked out. In the back- ground, a photographer friend snapped photos of Ryden, who, for the fi rst time since his birth, was no longer hooked need for round-the-clock attention. ture of his brain was completely there up to tubes. “We dared to invest in loving him, in its entirety,” his ecstatic mom said. “We had worship music playing,” knowing it would hurt even worse if and “There was no shrinkage, no water, no Heather said. “Neil prayed a prayer when he died,” Heather said. “Those fi rst atrophy! It was a miracle!” of dedication and worship, and as the couple weeks home were very hard and A week later, though, Ryden devel- Holy Spirit engulfed the room, they emotional. Within a couple weeks of oped Infantile Spasms, which resulted took the ventilator out and placed my bringing our baby home to die, he started in as many as 20 spasms a day and re- frail, dying son in my arms. Neil cra- to live.” versed much of the progress their son dled his arms around me and Ryden as Again defying the predictions of had made. we wept. I looked at my baby’s lifeless, doctors, Ryden learned how to gag and “I refused to feel hopeless,” Heather tiny face completely free from tubes swallow. He began moving his limbs and said. “I remember telling my friends that and machines as he barely wheezed, reaching other milestones that his phy- the wonderful week before he started and told him, ‘You can go. You can sicians believed he would never do. having spasms when we enjoyed his go, Ryden. We’ll see you again. Aren’t An MRI when he was six months old interactions with us so thoroughly, I those gates pretty?’ stunned his mom and dad—and the neu- believe were to give us hope to get us “We cried, rocked him, I sang wor- rosurgeons. through this massive setback; to help us ship songs to him, and his wheezing ever “The results showed that the struc- remember and claim the son we were go- so very slowly, turning into breathing. After a few min- utes, for the fi rst time, Ryden was breathing on his own. God literally breathed the breath of life into him. Hours later we were still holding this precious baby, trying to soak in what was happening.” As the music played in the background, Heather said two phrases from back-to- back songs merged together into one bold promise she claimed that day: Death is swallowed up in victory. So let Hope rise. “And that’s exactly what happened,” she said.
Home with hospice After defying doctors by willing to live, a still-frail Ryden was sent home with hospice care and the Hoff- mans adjusted their sched- ule to accommodate Ryden’s
August 2015 | REFRESHED 9 ing to have again.” The day they sent out an urgent plea for prayers on Facebook, the spasms ceased. AAnsweringnswering tthehe Birthday milestone In May, the Hoffmans hosted a cel- ebration gathering at the church to mark WHYS Ryden’s fi rst birthday, a milestone doc- tors never thought the family would eil Hoffman was home caring for After receiving the text, Neil said see. Heather and Neil used the time Nhis three oldest sons, Gavin, 5, Jo- he realized that God was asking him to thank those who served the family siah, 3, and Landon, 2, while his wife to “Trust in me and not in the ways I through prayer and other practical ways. Heather was at the hospital with their work, not in what you expect me to do, The family continues to celebrate the newborn Ryden. Dad had just put his because I am not limited in what you strength of their son while monitoring children to bed when he found himself expect me to do. I have much better his many developmental achievements. on the kitchen fl oor. things.” “Ryden loves to play,” his mom said. “I remember breaking down and “When I did that all of a sudden my “He has favorite toys and people. He crying out to God saying, ‘Why are eyes were open. Fear and worry and loves to coo at us and he giggles at his you allowing this to happen?’” he said. brokenness started breaking off of me brothers. His favorite song is ‘Jesus Loves “I love you God. Nothing is going to and I was able to see things so differ- Me.’ He’s a pro at rolling over. He thinks change my love for you. Nothing will ent.” it’s funny when we brush our teeth. He change. You have stolen my heart.” Heather had her own encounter loves baths and car rides and hates cold He begged God for an explanation with the Lord after asking Him what wipes. on why Ryden was facing catastrophic her son would have been like without “He has forms of cerebral palsy. He brain damage after his mother’s uterus brain damage? doesn’t eat like he’s supposed to, crawl, ruptured during the home birth. The “What would his personality have walk, or talk, but we believe he will. Our grieving Dad wanted to understand been like?” she asked her maker. therapists say it seems like he’ll be able the whys so that he could be strong for “The Lord spoke to me fi rmly and to do pretty much everything other little his family. strongly, yet lovingly, saying, ‘Don’t boys do.” At that moment, a text arrived from you, the clay, say to me, the Potter, friend. “Why did You make this vessel this Looking forward “It wasn’t just an encouraging text, way?” I make my vessels with a pur- Although the extent of Ryden’s I’m telling you it was the very voice of pose. So don’t you look around at all long-term disabilities is not yet clear, God that hit my heart,” Neil said. “It these other vessels and say, “Why isn’t his parents are confi dent that he will read, ‘The hardest part about surren- mine like that?” Because this one has continue to make strides, after asking dering is our need to understand, but a different purpose. This boy, with this the Lord that if their son was going to you can’t fully surrender until you say, body and this mind, was created to do live that God would at least allow him ‘God, I don’t need to understand.’” exactly what I want him to do. That’s to grow in love and the knowledge of Neil’s mind immediately fl ashed to why he is this way.’ the Lord. Isaiah 55:9: “From that moment on I experi- “Without that we didn’t see ‘abundant enced a freedom I’ve never known be- life’ as possible,” Heather said. “We be- As the heavens are higher fore. We absolutely believe there never lieve he’ll have disabilities, but we don’t than the earth, so are my ways was any other Ryden Joshua, that this higher than your ways and my is the life that our sovereign, perfect see them as some horrible thing we’re thoughts than your thoughts. God had purposed this precious boy to stuck with and just have to get through. live.” ■ We see them as a platform to make him a little more visible so that Christ shines
10 REFRESHED | August 2015 “We dared to invest in loving him, knowing it would hurt even worse if and when he died.”
out all the more because we believe we’re “People can call that living in denial, have been,” he said. “What Heather and still in the beginning stages of Ryden’s but I’m going to call it walking by faith, I see is God moving through someone so healing.” because I believe that’s how God’s called strong. We see a little boy that has done In fact, she’s had a vision of college- me to live,” Ryden’s mom said. “And I’d more for the Kingdom of God than many aged Ryden limping across a church way rather get out of the boat and walk people do their entire life.” stage to give his testimony. He’s holding on water, even just for a little bit before He said even in the early days of his a microphone while pictures of him in sinking and crying out to Jesus to save son’s life, Ryden was already driving the hospital NICU fl ash on screens be- me, as opposed to sitting in the boat not people young and old around the globe hind him. He tells the crowd, “My name having any faith to do anything at all.” to drop to their knees in prayer. is Ryden Joshua Hoffman. I was born Her husband agreed. “Ryden is teaching little kids how to dead, and this is my story.” “I don’t see a poor life that could pray,” he said. ■
PHOTO BY EDEN DAY PHOTOGRAPHY
August 2015 | REFRESHED 11 From sponsorship
Children of the Nations partners with nationals in to friendship several countries to provide holistic, Christ-centered care for orphaned and destitute children, enabling them to create positive and lasting change in their nations. Here two sponsored children in Uganda watch a soccer game from a distance.
PHOTO COURTESY OF CHILDREN OF THE NATIONS
12 REFRESHED | August 2015 Eugene Choi, right, and Richard Jaziwell enjoy spending time together during Choi’s latest trip to Malawi earlier this summer. Six years ago, Choi, then 20, began sponsoring Jaziwell as part of the Children of the Nation sponsorship program. Just three years apart in age, the young men have become close friends and Choi’s continuing support has enabled Jaziwell to attend a technical college to learn a trade.
A young man’s investment in a Malawi teenager reaps dividends for both by LORI ARNOLD PHOTO COURTESY OF EUGENE CHOI EUGENE OF COURTESY PHOTO
ugene Choi grew up as many nership with Children of the Nations, Choi, a wholesaler for a small invest- American children, hitching his a sponsorship organization that serves ment fi rm. “All I knew was that he was Efaith in Jesus to his parents: a spir- underprivileged children with the vi- an orphan in need, trying to make it to itual umbilical cord of sorts. sion that those who are sponsored with school.” “I thought I was a Christian and never go on to transform their communities. So Choi committed to sponsoring sinned because of my parent’s associa- “I was always curious about that,” Jaziwell and returned to Malawi nearly tion with the church,” Choi, 26, said. he said. “A bold leap of faith later, I de- every year since his inaugural 2009 trip. But unlike many of his peers a near cided to look into going on a missions “We grew up together,” Choi said. tragedy drew him to God in a deeply trip to Malawi.” The money Choi provided, coupled personal way before he even hit pu- While doing ministry in Malawi, with that from several other sponsors, berty. Choi’s heart was drawn to shy teenager allowed Jaziwell to attend a technical “I was diagnosed with a brain tumor named Richard Jaziwell, who at 17 was college to be trained as an auto me- when I was 12, and I fully understood on the cusp of adulthood but who, as chanic. God’s grace and mercy then. Since then an orphan, had no support system. “When I fi rst meet Eugene I didn’t it’s been an ongoing process of sur- “My mother died of a brain tumor and know what God had instilled in him and I rendering my life to God and having a my father suffered from internal cuts,” never thought about him sponsoring me,” more intimate and authentic relation- Jaziwell said of their deaths, which hap- Jaziwell said in an email interview from ship with Jesus.” pened while he was still a young boy. Af- the Kasungu district, where he lives. “I But along the way to adulthood ter his parents’ deaths he also drifted away took him as a friend. I interpreted his words Choi’s spiritual mountaintop journey from his three brothers. to communicate to the young, He also in- descended toward the valley. During Choi’s trip, Richard helped sisted to learning an African dance.” “I felt my faith getting stagnant with translation for the American team and and wasn’t happy with my relationship also taught the foreigners an African tribal Finding his faith with God,” said Choi, who was healed dance. Now 23, Jaziwell said he’s grateful for from his childhood cancer. “He was shy, but he was trying to the holistic approach Children of the Na- He began searching for ways to welcome us in the best way possible tions uses to transform the lives of recipient shake up the malaise so he signed up and I knew that being an orphan and children. for a missions trip to Africa where in high school, he needed the sponsor- “Eugene and the other sponsors that I Flood, his church, was working in part- ship more than the younger kids,” said have, have transformed my life in many
August 2015 | REFRESHED 13 Left: Jaziwell and Choi enjoy ice cream cones during a 2010 visit by Choi, who has visited his friend in Malawi almost every year since his sponsorship began in 2009.
Below: A Children of the Nations-sponsored child performs some daily chores in Malawi.
ways,” he said. “I now know God as a universal Savior and with His love I have grown spiritually. They have been offering me standard food, clothes and shelter. They
PHOTO COURTESY OF EUGENE CHOI EUGENE OF COURTESY PHOTO have been paying for my education from high school.” He does admit, however, that his gratitude sometimes teeters on guilt as he considers how much he’s been blessed. “Sometimes I question myself why I was chosen among my family to be part of Chil- dren of the Nations, where they took and still take me as their biological son, with the pro- vision of standard basic needs. This makes me realize God’s love and care for me and it’s all for His Glory and purpose.” Although their initial contact was birthed in a formal sponsorship, over the years the pair has developed a strong bond, with Jazi- well serving as Choi’s interpreter when he’s in the country. “Little by little Richard opened up to me as we continued to chat,” Choi said. “Over the past couple of years as we’ve met and spent time together, he would be more open and we’d developed a friendship now where we joke and banter with each other. “We talk in depth about what God is doing in his life and we’re able to con- nect on a deeper level, seeing as how we’re kind of the same age. We talk about our hopes and dreams and I treat him like a younger brother.”
Loving others Through the example set by Choi, Jazi- well has cultivated his own abiding faith. “I have learned of love to others by shar- ing (what) God has blessed us with,” Jazi- well said. “He really loves and cares for us, although we fall short of His glory minute to minute of our stay on Earth.” Choi said he couldn’t help but notice how Jaziwell has developed into a natu- ral leader who is now “paying it forward.”
PHOTO COURTESY OF CHILDREN OF THE NATIONS THE OF CHILDREN OF COURTESY PHOTO “Seeing Richard go from not know-
14 REFRESHED | August 2015 At a glance
ing any English and being really shy to serving as my translator and being fully fl uent in English was a humbling reminder that Children of the Nations is doing some good Kingdom work,” he said. “Seeing him graduate high school, attend college and share with me his hopes and dreams, something that he What: Children of the Nations was founded 20 years ago by a hadn’t had a couple of years ago, that Washington state couple who, after traveling to Africa, were was an aha moment for me. compelled to provide assistance to orphans and refugee “It’s absolutely incredible to see the children they met in the country. work that God’s done in this guy’s life Who: Chris Clark, a fi fth-generation missionary who was raised in from being extremely shy to stepping up Africa where his parents served as missionaries, and his wife, to the plate and not only translating for Debbie, a teacher, quit their positions with Youth for Christ to me in recent trips while I minister to the establish the child sponsorship ministry. younger kids, but taking on a leadership Where: Children of the Nations now serves the United States, role in the village for the younger kids as Dominican Republic, Sierra Leone, Malawi, Uganda and Haiti. well.” The San Diegan said the learning How: Through funding primarily from child sponsorships and curve has also bounced back on himself. individual donations, Children of the Nations operates homes, “I’ve learned so much more from schools, farms, skill centers, clinics, and village feeding Richard and the ways he’s honoring and centers in an effort to provide quality care for children. Each glorifying God than I think he has from country offi ce is established with an individual mission-based, me,” Choi said. “The benefi t has been all nonprofi t organization and is recognized among reputable mine and it’s really hard to put a price Christian charities. tag on how God’s blessed me through my Although originally launched as an outreach to “rescue” relationship with Richard. destitute children, the program now seeks to create a “family” “God is big and alive and working in for each child in the program. The needs of each child are met ordinary people to do some pretty ex- through numerous sponsors. In addition to providing monthly traordinary things.” ■ support of at least $32, sponsors may write letters to their child and visit through missions trips they call Venture Trips. Accountability: Local governing boards oversee local ministry staff in each country. Country directors and management committees work closely with staff to provide the best for participating children. Venture trips: Hundreds of individuals from churches, specialty groups, and youth programs, many of them child sponsors, visit ministry sites to offer support and encouragement, staying from one week to up to a year. The numbers: Children of the Nations started in 1995 with a monthly budget of $300. Today, the ministry has 400 U.S. and international staff, tens of thousands of volunteers, and an annual budget of more than $7 million. PHOTO BY SCOTT COOK SCOTT BY PHOTO It’s high school graduation day this past June for Information: www.cotni.org COTN-sponsored students in Malawi.
August 2015 | REFRESHED 15 In the early decades of the 20th century, the “fi re-and-brimstone” preacher Billy Sunday preached to millions as America’s most celebrated and infl uential evangelist of his day.
— Balboa Park Centennial — The Preacher in the Park
100 years ago ballplayer-turned- The evangelist and his wife were photo- evangelist Billy Sunday preached at graphed at the Waldorf Astoria, April 12, 1916, on the occasion of their the Organ Pavilion in Balboa Park shopping trip to New York from by JAMES D. SMITH III Peterson, N.J. where they were conducting a revival.
his year marks the centennial of San Diego’s 1915 Pana- ma-California Exposition, which celebrated not only the Tcompletion of the Panama Canal, but also the city of San Diego as the fi rst American port of call, early 20th century in- novations and the beauty of Spanish culture. Businessman John D. Spreckels contributed the magnifi cent Organ Pavilion, and a committee invited renowned speakers. Between two U.S. presi- dents—Teddy Roosevelt on July 27 and William Howard Taft on Sept. 16—was August’s keynote guest, ballplayer-turned-evan- gelist “Billy” Sunday.
16 REFRESHED | August 2015 William Ashley Sunday (1862-1935) was the last of three sons 1890, as speaking opportunities grew. In the spring of 1891, Nell born to William and Mary Jane Sunday. Weeks after his birth, his counseled him to turn down $500 a month from Cincinnati’s team father died in the Civil War and “Billy” largely grew up in orphan- in favor of $83.33 a month from the YMCA, honoring God. Gradu- ages. While working at an Iowa furniture store, he was discovered ally moving from small towns to urban “tent meetings,” over the on local ballfi elds by Chicago White Stockings’ legend Adrian next several decades millions heard the fundamental gospel cou- “Cap” Anson. By 1883, the MLB rookie outfi elder remained a me- pled with calls for women’s rights and educational reforms. diocre hitter—but as Al Spalding, a former player and early baseball Sunday came to San Diego Aug. 7 to 10, 1915, as America’s executive, observed, “People love to see him run.” most renowned preacher. The word was clear: this Nation’s But Sunday, nursing childhood wounds and trying to fi t in, might and beauty lay not merely in human industry but in often ran with a rough crowd. moral and spiritual commitment. As San Diego History Cen- An 1887 “Old Judge” baseball card shows Sunday in uniform. ter’s Matthew Schiff has observed, “Expositions and the larger That was his fi rst year as a Christian. While “tanked up” and World’s fairs were a great way to reach large, diverse audiences hanging out with buddies at State and Madison streets in Chi- in those days, and a wonderful way to advance a message.” cago, Sunday heard a band from Pacifi c Garden Mission playing On Oct. 27, 1917, during eight weeks of Los Angeles meet- across the street. It reminded Sunday of the hymns his moth- ings, Sunday returned to San Diego—visiting the brand-new er sang when he was a child and now inspired his conversion, Camp Kearney, praying with and encouraging America’s WWI prompting Sunday to say “Goodbye boys… I’m going to Jesus troops. More than a decade later, in early 1931, the evangelist Christ. We’ve come to a parting of the ways.” was again in town, ministering to Depression-era gatherings. In 1888, he married Helen “Nell” Thompson—a gifted Presbyte- A woman in one of my churches, converted under Sunday’s rian who would later travel with preaching, recalled “coming forward” after he picked up a large him, managing ministry wooden chair, exclaimed “Do this to sin!” and smashed it on commitments. He the platform. played baseball From Billy Sunday, timeless coaching for the Game of Life! ■ through The Rev. Dr. James D. Smith III is Professor of Church History at Bethel Seminary San Diego, and Associate Pastor at La Jolla Chris- tian Fellowship.
Billy Sunday played professional baseball for the Chicago White Stockings, Pittsburgh Alleghenys and Philadelphia Phillies over eight seasons, from 1883 through 1890. This 128-year- old baseball card shows Sunday in a Chicago White Stockings uniform.
Billy Sunday preaches at the Organ Pavilion in Balboa Park during the 1915 Panama-California Exposition. Photos and baseball card are from the personal collection of James D. Smith III
August 2015 | REFRESHED 17 Rx for active living
CAROL LEBEAU
Skin cancer real threat to SoCal sun lovers
Once again, I’ve been “benched” by day sun in the court- my dermatologist. No running, swim- yard of my dorm. ming or biking for two weeks. Determined to be For the fi fth time in two years, a squa- bronze for a winter frat party, I once sat “thing” on your arm needs to be looked mous cell skin cancer has claimed a big before a sunlamp exposing myself to at by a doctor? Basically, if it’s a new or chunk of my body. Two ugly scars on my three times the ultraviolet light recom- changing lesion or a mole that looks dif- right forearm…two on my right shin and mended (because, stupidly, I couldn’t ferent from the others, get it checked. the latest…an angry incision healing on “feel” anything!) and landed in the ER According to Dr. Scott, that “thing” on my right calf muscle. with second-degree burns several hours your face that looks like a pimple, but It’s a bummer for sure. But you know later! doesn’t go away… could be a basal cell what’s really sad? I deserve every one of FELONY stupid! carcinoma. those scars. Now, all the sunscreen in the world Then, be on the lookout for the dead- Through high school and college, I can’t stop the self-infl icted damage to liest form of skin cancer: malignant worked summers as a lifeguard…arriving my once-smooth skin. melanoma. (Check the accompanying at work early so I could “lay out” in the Arch Health Partner Dermatologist box for the ABCDE’s of melanoma) Early sun before baking myself for eight more Dr. Diane Scott says she sees plenty of detection is crucial because it can spread hours keeping watch over a huge munici- patients like me. The sad truth is there’s to the lymph nodes and other organs, re- pal pool refl ecting back on me. no turning back. sulting in death. To get a jump-start on my tan, I’d fry “Once you’ve had a cancerous lesion,” Still not motivated to apply that sun- myself over spring break while visiting explains Dr. Scott, “your chance of hav- screen? I’ll be happy to show you my my grandmother in Phoenix, and sched- ing more increases. Damage to the DNA scars. ule my college spring semester classes so in skin cells from ultraviolet exposure I could sizzle a little more under the mid- has reached a threshold which promotes THE ABCDEs OF MELANOMA the transformation to cancerous cells.” MOST COMMMON SKIN CANCERS Not very encouraging for those of us A — Asymmetry: mole or patch not Basal Cell Carcinoma from the baby oil, iodine and refl ector symmetrical in formation. BCC often appears as a pink or generation. But this doesn’t have to be B — Border: irregular border of pearly papule or a pink, scaly patch. It your story. The key is prevention! poorly defi ned. grows locally and does not spread to When used properly, today’s sun- C — Color: variations in color within other parts of the body. screens are entirely effective. Dr. Scott the mole, black color, sometimes recommends choosing one that is broad red or pink. Squamous Cell Carcinoma spectrum (covering UVA and UVB) with D — Diameter: greater than six SCC has a precursor lesion called an SPF of 30 or higher. millimeters. actinic keratosis. It appears as a “Reapply every two hours if in the E — Evolving: moles are changing pink patch. Invasive SCC is a thicker, sun,” says Dr. Scott. “For sensitive skin, pink, scaly patch. It’s usually locally size, color, shape or look choose one labeled for babies.” different from all the rest. destructive, but aggressive SCC can Those with fair skin who sunburn spread to lymph nodes and other easily are at highest risk to develop skin organs. cancer. Other risk factors include family Malignant Melanoma history, having more than 25 moles and Carol LeBeau is a former This is the deadliest form of skin smoking. 10News anchor, Staying cancer. It may rise from pre-existing “The effect of the sun is cumulative,” Healthy reporter and moles or appear independently. Early says Dr. Scott. “So every walk to and from current Health Champion detection (see ABCDE’s) is crucial. It the car and mailbox add up. Even light for Palomar Health, avid can spread to lymph nodes and other clothing and car windows allow UV to runner, bicyclist and organs and result in death. reach the skin.” ranked, rough water So, how do you know when that swimmer. Learn more at www.carollebeau.com.
18 REFRESHED | August 2015 CHILD CUSTODY & Support Law Office of Patrick L. McCrary 35 YEARS OF FAMILY LAW EXPERIENCE Cancer Q&A with Dr. Scott Also handling… Skin cancer is on the rise in Southern Divorce and Property Division California and for a logical reason. We 222 W. Madison, El Cajon | (619) 589-8533 love the sun, no matter the season. So, Named by the San Diego Daily Transcript as a San Diego County Top Attorney 2008 before hitting the beach to soak up some rays, check out what Arch Health Partner Dermatologist Dr. Diane Scott has to say to former sun lover Carol LeBeau.
Carol: How long is too long in the sun? Dr. Scott: There is no safe amount of sun exposure!
Carol: Really?! Don’t we need the sun’s vitamin D? Dr. Scott: Studies show UVB-induced vitamin D synthesis can lead to DNA damage. It’s safer to get vitamin D through diet or supplements.
Carol: How can you possibly avoid the sun in San Diego?! Dr. Scott: Wear sunscreen every day, or protective clothing and a hat. Avoid tanning beds and the sun between 10 and 2.
Carol: Does diet play a role? Dr. Scott: Yes. A diet or supplements rich in antioxidants.
Carol: Is there a supplement you recom- mend? Dr. Scott: Yes. One called polypodium leucotomos has been shown to de- crease UV-induced damage to the skin.
Carol: What’s the treatment for the most common skin cancers? “WAR ROOM truly has the potential to change your life. Dr. Scott: Most are treated surgically. It’s that powerful and that important.” – Tony Evans, Pastor But some topical treatments can be used for superfi cial skin cancers. IN THEATERS AUGUST 28 Carol: Do you recommend routine skin checks? FIND THEATERS AND GET TICKETS TODAY! Dr. Scott: Yes. Yearly exams for adults and every six months for those with Special Advance Shows Thursday, August 27 in Select Locations skin cancer history.
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August 2015 | REFRESHED 19 tunes
6th Day Made
New band 6th Day Made single, “The Story of Love.” said. “And greater love has no man than Guitarist and background vocalist this, that a man lay down his life for his creates debut single friends. It’s not a love story; it’s the love Christian rock band 6th Day Made, Mark Maggard said the song perfectly underscores the band’s mission. story. It’s the story of love in the highest; whose members have shared the stage it’s the story of God’s love for us. So it’s “As we read about Jesus on the cross, with some of the biggest names in the really an extraordinary experience for us industry, have debuted their breakout we picture it in our mind,” Maggard to be a part of the song.” Maggard shares the stage with lead vocalist Jason Eaton, Randy ‘Doc’ Healy WASC accredited on bass and Jeff Trent on drums. Mem- Promoting the bers of the Michigan-based band have Financial aid appeared with Newsboys, Jeremy Camp, available development of a Hawk Nelson Thousand Foot Krutch and Crowder. distinctly Christian soul The band’s name—which refers to the Genesis passage where on the sixth day, and mind! God surveyed all He’d created and saw that it was good—was a suggestion from Foothills Christian High School a fan. When the group heard it, Maggard is an educational community with… recalled that they collectively said, “How s "IBLICALLY BASED ACADEMICS TAUGHT profound is that?” from a Christian worldview The group is taking its various musical styles to various music festivals this sum- s #OLLEGE PREP CURRICULUM WITH mer and are in the process of recording a MULTIPLE HONORS AND ADVANCED fi ve-song EP that will release this fall. science courses s 3MALL CLASSES AND LOW STUDENT TO International House of Prayer teacher ratios Onething Live: Shout Your Name, re- s -USIC THEATRE AND ART PROGRAMS corded before 20,000 worshipers at last s #)& SPORTS December’s Onething young adult con- ference at the International House of s 5# AND .#!! APPROVED COURSES Prayer of Kansas City, has released. s 3ERVICE OPPORTUNITIES Focusing on the conference’s theme s !FFORDABLE TUITION OFFERING of “Until the fame of Jesus fi lls the AND DAY PROGRAMS earth,” each song from the 11-track proj- ect refl ects the unique musical and spiri- #ALL THE !DMISSIONS /Fl CE tual giftings shared by the worship team for enrollment information at the House of Prayer. 619-303-8035 Produced by Forerunner Music, the session featured some of the label’s art- 6ISIT US ON THE WEB ists, including worship leaders Misty Ed- wards, Jaye Thomas, Laura Hackett Park, www.foothillsschool.net Jonas Park, Jon Thurlow, Justin Rizzo and Ryan Kondo. “The eternal Love of Jesus is beau- tifully expressed in these compelling songs,” reported newreleasetoday.com. Since 2002, downtown Kansas City ELEMENTARY MIDDLE SCHOOL HIGH SCHOOL has been transformed each December K-5th grade 6th-8th grade 9th-12th grade into a global destination for thousands 10404 Lake Jennings Park Rd. 350 Cypress Lane, Suite C 2321 Dryden Rd. of fi ery worshipers who head to the four- Lakeside, CA 92040 El Cajon, CA 92020 El Cajon, CA 92020 day conference at the Kansas City Con- 619-561-2295 619-303-1641 619-303-8035 vention Center.
20 REFRESHED | August 2015 outtakes
Prayer-focused ‘War Room’ opens Aug. 28 by MICHAEL FOUST
The director who helped bring “Coura- geous,” “Fireproof” and “Facing the Gi- ants” to the big screen has a big goal for his next fi lm: He wants to see Christians change the way they pray. That director is Alex Kendrick, and his next movie, “War Room,” hits theaters Aug. 28 with a bright spotlight on the power of prayer. It tells the story of a middle-class couple in a big city whose marriage is falling apart—until an elderly woman (Miss Clara) enters the picture and helps transform the wife’s heart. Miss Clara is the quintessen- tial prayer warrior, even going so far as to dedicate a large closet in her home solely PHOTO BY KEVIN PEEPLES, COURTESY OF AFFIRM FILMS/PROVIDENT FILMS to prayer. It’s her “war room”—the place Miss Clara (Karen Abercrombie) shares a moment with Elizabeth Jordan (Priscilla Shirer) in a scene from “War where she goes to “do battle” in the spiri- Room,” the latest offering from the creators of “Courageous” and “Fireproof.” tual realm. She lines the closet walls with notes, helping her remember not only for box offi ce hits not only helped inspire other whom to pray but also reminding her of faith-based fi lmmakers but also motivated times in which God answered prayers. Hollywood to put more money behind such “War Room” stars T.C. Stallings and projects. “Fireproof” and “Courageous” Cal Thomas Priscilla Shirer as the husband and wife, opened in the Top 5 at the box offi ce, with and Karen Abercrombie as Miss Clara. Ken- the latter fi lm opening at No. 1 on the fi rst drick also has a role. weekend in per-theater average. “When I talk to other believers, almost B&H Publishing is partnering with the UÊ £Ê >Ì>ÞÊ all of them have something of a strategy Kendricks to release a book by them, “The -Þ`V>Ìi`Ê for their fi nances, for their health, for their Battle Plan for Prayer,” along with a War ÕÃÌ children’s education, for their retirement,” Room Bible Study and a War Room Church UÊ ÝÊ iÜÃÊ Kendrick told Refreshed. “But if you ask Campaign Kit. >ÞÃÌ them, ‘What’s your strategy for prayer?’ The movie features an African Ameri- they look at you funny. … They don’t have can family in the lead roles—something UÊ *À viÊ one.” that excites Stallings. `ÛV>Ìi A Christian’s prayers, Kendrick said, “And I like the fact that it shows us win- tends to focus on matters such as healing ning against issues and sin and problem— and safety. as opposed to someone dying or we’re /ÊÃV i`ÕiÊ >Ê/ >ÃÊ “Those are elementary prayers,” Ken- going to a funeral,” he said, referencing vÀÊÞÕÀÊiÝÌÊëiV>ÊiÛiÌ]Ê drick said. “How do we get to the deeper mainstream fi lms. “We’re victorious, we’re VÌ>VÌÊ >ÀÊ >Àð things? … In this movie, we see a young victorious through Christ. Maybe some wife being mentored by an elderly prayer families will say, ‘We can do that, too.’ An (619) 881-2851 warrior, who teaches her to fi ght the right African American family in a rough neigh- >ÀJ>À>ÀðV way with the right weapons—which is fi rst borhood, or even a good neighborhood, in prayer using the Word of God.” they can say, ‘We can come out of this if we Following Miss Clara’s lead, Shirer’s pray.’ No matter what our color is, prayer is character empties a closet in her home and the answer.” turns it into her own spiritual “war room.” It’s the fi fth fi lm from Alex and his Learn more at www.warroomthemovie. www.SpeakersGroup.net brother Stephen Kendrick, whose string of com.
August 2015 | REFRESHED 21 community news
Dr. Tom Thompson
Gaither Homecoming Tour Jerry Jenkins to headline coming to Skyline Church writer’s conference LA MESA — Songwriter Bill Gaither SAN DIEGO — Jerry Jenkins, the co- will be bringing his Gaither Vocal Band author of the best-selling “Left Behind” and several other artists to Skyline series, will be the keynote speaker at the Church in La Mesa on Sunday night, Oct. annual San Diego Writers Conference, 4 as part of a west coast tour. set for Oct. 23-24 at the Rancho Bernar- The event is designed to bridge the The concert will also feature The do Radisson. gap between business and faith in an ef- Isaacs, The Martins, Charlotte Ritchie, In addition to general sessions, the fort to transform the community. Gene McDonald and Kevin Williams. conference includes breakout workshops Speakers for the event include Dr. Gaither and his wife, Gloria, have and networking opportunities. Tom Thompson, senior vice president of been two of the most prolifi c gospel The hotel is located at 11520 W. Ber- World Help and Maria Keckler, Fortune songwriters of modern time with more nardo Court. 500 corporate trainer and best-selling than 700 songs to their credit, including Learn more at www.sandiegocwg.com. author of “Bridge Builders: How Superb classics like “He Touched Me” and “Be- Communicators Get What They Want.” cause He Lives.” Business owners, business profes- Church at RB offers He has also produced more than 100 sionals, community and ministry leaders free legal aid videos as part of the Homecoming series are encouraged to attend this inspira- RANCHO BERNARDO — The Church which features the best artists in South- tional event. at Rancho Bernardo offers free Legal Aid ern Gospel Music. Clinics on the second Saturday morning Learn more or purchase tickets at Jenn Karlman from Fox 5 will serve as of each month. www.premierproductions.com. emcee. Advance tickets are $45 until Aug. 31, Open to the public, regardless of then the price increases to $50. belief, the clinic’s provide access to li- Golf tourney to raise funds for The event is hosted by Professional censed attorneys who can assist with any Atkinson kidney transplant Women’s Fellowship and Superb Com- legal issues. Previous clinics have ad- LA MESA — Refreshed magazine fea- munication, in partnership with One De- dressed such issues as debt collections, tured the inspirational story of La Mesa gree Advisors. immigration, worker’s compensation, resident Mike Atkinson in our March is- bankruptcy, personal injury, discrimina- sue. Atkinson, who suffers from kidney Fall gala to benefi t tion, eviction and contract disputes. failure and has been on peritoneal dialy- For more information or to make an sis since March, is currently on a waiting Plant with Purpose appointment, call (858) 230-2321. list for a kidney transplant. LA COSTA— Plant with Purpose will On Friday, Sept. 11, the Mike Atkinson hold its 2015 Planting Hope Dinner and Reigniting dreams Golf Tournament will seek to raise funds Gala, Oct. 3 at the Omni La Costa Resort SAN DIEGO — C3 Church San Diego to assist in the Atkinsons’ fi nancial bur- and Spa. will host the Cherish Women’s Conference den associated with a kidney transplant. The evening includes complimen- 2015 from Sept. 17 to 19 at its central cam- The tournament will be held at the tary valet parking, reception and three- pus. This year’s theme is “Dream Again.” Steele Canyon Golf Club beginning at 1 course dinner. Speakers for the event include Leanne p.m. with a banquet at 6 p.m. The program will highlight the vari- Matthesius, who co-pastors C3 with her Learn more or register online at www. ous opportunities to support the work husband Jurgen; Lisa Bevere, a best-sell- kidneytransplantfundraiser.com or call of Plant With Purpose, and offers silent, ing author; Chris Pringle, co-founder of (858) 518-7252 or (619) 249-9737. live, and fund-a-need auctions as part of the C3 movement; and Holly Wagner, co- the fundraising event. pastor of Oasis Church, a multi-cultural Those interested in the ministry of congregation in Los Angeles. Bridge Builders Breakfast Plant with Purpose can learn more at a Learn more at www.thecherishcon- set for September quarterly fi eld update, to be held from ference.com. SAN DIEGO — The Bridge Builders 5:30-7:00 p.m. Sept. 10 at the ministry Business and Faith Leadership Breakfast, offi ce. EVENTS ONLINE an annual event for professional men Plant with Purpose is located at 4747 and women of faith, will be held from 7 Morena Blvd., Suite 100. For more Community News and an online Calendar of Events for San Diego County, to 9 a.m. Sept. 30 at the DoubleTree by Learn more at www.plantwithpur- please visit www.refreshedsandiego.com. Hilton in Mission Valley. pose.org.
22 REFRESHED | August 2015 IN CONCERT
Brandon Chrysta Beene
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August 2015 | REFRESHED 23 on the mark MARK LARSON
Waving hello to old memories
As the song says, “There ain’t no Mom and Dad, way back when, before they cure for the summertime blues.” Forget were married. They looked so young, so the grammatical issue with that line full of energy and affection, just sitting on (though “ain’t” is now in dictionaries). a blanket, sunning themselves in summer There really are many ways to remedy wear, at my grandparents’ home. this seasonal malady. Right there in a hot, humid Rockford, I know, “malady” is an old-fashioned Illinois backyard. word, but in the cycles of life, everything They didn’t need an ocean, a resort, PHOTO BY MATTHEW BRADY old is new again. an iPad, cell phone or anything, really. like being cozy in bed in the morning as Or it can be. Just each other. They had no idea then the sun rose, birds chirped and, in the As our culture forgets (or intention- that in the years ahead I would arrive, distance, the sounds of local industry ally ignores) history, it’s easy to bring then a sister, then twins (brother and coming to life. back a long-forgotten product or idea, sister). While my parents would sepa- My hometown was a huge machine dress it up really purty as something rate years later, today we all remain tool center then, and there was a steady new and innovative, and a new “genius” close anyway. A very good thing. rhythm of the factories that sent a mes- is born. People don’t know what they Innocence. Everything was simple, sage like this: It’s OK. The economy is don’t know. It’s part of life’s cycles of and optimistic and wonderful back in humming along, everything will be OK. activity, right? Or maybe it’s summer- the day. That, and the sound of trains lumbering time blues messing with my head again. My mind then contemplated Grand- through town were like sweet, steadying At this time each year I remember all ma and Grandpa Larson’s old house on music for me. of the things I planned on doing before 19th Street. It stood proudly, above and Who knew then what the future Labor Day, but alas (another good old to the right of where Mom and Dad sat would hold for Rockford and that now word), not so much. Best-laid plans, on that hot blanket. mostly lost industry. So much has etc. Then I frustrate myself by not carv- As the sound of the waves on the Pa- changed, and often not for the better. ing out enough time to relax, read and cifi c massaged my brain, I could remem- But it all lives on in my memory, and refresh. I’m realizing this will be a con- ber the layout of the place. Every room, time won’t change that. stant personal challenge. the furniture, the smell of homemade It took the sounds along our coast— Recently I was sitting on a bluff bread… and Grandpa’s wood saw in the with no other daily distractions—to above the beach in the Dana Point area, basement workroom where he created give me one of the best lessons of this taking a break from speaking at a con- my outdoor playhouse, plank by plank. summer. I was reminded again that ev- ference in a nearby hotel. I made it a I could almost hear the voice of erything old is still important, and as point to skip looking at the phone, or Grandma and her sister “Gunny” going life speeds by it’s a good thing to occa- iPad, or reading for a few minutes. I just back and forth about how to take the sionally go back and take a mental walk focused on the endless blue ocean and next step in a recipe they were working through the past, connecting with our listened to the surf. on, while keeping an eye on what the roots, and fi nding encouragement and The more I sat still, the louder it neighbors were up to across the street. joy to fuel the future. became, and its rhythm was almost hyp- I guess you can go home again, even notic. My mind drifted to random places to a home they left decades ago. I was as waves became a soundtrack for my amazed at how much I recalled. Larson is a longtime thoughts. Southern California For whatever reason, I soon refl ected Rhythms of life radio/television on how America has lost a sense of The sea breeze blew and the surf personality. His voice is childhood wonder … and how our kids sounds made me feel as if I was the only heard on KPRZ 1210AM are pressed on all sides to get past their person there on the California coast. and his weekday innocence, way too fast. Then I was suddenly remembering talkshow airs 6 to 9 a.m. Suddenly there was a mental image of the comfort and security of a summer on AM 1170 “The Answer.” He’s also a news analyst an old photo I found recently. It was my weekend visit to Grandma’s. Nothing on KUSI TV. Learn more at marklarson.com.
24 REFRESHED | August 2015 reality check
DANIEL JENKINS
Are you wired, tired, or mentally inspired?
Tell me if you can relate to this sce- charged, the propane tank is partly dis- sleep. nario. It’s been a long, hard week, and connected from the barbecue, the plant In the last decade another option you have a social event happening at is not watered and the toothbrush is has opened up that you may not know your house on the weekend. There are left on the barbecue. No, this is not my about. In addition to making sure that about two-dozen things on your “to do standard operating procedure. Reading a you are not sleep deprived, you can also list” that need to be completed as soon novel on my mobile phone late into the train your brain to improve your “work- as possible. You wonder where you will night is not a ing memory.” fi nd the time. Sleep is sacrifi ced, and the wise thing to Research sleep you do get is not the best quality do. has shown because your mind thinks of even more Poor sleep that by train- things to add to your list. results in dif- ing your Have you noticed that reality starts fi culties with working to change as the stress increases and focused at- memory you the fatigue sets in? You start to become tention and will improve ineffi cient in getting things done. You distractibility, your ability start trying to multitask all the items on easy irritabil- to stay fo- your list at the same time. ity, and dif- cused, ignore Weird things start to happen. The fi culty con- distractions, more you work, the more things get out trolling one’s remember of place. For example, in cleaning up the emotions. In instruction, kitchen, my wife discovered last week other words, and fi nish that she had put her cell phone in the sleep depriva- tasks. Com- refrigerator. tion causes puter based Before you laugh at her, I will confess the average training that I found my toothbrush on the bar- person to de- programs are becue last week. Maybe it is a sign of old velop all the classic symptoms of Atten- being used to help children achieve bet- age, but in my defense I will say that I tion Defi cit Disorder. ter academic grades. Adults are fi nding was running on just a few hours sleep. The brain likes to function at an op- that their professional performance and It goes something like this: I’m timal level of arousal. When a person focusing stamina signifi cantly improve. brushing my teeth and realize that my has ADD, or if they are sleep deprived, God made our brains to be highly cell phone needs to be charged. I can the brain is actually functioning at a adaptable and fl exible. Like plastic, we do this while brushing my teeth to save reduced level of arousal. To compensate have a lot of control over how we mold time, so I go to plug in my phone. An for this lowered state of arousal the our brains through the choices we make. alert on my phone tells me that I need brain seeks to increase stimulation from To learn more about how to train your to remember to buy propane for the bar- the senses, through increased move- brain, please visit our website at www.light- becue. I put the phone in my pocket and ment, distraction, fi dgeting or exces- housepsy.com. rush outside to pull the tank because sively talking. I don’t want to forget. While discon- Stimulants, such as caffeine or Rit- necting the tank from the barbecue the alin, artifi cially raise the brain’s arousal Daniel Jenkins, Ph.D. toothpaste really is getting overwhelm- level, causing some people to actually is a licensed clinical ing and so I spit it out in a nearby bush slow down and focus better. psychologist at (I know, not cool). That bush really So, if you fi nd that you are misplac- Lighthouse Psychological needs some water, and a rinse, so I go to ing your keys, getting irritated easily, Services in Mission Valley. get the hose. Then my phone rings and fi dgeting excessively, and displaying He is also a professor I rush back in the house to speak to my all the classical signs of ADD, consider of psychology at Point wife about the call. either drinking more caffeinated bever- Loma Nazarene University. Learn more at www. In the end, the phone doesn’t get ages (NOT!), or, get some refreshing lighthousepsy.com.
August 2015 | REFRESHED 25 on the money
JANICE THOMPSON
Practically speaking… Becoming a wise investor - Part 2
Remember that childhood admoni- timeline plays a huge role in invest- style. All strategies basically come tion before you cross a street: stop, ment stamina—your ability to weather down to two approaches: passive and look, and listen? It is much the same for the ups and downs of the market cycles active investing. The passive approach investing. As you pause, look both ways, without letting emotions dictate your more or less follows a market index and and listen for warning sounds, you can decisions. generates the returns, good or bad, of then step carefully into that busy street. that particular index. (Note: You can- Here are the fi rst of nine questions to Risk. Do I understand my risk tol- not invest directly in an index) The ac- ask yourself before you cross Investment 3erance? Risk and return are closely tive approach varies widely but has one Street, Anytown, USA. correlated. The longer the time horizon, common objective: to enhance returns the more risk you can typically accept and/or reduce risk. Purpose. What am I trying to ac- and more return you can generally ex- 1complish? If you were to tell me pect. The shorter the time horizon, the Due diligence. Do I understand you’d like to invest X amount of mon- more risk should be minimized, and 5this investment choice? There’s no ey, my fi rst question would be “why?” thus, less return should be expected. All substitute for doing your homework. If you are simply trying to “make more investments have risk and you need to Media outlets tend to draw investors money,” you might be tempted to understand how much is appropriate into the hype of investment ideas and throw money at anything that looks based on your ability to weather volatile ultimately, poor investment choices. good and sounds great. If, however, market cycles. Unfortunately, many lack basic fi nancial you begin with clearly defi ned goals in literacy to help them discern the differ- mind, it greatly narrows the choices to Diversifi cation. Am I appropriately ence between good investment choices more appropriate and suitable solu- 4diversifi ed? This is a just another and inappropriate ones. I’ve seen in- tions. I call this purpose allocation way of saying, “Don’t put all your eggs vestors, lured by enticing promises, before asset allocation. in one basket...or even two.” Ecclesi- overlook this very important step. And astes 11:2 says, “Divide your invest- while we’re on this subject, please hear Time. How much time do I have ments among many places, for you do me: There is no such thing as a risk-free, 2to make this investment work for not know what risks might lie ahead.” high return, guaranteed investment! If it me? A short-term (two years or less) No matter how confi dent you are in a sounds too good to be true, stop and dig investment decision will look entirely particular investment, no matter how deeper. Proverbs 14:5 says that “the na- different than a long-term goal of 10 many times someone promises it’s a ïve believe everything, but the sensible years or more. The research company sure thing—it’s not. Diversifi cation can man considers his steps.” Dalbar reported that stocks in the be among the most effective strategies S&P 500 have generated an average for preserving and growing capital over Stop! Look! Listen! You’re almost annual total return of about 11 per- time. It does not, however, guarantee a ready to cross Investment Street…Part 3 cent over the past several decades. profi t or protection from losses in de- coming next month. During that same period, however, the clining markets. I apply the diversifi ca- average investor in U.S. stock funds tion principle in two ways: Janice Thompson is a earned just over 3.5 percent. Why? The fi rst involves dividing invest- certifi ed fi nancial planner Think emotions! There have been two ments across multiple asset classes: and co-founder/CEO of signifi cant stock market corrections stocks or bonds, for example. Stocks One Degree Advisors, since 2000, both frightening and pain- generally provide higher, long-term Inc. A frequent speaker ful. If, during this time, you pulled returns but can also be very volatile. on fi nancial topics and out of stocks and sat on the sidelines Bonds tend to be less volatile but pro- mentor for fi nancial waiting for the right time to get back duce lower returns. Alternative invest- professionals, she also serves on the board of in, you probably missed it. Time out ments such as precious metals, real es- directors for Kingdom Advisors. Learn more at www. of the market can be as great of a tate, or commodities can also add asset onedegreeadvisors.com. risk as staying in the market dur- class diversifi cation. Advisory services offered through One Degree Advisors, Inc.SM Securities offered through Securities America, Inc., Member FINRA/SIPC. One Degree Advisors and Securities Amer- ing tough times. Understanding your The second applies to investment ica are separate companies.
26 REFRESHED | August 2015 purposeful parenting
MICHAEL FOUST
3 ways to raise modest kids (in an immodest world)
I’m not sure when parents began naked peacock. debating the so-called “sheltering” of Of course, we shouldn’t children, but I’m pretty sure the conver- simply blame fashion de- sation became far more signifi cant when signers for this problem. television was invented—that is, when Their clothes wouldn’t we allowed culture to invade our lives. have gone over well with, I tend to fall into the let’s-shelter- say, the Pilgrims or even our-kids camp—at least for youngsters— Colonial Americans. We as but I’ve come to a simple conclusion: a society buy those clothes, It’s impossible. For instance … and this issue often is a My 3-year-old daughter and I recent- matter of the heart. ly were sitting at the newest restaurant Still, there are practical in town, sharing a Reuben sandwich steps parents can take to raise and a plate of fries while coloring our modest children in an immodestst woworld.rld. favorite animals, when her eyes caught Here are three: the image on one of the overhanging TV sets. Set a standard for modesty.ty. BuButt “Daddy, she’s naked!” 1make it a biblical one. The fi rst I took a quick look at the television question should never be “Is it trendy?” to see what she was referencing—it was, but rather “Is it modest?” (1 Timothy (1 Samuel 16:7, 1 Peter 3:3-4). F urther, if you’re curious, “Entertainment To- 2:9). If you’re still struggling, then try as every ex-Hollywood female star will night”—and then told her in a reassur- this one: “Would this potentially bring acknowledge, worldly beauty is fl eeting ing voice, “You’re right. We need to pray shame to God?” Or even better, “Would (Proverbs 31:30). I affi rm my daughter’s that woman fi nds some clothes.” you wear this in the physical presence appearance daily, no matter what she’s Legally and technically, my daughter of Christ?” Or fi nally, “Could you have wearing. It’s a good habit for all dads. was wrong: The woman, a model, wasn’t worn this 50 years ago?” (And if not, naked. But biblically and practically? My why?) Trends can be fun if we view Set a standard in the home. It’s daughter was right on the mark. And I them through a biblical lens, but too 3not enough to be modest simply in was proud of her. often we get so caught up trying to look public. Our homes are a sort of practice God clothed Adam and Eve with like the latest Disney starlet that we fi eld for life, where our kids can see animal skin in the garden (Genesis leave our Bible—fi guratively speaking— biblical ethics on display. My children 3:21), but ever since, Calvin Klein and in the dressing room. It may be trendy learned the word “modest” at an early Abercrombie & Fitch and every other for 10-year-old girls to prance around age and, generally, they must dress in designer and store have been trying like 20-year-old “swimsuit” models, but private as they do in public. I don’t let to remove it, inch by inch. Their cre- it never will be OK. my boys run around like Tarzan or their ations in ritzy New York studios create a sister dress up like Jane, and that rule domino effect: sold in stores, bought by Set a standard for beauty. Our goes for Mom and Dad, too. Besides, my teens, and then returned by parents. But 2society’s standard for female beauty kids would rather pretend to be Spider- it’s not just Christian families who have is simple and shameful: tall, skinny, man anyway. weekly “you’re not going out like that!” curvy, blemish-free, young. Oh yeah, arguments. This issue crosses ideologi- and blond. It works great if you’re one Michael Foust is the cal and cultural boundaries. of the 50 women in America who look father of three small Scripture says we are to kill desires that way, but for the other 150 million children, a writer and of the fl esh (Galatians 5:24) but immod- women, it’s impossible. Thankfully, editor, and blogs about esty does just the opposite, bringing it God has a different standard—and why parenting at www. back to life and encouraging its captives wouldn’t He? He made us. God looks not michaelfoust.com. to strut around like a boastful half- at outward appearance but at the heart
August 2015 | REFRESHED 27 inspired living
BARNABAS PIPER
Knowing God without knowing all of God
In the post-enlightenment Western tradition, personal values, and vague This should tell us something both world we live by rules of science. Theo- spirituality. about God and about belief. God is in- ries are posed, evidence is gathered, The God of the Bible, though, will not fi nite, beyond our understanding, and facts disputed, and in the end truth is be relegated to anything. He is omnipo- He chose to reveal Himself to us in a discovered. At least truth about some tent creator of all, including all those way that sparks questions rather than things is discovered. But the model of who are doing the relegating. It’s impor- settling all of them. God did not want scientifi c discovery simply does not ap- tant that we see Him as the God “of the us to have easy instructions and simple ply to much of life. answers. He didn’t want us One of the not-so-subtle to be able to understand tenets of enlightenment Him so well that we can thinking is the disregard for package him, wrap him, the supernatural and the and put a bow on Him. (Of subsequent magnifi cation course many in the evan- of mankind. Man has super- gelical church do their best seded deity as the primary to accomplish just this. force and value in the world. They want a God who can be We can see this even in the understood in full and ex- gut reaction to the Bible’s plained systematically. They stories of the supernatural. God is infi nite, beyond our understanding, and fail to recognize the mean- When we hear of demons ing of the terms “infi nite” and exorcisms they don’t He chose to reveal Himself to us in a way that and “omnipotent.” God can- seem present or real. They sparks questions rather than settling all of them. not be grasped, not in full, seem more like tales of drag- and that’s what makes Him ons and ghouls and knights God.) in shining armor. To put If we could do that, what stock in such fanciful tales, according Bible” too, because that is how He has about Him would be worthy of wor- to many, has the same value (at best) chosen to explain and reveal Himself to ship? In fact, God could not do such as fi nding the morals in Grimm’s fairy us. If you are a Christian, what you know a thing; He could not shrink himself, tales. of God comes from the Bible; it is the his profound and unfathomable self, To many modern thinkers, though, breathed-out revelation from the heart to a size our human minds and hearts belief in God and a holding to religion is of God to the hands of man. could grasp. He wanted us to search, to akin to intentional stupidity. It is built, What the Bible reveals of God is wrestle, to wonder, to be mystifi ed. He they say, on tradition and custom tak- precisely what God wanted revealed wanted us to ask. ing hold of our minds and a refusal to of Himself, no more and no less. But it This article is an excerpt from “Help My think in any other direction. (In some isn’t everything about Him. Scripture Unbelief: Why Doubt is Not the Enemy of cases they are correct, but that is hardly raises as many questions as it answers. Faith,” Barnabas’s new book (David C. Cook, a fair characterization.) Because they It asks the impossible and describes July, 2015). cannot see God or plausible evidence of the miraculous. The Bible tells stories His being, to believe in Him is outright that are grotesque and stories that are madness. To them, believing in God is heartwarming. Parts of it are horrifying Barnabas Piper is the like holding fast to the Easter Bunny or and others are befuddling. It is written author of “The Pastor’s Kid: Santa Claus. in multiple genres and has thousands of Finding Your Own Faith God does not fi t the world as Western characters. In short, it is representative and Identity” and “Help thinkers have shaped it. He does not fi t of the real world and God’s relationship My Unbelief: Why Doubt the processes and grids of theory, evi- with it, not a book to simplify the world is Not the Enemy of Faith.” dence and proof. So He is relegated to so we can understand it all. And it is just He blogs at The Blazing those second-tier statuses of religious the way God wanted it. Center, and co-hosts The Happy Rant podcast.
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August 2015 | REFRESHED 29 that’s life!
JOANNE BROKAW
Only in my dreams
I was quite proud of myself as I sat Rats. Not again.again. thetheyy didn’t hhappen in real down to write this month’s column, OK, confessionssion time. life. mostly because I knew I had already It’s quite possiblesible tthathat Like clecleaning the written it weeks ago. All I had to do was I wrote the columnolumn in a house. I’ll be doggoned give it a fi nal proof and hit send. dream, not inn my if I don’t have It’s good to get ahead of deadlines. actual wakingg vivid (and I’ve been really busy the last month life. That frequent) and it took a load off my mind to know happens dreams I wasn’t going to have to scramble for a to me a about column idea. lot lately. scrubbing Look at me! I’m planning ahead! I go to bed and fall into a deep slumber, the fl oors, rearranging furniture, and The problem occurred when, the not unlike the slumber Sleeping Beauty decorating every room until it looks day before my deadline, I went to open experienced, except my fi rst morning like something from a magazine, only the document and realized that there kiss isn’t from a handsome prince but to wake to piles of laundry, clutter ev- wasn’t any document to open. At least a stinky, shedding Border collie. (The erywhere and dust bunnies the size of not a column for this month. I had made handsome prince kisses me later, on his Volkswagens. notes about books I want to read, funny way out to storm the castle.) Unfortunately, I’m usually so tired quotes I heard while watching shows In that deep slumber, I dream vivid from cleaning in my dreams that I don’t on Netfl ix, and a recipe for homemade dreams, traveling to my own Wonder- have the energy to clean in real life. I orange sherbet. land of weirdness, twisting through my leave it for another day and hope that, But no column. What? own adventure in Oz. My dreams are even if my cleaning dreams don’t come I know I wrote that column. I’m sure often in full Technicolor, complete with true, at least elves are real and they like of it. I know because I remember that it smell, taste and sound, and they often to do housework. was a great column. A really great col- feel very real. I’m sorry to say that you’re stuck I once dreamed I was with a mediocre column this month. But taking a tour of a candy I’ll do better next time, I promise. Last I’m usually so tired from cleaning factory. The tour guide night, I dreamed that I hired an assis- in my dreams that I don’t have the was showing us a new tant to keep track of everything I write candy bar, made entirely while I’m sleeping. He promises to make energy to clean in real life. from slices of oranges. sure that the brilliant ideas I have in my She handed each of us a dreams at least make it to notes on the bar and told us to try it candy wrappers littering my nightstand. umn. In fact, it was one of those magical for ourselves. I actually remember tear- Isn’t that great? I’ll never lose another columns that pretty much writes itself, ing the corner of the wrapper to expose idea again! But even better? This dream a true contender for my next “Best Of” perfectly formed and layered slices of assistant likes to dust. compilation book. dried oranges. I heard the paper rip and I don’t remember what the idea actu- felt it crinkle in my fi ngers. I remember Award-winning freelance ally was, but trust me. It was great. licking the candy and tasting the most writer Joanne Brokaw Where did it go? I searched through incredible fl avor I’ve ever tasted. Just spends her days dreaming folders on my computer and then thinking about the dream, I can taste of things she’d like to searched through folders on my desk. the sweet, sweet orange on my tongue do but probably never Then I searched through the pile of pa- again. will— like swimming pers on the fl oor and the post-it notes So the fact that I dreamed about with dolphins, cleaning stuck all over my laptop. Uh oh. Wait a writing a column, and woke believing the attic and someday overcoming the trauma minute. I think I know what happened. I that I actually wrote the column, isn’t of elementary school picture day. She lives with didn’t lose the column. I never actually really unusual. I do a lot of things in my two dogs, a cat, six chickens and one very patient wrote it. dreams and then am surprised to learn husband. Learn more at www.joannebrokaw.com.
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