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I needed themselves to- We were both in jobs that we didn’t to honor that and gether than the like, living in a city that we didn’t like. keep looking for chances are either When a friend called about a job op- something where of them could portunity that would employ both my both of us had ever have man- wife and me, I couldn’t believe it. The confi dence. aged to become arrangement sounded perfect. I couldn’t We had a alone. When Jesus wait to tell her. meeting at our changed the water But when I told her about it, she kitchen table. She into wine at the wed- thought it sounded terrible. went fi rst. ding in Cana, perhaps What was wrong with her, I won- “God showed iti was a way of saying dered? me that I was morem or less the same We had a real dilemma. Who was putting my own thing.”th right? priorities fi rst,” God became hu- I was absolutely convinced that this she began. “I was manm to make his love was the answer to my prayers of needing being selfi sh. I morem tangible. Mar- an escape from a rapidly deteriorating want God to use riageri continues that situation at work. She was equally con- you in the best incarnation.i Marriage vinced that this was the kind of assign- way possible, and mirrorsm Christ’s self- ment that would make her miserable. if that means I need lessl love. Family life It might be a good match for my gifts, to set my own wishes in general is a series but it wasn’t for hers, she said. We were aside, I am willing of small surrenders stuck. to do that. I think we that move us to be- We decided to take a few days to should take the new come advocates for think and pray about it, and ask for di- job.” one another, where rection from God. At fi rst I prayed that At fi rst I was we take delight in my wife would see the light and stop be- confused. What? letting someone ing so stubborn and see things the right She pretty much else’s life be more way (which, of course, was “my way”). I stole everything I important than our can’t tell you how she prayed. was about to say. Is it own. As author Anne Eventually, my prayer shifted a little. plagiarism if someone says Lamott says, married It was no longer a prayer of pleading something as her own words if you were life is one spouse secretly thinking he or that she would give in, but it became a about to say the same thing? Eventually she got the better deal. prayer of direction for what would be I said virtually the same thing she had I know I did. the best thing for the two of us. The said to me, which made me sound lame, prayer evolved into what would make because she had already pretty much Dean Nelson directs the the two of us the best people, and what said it. So we had a new dilemma. Now journalism program at would be best for our marriage? what do we do? Point Loma Nazarene Within a few days my priority shifted We didn’t go. And that was the right University in San Diego. from what would be best for me, to what decision. I recommended someone else His book about seeing would be best for her and for us. I felt for the job, and it was perfect for him God in everyday life is that God was showing me that I was and his wife. “God Hides in Plain Sight: being selfi sh. I needed to put my wife Frederick Buechner said that “A mar- How to See the Sacred in a Chaotic World.” August 2015 | REFRESHED 5 6 REFRESHED | August 2015 BORN DEAD Baby defi es odds after traumatic delivery story by LORI ARNOLD photos by HEATHER K. PHOTOGRAPHY eather Hoffman was just hours from delivering her fourth child. She was nesting at home. Her Hhusband Neil was vacuuming and doing some other fi nal cleaning chores while they waited Heather’s progression of labor, along with their midwife and doula.