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MindBiz BY LARRY GORDON Esther Mann, LMSW 36 The Hippocratic Oath It Takes A Village Hannah Reich Berman 38 It’s election time in our little This Orthodox dominance, NutriWorld village of Lawrence, New York. which really doesn’t impact in Eliezer Gruber, CN 66 Now why is that of interest to the slightest way on the nature Beneath The Law the more than 150,000 local read- of the governance, is neverthe- Daniel Friedman, Esq. 73 ers of this paper, plus the tens of less fascinating for a variety of P

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around the world? Maybe tion in this internationally o R’ Meir Orlian 78 f P a u l because of the unique dynamics renowned Jewish community is B r o d of a government that is overseen rare to non-existent. An election y here, where this newspaper was needs to be held in the village According to official estimates, more than 20,000 people attended the 17th annual Israel Day Concert in Central Park following the very colorful founded, by a group of accom- each year because it’s the law. Israel Day Parade up Fifth Avenue in Manhattan marking Israel’s 62nd plished men who happen to all year. Dignitaries included Republican Party Chairman Michael Steele and be Orthodox Jews. Continued on Page 5 Israeli MK Danny Danon. See Pages 39, 54

HEY, FATSO, WHO YOU CALLING BALDY? HEARD IN THE BAGEL STORE

BY RABBI President George W. Bush. And YAIR HOFFMAN President Obama is often Growing With Moshe referred to pejoratively as the Name-calling exists, unfortu- “Community Organizer in BY LARRY GORDON Match 4 Zack. nately, across the societal spec- Chief,” a negative reference to See Page 72 trum. We can observe it in the his limited work experience. It was a beautiful day on sandbox at nursery school, in March 1, 1994, as Nachum corporate boardrooms in Man- Severity Of Name-Calling Sasonkin, an Israeli-born 18-year- hattan, and in the highest eche- The effects of name-calling old student at the Lubavitcher lons of political office. And it can be both devastatingly hurt- Yeshiva in Brooklyn, rode in a seems that everyone is fair ful and genuinely harmful to van with his friends, returning game. “Slick Willie” was the people. It is no wonder, then, to yeshiva from a visit to the name coined for former presi- that it violates a mitzvah in the hospital in Manhattan where dent Bill Clinton while he was Torah (Vayikra 25:17), “Do not their Rebbe, R’ Menachem still in office; “Dumbya” was the name given to former Continued on Page 14 Continued on Page 16 One-year-old Moshe Sasonkin. Hitting For The Cycle Rapper’s Rivkah Laufer Bikur Cholim, THE YEAR The Next Generation. See Page 64 Sabbath IN ISRAEL BY RABBI AVI Part 1 SHAFRAN BY TALMID X

Despite having eclectic tastes The idea was first brought up in many things, I have no appre- at my family’s Shavuos day ciation of urban music. And so I meal, and it quickly earned the had never heard of Q-Tip (the approval of my gathered rela- person, that is; the object is tives. We all figured that not familiar to me). He is apparent- only would such a proposal ly a rapper. Presumably with serve the community as well as The Bais Medrash of Harbor View in Lawrence celebrated the annual clean ears. the local newspaper, but it completion of the study of Talmud Bavli by their rav, Rabbi Yehoshua Kalish, who has made a point for the last 30 years of studying seven I was introduced to Mr. Tip’s would also allow me to do Meir Baal Haneis – Salant. dapim a day so as to complete the entire Shas study cycle each year. See Page 62 Pictured above: The shul’s president, Robert Flegman, with Rabbi Kalish. Continued on Page 10 Continued on Page 12

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4 May 28, 2010 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES FROM THE EDITOR upcoming election. Among the fairly def- Continued from Front Cover inite ones is that mayor Simon Felder is honoring his commitment and not seek- But that doesn’t mean that the candidates ing reelection as mayor. He has served have to have any opposition. The unwrit- two terms and has done a good job, ten rule that has usually been applied though there are some issues that the vil- here is that the ascension to the seat of lage trustees whom I’ve spoken to over power in Lawrence is something that you the last few days seem confused about. work toward and earn through service to Mr. Felder is running for the trustee seat the community. that is being vacated by Martin Oliner. As the demographics have shifted here It is also virtually certain that Mr. over the years, those changes have also Oliner, a longtime village resident, attor- been reflected—and appropriately so—in ney, and activist for Israel, will be the the composition of elected village gov- next mayor, as he is running the good ernment. The fact that the mayor and the old-fashioned Lawrence way—unop- four additional trustees are Orthodox posed. Marty is thoughtful and insightful lends a heightened sense of scrutiny to and plans to be proactive in village the otherwise routine workings of village affairs on every level. That includes government. By nature, it seems, we, the issues from our roadways and infrastruc- Orthodox Jewish residents of this village, ture to interfacing with the local police seem to have an uncanny predisposition department and police officials to keep to criticism of our elected or quasi- our community safe. appointed leaders. You can add to that So there are two seats up for grabs in the adage that nothing—no system or tra- the upcoming election and four candi- dition or way of doing things—is really dates vying for the volunteer and often sacred anymore. thankless positions. Along with Mr. So if there is going to be an election, Felder (who is running on a ticket there are going to have to be candidates together with Mr. Oliner), incumbent Ed and issues that differentiate one individ- Klar is seeking reelection and is running ual from another. The major issues in the along with newcomer Faye Lowinger, an June 15 election include the overall man- attorney and accountant with extensive agement of village affairs, how our family ties in the village. Also running is trustees deal with and allocate the mil- David Stein, an officer of the Lawrence lions of dollars in tax revenue, and, most Association and the candidate that is intriguing, a quagmire that has developed viewed as representing the association’s over contracts at the popular Lawrence positions, which at times have conflict- Village Country Club and the two caterers ed with that of the village Board of that serve it—that is, the kosher and the Trustees. The other two trustees not up non-kosher caterer—which I will deal for election this year are Michael Fragin with shortly. Few things are certain about the Continued on Page 6

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES May 28, 2010 5 FROM THE EDITOR wine and liquor consumption. Continued from Page 5 The event caterer, which has the contract with the village, in this case was and Joel Mael. Chap-a-Nosh of Cedarhurst. They, along Coming in the aftermath of the fre- with Mauzone, also known as quently contentious annual school- Celebration Caterers, have had the exclu- board elections out here, the local vil- sive rights to cater glatt kosher parties at lage elections (especially in Lawrence) the Country Club. On the matter of wine have often gone unnoticed, with just a and liquor, the contract they have with few dozen citizens who are not mem- the village says that a fee of $150 is to be bers of the candidates’ families and assessed for a party that wants to furnish friends casting votes. This election usu- their own liquor or wine at a dinner or ally draws little more than an unceremo- party being held at the club. nious yawn and sometimes even passes On the other hand, it appears that the unnoticed by an overwhelming majority non-kosher caterer on the premises— of community residents. Mezza on the Green, run by Eddie Kloos This year, however, it seems that more and Frank Christo—have a contract that than the usual cadre of voters are taking has the word “liquor” missing from the notice. One reason just may be the rum- alcoholic beverage clause. Mezza and blings over contractual confusion over company have interpreted that aspect of the popular and well-appointed Village of their contract to mean that as the holder Lawrence Country Club. The club, since it of the New York State liquor license, they enlisted a glatt kosher caterer some years are entitled to assess a fee of $12.50 per ago, has become the venue of choice for person for any liquor served at or brought many a family celebration and even a col- onto the premises. lection of local organizational functions Ed Klar, the village trustee whose port- such as shul dinners. folio includes overseeing the Lawrence The Five Towns Jewish Times was made Village Country Club, says that the con- aware that something was amiss a few tract signed by Mayor Felder on behalf of months ago when a local resident prepar- the village with Mezza on the Green was ing to celebrate their child’s engagement not the contract that was approved by the party called our offices to complain trustees. Still, that’s the contract that was about what the resident felt were thereto- signed by Mayor Felder, with the poten- fore non-existent regulations governing tial consequences being quite an expense the consumption of alcoholic beverages over the length of the agreement unless at the club. They were doing a party that some compromise formula is found. At was not going to be a sit-down dinner, this point, Mezza is seeking compensa- and they did not require a fully stocked tion for all parties that featured alcoholic bar and bartenders. Still, they were told beverages over the last year or so, at the they would be assessed a charge of an additional $12.50 per person to cover the Continued on Page 12

6 May 28, 2010 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES May 28, 2010 7 8 May 28, 2010 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES May 28, 2010 9 Rapper’s Sabbath Continued from Front Cover existence by a Jewish Tele- graphic Agency report about his embrace of the Jewish Sabbath, a concept he apparently encountered while playing a role, as a drug dealer, in a film about some Chassidic boys who were lured into smuggling illic- it substances. The motion picture was “inspired”—the producer’s word, although it sits somewhat uncomfortably here—by the case of some young American Chassidim who were in fact recruited in the 1990s to carry illegal drugs overseas. The ideals and commitments of most frum Jews make them unlikely perpetrators of crimes like drug running. But, sadly, illegalities of many types, including that one, do exist in the Orthodox world. Not every Jew in the Orthodox community lives an Orthodox life. So it was probably inevitable that some enterprising screen- writer would come across the reports about Chassidim tragi- cally drawn into the easy money of drug smuggling and recognize an entertainment potential. What a winning crazy-mix of imageries: the peaceful, devout world of Chassidim, and the violent, amoral one of organized crime. Peiyos and pay- offs, one might say. Amazing it took so long for someone to come up with the idea. Whether the resultant film is a work of art or an act of Jewploitation I leave to film crit- ics. But, reportedly, it portrays the Chassidic world in a generally positive, accurate light. The pro- tagonist, who is at first tricked into boarding planes with “medicine” for “rich people” and eventually gets sucked into the abyss of the drug trade, brings great pain to his family, which is in turn portrayed sympathetically. Similarly portrayed, it is reported, are the beauty and wonder of a Shabbos, when observant Jews turn off the world and spend a full night and day in relaxation, prayer, and Torah study, floating on a tran- quil cloud of time with family and friends. That is apparently what enchanted Q-Tip. And others, too; the idea of a day without meetings, media, or mobile devices has attracted fans far and wide. A national effort to promote the Sabbath has been made of late, and a recent book intended for a general readership is dedicated to singing the Sabbath’s praises. Maybe Q-Tip even read it. To be sure, there is much to be said for being disconnected and focused inward for a day each week. (Although, the Torah considers Shabbos to be a special “sign” between Hashem and K’lal Yisrael, even forbidding its observance to others.) 10 May 28, 2010 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES But Shabbos, of course, is more than a from our daylong cocoon of connection “day off.” It is intended to be a sort of spir- with the Divine? Or are we itching, well, itual recharging for Jews, an infusion of if not to raise the roof (or whatever), to holiness into the six days that follow. barge as quickly as possible back into the Which is not exactly how Q-Tip under- “real” world, to listen to the news, check stands things. our e-mail, get in our cars—surrender “I’m going to enjoy Sabbath on without a fight to the mundane? Saturday . . .” he is reported to have If so, perhaps we shouldn’t smile so declared. “And then when the sun sets on condescendingly at Q-Tip and his motzaei Saturday night, I’m going to raise the Shabbos plans, but rather recognize a bit roof!” Well, actually, he didn’t say “the of him in the mirror. And resolve to not roof,” but you get the idea. only enjoy Shabbos but to absorb it, and

It is easy, of course, to be amused by a misunderstanding of the Jewish Sabbath as mere “downtime” in preparation for a hearty party.

It is easy, of course, to be amused by to take some of its kedushah along with a misunderstanding of the Jewish us into the week. O Sabbath as mere “downtime” in prepara- © 2010 Am Echad Resources. Rabbi Shafran is tion for a hearty party. But those of us director of public affairs for Agudath Israel of who observe Shabbos might still learn America. something from the rapper’s words. We could stand to think a little about whether we haven’t been swabbed with a bit of Q-Tip ourselves. WHAT’S YOUR OPINION? When Shabbos ebbs away—especially E-MAIL US AT during the long days of summer—are we saddened a bit by the imminent loss of its [email protected] holiness, pained at least a little to emerge

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES May 28, 2010 11 The Year In Israel least important items that should be dis- large Five Towns shul each Shabbos, and FROM THE EDITOR Continued from Front Cover carded in order to make room in a young have enjoyed the same Jewish summer Continued from Page 6 adult’s 63rd suitcase? Answers to questions camps that many of the other kids in the something that I loved to do; namely, to like these are sorely lacking. area have. So I consider myself pretty rate of $12.50 per person. According to write. After a bit of debate, we concluded That’s where I come in. By writing an qualified to be sharing with you what my those involved in the dispute, Mezza is that the concept seemed innovative and article that is a sort of hybrid between the experience will be like, as well as to what seeking upward of $50,000 from Chap-a- had great potential. esteemed Shmuel Katz’s “Aliyah Chronicle” yours or your child’s might be similar to. Nosh and Mauzone. So let’s get down to business. What’s and ESPN’s “Player X,” I can supply the I might not write weekly, but I’ll try to About a month ago, the board directed the goal of this new column? Well, some larger Five Towns community with offer a fair and informative insider’s the apparent future mayor, Mr. Oliner, to of you might be familiar with a feature in responses to such inquiries. I can detail look at what the average post-high- oversee communications with Mezza on ESPN’s sports magazine dubbed “Player the experience of preparing for yeshiva, school young man might go through the Green to see if a compromise could X.” The item is included in each issue and the actual trip, and the year itself through while studying in Israel. B’ezras Hashem, be reached. Oliner met last week with is anonymously authored by a profes- this very column, all the while providing my reports will hopefully make the read- Christo and Kloos and indicated that the sional sports superstar. It allows for an in- discussion went well and that he depth, behind-the-scenes look into the believes that an agreement can be various American pro sports organiza- reached whereby favorable conditions tions, as well as into the everyday lives of can be maintained to host and facilitate the associations’ players. The thought The year in Israel is a relatively events at the country club without price- behind my article would be to serve a gouging local residents. similar function. secretive phenomenon, a closely As late as this week, and after some The year in Israel is a relatively secretive internal investigation, Mr. Oliner says phenomenon, a closely guarded mystery that no one involved in the process whose inner workings are known only to guarded mystery. knows how the differently worded agree- the students who have already experi- ment was placed before the mayor to enced it. For the most part, while parents sign. Some of the background that makes and 12th-graders in our community have the dispute more understandable deals general ideas about this post-high-school much-needed info on this rather cryptic er’s own year (or that of his children) in with the nature of the non-kosher busi- pilgrimage, what actually occurs during topic to this newspaper’s audience. Israel that much easier, and also manage ness at the Lawrence Country Club. Some the aforementioned time span is mostly Who am I? Well, I’d like to keep my to keep him entertained. After all, if you of those we spoke to who have some defined in generic terms and clichéd actual identity a secret, so as to protect were just looking for information like familiarity with the inner workings of the phrases. “Growth,” “maturation,” and my own reputation and the reputation of the address of a yeshiva or something food service there say that business at the “recommitment to Judaism” are all very the yeshiva that I will iy’H be going to else equally well-known and boring, restaurant, which caters to the golfing well and nice, but what exactly do they next year. But I can tell you this much then you could simply check out their crowd, is not as robust as it once was. mean? How do such processes occur, what about myself: I am a 12th-grade boy soon website or call their office. “Talmid X” is Some speculate that the Mezza on the are the innermost feelings that these stu- to graduate from a local high school, and here to provide you with important and Green people saw the alcohol situation as dents feel as such monumental transfor- I plan on attending a well-known and intriguing material. O an honest opportunity to generate and mations take place, and what specific mes- top-tier hesder yeshiva in Israel next year. increase business. ”Talmid X” is preparing for graduation from a sages are being directed at them as they I’m considered to be fairly “shtark” by my high school in the Five Towns/Far Rockaway Both Oliner and Klar addressed the study? On a less profound level, what kind friends and family, learning at least two community and is enrolled in a well-known possibility that the Mezza people may hesder yeshiva for the 2010-2011 academic year. of food do they eat, how do these kids hours extra a night and davening three Comments and questions for him are welcome at choose their roommates, and what are the times a day with a minyan. I attend a [email protected]. Continued on Page 21

12 May 28, 2010 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES May 28, 2010 13 Who You Calling Baldy? Continued from Front Cover afflict one another.” Name-calling is the most severe form of afflicting another person. It invariably involves shaming another person in public. Chazal are quite serious about the repercussions of name-calling. The Gemara (Bava Metzia 58b) tells us that all who go down to Gehinnom eventually arise—except three. One of the three that do not arise is one who engages in name-calling of his friend. The Menoras HaMeor (Chapter 20) writes that this literally means eternal damnation. All people—men, women, and children—are subject to the prohibition of name-calling. Parents must educate their children about not violating this prohibition, just as they are obligated in all other CALENDAR LUACH May 28–June 5 ZIP Code: 11516

15 Sivan Friday, May 28 Daf yomi: Sanhedrin 105 Z’manim*: Earliest tallis/teﬁllin: 4:23 am Sunrise: 5:29 am Latest Shema: M. Av. 8:34 am Gr’a 9:10 am P’lag ha’minchah: 6:44 pm Candle Lighting: 7:58 pm 16 Sivan – Shabbos Saturday, May 29 Parashas Beha’alosecha Avos: Ch. 2 Shabbos ends**: 9:07 pm 72 min. 9:30 pm 22 Sivan Friday, June 4 Daf yomi: Sanhedrin 112 Earliest tallis/teﬁllin: 4:19 am Sunrise: 5:26 am Latest Shema: M. Av. 8:33 am Gr’a 9:09 am P’lag ha’minchah: 6:48 pm Candle Lighting: 8:03 pm 23 Sivan – Shabbos Saturday, June 5 Parashas Shelach Blessing of Chodesh Tammuz Avos: Ch. 3 Shabbos ends**: 9:13 pm 72 min. 9:35 pm * All times from MyZmanim.com ** add a few minutes for tosefos Shabbos according to your minhag Municipal Calendar For 5 Towns and NYC Friday, May 28 Lawrence Public Schools not in session. LIRR: Extra Far Rockaway train from Penn Station at 3:48 PM. Monday, May 31 Memorial Day. NYS banking holiday; local post offices closed; no garbage collection; most parking regulations sus- pended; public schools closed. Transit: Sunday schedule. 14 May 28, 2010 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES forms of chinuch, and of course their own However, it is certainly proper (midas Sassanian Persian King, because the menorah. Please do not ruin the things behavior must be a model for their children chasiddus) to refrain from name-calling halachah is always like him in law. that I made!” As a child grows up, the lack in this regard. As far as the victims are con- under all circumstances. There are other Shmuel also called Rabba “Abba” as a term of proper modeling in how to effectively cerned, this prohibition applies to every- opinions, however, that understand the of endearment (Kesubos 107a; see Shitah communicate one’s frustration creates one—even if the person being called a prohibition to apply across the board Mekubetzes). When the nickname is a baggage that is carried into adulthood. name is a child (see Bava Kamma 86a) or a (Tosefos Menachos 37a “R.Y.”; Meiri, positive one, there is no prohibition (see non-Jew (see Rambam, Hilchos Avadim 9:8). Megillah 27b). The name-calling is still Tosefos, Ta’anis 20b). Our sages tell us (Bava Metzia 59a) that it problematic even if a person is already We find other exceptions, too. When is preferable to cast oneself into a fiery pit known by that name (Bava Metzia 58b). someone is being playful or joking, one Calling someone a than to shame another person in public. The prohibition of name-calling exists may call another person a negative name. There is a question as to whether this is a only when one does so in the presence of This explanation is found in Tosefos “Yekke” with a literal obligation or whether it is merely an the person. This is clear from the Gemara (Pesachim 112a, “Tziva”), where he address- pejorative connotation example of the sages speaking in hyper- (ibid.), where this prohibition is discussed es how Ben Azzai could have called Rabbi bole so that we will recognize how serious as being exactly parallel to embarrassing Akiva “Korach.” is also a violation of the issues involved are. The fact that the someone in public. There are, however, Rav Chaim Kanievsky also ruled (ibid.) sages point to Tamar and her avoiding the other prohibitions that are violated when that the prohibition is only violated when this prohibition. embarrassment of Yehudah indicates that one calls a person names behind his back. the name-calling is done on a regular basis. they did mean the statement to be taken The Chazon Ish is cited by his nephew However, if it is done only once or twice, literally. Nonetheless, The Meiri (Sotah 10b) Rav Chaim Kanievsky, shlita (see Toras then it is not considered to be a violation, indicates that it is not a literal obligation. HaAdam L’Adam, Vol. VI p. 108) as saying but rather just teasing or joking. This Conclusion Rav Elyashiv, shlita (He’aros Bava Metzia that calling someone a “Yekke” with a answers how it could be that we find name- We have seen that our sages view 59a) poses a question from the Talmud in pejorative connotation is also a violation calling of a sort in numerous sections name-calling as a devastating form of Berachos 19a. There, it states that if a person of this prohibition. throughout the Talmud (see, e.g., Sanhedrin abuse which warrants a most severe pun- sees a friend wearing k’layim (sha’atnez), he There is a view that if someone does not 59b, Megillah 16b, Kerisus 8a, Pesachim 70b, ishment. It is an issue regarding which should rip it off him. Clearly, the Gemara extend the appropriate title to someone Chullin 110a, Shabbos 121b, Niddah 12b). we must demonstrate enormous con- permits the embarrassment of another in who deserves it, it is also a violation of this cern. At the same time, however, we note public when necessary. Why, then, asks prohibition. For example, the Pele Yoetz Why Do People that when done in a friendly type of way, Rav Elyashiv, did Tamar not embarrass says (see “Kinui”) that referring to Maran Call Each Other Names? not only are there exceptions, but Chazal Yehudah? His answer distinguishes Rav Yosef Karo, zt’l, merely as “Rabbi Karo” The reasons people resort to the prac- actively engaged in assigning terms of between saving another person from a pro- would be a violation of this prohibition. tice of name-calling are manifold. Some endearment. Nicknames, like anything hibition—which is permitted—and saving resort to it as a means of arguing. In other else, can be a tool that is used both posi- oneself from harm by embarrassing anoth- Exceptions words, they cannot argue with the facts tively and negatively. Just because we see er. Saving oneself at the expense of anoth- Sometimes a nickname can actually or the underlying logic of their opponent, that it can often be used negatively, this er is not permitted. reinforce self-esteem. It may even be an so they resort to a tactic that has a base does not necessarily mean that it should active method of implementing the mitz- appeal and a quick laugh—name-calling. be abandoned entirely, even for its posi- Details Of The Prohibition vah of “V’ahavta l’reiacha kamocha.” We Others resort to it because they have not tive uses. Rather, what is necessary is edu- There is some debate as to what the therefore find in Eiruvin 72b that Rabbi been taught how to communicate effec- cation as to how it can be used appropri- exact nature of the prohibition is. Tosefos Yehudah Hasber is called “Hasber” tively as a child. Instead of saying, “You ately and positively, and within the guide- (Megillah 27b) writes that the severe pro- because of his sharpness. Hasber means idiot, you ruined my Lego menorah!” the lines of our holy Torah. O hibition is only when it includes a p’gam “the explainer.” In Bava Basra (115b) Rabba child should have been taught to say, “I The author can be reached at mishpachah, a family embarrassment. refers to Shmuel as “Shavur Malka,” the do not like what you did to my Lego [email protected].

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES May 28, 2010 15 BAGEL STORE Continued from Front Cover

Mendel Schneerson—lay in a coma. They were young men, teenagers, studying in yeshiva; everything was just the way they had hoped it would be. But then, all of a sudden and out of nowhere, everything went black. Someone was shooting at their school bus. Now, sitting opposite me just before Shavuos, the young Rabbi Sasonkin looked back and tried to recall aspects of what he has endured over these last 16 years. His friend Ari Halberstam was killed in the shooting on the bus that day. Another student, Levi Wilhelm, was hit in the stomach and survived. Sasonkin himself was hit in back of the head and today does not recall much of what happened until the time he woke up five weeks after the shooting. There is still a bullet lodged in his head.

Moshe has many years of growth ahead of him, which also means constantly requiring new and updated prosthetic devices.

The good news is that today Nachum Sasonkin is mostly recovered, after years of intense physical therapy. His speech is just a little slurred and he walks with just a slight limp. He says that he still sometimes has problems balancing himself when he walks. As I handed him my business card toward the end of our meeting, he added, “You see, sometimes I have problems grasping things too.” Today Sasonkin works as a rabbinical kashrus supervisor at Brach’s Supermarket in Lawrence. He is married, lives in Crown Heights, and is the father of five children. As harrowing and challenging as those months and years after what has become known as “the Brooklyn Bridge shooting” were for Mr. Sasonkin and his family, this is not the reason we were meeting, incredible as that may seem. In fact, Nachum Sasonkin is completely sub- merged in the needs of his family and has little time these days to think about himself; instead, we were meeting to discuss and, through this article, to draw attention to the plight of his one-year-old

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16 May 28, 2010 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES May 28, 2010 17 18 May 28, 2010 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES BAGEL STORE s”xc Continued from Page 16 child, Moshe. Just a few months ago Moshe Sasonkin was an ordinary baby. In many ways, he is still very much so today. What sets him apart from most other one-year- old children, however, is a virulent and untreatable infection that attacked his little body when he was only a few months old. Doctors were baffled, and some of the foremost pediatric experts were at a loss to chart a course of treatment. They believed that Moshe had a virus that caused clotting in his hands and feet. The lack of circulation was jeop- ardizing his little life. His father, Nachum, explains that in order to save the baby’s life, doctors had to amputate his two hands—one at the wrist and the other below the elbow. And they also removed his two feet, one below the knee and the other at the ankle. Of course there are no words to express what Nachum and his wife, Dina, have endured and the long road to rehabilita- tion they face in order to inject some con- ventionality into the life of a young child in a very unusual situation. Little Moshe has been in intensive rehab and physical therapy since shortly after the radical surgery. He spent the last several weeks in New Jersey, where his mother traveled to be with him every day. His father would go to visit every few days, balancing the need to be with his son and his obligations and duties at Brach’s. “I can’t say enough or express my gratitude adequately to Mr. Brach and his personal care and involvement in this ordeal,” says Nachum. He says that he had no choice but to miss weeks and weeks of work, and still today, due to Moshe’s condition, needs to accompany him to doctors for treatment. “Not only did Mr. Brach insist on paying me in full every week during my absence,” he says, “but if I could not come in to work to pick up my pay, he always had someone deliver the money to my home in Brooklyn.” The shooting of the yeshiva students took place shortly after Purim. It was on Purim of that year that Dr. Baruch Goldstein went to the Cave of the Patriarchs in Hebron and acted on information that he believed was a local Palestinian plan to attack Jews on the Purim holiday. Goldstein—a physician who had treated many victims of Arab terror—took matters into his own hands and used his army-issued machine gun to shoot up the Arab section of the mosque at the site. Twenty-nine Arabs were killed before the mob there turned on Dr. Goldstein and killed him. The Brooklyn Bridge gunman, a livery cab driver in New York named Rashid Baz, claimed that the shooting of the yeshiva students on the bridge was his frustrated reaction to the Hebron shooting. The judge and jury did not buy into the defense claims, and Baz was convict- ed of murder and all the related charges. Judge Harry Rothwax sentenced Baz to 141 years in prison without the possibility of parole. That may be all fine and good as far as the workability of our justice system. But in the aftermath of this awful tragedy, it left the Halberstams without their son, a nearly crippled Mr. Sasonkin, and a seri-

Continued on Page 20 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES May 28, 2010 19 BAGEL STORE date that growth and development. Continued from Page 19 Additionally, the funds allowed by the insurance companies involved are limit- ously wounded Mr. Wilhelm. ed and do not provide or pay for the best And, although Mr. Sasonkin was most- prosthetic devices available. ly able to recover from his injuries, aided That’s why Nachum and Dina and their by his youth and the very meticulous families have to turn to the community medical care and follow-up therapy he and request assistance in helping their received, that could not in any way have baby, Moshe Sasonkin. To that end, a prepared him for what he and his family website and special charitable fund have have to deal with today. been established. The fund, which “I can tell you this,” he says. “Moshe is accepts tax-deductible contributions, is home, he’s very happy to be home, and called the Special Moshe Charity Fund. we are overjoyed of course to have him Contributions can be made directly to an here.” The road ahead is a long and ardu- account at Bank of America, account ous one replete with challenges and diffi- number 483026918722; or they can be sent culties that are unique to a one-year-old to 550 Rockaway Avenue, Valley Stream, who has had four limbs partially ampu- NY 11581. tated. If you Google “Moshe Sasonkin” Before we parted, I asked Nachum you will be led to a series of brief family Sasonkin to look back for me and consid- videos of Moshe in his rehab center as er all that he has been through and all well as back at home. They are very diffi- that he is dealing with today. I asked him cult to view. Aside from the bandaged how the experiences, taken together, arms and legs, though, what you see is might have impacted on his emunah, his the sweetest little face of a happy and faith in G-d. He looked at me like I was energetic child. The scenes rip at your asking the silliest question and said, “My emotions, but all you have to do is look at emunah has always been strong; it’s been Nachum and Dina Sasonkin, and their the same all along.” O courage gives one so much chizuk. Comments for Larry Gordon are welcome at Aside from the personal challenges [email protected]. that lie ahead for Moshe, there is the matter of the extraordinary cost of his antici- pated medical care over the next two decades. For now he is healing but will Deadline for Advertising shortly begin to be fitted with prosthetics in the Next Issue is that will afford him a relatively conven- tional existence. The fact that Moshe is a Tuesday, June 1 small child means that he has many years at 5:00 P.M. of growth ahead of him, which also means constantly requiring new and Call 516-984-0079 updated prosthetic devices to accommo-

20 May 28, 2010 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES FROM THE EDITOR board. A “candidates’ night” is planned Rochelle Kevelson says that today, them a spirit of public service and a Continued from Page 12 at the country club on June 3. because of the unusual amount of mostly desire to deliver a better and higher Ms. Kevelson said she can enumerate unrestricted construction taking place in quality of life to their friends, neigh- have thought about assuming the role of a great many things that she believes are the village, a more than usual amount of bors, and residents of the village. being the kosher caterer at the facility as not right with how the village is being earth has been shifted, which has result- Of course, they may not get every- well. Both officials said that is seriously managed. “You have to understand,” she ed in an inordinate number of homes thing exactly right all the time, but unlikely to happen, and have made that said, “we are not here to be in an adver- experiencing flooding that they did not sometimes governing such an intense clear to both Kloos and Christo. As to why sarial relationship with village govern- have in prior years. Still, she says, she is and demanding group of people can the kosher caterers at the club cannot ment.” She added that the role of the looking forward to the election and really be an exercise in imperfection. In apply for and receive their own liquor Lawrence Association is to represent working closely with the new administra- the meantime, there is going to be a license, we were told that the New York what is in the best interests of residents tion for the betterment of the village she competitive election in Lawrence on State liquor laws allows only one such of the village, in which she said there are has called home for more than 40 years. June 15. Candidates do not run against permit per facility, so that is not the way one another, but rather the two out of out of this. four candidates who receive the most What has been proposed in part to votes win a seat on the board of trustees. Mezza, since they are the liquor licensee, In the past, candidates received little is that people making parties and other Sometimes governing such an more than maybe a hundred votes in events at the club should purchase all these elections, in which most of the wine and liquor from them from now on. intense and demanding group of time they ran unopposed. It’s anticipat- The concern inherent in this option is ed that it will take upward of 500 votes how much Mezza will want to charge for to win this year. The polls will be open a bottle of wine or whiskey. Before going people can really be an exercise in this year from 7 a.m. to 10 p.m. This elec- to press, we were told that the village tion promises to be a good one in this board is waiting for a price list from the imperfection. very big little town of ours. O caterer that they were promised would Comments for Larry Gordon are welcome at be furnished this week. [email protected]. Rochelle Kevelson, the newly elected president of the Lawrence Association, said that she is not surprised that there 2,300 households. So you thought that village govern- is that type of confusion and even “We have laws on the books that are ment was this small, unimportant play- bungling taking place in the Lawrence not being enforced,” she said. She thing that really has very little impact Remember that article? Village Hall. “I think this board has been referred specifically to construction in on your day-to-day life. Hopefully this Visit our archive section very neglectful in many areas,” she said. the village, which she said today has small glimpse into the inner workings Still, she said, her group has endorsed nowhere near the oversight that it once of the village—the issues at hand, the and find any issue of the Mr. Oliner for mayor as well as Mr. had not so many years ago. Asked to spec- many projects, the desire to be part of Felder and Mr. Stein for trustees. Asked ify, she referred to the fact that there is a the board that governs the village, and 5 Towns Jewish Times why, she said they were endorsed for village law on the books that says con- the millions of tax dollars that are online @ the most part because they showed up struction cannot begin before 8:00 a.m. expended on numerous projects that to be interviewed by the association “Take a ride around the village at 6:30 or are the responsibility of this small www.5TJT.com board. Candidates Klar and Lowinger, 7:00 a.m.; you’ll see construction person- group of people—has been informative. she said, did not appear before the nel busy at work.” These are people who have within

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES May 28, 2010 21 Russian Arms Sales Bolster Iranian Bloc

BY SAMUEL SOKOL Congressman Mark Kirk (R. Illinois) weapons does not contribute to building the two countries. To date the fighters ISRAEL CORRESPONDENT began circulated a petition in the House an atmosphere of peace.” have not been delivered. urging the administration to include S- Three years ago, Russian news outlet Among the weapons systems to be Jerusalem—Both Russia and China are 300 missile in the sanctions package. Kommersant reported that “Russia has delivered to Syria is the Pantsir air supporting a new draft resolution on “Russian transfer of the S-300 to Iran begun to implement the contract signed defense system, which combines missiles Iranian sanctions, and they have agreed would undermine our national security, by Rosoboronexport with Syria this year and shells placed on a mobile launch to present it to the full United Nations change the security dynamic of the for the delivery of five MiG-31E fighter- vehicle. Security Council. It would prohibit the region, and undermine our diplomatic interceptors.” The total value of the order A senior IDF source told Yediot sale of eight categories of heavy weapons efforts,” Kirk wrote. is said to be $1 billion. Aharonot in 2007 that Syria has the most including helicopters, missiles, and tanks American sanctions against Russian advanced anti-aircraft system in the to the Islamic Republic. Arms Sales To Syria And Lebanon arms trading company Rosoboronexport world. Previous Russian shipments of Despite Russian support for the new Russia is involved in arms sales to were lifted this week. The company Pantsir systems to Syria were partially sanctions package, however, a top members of the Iranian-bloc in the recently announced that it considers Iran financed by Iran. According to Jane’s, a Russian official announced that arms defense industry information service, sev- sales to Iran will continue. Mikhail eral Pantsir systems were transferred to Margelov, head of the Federation Iran as part of the implementation of a Council’s Foreign Affairs Committee, 2005 strategic accord. announced that the proposed sanctions “The sale of these weapons does According to Dr. Mordechai Kedar of “will not hit current contracts between the Begin-Sadat Center for Strategic Russia and Iran.” Studies, any system sold to Syria can The draft is not “paralyzing or suffocat- not contribute to building an potentially be transferred to Lebanon. ing” said Margelov, and will not impede “Any weapon system which arrives in the delivery of Russian S-300 surface-to- atmosphere of peace.” Syria might be moved into Lebanon and air missiles. The missiles, which are be operated by Syrians. It needs a few described as “highly capable, long-range, hours,” he said. Moreover, “an anti-aircraft all-altitude” weapons, could potentially system can cover Lebanon from Syrian serve as a deterrent to any future strike soil,” posing a threat to Israeli pilots in against Iran’s nuclear infrastructure. Middle East, including Syria and a valuable arms customer. the event of further hostilities with “It should be remembered that Russia Lebanon. Rosoboronexport head Anatoly Isaikin Hezbollah. is a responsible seller of its products on The head of Russia’s arms trading told a press conference in January that no Israel claims that previous shipments foreign markets and we are not interest- agency, Mikhail Dmitriyev, recently international agreements prohibit Russia of anti-tank missiles to Syria have ended ed in the militarization of the Middle announced that his country had signed from selling arms to Iran. up in Hezbollah armories and that Syria East,” Margelov stressed. an agreement to sell anti-aircraft systems, Russia has also sold fighter aircraft to has also transferred Scud missiles, capa- Sales of Soviet armaments to the Arab MiG-29 fighters, and armored vehicles to Lebanon over the past several years. In ble of hitting targets throughout Israel, to bloc played an important role in exacer- Syria. Israel has protested the Russian 2008, Russia agreed to provide Lebanon the terror organization. bating the Arab-Israeli conflict during the arms sales. Foreign Minister Avigdor with 10 MiG-29 jets free of charge in order years of the Cold War. Lieberman stated that “the sale of these to bolster military cooperation between Continued on Page 24

22 May 28, 2010 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES additional commitment to learning will kedushah that brings along with it the take away from quality time with family. berachos of shalom bayis. I am involved with many families in To claim that starting a breakaway their shalom bayis issues, and on that minyan for Friday night to avoid the five- very point I am convinced that the only minute d’var Torah given by the elderly thing (besides counseling) that helps rav is a sign of a father rushing home to build shalom bayis is when the hus- spend a few extra minutes with his chil- band/father is committed to serious dren borders on the absurd. That rav told Family Time Shabbos, rather than giving a d’var Torah learning at least once or twice a week, me that often when he leaves his shul Dear Editor, at this time. These men may not have for that brings with it, in most cases, after davening, many of the people who I had mixed feelings upon reading seen their children all week due to long more ruchniyus into the home—and couldn’t take the short d’var Torah are Rabbi Ginzberg’s article “Learning, work hours, and quality time with their that is the secret ingredient for a happy standing outside shul and socializing—at Anyone?” (in the May 14 issue). Of course spouses may also be rare due to other and peaceful home. times for close to an hour. While there’s Torah study is vital to us as individuals obligations. How wonderful that these In my almost 25 years of being in rab- nothing wrong with that, the people who and as a community. However, as Rabbi fathers are racing home to be with their banus and working with people, I have left to avoid the d’var Torah obviously did Ginzberg mentioned, our community families! Seeking out alternatives to never heard a complaint from a wife that not do so to increase their time with fam- spends much of its time on chesed and going home is usually a sign of trouble her husband goes to a shiur or has a ily. On the contrary, what type of message tzedakah organizations. No one would in a family. chavrusah and it is hurting the family. does this send to our children when a say to stop doing that. Then, consider the Getting back to the original point However, I have heard again and again father walks out of a shul during a fact that our community, both men and regarding the importance of Torah study, from many women in our community derashah or a d’var Torah or a shiur? women, often work long hours and have I would like to mention my favorite that they had always wanted a home And yes, while the father–son learn- many professional obligations to meet type: the father–son learning programs filled with kedushah for their children, ing program (and the mother–daughter the high costs of a Torah lifestyle—large (and I would hope that more yet their husbands have no learning pro- program) is indeed a wonderful and families with many yeshiva tuitions to mother–daughter programs should gram during the week (and many do not important community event and should pay, shul memberships, kosher food, etc. sprout up as well). Though my children have on Shabbos either), and that it great- be expanded, it does not compensate No one would say to stop doing that are currently too young to go to these ly affects their families. for the husband/father finding his own either. So, what I gained from the article programs, I think they provide a terrific A case in point: The summer time (between work, family obligations, is that Rabbi Ginzberg is basically telling opportunity to merge the most impor- Shabbosos are filled with long after- and leisure time) to create learning people to take away from their “leisure” tant aspects of our lives: Torah and fam- noons, with plenty of time for a Shabbos opportunities on his level. I feel com- time to study Torah. ily. Hopefully Rabbi Ginzberg’s article, rest and taking the kids to the park or to pletely comfortable in guaranteeing Given the rising incidence of divorce and perhaps this letter, will lead the rab- visit grandparents and still make it back that for whoever does make that com- and high-risk adolescents—mentioned banim of our community to create shi- to shul at 6:30 or 7:00 for a shiur. Yet mitment to increase his learning and by Rabbi Ginzberg in previous articles— urim that enhance families rather than many do not come. Is it because they are allowing himself to grow in his ruch- I find it unnerving to tell fathers to detracting time from them. spending extra time with their children? niyus, it will not take away even the spend more time out of the house at shi- Helen J. I don’t believe so. Yet I see people who slightest from the quality of the chinuch urim. Wives and children desperately Woodmere, NY never miss a shiur in shul; I watch them of his children, and it will greatly need that all-too-rare time with hus- with their children and spouses, and not enhance the quality of his entire family bands and fathers. Rabbi Ginzberg men- Rabbi Ginzberg responds: only do I not see any sign of neglect, but life. It would be very fitting if our won- tions a scenario in which the men of a While I fully believe that the writer is I see a beautiful family with a common derful wives (and mothers) would shul opt to attend a minyan that lets sincere and well-meaning, I can’t accept goal of continued growth for everyone, encourage their husbands to do this and them out a few minutes earlier on leil that anyone believes that making an which creates an atmosphere of not try to look for excuses.

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES May 28, 2010 23 Iranian Bloc several occasions to desist from collabo- Continued from Page 22 rating with Tehran on the project. Solution To Previous 5TJT Puzzle: The United States has presented Russia Kedar also asserted that the “weak- with evidence “pointing to the existence ness” of the United States encourages of an Iranian nuclear weapons program” A Shavuos Meal opponents such as Iran, North Korea, and but the Russians have continued to pro- Russia to “unite their efforts” against the ceed to work on the plant, according to nations in the American camp. GlobalSecurity.

Russia Offers Syria Israelis Unsure Of Efficacy Nuclear Assistance Of Sanctions During President Dmitry Medvedev’s Israelis have expressed some reserva- recent trip to Syria, the Russian leader tions over the proposed UN sanctions. offered to collaborate with the country’s This is due in part to continuing Russian regime in building nuclear plants. During arms sales and the sanctions’ lack of a joint press conference with Syrian dic- binding restrictions on investments in tator Bashar al-Assad in Damascus, Iranian energy, a major source of income Medvedev said that “Cooperation on for Tehran. atomic energy could get a second wind,” Knesset Foreign Affairs and Defense According to the Moscow Times the Committee chairman Tzachi Hanegbi offer comes as Moscow “pushes to revive called the draft sanctions “completely its clout in the Middle East.” ineffective” and said that the Iranians The Russian President also took a jab would not find the proposed measures at Israel’s nuclear stockpile, saying that he “unbearable.” agrees with his “colleague the Syrian pres- Hanegbi asserted that the idea that the ident” that “the Middle East must be a sanctions will have a positive effect was nuclear-free zone.” an American fantasy. Energy Minister Sergei Shmatko, Secretary of State Hillary Clinton accompanying Medvedev to Syria, termed the sanctions “strong” and touted announced that he was “in favor” of their acceptance by Russia and China as a building more reactors in Iran beyond diplomatic victory. O that currently being constructed by Russia in Bushehr. Russia is currently collaborating with Iran on the construction of a nuclear You can now upload power plant at Bushehr. Russian Atomic your display ad directly Energy Agency (Rosatom) head Sergei Kiriyenko said that the “plant’s launch via our website at has been set for the end of the summer, and we are on schedule.” www.5tjt.com Puzzle appeared on page 38 of the May 14 issue. The United States has asked Russia on

24 May 28, 2010 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES May 28, 2010 25 ing from place to place, trying to squeeze kohanim can go into the Mearah, I per- every last ounce out of the time that sonally refrain from it. There is a differ- remains for them to stay here. ence of opinion, and although I cannot For the first time since our aliyah, all set the standards for others (my father in of our kids will be in Israel for the sum- fact, holds by this psak), on a personal mer. (Chaya may go for a brief two-week level, I am loathe to err in this matter. trip before she enters into national serv- We decided to participate when we ice for the year—but that doesn’t count.) discovered that the group is davening by Aliza and Batya will be going to Israeli the Mearah only on Friday night, so I Getting Ready For Another Move sleep-away camps. (For Batya, this will be would not be missing too much. her first sleep-away experience.) The older kids, who will not be joining Shavuot is the only chag that I really I had joked with him that he would Mordechai, desperate to go himself, us, have all spent Shabbat in Chevron think is not as deep here in comparison fall asleep during Megillat Rut. I was begged us to falsify the registration already. They have gone with their to chutz la’aretz. While I am no fan of hav- wrong. He fell asleep waiting for us to forms and claim that he is a year older. friends, sleeping in empty school class- ing two days of yom tov, on Shavuot it start the Megilla. His older sister Batya He argued that he is bigger than most rooms on Shabbat Parashat Chayei Sarah feels as if we have less than a half day of made it all the way to laining before she kids a year older than him, so why along with thousands of other Jews. So true yom tov. That is, it feels that way for too fell asleep in her chair. So at the end shouldn’t he go? Sigh for them, this is less of an experience. those who stay up for the whole night. of davening I had the treat of waking This will be the first Shabbat in a cou- Plus, they get to spend a Shabbat with There is a strong school of thought their friends. here that people should not really stay up It is also good that we will all be all night. The argument is that we should together to help prepare and pack for our learn for a couple of hours and then go to It is fascinating to see them rushing from forthcoming move. We are still not sure sleep for five or six hours, returning to where we are going to end up (we will shul for davening. This would allow us to hopefully clear this up in the next week be refreshed and attentive for davening, place to place, trying to squeeze every last or two), but we know we have to be out while at the same time maintaining the by August. So having Chaim home will practice to study Torah the night of the ounce out of the time that remains for certainly be a help. chag. I have a couple of friends who do We are trying to get him registered to this—they say that it adds to the value of them to stay here. drive our car. For the first four years that their davening, and they are much more we own our car (purchased with aliyah comfortable this way. tax reduction credits), Goldie and I are I was not ready to change, though. the only drivers automatically allowed to With the exception of that strange sense them up and trying to get them moving ple of months that all of us will be in the drive it. As our kids get their licenses to that I missed the chag (because it ended toward their actual beds. same country. Yet, true to form, we will drive, we have to go to the tax offices and before I had a chance to really experience Shavuot marks the stretch run to the not all be together. Our shul arranged a get a special release to add them as driv- it), we had a terrific chag. Mordechai (age end of the year here. Not only for the weekend in Kiryat Arba/Chevron, and we ers to the car. Without this release, they 9) was my chavruta for the evening. This schoolchildren who are looking forward will be taking the three younger kids with are driving illegally. Not only can they get was his first “all-nighter” and no matter to summer, but also for the thousands of us to participate in the Shabbaton. ticketed, our insurance could refuse pay- how many of his friends went home, he your kids who have been here for a year I was of two minds in considering ment on claims resulting from a kid driv- was determined to stick out the whole (or two) of learning in yeshivot and semi- whether to go for Shabbat. Although night. And he did. naries. It is fascinating to see them rush- there is a famous psak that states that Continued on Page 28

26 May 28, 2010 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES May 28, 2010 27 ALIYAH CHRONICLE Continued from Page 26 ing the car without the release. Chaim, not being Israeli, adds a new dimension to the situation. He has a New York driver’s license, is not an Israeli, and yet is still our son and should be allowed to drive our family car. We called our insurance agent to find out how to register Chaim, and he told us that we should actually get him an Israeli license first. Apparently, since he is our son and comes to visit several times each year for an extended period of time, it is possible that the authorities could rule that he is obligated to get an Israeli license as a non-citizen. Getting the license requires that he get an eye test, submit a doctor’s certification that he is healthy enough to drive, take two driving lessons from a licensed instructor, and then pass a driving test. It will take a couple of weeks to do. Once he has his license, we will then register him with the tax authorities as an approved driver of our car. Conveniently, Israel offers something called youth insurance. In it, you register the car and the driver with the company, and they give you an hourly (or maybe daily) rate. When the driver is going to take the car, you call in and activate the insurance. Once he is finished with it, you call in and deactivate it. Since insurance for teens is so expensive here, this allows us to minimize the cost. With Chaya getting ready to take the driving test as well (it is a much longer process for her to get her license, with a requirement for nearly 30 private lessons with a driving instructor), this will come in very handy. Hopefully, having a couple of drivers who can run the occasional errand or carpool will be beneficial. We just hope that the process will be as easy in practice as it was in planning. We confirmed some of it at the Customs Authority this week. We originally went to their office to get a permit to buy a refrigerator with aliyah tax credits. However, even though we were told that we had four years to use the refrigerator purchase rights, it turned out that it is only available for three years. So we will pay a few hundred shekels more than we originally planned to. What can you do? O

Shmuel Katz works at Machon Puah, a non-profit fertility organization that provides, worldwide, free halachic and medical counseling, independent supervision of fertility treatments, and educational programming. Shmuel, his wife Goldie, and their six children made aliyah in July of 2006. Prior to his aliyah, Shmuel was the executive director of the Yeshiva of South Shore in Hewlett. You can contact him at [email protected].

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28 May 28, 2010 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES May 28, 2010 29 oil, a wick, and a vessel containing them flashes of ecstatic spiritual experience, but, so that the oil is fed through the wick to lacking oil of genuine Divine substance, a burning flame. these quickly die out and fail to introduce Oil and wick are both combustible any enduring light into the world. substances. But neither could produce To realize its role as a “lamp of G-d,” a light on its own with the efficiency and human life must be a lamp that combines stability of the lamp. The wick, if ignited, a physical existence (the “wick”) with the would flare briefly and die, utterly con- Divine ideas and deeds of Torah (the “oil”). sumed. As for the oil, one would find it When the wick is saturated with oil and From The Chassidic Masters extremely difficult to ignite at all. But feeds its spiritual yearnings with a steady when wick and oil are brought together supply of the same, the resultant flame is in the lamp, they produce a controlled both luminous and sustainable, preserv- Rush And Return and steady light. ing the existence and productivity of the The soul of man is a lamp of G-d whose wick and illuminating the corner of the The Anatomy Of A Flame The Flame: Antipodal Strivings purpose in life is to illuminate the world world in which it has been placed. Though it occupies only three verses in The flame surges upwards, as if to tear with Divine light. G-d provided us with the beginning of parashah, the mitzvah of free from the wick and lose itself in the the “fuel” that generates His light—the Hues Of Light lighting the Menorah gives the whole of great expanses of energy that gird the heav- Torah and its mitzvos, which embody His The flame itself is a multicolored affair, Beha‘alosecha (“When you raise light”) its ens. But even as it strains heavenward, it is wisdom and will and convey His lumi- alluding to the many levels on which name. The lamps of the Menorah are seen already pulling back, tightening its grip on nous truth. man relates to the Creator through his as representing the souls of Israel, and the wick and drinking thirstily of the oil in The Divine oil requires a “wick”—a observance of the mitzvos. Generally the various laws governing the Menorah’s the lamp—oil that sustains its continued physical body—to channel its substance speaking, there is the lower and darker construction and the lighting of its lamps existence as an individual flame. And it is and convert it into an illuminating flame. area of the flame which adjoins the wick, are explained by the Chassidic masters as this tension of conflicting energies, this The Torah is the Divine wisdom; but for and its upper and brighter part. instructive of the nature and structure of vacillation from being to dissolution and Divine wisdom to be manifest in our The darker segment of the flame repre- the People of Israel, the manner in which back again, that produces light. world, there must be physical minds that sents those aspects of a person’s service of the potential of the soul of man is to be The soul, too, yearns for transcen- study it and comprehend it, physical G-d which are colored by their association ignited, the duties of the “lamplighter,” dence, yearns to tear free of the entangle- mouths that debate it and teach it, and with the physicality of the “wick”—that is, and numerous other insights into the ments of material life and achieve a self- physical media that publish it and dissem- mitzvos which are motivated by self-inter- spiritual art of lamplighting. nullifying reunion with its Creator and inate it. The mitzvos are the Divine will; but est. The higher and purer part of the flame The foundation of the Menorah–soul Source. At the same time, however, it is for the Divine will to be manifest in our represents a person’s moments of self-tran- equation is Shlomo haMelech’s declara- also driven by a will to be—a will to live world, there must be physical hands that scendence, deeds which a person does—as tion in Mishlei: “A lamp of G-d, the soul of a physical life and make its mark upon a actualize it and physical materials (animal Rambam writes—“not for any reason in man.” The founder of Chabad Chassidism, physical world. In the “lamp of G-d” that hide for tefillin, wool for tzitzis, money for the world: not out of fear of evil or out of Rabbi Schneur Zalman of Liadi, delves is man, these polar drives converge in a charity) with which it is actualized. a desire to obtain the good; rather, he does into this metaphor, finding in the compo- flame that illuminates its surroundings And just as the Divine oil cannot pro- the truth because it is true.” nents of the physical lamp a detailed with a G-dly light. duce light without a material wick, neither Both these aspects of a person’s life are anatomy of the human soul. The follow- can a wick without oil. A life without Torah reflected in his relationship with G-d. The ing is based on Rabbi Schneur Zalman’s The Ingredients and mitzvos, however aflame with the mitzvos come not only to bind his altruis- analysis and subsequent discourses How is a flame generated and sus- desire to come close to G-d, is incapable of penned by the later rebbes of Chabad. tained? By means of a lamp, consisting of sustaining its flame. It might generate Continued on Page 32

30 May 28, 2010 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES What’s In Fashion With Food

Food is such a fascinating dren with gluten allergies. a palate cleanser and works well thing. It is constantly evolving Exotic citrus. Food manufactur- to add a sharp, clean flavor that is and being reinvented, with new ers have been searching for exotic not overpowering. variations and combinations citrus fruits to infuse in products, Pickled foods. Everyone is emerging all the time. Food from juices and cooking sauces to familiar with the classic pickled trends are always on the rise, candy and ice cream. Fruits such cucumbers, olives, and even pick- to Asian ingredients such as gin- years. However, the smoking with new twists on the classics as blood oranges, kaffir limes (or led tomatoes or onions. Farmers ger. Pickling is a great tool used technique is spreading to other as well as innovative ways to Thai limes), pummelos (a cross used to pickle their own prod- in virtually every culture to products, too. Adding a smoky create new and unusual edibles. between a grapefruit and a navel ucts and put them on the mar- develop really strong flavors. taste really intensifies the natural All these fads make food even orange), and hybrids of the regu- ket. These days they are coming Smoked fish. The classic flavors of fish. It adds a whole more exciting and fun to eat. lar citrus fruits are among the up with new foods to pickle, smoked white fish and salmon Let’s take a look at some of the popular varieties. Citrus serves as from green beans and zucchini have been brunch staples for Continued on Page 47 most recent food trends. Organic and dark chocolate. Chocolate is one of the most popular and indulgent sweets around. Health nuts with a sweet tooth look for low-fat, healthy alternatives to decadent desserts. People want treats that are good for them, so that when they do indulge they feel better about it. Although chocolate can be heavy and rich, organic versions and dark chocolates can make you feel good about being bad. Dark chocolate that has a high cacao percentage is loaded with healthy antioxidants. The organic alternatives, such as organic chocolate syrup, are similar in taste to the regular version yet contain all-natural ingredients. Since many of us want to eat chocolate anyway, it’s worthwhile to find the type that will add to our health rather than take from it. Coconut. Coconut flavors have taken off in the last year, mostly because manufacturers have figured out a way to keep the fruit pure and natural while preserving its taste. Coconut water, milk, ice cream, and yogurt have become some of the most popular products on the market. Even people who are not a fan of the texture and taste of shredded coconut products can enjoy coconut-flavored foods. Coconut milk adds creaminess and depth of flavor to many dishes and can be used as a healthier alternative to heavy cream in soups or added to cooking liquid when making rice. Coconut water is growing in pop- ularity as an alternative for car- bonated beverages that is more substantial than flavored waters. Gluten-free products. Products without gluten are not only for those dealing with sensitive wheat allergies. Many people find that they feel better when they abstain from eating wheat products. Gluten in pasta serves as a glue to hold the dough together. While it used to be very difficult to make pasta without gluten, many companies have emerged with gluten- free products. This makes life much easier for parents of chil- 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES May 28, 2010 31 CHASSIDIC MASTERS Continued from Page 30 tic “G-dly soul” to the Al-mighty, but also to involve his ego-domi- nated “animal soul” in the fulfillment of the Divine will. This is achieved when a person understands that he should “love the L-rd your G-d…for He is your life” (Devarim 30:20). By recognizing that G-d is the source and sus- tainer of his very being, the very same ego which earlier craved the most material of pleasures is now drawn to attach itself to the Al-mighty, out of the realization that there is no possible greater fulfillment of self.

Rush And Return Thus the “wick” is both prison and liberator for the flame, both tether and lifeline. It holds the soul in its distinctiveness from the Divine whole, in its apartness from its Creator. And yet it is this distinctiveness and apartness, this incarnation in a physical life, which allows us to connect to G-d in the deep- est and most meaningful way— by fulfilling His will. So when Divine command, physical body, and human life come together as oil, wick, and lamp, the result is a flame: a relationship with G-d that is charac- terized by two conflicting drives, by a yearning to come close cou- pled with a commitment to draw back. The materiality of life evokes in the soul a desire to tear free of it and fuse with the Divine. But the closer the soul is drawn to G-d, all the more does it recognize that it can fulfill His will only as a distinct and physical being. So while the corporeality of the wick triggers the flame’s upward surge, the Divine will implicit in the oil sustains its commitment to existence and life. Every mitzvah is oil for the soul: with every act that consti- tutes a fulfillment of the Divine will, our lives are rendered into burning lamps, alight with flames that vacillate from heaven to earth and back again and illuminate the world in the process. Therein lies the specialty of the mitzvah of kindling the lamps of the Menorah in the Holy Temple. Every mitzvah generates light—whether it involves giving a coin to charity, binding tefillin on our arms and heads, or eating matzah on Passover. But this mitzvah (and the related mitzvos of kindling the Shabbos and Chanukah lights) not only trans- form us into metaphorical lamps, but also assume the actual form of a physical lamp—physical oil, a physical wick, and a physical flame that produces light. O

Based on the writings of Rabbi Schneur Zalman of Liadi (1745–1812), Rabbi DovBer of Lubavitch (1773–1827), and the Lubavitcher Rebbe; adaptation by Yanki Tauber. Reprinted with permission from Chabad.org. Find Torah articles for the entire family at www.chabad.org/Parshah. 32 May 28, 2010 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES

The panel addressed a continued need for and Pharmaceutical Safety. The Touro- be awarded such a grant. education about HIV/AIDS prevention, Harlem Medical Library has been award- The Touro-Harlem Medical Library, Touro Ranks especially among teenagers and young ed a competitive $30,000 grant to create a which opened in September 2007, pro- adults. The discussion also stressed the health literacy program for underserved vides information and resources in the importance of neighborhood pharmacies populations. Funding for the new pro- areas of basic science, bio-medicine, health, In Top Ten in providing a confidential environment gram, “HealthStart!,” will be provided by pharmacy, and public health to support the for people to ask questions about preven- the National Library of Medicine, curriculum and research goals of the Touro tion, as well as treatment and care National Institutes of Health, and the College of Osteopathic Medicine, the Touro University Top Ten in Producing options available. Department of Health and Human Touro College of Pharmacy, and Touro’s Primary Care Providers. The U.S. News Touro-Harlem Medical Library Services. The library is one of only two and World Report national ranking of Awarded Grant to Teach Health Literacy institutions in the mid-Atlantic region to Continued on Page 34 medical schools placed Touro University’s College of Osteopathic Medicine tenth in the nation for percentage of medical students who are going into primary care residencies. The prestigious national rankings determined that, after averaging graduat- ing classes of 2007, 2008, and 2009, 56 percent of Touro University’s College of Osteopathic Medicine graduates were accepted into primary care residencies. The high percentage produced by Touro University counters the national trend, which indicates that the majority of medical students are choosing specialty care residencies. The decline in medical students choosing a primary care career is posing a serious crisis for the health care system. The need for primary health care providers will be further exac- erbated as the nation transitions into a more inclusive health care system cou- pled with the dramatic rise in aging “baby boomers.” A survey of medical students conducted in 2008 by a professor at the University of California at San Francisco showed that only two percent of medical students planned to go into primary care. In a similar survey conducted in 1990 showed that nine percent were going into primary care. Dean of Touro’s College of Osteopathic Medicine Michael Clearfield, DO, said he was proud that from its inception Touro University College of Osteopathic Medicine has consistently outperformed the national average in producing high quality primary care providers. Provost and chief operating officer Marilyn Hopkins added that Touro University’s emphasis on primary care providers was a reflection of the university’s commitment to public service. “Touro’s mission is anchored in service to humanity,” said Dr. Hopkins. “Our focus on producing substantial numbers of graduates who choose to dedicate themselves to family practice and other primary care specialties is a service to the nation.” Touro College Of Pharmacy Presents Panel Discussion, “A Community Conversation On HIV/AIDS.” Residents of Harlem attended this panel discussion at the Touro College of Pharmacy on May 6.

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES May 28, 2010 33 Touro News of the Children’s Health Education engage the students and further advance Dr. Lehrer, associate dean and chair, Continued from Page 33 Foundation at Touro College, which has the progress we’ve made to date.” graduate studies in education and spe- experience in bringing real-life, interac- Touro Leaders Honored by Association cial education, received the “Educational master of science degree program. tive lessons, and demonstrations into of Orthodox Jewish Teachers. The Alliance Award” for his dedication to “Given that the College of Pharmacy schools to encourage students to lead Association of Orthodox Jewish Teachers education in the Jewish community, and the library are so new, we are very healthy lifestyles. (AOJT) of the New York City Public from AOJT Presidium Member Mr. proud to receive such a prestigious “The goal is to create a program that Schools honored two Touro College lead- Herbert Lowenstein. Dr. Lehrer’s career award,” said Shelly Warwick, Ph.D., direc- can be used in other Harlem schools, and ers, Dr. Anthony Polemeni and Dr. Ronald in education spans almost 40 years, and tor of the Touro-Harlem Medical Library. eventually throughout the entire coun- Lehrer, for their exceptional contribu- he has been an administrator of educa- “HealthStart!” will teach health literacy try,” said Stuart Feldman, Ph.D., dean of tions to education and the Jewish com- tion programs at Touro College for 12 and pharmaceutical safety to Harlem stu- the Touro College of Pharmacy, adding munity at its 40th Annual Luncheon on years. Dr. Lehrer advocated successfully dents, grades pre-K-2, as well as their par- that in addition to classroom instruction, Sunday, April 25 at the Renaissance Hotel for a separate women’s program Touro ents and teachers, using various learning students will be brought to the Touro- in Brooklyn. opened at its Brooklyn campus. tools including video, school lesson Harlem Medical Library and the Touro Dr. Polemeni, vice president of Touro’s Professor Rhonda Lehrer, chair of plans, hands-on interactive sessions, and College of Pharmacy for interactive group Division of Graduate Studies, received women’s division, runs the graduate of community outreach. The program is learning sessions. the “Higher Education Distinguished education and special education pro- scheduled to launch at P.S. 197 in Harlem Community outreach events will be Leadership Award” for his distinguished gram for women only. The program in the fall with an animated video and held at P.S. 197 and other local organiza- leadership, innovative programs, and caters to Orthodox women, as well as support materials designed for early and tions to inform parents about the pro- professional support to the Touro staff women from various religious, racial, pre-readers. gram and give them the opportunity to and its students. The award was present- and ethnic backgrounds. The video will be developed by seven- improve their own health literacy. An e- ed by AOJT Presidium Member, Mr. Other honorees at the 40th annual time Emmy award winner Ian Ellis mail support service, staffed by librarians Nechemia A. Oberstein. AOJT luncheon were: Arlene Rosenstock James, who created the Hip Hop Stroke and Touro College of Pharmacy faculty, Dr. Polemeni has been a leader in the (special education administrator of the video for The National Stroke will be established for parents to ask field of education for nearly four decades. year); Wendy Goldberg (Queens elemen- Association and Harlem Hospital. questions about pharmaceutical safety. In his current role as vice president of the tary school principal of the year, P.S. Among other messages, the video will Craig Kovera, Ph.D., associate profes- division of graduate studies at Touro, he 214Q); Mary Bosco (Brooklyn elementary instruct students to be proactive and ask sor at the Touro College of Pharmacy, oversees seven graduate schools includ- school principal of the year, P.S. 207K); questions about medicines they receive and co-project manager of the grant, ing education, psychology, Jewish stud- David Turk (teacher of the year, James and tell their parent or guardian about said, “This is a great program because it ies, social work, health sciences, and busi- Madison High School); and David Adler symptoms they experience. involves teachers, students, parents, ness, and technology. Under his leader- (author of the year.) Going forward, the intent is to expand Touro College faculty, pharmacists, and ship, the Graduate School of Education Founded in 1963, the AOJT promotes the project to focus on successive age the entire community.” has grown to be the second largest in the welfare of the Orthodox Jewish per- groups, up through high school seniors. “Our outreach to students through New York State. sonnel employed by the New York City Age-appropriate videos and other materi- ‘Project Aspire’ over the years has ener- “I am humbled by this honor, because School system; provides a forum for the al will be created to capture, in style and gized young students and their families I truly love what I do. I believe that stu- exchange of cultural, social, and profes- content, the attention and interest of to explore healthy lifestyles through exer- dents are our customers, and I have sur- sional affairs of the Association of each group. cise and nutrition,” added Nicholas Aiello, rounded myself with dedicated, accom- Orthodox Jewish Teachers; and promotes “HealthStart!” is being developed by Ph.D., education director of Touro’s plished, and caring faculty so that we all an atmosphere of religious and racial the Touro-Harlem Medical Library, the Children’s Health Education Foundation. can ensure they receive the best that edu- understanding among all teachers and Touro College of Pharmacy, and Touro’s “This grant will allow us to create addi- cation has to offer,” said Dr. Polemeni. “I their students regardless of race, religion, “Project Aspire,” a public health initiative tional educational materials that truly extend a heartfelt thank you to the AOJT.” or natural origin. O

34 May 28, 2010 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5TJT Puzzle Page: The Jewish Works Of John Steinbeck

BY YONI GLATT

Across 46. Female, in slang 1. Trial 47. Monetary unit in India, Pakistan, and 5. Rain delay item Nepal 9. Mashed potatoes might have them 51. Steinbeck novella about Chanukah? 14. Some comp. keys 56. Messed up 15. Laptop brand 57. Volatile currency 16. Kindle purchase 58. Paddles 17. Turn (through) 60. Kind of passage 18. Gambling game 61. Day before 19. Domineering 62. Tumble 20. With “The,” Steinbeck novel about 63. Growing outward the Sar HaMashkim's dream? 64. Cowboy, to some 23. Where to find the 10 65. Fine Commandments 24. On a winning streak Down 25. Usually 1. Dew prayer 27. Dangerous weapon? 2. Sad poem 28. Treif meat 3. “___ Wars Episode ___: The Phantom Solution to appear in next issue. 31. Steinbeck novel about the later years Menace” of Adam and Chava? 4. Holy city 27. Pasta choice 44. Shabbos need 36. Israeli sandal brand 5. Leave 28. Yoni Netanyahu, e.g. 46. Like Fitzgerald’s most famous 37. “Good ___!” 6. Splitting them can be beneficial 29. Swear character 38. ____chuck 7. Place to do the clue above 30. “The Insider” director 48. “______Extremes,” Billy Joel 39. The legitimate all-time home run 8. Univ. title 31. The bane of many men 49. Scary fish leader 9. The most wanted man in sports? 32. Jason’s boat 50. Skylight areas 40. Fiona of animation, e.g. 10. WWII submarine 33. Anthony Hopkins and Isaac Newton 51. Kind of flake 41. With “The,” Steinbeck novella about 11. Much 34. Golf peg 52. Bear of the stars not being able to say Kiddush 12. Kind of Spice? 35. Lanzbom and Solomon, e.g. 53. Water, for one Lavana? 13. The real big blue 36. Little 54. Hindu leader 43. Help letters 21. Conviction need 39. South American palm 55. Pure___ 44. Ram or Jaguar 22. ___ in Rome 41. West African country 56. Ashdod to Tiveria dir. 45. 911 responders 26. Voice level 42. Get better 59. Eli Cohen was one

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES May 28, 2010 35 very fond of both of them, and it kills me much of my time and energy trying to fix that they should have such awful feelings the whole mess? My husband kids me toward one another. and tells me that by now I’m qualified to More serious is the fact that my mother work at the UN. But seriously, I find that and my husband are not what you would it wears me out. I’m always worried about call the greatest of friends. For as long as one pair or another, trying to negotiate I’ve been married, my mother likes to tell some kind of truce. Not that I’m ever par- me what she doesn’t like or approve of in ticularly successful with my efforts, but Dear Esther, tim and what I might say to finally help my husband. And my husband is no less it’s still the story of my life. I guess I’m a slow learner, but lately I’ve them both see the light. I guess it’s fairly shy in telling me how inappropriate and What’s going on here? been able to see a crystal-clear pattern in obvious that I haven’t found those per- controlling my mother is. Sometimes, Malcolm in the Middle my life, and it is really disturbing me and fect words to create a friendship between when the three of us are together, I feel Dear Malcolm, becoming a source of much unhappiness. the two of them. like the inside of an Oreo cookie—getting You sound like an amazingly caring As I tell my stories, I’m sure you’ll see Then there are two of my closest squeezed from both sides. It’s a terrible individual, someone who isn’t afraid to the pattern very quickly. Right now, my friends, who really can’t stand one anoth- feeling, and I have nowhere to hide. get involved, while risking your own three children are all grown. My daughter er. It becomes a problem during certain I can go on and on, dating back to comfort level, in an attempt to bring and one of my sons do not get along. events, but I guess they’ve both managed childhood when I was always the peace- peace to the world. Or at least to your They live in the same neighborhood, immediate world. Considering that so which I think makes matters even worse, many people don’t want to get involved because they are often thrown into situa- when others are in pain, it’s refreshing to tions together and it can become really Determine if it’s possible to still know that there are people, like you, who ugly. Growing up, they didn’t have a lot in are willing to take that chance and insert common, and they managed to marry themselves between conflicting parties spouses who made matters even worse. believe in yourself even if you in an attempt to resolve contention. I But I’m writing about my part in all of have no doubt that you believe your this. I am always caught in the middle of allowed others to handle their intentions are pure and honorable. You their strife, trying to play peacemaker truly want to see everyone you care about between these two children of mine. I’m able to get along. Who can argue with always trying to get them to be more tol- conflicts in their own way. such sincere intentions? erant of one another and less sensitive to But when behavior that starts out as the other one’s comments. I go back and caring begins taking on a life of its own, forth until I’m dizzy. My husband, on the one might want to ask themselves other hand, doesn’t bother. He is of the to accept the fact that they will never maker between my two sisters. I seem to whether, as you say, there is a pattern belief that they will work things out. Or have anything to do with one another. be able to get along with everyone, but emerging, and what that pattern might be maybe they won’t. But he doesn’t take it Somehow, I can’t seem to accept this fact. somehow keep finding myself in the cen- saying about the individual’s motives and upon himself to fix their relationship. I I’m always trying to convince each of ter of battles, always wanting to bring ability to accept reality. wish I could have his laissez-faire atti- them that the other isn’t so bad. If one of both sides together in harmony. In other words, though I believe your tude, but it’s just impossible for me. them does something that I consider to Is it just my bad luck that this always motivation is to be a peacemaker, it is When they are “at it”—which is be particularly kind, I will always tell the happens to me? Or is there something possible that attempting to create concil- often—I find that I can’t even sleep at other all about it, as if I’m trying to sell wrong with me that I’m always winding night, worrying about who was the vic- them a used car or something. I am just up in the middle of conflict, using so Continued on Page 45

36 May 28, 2010 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES May 28, 2010 37 also part of the medical team. Actually, one time or another been plagued with the list, while not exactly endless, is a some of these conditions and were told long one. to drop a few pounds. But the mystery But there is one thing that all doctors has been solved. I figured it out. have in common that isn’t necessarily A doctor is in fact a person, just like the shared with the other members of the rest of us. He just happens to wear a team. And that common thread, without white coat. He may like to socialize, and question, and regardless of a patient’s may even occasionally be in the mood to complaint, is the doctor’s one sure-fire schmooze with the poor schnook who The Hippocratic Oath remedy: lose weight. If a patient has car- finds his or her way into the examining diac problems, painful hips, digestive- room. And, as a physician, he can say Because it might seem otherwise, I feel Each specialty has its own rewards, system issues, or sore feet, it’s easy to whatever is on his mind. These guys can the need to offer a disclaimer of sorts: I do and most undoubtedly have some down- understand that a physician would get away with murder. hereby state that I have nothing against sides. Not being a member of the medical make such a recommendation. But it If a non-physician decided to tell his doctors. How could I? Some of my best profession, I can’t claim to know all of the appears that regardless of the patient’s friends or relatives to knock off weight, friends are doctors. Some of my relatives nuances related to the field. I studied symptoms, it’s always okay to suggest he wouldn’t have a friend left in the are doctors. And, like everyone else, I rec- nursing for several years and received my weight loss. world. Nor would he be welcome at fam- ognize that doctors are a necessary evil. degree, but that hardly qualifies me as an A buildup of wax in the ear? Lose ily get-togethers. But doctors are a breed (Forgive the unfortunate use of that last apart. If an M.D. says “Lose weight,” the word.) But it occurs to me that in some patient may assume that the advice is instances the Hippocratic oath may have related to his condition; but, clearly, more to do with hips than with based on some of the examples above, Hippocrates. This may be true particular- Regardless of a patient’s that’s not always the case. They can, with ly when a patient has large hips. impunity, say that to anyone at any time. In times of pain or illness, we all need They simply hide behind their medical doctors. Although no one will ever con- complaint, the doctor’s one degree. What a racket. vince me that every physician is a great Some mysteries continue to abound, humanitarian, most are kind and compas- sure-fire remedy: lose weight. however. So, while I have resolved the sionate. Hopefully they are also highly aforementioned conundrum, there is yet intelligent people, although I haven’t another that has arisen. And that is, exact- always found that to be the case. Doctors ly what does a physician say when a put in countless hours, over many long patient with a respiratory condition, an years, in order to get that “M.D.” at the expert in the field of medicine. While weight! A sprained wrist? Lose weight! arthritic knee, or a back problem happens end of their names. Pre-med courses, doctors and nurses are both part of the An unsightly cold sore? Lose weight! to be thin? I happen not to fall into the medical school, internship, and residency medical team, they are, nevertheless, two Kidney stones? Lose weight! What excess thin category, but surely there are plenty are all part and parcel of what they have entirely separate entities. The team is pounds have to do with any of the above of folks out there who do. If a patient has to endure. To be sure, it’s a grueling sched- large and encompasses a variety of fields. conditions is a mystery to me. But some a medical condition, especially one nor- ule that these fine folks put up with, and The nurse practitioner, the physician’s physicians feel perfectly comfortable rec- mally associated with excess weight, and the well-publicized lack of sleep must assistant, the radiology technician, the ommending weight loss in those yet has not a single extra pound of adi- indeed be tough. But somehow they get blood technician (also known as a phle- instances. I know this to be true thanks to through it. botomist), and the physical therapist are the testimonials of friends who have at Continued on Page 45

38 May 28, 2010 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES Leumi, Bank Hapoalim, El Al Airlines, the bers of the Human Rights Coalition Tens Of Thousands Mark B’nai Zion Foundation and the 92nd Against Radical Islam (HRCARI), a nascent Street YM-YWHA. organization representing Jews, The parade was not without a polemi- Christians, Hindus, Sikhs, and ex-Muslims Israel’s 62nd Anniversary cal element, as opponents of the Jewish whose objective is to graphically depict state gathered along the parade route the heinous atrocities committed by radi- BY FERN SIDMAN Schools for Boys and Girls, HAFTR–Hebrew between 58th and 59th Streets to voice cal Islamists against all “infidels.” Andrew Academy of Far Rockaway and the Five their animus toward Israel. Members of Upton, a founding member of HRCARI, The fashionable Fifth Avenue in Towns, Hebrew Academy of Long Beach, the vociferously anti-Israel Chassidic sect said, “We are here today to remind all Manhattan morphed into a virtual sea of Ma’ayanot Yeshiva High School for Girls, known as Neturei Karta carried Americans that Israel is on the front lines blue and white on Sunday afternoon, May North Shore Hebrew Academy High Palestinian flags and shouted epithets in the struggle against radical Islam. If we 23, as thousands marched down the famed School, Ramaz School, Temple Israel of against the Zionist movement while strengthen Israel, we thereby strengthen thoroughfare in a passionate display of Great Neck, Republican Jewish Coalition, holding signs saying, “Authentic rabbis all of humanity, as radical Islam repre- support for the State of Israel on her 62nd RAJE–Russian American Jewish oppose the creation of Israel.” They were sents the greatest threat to our freedoms birthday. The flag of Israel was a ubiqui- Experience, and Jewish War Veterans, joined by members of the ANSWER since Nazism prior to World War II.” tous sight, as marchers representing syna- among many others. Coalition, a left-wing pro-Palestinian con- “Haven’t we learned from history that gogues, schools, and Jewish organizations Float sponsors included the American glomerate that lambastes Israel as a we can’t appease terrorists?” intoned from around the tri-state area held aloft Friends of Magen David Adom, the “racist, apartheid state.” Coretta James, an African American this indefatigable symbol of Jewish state- America-Israel Friendship League, Bank Directly across the street stood mem- woman and fervent supporter of Israel. “I hood with pride while hoisting decorative am here today to say as a black woman, banners and signs calling for a united that our president is a blatant anti-Semite Jerusalem. Scores of spectators from all who should be ashamed of himself for over the country lined the parade route his wayward policies concerning Israel. and joyfully cheered on the marchers as The Jewish nation cannot be coerced into they raised their collective voices in trib- making a so-called peace with an enemy ute to the glorious legacy of Israel. who has sworn her destruction such as For over 20 blocks, Hebrew songs the Palestinian leadership,” she added. blared through loudspeakers on the As the parade reached its conclusion, abundance of floats representing organi- marchers and spectators headed towards zations and businesses supporting Israel the “Summerstage” in Central Park for the as marching bands, dance troupes, and 17th annual Concert in the Park for Israel. choral societies provided their own Headlining this year’s musical tribute to unique backdrop to the day’s festivities. Israel were renowned singers Eitan Katz, Throngs of ebullient students proudly Gershon Veroba, Dr. Meyer and Baruch chanted “Am Yisroel Chai” as they paid Abittan, Jerry Markowitz, Izzy Kieffer, homage to the rich heritage, ancestry, and Michael Ian Elias, and Elad Snir, accompa- history of the Jewish homeland. nied by Israeli pianist extraordinaire Some schools and groups participating Shlomi Aharoni and such groups as Pey in the 2010 Salute to Israel parade included Dalid and the Maccabeats (a Yeshiva Shulamith High School for Girls, Yeshiva of Central Queens, Yeshiva University High Celebrating Israel at the 17th annual Concert in the Park. Continued on Page 45

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES May 28, 2010 39 Agudath Israel News And Events

Mission To Albany. A delegation of Colton, Steven Cymbrowitz, Rhoda some 20 prominent yeshiva representa- Jacobs, Charles Lavine, Alan Maisel, tives and advocates organized and led Audrey Pheffer, Helene Weinstein, David by Agudath Israel of America spent Weprin, and Mrs. Judy Rapfogel, chief of Tuesday, May 11, in Albany, meeting staff to Speaker Silver. with high-ranking government officials Assemblyman Dov Hikind gave an in an effort to forestall proposed budg- impassioned appeal to the Speaker and et cuts that could have a disastrous his colleagues to restore the CAP and impact on the yeshiva community thanked the speaker for all of his help on across New York State. Assemblyman various issues affecting the community. Dov Hikind played a large role in assist- Rabbi Gedaliah Weinberger, chair- ing Agudah leaders in organizing the man of the board of Agudath Israel, day’s important meetings. asked the Assembly leaders for fairness Earlier this year, New York Governor and equality in reference to the CAP and David Paterson’s proposed budget other pending legislative issues and included an allocation of $30 million to explained the pain and difficulties

Meeting with the governor.

reimburse nonpublic schools for their yeshiva administrators and parents are expenses in complying with the state’s experiencing. Comprehensive Attendance Program Speaker Silver and the assembled lead- (CAP). A few weeks ago, though, with the ers spoke of their commitment to prostate’s budgetary woes more provide the necessary pressure to keep yeshi- nounced than ever, Governor Paterson va funding as robust as the budget allows. amended his budget proposal, cutting Rabbi Mordechai Biser, legal counsel for the CAP allocation by 50 percent to $15 Agudath Israel, and Mrs. Deborah Zachai, million. As yeshivos in New York receive Agudath Israel’s director of education more than a quarter of the state’s total affairs, raised other issues of concern to CAP allocation, the proposed $15 million our community. Assembly member cut would have translated into a loss of Helene Weinstein then presented the approximately $4 million for yeshivos transportation bill she is co-sponsoring across the state. with Assemblyman Dov Hikind to reim- “The new proposed cuts in the CAP burse parents whose children are dis- program are simply unacceptable,” said missed after 5:00 p.m. Rabbi Shmuel Lefkowitz, Agudath Israel’s From Mr. Hikind’s office, the delega- vice president for community affairs. tion proceeded to the Senate side of the “They are devastating in their own right. Capitol, where its members met with What’s worse, it seems as if the nonpub- Democrats Carl Kruger, Eric lic schools are being singled out for this Schneiderman, Diane Savino, as well as type of cutback. There is nothing similar Senators Eric Adams, Ruth Hassell- being proposed with regard to public Thompson, Craig Johnson, Daniel school funding.” Squadron, Toby Stavisky, and Antoine For this reason, the Agudath Israel Thompson, and Senate President leader organized a major delegation of Malcolm Smith. yeshiva principals and askanim to make a Leon Goldenberg, a well-known com- personal pitch to lawmakers in Albany to munity activist, spoke of the difficulties restore the proposed CAP cuts. yeshiva administrators are having in pay- The group started the day with ing their teachers and meeting their Assemblyman Dov Hikind in whose financial obligations. He was followed by office the participants gathered and met Mrs. Rivka Abrams, representing Yeshiva with Assembly Speaker Sheldon Silver, as Darchei Torah, who expressed her disap- well as Assembly members: Peter Abbate, pointment that once again yeshiva fund- Jim Brennan, Richard Brodsky, William ing is being cut. 40 May 28, 2010 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES The meeting yielded pledges by the legislators that they would do all in their power to restore the monies that had been cut from the CAP budgetary allocation. Senator Kruger expressed his strong support to the delegation, and was followed by Diane Savino, Eric Adams, and Eric Schneiderman. The delegation thanked Senator Schneiderman and his staff for organizing the meeting with the Senators. A day earlier, a smaller Agudath Israel delegation met with Democratic Conference Leader John Sampson, Assemblyman Dov Hikind, and Sampson’s chief of staff, Michael Cohen, at Senator Sampson’s request. The senator, in advance of the following day’s mission, wanted to convey his personal commitment to protect against the proposed cuts and restore the full funding of CAP. The delegates then went to the other side of the aisle where they consulted with Senate Minority Leader Dean Skelos and Brooklyn Senator Martin Golden. At that meeting Rabbi Mordechai Kamenetsky of Yeshiva of South Shore, a longtime friend of Senator Skelos, requested that the Republican conference hold strong and resist any cuts to the CAP. The delegates then met with Governor David Paterson and his senior staff, and discussed the issue directly with him. Assemblyman Dov Hikind, a long time friend of the Governor, opened the meeting, requesting that the Governor reconsider his drastic planned cut. Agudah askan Chaskel Bennett, speaking as a parent, passionately addressed the “difficulties parents were having in meeting their tuition obligations” and implored the Governor to “consider the great hardships parents are going through.” While the Governor—who is known as a friend of the nonpublic-school community—did not commit to rescind- ing the proposed CAP budget cuts, he said he would revisit the issue and hoped that he would find a way to maintain the higher funding level he had initially proposed. “It was essential that we traveled to Albany to deliver our message personally,” said Rabbi Lefkowitz. “It’s a lot harder for our elected officials to ignore our legitimate claim when we present it to them face-to-face. “What was particularly impressive about the delegation was its breadth. This was not just one yeshiva making a pitch; it was representative of the entire yeshiva community.” Rabbi Lefkowitz then thanked Assemblyman Dov Hikind and

Continued on Page 42 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES May 28, 2010 41 Agudah News And Events walls—was set up with tables and chairs; [email protected]. ner at the law firm of Ginsparg, Bolton & Continued from Page 41 the large glass window that comprised The program even ended right on time, Associates, Ltd.; and Yehuda Kupfer, Esq., the room’s exterior wall opened up on a after 55 minutes. After bentching and dav- staff counsel at Agudath Israel of his chief of staff Marc Kronenberg for panoramic view of the Staten Island ening Minchah, the crowd filed out, hap- America’s national headquarters in New helping organize the mission. Ferry terminal, Governor’s Island, and pily filled with food and, more important, York. Well-known Agudah askan Moshe The yeshivos represented in the delega- Upper New York Bay. food for thought. Davis chaired the event. tion included: Bais Yaakov of Pomona, But attention was quickly turned in Impressive Turnout at Agudath Israel Mr. Kupfer addressed the rules regard- Bais Yaakov of Queens, Belz, Bobover the opposite direction, toward the speak- Legal Seminar in Chicago. Close to 100 ing charitable contributions, relevant Yeshiva Bnei Zion, Yeshiva Darchei Torah, er, who, in his inimitable style, regaled attendees, representing more than 50 dif- topics in criminal law, regulatory/licens- Manhattan Beach Day School, Masores those present with stories, thoughts, and ferent institutions, filled the ing requirements for certain financial Bais Yaakov, Satmar Monroe, Skver, UTA ideas pertinent to his topic: “Seven Congregation Adas Yeshurun in Chicago activities, required corporate formalities, Monroe, Yeshiva Chofetz Chaim, Yeshiva Spiritual Steps to Financial Health.” on Tuesday, May 11 for a workshop dedi- and bookkeeping for non-profits. Gedolah of Peekskill, Yeshiva of South Thorough as always, Rabbi Krohn not cated to legal issues pertaining to Participants voiced appreciation for Shore, and Yeshiva Torah Vodaath. only ended by reviewing the material he Orthodox schools, synagogues, and chari- what one called his “informative presen- Downtown Manhattan “Torah Bites” had covered but made available to all table organizations. tation” and “clear explanations of com- Program Inaugurates Impressive New present a handsomely printed flyer After a buffet lunch, introductory plex legal topics.” Mr. Ginsparg followed Location. At Jewish gatherings, prompt- encapsulating the seven points on which remarks were delivered by Rabbi Dovid with a practical discussion of not-for- ness is an ideal often honored more in he had focused. Schnell, president of Agudath Israel of profit/tax-exempt issues and various the breach than in the observance, as any- Upward of 100 men and women— Illinois. He remarked that while such state filing requirements. The session one who has ever showed up on time to most of whom work in lower Manhattan workshops have been presented in sev- continued with Mr. Kupfer delivering a a Jewish wedding has learned. and were using their lunch breaks for eral other cities across the country, detailed explanation of parsonage and That wasn’t the case, though, this lunch and much more—were in atten- “such a seminar in Chicago was long qualified tuition reduction programs, past Wednesday, May 12, on the 22nd dance. They represented a broad spec- overdue.” Rabbi Schnell thanked mem- two often misunderstood areas of tax floor of the impressive office building at trum of the community, with a variety of bers of the planning committee, includ- law applicable to most schools and One State Street at the tip of Manhattan. educational backgrounds. ing Agudath Israel of Illinois’s comptrol- shuls. The workshop ended with a ques- The occasion was the inaugural shiur in “The different types of Jews who join ler, Rabbi Yitzchok Ehrman, Rabbi Yosef tion and answer period, yet participants that location for “Torah Bites,” the together for these lectures,” says Rabbi Knopf, and development coordinator remained behind for nearly an entire monthly Manhattan lecture Torah-series Becker, “are a living testimonial that what and director of special events, Mrs. hour after the program officially ended organized by Agudath Israel of America’s alone truly unifies Jews is Torah.” Sarah Nisenbaum, for their help in in order to continue asking questions. Torah Projects division, now in its Rabbi Avrohom Nisan Perl, director of organizing the seminar. The recurring feedback was that the eleventh year. Agudath Israel’s Torah Projects Rabbi Zev Cohen, rav of Congregation seminar deserved even more than its four Even before the 12:50 registration Commission, concurs, adding that the Adas Yeshurun, was then introduced to hours. But attendees commented that time, attendees had lined up to register concept is particularly timely considering provide words of chizuk. “The question,” “the speakers and materials were great,” for the lunch and learning program. And that the event took place just a week said Rabbi Cohen, “is what citizens of this the information was “very well the speaker, the renowned Rabbi before Shavuos, “when we all stood ‘as country, Jews and non-Jews alike, are explained” and the subject matter “all Paysach Krohn, was introduced by one person with one heart’ at the foot of going to think of our behavior. “We very relevant.” Agudath Israel executive director Rabbi Mt. Sinai.” should be zocheh to be mekadesh shem Those in attendance went home with Labish Becker just as the clock struck Rabbi Perl adds that anyone interested Shomayim b’rabim.” a useful handout booklet, as well as a one—right on schedule. in receiving notifications of future Torah The workshop was addressed by resource CD-ROM loaded with more than The large room—a space intended for Bites shiurim, or in registering for them, Colman Ginsparg, Esq., a well known an entire office suite but without interior can call 212-797-9000 ext. 267 or e-mail non-profit attorney in Chicago and part- Continued on Page 44

42 May 28, 2010 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES May 28, 2010 43 Agudah News know where the needs are.” enacted in 1980, in a manner that is pat- sion at the Atlanta Kashruth Continued from Page 42 Members of the public interested in terned after the “public disclosure” mod- Commission. “Any store could have purchasing a recording of Tuesday’s work- els adopted in Maryland, New York, and advertised its products as kosher with- 100 MB of helpful legal, tax, and account- shop can e-mail snisenbaum@agudathis- New Jersey. out any requirement to substantiate ing topics relevant to non-profit organiza- rael-mwr.org or call 847-674-4000 ext. 307. Public disclosure requires stores sell- their claim. House Bill 1345 does not tions. Accountants in attendance also Agudath Israel Lauds Signing Of New ing unpackaged food represented as replace the need for a reliable kosher earned CPE credit, graciously arranged by Kosher Law In Georgia. Agudath Israel of kosher to inform the public as to the supervisor or agency, but it will give the accounting firm of Frost, Ruttenberg America commended Governor Sonny identity of the kosher certifier and other consumers information about the & Rothblatt, P.C. Perdue and the Georgia General Assembly relevant information regarding the stan- kosher standards being used so they can This workshop continued the expan- upon the signing into law of the Georgia dards adhered to when making such a make informed decisions.” sion of Agudath Israel of America’s broad Kosher Food Consumer Protection Act on claim. Among other things, the bill also HB 1345 was co-sponsored by a biparti- efforts to educate the Orthodox commu- Thursday. transfers oversight of the kosher law san group including State nity about the intricacies of federal and The bill had garnered unanimous from the Georgia Department of Representatives Kevin Levitas, Joe state law as they pertain to non-profits support in both the House and Senate Agriculture to the Governor’s Office of Wilkinson, Wendell Willard, Michele and for-profit corporations. Most recent- last month, “a testament,” says Agudath Consumer Affairs. Henson, and Fran Millar. The bill was ly, a similar workshop was held in Israel Ohio Regional Director Rabbi A. Though no court in Georgia deemed shepherded through the Senate by Cleveland on April 25. D. Motzen, “to the personal effort of the the state’s kosher law unconstitutional, a Senator Don Balfour. Testimony in favor There is clearly a need and a desire for bill’s sponsor, State Representative challenge was filed by local Conservative of the bill was offered by Rabbi Yechezkel this initiative to continue, observes Mike Jacobs,” who worked with Rabbi Shalom Lewis and the American Freundlich of Congregation Beth Jacob, Rabbi Yehiel Kalish, Agudath Israel’s Orthodox Jewish community leaders in Civil Liberties Union. In response to the University of Georgia law professor Hillel national director of government affairs. Georgia to promote the legislation. lawsuit, a bill was originally introduced Levin, and David Schoen, Esq. And “given the success and the positive Representative Jacobs, Rabbi Motzen in the House to repeal the kosher labeling Rabbi Ilan Feldman, of Congregation feedback we’ve been receiving from notes, “was involved in every aspect of law, but that measure was not brought to Beth Jacob and Dean of the Atlanta these events,” he says, “we look forward the bill’s drafting—and redrafting—and the floor for a vote. Kashruth Commission, had warm words to expanding this effort to other inter- garnered the necessary support for the “Had the current law simply been of praise for Agudath Israel’s efforts. ested cities across the country.” He bill’s passage.” repealed, consumers would have likely “Rabbi Motzen visited Atlanta several extended an invitation to “communities The revised Georgia statute will faced an increase in kosher fraud,” says times,” Rabbi Feldman said, “and spent interested in such a seminar” to “let us amend the existing kosher labeling law, Rabbi Reuven Stein, director of supervi- dozens of hours working on this legislation from his Cincinnati office. He used Agudath Israel’s national legal network to bring together the necessary experts and kept everyone focused on producing the best legislation possible under the circumstances.” High Court To Consider Arizona School Choice Program. The United States Supreme Court will be hearing an appeal of a U. S. Court of Appeals decision that declared an Arizona school choice program unconstitutional. Agudath Israel of America welcomed the news. The Supreme Court declared in 2002 that school voucher programs are consti- tutional, and a number of states and localities have instituted such programs, providing qualifying parents with government vouchers to use for their children’s education. Another popular way of helping encourage school choice has been the enactment in several states of tax credit programs, which permit tax- payers to receive a tax credit for funds they donate to organizations that furnish scholarships to needy students. One such initiative, the Arizona School Tuition Organization Tax Credit Program, was challenged by the American Civil Liberties Union and ruled unconstitutional by the Ninth Circuit Court of Appeals. The Jewish Federation in Phoenix has established a Day School Scholarship Fund to which contributing corporations receive tax credits under Arizona’s program. The program has provided scholarship money to hundreds of students attending one of the seven Jewish schools in the Greater Phoenix area. Agudath Israel has long been a strong supporter of school choice. Its attorneys have filed numerous “friend of the court” briefs in support of choice programs— including in the case where the Supreme Court ruled on the constitutionality of school vouchers. Says Rabbi Chaim Dovid Zwiebel, the organization’s executive vice president and author of several briefs on the subject, “We are hopeful that the highest court in the land will once again affirm the rights of parents to decide where their children are educated, and we intend to present our views to the Justices for their consideration.” O 44 May 28, 2010 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES

THAT’S THE WAY IT IS! feet, gives him a backrub, two Advils, and do you need to keep this pattern going Israel’s 62nd Anniversary Continued from Page 38 lots of TLC. A doctor who can’t tell a and play this role in order to confirm to Continued from Page 39 patient to lose weight is like an automo- others, and to yourself, that you are a pose tissue on his frame, what does the bile without an engine, a ship without a good person? University a cappella group), among others. doctor do then? rudder, or a covered wagon without a No doubt you really are a good person. The concert, emceed by radio personal- I can picture the scenario. I can even horse. In short, he can’t get very far. O But maybe it’s time to reevaluate your ity Nachum Segal (JM in the AM), was ded- hear the conversation: A physician comes actions and determine if it’s possible to icated to Jerusalem never being divided, home at night and his wife immediately Hannah Berman lives in Woodmere and is a still believe in yourself even if you not giving up any land anywhere in Eretz licensed real-estate broker associated with notices the glum look on his kisser. Marjorie Hausman Realty. She can be reached at allowed others to handle their conflicts Yisroel, and standing up to the mullahs of “Sweetheart, is everything okay?” “Nah! [email protected] or 516-902-3733. in their own way. I think it’s worth Iran. Mr. Segal introduced such speakers How could it be okay? Edna Schwartz addressing, since it is taking a toll on the as New York State Assemblyman David was in the office today and complained quality of your life, to the point where Weprin, director of the Igud HaRabonim that her back was still killing her.” MINDBIZ you say that it keeps you up at night. Why Rabbi Gershon Tannenbaum, Rabbi Dr. “So, what’s the problem?” asks his wife. Continued from Page 36 should you be suffering more than the Elie Abadie of the Edmond J. Safra “I sent her for tests last year and the people you are trying to protect? Why Synagogue, Manhigut Yehudit interna- results showed that she has spinal steno- iation between two people isn’t enough should this behavior remain the theme of tional director Shmuel Sackett, Rabbi sis. So she goes to a physical-therapy ses- for you, since you don’t seem to know your life? David Algaze of the Chavurat Israel syna- sion three times a week. But she’s still my when to back away from the situation People don’t always get along. This is gogue in Forest Hills, Rev. Michael patient, so she sees me twice a year, and and accept reality. Are your heroic efforts not a happy reality, but sometimes cer- Faulkner (Congressional candidate for the every time she does, it’s the same story. serving a purpose that you may not even tain personalities just don’t jive. You 15th district in northern Manhattan), and She complains about her back pain.” be in touch with? sound like someone who doesn’t have executive director of the Shomron Liason “Okay,” says the doctor’s wife, “I You need to think of how you would that problem and can probably get along Office David HaIvri. understand your sympathy for this feel about yourself if you were not with just about anyone. That is a wonder- The keynote speakers were MK Danny patient, but is that it? It seems to be “Malcolm in the Middle,” always stuck ful quality to possess. But as I so often say Danon, Chairman of the World Likud more than that that’s troubling you.” between two opposing sides, feeling the in this column, ultimately we can’t fix movement and deputy speaker of the “You bet there is,” answers her better burden of conflict coming from each others, only ourselves. And in this regard, Knesset, and Michael S. Steele, Chairman half. “She’s 5 feet, 6 inches tall and direction and struggling to make every- you don’t have to fix yourself. But you do of the Republican National Committee. weighs 122 pounds.” one get along. have to learn how to tolerate discord “Israeli settlements are not an obstacle to “So?” Though many of us often engage in among others. You don’t have to like it, peace in the Middle East,” said MK Danon. “Well, obviously the physical therapy behavior that might appear to be altruis- but you should figure out how to deal “They are assets to Israel that must be pre- isn’t helping her very much, and surgery tic, often this behavior serves our own with it, while hoping that those individu- served at all costs,” he intoned. In a private is something she refuses to consider and purposes. What purpose is this behavior als ultimately figure out how to get along. interview subsequent to his speech, Mr. something I don’t wish to recommend. serving for you? Does it make you feel And, without you trying to do the work Danon said, “If need be, Israel has the When all else fails, in such a situation I needed? Does it confirm how deeply you for them, they might even take more nuclear capability to deal with Iran’s bur- always throw in the ‘Lose weight’ spiel. care about others? Does it imply that you responsibility for themselves and figure it geoning nuclear arsenal. Israel did not But I can’t say that to a woman who is the are selfless? out on their own. attend the recent global nuclear summit in perfect weight for her height and frame!” And what if you had the ability to just Esther Washington, because we don’t need to be I can’t actually envision the final scene, walk away after an initial attempt at on the receiving end of pressure regarding but hopefully the devoted and under- peace? Would it unravel your sense of Esther Mann, LMSW, is a psychotherapist and life nuclear disarmament, especially now, as coach in Lawrence. Esther can be reached at 516- standing spouse, realizing the rug has identity? Would you no longer be able to 314-2295 or [email protected]. She works with the clock is ticking concerning a possible been pulled from under her husband’s feel great about yourself? In other words, individuals, couples, and families. strike against us by Iran.” O

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES May 28, 2010 45 The changes that have been proposed entire overhaul package now being pre- will, in their present form, create many sented. But why is this being referred to different tier groups, with credit cards as the “final bill,” when it does not even issued from large banks taking one fee seem to have passed the idea-tossing and credit cards issued from smaller stage, and will be very different from banks taking a different fee—all destined what is finally sent to President Obama? to create one big Babel if implemented. I guess this will be our summer reality The debit card proposals are for doing show, front and center, while the regular away with most fees now collected by television shows go on hiatus till Overhaul or Oh Brother! the banks on debit cards, which really September. This promises to be a nail- translates to the banks adding those lost biter, all right, and all we can do is sit in Who needs reality television, when we of giving the big banks a coronary. revenues onto some other program, pos- the bleachers pretending we are watch- have the continuing saga of the nation’s As of now, when someone uses a debit sibly one that is now free, in order to ing baseball. We are in the bottom of the financial overhaul bill, which has sprout- card or credit card, the retailer pays a fee make up the difference. We should all first inning in a game that promises to go ed so many options and wings of poten- as part of the transaction to whichever start seeing some very fancy footwork, into extra innings, and we will wait to see tial financial regulatory reform that you institution issued that card. The fees dif- beginning with the banking industry lob- how it plays out. O need to take all the proposals put on the fer depending which card is involved; for byists hitting the road to Washington table by the different parties involved— Anessa Cohen lives in Cedarhurst and is a licensed real-estate broker and a licensed N.Y.S. senators, congressmen, President Obama, mortgage broker with over 20 years of experience, Timothy Geithner, to name but a few— offering full-service residential and commercial and some of the other supporting actors real-estate services (Anessa V Cohen Realty) and mortgaging services (First Meridian Mortgage) in of this play and put everything down on The banks will add those lost the Five Towns and throughout the tri-state area. an Excel sheet just to have some kind of She can be reached at 516-569-5007 or via her website, www.AVCrealty.com. Readers are idea of where this may end up. I think it revenues onto some other program, encouraged to send questions or comments to is very fair to say that it is easier to keep [email protected]. track of the episodes of Lost. With that said, where do all these pro- possibly one that is now free, in posals lead us? (That is, assuming some of them survive after everyone has their say and the lobbyists are through whittling order to make up the difference. At 5TJT.com down the really good parts.) Some parts really do have potential, at you can enjoy articles least as of today, if they don’t get hacked in 3 ways: up. I am going to skip over what is being example, a Visa card may take one fee, a ready to torpedo as much as they can. attempted in regard to Wall Street, since I MasterCard a different fee, and an A footnote to all these changes (or 1. Read believe it is too involved, at least for me; American Express card still another fee. should I say “overhauls”) is the proposal but there are some interesting things hap- The fee is usually some kind of percent- of allowing the retailer to offer discounts 2. Print pening with regard to the credit-card and age of the actual purchase. A debit card to consumers paying in cash as an incen- 3. Email debit-card industry that, if passed, look to may take a fee from both the retailer and tive not to use credit cards which carry make some changes in the way con- the consumer, depending on the terms of the fees. sumers shop, as well as the added bonus the bank issuing the card. Again, this is a very small part of the

46 May 28, 2010 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES THE DISH can substitute regular navel oranges. Continued from Page 31 Ingredients: 3 blood oranges other layer of interesting flavor and aroma 2/3 cup (packed) golden brown sugar that bring the “wow” factor to the table. 3 Tbsp. unsalted butter substitute, diced Gourmet popcorn. No longer are we 1 quart vanilla ice cream or soy ice cream limited to butter or no-butter movie-the- 1/2 cup sliced almonds, toasted ater popcorn. Gourmet popcorn is all the sea salt (optional) rage, with chocolate and nuts just for Directions: starters. With variations such as white Squeeze juice from one orange (about fudge with whole almonds or milk choco- 1/4 cup) into small bowl. Cut ends off late and cashews, popcorn is a great base remaining two oranges to expose flesh. for any snack mix you can come up with. Cut oranges lengthwise into quarters; pull Popcorn has a great crispness, and with out and discard white center pith. Cut the added sweetness of chocolate and orange quarters crosswise into 1/8-inch- saltiness of crunchy nuts, it is trans- thick slices. Place orange slices along with formed from the ordinary snack that has any collected juices in another bowl. withstood the test of time to a gourmet Sprinkle sugar evenly over bottom of treat that has it all. heavy 10-inch-diameter skillet; scatter Spicy snacks. Although snack-lovers come butter pieces over and drizzle with 2 in all ages, adults are craving bigger flavors tablespoons orange juice. than just the ordinary potato chips or pret- Stir over medium heat until mixture zels. Snacks with a kick that combine plenty begins to melt and bubble, then swirl of garlic, ginger, and onion keep the mature pan to blend. Cook until sugar mixture is palate happy. The ingredients are enticing dark amber, occasionally scraping down and keep you wanting more. Even chocolate sides of skillet with spatula, about 6 min- snacks have joined the spicy craze, with utes. Stir in 2 tablespoons orange juice chilies added to chocolate bars and hot and cook until smooth and thickened, chocolate to achieve a complex, sweet heat about 2 minutes. Add orange slices with that is interesting yet not overpowering. juices to skillet and stir until coated, Whatever the trend is, consumers should about 1 minute. be open-minded, with their taste buds ready Cool at room temperature. Scoop ice and willing for all the flavors and textures cream into bowls and spoon caramelized that are offered. You never know what you orange sauce over it. Top sundaes with could be missing till you try it. toasted almonds and sprinkle with sea salt, if desired. Caramelized Blood Orange Eating quality, delicious meals is easy when all the work is And Almond Sundaes done for you. Hire a personal chef to prepare your dinners, This is a refreshing summer dessert. You Shabbos meals, or small parties. For more information, contact Take Home Chef personal chef. services by calling can use soy ice cream to serve after a fleishig 516-858-0215, writing to [email protected], or meal. If you can’t find blood oranges, you visiting www.TakeHomeChef.net.

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES May 28, 2010 47 “Next year it’s going to be different. “Everything is out of my room except We’re cutting back how much we are for my clock, the tissues, and the posters.” transporting for her,” my husband com- This past year our eldest daughter has ments—famous last words. been living in an “on campus” apartment. Ten miles to the Delaware Water Gap, Bottom line is that this year she had a sort of our half-way mark. kitchen (shared with two other nice girls) “Get the EZ Pass ready.” and a full bathroom, not shared with the Yes, we’ve had this van for one month shy rest of the floor like last year. Not a bad of three years, and we never did get velcro to arrangement. A Successful Pick-Up attach the EZ Pass. And so the passenger “If everything is out of your room? gets the honor of holding it up each time we Where is it?” “This is fun! It’s like an outing!” but what an exciting car chase that was! pass a toll. After all, we wouldn’t want to “The living room.” “It would be a lot better if it weren’t “O.K, do you want to take over the driv- maim this lovely van with yucky velcro. So When we finally arrived on the scene she raining and the mirror wasn’t falling off.” ing?” My husband asked as we entered the maybe we have a side mirror attached by a was true to her word. Everything was “packed” The story of the driver-side rearview George Washington Bridge, and with a mixture of gray and black duct tape, but our —in a sense. Much was in various closed duf- mirror is another in the vast list of Lubin shaky mirror, he couldn’t see outside as he front windshield is pristine! fle bags, but most was stuffed into various experiences: tried to switch lanes. As I’ve explained It’s still raining and foggy and miser- other bags of all shapes and sizes, most of Last December, Rivka had an early before, I am a notorious back-seat driver. able outside, but inside my husband and which had only a couple of items inside. morning orthodontic appointment. As “No problem! Chinese fire drill.” I I are having some fun bonding time. As Lenny and our darling trekked back soon as Yussie left for school we were on responded facetiously. Where exactly is that My husband is showing off that he and forth to the van, I worked on strategi- the road. We couldn’t have gotten a more expression from? I’ll have to Google it later. knows all the words to the song “Bottle of cally combining various smaller bags into perfect spot—right in front of the office It’s foggy and raining—not very con- Red” by Billy Joel. bigger holding devices (i.e. the garbage can, building on Broadway in Hewlett. As I ducive for a four hour drive to “It’s called “Scenes from an Italian random boxes, and laundry baskets). was putting my car keys into my pocket- Binghamton University to pack up our Restaurant,” he points out. O.K., maybe Within an hour the job was done and we book, out of the corner of my eye I spot- daughter. I’m not a baki (expert) on Billy Joel songs, were on the road again, although this time ted a black jeep speeding alongside us, Did I say “pack up”? We’re hoping she’s but I’m a good hummer! with an over-packed vehicle! and with a loud thud the driver-side mir- done a little bit more than when we Uh, oh, my ears are popping, We must And so another college pack-up outing ror was dislodged from our van. I yelled arrived on the scene last May. be in the mountains. has been completed. Naftali is due to out the window to get the jeep’s atten- “How’s the packing going?” Thanks to the It’s time for our lunch stop. It’s only graduate Queens College this Thursday, tion as he was suddenly slowed down in modern convenience of the cell phone I am 10:46, but we’re hungry and have already and we are on the brink of beginning traffic, but he didn’t respond. able to touch base with our darling daughter. been driving for over two hours. Sadly, another summer season. Where has all “Rivka, we are following that jeep!” It “Lovely.” even though I’m ready to stop, there does- the time gone? Each of our children is on was like something out of a television “Did you even start packing?” n’t seem to be an opportunity. his/her way to another phase of their show—practically a police chase, except “I don’t know how to fit all this stuff At 11:05 we manage to find both a love- lives, and as a parent of a soon-to-be col- we weren’t the police and this was real into my bags. I have too much clothes.”(If ly rest room plus a fine parking lot to lege graduate, I guess I am too. I think I life. As we followed the black jeep I she would only remember that line when feast on our lunch—tuna on diet bread need time to sit and muse. O honked the horn but to no avail. I put in she tells me that she needs to do more for me and turkey on a kaiser roll for Phyllis Joy Lubin is an attorney with Rosenfeld & a call to the police, but somehow I guess clothes shopping!). Lenny (remember I almost never eat Maidenbaum, LLP, who resides in Cedarhurst this matter was not of great urgency. And “How did I get all of this here?” I guess fleishig for lunch). A short time later we with her husband Leonard and six children: Naftali, Shoshana, Rivka, Rochel, Yosef, and Lea. so we never caught the black jeep culprit that would be her parents, the shleppers, are on the road again—almost there. She welcomes your questions and comments at who pulled off our driver’s-side mirror, back in August. “Packed yet Princess?” [email protected].

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Seminar Helps Prepare Parents sending their children to Israel and stu- And Students Spending The Year dents who have recently completed their In Israel studies abroad. On May 11, a timely parenting seminar Formal feedback as well as candid on the topic of “The Year In Israel: reviews from parents who attended this Before, During, After And Preparing Your informative lecture was consistently Child for Adulthood” was held at SKA positive. One parent expressed it best High School for Girls. This program rep- saying, “We really enjoyed not only the resented a joint effort between DRS practical advice but the wide range of Yeshiva High School for Boys, SKA High perspectives provided by the various School for Girls, OHEL, and the JCC of presenters. The upcoming year can be the Greater Five Towns and was spon- quite anxiety-producing for us as par- sored by the UJA Federation Caring ents. Programs like these are therefore Richard D. Lavoie, M.A., M.Ed., and Arlene Entengoff. Commission. so critical!” Approximately 75 parents attended Ohel looks forward to presenting other this unique community presentation. important parenting topics to the com- New York area and beyond shared an Tapping into the unique motivational Mrs. Helen Spirn, principal of SKA High munity and as always, encourages feed- invaluable educational experience. profile of each student is the key to pro- School for Girls; Rabbi Yisroel back from parents regarding future topics Conference participants had the oppor- moting educational success. Kaminetsky, menahel of DRS Yeshiva of interest. O tunity to learn from nationally recog- Dr. Patrick Schwarz, one of today’s High School for Boys, and Mr. Barry nized education expert and acclaimed leading experts in the field of education, Horowitz LCSW-R, coordinator of OHEL’s Ohel Joins With Communities To author Richard D. Lavoie, M.A., M.Ed. presented a dynamic and engaging dis- Long Island Services addressed issues Meet The Needs Of Every Learner Presenting his unique approach to cussion of inclusive education. As a pro- relating to transitioning and healthy “Being here today has changed my understanding and fostering motivation fessor, consultant, and author, Dr. adjustment (for students and parents!), life. My world has gone from black and in students of all ages, Mr. Lavoie urged Schwarz is renowned for his commit- maintaining communication with your gray to a rainbow of color.” So remarked participants to focus on the individuality ment to promoting education that child’s yeshiva/seminary, and methods of just one participant at Ohel’s recent of each child. He stressed that in addition advances the status of individuals with appropriately responding to presenting community conference on “Meeting the to unique learning needs, each student diverse needs, enabling them to reach concerns while the child is in Israel Needs of Every Learner,” sponsored by has his or her own set of motivators. their potential and find meaning and while supporting and encouraging the Mel and Phyllis Zachter Ohel Does he have a strong need for status or respect. His presentation provided partic- healthy growth and independence. An Institute for Training. achievement? Power or aggression? Are ipants with valuable insights and practi- open question and answer session was A very diverse mix of hundreds of fam- affiliation and gregariousness most cal strategies for educational interven- held with the above panelists in addition ily members, advocates, educators, and important to her, or are autonomy or to parents who have already experienced medical professionals from the Greater inquisitiveness her key motivators? Continued on Page 50

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES May 28, 2010 49 AROUND THE FIVE TOWNS 300,000 who came to the site over the Continued from Page 49 holiday weekend. ZAKA, together with Hesdei Shabtai tion and support, including universal and under the sponsorship of the design, accommodations, and differenti- Meuchedet Health Fund, operated a spe- ated instruction. In addition, Dr. Schwarz cial 24-hour hotline for missing children presented creative, problem-solving and adults which was open throughout approaches for assessing and addressing the five-day celebrations, with three sepa- challenging behaviors, while maintaining rate resting areas for the lost children on the dignity of all involved. the site and one dedicated area for Ohel is committed to sharing exciting administering emergency first aid. Three and valuable educational opportunities ZAKA all-terrain vehicles, together with with advocates, family members, and pro- 180 volunteers and four ZAKA ambu- fessionals serving the community. For lances dealt with 413 incidents over the more information about future educa- five days. O tional events, interested individuals may contact The Mel and Phyllis Zachter Ohel Agudath Israel Opposes Institute for Training at 718-851-6300, or NYS Organ Donation Bill visit www.ohelfamily.org. O Legislation that would permit authorities to presume consent for the harvest- Hundreds Of Lost Children ZAKA volunteers distribute identification wristbands at Mount Meron. ing of organs from deceased New Yorkers Reunited With Parents At Mount is being questioned by Agudath Israel. Meron Lag B’omer Celebrations While Agudath Israel of America Thanks To ZAKA Identification earlier this week without serious casual- wristbands to children, bearing family acknowledges the shortage of organs for Wristbands ties, thanks to the multi-faceted safety names and phone numbers, which transplant and the fact that Jewish reli- The annual Lag B’omer pilgrimage to campaign mounted by the ZAKA rescue proved indispensible in reuniting chil- gious authorities may permit organ Mount Meron, the resting place of kab- and recovery volunteer organization. dren with their parents when they donation in certain cases, it considers balist Rabbi Shimon bar Yochai, ended ZAKA distributed 20,000 identification became separated among the estimated “highly presumptuous”—in fact, “simply false—the assumption “that the hundreds of thousands of Orthodox Jews across New York State would be in favor of allowing their organs to be harvested and transplanted,” in the words of a memorandum sent by Agudath Israel representatives to all the members of the New York State legislature. Agudath Israel notes further that “similar presumptions about other ethnic and faith groups across the state would be equally false. The plain truth is that many people, for religious or other reasons, would not want all of their organs automatically harvested. To presume consent where there is no consent is to make a mockery of these people’s rights.” Current law requires deference to a deceased individual’s personal and religious views before any steps can be taken to remove organs for transplant purposes. And it actively prohibits organ removal for transplant purposes where there is any reason to believe the deceased individual would not have wanted it. Proposals currently before the New York legislature, however, seek to change that. One bill would eliminate the right to object to organ donation even when there is a reason to believe that the individual would not have wanted it. Another would presume that a New Yorker apply- ing for a driver’s license would want his or her organs harvested and donated unless he or she “opted out” of organ donation in writing. “Presumed consent,” says Agudath Israel associate general counsel Rabbi Mordechai Biser, “would effectively abandon the entire concept of personal autonomy—the principle underlying all statutory and common law regarding health care proxies, living wills, and the like.” The principle, he continues, “that individuals have the right to direct what should happen to their own bodies after death would be replaced with the assumption that the state has the right to use a person’s body as it wishes unless the person actively protested such use during his or her lifetime. “To put it simply: A person’s body should not belong to the state to use as it 50 May 28, 2010 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES sees fit simply because he neglected to port Ohel’s children and enjoy the day insist otherwise when alive.” golfing,” says Ohel board member Marc The Agudath Israel memorandum Herskowitz, president and CEO of urges the legislature to “search for other Infinity Land Title Services LLC, which ways of increasing organ donation with- has generously donated the valuable out trampling on the personal autono- golf stand bag giveaway. my and religious liberties of countless Golf Classic proceeds will benefit the New Yorkers.” O thousands of children and families served by Ohel Children and Family Heart To Heart: SKA Opens Theirs! Services. Ohel acknowledges the dedicat- By Aviva Zimmermann, Devorah Adler, ed chairpersons and the Golf Classic com- and Ahava Muskat mittee, headed by Ben Englander, Izzy Throughout the month of March, stu- Kaufman, Jeffrey Schwartz, Jonathan dents at the Stella K. Abraham High Marks, and Michelle Sulzberger who have School for Girls organized a campaign worked tirelessly to create a special event to bring smiles to children afflicted for a special cause. with heart problems. Led by sophomore Erin O'Brien, representative of LIJ–Steven and Alexandra Cohen Children’s Medical Center of Ohel also is grateful to its corporate Devorah Adler and assisted by fellow New York (formerly Schneider’s Children’s Hospital), with SKA students Devorah Adler, sponsors, Sterling National Bank, Mutual tenth-graders Aviva Zimmermann, Shoshana Kaminetsky, and Aviva Zimmermann. of America, Stein Farkas & Schwartz LLP, Ahava Muskat, Shoshana Kaminetsky, Scientific Fire Prevention, Daron and Rikki Lewis, the girls started “Heart A fantastic day is planned featuring a the conclusion of the tournament, Fashions, Sutton Land Title, Avenue to Heart,” a fundraising raffle with a scramble format; a special gift for every where the winning foursomes and raffle Capital, Toshiba, State Farm Insurance, twofold purpose. The money collected golfer, including a classy OGIO golf winners will be announced and the Airmark and many others. would provide gifts for children suffer- stand bag, courtesy of Infinity Land Title prizes awarded. Golfers from throughout the five boring with heart conditions while at the Services LLC; and raffles with super “I’m honored to be the OGIO golf oughs, Rockland County, and New Jersey same time raise awareness among the prizes. Hungry golfers will enjoy a full stand bag sponsor at this premier golf are registered to join on the 27-hole golf girls of SKA as to how lucky they are to breakfast; a BBQ on the course; and a event. My business associates, col- be blessed with healthy hearts. This reception and sit-down awards dinner at leagues, and friends are proud to sup- Continued on Page 52 drive was inspired by an SKA student whose own experience with heart disease prompted her to “give back” and show her appreciation for her now healthy heart. When purchasing a “Heart to Heart” raffle, students were given heart-shaped lollipops and heart-shaped Post-it notes to write their names on and place on the “Heart to Heart” bulletin board. It was incredible to see how fast the board filled up! So many students and teachers wanted to be a part of this and make a difference in the lives of sick children. The campaign was a huge success and raised a substantial amount of money to purchase dozens of children’s toys, games, baby mobiles, clothing, and crib sets. Outstanding prizes for the raffle were donated by generous sponsors. The culmination of all the girls’ efforts arrived on Sunday, May 16. It was with great happiness that three of the students involved in the campaign delivered the presents bought with the money collected to the Child Life Program at the Steven and Alexandra Cohen Children’s Medical Center of New York (formerly Schneider’s Children’s Hospital). Erin O’Brien, the hospital representative, expressed her gratitude to the students of SKA on behalf of the children and presented certificates of appreciation to the girls. Thank you to all the sponsors, donors, and organizers of “Heart to Heart.” Each and every donation helped make an ever- lasting difference! O

Annual Ohel Golf Tournament At Glen Oaks Country Club, June 21 A great day of golfing fun, cama- raderie for a great cause, and great prizes, giveaways, and food is planned for the Annual Ohel Golf Classic on Monday, June 21. More than 175 golfers will tee off at the Glen Oaks Country Club in Old Westbury, New York. From the 1st hole to the 18th, there will be contests for the top foursomes, closest to the pin, longest drive, closest to the line, and hole-in-one as the players complete the tournament. A 27-hole golf course high- lights this event. Best of all—all proceeds benefit Ohel’s Children Home and Family Services. 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES May 28, 2010 51 AROUND THE FIVE TOWNS Registration and breakfast which runs between Pesach and Continued from Page 51 will begin at 9:30 a.m.; shotgun Shavuos, ended on Monday at 11:00 a.m.; cocktail reception night May 17, the last night of course. Don’t miss this premier at 5:00 p.m. Register today by sefirah. Over 60 boys from all the golfing event at one of the calling 718-972-9338 or visiting local yeshivos participated in the region’s premier country clubs. www.ohelfamily.org. O learning program. The event is almost sold out, but The program was originally a few slots are available for four- YFR Hasmoda Program started in memory of Rav somes and single players so reg- The Yeshiva of Far Rockaway’s Yisroel Meir Heiman, zt’l. Since ister today. 19th annual hasmoda program then several new names have been added so that their neshamos have an aliyah as well—Rochel Brafman, Meir Aryeh Blum, Binyomin Tzvi Berger, and Aaron Moshe Schreiber, zt’l. This enabled the program to offer more sefarim, prizes, and incentives. The program, though under the guidance of Rabbi Aaron Brafman, was administered this year by two beis medrash bachurim—Dovid Gewirtz and Yoseph Ullman. The grand raffle was held Monday night. Winners of the bikes were Yisrael Bachrach and Asher Engel. The winners of the Shas were Yekusiel Werner and Shimon Goykadosh. Winners of other sefarim were Yitzchok Stein, Chesky Kahan, and Dovid Munk. All other participants received sefarim. O

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Friendship Gathering For Frum Gimmel Tammuz. Meet at Chabad. Call two decades in the making, Yachad will dren, and staff, the Shabbaton—an event Women With Cancer, June 1 for reservations. host its 24th annual family Shabbaton at for families with children with special Bikur Cholim of Boro Park, in partner- Farbrengen for Men: 12th of Tammuz. the Hudson Valley Resort and Spa in needs—will feature workshops on topics ship with Sharsheret and CancerCare, June 24, 8:15 p.m. In honor of the birthday Kerhonkson, in New York’s Catskill such as cutting-edge responses to autism, hosts monthly friendship gatherings for and day of liberation of the previous Mountains, from Friday, June 4 through Down syndrome, educational interven- frum women who are in treatment for or Lubavitcher Rebbe. Sunday, June 6. The highly-subsidized tions, vocational training, social skills, have been in treatment for cancer. Their Camp Gan Israel Begins. June 30, 9:30 event will feature dynamic guest speakers residential opportunities, financial plan- next confidential meeting will take place a.m. Eight week summer camp for chil- and delicious meals, along with programs ning, and parent support groups. Day on Tuesday, June 1, 11:00 a.m.–12:30 p.m., in dren ages 30 months until 5 years old. for children, teens, and singles—includ- camp will be led by Mrs. Fayge Feder of Bikur Cholim of Boro Park, at 5216 11th Call to register. O ing lively Saturday night entertainment. West Hempstead; Saturday night festivi- Avenue, and will be free of charge. Come The theme of this year’s Shabbaton is ties will include a melaveh malkah with hear interesting guest speakers and have Yachad’s 24th Annual Family “Strengthening Families.” Anticipating an special presentations from Yachad’s Day opportunities to meet others “who under- Shabbaton, June 4-6 attendance of more than 500 from all stand,” while enjoying a light, healthy Continuing with a tradition more than over the country, including parents, chil- Continued on Page 55 snack. For more information, please leave a message for Yafa, at 718-438-2020, ext. 7451, and tell her the most private way to reach you. This project is sponsored by the Caring Commission of the UJA Federation of Greater NY. O

June Events At Chabad Of The Five Towns Chabad of the Five Towns is located at 74 Maple Avenue in Cedarhurst. To learn more or to register for an event, call 516- 295-2478 or visit www.chabad5towns.com. Women’s Evening Class with Chaya Franklin. June 1, 8:30 p.m. Monthly class for women explores the days of creation. Chai Five Finale. June 3, 6:15 p.m. Call ext. 18 for more information about this youth club program. Birthday Shabbat for Tammuz. June 5, after morning services. Children celebrating their Jewish birthdays in the Hebrew month of Tammuz join together with family and friends to celebrate their special day with birthday cake and activities. Friendship Circle-Sibs Circle. June 7, 5:30–6:30 p.m. Respite program for siblings of children with special needs to relax and share their experiences. Fee $5 per child. Call Batsheva at ext. 13 for more information. Women’s Circle: “Summer is a season not a vacation.” June 7, 8:15 p.m. Monthly women’s gathering of inspiration and chizuk with noted lecturer Mrs. Chaya Teldon. At the home of Mrs. Chaya Krinsky, 288 Leroy Street in Cedarhurst. Children’s Rally for Gimmel Tammuz. June 8, 6:16 p.m. Middos Mentchen & The Rabbi and The Mitzvah Men Finale. June 9, 6:00 p.m. Farbrengen for Men: 28th day of Sivan. June 10, 8:15 p.m. Commemorating the arrival of the Lubavitcher Rebbe, ob’m, to America in 1941. Gan Chamesh Graduation Parade. June 11, 10:30 a.m. Join to watch and cheer our precious parading preschoolers as they mark the end of their year of successful learning at Gan Chamesh. Family trip to the Ohel. June 20, 10:30 a.m. Join Chabad for a very special experience at the Ohel—the Lubavitcher Rebbe’s resting place—in preparation for

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES May 28, 2010 53 HASC Center Opens Shalhevet Marches For Israel

Students from many schools marched in the Israel Day Parade on Sunday, Pictured above at the grand opening for HASC Center’s Lev Tova, May 23. Above, students from Shalhevet High School in Lawrence. New York’s only frum overnight respite home for children with special needs: Top photo, center row (L–R): Councilman Mathieu Eugene; Assemblywoman Rhoda Jacobs; Councilman Jumaane Williams; Brooklyn Borough President Marty Markowitz; NYS Senate Finance Chair Darchei Torah Bikeathon Carl Kruger; Assemblyman Steven Cymbrowitz; Abe Eisner, President of HASC Center; Shmiel Kahn, Executive Director of HASC Center; Dr. Chaim Wakslak, Clinical Director of HASC Center; and Rabbi Yechezkel Pikus, Executive Director of COJO of Flatbush.

Bottom photo (L–R): Brooklyn Borough President Marty Markowitz; Assemblyman Cymbrowitz; Abe Eisner; Shmiel Kahn; Dr. Wakslak; Senator Kruger; Warren Cohn, Special Assistant to Congressman Ed Towns; Councilman Eugene; and Rabbi Pikus. Kulanu At The Parade

Hundreds of youngsters came out to ride their bicycles for the benefit of Yeshiva Darchei Torah last Sunday. The popular annual event enjoyed Students of Kulanu Center for Special Services step off blue skies and warm weather as the riders traversed in tribute to Israel’s 62nd Birthday! Reads Lane in Far Rockaway.

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AROUND THE FIVE TOWNS and with each other. Siblings viduals with learning, develop- A parent who attended a past The cost per child ages 7-11 is Continued from Page 53 have a similar opportunity to mental, and physical disabili- Shabbaton wrote to Yachad, $125; children ages 3-6 are $75; address their unique issues as ties. Dr. Lichtman will be speak- “Having the opportunity to and children under age 3 are Hab Without Walls Program. brothers and sisters of an indi- ing on “Enhancing Marriage and meet with national experts like free. Scholarships are available. Dr. Jeffrey Lichtman, national vidual with special needs. The Communication,” and “Dating Dr. Lichtman, who have so For more information and to director of Yachad/NJCD, family Shabbaton creates a and Marriage for Individuals much to offer and are so sup- apply, visit www.yachad.org or remarked, “Many families have unique setting where our with Special Needs.” Workshop portive, is just amazing and contact Chani Herrmann at 201- told us that they found the fam- Yachad members are the stars, presenters will also include Dr. helpful.” Another parent stated, 833-1349 or [email protected]. O ily Shabbaton to be an amazing families interact, and where Julie Wolf, from the world “There is something very unique catalyst for positive change. In everyone grows.” renowned Yale Child Study and special about being with Kollel Erev At Yeshiva just one Shabbat, families gain Yachad, the flagship program Center; Dr. Mark Freilich, a other families who are travel- Sh’or Yoshuv tremendous knowledge and of the Orthodox Union’s developmental pediatrician and ling on the same path, and feel- At the end of a workday most insights, which fosters growth National Jewish Council for Yachad board member; and joining like you are not alone.” people come home exhausted, and change for them and for Disabilities (NJCD), provides ing for the first time, Rabbi Marc The program is highly subsi- happily collapsing into their their child with special needs. unique social, educational, and Penner, a parent of a child with dized, with the cost for an adult They are enveloped in a loving recreational programs for indi- special needs. $245 for the entire weekend. Continued on Page 56 atmosphere where everyone feels accepted; information, inspiration, and initiation are the hallmarks of this once-a-year program which supports and motivates families all year long!” According to family Shabbaton coordinators Chani Herrmann, director of NJ Yachad, and Dr. Michelle Orgel, coordinator of family and clinical services, in a letter to Yachad families, “If you have not yet participated in this marvelous experience, please consider doing so. The Yachad family Shabbaton creates an unparal- leled setting of warmth and love. This informal but struc- tured program provides parents with the opportunity for mutual support, networking, and the opportunity to learn so much from top flight professionals

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES May 28, 2010 55 AROUND THE FIVE TOWNS “The commitment of these kollel mem- Yeshiva Sh’or Yoshuv, has pointed out that some of the more prominent Acharonim. Continued from Page 55 bers, who come to learn Torah every a person can only maintain long term Their goal is to follow the development night, has greatly impacted their lives and learning if he enjoys the topics under dis- of the sugya to the final halachah in the favorite chair. Evenings are a time to chill, my own,” explains Rabbi Zelman. “I feel it cussion. The rosh yeshiva praised Rabbi Shulchan Aruch. Rabbi Zelman gives a cool down from the long hours spent in is a zechus to have the ability to be teach- Zelman as a maggid shiur who puts in nightly shiur on the Gemara as well as the office or in some other professional ing this special group of people at night, superior effort to provide both clarity and offering mareh mekomos to those who capacity. The concept of a night kollel and to be able to transmit Hashem’s depth of understanding to every sugyah. learn with a chavrusa. These mareh meko- goes against the grain of modern society Torah to Klal Yisrael.” He speaks glowing- The evening kollel began in the origi- mos are the focal point of a shiur given at because it demands evening hours spent ly of the commitment of the wives as nal Sh’or Yoshuv building on Central the end of the week. in concentration, volunteering to partici- well, each a true eishes chayil, standing Avenue in Far Rockaway. A group of The kollel has already completed a pate in challenging circumstances for the steadfastly behind their husband’s has- Yungeleit asked Rabbi Jaeger to set up a number of masechtos. The pace is chal- body and mind. Yet, that is precisely what mada, making possible every word of nighttime learning chaburah for them; lenging enough to keep everyone inter- Kollel Erev at Yeshiva Sh’or Yoshuv does learning. the rosh yeshiva chose Rabbi Zelman. The ested, yet works very hard to accommo- every night from 8:45 p.m. until 9:45 p.m.; Mrs. Andrea Steiner is one such wife. kollel then moved with the yeshiva to the date all levels for anyone wishing to join. After 12 years of teamwork and extraordi- “The impact my husband’s evening seder new, beautiful Sh’or Yoshuv beis medrash. “Rabbi Zissel Zelman personifies his nary dedication, the Kollel Erev of the has on our family is felt by everyone. The The kollel now meets in the dynamic set- name,” comments member Eliahu yeshiva, under the direction of Rabbi message about the importance my hus- ting of the yeshiva, absorbing the Frishman. “He holds the Torah we are Zissel Zelman, has completed a number band places on learning, especially at a ambiance of Torah and kedushah from learning as so dear, values all members of of masechtas and continues devotedly in time when most people are winding the many who come to learn nightly the kollel, and enriches us to taste of the its limud haTorah. down, is not lost on the family.” b’chavrusa or in shiurim. The men who sweetness it has to offer.” Keeping to a routine when it comes to Mrs. Chiai Frishman, whose husband learn in the kollel, including many profes- Originally from Chicago, Rabbi Zelman learning is a remarkable achievement. has been with the kollel since its incep- sionals from the worlds of business and spent many years studying at the Telshe Seeing the kollel members keep their rou- tion, agrees. “Though that hour of the medicine, are extremely dedicated to the Yeshiva in Chicago. After learning in the tine, displaying mesiras nefesh on a night- evening is usually the most difficult for eternal pursuit of Torah. They come from Mir Yeshiva in Yerushalayim, he contin- ly basis, has inspired the guiding force of me to have my husband out, the rewards different shuls throughout Far Rockaway ued learning in the Yeshiva Sh’or Yoshuv the kollel. Rabbi Zelman notes that some are immeasurable. My kids see firsthand and the Five Towns, becoming one body, Kollel, and then at the Mir Kollel in of the members come directly from work, that their Aba’s learning is a priority.” intent on growing and shteiging. The kol- Brooklyn, where he received semichah before returning home even for dinner. Rabbi Naftali Jaeger, rosh yeshiva of lel studies a number of Rishonim and from Harav Hagaon Shmuel Berenbaum, zt’l, and Harav Hagaon Shraga Moshe Kalmanovitch, zt’l. Rabbi Zelman gives a shiur in his home on Shabbos, on hilchos Shabbos, and a shiur on Sunday nights in the yeshiva, on basar v’chalav. He has been a fifth grade rebbi for many years at the Yeshiva Ketana of Manhattan, and is a member of the West Side Kollel of Manhattan for second seder. The new faces who have recently joined as the Kollel Erev has started the sixth perek in Berachos received a warm welcome. A number of men who left Kollel Erev, due to the change in their schedules, have returned and are now again learning in the kollel. For anyone who is interested in joining, the kollel would be happy to set up chavrusas. For more information, call Rabbi Zelman at 718-327-4386. O

Achdus Abounds At Project Inspire’s Inaugural Convention By Eileen Fine Project Inspire’s inaugural convention, held over the weekend of Shabbos Parashas Bechukosai, May 7–9, at the Stamford Plaza Hotel, was a prelude to Shavuos—k’ish echad b’lev echad—a taste of Jewish unity. Founded just four years ago, Project Inspire’s mission is simple, yet sweeping and majestic in scope: The unification of the Jewish People by providing easy and inspiring ways to share the beauty and wisdom of our heritage with our fellow Jews. They hoped that 250 would attend this first-time event. Nearly 800 came and hundreds more were turned away when a full house closed out registration two weeks prior to the convention. The response was overwhelming and gratifying for Rabbi Chaim Sampson, director of Project Inspire, Rabbi Mordechai Tropp, director of programming, and all of the Project Inspire staff. Together, they labor tirelessly to reach the 500,000 Orthodox Jews in North America with the message that they can and must reach out to their assimilated brethren. The foundation—love of G-d, Torah, and our brethren. The practical reality—1,500 kiruv “professionals” in North America cannot possibly reach the estimated 5 million Jews who have assimilated without ever knowing the wisdom and pleasantness of a Torah 56 May 28, 2010 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES life. The solution—every religious Jew must reach out and touch the unaffiliated with caring and respect. The convention brought a kaleido- scope of Orthodox Jewry from Toronto, Lakewood, Passaic, Minneapolis, St. Louis, Cleveland, Monsey, Flatbush, Boro Park, Williamsburg, Baltimore, Far Rockaway and the Five Towns, Baltimore, Silver Spring, and more…housewives, Torah scholars, business people and professionals, teachers, …chasidishe, modern Orthodox, litvishe, yeshivish, and all shades in between…people raised in religious homes, ba’alei teshuvah, converts to Judaism…young and not-so-young. Individuals were the heartbeat of the convention as they are for Project Inspire’s very mission. Accounts of “lay” kiruv activists reaching out in simplicity and caring were woven throughout. The array of quiet individual efforts and communal initiatives to reach out and touch family members, neighbors, co-workers, and others was sweeping and inspiring. *A cyclist sporting a ponytail has a pleasant conversation with a bearded Belzer chasid after asking for directions and now comes for Shabbos seudos, is learning weekly with him, observing kashrus, davening in shul on Shabbos, and hoping to go on an Aish HaTorah trip to Israel. *An assimilated family offers their phone to a young girl lost in the woods, is touched by the grateful mother’s honey gift and Shabbos invitation, goes on to keep kashrus, and is now being mekarev others. *A nervous professional finds the courage to give each of her Jewish co- workers a small gift for an upcoming yom tov and finds one after the other touched and deeply appreciative. *A young man browsing in a Jewish bookstore notices three less connected Jews shopping, within a span of just one hour. He answers their questions, does the math, and approaches the store’s management to have employees take the Project Inspire Kiruv Training Seminar so they can reach out to the many hundreds of less affiliated Jews who visit their store every year. *An “ordinary” couple in Manhattan have a database of 8,000 assimilated Jews who they set up for Shabbos and yom tov experiences and host many at their own table, week after week. Attendees were spellbound, hungry to hear, eager to learn, moved by what others are doing, and inspired to believe that they could do it too. Amazing? Extraordinary? Our job is to make them “ordinary.” With boundless creativity, conviction, and caring, it appears that “the sky is the limit” for both individual and communal outreach efforts. Fifty shiurim were offered featuring an impressive roster of rabbanim and senior Torah lecturers—including Rabbis Zev Leff, Paysach Krohn, Dovid Orlofsky, Yerachmiel Milstein, Yaakov Salomon; Rebbetzins Lori Palatnik and Debbie Greenblatt, who gives Torah classes for women in our local area and speaks widely in the Jewish world at large with wisdom, depth, and inspiration. The keynote addresses were riveting, impassioned calls to action. Many of us— perhaps most—have heard the mind- numbing statistics before, but do they penetrate our hearts? Every Jew is part of

Continued on Page 58 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES May 28, 2010 57 AROUND THE FIVE TOWNS Community Kiruv Shabbaton involving dreams. The 1,040 participants to the accomplishments and is incredibly Continued from Page 57 more than 100 local Orthodox residents. NORPAC Mission to Washington are just resilient. He told the NORPAC attendees In February, a Shabbos of Inspiration took getting ready to start their dreams. Their that their work was critical in strengthen- Hashem’s family—there is no “us” and place, involving seven local shuls and voices will be heard as one throughout ing the U.S.-Israel relationship. The speak- “them.” Yet nine of His every ten children attended by over 1,000 Orthodox resi- Congress in just a few hours. This dream ers were interrupted repeatedly with thun- are missing, lost. Can you imagine if it dents. This coming Shabbos, Parashas we all share is to support the U.S.-Israel derous applause and standing ovations. were, chas v’shalom, your children? Nine Beha’aloscha, HaRav Moshe Weinberger of relationship by advocating key issues After the speeches ended, the crowd out of ten? Aish Kodesh will host a kiruv Shabbaton including foreign aid, Palestinian incite- was ready to tackle the issues throughout Does our own Yiddishkeit live and for the frum and not-yet-frum, with guests ment, the Middle East peace process, and the halls of Congress. Over 450 members breathe with the vibrancy and realness from Denver, Philadelphia, and else- Iran sanctions. of Congress (including 95 Senators) sat that would compel us to want to share it where. A Shabbos of chizuk for the Twenty four buses pulled up to the down and held private meetings with with those who haven’t tasted the wis- Cedarhurst community will take place Washington Convention Center in the NORPACers. This event set a new record dom and beauty of Torah living? after the summer. The Ohel Sara Amen late morning to be greeted by a lineup of for attendance, a true display of Enter, Project Inspire. The organiza- Group has become a focal point of kiruv- speakers from Congress as well as a NORPAC’s growth and importance. tion’s goals are being accomplished oriented learning and activity. 20 IDF sol- keynote speaker. The participants flood- The 2011 foreign aid request for Israel. through a variety of programs, the center- diers—many of whom experienced ed the two ballrooms (since one wasn’t Expected to be $3 billion, 70 percent is in piece being the Kiruv Training Seminar, a Shabbos for the first time—were recently enough) to make up a sea of people fight- the form of credits and will be spent in two-part class offered in homes and hosted in our community. A Motzaei ing for the survival of Israel. The program the U.S., supporting high-tech defense shuls. To date, more than 5,000 people Shabbos Melavah Malkah brought “The began with the participants singing The jobs. “This aid is more of an investment have taken the Kiruv Training Seminar in Traveling Chasidim” to our area, to share a Star Spangled Banner, Hatikvah, and in than an expense,” noted Ben Chouake, the two years since it was introduced. heartwarming night of song and dance recognition of Yom Yerushalayim, a mov- NORPAC president. “Given Israel’s strate- A high-point for Far Rockaway and with the chayalim. (The Traveling ing rendition of Yerushalayim Shel Zahav. gic location on the Mediterranean with Five Towns participants came at the Chasidim are a group of Belzer Chasidim In his first year as mission chair, Dr. access to the Red Sea and other vital ship- Motzaei Shabbos general session, when who have been touched by Project Richard Schlussel took the stage to start ping lanes, it is imperative that Israel con- our community’s involvement with Inspire’s programs and make themselves off the morning plenary session. The par- tinues to serve as a port-of-call for our Project Inspire was showcased in a pres- available to visit Jewish communities far ticipants were then addressed by Senator military and intelligence operations.” entation entitled “The Power of the and wide as a way of reaching out and Boxer, Senator Menendez, Senator Coats, Palestinian incitement. As part of the Yachid: The Profound Story of One touching their unaffiliated brethren.) Congressman Castle, Congressman foreign aid discussions, our members Person’s Efforts.” Our local Michoel To find out more about Project Inspire Rothman, and Dr. Mort Fridman, NOR- reminded members of Congress that the Barnett, who spearheaded the introduc- in Far Rockaway and the Five Towns, con- PAC vice president, who introduced the U.S. is slated to provide a $550 million aid tion of Project Inspire to our community tact Michoel Barnett at mbbarnett@veri- keynote speaker, Israeli Ambassador package to the Palestinians in the disput- along with Danny Moskowitz and zon.net or Danny Moskowitz at Michael Oren. ed territories and Gaza. Representatives Simcha Dunn, took the podium and [email protected] or call Senator Boxer spoke poignantly of fam- and Senators were encouraged to assure described the efforts, initiatives, and the Project Inspire office at 646-291-6191. O ily members who suffered in the that the Palestinian Authority be held remarkable growth in awareness and Holocaust and how Israel must remain accountable for the allocation of the action that are taking place. NORPAC Mission To Washington eternally secure. Senator Menendez force- funds. Currently, more than $7 billion of Kiruv Training Seminars in homes and By Karen Pichkhadze, NORPAC fully said that a strong Israel is what is best aid to the Palestinians cannot be account- shuls have already reached more than 600 Executive Director, and Peter Hercky, NOR- not only for Israel but also the United ed for. NORPAC members also stressed members of our community, and the PAC Press Contact States. Ambassador Oren rallied the crowd that U.S. aid be conditional on the ending numbers are growing. This past October It’s 4:30 a.m. on Wednesday, May 12. by saying that although Israel faces serious of hateful anti-Israel and anti-Semitic brought 50 not-yet-frum families for a Most of us are still in bed finishing up our challenges, Israel has had incredible incitement in Palestinian news broad-

58 May 28, 2010 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES casts, publications, and schools. Scott Garrett (R-NJ). As mission chairman seems to be playing hardball with its Washington, even if the administration Middle-East Peace Process. Members of Richard Schlussel gave his exiting strategic ally in the Mideast. seems to be aloof and distant. Congress were urged to support the U.S.- remarks to the mission, “we were all grat- After hearing words of encouragement Thereafter it was off to visit with 500 led peace process under which Arab states ified at seeing so many of our members from Senators Boxer of California, Members of Congress. Groups of seven to and the Palestinians must accept the legit- being received so graciously by our Menendez of New Jersey, and former ten people met and discussed issues with imacy of the Jewish state of Israel. nation’s leaders.” Senator Coats of Indiana, as well as Representatives or their aides. Wherever According to Chouake, “Although the cur- NORPAC is a non-partisan political Congresswomen Castle of Delaware, we we went, NORPAC’s reputation and views rent Israeli government has accepted the action committee whose primary purpose were treated to a lesson in history from are respected. Almost every Senator or concept of a two-state solution and has is to support candidates and sitting mem- Ambassador Oren. Ms. Castle said, “Just Member of the House voiced their strong made countless other concessions, Arabs bers of the U.S. Senate and House of like someone can’t tell us not to make support for Israel and poo-pooed the and Palestinians refuse to even recognize Representatives who demonstrate a gen- Washington, D.C. our capital, no one can media’s slant of a wedge between good a Jewish state. Peace cannot possibly be uine commitment to the strength, security, dictate to Israel. Jerusalem is their capital friends. Israel and the U.S. need each achieved when one of the parties is and survival of Israel. NORPAC efforts and should be recognized as such.” Sen. other, and as Congresswoman McCarthy unwilling to recognize the other.” have resulted in a strong U.S.-Israel rela- Boxer emphasized the point that progress said, “Israel is America’s best source for Iran Sanctions. NORPAC members tionship in Congress and, in particular, the towards peace in the Mideast will only be Homeland Security.” Although not broad- urged legislators to encourage the process shaping of important policies emanating when everyone knows there is no space cast or even known by all members of to proceed and to support the final ver- from Washington. Detailed information between the U.S. and Israel. She also said, Congress, the cooperation of Israel is sion of the Comprehensive Iran on NORPAC and the mission is available at “Israel not only has the right to exist, but indispensable to the security of America Sanctions, Accountability, and www.norpac.net or 201-788-5733. to thrive.” Senator Menendez said, “Israel’s and the world. Although the average Divestment Act of 2009. Different ver- legitimacy is not up for debate and will American does not understand why so sions of this bill have been passed by the NNN never be. It is the only true democracy in Senate and House and are now in recon- a sea of autocracy.” Yes, we have friends in Continued on Page 60 ciliation. Mission members stressed the Five Towns Zionism In Washington importance of the bill’s passage in order By Eliezer Cohen to send a clear and unequivocal message Why would rabbis, CEO’s, doctors, to Teheran that its current course toward lawyers, businessmen, housewives, and stu- nuclear armament cannot stand. NOR- dents—1,040 Jews—spend Yom PAC put the Iran Sanctions Bill on the Yerushalayim in Washington to lobby on map three years ago and it is critically behalf of Israel? Jerusalem, Israel is on the close to passage. Members of Congress agenda. We must do our part to get out the from both parties agreed that time is run- word that America needs Israel as much, or ning out to address this existential threat more, than Israel needs the U.S. We have an to the world and in consensus fashion obligation to appreciate the gift Hashem pledged to resist attempts to weaken or presented us 43 years ago. An undivided delay the bill. Jerusalem must be recognized as the After spending the afternoon educat- unequivocal capital. If we don’t appreciate, ing over 450 members of Congress, support, and stand up, who will? NORPACers made their way back to the NORPAC’s focus was to garner support Convention Center to be addressed by for a $3 billion plus grant of military aid,. Rep. Eric Cantor (R-W.V.), Sen. David Vitter support Iran sanctions now, and support (R-LA), Rep. Brad Sherman (D-CA) and Rep. Israel against an administration that

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES May 28, 2010 59 AROUND THE FIVE TOWNS Croton Softball Scores cut the lead to 4-2. Sunday Crew gained who attended. Continued from Page 59 Week 2 momentum and tied up the game with The highlight of the morning was Hitmen (2-1): 10, Sunday Crew (0-3): 3. help from Gordon Rich, who had 3 RBIs Rabbi Eytan Feiner of the White Shul much money is allocated to foreign aid, From the first pitch, the Hitmen’s bats that day. A few more hits and a few more who honored Project Extreme with his McCarthy said it is the best investment were alive. Srulie Rosenberg knocked in RBIs from Konig (total 5 RBIs) and the most appropriate words and blessings for for our country and its citizens. the first 2 runs of the game to give the Hitmen won this one easily 11-5. O future success. Rabbi Feiner commented, Congressman Meeks’s office understood Hitmen a 2-0 lead. Hitmen ended up with “Project Extreme knows how to touch how every dollar spent creates jobs here 5 runs in the first and never looked back. Record Turnout For Project the hearts of our kids who are alienated when jobs are so crucial. They also view Avram Schreiber pitched 7 solid innings Extreme Second Annual Breakfast and hurting.” Noting the crucial one-to- JFK as one of the largest ports which giving up 3 runs (2 earned). Neil Wiener Supporters came out in full force to one ratio for Camp Extreme, the long- needs open, safe, and free trade to bring hit a monster home run for the Hitmen participate in the second annual break- term mentor program, and exciting jobs and prosperity to our area. and Adam Ofman got Sunday Crew on fast for Project Extreme held on Sunday, events throughout the year, Rabbi Feiner Sanctions on Iran and Israeli support board with a solo shot himself. May 23 at the home of Michael and continued, “Project Extreme can bring are bipartisan. Even Senators who think Meridian/Triple Net (2-1): 1, 5TLobos (2- Michelle Edery in Lawrence. Community back each and every teenager to regain UN sanctions are the way to go pledged 1): 0. A real classic pitchers’ duel between advocates including Mayor Simon Felder his place as a productive, valued member they will not stand in the way of passage Yossi Eisenberger and Ushi Rosen. The and several local rabbanim and of Klal Yisrael.” of the pending Iran sanction bill. first batter for Meridian/Triple Net, Yitz mechanchim came out to publicly offer Michael and Michelle Edery, gracious Senator Schumer’s office appreciated Chaimowitz, hit a triple and then got their encouragement and assistance to all and enthusiastic hosts for the event, our words of encouragement with knocked in on a groundout for the only of Project Extreme’s noteworthy endeav- inspired the community with their pas- respect to his comments on JM in the AM run of the game. Meridian/Triple Net ors; it was a most pleasant event for all sion for Project Extreme. Mr. Edery, who where he clearly voiced his disagreement handed 5TLobos their first loss of the sea- with the president and his regret that son tying them at 2-1. there even appeared to be some distance Week 3 between Israel and the U.S. Chuck’s team Sunday Crew (1-3): 7, 5TLobos (2-2): 2. also was clear that neither the U.S. nor Sunday Crew was in desperate need of a anyone else can dictate where Israel good start as they were still looking for builds. Building in Jerusalem is Israel’s their first win of the season. Mikey Weiss sovereign right. was taking control on the mound till he Although it was a long day, everyone had to be taken out after 3 innings who participated felt that the effort was because of injury. Asher came in and took productive. Our representatives get it. over where Mikey left off and held They appreciate hearing our hakaras 5TLobos to just 2 runs. Sunday Crew’s hatov for their past support. They under- offense was provided and David and stand the issues with Israel and under- Adam Ofman each had a triple. stand that Israel has taken extreme steps Hitmen (3-1): 11, Sunday Crew (1-4): 5. As for peace with no reciprocal steps on the Hitmen were going for a third straight part of the PA. It is important that they win, Yehuda Konig had the ball on the hear the message and they articulate mound. Hitmen scored early as usual and their positive views. May Hashem bless got up to 4-0 with the big hit of the inning our efforts and protect Am Yisrael and by Konig, with a 3 RBI Triple. Three errors (L–R) Michelle and Michael Edery, Rabbi Eytan Feiner, Rabbi A.Y. Weinberg, Eretz Yisrael. O by the Hitmen allowed Sunday Crew to and Rabbi Josh Zern.

60 May 28, 2010 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES recently visited Camp Extreme for Boys, any of the other Project Extreme programs, shared several participant case histories. please contact the Project Extreme office at Edery remarked, “Their lives are spent on 516-612-3922 or [email protected]. O the streets and they are often involved with drugs and destructive conduct. Bnot Shulamith Elementary School They’re crying out for our help and we Visits Yerushalayim On Yom must answer their call.” Yerushalayim Rabbi A.Y. Weinberg, founder and exec- Wednesday’s dull, gray skies and chilly utive director of Project Extreme temperatures turned to bright sunshine expressed heartfelt appreciation to all of and warmth at the Bnot Shulamith Yom Project Extreme’s supporters. Discussing Yerushalayim celebration. With the plans for the future, Rabbi Weinberg efforts and creativity of Bnot Shulamith’s commented on the Miryam Ghermezian teachers and talmidot, the entire school Academy, “I am optimistic and confident building was transformed into that the healing process initiated by the Yerushalayim. This special event was Miryam Ghermezian Academy will help organized by Mrs. Joyce Yarmak, Bnot each girl to reach her potential both aca- Shulamith elementary school principal, demically and socially.” The Miryam and two talented teachers, Mrs. Rivka Ghermezian Academy, the only residen- Holzman and Mrs. Mindy Futersak. tial, therapeutic school for Jewish girls-at- Each classroom’s door had become a dif- risk, successfully completed their first ferent gateway to each of Yerushalayim’s school year with flying colors. famed neighborhoods and landmarks. Rabbi Josh Zern, chief development Stepping through each gateway gave the officer, stated, “We came here to raise girls the chance to tour and explore every awareness and raise funds for Project nook and cranny of the world’s most Extreme and we certainly accomplished famous city. As they walked through each that goal. When the community under- gate, the girls received colorful playing stands what we do, day in and day out, cards that explained what that gate repre- they realize that their financial support is sented, and provided information about nothing less than saving lives.” the neighborhood they had entered. Founded in 2001 by Rabbi A.Y. Weinberg, There was so much to do. The girls Project Extreme provides a broad array of gazed at beautifully colored murals in the short and longer term innovative program- Jewish Quarter of the Old City; made ming and solutions for Jewish teens-at-risk, olive wood plaques at Mea Shearim’s their families and communities. Project world famous woodshop, wrote heartfelt Extreme uses a combination of experien- tefillot to place between the “mitzvah tial and intellectual learning opportunities bricks” at the Kotel, and sang about to provide the social, educational, and Mashiach’s arrival. emotional support our teens-in-need While walking through the Arab shuk require and benefit from. For more information regarding MGA or Continued on Page 62

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES May 28, 2010 61 AROUND THE FIVE TOWNS orphans, widows, the sick, the aged, the Continued from Page 61 handicapped, and other people in unfortunate circumstances. Their charitable the girls crushed spices that filled the activities span diverse programs such as building with the unique aromas of the Shabbos and holiday meals distribution, Old City. Holding flashlights and crawling holiday clothing vouchers, orphan and through the dark tunnels of Chizkiyahu, widow fund, bridal dowry and wedding the girls learned how the people of fund, Passover special distribution, emer- Yerushalayim once received their water. gency medical crisis fund, housing assis- While wearing the many different styles tance, and many others. of clothing representing the many differ- Rabbi Meir Baal Haneis Salant con- ent types of people who live in and visit ducts these special prayer rallies on the Yerushalayim, the girls stopped at yahrtzeit of Rabbi Meir Baal Haneis, on Machne Yehuda to sample a delicious every erev Rosh Chodesh, and on special selection of pita, pickles, watermelon, occasions. At these auspicious times the and freshly squeezed juice. gates of heaven are wide open and the Before “returning” to Woodmere, the merit of the holy sage Rabbi Meir Baal visitors from Bnot Shulamith were treated Praying at the tomb of Rabbi Meir Baal Haneis on the tanna’s yahrtzeit. Haneis is at its crest. May it be the will of to a magnificent performance given by the Hashem that He accepts all the prayers of fourth grade girls. The production gave the Klal Yisrael. Amen. rest of the girls the opportunity to meet intercede in Heaven on behalf of any in to the miraculous powers of Rabbi Anyone who wishes to have prayers some of the many talented craftsmen who person in crisis or distress who gave Meir Baal Haneis on behalf of all the sup- recited and candles lit for them and their live in Yerushalayim, and hear them charity to the poor in Israel in his mem- porters of the Rabbi Meir Baal Haneis loved ones at an upcoming prayer vigil describe how much they longed for ory and evoked his name by repeating Salant charity. They first recited the can submit their request to the U.S. office Mashiach to come so they could use their the ageless mantra “Elakah D’Meir entire Sefer Tehillim. Afterwards they lit of Rabbi Meir Baal Haneis Salant at 15 talents to rebuild the Beis Hamikdash. Aneini.” Reciting prayers and lighting candles and said special individualized Negba Street, Lakewood, N.J. 08701. They Then it was time to go. The girls candles at the sacred tomb of Rabbi Meir prayers that were submitted by the can also call 1-877-772-5268, or visit stepped out of the gates and back into Baal Haneis on his yahrtzeit, when his donors. The holiness of the hour was www.rabbimeirbaalhaneis.com. O their fully restored classrooms. And in holy power is at its peak, has for cen- highly palpable and the charged emo- their hands were the colorful playing turies brought miraculous salvation to tions of those assembled reached a deaf- Naomi Boutique Kosher Tours cards they collected, reminding them of thousands of people. ening crescendo as the final Yehi Ratzon By Leora Gee all they had learned about Yerushalayim This past April 28 was the yahrtzeit of prayer was recited in unison. This month another of Eric Goldberg’s and about its beauty and kedushah. O Rabbi Meir Baal Haneis. Throughout the The holy charity fund Rabbi Meir Baal kosher tours is due to set off to Amalfi, Italy. day, thousands of Jews from all over Israel Haneis Salant was established in 1860 by Since November 2006, when Goldberg Rabbi Meir Baal Haneis Salant converged on his holy gravesite in the city the Chief Rabbi of Jerusalem, Rabbi began his kosher gastronomic travels, he Conducts Massive Chatzos Prayer of Tiberius to offer prayers and supplica- Shmuel Salant, with his father-in-law, the has succeeded in leading 30 groups to less- Vigil At Sacred Tomb Of Rabbi tions in the merit of this wondrous sage. great tzadik Rabbi Zundel Salant, to save er-known havens around Europe. Meir Baal Haneis On Wednesday night after midnight, the poor of Israel from ruin. To this very These tours, which were an organic Two thousand years ago, the great and Rabbi Meir Baal Haneis Salant conducted day, Rabbi Meir Baal Haneis Salant con- development of the family business, holy tanna and miracle worker Rabbi a massive prayer assemblage of promi- tinues to save and comfort thousands of Naomi Catering of Jerusalem, started as a Meir Baal Haneis vowed to personally nent rabbanim and roshei yeshiva, to tap Israel’s poorest and most destitute— single Tuscan kosher cooking school in a

62 May 28, 2010 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES historic villa in Lucca, Tuscany. “Learning people on them come from all over the to cook Italian food in Tuscany with two globe: North and South America, Canada, Cordon Bleu chefs was only part of the England, and Israel. There are couples fun. Views of Tuscany’s famous rolling and singles, older folks and younger, hills, beautiful towns like Florence, Siena, mothers treating daughters, and even big and tiny Pitigliano, cycling around the families of 20-50 people. “We spent last walls of Lucca, and sipping cappuccinos summer on an island in Greece with a in local coffee shops was another part of family of 30, and two summers ago in it,” says Goldberg. Tuscany with a family group of 40.” The groups are accommodated, wherev- Due to clients’ requests, the tours have er possible, in fabulous historic villas sur- expanded to other places around Europe rounded by gardens, with a swimming and offer different luxuries. Currently the pool and fresh coffee available at all times. tours are based mainly in Amalfi and LG: How did you get into this? Lucca (South and North Italy) and in EG: The history of these tours goes Andalusia, Spain. Greece, Portugal, France, back approximately 30 years. My family and Morocco are works in progress. The loves to travel. We always tried to go away schedule and activities are flexible to suit during the summer holidays with the the group’s character and requirements. kids. We took them to different places. LG: So what’s on the menu? Usually to Europe and for some reason we EG: Each evening, after a day’s hiking or became fixated on Italy and kept going touring, dinner is served to our guests back there. We enjoyed the views, the alongside the regular guests with the markets, the smells, the villas, the people, ambience that the location offers. the language, and mostly the food. Everyone’s wine glasses are constantly full The food?!? Kosher in Tuscany?!?! Our of exquisite wine, poured by our somme- family keeps kosher but we are unwilling liers imported from Israel (as the wines to “make do” with tuna cans and crackers. are non-mevushal). Italian or Spanish Pans, knives, and chopping boards were music plays in the background. If you always part of our packing list. Hotels did- walk around the tables you’ll hear every- n’t work but self-catering rustic villas one laughing and enjoying themselves. with private pools did! When we arrived In the morning, the group wakes up to at our destination, we would go straight the aroma of fresh breads and coffee. They to the supermarket and buy a small grill, enjoy a full rich breakfast before setting fresh fish, pasta, and cheese (off the local out on their luxury bus for the day’s excit- kosher list, of course). Our friends back ing tour. Over the week the guests hike, home would hear about the way we trav- cycle, take in a concert, tour the popular el and what fantastic holidays we had sites, see and hear about Jewish history and say, “You’ve got to show people how and life nowadays, and see art and archi- to do it!” so I finally did four years ago…. tecture. They even eat Italian ice cream on LG: From where to where? EG: While the tours are in English, the Continued on Page 64

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES May 28, 2010 63 AROUND THE FIVE TOWNS the area for an hour or so, often with true essence of Shabbos. Oneg Shabbos inspired. Many of the participants left the Continued from Page 63 more surprising content. Lunch, rest by programs on Friday night were hosted by event with enthusiastic plans to attend the pool, and an afternoon walk for who- the Bennet family for the teen girls and JEP-LI’s Camp Nageela this summer. With the street and drink fresh Italian coffee. ever wants is the day’s plan. And after the Levinson family for the teen boys. comments like “I’m totally coming to But the icing on the cake is the amaz- every Shabbat, as they say in Israel, comes The remainder of Shabbos was filled with Camp Nageela! That place sounds awe- ing local cuisine made kosher. Even at Motzaei Shabbat where the group can games, workshops, divrei Torah, dancing, some!” being thrown around freely, JEP is lunch time, a buffet is set up for the group enjoy a “night on the town.” and singing, with shalosh seudos hosted happy and proud to consider this wherever they are: fresh breads, salads, LG: So what’s left for your clients to do? by the Dubin and Schwartz families. The Shabbaton a huge success. pasta, and fruit and cake for dessert are EG: Apart from flights, the trip is organ- atmosphere was brimming with fun, Now, JEP-LI sets its sights on the sum- served with chilled white wine, red wine, ized for you from A-Z. All you need to do laughter, warmth, and love. As one of the mer, to make sure that every child that and hot and cold drinks. After lunch, the is choose a location and a date. boys said so beautifully, “After experienc- wants to come to Camp Nageela will be touring resumes to give everyone a For more about Naomi Boutique ing a Shabbos like this, how can I go back able to. On Thursday night, June 17, the chance to build up their appetite for Kosher Tours, visit www.naomicatering home and continue to break Shabbos?” Cholent Bowl II will be held at Dr. and another incredible dinner back at base. .com/koshertours.asp, e-mail eric@naomi- On Friday afternoon, traffic prevented Mrs. Ari Weinreb’s home in Woodmere to The days are packed with activities but catering.com, or call +972-523-860- one of the New Jersey vans from arriving in raise camp scholarship funds. To get if you want to do your own thing or meet 551(Israel). O the Five Towns in time for Shabbos. Last ready for this super-powered event join up with the group at a given point, that’s minute arrangements were made by Rabbi the cholent blog at thecholentbowl.com. your call. If you’re not interested in cook- Four Shuls Host JEP-LI Moshe Rosenbaum of Woodbourne’s JEP/Nageela thanks Hakadosh Baruch ing but in cycling or vice versa, the tour On May 7–8 the Jewish Education Hakol B’Sefer for the girls to stay on the Hu and the Five Towns community for leader can arrange having more of this or Program (JEP) of Long Island was privi- Lower East Side of Manhattan. Through enabling these girls and boys to experi- that activity for you. He can organize a leged to be hosted by the Five Towns com- several amazing “coincidences,” the ence a Shabbos they will never forget. O professional cyclist to show you around munity for their biggest Shabbaton of the Rosenbaums were prepared with enough the hills on a bike, he can show you where year. The Shabbaton brought together food to seem like they were expecting Rivkah Laufer Bikur Cholim: Past, the best shops are for clothes and gifts. If, around 150 irreligious children from Long them. The girls also had the privilege of Present, And The Next Generation by chance, you’re feeling hungry after all Island, New York, and New Jersey. The being hosted by Rav Dovid Feinstein. By Fran Laufer the meals, he can have a fresh one pre- enthusiastic girls and boys arrived Friday Rather than disappointment over not arriv- This year, as the Rivkah Laufer Bikur pared for you. You just need to ask. afternoon and were hosted by families ing at the Shabbaton until Motzaei Cholim prepares for its annual spring And then there’s Shabbat. After running belonging to Kehilas Beis Yehudah Tzvi, Shabbos, the girls had a most memorable luncheon, there is much to be grateful for around for a few days, it’s time to relax. Tiferes Tzvi (Rabbi Chatzinoff’s shul), Bais Shabbos. When asked to rate their Shabbos as I reflect on the past and look forward Friday night (when the women usually Medrash of Cedarhurst (Rabbi Speigel’s experience in Manhattan from 1-10, one of to the promising future of the organiza- show up to shul for the first time) is prob- shul), and the Agudah of the Five Towns. the girls responded, “10,000!” tion. Firstly, we are marking the momen- ably one of the most unforgettable sights Rabbi Pinchas Chatzinoff, Yissoschar Motzaei Shabbos involved sushi mak- tous milestone of being in existence for you’ll get to see on the trip. In the middle Deutch, Stuart Nussbaum, Yisroel Wasser, ing, pizza making, live music, and danc- 45 years. I have the honor of being the of nowhere, surrounded by G-d’s magnifi- and Victor Deutch undertook the monu- ing! The Shabbaton ended with a bang founding president along with my dear cent handiwork, and with the sun setting mental task of helping to find housing for Sunday morning at the friend, Miriam Lubling, a woman of valor, on the horizon, the sound of the davening over 200 people (including staff) for that Brandeis/Rambam gym with world- devoted to many charities within the is imbued with almost surreal qualities. Shabbos. renowned mentalist Matthew Furman. Jewish community. We created this out- Dinner is served, with singing just like On Friday night the children remained Special thanks to Mr. Mark Ramer and standing organization together with at home. The locals watch, fascinated. at their hosts where they enjoyed a deli- Vincent Del-Cid of Brandeis for helping to other amazing collaborators and hard- Before lunch the next day, after shul and cious, warm, and inspiring meal and had arrange the location of the Sunday morn- working volunteers, including Sara breakfast, the group goes for a stroll in the unique opportunity to experience the ing activity. The children left happy and Teicher, Pearl Pinter, Jean Gluck,

64 May 28, 2010 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES The young leadership committee, led by Jaclyn Glickman and Suri S. Rozner, is calling itself Fran Laufer “Rivkah Laufer Bikur Cholim—The Next Generation.”

On Tuesday June 15, The Rivkah Laufer Roseanne Rosenthal, Regina Peterseil, I am excited and proud to announce the there are other family and work commit- Bikur Cholim has scheduled its annual Lorraine Nelson, Gayle Yashar, and Esther recent formation of a young leadership ments that pull them in different direc- spring luncheon at Terrace on the Park. Weinberger, who have presided over this committee, a new concept within the tions, Jaclyn and Suri are committed to fur- The guest of honor will be Rita Schwalb; remarkable charity since its inception. organization that is being called Rivkah thering the goals of Rivkah Laufer Bikur the rofeh award will be presented to David Our organization was established to Laufer Bikur Cholim: The Next Generation. Cholim: The Next Generation by raising Lefkowitz, M. D. A special presentation honor the memory of Rivkah Laufer, who A dynamic group of young women awareness and funds through entertaining will be made to Fay Tusk and a memorial died in l965 and was the dear mother of which includes daughters and granddaugh- events and enlisting new volunteers with- tribute will be presented to the family of Pearl Pinter. Since that time, the Rivkah ters of the original founders, The Next in the Jewish community. the late Rabbi Dr. Bernard Lander, z’l. Laufer Bikur Cholim has provided many Generation committee has been estab- On June 9, Rivkah Laufer Bikur Please respond with an open hand and services for the sick and needy, both here lished by a presidium consisting of Jaclyn Cholim: The Next Generation will be full heart and support those who seek and in Israel. To name just a few, RLBC Glicksman and Suri Sternberg Rozner. hosting its kick-off event in Lawrence at our help and consider the cholim to be volunteers visit the sick and arrange for Jaclyn, my granddaughter, is the daughter the home of Raizel Feder. As homage to the true guests of honor this year. It is our meals, provide referrals to physicians, of Gayle Yashar, an active Rivkah Laufer the revitalization of our longstanding tefillah that in this zechus, they will merit Shabbos accommodations for family volunteer. Suri is married to my grandson, charity, the theme of the event will be a refuah shleimah. Your sponsorship will members, transportation to and from Daniel Rozner, the son of Suzie Rozner. “What Is Old Is New,” an evening cen- enable the Rivkah Laufer Bikur Cholim to doctors and medical treatments, and a These young women and their friends will tered around all things vintage and classic continue its vital work of chesed. The cost wide range of financial and psychological be the next generation of volunteers for made new again. All fundraising will be of the luncheon is $45 per person; each support. The Rivkah Laufer Bikur Cholim this noble charity. Their goals are aligned accomplished through raffles that center reservation must be accompanied by a has no operating expenses; it is an all-vol- with those of the founding members and around the theme, as well as a silent auc- donation. If you are unable to attend, unteer organization, and every dollar that they will continue in the tradition of their tion of vintage items. For more informa- your contribution will be greatly appreci- is raised goes to underwrite the medical forbearers to bring comfort to the most tion about the event or to make a dona- ated. For additional information, please and ancillary expenses of the patients. vulnerable members of society. Although tion, please visit www.RLBikurCholim.org. call 516-295-3336. O

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men showed that those with the highest trial.” Raising D to appropriate levels, said level of vitamin D had a 45% lower risk of Garland, is also “expected to reduce case- NutriWorld developing aggressive prostate cancer. fatality rates of patients who have breast, • According to noted vitamin D colorectal, or prostate cancer by half.” researcher Dr. Michael Hollick of Boston Increasingly, research is showing that BY ELIEZER GRUBER, CN of research form the basis of many of my University Medical Center (whose break- vitamin D deficiency may also have an nutritional recommendations. I can hard- through research in vitamin D was pub- impact on other serious conditions, includ- Vitamin D Deficiency: ly open a medical journal these days lished in the New England Journal of ing cardiovascular disease; autoimmune dis- A Silent Epidemic? without reading about some new study Medicine), increasing intake of vitamin D eases like type 1 diabetes, rheumatoid arthri- According to the findings of a recent regarding the link between vitamin D and results in an estimated 30-50% reduction tis, and multiple sclerosis; hypertension; study, higher levels of vitamin D are its role in preventing cancer and improv- in the risk for developing colorectal, muscle weakness in fibromyalgia; macular linked to less severe and less deadly ing the prognosis in cancer patients. breast, and prostate cancer. degeneration; asthma; and infectious dis- forms of malignant melanoma. A small sampling of those studies: • A team of cancer prevention special- eases, including flu and the common cold. The study, which was reported in the • A study by Creighton University ists at the Moore’s Cancer Center at the In addition, a large population-based study November 2009 issue of the Journal of School of Medicine found that getting University of California, San Diego, head- published in the Archives of General Clinical Oncology, is yet another addi- plenty of vitamin D could cut the risk of ed by Dr. Cedric Garland, reported that Psychiatry showed an association between tion to a growing body of evidence sup- any cancer by 60% or more. vitamin D levels of 52 ng/ml (which is depression (and the severity of depression) porting the idea that vitamin D plays a • Studies published by major medical considered well within the normal range) with decreased levels of vitamin D. critical role in the prevention and treat- And according to an article published ment of many forms of cancer. In the in the Archives of Internal Medicine, low recent trial, researchers examined the levels of vitamin D are independently medical records of 872 patients with Dr. Garland asserted that raising levels of associated with all forms of mortality. melanoma and tried to link their vitamin vitamin D would prevent approximately 58,000 Yet despite all the evidence, there D levels to the severity of their lesions exists today what experts are calling a and their likelihood of surviving without new cases of breast cancer and 49,000 new cases “silent epidemic” of vitamin D deficiency. a relapse. They found that those with So why aren’t we getting enough vita- higher levels of vitamin D had less severe of colorectal cancer each year. min D? Do some people need more than lesions and a lower rate of relapse. There others? How much is enough vitamin D? was approximately a 20% reduction in How can we know if we’re deficient, and the risk of relapse and death with a what can we do about it? O 20nmol/L (8ng/ml) increase in blood centers and universities, including Harvard were associated with a 50% reduction in (To be continued) level of vitamin D. School of Public Health, the University of the risk of breast cancer. The research suggests, says Dr. Julia A. California, and Boston University, suggest In an article in the Annals of Eliezer Gruber, CN, educator, researcher, and Newton-Bishop, a dermatology professor that people with vitamin D deficiencies are Epidemiology, Dr. Garland asserted that founder/developer of the Nutri-Supreme Research at the University of Leeds in England and at an increased risk for several types of can- line of supplements, lectures widely on the role of raising levels of vitamin D “would prevent nutrition in achieving and maintaining optimal a co-author of the study, that “low levels cers, including those of the breast, ovaries, approximately 58,000 new cases of breast health. Mr. Gruber’s recommendations are based on of vitamin D allow the melanoma tumors colon, pancreas, rectum, and prostate. cancer and 49,000 new cases of colorectal cutting edge science and ongoing communication with leading medical experts. Nutri-Supreme acts as to grow better and, therefore, to be more • The Journal of Clinical Oncology reported cancer each year, and three fourths of official nutritional consultant for Kof-K Kosher of a threat to the patient.” that higher levels of vitamin D can reduce deaths from these diseases in the United Supervision. Readers are invited to e-mail questions to Mr. Gruber at [email protected]. For Cutting-edge scientific studies and my the risk of colon and rectal cancer by 50%. States and Canada, based on observational information regarding a nutritional evaluation, call interviews with experts at the forefront • A 13-year Harvard study of over 2,000 studies combined with a randomized 718-853-0644.

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First Perfect entertainment for Bar/ Bat ern bths, modern kitchen, brand new 2 family 3/3, 4.5bths, beautiful kosher show. Col. 9’ ceilings, 5BR, 2.5bths, full Mitzvah, Sheva Brachos, or benefit. wood floors, new stucco, near shuls, kitchens, parking, full basement. basement, on quiet tree-lined street. Very reasonable cost. Call Esther 718- asking ...... $825K ...... Only $599K Call for details ...... $799K 327-2643, [email protected] 917-575-2213 Far Rockaway — New to Market. 5 Towns Homes Realty 516-569-5710 West Lawrence/Far Rockaway — by Spacious Newly Constructed Town HELP WANTED appt. House, 3 Floors, master bedroom suite West Hempstead — Open House Sunday 5/30, 1:00-4:00 302 Maple Street Prime Spacious California ranch, huge finished w/ Jacuzzi tub. 5BR 3.5bath, Stainless Location!! 4 Bedrooms, near YIWH! basement ...... $900’s Steel kosher kitchen, Den, lots of closets New Kosher Kitchen. 2 Dens, LR, DR, Semi-Attached legal 2 family, garage, and storage, high ceilings and skylights. Cash Fast!! MBR, MIC. Asking ...... $545K basement ...... $650K Private beach rights ...... $650K $1,000+ Per day Owner 516-505-0527 Lawrence — by appt. Far Rockaway/Lawrence — 833 Central Simply returning phone calls 136 Monroe St — Mint bi-level lg property 1BR co-op, huge LR/DR, updated No selling Lawrence/ Far Rockaway — 833 Tax codes approved by the IRS ...... $845K kitchen, 24-hour doorman, Shabbos ele- Central Ave. New to market. Spacious 1 "My first 72 hours brought me 8 Ventana Ct — S/h col. cul-de-sac vator, low maintenance. BR, light and bright, doorman/ elevator $11,000 and I just started" LeeAnn, ...... $989K Lawrence — 1 Roslyn Place — 1 BR building, walk all...... $210K Housewife, CT 124 Broadway — Grand col. 5 BR+ apt, 1 bth, LR/DR with terrace over- 5 Towns Homes Realty 516-569-5710 (888)202-8851 www.getcashtoday.me ...... $1.195M looking Central Ave. Low maintenance, House for sale by owner, on a very cute 74 Auerbach Lane — Young 5/6 BR c/h col possibility of two parking spots. block in Cedarhurst, 3 BR, 1 1/2 Bath, EIK, ...... $900’s Asking price ...... $199K Teachers — Boys Yeshiva High School, LR/DR and Finished Basement. Priced to Cedarhurst Please call Ari 516-521-8870 5 Towns Area. Afternoon classes— sell. For more info please call 516-569-1685 526 W. Broadway 12-1:30 ...... $499K Weissman Realty Group, LLC 516-791-6100 English, Social Studies, & Math. Fax (leave a message if no answer). 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Great working 5 Towns Homes Realty 516-569-5710 Far Rockaway — Co-op for sale...... $879K very negotiable environment and competitive pay. 833 Central Ave. 1 BR, balcony, kosher Open House this Sunday, April 25th Masters and license only. Lido Beach — Lg 4 BR, 2.5 Bth, LR, EIK, 24-hour doorman, Shabbos eleva- Please contact Jonathan 917-566-1225 E-mail [email protected] FDR, EIK, Den, Fin Bsmt, Prvt Drv, tor, walking distance LIRR, shuls. CAC, Front & Backyard, Seconds to Classic New construction — prices 347-525-4225, 646-577-4265, 718-253-0360, Shuls. Call Nevin Diamond 516-860-4007, F/T general help wanted for mini from $995K 201-618-8578 Broker mart/butcher shop. Stock/cashier/deli Lawrence/Cedarhurst — counter. Need valid driver’s license. Law: Hi Ranch. Must see, 4br, 2.5bth, Hewlett — New to market. Beautiful 5 New Construction. Grand entry foyer Shomer Shabbos. Fax 516-280-4122 fam rm, CAC, 2 car garage, large BR, 3 bths, split. All updated, in SD#14. 6BR, C/H colonial. w/bsmt. Too much to prop ...... $800sK Separate entrance can be M/D with mention ...... $1.450M Driver, Nurse, Office Manager, Ced: Nu2Mkt, 2Fam, 3br/3br, 2fpl, proper permits. Owner motivated, pres- Cedarhurst — New Construction Chinuch Coordinator deck, all new, grt loc, full bsmt ent all offers...... $550K 5BR colonial w/bsmt on 175’ deep Frum Boy’s Sleepaway Camp in the ...... $795K 5 Towns Home Realty 516-569-5710 property ...... $995K Catskills. 5 TOWN HOMES 516-569-5710 Woodmere — 2 New Constructions Great location, great staff. Cedahurst — Motivated Seller. Tudor w/ Classic 5BR C/H colonial. Large Husband/wife team a plus. Oversized Rooms, Great Street, Walk to 5 Town Homes 516-569-5712 property. Walk to YI of Woodmere. Contact 718-915-1567 Shuls, Ready to Deal ...... $455K Cedarhurst: NU 2 Mkt. Lg LR, DR, Hewlett Neck — Half acre Woodmere — Incredible C.H. col. 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All inquiries 5 TOWN HOMES 516-569-5710 — BA Far Rockaway: Coop, 3Br, 1Bth strictly confidential. Please call *787 West Broadway — Brick 4BR S/H Lr/Dr, Walk to All ...... $179K Sherri at Weissman Realty Group Far Rockaway: 2 Fam. All NU colonial — Finished basement, great Call 516-322-3555 516-791-6100 3 over 3 Br. 4Fbth, Dr, Full bsmt yard. Totally updated. Walk to Aish. All features ...... $779K ...... $799K Call 516-263-6417 Lawrence — Wonderful c/h col. house on the nicest cul-de-sac there is. Brand *3 Ike Street — Mint 5BR, Expanded Cedarhust — New house Young contem- new kitchen, finished basement. Ranch on huge double buildable lot. porary col. high ceilings, large win- Asking ...... $875K ...... $899K dows, bright and light, 4 BR (1 level) Call 516-902-0936 *637 Branch Blvd . . . . Reduced $499K LR, FDR, large EIK, den, full finished *372 Argyle Road — Totally renovated Woodmere/Cedarhurst Oppty! and Reduced to ...... $539K basement, large fenced yard. Walk all. 12,000 sq. ft. approx. 90’x150’, Colonial, Cedarhurst — 2 BR, 2bth. Ground floor ...... $3,000 17 rooms, full bsmt. with hi ceilings, Apt for rent. Call for details. Five Towns Realty 516-569-5710 clean 2 car garage plus storage, 6 space South Shore Estates 516-569-4980 parking, 2 family, professional use, Cedarhurst: 1st Show accountant, Esq., medical and/or educa- 1st FLR, FDR, 2BR. 2BTHS Terrace. tional and religious uses. Grand colonial Classified Ads are Views of Gdns, W/D, Lo maint, Grt. with charm and great possibilities. loca’n, Walk all ...... $319K Available at once . . . $875K Negotiable Continued on the Next Page. 5 TOWN HOMES 516-569-5710 Owner 516-322-3555 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES May 28, 2010 69 CLASSIFIED ADS Continued from Page 69 FOR RENT FOR RENT FOR RENT COMMERCIAL REAL ESTATE Home By Owner Cedarhurst — $2750 — Nicest house rental in Far Rockaway. Lawrence — 18 Berkley Place 4BR /2.5Bth. near all. huge EIK. lg DR Beautiful, Ready to move in, 5 BR Center hall col., 4 BR, 3 bths, stunning FOR SALE & LR. open flrpln. deck & bckyrd. gas house on excellent block in Far cul-de-sac, best location . . $4K monthly Call Irene 516-652-7099 ht. must see! Roman 917-309-7529 Rockaway. Brand new kitchen and very spacious backyard. Call owner Cedarhurst — Garden apt. Nu 2 Mkt. Cedarhurst — Central Ave. corner 1 Far Rockaway — Large One Bedroom 917-617-0768 2BR. 2Bth, Mint, 1st Flr, heat & prk story retail building for sale. 1100 sq. ft. Apartment for rent. Beautiful elevator incld ...... $2,300 Great location...... $469K bldg. Nice tenancy. Great location at Far Rockaway — Lg. Hse Rental: 4br, Call 917-704-2950 5 Towns Homes Realty 516-569-5710 Neilson and Cornaga, near Shor Yoshuv, 2bth, bsmt., hi-ceilings, NU bths, W\D. Call 516-322-3555 transportation, and shopping. Valley Stream — All new beautiful large Asking $1,100. Call 718-692-2525 ext. 180 COMMERCIAL Far Rockaway — Beautiful 6.5 rooms, 3 2 BR, EIK – FDR, upper of 2 family house, quiet residential street, includes REAL ESTATE Far Rockaway rentals: BR, 2 baths, new kitchen, separate entrance, own thermostat. Best block in heat and parking...... $1,700 FOR RENT 1 and 2 BR apartments. some bal- Far Rockaway. 718-868-1153 5 Towns Homes Realty 516-569-5710 conies. New kitchens, lots of closets, 24 hr doorman, security cameras. Close to Far Rockaway — Beautiful house, 7 Beautiful Block Island Kosher Vacation Cedarhurst — Office rental: Executive White Shul, Shor Yoshuv and train. large BR, 3.5bths, large LR, DR, EIK, 2 Bths, Fully Web wired, 1,250 sq. ft., Rental:Only 2 vacation weeks left for Call Sherri 516-297-7995 office, den. Reads Lane. 845-352-0357 summer 2010. New Home and family CAC. 5TGR 516-322-3555 Weissman Realty Group, LLC compound. For information: 516-791-6100 Lawrence/Far Rockaway — 833 Central Glendale/Ridgewood, NY — 5,500 sq. ft. 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5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES May 28, 2010 71 Full Speed Ahead For ‘Match 4 Zack’ Marrow Drive Support for Israel and for YU student Zack Englander were highly visible at Sunday’s Salute to Israel parade in New York, as two bone-marrow donor registration sites near the parade route logged more than 2,000 people during the afternoon. Parade participants and spectators in good health and between the ages of 18 and 60 years were encouraged to get their cheeks swabbed in a quick and painless procedure, in hopes that their genetic “signatures” might allow an eventual match for Zack or other patients. “The registration at Temple Emanu-El and near Central Park allowed literally thousands to take their concern and support for their fellow Jews—amply Zack Englander demonstrated by their involvement with the parade—to another level, by being there for Zack and other potential bone- A second “Match 4 Zack” bone-marrow marrow recipients,” said Jonathan registration drive is being planned in the Nierenberg, friend of the Englander fami- Five Towns and in Far Rockaway for ly and a delegate to the Gift of Life Bone Sunday, May 30 at HAFTR High School on Marrow Foundation. “We are all grateful Central Avenue in Cedarhurst and at for the time and effort of the registration Yeshiva Sh’or Yoshuv (One Cedar Lawn drive volunteers, and the material sup- Avenue, Lawrence) from 8:30 a.m. to 5:00 port of numerous organizations, institu- p.m. Volunteers age 12 and up are being tions, and vendors.” sought; “chesed hours” hours are available Nierenberg noted that efforts for Zack for students. Those interested are asked Englander also benefited greatly from to e-mail their time and location prefer- the direct support for a similar registra- ences to [email protected]. tion drive in Riverdale, on behalf of a For more information about the young father, Mr. Matt Fenster, who was bone marrow drive, please go to diagnosed with acute myelogous www.giftoflife.org/dc/Match4Zack/ leukemia (AML). blog.aspx. O

72 May 28, 2010 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES ceedings), foreclosure defense (including for exploratory services: exploratory com- the client psychologically and emotional- Beneath The Law: debt settlement and mortgage modifica- petence; availability and ability to dili- ly, but can ruin the client’s ability to tion), and general corporate law. gently perform the exploration; and, per- accomplish his or her legal goals. O What Lies Beneath The Even in these generally non-adversarial haps most important, trustworthiness matters, it always pays to be prepared, and and discretion. Ultimately, if the process Daniel Friedman, Esq., is a Shomer Shabbat Practice Of Law even a perfunctory implementation of my of exploration or its results become com- attorney located in Woodmere, NY, and has exploratory skills often pays big divi- mon knowledge before the successful res- recently been added to the www.frumcentral.com endorsed list of attorneys. E-mail questions to BY DANIEL FRIEDMAN, ESQ. dends. In one case, homebuyers were con- olution of the legal matter at hand, it not [email protected]. You can visit his cerned about potentially toxic coal only becomes potentially damaging to website at www.danielfriedmanlaw.com. When Legal Research deposits in a residential backyard. When a Is Not Enough clearer picture emerged after research While many local attorneys specialize in with offices of the local township and transactional real estate and general corpo- EPA, the home buyers were notified and rate business law (which are services that I able to detangle themselves from the deal. often perform for clients), others concen- There are other times when it is trate on legal areas which require the abili- extremely beneficial to engage an attor- ty to, at times, get “down and dirty”—in a ney for exploratory matters within the perfectly legal manner, of course. Jewish community. These situations I am referring to specialties such as often involve matters of potential separa- matrimonial law (commonly referred to tion, divorce, custody, intergenerational as family law), trust and estate litigation transfer of wealth, religious divergence (which includes the potentially nasty between couples, and, more recently, contesting of a will), employment law matters concerning organizational and (including workers’ compensation, EEOC, educational institutions, their member- and OSHA matters), and landlord and ten- ship, and their student body. ant law (in which a conniving tenant may In these serious instances, there are not actually live in the subject premises, three things that the potential client or even have any legal right to occupy must seek in his or her attorney engaged them, or may be engaged in unsafe or illegal activities in the course of his tenancy). When these “trench legal warfare” situations present themselves, an attorney must prepare himself for the daunting task at hand and garner every advantage under the law for his legal arsenal so that the client is represented to the fullest. This is where the necessity for exploratory, surveillance, and data collection and analysis services become crucial, and this is why I am often contacted by attorneys as well as unrepresented individuals, including suspicious spouses, landlords, a decedent’s next of kin, business owners, and organizational directors. While there is a school of thought that for serious investigative needs a private investigator or even a large detective agency is required, there are many occasions when an attorney who specializes in the thorough exploration (including surveillance) and collection of data from a diverse range of sources (including the Internet, private interviews, covert surveillance, and cultivated relationships in law- enforcement and local, state, and federal agencies) can provide more effective, cost- efficient, and legally relevant services. The key to the role of the attorney in this regard is that he can oftentimes more skillfully analyze and interpret the data collected, and even focus the search for such information more keenly. The attorney understands what is necessary to learn and ascertain from a purely legal standpoint, and not be bogged down in information that, while possibly titillat- ing and fascinating, is irrelevant to the matter at hand. This seriousness and sharpness of scope allows the attorney-practitioner in this area to become a valued asset to other attorneys who are seeking a professional, thorough, focused, and economi- cal professional who will both listen to the legal goals of the attorney/client while offering some of his own unique perspective on the matter. In my own traditional law practice, I routinely provide clients with such diverse and basic services as representation in residential and commercial real-estate trans- actions, estate planning (including drafting trusts and wills), Surrogate’s Court practice (including probate and administration pro- 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES May 28, 2010 73 Israel Chided For Arrest Of Alleged Hezbollah Spy

BY SAMUEL SOKOL in their statement. Philip Luther, deputy state. “Above all, the most colonial and abroad through the use of universal juris- ISRAEL CORRESPONDENT director of Amnesty International’s racist law in Israel is the law of return diction laws. Makhoul, described by Middle East and North Africa Program, and law of citizenship, which is the Amnesty International as a human rights Jerusalem—Amnesty International has accused Israel of “pure harassment” and basis for all discrimination,” Makhoul defender, further stated that Hamas’s issued a scathing condemnation of described the alleged spy as a “prisoner recently told the anti-Zionist Electronic rocket fire against Israeli civilians did not Israel’s arrest of suspected Hezbollah of conscience.” Intifada website. constitute a war crime. spies Ameer Makhoul and Dr. Omar Sayid. According to a statement issued by the Proof Of Repression group, the arrests on charges of “contact Amnesty International’s statement with a foreign agent” are part of “a broad- “Above all, the most colonial and went on to describe the Israeli Central er pattern of state repression.” Election Committee’s 2009 decision to Makhoul was arrested in his Haifa racist law in Israel is the law of return ban the Israeli-Arab National Democratic home on May 6 and is currently in Party (Balad) from participation in elec- police detention. After a court-imposed tions as proof to Makhoul’s assertion that gag order on the arrest was lifted, it was and law of citizenship, which is the Israel is engaged in “state repression reported that the Israeli-Arab had been against the peaceful political activities” of in contact with agents of the Hezbollah basis for all discrimination.” Israeli Arabs. The decision, which was terrorist militia based in Southern later overturned by the Supreme Court, Lebanon. The offices of the Israeli-Arab was made after party head Azmi Bishara NGO-coalition Ittijah, which Makhoul fled Israel in 2007 following an investiga- heads, were also raided in connection Hamas Rocket Fire At the time of Israel’s 2009 Cast Lead tion into his connection with Hezbollah with the case. Is Not A War Crime Gaza incursion, Makhoul admitted that during the 2006 Second Lebanon War. Amnesty dismissed the charges of Makhoul is a staunch opponent of he was one of the major players in efforts Bishara visited Syria, which exists in a espionage, only briefly mentioning them Israel’s existence as a Jewish and Zionist to have senior Israeli officials arrested state of war with Israel, in 2001 and 2006 and expressed his support for Hezbollah, which he called a “legitimate liberation movement.” Israeli officials claim that Balad “did not recognize Israel’s existence as a Jewish and democratic state” and expresses support for terrorism. Recently elected Balad MK Hanin Zoabi summed up her party’s view of Israel when she stated, “Rejecting the ‘Jewish state’ concept will block the road for anyone who demands our loyalty to such a state.” The freshman MK also called on Iran to develop nuclear weapons as a deterrent to what she termed Israeli aggression.

Makhoul And Salah Makhoul is also a supporter of Sheikh Rael Salah, the leader of Israel’s Northern Islamic Movement, who was once con- victed of raising funds for Hamas and has been arrested on numerous occasions for inciting violence against Jews. Speaking to a packed audience of Israeli-Arabs Friday in the Galilee town of Kfar Kana, Sheikh Salah called the arrests of Said and Makhoul an act of “revenge against political groups in our society.” Makhoul’s job, he claimed, was to “reveal the crimes of the Israeli establishment.” The sheikh issued a warning to Israeli Internal Security Minister Yitzhak Aharonovitch that the natural place of all who “incite” against the Arabs is “under our shoes.” “Mr. Aharonovitch and all those hiding behind you, don’t put us in a corner,” he warned, threatening violence, “because the more radical one among us will go mad. We will all rise and defend our present and our future and our children’s.” According to Aharonovitch “most of the investigation was carried out in the dark and cannot be detailed, but the affair is far from over.” O

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Bat Mitzvah of Noa Eliach, who attends YCQ, took place Monday evening, May 17, at Ohr Torah in North Woodmere. Catering was by New Star, and entertainment was by Azamra DJ. Noa is the daughter of Mrs. Hildy and Rabbi Yotav Eliach, principal of Rambam.

76 May 28, 2010 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES The Goldene Medinah A Five Towns Simcha

BY SIMA MENORA they want to know. This may have Photo By Suri Adams Photography stemmed from the immigrants huddled Golda Meir was quoted as saying, “Let together on entry to Israel and forming me tell you something that we Israelis family units, as well as defensive units; Bat Mitzvah of Erica have against Moses. He took us 40 years they’ve learned to treat absolute through the desert in order to bring us to strangers with the same familiarity as Liebowitz, the one spot in the Middle East that has family members. While these traits daughter of no oil!” don’t sit well with our Western sensibil- Jackie and Jay We Israelis have not been blessed ities, they may actually be great assets Liebowitz with oil like our wealthy Arab neighbors, leading to success in business. of Woodmere, but thankfully the economy in Israel is Interestingly enough, in his bestselling took place on experiencing tremendous growth and book Outliers, Malcolm Gladwell attrib- we are in a period of great stability. The utes success, at least in part, to the abil- May 23 at the Swiss research institute, IMD, an objec- ity of people to be direct and not shy in White Shul. tive body that analyzes international the business world. The entertainment economies, has consistently raised Like ’em or not, Israelis have was provided by Israel’s ratings. In 2010, Israel climbed 7 claimed their rightful place in the Malka Entertainment, places to rank 17th among the world’s world economy—and a bet on them and the delicious most economically advanced nations. has pretty good odds. O The Israeli economy was considered to catering was Sima Menora is a realtor in Jerusalem, be the most durable in the face of crisis, specializing in sales of existing homes and new by Sharmel. and was found to be first in investing in developments. Feel free to call her at 0528-342-390 or 1-718-989-3939, or e-mail research-and-development centers. The [email protected]. If you happen to be Bank of Israel was rated first in efficient in Wolfson, stop by to say hi! functioning among central banks (up from 8th place in 2009). Exports from Israel not only remain stable, but they have actually grown exponentially. In fact—hold on to your yarmulkes—Israeli exports have grown from $6 million in 1948 to a total of $67.5 billion in 2009. In the last twelve years, exports have doubled, with an increase of $5 billion in the last year alone. The Export Institute of Israel has noted that while the United States and Europe were historically the main addresses for Israeli exports, in 2009 exports to the Far East and Asia have claimed a substantial por- tion of all Israeli exports. What we export has changed as well. While our exports had mostly been agri- cultural in nature, they later expanded to include the bling variety—i.e., diamonds. Israel now mainly exports knowledge- based items. High-tech sales account for 40 percent of our exports today. With the increasing capabilities of technology, more and more people are able to telecommute with Europe, the United States, and Asia. More people who are living on high income levels abroad are able to realize their dream of living in Jerusalem while maintaining their income levels and lifestyle. This is clearly good for the economy. Another reason the economy is steady in Israel is that Israel is one of the few countries in the developed world where the population is growing, not merely aging and declining. This is due to our average birth rate of 2.8 percent. This is all well and good, but I think that Israel owes its economic stability to the personality of your standard Israeli. Maybe it’s because Israel had the need to build itself up quickly; maybe it’s due to Israel’s constant need to defend itself. Whatever the reasons, many Israelis share common personality traits. They are quick decision mak- ers. The word “impossible” doesn’t have a place in their vocabulary. Israelis are risk takers, and are tenacious when they want to get a job done. And they don’t take no for an answer. At the same time, Israelis have what might be considered quirky character traits—they say exactly what they think and are never shy about asking what 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES May 28, 2010 77 hand-made by my kallah’s best friend,” wife during their marriage and in the he said. eventuality of death or divorce.” He Shoe Business Rabbi Tzedek examined the kesubah to reviewed with them the various obliga- make sure that it was written properly. tions, and translated the relevant text. He noted that the date, “Sunday, 24th of Eli had a slight cold and sneezed twice BY RABBI MEIR ORLIAN received a call from his mother. “There Sivan,” was written under the assump- while going over the kesubah. Just before BUSINESS HALACHA INSTITUTE was a serious accident on the highway,” tion that the chupah would take place signing, Rabbi Tzedek offered him a hand- Grandma Epstein said. “Traffic is at a while still day. kerchief. “Thanks, Rabbi,” Eli said apolo- On Shavuos, we read in Megillas Rus complete standstill. We’ve been sitting getically, “but I have tissues.” that Boaz took off his shoe. Despite the here for 40 minutes and don’t know “I wasn’t offering you my handkerchief allusions to chalitzah and yibum, the when we will arrive.” to blow your nose,” laughed Rabbi Megillah states that Boaz was doing a “Oh my!” exclaimed Mr. Epstein. “We’ll “The chupah did not Tzedek. “I offered you my handkerchief business deal; he gave the shoe to acquire have to stall until you come. Please keep to effect a kinyan sudar.” the rights to Elimelech’s fields. us abreast of what’s happening.” take place until “What’s that?” asked Eli. NNN Mr. Epstein alerted the family that his “A kinyan sudar is a fast and easy way “Mazel Tov! Mazel Tov!” wished the parents would be significantly delayed. nighttime. Does that to validate almost any transaction or obli- guests as they arrived at the wedding hall. He consulted with Rabbi Tzedek and they gation,” explained Rabbi Tzedek. “It’s “Thank you so much,” answered the decided to proceed meanwhile with the derived from the story of Boaz, who gave chasan’s parents, Mr. and Mrs. Epstein. chasan’s tish and filling out the kesubah. not invalidate the his shoe to Mr. Ploni-Almoni to acquire “Im yirtzeh Hashem by you!” “I hope they make it by the chupah,” the rights to redeem Elimelech’s fields.” “Where’s Eli? Where are the grandpar- Eli said. “I can’t imagine having the chu- kesubah?” “What has Boaz’s shoe got to do with a ents?” inquired their next-door neighbor. pah without Zayde and Grandma.” handkerchief and kesubah?” asked Eli. “My parents are right over there,” “Neither can I,” said his father. “But it “Kinyan sudar symbolizes an pointed Mrs. Epstein. “My in-laws are on takes time for the chasan’s tish, signing exchange,” Rabbi Tzedek elaborated. “In the way; they should be here any minute. the kesubah, davening Minchah, etc. If He then explained to Eli and the wit- Boaz’s time this was done with a shoe; in And Eli, our chasan, he’s getting ready for need be, we’ll delay the chupah with nesses: “The kesubah is essentially a debt Chazal’s time with a sudar, a handker- the chasan’s tish in the other room!” some extra singing and Ma’ariv.” document, which sets forth the monetary chief; nowadays sometimes with a pen. I Ten minutes later, Mr. Epstein Eli pulled out the kesubah. “It was obligations of the husband toward his grant you my handkerchief as a representative of the kallah, and you, in exchange, commit to the obligations toward her set forth in the kesubah.” Eli grasped the handkerchief and raised it, after which the witnesses signed the kesubah. Shortly afterward, Grandma Epstein called again. “Traffic is moving again slowly. We’re almost past the accident and should arrive in about half an hour.” At last Zayde and Grandma arrived. After hugs and kisses all around and a few quick photos, the families organized for the chupah. It was already night before Eli finally gave the ring to his kallah. “The chasan’s grandfather, Zayde Epstein, is invited to read the kesubah,” announced Rabbi Tzedek. Zayde Epstein stepped forward and began reading in a voice filled with joy: “On Sunday, the 24th of Sivan . . .” A look of concern came over his face as he read the date. After the chupah, he approached Rabbi Tzedek. “Excuse me for asking,” he said, “but I noticed that the date of the kesubah was left as Sunday, even though the chupah did not take place until nighttime. Does that not invalidate the kesubah?” “You’re correct that a pre-dated kesubah is invalid,” answered Rabbi Tzedek. “However, since your grandson made a kinyan sudar while it was still day, the kesubah is valid.” NNN Rabbi Tzedek explained: “A kesubah that is dated early is invalid, like any other pre-dated debt document, and a new one has to be written (C.M. 43:7). However, the chasan obligates himself from the time he makes the kinyan sudar. Therefore, if the kinyan sudar and the signatures were done in the afternoon, that date remains correct, even though the chupah did not take place until evening (ibid. 39:13). Mazel Tov!” O

Rabbi Meir Orlian is a faculty member of the Business Halacha Institute, which is headed by HaRav Chaim Kohn, shlita, a noted dayan. For questions regarding business halacha issues, or to bring a BHI lecturer to your business or shul, please call the confidential hotline at 877-845- 8455 or e-mail [email protected]. To receive BHI’s free newsletter, Business Weekly, e- mail [email protected]. This article is intended for learning purposes and not to be relied upon halacha l’ma’aseh. There are also issues of dina d’malchusa to consider in actual cases. 78 May 28, 2010 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES May 28, 2010 79 80 May 28, 2010 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES