“The Snowball Effect”: Toxic and Sexual Violence in Asher’s Thirteen Reasons Why

Jessica Van de Kemp

Abstract: In this brief article, I argue that the root cause of sexual vio- lence in ’s Thirteen Reasons Why is toxic masculinity. To sup- port this argument, I discuss relative concepts and definitions, gender in literature, the snowball effect metaphor, and educational implica- tions.

First Thoughts

want to direct attention to gender in literature and Jay Asher’s young adult novel Thirteen Reasons Why figures as a timely look at the con- Inection between toxic masculinity and sexual violence. Several stud- ies explore the impact of suicide portrayal in the series 13 Rea- sons Why on adolescent thought and behaviour (see Quinn and Ford 2018; Hong et al. 2019; Bridge et al. 2020), but something should be said about the original story, where the link between violence and suicide sheds light on stiff gender norms. In the novel, there is evidence to suggest that toxic forms of masculinity assert the need to dominate others and this conveys negative messages to men and boys about ways of doing gender. The role of schools in gender socialization is an issue worth exploring to better understand how to unlearn harmful gen- der norms. I work toward a message of hope, but first discuss current knowledge, the role of literature and metaphor, and considerations for educators.

Concepts and Definitions

The idea that gender is performed is formally presented by Judith But- ler (1990) in her book Gender Trouble: and the Subversion of Identity, but sociolinguist Miriam Meyerhoff (2015) provides a suc- Cinematic Codes Review 65 cinct take on the meaning of gender performance in her paper “Gender Performativity.” Meyerhoff writes, “to say that gender is performative is simply to say that how we understand gender, and how we position ourselves as gendered or sexual beings in relation to others, is achieved through the repetition and enactment of these activities” (2). Accord- ing to researchers Genevieve Creighton and John Oliffe (2010), do- ing gender through violence marks “the most extreme version of hy- permasculine communities of practice referred to as toxic masculinity, characterized by and the domination and subjugation of ‘weaker’ men and women” (414–415). Gender-based violence is a ma- jor problem and it is a common book theme. The United Nations (1993) defines as “any act of gender- based violence that results in, or is likely to result in, physical, sexual, or psychological harm or suffering to women, including threats of such acts, coercion, or arbitrary deprivation of liberty, whether occurring in public or in private life” (2). Together, these concepts and definitions raise awareness about the negative effects of performing masculinity through “hostility, the domination of women, and calloused sexual be- haviour” (Shafer et al. S45).

Gender in Literature

Given that literature can teach us about the relation between individual and society, despite only being a representation of life, a fairly com- mon theme in young adult novels is men’s identity construction. For example, The Catcher in the Rye and The Perks of Being a Wallflower are two coming-of-age stories that portray self-construction through acts of violence (e.g. Holden infers that his roommate sexually assaults Jane; Charlie’s family manifests cycles of sexual abuse), suggesting that one main way male characters across texts and generations build their sense of self and belonging is through sexually aggressive behaviour. The principal environment in which masculine identity development oc- curs is school. High school is a place where multiple are at play and toxic forms are linked to aggression (see Zernechel and Per- ry 2017; Jenney and Exner-Cortens 2018; Rosen and Nofziger 2019). One toxic form is “ [which] is often associated with ag- gression towards women and other men who violate traditional gender norms” (Zernechel and Perry 3). Acting inside masculine norms, such as “being aggressive, virile with many sexual partners, unemotional, in 66 SPRING 2020 control, adventurous, risk-taking, and dominant” (Fleming, Lee, and Dworkin 1029), constrains men’s health and wellbeing. This is where Thirteen Reasons Why comes in to showcase what happens when male aggression builds up.

The Snowball Effect

Thirteen Reasons Why is about the abuse experienced by a high school student leading up to her suicide. records a series of cas- sette tapes and sends them to everyone who played a role in her life at school. In case you are curious, below is the list of reasons why Hannah decides to end her life:

1. Justin Foley starts a rumour at school that he hooked up with Hannah after they share a kiss (see Figure 1).

Figure 1: Justin Foley (second right) shows a revealing photograph of Hannah Baker to his friends in Netflix’s .

2. Alex Standall reinforces Hannah’s reputation as a ‘slut’ by vot- ing her as ‘Best Ass in the Freshman Class.’ 3. Jessica Davis starts dating Alex behind Hannah’s back and they both distance themselves from her. 4. Tyler Down peeps on Hannah through her bedroom window Cinematic Codes Review 67 and takes photographs of her while she gets changed. 5. Courtney Crimsen starts a rumour that Hannah has sex toys in her bedroom. 6. Marcus Cooley makes a move on Hannah at Rosie’s Diner and she has to push him to the floor to get him to stop. 7. Zach Dempsey steals all of the kind messages that classmates leave for Hannah in their Communications class after she turns him down for a date. 8. Ryan Shaver steals a poem from Hannah’s journal and pub- lishes it in the school’s Lost-N-Found Gazette without her per- mission where it is dissected and mocked. 9. Clay Jensen, unlike the other people on the tapes, does not be- long on the list, but Hannah feels it is important for her friend to know the reasons behind her ultimate decision. 10. Justin allows Bryce Walker to sexually assault Jessica at a party while she is unconscious. 11. Jenny Kurtz offers Hannah a ride home and crashes into a stop sign, resulting in the death of one of their classmates because they did not report their drunk driving accident. 12. Bryce sexually assaults Hannah in a hot tub. 13. Mr. Porter does not take Hannah seriously when she says that she is suicidal.

From this list alone, several major issues facing teenagers come to light, including “depression, self-harm and suicide, , , and drugs and alcohol abuse” (Netflix), which provide evidence that toxic masculinity is the common factor between these issues that per- petuates harm. Before the twelfth event, Hannah’s individual resilience hangs by a thread and being sexually assaulted cuts the last piece of strength she has. Educational leaders Janis Harmon and Roxanne Hen- kin teach that the cumulative effects of emotional abuse often result in dire outcomes (82). In the novel, this is called “the snowball effect” (Asher 273). The snowball metaphor unites the list of events a total of six times in the novel and makes its final appearance in the passage where Clay listens to the tape where Hannah meets with her guidance counselor (see Figure 2):

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Figure 2: Mr. Porter meets with Hannah Baker right before she commits sui- cide in Netflix’s 13 Reasons Why.

“—So, what happened, Hannah? How did we get here?” “We? Or, how did I get here?” “—You, Hannah, how did you get to this point? I know you can’t sum it all up. It’s the snowball effect, am I right?” Yes. The snowball effect. That’s what she’s been calling it. “It’s one thing on top of another. It’s too much, isn’t it? It’s too hard.” “—Life?” (273).

The metaphor of the snowball effect is influential because it shows how something minor can turn into something major. Hannah’s downward spiral is not caused by one event but by a series of events—a small rumour snowballs into a big upset. The chain of events leading up to Hannah’s death describes the wrecking ball of toxic masculinity that demolishes her will to live: “So, I’ve decided on the least painful way pos- sible. Pills” (255). Immediately following her meeting with Mr. Porter, who fails to help her in her time of need, Hannah commits suicide. Although the novel’s portrayal of suicide is less gruesome than the TV show’s original/unedited depiction (where Hannah slits her wrists), readers are nevertheless led to a spiralling sense of self. Hannah’s des- perate cry for help is met with gross negligence and, while this is not an accurate depiction of the support many receive from their guidance counsellors, it does issue a call to action to school professionals to en- sure that students-in-crisis are protected and supported. Cinematic Codes Review 69

Educational Implications

There are so many educational lessons to be learned from Thirteen Rea- sons Why, but I will focus on three that involve men and boys in social change. A standout implication from the novel is building a school culture of empathy, respect, and justice, but what are the steps in cre- ating a positive climate? First, we need to create “transformative mas- culinities [that] are positive for everyone and emphasize the values of equality, respect, and dignity for all people of all gender identities” (Greig 15). This means helping students unlearn masculine norms by teaching them that they have choices beyond traditional attitudes. Having students dialogue on the gendered messages they are taught at home, at school, and in the media can help them diversify how gender is performed. Try asking students “What does it mean to act like a man?” and recording their responses on a flip chart (Men for Change 2). Engaging students in the movement to rethink narratives of masculinity is the first step in advancing and ending . Second, we need to create a culture of consent. For many students, consent is still an agreement that they are confused about or unfamil- iar with. Teaching students that they need verbal permission (e.g. “Is this OK?”) to engage in any sexual activity involves helping them un- learn relying on nonverbal cues (e.g. appearance, body contact, facial expression, and sounds). Consent education is not the only way to change toxic masculinity, but it helps students become more aware of what their own boundaries are and how to respect the boundaries of others. Reducing sexual violence in high school is a process aided by teaching students how to model consent in different situations. Try presenting a coercion scenario like “You’re at a party and you see a cute person. They’ve been drinking, so you go up and talk with them and see whether they might be interested in going someplace more private” (Advocates for Youth 6) and having students comment on whether consent is given or even possible in that situation. Planting seeds early on that say to boys you can respect , you can practice consent, and you can develop emotionally beyond makes a real difference in connecting to the bigger picture of promoting equality. Third, we need to create spaces for working in solidarity. Gender equality is not a ‘women’s issue’ or ‘women’s business,’ it is a human 70 SPRING 2020 rights issue. Men and boys can mobilize in solidarity with women and girls through advocacy work that involves caring support and help- seeking behaviour. The push for equality and safety for all does not mean hating or shaming men and boys, it means encouraging caring masculinities and engaging them as part of the solution. Critical to affecting social change in schools, at the peer level, is bystander inter- vention. Brainstorming what prevents people from acting in certain situations (e.g. “It is not my problem,” “I don’t want to be a snitch,” or “I don’t get into other people’s business”) as well as what motivates them to help (e.g. “I was just doing what I would want someone to do for me”) and recording students’ suggestions on a flip chart is a good launching point to mobilize individuals toward collaborative and car- ing practices (Tabachnick 16–17).

Final Thoughts

I want to conclude with a message of hope. It was tempting to conduct a more extended analysis of sexual violence and suicide in this article, but I wanted to use this space to talk about the cycle of toxic mascu- linity, how it harms, and what educators can do to disrupt masculine norms. By focusing on preventing the problem of toxic masculinity, readers are given a chance to play a significant role in changing the culture of their own communities and educators are asked to play a key role in shifting social pressures and emphasizing hope. Hannah needed any hope that her school peers and professionals could have offered, but they took that away from her. So, how can we teach hope? The answer that Hannah gives is: through poetry. Writing can take the most difficult things we feel and unshackle us. From a pedagogy of hope, educators can find inspiration in performing radical change and social justice through the arts. Using art and performance to deal with the dangers of toxic masculinity creates space for new masculinities. I would like to let Hannah bring a new message of hope. To conclude, here is an excerpt from her poem “Soul Alone”:

Put me underneath God’s sky and know me don’t just see me with your eyes Take away Cinematic Codes Review 71 this mask of flesh and bone and see me for my soul alone. (Asher 191)

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