FOR PARENTS CAUGHT IN THE MIDDLE OF RAISING A TEEN & YOUNG ADULT OCTOBER/NOVEMBER 2015 BROOKE BURNS EXPLAINS THOSE BAYWATCH SEX SYMBOL DAYS TO HER TEEN GIRLS THE COST, THE COMMITMENT, THE CONCUSSIONS IS HOCKEY WORTH IT? HOW TO PROTECT YOUR TEEN FROM BEING BULLIED IN HIGH SCHOOL WINTER STYLE COATS FOR THE WHOLE FAMILYINBETWEEN 1 ALYSON SCHAFER Alyson is a therapist, TV personality, columnist, spokesperson, educator and consultant. She is one of Canada’s most notable parenting experts who EDITOR-IN-CHIEF provides expert advice in RACHEL NAUD HuffPost Canada Parents, Today’s Parent, Parents ART DIRECTOR Canada and numerous other CAROLINE BISHOP parenting portals in Canada FASHION EDITOR and the U.S. On page 22, Jordana Handler Alyson shares tips on how parents can learn how to WEBSITE MANAGER let go of control. Victor Chard HESSELINK PHOTO BY ERIC PUTZ BY HESSELINK PHOTO EDITORIAL ASSISTANT MELONY TEAGUE Erin Hesselink Melony Teague is an author and an editorial contributor CONTRIBUTORS for various newspapers and Peter Carter, Jordana Handler, magazines in the Greater Erin Hesselink, Lara Hyde, Toronto Area. She believes Shandley McMurray, Kimberly that everyone has a story Moffit, Erik Putz, Alyson Schafer, to tell...and sometimes truth Melony Teague, Natalia Zurawska really is stranger than fiction. In this issue, Melony chatted Copyright 2015 INBETWEEN Magazine. with cover girl Brooke Burns All rights reserved. and tells her very personal story on page 39. All images, unless otherwise noted, KAREN MERK OF PHOTOGRAPHY. BY PHOTO TEAGUE are from iStockphoto. ERIN HESSELINK No part of this magazine may be reproduced Erin is the editorial assistant without the written permission of the publisher. at INBETWEEN. Though Erin never played hockey herself, The publisher accepts no responsibility for growing up with a family of hockey advertisers’ claims, unsolicited manuscripts, players gave her a front-row seat transparencies or other materials. of what really goes on at the rink. You can find her story, The Good For any questions, submissions Ol’ Hockey Game? on page 18 or comments, please contact where she breaks down the cost, [email protected]. time commitment and risk of injury and answers your burning question: Is hockey really worth it? INBETWEEN 4 CONTRIBUTORS Brooke Burns no day beachat the After breaking her neck in a life-threatening dive, actress and mom Brooke Burns talks to INBETWEEN about making her way back into the biz, being part of a blended family and how she explains those Baywatch babe days to her teen daughters. by melony teague photography by dove shore INBETWEEN 39 ModernBrooke FamilyBurns Burns was living brookeher dream. She had recently come off starring roles in popular TV series Baywatch and Ally McBeal and had appeared in the film Shallow Hall, alongside Gwenyth Paltrow. Her star was shining bright. Then, on Nov. 11, 2005, she took a dive that would change the course of her life. In the backyard of her Los Angeles home, Burns dove into her swim- ming pool and smashed her head at the bottom of the pool, breaking her neck. Miraculously, Burns survived the incident with no signs of paralysis; however her recovery wasn’t without its challenges. At the time she was working on the television show, Pepper Dennis, for Fox. To protect herself from others accidentally bumping into her, and set- ting back her recovery, Burns walked around set with a neck brace and hoola-hoop. A doctor’s note al- lowed her to take her neck brace off in three-minute increments, just enough time to shoot her scenes. Despite her physical challenges, Burns says the accident also had a strong emotional impact on her daughter, Madison, who was just five years old at the time. “I think she internalized it in the beginning and then about a year later we were hiking together and I stubbed my toe and she started crying and asked if I was going to have to go to the hospital,” says Burns. “I realized that it was still alive in her, that an injury, no matter how small, could be much larger and scarier to her. INBETWEEN 40 ModernBrooke FamilyBurns “i try to stress, especially as women, that we need to champion one another. we are on the same team. we cover for one another. we have each other’s backs.” We had many conversations about that with her.” come up with creative compromises.” Today, Burns’ daughter is 15 and she also has a To stay close, Burns enjoys special girls’ days 13-year-old stepdaughter, Bronwen. She sat down with her daughters. “I was a single mom for 10 with INBETWEEN to chat about the new adven- years, so I was definitely used to having Maddy all tures she has ahead, including a movie, a TV game to myself. When I got remarried, that was some- show and, of course, raising teenagers. thing I talked about with my husband. We both carve out time to be alone with our biological girls, BLENDED FAMILY LIFE and then we swap days and go solo with our ‘sec- Born in 1978 in Dallas, Texas, Burns married ond’ daughters. We are very lucky that for the girls, Madison’s father, actor Julian McMahon (commonly it was love at first sight. They met at a lunch and known for his work on Nip/Tuck and Fantastic 4: Bronwen said, “I wanna sit with HER!” (meaning Rise of the Silver Surfer) in 1999. They divorced in Madison). On our third date they told us, “If any- 2001. In 2013, Burns married producer, director and one asks, tell them we are sisters. So, Gavin and I writer Gavin O’Connor (known for Warrior, Pride just hoped we liked each other!” and Glory and Tumbleweeds) who had a daughter of his own, 13-year-old Bronwen. THOSE FIGHTIN’ WORDS Although blended families can sometimes be Now that Burns and O’Connor have been together complicated, Burns says she considers herself one for a while, the girls act more like sisters, including of the lucky few. “Step-relationships can be difficult, some bickering. “I think teaching them to forgive but Bronwen and I have always had a great friend- each other, and not to let pride get in the way of ship,” she said, adding both Bronwen and Madison moving forward quickly is so important,” Burns said. used to visit Burns on set when they were younger, “None of us agree all the time, but there’s a way but not as much now that they are tackling the de- to be respectful in disagreements. A big part of mands of high school. that is remembering they love each other, and are Burns was raised with the view that family comes different, and that’s OK. I especially try to teach first, so making the girls a priority for her is easy. “I them to lift each other up, and not tear each other try to cultivate communication by leading by exam- down. Words can wound, and there are plenty of ple,” says Burns. “In every relationship the girls will people out there waiting for you to mess up and ever have, be it with teachers, family, (boyfriends!) point it out. I try to stress, especially as women, that you have to be able to ask for what you want, com- we need to champion one another. We are on the municate fears, learn how to listen, and be able to same team. We cover for one another. We have INBETWEEN 41 ModernBrooke FamilyBurns “i want to be present for all those things that i think are important milestones in a child’s life, but it is definitely a balancing act.” each other’s backs. It’s challenging, but in the most a conscious choice to reconfigure her career so rewarding way, and I think like most families, we all that she could be the kind of mom that she wanted have good days and bad days. As a parent, I always to be, choosing roles that did not take her out of tell them, ‘Love covers a multitude of sins.’” the state for long periods of time. Today, now that her daughter is a teenager, Burns still finds herself SHARING LIVES WITH NEW WIVES making those same decisions. “I have always wanted Also, added to the family dynamic is Burns’ ex-hus- to be a mom,” she explained, “I pride myself in being band’s new wife, Kelly Paniagua. “There may be a good mother and I really believe that family has certain things that I want to do with my daughter, to come first and career has to come second to be that are special to mothers and daughters, and I the kind of mom that I wanted to be. I want to be appreciate having that space respected, but at the present for all those things that I think are import- same time if Madison is at their house and I am not ant milestones in a child’s life, but it is definitely a able to do something, and she needs help, they are balancing act.” available to step in, like being a second hitter.” Burns did not grow up in a blended family. “My TALKING TO DAUGHTERS parents are still together, so it took me some navi- ABOUT POSITIVE BODY IMAGE gating in the beginning to figure out those boundar- As an actor and model from a young age, having ies,” she said. “I think you have to have a special set spent time in front of the camera and in the spot- of boundaries in being respectful of the mother and light, Burns has dealt with the sex symbol image knowing your place as far as not stepping on the that comes with being a Baywatch babe.