Special 20th Anniversary Issue! WINTER / SPRING 2016 SINCE 1996 YEARS Top 20 Amicable Celebrity Divorces Should You End Your Marriage? How to Choose a Divorce Lawyer The World’s First Divorce School Tips for Successful Co-Parenting Fight Depression and Thrive Table of Contents | .com Directorywww.DivorceMagazine.com | 1 Introducing @ No one goes to school for divorce, Free. Practical. Transformative. but every divorcing person should. Get ready for two months of free education and Introducing the world’s first Divorce School – a inspiration! In April, May, and June, you’ll have unlim- unique online learning center where divorce profes- ited access to all Divorce School podcasts and videos sionals and divorced people will share their exper- anytime you want, day or night. Our mission is to tise and experience through videos and podcasts. empower you to make better choices before, during, and after divorce; we’ll teach you how to use your Get answers to these questions – and many more: divorce as a catalyst for life-changing transformation. • How do I choose a divorce lawyer? • Will I get half of everything? Join now for free! • Should I keep or sell the family home? If divorce is on your doorstep – or if you’re still dealing • How are child and spousal support calculated? with issues during or after divorce – you can’t afford • Is sole or joint custody best for my children? to miss this online Divorce School! Join now at www. • How can I heal from divorce? TheDivorceSchool.com/divorce-school-participant The Divorce School is a brand-new initiative in celebration of Divorce Magazine’s and www.DivorceMagazine.com’s 20th anniversary. Table of Contents | .com Directory | 2 contents... Special Features 18 5 Divorce Magazine Celebrates 20 Years of Serving the Divorce Community Here’s a look back at what has changed – and what has remained the same – over the last 20 years. 36 Announcing The Divorce School! On April 1, you can attend an online learning center for those considering, going through, or moving on 26 after divorce. 43 Survey Results How long do most people think about divorce before taking action? Several years, according to a recent Divorce Magazine survey. 44 Top 20 Amicable Celebrity Divorces We’ve chosen 20 civilized celebrity divorces from the 44 last 20 years to inspire you to take the high road. Preparing for Divorce 8 Should You End Your Marriage? Children and Divorce Key questions to ask yourself before deciding whether to stay in your marriage or get a divorce. 26 5 Rules for Introducing a New Partner to Your Children 16 Choosing How to Divorce Introducing your new love interest too soon might One of the fi rst decisions you’ll need to make is complicate, delay, or damage your children’s healing which process to use to resolve your divorce issues: process after divorce. litigation, mediation, or collaboration. 30 Tips for Successful Co-Parenting Legal Issues There are ways to make co-parenting more eff ective for the parents and easier on the kids. Here are some 18 How to Choose a Divorce Lawyer tips for successful cooperative parenting after divorce. Here are the 17 questions you should ask to fi nd the right lawyer to represent you. Health and Well-Being 20 5 Rules for Successfully Negotiating a 32 7 Ways to Fight Depression and Thrive After Divorce Settlement Divorce Going back on a negotiated term in your divorce When life hands you lemons, you can complain about settlement could have costly ramifi cations – and it how awful they are – or you can sprinkle sugar on could ultimately kill the agreement. them, add water, and enjoy a sweet lemonade. The Financial Issues choice is yours. 38 7 Ways to Make Room for Spiritual Healing 11 7 Signs Your Spouse Is a Spendaholic Here’s how to make room for spiritual and emotional “Compulsive Buying Disorder” has the potential to healing after divorce. create great emotional and fi nancial distress, both of which can wreak havoc on a marriage. Local Divorce Guide 22 Tax Tips and Traps Wheteher you’re separated or newly divorced, you 25a Common Divorce Questions should get some good fi nancial advice about how taxes could aff ect you. 33 Your Best Online Resources Table of Contents | .com Directory www.divorcemag.com | 3 DIVORCE MAGAZINE’S NORTH AMERICAN DIVORCE MAGAZINE’S NORTH AMERICA 866.803.6667 Advisory Board CEO/Publisher Dan Couvre e, Ext. 124 Divorce Magazine would like to thank the following members of our danc@divorcemarke nggroup.com Advisory Board for their help in making www.DivorceMagazine.com and Editorial Divorce Magazine such valuable resources for our readers. Diana Shepherd, Ext. 131 diana@divorcemarke nggroup.com John Ma as, Ext. 129 Patricia M. Barbarito is Shannon P. 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