Epic Orgasms Contents 1. Why you deserve Epic Orgasms 2. What is orgasm? 3. Will I always know if I've had an orgasm? 4. Can every woman orgasm? 5. 12 reasons why women struggle to reach orgasm 6. What should I do if I've never had an orgasm? 7. How can I orgasm more easily and often? 8. How can I have more orgasms with my partner? 9. 4 Tantric secrets to epic, whole-body + multiple orgasms 10. The 7 kinds of orgasm possible for women 11. Your next step to Epic Orgasms © Isiah McKimmie 2018 | www.isiah-mckimmie.com P a g e | 1 Why you deserve Epic Orgasms Hey gorgeous, I’m so thrilled you’re here. I believe that all women deserve to feel confident, empowered and deeply pleasured around sex. That means you too. And yet, there’s so much about it that we’re not taught. Knowledge is power beauty - so I’m here to give you some vital info on sex and orgasms. It’s stuff that I believe we all should have been taught, but probably weren’t. If we were to believe porn and popular culture, women should orgasm frequently, loudly, easily - and with almost no ‘warm up’ at all. But this just isn’t the case. At least, not for most of us. Let’s look at some of the numbers on orgasm. Currently, men are twice as likely to orgasm as women during heterosexual sexual encounters. 30% of women struggle to reach orgasm on a regular basis. 10% of sexually active women have never had an orgasm at all. That’s 1 in 10 of us. I think it’s time that changed. © Isiah McKimmie 2018 | www.isiah-mckimmie.com P a g e | 2 Sex can be great without having an orgasm and we certainly don’t need to have an orgasm every time we have sex. But I know that it can be frustrating when we want to have an orgasm and can’t. And truthfully - we all deserve more pleasure in our lives. I want you to have epic orgasms, loving sex and a rocking relationship. You deserve Epic Orgasms. I’m here to help that happen. I’ve written this guide is for: Women who’ve never had an orgasm Women who’ve had orgasms - just not with a partner Women who can orgasm - but they’re few and far between Women who have orgasms regularly - but want to know more about them and how to make them better My hope is that it doesn’t just help you have better orgasms. My hope is that after reading this you: Feel sexually empowered Become wildly confident in bed Are open to greater pleasure - in your bedroom + in life Enjoy greater intimacy + connection in your relationship as a result Sit down my love, make a cuppa or pour yourself a glass of vino and make yourself comfortable. You’re in for a treat. With love, Isiah.xx © Isiah McKimmie 2018 | www.isiah-mckimmie.com P a g e | 3 2. What is an orgasm? What is an orgasm? How would you define an orgasm? It’s hard to describe, isn’t it? Believe it or not, even sex experts have some difficulty defining what exactly an orgasm is. Orgasms are complex and involve numerous bodily reactions. There actually isn’t one defining feature that makes an orgasm, but a variety of bodily responses. Scientifically, an orgasm can be defined as: A peak feeling of sexual pleasure, usually accompanied by involuntary contractions of the pelvic floor muscles, a feeling of ‘release’ and heightened well-being. Orgasms are usually also accompanied by a significant increase of heart rate, blood pressure, pupil diameter and pain threshold. Immediately following orgasm, women experience a large dose of the hormone oxytocin injected into the blood stream. Orgasms have also been described as ‘altered states of consciousness’, with a positive effect on our mind and emotional state. They also occur quickly. Most orgasms last on average 3-15 seconds. But as we’ll discover later, once we begin practicing Tantra, we can have orgasms that last for up to 15 minutes (some people even say an hour)! © Isiah McKimmie 2018 | www.isiah-mckimmie.com P a g e | 4 Y 3. Will I always know if I’ve had an orgasm? You’ll know when you’ve had one. Right? Well, not necessarily. This is a big misconception, particularly for women who’ve never had an orgasm. Orgasms are not all like Meg Ryan in ‘When Harry met Sally’ moments. Every orgasm we have will feel different. They can vary greatly in their intensity and feeling so if we haven’t had an orgasm before, we might be expecting something completely different when it happens. Sometimes, they are huge, toe-curling experiences, causing your whole body to writhe in ecstasy, and sometimes, they’re small, silent releases - like a tingly sensation around the genitals or like a sneeze in your vagina. And, as I’ll share later on, there are actually over 7 different types of orgasms women can have - each one with a slightly different feeling or quality to it. It’s no wonder it can leave us feeling a little confused. So how do we know when we’ve had an orgasm? This is a difficult question to answer. I have an educational video that I sometimes use in coaching showing different women’s orgasms. Some women are really surprised when they watch it by the diversity of women’s orgasm. And many women that I’ve showed the video to have concluded that they have indeed had an orgasm after watching it - it just wasn’t the toe-curling, neighbour waking event they were expecting. If you feel that there’s been a build up of sexual arousal - and then a pleasant release of that arousal, you’ve probably had an orgasm. © Isiah McKimmie 2018 | www.isiah-mckimmie.com P a g e | 5 If you’re still not sure, don’t worry. Sex is a skill we learn - and our orgasms can get better with practice and the right information. I’ll be sharing tips to help you have more frequent and reliable orgasms and for making your orgasms more powerful, intense and enjoyable. © Isiah McKimmie 2018 | www.isiah-mckimmie.com P a g e | 6 4. Can every woman orgasm? If you’re one of the 10% of women who have never had an orgasm (or the partner of one) - you might be wondering: Is it even possible for all women to have an orgasm? Good question. Research suggests that there is a very small percentage of women who are unable to reach orgasm, mostly due to physical conditions or the effects of certain medication. Anti-depressants (particularly those known as SSRIs) are one of the most common medications that impact our ability to reach orgasm. The good news however, is that most women can learn to orgasm when they have the right information and support. Think of it as a skill you just haven’t been taught yet - and that you’re going to get to have a lot of fun practicing! © Isiah McKimmie 2018 | www.isiah-mckimmie.com P a g e | 7 5. 12 reasons why women struggle to reach orgasm Do you ever feel like you’re close, but can’t quite get there? Or sometimes you can, but they’re few and far between? Let’s look at those numbers again. 30% of women struggle to reach orgasm on a regular basis. 10% of sexually active women have never had an orgasm at all. I share this with you because when we’re having difficulty with orgasm, we can feel like we’re the only ones in the world. Or like there’s something wrong with us. Orgasm for women is more complicated than we’re led to believe. Our sexuality as a whole is complex and even science doesn’t understand it completely yet. There is also so much we’re not taught about sex and the way our bodies function. It’s really important to keep in mind that if you are having difficulty with orgasm right now, it’s not your fault - and it’s not your partner’s fault either. You can both let go of any guilt, shame or blame you might be feeling. Sometimes what is getting in the way of an orgasm is a relatively small fix. Or sometimes there are a number of factors at play. Understanding what might be getting in the way is the first step to making change, so read through this list with curiosity and see which might apply to you. And in the next section, I’ll share the practical steps you can take to overcome these difficulties and reach orgasm more easily and frequently. © Isiah McKimmie 2018 | www.isiah-mckimmie.com P a g e | 8 Here are the 12 most common reasons women struggle with orgasm: 1. Not spending enough time in foreplay This is the most common reason women struggle or fail to reach orgasm. Women need at least 15-20 minutes of foreplay in order for our bodies to fully prepare for sex. Without this, we experience less pleasure, are less likely to orgasm and are more likely to experience pain. I know that when we’re busy, or not feeling in the mood, we can skimp on pre- penetration pleasure which, you may not know, is actually vital to our sexual function and enjoyment.