Yale Class of 1963 Memorial Service - June 1, 2018 Battell Chapel Obituaries, Eulogies and Remembrances " How bright will seem, through memories’ haze, those happy, golden, bygone days." Dedicated with reverence and respect, to the classmates who have passed on since our Memorial Service in Battell Chapel at our 50th reunion in 2013. June 1, 2018 Battell Chapel Yale Class of 1963 – 55th Reunion Memorial Service Page 1 "If tomorrow starts without me, don't think we are far apart... For every time you think of me, I am right there in your heart." "And if tomorrow starts without you, I will know we are not far apart. For every time I think of you, You are right here in my heart." The Yale Class of 1963 expresses its profound gratitude and appreciation to our classmate Jon H. Larson for his work in formatting and producing this Memorial Service Book and for maintaining the Class of 1963 Website upon which it is based. June 1, 2018 Battell Chapel Yale Class of 1963 – 55th Reunion Memorial Service Page 2 Arons, Daniel L. - August 6, 2014 Ashcraft, Darrel E. - March 17, 2014 Batten, Michael E. - May 5, 2015 Billings, Stephen Robb - July 1, 2015 Bramley, Christopher Wilson - October 5, 2016 Brodsky, Louis Daniel - June 16, 2014 Budding, David W. - January 5, 2018 Burget, Gary C., M.D. - May 31, 2017 Buxton, Ernest Perry III, M.D. - March 15, 2015 Christie, Thomas F. Jr. - February 3, 2016 Elkus, Christopher James - July 16, 2014 Ellis, David Heath - January 28, 2015 Erekson, Edward A. - May 30, 2009 Gildehaus, Thomas A. - March 10, 2014 June 1, 2018 Battell Chapel Yale Class of 1963 – 55th Reunion Memorial Service Page 3 Gilfillan, Edward Smlth III - December 14, 2017 Gilmore, Michael Timo - March 3, 2014 Glass, Joseph Chester III - February 25, 2016 Godfrey, Peter Stokes - January 8, 2015 Greenberg, Robert Abraham - March 4, 2013 Harrah, Richard French - May 12, 2015 Hoff, John C. - June 3, 2017 Holcomb, Harry Sherman, III - September 19, 2013 Hopper, Richard Magnus - January 2, 2016 Hsia, Sven Erik - February 13, 2016 Hunt, Walter A. Jr. - May 27, 2016 Hyde, J. Harold - February 6, 2017 Irwin, John Kenneth - November 23, 2015 Jacunski, Richard N. - September 24, 2013 Johnson, Rees Charles - September 5, 2013 Keyworth, George A. II - August 23, 2017 Kiernat, Bruce Edmund – April 22, 2018 Kneeland, Yale III - August 25, 2014 Knight, Robert Edward - August 13, 2016 June 1, 2018 Battell Chapel Yale Class of 1963 – 55th Reunion Memorial Service Page 4 Lane, Raymond Harris - July 9, 2013 Laub, Roger M. - November 4, 2015 Letcher, Frank Scott - December 17, 2015 Livingston, Robert Boyd - September 8, 2016 Lucas, John Mitchell - January 18, 2018 MacKenzie, David John - March 1, 2015 Miller, W. McCook Jr. - September 12, 2017 Neubert, Richard Norman - October 14, 2010 Nichols, Robert Hastings II - November 22, 2013 Parker, Stephen Baillie - April 23, 2015 Phipps, Ogden Mills - April 6, 2016 Rasche, Robert H. - June 2, 2016 Reinhardt, James Ogier - August 16, 2016 Rewis, Richard Smart - January 25, 2015 Rogers, Bryan Leigh - May 30, 2013 Saltus, Seymour S. - July 14, 2017 Seamans, Richard Chandler - September 27, 2015 Smith, Frederick M.R. - August 11, 2017 Stevens, Jerald Lewis - September 5, 2014 June 1, 2018 Battell Chapel Yale Class of 1963 – 55th Reunion Memorial Service Page 5 Stifler, William Curtis III - November 27, 2015 Stirlen, William Ned - June 19, 2013 Tabor, James Hamilton III - February 3, 2016 Teitz, Richard Stuart - June 19, 2017 Tomain, Robert Francis - August 1, 2015 Truebner, Peter Louis - January 25, 2015 Ware, James H. - April 26, 2016 Wikler, Joseph Martin - September 19, 2014 Wilberding, Stephen Van C. - June 11, 2016 Wilmotte, James H. - April 25, 2016 Wood, Peter Jennings - September 5, 2014 June 1, 2018 Battell Chapel Yale Class of 1963 – 55th Reunion Memorial Service Page 6 Daniel L. Arons Daniel L. Arons, M.D. of Cambridge and Wellfleet and formerly of Newton, passed away on Wednesday August 6, 2014 at age 72. For 46 years, he was the beloved husband of Dr. Elissa (Beron) Arons. He was the loving father of Rebecca Arons and her husband Eric Fastiff, Dr. Dara Arons & her husband Jeremy McDiarmid, and Abigail Arons & her partner Matthew Bennett. Cherished grandfather of Eli and Tessa Fastiff and Hazel, Leah, and Rose McDiarmid. Dear uncle of Edward and Zachary. Dr. Arons was a dedicated and caring physician and teacher. Remembrances may be made to Massachusetts General Hospital Cancer Center, 55 Fruit St, Boston, MA 0211 from Richard Rosenfeld: A week before Dan died, I wrote him, "You have been so important to my life, kind of a redeemer of my past." The past to which I referred was my time at Yale. My Yale undergraduate experience had been positive in many respects, but it had also been very flawed, due in large part to my own emotional deficits. In consequence of this, as of fifteen years after graduation, I had never returned to Yale, nor made any donations to the alumni fund or otherwise. In my own mind, I had left my Yale experience far behind. Dan Arons changed all this. Persuading me that I should reconsider my relationship to Yale, Dan got me to join him and other classmates at one of Dan's pre-game tailgate parties by the Harvard Boat House on the Charles River. I had a great time and decided to reconsider my relationship with Yale. Rosenfeld Hall was just one consequence of this. From his medical practice to his relationship with family and friends, Dan's life was a life in service to others. As a beneficiary of his kindness and his friendship, I will never forget him. from Philip Boyle: It is with profound sadness that I inform you that our Board colleague, Dan Arons, died earlier this week of esophageal cancer after an 18 month battle. He was a true friend and a very gentle man. Dan was on our Board from 2002-2005 and was an important contributor to our work for Yale. He has a long resume of volunteer activity for Yale, following his graduation from Yale College in 1963 and the Yale Medical School June 1, 2018 Battell Chapel Yale Class of 1963 – 55th Reunion Memorial Service Page 7 in 1967. His Yale pedigree reaches back to his father ('25) and uncle ('18), as well as two of his three daughters ('96 & '99). Dan was a primary care physician at the Massachusetts General Hospital for his entire career in medicine, seeing his patients right up to 10 days before his death. He held a teaching appointment at the Harvard Medical School. He and his wife of 46 years, Elissa, also a physician, lived in Newton for many years before recently moving to Cambridge. We will miss Dan immensely. The world is a far better place because of him. RIP Dan Arons. from Ron Sampson: I got to know Dan best in the context of Yale activities after graduation. He was always willing to pitch in, whatever the issue, and his counsel was invariably deliberate, thoughtful and on the mark. At the recent memorial service for him, one of his daughters recounted that he had the same considered, practical and loving approach to dealing with family: prospective sons-in-law were judged in part on how competent they were in operating a dishwasher, and all three daughters were helpfully admonished: "Girls don't burp at the dinner table!" Our class will miss his kind presence and good counsel. Ron from Hank Higdon: I remember seeing Dan on January 8 in Boston when I called him on one of my frequent business trips there and said I wanted to stop by and see him in Cambridge in the afternoon, which I did. We thus spent slightly more than one hour in his relatively new magnificent apartment overlooking the Charles River and the Harvard playing fields. I felt I was in heaven. Dan had christened the apartment in November of 2012, by hosting many of his friends and classmates there, after a Yale/Harvard game. This of course followed his traditional tailgate on the river before the game which would require him to show up at about 6:00am to claim his traditional spot between the boathouse and the bridge, and immediately across from the stadium. Dan had just closed on the apartment a day or two before that game in 2012 and thus it had zero furniture in it, but it was still a beautiful setting for the post-game cocktail party. The apartment on the day of my visit earlier this year, of course, was fully furnished, absolutely elegant, and was the space where Dan had hoped to spend his future years with his bride, Elissa. It was a wonderful visit with Dan and when I left he rode down on the elevator with me to say good-bye. He also made sure I did not leave empty-handed and insisted that I take with me a book on the history of Yale football, which he had had forever, as well as an empty wine bottle, which memorialized a Yale/Harvard get- together at the Harvard Club of Boston in honor of Carm Cozza. It has an appropriate Yale/Harvard label and Dan thought I would treasure it more than he did. He was right. I will treasure it forever. from Robert Barker: Dan always seemed an island of calm in a sea of turmoil. He had a wonderful, gentle sense of humor and a gritty stoicism that served him well even as his illness progressed. After graduation our paths crossed occasionally, but not often enough, and each encounter ended with my hoping that we see each other soon.