AN INTRODUCTION TO ANAL SEX AN INFORMATIVE GUIDE BY BEDROOM KANDI Anal sex encompasses a variety of sexual acts involving the anus and rectum. These can include anal fingering, analingus (oral-anal sex, sometimes called “rimming”), anal insertion (using an object like a strap-on or other toy) and anal intercourse (penis-in-anus sex). Anal sex can be enjoyed by individuals of any gender, and any orientation. Everyone has a back door, after all! But it requires preparation, care, and patience to make it pleasurable. Communication is Key! No surprise butt-sex. Always check in with your partner, talk things through, and 36% communicate about whether you’re Of American Women both on board for trying anal. Check in during anal sex to report having tried ? make sure you’re both enjoying yourselves! ANAL SEX “Is Anal Sex Common?” International Society for Sexual Medicine :) http://www.issm.info/sexual-health-qa/is-anal-sex-common/ www.bedroomkandi.com ©2017 Bedroom Kandi WHY TRY ANAL? IT FEELS GOOD - There are a lot IT FEELS BAD - in a good way! The of nerve endings to stimulate around taboos around anal sex can make it a the anus, including those in the man’s thrill and add something exciting to your prostate. bedroom routine. You naughty thing! IT SPICES THINGS UP - Trying IT CAN SUBVERT GENDER new things keeps things fresh, and ROLES - Either partner can penetrate anal sex will open up a whole new or receive, (using strap-ons or other toys range of sexual positions and activities for Lesbian or Straight couples), so you for you and your partner to share. can change up your usual bedroom roles! Butt Stuff: Myth vs Truth MYTH: There’s poop in there! TRUTH: Feces isn’t stored in the rectum -- it just passes through during a bowel movement. Clean out the trace amounts left there before anal sex, and you’ll find it’s not that dirty! MYTH: You don’t need a condom during anal sex. TRUTH: While anal sex alone won’t lead to pregnancy, there is a high risk of STI/STD transmission, so a condom is never a bad idea. MYTH: Only homosexual men enjoy receiving anal sex. TRUTH: Anyone can enjoy receiving anal sex (if properly prepared), and it has no link to sexual orientation! There are a lot of nerve endings around the anus and rectum, which can be stimulated pleasurably for both sexes. Men can also enjoy the stimulation of the prostate via anal penetration. MYTH: It will hurt. TRUTH: Anal sex doesn’t have to hurt if you’re relaxed, prepped, and ready to enjoy it. Anal isn’t for everyone, but it doesn’t need to be painful. ow! MYTH: My anus will get all stretched out and damaged! TRUTH: Any sex, done improperly and without preparation and lubrication, can cause injury. But the anus, like the vagina, is quite elastic. Kegel exercises and exercises to strengthen the pelvic floor will help the anal sphincter retain its strength. www.bedroomkandi.com* ©2017 Bedroom Kandi BE SAFE It is always good policy to use a condom or other barrier protection (dental dams, latex gloves) during anal sex to prevent the spread of disease and infection. Anal intercourse may not result in pregnancy, but the anal tissue is fragile and tears can easily lead to the spread of STIs. NEVER switch from anal sex to vaginal sex (with a penis, hand, or toy) without first taking a break to wash, change a condom, etc. to avoid transferring bacteria from the anus to the genitals - Front to back, not back to front! PREPARATION GET CLEAN! Have a bowel movement, and be sure to wash thoroughly with soap and warm water around the anus before anal sex. An internal rinse isn’t necessary, but if you’re anxious about hygiene, a small warm water enema can help you feel more thoroughly clean. You can put down a towel on the bed if you’re worried about the sheets! LUBE UP! This is the MOST important step. Unlike the vagina, the anus doesn’t produce its own lubrication. Anal sex without lubrication will result in tearing of the fragile tissue of the rectum and be very painful. ALWAYS use lube, and use A LOT. Silicone lubes like Bedroom Kandi’s SLEEK are a great choice for anal play, as they won’t dry out as fast as water-based lubricants. If you’re using toys, try SILK, a hybrid silicone-water lube that won’t damage silicone toys. SILICONE LUBE SILK (HYBRID) LUBE WATER-BASED LUBE (Bedroom Kandi SLEEK) (Bedroom Kandi SILK) (Bedroom Kandi Natural GREAT for anal sex and GOOD for anal sex and Intimate Lubricant) use with latex condoms! GREAT for anal toy use. OKAY for anal play. NOTE: Oil-based lubricants are not recommended for anal or vaginal use, and can cause condom breakage. FOREPLAY: You need to be in the right mindset to relax and enjoy anal sex. Plenty of foreplay to increase arousal will help, including massage. Gently massaging and playing with the outside of the anus can be pleasurable all on its own! www.bedroomkandi.com ©2017 Bedroom Kandi GETTING STARTED RELAX! GO SLOW! GET IN POSITION! Don’t tense up your pelvic muscles. Slowly and gently stretch the Anal sex beginner? Lying on your Relax, as if you’re about to have a anus with a finger first, then two, stomach or doggy-style might be bowel movement (if you prepped, gradually adding fingers or a small good positions to start out with. don’t worry, there shouldn’t be any sex toy as your body acclimates As you and your partner get more poo!) Breathe deeply throughout. until you and your partner are comfortable with anal, there are a Make sure you’re completely at ready for penetration. Giving your wide variety of positions out there ease! body time to adjust will reduce the to try! chance of pain. Some people aren’t ready for or don’t enjoy penile penetration, but enjoy using toys, either as the main event or as part of their Toys: preparation routine. Some anal toys include: ANAL BEADS: Each bead is larger for a ANAL PLUGS: slow and steady stretch; try pulling them out at Plugs can be used as orgasm for a heightened, incredible sensation! part of preparation, or for a sense of added BOOTY CALL ‘fullness’ during other P-CURIOUS sexual acts. BK’s BOOTY CALL and P-CURIOUS plugs are great for beginners! STEP BY STEP You can also use vibrators to stimulate the clitoris during anal sex for added pleasure! FINISHING UP PULL OUT SLOWLY. It will feel weird, but going slow will help. WASH UP THOROUGHLY. Both partners should clean thoroughly, especially before any further sexual acts. DON’T PANIC. Your anus might not be a tight pucker right away and take a little while to close up firmly, but give it time. Also don’t be surprised if your next bowel movement is more slippery than usual! www.bedroomkandi.com ©2017 Bedroom Kandi.