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By Riva Pomerantz 34 Corona and A-B-C Warfare Lydia Lanxner is the head of disaster management at Laniado Hospital in Israel By Shira Leibowitz Schmidt 42 The Clean Bill: Rash Decison A casual encounter brings a cure for my daughter’s illness As told to Miriam Weiser 58 Summer Fiction Contest Week #7: A Listening Ear by Yaffa Hersh owitz DEPARTMENTS 8 A Word from the Editor 42 34 By Rechy Frankfurter 10 Letters 16 The Rebbetzin Speaks By Rebbetzin Feige Twerski 18 Parshah By Rabbanit Yemima Mizrachi WHISK 20 Bytes MAGAZINE By Miriam Glick —part of your 22 My Take Ami package By Shmelke Diamond 48 Medical Minute The Ami Food Magazine COOK CREATE CONNECT 50 Single-Minded By Chani Gantz The Ami Food Magazine 29 Av 5780 August 19, 2020 Issue 481 52 Crossroads 20 By Chaya Gross 56 Our Days The rhythm of our lives 62 The Back Page By Dina Neuman Aha! 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We never imagined that a she took out another book of my graves of victims of the Nazis who lie time would come when we would father’s, a beautiful volume feel comfortable in a crowd. In fact, a alone or in mass graves far from any Jewish community. Some of these commemorating a family hachnasas friend of mine whose daughter got sefer Torah a couple of years ago. “This engaged during the height of the Jews died during death marches and were buried by local residents. is what I want to see,” she said. “Let’s coronavirus told well-wishers she look at these beautiful memories.” hoped that by the time her daughter Others died in concentration camps and were either dumped into mass got married, not only would they all At that moment, it occurred to graves by the Nazis or buried in a be able to attend, but they would me that although it had seemed as if more orderly manner under the even be able to hold hands at the the coronavirus had never supervision of the Americans. Among wedding! It was so farfetched as to happened, what I saw was only the the documents and photos he be a blessing to confer. surface. As in my father’s case, showed me were images of piles of though the Holocaust still weighs This evening, before sitting down dead bodies waiting to be buried, a heavily on his mind 70 years later to write these few words, I went to sight he personally witnessed as a and he hasn’t forgotten those who visit my parents. We live over a mile young boy of 14. have no one to remember them, from each other (my kids once It is my father’s hope to create a anyone meeting him casually would clocked the distance), and as I was website with all of this information never know that. My father is a walking—especially on 13th so that eventually, should a Jew ever person with simchas hachaim. Avenue—I couldn’t help marveling at find himself passing th ough one of On the surface it may look as how life seems to have reverted to these areas, he can finds lists of though nothing has changed. But we pre-coronavirus days. Other than the names and locations and visit these have changed, in a profound way. And occasional mask, the Brooklyn graves. My father wants people not we have not forgotten the tragic loss streets are bustling with people, the to forget them, and to stop and say a of life. It’s just that life must go on. stores are full, and life appears to kapitel Tehillim for these kedoshim. have gone back to normal. The same The project has taken my father We must force our eyes to look at can be said for Lakewood, which I years of intensive research, but it is a the “hachnasas sefer Torah” recently visited. subject very dear to his heart as he memories in order to carry on. 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