Choosing “Loves” -- Entrenched Learnings (Vol. 3) (Love as Filter, as Tool, as Sign, as Concept, as Framing, as Hypothesis, and as Theory -- Research Foci for a Bridging Strategy from Affect to Cognition) L.L. Morton, PhD Professor Emeritus University of Windsor 401 Sunset Avenue Windsor, Ontario N9B 3P4 [email protected] Draft Copy (in progress) August 2013 iteration © Dr. L. L. Morton Running Head: Problematized Loves Problematized Loves-- 2 Abstract .......................................................................................................................................... 5 Preface ............................................................................................................................................ 6 Introduction .................................................................................................................................... 9 Chapter 1: Frameworks ................................................................................................................ 14 Seeing Love as a Problem—Religious Framings .................................................................... 15 The Array of Loves (C. S. Lewis) .................................................................................... 15 The Ordering of Loves (Augustine) ................................................................................. 16 Seeing Love as a Problem—Psychological Framings ............................................................. 18 Psychological Imbalance (Sternberg) .............................................................................. 18 Psychological Roots of Evil (Baumeister) ....................................................................... 23 Seeing Love as a Problem—Analogical Framings .................................................................. 25 Multiple-Constraints Theory (Holyoak & Thagard) ........................................................ 26 Structure-Mapping Theory (Gentner & Markam) ........................................................... 27 Seeing Love as a Problem—Biological Framings ................................................................... 36 Biology and Infrastructure (Dunbar, Fisher, ...)............................................................... 36 Biology and Sex Differences (Baron-Cohen) .................................................................. 42 Seeing Love as a Problem—Storied Framings ........................................................................ 47 Grand Stories ................................................................................................................... 47 Dark Stories ..................................................................................................................... 47 Taxonomy of Stories ........................................................................................................ 48 The Frameworks As Lenses, Filters, and Tools ....................................................................... 49 Chapter 2: Addressing Problematized Loves ............................................................................... 51 1. Problematized Love: Schadenfreude/Sadism................................................................... 51 “Love” The Suffering of Others? ..................................................................................... 51 “Understand” The Suffering of Others?........................................................................... 52 2. Problematized Love: Self Love........................................................................................ 55 The Upside of Self Love .................................................................................................. 55 The Downside of Self Love ............................................................................................. 55 3. Problematized Love: “I Love My Prophet” ..................................................................... 64 The Biological Framework .............................................................................................. 65 The Religious Framework ................................................................................................ 66 The Psychological Framework ........................................................................................ 77 4. Problematized Love: “Love” Of Jesus ............................................................................. 81 5. Problematized Love: “Just Let People Love!” ................................................................. 84 6. Problematized Love: “Loving An Object Differs From Loving a Person!” .................... 90 Elevating the Material Object .......................................................................................... 91 Deconstructing the “Person-as-Subject” .......................................................................... 92 A General Attachment Mechanism .................................................................................. 94 7. Problematized Love: The Memory of Early “Love” ....................................................... 96 Multiple-Perspective-Taking ........................................................................................... 97 Confirmation Bias .......................................................................................................... 100 Confabulation ................................................................................................................. 102 Decalage ......................................................................................................................... 104 Make-believe Memories ................................................................................................ 104 8. Problematized Love: Early ‘Love of Gender-Discordant Style’ .................................. 109 Asking Questions ........................................................................................................... 110 Problematized Loves-- 3 Considering Teleology ................................................................................................... 111 Considering the Feminization Narrative ........................................................................ 114 Considering The Importance Of Learning Theory ........................................................ 116 Considering Analogies (Reflecting on Curiosity) .......................................................... 117 9. Problematized Love: Loving a Psychological or Ontological State .............................. 119 Bailey’s Contention On The Suicidality State ............................................................... 121 Savin-William’s Contention On The Suicidality State .................................................. 123 Additional Contentious Questions ................................................................................. 123 10. Problematized Love: Love As Feeling—Stories that Something ‘Feels Right’ ......... 128 The Priority of Personal Feelings .................................................................................. 129 The Priority of Position .................................................................................................. 133 A Digression on Ontological Priority ............................................................................ 136 The Psychological Priority of Feelings .......................................................................... 138 11. Problematized Love: Love and Choice: “Did You Choose Love of Type?” .............. 140 12. Problematized Love: Love and Essence: “It’s an Issue of Wiring!” ........................... 142 Wiring and Essentialism ................................................................................................ 142 Neuroplasticity ............................................................................................................... 143 Metaphors (wiring, motoring, reading) .......................................................................... 147 13. Problematized Love: The Issue of Psycho-Social-Religious Supportive Trends........ 149 Some Psycho-social Guidelines ..................................................................................... 152 Some Hermeneutical and Theological Principles For Consideration ............................ 154 14. Problematized Love: The Issue of “Diversity”-- Love and Getting Along ................. 164 People are Different ....................................................................................................... 165 People Are Equal ........................................................................................................... 168 15. Problematized Love: The Issue of “Happiness” as a Purpose .................................... 169 16. Problematized Love: The Issue of “Being Simply Sensitive” .................................... 174 The Common Sense Frame ............................................................................................ 176 The Reason Frame ......................................................................................................... 177 The Psychological Frame ............................................................................................... 178 The Philosophy Frame ................................................................................................... 180 The Empirical “Particulars” Frame ................................................................................ 183 17.