Family and Social Health “Abstinence is a choice, and it’s a choice every day, TEST YOUR one day at a time. The 3RELATIONSHIP IQ decisions you make True or False? today will directly 1. Forty-three percent of first marriages end in separation impact your tomorrow. or divorce. TRUE: Marriages can have financial Choosing abstinence and relationship difficulties that cause conflict within the marriage. means choosing to take 2. No form of birth control is control of your destiny.” 100 percent reliable. TRUE: Barrier and other methods that are designed to prevent preg- nancy can and do fail. Abstinence from sex is the only 100 percent —A.C. Green, effective way to prevent pregnancy. former L.A. Lakers player and current 3. People who grow up in author, speaker, and youth mentor dysfunctional families will not be able to adjust and succeed in life. Abstinence Advocacy FALSE: Life is full of decisions. Explain Several individuals and groups have voiced their support Teens who grow up in dysfunctional for abstinence from sex before marriage. Research one of these families can choose a more health- groups or individuals and explain their reasons for supporting this ful path that will help them become choice. Do you agree or disagree with their opinion? Write your successful. response in your journal, and explain why you agree or disagree. LESSON 13 LESSON 14 LESSON 15 Developing Healthful Adjusting to Family Changes Examining Dating Family Relationships and Friendships 132 UNIT 3 • Family and Social Health AP/Wide World Photos EVALUATING MEDIA MESSAGES WHAT’S YOUR VERDICT? To evaluate this advertisement, use the criteria for analyzing and evaluating health messages delivered through media and technology that you learned in Unit 1. Visit tx.healthmh.com/statistics to find regularly updated statistics on teen marriages. Using the information provided, determine the answer to this question: What percentage of teen marriages fail? Visit tx.healthmh.com/your_health_checklist to use , an interactive tool that helps you determine your health status. LESSON 16 LESSON 17 LESSON 18 Practicing Abstinence from Sex Recognizing Harmful Relationships Preparing for Marriage and Parenthood UNIT 3 • Family and Social Health 133 Vincent Besnault /Getty Images Developing Healthful Family Relationships • I will develop healthful family relationships. • I will work to improve difficult family relationships. our family has a lot of influence on you. You learn ways of interact- ing from family members. This lesson focuses on family relation- 13 Yships. You will examine the role of parents and other family What You’ll Learn members. You will learn about skills and behaviors that are taught 1. Describe the roles of parents in healthful families. You will learn about difficult family and guardians in promoting a relationships and ways to improve them. healthful family. (p. 135) 2. Discuss the roles of extended family members in promoting a healthful family. (p. 135) 3. Explain twelve behaviors and skills children learn in healthful families. (p. 136) 4. Discuss ten causes of dysfunctional family relationships and identify steps to improve these relationships. (p. 140) 5. Discuss ten behaviors of codependent people. (p. 143) 6. Discuss the purposes of recovery programs. (p. 146) Why It’s Important You can be a loving family member. ACT: choose healthful Actions, Commit to being loving, and pledge Time. k Key Terms • family • healthful family • dysfunctional family • affection • work ethic Writing About Values What family values have your parents or • abandonment guardian taught you? Suppose a classmate asked you to do something • enmeshment that would conflict with family values. What would you do? Why might • interdependence you want to seek advice and feedback from your parents or guardian? • recovery program After reading the information on pages 136–139 about the skills parents • Alateen or guardians teach their children in healthful families, write a response to this situation in your health journal. 134 UNIT 3 • Family and Social Health Health TEKS covered by Lesson 13: 5D, 7J, 8A, 9A, 9B, 12A, 13D, 13F, 15A, 16A, 16B Peter Barrett/Masterfile he basic unit of society is a family. It is the group of persons to which we belong. Extended family members are the members of a Tfamily in addition to parents, brothers, and sisters. An extended family may include: stepparents, stepbrothers, stepsisters, half-brothers, half-sisters, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, nephews, and nieces. Some families include people who are not related by blood, marriage, or other legal procedure as members of their families. What to Know About Family Roles A healthful family is a family that Role of grandparents Grandparents practices skills that promote loving, reinforce the behaviors and skills responsible relationships. Healthful taught by parents and guardians. family relationships are ones that Some grandparents help raise their have a positive effect on physical and grandchildren. Some children might emotional health. In healthful fami- live with their grandparents, who lies, parents and guardians teach their assume direct responsibility for children these behaviors and skills: teaching children the behaviors and self-respecting behavior; healthful skills listed on this page. attitudes; effective communication; a Role of other family members Other clear sense of values; responsible deci- family members practice the behav- sion making; ways to resolve conflict; iors and skills taught by parents, effective coping skills; ways to delay guardians, and grandparents. They gratification; ways to express affection help each other interact in loving and and integrate love and sexuality; how responsible ways. to give and receive acts of kindness; a work ethic; and respect for authority. The Family Continuum Role of parents and guardians Parents and guardians teach their The Family Continuum shows two children the behaviors and skills extremes of family life. Studying these listed above. They teach by (1) setting two extremes—ideal and dysfunc- an example, (2) having discussions, tional—is an important way to learn (3) expecting behaviors and skills to about relationships. A dysfunctional be practiced, and (4) enforcing conse- family is a family that does not pro- quences when they are not. mote loving, responsible relationships. 9A (covered on page 135): Describe the roles of...family members in promoting a healthy family. The family continuum indicates the degree to which a Quick Quiz: family promotes skills needed for loving, responsible Dysfunctional Ideal What are the roles of relationships. Eight out of ten families rank in the Family Family parents, grandparents, and middle of the continuum. They are not ideal, but other family members in neither are they completely dysfunctional. promoting a healthy family? tx.healthmh.com/family_relationships LESSON 13 • Developing Healthful Family Relationships 135 (tt)Photodisc/Getty Images he connections a person has with family members are family relationships. Family relationships have an Teffect on a person’s mental, emotional, and social health. What influences family relationships? Parents and guardians are the primary influence. They play the most direct role in teaching behaviors and skills to their children. Sometimes others—grandparents, foster parents, or other adults—play this role. How do you learn behaviors and skills from parents, guardians, or other significant adults responsible for guiding the family? What to Know About Healthful Family Relationships Learning self-respecting behavior Learning healthful attitudes toward Treating oneself in healthful and sexuality The definition of sexuality responsible ways is self-respecting is the feelings and attitudes a person behavior. It is an outgrowth of the has about his or her body, sex role, ways you were treated by the adults and relationships. Your sexuality is who raised you. If you received love influenced from birth, when you are and felt accepted, then you began to born either male or female. Your par- feel good about yourself. If you were ents or guardians talk to you about well-cared for, you learned how to take your body and shape your attitudes care of yourself. As a result, you about being male or female. learned how to treat yourself in health- Learning healthful sex roles Parents ful and kind ways. You learned to and guardians influence your sex choose behaviors that would not harm role. A sex role is the behaviors, atti- you. When you learn to treat yourself tudes, values, and beliefs that a par- in healthful and kind ways, you learn ticular cultural group considers to expect the same from others. appropriate for males and females on Learning to value the needs of others the basis of their biological sex. Your 9B (covered on page 136): Analyze the Teens raised in a healthful family also parents or guardians helped you dynamics of family roles learn the difference between self- learn about sex roles from a very and responsibilities relating respecting and self-centered behavior. early age. For example, you may have to healthy behavior. Self-centered behavior is an action learned that it is acceptable for males Quick Quiz: Analyze two skills parents that fulfills personal needs with little and females to cry and share feelings. teach their children in fam- regard for the needs of others. Self-cen- You may have learned that males ilies that have healthful tered behavior does not contribute to and females are different, but relationships. healthful family relationships. deserve equal respect. In a healthful 136 UNIT 3 • Family and Social Health Photodisc/Getty Images family, parents or guardians discuss to what they say, and their behavior Make the puberty with their teens. They mirrors what they say. You observe Connection explain the changes in feelings and their everyday behavior. You inter- emotions that accompany puberty. nalize their values and behave in Making Responsible Their openness and sensitivity help similar ways. When you relate to oth- Decisions For more teens understand the changes they ers, you remember these family val- information on making responsible are experiencing and learn how to ues.