See Sports for our infamous WU Athlete Centerfold! THES INDEPENDENTTUDENT NEWSPAPER OF WASHINGTON UNIVERSITY L IN ST. IFELOUIS SINCE 1878 Page 20. Oral sex, hymens, armor and bunnies are all Penis or not a penis? Cadenza staffers weigh News and Scene have surveys covering sexual as- in today’s Forum—plus talk of offensive fl yers, in on this conundrum. Also inside: porn paro- sault, cheating, and virginity, plus the inside scoop small beds and other campus snafus. Page 7. dies, animal sex and V-Day tunes. Page 14. on students’ love and sex lives. Pages 2, 10. VOLUME 127, NO. 52 MONDAY, FEBRUARY 13, 2006 WWW.STUDLIFE.COM Sex Issue 2006 The Morning Sophomore Architecture student Claudia Bode does a sub-zero “walk of shame” on a windy Sunday afternoon for Student Life’s Valentine’s After Day Sex Issue. DAVID BRODY | STUDENT LIFE 2 STUDENT LIFE | NEWS Senior News Editors / Kristin McGrath and Liz Neukirch / [email protected] MONDAY | FEBRUARY 13, 2006 STUDENT LIFE One Brookings Drive #1039 Sexual assault Wives to be before a degree #42 Women’s Building Saint Louis, MO 63130-4899 cause, it’s for a good thing.” “I’m a Catholic, went to an all- v Three female WU Gray says that being a student girls school and I’m more conserva- News: (314) 935-5995 happening right and having a fi ancé is an interest- tive,” said Grasso. “I wasn’t expect- Advertising: (314) 935-6713 students share their ing balancing act. ing to fi nd a guy at Wash. U. Then Fax: (314) 935-5938 “It is hard to fi nd time to spend my girlfriend was like, ‘Oh, you email: [email protected] experiences being together, especially because he should meet Chris,’ and I’m like, www.studlife.com under our noses, doesn’t go to school anymore,” said ‘No, I don’t want to, I don’t want to engaged at college Gray. “We see each other a lot at be set up.’ But then she brought him Copyright 2006 anyway even though I said no.” By Marla Friedman night; we go to all-night diners a lot to talk about the day. But it is hard Grasso can thank her friend to- Editor in Chief: Margaret Bauer Associate Reporter says our survey to fi nd time.” day for brushing aside her request. Associate Editor: Liz Neukirch Managing Editor: David Tabor Still, she is more than satisfi ed Unlike Gray, Grasso has found Senior News Editors: Kristin McGrath, Junior Alexandra Bannister has with her decision to say “yes.” it easy to fi nd time for both her Liz Neukirch By Margy Levinson been engaged for six years. When “It’s been an interesting ex- schoolwork and her fi ancé. Senior Forum Editor: Molly Antos Contributing Reporter she was 16, she met her fi ancé at perience to go through at college “He’s a computer programmer Senior Cadenza Editor: Laura Vilines Steak ‘n Shake, where he waited on because it’s something I never ex- and he has a huge project that he’s Senior Scene Editor: Sarah Baicker Of the 68 Washington University students polled by Stu- her, and he proposed about three pected,” she said. “It’s defi nitely a trying to work on so he can start Senior Sports Editor: Justin Davidson dent Life, 25 percent replied that they had been sexually months later. big decision, but I think I made the his own company,” said Grasso. “It Senior Photo Editor: David Brody touched or grabbed against their will, three percent admit- “[Being engaged while at college] right one, so I’m happy.” would be hard if we had to make News Editors: Mandy Silver, Caroline Wekselbaum ted to being victims of unwanted sexual contact, sexual is not necessarily as diffi cult as it Senior Francine Grasso also time for each other, but we’re with Forum Editors: Daniel Milstein, Jeff assault or rape and six percent of students had confessed is just different,” said Bannister. didn’t think she would meet her each other while we do work.” Stepp, Matt Shapiro, Joshua Trein that they had in fact been perpetrators of unwanted sexual “Maybe it’s harder for me to inte- husband in college. Yet on the day Mike Merbaum, a psychology Cadenza Editors: Adam Summerville, contact. Of these, 38 percent said that the above had taken grate socially because I’m at such a after Thanksgiving last year, she professor, recommends that young Jordan Deam, Robbie Gross place in college. different place in my life, but I also got engaged under the Brookings Scene Editors: Sarah Klein, Erin Fults Yet it is likely that these incidents and others were never have a support network that other Archway. See ENGAGED STUDENTS, page 15 Sports Editor:Joe Ciolli reported. people don’t have.” Photo Editors: David Hartstein, Pam “I think sexual assault itself, whether on this campus or As recently as the 1960s, a wom- Buzzetta, Meghan Luecke other campuses, goes highly unreported,” said Washington an was considered to be less than Online Editor: Dan Daranciang Design Chief: Laura McLean University Chief of Police Don Strom. successful if she left college with- Copy Editors: Allie McKay, Nina Perlman, According to the U.S. Department of Education, there out a fi ancé. But by 2002, the U.S. Kelly Donahue, Erin Fults, Rebecca Emsh- were three arrests in 2002 for forcible sex offenses at Wash- Census estimated that the median willer, hannah draper, Julian Beattie, Mal- ington University. Two were reported in 2003 and 10 in age for fi rst marriages was 27 and lory Wilder, Paige Creo 2004. 25 years old for men and women, Designers: Ellen Lo, Anna Dinndorf, Jamie This jump in arrests does not indicate, however, that respectively. Still, Valentine’s Day Reed, Andy Gavinski, Elizabeth Kaufman, more offenses are being reported. this year will fi nd some students Kate Ehrlich “Less than 5 percent of completed and attempted [inci- like Bannister celebrating with their dents of sexual assault] are actually brought to the attention husbands- or wives-to-be. General Manager: Andrew O’Dell Advertising Manager: Sara Judd of campuses or authority of college students,” said Strom. Dr. Marci Gleason, a research According to a recent New York Times article, “[A] survey scientist at the University, refl ects by the American Association of University Women…found on the diffi culties of being in a seri- Copyright 2006 Washington University Stu- that one in six [women] had received suggestive pictures, ous relationship in college. dent Media, Inc. (WUSMI). Student Life is web pages or messages, while seven percent had had their “A lot of change takes place in the fi nancially and editorially independent, college, and many times it’s diffi cult student-run newspaper serving the Washing- clothes pulled down and fi ve percent were asked for sexual ton University community. First copy of each favors in exchange for a better grade, class notes, a recom- to make those changes with anoth- publication is free; all additional copies are mendation or other perks.” er person. But if you’re on the same 50 cents. Subscriptions may be purchased for Despite the wide variety of conduct that can be defi ned page and can make the changes to- $80.00 by calling (314) 935-6713. as sexual assault, victims often assume that anything less gether, it might be a good sign that Student Life is a publication of WUSMI and than rape does not qualify as assault, said Eleatha Surratt, a your relationship will make it.” does not necessarily represent, in whole or psychiatrist at Student Health Services. Senior Aline Gray was not ex- in part, the views of the Washington Univer- Although Surratt has been at the University for only pecting to get engaged so early in sity administration, faculty or students. All about a year, she has been a practicing psychiatrist for 13 life, but does seem to be “on the Student Life articles, photos and graphics are the property of WUSMI and may not be years and has observed that “[various forms of sexual as- same page” as her partner. Gray reproduced or published without the express sault] can all produce devastating reactions in victims.” had been dating her boyfriend for a written consent of the General Manager. Pic- Such effects might also explain why reporting sexual as- little over a year when he proposed. tures and graphics printed in Student Life sault crimes is often diffi cult for victims. This was not in Gray’s “life plan,” are available for purchase; e-mail editor@ but she was ecstatic nonetheless. studlife.com for more information. Student “The person may be emotionally numb and have diffi - Life reserves the right to edit all submissions culty providing the information that is needed,” said Sur- “I was planning on being out of for style, grammar, length and accuracy. The ratt. college for a couple of years before I intent of submissions will not be altered. Stu- After the immediate trauma, longer-lasting effects of settled down,” said Gray. “It’s taken dent Life reserves the right not to publish all sexual assault can take a hold of a victim. me by surprise, but I think it’s a submissions. “Prior to coming to Wash. U., I found a broad majority of good thing, because we have some- PAM BUZZETTA | STUDENT LIFE If you’d like to place an ad, please contact the clients that I would see as well-functioning would but of- thing to plan for. We’ve already Advertising Department at (314) 935-6713.