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Abdul Malik Mujahid | http://soundvision.com Gender relations in Islam are not based personal behavior and nourished by the some time to think about how you’d like on male-female competition as is seen in family as a way of life, will benefit the your husband to contribute. a number Western societies today. Rather, Ummah in the long run. this relationship is based on gender Spouses should brief each other about cooperation. (Quran: 4:32). Some Guidelines for Informal Shura work, neighborhood, Masjid, and each other’s activities. Mutual information is In the context of the family, God has Informal Shura is like talking to each other. necessary for mutual consultation made father the leader of the family while It may happen at any place and at any mother is in charge when father is not time. Here are some examples of informal A family calendar will help tremendously available. However, there are limitation Shura and tips you can use: for family time and Shura. In family meetings, go over next month’s dates God has put in place for this leadership Listen attentively: no TV shows, games, position. (teacher conferences, games, next family books or newspaper should be in your way meetings etc.). A large month-by-month The power of this leader, like that of all if your spouse or child wants to talk to you calendar in the kitchen, next to the phone other Islamic leaders, is limited on the Shura doesn’t have to be about family may work well. one hand by the Quran and the Prophet’s affairs: mutual consultation in the family teachings, and on the other by Shura or A family leader must encourage Shura could be about any topic. It was the advice by being positive. If your wife or children mutual consultation - amruhum shura of Umm Salamah, the wife of Prophet bainahum (Quran 42:38). Shura in this are afraid of your reaction, they will not Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon participate in Shura. verse is mentioned by God as one of the him and may Allah be pleased with her, essential characteristic of a believer along which the Prophet followed when Muslims Shura in a restaurant: Spouses may meet with prayers and justice. were reluctant to obey him at the end of each other everyday without ever actually The Muslim family, therefore, like all other Hudaybiyah discussing issues. Set a time to go out and talk. Muslim institutions, formal or informal, A serious topic could be introduce must be run with mutual consultation. gradually if Shura is not the norm of the Walking Shura: What about an evening One major cause of problems in the family walk to discuss a topic? Muslim society today is the absence of Many women are afraid of bothering their Formal Shura Shura. The Shura process, if adopted as a husbands with “domestic” stuff. But take Formal Shura is a process to reach an 4 agreement on an issue of mutual interest. there are some etiquettes of giving input thinking their youth and inexperience Everyone should participate in Shura with and feedback in Islam. Some of these are: mean they are too young for Shura. Not an open mind. so. Check your motives (Niyyah) first before Some pointers on how to do this are: opening your mouth. You should be Doing Shura in the family helps kids learn giving constructive criticism only to help how to communicate effectively in a safe, Begin the Shura with Allah’s Hamd, Sana someone, not to make yourself feel better comfortable environment. Parents need and Salawat on our Prophet than others to remember that their love is crucial in you have to be willing to sacrifice your raising their children, but it’s not enough Make Dua for yourself and the person you to raise a well-adjusted, happy child. opinion if it is not accepted even if you are are approaching before you actually do it sure of its soundness Communication is the key for successful Think beforehand and choose appropriate development. Learn the details of the topic under words consultation before you speak Here are some tips to help you encourage Don’t sound critical, condescending, or your kids to communicate effectively and Listen attentively to what others are saying judgmental participate in Shura in the family: Be respectful in discussing each other’s Timing is important: don’t do it when the When they are very young, get them into point of view fight is on the habit of talking with you about their day and their feelings Remember that the process of Shura Criticism is best received when done one involves abiding by what is agreed upon on one Shura is among the choice characteristics Involve all children in the formal Shura of a Mumin. (Quran 42:38) Inculcate it Remember the Prophet said “A Mumin early on. (My youngest child sits down of the family. They come up with brilliant (believer) is a mirror to another Mumin.” ideas during family Shura with a pen and paper So just state what you see. Don’t and takes notes, although he doesn’t’t Avoid being defensive or sarcastic. Be exaggerate. know how to write) rational and reasonable Keep in mind that your information or Children should be full participants of any Make Dua (supplication) for Barakah even your conclusions may be wrong formal or informal Shura in the family (blessings) in your decisions at the end Listen to the explanation attentively and unless the issue at hand has to be between the father and mother exclusively Consider a name change accept it even if it is partially correct in your view Children open up informally more than My children suggest that “Family Meeting” Avoid debating the point formally. Two minute sound bites from or “Family Circle” is a better title for family them in a car may provide more important Shura since “Shura” feels too serious. Know when to stop. Don’t drag out the insight into what they feel than forced They suggest that this forum should discussion if it’s not going anywhere conversation include discussion of any topic from the Just as it’s important to know how to Children love to ask questions. Answer Quran, Sunnah or current affairs. give criticism, it’s crucial to know how their questions with one of yours: “what Nonverbal communication to receive it. Here are some etiquette do you think?” Think of their questions suggestions: as the start of a two-way conversation Shura is about communicating effectively, (mutual Shura may pop in any time). both verbally and non-verbally. Here Thank the person who considers your are some basic pointers on nonverbal improvement important enough to help Let children come up with solutions. communication: you with his/her thoughts. Instead of giving advice, ask “so what would you like to do about this?” or “How Frank and clear conversation with Taqwa Welcome the feedback. Ask advice about do you think this should be handled?” (God consciousness) is the key for success how it could be improved (Quran 33:70) Delegate an area of responsibility to your Explain if there is any misunderstanding child instead of adopting a “ do this, do Nonverbal criticism (gestures, silent Admit mistakes that” style of communication with them.