A Women’sArise Development Magazine Published by ACFODE Issue 53 November 2012 Motivating Inspiring Challenging 1 2 Vision A just society where there is gender equality of opportunities in all spheres Mission To Promote Women’s Empowerment, Gender Equality and Equity through Advocacy, Network- ing and Capacity Building of both Women and Men Editorial Board Appreciation Helen Twongyeirwe This publication was made pos- Gertrude Ssekabira sible through the kind support of Regina Bafaki Konrad Adenauer Stiftung (KAS). Sandra Nassali ACFODE greatly appreciates this generous contribution. Contents Editorial ........................................................................................................................................................................2 Letters to the Editor ...................................................................................................................................................3 Reaping All the Benefits of a Mentoring Relationship ........................................................................................4 Mentoring the Path to a Better Education and Career ........................................................................................6 Mentoring at the Workplace .....................................................................................................................................9 Parenting in today’s Modern Family ..................................................................................................................... 11 Modest Appearance, Decent Dress Code ........................................................................................................... 14 Book Title: The Mentor Leader: Secrets to Building People and Teams That Win Consistently ............... 16 Political Leadership - Who will mentor generation X and Y? .......................................................................... 17 What the by-elections teach us in Uganda ........................................................................................................... 19 Major players in the Evolution of Mentorship in Africa ................................................................................... 20 Addressing Uganda’s Social Structure to Make It Relevant to the Growing Number of Un- Mentored Street Children .......................................................................................................................................................... 28 The Treasures of Culture when it comes to Mentoring .................................................................................... 30 Should Spirituality be part of a Leader’s Life? .................................................................................................... 34 Consciencethe worst Prison in the World ............................................................................................................ 36 ACFODE’s Mentoring Story ................................................................................................................................. 38 Mentee testimonies my ugandan experience ........................................................................................40 How to be a Great Peer Mentor ............................................................................................................................ 42 1 ACFODE Board of Directors Editorial Gertrude Ssekabira – Chair Alice Bongyeirwe – Treasurer Josephine Kasaija – Member Juliet Nakyanzi – Member Dear Readers, Dismas Otoori – Member Muhwezi Tayebwa Florence – Member Uganda is considered to be one of the Jane Nakintu - Member “youngest’” countries in the world, not Regina Bafaki – Secretary because it was ative founded just yesterday, Sandra Nassali – Staff Represent but because over 78.4 % of its population is below 30 years of age. One cannot deny Contributors to this issue therefore that there is need to support • Roger Kiwanuka and encourage these young people to • Agnes Nankabirwa manage their own • Stacey Pearl Keirungi lives in order that they maximize their potential, develop their skill, improve their • Andrew Ssekirevu performance and become the person they want to be. • Sasha Mumbi Subsequently, ISSUE 53 of the Arise Magazine gives a detailed insight on mentoring as a powerful personal • Sandra Nassali development and empowerment tool and an effective way • Deo K Tumusiime of helping young people to progress in their lives. • Ivans Muhasa Enoch It also shares about Transformative Leaders; people who guide, direct, and influence others to bring about a • Peter Mutebi fundamental change, change not only of the external world, • Martin E Wanzala but also of internal processes. • Sophie Alal Family settings, political perceptions, career/ professional direction and spirituality are some of the topics that are • Muwebwa Violet brought into view in this issue to give hope to young people, • Belinda Kyomuhendo and to the leaders and the elders of this country. • Esther Namitala Enjoy the magazine! • Tiffany Gavros Sandra Nassali Editor • Ogwetta Andrew Otto [email protected] • Denis Kidegaand • Dr. Hilda Tadria • Rosemary Mirembe Lukholo 2 Letters to the editormade me realize that as women, we have so many opportunities that we can take advantage of out there; in terms of empowering ourselves. I also loved the article on “Nature’s Pharmacy.” After reading it, I made it a point to change my eating habits and AArise Women’s Development Magazine Published by ACFODE the results have been tremendous. And because of the magazine’s good quality, I feel that I should also Issue 52 March 2012 contribute to the bigger picture of sensitizing Ugandan masses, mostly women on contemporary issues. Muwebwa Violent ACFODE Member Hi Sandra, Congratulations on your publication and thank you very much for sharing it. At the moment I’m writing an article on Women and oil in Uganda, so this has been very timely and topical in informing my research work. Thank you very much again. Sophie Alal Dear Sandra, Global Press Institute I must confess I really like this magazine! The overall impression of the magazine has greatly improved since Thanks ACFODE for this resourceful magazine!! you took it on!! Please keep this up! Carol BungaIdembe Greetings Patricia Otuka-Karner Dear Sandra, ISSUE 52 of the Arise Magazine was indeed a nice Dear Sandra, piece. Thanks a bunch Sandra for sharing the Magazine. Thanks for sharing with us. Oh, it really came out so romantic and I believe your Teopissita Kizza readers will benefit quite handsomely. Thanks again for African Youth Development Link all the effort invested and as usual for the opportunity accorded to us to share our views with the wider Dear Sandra, audience. Keep the fire burning! Thanks for sending me the ISSUE 52 of the Arise Deo K. Tumusiime Magazine. I enjoyed reading it Best Regards Dear Sandra Adebayo Olowo-Ake Thanks for the good work. Arise has improved Communications Delegate tremendously over the previous few issues. This one ICRC Delegation in Kampala also looks very engaging. Cheers Dear Sandra Archie Luyimbazi Greetings and thanks for sending the magazine. Yet again, it’s lovely!! Dear Sandra, Kindest Regards I really enjoyed reading ISSUE 52 of the Arise Magazine Kaviri Ali on Women & Natural Resource Management. It Youth Advocate 3 Mentoring Reaping All the Benefits of a Mentoring Relationship Roger Kiwanuka umerous studies have examined mentoring relationships and their consequences for personal development. It has been found that Npeople who report to having had a mentoring relationship exhibit significantly better outcomes within the domains of education, work, health, emotional/ psychological well-being, and problem solving behavior. This explains why most people nowadays are actively pursuing mentoring for personal development. The one unique thing about this type of partnership is that whether one is on the giving or receiving end, the relationship benefits both lives. Eric Parsloe – Oxford School of Coaching & Mentoring defines mentoring as “a way to support and encourage people to manage their own learning in order that they may maximize their potential, develop their skills, improve their performance and become the person they want to be.” Mentoring relationships can hence be mutual, or two-way, with each person being both the mentor of and mentee of 4 Articles Although it is probably useful to have a mentor who has “been there, and done that”, one might have to wait forever for such a person to come along!! Mentees should then try working with willing and available people, people who are there to encourage, and challenge them to commit to their goals, and help them review their progress. The same applies to the mentors. the other person. Alternatively, they can be one a personal and professional level by helping you way only, although an individual may have his or achieve many things, some of which can include her own mentor while also acting as mentor for learning new perspectives since working with others at the same time. someone less experienced and from a different background helps one to gain a fresh perspective It is thus a powerful personal development and on things and learn a new way of thinking – empowerment tool and an effective way of which can help in him or her in work as well helping people to progress in their lives. It is as personal life; mentoring can also help you usually a partnership between two people (mentor to advance your career. This is because refining and