The CROSSROADS Old St. Patrick’s Bulletin A Catholic Community in Chicago's West Loop SUNDAY OSP 18TH ANNUAL FALL FOOD DRIVE FOR OCTOBER 25, 2020 LITTLE BROTHERS - FRIENDS OF THE ELDERLY Hybrid Virtual/Live Food Drive for Low-Income Seniors 2 | Just a Thought Sunday, October 25, 2020 3 | Domestic Violence Awareness Month 4 | Emerald Ball 5 | Sunday Giving 6 | LBFE Fall Food Drive 7 | Evening of Mindfulness You can support... 8 | Virtual Solidarity Market 9 | Happenings • On Amazon: tinyurl.com/LBFEfooddrive 10 | John Buciak OSP Blood Drive • Or simply DRIVE BY & donate in person! 11 | Giving 12 | First Friday Please see page 6 for a list of requested items. 13 | Hearts & Prayers 14 | Directory old st. patrick’s church oldstpats oldstpatschicago FR. ED FOLEY AWARDED GRANT just a thought The John Templeton Foundation has awarded a $220,000 grant to CTU to explore the ways science and the contemporary search for religious meaning can interface. The 31-month project entitled, “Preaching with the Sciences: An imaginative Approach to Roman Catholic Homiletics,” will be directed by emeritus faculty member Rev. Edward Foley, Capuchin, who is known for his compelling preaching. During Foley’s 36 years of teaching at the Catholic Theological Union, he has served the school as Duns Scotus Professor of Spirituality, Professor of Liturgy and Music, Founding Director of the Ecumenical Doctor of Ministry Program, and coordinator of the school’s liturgy and musical celebrations. Foley will bring his wealth of experience to this innovative project which he conceived and designed. Project updates will regularly be posted on his website: edwardfoleycapuchin.org. A primary way Roman Catholics explore their faith and nourish their spirituality is through preaching. However, few preachers explicitly connect faith or spirituality with science. This grant will gather leading scientists and homileticians to explore the positive contributions science can make to preaching, and consequently contribute to more contemporary modes of believing. The project’s ultimate outcome will be a compilation of 100+ homily outlines for preaching key Sundays and feast days across the three-year lectionary cycle. More on Fr. Ed Foley by Fr. Richard Fragomeni One can surely be impressed and overwhelmed with Ed Foley‘s website: edwardfoleycapuchin.org. It is an online catalog of the contributions and impact of one who may honestly be called a Franciscan scholar and preacher in the lineage of Saint Bonaventure and blessed John Duns Scotus. The scope and volume of his scholarship, writing, and preaching need not be completely rehearsed here in this tribute. Enough to say that he has “authored or edited 28 books, produced 57 book chapters, 44 peer reviewed articles, and almost 200 enyclopedia, dictionary and pastoral articles translated into nine languages,“ contributing to the academy in the world of liturgy, science, preaching, and practical theology. One can also be impressed with the fact that during his 36 years of teaching at CTU, he has served the school and the students as the Duns Scotus Professor of Spirituality, Professor of Liturgy and Music, Founding Director of the Ecumenical Doctor of Ministry Program, and Coordinator of the schools liturgy and musical celebrations. ED IS TRUE TO HIS COMMITMENT TO THE INTERPLAY OF THEORY AND PRACTICE In all this scholarly work, Ed is true to his commitment to the interplay of theory and practice. His presiding and preaching at Old St. Patrick’s Church and St. Mary’s Church in Riverside demonstrate the excellence of his artistry of making practical theology come alive. One can be impressed with all this work, without a doubt. However, what I am most impressed by is Ed Foley as a colleague and a person. Ed was always an articulate voice for the root issues at stake in our institutional deliberations. He shared this gift of intelligent wisdom like a prophet. With such a shared gift, moreover, we experienced his shadow and his shine. Nevertheless, there can be no doubt that his heart was always turned towards the fruitfulness of the mission and Ministry of Catholic Theological Union. Thank you, Ed. Well done, good and faithful Capuchin. Arrivederci. MASS OF REMEMBRANCE November 1, 2020 | 1 pm | Join us: livestream.com/oldstpats/massofremembrance On Sunday, November 1 at a special 1 pm Liturgy, we will gather via Livestream to remember and celebrate the lives of our loved ones who have gone before us to live in the light of the Lord. You, your family and friends are invited to join us virtually for our annual Mass of Remembrance for those who have died this past year. For more information, contact Bernadette Moore Gibson, at 312.798.2358, or [email protected]. 2 visit us at oldstpats.org WELLNESS CORNER: it is not a “one and done”; it is a repeated conversation. While the signs of physical abuse can be obvious, the directory awareness month awareness Teen Dating Violence signs of verbal, emotional, digital, and sexual abuse aren’t as easy to recognize. It might take months or There are so many areas we try to educate our children years for the first signs to appear, and it may start so about to protect them – drugs, alcohol and sex to name subtly that they don’t even see it coming. For these a few – but there is one topic of growing importance reasons, repetitive conversations are key. that is less on our radar: teen dating violence. This issue is closer than you may realize. WHAT DO YOU DO IF YOU THINK A TEEN MIGHT BE IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP? • One in three girls in the U.S. is a victim of physical, emotional or verbal abuse from a dating partner. You start the conversation. As many of us know, • One in three teenagers experience physical violence in teenagers are sensitive, and they especially do not their dating relationships. like to be seen as having made a wrong decision. Teen • On average, violent relationships start at the age of 15. dating violence threatens, humiliates, belittles, isolates, It’s easy to tell ourselves, “That‘s not my daughter (or and strips them of their dignity. It chips away at their son). She is smarter than that. She hangs around with self-esteem, shames and makes them feel guilty, many nice kids. She goes to a private school. She’s an honors times in secrecy and darkness – all of these things that student. We’re active at Old St. Pat’s. She would never would be hard for adults to feel and process. So imagine put up with being treated like that.” the trauma that is created inside of a teenager. It is an emotional roller coaster. They are looking for a ray Teen dating violence crosses ALL socio-economic lines, of light, but often are too afraid or ashamed to speak and happens to families in our neighborhoods, our about it. They don’t want to feel stupid in front of their church, and in our schools. Only one-third of teens in friends or disappoint their parents so they get stuck an abusive relationship will ever tell anyone what has in a cycle and cannot find a way out. When you start happened, and that person is rarely a parent. the conversation, you’ve cracked open the door that may be the hope they need. When you continue the WHAT DO I LOOK FOR? conversation, again and again, you have let them know you offer a safe place of understanding to which they Teen dating violence is when one person exerts power can turn for help. and control over another. Unacceptable behaviors to look for include when a partner: We have to also teach our kids to trust their instincts. If they start to feel like something in their relationship is • Checks cell phones, emails or social networks without not as it should be, they should listen to that voice. As permission parents and involved adults, we too have to trust our • Puts limits on hanging out with family and instincts. It could be something that would save our friends; sometimes total isolation child’s life (from Genesis Women’s Shelter, Dallas, TX). • Extreme jealousy or insecurity • Constant belittling or put-downs If in need of help, call the National Domestic Violence 24- • Explosive temper Hour Hotline at 800.799.7233 or visit www.ndvh.org for • Constant mood swings toward their partner more information. Sarah Thompson is Old St. Pat’s parish • Needs all of the details of their waking hours therapist and available for counseling, presently remotely • Physically inflicting pain or hurt in any way through teletherapy until OSP offices re-open. Sarah is also • Makes false accusations a certified Illinois Domestic Violence Advocate. She has day • Telling someone what to do and evening hours and offers a sliding fee scale. Contact • Possessiveness Sarah [email protected] or 773-234-9630. • Repeatedly pressuring someone to have sex Chicago Domestic Violence 24 Hour Hotline Phone: 1-877-863-6338 | TTY: 1-877-863-6339 HOW DO YOU KEEP YOUR TEENAGER FROM GETTING National Domestic Violence 24 Hour Hotline: 1-800-SAFE (7233) INVOLVED IN A BAD RELATIONSHIP? Talking about healthy relationships and self-respect is one of the most important ways we can prevent unhealthy relationships for our teens. It is not always a comfortable conversation, but it’s a necessary one. And visit us at oldstpats.org 3 emerald ball emerald Stay tuned next week for photos from our virtual Emerald Ball. We're so excited to share this special evening with all of you! Thank you to our Generous Sponsors Chef’s Table Diane and Vince DiBenedetto Latsko Family Foundation Lori and Ken Hiltz The Walsh Group Family Table Maureen Barney In Memory of Matthew C.