The UCSD Guardian Univc rs ily of California. San Diego/ Volumc 45. Number 9 / Monday, Fcbruat'y 1, 1982 Love, marriage, and 16 units BY PEGGY IVES a rampu~ pholOgraph~ cia...... and I... al ... o Ilc)\\ c\ er. t he..,e couple" are fort unatc to live In a Starr \\' roll'r n· ... pon ... ible for all I he hou..,c\\·ork and home' llnl\l'r"lt~ ... ettll1g where fret' or I{)\\"'ost help i ... cooked meal-, Ernll' h,h been In\ohed in (\\ atlable 10 I hem in case problem" do an ... e. ,we \\'eren't ~oing to gel married unl il intral11ural ba~k('[baliln pre\ 100h\ l'ar"'. "bul Ihi ... .. [ d()n't r('all\ t htnk t he un i\ ('r~it \' IS ... t re .... f ul. I \\ e \\('re ott t of school.. .. " year I don't h,1\'e the time 10 Ix' oblIgated." t hm kit I'> how t hl' people workimd ilciapt t () itt hat Ilm\ mi.lm t i Illes ha\ l' \·ou heal d ErnIe cOl11mencb hi~ \\"If· TraC\ for her make .... It ~trl' .... ful. Tht'n' mil\' lx.' Ie ... "tres on I hI" cOl1fes"'f()n fmlll friend" \\ ho fell III cicl h' in 10\ l' confldt'nce and h<:lp tn the couple'~ deci ... lOn, marned studenb because thl'~: dC/II\'(· In a ktncl of In college and then del'lclecl I he~ lOlIlch;'1 \\(111 makIng proce"~. :.cn It'(.' orientl'fl lint tI graduatIon to marr~: .... he'" helped communit . in ThIS "'Itllation h nol 1l1l('Ol1l1110n al l'CSf> . In me ... r need the whIch t ht·i·l' I... a farl ....OI1W married student... feel I he highh challenge of lot of hl>lp COIll pel 11 i \ e n alule of I h IS In:- t II UlIon m a~ be 1..'\ en pur ... uing a ca ;1\ ailable." I h ' more conduCt\ l' to co llege marriage" I han 01 her reer 111 m d ici ne cou n ... dor ~;lld. Ulll\ er ... ities all'. and "he kno\\'~ I Whitchill --Ia "There are ll10reand mort· ... Iuclcnl ...... \\'hoseem need that chal· led that thl to \\anl to h;1\(' it relalloll"hlp b 'cClu"'l' of the lenge and is brl'ak,up of c()mpetiti\' 'ne"'''' of Ihe "choo!''' remarked l CSJ) ~UPIXlrt i\'c." he ... hort 'term cou JUntOI' Ernie I~illo" \\ ho i... jlursuing hi ... Hio Chem remark d. IJIl'... can abo major at Re\ l'iIL' College. The couple l'au~t' a great Ernie marrted hi ... \\ ifl', '('ran'. after theIr plan ... 10 "I art a deal of dis gradualton from hIgh ~ch()()1 tn Vtlma. Arizona. famil~ in the com fort. bu t III six years ago. Following a career in the Na\ y. nex t \'ear or so. t he end. he t'e ... 1<tI lo!' d('cided to pur:-ue hi ... interc... 1 in t h ' nwdical The\: realize Ihis a .... a learn field and no\\' hop ' .... 10 enler medical .... ('hool after t he time, effort ing experIencl' gradual ion . and money The \\a\' in Thl' I<illo< are one married couple who ha\ e nceded to ... up· which couple'" ka rtwd to make .... acri fire ... for I he "ake of t hel I' IX)rt a gro\\'ing rela e 10 each rel,1I ion"hlp. The~ both agree that ErnIe's "'Iud~ famil~ and art' Cit her ()n a habIt... don'l allo\\ tl1l'l11 much of a ~ol'lallif('. bUI reach to a ... · "'In);;:~. r1a~ ,tp· I':rn ll' il'('I~ thai. "if YOU \\ ani It bad enough, \'Oll sumt: the re ... · ':a\ l>a"I" m;'1\" ca n get It done." ponsibililie . al':'u alL'Oun't "It· ... hare!. l'~pel'lall~ ;tl l·(.·1l. \\ here you ha\ l' year or"o. The\ reall/ethettnw.effort and mone\ [ () r " () mc () f I h l' pro bit' 111 " a L' II U pIt' 10 dl'\()le all \'fltll I il11l' til "'Iuclying." l{tll ()" iw ded to ... uppilrt a gro\\,tng farntly and arc read~ ll1a~ e .. pertlnn'. Rl'\\,.trdin.~ a part 1ll'1 \\ nr tht CI )m n1l'n ted. to ;tS"'UIlll' tht' rl'sp()n~lhilltle ... Illlpll' phra~l" "\1~ you look 111 't' toda~ " , :\ lea 11\\ hile. '1'1 an 1~llIo-- \\'Ill''''' full I inw I() hl'lp "Just beIng young and being marrted kwh )Illl c--peL'ially l'IleCII\l 11 rl'gall1l1lg IItnL' of th "1I h lell/l'l he collpll i>lldgd. ,\11 hough I he\ bot h into hard tim ...... Inll If \IlU can \\()rk on thl' gll,ul1d 11)-.' 111 CO'lll11.!nl"(l111ll brt .. kd) \ n-- admll thai "m()Ill'Y I" nol a IJlg prohlt·I1l." EmIl' relationship. you can help'each otlwrgl'1 thrtlugh \lar 'led COllplt'" "'l1l1,·rtn' ftnc111li,t1 d'f/ICUI'll' e1()l'''' \\flil pari tlllll';ll1c1al o rtn'l\(.... \ ' \ i>enl'lil . t he rough tIme .... mil\' al ... !) bt'l'omfnrtrd to kll()\\ that hn.ll1( lal Id The one jlltll>ll'111 I he ('ouple dot' ...... eem I () "There are g()od t hll1g~ and had thIng ... about it Sen IC(" 1lI.t~ pro\ Idl' mort' 10 1Il1rrted uden\-. l'll('lIUllll'r i.... Ihal of nol h;I\1I1g lnllllgh lillll' (marnage) but thi.' good alway ... oulweigh ... tl1\' Ihan III "inglt' "'ludl'nl . 11I,!!;l'1 h l'r bad." ErnIe concluded, Tom Hutll'r III Flllallcial \Ill,' 't·\ I 'e aid all 011 ",\1 101 of II111l'" you h;l\'(' 10 de(,leil' whal I Ill' If tl couple doL'~ decIde tf) l1l;lln durtng l·olkgl'. campu-- ll1arrtl'd "Iudt'nt can ('\PI't! to need priorlt\ i:-- - the r;:::===================~' t he~ ma\ joi n lilt' apPI'()'\llllaICh .\'.()()I) lor the I.l ~ 3 ''1101 \ par. "chool work or \ our rank" ()I happ\ cou \\ hdl':l "'ll1.~It''''llldt'nt lin camplI m;1\ o'1h !1( ed to rl'lal iOlbhip." I'\nie ple~ Itkl' Ern Il ,1l1e1 budgel .'();lOIl 1<)1' 11l( dille tl'1lL' P'rtOG \11 off ... aid. (If people really Trac\'. But for I hO:-l' l'ampu C()l1ph' l an ('\pn'l t' pell l· ... t (Ill 'ar .'~I.:-()O ";\1\ ~tud\' habits \\'hll . l'lll'OUnter diffi filI'I hl' n1l1l' 111Clnt h ,chld pl'r!c,d are I ;ro babl~ ' qUIte a want to get married, cultll· .... l()un~l·lll1~ (IlmmuT1lcal ion ddinilt·I) 't'l'lll to pl.l\ a key bit different from and p,,\ ch()logica I rille In I hl'. lll'Cl'-"" 01 collegl'll1.tITI:I 't'-- "'UCh;b tht tho~e students who , er\"lCe ... and FinanCIal Rtllo<. Whet hl't' tl IlL'IIll' Comll1Unlcatloll 1)(:1 \\ l'l'n li\ l' at school. I'll be then nothing in the Aid program:- ..,Iand part ncr" on a bi kl' ndl' hllll1l' I rom "cho(l!. a "'crillu-­ upstairs studying and ready to help. talk \\ It h I he college coun .... clor. or d frtl'ndl~ chal t hen come down to "ee world is going to .. I f \\ l' ... e e a \\' 11 h a ftnancial aid a(hi!'()r. married L·IlUpll· ... an' Trac\' for a "Iud,\­ cl i~ t re ... sed cou pie. II I~ ad\'i~t'd to "kel'p the Itne ... open:" break." ErnIe ~aid. stop them. ' lhuall~ Ix·tau~c the • * * II 0 \\' l'\ e r . Ern i e communIcatIOn pal, Autumn and :\Iark l hapman .... ill' a foun h) ear feels that studymg tern has broken :\nlmal I'lw"iolc )h~ maj()r and he a t hI rd ~ ear a lone may b a handicap at times. All hough it is do\\'n ... due to a \'ariet v of reasons, " cnll1mentl'Cl Enghsh I.lterat lIt'e major. are ,,1"'0 allhll1g I Ill' necessary for ErnIe to volunteer in programs such I ~ichard Whitehill. counselor at Counseling and rank... of marrtL'c1 college .... , udcnls as the Reent n St udent Commiltee and t he Beach Psychological 'en'ices. :\Iark md Autumn \\ hIlt' the 1\\11 \\ere on the Area Communi'V Clinic for the sake of his "When th('~ gencrally get to us. they're kindof l 'C.'I) rem tng lTl'\\ On\prtl I. I~) '(). hl' (It-dded medical career. h'(' f els that he also ne ds some like ... tranger ... to each other. One thing wc ..,trc!'~ to mo\ l' 01'1 campti. gl'l a Job and m;lrn AUI umn group studying. wich time doesn't alway~ allow . here i... communication." he added. The t\\O \\ere married :'.larth 2,.19,1. "not Tracy also sce~ an affect on the couple's social Whitehill says that t hey see a 101 of couple... \\ ho \\<lnling 10 \\cHt untIl \\t' \\ere oul of ... dlOlll." life. "like not being able to go anywhere." Ernie are having difflcultie ... in the sexual area ..... AgaIn. "We did alot (If t hlllklng about \\ Iwt Iwr it would usually tries to work during !-ochool breaks and on mo"t of the problem he!' In the lad, of bl' practIcal \nd \\e \\'lluldn't ha\l' gOltl'n we 'kends in order to make the ext ra monev communICation between partn '1' .. marrtl'c1 If \\ (' couldn'l ha\'e fini..,hl'd "chon!." needed to pay bill.... This extra money also help~ "Reproducti\e .... ex I... automat ic. but :\lark added the couple acculllulate furniture and other interpersonal communlcat ion "l'\ - plt'astng .\ulumn and :\lark don't let'l Ihal l'\ef'\One luxuries for the future.