LESBIAN/GAY POWER AND CONTROL WHEEL HETEROSEXISM VIOLENCE AL SEX IC U S A Y L H P p USING COERCION u g USING s n & THREATS: h i Making and/or carrying out INTIMIDATION: in p g p threats to do something to Making you afraid by using a harm you. Threatening to looks, gestures, actions. sl E leave or commit suicide. Abusing pets. Displaying A Driving recklessly to frighten weapons. Using looks, X I s ir you. Threatening to “out” actions, gestures to h B a you. Threatening others reinforce homophobic o T h who are important to you. control. v E i O g Stalking. n R g in ll H N u USING ECONOMIC USING EMOTIONAL P p ABUSE: A ABUSE: Preventing you from getting or Putting you down. Making you h O keeping a job. Making you ask for feel bad about yourself. Calling i L g t t money. Interfering with work or HO you names. Playing mind games. n ED M i i IZ O n education. Using your credit cards L H M k P Making you feel guilty. Humiliating A g without permission. Not H o you. Questioning if you are a “real” N O O working and requiring you to R h B lesbian. Reinforcing internalized O E c support her/him. Putting assets T I homophobia. A Power M N in partner’s name only. I H g and L r g O a n USING ISOLATION: i b Control A USING PRIVILEGE: Controlling what you do, who you P p b Treating you like a servant. Making v r see or talk to. Limiting your outside p H i N i n all the big decisions. Acting like the ic e activities. Using jealousy to control r s t g “lord of the castle.” Being the one t u R O i you. Making you account for your m b to define each partner’s place or & a whereabouts. Saying no one will E duties in the relationship. believe you because you’re B T s p lesbian or gay I MINIMIZING, m X u r A n DENYING, & E USING a c CHILDREN: BLAMING: h g Making you feel guilty Making light of the in in about the children. abuse. Saying it didn’t t g s Using children to relay happen. Shifting i responsibility for w messages. Threatening t abusive bahevior. to take the children. k i Threatening to tell your Saying it’s your fault, c you deserved it. k ex-spouse or authorities g i n Accusing you of n that you are lesbian or i g it “mutual abuse.” Saying gay so they will take the b children. women can’t abuse P women. HY L A S IC XU A E L S V E IOLENC H ETEROSEXISM Developed by Roe & Jagodinsky; inspired and adapted from: Produced and distributed by: Domestic Abuse Intervention Project 202 East Superior Street Duluth, MN 55802.