Welcome to the IRI 7-Step Training For Therapists Version: 3.0 Date: May 2015 Course Tools: http://infidelityrecoveryinstitute.com/7-step-infidelity-recovery- program-proFessional-training/ © Copyright 2015 by The Infidelity Recovery Institute, all rights reserved 2 Table of Contents Overview ....................................................................................................................................................... 6 The 7-Step InFidelity Recovery Model ................................................................................................................................... 6 The 7 Types oF AFFairs ................................................................................................................................................................... 6 What Is The Infidelity Recovery Model? ......................................................................................... 7 General InFormation: ..................................................................................................................................................................... 7 General Purpose: ............................................................................................................................................................................ 7 Terms .............................................................................................................................................................. 8 Goals of training ......................................................................................................................................... 8 At the end oF this certiFication training you will: .............................................................................................................. 8 Six Goals & Core Exercises of the 7-Step InFidelity Recovery Model ........................................................................ 8 Foundation of the 7-step infidelity recovery program ............................................................. 9 Who is your target audience? ................................................................................................................................................. 11 Selling the 7-Step Model as a Program ............................................................................................................................... 12 INTAKE ........................................................................................................................................................ 14 TIP - LAST 15 MINUTES ............................................................................................................................................................ 16 Do you have extra time? ........................................................................................................................................................... 17 INTAKE TIPS .................................................................................................................................................................................. 17 Prepare Enrich .............................................................................................................................................................................. 18 STEP 1 – COMMITMENT ....................................................................................................................... 19 Session Overview ........................................................................................................................................................................ 19 Why is Commitment an important step? .......................................................................................................................... 19 SESSION PLAN .............................................................................................................................................................................. 20 Homework for Couple ................................................................................................................................................................ 21 STEP 1 TIPS .................................................................................................................................................................................... 22 LETTER TO THE AFFAIR PARTNER EXERCISE: ............................................................................................................... 24 Create transparency ................................................................................................................................................................... 25 Suggestions For discussion ................................................................................................................................................. 26 RITUALS FOR LOVE .................................................................................................................................................................... 26 Quality Time ............................................................................................................................................................................. 27 Acts oF aFFection ....................................................................................................................................................................... 27 Monologues .............................................................................................................................................................................. 27 STEP 2 – AFFAIR STORY ....................................................................................................................... 28 SESSION OVERVIEW .................................................................................................................................................................. 28 The AFFair Story Overview ....................................................................................................................................................... 29 Betrayed partners usually ask the Following things: ................................................................................................... 30 Why is it necessary to tell the aFFair story? ...................................................................................................................... 31 PREPARING FOR DISCLOSURE – CLIENT ADVICE ........................................................................................................ 33 ADVICE FOR YOUR CLIENT: ................................................................................................................................................... 33 CHECK POINT ................................................................................................................................................................................ 35 The Apology ................................................................................................................................................................................... 36 © Copyright 2015 by The Infidelity Recovery Institute, all rights reserved 3 “6 Steps to a Heart Felt Apology” .......................................................................................................................................... 36 Summary: ........................................................................................................................................................................................ 37 STEP 3 – PERSONAL HEALING .......................................................................................................... 38 SESSION OVERVIEW .................................................................................................................................................................. 38 Introduction to Personal Healing ......................................................................................................................................... 38 The Top 8 Emotions ................................................................................................................................................................... 39 Obsessions ...................................................................................................................................................................................... 39 Managing Emotions For The UnFaithFul Partner ............................................................................................................ 40 COUPLE HOMEWORK ................................................................................................................................................................ 40 COUPLE SESSION ACTIVITY - FOO ...................................................................................................................................... 42 F.O.O Workbook ....................................................................................................................................... 43 Contribution List: ........................................................................................................................................................................ 48 STEP 4 – SEX & INTIMACY ................................................................................................................... 49 The Sex Starved Marriage .......................................................................................................................................................