DeMolay Leader's Resource Guide ) Jacques DeMolay DeMo lay Leader's ( Resource Guide ( ( DeMolay Leader's Resource Guide Demolay International Kansas City, Missouri ) ( DeMolay Leader's Resource Guide Fifteenth Edition October 1995 Printed inUSA o Published by Demolay International 10200 North Executive Hills Blvd. ( Kansas City. Missouri 64153 o Frank S. Land Founder Copyright © 1988, 1993, October 1995All rights reserved. ( ) A DeMolay's Code of Ethics A DeMolay serves God. A DeMolay honors all womanhood. A DeMolay loves and honors his parents. A DeMolay is honest. A DeMolay is loyal to ideals and friends. A DeMolay practices honest toil. A DeMolay's word is as good as his bond. ) A DeMolay is courteous. A DeMolay is at all times a gentleman. A DeMolay is a patriot in peace as well as war. A DeMolay is clean in mind and body. A DeMolay stands unswervingly for the public schools. A DeMolay always bears the reputation of a good and law-abiding citizen. A DeMolay by precept and example must preserve the high standards to which he has pledged himself. ) ( Your First Duties YourFirst.Duty as a member of DeMolay is to get involved! One often hears that you get out of life what you put into it. The same is true of your association with DeMolay. Jump in with both feet! Stand up in your Chapter and volunteer to be on a committee. Ask to take charge of a special project for the Chapter such as coordinating a dance, a car wash, or even a movie night at someone's home. Your Chapter can provide you with the help to get started off on the right foot. Just step up, ask how you can get involved, or suggest some activity you particularly enjoy as an event the Chapter should try as a whole. How about hiking, Go-Kart riding, or the formation of a computer club. The opportunities in Delvlolay are endless. You can accomplish most anything ( you like, but your first duty is to get involved! You will also be asked as part of your first duties as a member to share DeMolay with two other deserving young men (your friends perhaps!) within your first year of membership. It is also important to memorize your obligations in the initiatory and DeMolay degrees as soon as you have received them. This requirement may be different from jurisdiction to jurisdiction so check with Chapter members for specific requirements and assistance. ( Contents Introduction .xi Chapter 1: Welcome to the World of DeMolay ) Your Role in DeMolay 1 How Parents and Families Can Help 6 An International Program 6 History, Heritage and Traditions 8 You and DeMolay 12 Chapter 2: Program Planning - The Key to Success Program Planning 25 General Activity Ideas 30 Obligatory Days 33 Activities Supporting the Cardinal Virtues 35 DeMolay MonthlWeek 36 Installations 37 Jurisdictional Activities 39 Chapter 3: Who Makes It Work Officers of the Chapter 43 Effective Adult Volunteers and Their Roles 51 Adult Leadership Teams 53 Advisory Councils 54 Parents' and Mothers' Clubs 63 Executive Officers, the International Supreme Council and Its Structure 66 Chapter 4: Your DeMolay Chapter General Information 71 Procedures 72 Ritual and Ceremonies 76 Chapter 5: Membership Recruitment- Your Friends and Others 84 Orientation 92 Starting New Chapters 93 Chapter 6: Communications Public Relations 100 Chapter Newsletters 101 Media Communications 104 Other Public Relations and Marketing Opportunities 107 The DeMolay Electronic Bulletin Board Service (BBS) 108 Chapter 7: Honors and Awards Active DeMolays 112 Senior DeMolays 117 Advisors 118 Everyone 119 Chapter 8: Appendant Organizations Alumni Associations 122 Chevalier Courts 123 Legion of Honor Preceptories 124 Knighthood Priories 125 Chapter 9: DeMolay Services DeMolay and More Store 129 Medical Release and Consent Form 131 Leadership Correspondence Course Enrollment Form 133 Representative DeMolay Award Application Form 135 PMC-MSA Application Letter 137 Camera-Ready DeMolay Artwork 139 DeMolay Membership Application 149 Index 151 ( eadership. Teamwork. Brotherhood. Challenge. As a DeMolay, you will receive the benefits of Tradition. Excellence. You have discovered the tradition, fraternalism, social involvement, athletic LGlider of OeMoJay. Throughout your association teamwork, leadership and a worldwide network of with OeMolay, you wi11be part of the fun. excitement. friends with a common bond -benefits you will enjoy pride and prestige associated with the premier for the rest ofyour life. Best of all, you will control your own destiny as a leadership training organization for young men. Chapter member. You, and young men like you, will run This DeMoiay Leader's Resource Guide will help the Chapter, including social, athletic, civic and you enjoy your lifelong DeMoiay responsibilities. This fund-raising activities. Along the way, youll discover guide is filled with dates and data, facts and figures. things about yourself that you'll use the rest ofyour life. notes and ideas. However, your primary resource will You will learn to look at your DeMolay membership be your Chapter members and dedicated members of card as a passport to a worldwide brotherhood. A new the adult leadership team and enthusiastic Chapter world ofresponsibruty, challenge and fun is open to you. leaders who stand ready to help you. Of course, the latest edition of the Statutes of the International Supreme Council and the guidelines set ( forth by the Executive Officer for your state or jurisdiction are the final word on any policies and procedures. Consult these sources for additional information. There is so much to learn. There is much to do. With your dedication and leadership, DeMolay will continue to provide a positive fraternal experience for you and other young men ..• the future leaders of our society. WHAT IT MEANS TO BE A DEMOLAY The Order of DeMolay has taken the virtues and best values from ancient chivalry and translated them into modem concepts and uses. The purpose is to make you a better son today and a better leader, father and citizen tomorrow. DeMolay supports the home, the public schools and the free practice ofreligion. Today's DeMolay program builds leaders - young men who: • See themselves honestly. • See what they want in life and aet goals. • Are strong enough to follow through on a plan. • Express themselves sincerely. • Plan ahead for their activities. ( DEMOLAYLEADER'S RESOURCE GUIDE • ONE e World of DeMolay • Your Role inDeMolay • How Parents Can Help • History, Heritage and Traditions • An International Program ) ( ( i: ',' ·~I CHAPTE.ft:' • ~, \::~':1:£~) ••. ·f) , • ." _" ~ the World of DeMolay ....... ,.." elcome to one of the world's greatest success This combination of independence and fraternalism stories. The Order of DeMoJay is the premier is at the heart of the International Order of DeMolay. Wleadership training organization for young DeMolay believes that: men between the ages of 12and 21. This is your • Every individual is unique and important. guidebook. It contains basic knowledge about the • Young men will think and act seriously and fraternity, "how-to-do-it" suggestions... and a personal responsibly, ifgiven a chance. record section in this Chapter. Complete the record • Young men must be involved in the decisions that section, and you'll have a permanent history of you own affect them. DeMolay success story! • Young men need to share experiences, but in a DeMolay was founded in 1919 in Kansas City, structure where each one can learn responsibility Missouri. The original group of nine young men has and develop his own style ... at his own pace. grown to more than 1,000 Chapters and 1,000,000 • Young men need to have fun and socialize with young men have enjoyed the DeMolay experience. others. Today, DeMolays know that wherever they travel, they will not be far from a DeMolay Chapter. YOUR ROLE IN DEMOLAY \ You are a member of DeMolay for life. From the Some famous men have benefitted from involvement I time you joined through age 20, you are considered an in DeMolay, including Gary Collins, Paul Harvey, John Active DeMolay. At age 21, you become a Senior Wayne, Walt Disney, Dan Rather, and many others. At a DeMolay. Then you may continue to benefit from critical time in life, each one of these men (and DeMolay by becoming a member of the International thousands of other great leaders) shared the values, DeMolay Alumni Association ... or by becoming a Chapter Advisor. dedication and self-enrlchment that are part of the Order DeMolay truly will benefit you the rest of your life, of DeMolay. And, all shared in its fun. but never more than right now ... as you enter This has led many to ask over the years, "Does manhood. This is a critical time in your life ... a time DeMolay lay the foundation for such greatness, or does it for celebration in nearly every culture .•• and a time just attract those destined for greatness?" Either way, for exploration in every young man. isn't it something you'd like to be associated with? Strong new feelings of independence and DeMolay strongly encourages original thinking, selt-determinatien well up inside a young man creative planning, responsible decision-making and between 12 and 21 years of age: cooperative action. DeMolay provides you with the • A need to test boundaries ... and abilities. atmosphere that gives you the chance to succeed... as • A time to think about destiny ... and dignity. well as the freedom to make mistakes and learn from • A time to take charge of one's own fate. them. • Young men need to have fun and socialize with To benefit fully, you must be prepared to participate others. At the same time, young men like you have a and be involved, because, as a DeMolay, you will growing appreciation for things outside yourself . become part of a very special organization.