GRIEF RESOURCES BOOKS Widow/Widowers Loss 1. Healing A Spouse’s Grieving Heart, Alan D. Wolfelt, PhD 2. How to Survive the Loss of a Love, Colgrove, Bloomfield, & McWilliams 3. I’m Grieving as Fast As I Can, Linda Feinberg (young widow and widower) 4. When a Lifemate Dies, S. Heinlein, G. Brumett, & J. Tibbals 5. Widow to Widow, Genevieve Ginsburt (myths about grieving) Parent Loss - Adults 1. A Mother Loss Workbook, D. Hambrook & G. Eisenberg (Coping with the death of a mother) 2. Death Benefits–How Losing a Parent Can Change an Adult’s Life–For the Better, Jeanne Safer, PhD. 3. Losing a Parent: A Guide to a New Way of Living, Alexandra Kennedy 4. Losing Your Parents, Finding Yourself, Victoria Secunda (change after the death of a parent) 5. Motherless Daughters, Hope Edelman 6. On Grieving the Death of a Father, Harold Ivan Smith 7. When Parents Die, Edward Myers 8. When Parents Die: Learning to Live with the Loss of a Parent, Rebecca Adams Multiple forms of Loss 1. Angel Catcher: A Journal of Loss and Remembrance, Katy & Amy Eldon 2. Beyond Grief, Carol Staudacher 3. A Grief Like No Other – Surviving the Violent Death of Someone You Love, Kathleen O’Hara, M.A. Revised 4/5/2020 GRIEF RESOURCES 4. The Grief Recovery Handbook, John W. James & Russell Friedman 5. Healing Your Grieving Heart, Alan D. Wolfelt, PhD 6. How to Go on Living When Someone You Love Dies, Therese Rando (suggestions to aid in the grieving process) 7. Necessary Losses, Judith Viorst (how we grow and change through losses) 8. Tear Soup, Pat Schwelbert Child Loss 1. Angelic Presence, Cathi Lammert and Sue Friedeck 2. Empty Arms – Coping with Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infant Death, Sherokee Ilse 3. Gone But Not Lost – Grieving the Death of a Child, David W. Wiersbe 4. The Grieving Garden, Suzanne Redfern and Susan K. Gilbert (22 parents share their stories about living with the death of a child [young child or adult child]) 5. O Susan! – Looking Forward with Hope After the Death of a Child, James W. Angell 6. Recovering From the Loss of a Child, Katherine Fair Donnelly Death by Suicide 1. Suicide Survivors’ Handbook - A Guide for the Bereaved and Those Who Wish to Help Them, Trudy Carlson 2. My Son…My Son…A Guide to Healing After Death, Loss, or Suicide, Iris Bolton Revised 4/5/2020 GRIEF RESOURCES MULTIMEDIA 1. The Gifts of Grief: A Film by Nancee Sobonya. The Gifts of Grief asks a timely and important question - How do we transform the tragedy of our losses into a life-altering experience that deepens and enriches our lives? This 52-minute film invites the viewer to discover for themselves the possibility of true gifts emerging from their own losses. This is a unique film about the possibility of another side of suffering, told through the personal and inspiring stories with people who have confronted remarkable losses and have found a way to transform their grief into a greater appreciation of life. As we watch these people grapple with difficult emotional and spiritual pain with a mixture of grace, dignity, fear, vulnerability, soulfulness and courage, we are asked to open to our own pain honestly and directly and discover what lessons death and grief have taught us. We explore the possibility that grief while very painful, is one of the closely guarded keys to true transformation and joy. 2. A Secret Best Not Kept. A documentary film that takes a close look at everyone touched by suicide, depression, and loss. Web site: sayitoutloud.com Revised 4/5/2020 GRIEF RESOURCES WEB SITES 1. www.growthhouse.org info and referral services; related to end of life, grief resources 2. www.widowNet.org info, resources and chat rooms for widow(er)s 3. www.dougy.org info and articles on children’s grief that can be accessed 4. www.compassionbooks.com books on many kinds of loss for all ages 5. www.agast.org for grandparents when a grandchild has died 6. www.missfoundation.org support for grieving families when a child has died 7. www.griefwatch.com information, resources, memorial products, links 8. www.goodgriefresources.com a wide variety of resources for general grieving 9. www.babysteps.com child loss 10. www.groww.com information, email to heaven, chat rooms, message boards, resources 11. www.bereavedparentsusa.org information for families, regardless of age of child 12. www.pomc.com support, education, advocacy and awareness for families of murder victims 13. www.taps.org support for families of military death 14. www.afsp.org website for the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention; provides support, information, and awareness events 15. www.friendsforsurvival.org a national outreach program for survivors of suicide loss Revised 4/5/2020 GRIEF RESOURCES Films: Widow/ers To Gillian on her 37th Birthday(1996) PG-13 Two years after his wife, Gillian (Michelle Pfeiffer), died in a boating accident, David (Peter Gallagher) still fantasizes his wife is alive and talks with her "ghost" on the beach every night. Meanwhile, family problems crop up, and Gillian's sister threatens to sue for custody of David's 16-year-old daughter, Rachel (Claire Danes). Things come to a head when the family gathers on Nantucket to celebrate Gillian's birthday. Shadowlands(1993) PG A divorced New York woman (Debra Winger) and well-known children's author CS Lewis (Anthony Hopkins) become romantically entwined in this story about their ill-fated May- December love affair. This big-screen adaptation of William Nicholson's play is based on Lewis's real life. [widower and test of faith] An Unfinished Life(2005) PG-13 When her husband dies, Jean Gilkyson (Jennifer Lopez) moves herself and her daughter, Griff (Becca Gardner), into the Wyoming home of her estranged father-in-law, steely rancher Einar (Robert Redford), even though they don't get along. Buried in grief, Einar can't get over the death of his only son, while Jean struggles to make sense of her new life. Over time, though, the two learn to move on through the power of forgiveness. Ghost(1990) PG-13 Gothamites Sam (Patrick Swayze) and Molly (Demi Moore) see their romance shattered when a street thug kills Sam during a mugging. A spectral Sam finds himself in a world where only sassy pseudopsychic Oda Mae (Whoopi Goldberg) can hear him. He learns, with Oda Mae's help, that a rival masking a money-laundering scheme arranged Sam's death and that Molly is in jeopardy. Working through Oda Mae, Sam tries to warn Molly before she suffers his fate. Always(1989) PG Director Steven Spielberg delivers an old-fashioned romantic adventure, as firefighting pilot Richard Dreyfuss perishes in the line of duty and comes back from the beyond to watch over his replacement (Brad Johnson) and his true love (Holly Hunter). Exciting, romantic and featuring Audrey Hepburn's final screen appearance, Always reaffirms the adage "What you give away, you keep forever." P.S. I Love You(2007) PG-13 Holly Kennedy (Hilary Swank), a young widow living in New York, has just lost her beloved husband Gerry (Gerard Butler) to a brain tumor. Inconsolable, Holly finds that Gerry left for her a series of letters to help cope with the grief. As months pass, Holly discovers new messages from Gerry encouraging her to go on living. And while Holly's friends fear the letters will mire her in the past, they, in fact, give her strength for the future. Revised 4/5/2020 GRIEF RESOURCES About Schmidt(2002) R When insurance actuary Warren Schmidt (Jack Nicholson) retires and his wife dies, he looks for life's meaning on a road trip to his daughter's (Hope Davis) upcoming wedding to a waterbed salesman (Dermot Mulroney). But Warren can't seem to get anything right. En route to the wedding, he shares his life through letters with a Tanzanian boy he's sponsoring for 73 cents a day … and soon, Warren discovers renewed purpose. The Shipping News(2001) R Distraught after the disappearance of his estranged wife, Quoyle's (Kevin Spacey) long-lost aunt (Judi Dench) convinces him to move with his daughter to their ancestral home in Newfoundland. Here, where life is rough and secrets are many, Quoyle lands a job as a reporter for the local paper. Now, a past is emerging, a mystery is unfolding and life is awakening. Based on the Pulitzer Prize-winning novel by E. Annie Proulx. My Life(1993) PG-13 Advertising executive Michael Keaton has it all: a beautiful, pregnant wife (Nicole Kidman), a great job, a stately house … and three months to live. In this affecting drama, Keaton tries to make up for lost time and come to terms with the inevitable end of his life. Screenwriter Bruce Joel Rubin (Ghost) makes his directing debut here. Bonneville(2006) PG Jessica Lange, Joan Allen and Kathy Bates star in this road trip yarn, which follows three friends on a journey across the West after one of them is widowed. Along the way, they learn a thing or two about themselves, one another and life. Powerful performances drive home the themes of friendship and female solidarity, while the awe-inspiring landscapes of the American Southwest convey a true sense of carpe diem. Parent Loss The Barbarian Invasions(2003) R In this Oscar-winning drama, fifty-ish Remy (Remy Girard) is divorced and hospitalized in Montreal. His ex-wife, Louise, asks their estranged son, Sebastien, to come home from London (where he now lives) as a show of support for his father.