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Not all letters received will be printed. SERVICE SECTOR BLUES want to see it, or you don't want your kids to of color ... that means organizing in the white As soon as I received Issue 26 (May/Jun 2004), see it, turn the damned thing off! community against racism ... It's about creating I immediately related to the older Krispy Kreme If we want our government to control humanistic relationships with people of color female employee photographed on the cover. what we see, here, and feel, then Ms. Moore's based on solidarity, community, and respect." I am one of many people forced to accept a opinion is a good way to go. It's more fodder The other was the comments on how low-paid job in the service industry. Despite for Bush and his hacks to take away our free "middle class people of color" don't fit "the my experience in the car business in support speech. We have to be responsible for our- analysis" purported by myself among many services, private security, and administrative selves, or risk the possibility of our government others. First of all, I was never referring to duties, I recently took a job in a convenience and our corporations taking away our freedom. middle class people of color in my article. Yes, store. The "good" jobs are no longer out there. there are middle class people of color in the Even the marginal jobs have flocks of appli- Kerri Danskin United States. Allowing some people of color to cants competing for that $8/hour position. Spring Lake Heights, NJ advance in Capitalist society and become part I have had no type of health insurance. of the middle class is an integral part of main- There are no unions in Florida so I had no rep- THANKS, TANK taining Institutionalized Racism.