Gamma Province Goes to Camp Putting It Together

BY LOIS CATHERMAN HEENEHAN, Adelplti

Bit by bit, putting it together... Cotta keep a link with your tradition, piece by piece, harmonizing each negotiation only way to make a work of art... 'till you have the perfect orchestration. First of all, you need a good foundation, The art of making art... otherwise it's risky from the start.... Is putting it together.

-Putting It Together (from Sunday in the Park with George) Music and Lyrics by Stephen Sondheim

WHO IS MAKING ART? You! results in using the best of the past You're no painter, or composer or to make the best of the future. artist of any sort. But you can "Bit by bit...piece by piece ... " make this form of art. You ARE it! Each chapter member learns Knowing how to put together Fraternity ways through commit­ the things you have been taught, tee involvement. Every alumna the experiences that have shaped realizes the need for group commit­ your life, the people who have ment to a philanthropy project. been influential, the forces that Chapter and alumnae officers have pushed you in one direction learn from Province, Regional, or another, you can sketch a frame­ and Fraternity Officers. Skills work, fill in the body, touch up learned and practiced in Kappa the shadows, brighten or soften Kappa Gamma are applied to the tints and- produce art...art work and home management. We that remains a work in progress. keep our world from spinning too Parents, educators, peers, wildly and flying apart by mentors- many facets of society working at it piece by piece. coalesce to shape each of us, some "Bit by bit, putting with light touches, others with it together. Piece by great strength. Not the least of piece, working out the these is Kappa Kappa Gamma. vision night and "First of all, you need a good day. All it takes is foundation ... " The foundation time and perse­ was laid by our Founders and verance with a stated in our Bylaws ... bonds of Iota, DePauw, collegians in 1924. little luck along friendship, a spirit of mutual love the way." and helpfulness, the attainment of moral and intellectual We have all the pieces. We have excellence. To promote these goals we have another the vision. We can take it bit by Foundation provided by the financial and personal support bit, with time and perseverance. of the many Kappas who raise funds and create programs We have a little luck along the way which carry Fraternity ideals into the 21st century. - the luck and good judgment to "Cotta keep a link with your tradition, gotta learn to be members of an organization for trust your intuition .. ." Tradition doesn't mean doing women which encourages us to com­ something just because "we've always done it that way." It bine our individual and group experi­ means putting proven strengths to work. Recognizing that ences for our mutual benefit. change is needed may come through observation or intu­ We're Kappa Kappa Gammas, putting it ition. Linking tradition and intuition for optimum effect together! Check out our works of art! ~

THE K El' • Winter 1995 CoNTENTS

THE KEY OF KAPPA KAPPA GAMMA • WINTER 1995 . VOLUME 112 , N0.4

6 How Good Is Your Skills Report Card? Everything old can be new again. 9 Your Title Means a Lot A review of names we go by. 10 From Kappa with Love Gamma Province goes to camp. 13 More Than Magic Life management with a twitch. 14 Designing Women Kappas steal the show at Marist College. 16 Kappas Under Par A look at women's golf. 19 Putting It All Together Making your social style work for you. 22 Page by Page Putting The Key together. 24 Here's to Yew Volunteers help shape a topiary garden. 26 Something of Value How beliefs can affect risk management.

DEPARTMENTS

2 Fraternity News 39 Accent on Alumnae 29 Profiles 45 In Memoriam 34 Foundation 46 Through the Keyhole 36 Kappas on Campus

On the cover It take 300 pounds of ink to print a quarterly i sue of The Key. Member College Fraternity National Panhellenic Photograph by T. Thomson. Editor Association Editors• Conference

THE KEY • Winter 1995 • 1 0 • Don't walk behind me for I may not lead. The Key is the first Don't walk in front of me for I may not follow. college women's Walk along side of me and be my friend. fraternity magazine, published continuously since 1882. These are powerful words - "walk Friendship takes time and along side of me and be my friend." commitment. It takes patience, What is it to be a friend? What does it understanding, and nurturing. It takes take? How is friendship sustained in moments of sharing the intimate Joann Barton Vaughan, ill: today's society on a fast- paced and insecurities and the exhilaration of Editor often solitary road? Do we have time achievement. There is no quick in and Lois Catherman Heenehan, B:E to form friendships? Do we take the out in a friend's life. Friends alone Associate Editor time to develop them? Is it possible to share the knowledge of knowing and get it all together? being known and thereby form a trust Jennie Miller Helderman, rn The Greeks had a word for friend, unparalleled with professional colleagues Alumna News philia, the affection that exists only and acquaintances. There is no hint of Jenny Struthers Hoover, ZK between equals. It is a relationship betrayal; friends understand that deep, Collegiate News thriving on quiet conversations yet emotional commitment shared by one strong enough to endure long absences. another. lisa Lunney Thomson, ZK There are strong, emotional connections John Gardner, author of numerous Director of Communications creating gentle men and women. books on leadership and voluntarism, Susannah Lazar Friendship is not dependent on outside refers to some people involved in Graphic Designer appearances, how much money is in the community affairs as dabblers because bank account, or they never get deep who you know or enough to have any Editorial Board are related to. effect, they never Friendship is based In This Together stay around long Christine Erickson Astone, ro on the simplest of enough to see the by Natashua josewitz Chairman of The Key the heart's strings: I consequences. Publication Committee like you, you like me. Without commit­ Cathy Thompson Carswell, E "Friendship may be I am my sister's keeper ment to one another Fraternity Vice President the surest source of we're in this together to form life-long satisfaction in a friendships we could Lois Catherman Heenehan, B:E fickle world ... ," says not to win be considered Jennie Miller Helderman, rn Sam Keen in Fire in not to compete "dabblers." We could the Belly. not to conquer be those women Jenny Struthers Hoover, ZK Today' s society who come and go Lisa Lunney Thomson, ZK makes friendship but to educate quickly in each harder to form, to nurture other's lives, never Joann Barton Vaughan, ill: harder to sustain. staying long enough The stress of to help to make an impact. moving quickly we are each other's keeper The virtue of friend­ The Key (ISSN 1063-4665) is pub­ through life, the ship is the core of lished quarterly for $3.00 by Kappa let us celebrate Kappa Gamma Fraternity, 530 E. ever-present com­ Kappa Kappa Gam­ Town St., Columbus, OH 432 15. petition, and the the power within us all ma. It is the essence Printed in tiJe United States of constant balancing America, copyright Kappa Kappa to make a difference. of what we believe Gamma Fraternity 1995 act don't always in, for it allows us to Seco 11d-class postage paid at allow for friends to open the doors to Colu mbus, OH enter our lives or universal under­ POSTMASTER: Send address changes to: remain a part of it. standing in others. The Key P.O. Box 308 JuLIANA FRASER WALES, Ohio State Columbus, OH 43216 Fraternity President

2 • THE ICE!' • Winter 1995 Five Chapters by the National Panhellenic Federation of Press Women's Conference, and funding is communications contest. United Through being provided by Chi Mission Statement Rush Omega Sorority. Looking to the ofTheKey Membership is open to Future Kappas know that Rush those women who are means worlGng as a team alumnae or associate The Fall1996 issue of The Key of Kappa Kappa and supporting one another members of any NPC The Key will focus on the Gamma links each to ensure success. Chapters member-group, and who future - and we are loolGng member with the in Zeta Province displayed are affiliated with the U.S. for Kappas who do the same! Fraternity. The mission this loyalty on a broader Department of Defense or If yo u are involved with of The Key is: level and gave special mean­ the United State Armed computer technology and ing to sisterhood. Forces on active duty, are willing to share your to inform, inspire, and BETA ZETA, Iowa, reserve or retired status, or views with more than challenge GAMMA THETA,"Drake, and as a family member. 119,000 other Kappas, The DELTA OMICRON, Iowa Purposes of the AFAPA Key may be in your future. to sustain and nurture 6 State, all helped 0MICRON , include publicizing the high Please write Joann Barton membership loyalty and Simpson, prepare for Rush. ideals, purposes, and Vaughan, Editor. interest When area chapters realized accomplishments of the Additionally, stories are 6 that Omicron Chapter had fraternity system and main­ still being requested on out­ to recognize individual, requested help in revamping taining ftles on prospective standing volunteers. The group, and Fraternity its Rush program and collegiate members for the Summer 1996 issue will accomplishment wanted ideas and assistance reference to member-groups. highlight those Kappas who with Rush practices, they For more information, are malGng a difference in to provide a forum for an all joined in to help. Even please contact Mary Lu our world - voluntarily. exchange of information SIGMA, Nebraska, members Meixell, 4926 Wheatstone To be considered, stories and opinion offered to make the five­ Dr., Fairfax, VA 22032. must be submitted on disk hour drive to help out, but by February 1, 1996. Stories to be a permanent record sent words of encourage­ Prize Patrol and pictures become the ment and support instead. property of The Key and After an overwhelming The Kappa Leadership will not be returned. Not response from Kappas Guide, currently used by all all stories submitted may be throughout Zeta Province, chapters and alumnae associ­ used, and those published Omicron6 Chapter had the To request advertising rates ations across the continent, may be edited for clarity and or to send information and opportunity to return the recently received third place in length. Stories not used in favor by helping Gamma photographs for The Key, the Handbooks and Manuals the Summer 1996 issue may please contact: Theta Chapter during its category in the National be used at a later date. ()---w Rush week. "What a KKr Headquarters and wonderful example of how Foundation Office nearby chapters can work Joann Barton Vaughan, together and learn from I Am My Sister's Keeper Editor each other," says Regional P.O. Box 38, Columbus, Director of Chapters, When you're making your gift list this year, Ohio 43216-0038 PEGGY HANNA HELWIG, include subscriptions from Rose McGill. Tennessee. TEL (614) 228-6515 You,ll find just what you need at just FAX (614) 228-7809 Over There the right price - and you'll be helping a sister in need. E-Mail 73442.1175@ Attention Kappas living compuserve.com on military institutions­ Every subscription helps a Kappa. Panhellenic wants you! Rose McGill Representatives from 13 Call: 1-800-KKG-ROSE Magazine Agency national sororities have ( 1-800-554-7673) 1-800-KKG- ROSE begun organizing a pilot Fax: 1-6 14-228-7809 (1-800-554-7673) Armed Forces Alumnae ,~, Write: Rose McGill Panhellenic Association Magazi ne Agency the Key Source (AFAPA) in the Washington, PO. Box 308 1-800-441-3877 D.C., area with the hopes of Columbus, OH ~~~ e>.'Panding internationally. 432 16-0308 Bylaw have been approved Yisa/MC accepted Rose McGill Checks payable to Rose McGill Agency Magazine Agency

THE K EY Wmter 1995 3 =-=R=es.:=Jpo!:.=-:n:.:..:s=i=-b•=-"lit= i=-=e=s ______council Members The members of the Fraternity Council are responsible for the the 1996 General Convention, the management of the Fraternity. They set policy, determine the ,....-.. --.4t l..;/?Ovoting delegates will select the leaders direction of the Fraternity, and deal with issues affecting the of Kappa Kappa Gamma Fraternity for the next Fraternity as a whole. They must attend regular Council meetings, Province Meetings, General Convention, and assist in Foundation biennium. Every Kappa is invited to become part efforts. They are also called upon to attend other Fraternity of the process by submitting recommendations to functions and visit alumnae associations and chapters. Each the Nominating Committee. Council member also has specific areas of responsibility. PRESIDENT: The President presides over all meetings of the Who is elected at the Fraternity and the Council. She has supervises over all Fraternity 61st Biennial Convention? operations and administration and oversees relations with colleges The Fraternity Council, the Regional Directors of and universities. She presides at the installation of new chapters. Alumnae, and the Regional Directors of Chapters She is an ex officio member of all committees except Nominating will be elected in Tarpon Springs, Fla., June 26 - 30. and fills vacancies with the approval of the Council. VIcE PRESIDENT: The Vice President presides in the absence of the Who can recommend a candidate for President and shall assist her in all ways. She oversees all consideration? publications and public relations projects and directs new and Any Kappa may recommend a candidate. special programs. Suggestions are also solicited from chapters and TREASURER: The Treasurer reviews the Fraternity's current financial alumnae associations. Individuals are also operation and develops a fiscal plan for the future. She oversees all encouraged to submit their own names to the areas of Fraternity finance, directs the work of the Finance Nominating Committee if they are interested. Committee, prepares the budget, and reports on Fraternity finances to the Council and the General Convention. Whom may I recommend? DIRECTOR OF ALUMNAE: The Director of Alumnae supervises the organization and administration of alumnae associations and Any alumna in good standing who has served the participates in the alumnae extension program. She directs the Fraternity within the past 10 years as a member work of Fraternity volunteers involved with the development of Council, as a Regional or Province Officer, as a and management of the alumnae associations. Traveling Consultant, as a member of a Standing DIRECTOR OF CHAPTERS: The Director of Chapters supervises the or Special Committee, or as a Council Assistant is organization and administration of all chapters and is responsible eligible for any Council or Regional position. for the annual review of chapter management and needs. She directs the work of those volunteers involved in the development What other qualities are important? and management of the chapters. The candidate should have demonstrated DIRECTOR OF MEMBERSHIP: The Director of Membership directs leadership ability and have good managerial, the program of selection of new members. She is in charge of communication, and analytic skills. She should membership policies and procedures and is responsible for the be mature, a good team-player, self-motivated, maintenance of permanent membership rolls. She assists in the and able to relate well to people. She should be annual review of chapter needs. a role model - someone who will represent the DIRECTOR OF STANDARDs: The Director of Standards works with the Fraternity well. chapter Standards Committees and participates in a review of chapter needs. She is responsible for standards policies and procedures. What is the term of office? ------Regional Officers Fraternity Council members and Regional REGIONAL DIRECTORS OF ALUMNAE AND DIRECTORS OF CHAPTERS: officers are elected by a majority vote at the close oversee the work of the Province officers in working with alumnae of each General Convention to a two-year term. associations and chapters. These women are responsible for No one may hold the same position for more program development, implementation of policies and procedures, than two terms. and training. Regional officers meet at least once as a Regional Council between General Conventions.

4 • T HE K EY • Winter 1995 Fraternity Organization Chart

Fraternity Council Special Appointments Standing Committees Director of Director of Vice Director of Director of President Treasurer Education Standards Chapters President Alumnae Membership Bylaws Holiday Sharing Chapter Advisory Long Range Planning Assistants Boards Nom inating Director of Standards Extension NPC Delegate and Director of Chapters Field Representatives Alternates Director of Alumnae Finance Director of Membership for Chapters History Field Representatives Housing Chapter Travel ing The Key Publication Consultants Consultants Regional 1------'-R.:ce::.so.:.ioc::..n:..:.a=I=--C-=-=o-=u:.:.cnc.:cc..:il _____--l Directors of Publ ications Alumnae Public Relations

Associate Council

Kappa Kappa Gamma Recommendation for Fraternity Position Clip and mail to: Marilyn Hicks, 6007 Granada Blvd., Coral Gables, FL 33 146; Deadline: March 1, 1996

Recommendation for : ----~~~------~~~~------~~-----~--~~~~~~---- Firs r Name Middle/Maiden Last Husband's First Name

Street Address City State Zip Chapter: ------College: ------

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Reasons for recommending this Kappa: (e.g., Fraternity experience, achievements, skills, qualifications)------

Recommendation submitted by: ------.,------,------:-:-:--::-:::--:-:---- First Name Middle/Maiden Last Husband 's First Name

Street Address City State Zip Chapter: ------Alumnae Association: ------

Recommended by: 0 Chapter 0 Association 0 Individual 0 Other

THE KEY • Winter 1995 • 5 How Good Is Your Skills Report Card? • By Lms CATHERMAN HEENEHAN, Adelphi

o you remember your first grade report card? Your • Dmother probably has it tucked away somewhere. Chances are, you were rated on some of the following: 0uery!.hing Listens attentively. Gets along with peers. Follows directions. Uses time wisely. Shows respect for authority. Works independently. Uses problem-solving skills. Accepts responsibility. Works accurately and neatly. old Expresses ideas orally and in writing. Sound familiar? Could this list be applied to what you do now, at home, work, or in volunteer experiences? can be The probable answer is, "Yes!" The personal qualities and learned skills that began to appear and be shaped in our early years carry over into later life. new aga1n Each opportunity, every experience can be put to use in making new choices, changing patterns, directing life. TransfeiTing Skills to New Situations The trick of transferring skills learned in one situation to another facet of our lives comes easily to some; for others it is another task to be learned. Listening to the coach as an eight-year-old soccer player and respecting his authority translates to appreciating your chapter adviser or following your boss's directives. Expressing ideas well orally and in «; N writing is a real plus in preparing j .c college applications and responding to m c c interviewers. Accepting responsibility can m (/) ::> (f) result in everything from being a dependable Boy or Girl Scout to serving as Kappa Membership Chairman, being president of the PTA, Sunday school teacher, Junior League officer, or corporate CEO. We bring similar skills to each position or learn new skills as needed ...skills we can then apply elsewhere.

6 • THE iCEY • Wi nter 1995 Skills ... Guer_ylhiny ole/ can be new ayain-

Many of these skills are learned in the chapter. by the company where she worked in human resources LAURIE BuRKLAND, Bucknell, was Delta Phi Chapter enhanced her abilities in daily planning, prioritizing, and Vice President-Standards and President. Now, less than short- and long-term goal setting. As a wife, mom, volun­ two years later, she works for Andersen Consulting on the teer, home manager, and part-time consultant, she finds Bucknell Recruitment Management Program. This is a these skills preserve her sanity and give her a sense of "buddy program" which matches a college senior offered accomplishment. "They gave me some sense of control dur­ a position by Andersen with a company employee. ing many unpredictable days with a newborn;' Kim says. Questions can be answered, options discussed, advice From the Fraternity, Kim took skills learned as a offered, and if the recruit accepts the job, a continuing Traveling Consultant and put them to use in her work. relationship provides aid through the remainder of Doing chapter "wrap-ups" at the end of each visit senior term and into the following year at work. taught her public speaking skills as well as how to incor- Laurie compares these partnerships to porate visuals and group exercises into a Kappa's Big/Little Sister Program and program. Working in sales and promot­ finds the same skills apply- listening, ed to training programs, she then awareness, availability - all the things "The qualities applied her public presentation training that provide strength in new circum­ to volunteer work with hearing­ stances and often develop into impaired children. "I feel I have been long-term friendships. I was aught able to fulfill a dream of teaching chil­ dren because of the skills I developed as a Kappa Traveling Consultant," A Model for Life to look for Kim states. "An Extraordinary Return on Investment" was the title given by MARY in a potential Team Spirit ELLEN PoHL RoDGERS, Pittsburgh, to an article written for The Key, Summer "Juggling many balls" and being able 1991. She relates skills learned and sister... are the to "switch gears quickly" have been skills polished in Kappa to practices she uses learned and transferred through the now as a corporate controller, saying, years by MARGOT VANBUSKIRK "The qualities I was taught to look for same ones HoERNER, Bucknell. A mixture of club, [during Rush] in a potential sister­ school, and church activities occupied leadership, interpersonal skills, looked fior when her high school and college years. commitment, interest in academic "I enjoyed being involved with many achievement- are the same ones organizations and getting to know many looked for when interviewing a interviewing diverse people," she says. Now juggling prospective employee." As co-chairman community activities, a career, and of Greek Week she learned how to family, Margot feels that concentrating weave widely-dissenting views and a pros on the major issues, rather than those opinions into a workable structure. that may be beyond her control, helps Remembering the chapter Treasurer's to keep the right balance. budget presentation, Mary Ellen recalled As a "fanatic sports fan and active how the members worked through participant in many sports," Margot planning, negotiating, compromising to feels she has an edge in her work as a allocate limited resources among varied needs, a process sales account executive for Proctor and Gamble. Sports she applies in business. Election of chapter officers pro­ skills are transferable to many facts of life, particularly vided a time to evaluate and clarify thinking to accom­ the business world, Margot believes. Among them are: plish and review goals, procedures vital to any corpo- o setting goals and working to achieve them. rate management situation. o learning the value of teamwork; realizing that the sum/results can be greater than the individual parts. (In a team, 1+1+1=4, not 3!) Setting Goals o practicing a skill over and over to reach perfection. o learning to be a team player; valuing the individual For KIMBERLY ScHLUNDT McCoLLAM, Miami (Ohio), contribution of others. skills learned through work are now applied at home. o working together to achieve a goal, experiencing the ups Time-management and goal-setting seminars sponsored and downs, the feeling of esprit when you succeed.

THE K EY · Winter 1995 • 7 Skills ... 0uerylf1iny oldcan be new ayain How Do You Transfer Skills? workplace and make a case for how your skills can improve efficiency, increase productivity, and add value. Based on personal observation and corporate experi­ Following her year as a Traveling Consultant for ence as Director of Human Resources for Prudential Asset Kappa, JANET MEINHEIT, Wisconsin, drove from Chicago Management Group, BETH SHARP, Penn State, offers to Seattle, arriving broke, jobless, and knowing only three guidelines for learning how to recognize transferable Kappas in the area. But by understanding the functioning skills. A claims processing supervisor was interested in of a business based on chapter organization, public getting into human resources but didn't think speaking skills, extensive experience in report she was marketable. Talking through her writing, crisis management, budget develop­ daily work with Beth, they identified generic ment and application, and the development of skills which could be applied elsewhere: manuals, Janet felt that her resume offered • familiarity with a PC functional business skills. She was hired, how­ • customer focus ever, based on her comprehensive knowledge • relating well on the phone and in person of the college-student market and her willing­ • confidentiality ness to travel. (TCs do spend a year living out • working well under pressure of a suitcase and managing on a slim budget!) • meeting daily production quota Now Director of Human Resources for College • experience working with teens over the years Coupons, a small but rapidy growing company • meeting deadlines. which produces free student coupon books on It is important to take time to through my university campuses nationwide, Janet has also tailor your search for a job, Beth states. Kappa held the titles of account representative, office Think about what you want; get information manager, and director of operations during the in advance; read industry periodicals in the involvement." past five years. And this with an undergraduate library; talk with people in the field. degree in sociology as preparation! In your own self-assessment and in interviews, identify your knowledge, skills and abilities in behavioral terms. From Kappa to Workplace In many companies, interview focus is Drawing parallels to her chapter shifting, especially in entry-level posi­ experience, Janet compares hiring and tions, away from specific technical skills training the company's sales force to and slanting more toward attitude, Rush followed by officer training. She values, and approaches to work. planned events, sought out meaningful What can you do? What experi­ conversation and checked references ences demonstrate that? What results before extending an invitation to join. "Our training sessions have Kappa have you achieved? While corporate Kim McCollam with husband, Steve, programs provide good technical and daughter, Grace, applies skills written all over them!" says Janet. training, it's harder to teach or develop learned at work to the home. As Janet conducts interviews for both the desire for continuous learning, team office personnel and sales representatives, orientation, ethics, values, flexibility, Beth Sharp, Penn State, helps one of the first things she looks for is accountability, respect for diversity, people to define their job skills. Greek experience. "It is one of the few change-agent compliance. Volunteers opportunities in college that can truly and at-home workers can really show prepare a person for many of the situa­ their stuff here! tions faced in the business world today." Show how each experience/job Hospital fund raiser, chairman of a builds toward the next. Even if you have school-needs assessment committee, jumped from job to job, for whatever part- or full-time employee, church teen reason, explain what you learned and activities director, community recycling how yo u developed. Never apologize coordinator, Kappa super volunteer. .. for your credentials! College students you're good at what you do. But if should not apologize for their grades, you'd rather do your thing some place and those returning to the workplace else or in some other way, start taking should not apologize for having been away from it. stock of your abilities ... your natural talents and your Rather, stress what has been learned and the ease of learned skills. adapting. You are hereby cordially invited to become the best you Create or suggest a job! Research what is done in the can be. RSVP not necessary; the response is up to you! ~

8 • T HE KEY • \ inter 1995 Your Title he gurus of etiquette, Emily Post and Letitia TBaldridge, agree that "Ms." is here to stay. •Ms. is parallel to Mr. because it does not connote marital Means status. Particularly in the business world, Ms. serves a useful purpose when you are not sure if a female client or associate is single, married, or divorced. Her reply to you can show you how she prefers to be addressed. A lot The title "Miss" should generally be restricted to girls under 18. In today's world, its use after that age is deemed By Carrie Mae Blount to be somewhat archaic and slightly old fashioned! Traditionally, socially, and even in business, a woman's title was tied to her marital status. Not today! !41/l ,-/J/7 U~ ~ When Jane Smith marries John Jones, she has a decision f"' t ~ !J · to make that others should respect: ~ , / ~ • She can retain her ma~aen ame and be addres ed ') •7 .P__/ ,/ _.//? ---- / L/V"r1w· as Ms. Jane Smith in both sociatif.A_.d p ofessional l/1 ~ fi::J -;·l..-/ /f'"'(./ / /.., situations. J _.,;,..s • // fl* • She can take her husband's fa y,. , m 1~"l&~ own ....._ / 1 ;:.-J/ ~ as Ms. Jane Smith Jones or Ms. a e Io es in o ./ ,r / "? £~·~ / v· social and professional situation . { ..... ~ • 1 l ~· /? 1~ .•/ not addressed so in a professional situation. m)u . 'f 1-J11., ' 7r ~ • In social listings she may prefer to be shown as Jane () Smith followed by Mrs. John Jones in parentheses. • While married, she is never Mrs. Jane Jones. This reference signifies divorce. Until 18 Miss Jane Smith Upon divorce, Jane becomes Mrs. Jane Jones [Editor's note: or in a very formal situation is Mrs. Smith Jo nes], After 18 Ms.Jane Smith unless she decides to revert to Ms. Jane Smith. She does not continue to use Mrs. John Jones. After all, there can only be one "Mrs. Mickey Rooney" at a time. During Ms. Jane Smith In social situations, a widow may continue to use her Ms. Jane Smith Jones husband's name, Mrs. John Jones, until she remarries. Jones (Social only) She can also be Ms. Jane Jones, but never Mrs. Jane jones Jones, again signifying divorce. When a professional title follows a person's name, no Smith (M rs. john Jones) title should precede it. Jane Jones, M.D. or Jane Jones, Esq., does not need a Mrs. or Ms. in front. Under common law, a woman can use any name she chooses as long as she does not defraud. However, if she does not follow the conventions above, she must be prepared for misunderstanding. Mrs. is the title most misused. After considering all the W idowed Mrs. John Jones options, it is easy to see why Ms. is such an appropriate Jan e Jones title for the '90s. (1---.

Carrie Mae Blount, P.R.P, is a professionally registered Professional Jane Jones, M.D. parliamentarian and serves as th e Fraternity's parliamen­ title Jane Smith, Esq. tarian during General Conventions. Sh e is a member of Pi Jane Smith Jones, P.R.P. Beta Phi Fraternity. This article is reprinted with permis­ sion from th e Association of Registered Parliamentarians.

T HE K EY • Winter 1995 • 9 From Kappa

oe Green faces ups and downs in his life like everyoneJ else, but numer- ous trips to and from hospitals for dialysis, kidney transplants and various other treatments, have made for a turbulent roller coaster ride. For brave kids like Joe, Kappa Kidney Kamp is a welcome break from their routine. Joe knows better than anyone the difference Kappa Kidney Kamp makes in the lives of children with renal By JENNY STRUTHERS HoovER, Bowling Green diseases. He loves coming to camp not only for the fun and friendships, but also to encourage the younger chil­ dren and first-time campers who may be homesick or need support in dealing with fears about their diseases. Kappa Kidney Kamp is a rare opportunity for children who simply cannot be without daily medical treatment. Scheduled medications, strict diets, dialysis, and restricted activities remind them all too often that they are different from most other children. But surprisingly these campers look and act like typical kids at camp. If you've ever been to summer camp, you know the potential pitfalls involved, such as bug bites, bee stings, falling off a horse, or feeling homesick. Imagine facing these situations in addition to daily medical treatments. Despite the mosquitos and medications, these campers plunge into every opportunity Kappa Kidney Kamp provides. A patient service of the National Kidney Foundation of Ohio, Inc. (NKFO), Kappa Kidney Kamp is made possible by Kappa alumnae associations and chapters in Gamma Province (Ohio) who provide 100 percent of the funding for camp expenses. Area vendors and sponsors provide additional funds for off-site activities like bowling and for some of the medical supplies needed at camp. Kappa Kidney Kamp, which was held July 16-21, 1995, is a six-day, five-night camp experience where children with kidney diseases can safely discover the adventures of summer camp. Thanks to the dedicated volunteer medical staff, even children whose medical

10 • T HE KE.l' • Winter 1995 problems have previously prevented them from taking donated the most with a combined total of $9,025. The part in many outdoor activities can enjoy all aspects of Columbus Alumnae Association raised money through Kidney Kamp. a book sale and the Cincinnati Alumnae Association Visit Kappa Kidney Kamp and you'll find children had success with a wrapping paper sale. Both chapters racing from the craft cabin to the lake for their next raised money through golf tournaments. activity. Camp songs and laughter fill the air as While Liz is happy to help behind the scenes, she says counselors and volunteers try to keep up with the working with the kids is the best part. She first attended campers. But before anyone gets in line for dinner, Kappa Kidney Kamp as a collegian, and believes that if campers must wait in line at the nurse's station. As kids all Kappas would come out and see how special it is, they trot up the path to the cabin which has been temporarily would be "hooked." Many campers have told her "this is transformed into a mini-hospital, you'll the one week that I feel normal." She also hear the veteran campers say, "C'mon you says that these children understand what guys, it's time for meds." Here blood pres­ "This is each other are going through, which creates sure is checked and medication dispensed. an atmosphere of acceptance and closeness. Some campers will have to put camp on the One Week "Many of the campers have never spent a hold for the rest of the day while they night away from home before, so it's a nice receive hemodialysis at a hospital one hour that I feel break for the parents and a chance for the away. You won't hear them complain, kids to gain a little independence." though. They all know that Kidney Kamp normal." Most of the children attending Kidney is a unique chance for them to Kamp suffer from End-Stage safely enjoy the outdoors with Renal Disease (ESRD), which friends who understand. requires dialysis or a transplant Kappas who have experi­ if the patient is healthy enced Kappa Kidney Kamp enough. When the kidney understand how much the becomes inefficient, the body financial and volunteer cannot clean itself, so blood support means to the campers. must be filtered through a A volunteer who knows this dialysis machine, unless a first-hand is CoLUMBUS transplant is done. Most of the ALUMNAE AssociATION campers are living with member ELIZABETH SELBY transplanted kidneys and CRAMER, Bowling Green. require timed daily medication. Liz has maintained the Volunteer nurses keep care­ partnership between Kappa ful records and monitor and Kappa Gamma and NKFO vitals regularly at camp. A since 1992. As the Gamma Province/NKFO Campers get ready for number of the kids are transported to a hos­ liaison, Liz receives, records, and submits water activities at pital during the week for hemodialysis, but Kappa Kidney Kamp. Kappa donations, promotes Kappa Kidney others can use peritoneal dialysis at camp. Kamp throughout the year, and encourages donations Out of 37 children at this year's camp, three required from all Gamma Province associations and chapters. hemodialysis, 11 needed peritoneal dialysis, and the oth­ She set a goal for Gamma Province last year to raise ers suffered from chronic renal insufficiency. $11,000 for the 1995 Kappa Kidney Kamp, and that goal According to Donald Slobodien, Executive Director was surpassed with a grand total of $11,967. The of NKFO, these children are often more sick than they COLUMBUS and CINCINNATI ALUMNAE ASSOCIATIONS, first appear, and many are from financially disadvan­ BETA Nu, Ohio State, and BETA RHo", Cincinnati, taged households. These children need 24-hour care, so

What is Dialysis? remove waste from blood. Surgically, a large blood vessel (fistula) is created by joining an artery and a vein. Two nee­ A person needs dialysis when 95 percent of his or her kidney dles are placed in the fistula, one into the artery, and one into function is lost, or end-stage kidney failure. Dialysis keeps the vein. Plastic tubing from the needles connects the patient the body in balance by: to the artificial kidney- and dialysis begins. 1. removing waste, salt, and extra water 2. Peritonial Dialysis - cleans blood from inside the body. A 2. maintaining safe levels of blood chemicals catheter is surgically placed into the abdomen. During treat­ 3. controlling blood pressure ment, the abdominal area is filled with a cleansing fluid (dia­ Types of Dialysis: lystate), which draws extra fluids and wastes from the blood, 1. Hemodialysis- uses an artificial kidney ( hemodialyzer) to which, in turn, are drawn out of the body.

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summer camp is an exciting opportunity for them, espe­ cially because many are used to parents who are some­ times over-protective. Donald tells of one first-time camper who said to another, "You're as sick as I am;' with a tone of disbelief. For many, Kidney Kamp is the first time they get to meet friends who face similar hard­ ships. "It's hard for them to feel sorry for themselves when they're with each other," says Donald. Kappa Kidney Kamp gives campers opportunities they may never have otherwise. Camper Guy Davis says his favorite part of Kidney Kamp is getting up early to going fishing. Michael Gamma Province alumnae help out during the pizza party. Aubrick says the best part is "getting to eat what I want to. I normally don't get to eat pizza!" Kappas who volunteer at Kidney Kamp say that the children and summer to help at Kappa Kidney Kamp. Next summer NKFO staff are open with their feelings of appreciation. she plans to spend the entire week. "Nothing can keep Campers made thank you cards for the volunteers, with me away from these kids. This is the most personally comments such as "Kamp is koollike the Kappas; Thank rewarding experience I've ever had." you Kappa girls, I had a great time; We love what you do During her seven years as a Kidney Kamp volunteer, for us; My kidney thanks you!" Christy has seen children develop self-confidence and New to the Kidney Kamp agenda this year was "Kappa strength, and make close friends through camp. She tells Day." All Kappas were invited to attend on Wednesday to of one year when a boy named C.J., who was waiting for a volunteer or visit. "Kappa Day began with breakfast at kidney to become available for transplant, got some sur­ 8:15a.m., a movie at 10 a.m., lunch at noon, outdoor prising news. The camp coordinator, Mark, received word camp activities during the afternoon, pizza for dinner, that a kidney for C.J. was available at a hospital in then bowling at a local bowling alley. A number of Columbus. Mark ran down to the lake where campers alumnae served as volunteers on "Kappa Day" and were swimming and grabbed C.J. saying, "Let's go! There's throughout the week. "This is the only philanthropy I a kidney waiting for you!" The transplant occurred late know of in which an entire Province participates." says that night as the rest of the camp group awaited the news. Columbus Alumnae Association member and volunteer, C.J. returned to Kappa Kidney Kamp later in the week after LILA IsBELL, Montana. a successful transplant. "More than 60 health care professionals, NKFO board While the week's activities are organized by YMCA members, and Kappa Kappa Gamma Willson Outdoor Center, volunteers members made up the largest-ever volun­ from the renal and transplant medical The following Gamma Pro­ teer staff in Kappa Kidney Kamp's 15-year vince alumnae associations professions donate their time and expe­ history;' says Renee Stith, Director of and chapters make Kappa rience to ensure that each child enjoys a Programs and Services for the National Kidney Kamp possible through healthy and happy summer camp experi­ their donations. Kidney Foundation of Ohio. ence. "Campers' needs are carefully Alumnae Associations: Long-time volunteer and alumna Akron monitored by a caring, skillful staff of CHRISTY McCULLEY, Cincinnati, uses Canton-Massilon nephrologists, dialysis nurses, and other several vacation days from her job each Cincinnati health care professionals who are present Cleveland West Shore 24 hours a day to provide quality health Columbus Dayton care," says Renee. Elyria The future looks bright for Kappa Erie County Kidney Kamp after record numbers of Hudson volunteers and donations this year. At the Toledo Chapters: April1995 Gamma Province Meeting a 4 Rho , Ohio Wes leyan resolution was passed to continue Lambda, Akron Province-wide support of this program Beta Nu, Ohio State that so many children look forward to 4 Beta Rho , Cincinnati Gamma Omega, Denison each year. The 1996 Kappa Kidney Kamp Delta Lambda, Miami will be held July 14-19. For more infor­ Zeta Kappa, Bowling mation contact the ational Kidney Children receive the medical atten­ Green Foundation of Ohio at 614/481-4030 or tion they need while enjoying the Based on donation records from 800/242-2133 (in Ohio only). o---. adventures of camp. 1992-1995

12 • THE KEl' • Winter 1995 : More Than Magic Putting your life together, one piece at a time

By ELIZABETH PHILLIPS RuNKLE, Monmouth

am not normally a cynic. In fact, I look at the world ticking of that good old biological clock in the back­ Ithrough proverbial rose-colored glasses. I look at life's ground. When I was a young woman there was no lemons and see not only lemonade, but pie with question about wanting a Mrs. to go with my B.A. or mountains of meringue, tarts with creamy centers, M.A., no question about what our roles would be. cool Italian ices - you get the picture. Consequently We thought we could have it all, forgetting that if the the next statement may not be just surprising but grass is greener on the other side of the fence, the water thoroughly disillusioning. Be prepared. bill is higher, too. I cannot believe in the basic premise of Bewitched. But because we like green grass, we juggle. Because There .. .it's out. we have been taught we are women and we can roar, we Try to remain calm. In a world in which we struggle seem to embrace the lion's share of the balls in the air. to find order amid chaos and reason among the We expect to be bright, intelligent companions, great unreasonable, there is something incredibly comforting moms, successful career women, titillating conversation­ about Nick at Night. Although they have come under alists, and sensuous beauties. We work the thousand fire recently, I personally love June Cleaver's pearls, and piece puzzle alone. We put it together piece by piece and if Rob and Laura Petrie want to sleep in separate beds, bit by bit. We sure could use a little help. Which gets me who am I to cavil? None the less, I draw the line at back to that Bewitched thing. Bewitched. Please don't expect me to believe that there is a woman alive who, if given the option, wouldn't tweak How is your life??? her nose to create order, twitch her nose to knock out the Do you juggle the responsibilities of a profession and competition for that promotion, tweak away wrinkles, motherhood? Do you wrestle with the challenges of twitch away laundry, and curl up with a good book ­ domestic responsibilities? Do you ponder the future of wearing June Cleaver's pearls. our nations, and the roles of your children - male and female - within these countries? Do issues like world peace and self determination keep you awake at night? Or have you reached that place where success is defined downward. Do you try to keep it together, piece by piece, bit by bit? Is the pressing focus of your life getting a full night's sleep? Remembering the 10-year­ old's dentist appointment? Having that report ready for executive review and delivering your high school senior to basketball practice simultaneously at 8 a.m. on Wednesday? Do you have to choose between providing the family with a balanced meal or clean underwear? Welcome to the '90s. We juggle. We balance. We arrange our lives like the pieces of a puzzle. We have moved our

mom-mobiles into the fast lane. We save Nro -'"' our sick days for the crises in our children's .<::: c lives, and we pray that no one has gotten "'c !/) peanut butter on our silk suits. "'::> (f) Even the single women I know are juggling. c 0 Long hours climbing up the corporate ladder must ~ 1i) compete with carving out a social life - all with the .2

THE K EY • Wi nter 1995 • 13 Desi~nin~ Women ... KAPPAS STEAL THE SHOW AT MARIST COLLEGE

By SHANNON CLOUSTON, Cornell any of us can easily conjure up an image of a stylish Mdress or well-tailored jacket in just the right shade that fits better than anything else in the world, but most people would be lost in an attempt to create such a mas­ terpiece. All except for a few Kappas at Marist College in Poughkeepsie, N.Y., who work all year to turn such a figment of their imaginations into reality. Marist College is known for its competitive fashion program. Recent graduate and member of Zeta Chi Chapter KAREN STARKES knew the program would be demanding, but was shocked by how few made it through. "We started out with 50 women and ended up with six by senior year," she says. But holding on until the end proved rewarding for Karen, who is now an assistant designer for Cayset Fashions on Seventh Avenue in New York City. Karen won for best collection at the Ninth Annual Silver Needle Awards and Fashion Show this past spring. She also received the Baccalaureate Award for excellence in fashion design, holding the highest grade point average in the fashion program. The Silver Needle Fashion Show and Awards are held annually and showcase both the senior class collections and selected pieces designed by underclass­ men in two other collections. The Chateaux Collection and Tailored Collection included the sophomore and junior pieces at the ninth annual awards. The show is a prestigious event attended by well­ known members of the fashion industry. Awards are 0; N given for best collection, best garment, best tailored gar­ _J .s::"' ment, and outstanding fashion senior as judged by a c "'c panel of designers and fashion critics.

"':::1 Each senior in the program works the entire year (/)"' >­ .0 to develop a full collection. The students work with a c .Q well-known designer who reviews a student's sketches, '§ Ui offers support and advice, and often donates fabrics and § materials. Designers who have offered their time to the program in the past include Nicole Miller, Joan Vass, Cynthia Rowley, Yeohlee Teng and Kalinka.

14 • T HE KEY • Winter 1995 Designing Women ...

Karen worked with New York City designer Cynthia ters. Karen, Lisa and Jen were all charter members. Steffe. Consistent with this year's theme "the elements Karen served as House Chairman and feels a bond with of nature;' Karen's collection was safari inspired. sisters who supported what she was doing in school, as Her collection included linens, leathers and neutral does Lisa who credits her Kappa sisters for keeping her in colors. For example, there was an oatmeal linen suit with a positive frame of mind. "They have been really support­ leather trim modeled with a leather shirt, cap and ive and very interested," she says. "They would often try backpack; and a long linen vested suit with a sleeveless to cheer us up when we were stressed out." mandarin collar shirt. A few Kappas modeled for the fashion show. Zeta Chi seniors LISA KEMPF and JENNIFER KuzARA Junior LACI BECKETT tried out for the show as soon as will be creating their collection this year, she heard about it. "I can't sew," she says, "so having designed the required outfit, a few "Not many I really find it interesting!' Laci was not the accessories, and a jacket their junior year; only Kappa who modeled or who came to and a single outfit their sophomore year. majors allow watch the show. "A lot of Kappas came to The students do not sew their freshman show their support; they were all behind [the year, focusing instead on drawing and his­ you the Kappa designers] 100 percent," Laci says. tory classes. Having interned for designer Anna Sui this At the Silver Needle Awards Show, Jen opportunity to past summer, Lisa is excited about a future showed a matelasse jacket, taffeta skirt and designing in the fashion world. She says that skinny pants for fall; an embroidered see your final she would like to work again for a successful organza jacket with obi wrap, and taffeta designer and travel as well. skirt for spring; and an antique blue tapes­ project on Jen also interned during the summer at try dress with faux fur. Lisa showed a bor­ J.R. Morrissey. She would like to work as an deaux velvet and tweed gown with a ribbon stage." assistant to a designer after graduation. and sequin trim. Karen is enjoying her position at Cayset Upon seeing a whole semester's worth of Fashions. The company designs plus sizes and effort on stage, Lisa's thought was, "Finally casual wear. "They are definitely willing to something came out right." she says. Jen reflected on the hear my opinions;' she says, "Since the day I started I have fact that "not many majors allow you the opportunity to been sketching!' see your final project on stage." Who knows, someday we may just find that perfect Marist College was founded in 1946. The fashion outfit after all amidst the collection of one of these program teaches students everything from computer designing Kappas. o---. design programs and construction of garments to the history of art. Students are able to intern for designers, work at fashion A long linen dress with black leather tab was part of senior Karen Starkes' award-winning collection, most of which is shown in the background. shows and participate in semester programs in London and Paris. Lisa entered Marist as a psycholo­ gy major, but switched to design her sophomore year. "The fashion bug bit;' she says. Lisa showed just one outfit in the spring, but she is cur­ rently working on a full collection for tl1e 1996 show. Jen knew in high school that she would design clothing someday. Although, at the time, it was design­ ing costumes for the theater that most excited her. But, a professor at Marist helped her to realize that she could work her love of theatrics into her designs for the public. Zeta Chi Chapter was installed in November 1993 at Marist, making it one of the Fraternity's newest chap-

T HE K EY • Winter 1995 • 15 Putt-ing It All Together Kappas

hip, Cspoon, Under grain, links, slice, wedge, apron, bite ... all are words that you Par might associate with the kitchen or with eating. However, the many women By JuLIE KRooN ALvARADO, who have discovered the game Arizona State of golf read these words and be- come excited at the thought of hitting a small round object with a club. The men-only golf facilities or tee times, the "foreign language," the strange equipment, and even the fear of the unknown, have kept women from A yo ung Patty Berg on the enjoying the physical and mental benefits of golf. those course. Can you swing a golf club? Then yo u can play golf. golfing with It is more a matter of grace and tempo than athleticism. you and near you) a whole lot of frustration by starting More and more women are discovering golf as a on the range. It is also a good idea to take a private les­ forum for business, a social and recreational activity, or son from a golf professional (called a pro), available at even as a family pastime. Anyone, from professional ath­ very reasonable rates from a municipal course or from lete to self-proclaimed couch potato, from children to your local club. Try to take a lesson from a female or seniors, can learn to golf and enjoy the experience. Not take one that is tailored to women learning golf, as you'll surprisingly, many Kappas have led, and are leading the pick up some extra-special tips. Golf professional SANDY way, as women discover the mysteries of the golf course LABAUVE, Georgia, has created a goal-oriented program that have kept men hitting away for years. that teaches "levels" of golf to allow everyone to experi­ "I started golfing because it is one of the few sports ence golf in a manner that fits both their personal and that you can play just about any time, anywhere, with athletic goals, allowing them to enjoy the experience. anyone. You can even play by yourself." said LESLIE "Many people can teach you to swing a club," says Sandy, STUART MARYK, Arizona State, a Navy wife who has "but they don't teach you to play the game." lived in Phoenix, Los Angeles, Pensacola, Fla. and currently resides in Denver. As a member of the fitness­ conscious crowd, Leslie also points out that golfing is very relaxing and a good workout, if you walk the course. Although golf may have originated with the Romans and there are signs that So you have motivation ... where do you start?? Let's go Tr the sport was played in the Netherlands, it is back to swinging a golf club. First be sure that you have usually Mary Queen of Scots credited with clearance from a doctor before you begin any sport, and being the first avid female golfer, around the second, always, always stretch your muscles to warm-up year 1565. However, there is very little and avoid injury. record of the Queen being a trendsetter as it Now you can grab some clubs and venture onto those was not until 1867 at St. Andrews in Scotland beautiful green courses, right? Well, you probably wouldn't and in 1868 at the Westward Ho! Ladies' head to the top of a mountain to learn to snow ski. It is Club in England that the first women's clubs a good idea to practice hitting golf balls at a range before were founded, and not until the 1890s that you head to a golf course. There will still be lots of pretty golf became popular with American women. scenery and nice people, but you will save yourself (and

16 · THE KEl' • Winter 1995 Kappas Under Par

Ready, Set, Go! Start by swinging! You must be comfortable with your club and your swing. At first the grip and move­ So, set your personal golf goals, find an instructor ments are very unnatural, but you will learn the rhythm (a word to the wise about learning from a husband/ and begin to actually feel comfortable. Most professionals boyfriend ... think twice!) and practice at the range. But, suggest learning to hit a golf ball off a tee (small plastic how about the equipment? It is a good idea to rent or or wooden item that is planted in the ground to hold borrow clubs for your first few outings. This gives you the ball) before learning to hit directly off of the ground. the opportunity to see what brand and style of clubs Then, as you begin to see success, you can venture onto work for you (not to mention seeing if golf is for you!). Sandy highly recommends using the more female­ friendly clubs that manufacturers are designing to allow for more success, more quickly. Also, wear comfortable, flat, athletic shoes (that's tennies for the coach potatoes) and loose clothing (many courses still do not allow t-shirts or denim, so call ahead to ask about the dress code). If you must purchase some clubs, start with an "iron" (the number seven is one that is often suggested by instructors) and a putter. Again, your local pro can assist you with buying just a few clubs or a half set, which will not be expensive. You can finish purchasing your whole set as a reward for your practice! To de-mystify the lingo a little bit, the higher the number of the club, the higher the loft of the golf ball when it is hit with that club (see, it does make sense!) . Hollis Stacey and friend .

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T HE K EY • Winter 1995 •17 Kappas Under Par

Golf Lingo the hallowed grounds Neb. Lucille Slice- Shot that cuts of the golf course. continues to golf. sharply, left to right, with Chip- A shot aimed at the Before you head out, "Walking is the best backspin and minimal roll. green from nearby the purchase a basic golf exercise," she says, and Wedge- Used for short, green, with low trajectory. book with lots of pic­ she works with women high-loft shots. Spoon - The number 3 wood tures to review and and children to encour­ Apron - Low-cut grass bor­ club, used for long dis­ dering the green. tance and high loft. pick up a rule book. age them to take up the Spend a few sport she has loved for Green - Closely cut turf Grain- The direction the moments going over so many years. prepared for putting that grass grows on the green. contains the hole or "cup". the basic rules with Lucille found time the golf pro who to pledge Kappa in taught yo u to play, or 1930 and she proudly with the local pro at the course yo u select. Sandy has wears her 65-year pin. She also claims to have influenced even put together a workbook for her students, to give Patty Berg into pledging Kappa. PATTY BERG, Minnesota, them the basics. Don't intimidate yourself with the golf is a golf legend. You can fmd her in the record books lingo and be sure your first few outings are done without winning 85 professional and amateur tournaments, a score card. Above all, do NOT let your golf partners including 15 majors, and receiving the Professional talk you into a "quick round of 18 holes" for yo ur first Golfers Association's (PGA) distinguished services award outing (this would be equivalent to going to the top of the (the only female to be honored). Yo u may read that she snow-skiing mountain and then exhausting yo urself on was one of the founding members of the Ladies the black diamond runs, making sure you hit every rough Professional Golf Association (LPGA). You will see her spot and mogul). Play a standard nine-hole course, and name on a line of women's golf clubs, and you can still find enjoy yourself. You want your first her on the courses in Ft. Myers, Fla. few outings to be as pleasant as (see The Key Accent on Alumnae possible, and although Sandy GoH for Women Magazine's Fall1995). A woman obtains strongly recommends yo u learn Top Fairways, October 1995 membership to the LPGA by about the entire game, and not just Women-friendly was defined by more qualifying at a school, usually held about your club and the ball, she than 300 magazine readers as unre­ twice a year. About 200 members also recommends you modify the stricted tee times, overall comfort or play competitively, while another rules when you start. For example, welcoming atmosphere, special 250 members teach at courses yo u can tell yourself to try a shot women's programs, thoughtful placement across the country. Those who out of the sand trap, but allow of forward (women's) tees, multiple play golf competitively do so on women's tee markers, adequate yourself only two tries before yo u the "tour," which holds matches at inventory and display of merchandise for throw it out and keep to "your women in the pro shop, and adequate various courses, each week, lO rules" for the entire course. locker room and restroom facilities. months out of the year. This LUCILLE ROBINSON MANN, requires both physical and mental 1. LPGA International, Daytona Beach, Drake, found a women-friendly Fla. stamina, as there is a lot of strategy course at the Des Moines Golf 2. Mission Hills Country Club/ associated with which golf club to Country Club. In fact, it was a The Dinah Shore Tournament use and how to play each hole, not child-friendly course as the pro took Course, Rancho Mirage, Calif. to mention pressure to win. Yet an attic-dusted set of clubs and cut 3. Pine Needles Lodge and Golf Club, JANE GEDDES, Florida State, main­ them off for four neighborhood Southern Pines, N.C. tains this grueling schedule on the boys and Lucille. They carried a 4. Rail Golf Course, Springfield, Ill. LPGA tour, as do Rollins Kappas putter between them and were off 5. The Broadmoor East Course, HoLLIS STACEY and JANE BLALOCK before the sun was up to play the Colorado Springs, Colo. on the Senior Tour. course by 10:00 a.m., the time the 6. Boyne Mountain Alpine Course, To put it all together, the basics adults were teeing off (starting to Boyne Falls, Mich. of golf- stance, grip, alignment play). This was in the 1920s and 7. Grand Cypress Resort New Course, and swing - are the same for pro­ Orlando , Fla. Lucille became one of the leading fessional and recreational golfers, 8 . Wailea Golf Club Emerald Course, amateur players of her time. and are easy to learn. All golfers Wailea, Maui , Hawaii In fact, the women's transnational can find challenge and enjoyment seniors tournament is named the 9. Arizona State University Karsten Golf Course, Tempe , Ariz. out of swinging a club and hitting "Lucille Mann Trophy" after this 10. Hillendale Golf Course, Ithaca, N.Y. a small white ball, so take off your spuill.')' Kappa who still lives on the apron, and inquire as to where course at the Field Club in Omaha, there is a good links. ()-o-w

18 • THE K El' • Winter 1995 Putting It All Together Malcing Your Social Style Worlc For You

Having the vision's no solution Everything depends on execution - Putting it Together By B ETH SHARP, Penn State (from Sunday in the Park with George) Music and lyrics by Stephen Sondheim

magine this: you are a human resources manager in Ia corporation. The company president asks you to identify the issues that keep the organization from being as productive as it can be. In your mind, this is a "no brainer.'' The employee survey results tell the same story year after year. Those who leave the company echo the same concerns - no direction, no training, no trust. Management is tired of doing twice as much with half the staff. You march into the president's office and make an impassioned plea for her to feel their pain. You say everything you wanted to say, exactly as you wanted to say it. The president gives you a blank stare, thanks you for your time, and before you know it, it's business as usual. That's it?! That's all?! You were prepared, you knew exactly what the issues were. What went wrong? Or consider the PTA board member who finds herself struggling to accom­ "Too plish the objectives of the board, while board members often we sit idly by. How can this be? There was such commitment at the start of the year! ossume Or, what about the chapter President who is frustrated thot with the Chapter Council because the members can't everyone seem to get to the point of issues. What's the matter with c them? The President certainly 0 sees things (/) E has no trouble getting to the 0 .s:: heart of the matter! I- t-= the woy What has happened here? >­ .0 Clearly each leader had a 2 0 we do." vision. Somehow the execu­ .s:: Cl.. tion of the vision interfered with their ultimate success.

T HE K EY · Winter 1995 • 19 Mo~ing your Social Style Wor~ for You

How do you keep that from happening again? responsive that an individual who tends to be more Whether you are a professional, a community serious and disciplined. volunteer, or a chapter officer, your success depends These two dimensions form the axes of the social­ in large part on your ability to work well with others. style grid. The four quadrants represent the four Dwight D. Eisenhower once said, "Leadership is leadership modes - Analytic, Driver, Expressive, getting people to do what you want them to because and Amiable. they want to do it." Your skill at understanding and Where do you fall? As you try to determine your bringing together different social styles is the key to social style, keep in mind that you want to assess your strong and productive work relationships. Extensive behavior in terms of how others perceive you in a research has been done on the impact of social style on certain leadership position. The social style model is leadership. The earliest studies attempted to identify not based on personality but on the specific and the single-best technique, to no avail. While there is consistent behaviors that can be observed by others. general agreement that there are four predominant Let's go back to our three leaders. The human styles , there is no one perfect mode. Rather, it is how resource manager is an Expressive. She addressed all the leader flexes her personality to the situation at hand the personnel issues from her heart. That's quite that brings about the success she is looking for. typical of an Expressive, but it won't get her far with her While there is no one best style, most people have a boss, an Analytic. Even if the president is sympathetic dominant style, although you can move from one style to the plight of the employees, the boss can't connect to another depending on the leadership situation. their feelings with the company's financial picture. But There are two key dimensions in if the manager takes the very same determining a social style - Less issues that concern her and assertiveness and Reponsive presents them as they responsiveness. relate to expenses Assertiveness is or turnover or the degree to lost productivi­ which a person's ty, her chances behavior is of success forceful or improve directive. dramatically. Someone who If she ex- moves quickly, presses herself speaks loudly and through the use takes more risks is of charts and more assertive than some­ More graphs, the odds are one who is tentative and less Reponsive even better. By simply confrontive. flexing her style, the manager can Responsiveness is the degree to which a person's make a convincing case in words and numbers that the behavior is emotionally controlled. Someone who is president can readily understand. expressive and foc used on feelings and people is more The PTA board member, an Amiable, finds it difficult to assert herself with others who do not offer some Which social style assistance. Always the loyal and cooperative team player, best describes how you believe others see you in a leadership position?

Expressive Lucy Quist Mullins, Cinc innatti, Mu South PDC

20 • THE K EY • Winter 1995 Molcing your Social Style Worlc For You she would rather take on the work herself than remind every minute of the day? Is it any wonder then that the board members of their obligations. She runs the risk family and friends react differently to discussions about of becoming increasingly passive and avoiding the work finances or politics or what body part is appropriate for and team altogether. Our board member needs to show piercing? a little more self-determination. She should help the While compromise is necessary in maintaining group refocus on the goals and suggest work assignments productive relationships, a complete change of your based on the styles of other board members. For example, natural social style is not a good idea. If you flex your a task-oriented approach would speak to the Analytics style too much, you may come across as insincere. Be and Drivers. Breaking down objectives into smaller tasks comfortable with your predominant style. Play to your with agreed-upon time frames will help others accept strengths and be sensitive to your weaknesses. Flex when responsibility. She can use the strengths of her style to someone else is stressed. It doesn't take as much time encourage and support the work of others. and effort as you might think. The rewards of an And what about the chapter President? She's a Driver. improved professional, volunteer, or personal relationship Her fast-paced, goal-oriented approach may be stressing are well worth it. some officers, and her need to come to As a leader you want to take advantage quick decisions may be alienating others. of the richness that comes from diverse If the officers start to feel railroaded, the styles and differing points of view. You President fails to get the buy-in she needs want to select teammates whose style for the chapter's programs. No one wins complement, not that match, your own. -not the President, not the Chapter Don't stereotype individuals or roles. c 0 Council, and certainly not the chapter. The Determine what your group needs first C/) E most important thing the President can do and then build your team. 0 .r: is stop and listen to her Chapter Council. Don't assume that one type is always I- t-= She needs to facilitate the discussion - to best for a specific job or task. Everyone >­ .0 hear what officers have to say and then brings something special to any job. We 0 0 comment. She should encourage others to might assume that an Analytic would be .r: a.. not only present their problems to the best suited for the position of chapter group, but also to offer solutions for president, but if the chapter needs discussion. The President can delegate someone who can handle delicate work so that others feel a part of the discussions with collegians who are process. As she flexes her style, the delinquent in paying their dues or if the President builds trust among the mem­ chapter wants to explore some new and bership. In turn, the Chapter Council creative ways to reduce expenses, an Amiable may be willing to pick up the pace of the or Expressive might be better-suited for the meetings and act on issues more quickly. .. job that year. The same holds true for a a real win-win situation. slate of association officers or a job seeker at your place of Your social style plays a critical role in your success as work. Identify the competencies you need, then find the a leader. It is also important in your individual with the skills and social style to get the job done. personal relationships as a wife, mother, sister, and friend. Too often we assume that everyone sees things the way we do, A social style reflects a pervasive way of behaving in a but if we take the time to better understand ourselves and the variety of situations, and it impacts your interaction with perspectives, we blend the best of both worlds. That's really others. Just look at how your family spends its vacation putting it all together. o---w time. Who wants to relax by the pool? Who has to go

Sanders, Kay Smith Larson, Washington, Cal. State, Northridge Bylaws Chairman RDA , Region 6

THE K EY • Winter 1995 • 21 P?a;r r?l3y P?a;r Putting Together The Key

By JoANN BARTON VAUGHAN, Virginia

~MAYn cf!iabnwnt t takes three months of planning, writing, editing, and o/d37w Q/{;tY Idesign; almost 20 tons of paper, 300 pounds of ink, and 285 feet of film; and 30 hours on the press plus 30 The Key of Kappa Kappa Gamma links each mem­ hours to label and mail the more than 120,000 copies of ber with the Fraternity. The Key produced each quarter. The mission of The Key is: The magazine is sent to each of the approximately • to inform, inspire, and 119,500 members of Kappa Kappa Gamma, as well as to challenge chapters, campus administrators, and other men's and • to sustain and nurture membership loyalty and women's fraternity headquarters. Collegiate members interest receive their copies at their homes. The Key is mailed to • to recognize individual, 37 foreign countries, including China, South Africa, Spain, group, and Fraternity accomplishment and Malaysia. It is the first college women's fraternity • to provide a forum for an magazine and has been published continuously since 1882. exchange of information The planning of each issue begins almost a year in and opinion advance at a meeting of the Editorial Board, the • to be a permanent record volunteers and paid staff responsible for producing the magazine. At this What The Key is What we can't annual meeting, themes looking for: for the next year are use ... and why: decided and stories are • Features that inform. • Weddings, engage­ discussed. Careful inspire. and challenge ments, births, and 100 attention is given to the year birthdays ... there • Stories which show matters addressed are simply too many to Kappas doing what the within any one year. print. Fraternity stands for The Board seeks a • Generational balance between serious • Outstanding. unique. photographs ... these or unusual events or social concerns of photos are really of accomplishments local interest. interests to women - • Items and stories violence, alcohol use • Fifty-year pin and abuse, HIV/AlDS, that are informative. awards ... again there heartwarming. are simply too many. parenting- and those inspiring or humorous issues of special interest • Appeals to alumnae to Kappas - ritual, our • Honors at the national of one chapter or area. or state/ provincial heritage, the Foundation, level • Pictures which show the Minnie Stewart glasses, wine bottles, house. From letters sent • Stories with broad or cans which might appeal to our contain alcohol. to the Editor, it seems 119.000+ members that throughout the • Obituaries .. .We would yea r, each Kappa finds • Good ideas from one prefer to applaud our association or chapter members while they some article of interest that may be used by are living. All Kappas and information. All another group. are remembered in In editions are designed to Memoriam.

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The editorial board Themes for the 1996 year discusses upcoming issues. include:

• ~~ 1.9.96': Generations; a look at the rewards and challenges facing Kappas of different ages.

• ~~ 1.9.96': Volunteers; The Key is actively seeking stories written by our members forward the mission statement of The Key and the Long on outstanding Kappa community volunteers. Range Plan of the Fraternity. Stories must be submitted on disk accompanied The backbone of each issue is the core of dedicated by a hard copy to the Editor. Because of space, volunteers who collect information, write articles, proof­ all stories may not be used, but may be held read copy, and oversee production of the magazine. Staff for later use. is involved in the editing and actual production. All • c:;f}{d/1.9.96': The Future; what does the design is done in-house at Fraternity Headquarters, and future hold for women's fraternities, society, the magazine is printed in Columbus, Ohio, by The and technology Watkins Printing Company. Feature stories may be proposed to the editor either by · Oft/~ 1.9.96' will focus on The Foundation telephone or in writing. The Key is always looking to and will include the biennial "Celebration of expand its crew of volunteer writers, and those interested Giving" donor list. in writing either an assigned article or a specific story of their choice are welcome to call Headquarters. Alumna and Collegiate news may be sent either to the editor, or directly to JENNIE MILLER HELDERMAN, Alabama, Stories and information submitted to The Key Alumna News Editor or to JENNY STRUTHERS HoovER, may be sent to: Bowling Green, Collegiate News Editor. Stories and Joann Barton Vaughan information may also be sent via E-Mail. Information Editor, The Key of use and interest to our readership of 120,00Q+ (more Box38 than 119,00 Kappas plus additional readers)is especially Columbus, OH 43216-0038 welcome. Before submitting a story, Kappas should (tel) 614/228-6515, (fax) 614/228-7809 decide if this bit of information is the sort of thing they or may be sent electronically to:. would read in The Key. [email protected] Letters to the Editor are appreciated and as many as possible are run in each issue. When submitting a story, members are asked not to A New Key Player worry about deadlines. Stories should be sent as soon as possible, and seasonal stories (i.e. pictures of holiday Introducing Susannah Lazar parties) may be held for the appropriate time of year. It is always better to receive more information than may be The job of literally needed. Because Kappas are identified by first, maiden, putting together The Key last name, and school, please include every detail magazine falls to graphic possible and always provide a contact name and telephone designer Susannah Lazar, the number. Color pictures are preferable, but black and newest addition to Headquarter's staff. white photographs are also acceptable. Information A graduate of The Columbus College of Art and should be written on a separate piece of paper or on a Design, Susannah has worked on Ceramics Bulletin and Post-It note, not written directly on the photograph. LatinFinance magazines, as well as for the OSU Hillel All information sent to The Key becomes the property Foundation. She will provide the graphic design and of The Key and cannot be returned. art for The Key, as well as for other Fraternity The Key is written by Kappas, about Kappas, and for publications. Kappas. Since the magazine is the only communication In addition to this, her first issue of the magazine, from the Fraternity that every member receives, the Susannah has developed a new logo for Kappa editorial staff- both paid and volunteer -works very Kinetics (see page 34) and an updated look for several hard to achieve our mission "to inform, inspire and newsletters. challenge ... " o----,..

THE K EY • Winter 1995 • 23 Here's to Yew

By JoANN BARTON VAUGHAN, Virginia

cross the street from Fraternity Headquarters is a Awork of art. Or rather a work of art duplicating a work of art. On approximately half an acre are 54 people, eight boats, three dogs, a monkey, and a cat - all made of yew shrubbery. The Deaf School Park in Columbus, Ohio, is home to one of the world's most unique topiary gardens, and it comes as no surprise that Kappas are involved. KITTY MoRTON EPLER, Denison, initiated CHERIE WILLIAMS LucKs, Ohio State. Several years later, Kitty -one of the original organizers of an auxiliary to support the park- got her friend involved in the development of the topiary park. ''And now she's president," Kitty laughs. Cherie heads the board of trustees of the Friends of the Topiary Park. The topiary park is a landscape of a painting of a landscape- Sunday Afternoon on the Island of La Grand ]atte painted in 1884-86 by Post­ Impressionist artist Georges Seurat. "If an artist can paint a picture of a landscape ... art mimicking nature ... then why not a sculptor creating a land­ scape of a work of art. .. nature mimicking art," says topiary creator James Mason. "The topiary is both a work of art and a work of nature. It plays on the relationships between nature, art, and life." The painting, Sunday Afternoon on the Island The project was conceived of La Grande Jatte* by and designed by Mason, a French artist Georges teacher of sculpture at the city's Seurat, is inset in its cultural art center, and his wife * Photo courtesy of The Art Institute of Chicago, coniferous imitation by Hel en Birch Bartlett Memorial collection Oh io artists James T. and Elaine, an arts administrator. Elaine Mason.

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Armed with shovels, trowels, A crew of growing athletes oar clippers, and shears, they began quietly on the still pond . the topiary garden in 1988 and are still very involved in the A pensive venture. But the community, gentleman including Kitty and Cherie, has sits on embraced the project located on the lawn. the last open green space in the downtown area. "We fervently believe there is excellence in Columbus that is not recognized," Kitty asserts. "This topiary·park is exceptional in the world." From the tallest 12-foot figure to the smallest, a two-foot dog, the tmcus, commonly called yews, are trained along brass armatures set three feet deep in cement. Ground cover was planted to replicate the shadowing of the painting surround the figures. The pond dug along the edge of the area represents the Seine River. Topiary is the art of tying, trimming, and training trees or shrubs into ornamental shapes. In other words, it is plant sculpture. Typically, topiary either follows a classical form, pruned in geometric shapes, or is more whimsically shaped, trimmed like animals or flowers. Topiary cut into human form is rare. While stuffed topiary like that seen at Disney World, where ivy or other fast growing vines are stuffed into a sphagnum­ filled chicken wire frame, can be accomplished in a few months, true topiary, shaping the plant as it grows, takes many years. Cherie oversees the volunteers who prune, plant, fund raise, research, and even dress in Victorian costumes as docents to educate visitors about the park. Pruners and planters must receive training from the Masons before beginning their work. Cherie points out that Jim and Elaine Mason's work is receiving world-wide acclaim, with topiary gardens at Stanford Children's Hospital in Palo Alto, Calif., and in Chicago. They were recently commissioned to produce a topiary park for the Olympics in Atlanta, Ga. "We've seen the topiary park grow from nothing," notes Kitty, who says that as a Kappa she was always interested in the neighborhood, "and today it is world famous." Currently the two are busy raising money for a gatehouse entrance to the park- complete with gift shop - "to make the park self-sustaining," Cherie says. Until then, Cherie will be busy planting bulbs and Kitty entertaining guests dressed in her Victorian garb Topiary Park volunteers, Kitty Epler and Cherie among the leafy statues of the park. Lucks pose with two topiary figures. It will take years C'est magnifique. (}---, for the yew to reach the top of the umbrella .

THE KEl' • Winter 1995 • 25 ofYatue How can personal and fraternity beliefs affect risl< management?

By LOIS CATHERMAN HEENEHAN, Adelphi

\ A fhat does it take to keep 200 young women Model of the Franklin Institute to trace this procedure. V V interested and involved in an ali-day seminar on "If you look at your life as the result of all the choices a Saturday in autumn? you make, conscious or otherwise, you realize that using It takes "Something of Value." And that is just what your values to make choices gives you the control over was offered on the campus of Pennsylvania State your life that you need. It takes away a lot of the frustra­ University on October 14. Representatives from the tion of day-to-day living. It's an incredible power that National Panhellenic Conference (NPC) met with gives you so much direction. If your fraternity values are chapter members to discuss the advantage in having in synch with your personal values and those values are values and how to approach risk management from a driving your actions, then we, as fraternity women, can values-based viewpoint. really be what we say we are," Jan summarized. Envisioned and constructed by the NPC executive In a panel discussion of the "Practical Consequences committee, the program leads participants to identify of Risky Behavior" moderated by Lissa Bradford, Kappa personal and fraternity values and apply them to the Alpha Theta, NPC secretary, specific dangers of various practical consequences of risky behaviors. The many behaviors were pointed out. The abuse of alcohol was details of planning and arrangements on campus were the primary focus of the discussion since it promotes dealt with by JENNY ScoTT, Miami, Panhellenic Adviser. many risky behaviors. Elaine Jurs from the Penn State MARIAN KLINGBEIL WILLIAMS, Missouri, NPC treasur­ Office of Health Promotion and Education cited date er, opened the meeting by inviting the participants to rape, exposure to sexually-transmitted diseases and explore their values and HIVI AIDS as results utilize them in effecting seen frequently in her change on campus. department. Donald The first step, presented Hazel, of the universi­ by JANICE HARENBERG ty's Office of Campus STOCKHOFF, New Mexico, Safety stated that 70 to analyzed "The Value in 80 percent of all cam­ Having Values." pus crimes are alcohol Identifying a variety of or drug related. In risky behaviors from Pennsylvania, the first­ hazing to indulgent use of offense use of a false I.D. charge cards, the group results in a heavy fine was asked to think of and a 90-day suspension risk management as of the offender's driver's "each member's respon­ license. Joseph sibility to do the right Amendola, a local thing." Values are attorney, and Holiday defined as central beliefs McKiernan, also an which determine behav­ Jan Stockhoff asks each participant to think of attorney and Alpha Chi ior. Jan used the Reality her " responsibility to do the right thing.· Omega national office

26 • THE K EY • Winter 1995 representative, made some sobering points: • In making ethical decisions we must ask, "What is the • Greeks are among the highest risk groups for dilemma"? insurance companies. • What are the apparent values in the situation and • Signing a statement (against hazing or alcohol abuse) is those we wish to advance? only as good as the personal behavior of each individual. • What are the consequences, risks, implications of • An "off campus" or "apartment" party can be each option? considered a sorority event if it would seem so to • Finally, what is my decision? a casual passer-by. ·A "pre-party" may come under the same rules as a Case studies based on actual incidents on the Penn "formal" because it would not be occurring but for State campus were supplied for analysis according to the the formal event later. Reality Model. Chapter representatives and NPC leaders The bottom line in risk management for party broke into small groups to apply the techniques learned planning could be... have you done the most you can during the morning to situations involving abusive do to prevent problems and can you live with the result relationships, alcohol, cheating, eating disorders, if something happens. finances, harassment/gender bashing, hazing, safety "Are We Walking Our Talk?" asked Betty Quick, and security, sexual behavior and substance abuse. Gamma Phi Beta, NPC College Panhellenics Chairman. Energized with lunch and hoping for a football win, Ethics, morals, standards, and values were defined, and the women returned to the seminar for a presentation by the difference between values and ethics noted. They are CoLLEEN BLOUGH, Iowa State, Assistant Dean of NOT interchangeable terms. Ethics is concerned with Students, University of North Carolina - Charlotte. how moral people should behave. Values concern beliefs "Gender Differences in Communication and Decision and attitudes which determine how a person actually Making" plays a large part in interaction among today's behaves. Betty challenged sorority members: college students. A 15-point quiz showed that few of • Can we enumerate our values? those present recognized different communication pat­ • Do we cherish them and do our best to publicly terns. For example, nonverbal messages DO carry more affirm and live up to them? weight than verbal messages. Women use LESS personal

Reality Model

The Reality model shows how beliefs and values come into play when making decisions. Beliefs and values filter information in the Principles Arrow and shape our behavior. Everyone has the same four basic needs: to live, to love and be loved, to feel important, and to have variety in one's life. When one need is unfulfilled, we channel our energies toward meeting it. The model can be used by analyzing risky behavior in terms of what needs are in play. If the results of the behavior do not fulfill the unmet need, then the beliefs used to make a decision are incorrect. 2 ::J -~ t5 Needs Principles Rules Behavior Results c - ~ -"'c ro The rules What u: What The principle Q) applied in a happened .c I think will defined in f- particular because of 0 get me what specific the behavior - situation or iii' I want terms context or actions 2 :; 0 (.) .c a. ro Feedback: Were the needs met? 0

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space than men. When a male speaks, he IS listened to more carefully than a Colleen Blough addresses differences female, even when the presentation is in communication identical. between women When a chapter's values are in dan­ and men. ger from the actions of a member, confrontation may be necessary. "Confrontation Skills" were presented by Jean Scott, Pi Beta Phi, NPC Chairman. It is important to remem­ ber that you are condemning behavior, not the individual. Confront in private. Show respect and caring for the person. Select the best person to do the confrontation and a suitable time and place for the meeting. Establish rapport. Identify the impact or conse­ quences of the problem. Be firm in the standards and expectations you set. Observing women leaders in action, seeing role models "Where Do We Go from Here?" asked Angela Guillory, and mentors in the persons of these NPC women offered Sigma Kappa National Vice President Programming, in something special to each woman who attended this presenting "Skills of Empowerment." Angela challenged, meeting ... something of value. o---w "Can we, as Panhellenic women, put our values to work or are we wary of the fears, frustrations, and farces involved?" Some fears voiced were: • A drop in rush numbers if the Greek image changes Why Penn State? • An imbalance between those who follow rules and policies and those who don't Why present the pilot program at Penn State? Rick • Charters revoked by national organizations Funk, Coordinator of Greek Life, offered the campus • Members injured or dead through not facing up when the idea surfaced at a National Association of to issues. Panhellenic Advisers (NASPA) meeting. With 21 of the Frustrations included lack of cooperation from 26 NPC groups represented and 2,000 women in the men's groups; chapter members not understanding campus Greek population, the elements for extensive, or appreciating position of officers; knowingly diverse participation were in place. side-stepping fraternity rules and state laws. Penn State is a large campus where the majority The farces include erroneous information sorority of first-year students are 18 years of age. Most come members tell themselves to rationalize unhealthy from rural and suburban areas of Pennsylvania, some situations: from New Jersey, Ohio and New York. The main • Other schools are doing the same thing. campus at University Park has a very high percentage • It won't happen here. of transfer students - sophomores and juniors who • We're taking care of each other. come from community college campuses. • I know how much I can drink. Despite the campus location in rural Pennsylvania • If a men's group pays for it (alcohol) we're and the school's excellent academic reputation, incidents really not liable. of alcohol abuse are common and hazing does occur. Nevertheless, the campus Panhellenic has The fact is sororities are breaking laws and violating been consistently in the forefront in scholarship, NPC and their own policies and standards. philanthropy, and standards events and awards. It was Aristotle said, "We are what we repeatedly do; the place to go with a new view of risk management. excellence then is not an act, but a habit." It is a good Anticipating the program, Kati Wiggins, Alpha Chi or bad habit, depending on what we choose to do, what Omega, president of the campus Panhellenic, said, "This we establish as our values. weekend is hopefully going to remind us of the commit­ "We ask you to be all that you can be," said Marian Williams in closing the meeting. The chapter presidents ment we have to each other. It should be exciting because were challenged to take the lead in effecting change on it's putting everything in our hands for where we want to their campus. take our Greek system."

28 • T HE K EY ' Winter 1995 Like the rest of the kind of Kappa who rises world, the news coverage of to a challenge. Following the dramatic political changes in graduation from Ole Miss- Eastern Europe in recent years capti­ where she served Delta Rho Chapter as vated Louisiana State University law pro­ Corresponding Secretary and Pledge Class fessor KATHERINE SHAW SPAHT, President and was president of the Mortar Mississippi . But this observer found her­ Board honorary- Katherine attended self a participant in putting together an LSU and was graduated in 1971. She has important facet of the new governments served as vice chancellor of the law - the civil law codes. school, but returned to teaching when the As part of an American Bar Association administrative position "became too (ABA) initiative, Katherine became one of much," she says. "I teach because it allows four law professors from Louisiana who me to balance a home life and a profes­ provided consultative assistance for the sional life. If you are going to do both, Central and Eastern European Law you have to be organized and have Institute (CEULI). "I had a friend at priorities. Family always comes first." Tulane," Katherine says, "a colleague, who While three of her priorities, Holden, asked me to become involved with the Lindley, and Carlos- ages 21, 18, and 12 civil code in Estonia. Later, CEULI acted -will always come first, Katherine also as a liaison between other governments, makes voluntarism a top priority. Always including the Russians, who needed to active in her community, Katherine has redraft their entire civil codes and the people here who recently been working against a state initiative that would could help them." change Louisiana's inheritance laws, which provide for Civil law in Louisiana is based on the Napoleonic forced heirship - parents are obligated by law to leave a Code, more prevalent on the European continent, as certain percentage of their estates to their children. opposed to English Common Law- the legal foundation "I desperately believe in this," Katherine says. for the other 49 states and Canada. Because Louisiana's "Children and their parents are bound together for life civil law system shares a background and other common­ and have obligations to each other. Under our law, alities with that of Europe, Katherine and her colleagues children are obligated to provide for their parents. As a were tapped for their expertise. Civil code drafts were result it is only responsible for the state to reserve part of sent to the ABA, translated into English, and sent to the estate for the children." Katherine is also an active Katherine and others who then reviewed them, shared supporter of the Baton Rouge Alumnae Association and comments, and returned suggestions to the Eastern her volunteer and professional successes led to a 1974 European governments. A professor of family law, Alumnae Achievement Award. "I wouldn't trade any of community property, successions (inheritance), and my Kappa experiences for the world. Kappa reinforced obligations (contracts), Katherine extensively reviewed the importance of strong communication, management, those parts of the codes dealing with people, their respon­ and leadership skills." sibilities to their heirs, and their responsibilities to each With a firm commitment to her community, her other. Despite the language and geographical barriers, profession, and the Fraternity, Katherine has put together Katherine is proud to have been part of the initiative. a life that makes a difference- to children in her home While some may be daunted by the prospect of state and people around the world. ()----w advising foreign governments, Katherine is exactly the KAREN KAHLER HoLLIDAY, Mississippi

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''I'm from Cedar You Are Rapids, Iowa. What on earth am I doing here?" This was the thought running through the mind of (JANE) LACY CuRTIS-WARD, Missouri, as she chatted with His Royal Highness, The Prince of Wales. What she was doing was her job... escorting Prince Charles to the auditorium where he would address international business leaders at a conference she organized. "I've been organizing things since I was six years old," says Lacy, explaining that chil­ dren in the Midwest often had summer street fairs, and it was she who naturally fell into the role of organizing these and similar events. It is a skill that has developed, with a few turns along the way, into her position as head of the conference department for The Royal Institute of International Affairs. The Royal Institute is Europe's pre­ eminent research institute for the study of international issues (equivalent to the U.S. Council on Foreign Relations or the Brookings Institute). Set up by former delegates to the Paris Peace Conference of 1919 to promote the study and understand­ ing of all aspects of international relations, the institute received its Royal Charter in 1926 but remains independent of government influence. The March 1995 conference enti­ tled "Britain In The World" included interna­ tional authors, professors, business people, and political figures such as Dr. Henry Kissinger and Prime Minister John Major. How did a young woman with a degree in German Area Studies (language, economics, and politics) reach her current position? By examining her­ self... what she liked to do and was

30 · THE K EY · Winter 1995 good at, Lacy explains. "I read What Color Is Your and forthright behavior as a more "liberated" American Parachute? by Richard Bolles right after college and work­ woman. The cultural differences between Americans and ing through the author's exercises helped me think the British are many and complicated. Lacy feels she through where I wanted to go and how to get there;' she learns something every day and is able to take the best of states. Falling back on her experience organizing student both cultures. "England is a very worldly country and conferences in college, she got a job organizing travel for provides amazing access to world news and information. winners of the Nissan sales incentive program. Later jobs However, the English are quite class conscious and look included arranging parties for 3,000, sit-down dinners for too much at a person's background rather than what they 1,000, and ground transportation for the Democratic are capable of doing." Being task-oriented, Lacy relates to Convention, All Star Games, and the Super Bowl in San people in terms of what they can do rather than what title Francisco. She then became special events coordinator they carry. ''I'm glad to be an American and bring an for Pacific Gas and Electric. energy and 'can-do' attitude into a more traditional While traveling in England in 1987, Lacy met Sean culture. Living in England has helped me to define myself Ward, an international television journalist. When they as an individual, an American and a world citizen;' Lacy married, they decided that both would use the hyphenated states. "So here I am," she says, "a 'Dorothy-from-Kansas' last name and she would move to London. Now the who didn't have a life plan or career path. It all just sort parents of two children ...Claire, 4 and James, 2, the of happened." Curtis-Wards also claim 1 1/2 cats. The 1/2 cat was theirs Not so. While the six-year-old organizing summer but decided to move in with the neighbors and now just fairs might never have imagined herself marrying an visits (Sean says "to check his mail"). Englishman and organizing conferences related to his Knowing the industry and having many personal con­ government, Lacy recognized that anyone "can see oppor­ tacts in San Francisco was of no help to Lacy in London. tunities better by knowing who you are." Just as she chose So she worked the phone and set up informational combining cultures and combining names, Lacy Curtis­ interviews with anyone associated with the meetings Ward combines her strengths and the things she enjoys to business who would talk to her. People were very create the best of all worlds in her family and work. (}---,f helpful...surprised and pleased with the sincere request LOIS CATHERMAN HEENEHAN, Adelphi for information. Twenty interviews introduced Lacy to a new facet of the business ... organizing commercial conferences. A phone conversation and a "thank you" note led to employment soon after. Two years and two promotions later, Lacy was enticed to move to a satellite communications com­ pany to handle its conferences and spent four years running events in Africa, Brazil and Europe. The recession hit, and she was suddenly unemployed. A week later she How Lacy Puts It Together: saw the ad for The Royal Institute and was hired after one interview. Having received information about the insti­ • Recognize the need to examine your tute from an acquaintance enabled own skill s and interests. her to present a coherent business plan. Since Lacy had previously • Ask for help; help others; maintain helped that person, she believes personal contacts. that the moral is, "Always help as many people as you can because • Research the industry or the company. you never know where the next job is coming from." • Present a coherent business plan at An American in England has an an interview. advantage in the job market, Lacy believes. There is a pro-American • Use the "American advantage" to your feeling in the business community, best advantage. and An1ericans are perceived as hard workers. She also feels that English women are more retiring and she was able to "get away with" more questioning

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and feasible ventures. After graduating from college with a degree in advertising, she entered the world of commerce and immedi- ately knew she was not meant to work within the cor­ porate shell indefinitely-at least, not in an undertaking in which she was not sitting in the driver's seat. Jill The entrepreneurial spirit is alive and well and rhyming explains, " When you realize there is a cap to the income its way across America in a new board game called A you can make and there is just the annual four to ten per­ Rhyme In Time. The game's co-creator ]ILL LENHART, cent increase you go 'nuh-huh.' I am not waiting around! Texas, is an enthusiastic and adventurous self-made suc­ Forget it!" cess who has proven that given a great idea, good timing, After years of brainstorming, Jill finally struck an idea that and hard work, success is assured. seemed plausible, and she called Brad to get his reaction. After years of researching and developing what she "Lets create a board game! We're practically game experts believed was the right product, Jill and her business part­ and we can test it exclusively before we take the plunge." ner/brother Brad, created and marketed A Rhyme In Time. After years of sibling discussion on possible opportunities, A hit at the 1995 International Toy Fair, it is a game in Brad, then a media buyer for an advertising agency and which players or teams improvise four-line "story" rhymes part-time actor, was receptive to the joint venture. from words on a card. A Rhyme In Time has been retail­ Jill describes the formation of her idea for A Rhyme In ing in such prestigious stores as Neiman Marcus, FAO Time, "I researched the industry before I came up with the Schwarz, Macy's, Rand McNally, Scholastic Books, Zainy idea. My family grew up playing games; I asked myself Brainy, Jacobsons, Rich's, Lazarus-among many others, what do I like about a game? It's got to have some form of and will be debuting in Canada and the United Kingdom. competitiveness; it's got to have some form of fun, some "Some days it is hard to believe all this has happened; form of intellectual challenge and some form of and yes, I thought it would go far!" Jill exclaims. "It didn't creativity. Those were the four things that I could think happen over night- I have been working on it four years of that made me want to play a game over and over again. this coming March. It took lots of nurturing." So then I started thinking of a concept that has not been Born into an entrepreneurial environment, Jill was done before. raised with the determination "It sounds so easy. But and desire to be financially when you plant an idea in my independent. Her father, head it may take a week or impressed on his family the month for it to pop out," she values, advantages, and chal­ explains. "Then rhyming lenges of self-employment. popped out. I thought Bitten by the entrepreneurial rhyming was something that bug at a young age, Jill we have done since day one. constantly filled her diary with We can all do it, but some of new product ideas, while Brad us have not done it since we at the age of seven was selling were seven or eight." grab bags to his classmates at Testing the feasibility of school. their new concept, Jill and Brad As an adult, Jill never second­ focused on introducing their guessed her true vocation to be new game idea to the market an entrepreneur- she fervent­ and interpreting feedback via ly sought new product ideas

32 • THE K EY · Win te r 1995 research and testing. The development of the game's pro­ Nickelodeon has asked Brad and Jill to prepare a pro­ cedures was the product of the duo's creating the steps posal for a game show for kids; Fox children's network and repeatedly playing the game to edit and fine tune also wants to see their proposal; an L.A. production com­ their product. With a test model, they introduced A pany is presently considering their game as an adult game Rhyme In Time to the market, monitoring player's show; and Oprah's associate producer is trying to fit the responses to the game's concept and procedures. two on the show. Jill states, "She will actually return our Carefully analyzing the player's reactions, Brad and Jill calls. Hah!" Plans to develop additions to A Rhyme In made the necessary adaptations to the game. To their Time are in the research and development stages. Possible amazement, they kept on experiencing a similar response additions include creating child- and travel-oriented from the test players, "This is the greatest game! This is versions of A Rhyme In Time, and even foreign language going to be the next Trivial Pursuit!" After a successful versions that would offer the team the opportunity to year of testing and market research, Brad and Jill knew expand into global markets. that A Rhyme In Time was a great idea! Considering the multitude of starting businesses that Formalizing their partnership in January of 1993, the form annually, and the high rate of failure among these Poet & Didn't Know It, Co. became official. By October of companies, how did the Poet & Didn't Know It, Co. 1993 the duo began to promote and market their first distinguish itself from the crowd? "Timing is so crucial supply of A Rhyme In Time through coffeehouses and as to what idea you choose. Even though I had what I bookstores in three test markets: Atlanta, Chicago, and thought were brilliant ideas they weren't the right time Tulsa. "We chose coffeehouses and bookstores because A or the right product. A Rhyme In Time was just timely Rhyme In Time is like wacky poetry. With the resurgence and it was fun," Jill replies. in poetry and coffeehouses, we found a diverse crowd of "People can't believe that a two-man team has people who all loved A Rhyme In Time," says Jill. Positive accomplished as much as we have, but we're very driven feedback led to cold calls to the head buyers at major Generation X-ers, and we're symbols that the American retailers and several national catalogs. Sales sky-rocketed Dream is alive and kicking." o---. and the 1994 holiday season was a major success for the JoANNA ScuNGIO, Washington & Jefferson young company. With a proven market that accepts their product, the team is presently concentrating on tapping new segments of the population. Jill handles the public relations and marketing for the Poet & Didn't Know It, Co. while Brad focuses on sales and distribution. Jill spends her days talking and working with diverse groups - from editors of magazines and media representatives to graphic design­ ers, while always directing her focus to new markets. The duo has many fantastic public relations ideas up its sleeves, including: • A new and exciting adver­ tising campaign that is similar to the old Burma Shave campaign. • Producing A Rhyme In Time game show with the help of Chicago's hottest perfo rmance art producers, debuting in November and running thro ugh December. • On advice from an editor of Entertainment Weekly, sending their ga me to the producers of BC's Friends, because he could see an epi ode where they were playi ng A Rhyme In Time.

THE KEY • Winter 1995 • 33 KAPPA KAPPA GAMMA FOUNDATION

Kappa Kinetics

Preparing women for leadership in the 21st century

ho will lead the Fraternity in the next century? For that W matter, who will lead the world? Women will; Kappas will, and they will have to do it quicker, smarter, and better. Kappa Kappa Gamma Fraternity is preparing women to meet the challenges of leadership through its new program, Kappa Kinetics. Financed by the Foundation, Kappa l ·E ·A .o ·E ·R .s ·H ·I .p Kinetics offers every member the opportunity to learn more about her S ·E ·M ·I ·N · A · R leadership potential, her dominate style, her challenges, and her passions. Women will be challenged to think about how they can make a difference in the world today - and tomorrow. The pro­ gram is offered at minimal cost to all Fraternity members. The program will be offered this spring in all six regions. The workshops are open to all Kappas, alumnae and collegians, and is geared especially for the emerging leader - the sophomore with potential to be chapter A Time for Giving President, the alum who hopes to head the association, the Kappa who may one day run her business, her hile Kappas generously donate to charitable volunteer group, her country. causes at year end, including the Kappa Kappa Kappa Kinetics offers a unique chance to explore W Gamma Foundation, many may not realize one's personal strengths and choices in an intergenera­ the tax advantages involved. This is especially true this tional, all-female setting. Here women help women learn year for gifts of mutual funds, according to the Wall life skills needed to meet the challenges of leadership in Street Journal. the future. Since many holders of mutual funds are fortunate to have experienced increases of 30 percent or more, the Journal reports that there are tax advantages to be gained from supporting favorite causes through donations of appa Kinetics will be offered in all six appreciated stock. When a donor gives appreciated regions this spring. Dates and actual securities to fulfill charitable commitments, there is no tax K sites are still being confirmed. To find on the capital gain - tax advantages to the donor and out more, please contact Fraternity Headquarters, financial support for the charitable cause. 614/228-6515. Donations to the Kappa Kappa Gamma Foundation are tax deductible and are used to finance programs such Planned locations include: as Kappa Kinetics, KEEP SAFE, INSIGHT on Domestic Region I Philadelphia area Violence, and Self-Esteem for Every Kappa (SEEK); schol­ Region II Greensboro, N .C. arships for deserving undergraduate and graduate mem­ Region III Northwestern University, bers; the Heritage Museum; and Kappas seeking support Evanston, Ill. from the Rose McGill Fund. Region IV Boulder, Colo. For more information, contact Director of Development MARILYN FousE ]ENNINGS, Ohio Wesleyan, Region V Dallas, Texas at the Foundation office. Region VI University of Puget Sound, Seattle, Wash.

34 • THE K El' • Wi nter 1995 KAPPA KAPPA GAMMA FOUNDATION

Women Supporting Women

he Kappa Kappa Gamma Foundation offers many different scholarships, fellowships, and grants for T full-time and part-time undergraduate and graduate study. Financial assistance is available only $or to members of Kappa Kappa Gamma Fraternity and is financed by donations to the Kappa Kappa Gamma Foundation. more The deadline for applications for assistance in the 1996-1997 school year is February 1, 1996. For complete information and application materials, please send a self­ information addressed, stamped envelope to Sara Olsson, Foundation Assistant, at the Foundation office. When requesting on Foundation information or making an application for assistance, please note your chapter membership and state whether you intend to be a part-time or full-time student. programs,

Historic Opportunity please contact: he Kappa Kappa Gamma Foundation is again offer­ ing the Catherine Schroeder Graf Museum TSummer internship, providing muse­ KKG Fraternity um experience in program development, Headquarters and research interpretation, display, and general museum function under the guidance of Foundation Office Diane Mallstrom, Fraternity Archivist/ Curator. P.O. Box 38 The internship is offered to any Kappa graduate student or senior interested in the Columbus, OH field of museum studies. Education back­ . 43216 ground should include a concentration of course work in history, art history, American decorative arts, women's studies, 614/228-6515 social history, curatorial services, or related fields. 614/228-7809 (fax} As an intern, this Kappa would work at the Heritage Museum, a lovingly restored Victorian home in Columbus, Ohio that 73442.1175@ fronts Fraternity Headquarters. Applicants compuserve.com should send resume and qualifications to: Heritage Museum of Kappa Kappa Gamma P.O. Box 38 Columbus, OH 43216 and one copy to: SusAN BuRRows SwAN Chairman, Heritage Museum 116 Kendall at Longwood Kennett Square, PA 19348 Applications are due by March 15, 1996. For more information, please contact Diane Mallstrom at Fraternity Headquarters. ~

THE K EY • Winter 1995 • 35 KAPPASOnCampus Senior Gets Good Ideas State-wide BETA TAu, Syracuse, Recognition plans "class nights" for the pledges. Each HEATHER PINDER, academic class in the Florida State, is one of chapter is assigned one 13 college students night to participate in awarded an honorable an activity with the mention in the 1995 pledges. This helps Florida College Student members learn more of the Year competition. about each other. The eighth-annual GAMMA BETA, New awards program Mexico, presented recognizes students KEEP SAFE during the who support them­ Pledge Orientation selves through college, Program, attended by excel in academics, and pledges of all campus are involved in com­ sororities. munity service and political activism. She GAMMA RHo, Alle­ received a $500 gheny, sponsors a scholarship in addition young boy living in the to a number of other Philippines. prizes. GAMMA XI, UCLA, Heather achieved a enjoys a SEEK (Self­ 3.79 GPA as an interna­ Esteem for Every tional affairs/Russian Kappa) activity major. She was one of 15 Epsilon Pi , UC Riverside, members perform "The Kappa Bunch " within committees after U.S. students selected to skit, based on The Brady Bunch television series, during a business is completed pledge-active party. study in Moscow for a during Committee Nights. summer, served as an intern DELTA ZETA, Colorado for the Florida Senate College, cultivates new rela­ Republican Office and Dynamic Duo with these children. It tionships with area alumnae worked as a foreign affairs brought our sisterhood through the "Alum Chum" DELTA SIGMA, aide with a senator. Heather Oklahoma closer together," says program. Alumnae and col­ served EPSIWN ZETA CHAPTER State, was honored when MELISSA BURKERT, legians are paired based two of its graduating as Membership Chairman. Philanthropy Chairman. upon common interests. seniors were named by the university as top five senior A Kappa women graduates. Comeback CAROLINE DRUMMOND and The ZETA BETA, Lafay­ BRENDA SCHEFFLER were ette, flag football team won recognized for outstanding the 1995 Lafayette College scholastic achievement, flag football championship campus leadership, and with a come-from-behind community involvement. victory. The Kappas were down 14-0 at the half, but Big Brother/ came back strong to beat Big Sister Day the Delta Gamma team 34- 14. Eight teams compete in DELTA ALPHA, Penn women's flag football, and State, in conjunction with each game consists of 20- the Big Brothers/Big Sisters minute halves. The game program of Center County, resembles tackle football, hosted a day of games, arts but a defensive player stops and crafts, snacks, and an These Kappas, all from different universities, met at an offensive player by Easter egg hunt for more Camp Greystone in Tuxedo, N.C. where they all worked as camp counselors last summer. grabbing the cloth flag from than 40 children from the the player's waist. area. "Everyo ne really benefitted from the day

36 · THE K EY • v\finter 1995 KAPPAS On Campus

special touch to Delta special someone has done Omicron's 50th anniversary. are dropped in the box. She received numerous At the end of each month, letters, photographs and three names are drawn to even a donation. win assorted prizes. DELTA OMEGA, Cal State, Fresno, shows appreciation for its House Director, Greek Task Force house staff, Big and Little Joins Campus Sisters, and roommates Groups during "Positive Week." BETA LAMBDA, Illinois, UNC, EPSILON GAMMA, participates in the Greek encourages good grades Task Force, a college credit with a cookie drawing at class that an elected each chapter meeting. member of every campus Weekly, members drop their organization must take. names in a box when they The Kappa representative achieve an "/\' on a test. The brings helpful suggestions Scholarship Chairman and information back to draws a name and gives the the chapter. winner a cookie. ZETA RHo, Colgate, members sat down in rock­ Kappas Help ing chairs at 8 a.m. one morning and didn't stop Haunt the House rocking until they had BETA CHI, Kentucky, held a raised $285 for the Special haunted house with the Olympics. The "rock-a­ members of Phi Kappa Psi thon" is an annual chapter Fraternity. Chapter philanthropy. members decorated the fraternity house and served Five Beta Xi , Texas, seniors enjoyed watching The ZETA OMEGA, Waterloo, Late Show with David Letterman as part of the studio uses the "Sisterhood Ballot as costumed tour guides. audience in New York City. Box" to increase awareness More than $400 was raised of members' positive and donated to The Nest, a The DELTA OMICRON, activities. Ballots local shelter for abused Epsilon Chi, Dartmouth, Iowa State, Fraternity describing something children. Kappas gather outside Education Chairman wrote Pierce's Inn where they to the charter members of enjoyed their annual the chapter asking for funny "Sisterhood Dinner." stories and pictures to add a (below) Attention Chapters and Advisers!

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THE K El' • Winter 1995 • 37 KAPPAS On Campus Challenge to Excellence

Three chapters succeeded in the Fraternity's Challenge to Winners Golden Key (87%) Excellence, completing 100 percent of the Challenge check­ Gamma Nu, Arkansas Iota, DePauw list. Maintaining a scholastic average at least equal to the Delta Phi, Bucknell Lambda, Akron 6 campus All Sorority Average each term, displaying fiscal Zeta Sigma, North Texas Rho , Ohio Wesleyan responsibility, maintaining Fraternity standards, submitting Beta Pi, Washington all reports and fees on time, following the ritual, pledging Founders Circle (94%) Gamma Epsilon, Pittsburgh 6 quota, and maintaining chapter total are among the criteria Alpha , Monmouth Gamma Theta, Drake 6 chapters are asked to achieve. Pi , UC Berkeley Gamma Rho, Allegheny In addition, 10 chapters met 94 percent of the criteria, Beta Theta, Oklahoma Gamma Phi, SMU and 15 met 87 percent. Beta Xi, Texas Delta Alpha, Penn State Congratulations to those chapters that accepted the Beta Psi, Toronto Delta Iota, LSU Challenge to Excellence for 1994-95. All chapters are Gamma Eta, Washington State Delta Mu, Connecticut encouraged to accept the Challenge for 1995-96. Regional Delta Psi, Texas Tech Delta Omicron, Iowa State and Province Directors of Chapters are ready to assist each Zeta Alpha, Babson Epsilon Iota, Puget Sound chapter in fulfilling the criteria of the Challenge to Excellence. Zeta Theta, Trinity Epsilon Rho, Texas A&M Zeta Nu, UC San Diego Epsilon Upsilon, Baylor

Bucknell Meets the can explain it. Delta Phi Chapter con­ Although Delta Phi has achieved tinually seeks out pledges of the highest the Challenge to Excellence two years Challenge quality. I feel compelled to brag about in a row, we are far from satisfied - The rural community of Lewisburg, our 37 newest additions (including the and certainly far from perfect. Pa., is home to Delta Phi Chapter, great-great-granddaughter of Founder Therein lies the other secret to success Bucknell. The university's enrollment Anna Willits Pattee) and the energy -BUILDING ON THE PAST. We is approximately 3,700, and about half they bring with them. I can only have found in many situations that "if belong to the Greek system. The seven imagine the fun they will have as it isn't broken, don't fix it." This has National Panhellenic Conference pledges, and the new ideas they will guided many of the chapter's past chapters at Bucknell are not housed bring to our chapter as initiated Presidents and has surely given me but meet in very small suites in a members. Therein lies the Delta Phi some help. Each Chapter Council dormitory occupied predominately by secret to success -NEW IDEAS. officer transitions into her position sorority members. The Challenge to Excellence checklist with the help of her predecessor, and it I cannot take credit for the success is a base from which to build a chapter. is during these weeks of training that of the chapter and the Chapter Council The requirements are few, but the she can decide what did and did not of 1994-95, but as current President, I opportunity to take the Challenge a work. Then, the new officer can use little farther than her own ideas to improve the position. required is where Some areas we've looked at and are the new ideas working hard to improve are: come in. During • Overprogramming each Chapter · Closer attention to absences and Council meeting delinquencies we brainstorm and • Getting reports completed on time make suggestions • Ritual and Fraternity Education for improving • Panhellenic involvement (Kappas current currently hold three offices) activities or · Scholarship creating new It is often difficult to receive an ones. Almost award like the Challenge to Excellence every human and still be humble enough to look for being risks going areas that are in need of improvement. nuts if the daily We must always remind ourselves that routine doesn't these awards are a catalyst for change get stirred up within a chapter. Even after the award every now and has been won, the question remains - again. Change can we win it again next year? can be scary, but Bucknell Bid Day celebrations! The pledges, in the front, had just received painted cups from their heart sisters. change is good. MARLYSE PuLVER, Bucknell

38 · THE K E\' • Winter 1995 ACDENTON .7l.wMNAE Kappas Receive Top Awards "True worth," according to The Alumni Gazette, "lies in an individual's willingness to take the extra step for what he or she believes in, to think of others first and the self last, to give more than he or she receives." The College of William and Mary bestowed its highest honor on four such individuals in 1995, and two of them were Kappas. AUDREY MURRAY HARRIS realized early in life that people who take a stand can make a difference, so for the past 30 years she has been making a difference through volunteer service to the city of Richmond, the state of Virginia, and her alma mater. "It's just always seemed the right thing to do- respond­ ing to opportunities to become involved. I particularly became aware of the dilemma faced by so many women who must work while rearing their children and who must deal with numerous day-to-day issues and problems. To me, this is one of the most critical areas in our society today and there is an obvious need to support parents whether single or not." A former teacher and currently a state policy analyst for the Virginia Department of Personnel and Training, Audrey has devoted most of her volunteer time to organizations that focus on women's and children's issues. She lives in RICHMOND, VA. with her husband, a retired judge. They have The Erie County, Ohio, alumnae hosted a luncheon at two children and two grandchildren. the Sandusky Yacht Club to celebrate the 125th anniversary of Kappa Alpha Theta and Kappa Kappa Call to mind any event at the College since 1931 and Gamma. A review of important events of each decade chances are ANNE NENZEL LAMBERT was there as an alumna, brought back memories of fashion and social trends. Michael McElwain Lenhart and Ellen Waldock, both faculty wife, mother, and community member. "Plain and from Hillsdale, organized the successful event. simple, I've loved being a part of the College. It's been such an intrinsic part of my life that I just couldn't imagine what the last 64 years would have been without it." Anne was tapped as an alumna member of Mortar Board Author Wins National Book Award in 1957. She served as an adviser to her chapter, Gamma Kappa, for 48 years and is the current treasurer of the In its recent 1995 excel­ magazines such as Readers WILLIAMSBURG ALUMNAE AssoCIATION. In the community, lence-in-print competition, Digest, Glamour, Good Anne is in her 25th year of volunteer service to the Williamsburg The Catholic Press Housekeeping, Woman's Day, Community Hospital. A widow of the former vice president for Association awarded Catholic Digest, and others. student affairs, she also has two children and two grandchildren. national third place to the Her earlier book, My Angry book Unexpected Answers Son (Donald I. Fine, Inc.), (Our Sunday Visitor Press) which told the story of her by BARBARA LEMON son's emotional struggles BARTOCCI, Colorado. after his father's death in Books for this award are Vietnam, was a 1986 finalist submitted by all major for the Thrope Mann award Catholic book publishers in in Kansas City. The author the United States and is a former managing editor Canada. Un expected for Hallmark Cards, a for­ Answers won in the Family mer radio talk show host, Life division. owner of her own advertis­ Unexpected Answers is a ing/public relations agency collection of inspiring in Overland, Kan. , and a true stories subdivided into frequent contributor to categories of love, prayer, national magazines. She growing through loss, holds a master's degree in Laughter fills the air when the Kappas of Winnetka, and discovering one's creative writing from San Ill., gather for their annual holiday party and ornament authentic self. Diego University and is a exchange. They bring wrapped gifts to put under the Barbara has earned a member of th e American tree of a local shelter. national reputation for Association of Journalists inspirational writing in and Authors

THE K EY • Winter 1995 • 39 llinois Kappa Named Rotary District Governor

MIMI ANGSTER ALTMAN, Governors worldwide and DePauw, of BANNOCKBURN, one of only eight women in ILL., has been named a dis­ the world selected for the trict governor of Rotary office this year. International for 1995-96. Mimi became a member As Governor of District of Rotary in 1987 when 6440, Mimi is responsible women were first allowed to for overseeing the activities join the organization. Her of 67 Rotary Clubs in father was selected in 1915 as Northeastern Illinois. She is one of the first district gover­ one of 515 Rotary District nors of the organization.

Beta Delta Chapter initiates from 1972·75 Charleston Kappas Spread Cheer reclaimed their old bedrooms at their University of at Camp Happy Days Michigan house, hired the chapter cook, dined around fresh bouquets of fleur-de-lis, and sang Two members of the CHARLESTON (S.C.) ALUMNAE "Happiness," their favorite Kappa song . AssociATION, AMY CHAPMAN, South Carolina, and ANN MARIE SNEERINGER McKAY, George Washington, spent the first week of July as volunteer counselors at a very special Fashioning Furniture from Refuse camp on LAKE MARION, S.C. Camp Happy Days provides an environment in which cancer patients and their siblings can "I found a company that established at the University have a lot of fun, while learning to cope with the disease. makes 'boards' from recycled of North Texas. More "These kids live for camp;' said the camp director. "I newspapers and soybean graduate work earned her a want them to want to come back here bad enough that it flour. When I finished, the master's degree in historical gives them the will to fight one more round against the table top looked like green preservation from the cancer." One counselor is necessary for each two campers. granite," explains ANN University of Oregon, where This summer Camp Happy Days had more than 150 campers GIRAND ULLMAN, New she was Finance Adviser to and almost as many volunteer counselors. Mexico, in describing the BETA OMEGA CHAPTER. Amy, a high school art teacher, passed most of her time in table she designed and Now she holds a teaching the Painters Pit, and Ann Marie helped with the sewing made to win an interna­ position with the University activities. They also sang in the sing-alongs and special events, tional design competition. of Idaho and is Chapter such as Halloween, Prom Night, and the Talent Show. It's hard Pictured in the April issue Council Adviser to BETA to tell who had more fun- the campers or the counselors! of House Beautiful, the table KAPPA. was shown in Seattle "The theme of the and will tour the competition was REFUSE United States, Canada, with the F struck out so that Japan, and Europe it reads "no longer refuse, beginning in the now re use." Sponsored by spring of 1996. the ARANGO design Ann has left a Kappa foundation, the tour opens trail across the western March 21 in Miami and United States. She was will travel to museums in initiated in New Toronto, Montreal, Detroit, Mexico where she later San Francisco, and Los served GAMMA BETA Angeles, then abroad CHAPTER as an adviser; through 1998. received her under­ With the table copyrighted, graduate degree in Ann plans to produce it interior design at the commercially in response to University of Idaho; the interest it has generated and served as Chapter in shows. "With my interest Two Charleston, S.C. , Kappa volunteer counselors Consultant while in historical preservation, painted, sang, and laughed with the campers at Camp doing graduate work when my designs focus on the Happy Days for children suffering from cancer. ZETA SIGMA CHAPTER was early 20th century. The

40 • THE K El" • Winter 1995 base of the table has empty public administration at space cut outs. I'd like next the University of Colorado to do a wall-hung buffet at Denver. She received using these cut outs. Then $2,500 from the scholarship maybe matching chairs, but fund, the largest amount that is a long-term project." granted in 1994, and $1,000 Her immediate interests, each year since. The in addition to university CASPER, Wvo., native has and Fraternity roles, are interned with a Wyoming settling into her Moscow, state legislator and IDAHO, home with new congressman. "I would husband Mike. eventually like to be a policy maker, but am undecided Family Pilgrimage yet whether it will be the city, state, or federal level," to Greece Ann Ritchie Deister, Purdue, auctions off a Christmas said Johanna. sign at the ever popular Kappa/ Theta Christmas auction Three members of in Ft. Wayne, Ind. EPSILON UPSILON, Baylor, Musical Kappa WAco, TEXAS, one a charter member, another a recent Temple to Apollo, and its Joining these two as A music therapist, LINDA alumna, and the third a beginnings date back to the featured speakers were MAURINE WRIGHT-BOWER, collegian, sought out the Mycenaean period. Upon Imponderable Books' Butler, serves on the shrine of the goddess entering the sanctuary, one author David Feldman Executive Board of the Athena while traveling in first encounters the large (Why Do Clocks Run National Association for Greece. altar in the middle sur­ Clockwise? Do Penguins Music Therapy and is rounded by a number of Have Knees?) and David Speaker of the Assembly of smaller altars. Inscriptions Guterson, winner of the Delegates, the policy on them indicate they were 1995 Penn-Faulkner award making body of NAMT. A dedicated to the goddess for best novel for Snow tenured assistant professor Athena. One signifies the Falling on Cedars. of music and the Director Athena who gives knowledge "Our goal is to make our of Music Therapy at and prosperity, another the one-and-only fundraiser a Indiana-Purdue University Athena who helps women knock-out, profitable, pres­ in Ft. Wayne, Ind., Linda during childbirth and tigious, unforgettable, classy, spent a 1995 sabbatical protects the health of men. entertaining, sensational studying programming The original temple built on event. In other words, a models appropriate for this spot dated back to the Kappa success!" says DoNNA music therapy services with middle of the 7th century PAGANO ]OANNIDES, Oregon older adults with develop­ B.C. and was one of the ear­ State. mental disabilities. Recently liest important temples in All proceeds from the married, she also served as Greece. gala event go to the Kappa artist-in-residence with the Kappa Gamma Foundation Very Special Arts Indiana in Book and Author and the Craig Rehabilitation Peru, Ind., where she Hospital, which provides provided music sessions for Dinner in Denver research and treatment for first grade and kindergarten inclusive classrooms. With autograph books in spinal cord injuries. The Three Baylor Kappas stand hospital's Hahn Scholarship before the Sanctuary of hand, Denverites turned out Athena in Delphi , Greece. in record numbers for the Committee annually allocates Kappa Association's annual $25,000 in scholarship Book and Author Dinner. funds. Beginning this year, a The big attractions this year significant portion of the SARAH RAGLAND were actor Charlton Heston, scholarship program's fund­ }ACKSON and her twO whose autobiography In ing will come from the Book daughters, BECKY }ACKSON The Arena was released this and Author Dinner. JoHN and LOis }ACKSON, fall, and popular writer A Kappa is among the approached the Sanctuary Barbara Taylor Bradford, scholars benefitting from the of Athena by a small path author of Angel, A Woman program. Despite her spinal through a grove of olive trees of Substance, Remember... , cord injuries, JoHANNA at Delphi. The sanctuary is and many other novels. DONLIN, Colorado College, is located below the larger pursuing a masters degree in

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A Woman Wrth Designs on the World As a sophomore transfer to the University of Florida and a founding member of EPSILON ZETA, LEE SoLOMON ADAMS helped oversee the construction of the fine sorority house which still graces the Tallahassee, Fla. campus. This first­ hand experience led to her bachelor's degree in interior design and a career which has taken her to some of the most beautiful spots in the world. Shortly after college she was recruited to design the revolutionary round hotels of Holiday Inn. In 1970 she joined with a partner to form L. E. Seitz Associates, Inc. (LESA), a firm which provides interior designs, space-planning and visual merchandising for hotels, resorts, restaurants, casinos, and clubs throughout the world. She has completed design projects for Hilton, Lowe's, Marriott, Sheraton, and Clubhouse Motor Inn, as well as such distinguished hotels as Maxim's de Paris Suite Hotel in Palm Springs; the Sands Hotel & Casino resorts in Atlantic City, N.J. and San Juan, Puerto Rico; Hotel Tamanaco in Caracas, Venezuela, and several in the United Kingdom. San Francisco -Marin County alumnae herald in Casinos designed by Lee that opened in the last year the holidays at their annual couples party. include the Grand Casino in Gulfport, Miss.,- the largest Creative members fashion festive baskets filled floating casino in the world (plus two others in Mississippi); with food, baked goods, toys, or books to be auc­ the Hollywood Casino near Chicago; the Barona "Big Top" tioned. This year's beneficiary will be the Marin Casino near San Diego - the world's largest tented casino; a Center for Abused Women. new casino for the S.S. Norway -the world's largest passen­ ger vessel; and Atlantic City's Sands Hotel & Casino. Development Council, a Other LESA-designed resorts spread from El Tovar at the Alabama private corporation han­ Grand Canyon to Barbados to mainland China, assignments Businesswoman dling small business loans which combine well with Lee's love of travel and photogra­ under the auspices of the phy. She also is a dance enthusiast, enjoying both ballroom Leads Expansion Small Business Administra­ and county, a certified scuba diver, and the holder of a pur­ "We're the second tion. Originally an Alabama ple belt in Tai Kuan Do. While visiting her son last year (a largest certified develop­ concern, the Council has student at the University of Colorado), she successfully skied ment company in the expanded under Maudie's for the first time. United States, behind Utah, leadership to include all of It was "the tremendous experience" she gained in and we hope to overtake Mississippi and the Florida colonizing FSU's EPSILON ZETA CHAPTER that provided the them next year," said panhandle. "We've been opportunities to such a full career and life, advises a most MAUDIE DARBY BEDFORD, invited into these areas, and accomplished Lee Adams. Alabama. Maudie has just we have other invitations been re-elected to a we're considering." five-year term as Maudie has served as a president and chair­ board member of the man of the board of Council since it began in the Southern 1983, an "everyday job," she says, yet she does it as a volunteer. In her professional life, she is president of WVNA-AM/FM radio station in TuscuMBIA, ALA. With 100,000 watts FM and 5000 watts AM, her station has Twenty-eight Kappas initiated between 1980 and 1985 the most powerful returned to the Gamma Omicron chapter house at the combination in University of Wyoming for a weekend spent remembering northern Alabama. and building new memories. They recommend the experi­ ence for every Kappa.

42 · TH E KEY • Winter 1995 Multiple Projects That Bag Lady on the Beach Is a Kappa Raise Funds Kappas in ST. Loms, It's magic! The golden sun rises on time she visited Hawaii, she picked up litter Mo., are wearing proud Hawaii's San Souci Beach littered with the at Sans Souci and has been doing it ever smiles this holiday season previous day's accumulation of cigarette since. She's 79 and looks 60. as their annual Paper Kaper, butts, the park behind it strewn with paper "There's a swim exercise class on the or wrapping paper sale, will and bottles left by thoughtless litterers. beach three days a week;' Jane explains. net profits to take them Two hours later, the sand and lawn are "Every time I walk by, I feel like giving the past the $175,000 mark in immaculate. There is no staff who could people plastic bags. Picking up litter is bet­ donations to the Kappa possibly keep the place that clean. Are elves ter exercise, and it doesn't cost anything." Kappa Gamma Foundation at work, or a vacuum cleaner from outer Every morning Jane captains the 10-12 and community charities. space, or just some kind of magic? member beach patrol which includes her While the paper sale is their You might put it that way. husband. Inspired by Jane, a 75-year-old largest fund raiser, they do Every morning 10 rather ordinary-look­ friend swims and collects bottles and six­ not rely solely on it. In ing people conduct a strange ritual at Sans pack holders from the ocean bottom.None May and November they Souci. They walk here and there, peering at of the group asked for fame and fortune, but also hold rummage sales the ground, stooping or reaching in a kind it came anyway. They won a $2000 award which bring in nearly $1300 of ballet without music or rhythm. They for Hawaii in a "USA Weekend, Make a each. Many of their cus­ look like they are picking up litter, but it is Difference Day" project, sponsored and tomers have come to rely something more, something that touches the judged by actor Paul Newman and financed on the "recycling" of cloth­ soul. It keeps these people young, makes with proceeds from his salad dressings and ing and household items. them glow, and it has led to fame and for­ sauces. The Litter Patrol donated its prize to Each year the tune. the Waikiki Aquarium where Jane is a full­ INDIANAPOLIS (IND.) JANE HuNTER BILLS, Pittsburgh, a snow­ time volunteer. ALUMNAE AssociATION bird who moved to HAWAII last year, says (Adapted from "Our Honolulu" in The raises money through she learned early from her parents. The first Honolulu Advertiser) various projects such as a poinsettia sale, a stationery sale, and a spring fashion is hosting a children's event agencies. "Quite a good "No-Shows" and show. With the income on December 16. record for our relatively Phantom Teas from these projects, they PASADENA, CALIF., small group," summarized contribute to two Kappa alumnae make use of an association President From Oregon to New scholarships, the Rose income-sharing thrift store LYNN WALLACE BARRY, York, phantoms are sipping McGill Fund, two chapters, where they take "recyclables;' Carnegie Mellon. Each tea while eyeing non-existent and two local agencies and the income from their February these women models swjrling about in which help families in sales partially funds Hospice, prepare and serve the new fashions, and Kappa need. Members give a food bank, and a maternity luncheon at the Braille philanthropies and chapters volunteer hours in both home. In 1995 they donated Society, earning them the are benefitting. agencies throughout the more than $3,000 to the distinction of being its Brightly-colored invita­ year, and the Association Kappa Foundation and local most loyal supporter. tions are mailed, and a

South Bay (calif.) alurmae gathered husbands, Delta Lambda Chapter, Miami (Ohio) , alumnae boyfriends, friends, and even a four-week-

THE KEY • Wi nter 1995 • 43 clever theme is announced, The officer roster of the yet these popular events are SAN FERNANDO VALLEY all pretend. They don't take (CALIF.) AssociATION reads place, but they do raise like the credits on a TV funds. screen. President SusAN In KANsAs CITY, I

44 · THE KE!' • Winter 1995 ames which appear in this list­ DRAKE UNIVERSITY *MARYLAND, UNIVERSITY OF NEW MEXICO, UNIVERSITY OF ing are from information Crouse, Virginia Heywood, '23,d.8/95 Alexander, Nora Huber, '36,d.7/95 Ewing, Mauree Kimbrough, received by Headquarters from N Conway, Cynthia, '49,d.3/94 '62,d.5/95 june 30, 1995 to October 4, 1995. Foust, Ruth King, '37,d.8/95 DUKE UNIVERSITY Wheeler, Edith Coppedge, '39,d.9/95 Keiih, Evelyn Ames Davis, '32,d.7/95 MASSACHUSETTS, UNIVERSITY OF AKRON, UNIVERSITY OF Leaycraft, jane Vallentyne, '51,d.12/94 Williams, Lana Canavan, '60,d.10/93 Pearcy, judith Fraser, '61,d.7/95 Wade, janet Gulley, '39,d.12/94 *NORTH DAKOTA STATE Robertson, Paulyne Emmons, '27,d.7/95 UNIVERSITY Russell, Catherine Simmons, '30,d.7/95 McGILL UNIVERSITY Leary, Mary Lowell, '32,d.7/94 GEORGIA, UNIVERSITY OF McDonald, Janet Dye, '38,d.6/94 Kress, Lois Mathis, '50,d.01 /95 ALABAMA, UNIVERSITY OF NORTHWESTERN UNIVERSITY Price, Billie Bobo, '50,d.7/95 MIAMI UNIVERSITY MacNeille, Margaret Whitsett, * GOUCHER COLLEGE Thatcher, Marianne, '50,d.7/95 '29,d.6/95 Kerr-Wood, Bond Anderson, Todd, Marion Hartley, '38,d.8/95 ALLEGHENY COLLEGE '38,d.10/94 Sweet, Carol Hunt, '48,d.6/94 MIAMI, UNIVERSITY OF Slagel, Katherine Elberfeld, '33,d.9/95 Cooper, Mary Eisenmayer, '39,d.8 /95 Snedeker, Mildred Geiger, '35,d.7/95 OHIO STATE UNIVERSITY Willard, Mary Flynn, '45,d.9/95 ARIZONA, UNIVERSITY OF Eckelberry, Grace Eva ns, '18,d.7/95 Fulton, Elizabeth Duncan, '31,d.7/95 HILLSDALE COLLEGE Koebel, Mary Bonnet, '16,d.6/95 MICHIGAN STATE UNIVERSITY Pinson, Sara Noon, '26,d.9/94 Borberg, Mildred Burt, '31,d.7/95 Salt, Nan Newton, '23,d.8/95 Roark, jean Schwartz, '37,d.8/95 Lovelace, Helen Bement, '37,d.7/95 Spiller, Marjorie Harris, '26,d.l 0/94 Porter, Dorothea Clabuesch, OHIO WESLEYAN UNIVERSITY IDAHO, UNIVERSITY OF '33,d.7/95 Lenhart, H. Elizabeth White, Davies, Lorraine Potter, '59,d.5/95 Schmittdiel, Virginia Van Atter, '26,d .8/95 ARKANSAS, UNIVERSITY OF Rice, Marion McGonigle, '27,d.7/95 '35,d.2/95 Schmidt, Marian Chapman, '52,d.5/95 Davis, Marjorie Christian, '26,d.8/95 Smith, Mable Sweeny, '19,d.6/95 Hutchens, Marilyn Tatum, '46,d.8/95 Winter, Ethelyn Poitevin, '55,d.9/95 MICHIGAN, UNIVERSITY OF OKLAHOMA STATE UNIVERSITY Gray, Harriette Wise, '24,d.3/84 Wilson, Sandra, '5l,d.9/89 B UTLER UNIVERSITY ILLINOIS, UNIVERSITY OF johnston, jeanne Geyer, '36,d.9/95 jacobi, Marie Love, '42,d.6/95 Schoettle, Virginia Disosway, Lockwood, Nancy Hess, '46,d.8/95 Meyer, Emily Brossman, '24,d.8/95 '3 1,d.7/95 OKLAHOMA, UNIVERSITY OF Welch, Mary Stewart, '37,d.9/95 Lewis, Kathryn Dibbens, '35,d.O 1/94 *MIDDLEBURY COLLEGE CAL. STATE U . AT NORTHRIDGE Brown, Helen Hoadley, '28,d.l /92 Sunell, Susan Gettinger, '79,d.6/95 INDIANA UNIVERSITY Knight, Kaiherine, '23,d.4/95 OREGON STATE U NIVERSITY Bensinger, Florence Dye, '16,d.6/95 Mertens, Margaret Sedgewick, Collie, Karen Fitzpatrick, '38,d. 7/95 '24,d.6/95 Ligon, Robena Taylor, '33,d.l 2/94 CALIFORNIA, U . OF AT B ERKELEY Morris, Catherine Bosley, '26,d. 9/94 Schilling, Meredith Rhodes, '32,d.9/95 Cutting, Mary Milbank, '23,d.7/95 Schoonover, Eunice Stonex, '33,d.8/95 Urban, joan Knudsen, '49,d.9/95 Wendelken, Mary Hills, '20,d. 7/95 MINNESOTA, UNIVERSITY OF Kraehe, Mary Eggleston, '43,d.8/95 CALIFORNIA, U. OF AT LOS ANGELES PENNSYLVANIA STATE UNIVERSITY Taylor, Dorothy Baumgarten, IOWA, UNIVERSITY OF Stohr, Eihel Williams, '33,d.7/95 '30,d.8/95 Frisbee, Margaretta, '29,d.8/93 MISSISSIPPI, UNIVERSITY OF O'Brien, jane Hallett, '57,d.8/95 CINCINNATI, UNIVERSITY OF KANSAS STATE UNIVERSITY * PENNSYLVANIA, UNIVERSITY OF Hanselman, Helen Beiderwelle, Watts, Sibyl, '21,d.4/92 MISSOURI, UNIVERSITY OF Keay, Anne, '43,d.7/95 '20,d.9/95 Kizer, Miriam Carter, '31,d.l0/94 Torrey, Anne jennings, '45,d.S/90 KANSAS, UNIVERSITY OF McDonnell, Florence Adams, COLORADO COLLEGE Dixon, Claudine Elliott, '33,d.l2/95 '31,d.6/94 McQuade, Bettie Knetzger, '43,d.8/95 PITTSBURGH, UNI VERS ITY OF Cool, Aleanor Haaff, '35,d.l0/94 Faria, Frances Bliss, '2 7,d.S/95 Koehneke, Ruih Drum, '3l,d.8/94 Scott, Elizabeih Gallup, '45,d.8/95 Graham, Barbara Neubecker, Veach, jane Miller, '22,d.9/95 '33,d.I0/94 COLORADO, UNIVERSITY OF Johnson, josephine Allen, '25,d.5/95 MONMOUTH COLLEGE Peatman, Mariha Rice, '28,d.9/95 Robertson, Georgiana Spielman, PURDUE U NIVERSITY Pippin, Veva Corlett, '30,d.3/94 '25,d.7/95 Bowlby, jean Duncan, '38,d.1 1/94 Bower, Mary Risser, '24,d.8/95 Straube, Rosamond Richards, Melburg, Myra Stice, '34,d.7/95 O'Haver, Sarah Andrew, '42,d.9/95 '27,d.7/95 Pattison, Frances Mills, '34,d.9/95 DENISON UNIVERSITY Suiherland, Vivian McBeth, '42,d.7/95 Petrie, Annetta Martin, '34,d.9/95 Cross, Delta Deitz, '3l,d.7/95 Tatlock, Alys Magill, '39,d.l/94 ROLLI NS COLLEGE Denny, Marjorie Moorehead, Sapp, Bessie Graham, '33,d.6/95 '35,d.5/95 MONTANA, UNIVERSITY OF Foss, Margaret Oldfield, '49,d.l /91 KENTUCKY, UNIVERSITY OF Cardell, Zahlia Snyder, '28,d. 7/95 Morrisey, Anne Smith, '41 ,d.6/95 Hyde, jane Buckner, '57,d.S/95 Prior, Carol Phillips, '23,d.5/95 Sr. LAWRENCE UNIVERSITY Shaw, Nancy Matthews, '43,d.7/95 O'Brien, Ruih Dimock, '43,d.8/95 Nevin, Catherine Bernier, '2 l,d.4/95 Radcliffe, Ruth Willis, '3l,d.8/95 NEBRASKA, UNIVERSITY OF DEPAUW UNIVERSITY Larson, Helen Hawke, '55,d.S/95 STANFORD UNIVERSITY Allen, Harriet Taylor, '25,d.7/95 LO UISIANA STATE UNIVERSITY Lembke, Drusilla Dorland, '25,d.8/95 Hinrichs, Miriam Marble, '25,d.6/95 Gilbert, Maribel Wineinger, '22,d.8/95 Nicholson, Nancy, '49,d.9/93 ix, Helen Ryons, '24,d.5/95 Willis, Mildred Hoover, '19,d.8/95

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*SWARTHMORE COLLEGE MacPherson, Mary Maguire, '52,d.7/95 WEST VIRGINIA UNIVERSITY MARJORIE MoREE KEITH, Kansas Callaghan, Alice Reddie, '22,d.7/95 Tovell, Elizabeth Davidson, '40,d.8/95 Critchley, Sarah Cook, '26,d.7/95 State, '38, died in October. She served the Fraternity as Province SYRACUSE UNIVERSITY UTAH, UNIVERSITY OF WHITMAN COLLEGE Director of Alumnae 1969-72, Chesley, Mildred Stout, '24,d.7/95 Carey, Winifred Kirk, '37,d.3/95 Nauss, Elizabeth Stewart, '36,d.6/95 McElroy, Margaret Holiday, '28,d.8/94 Chasseur, Dorothy Hanford, '32,d.8/95 Stone, Charlotte Deane, '24,d.6/95 Assistant to the Director of Skladzien, josephine Gifford, Kelly, Marcell Foulger, '33,d.6/95 Philanthropies 1976-78, Director of Philanthropies 1978-82, and '3 7, d.l2/94 McAllister, Leah Snow, '37,d.S/95 WILLIAM & MARY, COLLEGE OF Assistant Nominating Chairman Pritchett, Catherine jones, '56,d.8/95 Kent, Mildred, '23,d.4/94 1994-95. TEXAS TECH UNIVERSITY Reeves, Ann Mitchell, '38,d.8/95 Grant, Helen Hess, 'SS,d.4/91 WASHINGTON UNIVERSITY Meacham, Rosemary Datz, '36,d.7/95 WISCONSIN, UNIV ERSITY OF TEXAS, UNIVERSITY OF Bassett, Patricia Lubben, '60,d.4/95 WASHINGTON, UNIVERSITY OF O'Connell, jane White, '29,d.6/95 Allen, Mary Headley, 'SO,d.7/94 In order for names to appear in the "In Frazar, Ellen Brooks, '36,d.7/95 Memoriam" section, verification and Fratt, Creigh Cunningham, '19,d.7/95 Vandevere, Hester Brite, '2l,d.7/95 *WOOSTER COLLEGE date of death must be sent to Fraternity Holahan, Peggy O'Neil, '29,d.8/95 Brewer, Frances Glenn, '6/1894,d.7/64 Headquarters, P.O. Box 38, Columbus, TORONTO, UNIVERSITY OF McLeod, Laura Robinson, '16,d.7/95 OH 43216-0038 o----. Howard, Mary, '24,d.6/95 Nolte, Kathryn Spencer, 'Sl ,d.6/95 Storaasli, janet Griffin, '4l,d.7/95 * inactive chapter

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Barbara was out of town, but that he would alert a number EDITOR's NoTE: We are delighted to be receiving so many of Kappas. letters but regret that we are unable to print each one. Please Having him return my phone call so quickly gave me keep writing to The Key and know that we appreciate your input. goosebumps. What a special man! He obviously made Letters are edited for clarity and length. phone calls, and visited Debbie a number of times himself. Doug and Barbara have been a great source of companion­ ship to this Kappa in need of a friend. They arranged for Saving Women's Lives others to visit, sent flowers, etc. Debbie has been in the Northwest Arkansas Rehabilitation I am writing to commend you and others responsible for Hospital for therapy and is doing better. Her older son is the Spring issue dealing with violence to women. It is a topic fine, and her younger son is receiving therapy on an out­ which continues to warrant wide-spread education to alL I patient basis. imagine the articles at the least provided interesting informa­ OuviA CoMPTON WALL, Michigan tion to those who read them, but more important, may have saved some lives. As a registered nurse, I thank you for publishing an issue with such relevant and useful articles. Addendum LINDA GERUM, DePauw It was a happy surprise to see a paragraph about the schol­ arship fund I established several years ago in honor of my Kappa Husband-of-the-Year late friend and sister ELAINE JoHNSON LAMPERT, Minnesota, in the Summer issue of The Key. It is a wonderful issue over­ While I am not sure you have such a category, I have a all, by the way, as it presents a picture so different from the nomination for Kappa Husband-of-the-Year. On June 19 I stereotypical sorority image. Extra copies should be left all found out that a friend of mine, DEBBIE VIEBIG MooDY, over chapter houses during Rush. However I was disappoint­ Tulane, of the Northwest Houston Alumnae Association had ed to see that there were few details about Elaine's life, which been involved in a very serious automobile accident near was ended tragically by ovarian cancer when she was only 40, Springdale, Ark. With her two sons, she was hit by a drunk leaving behind two small children. Perhaps in the future you driver who was killed in the accident. She knew no one in can take extra care to give equal time in such cases. the area. I looked in my copy of Th e Key to learn who was CAROL BRANDENBURG REETZ, Minnesota handling references in that area. From a map, I determined that Fayetteville would be the closest town. About 5:30 p.m. I Editor's Note: Unfortunately our records contained little called and left a message on the answering machine of information about Elaine Johnson Lampert. Although her BARBARA RicE PRICHARD, Kansas, explaining the situation life was sadly ended at a young age, she was a speech writer, a and asking if someone might be able to visit Debbie. At 6:30 freelance writer-photographer specializing in health issues, p.m. I received a call from Doug Pritchard explaining that mother of Ned and Claire, and wife of architect Leonard A.

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Lampert, III. The Key and The Kappa Kappa Gamma Foundation thank Carol Brandenburg Reetz and other donors to this scholarship fund for their generosity and for the information on the life of this extraordinary Kappa. Kudos Yes, The various articles by Kappas living and traveling in far-away and fascinating lands made such exciting reading I just had to read another after I finished reading one. The Summer 1995 issue held my attention longer than any I can remember. vou can! MIRIAM CROWLEY McCuE, Wyoming

Let me congratulate you on The Key which I have read and enjoyed so much. The [Fall1995) cover was delightful and each article very interesting. Yes, vou can ... Perhaps one of the reasons I so enjoyed every page was reading about the Kappas I have known and admired so much. I am a Beta Lambda, Illinois, 1922, and have attended many biennial and Province Conventions. • find a great job in today's My son knew Booie Patterson very well and all of us were job market! proud to know the Patterson girls from Towson, Md. Reading about all the chapters and activities as well as see­ ing the pictures makes me very proud to be a Kappa. • build a successful career Please say thank you to your staff. LoUISE BERRY WisE, Illinois in the 1990s!

Double congratulations on the outstanding new look for The Key and for refocusing on the Fraternity. The Fall1995 • take charge of your career issue is excellent in all respects and a wonderful way to cele­ brate our 125th anniversary. and achieve goals that are VIRGINIA ANDING LA CHARITE, William and Mary important to you! I just wanted to tell you what a wonderful job you are doing with The Key. This latest issue is really great. I usually scan the magazine when it arrives, but this one I read cover to cover. Thank you again for your fine work. You can do all of that and more with the SuE NEAL MASSEY, Oklahoma

I had saved my Fall issue to read on a trip. I enjoyed everything about this issue starting with the cover. Bravo! The pictures were great, the articles interesting ... especially JOB BANK USA the 125-year history of Kappa Kappa Gamma and the story Career Advancement Service about the restoration of the Minnie Stewart Home. Congratulations on the award given at the College Fraternity Editors Association. Well deserved! My husband also enjoyed reading this issue. For t he details, call t oday! CAROLE KERR McCLENDON, Oklahoma 1-800-296-1872 CORRECTION

THE KEY · Winter 1995 • 47 Cl.ASSIFim ADS KKr HEADQuARTERs REQuEsT FoRM

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