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Ruffin accuses Urlacher; is suspended Police Officer Roy Ruffin, the popular Rochester l*olice Department liaison with the community and other Rochester com­ munities, has been suspended, along with several other officers connected with an embezzlement scheme which Ruffin is said to have exposed. Ruffin, according to the Democrat and Chrt>nicle, was responsible for the arrest of Police Chief GonJon Urlacher on embezzle* ment charges. Urtacher who was once liaison with the gay community, was arrested on Oct. 18 and charged with taking as much as j S2(K),(MM) from the police depanmenc in a MemlMHS of Nation put up a banner on OctolMr 11. For more coverage of Waek, scheme said to have begun shortly after he including an Interview with Romanovsicy & Phillips, see pages 10-11. Photo by Ellen Mahaffy l"»ecame chief of police in September 1985 Thei^&c article of Oct, 21 stated that Ruf­ fin became fearful when city offictals began an audit of cash held in the police property Queer lSsLt%und 8:30 a.m., when at least one banner "Out of the Closet and into the Street." The *gay.' I had a long word in a book: 'homosex­ was removed by .state Department of Thmspor- actit>n cotJrd with a gn>up hugging ceremony ual.' Otrviant, aberrant. arrcsteiJ dc-velopment tation workers. and chants of "We're here, i*trequecr, we're — you nead these things that made you 'wonder, After the banners were hung. Queer Nation who the hell are chey talking about? Abuse survival members tied pink ribbons on lampposts, trees fabulous, get used to it»" "One of the things Stonewall gave us was and railings along Main St. The group A police officer arrived and questioned the each other," Apuzzo continued. "Visibility author in to^wn distributed stickers about Coming Out Day at gn>up. but no arrests were made. means being able to find each other. There was the Four Corners and Midtown Mall. "Most Queer Nation meets every second and no 'we;' it was always me,' 'I.' 'I am the only Nov. 28-30 people wenr receptive." said a participant. fourth Ihursday at thc tiay Alliance of the si Genesee Valley, 179 Atlantic Ave, at 6 p.m. For The Stonewall pn>test of 20 years ago. Laum Davis, author of TTie Courage to Heal: supportive." He said that a few people walk­ more information, call 251-2460. which represented the Iirst challenge to police a Guide far Women Surxivors of Child Sexual ed away after asking what the stickers were for, oppression and society's , was Abuse, will present a public lecture and a or made unprintable comments. not just an incident that happened and is over, seminar for professionais on Niw. 28-.M>, spon­ Queer Nation has als<» held two "zaps," one Apuzzo said. "When a kid finds the gay and sored by Wellesley Center an "afternoon out" on Park Ave. on Sept. 23, Virginia Apuzzo community center Stonewall lives. Davis emphasizes healing and gi\ ^?. peo­ and the other a "night out" on Monroe Ave. When a kid tells his parents, this is my life, and ple the tools JO help them move thn, '- the on Oct .11. The zaps are meant to address the speaks at U of R they have a P-FLACi to go to, Stonewall lives. pain of picking up the pieces and goin^ on problem of gay/lesbian invisibility. Stonewall means no more suicide." with their lives. The Park Ave. action included about 40 peo­ By Susan Jordan Speaking of coming out. Apuzzo described Her lecture will take place on Nov. 28 at 8-10 ple, who held hands, hugged and kissed. Some "This movement saved my life. I would have the experience of seeing a large headline refer­ p.m. at Logan's, 142<) Scottsville Rd. A coffee members handed out a flyer reading in part. been one of those people who committed ring to herself: "Lesbian Ex-Nun Wins Top hour will follow her address. "Our silence is allowing the community at suicide. I could not have lived in the closet. State Kwit." As a result she was identified on The professional seminar is scheduled for large to make the rules for us by defining who The closet would have been my coffin." a plane by a group of fundamcmtalist mis­ Nov. 29 from 9 a.m. to 5 p.m., and Nov. 50 weare. . .our silence is ;dIowing ignorance, in­ Ciinny Apuzzo spoke to around 100 people sionaries, and "prayed over at 35,000 feet." from 8:30 a.m. to 3:30 p.m., also at Logan*s. tolerance and hatred to play decision roles in at the University of Rochester on Oct. 10, Less humorously, she also heard her mother The events will be wheelchair accessible and such . . . matters as AIDS funding, education, under the auspices of the student group Gay, ask when she was going to start helping some interpreted for the deaf. Emotional support research, and patient care. And in civil liber­ Lesbian, Bisexual and Fnends Association "rea/ people" will be available for participants. ties issues such as domestic partners and anti- (GLBFA), and as pan of Rochesters Coming Apuzzo spoke of the magnificent response Tickets are SIO for the public lectute, and bias legislation. . . Our invisibility is the center Out Week. the newbom gay and lesbian community made are available from VM^IIesley Center or from ofour oppression... It is time for us to work Apuzzo, who has been, among (jther things, to the challenge of AIDS. 'Think about the Silkwood Books, 633 Monnje Ave (473-8110). toward the hght to exist in a safe society as free­ a Roman Catholic nun, head of the National consequences if there hadn't been a gay com­ Registration for the seminar costs SI85 ly and openly as do our straight counter­ Gay and Lesbian Task Force. Gov. Mario munity — if we hadn't been able to find each before Nov. 1 and S205 afterwards. To register parts. . .Queer Nation was founded to addiess Cuomo's liaison with the gay and lesbian com­ other." in the face of governmental neglect and call the Wellesley Center, 442-2986. this issue of invisibility. Jn Rochester, the munity, and vice chair ofthe New \t>rk State homophobia. members of Queer Nation want to show you AIDS Advisory' Council, rold what it was like ^ptMZZo continued on pa^^c 11 Jazzberry's art show '9fiSSiSSStBSSfi»SSSSgeS»SS^^ on AIDS issues Class identities A warrior-poefs Keitb St. jotia's Jazzberry's Uptown Gallery, 50 East Ave., will present an exhibition called "In the Face children of AIDS,'* beginning Nov. 7 and running contributions through Dec. 15- JaaQEberry*s owner Susan Plunkett and Up­ town Gallery curator [>avid Kwasigtoh hope to bring forward some of the realities of the AIDS epidemic and some of the tcsponses needed to better fiice the problem. "In the Bice of AIDS" will coincide with National AIDS Awaieness Day/A Day Without Art. Dec. 1, a nadonal day of aaion and mourning in tesponae to the AIDS crisis. An cvenif^ of poetry, performance and music ha» been planned ftv Dec 2. Artists, per- Lori MMochst reports on a Boston An interview wiih Keith St. John. Class A why we should cstre. See pstge 9 fbrmers and anyone interested in partkripating See pagc 6-7 conference honoring Audre shoald contact Dsyftd Rwasignih ai 235-6444. Lorde. See page 8 photo by T.L. Cvetar) loc$a New0t CQMioued on pagc 3 KMQftfltt 2 THE EMPTY CLOSET November, 1990 November, 1990 THE EMPTY CLOSET 3

Editorial state and local news

leave a nnessage indicating the number and ages of children who will need care. If you By Susan Jordan passage ofthe Massachusetts Hate Crimes Bill News, 'It was t^>en season on woinen at the , bi on Oct. 2 also called for an amendment in­ women of dlfiSeient s^cs. classes, races and sex­ need an interpreter, call the Gay AlUance at Arthur Shawcros5*s trial has staned, and movies this summer." ual orientations; raise our consciousness and 244-8640 (voice or TDD). among many horrifying revelations about the cluding violence against women within the She's not talking about hardcore snuff ^women to legislation's definition of hate crimes. The self-esteem, and lead to a rejection of abuse alleged serial murderer one strikes me as movies, supposedly seen only by a handful of in aU its ffoniis. Events like this also make especially revealing. On a police tape, Coalition Ibr Lesbian and Gay Civil Ri^ts join­ drooling psychopaths. Stie*s talking about the collaborate ed with Massachusetts NOW in calling for thc violence against women visible, and challenge Shawcross is quoted as saying that his murders bigtime. big-money, award-winning fUms by the rcfusal of society to see the problem. of women were "business as usual." amendment. Gender is not included in the By Cynthia W^n Ness David Lynch, Louis Malle and other Major Ar­ Nonetheless, it will take a long time befbre Artists' Stiawcros$*s lawyers are relying on an insani­ Members of the Rochester Lesbian Action categories of haie violence in the national Hate tists. Bftiwnstein writes, "The foundations of fieedom. re^>ect and safety for women Coalition (RLAC) and the Rochester Bisexual ty defense, but such callous hatred of women, Crimes Statistics Act. However, it Is included plot and narrsRlve suggest that without the vic­ pickets lunclieon in the list of protected categories in the yet- become "business as usual." In the meantime. Women*s Network (RBWN) arc planning a like hatred of lesbiatts and gays, is unfortunate­ timization of women, without a solid belief "Chicken Lady " of the fieminist newspj^^ero^ that women's carnality is vicious and con- workshop. "CollabtMation: Lesbian and Bisex-^ ly not just an aberration in our society, where to4>e-passed New Ybrk hate crmes bill (see the our bacles has a suggestion: tape atid battering are "business as usual." and article on Ginny Apuzzo elsewhete in this tfolIsa>le only with violence, thete is no ual Women Building Our Women's Communi­ to support NEA the single ma^or c^use of death for women on issue.) film..." "Thc Witfc/icar, a combination keyring^lf ty " to be held at thc Oay Alliance Communi­ defense weapon used by many women, is so ty Center in early I>ecembcr. By Susan Jordan the |ob is murder Violence against women, hatred, dcf^da- The only way to change our woman-hating successful that the govcrmment warns to take Thc Rochester Anists Coalition Against Cen­ Injuries from husbands and boyfrietKis send tion and blamtr^ of women, are business as Thc workshop planners hope to create a safe culture is by disrupting "busitiess as usual." I it away. The California Attorney General's Of­ sorship picketed on Oct. 18 at Arts for Greater morc women t«> cmcigciKy rooms natkmwide usual here in the patriardiy. Their wide accep- cnvin*nment where women can honestly hope that last Fetmiar>'*s sucxessfiil TJdce Back fice has ruled thc tievice is an illegal weapon, Rochester's lunch featuring John E. than anything else. This isn't because ofa few taiKe and "bankabOity'' aie cellectcd in media, discuss issues such as labels, , self- the Night March will be repealed In 1991 and Intends to prosecute anyone using it In a Frohnmayer of the National Endowment ft>r isolated crazies — this is the mainstream. arts and entertainmem. According to Victoria image and images of the other, oppression, (maybe in the spring when the weather Is bet­ unlawful manner. Vfe don't know where you the Arts. Demonstrators In Boston rallying for the Brownworth. writit^ in thc PbiltKleiphia Gsty men. internalized homopht^ia, fears, myths ter). Such aaions can create solidarity between buy them, but if they're that good, go find and assumptions. The picket line protested attempts by the Rochester Artists Coalition Against Censorship plclcets on Oct. 1st. ife *MV" right wing to restrict or abolish the NEA and Photo by Ellen Mahaffy The idea for the workshop originated with "I was upset, however, by the radio and "Be>*ond Barriers: Women as Allies to deny fundirtg to artists whose work deals with ing to keep some pressurc on locally, and in­ sexuality or politics; Frohnmayer's endorse­ press coverage. Our demonstration was inter­ itiate some action when Coumy Legislature Women," a workshop preted as being anti-NEA, apparently because designed for leshian. bisexual and heterosex­ ment of the pledge not to crcate "obscene" decides on its budget. The Cotiservative Coali­ liOtters work now required of artists who rcceiveNE A ofthe presence of five anti-NEA prtrtcstors. All tion in the Legislature seems to have targeted ual women by Phiiippa Proudfooi and Anais ofus were identified as anti-NEA! It was real­ Salibian at thc Women's Encampment for grants; the high cost (S^O. a plate) ofthe lun­ the arts." cheon, and the lack of an open meeting for ly irresponsible, mote people and companies contributing a lot Peace and Justice in Romulus and ar Interna­ The anti-NEA protestors included John In time, their own venom eventually isolates unable to print it in October due to spac^:^ artists with Frohnmayer. "Frohnmayer's speech was sort of double­ Regan Jr.. Republican candidate for thc 30th opposes more money than Philip Morris. Does this them from the rest of us. But before that oc­ tional Women's Day celebrations in Rochester. speak." Lyons continued. "He's trying to save limitations. Tbe letter itself foUows.) TWo RBWN members were also impressed by In his address, Frohnmayer stated his op­ congressional distria, who recently brought mean that we should find out who all of these curs, they can do a great deal of harm to reputa­ thc Endowment with as little restriction as Oliver Nonh to Rochesier. A man carrying a Miller boycott companies are and boycott their products? a similar forum held at the first Nationa! Bisex­ position to restrictions on the NEA and called tions, friendships, homelives and professional for accessibility of the arts of all American possible. But he's a lawyer and will com­ Regan sign shouted homophobic statements: To the Editor: I personally can nblem at hand, which is Jesse Helms. I cut each other a little slack. Give one another "It's important that artists press for our NEA ' writing letters to editors, but an issue has would think the best way to solve a problem "Collaboration" will be facilitated by Sali­ Senate rejection on Oct. 16 of a bi-panisan thc same consideration we would like for ct>mpn>mise bill passed by the House of rights and against rcstrictions. Wfe'rc just try­ recently developed throughout our ctmimuni- such as Mr. Helms would be to campaign oureelves in the same situation. in bar incident bian . a kHral massage therafii4tii counselor and ty that 1 feel I must address. against him to remove him and his prejudiced lb the Editor: writer who hits practiced reev'aluation counsel­ Representatives, which would have eliminated Rather than simpl)- acxept a rumor, question the obscenity restrictions. It seems that there is some concem about views fn>m public office. It could happen to you! An unfonunate in­ ing for 10 years and taught for eight and has U.S. CONGRESS: the rights of gay youth to obcain equal educa­ its origin, and question the character ofthe Joan Lyons of thc Visual Studies Workshop, a senator fn>m North Cantlina who presents I would hate to hear Miller Brewing Co. or persd by this bar fbr the in liberation and spirituality. a member of the Coalition, told the Empty for rc-election this month. Incumbent Frank Incumbent Assemblyman James Nagle (R. a sound old adage. Even more, give one Closet. "I thought the protest was wonderful. views are not accepted by those in the com­ like what Jesse Helms is saying about the gay another the benefit of doubt; situations and past two years, was wrongfully and unjustly The workshop planners are securing sign Horton (R-29th) has generally been OK on gay C-155th) has been receptive to gay and lesbian munity who know of him. Since he has been community is right." accused by the owners of an incident that language interpreters and child care providers. There were around 90 people, and it was a real­ and lesbian issues, and deserves our vote. Hor­ lobbyists, and can be described as personable, circumstance are usually more complicated ly good range of artists from all over. I was ver\' a member of the Senate since 1972, he appears Dennis Corbett than rumors permit. never occtired. The>' claim they saw the inci­ and need to know how many women will re­ ton is challenged by Alton Eber (D), Peter Dc but weak on issues. He has admitted fears of to hold a lot of weight within that area of the (Fd. note: According to a representative af dent themselves. With no justification or ex­ quire rhese services. Ft>r more inf<>rmation or encouraged by the show of community that's Maun) (C) and Donald Peters (RTL). voting sgainst the wishes of a far-reaching If we are to succeed as a gay community, we starting to happen. federal govemment. It is also important to note Helping People with AIOS, Inc., Miller beer must stand together as brtHhei^i and sisters. We planation, the patron was barred from the to_register, call C.ynthia *>r Ann at 271-0265 and 50th congressional district Rep. Louise suburban and rural conservative constituen­ that he is a member of the (Committee on was nat served at Pining for Dollars V.) may squabble amongst ourselves (all families premises. Slaughter (D) has improved her record since cy. Nagle has voted for thc bias crimes bill in Agriculture and Nutrition, which is involved sometimes do), but we must not help We've seen lots of bars come and go in our her yeats as a state assembly member. Slaughter Albany. in the tobacco industry. His name is Jesse Rumors, lies perpetuate the insidious destmctiveness caus­ community. And after loyally backing and sup­ has indicated overwhelming support for all Challenger Roben Cook (D) returned a gay- Helms. ed by rumors, lies, and vengeful backstabbing. porting this establishment, it's sad to know gay-rclated legislation described in her 1990 positive survey to the Political Caucus. Cook survey rc^sults, as published in thc OctoberfC Due to the poUtical views of Helms, an ac­ As healthy individuals, we are capable of more that these "business p>eople" would lie and Final Caucus surveys in on said he fyersonally knows gays or lesbians, but can destroy In contrast. Rep. John LaFalcc (0-32nd>has is unsure ^/hether any Opctily gay persons arc tivist group called ACT UP is demanding that than this; to be a healthy community, we must make up a fabricated story such as this. To the Editor: a poor track record on lesbian and gay issues. on his campaign slaff. He Y«is proniiscd to the community boycott Miller beer products. rise above it. In our society it's hard enough to survive 1990 c I was a bit .surprised to disple out there—anyone Closet What at first I thought to be an ad lurri­ In conclusion to last month's review of polic>' and fimding represent his mixed record obtaining its own human rights law. La Falce concept of domestic pannership legislation. company of Miller Brewing Corp.. hxs made could make up a fabricated story that is si> far ed out to be a letter of waming entitled "It (Ed. note: We agree that gossip and vicious political candidate surveys, the Rochester Les­ on AIDS-related issues. While he favors in­ opponents arc Michael Waring (R) and Ken­ Cook also favors an increase in HIV-related contributions to Mr. Helms. Yet, they also fetched and untme, that it could ruin you. So Could Happen To You." The problem which rumors are destructive and wrottg. V£t' must bian and Gay Political Caucus has compiled creased funding for HIV. including education. neth Kowalski (C.RTL). funding. donated mone>' to AIDS research and AIDS- be careful and watch the establishments you this leaflet addressed is the spread of gossip add that the phottycopied letter you refer to results of the final 1990 sur\'eys and summariz­ Pn>ud's priority is to stem viral transmission NEW YORK STATE SENATE: COURT JUDGES: related pn)jects. stand h>-. All the>' really c^are about is that dollar, and vicious rumors in the gay community. was inserted in your copy ofthe EC without not your patronage or friendship. ed candidates' stances on gay-related issues in at the expense of confidentiality. His bills have Homophobic State Sen. Paul Kehoe (R) is be­ No surveys werc received from judicial can­ To give exact figures, Philip Morris donated included mandator)' testing for marriage No doubt ever>' one is familiar with this sort our knowledge or approval. It had been sub­ Name withheld by request se\'erai pertinent races. ing challenged by Samuel Casella (D) and Louis didates except from Michael Miller (Family S 20,(MK) to Mr Helms during the entire decide of thing. Either it has happened to you, or to mitted as a letter to the editor, but we were A focal FK>int ofthis year's elections will be licenses and mandatory reporting of HIV Pasqua (RTL). Kehoe is a leading opponent of Court) and Theresa Johnson (City Court). Both of the '8()s. In retn>spect, they dimated someone you know. Harlier this year, a man several State Assembly and Senate races. Survey status. the Bias Related Violence Bill, in its form of these candidates have good community $390,0(K) n) AIDS pmjects in the last three 1 greati) dislike began circulating the mmor r% responses fn>m sc;veral Assembly candidates A recent contact tracing bill met with mix­ which includes as a pro­ respect and excellent abilities. Elizabeth (Bet­ years, as well as S200.- that 1 had bilked a retiied doctor out of J5.(KK). and fmm incumbent Attorney' General Robert ed responses in thc gay community because tected category. The Republican Committee ty) Pirjc. ninnir^ for state Supceeme Court, and jects thn>ughout the country. In fact, just Ixst Bijt what could I do about it? Being affiliated Abrams indicate that Rochster*s gay. lesbian, of thc doubt that confidentiality would be responsible for allowing bills to be introduc­ William Bristol, candidace for Monroe Coun­ month. Spartan Beverage of Rochester, in con­ with a major downtown law firm, I am aware bisexual and AIDS communities are noc ig­ maintained if the bill were enacted, especial­ ed to the entirc floor for the vote has held this ty Coun. arc also outstanding candidates. junction with Miller Brewing Co., made a that there is aaually very little recourse nored, and are not merely tolerated by many ly without the protection of a general gay civil bill hostage each year, although there is great substantial donation to Dining for Dollars, the available to the victim of vicious lies. If you The Empty Closet rights bill. politicians. Much of )990*s field of candidates support for its passage across the state. Helping People With AIDS benefit held at Mid- have ever been in this situation, you kruyw that stands firmly behind gay-positive legislarion. John favors current HIV public policy and Sen. Ralph Quattrociocchi (D- 55th) has town. ACT UP threatened to boycmt and pn>- nothing can really be done. To acknowledge is available at... According to his surve>' response. Attorney increased spending on AIDS. She opposes been unsupportive of gay and lesbian issues. tcst if Miller Products weie served at this event. slanders tmly seems to give them credence, AIDS Rochester Inc., Anthony's 552. Avenue Pub. Bachelor Fomm. Cheesy Eddie's General Abrams worked for a New York City mandatory reporting of HIV status and op­ He is adamantly opposed to any version of the 1 find it very difficult to understand why though it requires a herculean effort to ignore Gay Alliance. Genesee Co-Op. Joseph's. Uberty. Mama Tacone's, Parkleigh Paul's gay rights bill 20 years ago. while he was poses mandau>ry testing. hate crimes bill, becau.se he feels that the PACs picks ACT UP feels that boycotting Miller is the them altogether So what do you do? Grocery. Rochester Body Club. Rosie's. Silwood Books. Tara. Video Channel Village Borough President ofthe Bronx. .Since then, Domestic partnership legislation is a fairly motiv'ation ofa crime by hatred docs not make answer to changing the bigoted and Vt^ll, we bill ourselves as agay community. Abrams' actions helped eliminate New York new concept to have received attention from the crime worse. He is against any categoriza­ The fotiowing arc tenutive endorseipencs Green Bookstore, Wild Seeds Bookstore & Cafe. WoHdwide News. Mike's State Street by thc Rochester Lesbian and Gay Polittcal Ac­ homophobic views of Mr. Helms. In his 1984 And. like any community, we are bound to Pub. Jazztperry's Uptown. Whispers and Metro State's st>domy laws In his current position, the sUte legislature. This bill would extend tion of victims that would be aided by the bill campaign alone, Mr. Helms raised S16.5 have a number of disturbed or even sick in­ he wxs the first to attack AIDS-related health and bereavement benefits to unmarried through increased penalties, because "a crime tion Committee. milli

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In rdated news, the International Lesbian In­ In Vermont, two gay men won primary elec­ Thc Adrian Daily Telegram printed names it. The>' werc unable to suggest any liicely formation Service (ILIS) of Amsterdam has tions. Ron Squire won an uncontested race for and addresses ofthe men charged, who have suspects, however Taylor said that in the Newsffronts a state (icmeral Assembly seat, and Howard lost jobs and been made to feel like pariahs; course of their political actions, ACT UP has formed a committee to encourage lesbians in $outh Africa. This resulted from a meeting Russell won a slot (by a very close matgin) as several ofthe men, who are married, arc now made many enemies, inlcuding thc govem­ with tepfesentatives of Malibongwe, a con­ one of six Democrats vying for a state Senate facing divorce. The trials held so far have been ment, church oiganizations, and corporations Holocaust survivors' ot naked children were not obscene and do guests or park security. However, while the difficult for many of us. Some ofour membeis seat. conducted in an atmospherc of overt hostili­ such as Philip Morris. have been voting Republican for several ference of South Africafi women ftghtii^ pcMscss artistic value. couples were dancnng, a Disneyland security apartheid. -Philadelphia Gay News, Gay Community ty. Jeff Swanson. dircctor of the Michigan -Chris Neaion, Gay Comtnunity News daughters meet The obscenity trial was thc fiaf ion*s first of officer ("Cheryl," Badge No. 69) was decades. This debate within our ranks scrat- News Organization Tor Human Rights, which coor­ <4icd the core of our souls—were we a gay Organizers hope that thc South African an an gaBery. Spcccaion in die Hantihon Coun­ overheard ceUing park guests: "11»ert was a Committee witt become an all-inclusive dinated the protest, said **These guys arc get­ ty Municipal Courtroom gasped and then ap- lawsuit 10 years ago; I hope they all die ftom group of RepubUcans or a Republican group ting lynched." On die weekend of Nov. 16-18 In New c^gays? People had ciiffctcnt answets but we African Lesbian NctiJirork tn the future. The plaudtd and shouted when the vcnKa was AIDS — chey are going to die from AIDS group can be contacted by writing COC, -Chris Nealon, Gay Commuity News Hampshire; Jewish Lesbian Daughters of were all unanimous thac we wam nothing to Dinkins appoints announced. anyway. . RtxzenstHaae 8, 101<> NX Amsterdam, the Holocaust Stirvivocs 0LDHS) wili meet foe do with Helms. Fifty-two percent of our Protest police discussion, support, and networidng around Comcmporary Arts Center Ditector Dennis Exier says that the commem ftom the on- Netheriands. luembcrs voted by mall balloc to endoi^ t^vo lesbians; a issues foced fay chHdren of survivois. Barrie called the trial **a ma|or battie for an, duty officer was totaUy inexcusable and should -ffl/C (los Angela) Gantt, 48 percent wanted to demand that harassment of JLDHS has become an imemational for creativity and for freedom for all not be tolerated by Disneyland officials. *'Her ACT UP Helms be thrown out ofthe Republican Psuty third conies out ofganiaeation, with people from Australia and Americans. * He said diat Cincinnati is "basical­ commencs were cleariy homophobic and in ly a tt>lenm commtmity.. .^BMr air the vast very poor taste, espccisdly since petsons with Not one single member expressed siyport for Micl^igan men New York City Mayor David Dinkins ap­ Niearagua in addition to its mcmbefs fnom the Lesbian favored as pointed two open lesbian attome>'s to United States and Canada. The membersti4> middle (of America) and we are not dumb." AIDS were dancing th« evcnifig," he said. Ex­ Helms. Over 2Wi demonstrators came to Adrian. office hit •Associated Prc», Philat§elphia Gay News ier has demanded in writing that Disneyland Ridding the Senate <^ Helms will accomplish municipal judgeship positions as part of the grows each year as moie lest>ian daughters of Mich, on Sept.22 to protest the treatrnent of first four judicial appointments of his survi vi>rs leam of the existence of chis unique puNicIy apologize for the officer's offensive two goals; first, g;xy men and lesbians will no flrst''out" NY 17 men arrested in June on charges of'*gross and derogatory comment, but Disney officials longer have this hatc-mongcr in Coi^ress and by arson administration. support group. indecency'' in a local park. But Dinkins and his staff werc apparently JLDHS is for lest>ian5 whose parenc or refuse Co reciun his phone calls. secondly, it will help restore the im^e of Thc "Adrian 17" wete arrested June II after Days bfefoie it was scheduled to open, ACT Gays dance at Republicans since Helms* hate has over- surprised when a third appointee—former pacents survived che Holocaust. This Indudes a two-and-a-half-month investigation during DP/New York's new office on West 29th St. New York State Sen. Karen Burstein— shadtfwed the work of supportive Republic^ans This month's elections will determine the pacems who wete in Nazi Europe or North Disneyland like Rhode Island Sen. John Chaftee and Reps. which camouflaged police videotaped men was damaged by a fire caused by arson. introduced her "life partner" to the Africa in 1933 or later aiKl who survived death Chris Shays of Connecticut, Bill Green of New fate of thiee openly gay and lebian candidates having sex in secluded Island Park. Six men Because the petson who staned the firc ap­ Mayor and thc sp^ectators attending the camps or in hiding, by passing as luxi-jews, or Lesbians and gay men danced with partners who won primaries in September, including have been convicted or have pleaded guilty, parently had a key to the office, firc officials swearing-in ceremony on Aug. 20. by managing to leave for safer territories. Gay GOP comes Vbrk, John MiUer of wsishington state and Con­ a candidate whi> would be the first out It^bian receiving sentences ranging from 90 days to and the press have implied that ACT UP of Che same sex at Disneyland on Sept. 15, 10 nie Morella of Maryland." Prior to the cetemony. Dinkins' press office Jewish and non-Jewish lesbian partners of years after two gay men were ejected from out against Helms or gay pei7>on in the New York State legislature. three-to-five years. members surted the fite themselves. had identified only two of the appointees as daughters arc welcomed, and may attend Disneyland for dancing together. Anti-apartheid Deborah Cilitk won the Oemocratic Party Critics of the police investigation have Thc firc was doused by a sprinkler system, being lesbian: Rosalyn H. Richter, former ex­ workshops specifically for partners. For fur­ Andrew Exier. 29. of Palm Springs, Califor­ In an unprecedented aaion. one of the nomination for thcGencral Asscrmbly race on chatgcd that the surveillance is a thinly- causing some archive and xerox machine ecutive direaor of the Lambda Legal Defense ther information, wrice Box 6194. Boston, MA nia, said the same-S€:x dancing was in com­ largest gnnips of gay Republicans in the nation organization Sept. 11 in the Manhattan legislative district that disguised "witchhunt'' against gay men. and damage. ACT UP members said that they werc and Education Fund, and Paula J. Hcpner, 02114. or call (617) 321-4254. memoration of the 10-year anniversary of has announced their suppon for Democrat includes part of Greenwich Village. One of her have raised questions about the fairness ofthe morc upset by the way officials and media supervising attorney for New York City's Disneyland's ejecting him and a male dance Harvey Gantt. Cianct is seeking the North includes gays defeated opponents, Robert Rygor, is also six trials conducted so far. treated the fire than by thc damage that was Human Resources Administration. <>penly gay. partner fn)m the Tomorn>wland Terrace on Carolina senate seat now held by Republican The South African Ot^nization of Lesbian During the protest, the gay and lesbian mar­ done. Sources said that Burstcin's decision to in­ Cincmnati art gaUery Sept. 15. I980. after disco dancing together. Jesse Helms. and Gay Activists has been granted full Glick. a longtime progressive activist^ won chers were confn>nted by about 300 conser­ "The media want to try to say that it was troduce her life partner was a form of public The two men sued the park and in I9H4 won Republicans for Individual Freedoms has membership in the United Democratic Fn)ni. over 43 percent ofthe vote and took more than vative counter-demonstrators, who tried to an inside job done by a disgruntled ACT UP coming out. "not obscene" a lawsuit which effectively reversed sent a letter of support to Gantt at his campaign South Africa's leading anti-apanheid organiza­ twice the numbers of votes won by her nearest block access to the Adrian courthouse, where member," said ACT UPs Karl Taylor. "Thats Dinkins appointed Hepner and Burstein as Disneyland's 1957 policy barring same-sex headquarters in Charlotte, N.C. RIF was form­ tion, which has over a million member* and oppdies. Cilick's victor>' over her Republican opponent ordered the gay protestors to move across the up — why would wc want to bum it down?" named Richter as a jui^c on thc city's Criminal who were charged with obscenity for ex­ is very likely. She would become the first out street; in response the protestors shouldered On Sept. 15. Fxler.says. 12 male couples and across the eastem seaboard. The inclusion of the gay gn>up followed les­ ACT UP members said that the fite marshall s Court. hibiting the work of Robert Mapplethugh to the courthouse, wherc two female couples danced for 50 minutes at The endorsement was the first and only time bian and gay participation in the Conference office had apparcntly given up investigating -Lou Chibbaro Jr., The Washingfon Blade. were acquitted on Oct. 7. York State legislature. harassment by police continued. the Tomorrowland Terrace to the live band the gn>up has endorsed a Democrat. It was not for a Democratic Future, held inJohannesbut>; the incident and had deliberately downplayed The jury, made up of people who had little "Discovery." which played top 40 music. The an easy decision according to RIF founder and in 1989. Clroups invt>lvcd include the Gay and knowledge of an. ruled that the photographs couples participated in both fast and touch Presiden CJary Bastian. "This decision to help Lesbian Organization of Witwatersrand. conuining "homoemtic" images and images dancing without any confninutions fn>m - a Democrat win a Republican Senate seat was founded by well-known activist Simon Nkoli

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No, everyone doesn't have to be or think freedom and gender mobility against the alike. Class consciousness doesn't mean OPINION negatives of christocapttalist body-denial. uniformity. It does mean, howevet, soUdari­ Could represent, I say, because until the spirit ty. It means realizing that an injury to one is of pre-christocapitalist mindfulness ofthis real, an injury to all. Beliitid tlie myths & masks Tire belong, non-transubstantiated body and blood of ours It means all the self-supportive taaics and Fumbling the issue of class is reclaimed, there is no assurance that we will postures that — though they may seem quaint vrho sets agendas, who & ^who doesn't be saved by our ways of loving. after the parched decades of Eisetihower, Nix­ The l^/b movement won't succeed, won't on and Reagan, not to mention the stifled she clung to him sometimes because she felt a meal at Edwards' and that a hell of a lot of even remain a movement, unless it focuses its By Saaaa Strauss Mom married up, although not too far up. weakens our movement millennia before them — offer any oppressed A weak b^iinnlng: ridiculous writer's block. She was lucky enough to be able to quit her as if he kept her from being ignorant and work­ pct^le live on considerably less than $12,000 awareness of as a class and elevates the group a way out and upward. It means, ing class and alone and out in the street col­ a year. Tve lived on less than $11,000 a year class attributes of queerness to their rightful 1 have no idea how to approach the subject of job, have two chUdren and stay home to care therefore and above all, survival. class, but I know it's vitaUy important for mc for them until I was l4 and my brother was lecting deposit bottles. since I graduated from college, which admit­ place. • • • with internal animosities to do so, because class has so al^fected my life 11, although her getting a job was more a tc!suit tedly wasn't that long ago. I've chosen to live The terms are hard to define. What makes modestly ~ using a bicycle and thc RTS buses That^s why gays/lesbians/bisexuals are in a in ways Tve just begun to see. of my father's pusbii^ her because tic plan­ By Jack Bmd^am-Spula Mom's family working class and Dad's barely for transportation, renting a three-bedroom class by ourselves, and why we must build af­ Fve discussed class with many friends and ned to leave the marriage than any desire of In the political culturc ofthe late 20th cen­ middle class? Education? Luck? Skill? Who house with two roommates, keeping my cnter- tury United States, it*$ not polite to discuss fectional communities based on our unique Evolution of social dasses created oppressive acquaintances in the last few months. One hcfs to further her career or re-cfuer tbe ex­ fiiend and 1 began to talk about it recently, but citing world of work. knows what Mom's fatlier would have ended tairmient budget fairly low, although I never socioeconomic class, and for that reason gifts. doing with his life; she was only two when he we Slopped dead almost immediately because She married into the middle class, but has denied myself a film at the Little before the especially we must discuss it. We live in a time But I look around myself today and what do died. Dad's parents did work — Grandpa as system that still controls our lives he insisted on defining terms first — a good never, as Zandy says, belonged to it. Mom's past management's dispute with their projec- and place afflicted with a stunted and cen­ I sec? A progressive political movement, in­ a high school industrial arts teacher. Grand­ idea, but one can spend so much time defin­ took shape in shame, in a tist of things my tionists escalated recently. sorious political culture* and we have a respon­ cluding of course the lesbiani^y/bisexual ma as a dietician. Is the difference that they By Donald B. Ziegler, Jr. Lesbian and Gay ing terms one never gets to the subject being brother and I couldn't do for fear other peo­ sibility to blow it away with, you should par­ movement, that has largely fumbled the issue Tbday, in the last decade of the 20th cen­ were skilled, (rained workers, and that Mom's Focus, AU Pcoplc*s Congress dtsctissed. So Vm going to plut^e into tbe ple would think us "ignorant." We couldn't don the expression, straight talk. of class, and that is therefore weakened by in­ tury, we can witness a great, woridwide strug­ parents weren't, that after her fiuher died, her The persecution or tolerance of lesbian and writing, mostly in the fotm of journal entries, chew gum with our mouths open or fight or The terms are hard But before I get down to that, tet me in­ temal contradictions and animosities. gle between the bosses and workers. The mother had to work as a bank teller and in gay people has fluctuated throughout history. and hope the terms define themselves belch without cxcusii^ ourselves or wear jeans troduce myself in the context of class. My own I have lots of questions. For instance, what bosses will do anything to maintain their other unskilled, low-paying jobs, had to live What ruling class has ruled during a particular somehow. or old clothes to school or fail to write thank- to define... I think allegiances are mixed. On both sides of my are we doing, or even contemplating, in regard power. One of the most potent tools in their with her parents and send Mom to live with epoch has determined whether lesbians and • • you notes after receiving gifts or swear or be fsunily are generations of farmers and workers to the apparent class gulf between lesbians and arsenal is to divide the workers into hostile other families when she got desperate, because the key word is gay men have been accepted or not. mean to other children or make insulting com- in the United States, Ireland and Poland. Lots gay men? Between working class lesbians and groups. White workers are pitted against Black Janet Zandy. in the introduction to thc book there were no child care centers in the '40s and During so-called primitive times in pre­ nnents behind anyone's back or make too much of coat miners, factory workers. And workers gay men and middle- and upper-class lesbians workers, women workers are pitted against she edited. Calling Home: Xf^rkittg-Class she had to work to support herself and her "choice." recorded history, gays were an equal and in­ noise, lest someone judge us 'ignorant.' in the home, not very affluent homes at that. and gay men? Between the media image of gay male workers and gay workers are pitted Wotnen^s Writings (Rutgers Univeisity Press, daughter? life (as in, for example. Parting Glances) and tegral pjrt of thc communiiy. It was in this 1990) mentions reasons it's so difficult to But it backfired on her in some ways, Many people don't live modestly by choice, From the '2<)s thru the '60s my father's against straight workers, etc. and while all I think the key word is "choice." It seems the reality of the street or factory or army? matriarchal period that a-verencc for women define our terms when discussing ciass in the because when I got old enough to have a vague though, and some of those working in the parents ran a netghborh

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8 THE EMPTY CLOSET November, 1990 orwn ^o^w^erjmiLen.t: What I also did was to introduce a modified version of that original legislation, which ad­ INTERVIEW dresses some of the concems that the city's arul brave, but I would have to type for 18 administration had over the scope of protec­ sions we draw strength and support. by the Free My IVople V>uth Group validates hours at least! But there were great perfor­ the power of youth-led movements ft>r tion and the amount of pov^r that is entrusted By Lori Matocha The moming plcfiary sessions brought mances by poet Rosario Morales; music by an tog«^her women artists and activists represen­ freedom. to city agencies to be involved in the enforce­ A cele-^onfeience hoiKKed the work and vi­ African-American gsty man, Btackberri; non- ment process. Some of these are son of non- sion of Audre Lorde on Oct. 5-8, in Boston, ting women whose voices tend to be silenced The eye to eye work sessions sought to bring pomographic, non-opprcsslvc but highly even within feminist communities, women together groups of women, and thc few pro- Keith St. John: negotiable: human rights proteaion fbr gays Mass. Lorde is an African-American lesbian erotic belly dancing by Fahamisha Patricia arui lesbians, Pm not budgingonthat, but Idid feminist poet, mother, and warrior who has who must struggle not only against sexism but feminist men who were in attendance, who Btown; a tribute to Black lesbian poet Pat also against white supremacy, classism, share a common form of struggle against op- compromise on some other provisions in the influenced an entire genciatkm of political ac­ Parker; a tribute to thc black gay poet and ac­ original law. And that amended version is tivists. Hertxxjks include The Black Vnicom, , ableism, anti-semitism, ageism, piession. There were groups for African- tivist Joe Beam, and countless other incredi­ "double minority" and imperialism. These women were all truly American women, lesbian Asian and Asian- before the Coundl right now, my original piece Zami: a New Spellittg of My Name, axid The ble performances. By Jefr Lehigh of legislation is in committee, but it's the lat­ Cancer Jourttals, brave warriors in the .struggle for liberation as American women, Arab women, Jewish At theckwingof theccle-confcrence, Audre Keith St. John, an Albany Alderman* became they challenged us to confront our assump­ women, women with disabilities. Native ter version that we're trying to put forward The conference was called **1 Am 'V[)ur Lorde made her Umg*awaited address to the thc first openly gay Black elected oificial in the now. Sister: Forging Global <:onnec*tions across Dif- tions, biases, and fears by simply telling the American women, Latina women, women of audience. As could have been piedicted, it was country last November. He sits on a 15 member truth about their lives and their responses to mixed herit^^e, Chk*ana women, women with BC\ How goes the bias crime aa? Is it doing feretices." It was clear by the end of the four inspirational and beautiful. Audre told us: "V(^ common council, whicb is similar to our City anything in New York State? day gathering that the more than 1,(HM) peo­ the tern>r of the oppressions they have histories of cancer, poor and working class are here—women and men—part of com- CourKil. Keith St. John in the NY State ijesbian & Gay Lobby march on AiiMiny in sur\'ived. women, middle class women, aiKl owner class KSJ: It's my understanding that it hasn't got­ April. Phota by T.L. C\/etan. ple in attendance had done justice to the mtmitjes gravely under threat. . .Wc are peo­ During his Oaober visit to Rochester 1 ^vas ten past the Senate, the Republican controll­ purpose. Some of the women were well known ac­ women, and 1 think there were even a ftrw ple ofthe earth saying, you took our land, you more groups. The diversity in evidence was able to interview Mr. St. John before he return­ ed Senate. Which is one of the important The mission of the gathering was to htmor tivists like the Native American lesbian have abused it, polluted it, and you must give ed to Albany. EC: Does your other half back you up? many people to suppon those kinds of ac­ overwhelming, and initially therc were some reasons why we're trying to ga a Democratic tivities that you have. Audre by engaging in the political struggles feminist poet and land rights activist, Chrystos. it back.. .this is what we begin with. , . .But EC: Have you been involved in activism? KSJ: He's very supportive. Fred is not as Chrystos offered a challenge to us all that day gnnips of women who felt marginalized by the controlled Senate this fall. 1 don't think it's go­ political as I am, so a lot of it is new to him, EC: What are your plans for the future? which she has helped to shape. The organizers on thc issue of concrete politicai struggle we KSJi V^ll. my background, my training is as ing to be fair, and the compromise that was with unwavering courage by stating "You are lack of a formal voice for their gn>up during must remember that we are here because so­ and frustrating in terms of the time that my KSJ: There are a ntmiber of issues that I cam­ of "! Am Yt>ur Sister" reached out and suc­ the laige gn)up sessions, but the eye to eye for­ an attorney. I spent four yeats when I moved crafted earlier this year by the governor, 1 don't ceeded in bringing together an intemationai mn my sisters until you know all our in­ meone else has made it possible. .. . Every­ to Albany, which was |ust five years ago, as a political aaivities take me away from the paigned on, there are a number of problems digenous people's .struggles acn)ss the conti­ mat helped to emptiwer those women who felt believe meas all the concerns of the gay and house and from him and from us being that are affeaing the city. What I'm going to community of feminists, lesbians and gay men. thing we do in life must contribute to the strug. legai aid attorney, representing poor people in lesbian communtty. nent, and fight side by side with us for our land invisible by bringing them together and giv­ gle because everything they do is to grind us together. do is to continue working on these issues, try­ Black wt>men, women of color, indigenous civil matters. On top of that Tm on the coun­ EC: Was this your first visit to Rochester? rights.' * She then told us the details nt of the entire conference on the last upstate New Yt>rk, I was very close to accep­ working on the human rights bill and the gay truly herstory in the making. have renamed civilization." This is not an acceptable way for me and my that their civil rights have been violated. It pro- is gay, and it's sort of perceived as someone moming. The messages were strongly ting a position with the Monroe County Legal rights proteaion. Other matters related to Mab Scgrest, a white anti-racist feminist children to die. . . Because other women don't tec*fs people from unlawful discrimination in witffa double minority. Because ofthe faa that Each day consisted of moming plenaries. challenging and loving reminders to include Assistance Cx>rporation. labor issues I'm aaively involved in rightno w organizer from North Caroliru, emphatically have a voice, a say in their lives, we must use a variety of areas; housing, employment, the Black community is not as supponive of "work sessicms," and cultural events. Ntme of the most silent, the most unsetm. the most op­ EC: Do you think Rochester has grown in Just a host of issues dealing with education arxi these activities ever finished within the given told us that anti-racist feminist organizing is our voices, not to speak for our sisters but to public accomtxJations. credit transactions on gays as we might hope, I think that I've been "essential now." She went on, "TTie history of pressed women among us when we eng;^ in insist that our sisters' lives be recogniz­ aaivism in the past few years? able to bring together communities and have police relations with the community. time and in fact ran over time, often by several any kind of liberation work. the basis of discrimination of race, creed, col­ KSJ: I'd say so. certainly with Tim Mains' the right wing feminist mcyvernent began with ed. . . .This is what It has always meam to tne, or, natural origin, sex, sexual orientation, us work on common goals that strengthen. EC: Do you see the hate crimes bill being hours. This was a testament to the intensity of The cultural events at night were marathon leadership. I think there's been a lot and I was EC: How would you compare Rochester to the suffrage movement, and right wing we can't do it alone, it will be done, we will disability and marital status. passed in New York Stale? the work being discussed and presented, and poetry readir^s and musical feasts that amazed to hear of the number of gay and les­ Albany in activism and number of groups? feminism is not a contradiction in terms. There do it together. . . .VHe carmot ^xak with your EC: How has that been going? KSJ: I think the impediment to the hate it al.so pf>ints to the necessity of getting such represented the artistic powers of women and bian organizations that are in Rochester, 36 of activists together fn>m time to time. is currently Incxeasing pressure on white tongue, but we can listen and leam to KSJ: It's been slow going. TW<) years ago. KSJ: I 'd sa>' that Rtxrhestcr is more developed crime bill is the language regarding sexual feminists to become right wing, and this is a men from thnnighout the world. hear. . . . But then the next step is difference them. I understand. That's amazing. And I'd in its activism in the terms of the number of orientation, and until we get a change in the The format ofthe conference was based on Albany considered a similar measure, nowhen.' say with Tim's election and the visibility and decision that we will have to make in (lur lives Lupita, a Nicaraguan revolutionary lesbian Once you leam you are not all alone, use this near as far reaching as mine, and it was groups that it has. Certainly. Rochester is a make up of the New York Sute Senate, I don't several ofthe most fundamenul concepts that poet, tokl us, * AU my life, since 1 was 14,1 gave the focus that's been paid on the community, Audre has named and explained in her e\'ery goddamned day." difference to grow. That is empowerment dented bya 12-2 vote of the council. Ivcnow much larger city. I think about three times the think that what happens in any other state is Some of the most inspirational messages, my life to the revolution. But when 1 first fell . . . .Wc all need all of wbo we are; that is I think it's really done a lot for sensitizing and size of Albany. Albany's bten pretty aaive. too, going to have a significant effea on the suc­ writings. The>' are "e>*e ro eye." or confnm- introduced something which goes much fur educating people. And I think that aaivism has though, came fn>m lesser known locaLactivists in love with a woman, now that was truly a culture. And all art makes us more powerfully ther. but still offers the essential prirtection that given that fhe correct (Mimate in the city cessful legislation in New York. ting each other within our specific cx>m- revolution for me." been quite successful. munities, as an act of courage to create safe who shared their victories and roacks in aware ofwho we wish to become.. . .Thewar we're most concerned abo you cdel? for gay righis, it's becoming morc and more e\'entuaUy? spaces where we can build true movements thatop the Human Righis LJLW in May and KSJ: I'd like to be a role mup; "77ie real mt^ning of Free My People Youth Cn>up in Boston. They Lower East Side of New York City, shared a there is no telling. Look at us all here—look over HO organizations and individuals in the and other direct action groups become blew our ageist assumptions away by stating poem that she performs thrtiughout New York at what we have done!" and I really combine things so that it helps established. I would say thar We've reached a in the Senate over changes in the makeup of inclusive /lolitics," which rec(>gnizes that cify. One other strategy that's been taken is to others and I try to be a leader I try to show the .Senate, as a result ofthis November's elec­ when a conference^ takes place in a countiy flatly "We are not your future, we are leaders with her youth gn)up. the Dark Star Crew. "I create a Task Force thai \\c call the Task Force diversit) of groups like there is in Rochester. now. We want to try to make people feel Hke sfient my birthday last year surn>unded by a After a five-minute standing ovation. Audre people the imponance of \-aJues and con­ But it's a small city, and so / shouldn't expect tions, to change rhe likelihood of us seeing that has colonized women and people of col­ unnVfxmtT *I hf Human Rights C\)mmissjon fidence and how the benefits t)f hard work t an lej;is\;iMt>n passed in the near future in New or -An.>und thc v/orld. it is crucial that ^wc be all t>ur strugt^t:^ arc ttmnecicd, that we are not group of white boys who were calling me nig­ came up tin the stage to add one more thing. And that 'Iask Force is made up of ver>' pro­ for us ti> have the number of Uireci action alone. Making these ctmnections is power and ger. I spent my birthday last year in a police "I just want you all to know that I am three pay off — or how hard work can pay ijff b>' gr«»ups that vou do here We don't have as Vork State aivan; i>f our own positiotis within the existing minent local citi/cns. eivinu vou benefits. world order (as we leam to give voice to all we are tr>'ing to survive." car telling a white police officer how those years short of 6t) years i)ld." Then we all clap­ our struggles, it is vital that thn>ugh listening The>' then went on to tell us of their recent white boys had just called me nigger I spent ped and cried some more. By the end of the to each other we better inform our politics, victory in bringing a suit against the Boston my birthday last yt^r in a police car reminding conference, there was definitely a sense of then we arc able to move to the next step and Pt>lice Department for the use of illegal stop a potice officer that those white boys had the sisterhtKKl in us all that 1 have never experienc­ trarvsform that language into action); "Tbe mlc and search uctics. This illegal practice is in­ power to call me nigger I spent my birthday ed before at any conference,' T Am Your Sister'' ERA DEVILLE of cultural workers,'' which recognizes anists creasingly being used against African- last year in a jail with a white boy's blcMKl cm was an e\'ent that will be remembered and us­ as soothsayers, the cr communities my hand reminding myself that I AM NOT A ed as a mugh sharing our vi­ results. 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INTERVIEW Mother's Clothes, which catne out of that teacher, but she definitely was involved in the EC: Are you seeing anyone right now? because 1 remember I used to do that a lot minister's wife kind of mentality They never PP: Am I cunentiy seeing anyone right nowi Romanovsky & PhiUips when I was Uttte. I ft>rgoc how mtich bin it was. foyfiilly embraced it, but to this day my mother No, Tm playing the field. Interview that F had sta>'ed with a friend, and the next EC: Do yiHi have any plans fiur a solo aB>um? rwilly works at embracing it, or in Uke own- EC: Have either of you lost any friends t< continued from previous page morning my father called me and said, come ByJcffLch^h RR: A solo? No definite plans, no. It's itig it and accepting and acknowkrdging it, and AIDS? I alst) inlcrvicwed Leah Zicari of Buffalo, on home, everything's OK, but it was never Coming Out Wtek evetits started with the something Tve thought about, but 1 think that knowing that this is who her Mm is. But it s PP: Oh, Ciod, yes. Yes. Uving with AIDS wasl who opened for Romanovsky and Phillips. discussed. And then about two weeks later, my popular and well known sitiging duo, our act together will be my priority for a long, a real effort for her, and there are times when written about otic of my dear fHends that 1 lost EC: How long have you been singing? father was diagnosed with cancer, so that took Romanovsky and Phillips, who appeared at lottg time There are some songs that I write she cries to me and wishes things were dif­ very cariy i>n, and I've lost others as recently LZ: W:IL singing protessionally, I would tell the family priorit» St) it never really got^ Nazareth College Arts Center on Oct. 7. Leah that don*t quite fit into our act, I might like to feient. But she understands that this is my Ufe as two months agti. r\e been fortunate actual­ you two ycais, but Tve been singing since I was discussed. My mom and I talk ahout it now. Zicari opened for them hefore a crowd of over do an album to get thetii out there, it might be and I have no desire to change and that I can't ly, beause my close inner ciaic of friends has a kid. and tourit^, this is my first tour. 8u I have every so often. 32(K) people. nice. But 1 don't ktuny when. change. That it \s not even a question of chang­ not been — I' ve not had anyone die fiom my many'different answers. EC: How long have you been singing ing. She knows what I do with Ron is for a liv­ close circle of friends other than John—who EC: This is your first album out? EC: Vh> you ccjnsider yourself a role model? Thc event was sponsored by Thc Friends of How do you feel about people looking up to Tim Mains, who brought thc duo co Rochester together? ing, and she knows that Ron and I were lovers was very eariy — a kmg time ago. But I havent LX: \^, it came out in May. RR: About eight and a half years. We started for seven years. had lots of really really close friends die. EC: Arc you planning a second alhum> you as a role mtxlel? for a concert. They were last herc in 1985, LZ: I don't think of myself as a role model, when they played at thc Xerox Auditorium. performing at a gay cotnedy club in San Fran­ LZ: Wdh yes, certainly — eventually, but I cisco, and it was a club that had mostly come­ couldn't tell you when. I would imagine i just think of myself as another queer, i'm do­ The thrill of seeing them in concert was ing my job. It just involves being In front, per- magnified when 1 was able to interview Ron dians; we were kind ofthe musical break bet­ within a >'ear*s time, because it came out in ween all these comics. So we started to do Ma>'. ftjrming in fn)nt of people. Poeple tend to put Romanovsky and Paul Phillips. entertainers in a heightened sort of place that E<': Are )'ou planning a fourth album? some funny songs, }ust so they would let us EC: Vtfere you involved in any activism? play there, basically. We would get up every LZ: C)h, yeah. 1 used to be involved with a I don't think is very realistic. I don't know, I Ron Ramanai'sky: Yes, we'a- going to start don't thmk I consider myself u role model. recording .sometime in the winter, probably week at an open mike and do the same four lot of different types of groups when I was in Romanovsky and Phillips currently have Janujry — so thai should be out in late spring. or five songs, we were terrible and exentually college. And one of the biggest things I did, three albums out, / Thought You'd Be Tkiler, f:C: How did you get inspiration for most it developed some kind of rapport with the au­ I was president of the Gay and Lesbian Alliance Tnmble in Paradise, and Etnotional Roller- or your songsr* dience, and we started to do full concerts as ofthe University of Buffalo in, I think it was coaster, and as Paul Phillips said at the con­ KH- Inspirations come from all kinds of I began to write more songs. So it was kind of *8S and *86. Plus some other, the usual school cert. 'Ron docs about 70 to 80 percent ofthe places. Mjmeof them unexpected. Things that a springboard ftjr a career. It's situ:e closed. We type political hacking and women's groups writing." Paul Phillips sang a song that he make me angry, like the Supreme <:ourt deci­ went on the n>ad aN>ut a year and a half after and stuff. I was really more, I did more in the w^nne, 7?^ Myself. The duo sang several songs sion in the Hardwick case. A lot ofthe scmgs that in the fall of I9K.^ and we've been tour­ gay clubs. irotn their three albums and some new '\>; • • been writing over the last six or seven ing pretty heavily since then. EC: How did things go with your mother? material. Leah Zicari's debut album. Wouldn't •v c been son>»s about growing up gay. FO, How do you feel about being a n)le Since this was the first concert that she's come That Be Fun? is out, and one song about the about exf>erienccs tliat we've had that nobody model? to hear you? inequality in bathrooms between men and else has really written about before, common Paul Phillips: I love and hate it. I have a real LZ: Good. (She laughs.) She said 1 pn>bably women was made even funnier by the actions experic-nces like being thc last one picked for love/hate relationship with it. I really do. On had a hafder time of it than she did. Soniething Above, Ginny Apuzzo. Right ofthe interpreter who signed for thc song. All the haskcthaU team in junior high sch(H»i, or the one hand, I think it's important for gay to thttt eflfiect. She was fine with it. She seem­ received a standing tjvation at the end of the and betow, scenos from the having to tic-gay" the house when your people to have n)le mcnlels who are really out ed to, well, I heard from two friends that she concert und the trio led the audience in one RLAC picnic on Octol»er 8 in parents arc coming over to visit. Things like and gay, as opposed to, I mean befoie — I tnean en|o>'ed it. She appreciated my entertainment last song beforc leaving the stage and signing Ellison Park. that Dressing up in your mother's clothes. five yeat?» ago. 10 yeats ago and certainly when ability. She said I was a good entertainer and autographs. Photos by Ellen Mahaffy. Once wc started to .sort of get on that track, I was coming out. When I was first coming out I played the audience well. She had com­ pliments, but she didn r tell them to me wc found there was a real wealth of ex­ I had no n>le models. The oniy role models A supporter dons a Queer Nation sticker. periences that we've hac! that we could write I had were Liberace, who wxs totally closeted, Photos by Ellen Mahaffy thou}^. but it was husy. about. Paul Lynd on the Hollywood Squares. I love EC: Was it difficult coming out to her? LZ: Apuzzo it when wc get lettef> from kids who are IK, Yeah. I came oul to them in 1985, my parents, F<: With Straightening lip The Hau.%c, did Continued from page 1 either of you have that experience, with it be­ 19 years old, just in coUege* or even in high it wxs very hard actually. I mean this was very "Maybe the next step is to widen thc lens," ing your mother? schl, who say that our music is what keeps hard t — it was like a coming out because she said. "We've got expertise, institutions, RR: Actuallx, it was a grandmother in our ' them .sane. TJiat touches my heart so much, she's ne\'er heard me perform this music, so contacts, structures. Wc could widen the lens c ase- rhai wasn't really what inspired thc* song becau.se I wish I had sblcm coming out your nrHHher or your father? Who had a more a lesbian issue, it's a women's issue. wc bad in fact clone sonic of that. to your family? Who was more accepting? difficult time with it? PP: Vtc'M. I came out to my father first. LZ: Well. both. I don't really know because * * We say ' Wc arc everyone, wc arc EC. Hoc*, wea-vour parents when you came €rvcr>'where.' We say that all the time. Unless out to them' Which is unusuaL I mean most ofmy friends it was ne%er talked about afterwards. I came came ont fo their mofhci>» first, and still aren't out t«) my parents, belio'e it or not. through we begin to widen the lens we'll leave a lot of RR M\ parents, tny father u a.s dead and n»> people out. Maybe thc next step in our com­ iT)ofher UJS not v*>u\ \X \\ -^N.iMii ui\ii\ -.»l"it»ui ti>iir or coHej;e (Wheaton t ollege in llhnois). It was really had no idea thai t>ne person or thc otlicr in the Ntrw York State bias biU, she said that I NV iU conUnuc to be vocai about it NVc otv tbe tk it any worse. I figured it was kind of the from the audience. In response to a ^ueslion sex as well as sexual orientation is included as Uvt: ye Jirs VAVVT W \>v:n V\\\\\ And \ came throuj»h a t.brislvan c*>\U>;e, very conservative piace. outside pressuring wiU make thc difference. about the inclusion of violence atcainst women a protected categ<)r>' in the currently pending Pittsburgh lu do a contcri. wliich she came And I came out the end of my freshman year same. It wasn't discussed. I had left a message That's one of the benefits of visibility. They legislation. to. that she undcrMOi^d more and was suppor­ and the\ sent nie to the school psychiatrist. see you and they know they'll have to account "Some folks in the Republican-dominated tive and accepting ><)iircail\ translormedmx it was like yeah, right I don't think this is the to you." Senate tried to negotiate with the Black and relationship w iih nn mother and it was a verv answer But they tried to tell me that the wht>le Several questions dealt with the Catholic Wild Seeds Hispanic Caucus, telling them if the> agreed positive thing. Tliai was a show we ditl in a reason I was this way was because I had a Church and Apuzzo's stand on church to dn)p sexual orientation* the>' would have in IVHS in I'Jtishurgh passixe lather, dominant mother kind of homophobia. "I am a Roman Catholic by Bookstore & Cafe their bill. Bur. courageously, the Caucus has EO. An* cither ont- (>( \ * ui seeing an\ * me else scenario, so ( thought well. I'll give that a try. foith," Apuzzx)said. "I've studied theology and stood firm with us, and they told the presently? So I sfK-nt thc next summer alone with ni> 704 University Avenue was in a convent for years. The Ratzinger let­ Republicans 'You'll have a biased bias bill."* RR: Yes. I'm invoked with somebodv else. father for three weeks — w' won't mean I understand it. but I never was com­ don't tnertell your mother." and when vou're loveless act I can imagine; I can't reconcile even let the bill get on thc floor and let pletely comfortable with it. It was a lot of 2() years old. ytui think, well. I guess he knows progressive politics myself to that." feminist iesbfan 8t gay Republican senators who fovor it be counted. pressure on us. And when we broke up we w hat he's talking about. A year and a half later. She commented that thc church is not deal­ nitilti-cullural iticls books Iklk about a minority holding a majority wea- realK afr.* d to tell our audiences, wc I came out to my mother because I leali/ed this ing with racism and sexism cither, and will hosta^f" knew it w as going to be a real downer In a con­ was stupid and I realized that I loved being gay have to suffer the consequences of those Vegetarian Cafe In answer to a question about Cio*'. Cuomo's cert to say. Iiey. we bntke up. but c\cniuall\ and I wanted to be gay and it was who I was Entertainment Weekly failures also. "What they're saying is that >'ou we had to do it. We had to live our lives. Maybe and I didn't have a choice and stuff. My mother refusal tt> address the lack of treatment for peo­ don't ha\'e a right to he a hutnan being. That's we're still nile models in sonic w;u had read a letter of mine, a love letter of mine ple with AIDS in New York prisons, Apuzzo Nazism; that's crazy. VMr can't be silent about EC: Have you ever done drag in the past? to a man when I first lold my father St) she had replied that she had been a longtime advocace that. Wt can't say, I'll just go in my closet.' RR: lne\'erdiddraguni . I was 25 and went known for a year and a half, but she lived with Queer Nation of the use of condoms in prison, and had "Wc live every minute of every hour of every FIGHT HOMOPHOBIA! pressured the sute comissloncr. "There is a to a bar with some triends in drag. \ think ever\ that secret that whole time instead of talking day on parole. What the hell are we sitting in man should have that experience, really, tosee to me about it. So it was really painful for her, new medical director of thc Bureau of Prisons, a closet for? Thc only way we are going to how the workl reacts to you differently when but my father's a minister, was a minister he's FiOHT ! Bob <;ricfingcr. who is a breath of fresh air He change that is to come out, and I respect the you're in a dress. It was ver\ enlightening. And dead now. But my father was a minister and knows the issues and is treating thc disease. process. But we need you. . .we need you in fact, that's how I wn>tc thc >ong, Afv my mother was a minister s wife as well as a zaps Monroe Ave. TUESDAY-SATUHDAY 11-9/SUNDAY 12-5 He isn't the commissioner, he works for thc desperately. You have to believe in your right commissioner, but I see a real turnaround. But to be." 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of AIDS Day. Jazzberfy*s Uptown, 50 8:30, Wilson ComnfK>ns 503. Call Gay AlcohoHcs Anonyasom* dos­ East Ave. 262-360. 275-9379. ed. St. Luke*s-St. SlnK>n Cyrene WEDNESDAY Church, 17 S Fitzhugh St.. 8:30 pim. MONDAY Spm, 232-6720. NOVEMBER Genesee Hospital, 224 Alexander Si. 28 MO NDAY Rochester Lesbian ActhNi CoaN- tkm. Gay Alliance k>unge, 713 Monroe Rochester Historical BowHng The G«y Alttmice of Cenetcc Lesbian and Gay Righis Project con- Laura Davis. A lecture and three-day Ave., 7 pm. Third Monday, lar^ya, Sodety^ Clover Lanes, 2750 Monioe ViHey (GACV) ta located «l 179 fererKe, Minneapotis, Minn. In conjunc­ semirtar by the author of 'The Courage NatkMial AIDS Day. AIDS Rochester 256-1202. Ave., 8:30 pm. 654-6461. AtianHc Ave. Peer iacilttaloffs tion with Creating Change conference. to Heal: A Guide for \A^men Survivors sponsors Women Against AIDS Unity WEDNESDAY hotUne, Sendey^Friday 6:30-9:30 944-9800 (ex. 706). of ChiW Sexual Abuse." Nov. 28-30. Breakfast at locaf restaurant. Call AIDS Friends Snpport Gvoup, sponsored Men's Writhig Cio««> (Gay WMM^ Logan's. 1420 Scottsville Rd. Lecture PM. 244-8640. Jerlann HlMcrlcy. Meet the author Rochester, 232-3580. by AIDS Rochester Inc. for friends of Rochester Women's Comnnmity 8 pm. Gay Alliartce, first arid third Nov. 28. 8-10 pm. Professional seminar of "Mari/* Spm, free. Wild Seeds people with AIDS or ARC or who are Chorus, rehearsals. Pinnacle Place, Thursdoysw For more infonnatk>n call Nov. 29. 9 am-5 pm; Nov. 30 8:30 Bookstore and Cafe, 470 University HIV positive. AIDS Rochester, 20 919 S. Clinton Ave., 6:30-8:30 pm. 244-8640 arKl leave a message for Jeff Ave. am-3:30 pm. Call Barbara Debes, University Ave., 7:30 pm. Second and Lehigh, or write to Gay Writes, care of WHiesley Center, 442-2986. NAMBLA. 12th annual conference of fourth Monday. 232-3580. Gay Alliance board of directors GAGV, 179 Allantic Ave.. 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Gay men and lesbians t woke up this moming, and expect to he les­ treatments for daring to acknowledge their it would make sense for her to want to bian when the day ends. 1'his is not a profound sexuality. Such daring was neither politically associate with people unaware of her sexuali­ statement, merely a point of departure for my correct nor socially acceptable. As a result of ty so that she could continue tt) minimize be­ thoughts on gay men and lesbians who choose their courage to acknowledge rather than ac­ ing lesbian. That is her choice; it is not mine. to live totally in the closet and would prefer quiesce, I UH} could finally raise my head in No one makes me invisible except me. iM the rest of us to follow suit. I hope my anger pride rather than keep it bowed in shame. I quit being invisible when I opened my eyes does not tum this opinion into a diatribe In light ofthe fact that coming out has heen and said that I loved women. I am deeply of­ by Susanne Justice against them, hut there are no guarantees. a long and difficult pnxress for me, I am fended and insulted now that a leshian friend I refuse to sit down and he straight. I am not angered at my lesbian friends who not only would ask me to be invisible again. I'm enrag­ particularly overt; I am, after all, from North chcMise to live in the closet, but have express­ ed. How dare anyone ask me to hide my sex­ who are open about their sexuality are powers Carolina, where people still vote for Jesse. But ed a desire for the ix'st of their friends to be uality to protect her? What do 1 look like, her of example to anyone struggling to accept a daily affirmation ofthe person I am includes equally unobtrusive. I accept their choice and mother? (I've been called one, but that's his/her . If our lives are examples an acceptance of my sexuality, regardless of whatever reasons they have for making it; what another story.) I affirm my sexuality each time of self-confidence and a belief in ourselves that who knows or cares. When I came out in a I do not accept is their wanting me to make I openly asslina in the same choice. I refuse to assimilate myself openly gay. cohorts, then wc will love and respect 1973. I ean assure you it was not pretty. My into tieing a quiet queer so than no one is aware Those of you who have never lived in a small ourselves and each other enough to continue friends dropped me immediately, my room­ that that lesbian Susie Justice has dared to go town in the South, where thc only gay person the ongoing struggle to be visible. mate asked me lo move out, and QIIERR was out in public again. known was thc one in the mirn>r, do not realize Being gay is not a small part of my life. It written on my door repeatedly. It washed off c:oming out was painful; being asked to how freeing it is to have a gay community in is my life. It is a choice I finally accepted before my dt want to choice for me. I refuse to sit quietly in the back I ftnally came out to my family. The invisihie furiates me. Passing as a straight person is no forget that ever}' time I am willing to stand up row of life because ofmy sexuaUty I'm sitting woman acknowledged the source of l>etng in­ longer one of my goals. Making straight peo­ for the person I have chosen to be, I am both up fmnt now, and I'm singing. Sometimes my visible — heing lesbian. ple comt(>rtahle by hiding my sexuality in their thanking and giving back to all the gay men songs are of pain and desperation, sometimes My slow pnicess of acceptance wa.s made presence is a game I no longer have to play. and lesbians beforc me who were willing to of joy and peace unbounded. But they are possible hy events such as l*arades When I deny my sexuality, that gives anyone take the risk. always the songs of a lesbian. Whitman said, and National Coming Out V(^k. These in tum else the right to disparage my being lesbian; If a lesbian struggling to accept herself in "I refuse putting from me what I really am.'* were the result of the gay men or lesbians at if I won't take up for the peison 1 am, who will? Cove Creek, N.C. ever met me, I would hope Amen and amen.

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My breakthrough came the summer 1 was him. It was exhilarating. He was totally com- 19 atid worked at a boy's rcskicfit camp on thc pUam. He left houis latei; in silence. Finger Lakes. After taps che counselons, WASP This gothic saga has many inscalbnenct. The Dark Stranger Soroetimes I rummage through memory Iflce Ivy League freshmen, would carouse on the By Eric Bellmann heard those words as a compliment, an obser­ nearby golf course telling jokes, drinking, shuffling through old theater playbills or sstatp- "What'senoi^?" has no answer other than vation that I had transcended hang-ups, had Ughting ^uts, rotting on the greens. The night shots, recovering and savorit^ a fotgotten in­ sometimes I know when it's "loo muchf" attained a fluid ease about sex, was cool. I was 1 guided the senior waterfront lifeguard, a Ccri- cident. That sooths ageing. My last Dark Struggling with food, alcohol, cigarettes (and easy. I could be had for a nod. imibia University football player too drunk to Stranger was my finest hour. EXMI was 27, shping). Tve realized Tm insatiable. I have On the ocher hand the men I met were stand, back to my camp, ray hands slid an emptiness that cannot be filled. It's t^cn unusual; the kind who didn't trick often. Life downward and he did not resist, grew hard. a lifetime to understand my expectations are in bars was too competitive; to maximize my I spent that night with him. Thc jar of Pond's GROWING UP unrealistic. From the start I knew I was hav­ chances and obscure my compulsion 1 leam­ Cold Cream I deemed essential for sun bum ing sex with men not because I liked sex, but ed to fish in odd waters: straight bars, dark pfovcd of more valtie "Beprepared**isagood by Eric Bellmann because I didn't know what else to do, was stivets, truck stops, all night diners. At my peak motto. I'd discovered a variation on magic: thc burcd or lonely, had already seen ail the cur­ I could dn>p a straight man from 20 feet, no impossible could be attained. I stmck gold. sandy-hatied, sleek, aiul had (heaven help me), rent movies or simply didn't want to go home. sweat. The bagging of that rare catch, a man In my 30s, tate one summer night 1 drove rwo tattoos. What is more he was depressed At first sex frightened mc and my involve­ who was not queer, was essential to the thrill. thtough the dormant city circling aimlessly (just laid off), married (kid carrier in the back ment was guarded, passive; eveiitiaally there Once past the flash point of anger, the snarl through empty streets. As I passed Manhattan seat), and ripped (six-pack, passenger's scat): were men who coaxed me and 1 was hooked. or feigned punch, many men would later in­ Square Park I caught sight of a bare-chested prime mix for adventure. At the moment when Vbu know what they say aboul practice. Con­ quire "How did you know to pick me?" I leam­ man sitting on a knoll. I parked, ambled in. he shifted from passive to active he muttered, temporary customs are too rational for my ed fnim a queen, who always made out well, The man was intently playing a small flute. His "haven't done anything like this since I was tastes; my desire has mixed within it a need that after being rejected nine times in a n>w shoulder-length hair, a feminine attribute, con­ a kid in San Diego.' * Don visited, without war­ for risk, and since I'm wily a medium-size fool, slie never failed to ask the tenth. There is flicted with his defined muscular body. He ning, every three months for about two yeais; I've lately opted for the sidelines. always .someone who will say yes. Thc tough nodded. His eyes greeted mc as he continued always polite, passionate, elusive. Then he Everything or nothing: the absence of go shopping. to play. He possessed those unsettling qualities disappeared. One year later he knocked at the balance. I leamed a lot about capacity to risk (and that defined hippies: openness, acceptance. door. He'd relocated his family to Seattie and My youthful obsessions had a kick, a subtle how risk is often the goal). I leamed to coast Just as I knew what he was from his style and was back visiting the in-laws. He came to see masochistic spin: those men who wished to through an evening and then pounce. I gain­ manner, he knew me too. Queen of the Night mc. I was deeply touched. When he left at continue seeing me failed to catch my fancy, ed a sense of control. I hoped life wcmld always meets M(M>n Child. He offered to come home noon, I letired. Like Gart>o. No comebacks. and those 1 found appealing did mn notice. be like this, that at every stage I could seek, with me. Just like that. He would do whatever That's a lie, of course. What's enough? The This is a common pattern in gay life. Recogniz­ and sometimes find, my Dark Stranger I wanted, he said, because he sensed "my desire for thc Dark Stranger fades but doesn't ing a fiamiliarpptte m offered no cx>n>fort. I was "Dark* is a metaphor for the unknown; need .*' That night there was no cynicism in my vanish. I Ue low for a long time, saturated by caught in a sea of miserable people. I adopted among my night visitors have been the dark- heart. my experience. Recently I felt the resuigent a telethon mode: how man)- men can I rack and the fair-haired. The Dark Stranger is the It's commonplace to pick up men at stop magnetism of another Dark Stranger, more up? The tally was gross, absurd, and quantity conquest who is normally una\'ailable. He may lights: erKlless left hand turns around the startling this time perhaps for the fact ofhis induced boredom. Out of a need to niman- be inexperienced but he is curious (has secrets block, tag at intersections, unexpected U-cums. white-blond hair. This tow-headed man smiles ticizc my behavior 1 shifted sideways into iden­ of his own) and when unleashed for adven­ Once on Monroe Ave. a wild man raced his car all the time, a grinning All-American surfer tifying the best frtnn the most. I had a top 10 ture obeys nt> rules, is anything but blase and ahead of me and stopped cold, laughed, child. He is anxious to win favor. Times have list in endless flux of redefinition, rather like the time spent with him can be magic, nanrmic. jumped out and ran back to mine, got in. struck changed. I know more. I ask more questions. listing 10 Best Movic*s: !0 Best Tricks. If the Stranger tells you his life st<)r>' and you a deal, kissed me while traffic continued I understand now his e^^^emess to please is the Ft>r a long time I pn>mcHed a philosophy bas­ listen, you may assume it is invention, a ra­ an>und us. That night we laughed a lot. hideous by-pn>duc-t ofa history of child abuse, ed on my inability to form longterm relation­ tionalization for what is to follow, a My top-H) stoplight adventure was a motor­ a sign of a desperate tieed to please. ships. I devised a theorj' of happiness that held preliminary digresstcin. Factual tmth is not the cyclist (Harle>' Davidson, no helmet) and a This man would say anything, do anything, it possible to achie\'e significant intimacy dur­ issue. Here truth is scnst>r> ; a ritual of submis- knockout. When we got to my place he did . for love. And has. Bisexual or straight, labels ing a one night stand or e\en during a half hour .sitm and abandon. Thjc Dark Stranger is not nothing. He drank half a scotch and slumped never mattered less, his career as a street husder in a darkened dcxirway. That was how my life a bar queen, although in time he may become back against an overstuffed chair. We sat in has bmught him disease. He is tiur woi?>t dieam was unfolding. There werc men I saw more that; those men are in the slow pnicess *>f com­ silence in the dark on the Uving room floor come true. He is iH. and because of treatment than once, but my nature was both urgent and ing out. Before that process is complete they for a long time. As m^ »ch as I hwe being reckless that condition cannot he readily ascertained. dependent, all but guaranteeing isolation. I liv­ are intemperate; their sexual fires, stoked by 1 also love not knowing what is going on." He So much for the mystique of risk-free sex with ed as if each night's trick would be my only resistance Others never self-identify as gay only smiled, refused to speak. I undressed him; straights. His crack habit prt^pels him into the connection to meaning, my reason for living They arc thc rebels, hedonist warriors to no response. 1 initiated mild play, no reaction. night with the same urgency with which he A night without conquest was d(M>m A iVicnd whom >x)u surrender und iLis with them you Slowly 1 perceived the rules: I could do seeks unconditional love. There is no trace of observed ihui at 26 I ntdiatcd a\ailabihty. I become perfect. anything. Prop him up. pu.sh him over, pull romance in the night. He is. 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By Thomas Krolak male magazines. He was forming the idea of homoerotic content, featuring male nudity months later his show in D.C. was closed for During his lifetime, Robert Mapplethorpe the photograph as an "t^bjctt.*' He thought the and sadoma-sochism. Mapplethorpe explain­ fear it would scare off federal grants. In Oc­ was known around the world for his revolu­ "structure" ofa picture was important. What ed that S/M to him meant * sex and magic' * His tober, 1989 Congress passed a law prohibiting tionary photography. Another legacy was his now began were his odd ways of framing and goal was to make "people (see) things like they the use of goverrunent funds for an cxinsidercd use of the medium in a personal way as a presenting his works. This trend developed in­ haven't been seen before.' * His radical subjects "obscene. "An anti-obscenity oath must now source of inspiration for the battle against to printing photos on linen and with platinum, were combined with traditional composition be signed by artists seeking federal money AIDS. But since his death his name has been and mixing pictures with silk and velvet. and were enhanced by lighting. This last from the National Endowment for the Arts. forever linked to artistic freedom and govern­ VC^nting ta be more original, he had left col­ technique he used tt) give a new perspective Another gay photographic pioneer was ment's role in the arts. lages when a friend gave him a Polaroid to a woman's body. He posetl a female He was bt>m on Nov. 4, 1946 in New York camera. It appealed to his impatient nature, bodybuilder highlighting her muscles. ( jty to a middle-clxvs ('atholic fomily. He later and he started doing self-portraits. They reveal­ Flowers, too, were given his special treatment, said their religion influenced his "sym­ ed his taste for role-playing and the leather and as phallic symbols. Mapplethorpe also PERSON OF metrical" viewpoint ofhis work and surroun­ S/M scene. His fifst exhibit, in 1976, was photographed celebrities. These pictures are dings. But at 16 he knew only that he had to **Pt>lan)ids." One photo was framed like a large in his book. Certain Pojple. Three other col­ leave hklyn. deal more when a former museum curator, opening of one exhibit that year he was in a by Tom Krolak (iraduating fn>m there in 1970. he found Sam Wagstaff, called the 25 year old artist and wheelchair. l.ate in 1986 he had been diagnos­ himself quickly attracted to the camera as his asked, "Are y«)u the shy ptimographer?" Both ed as having AIDS. His self-portraits from this Minor White (1908-1976). Bom on July 9 in means of expression. Although the influence men began collecting photos, which helfKrd time appeared in periodicals and were intend­ Minneapolis, he has been credited with lifting of sculpture would remain in his work, he Mapplethorpe kxik at his art more seriously. ed to elicit public concem about the syn­ photography to a "spiritua! level." As a resi­ became bored with sculpting and painting. He XK^gstaff helped him flnancially and was, for drome. Sam V(^gstaff died of AIDS in 1987 and dent of RtK'hester in I954-6S, he taught saw photography as the "perfect way lo make a time, his lover. left S7 million to Mapplethorpe. The next year photography and organized exhibits for the a sculpture. You can do it in an afternoon..." His own efforts thrust Mapplethorpe into he began a foundation to fund AIDS research Eastman House. Its Museum of Photography He began his career in the early *70s mak­ prominence when, in 1977. he had two shows. and the visual arts. is showing his work through Nov. 25- Includ­ ing collages, or composites, ofphmgay The>' featured black and white photos with Mapplethorpe died on Mareh 9,1989. Four ed are his male nude portraits frt>m the '4()s.

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anymore, I sotd my bike. I never see Connie know wtKi you are and what you wam. At least or Ellen or Mike, 1 don't listen to classical write down your dreams (you don't have lo music, I don't eat spicy food." "I don't even show them to anyone unless you want to know who I am anymore." It is imporunt for share). If a dream is consistent with your true this person to understand that she is tesponsi- By Barfoata Defoes ing to get there? In ottier words, it tielps to have self, you will feel excited and energized in bte for giving herself away. Nobody made her M^ last two columns were about moving some clarity of vision. Most of you reading this thinking about it. If it's not really your dream, do it. Somebody may have tried, but she towards emotionally healthier relationships. have decided that you are lesbians. Rememtier you'll feet dampened and dull when you think ultimately allowed it to happen. She is, Before I pursue that area any fiinher, it seems iHiw much you suffered when ttiat wasn't clear about it. therefore, responsible for taking herself back important to reftect on what I consider a or you hadn't reatly accepted it yet? Now, think a moment about how wonder­ so to speak, for defining herself, for knowing necessary pierequisitc to a healthy retatiotiship Defining yourself as a woman who loves fully different the responses to these questions wtut she wants and assuring that stie has what — taking carc of yourself. women is an important aspect of knowing woutd be if al! the delightfully dlHerent les­ she wants in her life. A healthy relatiofiship is made up of two wlio you are and wtiat you want. Another pan bian readers of the Empty Clt>set were to share If you've read this far and are worried that healthy peopte, each of whom is taking good of Imowing who you are is knowing what you them with us (I'd love to hear from you!) You maybe you're not clear on who you arc, and care of herself. Leam how to take care of like to do, what your priorities and values are are unk]ue and qiecial. AUow yourself to know you would like to have a better sense of yourself and you'll be much better abte to care as to how you spend your time. This is your you and to be you. Be as fully you as you can yourself, try this exercise. Get comfortable. for others and enjoy their caring for you. life. It's not a dress rehearsal. We only have this be. First imagine wtiere you would like to go to I can recommend some basic ingredients for one go an)und as far as we know for sure, so tiave some time to yourself to think atxiut who good mental health: to Icnow who you are and it makes sense to be doing those things that you are and what you want in your tife. Where to know what you want; to be able to tie who you like to be doing as much as possible. arc you and how does it look? How do you you are and to get what you want; to tove (in­ Sometimes a person can get in touch with feel in this place? What is the weather tike? cluding yourself) and be loved; to have work FEELING FREE who she is by rememt»ering how she was and What sounds can you tiear? 11^ to rclax deep­ or activity that is meaningful or satisfying; to what she did at a happier time in her life, in ly in this place. Imaq^ne that you can stay here play; to feel your feelings in the sense of work­ by Barbara Debes that if we're feeling hxppy, we're probably con­ a week all by youtsetf. What woutd you have ing through tlie release of old feelings from the gruent with our real, innermost selves. At brought with you? What would you tike to do past and working toward feelings that reflect times, it is difficult to know who you are or in this place while you arc herc? What would Please know that pan of knowing who you healthy thinking in the present; to realize that what you want txrcause you've lieen letting you wear? What would you eat? Ifyou could are and what you want is knowing that you your energy is pan of a larger energy. other people, maybe a lover or parent, con­ leave herc and go back to a new life or an im­ are always clianging. People who are true to trol or define your own voice. Or maylie Wow* As I write this I realize I'm setting proved old one, what would you tie doing for themselves are constantly growing and chang­ yt>u've t>een judging yourself in some harsh mysetf up for months of Feeling Free columns, a living? Would you lie living alone or with ing. With new awareness comes new growth. manner that keeps you from realizing your or my handy dandy guide to lesbian mental others? tf with others, what would you be like Your definition of who you are and what you own tiest self. "I'm dumb." "I don't know how heatth. But then you already know that I'm in those rclationships? How would others want will change as you liecome more fully to act." "I hate myself." These kinds of beliefs concerned about gcKxl mental health and want tiehavc t«>wards you? What would your dreams yourself. This is an exciting process. As you make it very difficult to get in touch with you you to care about it too. especially your own. lie for thc future? realize yourself, you become mt>re cm- To know who you are and what you want essential .self. Maytie you could buy yourself a journal (a powered. More atiout that in February when — a focus for this month. Knowing who you Quite often in therapy, a person is working 1 take up with tieing who you are and having are and what you want are fundamental to a at regaining a sense of herself that stie gave plain tittle notebook? a tieautifiilly Ixiund txxik of blank pages?) and record your responses. what you want. Happy hotidays. Take good sense of wholeness and direction. Unless you away in order to try to make someone else hap­ carc t)f yourself know where you want togo, how arc you go­ py. "I don't bowl anymore. I don't camp Think about how your responses help you to Scott E. Miller, csw Subscribe to Counseling & Psychotherapy

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The Oct. 2 action was timed to coincide Researchers think that smoking, which to fund agencies to meet the needs ot tbe with a class-action lawsuit against HHS boosts the number of white blood cells, may AIDS/HIV-positive population. 987-1853. AIDS Secretary Louis Sullivan, charging that SSA, a give the virus more primary taigets. Gay Alliance of the Genesee VitUey peer branch of HHS, is insensitive to the manifesta­ -Associated Press. facilitators can provide referrals to frfiysicians tions of AIDS/HIV in women, children, drug and service agencies. Person on duty Sun­ BULLETIN users and poor people. day/Friday 6:30-9:30 p.m. Mess;^ machine The suit further alleges that the plaintiffs New^ look at other times. 244-8640. have been denied SSA benefits because SSA is AIDS Coofdination Ptofect of Montoe New drug may be^t using the CDC*s outdated definition of AIDS, isoprinosine; County, run through Monroe County II>cpail- based primarily on symptoms found in studies mem of Health and AIDS Institute of New M>rk of gay white men, such as Pneumocystis carinii (State Department of Health) provides itifor­ A2T; cleans cells pneumonia and Kaposi's sarcoma. slo^w^s virus? mation, education and tiainjng, and maintains On Oct. 1, independent activists unfurled Isoprinosine, an anti-HIV drug studied dur­ a resource library. Sue Cowell, 274-6114 Univcwity of Minnesota researchers an- a banner in V(^hington's Metto Center which ing 1987-88, and found by researchers then to (V/TTY). iKMinced the first week in September that they read "Louis Sullivan, HHS Secretary: Your be ineffective, is being looked at again by Cotmnunity Health Networkjnc. (CHN), have discovered an ami-viral j^em that ^>peais AIDS Disability Benefits Stink." The banner Swedish scientists, who say that it slows the 758 South Ave. HIV testing; mediod, ex­ to be 1»000 limes more effective than AZT. unfurling was accompanied by a strong offen­ progression to AIDS and lessens the likelihood perimental and pentamidine treatments; John The new drug uses a virus-fighting pitnein sive smell such as that released by a stink bomb of developing thrush. Washbum Library; support groups; social from the; pt>kcwecd, a perennial American Linda Meredith of ACT UP/DC said that SSA In a European study of about 900 people work and case management services. Em­ • plant which is otherwise poisonous to could immediately move to meet the demand, with HIV infection, half took isoprinosine and phasis on early intervention for all aspects of humans. since the oiganization operates with a $60 half a harmless dummy drug. After six months, HIV and AIDS. 244-9000. Fahh Uckun, author of a study in Nature, billion surplus, and funds could be diverted AIDS developed in only two ofthe people tak­ Finger Lakes Health Systems Agency pro­ said that unlike AZT, which inhibits the growth to assist those with thc newly recognized ing isoprinosine, and in 17 ofthe others. Few vides medical literature and newspaper cUp­ of the Albs virus, the new drug cleans thc symptoms. She added that such assistance pec^le had side effects from isoprinosine, but pings as well as demographic and statistical virus fn>m cells. She said that clinical trials would be especially appropriate since SSA "has the drug did not increase the number of T-cells data tbr use in developing health care services. would begin after animal toxicity tests and traditionally been about excluding people or decrease the amount of HIV in the blood 461-3520 pharmacology studies are completed. from benefits." The U.S. AIDS Clinical TWals Units are con Greater Rochester AIDS Interfaith Network 'Philadelphia Gay News. Meredith said that one good result ofthe ac­ sidering reviewing the earlier study, rathe (GRAIN) provides lay and professional care tion was that many HIV-posiiive women had than conducting new trials. through healing and memorial services; train­ had a chance to meet each other, share ex­ -Jeff Zurlinden, Outlines ing of friendly visitors for visiting homes, Women with AIDS periences, and speak out in public about their hospitals, hospices and prisons; information struggles with the medical system. about pastoral resources and advocacy on protest lack of benefits -Chris Nealon, Gay Community News behalf of people affected by AIDS. Monroe Community College maintains an ACT UP/DC staged an aaion outside thc AIDS AIDS Resouae Library in the Leroy V. Good • Department of Health and Human Scr\'iccs Librar>', lOOO E. Henrietta Rd. 424-5200. (HHS) in Washington on Oct. 2 to draw atten­ Strong Memorial Hospital provides a com­ tion to issues involving women with AIDS and Smokers at higher DIRECTORY plete range of HIV medical cate, including ac­ HIV. cess to experimental treatment protocols, and HIV testing. Also provides psychiatric support About 200 demonstrators took part in thc Free testing for HIV exposure is available actipn, demanding that thc Social Security Ad­ risk for AIDS? and counseling, and training of health care from New York State: call 1-800-541-AIDS pn)fessionals. Infectious Disease Clinic, ministration (SSA) alter its criteria to ac­ (1-8O0-541 2437) Other organizations which comodate the changing undenitanding of HIV A study based on 1,000 men infected with 275-0526. Department of Psychiatry, provide AIDS-related services are as follows: 275-6741. AIDS Training Project, 275-5693. and AIDS, in panicular the need for immediate HIV has revealed that those who smoke may AIDS Rochester, Inc.. 20 University St., pro­ Mending Hearts, AIDS beieavemcnt support benefits for those who are unable to work, and face a higher risk of developing AIDS symp­ vides education, referrals to appropriate ser­ toms than non-smokers, according to group. Meets Wednesdays, 7:30 p.m., at Our can pn>vide proof of HIV-positive status. vice agencies, client and family services, ad­ Lady of Victor>' Church, 210 Pleasant St. Protestors explained that women may suf­ preliminar>' results from a study at the Univer­ vocacy for people facing HIV-linked sity of California at Berkeley. 671-3777 or 248-3780. fer from chronic and disabling gynecological discrimination, and other services, including PiHluck dinner and drop-in social for peo­ disorders as a result of HIV or AIDS, but such Over a period of about 4 1/2 years, smokers financial assistance and a public education in thc study were nearly twice as likely to die ple with AIDS and ARC, HIV-positive people disorders are not included in the Center for speaker bureau. 232-3580 (V/TTY) or and their friends, lovers and supporters. Every Disease Contn)! 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Saturday Night Specials as thc diversity ofthe with AIDS for their succes^iil event '^Diiung LRC group enlaiges. All donations and suggestions for Dollars v;* VG^ hope that our SlOO dona­ The Thanksgiving dituier will be held bo for food Ideas or activities are always welcome! tion will be helpful in their endeavors. yfHc are Nov. 22 at 6 p.m.; for location and icscnratfoftf The Lesbian Resource Center, an oiganiza­ The SNS advertisement icads * Are you tired still looking for some good people to become call Lee at 442-5117 by Nov. 18.JointheMd»> tion that provides opponunities for lesbians of watching 'Golden Girls' alone on a Satur­ fnembeis of our ofganization. The member­ Group for this special evem. Cay Croups to socialize; Icam, and compare notes, will day n^(ht?" Now you don*t have to, since each ship wants to thank everyone wbo voted for The Men's Group cofitinues to meei i|^ meet on Nov. 28, at 7:30 pm., at 179 Atlantic week at 9 p.m. the TV goes on and people us and made us the Nimibcr One social dub regularly scheduled at 8 pim. at the Giy Music Director designate Stanley Malinowski community entitled "Collaborations.*' Watch Gospel: This is OUR Story." For further infor­ Ave. watch **c;olden Giris*' together in the GAGV in Rochester at the recem Buddy Awards. AlHance of the Genesee Vaney, 179 Atlantic will make his debut with the Chorus in an "An­ for further details. Open Arms MCC mation about Open Arms M.C.C. its worship Thc November meeting will feature a living toom. (This is optional, of couisef) Until next time we remind everyone that Ave. For further infomiation about thc M^*a services, or activities, call thc church office at thology ofthe American Musical Theater" in RLAC: meetings are interpreted for the deaf. Group caU Lee at 442-5117. Please plan to arrive wtthki the firsi half hour presentation by SheiU Con "Self employ- « AIDS is StiU out there; a condom costs less rtian "Look at the Mctn^politan Community 271-8478. the.spring. The sdccflons will'span from Sig­ As a member <3i the Men's Group you iNrlU of the meeting if you are deaf. We are current­ rac«a»lncomeandiaxreduct4on.-Therewill KOchcSter RaiMEer^ 50 cents, but it can save your life. Church today — thc gay church — almost ac­ mund Romheig's The Student Prince all the siko be a short business meeting and gcttinK- «^«*«|5^i:ai receive our newsletter and the calendar of ly looking for an interpreter for the November cepted into the. World Council... thc National way to Andrew Lloyd VMtrber's/'Aan' again and again The Rochester (Jay Men's' Chorus will be known numbers will comprise a program ^KWncsday of the month, at the new Gay theGAGVorpay anaimual $5ieefotheMen'« celebrating 75 years ofthe glitter and rhythttiic be interested pleasecontact Beth at 482-5694. we have some btisy tiroes ahead of us. lb start Nayim GrcMip until they get in. And the tragedy is that they performing a free concert Nov. 7 at 7:30 p.m. AlHanor buildfaig. VE^h thc En^y Closet with, on Nov. 11, weTl be at 40 Union would get one vote. Because they arc spoken beat of Broadway. A special * thank you''to al) who auended The Men's Cocddog Group is a special lb* in the Atrium of RtKhester City Hall. This, thc RLACLesbi^ui Celet^^fition picnic.on CXt. caksttAu for each momhs date All lesbians rcstauiant. 40 S. Union St., for our annual On Nov. 16, Nayim, Rochester's group for of here in Jude as being brute beasts—that is, Tift'^^t prices for individual performances and cspectelly those who are new to the com­ tcrest suli-group. Join this group to Icam h(9«^ marks thc first time the Chorus has been in­ 8. We conskM:c it auhuge sticcess. It was nice ThaiUcsgivifig diimei; serving up tufioey, dress­ g^ and Ie9t>ian Jews and their firiends, will be going to the baser lusts of the flesh to live im- vited to panicipate in the Atrium Series which of bfL^,^^ Holiday and Spring Concerts will mtmity. are invited tti foin us at the Lesbian cofKhicting itt own Shabbat service imder the to make and serve ddeoatsle delights. Lodlt $10. TTiis year the Chpfus^ will be offering a to be.O.utdopfii witti so matiy women!- ing, mashed potatoes, dessert plus much more mofally and so Jude describes this as apostasy. is presented by the <;ity of Rochester's RewHirce Center. For more information con­ for only $7 per person. direction of R^M Judy Cohen-lto«eni>cig, for details in our newsletter or call Jobn at- Thank m its per­ 65 for $5. The season subscription price fof both shows is only SH. If you^re intcrestecf perishable food item and get f 1 olf your meal. Chanukah party will be hdd in a private home. on the TV pn>gram "Old Time (iospel Hour" manent rc-pertoirc as well as a sneak preview Sat. night social IK^TI be serving meais from 2 p.m.-8 p.m.; Plans are underway for Nayim*s participation by Rev. Jerry Falwell. in subscribing, please send a check or money Stitcli m the Chorus' upcoming Holday Concert. The Saturday Night Social is back! The SNS doocs(9pcnat 1 p.m.,!ioconieearly, party with in thc iKbrid Congiess of Gay and Lesbian N<), Jerry; that\s not what Metropolitan Com­ ordertoRCiMC Inc., P.O. Box 1892, Rochester, Lesbian The upcoming concert which will open the A stitch-bitch is where you can bring those your friends, then have a great meal. Jewish Otganizations in San Francisco over munity Church is like because we arc a caring, Ny 14603, enclose a self-addressed stamped was re-activared on Sept. 8, and each week at­ Memorial Day weekend in May 1991. For tnore City's Atrium Series is supported by public Nasty Projects or hobbies that you just don't tendance has grown. On Nov. 24, weTl be at the Bachelor Forum, loving gn>up of people. We have crcated a funds from the New York State Cloncil on the envelope, and ^lecify the dates you would like information on Nayim events, call 442-3363. writers' group to attend (Dec. 15 or Dec. 15 for the Holiday en|oy doing alone. If your bitch is not up to Participants tepresent a wide spectrum of 670 Ifnivertity Ave., for a bar nite from 9 p.m. 6<)-minute television documentary to confront Arts. In Monroe <;ounty, thc Decentralization till I a.m. (tames, prizes, and a lot of fim are Nayim celebrated the High Holy Days of those kinds of lies and others made by people C^oncert, May 31 or June I for the Spring par, or ifyou are a beginner, bitch lessons will people. fn>m all age groups, including Lesbian By Mary'Katlierine Keenehan Program is administered by Arts for Circater be provided b) the host, Gary Sicurella, Sr. and Gay Youth of Rochester (LGYR). The expected so come eariy and stay late. Rosh Ha^anah (chejewish New \fcar) and \bm like Falwell who preach that we, as lesbians Rochester The C^horus is actively seeking a Ctmcert). 'As I look at you my voice fails, my tongue Social takes place from 8 p.m. to midnight at Tickets are now on saie for our Christmas Kippur (the Day of Atonement) during and gay males, arc brute beasts, not people. new artistic interpreter to sign performances SNB will be held the second atid fourth Tiies- is broken and thin fire runs like a thief through the <;ay Alliance, 179 Atiantic Ave., thmueh pany. For only $35 you get your choice of September. Members wt>ffshipped togetiier and Our dtKumentary portrays the lives of men for the deaf and hearing impaired. If you dsy of each month at 7 p.m. Some ideas under participated in the services at Temple B'rith my body," Sappho wrote. consideration are the making of a quilt to be May 25- prime rib of beef, stuffed breast of chicken, Lesbian Writere join Sappho in her erotic ex­ and women in the gay and lesbian communi­ would be interested in this position, please Dignity-Integrity or baked haddock. F munch on, and cider, soda and cold hors d'oeuvres, wine with dinner, neck, seeing with fingertips, sharing a hot and liberation for all people. . teachers. Line at 251-2077. music and dancing will also be pnn'ided, plus broke the Ycnn Kippur fast together at a private Cuban refugees. . Third World people, per­ TTie RtK'hester Ciay Men's C^horus has recent­ Wanen and Blair, who celebrated their 39 years further information, meeting place, etc. please or coffee to quench thirst, as this is a non­ home. shower, dancing at a bar, all took on a sensual, together with a dinner at Whispers on Oct. 14. contact Gary Sicurella, Sr. at 482-6365 alcoholic siKial. A hetert>sexual couple occa­ many surprises. WeTl be having all this fun at erotic dimension. 'W^ heard a song enticing sons with AIDS, gayparcnts. .the church­ ly begun their sea.son ticket campaign. The Arena's Party House in Webster on Dec. 9. ed and the unchurched. , .youth and I99(M99I season includes two concerts; the D-l will be celel>rating Thanksgiving on Nov (evenings). sionally stops by to visil and/or to serenade trust with a jazz melody, a sweet guitar prais­ with guitar and song. Anyone interested in pft>- Tickets are available at Mike's State St. Pub and ing a simple daisy, an erotic interlude inter­ seniors. . sisters and brothers around the annual Holiday Concert on Dec. 14 (at the Firet 18 with the Hturgy at 5 p.m. at St. Luke's/St. Anthony's 522, or from any Rtxrhester Ranger Men's Group world who jseek peace and prosperity. Wc have Baptist C;hurc'h of Rochester) and Dec. 15 (at Simon (Cyrene) c:hurch, 121 N. Fitzhugh St.. viding entertainment for the SNS is asked to Mens Ctroup meetings for November in­ rupted by the tum of a key, and remembered contact Gary Sicurt^lla, Sr (Director of Fun and member Tickets must be purchased by Dec. sharcd on t^pe the truth that spirituality and the Downtown United Presbyterian Church), and thc traditional pot-luck dinner at 6 p.m. I. Choice of entree must be made at the time clude: Nov. 4, a creative workshop with three passions with a green-eyed beauty. and the Spring Concert on May 31 and June in the Mxrial hall. Lambda Radio Club Mayhem) at 482-6565 (o enings) <)f ticker purchase. Free shuttle service will be topics: NAMBLA (North American Man/Boy The Lesbian Writers meet on the second sexuality are compatible. Kute Kitchen Kapers has rw)rgani2ed the kit­ Saturdays of the month, and investigate "(lod. (iiiys, and the (iospel- This is OUR I (both ctmcerts at Xen)x Auditorium). available from Mike's or Anthony's — see your Love Association), led by a NAMBLA represen­ TTie Rochester Lambda Amateur Radio Club chen so it is ready for some serious twirl and bartender for details. Utive; creative healing methods, led by Jeff; writing. Some is shared from published Storv" is going to be shown on Nov. 4 begin­ This year's Holiday C^oncert features the sources, while most is .still in draft form. On 19th-century Oratorio, "The C^oming of the meets monthly for a Sunday brunch and in­ spin time. The fourth Saturday night of each flnding the right apartment or home, led by ning at 8 p.m. at the church. 243 Rosedale St month will be pizza night. Each person (if al>le) In late Januar>' we're planning a trip to Atlan­ Jonathan. Nov. 10, at 4 p.m., we will get together again. Re\. Cathy Flliott. pxstor of Open Arms M.C.t;., King," by American composer Dudley Buck. RLAC formal meeting. Call Dave, 359-3337. is asked to bring a favorite topping tic rit> — watch for details in next month's The «)pic we chose is your ethnic perspective says of the film, Tve seen it time and time The work will be accompanied by guest The Lambda Amateur Radio Club is an in­ On Nov. 18, the group will prepare for the The next meeting of Rochester Lesbian Ac­ (dough and sauce will be pnnided). Fmpty (.'loset or our own newsletter. on Hcrstor>', foUowed by open readings. Feci again, yet each time 1 am impressed and deeply ofganist Michael Messina and includes soloists tion C.oalition (RLAC) on Nov. 19 will focus on ternational organization of gay and lesbian Thanksgiving dinner (Caring/Preparing/Shar­ The SNS is also planning on adding other Thc membenihip of the Rochester Rangets ing) at a private home. Call John at 654-6461 free to join us. Contact Anne Sealc at 671-3294 mt)\ c*d by thc sensitivity, warmth and richness fn>m the C^horus in the n>les of an Hvangelist, issues surrounding chemical dependency. If amateur radio operators, short wave listeners, would like to congratulate Helping People for more information. of thc lives that have been touched by the the Angel Ciabriel, Hennl, and the three Magi. you have an interest in the topic and/or and persons interested in radio communica­ for location and details. Mern>poliian (Community C^hurc'hes. I am pn)- The second half of the program features a something to contribute to others, please con­ tions. Founded in 1975. it offers a sense of ud to be a part of the historic number of secular holiday favorites in jazz ar­ sider attending. We alwa>'s welcome new faces community to gay men and lesbians who share dtrvfhypmcnt of MCC, the gay-affirming rangements. The Holiday c:oncen will be con­ to the meeting. a common interest in amateur radio, and an church.'' ThcItrshtanand-gaytrommunity isin- ducted by Interim Music Dircctor bruce d. RLAC is pleased to co-sponsor a workshop outreach program ti> help people €>btain their vucc\ lo the showing of "Ciod, Ciays. and the mcclung. dealing ^vith Ihc lesibhui and bisexual women's amateur radio license. Like to Read? ^lS\ Lesbian suptxyrt group please call if interested :# <^:: 1 ^ RUTH M. WILLIAMS, M.S. Ed. The Empty Closet needs readers to Psychotherapist Offering Therapy for Individuals, Michele Tb£uiy THANK YOU review the books we receive from Couples and Groups 4 iw roup Jor Jetvish Cays Ed.D. N.C.C. publishers each month. Tofindouthow Proficient in Sign Language — Adjustable Fee anti Lesbians 385-4735 v or TTY WHISPERS you can help, call 244-9030. FOR rHyfm YOUR SUPPORT OF ROCHESTER Ofifers: Individual • Couple Family • Group Counseling IN HOSTING Celebrate Shabbabat to persons living a gay, "Discover a New World" The Empty Closet with us on Nou. 16th lesbian or bisexual lifestyle BENEFIT for Roman Catholics - Episcopalians For more inforr}iation: needs you! GAGV Building Fund Other Gay Christians Beth Bloom 442-3363 or write: ADJUSTABLE FEES Join Us! 458-0533 Call 244-9030 to volunteer P.O. Box 18053 Dignity-Integrity/Rochester is an ecumenical organization open to everyone who wishes to worship in a pleasant, non-threatening Rochester, N.Y. 14618-0053 SATURDAY NiGHT SOCIAL atmosphere. We invite you to join us for our weekly celebration of Tired of watching reruns of "Golden Girls" the Euchartst, followed by a social hour, or one of our many special k events such as a pot luck supper, picnic, retreat, etc. A Roman mmmmmm alone on a Saturday night? Is your best Catholic m^ss is celebrated each Sunday of the month, except for the fourth Sunday when mass is celebrated in the Episcopal B-O-O-K-S 1 ^<1>. Is drinking friend the remote control to your television? tradition. WELLESLEY U a problem Well, get the lead out, crawl off that sofa, PaistomI and Peer Counseling Is also available CENTER I and join in the fun at the Gay Community d0xW^ 442-2986 Center's Saturday Night Social, at 179 Atlan­ Stmday Schedule in your life? Liturgy-5:00p.m. AA can help. tic Avenue. Social Hour-6:()0p.m. Lesbian & Gay CaM 232-6720,24 hours a day. At the new building there's lots of space St. Luke's Episcopal Church Therapists offer Or come to Qay AA individual, couple & at St. Luke's Ghurch for card playing, eating popcorn, being a 17 S. Fitzhugh St. VIDEO Downtown on Thursdays at 8:30 pm. (between Main St. & Broad St.) group counselmg in a Weaiea United "couch potato," swapping recipes, or Phone 328-9758 REMTALS discreet setting. ' •* Mofe Light Presbyterian Sign language interpreted, socializing. Church last meeting of the month. The social will be every Saturday night, 11 am Sunday For gay women only: y Barbara Debes, M.S., C.A.S. ALL 121 North Mondays at 8:30 pm. 8 pm to midnight, from September 8 through V. I Horace Lethbridge, M.A. WELCOME! ntzhugh St. May 25. 633 Monroe Ave. 325-4000 For gay men only: dignity-integrity ^ rochester (1 block west of OxfiExd) TTY\ Sundays at 8:30 pm For more information, or to volunteer to 473-8110 423-1559 Gay Al-Anon assist our Director of Fun and Mayhem, Saturdays at 7 pm I J Unitarian Church please call Gary at 482-6365, evenings. .*^'^'

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Larry fkHM". <:uMom cherry kitchen, garage, yard. rather not do it alone — anyone interested? Pittman. $166-091, PO Box 45699. the Chorus Line, 2SI-2077, and leave your Priced to sell 104K. Offeretl h> Irina Nemi. Perhaps if there are a few of us we could do LucasviUe OH 45699-4)001. name and phone numher 9871042. Lowenguth ftcalt^' Ltd. 244-65(K) dinner fitNt, too c;al! Betsy. 1-882-9465. My name is Darrin Morris. 1 am a 20 year Wanted—volunteer electrician (o repair American Leather Hotline. For MEN who old Black male, interested in corresponding For rent Ihe electric oven at the CiAGV. Please con­ hang tough. <:aM 1-900-990-HEAT. 99 .mANTYOm with only gay men for friendship and/or tact Gary at 482-6365, evenings. We need cents/minute (I 99 first) Irondequoit area. Single house, three you! possible relationship. Hobbies include play­ ing table tennis, chess and swimming. All let­ bedn>oms. finished basement, all appliances, ters will be ansAvered. 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