Hollywood Working Moms and the Brutal Conflict Between Family and Career

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Compiled by Nausheen Shaikh. E-mail: [email protected], Events and timings subject to change 4 GULF TIMES Monday, May 13, 2019 COMMUNITY COVER STORY ‘Motherhood penalty’ Time’s Up and #MeToo have provoked long overdue conversations about inequality, but less attention has been paid to how a lack of support for families in a competitive, male-dominated industry may be holding women back, writes Meredith Blake

MAKING A STATEMENT: Aline Brosh McKenna, showrunner of the recently concluded CW musical dramedy Crazy Ex-Girlfriend at her off ice in Los Angeles.

early every mother in job off er fell through for It is especially hard on mothers, Hollywood has a horror Oscar-nominated Mudbound who are more likely to rearrange This is an industry story. cinematographer Rachel Morrison their work schedules to take care that does not There was the time because producers panicked that of their families and, according screenwriter and she’d be going back to work a to research, are often hit by a protect the interest Nshowrunner Aline Brosh McKenna few weeks after giving birth — “motherhood penalty” — losing was 8½ months pregnant and a something she was willing to do out on raises and job opportunities of parents studio executive joked, “I guess to help realise one of the most because they are perceived as less today would be a bad day to punch exciting scripts she had ever read. professionally committed than you in the stomach.” The experience, she says, “made me their child-free peers (and men — Aline Brosh There was the time Nisha acutely aware of the prejudices in with children). Numbers can vary, Ganatra, director of the upcoming this industry, specifi cally in my line but a groundbreaking 2001 study McKenna, co-creator Mindy Kaling fi lm Late Night, went of work.” by sociologists Michelle Budig and on a scouting trip to India when she Being a working parent in the Paula England found a wage penalty and showrunner of was a new mom and found herself United States, the only developed of 5 percent to 7 percent (depending driving around the country in a van nation in the world without a on experience) for each child a Crazy Ex-Girlfriend “with 15 dudes,” pumping breast federal paid parental leave policy woman has. and mom of two milk in “a woodshed in the middle and where the cost of childcare For women in entertainment — of a desert and an outhouse behind can consume a single paycheck, is an industry where the hours are teenagers a restaurant.” challenging no matter one’s gender gruelling and unpredictable and ‘ There was the time a dream or line of work. travel to faraway locations is the ’ Monday, May 13, 2019 GULF TIMES 5 COVER STORY COMMUNITY norm — the confl ict between work takeout-fuelled environment of the and family can be brutal. While writers room, absurdly long hours executives at places like Netfl ix can be frittered away in the search get generous paid leave and many for “creative inspiration.” Close studios have on-lot childcare quarters can make it intimidating centres, Hollywood is powered by to, say, take a break to pump breast an army of freelance artists and milk — especially when the boss crew members who do not have is a man. According to the Writers reliable access to such perks. Guild of America West, women are Time’s Up and #MeToo still underrepresented in TV writers have provoked long overdue rooms, constituting 24 percent of conversations about inequality in showrunners and 36 percent of Hollywood, but less attention has writers in the 2017-18 season. been paid to how a lack of support Brosh McKenna says the for families — especially mothers — punishing culture of the writers in a competitive, male-dominated room is a major reason why she industry may be holding women spent so many years making her back. own hours as a screenwriter (The “The hours and the travel Devil Wears Prada), rather than associated with production, getting a staff job in television. coupled with a lack of resources, “There was no way for me are a huge contributor to the gender personally that I would sit there disparity,” says Sara Fischer, head knowing I wanted to be home at of production for Shondaland, 5 but having somebody in charge the company founded by writer- who wanted to play darts and watch producer Shonda Rhimes. YouTube Videos.” Workplace discrimination Combine gruelling, against women who are unpredictable hours with an breastfeeding or pregnant is illegal, atmosphere of widespread sexual but women in a variety of roles in harassment — a survey last year the business — from writers, actors by the WGA West found that 64 and directors to below-the-line percent of female writers had crew members — say they’ve faced experienced workplace harassment signifi cant challenges, skepticism — and it’s little wonder gender DISCRIMINATION: Cinematographer Rachel Morrison lost a dream job when producers found out she was pregnant. and even outright hostility as parity seems so far off . In October, An Oscar nod helped change things for her second pregnancy. mothers. Some, including a Netfl ix NCIS: New Orleans showrunner employee who recently alleged she Brad Kern was fi red for a string of was fi red after becoming pregnant, harassment allegations, among seasons and there’s nothing you can In her job as showrunner of the idea to pretend that everybody have taken legal action. them, allegedly bullying a nursing do about it,” Brosh McKenna says. upcoming Hulu series Little Fires is childless and to pretend that On top of that, pop culture, for mother on his writing staff . And working while expectant can Everywhere, she’s taken family childcare is free and simple and generations largely created by men, “We tell women they should be complicated, even when you’re schedules into consideration, easy to get.” On the set of shows rarely seems to get motherhood expect to go to work and not see the boss. choosing a writers room in a like Scandal, nursing rooms and right. (Would you believe not their children,” Brosh McKenna Liz Tigelaar was hired as convenient location for her playrooms are standard. She has every woman’s water breaks says, “I defi nitely think it’s keeping showrunner on the Hulu comedy overwhelmingly female staff rather had crew members build bigger with a dramatic gush?) The word women out of the business.” Casual when she was early in her than one in Venice, near her home. porches on the trailers for pregnant “pregnant” was once too vulgar for Virtually all writers in television fi rst trimester and excited about “Accommodating a room around actresses so they wouldn’t have to I Love Lucy, but thanks to female- are freelance contractors with little the job, which would keep her busy parents — and really mothers, teeter on narrow, unstable steps. led shows, including Better Things, job security, which makes family until baby arrived. Having faced because I feel like mothers have a “It’s part of the culture here that I’m Sorry and Jane the Virgin, planning diffi cult. The Writers a long road via IVF and uncertain diff erent thing going on, whether nobody’s going to blink if there’s which depict the ups and downs of Guild recently negotiated a policy the pregnancy would stick, she people want to admit it or not — is a kid in the offi ce playing on the parenthood with bracing honesty, that allows staff writers on episodic kept the happy news to herself. really important,” she says. fl oor rolling a car,” she says of and performers like Amy Schumer television the right to take up to But her exhaustion was intense, As one of TV’s most powerful Shondaland, where employees are and Ali Wong using their pregnant eight weeks of unpaid leave to take so Tigelaar occasionally resorted showrunners and a single mother welcome to bring children. “That’s bodies as comedic weapons, that is care of a new child and guarantees to napping on a foam egg crate in of three, Shonda Rhimes has born out of the fact that when I beginning to change onscreen. they can return to their original her car because she didn’t have a attempted to foster a parent- wrote Grey’s Anatomy, I wrote it And now some powerful women position — that is, if it still exists. private offi ce, just a shared writers friendly work environment with a baby strapped to my chest. in the business are trying to “You can get fi red between room. because, she says, “It’s a ridiculous She learned to walk up and down transform a Hollywood culture the hallways of Grey’s. For me, they see as antithetical to parenting that was the way this was going to by working throughout their work.” pregnancies, creating kid-friendly Sara Fischer likes to say workspaces, pushing for more she has a St. Elsewhere baby, a humane, predictable hours and “thirtysomething” baby and a normalising things like pumping Chicago Hope baby. Now the head breast milk on location. of production at Shondaland, At a time when television is It’s a ridiculous idea to Fischer is a TV veteran and mother driving the cultural conversation, pretend that everybody of three who spent years on set the writers room is a bubbling as an assistant director in an era cauldron of creativity, but for is childless and to when the industry was even less parents it can also be a kind of hospitable to working mothers. prison. In contrast to screenwriters, pretend that childcare During one of her pregnancies, who generally work alone and a producer on a network drama make their own hours, TV writers is free and simple and told Fischer she’d be fi red if she are often subject to the whims of easy to get was caught sitting down, so she sat showrunners who may or may not while hidden by a system of apple appreciate demands like a school boxes in case he came to set. pickup or a third-grader with the In the mid-’90s, when her fl u. —Shonda Rhimes, youngest child was a newborn “This is an industry that does not who nursed constantly, Fischer protect the interest of parents,” says showrunner and was asked to work on the pilot for Brosh McKenna, co-creator and single mom of three Buff y the Vampire Slayer. She had showrunner of Crazy Ex-Girlfriend two kids at home with a nanny and the mother of two teenagers. “I and didn’t want to lose money by think there is a culture that glorifi es paying a second caregiver to come the amount of suff ering and misery to set. So she hired a college student it takes to make stuff in Hollywood who was interested in production to — people thrive on chaos and watch the baby, put her in front of complaining.” the lens each day, and paid her as an In the heavily caff einated, extra. —Los Angeles Times/TNS 6 GULF TIMES Monday, May 13, 2019 COMMUNITY LIGS Golf Society organises 2019 Annual LIGS Ryder Cup

LIGS Golf Society recently organised 2019 Annual LIGS Ryder Cup at Doha Golf Club. The LIGS of the World in 2018, this year’s Jamie Rooms’s England Team, embraced by old and new Golf Society offers golfers the opportunity to compete against fellow golf enthusiasts and to members in true golfing sportsmanship, won the competition from McNaughtan’s Rest of the enjoy the social integration and expansion of the sport within Qatar. The season’s tournament World. kicked off with the Ryder Cup fixture between England and the Rest of the World. The annual tournament is supported by Byrnes, Hoare Lea and Q-fasteners. The signature Following Aaron King’s Team England’s defeat in 2018 from Captain Pete Veale’s Team Rest gala prize-giving dinner was hosted at Doha Golf Club open terrace.

MES secures second runners up in CBSE Qatar Cluster Chess Tournament

The Boys’ and Girls’ Chess Team of MES Indian School recently bagged the overall second runners to its credit by virtue of 4 gold medals in Girls’ Under-19 Category. In Under-14 Girls and Under 19, 17 up position in the CBSE Qatar Cluster Chess Tournament which was held at Birla Public School for and 14 Boys Categories of the tournament, MES bagged 16 bronze medals. the students under 11, 14, 17 and 19 categories. In a tournament that had the participation from all The Girls’ U-19 Team of MES got selected for the CBSE Chess National Championship to held in the CBSE schools in Doha, MES secured 46 points in aggregate including the team championship India later this year. Hameeda Kadar, Principal of MES, appreciated the eff orts of the students.

WORKSHOP: Shantiniketan Indian School recently organised a workshop on ‘Total Quality Management’ for its faculty members, conducted by Dr Dheeraj Mehrotra, an academic evangelist, author and national awardee. Teachers were actively engaged in hands-on training in developing papers that can help in Statistical Quality Management, using various tools, including flow charts, brainstorming, data collection, graphics, pie diagrams, stratification, pareto analysis and histogram and cause and eff ect. Dr Dheeraj Mehrotra encouraged a discussion on problem solving, channelising, exploring, reasoning and identification. One hundred and sixty teachers participated in the workshop. Monday, May 13, 2019 GULF TIMES 7 COMMUNITY

KRY elects new off ice bearers

Kirat Rai Yayokkha (KRY), an management committee on organisation of Qatar-based the occasion. The new off ice Nepali of Kirat Rai ethnic group, bearers, include Bimal Rai, recently organised its 7th Lok Bahadur Rai, Nanindra Convention. The event was Rai, Sita Rai, Shankarman Rai, chaired by Ekraj Rai, outgoing Shyam Bantawa Rai, Gajendra Chairman of KRY. Shiva Kumar Rai, Gyanu Rai, Raj Kumar Bhujel, Nepali community Rai, Nirmala Rai, Kalpana Rai, leader, was the chief guest at Shukra Kumar Rai, Harka the event. The event kicked off Waling, Prem Rai, Hari Chandra with the National Anthem of Rai, Purna Bahadur Rai, Indira Nepal. The event also featured Rai, Jivan Rai, Sarita Rai, Dil cultural dance performances, Kumar Rai, Sabin Rai and Dhan including Sakela and Dhami Kumar Rai. dance. — Text and photo by Usha KRY also elected its new Wagle Gautam

DPS-MIS celebrates Lemonade Day

The Nursery Section of DPS-Modern Indian School (DPS-MIS) recently celebrated Lemonade Day. The students were dressed in yellow colour. Asna Nafees, Principal of DPS-MIS, also graved the occasion. A lemonade stall was also set-up on the occasion. The teachers also demonstrated a session on how to make lemonade. The lemonade was distributed to the security and the support staff to acknowledge their service that they provide in the torrid heat of the season.

CORPORATE IFTAR: Ibrahim Mohd. Al-Khulaifi Trdg. Co. (IMALCO) recently hosted its Annual Corporate Iftar at the Radisson Blu Hotel. The entire staff of IMALCO attended the event. Speaking on the occasion, Aboo Backer, CEO of IMALCO, spoke about Iftar and the holy month of Ramadan.

RED DAY: Students of Kindergarten I and II at Greenwood International School and Kindergarten recently celebrated Red Day. Students were dressed in red clothes and brought diff erent red objects from home. Students and teachers also sang poems about red colour and played with red balloons. 8 GULF TIMES Monday, May 13, 2019 COMMUNITY Pakistani community raises ov Pakistan Welfare Forum (PWF) in co-ordination with Qatar Charity recently organised a fund raising Suhoor, writes Mudassir Raja

GATHERING: Guest and dignitaries of Pakistan expatriate community during the event.

amadan is a month community during 2018 mainly in out-of-school Pakistani children of compassion and education and health sectors. He in Qatar. “The school, which is charity. The Muslims assured that this assistance would first of its kind for expatriates, is tend to give more be continuing during the coming owned by Ministry of Education and more charity in year as well for the benefit of and Education Above All (EAA). It Rthis month. They also get more deserving families. is financially supported by Awqaf compassionate towards the needy Fareed al-Siddieqy hoped that and operated by PWF to help in people. ongoing relations between QC eradicating illiteracy.” An extraordinary illustration and PWF would be strengthened Ahmad also unveiled PWF’s of such altruism was seen during and enlarged in the coming next project which is ‘Community a recent fundraising Suhoor months for jointly carrying out Development Programme’ under organised by Pakistan Welfare various welfare projects for which skill training would be Forum (PWF) in co-ordination deserving families of the Pakistani offered in variety of trades to with Qatar Charity. The Pakistani community in Qatar. expatriate Pakistani youth both expatriate community attended Tahir Mehmood, General male and females helping them to the event in large numbers. Secretary of PWF, highlighted become a part of skilled workforce They managed to raise as the forum’s background and in Qatar. much as QR1.342 million to achievements in various welfare Mohammed Idrees Anwar, support educational and welfare programmes, including education, PWF’s founder member, quoted programmes for Pakistani family welfare, medical and legal various verses of Holy Qur’an and community in Qatar. help for the needy. He appreciated Ahadiths [sayings] of Prophet The Annual Suhoor gathering the trust and full support of Muhammad (PBUH) for giving and fundraising event of PWF, a Pakistani community to PWF special care to the destitute community welfare forum working since its inception. He said that families through zakat and sadaqa under the patronage of the the strength of the forum lies in and encouraged the participants Pakistan embassy, was organised unprecedented participation of all to be generous enough to become at Regency Hall in Al Hilal area. Pakistani forums and associations PWF members and help the needy Fareed Khalil al-Siddieqy, Head and their co-operation for PWF. Pakistani families. He said that of Admin Support Division Qatar Ahmad Hussain, President of PWF has managed to engage the Charity, was the guest of honour PWF, appreciated QC for their community through consistent on the occasion. Hafiz Junaid Sial, tremendous support, co-operation and committed efforts under Community Welfare Attache’ ADDRESS: Fareed Khalil al-Siddieqy, Head of Admin Support Division Qatar and becoming partner of PWF in the patronage of the Embassy of at Embassy of Pakistan, was the Charity, speaking on the occasion. carrying out various projects and Pakistan and with exceptional co- chief guest. A large number of initiatives that would provide operation of QC. He acknowledged professionals, businessmen as communities in Qatar since long development needs”, Fareed tremendous opportunities to those that the community admires PWF well as philanthropists from the and have established a special added. He informed that QC has who value social responsibility and for welfare endeavours whereas expatriate Pakistani community centre to take care of deserving divided its works in different pay back to the society to uplift the forum pledges to reach out to participated in the event. and destitute individuals and sections, including development the deprived segments of the those who are in need of support. Fareed al-Siddieqy, speaking families. “Qatar Charity believes projects, humanitarian assistance communities through education. The organisers called out the on the occasion, appreciated the in providing hope and serve and sponsorship. He further He also highlighted the names of those who donated for partnership between QC and PWF vulnerable communities in disclosed that QC has spent establishment and functioning the PWF fund. People donated and informed the participants dignified ways by responding nearly QR1.595 million on 58 of The First Ihsaan School which from QR500 to QR200,000. that QC is working with various to their humanitarian and beneficiaries of the Pakistani has been launched recently for Speaking on the occasion, Monday, May 13, 2019 GULF TIMES 9 COMMUNITY IBS organises Graduation Ceremony

International British School (IBS) recently organised CEO of IBS, said, “Dream big and achieve what you desire ver QR1.3mn Graduation Ceremony for the students of Grade VI and IX. for.” Speaking on the occasion, Dr Shamila Ahmed, Founder The ceremony was attended by Dr Harry, Principal of and Managing Director of IBS, stressed on the students to IBS, Ambily, Primary Co-ordinator; Cescil, Class teacher of equip themselves with adequate skills and knowledge to Grade VI; Asia, Nuciba, Sajinee, Shani, Naimot, and Hisham, face the challenges and to excel in their career. Shaji Ali, Co-ordinators; and Imran, Class teacher of Grade IX.

SERVING COMMUNITY: Mohammed Idrees Anwar, PWF’s founder member, said that PWF has managed to engage the community through consistent and committed eff orts under the patronage of the Embassy of Pakistan and with exceptional co-operation of Qatar Charity. Alumni Association of AMU organises Iftar get-together

The Alumni Association of India’s Aligarh Muslim momentum forward and work for the purity of soul University (AMU) recently organised AMU Alumni Qatar and enhancement of Taqwa,” he said. Dr MS Bukhari Community Iftar at Museum of Islamic Art Park. along with AMUAAQ committee members presented The Iftar was attended by more than 200 people certificates of appreciation to multi-specialised free including alumni, families and guests. medical camp. Dr M S Bukhari, prominent expatriate industrialist and Dr Bukhari appreciated the President and team for multi Chief Patron of AMU Alumni, was the chief guest at specialised services and encouraged to keep up the the event. The special guests at the event, included good works. Jawed Ahmad thanked to all the guests Mohammad Sibtain Syed, Mumtaz Hussain, Abhinash and requested all the Alumni to keep up the good Gaikwad and Yawer. The programme was co-ordinated work and share the innovative ideas for the uplift of by Zeyaul Haque, Moshher Alam, Javed Sultan, Farman community and society. Khan and Dr Ashna Nusrat. The event was attended by Qamare Alam, Ali Imran, Dr The event kicked off with a dua by Al Shaikh Mahmood Syed Jaffery, Shahid Yar Khan, Dr Nadeem Zafar Jilani, Anani. He also spoke about the importance of the Ziauddin Ahmad, Abdul Karim, Abu Rizwan, Asif Khan, Holy Month of Ramadan and Zakat. He mentioned Ahmed, Imtiyaz Ahmad, Sanjeev Sharma, Khalid, Irfan that Ramadan is a wonderful opportunity to repent Hassan, Irfanullah, Reza, Rizwan, Kashif, Tabish, Firoz for sins and wrong doings. “We should take the Khan, Dr Moin Khan, and Shad Kaisar.

ACKNOWLEDGEMENT: Ahmad Hussain, President of PWF, appreciated QC for their tremendous support, co-operation and becoming partner of PWF in carrying out various projects and initiatives that would provide tremendous opportunities to those who value social responsibility.

Hafiz Junaid Sial said, “On be carried out completely by our behalf of Syed Ahsan Raza own. We get co-operation and Shah, Ambassador of Pakistan, support from all communities I wish you all a very happy and living in Qatar. “The Pakistani blessed Ramadan. This event community is one of the largest is planned every year. The very communities in Qatar. We have essence of this event is based been working together for the on a very strong pillar of Islam development and welfare of the that is Muslim brotherhood and community. We have different serving others. I believe PWF kinds of projects in health and has been playing a pivotal role in education that we support this regard. Collaboration with together. We both are raising QC has synergised the efforts of funds to support different the forum. The recent example programmes.” is opening of First Ihsan School He added, “We work for all besides other projects undertaken communities. My message to by PWF.” them is to join hand together Talking to Community, Fareed and work for diff erent expatriate al-Siddieqy said, “We have been communities. We all are together working for development and here. We need to work together. welfare of different communities We also appreciate the donors who in Qatar culturally, socially, generate funds for charity works economically, educationally and in Qatar. It is very necessary to medically. Such activities cannot continue our projects in Qatar.” 10 GULF TIMES Monday, May 13, 2019 COMMUNITY PHOTO ESSAY

It’s about timing, composition

As a passionate photographer, I create a list of places to capture during weekends. The city of Doha — and Qatar as a country — has its own uniqueness at diff erent times of the day. My favourite time to capture landscape pictures is half an hour before and after sunset. However, I saw something very diff erent recently when I visited the Doha Corniche on a Friday morning with my camera. The calmness in the surroundings and the beautiful sky really caught my attention. The serenity of a calm city brought so much peace to my soul that day. While I drove further down towards the Fanar Islamic Museum I saw the refreshing look of this landmark building against the beautiful blue sky. The nearby Falcon Souq was another place that provides some nice architectural buildings on a cloudy day. I use a Nikon D7100 with the 18- 200mm lens which is suitable for any situation. However, I have few prime lenses which are used for speciﬁ c photography projects. My favourite lens is the Nikon 85mm f1.8, which gives me very sharp pictures almost always. (Part 2 appears in tomorrow’s edition) — Text and photos by Rizny Ismail @riznyismail Monday, May 13, 2019 GULF TIMES 11 SHOWBIZ COMMUNITY

HEARTBROKEN: Arunoday Singh has shared an emotional note on social media about his marriage. My marriage seems to be over: Arunoday Singh

Two years after sharing his happiness on social media over tying the knot with his girlfriend Lee Elton, actor CHEER SQAUD: Diane Keaton, Karen Beyer, Sharon Blackwood, and Celia Weston in Poms. Arunoday Singh has again used the platform to post an emotional note announcing his split from his wife. After taking a break for over a month, he returned to Instagram to share the news on Friday. Amusing Poms celebrates He wrote: “I haven’t been writing or posting for a while. There’s a reason for it, a rather sad one: My marriage seems to be over. “Turns out we were very good at love, but couldn’t senior-citizen cheerleaders survive reality. Despite our best eff orts, professional counselling, and a current trial separation, nothing seems portrayed as cruel, cliquish, shallow. “I wanted to achieve. “I was like, this is to have helped bridge the fundamental diff erences that By Joseph V. Amodio think it’s because it’s still seen as a female amazing,” says Hayes, who admits she’s have emerged between us. It seems wiser to let go. I think thing, and frivolous,” says Hayes. never been able to do them herself. “I’d we both deserve better. We shall try to resolve this with And not for grown-ups – certainly tapped into something about ageing compassion and dignity.” ack in the days on her not card-carrying members of the and women and what we expect women Going by hundreds of comments left below the post, the hit sitcom Cheers, Rhea AARP. of a certain age to do.” news came as a surprise to many as their wedding looked Perlman – as the hilariously That reality is made quite clear in Or not do. like a “fairytale” to some of them. caustic waitress Carla – Poms when Martha, a cynical New Senior cheerleaders – even today – On the occasion of their anniversary last December, he would be more likely to Yorker (played by Keaton) moves to face serious pressures to act their age. had posted a photograph of the two in their wedding attire. Bwisecrack about cheerleaders than wax a retirement community in Georgia. And lower those hemlines. He had captioned it: “You make a miracle, of my every eloquent about them. Fighting her own depression about Perlman’s character is discouraged morning. Happy Anniversary my darling.” So it’s amusing to see her now, in the mortality, and looking to shake from taking part by her husband, who He had shared photographs from their wedding ceremony trailer for Poms, admitting to Diane things up, Martha decides to form a makes it clear he thinks such activity in December 2016. He called her his “best friend”. – IANS Keaton and Jacki Weaver, “I always did cheerleading squad. But who will you – and short cheerleader skirts – want to be a cheerleader.” cheer for, she’s asked. inappropriate. Apparently, it’s true. “For us,” she states. In real life, Perlman has never faced Suniel not keen about joining politics “The cheerleaders in my high school The crew she cobbles together – such limitations from others – “That’s were the coolest girls – of course I nursing sore shoulders, new knees – … not gonna happen,” she says, chuckling Actor Suniel Shetty wanted to be one,” says Perlman, 71. fi nds itself in a high school gymnasium, – but admits she limits herself. When says he has no intention Perlman had to settle for being a “Go stunned by the feats of today’s athletic shopping, she’s found herself drawn to to join politics. Getter,” a group several rungs below cheerleaders. So was Perlman. clothes her daughters, who are in their The Hera Pheri actor, cheerleader that sold team jackets. “When we walked into that thirties, might wear. Perlman is trim, who has strong views on “We didn’t get to do anything with auditorium, I had no idea that’s what fi t, works out regularly, and knows she’d socio-political issues, pompoms,” she says. cheerleaders had become,” she recalled. look good in them. “But then I go, ‘Wow, I was asked if he would Well, it’s never too late. That’s the Anyone who’s spent any time at probably shouldn’t wear these … because join politics in the near message behind Poms, starring Keaton, Long Island Cheer, a training facility it doesn’t feel appropriate.’ So I still have future while interacting Weaver, Perlman and Pam Grier as for enthusiasts starting at age fi ve, some of that in my head.” with the media at an women who form a ragtag cheerleading knows that today’s cheerleaders rely But maybe there’s hope. The majority announcement of squad in their retirement community. heavily on gymnastic skills (fl ips, leaps, of cheerleaders Hayes interviewed said SQUATS, an online fi tness Directed by British documentary tumbling), with any and all genders they’d received abundant support from community, here on fi lmmaker Zara Hayes, the movie is participating. loved ones. And most people who hear Friday. inspired by a real-life phenomenon Under the tutelage of choreographer the premise of the fi lm? He said: “If he APOLITICAL: Suniel Shetty feels – senior citizen cheerleader groups Marguerite Pomerhn Derricks, who has They just smile, she says. wanted to join politics, that young and dynamic people that in recent years have sprung up created moves for The Marvelous Mrs. As a testament to that, Hayes I would have done it should enter politics. across the country. These silver-haired Maisel, A Bad Moms Christmas, and added a surprise during the fi lm’s in my younger years.” cheerers, many with no traditional Little Miss Sunshine, Keaton, Perlman fi nal credits – a sequence of videos, And added that he did not want to become one of those cheering experience, are ignoring the and company rehearsed for several days made to look like real social media politicians wearing dentures unable to speak but still concerns of well-meaning (or out-and- in Los Angeles, then a week – a sort of posts from people around the world holding on to important political positions. out hostile) relatives and friends, and cheerleading boot camp – in Atlanta, imitating Martha’s cheerleading moves. Suniel feels that young and dynamic people should enter challenging notions of how women, where the fi lm was shot. (In the fi lm, Martha’s cheerleading is politics. especially women of a certain age, “I feel like we were practising all the recorded and posted online, with the “I feel you’ve got to be young and dynamic to be in should act. time,” says Perlman, who also practised hashtag #Marthasmoves, much to her politics. There are many young and dynamic politicians to a recording in her hotel room. They embarrassment.) Hayes wondered what in our country and they easily adjust, but I don’t have that In Search Of Senior Spirit had to learn each routine twice – it might look like if such a thing went ability. If anyone says negative things about me, then it It may come as something of a performing as clumsy, achy beginners, viral, and so sent footage of Keaton to stays with me for many years,” he added. surprise to learn that cheerleading, then polished pros. various people across the world – from The 57-year-old actor said he prefers to manage the with its pompoms and team pride, is a Burbank to Bangladesh – and let them health portfolio. distinctly American pastime. Finding Great Source Material create their own homage. The videos “If I were to become a politician and people from the “When I was growing up it didn’t As a documentary fi lmmaker, Hayes are fi ctional, but the enthusiasm in opposition criticised me then I will not feel good. So, I exist in England,” says Hayes. “I think was eager to connect with real senior participants’ eyes seems real. stay away from these things. I prefer to be healthy and fi t. I that’s why I was so intrigued by it.” cheerleaders, and interviewed many, “It feels like there really is a viral prefer to manage politics of health.” But unlike other iconic American fi nding inspiration in their stories. hashtag – which I hope there will be Suneil will next appear in Taanaji: The Unsung Warrior inventions – baseball, jazz – cheerleading One woman in her mid-sixties, after when the fi lm comes out,” says Hayes. “I along with Ajay Devgn and Saif Ali Khan. – IANS doesn’t get much respect, and surviving breast cancer, taught herself mean, I really hope everyone starts doing cheerleaders in pop culture are often to do a split, something she’d always ‘The Martha.”” – Newsday/TNS 12 GULF TIMES Monday, May 13, 2019 COMMUNITY CARTOONS/PUZZLES

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Sudoku is a puzzle based on a 9x9 grid. The grid is also divided into nine (3x3) boxes. You are given a selection of values and to complete the puzzle, you must fill the grid so that every column, every anone is repeated. Monday, May 13, 2019 GULF TIMES 13 PUZZLES COMMUNITY

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Across Down 1 Garden seat designed for 1 Part of roof beginning to dogs (5,5) break in high wind (5) 7 Bishop’s warning about a 2 Some fearless nobleman (4) Canadian province (7) 3 Vagrants given transport to 8 Nothing holds a fastener (4) outskirts of Paris (6) 10 Profound philosopher’s first 4 Odd seaman with girl on lake seen by river (4) (8) 11 It proves playing is playful (8) 5 Journalist provided with cool 13 In France you read Italian (6) building (7) 15 Terrible ordeal in Texas city 6 Standard deviation in tricky (6) ads (9) 17 Cambridge eccentric losing 9 False step - error made by male budgerigar, for example journalists (9) (4,4) 12 Teacher not about to waffle 18 Compassion, we hear, for (6,2) male deer (4) 14 Leo, for example, or a lady 21 Flier going round old vessel abroad (7) (4) 16 Bishop, correct and smart (6) 22 Shopkeeper we hear being 19 A service revolution in part more offensive (7) of India (5) 23 Conventional mother 20 Ferry port gets rid of last bathing, perhaps (10) bird (4)

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Wordsearch Codeword 14 GULF TIMES Monday, May 13, 2019 COMMUNITY LIFESTYLE/HOROSCOPE Get the fashion game right in summer

corching heat should not be your ensure a soft and fresh radiance all day long. reason to ditch your fashion From staple summer dresses to linen quotient. Embrace your natural essentials, the summer mood is welcomed beauty and minimalist aesthetics with styles that embody all the cheer of the to bring out the best version of season. Francesca Zedda, Head of Style and Syourself in the summer season. Trends at Marks & Spencer, suggests how one Staff ord Braganza, National Makeup Artist can stay fashionable in summer. at NYX Professional Makeup, gives tips and – Dresses are key for the season – think tricks to put your best face forward for a fresh quality, comfort and style. From light cotton look. fl oral dresses, to slip midi dresses adorned – Start fresh: Begin with splashing cold with pretty pinstripes, swim beach dresses water on your face to get rid of all the excess and sartorial linen dresses, these styles are oil and pat it dry, followed by application of a soft and breathable and will keep you cool lightweight moisturiser. and comfortable on the warmest of days. – Primer comes fi rst: Apply a face and eye – Puff sleeves, gathered necklines and primer for a smooth texture and even surface drawstring waist details elevate the everyday for your foundation to glide on easily. It dress. Pair it with a gladiator sandal, some prevents the foundation from melting down stand-out aviator eyecandy and a classic and helps your make-up last longer through straw fl at top sun hat for the perfect holiday the day. look. – Use a lightweight formula: Avoid using – Pick pieces in linen that will take heavy, full coverage foundation as it tends you through the summer season in style. to melt away on sweaty skin. Swap it with a Lightweight and comfortable, they are lightweight formula like BB creams or tinted perfect for wear in warmer weather, whether moisturisers that are oil-free and have SPF to you’re away on holiday or enjoying the protect your skin from the harsh sunlight. sunshine at home. You can layer up neutral – Say goodbye to powder, and hello to tones together or mix and match coloured cream: Use creamy versions of blush and linen separates with white staples for a clean, eye-shadows as it settles eff ortlessly over the on-trend look skin whereas powder tends to wear off easily. better able to withstand summer sweating tinted lip balms and stains are your best – Introduce cool whites into the wardrobe. You could dust some powder over the cream and last longer when your lids are moist. friends for a smudge-free pout during the Whether you head for the beach or the city for the cheeks and eyelids that will help the – Love light lips: Choose light and soft summer. streets this summer, there’s something about make-up last longer. summery, coral hues of nudes and pink lip – Befriend the blotting paper: Always keep an all-white ensemble that keeps things – Go water-proof: Try water-proof colours for a refreshed summer make-up blotting paper handy when you are out and simple, yet chic, and is an easy way to look versions of eyeliners and mascaras as they are look. Matte and transfer-proof lipsticks, about in the heat to take off excess oil and fresh all-season long.

ARIES TAURUS GEMINI March 21 — April 19 April 20 — May 20 May 21 — June 20

You generally enjoy your dreams, Aries, both the dreaming process Too many invitations to social events may come today, Taurus. This Today you might work on your spiritual practice or studies, Gemini. and analysing them later. But tonight you might have too many to might be one evening when you want to relax at home, but you You could read a book on the subject, attend a lecture, or practice keep track of. While you will probably recall the most significant won’t want to say no to anyone. Analyse each invitation. Consider some kind of discipline such as yoga or meditation. The only caveat ones, it may be frustrating if you forget any of them. This might be the location, host, other guests – whatever seems most significant is don’t try to do too much at once. You could tire yourself out. the day to start a dream diary, if you don’t have one. Have fun! to you. Attend only the ones you think you will really enjoy. Follow Concentrate on one thing at a time. The information will still be there your heart. tomorrow! CANCER LEO VIRGO June 21 — July 22 July 23 — August 22 August 23 — September 22

A cerebral interaction may be at the top of your priority list today, Relationship matters may prove too intense today, Leo. You may be You’ve been hoping for a quiet day on the job, Virgo, but too many Cancer. You might want to go to your favourite restaurant and have having a rough week. Your partner may be especially demanding of calls could come your way. You might have to juggle several at a great meal, including appetisers and dessert. Or you might feel your time and energy. This might be a good day to schedule some once. Don’t try to deal with every problem. Exercise your triage especially energetic and want to take your partner for an engaging time alone. Go for a massage, sauna, or hot tub – by yourself – and abilities and take care of the most pressing first. Let the others go, social outing. Make sure you don’t overdo trying to impress with simply relax. That way you will be more refreshed when you meet if necessary. You aren’t doing anyone any favours by getting too your intellect. with your friend in the evening. distracted. Even you can be less than thorough when overwhelmed. LIBRA SCORPIO SAGITTARIUS September 23 — October 22 October 23 — November 21 November 22 — December 21

Were you planning to go shopping today, Libra? If you can, put it off You look especially attractive today, Scorpio, and it’s doing wonders Today, Sagittarius, you might want to make a declaration of love. until tomorrow. You could be tempted by too many items that seem for your self-esteem. Even members of your household notice. But That’s fine if you’ve been involved for a while, although you could wonderful in the store but are nothing but a bother once you get you probably feel more like staying in than going out. If you want overwhelm your partner. If the relationship is new, beware! This them home. If you must go, make the eff ort to bypass shops where a friend to notice how you look, it might be a good idea to extend could feel like too much too soon. Your friend could respond by you might fall into this trap. You don’t want to have to make a second an invitation to visit your home. You will get to stay in and still be backing away or even disappearing. Use restraint or you might have trip to bring back returns. admired. the opposite eff ect to the one you want. CAPRICORN AQUARIUS PISCES December 22 — January 19 January 20 — February 18 February 19 — March 20

A friend may off er you a gift today, Capricorn. It could involve The temptation to take centre stage might be too strong to resist, A gathering could bring you lots of good news and useful money, favours, time, items you need, or something else. Be Aquarius. Someone may ask you to tell a story. Your gift with words information, Pisces. The problem is that there might be too much. discriminating about what you accept, and make sure you off er to and vivid imagination should serve you well. Keep it brief. If you go You will want to remember it all, but your memory may not be as reciprocate. Insist, if you must. As generous as your friend may be on too long, your friends could fidget. Time your performance by sharp as usual. Before you attend a gathering, grab a notebook and now, later he or she could feel used or else call in some favours that watching their expressions. Do it right and you will be asked to do it pen. That way you can write down whatever you want to look into you aren’t willing to perform. Accept graciously, within limitations. again. later. Monday, May 13, 2019 GULF TIMES 15 SPIRIT OF RAMADAN COMMUNITY How we should receive Ramadan

eople have various Almighty Says (what means): {And ideas and ways of turn to Allah in repentance, all of receiving the blessed you, O believers, that you might month of Ramadan and succeed.} [Qur’an 24:31] invest this occasion in O you who delay His repentance, Pfulfi lling their favourite actions and until when will you postpone it? activities. Some of them make this You told yourself: When I And We will surely test you with something of an occasion for laziness, idleness, observe fast in Ramadan, I will fear and hunger and a loss of wealth and lives and sleep and neglecting the diff erent repent. Well, here are the days of acts of obedience that they could the blessed month of Ramadan fast fruits, but give good tidings to the patient, Who, otherwise be doing. Others fi nd this approaching, yet you still refuse to a good opportunity for watching turn to your Lord in repentance. when disaster strikes them, say, ‘Indeed we belong shows on satellite television while You are turning away from Him, to Allah, and indeed to Him we will return.’ others stay up late at night and use not coming closer to Him. You this precious time to pay visits, go still insist resolutely on your Qur’an 2:155, Sahih International to markets, relax, make trips and disobedience. Do you not fear that the like while others make it an the Angel of Death may come to you occasion for exaggeration in eating, while you are in such a state? How drinking and doing whatever they could you be guided to the path of like, as if Ramadan is the month of repentance while you fi rmly insist food and drink, and not the month on going in the opposite direction? of fasting. Allah The Almighty forgives all However, there are some other sins: He spreads out His Hand at people for whom Allah The night to accept the repentance of Almighty wants good for and thus the one who has sinned during the guides them to the right way so that day, and He spreads out His Hand they became able to diff erentiate by day to accept the repentance of between what is right and what is the one who has sinned during the wrong. Such people receive this night. Allah The Almighty rejoices blessed month warmly and happily over those who turn to Him in since they believe that it is a golden repentance and over the regret of opportunity to attain forgiveness the sinful people. Therefore, He for sins and make a new start opens a door from the direction that would be sin-free. In fact, of the west for seventy years for the blessed month of Ramadan is the purpose of repentance, and the month of forgiveness, mercy it will not be closed until the sun and emancipation from Hell. The rises from the west as the Prophet, Prophet, sallAllahu ’alayhi wa sallAllahu ’alayhi wa sallam ( may sallam ( may Allah exalt his mention Allah exalt his mention ), said. ), used to give his Companions glad [Ahmad and At-Tirmithi] tidings on the arrival of Ramadan So where are those who long saying: “There has come to you to turn to Allah The Almighty in Ramadan, a blessed month which repentance? Allah has enjoined you to fast, 2. Receiving Ramadan by during which the gates of Paradise devoting all actions sincerely and are opened and the gates of Hell are solely to Allah The Almighty closed, and the rebellious devils One concept should be very clear are chained up. In it there is a night to all from the onset: If your acts which is better than a thousand lack sincerity, then do not bother months - whoever is deprived of exhausting yourself because no its goodness is indeed deprived.” action will be accepted without [An-Nasaa’i, Al-Albaani: Saheeh sincerity. Allah The Almighty Says (Authentic)] (what means):{So whoever would Consequently, these people hope for the meeting with his knew well the virtues, rewards and Lord - let him do righteous work goodness of this blessed month and not associate in the worship of and thus they decide to reap all his Lord anyone.}[Qur’an 18:110] these fruits and benefi ts so that It was narrated that the Prophet, they may not be among those who sallAllahu ’alayhi wa sallam ( may will say [what Allah The Almighty Allah exalt his mention ), said: Says (which means)]: {I wish I had “Allah The Almighty Says: ‘I am fasting and made it for Himself in with the guidance of the Prophet, that break the fast, what cannot sent ahead [some good] for my so self-suffi cient that I am in much the same way as the fasting sallAllahu ’alayhi wa sallam ( may affect the fast, excuses that life.}[Qur’an 89: 24] or say [what no need of having an associate. person has hidden his fasting from Allah exalt his mention ). allow one to break the fast, and Allah The Almighty Says (which Thus whoever does an action for other people, and of course Allah The verse mentioned above everything else that is related to means)]: {My Lord, send me back, someone else’s sake as well as mine, The Almighty only gives that which refers to both of these conditions. the fast. that I might do righteousness in I will leave him to whom he has is bountiful and plentiful. Allah The —{So whoever would hope for 4. Receiving Ramadan with that which I left behind.} [Qur’an associated with Me.’”[Muslim] Almighty says in a Qudsi (Sacred) the meeting with his Lord - let patience 23:99-100] They do not wish to be Fasting is one of the greatest Hadeeth: {Every deed of the son him do righteous work} refers In fact, Ramadan is the month among those who will regret their acts of worship that instil sincerity of Aadam (Adam) will be rewarded to following the guidance of the of patience and forbearance. In it, negligence at a time when regret in the heart of the Muslim. This between ten and seven hundred Prophet, sallAllahu ’alayhi wa one abstains from some of his usual will be of no use. is because the fasting person fold, except fasting, for it is for Me sallam ( may Allah exalt his mention habits, food, drink, sexual intercourse Therefore, those people whom cannot be known except by Allah and I shall reward it Myself.}[Al- ), and and anything else that would break Allah has guided to receive the The Almighty, The Most Exalted, Bukhari and Muslim] —{And not associate in the the fast as a form of obedience to blessed month of Ramadan especially if he observes fasting 3. Receiving Ramadan by worship of his Lord anyone.} Allah The Almighty and worship that properly, are determined to do the in days other than the days of adhering strictly to the Sunnah of [Qur’an 18:110] refers to a sincere brings one closer to Him. following: Ramadan and even in Ramadan, for the Prophet, sallAllahu ’alayhi wa intention. Patience is one of the most 1. Sincere Repentance one can pretend that he is fasting sallam ( may Allah exalt his mention Indeed the Prophet, sallAllahu difficult things for the soul. Repentance of sins is obligatory while he is not. In addition to this, ) ’alayhi wa sallam ( may Allah exalt Therefore, patience represents at all times, especially in the month the fasting person keeps away No act can be accepted unless his mention ), clarified everything half of faith and the patient will be of Ramadan. If a person does not from the slightest thing that can it meets two conditions: that it is about the matter of fasting such given an immense reward as Allah repent in Ramadan, then when aff ect his fasting out of sincerity accompanied by a sincere intention, as when to start and stop fasting, The Almighty Says (what means): would he repent? If one does not to Allah The Almighty and seeking which is that one should do it only its pillars, its obligations, its {Indeed, the patient will be given feel regret in Ramadan, then when His pleasure. Therefore, Allah The for the sake of Allah The Almighty, recommended acts, its manners, their reward without account.} would he feel regret? Allah The Almighty has hidden the reward of and in that it is in accordance its virtues and its benefits, things [Qur’an 39:10] — Islamweb.net 16 GULF TIMES Monday, May 13, 2019 COMMUNITY SPIRIT OF RAMADAN

LIGHTS: Katara — the Cultural Village adorned with lights and decorations for the holy month of Ramadan. Photo by Thajudheen How to change your life in Ramadan

ry these proven Qura’n or a good Islamic book etc. heart encourages a person to do techniques for a Interestingly, Prophet Muhammad good deeds and refrains one from successful positive (PBUH), the greatest ‘psychologist’ evil habits! Moreover, exercising change in your habits of humanity, illustrated this your will power (struggle to fi ght during Ramadan and principle in these words: “Fear temptations) for this month helps beyond!T Allah wherever you may be; follow you kick all kinds of bad habits and Acknowledge and identify up an evil deed with a good one form new good ones. Willpower is your bad habits: First step is to which will wipe (the former) like a muscle; the more you exercise admit you need to change. If you out, and behave good-naturedly it, the more you strengthen it. are in a state of denial, you won’t towards people.” (Hadith-At- Think of yourself as a changed, recognise that you have a bad habit Tirmidhi). diff erent, new person. This simple to change. Change your Environment: psychological shift in your thinking Pick a habit for this month: Resist the negative peer pressure by about your own image can do Prioritise your bad habits and focus fi nding a better company of friends. wonders. Tell yourself, “I can’t on one for this month. If you are Collective action to change is very continue this ill-behaviour. I am committed to changing at least powerful. Prophet Muhammad better than that. I am stronger. I am one habit, you will see remarkable (PBUH) explained this peer wiser.” results, Allah-willing. pressure eff ect with the analogy: “A Reward success: The Realise that it’s in us to good friend and a bad friend are like most fundamental law in all of change: Don’t believe the old a perfume-seller and a blacksmith: psychology is the “law of eff ect.” It saying, “You can’t teach an old dog The perfume-seller might give simply states that actions followed OUTDOORS: A Qatar resident seen at the Corniche. new tricks.” You can break a bad you some perfume as a gift, or you by rewards are strengthened and Photo by Shaji Thottathil habit if you really want to. No one might buy some from him, or at likely to recur. Unfortunately, else can change your habits, if you least you might smell its fragrance. studies show that people rarely you with internal strength to of the ‘cost’ of going back to old don’t want to. As for the blacksmith, he might use this technique when trying to overcome temptations to reverting bad habits. Others try physically Remember, Allah loves those who singe your clothes, and at the very change personal habits. Setting to old bad habits. demanding acts to deter them from commit mistakes and repent: The least you will breathe in the fumes up formal or informal rewards Remind yourself of Death reverting to old ways. For example Noble Messenger of Allah (PBUH) of the furnace.” (Hadith-Sahih al- for success greatly increases your and Hereafter often: “Remember that if you do — act than you will said: “By Him in Whose Hand is Bukhari & Muslim) chances of transforming bad habits often the terminator (or destroyer) keep three fast or pay so much my life, if you were not to commit Exercise: Spiritual exercise is into good ones, and is far more of all the pleasures(i.e. death),” the sadaqa (charity) etc sin, Allah would sweep you out of important for lasting change. You eff ective than punishing yourself Messenger of Allah (PBUH)once Ask Allah for help (Dua): Make existence and He would replace may not realise that by exerting for bad habits or setbacks. As stated. (Hadith-At-Tirmidhi.) asking for Allah’s help an integral (you by) those people who would your yourself in spiritual exercises Muslims we should also remember Resolve to continue on part of the overall change process. commit sin and seek forgiveness like the reading of Qur’an and that the ultimate reward is Allah’s and follow up: Giving up bad Ask for Allah’s help before, during from Allah, and He would have Hadith, fasting, giving charity, zikr Pleasure and Paradise in the habits or learning good habits and after every attempt at kicking pardoned them.” (Hadith -Sahih (remembering Allah), spending Hereafter. requires regular maintenance and a bad habit. Do so sincerely, even Muslim) time in the Path of Allah etc helps Get help: Tell someone about determination. It is a long, ongoing begging and crying, like a child Intention and plan to change: in eliminating a number of bad your eff ort to change if it helps. He process, also known as “Tazkiyyah” does when he or she really wants “If you fail to plan, you plan to fail.” habits. Through the spiritual light or she may keep you on track and in Islamic terminology. It’s more something. Allah is ever-willing to A healthy process of change in of doing noble deeds, evil ones may off er some good advice. Read diffi cult than the fi rst few steps of help and to respond to our needs, character requires a gradual pace, will gradually be eradicated from books that will encourage you to change. (“How many times have I but it is us who must take the which entails planning. Develop your life. Allah says: “Indeed, do virtues actions. Join the various dieted, for example, only to gain the fi rst step towards Him. Allah will concrete milestones to measure Salah restrains from shameful and (amaal) programmes in your local weight back?”). So ensure that you Never disappoint us! Allah Ta’ala your progress. unjust deeds” (Qura’n:29:45). A mosque. Ladies should endeavour follow up. Link yourself to a good says “Ask me, and I will answer Replace a bad habit with a person complained to the Prophet to join their local learning groups. Allah-fearing Islamic Scholar, make your call…” (Qura’n 40:60) “And good one: Completely eliminating Muhammad (peace be upon him) There are good and sincere people a habit of spending time in the path whosoever is conscious of Allah and a habit is more challenging than about someone who read salaah and who are ready to assist. We are not of Allah and constantly engage in keeps his duty to Him, He (Allah) replacing it with a more productive also committed theft .The Prophet an island- We are an Ummah! noble and charitable work. will make a way for him to get out habit. Moreover, it’s crucial to Muhammad (PBUH) said “His Boost your spiritual immune Develop a relapse strategy: (from) every (diffi culty), and He will replace the lost natural needs, salaat will very soon wean him off system: By fasting, doing good How do you ensure not to return provide him from (sources) he could such as the need to socialise and that sin.’ This shows that the evil actions, itikaaf(seclusion), to your bad habit you are trying never imagine.” (Quran 65:2-3) to be entertained with something habits can be got rid of by adhering spending time in the mosque with to change? Some people donate So surely you can do it. Just trust healthy. For instance, it’s easier to to good practises. The doing of the pious friends of Allah or going money to a good cause every and pray to Allah and make that replace your addiction to TV with good deeds such as remembering in the path of Allah will boost your time they return to sinning or great change this Ramadan! — a physical workout or reading the Allah cleanses the heart. A clean Imaan (faith) which will provide a bad habit. This reminds them muslimvillage.com