Habits: Form New Ones and Break the Bad Ones- Session2
[email protected], sakhisanga.blogspot.com, Facebook.com/Sakhisanga • Step 2:Self Observation (energy, Event Trigger tension, tightness, warmth, numbness Physical Sensations anger, anxiety, Feelings joy, excitement Resulting Rationale for Behavior(Habit) your response Observable as language (stories, interpretation, Reward! justification, etc.) Self observation helps is forming good habits and breaking bad habits! Step 3:Self Acceptance • All-inclusive acceptance of our conditioning as we are, today • Do I feel uncomfortable with parts of myself? – E.g 8 hrs of sleep and wake up time • Neither our personality, habits nor our body can ever be perfect, nor our financial net worth large enough. • Partial reforms, though, typically are needed. – Bodily and Emotional excesses need management • Clear seeing leads us to accept our imperfections as imperfections. Self-respect leads us to work on improving in the appropriate places. Practice, Detachment and Higher Taste STEP 4: ASPIRE FOR HIGHER REWARDS How can we develop such an internal pause button? Through constant practice and detachment(Bhagavad Gita verses 6.34-6.35) •Hindsight: •We use 20/20 hindsight to reflect at the end of our day using the exercise in the prev page. We remember that we actually did engage in something we did not want to earlier in the day. We jot down notes about our experience, and become curious . (“Hey! Maybe I really do interrupt!”) •Hindsight, closer in time: •After several days, we become increasingly attuned to the behavior. We begin to notice it sooner. (“Oops! I just interrupted Anita!”) Still hindsight, but closer in time.