Vol. 16 No. 3 • December 2012

www.tclifelong.org Senior Circle www.tompkins-co.org/cofa A circle is a group of people in which everyone has a front seat.

Senior Focus: Joyce Day Captures the American Spirit of Service to Others By Katrina Schickel selves with their respective help but be struck by the ther her education at TC3 parties. Behind the passion of uniquely American spirit of her where she was a member of these arguments and discus- life. the first graduating class. Her sions lies the day to day reality first job, and one that she held The third child of ten siblings, of the lives of the American until her retirement, was for Joyce’s childhood was pep- voter. Perhaps, when we look the City of Ithaca as fiscal pered with lots of reading and at our individual communities manager in the Chamberlain’s of course some responsibility. and the people who make up Office. Joyce married at age She reassured me that being our own neighborhoods, we twenty and she and her hus- one of so many siblings did can newly appreciate the band had two treasured sons. not mean that all they did was uniqueness of our country. However, after nine years, the work. Her mother encouraged marriage ended and Joyce re- reading and trips to the library On Monday, the day before located to the small village of were common. But so too, the Presidential election, I had Dryden where she found won- there were tables to be set the privilege of spending time derful neighbors, schools and and dishes and laundry to be with Joyce Day of Dryden. Ex- a church where she serves in done – a reality that most iting my car, I braced myself a variety of roles to this day. families share although per- against the chill of this late af- She purchased the small Today, as I write this Senior haps not in quite the same ternoon November day. home where we sat and en- Focus article, Americans are magnitude. The family had a Joyce’s home in the village joyed the warm, afternoon fire. exercising their right to vote in garden which was put to good can only be described as ut- Over the years she painted, cities and towns across this use. The children learned to terly charming. Her gardens, added on rooms and really great land. We have heard can and put up vegetables and carefully tended and planned completely refigured this home much this presidential season make pickles. Helping one welcome the visitor to this en- to its present state which can about issues of great concern another was part of the fabric chanting cottage-like home. only be described as lovely. to both the right and the left. of life for this family in New- Joyce and I chatted in front of Joyce did much of the work Candidates and pundits have her fireplace and as the after- field, . presented their points of view herself, with some assistance noon waned and our conver- After graduating from high from family and friends as with great passion in effort to sation meandered over the persuade voters to align them- school, Joyce went on to fur- needed. ...Continued on page 7 highlights of her life, I couldn’t

Staying Safe: RSVP Volunteers in Action The Wonderful Wheel- chairs program is just one of 60 area non-profit agencies and pro- Winter Driving and grams that benefits from the 450 RSVP volunteers age of 55+ who Beyond By: Ray Weaver, donated 65,164 hours of volunteer service this past year. Find out Way2Go Program Manager, Cornell more by calling Retired Senior Volunteer Program at 273-1511. Cooperative Extension With the winter months upon us, it is important consider how to be safe while driving in the winter. If you plan on driv- ing this winter, make sure you have your vehicle is ready. Check the windshield wipers for signs of wear like cracking or discoloration and check the quality of the wipe. If there are Harry Ellsworth Tracy Saulsgiver Larry Saulsgiver streaks or areas that are un- CHANGE SERVICE REQUESTED 119 W. Court St. • Ithaca, NY 14850 EnhancingLifelong, Half the Second Senior Circle car.gov states “All tires will bad weather, times of day with wiped, it’s time for a new set. naturally lose some air over lots of traffic and after dark The National Highway Trans- time. In fact, under-inflation is when visibility is reduced. portation Board recommends a leading cause of tire failure. Consider if you or a loved one new windshield wipers, at So it’s advisable to check the would be better off taking a minimum, every year (every pressure in all your tires, in- break from driving for the win- six months is ideal). Yet the cluding the spare, at least ter or retiring from driving alto- average vehicle owner re- once a month.” For an accu- gether. There are options to places his/her wipers only rate reading, check the tire get where you need to go, once every 2.5 years. Check pressure when it has not been help keep you active in the the defroster and fill your wind- driven for at least three hours. community and even re- shield washer reservoir with a You’ll get better gas mileage, sources for helping you have a fluid that will not freeze and too, with properly inflated tires. keep extra in reserve in the ...Continued on page 7 vehicle. You can go use a lot Keep supplies on hand such of windshield wiper fluid in a as an ice scraper, cell phone INSIDE THIS ISSUE single snowstorm. with charger, a blanket and • Snap Shot of Tompkins County abrasive materials such as Permit No. 375

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Ithaca, NY Ithaca, NY Older Adults Non-Profit Non-Profit sand or kitty litter in case your PAID 14850 charged. In cold temperatures, vehicle gets stuck. If possible, • If You Need To Hire In‐Home Help batteries loose power. See don’t let your tank get less • Area Pharmacies Hours that the tires have good tread, than half-full. Pay attention to at least 1/16 of an inch, and • Program News from Lifelong, the weather reports and con- are properly inflated. Safer- RSVP & Northside‐Southside sider staying off the road in Page 2 Senior Circle • December 2012 Senior Services You May Qualify for a Medicare Savings Program

One way of reducing Medicare costs are the Medicare Savings Information and Referral Programs (MSP). These programs look at just an individual’s The Office for the Aging provides information and referral ser- monthly income and not resources or assets. The income eligibil- vices for individuals and agencies concerning an array of issues affecting older adults. If you have questions, our staff is ready, will- ity levels and benefits are listed below for each program (based on published 2012 limits): ing and able to serve your needs. Please call the Tompkins County Office for the Aging at 274-5482, or visit us on the web Qualified Medicare Beneficiary Program (QMB): Single monthly at www.tompkins-co.org/cofa income below $951 or couple below $1,281 per month. Pays for Longview's Adult Day Program Medicare Part A and/or B premiums. Pays for Medicare Part A Longview's Adult Day Program has become the home away from and/or B coinsurance and deductibles. Individual can be eligible home for many Tompkins County seniors, offering companionship, for QMB only or for QMB and Medicaid. recreation, safety and security. The daily fee of $38 includes per- sonal supervision, recreational programs, morning and afternoon Specified Low Income Medicare Beneficiary Program (SLIMB): snacks as well as a hot, nutritious lunch. Longview's Adult Day Single monthly income below $1,137 or couple below $1,533 per Program is open from 9am to 3pm on Tuesdays, Wednesdays and month. Pays for Medicare Part B premium only. Applicant must Thursdays. For more information call (607) 375-6320. have Medicare Part A to be eligible. Individual can be eligible for SLIMB only or for SLIMB and Medicaid (with a spend-down). Let it Snow… The City of Ithaca code requires property owners, homeowners Qualified Individual (QI): Single monthly income below $1,277 or and landlords to keep sidewalks clear of ice and snow, and fines couple below $1,723 per month. Pays for Medicare Part B pre- can be stiff. For many older adults who need some assistance mium only. Applicant must have Medicare Part A to be eligible. with snow removal, this creates a problem. Individuals who can- Individuals cannot be eligible for QI and Medicaid. not do their own snow shoveling may be able to find people willing to do this work for pay or as volunteers through the Tompkins There is one other Medicare Savings Program that does include County Office for the Aging (274-5482) or Lifelong (273-1511). review of the individual’s resources/assets when determining eli- Both agencies keep current listings of volunteer and paid help who gibility. The Qualified Disabled and Working Individual Program are willing to assist older adults in downtown Ithaca as well as in (QDWI): Single monthly income below $3,809 and resources be- rural areas of Tompkins County. If you're having difficulty clearing low $4,000 or couple income below $5,129 per month and re- your walk, please call us. sources below $6,000. This program pays for Medicare Part A Need a Break? Project CARE Might Help!The premium only. The applicant must be a disabled worker under Office for the Aging's Project CARE program is designed to age 65 who lost Part A provide caregivers with a much-needed break. Project benefits because of return CARE matches older adults and their caregivers with volun- to work. teers who provide friendly visiting, respite, or might even be able to assist with some light housekeeping, yard work or For more information re- errands. If you or someone you know would benefit from garding qualification and for some help with the difficult work of care giving, please con- application assistance, call tact Trina Schickel at the Office for the Aging, 274-5491. Ad- Lifelong HIICAP (Health ditionally, if you are interested in volunteering, please call Insurance Information, the Office for the Aging, 274-5491, for more information Counseling and Assistance about Project CARE. Program) at 273-1511 or Shirley and Bill McAneny meet with Diane The Registry the Tompkins County Office Dawson, Lifelong CEO and HIICAP Coordi- nator during a recent Medicare Clinic. The Independence Center has administers the Reg- for the Aging at 274-5482. istry Referral Program. The Registry Referral is a free referral ser- vices linking individuals seeking independent employment to peo- ple who need care in their home. Opportunities include: elder companion, housekeeper, run errands, do yard work, cook, per- sonal care aide, home care aide, LPN, RN. People looking for help can call and receive names of people who are willing to pro- vide those services. Payment and other arrangements are made by the person seeking help with the person willing to provide the services. If you either need assistance or if you would be inter- ested in listing your name as a caregiver, please call Cheryl at FLIC at 272-2433 or email: [email protected]. This program is made possible through funding from the Tompkins County Office for the Aging. Senior Circle • December 2012 Page 3

A Snapshot of Tompkins County Older Adults

The Tompkins County Office for the Aging has completed a needs assessment survey of residents over the age of sixty to Wild: From Lost to Found on identify current trends, needs and resources. The needs assess- the Pacific Crest Trail ment is a rich source of information about the status of older By Cheryl Strayed adults in Tompkins County, and will be used for planning not only by the Office for the Aging, but also by other private and public By her mid-twenties, Cheryl Strayed is a lost entities. woman. Her mother has died from cancer, Strayed’s young marriage has fallen apart, The survey was administered to a randomly selected sample of and after being involved with some ques- Tompkins County residents age 60+, and included questions re- tionable men, is now recreationally using garding age, income, employment, housing, transportation, isola- heroin. Knowing that she has to change her life, Strayed makes tion, activities, health conditions, care giving, awareness of ser- a decision that most young women wouldn’t think of doing – she vices, health insurance coverage, prescription drug use, use of decides to hike the 1,100 Pacific Crest Trail from the Mojave technology and food security. Desert to Washington State by herself. Strayed has little knowl-

Among the results revealed in the 2012 needs assessment: edge on how to successfully hike the daunting trail, and is • Since the last survey, there is an increase in the number of quickly ill-prepared to deal with her heavy backpack, extreme Tompkins County residents who are employed, with the largest weather conditions, and the severity of loneliness that hits her increase among those working full-time. on her isolated trek. As she hikes on, she not only changes • Thirty-three percent of older homeowners have a need for ma- physically from the constant hiking, but spiritually and emotion- jor home repairs, and 38% of these cite cost as the reason for not ally as she examines her life and meets strangers who help her along the way. doing the repair. • Since the last survey in 2004, there is a decrease in older This popular memoir was chosen by Oprah Winfrey as her new adults with high housing costs burdens, which is a positive indica- book group pick and is the perfect book to spark discussions in tor for Tompkins County seniors. book groups. Sometimes reading like fiction, Strayed’s story is • The survey revealed that 18.4% of respondents provided care part wilderness tale and part self-help memoir about how she for another older person, either in their household, or at a dis- personally changed her life around. Readers may not always tance. Extrapolated to the County as a whole, some 2,952 sen- agree with her choices, but will slowly find themselves cheering iors are providing unpaid care for other seniors. As the baby for her to finish her journey. boom generation reaches its elder years, and the ratio of younger Sarah Glogowski caregivers to older adults decreases, it will become more impor- Readers’ Services Librarian, tant than ever to support these informal caregivers who provide Tompkins County Public Library the majority of care to seniors. 101 East Green Street, Ithaca, NY Eighty-two percent of Tompkins County older adults have • 607 272 4557 ext. 255 computers with internet access in their homes. This figure com- fax: 607 272 8111 pares to 53% nationally. [email protected] Lifelong is a United Way agency Forty percent of Tompkins County older adults spend at least an hour a week volunteering.

According to the 2010 Census, Tompkins County has seen a 34% increase in population of people age 60 and older since 2000. This group represents 15.8% of the total County popula- tion. Baby boomers account for the largest part of this growth: between 200 and 2010 there was an 88.7% increase in persons age 60-64 in Tompkins County.

For a complete look at the Office for the Aging’s 2012 Needs As- sessment, visit our website at: www.tompkins-co.org/cofa or call 274-5482 to request a copy.

Share Your Advice for a Happy Marriage http://blogs.cornell.edu/marriageadviceproject

Thinking back over your life, what are some of the most important lessons you feel you have learned about having a happy and successful marriage?

The Marriage Advice Project (http:blogs.cornell.edu/ marriageadviceproject/) at is collecting the ad- vice of people 60 and older about love and marriage. They are seeking tips from elders about how to find the right partner, how to make marriage or a committed partnership work, and how to deal with the stresses of marriage. The advice they collect will be used in a new book of elder wisdom about marriage.

They would love to hear from you whether or not you are cur- rently married. If you are age 60 or older, please share your les- sons on our website. (Simply write your advice - as long or short as you like – in the comment box.)

For more information, go to the website (http://blogs.cornell.edu/the marriageadviceproject/) or feel free to email them at [email protected].

The Senior Circle is published four times a year by Lifelong, 119 West Court Street, Ithaca, NY 14850, and contains information on activities and services which add to the quality of life for older adults and assists them to maintain an independent lifestyle. Page 4 Senior Circle • December 2012

Lifelong News

HAPPY BIRTHDAY LIFELONG! NEW YEAR…NEW YOU! By Harriet London, President, Lifelong Board of Directors Do you know that Lifelong offers exercise programs throughout Just like the older adults who are our members, participants and Tompkins County? As you think about your hopes for the coming volunteers, we celebrate the past while looking to the future. The year, don’t forget to address your health and well-being. If your number of participants in our Lifelong Activities and Lifelong New Year resolution is to be stronger and more flexible, Lifelong Learning classes continues to grow. We have activities in more can help. So mark you calendar, put on your comfy clothes, grab locations throughout the county than ever before. We have over your sneakers, bring some water and take that first step to a 400 RSVP volunteers. And we know that the 50+ population in healthier you. Check out the list to see classes in your area. For Tompkins County is growing – most striking, an 89% increase in more information contact Lifelong at 273-1511 or jpendle- those 60-64 in the last decade. We’re excited about the future. [email protected].

The Lifelong Board of Directors and staff met over the summer Enhance Fitness is an evidence-based exercise program that and talked about what we want Lifelong to look like in the future. helps participants at all levels of fitness become more active, en- We looked at our mission to enhance the lives of older adults in ergized, and empowered to sustain independent lives. Classes Tompkins County and talked about what that means. We fo- focus on stretching, flexibility, balance, low impact aerobics, cused on our vision of living in a community where growing older strength training exercises, and deep breathing exercises. You well is a vital part of life; where older adults have opportunities to can find these classes at: be involved and to grow in ways which are important to them; where they will feel valued and welcomed. Everyone, no matter Dryden Veterans Memorial Home in Dryden, NY on Mon- their age, is enriched by living in a community like that. From our days, Wednesdays and Fridays at 10:15am discussions we developed a Vision Statement for Lifelong; it was Newfield Gardens in Newfield, NY on Mondays, Wednes- formally adopted by the Board this fall. We hope that you share days and Fridays at 9:30am our vision and will join us helping to make it a reality. Kendal at Ithaca in Ithaca, NY on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays at 9:00am MISSION: The mission of Lifelong is to enhance the lives of older Juniper Manor I in Trumansburg, NY on Mondays, Wednes- adults in Tompkins County. days and Fridays at 9:00am VISION: We are committed to creating a community where grow- Lifelong in Ithaca, NY on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays ing older well is a vital part of life. Lifelong is a primary resource at 8:30am in meeting that goal. We will thrive as a vibrant hub for a wide McGraw House in Ithaca, NY on Mondays, Wednesdays and variety of activities geared to older adults throughout the county – Fridays at 2:00pm activities which promote continued mental, physical and creative T’ai Chi promotes balance, flexibility, coordination, and reduces growth in a setting which is welcoming and comfortable for all. pain. T’ai Chi is also known to lower the risk of falls, increase en- People will know when they plan their retirement that Lifelong will ergy levels, enhance sleep, and reduce stress and anxiety. Using be there for them as an important part of their continuing quality precise, fluid movements, T’ai Chi will dissolve tension, increase of life. Volunteers at Lifelong and throughout the community will your strength, cardiovascular fitness, and leave you with a feel valued as they give back to their community and share their greater awareness, calmness, and overall sense of wholeness. talents with others. Lifelong is here to help everyone navigate You can find new classes at: issues of aging well.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY LIFELONG! Lansing Library in Lansing, NY on Tuesdays at 11:30am Lifelong in Ithaca, NY on Fridays at 11:30am We’re 60 years young and going strong! -Harriet Titus Towers Apt. in Ithaca, NY on Mondays at 10:00am

Heartfelt Appreciation Yoga uses breathing techniques, basic yoga postures, focus and relaxation to help you become more in tune with your body and As we reflect on the past with gratitude and look forward to the improve your breath awareness and control. You can find these future with optimism, we at Lifelong would like to thank all our classes at:

wonderful volunteers, especially our Board of Directors, for their Lifelong in Ithaca, NY on Tuesdays at 4:30pm and Fridays at commitment and dedication to our organization. Whether your 10:00am affiliation with us is as an instructor through Lifelong Learning or Philomathic Library in Trumansburg on Tuesdays and Activities, or as a volunteer with Northside/Southside, RSVP or Thursdays at 10:00am Travel Program, your continued presence and devotion makes us better, stronger and more inviting to the population we serve. Strength Training uses resistance exercises to strengthen From the bottom of our hearts, we thank you, we appreciate you bones, increase muscular endurance and improve circulation and balance. You can find these classes at: and we wish you all the best in the coming year. ...The Lifelong Staff Lifelong in Ithaca, NY on Mondays & Thursdays at12:30pm St. Catherine’s of Siena in Ithaca, NY on Fridays at 9:20am

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LIFELONG LEARNING SHUFFLE OFF TO – SPRING SEMESTER CALIFORNIA or SWITZERLAND

The calendar may say winter but at Lifelong, Planning to do some traveling in 2013? Spring is in the air! The Lifelong Learning Catalog for our Spring Let Lifelong help you with the planning. Semester 2013 promises to sow the seeds of learning. Everyone Each year, we strive to provide exciting can reap the benefits of the exciting classes we offer. Our goal is travel opportunities for our community, like to cultivate programs and presentations we think will be interest- our trip to Washington DC in September of ing to our members, and make them available in a warm and wel- this year. Our committee is mulling over coming environment. We are so fortunate to have knowledge- some ideas for day trips and overnight able, interesting instructors who are passionate about the pro- trips around New York State. grams they present. We appreciate the time, energy and enthusi- asm they bring to their classes. However, for the more adventuresome types, sign up now for 9 day trip to the Lifelong values an experience-centered learning environment and California Coast in September or a trip of a Seniors on the recent aims to link communities with one another. With that in mind and lifetime to Switzerland, Austria and Bavaria Lifelong trip to Washing- with the help of community partners, we’ve been able to extend in May. ton D.C. taking a break. many more opportunities to the surrounding area. We invite you to join us for a great selection of classes, workshops and presen- We are committed to finding interesting, affordable destinations tations here at Lifelong and in communities throughout Tompkins and more information will follow as soon as we finalize plans and County. We feel fortunate to offer learning opportunities in New- itineraries. Check out our website at www.tclifelong.org for up- field, Lansing, Trumansburg, Groton and Dryden as well as vari- dates. In the meantime, please call us at 273-1511 or stop by at ous locations throughout Ithaca. 119 West Court St., Ithaca for more information.

A complete list of offerings is available online at www.tclifelong.org or at Lifelong at 119 W. Court St. There is a registration cost of $60 for one course, $85 for an unlimited num- ber of courses and presentations (Members receive a $5 dis- count). We want everyone to take advantage of these community classes. Need-based scholarships, for a maximum of 3 fee- based classes, are available for anyone who is unable to afford the cost of registration.

We rely on, and very much appreciate the time and energy so generously donated by our volunteer instructors. Program ideas and volunteers are always welcome.

IN HONOR OF DR.MARTIN LUTHER KING JR.’S BIRTHDAY

Search for these words and phrases honoring Dr. King’s life in this puzzle to the right. Words may be found: T S I T P A B R E Z E N E B E

Horizontally from left to right or right to left E B H M S E I V A T L A N T A Vertically from top to bottom or bottom to top Q C M A R C H C R U H C O V T Diagonally from bottom left to top right. U S C E Z I R P L E B O N O B I HAVE A DREAM BIRMINGHAM A T I H A V E A D R E A M T A CIVIL RIGHTS BUS BOYCOTT L S E L T I N M O T Z R O I T NON VIOLENCE VOTING RIGHTS MARCH EBENEZER BAPTIST I E C N E L O I V N O N R N T SELMA ATLANTA T T O M A R T I N C U D E G O MOREHOUSE CHURCH Y O R S T I G H T A R N H R C NOBEL PRIZE MEMORIAL F R E E A G H A M C I Z O I Y CORETTA EQUALITY FOR ALL MARTIN PROTEST O P T I M H B L L T T B U G O KING SCLC R A T N O T E C R E M P S H B (Southern Christian Leadership Conference) A T A G V S S A K I N G E T S L M A H G N I M R I B C L S U L E V A T M E M O R I A L I B Page 6 Senior Circle • December 2012 Volunteer News RSVP 2012 Tribute Award Winners Honored Thank You Virginia Pepitone has been an RSVP volunteer since 2008 and has 963 lifetime re- corded hours. Originally, she volunteered at Cayuga Medical Center where she provided Sponsors administrative support. These days, Virginia is the smiling face you see as you Sustaining Sponsors are greeted to the Tompkins County Public Library. Dryden Mutual Insurance

Dick Tabor became an RSVP volunteer in 2008 and to date, has Ithaca Urology Kendal at Ithaca 1197 recorded hours of service. Currently he volunteers at the Tomp- Longview kins County Public Library, the Friends of the Library and the Ithaca Youth Bureau. Tompkins Trust Company Previously, he volunteered at Loaves & Fishes. At the Library, Dick is a huge hit in the Tomkins Co. Deputy Association Reading to Children program, where toddlers look forward to his weekly readings. Both Dick and Virginia were recommended for special RSVP tribute by Tonya Curran, TCPL Sustaining Friends Family Medicine Assoc. of Ithaca Volunteer Coordinator. Security Mutual Insurance

Swartout Coaches, Inc. Since 2011, RSVP volunteer Jennifer Merrill has racked up 248 lifetime hours of service. She is very active, serving at one-day events like the Friends of the Library Table Sponsors Sale and Tompkins County Safe Medication Disposal. She is also a familiar face at All Ears Audiology of Ithaca local Red Cross Blood Drives. However, most of the time, Jennifer can be found at Audrey Edelman/Edie Tompkins County Community Action where she serves several days a week in the Automotive Consultants food pantry. Ruth Williams, Family Services Nutrition Coordinator, recommended Jen- Bangs Funeral Home Bangs Ambulance nifer for special recognition. Blumkin, Finlay & Bixler Snap Shots from the RSVP Annual Cayuga Medical Center CFCU November Recognition Reception Dr. John Comisi Dryden Mutual Family Medicine Assoc. Fontana's Shoe Store Gadabout Gary's Barbershop Glenside Monument Co. Gerontology Ithaca Urology Jim Ray Mobile Homes Joch & Kirby Law Office Kendal at Ithaca Longview Maguire Motors Manos Diner Mansour Jewelers Myer Funeral Service Corp. Pain Consultants Security Mutual Swartout Coaches, Inc T. Co. Deputy Sheriff Assoc. Tompkins Trust Co. True Insurance Varna Senior Citizens Westown Optical William Highland, Attorney at Law

Pictured from the top left: Juanita Congratulations Teeter, Art Berkey and Carol John are some of the happy door prize winners. New RSVP Director K Minnix, greets Samantha Smith from United Way, along with Carol Eichler RSVP Volunteers Sarla Aneja and David Barber. RSVP Advisory Council President, Art Winner of the RSVP Berkey, welcomed the 125 RSVP volunteers and guests to the recognition event. Cast quilt drawing! members from the Savage Club’s production of 1776 provided the entertainment. RSVP volunteer Harriet London (also President of Lifelong’s Board of Directors) and Lifelong’s C.E.O. Diane Dawson pose in front of the RSVP quilt. Advisory Council members Edie Spalding, Roxann Buck and Carol Halseth show off one of the many door prizes. Ron Havard, Jimmie Merrill and Marie Powers, Vice President of the Advisory Council, led the line at the buffet at the Clarion Hotel. Carol Halseth explains some of the fabric choices she made when creating the quilt ‘Ithaca Abound’.

Thank You Door Prize Donors AGAVA , Agway of Dryden, Agway of Ithaca, Antlers Restaurant, Art Berkey, Auto Works, Bang’s Ambulance, Briar Patch, , Cayuga Medical Auxiliary, Cayuga Radio Group, Diane’s Downtown Automotive, Frame Shop, Handwork, , Homespun, Lifelong Gift Shop, Quilter’s Corners, Rasa Spa, Sage Work, Six Mile Creek Winery, The Rose Restaurant, Trombley Tire & Auto Senior Circle • December 2012 Page 7

Meet the Ithaca’s First Joyce Day Safe Driving New Wheelchair- ...Continued from page 1 ...Continued from page 1 One of the things that intrigued conversation about retiring RSVP Accessible me about Joyce is her wonder- from driving. Retiring from Director Taxi ful attitude and spirit. If you driving is a big change in life- live in Dryden, as I do, you style for many seniors and Dedicated! can’t help but to have met families can play an important Joyce at some function or supportive role in this change. Tompkins County and Ithaca other. I inquired about her Way2Go, a transportation edu- K Minnix is the new RSVP di- Dispatch have partnered to- various activities in the com- cation program of Cooperative rector for Tompkins County. gether to purchase a MV-1 taxi munity. “While I was working Extension, is a resource for She takes over the helm from which can carry one person in full time, I had to limit my in- seniors who want to learn Lillian Hartman who held the a wheelchair and three seated volvement somewhat. I got about transportation options. position at Lifelong for almost passengers. involved with Sertoma when Way2Go typically offers two two years. Most recently, K my boys played sports and I free workshops monthly. was the South Central New Dwight Mengel, chief transpor- have served that organization York Regional Communica- tation planner for the Tomp- “Retiring from Driving: A re- for about 22 years now. Of tions Director for the American kins County Department of So- source for families and care- course, my involvement with Red Cross, working with five cial Services said bringing the givers!” is geared for families the Presbyterian Church as chapters across ten counties. first wheelchair-accessible taxi and caregivers who want to both an Elder and on various At one point, she was also the to the community will allow discuss driving with a senior. committees has been even interim volunteer coordinator those who use wheelchairs the This workshop offers skills for longer – about 25 years, I at the Tompkins County Red ability to call a cab if they need managing tough family conver- think. I also served on the Cross Chapter. a ride. sations and educates partici- Dryden School Board for pants about the transportation Prior to joining the Red Cross, “The nature of taxi service is about six years.” Joyce retired options available in county that K worked for the Ithaca Jour- that it is available 24/7 and it’s from the City of Ithaca six nal and had her own market- can aid in driver retirement. also pretty much of an on-call years ago. After taking the ing and communications busi- service, so taxi service is ex- first 6 months of retirement to Way2Go also offers a work- ness. She has lived in Ithaca tremely flexible for people,” he re-read all the books in her shop titled “Retiring from Driv- since 1998. said. “For people who use home, she then ventured out ing for Seniors.” The workshop “I am delighted to be involved wheelchairs, having mobility to return the gift of her time educates participants on the in this great organization,” she choices is extremely impor- and effort to the community transportation options avail- says. “Joyce Billing, the RSVP tant, and it’s important that she loves. Joyce became in- able that would assist them in assistant who many of you they not be so limited.” volved with the new and retiring from driving, and main- amazing group of volunteers taining their independence. know, has been a huge help to “Gadabout is a very good ser- called the Dryden Beautifica- Did you know that if you’re me since I came onboard in vice, but it’s based on calling tion Brigade. The tireless over 60, you can ride TCAT for September. Lilly has also ahead the day before to get work of these volunteers has half-fare? TCAT offers over stepped in to steer the way on service,” he said. “ A person made the Village of Dryden a thirty bus routes all wheelchair several big projects.” in a wheelchair can ride any of beautiful and gracious location accessible in and around the TCAT services, but the na- K is anxious to meet all of you for all residents to enjoy. Tompkins County. Gadabout ture of the fixed route service, and get out into the community Joyce has served on the Gar- is another option for by any- depending on where you want to visit RSVP stations. She is den Tour Committee that high- one who is over 60, or who to go, depending on the ser- encouraging all RSVP volun- lights various gardens in our has a disability. Gadabout vice, it may be difficult. A taxi teers to stop in and get ac- community. picks you up at your home and offers a very flexible service quainted when visiting Life- will take you to your destina- long. Likewise, if you have a option for people.” Her work with the Dryden tion for $1.50-$2.00. There Youth Opportunity Fund, an volunteer problem or want to The taxi will be operated by FISH and Zimride and ...Come independent, community- make a recommendation, she Ithaca Dispatch (277-7777.) to either of the workshops and based organization which wants to hear from you. learn more. Both of types of benefits the youth of Dryden workshops are generously Finally, if you know someone has been unflagging. She has supported by Lifelong Learn- 55+ who is interested in volun- also worked at the local ing, which regularly hosts teering or who is volunteering Kitchen Cupboard and she workshops and lists the work- but is not an RSVP serves on the Board of Willow- shops in its course catalog. volunteer, please ask brook Manor, a senior housing Some workshops are offered them to call K. development in Dryden. at senior residential communi- I couldn’t help but ask Joyce ties, churches, library and how she managed to make other convenient locations. RSVP Volunteers her life one of service while If you are considering driving please help us being a single parent and retirement or having a conver- keep track of your working full time? Joyce was sation with a loved one about quick to reply, “ What I know to hours! driving retirement, or hosting a be true is that nobody else can workshop for a group you be- Remember to make you happy. “ It would long to, or if you are interested record your hours seem that Joyce Day has in more information about any made her life one of service to on the of the programs or services others and in doing so she has Station Log mentioned in this article, con- built a rich, fulfilling and happy at your tact Way2Go at 272-2292 or life. In my estimation, during workplace. visit us at way2go.org this election season OR in our country, we can be grateful for Send them to folks like Joyce Day [email protected] who really do cap- Or ture what it means to 119 West Court Street be a citizen of this Ithaca, NY 14850 great country.

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Northside-Southside News For more information and full listings of programs please check out our website at www.tclifelong.org Please call For 28 years, the Northside/Southside program of Lifelong has Lifelong at 273-1511 or email [email protected] to celebrated the legacy of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. register for any of these events! with a luncheon. This year’s event will be the kick- All events listed are held at Lifelong unless noted. off to our “Seven Weeks of Celebration”,

which will include musical performances, a book January Events: Wednesday, February 20th discussion with Dr. Dorothy Cotton, videos and Gathering: Wednesday, from 1pm-2pm, Joplin, Duke presentations on Black and African American History from The January 8th at 10am at Life- and Ray -- Ragtime, Swing long. and Soul. Three legends of John Henrik Clarke Africana Library and the Tompkins County African American music are Lunch: Thursday, January History Center and more…. as we celebrate Black History Month. discussed and interpreted in 17th doors open at 11:30am for this solo piano concert with the Annual Martin Luther King Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Luncheon Andrew Westphal, pianist. Be- Jr. Luncheon at the Southside ginning with favorite rags from Community Center. For more Thursday, January 17, 2013 Scott Joplin, we progress to information see the special no- Doors open at 11:30 am. the classic Swing music of tice on this page. Duke Ellington and conclude Southside Community Center, 305 South Plain St. Ithaca. Shopping: Tuesday, January with the master of Soul--Ray 15 from 10AM-1:45PM at the Charles. Our guest speaker will be Pastor Nathaniel Wright of the Calvary

Shops at Ithaca Mall. th Baptist Church. Music will be provided by Wednesday, February 27 Special Event: Workshop from 10am-12pm at Paul the New Roots School Jazz Band. Tuesdays, January 22nd and Miller from the Tompkins The cost is $10.00 per person and pre-registration is very much 29th from 2-4pm and matinee County History Center will st appreciated. Please call Lifelong at 273-1511 to register. on Thursday January 31 at share about Ithaca’s Council 2pm. Join us for the two of Equality workshops and than attend the Lunch: Thursday, February The Luncheon has been an opportunity for friends and neighbors Kitchen Theater matinee per- 14th from 11:30am-1:30pm at to come together as a community and remember the remarkable formance of The Whipping the Ithaca Ale House. work of Dr. King. Man. A beautifully written play th that looks at the conflicts of Shopping: Tuesday, February Join us for the first time, or maybe even your 28 time!. the Civil War from an unusual from 10AM-1:45PM at the perspective of two former Shops at Ithaca Mall. slaves and their master. Come and shop this gift-giving season at Lifelong! March Events: Presentation: Thursday, January 30th from 12:30-2pm A Trip is being planned to Handicraft Gift Shop Eric Acree from The John the Harriett Tubman House Henrick Clarke Africana Li- with lunch in Auburn Open Monday through Friday 11a.m.– 3 p.m. Gathering: Wednesday, brary at Cornell will speak Handcrafted gifts made about the about the life of March 20 at 10am-12pm. by local seniors at unbeatable prices! Fredrick Douglass. Presentation:

Wednesday March 13th from February Events: The Handicraft Gift Shop 10am-12noon, Fred Antil will Wednesday, February 6th at be presenting on Lincoln, the is located in Lifelong, 10am-12pm, Chef Ralph man and the media. 119 West Court Street, Ithaca, New York. Moss will teach Down Home Southern Cooking with a Healthy Twist. Spaces are limited and $10 materials fee.

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Caregivers’ Corner If You Need to Hire In-Home Help

you more control over the selec- or bonded to protect you against is available on the website of the tion process of the aide(s) who theft and damages. Be careful if New York State Department of come to your home. You want to you suspect you are dealing with Taxation and Finance and also, on the IRS website, Publication know the person you hire is car- an agency that doesn’t advertise 926, the Household Employer’s ing and capable. You want to its services publicly. It may be avoiding government regulation Tax Guide. know that others have been and may not have the insurance By David Stoyell pleased with their care and reli- You may also want to check your ability (and would hire them and bonding required of home homeowner’s insurance policy to Some people wait much too long care agencies. see whether it covers domestic again, if needed). An agency to seek needed help in their screens potential employees employers. Some may want to Some choose to hire people pri- consult their financial advisers to home with personal care or looking for the same character vately “under the table” to avoid assist with these issues. household tasks. Whether it is attributes and references, and the effort and expense of paying Additional Help because of “not wanting strang- ultimately makes the final deci- required payroll taxes or because ers in my home,” or “not wanting sion. Some agencies may allow a prospective employee wants to For additional advice on hiring in- to deplete my rainy day funds,” or you meet the caregiver they plan do it that way. Unless your em- home help, read “Should I Hire In-Home Help Privately or for some other reason, people to send prior to the first day of ployee meets the IRS definition of through an Agency” on the Care- can wait too long to the detriment service, if you ask. an “independent contractor” or is Pathways website of their health and well-being, not a regular employee, paying Agencies also save you time and (www.carepathways.com/ and that of family caregivers. “under the table” puts you on have the professional experience cto1.cfm). For more detailed shaky ground and can be a lose- So, “congratulations” if you are of an RN with screening, super- suggestions on hiring someone one of those folks who are realiz- vising and evaluating the per- lose proposition for both parties privately, visit the website Family ing that the “rainy day” you’ve formance of aides. A licensed involved. Caregiver Alliance at saved for has arrived. But where agency also provides ongoing Even though paying workers www.caregiver.org and type can you turn for help? service training. Another advan- “Hiring In-Home Help” into their cash may sound like a great deal The “Long Term Support Ser- tage of going through an agency for the worker because they’re search feature. There you will vices in Tompkins County” guide is that some agencies may offer a getting more in their pockets at find suggestions on this topics on the Office for the Aging web- back-up caregiver when the regu- payday, it means they’re not lar one is not available and care building Social Security benefits, • Assessing Your Home-Care site (www.tompkins-co.org/cofa) Needs can help you find lists of home cannot be deferred. and they’re not eligible for unem- ployment, or worker’s compensa- care agencies and a private hire Then there are the costs and le- • Finding the Right Home Care tion. And sometimes workers try Worker registry. But if you’re not sure gal issues. Usually hiring pri- how much help is needed or wish to apply for those benefits any- vately is less expensive than go- way, which can trigger an investi- • Writing a Job Description to discuss various options for in- ing through an agency since you gation that can result in hefty home help, you may want to call • Developing a Job Contract are assuming the responsibilities fines. NY Connects here in Tompkins associated with hiring, developing • Making Your Home Care County (607-274-5222) to dis- a plan of care, supervising the Tending to legal matters doesn’t Situation Work cuss your concerns over the have to be an obstacle to hiring aide, handling payroll and attend- Again, do not hesitate to con- phone and, if needed, arrange for ing to other legal responsibilities on your own, but it does require an in-home assessment. some investigation. To find out tact staff of the NY Connects- of an employer. Tompkins County to discuss Should I Hire Privately Legal Concerns whether your employee meets the definition of a domestic em- your long term care concerns or through an Agency? An agency also carries liability or the staff of the Caregivers’ There is no “right answer” to this ployee and what might be re- insurance, workmen’s compensa- quired legally, read Publication Resource Center at the Office question—and there is a lot to tion for accidents on the job and 27, What You Need to Know if for the Aging (274-5492) to dis- consider. Hiring privately gives their employees are also insured You Hire Household Help, which cuss your family care giving concerns. Page 10 Senior Circle • December 2012 Sexual Health and Older Adults HIV and many other STDs. To learn more visit the NYSDOH website at http://www.health.ny.gov/diseases/aids/facts/condoms Sexual intimacy is important to us across the life span and under- faqs.htm. Local senior centers can access free condoms by standing the value of sexual health is a key component to manag- learning more about the NYS Condom Access Program by ing good health. As we get older, many of us may be starting new emailing: relationships because of divorce or a partner has passed away. [email protected]

Taking time to talk to your health care provider about your sexual Educate yourself and your partner! A free and accurate, up-to- health can help you to deal with a variety of issues that many date website dedicated to addressing sexual health needs for people face, such as post-menopausal vaginal dryness, erectile adults over 50 is available including tips and information from ex- dysfunction, or staying HIV-free. perts in the health field at http:safersex4seniors.org/ Understanding how HIV and sexually transmitted diseases (STD) are spread will help you to protect yourself from becoming in- No matter what your age, knowing your HIV status and talking to fected. HIV is one of STDs you can get from unprotected sex. your health care provider is a smart move to maintaining your Some STDs can be treated and cured. Other STDs are like HIV— sexual health and well-being. they are long term disease that cannot be cured. Get an HIV Test! All health care providers are required to offer In NYS, the number of people over age 50 who have HIV or AIDS you an HIV test if you are between the ages of 13-64. The test is is growing quickly. While other adults, who were infected at a voluntary and your HIV test results are confidential. Medicare will younger age, are living longer because medical treatment for cover the costs of the HIV test. To find out where to get tested for HIV/AIDS has improved. HIV, call 1-800-541-AIDS. Regardless of your HIV status, you

As a sexually active adult, here are ways you can continue to can learn ways to maintain a healthy, safer, and fun sexually ac- have a vibrant and healthy sex life: tive life.

Use A Condom! Male latex condoms or female condoms, when The Senior Circle is partially funded by the used the right way every time, are very effective in preventing Tompkins County Office of the Aging.

New “Med Return” Program Provides Safe, Year-Round Disposal for Medications

The Tompkins County Coalition for Safe Medica- tion Disposal launched its new “Med Return” pro- gram. Medication drop boxes will be located at secure locations around the county to provide citi- zens the opportunity to safely dispose of their un- wanted household pharmaceuticals year-round. “Med Return” is one of the first programs of its type in New York State.

Residents may visit the Tompkins County Sher- riff’s Office, located at County Public Safety Build- ing, 799 Warren Rd., Ithaca, to dispose of expired or no longer needed medicines in the County’s first “Med Return” drop box. The box is accessi- ble 24 hours-a-day, seven days a week, year- round.

Additional secure boxes will be installed at seven other police agencies throughout the county, and at the Tompkins County Probation Department (Human Services Building).

Following is a list of the locations for the drop boxes: • Ithaca Police Department, 120 E. Clinton St., Ithaca • Cayuga Heights Police Department, 876 Han- shaw Rd., Ithaca • Groton Police Department, 108 E. Cortland St., Groton • Trumansburg Police Department, 5 Elm St., Trumansburg • Cornell University Police Department, G2 Bar- ton Hall • Dryden Police Department, 16 South St., Dry- den • TC# Campus, 170 North St., (main building), Dryden.

The locations and hours, along with disposal guidelines, are posted at the Coalition’s web page at www.healthyyouth.org.

What can and cannot be placed in the box will be posted at each drop box location. Senior Circle • December 2012 Page 11

Area Pharmacy Information Food Stamps for Seniors CVS – 273-3647 625 W. Clinton Street, Ithaca Hi! My name is Peter. I’m 84 Weekdays, 9 AM-9 PM years old and have lived in Weekends, 10 AM-6 PM senior housing for a long time No delivery available. now. Despite the fact that my

Green Street Pharmacy rent is subsidized, I find that 882-9500 my monthly social security 131 East Green St., Ithaca check is not enough to cover Weekdays, 9 AM-6 PM Rite Aid –273-2035 my basic needs. After I pay Saturday, 9 AM-4 PM 330 Pine Tree Rd., Ithaca all of my medical bills, there is Deliveries only within Ithaca Weekdays, 9AM-9PM not much left over. I was eat- City limits. Weekdays 4-5 PM Saturday, 9 AM-6 PM ing a lot of canned foods and Call prescription in by noon. Sunday, 9 AM- 5 PM T.V. dinners, but my legs No cash accepted. Delivery available to Ellis started swelling from all of the Hollow Apartments and Long- Kinney Drug: salt. I decided it was time to view on Thursday afternoon. look into other options so I – Dryden - 844-8273 Request should be submitted 44 North Street by preceding Wednesday. contacted Betsy Spencer from Foodnet Meals on Wheels. – Ithaca -272-8333 Emergency request may be submitted up to Thursday Did you know that as a single 513 N. Cayuga Street morning. No cost for delivery. person, if your income is less – Ithaca - 330-5692 than $1,174/month you may 2255 N. Triphammer Rd. Target – 257-0291 be eligible for food stamp 40 Catherwood Rd., Ithaca benefits? – Trumansburg - 387-6661 Weekdays, 9 AM - 9 PM 210 N. Trumansburg Road Saturday & Sunday, 9 AM-6PM Betsy helped me apply for Weekdays, 8:30 AM-8:30 PM Closed between 1-2 PM SNAP benefits, formally Saturday, 9AM – 7 PM known as Food Stamps. I Sunday, 9 AM – 6 PM Tops – 275-8019 710 S. Meadow St., Ithaca was a little embarrassed to Delivery Monday through ask for help, as I worked all Friday, 2-4 PM: Person must Monday – Friday, 9 AM-9 PM be home and must call in pre- Saturday, 9 AM – 5 PM my life and have never re- scription before noon. Cash or Sunday, 9 Am – 3 PM ceived any sort of help in the check accepted and there is no No delivery available. past. I felt better learning that SNAP benefits help the econ- fee for prescription delivery. Tops- 2300 – 257- 4984 omy! Betsy told me that stud- 2300 N. Triphammer Rd. Rite Aid – 844-3151 ies show for every $5 spent in Ithaca 11 Main Street, Dryden SNAP benefits, $9.20 is Monday – Friday, 9 AM-9 PM Monday- Saturday, 9 AM-9 PM stimulated in community Deliveries to Willowbrook Saturday, 9 AM – 5 PM Manor only. Sunday, 9 Am – 5 PM spending! It’s also been esti- No delivery available mated that every dollar in- Rite Aid – 257-1500 vested in SNAP benefits 2309 N. Triphammer Rd., Wegman’s – 277-5800 saves $3.25 in health care Ithaca 500 S. Meadow St., Ithaca costs! Now I can afford to Weekdays, 9 AM-9 PM Weekdays, purchase fresh fruits and veg- Saturday, 9 AM- 6 PM 8:30AM – 9:30 PM gies, staying away from all Saturday, 9 AM-6 PM Sunday, 9 AM- 5 PM that salt. No delivery available. Sunday, 8:30AM-4 PM Rite Aid –272-6290 No delivery available. The whole process was much

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