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LOCAL NEWSBRIEFS Empty Closet Tirins aiPirard By Susan Jordan Thc Empty Closet received one of two community service aw^irds from the Empire State Pride Agenda at a **Gay-la Benefit Ptr- formance and Awards Ceremony** on May 6 at Albany's Capitol Rep Theater. Thc award* presented to thc Empty Closet by Gay-la Committee member Lois Uttley, was given "in recognition of its longterm service of informing thc Genesee Valley and helping thc region establish a sense of com munity." Other honorces were Matt Foreman, ex ecutive director of the New York City Gay I^ft: Queer Natioa members bum sm effigy of State Sen, ttalph MariatK and Lesbian Anti-Violence Project (Mark Above: Part of Rochester contingent at the Albany march, photos by Mark Siwiec TUrkcl Political Leadership Award); State Assemblymember Deborah Glick (Person of the Year); Lance Ringel, director of the Of fice of Lesbian and Gay Concems at the New lOver 1,000 tnarcli on Albany York State Division for Human Rights (Government Service); The Pink Panthers, a By Susan Jordan is homoerotic — the drip method, you cident. Thc crowd rcspondco to this infor gay defense patrol in the streets of Green A cloud of smoke rose in front of Albany's know?" mation with hisses and boos, and with ap wich Village (Organizational Achievement); Capitol Building on May 5, as members of Hughes said she decided to come out to plause in support of Patrick and Damien. the Damien Center, an Albany hospitality Queer Nation bumed an effigy and photo thc NEA. "I told the NEA I had a 10-point Foreman listed three things everyone can center for people living with AIDS/HIV graph of Stace Sen. Ralph Marino, one of those plan to advoc^ate lesbianism globaUy, through do to contribute to the struggle against anti (Community Service), and New York State most responsible for preventing the bias- song, dance and monologue." She suggested gay violence. "First, call Ralph Marino and Attorney General Robert Abrams (Friend of related crimes and gay civil rights IMUs from that everyone prcsent develop their own say, *We don't carc if you're a homophobe. the Community). coming to the floor for a vote. 10-polnt plan to increase' lesbian visibility. Simply allow thc hate crimes measure to Thc evening included a pcrfDrmancc by Soon all that was left of thc image of the Glenn Magpantay, vice president of thc come to thc floor for a vote.' Holly Hughes and numerous jokes by m.c. Republican legislator was a smudgy black Student Association of thc State University *'S
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Phone sex ads: a readers' forum ^mk By Susan Jordan healthier, not enhance the problems. Thanks between censorship and editorial all sexual material be harmed from publica At the time of going to press, we had for asking. Tve hated them ever since the EC policy. . .Secondly, just beerause there are tions intended fbr a general mixed audience? received 14 votes in fsvor of baimingphortc started using them." some sleazy hetcrosexuai publications Thc Garmett papers, for instance. pubUsh ads State and local news sex ads ftom the Empiy Ctoset, and seven **YkK:k. I don't Uke hetero sleaze cither." doesn't mean that the EC must be foe »ex videos and pom movies, although voces in fovor of keepir^ them (some recom *A person using a 900 number (gay or sleazy. . .There arc many places for the gay they seem to have stopped using thc ultra- Parade, ,. or who Imows ofa physician, therapist, den The AIDS Park conimittee sold smaU Ju<^ Judith Kaye of the Appeals Court, mending thc use of a separate section for thc in her dissenting opinion, wrote, "The straight) has bad iu
deep offense not only to all lesbians and gay On Apr. 16, thc three men received Lytmway Auto Exchange. When the car they Judge rules against men. but to aU Americans who choose their envdopes containing a white ppwder and a wanted could not be financed, the couple households by their own terms and not by message reading: "A gift: a poison neurotox asked for the deposit back, bat the dealer Karen Thompson thc legal rules in^osed by society.'* in that can be absorbed through the skin, insisted that they buy another car instead. •Lisa M. Keen. Tbe Washington Blade three dead faggots?" None of thc men were When thc coufric refused atid repeated their A Minnesota judge ruled on Apr. 25 that harmed, and the powder was turned over to request for the deposit, thc dealer allegedly Karen Thompson will not be awarded guar thc police for analysis. No results were hurled homophobic abuse at them, struck dianship of her lover. Sharon Kowalski. Hate group attacks available at presstime. Sport in the face with a car antcrma, and noting that Thompson has other female After thc first incidents, the university pushed Duquette out of thc office. companions, that she "outed** Kowalski gays at U. Chicago posted memos condemning the harassment. With the help of Gay and Lesbian Ad without her consent and put her **on public Afiter thc receipt of thc powder; administra- vocates and Defenders, a Boston-based gay display.** while obtaining contributions and A hate group caUed **The Brotherhood of don posted announcements of a 13000 iegal Arm, the women liled suit to retrieve publicity for her fight to win guardisftiship the Iron Fist** has been threatening and award for information leading to arrest and the deposit, and charged thc dealer with from Kowalski's parents. violently assaulting gay men at thc Univer conviction of the perpetrators. assault. Sexual-oriented discrimination in Judge R. V Campbell ofthe Sixth Judicial sity of Chicago. Campus activists have held four rallies to public accomodations was made Ulegal in District coun in Minnesota ordered that Over thc past two and a half months, three protest thc assaults and thc university's Massachusetts in 1989. under the sute's gay longtime Kowal^d famUy friend and former gay men have received threatening phone perceived lack of reaction. They criticize the rights law. high school coach Karen Ibmbcriin become calls and letters, and wcrc sent envelopes university for labelling thc incidents as "sex Thc $500 has been dcsigntted for the Kowalski*s new guardian. containing an aUegedly fatal neurottsxin. One ual harassment" rather than violence based American Foundation for AIDS Research. Campbell acknowledged that Kowalski's man was attacked and threatened with on homophobic prejudice, and also for back -Tbe Washington Blade health caregivers have reported that "Sharon death. ing out of an Apr 30 town meeting after lear interacts most and responds best to Karen Thc University administration has been ning that local media were scheduled to Thompson,** and that when asked where she criticized for faUing to prevent or discourage cover thc event. would like to live. Kowalski has consistent both thc attacks and homophobic assaults A university spokesman said that addi ly said "St. Cloud with Karen.** He said that, and harassment in general. Campus support tional security patrols have begun at the Judge Oascli in spite of this. "Thc statements are not tan has grown for the men under attack; a group Cummings Life Science Center, where aU tamount to a prcfermce of who should be of academic advisors is urging appointment thrce of the gay men have received threats to stay on her guardian." of a liaison with gay and lesbian students, in their maUboxes. Investigators suspect that Kowalski was severely injured in a 1983 and thc implementation of workshops on thc perpetrators have access to the buUding. car accident; she has little or no short-term diversity and intolerance for incoming and may work or take classes Uicrc. students. The ludge who called Joseph Steffan a memory. "homo" during a hearing chaUenging the Thc Chicago PoUcc Department has join •Deborah Schwartz. Gay Community Karen Thompson, in appearances beforc Netvs mUitary *s policy of dischargir^ gays ftom thc the National Lesbian Conference in Atlanta, ed universtty police in thc investigation, and armed services has refused to disqualify said that she would appeal Campbeirs deci because it is a federal offense to send toxic himself from the case. sion. "Sharon wanted to be herc at this con substances through thc mail, thc United States Postal Inspector's Office has become U.S. District Court Judge OUver Gasch ference.'* Thompson said. **Shc typed a note Car dealer must overruled a motion by Steffan's attorneys and said she was angry that she couldn't be involved. Thc university*s request for help from the FBI was denied because lesbians that he disqualify himself because he three here with mc. If wc could have legally sanc pay for assault times caUed Steffan and other gay men tioned our relationship, wc never would and gay men are not considered a "protected class** under federal civil rights statutes. An automobUe dealer in Lynn. Mass. "homos.*' arguing that this indicated pre have liccn in this situation." agreed in AprU to pay 12000 to a lesbian cou judice on Gasch*$ part against gays. Thompson said that Kowalski "rcaUy likes Threatening letters began to arrive for ple and donate f 500 to an AIDS group, in three members of the Gay and Lesbian Gasch and thc Justice Department thc person I am with." and added. "Thc recompense for an incident in which a disagreed and accused Steffan of trying to system separated us. and wc became Alliance (GALA) on Feb. 20. On Mar. 17. dealer verbally assaulted thc couple, caUing GALA member Chris Bauer was attacked on prolong the hearing. strangers. For Sharon I will always be what them "whores, lezzies and fucking queers,** Attomeys representing Steffan said that 1 was years ago. She can never know mc as campus. He was struck and knocked to thc and assaulted them physically. I am today, but I will love her for the rest grounct and his atuckers. brandishing a syr Gasch*s decision to stay on the case jeopar inge, threarened to kill him by injecting air Katherine Duquette and Laurel Sport made dizes the outcome. of my life." a S200 deposit on a car in September at thc Thomas Stoddard of thc Lambda Legal into his veins. Bauer escaped, but soon 'Philadelphia Gay Netvs Defense Fund caUcd CampbclVs ruling "a received additional threatening letters. CANTERBURY, LTD. .Hsi* 1^ 918 Monroe Avenue OfHce: 716-383-5190 JUNE IS GAY PRIDE MONTH! Rochester. 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Joe Graban (D-Bric^epcm). a Ic^lator killers draws protests ing locations throughout the city. who pubUcly acknowledged his gay Identi WK, in national action San Francisco activists are protesting a film 'The Washington Blade ty at the beginning of the 1991 legislative being made in a gay bar In that city, saying Students across the country protested session. miUtary discrimination against gays on an that it is "extremely homophobic** and "He made an incredibly moving speech shows a bisexual woman as a serial kiUer Nkoli said to criticize Apr. 10 "Day of Action.*' focusing on the (during House det>atc on the biU) about be campus presence of ROTC (Reserve Officer who targets men. and a lesbian who slashes ing a gay man,** said Anne Stanback. co- her brother's throat. IhUning Corps) scholarship programs, which ANC on Mandela case director of the Conneaicut CoaUtion for pay for students* education in retum for On Apr 24. a ju<%e granted producers an South African gay activist Sinion NkoU has Lesbian and Gay CivU Rights. "He taUced miUtary service, and which opetdy exclude injunction against Queer Nation and others reportedly criticized the African National about receiving hate maU and death threats, lesbians and gays. Three students werc ar which would bar them from disrupting or Congress for failir^ to speak out against anti (and) ended by saying that *even if this biU rested in San Jose. Calif. attempting to disrupt filming. gay stateinents made during the trial of Win- only protects me, I hope that you as my col Thc fllm, Basic instinct, according to the Thc three were pan of a protest at San Jose rUc Mandela, wife of ANC leader Nelson leagues would sec fit to offer me that pro University*s Pride Week. They were arrested Los Angeles chapter of the Gay and Lesbian Mandela, on charges that she approved thc tection.'*' Alliance Against Defamation (GLAAD), **con- after raising a rainbow fl^ symbolizing gay kUling of a man by her bodyguards. Bill supporters also said that a crucial fac Uberation in front of thc campus ROTC tains several lesbian or bisexual characters Witnesses have testified that Mandela tor was thc agreement reached with Catholic who are implicated in a scries of gruesome building. They were released without bodyguards beat them for engaging in gay Archbishop John E Whealon not to lobby charges after campus police determined that murders.*' Protestors say that the negative sex with a white minister Mandcla*s at against the measure as thc church had done portrayals of iesbians and bisexual women no harm had been done to the flagpole or torneys have argued that she took action on in thc past. A compromise was worked out its lock. WiU incite anti-lesbian attacks. ly to "protect" thc men from homosexual whereby thc biU would exempt religious in Thc protest by a Queer Nation affinity Protests also took place on over 80 cam abuse. stitutions in situations involving statements puses around the country. The protests in group called LABIA took place in front of "Thc ANC*s fiUure to respond,** NkoU told on thc tenets of thc church and an volved letters to campus newspapers and Rawhide II, the bar where filming is taking a British newspaper. The Independent, amendment was attached to thc bill saying university presidents; petitions; educational place. At>out two dozen protestors were ar "raises doubts regarding its stated commit that it docs not "endorse or promote, very flyers; street theater with students in miUtary rested. One of thc film's stars, Michael ment to thc recognition of lesbian and gay specifically, a homosexual Ufestyle as nor fatigues holding the famous "Uncle Sam Douglas, pulled out of an AIDS benefit rights." mative.' wants You" poster, with new text referring because of the controversy surrounding thc -Outlines Coalition lobbyist Betty Gallow said to discrimination against lesbians and gays. movie. "They were statements that said what the biU In Wisconsin, student groups sent delega Superior Court Judge John Dearman's in wouldn't do, things that thc bUl had never junction forbids protestors from coming tions to protest at the state capital. Protesters said it was going to do. If the bill had been also zapped the White House with letters, within 100 feet of the filming area, bans Conn, passes gay rights purple and they (legislators) wanted an 'Moud or boisterous actions** by protestors, faxes and phone calls. "Rumor has it thc amendment saying the bill wasn't blue, I phones in the White House werc going all and restricts their use of Ught — even glit biU; Maine says no would have given them an amendment that day," said Glenn Magpantay, vice-president ter — to interfere with filming. said thc bill wasn't blue." of thc Sute University of New York Student Thc producers, Carolco Pictures, declin The Connecticut senate passed a bill ban Maine activists said that the defeat in that ning anti-gay bias on Apr. 16. Thc day before, Association, and one of three coordinators ed to comment to the Bay Area Reporter state was largely due to Republican Gov. John of the Day of Action. Protestors claim, however, that production the Maine legislature had rejected a similar McKcman's threat to veto thc measure. His crew members taunted them as **a bunch of biU. Some activists, however, were disapp- statement influenced Republican legislators pointcd that more radical actions did not queers," and '^some faggot group." Thc Connecticut bill, which had been to oppose thc biU. "Thc right wingers are B€tsic Instinct scriptwriter Joe Eszterhas beforc thc legislature since 1973, was ap materialize. Tfcd Comcrford, one of thc three arguing that they wUl not support (McKer- activists arrested in San Jose, said, "Nation has proposed changes in thc script which he proved by thc House Apr. 11 on a 81-65 vote. nan) on budget issues if he doesn't trash this Thc Senate vote on Apr. 16 was 21-14 in wide, it's been a very conservative movc- said would eliminate **inscfisitivities." The bill,'* said Ed Shannon, president of thc Gay niOT^t." H-* commented that "thc younger film's producer and director, however, re favor Gov. Lowell Weicker has promised to and Lesbian Political Alliance of Maine. sign the bill. students haven't seen radical uctics being jected Eszterhas'suggestions, and released a Opposition was led by thc Christian Civic Connecticut joins Hawaii, Wisconsin and successful, and they sec ACT UP and Queer statement saying that the movie ''is not a League of Maine, a coalition of fundamen Nation as alienating** the public. negative depiction of lesbians and bisexuals," Massachusetts as thc four states which have talists. By contrast, thc Catholic Church and that "censorship by street action wUl not passed gay rights bills. Administrative and faculty suppon for the dropped opposition to the biU this year, protests was seen only at the University of be tolerated." Thc Connecticut bill prohibits anti-gay suting that it opposes anti-gay discrimina discrimination in employment, housing, Minnesota, Massachusetts Institute of "Entitling (thc film) Basic Instinct says tion, although also opposing "the. gay Technology, and thc Caiifomia State Univer that if you're a lesbian or bisexual woman public accomodations and credit. Activists were overjoyed at thc success. Shawn Lang, lifestyle* sity system. your basic instinct is to murder men," said -Nick Bartolomco, Tbe Washington Blade -Carrie Wofford, Pbiladelpbia Gay News PhyUis Burke, a lesbian writer. 'That's thc co-director of thc Connecticut CoaUtion for messs^c from this script. 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Bfownworth Up to Kevin Kostner and shakes his stick at "He's not a woman for or>e thitkg, a woman She writes about death, alcoholism, pain then it changes. Guilt is sotnething to hold wouldn't have taken thai stand. But I would and degradation. Yet thc wotxls Beth Brant him and says, *I am not afraid of you white onto so that you don't have to do any work. man; It*s how we fied who are tryhig to keep imagine that what he feels is scmkow Uke puts to paper in her latest book. Food & I write my stories becatise I have to. because what I feel when I meet an Indian person SpiHts, are tales of stru^e, survival and, our culture alive: We still resist you, we stUl these people want mc to write their stories. will not let you steal our spirit, our minds.'* who has these horrtt>lc stories to teU tne» for ultimately, hope. Her stories are a chronicle I don*t want it to be just a chronicle of woes me to write — my God, this is our whole of the life of Indiarts in America. Many of Thc Impact of racism on thc lives of Native and ills. Racism has done this — created the history. How do I as a writer who Is a truth her characters are woinen, all of her main Americans is a central theme in Btam*s work pain and created the guilt." teller articulate this in a way that gives characters are lesbian or gay. IWo of thc — although It Is rarely stated In other than Racism — and its impact — is constantly strength without further completing thc act stories in ttic book were submitted for a subtle or oblique terms. "What's really sad with Brant. She spoke eloquently about the of genocide by giving white men more am grant from the National Endowment for thc abqut it is racism is only seen in this coun obstacles to change — including how white munition against us?" Ans (NEA). In spite of thc recent censorship try as black-white. Indian people arc tn- women who begin to work against racism debates within thc NEA, Brant was awarded arc treated. "They are told they think they're Being a lesbian is as much a part of Brant's digerK>us to this continent, it*s our place and work as is being a Mohawk. One story in a grant for S20,000 "for two very gay, very I think we've been very graceful in allowing better than other people because they are Indian stories.'* trying to make these changes. There's a lot FO€Hi & Spirits is a retelling of the Mohawk other people to share it. People mistake creation story — as a lesbian love story. In a recent interview Brant talked about generosity for passivity. If only thc history of pressurc put on them to not change. And the same is true of white men — it's almost Other women in other stories are also les what it means to be a Mohawk lesbian grand t>ooks would tell. We're always the after bian; other Indians arc gay men, one dying mother about to tum 50 in straight, white thought and the women's movement is just only gay men — who try and change arid work a^iinst racism. It helps to keep the pro of AIDS helped by another who is an Indian male America. She spoke about thc impact as bad as anyone else in this regard. 1^'n? medicine man. of this year's Oscar-awarded "Best Picture" not afterthoughts to ourselt/es. This is one cess [of racism] moving. North American on her people, about thc impact of being a of thc reasons why I write. Not to remind people would rather read a self-help book Brant didn't come out until her mid 30s. writer and about thc daily struggle against white people that we are still alive, but to than make change and they resent people "It happened really because of thc women's racism that has formed thc foundation of her remind ourselves." who are trying to change." movement. 1 had had some lesbian ex art and life. Brant views her writing as both a gift and One of thc most grim effects of racism on periences as a teenager, but it was the '50s, ^'People say I write a lot about death, a responsibility. "I feel a great responsibili the Indian culture is alcoholism. Many of the and I just put them away as something I about dying," said Brant. "Death is a familiar ty for what I write. I write for my own peo characters in Brant's work are alcoholic or shouldn't think about." Brant married, had companion to my people — it's always with ple. They are foremost in my mind, in my recovering alcoholics. She talked about several children, and divorced her husband us and has been for thc last 500 years" since heart. But I have to worry when I'm finish Michael Dorris's controversial book The who was an abusive alcoholic. "I was always thc colonization of thc Indian peoples by thc ed, how are they [whites] going to use this Broken Cord, which he wrote about thc ef a feminist, all thc women in my family are, white man. "But ha ha for them — wc*rc still against us. Every Indian writer wrestles fects of fetal alcohol syndrome on his but then when I came into my own thc les around. Wc'tc writers and artists and healers against this." adopted Indian son (Dorris is also Indian). bian part of mc came out ;^ain. It has not and we're still around." It was a bald eagle that led to Brant's Dorris had recommended strong action be been easy to t>e an Indian lesbian because of "Dances tvith V^lt^es, said Brant, takes this beginning her writing career — at age 40. taken against women who drink when they the homo{^obia, which comes from racism. same attitude. "It's assumed that thesepeo "I was on a trip with my lover and a bald arc pregnant — including imprisonment. But to deny it would be like denying I'm a ple — my people — arc dead. I went to sec eagle flew in front of our car, and in essence The book received tremendous criticism Mohawk. It's mc, it's precious, it makes up the film because I know two of thc people told me that I was to be a writer. I came from feminists. Brant said, "Some [Indian] my being. Maybe that's why I had to wait till in it — Native actors from Canada. But it's home from that trip and started writing." reservations have talked and talked about I was 40 to write, lb feel that kind of con a myth. (KostncrJ has some good intentions, Brant's stories may make some whites feel this. He had to name it, he is an honest fidence and that adult way of being. To be but he hasn't thought them through." guilty, or complicitous in the systematic writer, lb mc it was just another example of able to tell the stories." Brant explained, "The way Indians wcrc destruction of thc Indian peoples, but that genocide that we are actually thinking of this presented was as this group that was and is not thc author's intent. "I don't want as a solution — doing this to Indian women. now isn't. All thc Lakou are gone. But they anyone to feel guilty about anything. Com It shows thc dcsparation that wc face with aren't. A sequel ought to be made and show plicitous, yes." She t>clicvcs that whites who this horrendous problem." But Brant thinks — Originally printed in Pbiladelpbia Gay how things arc now. Thc pretty stereotype rcad her work need to take the information that Dorris's approach was problematic. Netvs that people have robbed from us — they leam from it and disseminate it. that spirituality, bodies, clothes, the way wc liv this is one way in which the racism can be ed our lives. Wc didn't put ttiose rhings up eradicated. for sale and wc never have My favorite scene "We become aware from our hearts easier in the film is when IGrahamc Oreenl comes than our minds. When human beings feel. PET mitchel I PIZAZZZ pierson jr,lnc \ t !>,: •fe n.B>::f.>^^- i % € .^ 1-1 % #ft .. '^i - If m don't have it, we'U get it - 270 PARK AVENUE/ROCHESTER. N.Y/461-9200 Introducing: Chef Andrin natural canned cat food. No bi-products. Six original formulas — purely gourmet. Ash and magnesium lower than Science PEGGY FELT Diet. Highest recognized palletability. 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Some have a lot, some have none, the masculine gender (the opposite end of many have a few. Not all leathermen limit the gay spectrum from thc female imper themselves exclusively to their tavorite sonators). VWc'rc men and do not want to be "leather sex;" many enjoy mote conven confused with our effeminate brothers. tional styles of regular gay sex. This does NOT mean that leathermen Thc leatherman is not defined just by thc dislike or have anything against thc more ef clothes he wears, but rather the underlying feminate end of thc gay spectrum. V(^aring personality. A leatherman while not wear leather provides a quick and easily iden ing his leather is thc same person. I find tifiable link with thc fraternity of leathermen leathermen more accepting, honest and — a widespread community of gay brothers understanding than others (both gay and who are *'lnto" leather in varying degrees. straight). Wc arc friendly and like many of Many simply like thc look, feel and smell of the same things you do. Wc go out dancing, leather. wc like to shop, enjoy meeting new people' Therc arc many myths associated with and making new friends. Don't be in leathermen which are untrue; we're basicaUy timidated by thc clothes we wear, we're just thc same as you arc. Some of these myths people like you. are: S&M — not everyone who wears leather If you would like more information on thc is into S&M (sado-masochism: thc use of leather scene in Rochester, you can write to pain as a sexual stimulus); or B&D (bondage the Rochester Rams (P.O. 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THE EMPXar CLOSET . -June, 1991 June, 1991 THE EMPTY CLOSET 9 Zealand film); looking For langsttm; Desert lo my tvholefamilyr* "Well, I'm not going Diane precedes ine on stage. She is well Hiree views of the Ni^oaal Lesbian Conference Hearts (Wrre all famUiar with that one, 1 to miss the workshop on female ejaculation, received. Then we are on, and launch into hope.) Also shown was Common Threads, for suref" "She Snores!" Whew, they're hushing. (This a documentary focus on five people wfao I find out we can't check in until after noon, Is my first out-of-town audience, and their FaUures & pain, part); and m the worfcsbofw (eg. white I had to leave Atlanta on tbe last d«y of biUboard tbat greeted us upon reaching have died of AIDS; Another Way (Hungary), so we register for the Nattonal Lesbian laughter is proof that my material is good. women working «n tlieir own iMinn, of ^be conl^reoce, so I could not be chere fbr Atlanta, in a iMvlly comimitcd downtown this one*s a lesbian love story, and the list can Conference (NLC) and check out the market, Guess I've always had it in the back of my »ioy which I WW a part); aad aenrartdng (e:g. the the last plenary session. I have cfaecked t>y aica, in the nation's bftie bdt dey, chat read- go on and on. If you're wamii^ a list of all a convention*cenler-size room with mer mind that the Rochester audiences were all VE^MBcn's Peace Enrinnimcm "aluwii" aad By iJiciaJa San^tg phone wHh a lew persons to Had out wbat VELCOME . . . the films, yoo can write to me in care of this chants selling lesbian books, clothing, my friends and were laughing to be polite.) friends gettkig eqgccher fbr a couple of hcNifs happened on thc last day. Not unexpected NATIONAL LESBIAN CONFERENCE publication. jewelry, music, etc., etc., etc. Meet up with Our timing is right on. They laugh long and As I write, I look out my window and sec tb talk about the Encampment's future* of ly, an issue that had been simmering ATLANTA WELCOMES YOU a catt* pull up In front of my house. The i also found myself enteruining the Na Diane who has arrived the day beforc with hard. I make the required niunber of flubs, which I was a part.) undeiground Anally erupted; there was a Or should I mention how thc five day tional Lesbian crowd along with a Rochester Cindy and Kris. Sfae will be reading her including holding the mike too close to a woman in the passenger seat leans coward Issues and concerns were channeled litom confrontation between lesbians in thc event, becween Apr. 24-28, attracted over the man behind thc wheel and they kiss and friend, Anne Scale. poetry later, and is excited. I browse the speaker and temporarily deafening the au thc woricshops, caucuses and networking military aixl lesbian peace activists. This was 5,000 womyn from all over the country and Oh sweets, let me inform you about the market. Sasha looks at silver rings in depth. dience not once but ttvice, but they recover. cmbiace. She gets out of thc car and goes in groups into the next dimension, into what noc resolved; one of che women became 111 from Europe? to her house across the street. A lovcr*s kiss. etHcrtainmcnt showcase and performers. For 1 buy earrings, triangles of course, but not After the show. Lea comes up to say she were called pre-plenary sessions. There, and had to leave the plenary meeting. But I know ... I can talk about the necwork- Not a fiuewell, affiectiofiatcly brushed across starters, 1 wsuit to let you all know that pink. I stake out a still-empty table, deciding and her friends loved it, e^>ccially "Lebian working with parity, women were to for how could it have been resolved? This issue ing sysCcms and tasks thac werc set up, along the check of a friend or relative. It is tbe mid Rochester, N.Y. was well represented by Arme to bring down my t-shirts and flyers after the Cemetery.'' Another couple orders a tape, but mulate proposals to be taken to the plenary is just begiiming to be recognized as one wich thc problem solving, for well over 235 dle of the afitemoon. and me. Although I did find the preliminaries performers* meeting at 3 p.m. they point out that the lyrics to "Sex For sessions. In fact, however, these pre-plenary with potential divisive strengch chat we may workshops and caucus groups. These groups to be a bit steamy at times, performers such I stop at the Ladyslipper booth and get Breald^ast" are offensive to fat women. I TWo aaembers of tbe Old Lesbians Visibility. Few lesbians would feel free to meeting were often by-passed, and have underestimated (sec the current Ms. included the Older Lesbian Otganization as Lea DeLaria, l^resa IWill, Sue Fink, and deuiled instructions on ho^' to apply for apologize. Sell four more t's in the lobby on Caucus. give such an ordinary public embrace and workshops, caucuses and networking groups Magazine article "Pat Schroeder: Fighting Conference (OLOC), Lesbians of Color Taro-Spirited/Thunder People, just to name distribution of my album when it comes out. the way back to the room, to women who kiss CO her lovcc took issues direcdy to thc floor Of the for otir Military Moms' * by Anne Simimcrs). (LOC), Jewish Lesbians, Lesbians of Hearing a few, had sisters either laughing or shaking Ladyslipper is d9e big distributor of women's didn't even see the show. Eat two pieces of Perhaps that is why the preoccupation of plenary sessions. This ha^Tpoied because the lb my knowledge, the conference has not Impairedness, Asian \(btncn*s Panel, Lesbian off" that cold sweat. I also, unfortunately, music. Go back upstairs and check in. What cold pizza that Sasha and Rafi* ordered the National Lesbian Conference with caucus meetings weie often exciting, and resulted in the beginning of a national les Sexuality, Lesbian Mothers, Lesbians with missed a very, very successful kiss-in held in a room they give us! Wc have a private patio earlier, and talk until 3 a.m. when they both visibility resonated so in thc hearts of us all, went on and on; because unexpected bian ofganizacion, nor was a sec of rcsolu- AIDS. V(bricshops also varied: Lesbian Moms broad dayli^^t at The Undeiground, Atlan right on the swimming pool, which is in an fall asleep. I am still wired, do crosswords and enabled us to call «4> reserves of patience caucuses of meetings were arranged (eg. the dons' produced. But the NLC has and their Male Children, "Baby Dykes'* and ta's biggest popular shopping entertainment atrium under a huge domed sliding glass for about an hour before dozing off. and forbearance with each other's anger and Young Lesbians asking for a special meeting demonstrated how we can work together Issues fqr >bung Lesbians, The Interracial center. The event was put on by Queer roof. This must be what heaven is like, my - FRIDAY pain. Pttiencc and forbearance as wc tried with Barbara MacDonald and ocher Old Les locally, regionally, even nationally, to name Lesbian Couple, Jewish ^O^bmen Identity, Les Nation. coracr of it, anyway. Wc grab some lunch. Up early and to the market with great en to create a safe place for the expression of bians, to challenge the uses of the concept our issues, find our allies, leam how to be bian or Bisexual (What's The Di^ecence?) I have collards and bam which I love. thusiasm. My ubie has been usurped by its creativity, and anger, and love from all of us. Oh and don't allow me to forget the "ageism**), and because sometimes the prc- allies. and Incest Sur\-ivors. just to name a few. rightful owner, so I set up against the back There were failures and pain. There were presence of Elana Dykewomon of Sinister The performers* meeting isnt really a plcnary sessions did noc have parity and thus The beautiful image and resounding voice Mmm, or maybe 1 should mention how Wisdont, CNN news coverage, Outtveek meeting at all, but a roomful of confused wall, hanging some t's from a grill of some also successes and joy. no decisions or proposals could be drafilcd. of thc conference that keep returning to me caucu*^ing was formed on the first day to magazine writers, just to name a few: and I women who are trying to find anyone who sort. Get lots of comments and "loved the Preparing to demonstrawe at tfre This all began in the foundation, the plan This was not surprising, as these sessions tan arc from che evening chat Urvashi VsM ad- discuss the surrounding issues of tfaat par show!"5. but little business. All the mer musn't forget the sweet presence of a liaison can tell them about available sound equip Center far Oisease Control, ning, for the National Lesbian Conference at the same time as a kx of interesting dressed us all. She reminded us of what we ticular group, leaving thc remaining days for from New York City Mayor DirL^ans* office. ment, lighting, etc. I join thc throng and chants are complaining that nobody is (NLC). lnvisS>ility might occui; but it was not workshops and prescncatlons. as women, as lesbians, wane, and reminded discussion and problem solving for that Dr. Marjorie Hill. Dr. HiU sal in with the LOC meet Deborah, the young woman with buying. . . Neither workshop had much relevance to to be acceptable. The conference focus was naming our us ofhow we work and play cogether when caucus to communicate about? Later on, caucus and also gave a workshop on Stone whom I have spoken many times while ar Sasha spelts me at 1:30 so I can attend a my life right now, but I made some good In the early planning sessions in Durham, own oppressions, finding our allies, learn we are living at our best. Then she poinced solutions were presented to che closing Wall 25, an event that has been oiganized ranging to perform. She is wearing the Sex couple of workshops, "Lesbian Writing" conucts, including Jody Lane, a former N.C, those who gathered were brougfat up ing how to be an ally to lesbians with op ouc that those very things, and those ways plenaries. Some groups had a represemative to celebrate the 25th anniversary of For Breakfost t-shirt I sent her. After being and "Lesbian Plays." The play workshop is Ithacan who now lives In Seattle, and is in abruptly by the challenge, "Is this to be just pressions other than our own. Ending in of being together, are what is needed if this to voice their "concerns, while others had Stonew*all in June 1994, in NYC. I hope to assured that everything is ready for our per led by Rebecca Ransom, an Atlanta great demand all over che country for stage another conference where the voices aiMl visibility and taking action. In my own case, planet is to survive and people arc to live in morc than one. see you therc, but as for this past Lesbian formance tonight, we tum to leave and run playwright4>roducer, and dircctor of the Gay design in women's theater. faces of many of us ate not going lo be heard I am white, middleclass and 60 years olde I peace with justice. Tbis, she said, is our Les Alchough lesbians were able to set up sue- Herstory event, all I have left to say is . . . into Lea DeLaria, who stayed with me last and Lesbian ans Oiganization here. Her goal Back to the market. Sasha has sold no t's, or seen? Or is this really going lo be a con examined ageism in company with other Old bian Agenda. We have, she continued, a wish you were there. spring when she was in Rochester to per and Lesbian an oiganization here. Her goal but has made more good conucts. We take ference of lesbians in all our diversity?** If ccssfiil networks, there still remained faults Lesbians, and worked on presenting that ex rcsponsibilicy co make it visMe and to act in NLC's two-year planning and oiganiza form at the Lesbian Affaire. She says she's was to make participants aware of the the stuff back to the room and go to dinner wc are to survive, moreover to ibrive^ and perience to \bung Lesbians. But I also work on it. looking forward to hearing us. Wow! I run in our communities. with Raff and her friend Carrie, to a gay if visibility is an imporcant element in our tion. Many iesbians of color, particulariy the ed on discovering my own racism, anti- to the room, grab some t-shirts and flyers, The Lesbian Writing workshop was led by resuurant called **The Gallus." V^ry elegant, empowerment, then we must first become Native American sisters, felt that their voices semitism, and ableism, and tried to cake steps and head for the market. I fear I will be Elizabeth Meesy and Sandy Huss, from the and the food is wonderful. I have broiled more visible to one another, and leam how werc still not being heard, even though it to leam how to be an ally to lesbians wich Excerpts from a thrown out, since I didn't reserve a table, but University of Alabama at lUscaloosa. Thc sole and asparagus. Drive back to the hotel to be allies for one another. was quite clear to see that NLC tried giving different oppressions than my own. Listen LOC wimmln space for expression and nobody bothers me. I hand out flyers, ask chosen topic was erotica,' but since the for the big dance, with "Ycrr Girlfriend," a The concept of multicultural parity was ing, listening, listening. Wish you were grouping. Scheduling workshops at the same performer's passers-by to come to the performance, sell workshop w^is not labeled as such in thc band from Kentucky. Raff and 1 quote from agreed upon and stated thus: "With regard Actually, thc conference was one big time also caused problems, and meant that a few t's. conference guide, they let participants Cabaret, . .even the orchestra is to decision making, all national committees, workshop, for we had to experience and live some things had to be missed. travel journal After a while, Sasha comes by with writer decide ^vhat would be discussed, vrhich in beautiful!" They are very good, especially leadership, entertainment, workshop . there... out what happens when we try to unders >feah, the lesbian politics really got steamy and former Rochesterian Shelly Rafierty, cluded markets for lesbian writers, and the lead singer The giant room is filled with presenters, and panelists, the same parity By Diane Conway By Aoae Scale tand and seriously address what divides us, in Atlanu, and yours truly just left all that THURSDAY, APRIL 25 who has flown in from New York City, whether a lesbian writer is copping out if she hundreds of lesbians, many dancing, others will be maintained.** how chese divisions keep us from confron If you were a closeted lesbian in the U.S. where she now lives, and is rooming with uses a pseudonym. listening or talking. TTic parity to which the sutement refer for fellow National Dykes to sweat out. This Up at 7. Breakfast is muffins from Dunkin* ting patriarchal values, and allow us to be of A.i>efore Apr. 24,1 bet you've stepped oul lady had better things to do. like pull a few us. It's good to see her! 1 close up shop, and In the few minutes that were left, one I see Otane and ask her to dance, but two i red was defined as 50 percent lesbians of col of that stul^ closet for the National Lesbian Donuts across the street from thc motel, co-opted into patriarchal actions. dates here and there, and go boogie woogie then we head downtown to find the we sharc beers and a swim until time to get leader read a few passages from a literary women grab me to ulk about the show, and or; 20 percent lesbians with disabilities; five For example, plenary sessions were halted Confetence, and refilled it with cloches upon dressed for die show. We take the t-shirts, criticism of lesbian erotica which she had by the time 1 tum back, she's dancing with percent old lesbians actively workiong on in the over-packed, well equipped bars. Radisson. It's disappointingly easy. Park in when the Lesbians of Color Caucus raised your return, leaving no rcx>m for yourself or Shame on me, however, with all that social flyers and pfllno and head for the grand written. One participant said that she someone else. Kris gets me a glass of juice. ageism, with at least one lesbian of color. the mothballs. After all, isn*t that what the circle and go inside to find myself in the issues of scheduling misukes that resulted conversating and boogie wooging I missed middle of hundreds of milling, hugging, ballroom, renamed "The Labrys Lounge" for hesitates to write cmtica for fear of censure There is no alcohol or smoking allowed at The Conference's statement of policy in 1) invisibility of the Latina lesbians, and closets aie made for, clothes? the conference. I decide to put a flyer on by other lesbians. Another, a Ibxan, said that the conference at all. In fact, we have been reads, "The National Lesbian Conference is out on the New Festival National Gay and chatting lesbians. Catch snatches (of conver 2) a scramble to compensate for this, which I just don't know where to begin with this Lesbian 1991 Film Show. Yes, gay movies every chair. This takes a while. Soon the au she writes it, but "so far, it has suyed in my all but forbidden to wear cologne or committed to fighting racism, classism, outstanding, fierce Lesbian Herstory event. sation): "I'd say that's discrimination. That's resulted other disappoincmencs in workshop here in bible belt city! This film festival in- what I'd say!*' "But do I have to come out dience sUrts dribbling in. 1 wave to Cindy. notebook." anything scented, including chapstick. 1 ageism, anti-semitism, homophobia, and op and presenUtion arrangements. Charges of Shall I first mention the green electronic Continued on next p2^e pression in all areas." racism, insensitivity flew fast and hard, as The oiganizational structure of NLC was staff accountability v^ras demanded. *^ki^um^t^^0^tmttm0ii^im ^^^0't^^^*0'9^*^^l0tl0^0l^0^0fl0't0*tf mi^^^^0^0'^^^^^0'*^^ diagrammed and posted on the third day of To the credit of all women there, the con I • I r- the conference. Five dimensions werc iden ference did not disband, caucuses did not Accounting & Income Tax Preparation tified. The regional and local groups work leave Atlanu, expressions of hurt and pain ing with parity, raisii^ issues and proposing Downtown Presbyterian Church werc heard. The overburdened staff did not 121 N. Fitzhugh St. (across from City Hall) 325-4000 • Personal how and wherc to hold the confefencc. were fall into a mire of hurt feelings and indigna A it in **^ uW** the first dimension in the digram. Proposals "Since 1979 the Downtown United Presbyterian Church has been part of a COOK • Partnerships tion; there developed a willingness on the lutional network oC Presbfterian Churches wdconung Insccual, lesbian, and from these groups gave rise to the caucuses pan of the Lesbians of Color Caucus to let Accounting (e.g. Old Lesbians Caucus, of which I was a X^^^ gay peopie into full participation. 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Such a tnde- Seale continiied firoin pferlons page rushes on a tape, and play it loud to attract where she said it would be, so Sasha and I think they resemble GodziUa and have taken ed in the Empty Closet, the advertising Jeff Matrfcarian Phone sex ads not policy restricts nude drawings or ofif is not a step towanl gay Hbcfation; tather never had to feel guilty about using attention. I get smiles and nods, but no walk over to the Hilton for a showing of the offense. 1 apologize.) buyers. ... film. "Sappho Goes to the Movies/* a survey photographs and restricts the priming of it's a meager step sideways, and will bring strawberry chapstick before. I am still rccl> Back to the room and a cold shower Sasha right for EC us no closer to our goal. I resolve to attend the "political conect- of thc treatment of lesbians in movies and and Raff are watching "Crocodile Dundee." advertising that suggests that you will **get** ing from the fat issue, and wonder how Trading sexuality If we want to truly live as full citlaeiis» we ness** workshop at noon, but don't make it television. They are rurming late, however, A Uttle after 9. we take off for a woman's bar thc peison pictured in the ad or that ttie per many other things I will have to tieal with lb the Editor, son is for Mie. The people pictured In the mtist demand all our rights, not just a few here. because Sasha comes to the market, and we and a film called "Orgasm" is just starting called "The Other Side/' It is very nice, half decide to get thc piano and do a few songs. as we get there. It's very graphic, and we I am happy to have thb opportunity to ex sex ads in the Empty Closet are sometimes for legitimacy wc believe may be palatable to the stiaigiit Wt watch the dancers. There arc lesbians of it a disco, and half a cabaret. Raff heads press my views regarding the explicit sex community. If we wam thc whole loaf, then But by the time I get the piano set up, the don't mind having to watch it. "Sappho" is for the disco, and Sash and I settle ourselves virtually nude except Ibr a jock strap, or are lb tihc Editon in every style of clothing imaginable, from market is all but empty. Everyone has gone entertaining too, with lesbianic scenes from advcrtiscmentt in the Bmpty Closet, but first in a pose which hides whether the person that*s what we must ask for. We must be prom dresses and tuxes to shorts and lacy on a cushy sofo in the cabaret where a jazz I'm concerned about the sq>pafent, con to workshops. We sing anyway. The mer "Julia,' "Uanna," "The Group/' "life in the let me say that I am very pleased with thc is even wearing that — the person ai^pcars troversy developing about the i^ione sex ads satisfied with no less. brassieres. I marvel at the diversity in ages, singer named Ociavia Jones is doing some paper in general. Sinceicly, chants applaud. I pack up and decide to still Glitter Palace/' and many others I never nice stuff. She is accompanied by an ex to be Itude. These sex ads encroach upon tbe in the Empty Closet. Whether or not a par sizes, attitudes. Most are in couples, and it try to make a workshop. heard of. It's sort of like leafing through As you see from my response to the fine line drawn in the policy statement and NlaaE. Leibowitz strikes me that* almost always, the two in a cellent pianist, Bill Wilson, who is, we later ticular person finds these ads ofienslve, I I stick my head in a few rooms. In the books and reading only the juicy parts. **Phonc Sex Ads: Readers' VoMr I Hrmly subfectively seem to be in violation of it. believe there is something larger to t>e con couple resemble each other in a lot of ways. leam, the son of jazzman ffeddy Wilson. pielcr that the phone sex ads (and other ads ballroom is a huge session on Lesbian Sex Back to the Radisson at 6:30 to be stop Somebody tells Octavia that we are pcr- Puttltsg these sex ads in a four page sup sidered here. 1 ponder on this for a while. Raff says good ped in the lobby by a representative from consistif^ of "adult material") not be in the plement would not create anything different night. She's coming down with a cold. Diane uality, must be 500 women in there. As I * formers, so she comes over to talk during an I've noticed an attitude the entertainment listen, a speaker proposes the use of three "Lesbian Connection/' who says she loved Empty Closet. The questiontiaire asks if the from what we have now, if we would have industry seems to have developed toward has gone off to a bar named Thutx with so intermission and asks if we would do a few Bmpty Closet ^ould ''ban'* these ads. This Tanning ad particular sign language interpreters at some the show and asks if we would be interested songs. We say okay and perform four to lose articles when pulling thc supplemem, women: tough, stiong characters who ap meone. Kris and I watch the dancers for a in doing a fundraiser for them next May in is not an issue of banning material, rather an or have to see the sex ads when keeping the while, then poop out about the same time. future date, and say "For?" Almost everyone numbers for a ver>' appreciative audience. pear butch have very obvious heterosexual liazardous claps. She says "Against?" No-one claps. Lansing, Mich., for traveling expenses and issue of forcing such material intended for suf^lemcnt in order to retain the anicles. Somebody hands me S2 as I sing. My first a limited adult population upon a genetal relationships, while the fiew lesbian or bisex SATURDAY "Motion passes." she says. There is a stunn half the door. We try not to let her know it's Fuithcrmofe, a supplement would still place ual characters seem pretty **femme*' Ap- to liealtli Sleep til 8 and off to breakfast with Raff. tip! 1 feel like one of the lip-synchcrs at audience. ed silence, and the whole room breaks out the best offer we've had all day. Back in the Whispers. After the set, I split it with Sasha. these ads intended for a limited audietice in paremly, it's OK to look like a dyke as long Stop and buy postcards and cold Censoiship is not an issue here. Those ads To the Editors into wild cheers and applause. The speaker room. Raff is in bed, drowsy from a slug of Octavia loves "Body Hair" She says she to a newspaper intended for a general as you really aren't one, and OK to be a dyke medicine. . . Back to the room with breaklast may be published, but they would be more I picked up the April issue of thc Empty says into the mike, "1 can't beheve we pass Nyquil. She still intends to go bar hopping was watching the audience, and they started audience. as long as you don*t look like ooe. hi my mind, in a bag for Sasha. She asks me where the apfwopriately seen in a tnafpaine for adults Closet recently. I was particularly interested ed something?" tonight as planned, but is not up to Koinjc listening politely, thinking, "Here's a lady The phone sex ads and other adult this is hardly liberation. legs to thc piano are. In the bag, 1 say. No, only. Thc fourth pamgraph of the informa in this issue because its focus was health. I leave and run into Deborah. 1 ask her if out to diimer, so 1 walk across the street to who will probably sing some sweet songs/' oriented sex ads definitely should be not left Wbmen have been pushed into making she says. Aargh! thc crew must have fofgot tion about thc Bmpty Closet sutes '*Part of Therc were several articles on health promo she knows where the piano legs are. In thc a thriving take-out, and buy wings. Honest, and then they started laughing, saying "Hev. in as they ^re now. I grant there is some trade-offs for their frcedom, juggling con ten to put them back in after thc otu- purpose is to maintain a middle position tion, illness and health care. I found the bag, she says. No, I say. She tells mc to meet "Buffalo-style wings" in Atlanta, Ga.! she's nastyV* Bill comes over to say that he advertising money acquired through these cerns carefully so as not to appear frivolous, performance. with re^Kct to the entire communiiy." Aiso, pieces on cancer to be informative as well her by the ballroom door in an hour, and It's pouring when I emerge. 1 wade across knows a bit about song structure, and mine ads. but a newspaper that is acceptable for promiscuous, bitchy or militant. Fieminlsts I run down to the ballroom. There is a big the newspaper is to consider "the views of as provocative. There was certainly a lot of when I do, she has the piano legs slung over the flooded avenue, good thing I'm wearing are tight and well-arranged. Sasha and I glow. all aiges and situations is mote important, too often find themselves having to show anti-oppression session going on. I poke ail— . . . young and old, and those from food for thought. I appreciated much of her shoulder She remembers putting them flip-flops. Eat and swim and spend 20 At 2 a.m., wc pry Raff from thc disco where especially since the Empty Closet apparent their respectability in every other way as around some sound equipment in a comer, various walks of life." These phone sex ads what I read. in, but took them out again when the bag minutes in thc whirlpool. It's funny to look she is dancing with a butch from Alabama ly is not dependent on moneys from these they try to do one thing considered radical. but no piano legs. I give up and set up in thc (and the qther **adult ads*') ate not in a mid I am writing to register my approval. I am wouldn't close. I forgive her. I find the room up and sec the lightning and rain pounding named Eunice, and call it a day. ads. The issue of phone sex ads is one in which marker again. My neighboring merchants where Dian Hamilton from NYC is suppos on thc now-closed glass roof. My mind runs dle position; many of them state that they also writing to register my disapproval. On greet me. On my right is a woman selling Again, we have a good paper now, but it gay men are being asked to consider a trade ed to be performing her "Dyke-a-Roonie" back to the film "Orgasm." The bubbles in are for adults only, therefore they are inap- would be so much more appropriate for ali off, sometimes by their own gay brothers. page nine of the April issue, there is an "Bridges," a publication for Jewish women. show. I met Dian at the Women's Playwright the whirlpool sucidenly feci like tiny hands. advertisement for a tanning salon. On the At left is another t-shirt exhibit, beautifuUy There is one other woman there, and she very next pa^e is thc article on cancec Since hand-painted. My while on black ones look conference in Buffalo in '89, wherc we bud- died around together. But I can't find Dian looks mighty good to me. Of course, under ultraviolet rays, whether solar or artificial, have been shown to ft>ecarcinogenic , I was surprised to find this advertisement. I am a staunch advocate of free speech. 1 am also devoted to health and its.promotion. JOHN A. MITCHELL, PhD. Naturally. 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D Tank-Top Nite MtosMan 90's Dance wMi Martt Andnis T^rrr 1hun,June27 luetdoiflOetoOtf OoTKlnQ tl 3JOO a jn. $25 Cash Prize wyctwG weeeeno for Hottest Tank-Top 171 Sf.PaulSlmetBOGhetlm^lnhmKtllon232-tM0^ 01800232-^70 $ 1,00 Shots Kamekazes 17MOymAlw€V9AdmmawmPicpmlD • Mon thru Fri after 5:30 PM Satuft/ctctia Ladies Leather Nite • Sat & Sun All Day $25 Cash Prize O for Hottest Outfit '^. $ 1.00 Shots Alabama \ ^ $3.00 Covar Fri ft Sat Nite after 9 PMi Includes First Drink 139 State Street, Rochester, NY Phone 232-9303 Slammers m MMHNMBVQQi^KWnWMi 12 THE EMPl Y CLOSET June, 1991 June, 1991 THE EMPTY CLOSET 13 Local News continued from p. 3 Black Gay Womon Claudia Brenner More Light By Diane Conway speaks on hate Black gay womon crimes Conference backs Who and where VicTvs of tattoos change Are you? By Xaiin Baker This is the first in an ongoing series of Just for fun, can you match up che tattoos Vm lying here On Apr. 28, the Gay, Lesbian, Bisexuai and photo essays on Rochester women and their with their wearers' occupations? Real estate; One hundred and sixty reptcsentatives Looking at Friends Associadon (GLBFA) invited Claudia tattoos. If you would Uke to be included in corrections officer; optical engineer; deli from 50 congregations of the Presbyterian The white skin . . . Brenner to the University of Rochester tb ClaiKUa Brmner. Pboto by T Cvetaa a future issue, please call Peggy at 461-4612. technician; sales; winery lab supervisor. Church (USA) gathered fbr the More Light, Thc symbol speak on hate crimes — crimes diiccted Conference in Rochester May 5-5, and en Of our oppression agdnst specific groups of people based on Bretmer's visit was pan of ah intcr- dorsed thc General Assembly Special Com But here I lay race, sex, or In the case of her discussion, coUegiaie student group reception. She mittee RqMirt on Human Sexuality. Holding the sexual orientation. stayed around td informally talk with the Half <^ the regiotial bodies oi tlie Church Oppressor Brenner speaks from experience. On May students there, and wish them luck as they have already uiged the annual General In my arms. 13, 1988, her worid was shattered by the finished out their semestcrB. Assembly to reject the report, which asks for Looking through buUets fkom the gun of Stephen Roy Carr. a more open attitude to sexuality in general, The blue eyes. Stephen Roy Carr stalked her and her lover and to gays and lesbians in pardcular. **The My long dark fingets Rebecca Wight on the Appalachian Ihiil and Topfree activists report is doomed in its presem fbrm," said Rtm through her shot tbem both. Bretmer survived with five Newport Beach, Calif. Pastor John A. Long blond hair. bullet wounds. Wight died in the woods. to perfonn & Huffhian. •*rm sorry Lysah, but I can't . . :* Bretmer began with a piece she had writ Dr. Letty Russell, professor of theology at She touches my arm ten which documented in slow detail what picnic June 19 Yale Divinity School and keynote speaker at Ibo scared to feel happened a& the five bullets were shot. The By Lainnc I>cxter the Mofc U^t conference, «ud, **Thc report My hair audience was left ^>eechle^. Tlie shock and I attended my fitst Ibpfice Equality Pic is a prophetic statement of the rteed fbr Ibo scared to seek the trauma of what happened to her and her nic in 1987. It began, for mc, as simply go- justice and love in human relationships. My love. lover struck the students and membets of the ii^ along with a friend. I agreed to attend Whether or not the Presbyterians can iden community which were in jtttendance. Bren-, the picnic, but as the event drew closer, I tify with the language, the rcport still goes I feei altnost ner exptessed concem over members of the started to really thinb TSyont it, and thc im to tfae heart of the matter, which is need for* Lost gay and lesbian community becoming plied prospect of icmoving my shirt! a new understanding of the nature of sin in Entering every oppressor's psualyzed by their fear. Her imention was not My initial reaction was **nor me, I'm no the Christian foith.*' Bar & restaurant, to instill moce fear into people. exhibitionist." As a matter <^ iact, Vm very At tlie 203rd General Assembly on June 4, But because She helped lighten the tensions by discuss private and relatively shy. Another thought 700 commissioners, representing the I can't find you ing the details of how Carr was brought to that occured to me was* **not this issue, there Presbyterian Church (USA), will determine: I suppose the oppressor justice She opened up the floor to create a are far more important issues which should the diqiosition of the report. They will be WiU have to do discussion atmosphere. She encouraged the concern me/* under intense pressure to refect it. Oh black gay womon audience to discuss their reactions. She also But then something remarluble happen- More Light Churches are Presbyterian Who and where discussed the Hate-Crimes Statistics Act in ed. I realized that this Is an important issue. churches which beUeve that tfie position of Arc you? New York Sute and how Important that was It is not merely being aUowed by the law thc thc U.S. Church in refusing to ordain gay as a start to dealing with the problem. same freedom that men now enjoy. It is a men and lesbians is contrary to God*s lustice An organization is desperatefy neededJQT She credited the National Gay Lebian 'Cisk personal expression of self-esteem, being and lovc; they, thercforc, welcome persons lesbians Of Color here in Mocbester. If you Fbrce (NGLTF) for their wonderful support comfortable with my own body despite of all sexual orientations into their congrega are a Usbian Of Color fAfio-American, throuj^out her experience. Ihey helped what I have been tau^t by society. find her lawyers, funds, and emotional sup tions. Some are also willing to ordain les Natit^e American, Asian, Arab, Indian, Befng a female consumer has always bians and gay men as elders and deacons, Hi^tanic, Chicano etc) and tvould like to port. She claims she was lucky. Her assailant was found and tried. Many hate-crimes go meant "look better," "smell better," try and to call gay and lesbian ministers to serve belp me in coordinating a Rocbester Les anything and everything to be "better" than in their churches. biatts Of Color Organization (HIOCO), unreported, or if brought to trial, often have unfavorable results. I am. . . someone different than I am... so The consensus of the More Light Con please give me a caU at 244-9564, attd let's meone who I could never really become yet ference was, "This report is long overdue. locate ourselves and unite in RLOCOf Brenner encouraged people to tie '*out.*' always feeling as though I should. The invisibility of remaining in the closet on The church historically was slow to include I would like to welcome you to attend the Blacks and women in full membership. The With Care. . . ly helps to crcate an acceptance of hate crimes. If we are out and proud, then it sixth annual Ibpfree Equality Picnic on June full inclusion of lesbians and gay men may Your Afro-American Sister, 29, at the Red Creek Shelter at Genesee also be slow in coming, but it will come." Diane Conway won't seem as acceptable to perpetrate hate crimes against us. Valley Park. T-shirts, as always, arc optional! r ^ 153 Liberty Pole Way (716) 232-47T9 [::.lhflli.--Mii^,;;^&[ - SOLD LYNNE McSLOY n Real Estate Counselor FT .c:^ Sales, Leasing, Rentals ERA* DeVILLE Monday tbrn Thursday 4 p.m. - 9 p.iidu seftinj^ REALTY, INC. Friday Sc Saturday 4 p.m. -IO p.m. 325 Park Avenue Well drinks & domestic bottled beer $1.75 442-3318 All schnapps - $1.50 Hors d-oeuvres • iH r^Hc 4»^5JOI GAGV Goy Alliance of the Genesee Valley Monday thru Friday 12-4 p*m. Call us for a free estimate iMq^ Well drinks. Bud, MUler. Genny Beer $1.00 ANNUAL PICNIC Eugene Snyder • Rick Brown Sunday, June 30, 1991 7tM24-4a22 or 716/872-0756 Wadneaday 9 p.m. - 1 a.m. Starting at Noon GMieaee Valley Park Friday Sc Saturday 10 p.m. - 12 DESIGN BUILD Menu MAINTAIN Barbequed Chicken • Hamburgers DESIGN Euchre Tournament 1:30 p.m German Potato Salad • Pasta Salad Vegetarian Dishes • Fruit Salad JHE Other Assorted Salads Seaaonal **Special'* Drinks 12 8 p.m. COOPERAUVE with our Happy Hour from 4 8 p.m. Entertainment EFrORT Gay Men's Chonis Disco (Courtesy of Infiniti) PLAN Frankly my clear, tie cio ^iie a danni^ Others to be Announced CONSTRUCT RENOVATE •-•I I The CARPENTRY S12JSAdvanc e S16S .•-I >Mimi• W.I.I , "" > •.••vt-i.tt^rtt^^vmitm-m-. !n^-i>w-T -v..':»» » »<• N THE EMPTY CLOSET June, 1991 June, 1991 THE EMPTY CLOSET 15 metiopoman liXNmnvnny v-mwny I^>altlvely Sober: 7:30 pm. For bca- Gay Men's HIV Negath^ Snpport Rc»€hester Historical Bonrllng SUNDAYTHU R SDAY SATURDAY 243 Rosedate St.. 6 p.m. 271-8478. tion call 4234)690, 328-2220 (days) Gronp SecoTKl and fourth Tuesdays. Socictifr Ctover Lanes. 2750 Monroa 20 or 442-8134 (evenings). Closed CaH Andrew Durham or Richard Naloli- Awe.. 8:30 pm. 654-6461. TW Gsy AMsnce off Genesee tu r i% ki r r ff\ a if 9 29 Rochester Blacxnal Women's Ne«^ nneeting. AIDS, HIV and akoholism Rombach at AIDS Rochester, Mlie. Mendon FVmds, 2-5 pm. \Mley (GAGV) is locsled st 179 WEDNESDAY Empty Ck»set deadline. Camera- woffii n>eelfng and poikick supper, 6:30 recovery issues. 232-3580. Call Beth. 442-7613. Tbplm e Eqgatly Perfformance Art Men's Ufrtttag Gaoup (Gay UMns). AHMMC AI^. Pter liicllHelQrs _,' ready ads. photos. 244-9030. l>m. Second Sunday Location, ink>: Ftlemls Day. Open Arms MCQ 243 Picgic. 11 am. Red Creek Sheher, 8 pm. Gay AHiance. first aod Hiird iMtlhie, SundaihFffldey 6:30^9:30 5 East Coast Lesbians fiestivaL June Rochester Lesbian and Gay Rosedale St. 6 pm. VkJeo 7:30 pm. Genesee Villey FWt. 244-7159. Thursdays. Fbr rTK>re inlormaHon caH p«, 244-8640. fMMcal CmiCMS. Every secoixf Mon 2718478. 20-23. Includes IntemaHonal Lesbian Laabtan, Gay and Bisaxnal Pride WEDNESDAY 244-8640 and leave a message for Jell information Service (ILIS) conference, Gay Men's Cdohlng Groups 7:30 day, 7:30 pm. Gay Alliance, 179 Atlan 'Coupling hlANy - giv^nd lesbian role Casino Niglit at lim. To benefit Pmmdm, 3 pm. Gather af IVk Nte. by Lehigh, or write to Gay ^AMtes, care of perfbrmances by June and Jean Mill tic Awe. 244-8640. playing." 7:30 pm. Open Arms MCC. AIDS Rodiesier. 5*10 pm. $1 door Berkeley St.. march to Cobbs Hiit PM pm. Fburth Sunday 244-8640. Rochester Women's CoasmnnMy GAGV, 179/%lwiilc Awe, Rochester NY ington. Sue Fink. Faith Nolan. 243 Rosedale St. 271-8478. donaHon. fer rally. CaH 473-9948 or 244*9310. Chorus, rehearsals, Pinnade Place, 14607-1255, MONDAY Snpport group sar parents and SATU R D A Y W^ington Sisteis and Melanie Mon Sgmmer*s Eve Oance. Stardust Men's Gfovp meeHng, Gay Alliance, 919 S. ainton Awe., 6:30-8:30 pirn. frienda of Jeurtoh leabians and sur. more. Ar Camp Poyntde. F^. For Ballroom (Edgerton Community 179 AHantk: Awe. 7:30 pm. First and GLBf^ Hotine. Thuisd^^ 8-11 pm. FRIDAY 24 gaya. Fiist Mondays. For time and kxa- more information call (718)643-3284. Center). 8 pm-mldnight. Tickets $15. third Sunday. 244-8640. Gay AMance board . - ^'vectors Ga^ Lesbian, Bisexual artd Friends lion ddl Michete Ruda atJewish Iwilly Activists' Nigfat Out. Sponsored by Sponsored by Omega. meeting. Gay AUiance. 1/9 Atiantic AssodaHon, University of Rochesten (r Gay Men's ClKmis. 14 Service. 461-0110. or Elaine Elkins, Greater Rochester NOW. 7-9 pm. Satire Gey Men's Alcohoilca Ave., 7 pm. Second '" '^esday. 275-8341 (oc. 5). "Bmadway" concert, 8 pm. XETOK THURSDAY Dignity-Integrity Cabin Party. 244-4837. by Capitol District Ladies ^inst Anonymona, St. Luke's^. Simon 244-8640. Square Auditoiium. $10. Fundraising 6:30-10 pm. Camp Eastman F^rk. FRIDAY Women. Fbr kycation call 594-2480. SUNDAY Cyrene Churcfi, 17 S FHzhugh St., reception to foHow. 328-9758. i's Ifaiiliiglbsi, Monday nights^ Empty Cioset layout and paste-up of 8:30 pm. 23Z'4720. Mending Hearts, AIDS bereaven>ent Womyn*a PrMe Prom. 8:30 pm 1 Sc9f for BrealiiMt with Anne Seale, 21 Downtown United Presbyterian Church, "inlolennce." WXXI TV/. Channel 4. July Issue. 5-10 pm, 179 ^antic Awe. 30 supiMrt groups 7:30 pm. Our Lady of FRIDAY am, Langston Hughes Center. 25 High Sasha Hedley, marz. 7:30 pm, $5, 121 N. Fttzhugh St. Non-competitive 8-11 pm.FeatuHngAHan Richards of the lambda Intemationai Radio Chifai 244-9030. Lesbian and Gay \^Hth of Victory Church. 210 Pteasant St. Justice. 88 Liberty F\>le Way. St.. Bufblo Sponsored by Wild Wim Gay Alliance and Queer Nation, footage Dinner/meeting. Call Dove, 359-3337. Gay AWance Picnic. Noon, Genesee Rochester (LGYR). Group fbr peopte fuHir, 7-8 pm; competitive liour after 8 671-3777 or 248-3780. Sexual Compnislves Anonymona. Elana Levy & Saffiya Henderson- 5:30-7 pm. For kxalton caH 244-8640. mln. $5. Oldies music; formal wear op of Pride marches, etc. Last fK>ur is live Women, War and Resistance. Valley P^H^ (same site as last year). Ma 16-21, meets Sundays 3-6 pm. GACV, pm. CaH Ramona, 244-1640. Lesbian Resource Centei; Gay Holmes. Pbetry 8 pm. WikI Seeds jor fundraiser fc>r Gay Alliance of tional. Smoke free. call-in. Meeting. 7 pm, WikJ Seeds Bookstore TUESDAY 179 Atlantic Awe. 244-8640. Alliance, 179 AHanHc Awe. 7:30 pm. Bookstore and Cafe, 704 University Genesee Valley Rochester Gay Men's GLAS. Gay-Lesbian Ahemative Social. Out and About bicycle trigit. For time and Cafe, 704 University Ave. GLBFA Women's GionpL Every Fburth or tast Wednesdays. 671-3294 Awe. 244-9310. Chorus, Infinity disco, barbecued 8 pm-midnight, Universalist Church, and place call Bob^ 442-7185. 244-9310. 25 Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Monday at 7:30 pm. WC 507. or 244-8640. AIDS Remembrance l^rli commit- chicken, more. $12 in advance, $15 at Friends AasoclatkNi (GLBFA). U. of ISO S Clinton Awe. Until end of June. SUNDAY Empty Closet layout arKl paste-up of event. tee. Meeting. 7:30 pm. Gay Alliance. SATURDAY July issue. 5-10 pm, 179 Atlantic Ave. Rochester. Sundays, 7:30 pm, Morey Gay Alcoholics Anonymous. 7 pm. 179 Atlantic Awe, Fbr information call 244-9030. International Lesbian/Gay 402. Unitarian Church. 220 Winton Rd. 8898050. 15 SATURDAY Association Conference. June ACT UP/Utestem New\brfc. Meets TUESDAY Joyce Ann Brown. Details to folkiw! 30-July 6, Guadali^ra. Mexica For in- every SurKlay night at'7 pm at Langston SATURDAY Woman, IVonI and Song. 7:30 pm. WEDNESDAY Rochester Rangers social dub, mon Lesbian Parents Group. First Wild Seeds Bookstore and Cafe, 704 22 fomnation call Robert Bra^; Nattonal Qag Hughes Institute, 25 High St., Bufblo. Woman-created and directed Cf>ristian thly business meeting, 8 pm. First Tues Wednesdays. 7:30 pm, GAGV. 179 Gay/Lesbian Al-Anon, First University Ave. 244-9310. Sex for Brealctet tape signing with and Lesbian Task Fbrce, (202)332- Meetings free and open to public. vuorship Downtown United Presbyterian 26 day. Upstairs at Tara, 153 Liberty Pole Ariantic Ave. For current and prospec Unitarian Church, 220 S. Winton Rd., FRIDAY Empty Closet copy deadline. For Anne Seale. 1 pm. Wild Seeds 6483 1-854-8020. Churcfi. 121 N. Fitzhugh St. Way. CaH Rangers hotline. 251-2122. tive mothers and partners. For informa- 7 p.m. articles* letters to the editor, dassified ads, Bookstore and Cafe. 704 University Lesbian Resource Center. **Gav Hon call Lisa and Dusty at 385-4496. 7 non-camera ready ads. 244-9030. Ave. 244-9310. Pride Games." 7:30 pm. gay Alliance. ONGOING Rochester Gay Men's Cliorus, Gay Alcoholics Anonymous, First Nutritional ncteds off HIV4- peo Rocliesler Rangers Carnival Night. 179 Atlantic Ave. Maria Glllaid. Original folk. 8 pm. Cavalry St. Andrews Church, 68 Out and About Seniors Group. Unitarian Church, 220 S. Winton Rd.. ple. Discussion, 9:30-11:30 am. Incar Inside and outside at Tara, 153 Liberty MONDAY MONDAY WiW Seeds Bookstore and Cafe. 704 /^iand St. at 95 A^^crill Awe., 7:30 pm. Various activities Brita. 647-9141. 7 pm. nate Word Lutheran Church, comer of Pole Way. 9 pm-2 am. Games, prizes, SUNDAY University Awe. 244-9310. FRID A Y Rociiester Lesbian Action CoaB- 251-2077. Goodman and East A^/e. Nutritional In surprizes. 251-2122. Queer Nation. 7 pm, third Rochesier Rams Bar Niglit. Every formation and food-buying club. Fbr in Mote Light Support Group for gay tion. Gay Alliance lounge. 179 Atlan Sexual Compulsives Anonymous. \Atednesdays. CACV, 179 AHantic Ave. third Saturday. Badielor Forum. 8 pm-2 formation call Rick Erickson, and lesbian people and friends, 12:30 tic Awe., 7 pm. Third Monday. Tanya, Care Cuts II. 10 am-8 pm, all Con- For those desiring their own personal am. 271-6930. 244-6065. Empty Closef Mailing Pnrty for Ju pm, second and fourth Sundays. 256-1202. tmental School kxations: 633 Jefferson SATURDAY sexual sobriety. 7:30-9 pm. For place ly issu^. 7-9 pm, Cay Alliance, 179 Downtown United Presbyterian Church, Rd., 49 Stone St., Culver-Ridge Plaza. The Power off Friendsltip. 5 SUNDAY call 244-8640. Lesbian Witeis Group. 4 pm, every AHantic Ave. (Upstairs). 244-9030. 121 N. Fitzhugh St. 325-4000. Frtends Support Group , sponsored Proceeds from haircuts to benefit AIDS 8 pm-9:30 pm A HAPPE program, THURSDAY second Saturday. GAGV. 179 Atlantic Golden Threads. Celebration June by AIDS Ftochester Inc. for hiernls of Rochester. 232-3580. 251-4111. 23 BiGayLa. RfT Every Tuesday night 7-9 Awe. The Arena Group: 40 Years off 28-30, Provincetown Inn. Provincetown RMfents and Friends of Lesbians people with AIDS or ARC or who are Presbyterians for Lesbian and Gay pm. For location call 475-3209. Itrter- Modem Art in Rocliester. June National Assoc, off diacic and Mass. For lesbians over 50 and those and GavB, St. LukeVSt. Simon Cyrene HIV positive. AIDS Rochester, 20 Concerns, 6:30 pm. First Thursday. preted; all are welcome from Afffimmtion, gay/lesbian Mormons. 8-July 7, Pyramid Arts Center, V/i!lage Whhe Men Together. "Living, Lov- interested in them, fbr information write Church, 17 S Fitzhugh St., 2:30 pm. University Afc/e., 7:30 pm. Second and fbr tocation cal! P». 244-8963. communtty. 544-0043. Cate Square, 274 N. Coodman St. ir>g and Workirig Together." Convention Christine Burton, Golden Threads, PO Last Sunday. 865-0120. fourth Monday. 232-3580. TUESDAY Opening reception June 8. 461-2222. TUESDAY *91. St. Regis Hotel, Detroit, Mich. June Gay AlcohoUcs Anonymous, dos BOK 3177. BuHington Vt. 05401-0031. Scmken Room Cofieehouse. 8 pm. Lestiian Writers Group. "Fantasy 23-30. (313)569-8595. Dignity/Integrity, St. Luke'sSt. Gay Women's Alcoholics Gay Alcohottcs Anonymous. 8 pm. ed. St. Luke's-St. Simon Cyrene Gay/Lesbian/Bisexual Pride Genesee Co-op^ 713 Monroe Ave. $3 Vacarions." 4 pm, Ga^ AUiance. 179 18 ClamlMike. Fundraiser for AIDS Sinrton Cyrene Church, 17 S Fitzhugh Anonymous, St, Luke*5-St. Simon Genesee Hospital. 224 Alexander St. Church. 17 S FHzhugh Su 8:30 p.m. ffVietry Niglit. Michele Moore and co^/er Folk musk^ns, other perlonmers. AHantic Ave. Greater Rochester Aitemative ffechcster. Ellison F^rk, For information St., 5 p.m. Every third Sunday, poduck Cyrene Church. 17 S. 232-6720. flocfiest«r Rangers business Jack Bradigan-Spula, 8 pm. Wild Seeds 454-4674. meeting, 8 pm. upstairs at Tara, 153 Out and About iillce. Keuka Lake Business Association. Meeting, 6 call 232-3580. Bookstore and Cafe, 704 University dinner after Mass. 328-9758. Fitzhugh St., 8 p.m. 232-6720. Liberty Pole Way. Visitors welcome. outlet, near Penn V^n. Two hours. Call pm. Fbr location cal! Sean 0*Donnell, Ave. 244-9310. 251 2122. Bob, 473-9384. 671-1855. r CONVENTION REGISTRATION FORM n 1991 CONVENTION KT Name: - Tel (day) • P I N j^^ir AUGUST 30,31, SEPT. 1 Address: X City: — Zip (nighl) FLAMIiyGOSi HOLIDAY INN DOWNTOWN Total registration package (All events, including Banquet) $65 (Banqu^ limited to first 800 registrations. Dress iq), please!) ROCHESTER, N.Y. Please check choice of main dish: 01 Qiicken Piccata ^ Vegetanan Convention Hotline Registration fee (for all events except banquet) . _$35 PURPLE HEARTS Convention T-Shiit (special pre-convention price) — $9 (24 hrs) Please circle size: M L XL (716) 251-2460 I am enclosing a contribution 10 help others attend: Q $10 Q $20 • $30 Q more $ CONVENTION SCHEDULE Total FRIDAY Payment by: 8:00 pJD. Opening ceremonies Worltshops and other events Speaker: Ann Northrop include: Q Check (made payable to GAGV) PURPLE HEARTS Mastercard Visa 10 pjn. Dance to a Latin Band or enjoy *X>pen Q Credit Card: Please circle one: Gay and lesbian histoiy Mike" in tounge 00 Card number THE 1991 ROCHESTER Talk-a-Thon (open forum discussion) Motorcycle etiquette C n SATURDAY Health issues Expintfion date:. Signature:. GAY & LESBIAN 8:30 ajn. Aerobics, meditation, or singatong AA &. Al-Anon room 9:15-12*^ Panels; workshops Political paneb Q I do nor want my name on any mailing lists CONVENTION 12:30-1:30 Luoch (on your own) Spirituality A sexuality 1:30-3:30 CrlB wmiainaon & Tret F^ire Co-dq)endency SreCIAL SERVICES Holiday Inn-Genesee Plaza la concert Writers^ groups All major events and many others interpreted for the hearing impaired. 1:30-4:30 Safa Sex Workshop for men Gay/lesbian oppression Paitnevship agreements Tbe Hc^iday Inn is accessible to the handicapped. 1:45-8:00 Workshops For child care or finandal assistance call (716) 232-2255 by August 15. Banquet (limited to 800) Parenting Eatertahunant by Tha FUrtatioBs Bisexuality Relalionslwps .Mail to: Pink Flamingos &Pur|^ Hearts P.O.Box 1536 RochesK^, NY 14603 6:00-10:00 Piano bar an lounge Coming out 10M- June, 1991 THE EMPTY CLOSET 17 16 THE EMPTY CLOSET June, 1991 be easier than a book to live by? I, of course, a table turned over, and all of us thrown out overheard our conversation and inicrnipted was not surprised that Susanne had never again. If it's one thing 1 like, it's a lively mc. Me, H.D. She's a study in living on the Hick Dyke heard of this book. I told her answers to ..,->JM'^ 18 THE EMPTY CLOSET June, 1991 should not feel guilty if I feU to immediate I am by no means done with my grieving in a stage they thought they were done with. ly *'understand" why the loss has happen There is stiU more I need to get out, botfr That isn't rcgressiAg; it*s simply part oi thc ed, or histantly "accept" thc loss graceful profomd and silly. There are more tears, process^ Atid the greater the IOM, the longer ly. I am not to succumb to such pressure, and many more tcais Mill lo come. 1 will still tieed the grieving will take: But that's natural, atid devise a plastU: "skin" to cover my wound, Feeling help £RMn our commiuUty's su|^>ort systems' our way of honoring in our grievii^ the im- smd hear myself say "That's life." or "Oh. and my friendb. But what at>out when I'm . pomncc of what is lost. Tb survive, heal, weU" or "It doesn't matter." Thc book tells home alone, without any of these support and grow takes dme. me that it is my right to experience die stages systems or friends, because I just need to be My little paperback friend teUs me a lot of loss. It U my r^ht to gahi my own loss akMie? Well, ru tcU you **what about then." about surviving the loss. It tHls me 1 must imdentanding and realizations in tny own I reaich for my now tattered little paperback recognize my loss and expect to be in shock By Tisttbthy Sdnqip way. It is my right to also do It in my own friend How to Survive tbe loss ofa LOve. fbr a while. I need to be with and admit my Wt are not a community without the op time. portunity for loss. On Mar 11 of this year, When I bought it many years ago, I fbund pain. I am not alone — loss is a part of life, I lost yet another friend to AIDS. it to be the best $2.95 I'd ever spent, and it ofbeing alive, ofbeing human. I am a good, In closing I would like to include cme of This disease, along with the many other I whole, worthwhile human being. I will get Peter Mdaniliams* poems: losses we experience in our foumey as gay ] better, I will survive. I need to give myself men, requires us to be pretty capable of deal FEELING FREE I time to heal. aiuS ing with loss. Robert Biy has told us that the The healing process has its progressions thtough most significant emotion of men today is by Timothy Schapp and regressions./Ibmorrow will come. I need all the tears grief I'm having no difficulty believing that and deserve lots of rest. I also need to stick and the right at this time in my own life. still is. As self help books go, this one is a to my schedule. I need to keep decision mak sadness I have known my friend who died since jewel. It is co-authored by a psychologist ing to a minimum. It's OK to need comfor and the 1 was l4 years old. He was the first peraon (Mclba Colgrove), a psychiatrist (Harold ting. I must not be afiaid to seek the support pain to take me to a gay bar when I was 15. Bloomfield), and a poet (Peter McWilliams). of others. I should oot isolate myself from cotnes the Ironically, my first article for the Empty It is like having a friend by your side at a mo life. I have an opportunity to reaffirm my one thought Closet in May 1990 alluded to **my stories ment's notice. It has calmed me down, belief. Surviving takes a lot of foith and that can eneigy. make 1 - of thc Blue Chip and Martha's at age 15." validated me, reminded me I'll survive, Well, those stories all included this friend. centered me, encouraged me to cry and The book then talks of healing, not just me internally Many stories include this friend. What do 1 made me laugh. Not bad for 92.95- surviving. I am not to postpone or deny or smile again: do with all of them? I feel grateful that someone turned me on cover or run away from my pain. I am to be I V«? arc fonunate here in Rochester to have to this book years ago, and with my friend's with that pain — now. I am to be very gen have thc array of support systems that we do have death I am again indebted. So I wanted to tle with myself and let the healing process loved. — AIDS and non-AIDS related. Wc have share it with you. One of the reasons I like run its fiill course. I am to iiwest my energies Please honor your grief, for it is your organizations, agencies, churches and in it is that it can be read in one sitting. Another in healing and growing, in new relationships tribute to having loved. This article is dividuals readily a^^lable to offer support. reason I like it is that it isn't wordy. A third and in life. If mementos or photographs are dedicated to Darmy Scipione, bom May 3, If it weren't for some of these, I'd still be reason I like it is that each chapter is two helpful, use them; if not, don't. I should an 1950, died Mareh 11, 1991.1 toved him. I wiU stuck on a treadmill going round and round pages — one page is psychological stulT and ticipate a positive outcome. It is OK for me miss knowing he is alive. I have much to in my mind, not realizing how^ much 1 need the other page is a poem pertaining to it. The to feel depressed. It is OK to feel anger. grieve. ed to verbalize to another what was in that final and main reason I like it is that as I read Everyone gets angry^ at loss. I shouldn't pre treadmill. it, I feel as though it knows what I'm going tend to have more energy or enthusiasm or It never ceases to amaze me that the spec through and what guidance I need. happiness than 1 actually have. Feeliag Free is a column on mental health trum of loss and grieving spans from the pro This book talks about there being three I need to eat well. I should remember in issues, with a fbcus on sexuality and rela found to the silly. 1 participated in a beautiful stages of recovery: shock/denial, these days of stress and recovery that I am tionships. It is written alternatively by Bar service in thc same Roman Catholic church angerfcleprcssion, and understanding^ccep- vulnerable. I should pamper myself. (The bara Debes and Tim Schapp. Readers may my friend was baptized in, and read a psalm tancc. These take time and patience. While authors came up with more suggestions on send questions to tbem through the Empty his family asked mc to read. Then I stood there is a process to grieving, wc each must self-pampering than for any other section of Closet. up at thc end when wc were given the op go about it at our own pace. Wt don't finish the book.) I should keep a joumai. There is portunity to share thoughts or memories of one stage, then go on to the next. We go back a certain beauty in sadness, meaning ^muine Danny and I told everyone he was the first and forth, in and oiit of them all. sadness, not self-pity. person to show me how to tease my hair. In 1 have often heard my cUents think they're Overall, I must heal at my own pace. a Catholic church? regressing because they find_thcmsdv^_^£lL Although some people may demand it, I A program ofthe John Washburn Library at Community Health Network Friday evening, June 7, 1991 Registration - 6:30pm Program - 7:00 to 10:00pm or Our Saturday moming, July 13, 1991 Workshop Registration - 9:30am is Program - 10:00am to 1;00pm Positively Community Health Network Erotic 758 South AverHja HMMM d«taeh and rattini to Comreuwlty H—WiWtwuwfc 7U South AVMMM RoehMtw. N*w YaA 14620 NMW You probably haven't thought of half the things you can do with other men practicing DM* you wW« M atlwirt: safer sexi But we have. JIMM7 Juh/13 Phona: Dnv Join us for a very special sex- tvaian^^^^^^^ positive learning experiertce. On yau nood a sign tanouMi^'volov «« u« June, 1991 THE EMPTY CLOSET U ask, cither. We are busy asking groups, Finger lakes HealOf Systems Agency pK> businesses and individuals from all walks of AIDS vides medical litemture and newspsper elif - life who may be sympathetic to our work. pings as well as dcroogr3q>hic aixl statiWcii My hands are always out. data for use in developing health cair service An Open letter Next time you see an ad for a special event DIRECTORY 461-3520. to benefit an agency like AIDS Rochester, Greater RochesterAID S hdeffaitbN^fwori Free testing for HIV exposure is available please don*t dismiss it withom cotisidering (GRAIN) provides lay and pfofeasfamal car^ to the gay from New York State: caU l-900^4l-AIDS how much you will he helf^di^ to provide through healing and memofial services; tiair (1-80O-541-2437)' Other organizations which the wide array of direct services, education ing of friendly vishDcs for visiting homcft. provide AIDS-rdated services are as fcrilows: community and suppon which we can only continue to hospitals, ho^ccs and prisons; informatiotf! offer through the generosity of donors like AIDS Rochester fttc, 20 Univeisity St., pro about pastoral resources and advocacy on By Jeff Kost yourself. vides education, referrals to appropriate ser behalf of people affected by AIDS. 889-8050 Dear Friend: vice agencies, client and fiunily services, ad Monroe Community College maintains ar There are times in every writer's career vocacy for people facing HIV-linked AIDS Resource Ubrary in the Leroy V. Gooc when the creativity, the motivation and the discrimination, and other services, including Library. 1000 E. Henrietta Rd. 424-5200. words just do not translate to paper. This col AIDS UPDATE financial assistance and a public education Strong Memorial Ho^ital provides a com umn is from tny heart, and I b^ your speaker bureau. 232-3580 (V/TTY) or plete rai^e of HIV medical care, including ac indulgence. by Jeff Kost 232-4450 (V/TTY). Helping Beople witb AIDS, Inc, is a non cess to experimental treatment protocols, and I find myself planning several special Hrv testing. Also provides individtial and events to benefit AIDS Rochester between Consider your options this month alone: profit volimteer organization that raises motKy Casino Night at lira, June 9 (to benefit AIDS to fund those who provide services to HIV- group psychotherapy. Ihtining of health care Memorial Day weekend and the end of June. professionals also available Infectious Disease You probably ask yourself, "how many Rochester and Commtmity Health Network); infected individuals. P.O. Box 1543. Rochester Care Cuts II on June 10, a day of hair-cutting NY. 14603; hotline 987-1853- Clinic, 275-0526- Depanment of Psychiatry, events can I support?" Or maybe you say, "I 275-3379. AIDS Ihiining Project, 275-5693. gave last month " or "I gave at thc office" when stylists donate their time and you Gay Alliance of tbe Genesee \kdley peer Mending Hearts, AIDS bereavement sup (which may well be true as the United Way donate S20 for a haircut (call your own facilitators can provide referrals to physicians port group. Meets Wednesdays, 7:30 p.m., at campaign comes to a close), or just plain stylist for an appointment), and an old- and service agencies. Person on duty Sun Our Lady of Viaory Church, 210 Pleasant Sl. "how much more can I be expected to fashioned Clambake and Games on June 23 day/Friday 6:30-9:30 p.m. Mes.sagc machine 671-3777 or 248-3780 give>" at Ellison Park. Decisions. I trust you will other times. 244-8640. If I had the answers, Ufe would be a breeze. make thc right ones. AIDS Coordination Project of Monroe But thc truth is, no one in this field has all Agencies like AIDS Rochester increasing County, run through Monroe County Depan thc answers, and no, life is not a breeze for ly turn to our friends in thc community for ment of Health and AIDS Institute of New York people challenged by HIV. People who 1 see financial suppon to help sustain the quality (State Department of Health) provides infor every day in both my professional and per and quantity of services needed by our HIV mation, education and training, and maintains sonal^ life. So that is why people like myself challenged brothers and sisters. In this time a resource library. 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This brings greater tner is an excellent time for diet and health adult to ai^>oint someone to make medical awareness to these areas and thus oppor improvements. If your irmer voice says make decisions in the event that they arc unable. changes, listen to it* By Laurie IWUight tunities for growth. That means if you step in front of a bus ARIES: March 21 - April 20 In June, communications are strong. From tomorrow (and are knocked unconscious), Keep the ram's hoof out of your mouth. the 5th through the 19th, Mercury, your proxy takes effect, and your agent can \bu are quick to speak now and could regret IN YOUR STARS messenger of the gods, will be in its ruling tell thc doaors what your wishes ^ould be it tater. Instead use this impulsive time for sign of Gemini. This should enhance your if you were crmscious. The moment that yog sports or play. Creativity continues to be on by Laurie Twilight objectivity and clarify thinking. In regain consciousness, your agent's power to the upswing. Pursue your ideals in a pas- mythology. Mercury is a courier traveling make those decisions stops. siotuite and playful manner. Listen to your LIBRA: September 23 - October 22 with messages from one god to another. This The law requires that the person making Instincts as your senses are keen. Your hun Now is a test of your balancing prowess is similar to Jung's thinking that we don't the proxy be over 18 years old (but the per^ ches could tum to gold anytime this spring in relationships. Let your Libran love of think new thoughts, wc simply open our son who is appointed does not have to be through summer Whatever you want» now justice include fairness for yourself, not just minds to hearing them. over 18). The law also requires that thc pro is the time to pursue it. There is no stopp a loved one. Assert youiself. Make sure the June is the time to open up to Mercury's xy be signed in front of at least two ing you. ball is in your court equally. Any manyrdom messages, crystallize new ideas by initiating witnesses, who must also sign. The person TAURUS: April 21 - May 20 with a partner needs re-evaluation. Be clear projects, especially on the moming of the who is appointed cannot be one of the ' Spend some time alot^. This period, if not that your values about others are the same new moon on June 12. Do something witnesses. The proxy does not have to be handled properly, could bring emotional for yourself. Social activities continue to be physical in mid-June to utilize excess eneigy. notarized. unrest personally and or professionally. a highlight for June. This is an especially On the evening of June 26 there is a fiill good time fbr gatherings with friends whom While thc Proxy will give thc person you lUurians bom in April may be feeling a bit moon, and a lunar eclipse in the sign appoint as your agent the right to make frustrated. You need to question if what you you enjoy. Open up your social calendar. Capricorn. During this eclipse, be more cori*^ SCORPIO: Octolter 23 ~ November 22 health care decisions for you, you can limit are doing really suits who you are. Get on Crete regarding what you really want or carc what they can do. You can expressly limit track with what is in your heart, not just Those bom firom Nov. 9 through 16 are in about. At this auspicious time you may for some startling changes. You may need to the powers of the agent. If you do not ex what helps you feel materially secure. Career , choose to make use of the 'Hbetan belief that pressly limit an agent's powers, they can shifts and adjustments could be in order this re-evaluate or even let go of an old relation prayers are manifested thousands of times. ship you've held onto for too long. Are you make decisions regarding medical treatment, year The cards are in your hands. It's up to JTnCjt-oducriJXj^. . • services, diagnostic procedures, and treat you to make positive and useful changes. In being too co-dependent? Free yourself of your traditional ways of thinking and behav ment of mental conditions, as well as deci June you become more of your social self. sions to remove or withhold life-sustaining You are learning to harmonize your emo ing. Make changes that feel right for the per son you are becoming. Business is your OUT LAW treatment. It is also very important that you tions with other facets of your life. indicate on the proxy whether you wish to GEMINI: May 21 - fune 20 strength this spring. Time to expand, as yields could be profitable. Your goals should by Andrew S. Dmm have anificial feeding (nutrition and hydra As in the unification of Germany, your tion) withheld. Unless it is expressly stated twins need to join forces. One side is get be high in June. Don't hold your ambitions Problem: you get sick or injured and can back. on the proxy, your agent will not be allow ting more serious, especially Geminis bom not communicate with your doctor — and ed to withhold or withdraw any anificial in May. The other side wants to play and SAGITTARIUS: November 23 - December your doctor will not listen to your lover's ex feeding. 21 travel. One resolution might be to travel for planation of what you would want if you The New York State Department of Health \bu are ripe for adventure. Your passions some learning experience, or study a subject could communicate. distributes copies of thc form with a brief are high. Amorous activities entice you to ex that aids in journeying with the mind. Ex Solution: a Health Care Proxy. explanation which concludes that "(even) plore another's feelings more openly. Your panding ideas, experiences and your On Jan. 18, a new law went into effect in afiter you have signed,. . you have thc right sex appeal soars as others find you irresisti philosophical outlook is appropriate for New York state which allows every adult in to make health care decisions for yourself as ble. Pursue whom you like, but remember your present planets. Consistency and a the state to appoint someone else to make long as you are able to do so, and treatment to keep it safe. Confidence is boosted, positive mental attitude are important fac health care decisions in the event they are cannot be given to you or stopped (by your especially for those bom before Dec. 10. tors in this period of pcrM>nal growth. Ex unable. This law is like a Power of Attorney agent) if you object. You can cancel the con Your mission, if you choose to accept it, is plore your interests by travel, writing, or in for medical and health care related decisions. trol given to your agent by telling him or her to find love this springtime. Sudden attrac quiry into new subjects. It is important to understand the history or your health care provider orally or in tions are strong. Watch out as the planets ofthe law and its purpose. The new "Health writing.'' CANCER: June 21 -July 22 reveal an opening for falling in love later this Care Proxy Law" is a by-product of the Right People are beginning to recognize your month. lb Die movement. New York has been deal The Health Care Proxy Law allows alter underlying strengths. Express your talents native households to create pan of what CAPRICORN: December 22 -January 19 ing with the issue of the right to die for a for others to see and appreciate. Finances hetcrosexuai marriages ensure — the right The mountain goat that you are is a bit long time, and the issue has been heating up continue on a positive course. Now is an ex to take care of thc one that you love. feisty now^. Be direct with your feelings. considerably in the past 10 years. Initial at cellent cime to do sotne financial pianning Although this proxy can be completed Oon't hold back your anger, but balance it tempts to secure a person the right to die in for the future. Look for the work that pleases w^ithout an attorney (but I would not sug with gentility. Your energy is high. Romance cluded the creation of a statement of intent, you, as MfcW as offers some future security. gest it), it should not be taken tightiy because is on your horizon. A budding rclationship called a Living will, which expressed in- Be careful that the crab claws don't snap it docs carry the full weight of the law could gain more solid ground. You are pro writing a persons' desire not to be kept alive back too quickly at others. Your intense behind it. Before listing someone as your gressing with a capacity for deeper levels of by anificial means. Since these documents energy could also bring on new attractions. health care agent, you should know what it intimacy. Give more time to relationships to usually .refer to "anificial life suppon" and This spring could be full of surprises! is that you want, and make sure that your insure this happens. The emphasis on "heroic measures," both of which are hard lEO:July 23 ' August 22 prospectivcagent knows (and is emotional yourself has shifted to focus on partners. to define. New York has consistentiy refus Intuitions blossom. Your ability to make ly capable of carrying out) your wishes. Show others how much you care. Give a lov ed to enforce the popular Living Will. use of gut feelings is uncanny. Inner Choose your agent carefully, because some ed one something special. The Living Will is still important to show resources can become outer manifestations. family members may not be able to handle AQUARIUS: January 20 - February 18 your desire not to be kept alive by anificial The work you've done over the past year thc stress — or have the strength — to follow This spring is highly electric. There is a means or life suppon systems. This is not and a half is revealed in your deeper levels all of your wishes. push-pull between self focus and rclation usually) enough evidciKc It does, however, of self awareness. This yields confidence in The Health Care Proxy is only one of four ships. You need to pause and reflea on your show the coun that you considered the issue you, arKl an operuiess you haven't experienc important personal legal documents. The past accomplishments and failures. A re and discussed it with someone who can be ed in a long time. You are becoming aware other three include a Last Will and Testa orientation of your goals is necessary fbr you called as a witness. of endless opportunities. Seek others who ment, a Living Will, artd a Power of Attorney all year long. Presently you are also plum can assist your goals. Passions are In June 1990, the U.S. Supreme Coun rul (because if you can't tnake medical deci meted into working on rclationships. Balan unbelievably high in June. Ibmpers could ed in the Cruzan case that a person does sions, then you can't write a rent check, or cing your time along with time given to pan also be high. Do something physical to chan have the right to die. The ruling also said that make a car payment either). You shouid ners. With some effon, relationships pro nel your energies. it is up to the state, not the U.S.Supreme discuss these four documetits with a lawyer mise to reach a new potency. Watch your VIRGO: August 23 - September 22 Court, to determine what evidence will be — preferably one who understands gay and temper in June, for th<^e bom before Feb. Integrate healthier routines into your necessary to show a person's desire not to lesbian relationships. 10. Use this enetgy for something constmc- be kept alive. The right to refuse medical lifestyle. It's time to break bad habits. Con (Author's note: This anicle is just a bare sider a physical self-improvement plan to tive instead. treatment was recognized many years ago. PISCES: February 19 - March 20 While many people atgue that New York skimming of the potential uses of the Heatth quit smoking, eat healthier or exercise Care Proxy and other documents. It should regularly. You could become more sensitive, Let your child out. It's time to play. Your was already well on its way to passing the creative waters are flowing. Give your im- Health Care Proxy bill before the Cruzan not be considered definitive, or as legal ad thus more easily thrown off balance. A key vice. Remeber, before signing legal papers, to improving the physical is paying attention ^ination room to grow. Children cotild help case (and given the amount of time it takes to bring out this side of you. As you leam to pass legislation, I would have to agree), for anything, consult with your attorney. It to the psychological. Consider an AIDS test will usually save you money in the long run.) to clear your conscience. Physical and mcn to relax doors will open for you. This joyous Cruzan was enough to push the bill through ul health are opposite houses to each other aspect in your life could bring pleasant the state legislature. benefits to your work and health. A positive Vin ^rZr^W TIMOTHY SCHAPP, M.S. ED., NCC David A. 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Gay Writes that it limits potential contributois, dissuades Later on this summer, we will have a ma By Chuck Collins, Rochester Gay Men's some men from participating, and stifles jor picnic and other events you won't want ByJefiTLelaigh Choms t publicity. Nevertheless, the Chorus has re to miss! For information about Omega, write Gay Writes, the men's writing group, When Peri Jude Radiccc of the Nationai meets the first and third Thursday of thc r mained committed to its role as an open to us at P.O. Box 23042, Rochester, N.Y. Gay and Lesbian 12isk Force addressed che .£ representative of the Rochester gay and les 14692, or caU Jan, 223-1748, or Larry, month at 8 p.m. at the Gay Alliance, 179 annual leadership confetence of the Gay and bian community both locally and 442-8270. Atlantic Ave. Lesbtan Association of Choruses (GALA) in throughout the GALA network. RGMC could All writers and poets are welcome to at Chicago last year, she clearly stated the im not have succeeded in that role if it were not tend and bring their work to share, in any portance of their movement: *'The gay and for the generous supfvort ofour community. Out & About suge of development. } lesbian choruses are vital to our political There will always be an RGMC. A The planned discussion for the month of } struggle in America today. They stand before dedicated core of men will continue to sing, Out and About starts off this month with June is "The Future of Erotica and Gay the public and sing about our love and if only for their own enjoyment. But if our weekly bicycling, every Thursday at 7 p.m. Pom." Plans for the Pride Parade and Pic ) romance, our sorrows and losses, and our community values its contributions locally, Our first trip is June 6. We usually bicycle nic will also be discussed. anger with injustice. Through the language within New York state, and across the coun at a leisurely pace, covering less than 10 Come and join Gay Writes, release the of music, they proclaim the realities of our miles, and always try to top off the trip with writer or poet within, and meet ocher try, we must support the Chorus with renew ice cream. For more information, call Bob lives, which are so often denied by straight ed interest. writers and poets. Look for future discus society." at 442-7185. RGMC needs your help in finding jiew sions to be mentioned in this space. During a (>eriod when gay artistic expres voices to replace members taking leave of We have a hike planned for June 8. This sion is being attacked by right-wing politi absence and leaving the Rochester area. month we will hike along the Keuka Lake GLAS cians, the gay and lesbian choruses are grow RGMC needs your financial suporrt so that Outlet near Penn Yan. The hike will take By Dale Brown about two hours, and yoii should plan on ing in number and influence throughout it can attract and maintain an adequate staff Looking for something different to do on North America, Europe, and Australia. packing a snack and something to drink. It's and cover growing produccion costs. RGMC a worthwhile hike, and if you're interested, a Friday night? Do you need a place to let Rochester is fortunate to have one of the needs and deserves your active appreciation your hair down after a tough week in the most highly-respected small choruses in call Bob at 473-9384. Sec you Out and for its contributions to our community in About! trenches? Maybe thc Friday Night Social is GALA. During its eight year history, thc Rochester. for you! Rochester Gay Men's Chorus has represented To borrow a phrase from Holly Near, Some of the weekly activities include our conununity in Minneapolis, Seattle, Van RGMC is "singing for our lives." Can we af^ board games, sing alongs, watching TV, couver, Toronto, Philadelphia, Detroit, Pitt ford to let this voice go silent? Multicom swapping recipes, exchanging fashion tips, sburgh, Syracuse, Buffalo, and on campuses Please call the RGMC Chorus Line at kibitzing, or snacking on some of those in Oswego and Brockport. RGMC has per 251-2077. By Chuck AntoneUi simply divine fresh baked goods which formed in the Rochester Chamber of Com Multicom-4, Rochester*s only all-gay/les never seem to last but a moment. Every merce building, the Eastman Theater, bian/bisexual buUetin board system, has fourth Friday is pizza night; we supply the Highland Bowl, and City Hall. Its audience OJVIEOA done it again! On May 8, eight more Unes dough and sauce, and if the spirit moves, we includes people from all walks of life. were added to the system due to usage On June 9, Omega will be hiking in the ask you to bring your fovorite topping Yet in spite of these successes, RGMC con demand. (something edible of course!) tinually faces challenges to its very existence. wilds of Mendon Ponds, from 2-5 p.m. For There are now 16 incoming phone lines! The Friday Night Social continues to grow The state of the economy has resulted in a details, cail Beth at 442-7613 Not only is it the largest frce gay bulletin and flourish (much like the lilacs here in 50 percent decrease in assistance from Arts On June 29, Omega is holding a speciai board system in thc United Sutes, it's also Rochester) because of all the support receiv for Greater Rochester. Staff turnovers and a event in celebracion of Gay Pride Week: a thc largest free BBS in New York State (ac ed. We wish to thank: Universalist Church shortage of available replacements demand Summer's Eve Dance ac the Stardust cording to our records). for opening their hearts and doors to that Slaff salaries increase. Costs of perfor BaUroom (Edgerton Community Center). For more information on the Multicom-4 mance rights, insurance, rehearsal and per The Duke Spinner Band will be featured; G.L.A.S.; Bob, Peter, Andy, Dereck, and BBS system, read the May 1991 issue of The Scott, for the fresh baked goods; Bill and formance space, and production have con performing music of the Big Band era. Hors Empty Closet, pagc 17, or call our NEW tinued to rise, consuming all of thc ticket d'ouevres and beverages will be available. Wayne, for distributing flyers and handbills; voice number — 716/442-1669 (Monday- Lew for the VCR tape rewinder; Craig for sales from holiday and spring concerts. Most Tickets are S15 per person. See the ad for the Friday 11 a.m. to 8 p.m.) Multicom's data ac troubling is that the pool of available singers dance elsewherc in this issue of the Empty schlepping the Closed Capwionier each week; cess number is 716/473-4070. Be sure you are Sandi for the stereo; Doug for the t>oard is diminishing when thc Chorus is desperate Closet. using 300/1200 or 2400 baud modem. for nc^r people. Omega is a state-chartered organization game; Paul for the board game, and thcjisfc. The Rochester Gay Men's Chorus is one committed to rccc^nizing and meeting the of the few groups in Rochester which unique needs of older gay men and women represents gay men and lesbians lo thc in the greater Rochester cotnmunity. We FOR YOUR HEALTH general public and affirms its gayness by ti welcome members 35 years of age or older K"" is a liquid blend of 14 different plants, ZZ ZZ ZZ ZZ ZZ ZZ ZZ ZZ each rich in vital nutrients: vitamins, Offering Therapy & Support for minerals and essential trace elements, Individuals, Couples & Groups RUTH IVI. MTILLIAAAS, 1I1.S. 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All emotionally-related concerns Dignity-Integrity/Rochester is an ecumenical organization open to • -I74-I everyone who wishes to worship in a pleasant, non-threatening atmosphere We invite you to join us for our weekly celebration of the Eucharist, followed by a social hour, or one of our many specia! events such as a pot iuck supper, picnic, retreat, etc. A Roman Wild Seeds Catholic mass is celebrated each Sunday of the month, except for the fourth Sunday when mass is celebrated in the Episcopal Bookstore & Cafe traditton. 704 University Avenue Rochester 14607 Pastoral and Peer Counseling is also available 244-9310 Sunday Schedule feminist lesbian & gay progressive politics Liturgy-5:00p.m. multi-cultural kids books Social Hour-6:()0 p.m. St. Luke*s Episcopal Church Vegetarian Cafe 17 S. Fitzhugh St. Entertainment Weekly (between Main St. &: Broad St.) Phone 328-9758 MARCH FOR PRIDE ON JUNE 29! Pride Parade T-Shirts Available dignity-integrity Mrochester TUESDAY-SATURDAY: 11-7/SUNDAY: 12-5 MONDAY: Closed HB ii U(tHiMltMMM«44MMKIiMt«i^^^ U. tvrrtfMfMffttmrirrfivirrnvYrvtTtTtTfM^" June, 1991 THE EMPTY CLOSET 25 prjUlft TV and VCK; Bob S. for playing the ty of munchies. Beginning at 7:30 p.m. the ' jptuiso) %ni and Lyon for helping in che kit- same evetiitig, there wiU be a special video Dignity-Integrity chtef all the singers, for serenading us with presentation of '*God, Gays and the Gospel 'WUme inannelqoa showtuncs; GAGV fitfo — This is OUR Story,' * a stirring story of the The Lesbian and Gay Youth of Rochester Dignity-Integrity's May Cahin Party was thK; itsr ^nreading the word via thc Metropolitan Conmiunity Churches and a (LGYR) provides a casual place where bisex postponed due to bad weather. It has been tdqtenc; Susan and thc entire EC. staff, for movii^ afflrmation of gay/lesbian spirituality ual, gay and lesbian youth (ages 16-21) can re-scheduled for June 14. ftom 6:30 to 10 all you do to make us look good in print; and love. meet. Our activities and discussions vary p.m., at Camp Eastman Park. everyone for yourlaughter, smiles, support All worship and activities are held in our greatly, according to thc needs and desires AU are welcome to |oin In the hm. Wfe wiU and lave. Chapel at 243 iU>sedale St. Sunday worship of the members. be having food, music and games. For more We have formed a theatrical group, services are held weekly begitming at 6 p.m. Wc meet on Sundays from 3 to 6 p.m. at infonnation, caU the DI HotUne at 328-9578. G.L.LTS. (Gay Lesbian Inq^act Thespian Sen Further infonnation about these and other the Gay Alliance of the Genesee VaUey, 179 Our 5 p.m. service on every third Sunday sation). Our first production wili be "The church aaivities is available by calling the Atiantic Ave. All questionsAromments may be ofthe month at St.LulK's/St. Simon (Cyrene) Faculty Lounge,* * one man*s story of his gay church office or writing to Open Arms sent to LGYR cfo GAGV, 179 Atlantic Ave, Church, 17 S. Fitzhugh St., In now inter pride and how it affects those around him. M.C.C, 243 Rosedale St., Rochester NY Rochester N.Y. 14607-1255. or call preted for the deaf. \bu*li laugh, you'll cry, you'll ponder (we 14620^ 244-8640. hope!) Performance date: Friday June Open Arms M.CC. is the gay-affirming Now chac ic is summer we plan co the Rochester Rangers 28--(Gay Pride Week)—8:30 p.m. at the Christian Church open to all people. beach and take some road trips. Wmt to go Lilac Palace. to the Falls (no, Niagara!) or Letchworth State By Mkdiael WlnttMi So ffctnember, if you're looking for Park? Somewhere else? Come to thc next In June the Rochester Rangers wtU be something different, why not check us out. LRC meeting and see what we have planned. hosting another Carnival Nite at ISua, 153 F.N.S. Friday evenings 8 p.m. - 12 midnight, Bring your ideas, too. This group is yours; La>erty Pole Wiy. On Jtme 22, starting at 9 The Lesbian Resource Centet; an organiza p. m., the carnival goes aU night til 2 a. m. with at the Universalist Church, 150 Clinton Ave, tion that provides (^>portunitics for lesbians you make the agenda! Soudi. See you there! Hello Syracuse and Buffalo youth groups! games, prizes (lots of stuffed animals), food, to socialize, leam, and compare notes, will and a lot more. Circle yoar calendar now to have its June gct-tt^ether on June 26, at 7:30 Wf wete glad to have you herc for our dance It's definitely time to get together again. join us for evening of fitn. We hope to see you Open Arms MCC p.m. there. Thc group meets downstairs in the Gay Hope Co sec everyone (LGYT in Ibronto, too) Open Arms Metropolitan Cotnmunity at the Gay AUiance Picnic on June 30! The membership of thc Rochester Rangers Alliance Community Center, 179 Atlantic is very pleased to announce to everyone that Church invites the community to a variety Ave on the last Wednesday .of the month. of upcoming activities. our s^Mghctti dinner for the Viimie/Vlcki Cup W^tch the Empty Closet calendar for each Lesbian Writers awards on May 19, was a huge success. Our Rclationship Discussion Series will be month's date. continuing on June 5 with thc topic "Coupl Thc next meeting of the Lesbian Writer's W^servcd over 125 meals. Thanks, Amie In June, wc wUI be celebrating Gay Pride and Dick, for the use of your kitchen. At the ing History—gay and lesbian role playing." VC^ck with some rousing gay pride games Group wiU be at 4 p.m., June 8, at thc Gay This will be an open discussion on the past Alliance, 179 Adancic Ave. Lesbian wrieers at end of this event. President Micfaael W. followed by a social. There will also be a presented the Gay Alliance of the Genesee and prcsent roles we play in relacionships. short business meeting. all stages of expertise are welcome to join Et will begin at 7:30 p.m. and is open to ail. us to share a project, or just to listen. Vadley with a check for $200 lo be used for the All lesbians, and especially those who are building fond. Thank you again to everyone Friends Day, Juoe 9, is a celebration ol new to the community, are invited to join Thc topic for the session wiU be "Fantasy God's lovc for us as expressed through our Vacations." Write something in any form who came down to the Forum and enjoyed tfae us at the Lesbian Resource Center. Fbr more aftcriHxm with us. gifts of friendship. Join up for this special information, contaa Anne Scale, 671-3294. about a vacation you would take if money, wocship service begiiuiing at 6 pm. After the time, etc. were no object, and bring it to In July thc Rochester Rangers wiU be taking lb arrange for a sign interpreter, please call a Uttle btcak. Wc wiU be back in August with service there wiU be a reception with plen at least a week in advance. shate. An open reading will follow. Wc will also have a sign-up list for anocher evem. Wudh our bulletin boards at *'womanning'' the LWG table at the annual your fovorite bar for our plans. t<$' ^" gay picnic on June 30. Get involved in thc Until next time, we remind everyone, **It's r Lesbian Writer's Group. It's fun! up to you, stop AIDS; use condoms and play For more information about the writers safe' Michele Ibfiany WELLESLEY Ed.D. N.C.C. CENTER 442-2986 PERSONAL GROWTH THROUGH SELFfXPUXUmON Richard Lenhard, MS. Ed. 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PO Box 19682, Rochester NY 14619 seeks short stories, novellas, novel excerpts Tbe Empty Closet will not accept Desperately seeking Julie the classified ads tfy mail un^ss tbey are ac by woinen. Send typed, doubled-q>aced ms. with SASE to Rachel Whalen, Short Fiction schoolteacher. \l^ met at the RGMC/RWCC companied by a name and telephone Mofc Light Concert May 4. Beth from Omega ntimber Tbe number will not t>e publisb by \(toinen. Box 1276. Stuyvcsant Stn., New Fbr rent \brk NY 10009. introduced us. My name is Debbie. Please ed, but we will caa to confirm tbe «M/ come to Omega's June events. placemem. lawn care. Professional mowing. Fbr a cut Rooms for rent, close to downtown. ^^iHxept personal ads, bu$ the advertiser above the rest. 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