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Failure, Is it Neccesary? Friends for Life Facing Sorrow isitar las escuelas católicas es una de las cosas que From the Bishop más disfruto en mi labor como obispo. Disfruto en el sentido que encuentro un ambiente positivo entre estudiantes y profesores y la oportunidad en que yo V ponga en práctica mis habilidades de enseñanza. Después de su vida sacramental, la salarios y beneficios de los empleados, educación católica es el mayor regalo sin importar su vida vocacional serían No Substitute que Dios ofrece a la Iglesia católica más altos. para dar a los demás. Sin llegar a La secularización de nuestra cultura conocer a Jesucristo y sin haber sido es la tercera, tal vez sea este un formado en su estilo de vida, el ser cambio menos obvio. La fuerza de esta para becas escolares. Todos necesitan humano no puede alcanzar su potencial secularización, unida a la pérdida de apoyar este proyecto, ya que por cada isiting Catholic lenging and increases their cost. education for their children is. Even with al máximo.Y la Iglesia no puede ser una personal religioso, hace muy difícil el niño que recibe educación católica schools is one of Increased cost, naturally, is the second that appreciation, many families cannot fuerza de bondad efectiva en el mundo. cumplir con la misión de la Educación beneficia a toda la Iglesia en cualquier the most enjoyable major change. Nevertheless, even if our afford the full cost. A great push for tuition Por supuesto que la formación Católica, llamada a formar discípulos lugar. parts of my job as schools were still staffed by large numbers assistance is needed. Our diocese’s cristiana se puede alcanzar por medio de Jesucristo que puedan traer su Nada de esto será fácil, como al of religious sisters and brothers, costs Catholic Education Foundation is an de otros modos que no sean a través presencia a este mundo. parecer lo fue entre los años 1950 bishop. I revel in the would still be much higher than in the past. excellent vehicle for generating funds for de la Escuela Católica. Propiamente Estos cambios combinados, significa y 1960 cuando la mayoría de niños Vsense of purpose I find, the positive Class sizes would be smaller, technological tuition grants. Everyone needs to support organizada y conducida, sin embargo, que menos padres de familia católicos católicos de mi generación asistían atmosphere among teachers and improvements would be instituted and the this enterprise, because every child who las funciones de las Escuelas Católicas se decidan por una educación católica a escuelas Católicas. Precisamente students, and the opportunity to do salaries and benefits for the staff, no matter receives a Catholic education benefits the como una comunidad única de fe para sus hijos. (Algunos padres, porque la tarea parece tan abrumadora, a little teaching myself. their life vocations, would be higher. whole Church everywhere. y amor, sirviendo tanto como una inexplicablemente, permiten que sus debe de seguirse vigorosamente. En The secularization of our culture is the None of this will be easy, as it seemed extensión del núcleo familiar como una hijos tomen esta decisión.) Y muchos realidad, padres de familia, profesores, third, perhaps less obvious change. The to be in the 1950s and 1960s when localización de una Iglesia en general. de los que se deciden por Escuelas administradores, pastores y otros que Next to its sacramental life, Catholic edu- force of this secularization, coupled with the most of the Catholic children of my Tal vez existan alternativas a escuelas Católicas no están comprometidos con apoyan la misión ya están demostrando cation is the greatest gift that God enables loss of religious personnel, makes it harder generation went to Catholic schools. católicas. Sin embargo, no substitutas. la misión recién mencionada. Para ellos, grandes esfuerzos y sacrificios. the Catholic Church to provide. Without every day to fulfill the mission of Catholic Precisely because the task seems so El rostro de la educación Católica una educación privada con la etiqueta Por años, las escuelas católicas han knowing Jesus Christ and being formed in education: namely, to form disciples of daunting, it must be pursued vigorously. en los Estados Unidos ha cambiado de católica es suficiente. formado jóvenes de tal manera que His way of life, the human person cannot Jesus Christ who can bring His presence Indeed, great effort and sacrifice are dramáticamente de muchas maneras Con el fin de reforzar las escuelas sigan a Cristo, como miembros de su reach his or her fullest potential. Nor can into the world. already being demonstrated by parents, durante los últimos 40 años. Tres Católicas, estos tres cambios y sus Iglesia y sociedad. Ellos han servido the Church be an effective force for good- These changes, mixed together, mean teachers, administrators, pastors and cambios en particular han tenido un efectos tienen que ser revertidos. como compañeros de padres de ness in the world. that fewer Catholic parents are choos- other supporters. efecto negativo. Estos cambios están Primero, necesitamos comprometernos familia y de las parroquias para crear Of course, Christian formation can be ing Catholic education for their children. For years, Catholic schools have enlazados. a la misión de la Educación Católica. un ambiente consistente de fe. Ellos accomplished through formats other than (Some parents, inexplicably, allow their formed young people in a major way to El primer cambio es la reducción de Eso significa promover vocaciones han ayudado a personas de diferentes the Catholic school. Properly organized children to make the decision.) And many follow Christ as members of His Church personal religioso. Mujeres y hombres religiosas, proveer una formación más orígenes a integrarse al Cuerpo de and conducted, however, the Catholic of those who do choose Catholic schools and society. They have served as a part- religiosos han hecho una contribución intensa para los empleados laicos, Cristo. school functions as a unique community of are not committed to the mission just men- ner with parents and parishes to create a inestimable en la vida de la Iglesia ayudar a los padres y estudiantes a Esto no ha sido siempre perfecto. faith and love, serving both as an exten- tioned. For them, a private education with a consistent environment of faith. They have católica y sus miembros han trabajado entender y suscribirse a la misión, y ¿Qué es este lado del cielo? Esa no sion of the nuclear family and a localiza- Catholic label is sufficient. helped to integrate people from disparate en este país por un largo periodo de hacer del discipulado, el verdadero es razón para conformarse con menos tion of the larger Church. There may be In order to strengthen Catholic schools, backgrounds into the one body of Christ. tiempo. No hay forma alguna de poder enfoque de todo en nuestras escuelas. y menos aún, darse por vencidos. alternatives to Catholic schools. There is no these three changes and their effects have It hasn’t always been perfect. What is agradecer adecuadamente a todos Segundo, necesitamos incrementar el Además, hay demasiado en juego. substitute. to be reversed. this side of heaven? That’s not a reason ellos. Por eso, la ausencia de estos número de niños católicos que asisten a Jesucristo es el Camino, la Verdad The face of Catholic education in the First, we need to recommit ourselves to settle for less or even to throw in the administradores en nuestras escuelas Escuelas Católicas, aun si esto significa y la Vida. El llegó a liberar al mundo United States has changed dramatically in to the mission of Catholic education. That towel. Besides, too much is at stake. católicas en estos tiempos hace que la comenzar más escuelas (en lugar de del pecado y de un vacío eterno. Más many ways over the past 40 years. Three means promoting religious vocations, pro- Jesus Christ is the way, the truth and misión Católica sea más difícil y que los cerrarlas). Necesitamos ayudar a los que nunca, nuestra sociedad y nuestra changes in particular have had a negative viding more intense formation for lay staff, the life. He came to set people free from costos de la educación aumenten. padres de familia católicos realizar Iglesia requiere discípulos de Jesús effect. These changes are interwoven. helping parents and students understand sin and eternal emptiness. More than Un aumento en el costo, el gran acto de amor que harían al que estén bien formados, enteramente The first change is the reduction of reli- and subscribe to the mission, and making ever, our society and our Church require naturalmente, es el segundo cambio proveer a sus hijos con una educación catequizados y profundamente gious personnel. Women and men religious discipleship the true focus of everything in disciples of Jesus who are well formed, significativo. Sin embargo, aun si católica. Aun con esa apreciación comprometidos a ser una luz para el have made an inestimable contribution our schools. thoroughly catechized and deeply com- nuestras escuelas contaran con un por la educación católica, muchas mundo. to the life of the Catholic Church and her Second, we need to increase the number mitted to be a light to the world. gran número de hermanos y hermanas familias no pueden alcanzar el costo members in this country over a very long of Catholic children enrolled in Catholic religiosas trabajando en ellas, los total. Es necesario un gran empuje a la Obispo R. Daniel Conlon period. No measure of gratitude is ad- schools, even if that means starting more Bishop R. Daniel Conlon costos aun serian bastante altos. El asistencia financiera para las matriculas. Diócesis de Joliet equate. The absence of these teachers and schools (instead of closing them). We need Diocese of Joliet número de alumnos por clase sería La oficina de Fondos para la Educación Cristo es nuestra administrators in our schools today makes to help Catholic parents appreciate how Christ is our Hope menor, actualizaciones tecnológicas Católica de la Diócesis de Joliet es un Esperanza achieving their Catholic mission more chal- great an act of love providing a Catholic December 2011 tendrían que implementarse, los excelente recurso para generar fondos diciembre 2011

2 Christ is our Hope / December 2011 / Dioceseofjoliet.org 3 The Magazine of the Catholic Diocese of Joliet rate the memory of past and present parishioners, Archdiocese of Louisville and the director of the Insti- Most Reverend R. Daniel Conlon Local News friends and supporters of the parish. Mike Dudek, tute for Priests and Presbyterates at St. Meinrad School PUBLISHER a parishioner, alumnus of the class of 1984 from of Theology. He spoke about the need for fostering Doug Delaney Diocese Donates More Than $380,000 to the St. Joseph School and a landscape designer, helped unity among priests in harmony with the bishop. DIRECTOR OF COMMUNICATIONS ASSOCIATE PUBLISHER Pontifical Mission Societies shape Father Andres’ vision into a plan that Jim Another speaker was Cardinal Francis George,

Decmber 2011 The diocese contributed $383,457 to the Phelps Landscaping brought into reality. OMI, who talked about the Second Vatican Council. contents Volume 4: Issue 9 Pontifical Mission Societies during last year’s special “[Cardinal George] exhorted us to continue the Carlos Briceño collection at the parishes. The money goes to Bishop Conlon Meets Volunteers, Thanks vision of the council and to be aware of the cultural Table of Contents EDITOR Miguel Moreno, Monica Harness support about 1,500 mission dioceses around the Donors at Sacred Music Event climate in which the council was initially interpreted,” SPANISH TRANSLATORS world. “I write to convey the prayerful thanks of The diocesan Catholic Education Foundation said Father Steven Borello, from Notre Dame Parish in FAITH Catholic this Congregation to you and to the faithful of the thanked its dedicated volunteer community in Clarendon Hills. “Just as in families where it is neces- 6 yourlife 12 yourfaith 18 yourstories Rev. Dwight Ezop CHAIRMAN Diocese of Joliet for the gifts and sacrifices o ered October by showcasing some of the best musical sary for them to communicate frequently to stay close Patrick M. O’Brien during the year 2010 …” said the Most Reverand talent from area Catholic schools. St. Petronille and help each other, so, too, in the presbyterate we 6 Parenting Journey 12 Ask the Priest 18 Living Life while Dying PRESIDENT AND CHIEF EXECUTIVE OFFICER This bullying has to stop 13 Catholic Charities A deacon battles cancer Elizabeth Martin Solsburg Ferando Filoni, the prefect for the Congregation for Parish in Glen Ellyn was the site of an evening need the opportunity to come together to be with our DIRECTOR OF CUSTOM PUBLISHING/ the Evangelization of Peoples, in an Oct. 10 letter to of sacred music featuring the Benet Academy family in both structured and unstructured ways, al- 7 Marriage Matters Friends for Life with faith EDITORIAL DIRECTOR Patrick Dally Bishop R. Daniel Conlon. The money also went to Madrigal Singers. Also headlining the performance lowing us to strengthen our friendships and help each 8 Catholic Life 14 Saint of the Month 22 Making Heavenly Music ART DIRECTOR Failure, Is it Neccesary? St. Francis Xavier 24 Facing Sorrow with Faith InnerWorkings support the next generation of priests and help in were student and professional vocalists from other in their needs.” PRINT MANAGEMENT educating children about the Gospel in the poorest Catholic parishes in Woodridge, Wheaton, Glen Father Borello added that he enjoyed the time spent 10 Culture 16 Spiritual Fitness 26 Gift of Christmas Christ is Our Hope (USPS 25288) is a membership publication of the Catholic Diocese of Joliet, 101 W. Airport places in the world. Ellyn and Lockport. The music was arranged and at the priests’ convocation. Reflexiones de fe Road, Romeoville, IL 60446-6527. Published monthly A Light for Us All Bow Down 28 except for February, August and November. Gift subscription rates are $15 per year. Individual issues are $2.50. Send choreographed by Father Gerald Riva, pastor of St. “I heard so many wonderful stories about the his- La Luz que all subscription information and address changes to: Christ is Our Hope magazine, 101 W. Airport Road, Romeoville, Scholastica, Woodridge. Bishop R. Daniel Conlon tory of the diocese and all the di erent personalities nos Enceguece IL 60446-6527; (815) 834-4060 or email magazine@ dioceseofjoliet.org. POSTMASTER: Send address changes to Christ is Our Hope magazine, 101 W. Airport was on hand to greet donors and volunteers from that make our history so rich,” he said. “They shared 29 Local News Road, Romeoville, IL 60446-6527 ©Christ is Our Hope magazine, Diocese of Joliet. ©FAITH Publishing Service. parishes and schools throughout the diocese. The their experiences in ministry, the miracles at which 31 Last Word FAITH is a trademark of FAITH Publishing Service. No portion of Christ is Our Hope magazine may be published, broadcast, rewritten or otherwise reproduced or distributed event was aimed to introduce the new bishop of God allowed them to be present, the struggles and the in whole or in part without prior written authority of the Diocese of Joliet and/or FAITH Publishing ServiceTM. the diocese, to express appreciation to thousands crosses that they have been asked to bear, and the joys For reprint information or other questions regarding use copyright material, contact the Christ is Our Hope magazine Mary Hostert, a parishioner at St. Joseph Parish in of donors who support diocesan Catholic schools, editorial offices at the Diocese of Joliet. Periodicals postage found in a life of selfless love. … I look forward to the paid at Romeoville, IL and at additional mailing offices. Joliet, prays the rosary in the recently constructed and to celebrate Catholic education with numer- next one in two years.” To submit story ideas and news prayer garden on the church grounds. Send e-mails to [email protected] ous volunteers and philanthropists in the area. For subscription information St. Joseph Parish in Joliet The event was hosted by St. Petronille’s pastor, Clarification Please call (815) 834-4060 Builds Prayer Garden Father James Dougherty, and school principal, Dr. In the October/November 2011 issue of Christ 18 For those in downtown Joliet who need a place to Mary Kelly. The Catholic Education Foundation is our Hope, on page 7, in an article titled “Selective pray outside in a beautiful setting, St. Joseph Parish distributes more than $1 million dollars each year Reduction: A Morality Tale,” the author, Susan E. has built something for you. Father Tim Andres, O. in need-based scholarships to the 55 Catholic Wills, talked about “selective reduction” as it applies Carm., thought of the idea to build a prayer garden grade schools and high schools of the diocese. For to in vitro fertilization (IVF). She mentions how the to make use of unused space that was the back yard further information, contact the foundation, at act of aborting one or more babies who were born of the rectory between the rectory and the parish. (815) 834-4023, or review their Facebook page or as a set of twins or triplets to “reduce the pregnancy” The space was mainly mud and grass, but Father website: www.dioceseofjoliet.org/edfoundation. to one child is “intrinsically evil.” Andres envisioned something di erent and more However, the author did not explicitly state the beautiful. Priests from Around Church’s position on IVF, which is that IVF is gravely “I thought we could use a place where people Diocese Gather During Convocation sinful. According to the Catechism (number 2376), could come and spend in meditation and in prayer Priests from around the diocese gathered for sev- “Techniques that entail the dissociation of husband in the beauty of God’s creation,” said Father Andres, eral days in St. Charles in early October at Pheasant and wife, by the intrusion of a person other than who celebrated his 25th anniversary of his priestly Run Resort in a sort of mini-convention known as the couple (donation of sperm or ovum, surrogate ordination on Nov. 27 at the parish. “We have an a Priests’ Convocation. These convocations are held uterus), are gravely immoral. These techniques (het- adoration chapel. We have an incredibly beautiful every two years in the diocese, and they are a time erologous artificial insemination and fertilization) church. But I thought we could find a place within for fellowship and spiritual renewal. infringe the child’s right to be born of a father and all the cement of an inner-city parish downtown “The convocation is an opportunity for the mother known to him and bound to each other by with all the streets around us and no grass where priests of the diocese to grow in our fraternity as a marriage. They betray the spouses’ ‘right to become MERRY CHRISTMAS AND HAPPY people could be in the presence of God … and presbyterate, united in and with Bishop Conlon,” a father and a mother only through each other.’ ” NEW YEAR FROM ALEXIAN BROTHERS also a place where they can meditate and seek the said Auxiliary Bishop Joseph Siegel. “It is unique in The Catechism (number 2377) also futher explains intercession of certain saints.” that there is very little business discussed. Rather the Church’s teaching on IVF. There are six dedicated prayer stations in the we come together to pray, reflect on our ministry In 2009, the U.S. Bishops issued a document, garden, which encourage people to pray to the fol- and enjoy each other’s company as we share meals “Life-Giving Love in an Age of Technology,” in which lowing Catholics: Blessed John Paul II, St. Faustina and times of fellowship. As we left the convoca- they wrote: “Children have a right to be conceived Kowalska, St. Gianna Beretta Molla, St. Teresa of tion this year, I felt we were strengthened in our by the act that expresses embodies their parents’ self- Avila, St. Andre Bessette, and Blessed Anton Martin unity as brothers in Christ as well as refreshed and giving love; morally responsible medicine can assist A Healthy Community Begins with Alexian Brothers. Slomsek. renewed to serve the Lord and our people with this act but never substitute for it. Therefore, in vitro © 2011 Alexian Brothers Health System The garden was dedicated at the end of October, greater zeal and dedication.” fertilization (IVF) also is not morally justified, as the and it was built through donations raised by those One of the speakers was Father J. Ronald Knott, procreative act is not performed within the loving www.AlexianBrothersHealth.org who bought personalized bricks, which commemo- a former director of the Vocation Oce for the context of marital relations.”

4 Christ is our Hope / December 2011 / Dioceseofjoliet.org 5 yourlife HE SAYS: SHE SAYS: Parenting Journey “ I don’t want “I love my job.”

my son raised Kelly says: I know we talked about by a stranger.” the idea of me staying home with This Bullying Has to Stop. our children. But that was before Steve says: We always agreed the economy took a nosedive. What Do We Do? that, when we had children, Kelly Steve didn’t mention that his My 4th-grade son has recently become really clingy would stay home with them. So, company is doing poorly and that and has been making excuses not to go out on the when our son was born six months he had to take a 7 percent pay playground at lunchtime. After asking him a few ques- ago, I assumed Kelly would cut last year. Without that money, quit her job. However, once her we really need my job. Also, I tions, I realized that a new classmate has been bullying company’s family leave was up, love my work, and in just these – hitting kids when they’re standing in line and threat- she announced that she intended to few months, I’ve realized that being ening them. My son is afraid it will get worse if he or I bully approaches. continue working and we’d need to a stay-at-home mother would bore “tattle,” but this needs to stop. What should I do? Talk to your child about cyberbullying. find day care for Sam. I don’t want my me to tears. Q It might seem as if home is a refuge from son raised by a stranger – I want Kelly to Although your son may feel these e orts. The solution should address bullying, 4/7 experience for many children. live up to our agreement. lonely, he is far from alone. long-term concerns and not just focus on Text messages and social media sites allow Get school administrators this particular bully. the harassment to occur anywhere. and teachers on board. A Discuss options that are under your If your child remains anxious about atattle-tale is someone who gossips about child’s control. Find out from your son participating fully in school, then consider others. On the other hand, your son is how he has been responding to the bully’s having him talk to a school counselor or get sharing important information with the actions. Help him figure out if there a referral to a psychologist in your WHAT DO THEY DO? adults at school. Emphasize that you will are more e ective ways to react in community. Encourage your child his reminds us of a time within the history of the Roman do your best, working with his teachers and each situation. “Why Are You Picking to share his fear and anxieties Catholic Church when a non-Catholic party to a Catho- Your Marriage Matters principal, to keep him safe. Write down as on Me? Dealing With Bullies” by with God through prayer. He can lic marriage was required to sign a statement saying many details as possible and share them John Burstein discusses choose a Bible verse to with the school administrators. Do they specific actions, such as bring to mind when the they agreed to raise their children as Catholic. On the be an opportunity for the couple to consider have an anti-bullying plan in place? How do choosing a seat by the bully is near. “When I am surface, that sounded right and proper; however, most prayerfully the option of Steve staying home. they plan to respond to this situation? Now driver of the school bus. afraid, in you I place my non-Catholics did not know what “being Catholic” really meant! The important issue here is how this situa-

T. Gennara T that the school ocials are aware of the Role-play what your son trust.” (Psalm 56:4) tion is a ecting Steve and Kelly’s relationship, problem, e orts need to be made to change plans to do when the Logically and ethically, how can a person seldom reflects today’s needs, and is only and in turn their relationship with a God the classroom and playground climate. See be held accountable for something about a guide for tomorrow. Plans should be who is Love. Love is gentle, kind and con- how you and other parents can support Dr. Cathleen McGreal is a psychology professor and certified spiritual advisor. which they know nothing? In other words, situationally applied and reviewed often siderate, and we are called to be Love to our how can Kelly be held to an agreement for changes in circumstances, environment spouse as Jesus is to his spouse, the Church. for something she had no knowledge of and desires. Plans should not be viewed as When we become Jesus to our spouse, Love – the future! Life happens and things we set in concrete because life events change becomes the driver, and solutions are devel- Decorations Conflict Resolution once thought possible or probable most our needs, wants and desires. Flexibility oped that work for both spouses and not just Are Over the Top often morph into some other blessing and adaptability are key ingredients for all one. There is something positive and life- (often disguised as an obstacle) we never marriages if they are to survive these dicult giving to a relationship when both spouses negotiate with him certain dreamed about. Jo and I faced a similar de- economic times and our changing families. approach an issue out of love and respect for I love Christmas as much as the next person, but my inconveniences that are inter- cision in the first years of our marriage; Jo Kelly appears to be concerned about the their partner. It does not become neighbor’s decorations are over the top. He lights up the rupting the daily life of the wanted to continue working in the field for family’s economic security, and it appears a contest of who is correct or house with so many bulbs that we end up with traffic jams from block. You can suggest that which she went to school, yet we had two that Steve is not addressing her concerns. who won this particular round, the rubberneckers who come to view the display. Sometimes, I the lights go on when people children. Financially, we were just about Our experience says that worries instead it becomes a gift of self have to wait to get into my own driveway – how can I stop this? have already come home breaking even after paying for the day-care over the security of the home will for the other. Steve and after work and go off before center that our children did not like! It far trump previous agree- Kelly would do well if they

Regretfully, this situation has friendly approach. Visit your midnight to allow people to S. Kendrick was time for a “di erent” decision that was ments that do not address changed their approach created hundreds of disputes neighbor and demonstrate go to bed in a peaceful way. not in our plans before we were married. the principal worry faced from getting (what was Mediation, whether informal Circumstances and situations changed, by members of the family agreed on some time

every year. We all agree that your sincere appreciation T. Gennara disputes between neighbors for the gesture of enhanc- or in the presence of lawyers, and our plans needed to change along with unit. Since Steve’s job is less ago) to giving (what can can become very bitter and ing his house and even the is another option for settling Dr. Gelasia Marquez is a them. And many people find that staying stable, and he is concerned I do for you, my beloved, cause great distress for both block with his decorations; disputes. It is often the best psychologist and family coun- at home with their children brings rewards about day care, this might today). sides. Initially, I suggest a however, you would like to way to resolve them. selor. and blessings they could not foresee. Living with a plan developed yesterday Deacon Tom Fogle and JoAnne Fogle help prepare couples for marriage.

6 Liturgical Calendar: St. Francis Xavier, priest December 3 | St. Nicholas, bishop December 6 | St. Ambrose, bishop and doctor of the Church December 7 7 Catholic Life

uccess is over- no self-respecting ego is going to “let go” estimated, and just because it is a good idea. We tend to failure is under- continue to fortify our life and try to grow appreciated. increasingly self-sucient. Failure teaches When I was a us we cannot control life; we are not our Syoung boy, I listened, with own gods. If we want to go on, we have to step outside ourselves and acknowledge my father, to Notre Dame our need for a strength beyond us. football games. When they To love God means to live in a way that lost, which was infrequent allows one’s will to be shaped by God’s in those days, I was dis- will. It means allowing God to find us. traught. So was my dad, God cannot find us if we are hiding in the but he would say “You “home” of our self-sucient life. And the experience of loss or failure may be some- don’t win them all, Jack.” thing we look back on with gratitude. And, he added, “It’s not Failure, unbearable loss, humiliating good to win them all.” May- defeat, deep disappointment may not be so, but I still preferred always be “setbacks” in life, but may actu- an undefeated season. ally move life forward in unexpected ways. These experiences may be as much a nec- We all want to succeed; no one wants essary part of life as inhaling and exhaling to fail. Yet, we all have an intimation that are to breathing. The cross promised by failure, somehow, may not be all bad. As Jesus to his followers comes in unexpected a matter of fact, failure may be a necessity. forms. Death and resurrection become the Is there some truth in these folk adages? pattern of life as we share in the paschal “The only thoughts worth listening to are the mystery, the death and resurrection of thoughts of the shipwrecked.” “You are only Jesus. truly free when you have lost your reputation.” To love God is not a matter of feelings. Individuals who have been battered Nor is it a matter of beautiful thoughts by life may come to a point where they about God. As in any love, there is only acknowledge their inability to make their so much knowledge, so much data we lives go right, and they have to turn them can gather about the beloved. At a certain over to Another. I remember my aunt, who point, we have to simply surrender into spent years feeding her husband through the mystery of the other person. So it is a tube in his throat, saying, “I don’t know with God. At a certain point in life, often how anyone gets through life without after a life has started to show cracks, we faith!” Some of the most “real” and loving have a golden opportunity to surrender to people I know have been brought to their mystery, with a truly biblical faith of trust knees in life, but now stand again in faith. and hope. Failure may be inevitable if we wish to At that point, having gone through our become mature and generous in life. It personal hell and now lifted up by grace, may be inevitable if we are going to be we have something to say, not only in able to love God and our neighbor. Great words but in the witness of our life. Love joys and celebrations can strengthen faith, of neighbor now becomes truly compas- too. But, failure has a way of getting our sionate. Instead of saying, “That poor guy,” attention, and it may be our path to true, or, “Those poor people,” we now can say, trusting faith. “We poor!” And we then wait in hope with We struggle so hard in life to “make it” all who wait in hope for God’s mercy. that we become very self-preoccupied, As Christians, our boast is not in a Failure, necessarily so. But, once we have con- trophy, or an Emmy, or an Oscar, or an structed a life and all the parts are more Olympic medal. Our boast is in the cross or less in place, we may be self-satisfied of Christ through which we have true and ego-centric. Loving God and neighbor and ultimate victory. It carries with it the Father John Welch, O. Is it Necessary? means stepping outside our carefully con- promise of a future when every season is Carm., resides in a Carmelite structed life. It means a “letting go,” and undefeated, and every tear is wiped away. community in Joliet.

8 Christ is our Hope / December 2011 / Dioceseofjoliet.org Solemnity of the Immaculate Conception of the Blessed Virgin Mary December 8 | St. Juan Diego Cuauhtlatoatzin December 9 | Feast of Our Lady of Guadalupe December 12 | St. Lucy, virgin and martyr December 13 | St. John of the Cross, priest and doctor of the Church December 14 9 YOUR LIFE hristmas is great. Winter is not. Out- Culture side of the excitement for the holidays, many of us struggle through these short, dark days in the Northern Hemi- sphere. So if you are like me, perhaps you’llC benefit from the inspiration and motivation that comes from one of our saints: St. Lucy. A light The Church recognizes embodied eyeballs, I learned the dark times of winter and more about her, and I became celebrates opportunities for aware that she is the patron metaphor. Christmas, for saint of vision: a symbolic for us all example, was placed on Dec. contrast to the darkness of 25 (thought to be the short- December. est day of the year) to mark St. Lucy (Lucia) lived in Christ’s arrival, bringing and Syracuse, Sicily, under the they endured, I find the inspi- this time of year, we can use expanding light into the world Roman Emperor Diocletian. ration to persevere through culinary arts to combat and as the days begin to subse- One can only imagine how the dark times of the year, and liven the somber gloom of quently lengthen. tough it was being a Chris- the dark and tough times of winter. I would imagine that It is also a time when we tian trying to live a devout my life. St. Lucy applauds the invoca- celebrate the feast day of St. spiritual life in a violent and With Dec.13 marking the tion of her name within the Lucy, whose name means pagan early fourth century. feast day of St. Lucy, cel- context of celebration, cuisine, light. As a child, I was in- One story has it that Lucia ebrations take place in those and the thwarting of winter’s trigued and interested in refused to marry a pagan parts of the world where darkness. this saint because my loving and vowed to consecrate her she is particularly revered. Aside from being easy to grandma is named Lucy. At life and virginity to God. The In Sweden, St. Lucy’s Day make, these crispy and deli- the same time, I was haunted angry suitor handed her over marks the beginning of the cious cookies are easy to eat. by the saint’s macabre im- to the Roman government. Christmas celebration where The next time winter gets you age in my “Picture Book of After several horrific but failed local recipes are prepared as down, warm your house with Saints” where she was depict- attempts to kill her (including part of the traditional festivi- a batch of these treats, take ed holding a goblet containing the gouging of her eyes), she ties. Among the homemade inspiration from St. Lucy’s two eyeballs, staring directly finally died by a stab wound sweets is a Swedish ginger perseverance, and find peace at me. But as I grew older and to her heart. In studying saints cookie called Pepparkakor. in knowing that you will make overcame my phobia of dis- like these and the suffering How wonderful that during it to May.

Pepparkakor (Swedish Ginger Cookies)

1 cup unsalted butter (room temperature) 2 teaspoons ground cinnamon 1 ½ cups brown sugar 2 teaspoons ground ginger ½ cup molasses 1 ½ teaspoons ground cloves 1 egg 1 ½ teaspoons baking soda 3 ½ cups flour ½ teaspoon salt

Preheat oven to 375 degrees. In a large bowl or con- tainer, combine all dry ingredients (flour, cinnamon, ginger, cloves, baking soda and salt) and set aside. In a large mixing bowl, beat together the butter and brown sugar. Mix in egg and molasses until well combined. Slowly add dry ingredi- ents into the creamed mixture. Knead and form into a ball. Place dough into an airtight container and refrigerate for about an hour.

Remove from refrigerator and divide dough in half (leaving T. Gennara one half in refrigerator to stay firm). Roll dough to a 1/8- inch thickness onto a cool, floured surface. Use cookie cutters to cut desired shapes. Using a spatula, carefully place onto a parchment lined (or greased) baking sheet. Bake for 8-10 Michelle DiFranco is a minutes and cool completely on wire rack. Repeat process with remaining dough. designer and the busy mom of two children.

10 Christ is our Hope / December 2011 / Dioceseofjoliet.org St. Peter Canisius, priest and doctor of the Church December 21 | St. John of Kanty, priest December 23 Solemnity of the Nativity of the Lord December 25 | St. Stephen, first martyr December 26 | Feast of St. John, apostle and evangelist December 27 11 Friends 14 Saint of 16 Bow your the Month Down for Life Ask the Priest to show respect and reverence for the body because it became a temple of the Holy Spirit (see 1 Cor. 6:19) when it was washed Dear Father: in baptism and anointed with the oil of salvation. It has been Is Cremation Allowed? fed with the bread of life and has loved and been loved by others. Father Matthew Pratscher I remember when the Church did not al- We are not solely spiritual; we are is parochial vicar at St. Dominic made up of body and spirit, and Parish in Bolingbrook. To sub- low funerals with cremated remains, but mit questions to him, email recently I attended one when the person Jesus reveals to us through His Q resurrected and glorified body [email protected]. had already been cremated. What is the that we, too, will experience the Church’s position on cremation? resurrection of the body, which we profess in the Apostles’ Creed. work of commending a beloved The short answer cremated. However, the cremated It is clear in the Rites and in soul to God through our rites and is that the Church remains must be treated with the literature of the Church that prayers, on March 21, 1997, the a does permit crema- respect, being stored in a worthy the preference is to bury the Sacred Congregation for Divine YOUR FAITH tion; she prefers that the body vessel, carried in a manner of body or to at least have the body Worship and the Discipline of is buried. Canon 1176 of the respect, and “buried in a grave present at the funeral liturgy the Sacraments granted an indult reminisces about her childhood in Alabama, Code of Canon Law sums it up: or entombed in a mausoleum or before cremation. Because of the that permits the local bishop to Catholic Charities growing up with 13 siblings, jobs as a cook “The Church earnestly recom- columbarium.” increase in allow for the cremated remains and a nanny, escaping her abusive husband mends that the pious custom of (Order of Christian requests for to be present at the funeral Mass. and the journey to her home in Kankakee. burying the bodies of the dead be Funerals, 417) cremation, The appendix of the Order of Midge shared many stories of her late hus- observed; it does not, however, One may and out of the Christian Funerals contains ritual t was a rainy day in late August when I band, helping her grieve. It is in the visited Polly Anna Ellison-White. It also forbid cremation unless it has ask why it tradition of the pastoral con- adaptations for when the funeral A few years ago, Polly Anna needed a been chosen for reasons which matters. It is in cern that we rites are celebrated in the pres- happened to be her 109th birthday. higher level of care and moved from her are contrary to Christian teach- the tradition Church to show do not forget ence of the cremated remains of As she sat in her wheelchair enjoying home into a nursing home in Bourbonnais. ing.” A Catholic may choose to be of the Church respect and rev- the merciful a body. ice cream and cookies to celebrate Even though Polly Anna now receives full- erence for the theI landmark day, I watched as Polly Anna’s time care, Midge still visits often. tradición de la Iglesia mostrar respeto y reverencia It’s hard to imagine what Polly Anna and Recuerdo cuando la Iglesia no body because friend leaned in to ask her a question. it became a por el cuerpo, porque fue un templo del Espíritu Midge’s lives would be like without the bond permitía los funerales con cu- Santo (ver 1 Cor. 6:19), cuando fue lavado por el bautis- temple of the “Do you think it was raining 109 years recalls now of the difficult time in her life. they share as part of Catholic Charities’ Se- erpos cremados, sin embar- mo y ungido con el aceite de la salvación. Ha sido ago today, Polly?” Midge Daucanski asked. Polly Anna was 98 years old at the time and nior Companion Program. Perhaps Midge alimentado con el pan de vida, ha amado y a sido go, recientemente asistí a uno Holy Spirit. A smile washed across Polly Anna’s face as living independently, but on a very limited would have spiraled deeper into her grief Q amado por otros. No somos solo espíritu; estamos en el cual la persona ya había compuestos por el cuerpo y espíritu, y Jesús nos she responded, “How would I remember?” income. Plus, she needed some additional and depression. Maybe Polly Anna wouldn’t sido cremada. ¿Cuál es la posición de la revela através de su cuerpo resucitado y glorificado The two women chuckled, as they’ve care after a recent hospitalization. have been able to live independently in done hundreds of times over the course Midge told me that Polly Anna has her home for as long as she did. There’s Iglesia ante la cremación? que, también nosotros experimentaremos la resurrección del cuerpo, lo cual predicamos en el Credo de los Apóstoles. of their 11-year friendship. The pair met taught her many things over the years. For no way of knowing, but it’s clear to me that La respuesta corta a esta pregunta es que la Iglesia si Es claro que en los Ritos y en la literatura de la Iglesia la prefer- when Polly Anna and Midge were matched example, Polly Anna shared her passion for both women’s lives have been enriched and permite la cremación, aunque prefiere que el cuerpo sea encia es que hay, que el cuerpo sea enterrado o por lo menos tener through Catholic Charities’ Senior Compan- cooking with Midge. The two would meet blessed by this invaluable connection. enterrado. El Código del Derecho Canónico dice en el el cuerpo presente en la liturgia del funeral antes de la cremación. ion Program, which connects low-income for a visit and have six crockpots lined up Sitting with these two fantastic women, I canon 1176: “La Iglesia aconseja vivamente que se con- Por la creciente solicitud de cremaciones y, fuera de la preocupación seniors with homebound seniors who need on the kitchen counter, full of traditional am struck by how perfectly matched they aserve la piadosa costumbre de sepultar los cuerpos de los muertos, no pastoral, que no se olvide de la obra misericordiosa de recomendar extra attention. Midge had recently lost her Southern food. are, despite the fact that they have almost obstante, no prohíbe la cremación, a menos que haya sido elegida por un alma querida a Dios a través de nuestros ritos y oraciones. El 21 husband and sought volunteer opportunities The two women spend hours shar- nothing in common. razones contrarias a la doctrina cristiana.” Un católico puede elegir de marzo de 1997, la Sagrada Congregación para el Culto Divino y la to help ease her out of her grief. “I was walk- ing stories from their long and interesting “I just love Polly to death,” Midge ex- ser cremado. Sin embargo, las cenizas deben ser tratadas con respeto, Disciplina de los Sacramentos otorgó un indulto que autoriza al obis- guardándolas en un recipiente digno, llevado en una manera respetu- po local permitir que las cenizas del cuerpo cremado estén presentes ing around in a fog. I was just a robot,” she lives. Midge is fascinated when Polly Anna plains. “It’s a great connection.” osa y “enterrado en una fosa o sepultado en un mausoleo.” (Orden de en la Misa del Funeral. El anexo de la Orden de Funerales Cristianos To learn more about the programs and services provided by Catholic Charities of the Diocese of Joliet, Funerales Cristianos, 417). contiene adaptaciones del ritual, para cuando los ritos del funeral please visit catholiccharitiesjoliet.org Tal vez, alguien pregunte por qué esto es importante. Es una sean celebrados en la presencia de las cenizas del cuerpo cremado.

12 Christ is our Hope / December 2011 / Dioceseofjoliet.org Feast of The Holy Innocents, martyrs December 28 | St. Thomas Becket, bishop and martyr December 29 Story and Photography by Maggie Pielsticker 13 aint Francis Xavier, the Francis Xavier’s case, that meant he became a an Francisco Javier, el Santo Patrón de la Diócesis Dios. Gritarían desde el fondo patron saint for the Di- missionary, something he did with great zeal. de Joliet, nunca puso un pie en América. Sin de su corazón: ‘¡Señor aquí ocese of Joliet, never Some of the places he traveled to included embargo, su conexión con la diócesis pudiera ser a estoy! ¿Qué quieres que haga? set foot in America. the East Indies, Western India, Malacca, the S través del Obispo Martín D. McNamara, quien fuera Envíame a cualquier lugar que But, his connection Malucca Islands and Japan. In all those places, el primer obispo de la diócesis, que siendo sacerdote, se le tú desees… ¡Aún a India!’ ” he preached and catechized, and thousands of asignó como pastor de la parroquia de San Francisco Javier Una de las maneras que withS the diocese can be tied to people converted to Catholicism. en Wilmette, IL. Fue el Obispo McNamara, quien designó a utilizaba para catequizar, era es- the fact that Bishop Martin D. “I wish [university students] would work San Francisco Javier, como Santo Patrón de la Diócesis. cribiendo versos en el lenguaje McNamara, the first bishop of as hard at converting these people as they do ¿Quién es este santo? de las maneras en que el futuro de los lugares que visitaba, the diocese, was a pastor at at their books,” he once wrote, “and so settle Nació en Navarra, España, en San Ignacio encendió la chispa iluminándolos con la fe católica. St. Francis Xavier in Wilmette, their account with God for their learning and el año 1506 y es conocido por del entusiasmo de la fe en su Y, después, convertía los versos Ill., before being named bishop. the talents entrusted to them. This thought sus esfuerzos en la evangeli- amigo Francisco fue al pregun- a una tonada “con gancho.” would certainly stir most of them to meditate zación en India y Japón. Junto tarle constantemente aquella San Francisco Javier sufrió And he was the one who desig- on spiritual realities, to listen actively to what a San Ignacio de Loyola fue pregunta que Jesús hizo en el persecuciones. En aquellos días nated the diocese’s patron saint. God is saying to them. They would forget their co-fundador de la Compañía de evangelio: “¿De que le sirve a viajar no era fácil, así que su So, who was this saint? own desires, their human a airs, and give Jesús, comúnmente llamados uno ganarse el mundo entero si vida estuvo en constante peligro. He was born in Navarre, Spain, in 1506, themselves over entirely to God’s will and His Jesuitas. pierde y arruina su vida?” (Lucas Se dice que él no le temía a la and he is known for his evangelization e orts choice. They would cry out with all their heart: Uno de sus biógrafos, 9, 25). muerte, ya que sentía que era in India and Japan. He was a co-founder, with ‘Lord, I am here! What do you want me to do? Horatio Tursellinus, lo describe Creciendo en fe, los siete enviado por el Espíritu Santo. St. Ignatius of Loyola, of the Society of Jesus, Send me anywhere you like – even to India!’ ” así: “Es casi imposible imaginar jóvenes que co-fundaron la En una ocasión escribió a sus commonly referred to as the Jesuits. Here is One of the ways he catechized was to write el encanto de su rostro, sus Compañía de Jesús decidieron amigos, “Si muero, es porque how one of his biographers, Horatio Turselli- verses in the language of the people he was gestos, sus palabras. Sus dones ofrecerse al servicio de la Iglesia. Dios así lo desea, y después nus, described St. Francis Xavier: “It is almost visiting, illuminating them about the Catho- naturales, perfeccionados por la En el caso de San Francisco Ja- enviará a nuevos trabajadores,” impossible to imagine the charm of his face, his lic faith. Then he would set the verses to a gracia de Dios, atraía y retenía vier, eso significó convertirse en y en otra ocasión escribió: gestures, his talk, his words. His natural gifts, “catchy” tune. corazones, una sonrisa siempre misionero, algo que él hizo con “Abundantes consuelos espiritu- perfected by the grace of God, attracted and He su ered persecutions. Traveling was not alegre, una libertad sin reservas, gran entusiasmo. Algunos de los ales….. se han de encontrar en held hearts. A smile always gay, a freedom with- easy in those days, so his life was usually spent conversación agradable- todo lugares a los cuales viajó fueron estas islas; por todos los trabajos out reserve, sympathetic conversation – it was in constant danger. Reportedly, he did not fear esto era suficiente para sanar a las Indias Orientales, el Oeste de y peligros que por voluntad enough for a sick man to see him to feel better, death because he felt he was being sent by the un hombre enfermo, ver a un India, Malacca, las Islas Malacca propia se enfrentan en este a healthy one to be exhilarated and joyous. Holy Spirit. “If I die, it is because God wills it, hombre saludable regocijarse y y Japón. En todos esos lugares lugar, por el amor y servicio a Many went to him to stimulate their souls with and he will send other laborers,” he wrote to ponerse alegre. Muchos acudían predicó y catequizó. Fueron Dios nuestro Señor, son tesoros his heavenly force, to excite in themselves the friends once. In another letter he wrote, “Abun- a él para estimular su alma con miles de personas las que se que abundan en los grandes desire for a good life, to set their souls on fire.” dant spiritual consolations … are to be found su fuerza celestial, para desper- convirtieron al catolicismo. consuelos espirituales, tal es el The seeds of his own fire started within his on these islands; for all the toils and dangers tar en ellos el deseo por una En una ocasión escribió: caso que en estas islas, un hom- family. St. Francis Xavier was the fifth and that are willingly encountered here for the buena vida, para prender fuego “Deseo que [estudiantes univer- bre podría perder la vista de youngest child of pious parents who instructed love and service of God our Lord are treasures en sus almas.” sitarios] trabajen arduamente sus ojos corporales en tan solo him well in the faith. He attended the Uni- abounding in great spiritual consolations, so Las semillas de su propio en convertir a las personas tal unos años por la abundancia de versity of Paris, hoping to return to Spain as a much in fact that in here on these islands a fuego comenzaron dentro de como lo hacen con sus libros. Y sus lágrimas de consuelo…sería scholar-priest to find a well-paying position. man might well lose sight of his bodily eyes su familia. San Francisco Javier así saldar sus cuentas con Dios mejor si se les llamara “Islas de But, at the university, he shared a dormitory within a few years from the abundance of his fue el quinto y el último de los por lo aprendido y los talentos Esperanza en Dios” en lugar de room with Ignatius of Loyola. One of the ways consoling tears … It would be better if they hijos, tuvo unos padres muy que se les encomendaron. Este llamarse ‘Islas de Moro.’” the future St. Ignatius ignited a zeal for the faith were called ‘Islands of Hope in God’ rather than piadosos quienes le instruyeron pensamiento ciertamente que Su amor por otros y por in his friend was by constantly asking Francis ‘Islands of Moro.’ ” muy bien en la fe. Asistió a la incitaría a cualquiera de ellos Cristo lo llevaron a evangelizar one question Jesus posed in the Gospel: “What His love for others and for Christ compelled Universidad de Paris, con la a meditar sobre las realidades lejos de su hogar. Como el profit is there for one to gain the whole world him to evangelize far from his home. esperanza de regresar a España espirituales, a escuchar atenta- dijera en una ocasión: “Muchas, yet lose or forfeit himself?” (Luke 9:25) As he put it once: “Many, many people como profesor para sacerdotes mente a lo que Dios les estaba muchas personas aquí no se Growing in faith, the seven young men who hereabouts are not becoming Christians for y encontrar una posición bien llamando. Ellos se olvidarían de están convirtiendo al cristian- co-founded the Society of Jesus decided to o er one reason only: There is nobody to make pagada. Sin embargo, en la uni- sus propios deseos, de cualqui- ismo por una sola razón: no hay themselves at the service of the Church. In St. them Christians.” versidad compartió el dormito- era de sus asuntos y entregarían nadie quien los convierta en rio con Ignacio de Loyola. Una completamente a los deseos de Cristianos.”

St14 Christ is our Hope / December 2011 / Dioceseofjoliet.orgFrancis XavierStory by Carlos Briceño 15 YOUR FAITH Spiritual Fitness Bow Down The Meaning of the Christmas Crèche he Word was made believe? Will we kneel before the manger scene in flesh. The very source church this Christmas and thank God, our Father, T. Gennara of life, the creator of all for what He has given us in His Son, Jesus Christ? God, the Father, gave us His only Son and that things of us sent His Son, Jesus, came into our world as a vulnerable, son in the likeness of helpless infant depending on total care from hu- Sister Ann Shields is a Tsinful man. The Father sent His Son man beings. He made Himself utterly helpless so renowned author and a mem- in human flesh to dwell among us that we could draw near and not be afraid. God ber of the Servants of God’s our Father did not want us to be terrorized by Love. Questions can be ad- that we might draw near to God. Do dressed to Sister Ann Shields, we? seeing His infinite majesty. So he came “in human form, being born in the likeness of men.” (Phil. 2:7) Renewal Ministries, 230 Collingwood, Suite 240, Ann Often, I hear people say that “we will take our We were made for union with God. But God Arbor, MI 48103 children to the crib and explain to them what is will not coerce! He gave us the awe-full gift of free going on in this scene and who He is. It is so dear, will so we are free to choose. We can choose to so good for the children.” utterly reject, or we can choose to draw close to For more But what about us “world-weary” adults? What that tiny infant in a cold manger, a food trough, reflec- do we think when we look at the crib scene? who became like us in all things but sin so that tions on Do we still believe? If we do, what exactly do we we might more easily bow down. prayer and a fuller treatment of this topic, see my book: Pray God, the Father gave us His only Son and that Son, Jesus, came and Never Lose Heart, into our world as a vulnerable, helpless infant depending on total available from Renewal care from human beings. He made himself utterly helpless so that Ministries, 230 Collin- we could draw near and not be afraid. gwood, Suite 240, Ann Arbor, MI 48103. $12.

Spiritual Exercise: Embracing truth will set you free. “Bow we feel empty, helpless, in need. And down in order to be raised up.” Unless every time you kneel down in front of • I would encourage you to have a you become like a little child, you can- the manger during Advent, ask Him for manger scene in your home begin- not enter the kingdom of heaven. The faith — faith to believe that He is a God ning with Advent. Each day, visit that Gospel is a paradox over and over. God of love, faith to believe that He forgives little crèche and gaze upon this reminder turns the world’s priorities upside down your sins when you admit them and that God loved you so much He would and inside out ask him for forgiveness, faith that He come down to you; He would stoop so • When we bow down before that knows you and loves you and wants to that you could gaze on Him and see manger, we are saying in effect: shepherd your life, if you will allow Him Him eye-to-eye in order to save you “Lord, I kneel before you. I need to do so. from your sins and lead you home! your help, your saving grace in my • Then, on Christmas Eve, go to • This little child is your safety, your life. I need to grow in faith that I might church, and, before Mass, go to the security, your savior, the one who be able to trust you with my life.” You manger and offer that small baby conquered eternal death for you! may feel foolish but God hears that your whole life – to begin again Does it take faith to believe that? Of prayer and will respond. Give Him the to follow Him or to follow Him more course. So come to the crèche and gift of your humility this Christmas, the closely. That infant is your Savior, your kneel, bow down and ask God for faith. admission that you don’t have all the Lord, your Redeemer. God paid the Maybe you will feel like a fool, but the answers, even that you don’t have any ultimate price for your life: His life to Gospel is a paradox. It always turns answers. Many things we’ve tried in save yours. Bow down and accept His things upside down and inside out. life have failed, have turned to dust… gift; His gift that is beyond price.

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eacon Tom Richardt, from St. Joan of Arc in Lisle, is dying. Diagnosed with Living Life pancreatic cancer earlier in While Dying the year, he does not know Dhow long he has to live. What he does know is his cancer cannot be cured – it’s spread to his lymph nodes – and his medical care these days consists of a morphine patch and chemotherapy.

“The chemotherapy is not curative,” he said, “but the doctor is trying to slow down the growth of the tumor so that I don’t have to increase the pain medication.” At one point during the summer, his level of pain discomfort was so intense that his wife had to help him out of the door of their home. He was on his way to see a Franciscan nun who has a healing ministry, and the day after he saw her, he said the intensity of the pain had disappeared. And since then, even before his chemotherapy, he has not taken any supplementary pain medication, he said. He attributes the decrease in pain to the power of prayer. After the pastor, Father Gabriel Baltes, O.S.B., at his parish told parishioners at all the Masses in the spring that Richardt had cancer and asked others to pray for him, dozens of people let him know about health problems within their families or that they were praying for him. “My eyes were opened,” he said. “My heart was opened to them. I could listen with much empathy and could understand what they were saying. Because of my diaconate, I think I’m able to bring some spiritual wellness into the conversation. I tell them the Lord is there for us with His hand out. He has His arm around us. We are not alone.” In terms of his own spiritual life, he said that before his illness he thought he was in good spiritual shape. He tried to live out the Gospel message, he said. But, since his diagnosis, he has developed a better relationship with Jesus. “I’m not looking at Him as somebody way, way far away that I’m trying to serve but someone that I am close to, walking with, talking with, conversing with every day,” he said. “There’s a di erence there. He’s not two miles away. He’s in this room. He’s sitting next to me. He’s holding my hand. I feel that.” His wife, Barbara, has also felt the power of other people’s prayers. “The prayers of others help get me up in the morning,” she said. The illness has made her realize how much she needs God in her life. “I hope each day that I live I am growing closer to God,” she said. “The illness has opened my eyes to how much I depend on God.

18 Christ is our Hope / December 2011 / Dioceseofjoliet.org 19 Deacon Richardt’s Homily About God’s Love

or those of you new to the parish, I am Deacon Tom. through the guise of a doctor? It has been nearly three months since Father Gabriel When I was growing up in rural southern Indiana, our family F announced to you of my untreatable cancer diagnosis. had a quarter-acre family garden and eight kids to care for it. I want to take this opportunity to thank everyone for the My dad didn’t believe in chemical weed killers, so finding ways cards, well-wishes, encouraging dialogue, suggestions, health to get a good harvest of fresh vegetables was always a challenge. foods, healing touches, sacramentals, Masses, novenas and the There were times when the weeds were as plentiful as the good continuing prayers. Without these acts of sincere kindness and plants. My dad, like the master in the parable, would tell us to the “stormin’ of heaven,” I can only guess what state of mind I make sure the plants with the weeds were watered and cared would be today, but I can tell you with absolute certainty that for, and at “pickin’ time” we would separate the vegetables from with these prayers you have given me life, a wonderful life that the weeds. He would say, “Don’t uproot the garden to take out can only come from Christ our Lord through the intercession the weeds.” In today’s Gospel, God uses the weeds as an analogy of the Holy Spirit. I feel our Lord with me every moment. The for our sins – steadily forgiving our sins – letting them stay with sky is bluer, the rainbows brighter, the presence of God’s love us, reminding us of our faults, without uprooting us. Certainly, is so much more vibrant – even the evening lightning bugs are God wants to forgive us. He does not want to preserve the weeds brighter. I see God’s mercy and I feel His love. My conversation (in other words, our sins), but He loves everything about us. He with Him is frequent, spontaneous and more meaningful; loves us because we are sinners; we need Him! the love for my wife, Barbara, is deeper than ever. I could go I love the good-guy, bad-guy movies. I used to watch Superman on and on, but I won’t. Let me sum it up by telling you I feel and the bad guy battle it out in the comic books. They would surrounded with love – from you, my sisters and brothers. I pray fight man-to-man, wielding secret weapons and tricks, sometimes each day for all of you that God’s mercy and love will permeate somersaulting across the tops of skyscrapers, spinning kicks to your life as well. Thank you! the head. Finally, the bad guy would fall lifeless over the edge. All is not as comfortable as I would like; I have good days, and Retribution was accomplished. A silent roar of approval would then I have better days; but, all of us could say that! I know that swell within me. Good was again the winner. All were relieved many of you are enduring much more pain and discomfort than and happy – except, of course, the bad guy. I, and I pray for your relief. My doctor has told me my cancer Just for an exercise, pretend you are the bad guy. As the bad has not gone away. Sometimes I wonder if he is surprised that guy, maybe there is a moment when a deep-down whisper says, I am still here. But, I can tell you what has gone away – thanks “I wish I could stop this ugliness and be a good person.” I think to your prayers – is my fear, my fear of hearing what the Lord we all have had those moments. If this is so, we have hit upon expects of me and not being able to meet those expectations the point of today’s Gospel in still another way. Admitting that because I am a sinner – one unworthy of God’s love. But I have we are full of weeds and sins is so important to us and to our Each day I feel Him walking with me, with us. And each day, of premium. I find myself getting up and spending half rid myself of that fear and having no fear is, in fact, emptying God. We can call it a step – a conversion step – realizing that He as I continue to pray that His will be done, I hope that His a night doing things I fear I am not going to get done. yourself to God – trusting in Him and admitting to yourself that loves us despite our sins and those ever-present weeds. will is my prayer: healing for Tom.” Things around the home. I don’t want to leave my wife with you are dependent on Him. Imagine Jesus saying from the cross, “Father, send all these But in the end, she knows that God will continue to be something that needs to be done or is only partially done. That God loves you always despite our sins against Him and people who have hurt me to Hell forever.” Now that would be there for her, no matter what happens. This is going to sound ridiculous, but two nights ago I got one another. The more I accept that, the more I love Him. This a major case of tearing out both weeds and veggies. Instead, He “The love that Tom and I share is a gift from God,” said up and mopped the kitchen floor at 3:30 in the morning. It was a conversion step for me! And, the psalm today captures leaves the weeds and says, “Father, forgive them, they know not Barbara, who has been married to her husband for 42 years, came over me while I was sleeping that this was something that: “Lord, you are good and forgiving.” what they do.” Emptying ourselves – having the faith and trust “and I cherish each moment and touch that I have with I needed to do. Or I will get up and put together some Several months ago, I was finishing my consultation with the that God will not rip out the weeds in us, but will forgive us as him. I cannot conceive life without him. But, in my heart, things for the ministries that need to be done in terms of wonderful sta at the Mayo Clinic. At the end of my visit, the many times as it takes because of His infinite love for us – makes though, I know God will not forget or abandon me. I’m specific details.” doctor looked over my report, raised his eyes to me and told every day the best day of our life. torn between knowing that Tom will be in the arms of God, He said he realizes that all that he is trying to take care of me there wasn’t anything medically they could do for me. Like Forgive the weeds! which is our goal, and knowing that when I reach out, I before he dies is “ridiculous” because it is never-ending. a voice from someone I should have recognized, he said, “Live will not be able to touch his hand.” “There is never going to be a time when I can finally say every day as if it were your last.” You could have knocked me Catechism Tip: God O ers Forgiveness To thank people who were praying for him and to share I’ve got everything done,” he said, “because my life is too over with a feather! I immediately thought to myself – shouldn’t through Sacrament of Reconciliation with them what he was experiencing, he gave the homily complex to ever let that happen so part of this emptying I be doing that anyway? Hasn’t Jesus told us we don’t know the at all the Masses during a weekend in June. (The homily is myself is I have to learn how to turn things over to our Lord hour or the day? During His time on earth, didn’t He give us The whole power of the sacrament of Penance consists printed at the end of this article.) and say, ‘You know, Lord, I can’t do it all. You’re going to the example for how to bring heaven on earth? Didn’t He reveal in restoring us to God’s grace and joining us with him in The homily resonated with a lot of people, he said, as have to kick in here.’ And He has. And I’m learning how to to us so many things that can bring happiness to each one of an intimate friendship.” Reconciliation with God is thus many asked him for a copy of it. do that.” us now and forever? Didn’t He send us the Holy Spirit, give us the purpose and effect of this sacrament. For those He made the point that people should live every day as if He is sleeping much better, as a result, he said. the Church, the sacraments and the community of saints and who receive the sacrament of Penance with contrite it were their last. “My conversations with our Lord have much more sinners to help us? heart and religious disposition, reconciliation “is usu- “One of the biggest frustrations that I have is I see time meaning now, and I’m able to be more at peace. This is part All my life, I have listened to His word. Yet, I confess I have ally followed by peace and serenity of conscience with as something that is very, very precious, and I need to do of that emptying yourself, and I think I’m finally going to not always heard Him! Why is it that I hear what my doctor tells strong spiritual consolation.” Indeed the sacrament of so much in such a short period of time,” said Richardt, get to a point where I turn everything over to Him and say, me but have ignored what our Lord has been telling me? Could Reconciliation with God brings about a true “spiritual 65, who has been a deacon since 2007. “Sleep is a thing ‘You know what, Lord, I’m ready.’ ” it be that it was Christ attempting to reach me in another way resurrection....” (Catechism, number 1468)

20 Christ is our Hope / December 2011 / Dioceseofjoliet.org Story by Carlos Briceño | Photography by Alexus Jones 21 YOUR STORIES Making Heavenly Music Feature Story from the Cathedral ick Thomas’ job as director of Ronald Reagan became president was welcomed back. Father Excellence is something Thomas always has strived for in phasis, from Governors State University. He taught at the junior music at the Cathedral of St. Lawrence Jenco, a former hostage who was born in Joliet, at- presenting music at the cathedral. high school level for eight years and then got his first full-time tended a Mass at the cathedral. “The music people all know that, and I also strive for profes- job at a parish. He also taught as a part-time instructor at South Raymond Nonnatus started “It was my third week on the job,” Thomas said. “It was a sionalism,” he said. “If you are professional, it comes forth in Suburban College for 16 years; 13 years ago he was hired at 25 years ago. He was work- nationally televised event. I didn’t know the choir. That was what you do.” Moraine Valley Community College in Palos Hills as the music ing as the choir director at very wow.” But there also are other things that he hopes for: that the instructor and co-ordinator and now he is the head of the De- HolyN Ghost Parish in South Holland when In the years since, Thomas has obviously had time to get to music helps people to pray and sets a good example. partment of Fine Arts and Humanities there. he saw an ad in a newspaper for the job at know the people who make up the choirs – there’s a cathedral “The cathedral is the example of what the liturgy should When he arrived at the cathedral, he directed the choir in the cathedral in Joliet. After he got hired, his choir and a diocesan choir, made up of singers from the cathe- be for the diocese,” he said. “I always tell [the choir mem- back of the altar, by the side of the pulpit. Then the location dral and from around the diocese who usually perform during bers] what we do, whether we know it or not, in some way or was changed to the side of the cathedral where the St. Joseph first month at work was a bit of a doozie in special Masses, such as the ordination of a bishop. some how, will go back to a visiting person, or a person from statue is, during the renovation 20 years ago. Then, after the terms of an introduction. The cathedral choir season usually runs from September another parish or another state. In the summer, I’ll have people arrival of former Bishop Peter Sartain and with his approval, through June. They rehearse every Wednesday during those come up to me and say, ‘I’m visiting from Michigan. Or I’m the choir ended up in the balcony, its present location, he said. He played the music at the cathedral for the funeral of a con- months, between one-and-a-half hours to three hours. Their visiting from California. We just love the music. It’s so di erent Renovations had to be made, with Thomas leading the fun- gressman, Rep. George O’Brien, who had recently died. One of preparation includes learning two di erent choral anthems than from where we worship.’ A lot of times people will ask – I draising charge. The choir raised more than $96,000, which the dignitaries at the funeral was then Vice President George every week, rarely repeating, Thomas said. guess it’s a good thing because they liked it – they’ll ask what went toward purchasing an organ and leveling the pews and H.W. Bush’s wife, Barbara. Then, shortly afterward, one of the But one of the strengths about the choir is that most of them music we did that day. They get a title and a composer so they getting choir risers and a carpet and storage space, he said. prisoners held captive in Iran during the hostage crisis that know each other really well. There are about 35 members in can take it back to their church choir director.” Over the years, he added, he and the choir have raised more began during President Jimmy Carter’s tenure and ended when the cathedral choir, and he added that he’s known 25 of them Thomas’ love for music was probably born because his father than $297,000 to help purchase equipment, such as pianos, for about 20 years or more. played the drums and played in a local band. Thomas sang in hand bells, choir robes, hymnals and timpani. “We’ve become like a very close family,” he said. choirs while growing up in Lafayette, IN, and the Chicagoland But, in the end, it’s really the music that makes it all worth- One of the choir members, Michael Zafran, has known area. while. As for what kind of music he likes, Thomas said he likes Thomas since 1982. Zafran sang for Thomas when Thomas “In junior high school, I was the only boy in the choir with 8 the music of Aaron Copland, George Gershwin and the Beatles, was the choir director at Holy Ghost Parish and then contin- million girls,” he said. though he also likes the Black Eyed Peas and Katy Perry. Some of ued the friendship by joining the cathedral choir. He didn’t learn how to play the piano or organ until his first his favorite songs are “Amazing Grace” and “Panis Angelicus.” “He’s real friendly,” Zafran said. “He draws you in like he’s year in college. He went to Thornton Junior College, which is “A standing joke in the choir is if they know I like some- a friend to everybody. Even though he’s a director, he still has now known as South Suburban College, in South Palos for two thing,” he said, “then they add it to my ongoing funeral list that likability.” years and then went to Chicago State University, where he got a of choices that I’m going to have at my funeral, which totals Megan Goolsby, another cathedral choir member, has known bachelor’s degree in music, with an emphasis on choral music. around 200 songs.” Thomas for more than 20 years. She is a music teacher in the He taught music at Laramie Junior High School in Oak Forest, Until then, Thomas will keep on leading beautiful music at Plainfield School District, so she appreciates the e ort Thomas while getting his master’s degree in music, with a choral em- the cathedral. puts forth. “He’s entertaining as a musician,” she said. “It’s such a thrill. It’s so much fun. The music he puts out is phenomenal. Some of it is very challenging. The end result, when you hear it with the orchestra playing, it’s just spectacular. Every holiday, every season, I have chills. I remember the first Christmas we did with him. I remember my husband, my son and I came home, and I said, ‘Oh, my gosh. That was so beautiful.’ He goes above and beyond with all of his music.” In terms of his other preparation, Thomas also rehearses on Tuesdays with members of the cathedral and diocesan chorale before special liturgies. During this past summer, the highlight of their e orts was the installation Mass for Bishop R. Daniel Conlon, the diocese’s fifth bishop, who was installed on July 14 at the cathedral. There were 135 singers and an orchestra consisting of 18 members for that Mass – the most ever for a Mass he’s been involved with, he said. He spent around 40 hours in the weeks

before to prepare, he said. Danae Iacovella “Some churches are known for their contemporary music, and others are known for their Gregorian chant music,” he said. “And others who strictly do hymns. I try to do a little bit of all of that.”

22 Story by Carlos Briceño 23 YOUR STORIES Usually Hawaii is like paradise, but when ing Christmas or Easter. discussed faith-sharing questions. the couple arrived, the island was experienc- She developed a cough during the sum- He recalled two questions from the jour- Feature Story ing a tropical depression. So it rained. And mer of 2004. Tests revealed she had spots on nals. The first question was “Have you ever rained. And rained. her lungs, though she didn’t smoke. She was prayed for something and received ‘no’ for an But then, after three days, on the day the diagnosed with Stage IV lung cancer. She answer from God?” He said his son replied Facing ceremony was supposed to take place, the started chemotherapy, which did not help. In by saying, “Yes, I prayed my mom would live horizon began to clear. And, with tears of joy, time, the disease spread to her brain. and not die from cancer.” The second part of they were able to renew their vows during a At a certain point, with the urging of some the question was, “Do you think God knows beautiful sunset, he said. friends, he felt he needed to prepare her, best’? His son replied, “Yes.” Sorrow He could not sleep well that night, he said. spiritually, to get closer to Jesus. Another question, Hoeflinger said, was So, without waking his wife, he rose around One day, coming home from the doctor’s “How has God shown his faithfulness to you? with Faith 5:30 a.m. and began walking on the beach. oce with his wife, Hoeflinger decided to His son replied, He said he felt extremely calm as he walked. stop by St. Mary Immaculate Parish, where “I’ve felt Him in At one point, he came across a small bonfire, a statute of Our Lady of Fatima was set up my heart.” though no one was around. Then he saw the on the church grounds. He wanted to have a Added sunrise. conversation with her about her need to get Hoeflinger: “I “I began to notice the bright orange-red closer to Christ in order to prepare herself am very proud sunrise coming over the eastern hills as the spiritually for when she died. and happy he sky began to change colors,” he said. “In They held each other and cried. He asked has felt the the distant western sky, it was still dark and her if she was ready to accept Jesus as her hand of God in gloomy from the storms around the island. Savior and if she was mentally and spiritually his life.” Suddenly, as the sun began to rise further, I ready to take the journey into heaven. They He said he saw the most beautiful double rainbow over also recited the Apostles’ Creed. has not been the other distant islands. The sky reminded “I had never prayed like that with her angry at God at me of pu y pink, blue and orange cotton before,” he said. “Never. At that moment she any time since his wife’s death. candy as the sunrise worked its way around finally let Christ into her life, and I felt she “I’ve accepted my faith 100 percent in the distant stormy skies. As I continued was spiritually ready.” knowing this is God’s plan,” he said. “Is it to walk back to the hotel, I noticed sprays She had been afraid before, but he said hard? Is it sad? Is it frustrating at times? of water in the distant waves. I [gave] a he saw her more at peace after that. She also Absolutely. It’s His plan. Who knows what closer look and realized I was watching received the Anointing of the Sick, which, would’ve been or could’ve been. This was His whales swimming and spraying water in the according to the Catechism, is defined this plan. I don’t ask Him why; I just say, ‘Help distance.” way: “The special grace of the sacrament of me cope. Help me understand. Help me be He eventually returned to the hotel, where the Anointing of the Sick has as its e ects: the best I can be on this new journey because Marie was still asleep, and started to reflect the uniting of the sick person to the passion there is nothing you can do about it.’ ” on what he saw. of Christ, for his own good and that of the What’s been the greatest lesson he’s “I realized that God was talking to me,” he whole Church; the strengthening, peace, and learned? said. “He held me in His hand, showing me courage to endure in a Christian manner the “If you truly believe in God and are truly the miracles and beauty of His creation. The su erings of illness or old age; the forgive- faithful to His plan, then you realize that calm I felt was Him telling me everything was ness of sins, if the sick person was not able to when you have a loss like I have had that it’s going to be all right. Marie was on her way to obtain it through the sacrament of penance; not a permanent loss. It’s a temporary loss a glorious place in Heaven. He was telling me the restoration of health, if it is conducive to because, if you truly believe in God’s plan, that I was going to be safe, too. I believe this the salvation of his soul; the preparation for you truly believe then that your eternal life is passionately from the depths of my heart and passing over to eternal life.” not here but in heaven. That’s where she is, my soul. I felt Jesus in my heart.” Since her death, he has had to play father and one day we will be together again, and Marie died several weeks later, on May 5, and mother to his three children: Kelly, 22; meanwhile you have to continue to live out 2006. Ryan, 16; and Erik, 9. His faith has helped God’s plan the best way you can and let His He had met Marie about 25 years ago. She him cope, he said. life shine through you and your family and was a receptionist at a law firm he worked “You cope through prayer,” he said. “You live your life by the commandments.” at. He invited her to lunch one day on her cope through asking for the Lord’s support But if Hoeflinger had to sum what advice birthday. They started dating. And then they and asking for the wisdom to get through he would give to others who are facing a trial, t was going to be a great trip for Jim Hoeflinger and his wife, Marie, a romantic got married and had three children. They a situation. It’s really amazing when you’re he said it would be to turn to Christ. moved from Chicago to Plainfield. in that continual daily connection in prayer “What people need to get out of my faith getaway to Hawaii, where the couple had gone on their honeymoon 20 years He went to Catholic grade school grow- with God, whatever you’re doing, life doesn’t journey is that they should not be afraid to earlier. The trip wasn’t as expensive as it could have been because Jim’s sister, ing up. He was an altar boy and attended a seem as dicult.” ask Jesus to come into their lives and to ask Cheryl, and brother-in-law, Tom, had invited them to stay at their time-share resort Catholic high school. He has tried to pass on that strong faith to God to hold them in His hand and help in Maui. And Marie had no inkling that Jim had set up a special surprise – a cere- “I always felt connected spiritually with his children. them,” he said. “It’s an easy gesture if it’s done monyI for them to renew their wedding vows. Everything was perfect, except for one thing: God,” said Hoeflinger, a parishioner at St. One time, as part of his middle child’s with passion and love in your heart. It was Marie was dying. She had been diagnosed with lung cancer in September 2004 and, by Mary Immaculate Parish in Plainfield. preparation process for Confirmation, they a miracle for my wife, and it can happen to Marie, though, did not often attend Mass had to keep a prayer journal in which they anyone who has the courage to ask Jesus for the time of the trip to Hawaii, the cancer had spread to her brain. with him. The only times were usually dur- read Scripture passages and wrote down and that same relationship. It’s truly that simple.”

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26 Christ is our Hope / December 2011 / Dioceseofjoliet.org Story by Maggie Pielsticker | Photography by Carlos Briceño 27 contrition and repentance. The second is the aged to coordinate activities and lessons at their Reflexiones de fe Local News stream of charity which helps all in need and individual schools and develop materials for especially aids those seeking perfection in families at their homes, while parents have been Diocese Promotes the Sacred Heart order to find the means of surmounting their encouraged to promote family prayer activities Devotion in Catholic School System diculties. From the third stream flows love and home enthronement to the Sacred Heart Father John Belmonte, SJ, the diocesan su- and light for the benefit of His friends who ceremonies. La Luz que nos Enceguece perintendent for Catholic Schools, wanted to have attained perfection….” A teacher who also attended the October unite Catholic school children across the dio- A special day of training was held in mid- training day said she went through years of n este tiempo santo, los cese in prayer and to get them closer to Jesus. October at the St. Charles Pastoral Center in Catholic schools growing up, but she never libros de oraciones presentan And one idea he had to do this was to create Romeoville, during which Catholic school heard about the Sacred Heart devotion. un himno que nos invitan a “Perfect Friendship: A Sacred Heart Project,” children from around the diocese attended “It is something I can use as an adult,” said pensar en el gran misterio del which promotes devotion to the Sacred Heart to learn about the devotion and to go back to Rhonda Johnson of Immaculate Conception amor de Dios: of Jesus, helps develop the devotional life their schools to teach their fellow classmates School in Morris, who teaches fourth and fifth E of children and adults and implements the about the devotion. grades. “This is a new outlook on how we look Al seno de Madre santa Por la fe concibe al Hijo, Y dio a luz la luz del mundo, Catholic identity strategy called forth in the One of the school children who at- at our faith.” baja gracia celestial, no por obra de varón; al que Gabriel anunció, strategic plan for schools. tended the training day was Aylin Padilla, an y el vientre de la doncella y su seno casto y puro al que encerrado en su seno The project started on Oct. 17, which was 8th-grade student at St. Andrew School in lleva un fruto divinal. se toma templo de Dios. el Bautista presintió. the feast day of St. Margaret Mary Alacoque, Romeoville. who is widely credited as one of the people “I think it is really good that we get to En nuestros cantos se entrelazan la figura de la Virgen María tuvo en sus brazos al Salvador de todo ser humano. Tal vez, responsible for spreading the devotion after come out and represent our school so we y del Salvador del mundo. por eso, con mucha sencillez, pero reconociendo también que seeing visions of Jesus that started in late might be able to teach the younger ones No podría ser de otro modo, pues, desde el anuncio del ángel Dios ha hecho grandes maravillas en ella, expresa con una 1673 and lasted for 18 months. In the vi- about it,” she said. “It’s pretty important to Gabriel, María se hace madre y el Creador se hace criatura. alegría desbordante una verdad profética: “Desde ahora, todas sions, Jesus told her she would be instrumen- learn about the Sacred Heart. We get to know ¡Qué verdad tan Misteriosa! ¡Qué misterio tan Amoroso! las generaciones me llamarán la llena de gracia.”Y eso es tan tal in spreading devotion to the Sacred Heart. more about Jesus.” La luminosidad nos enceguece, tal como ocurre cuando mi- cierto, que lo empezó diciendo el ángel Gabriel, su prima Isabel “The Sacred Heart of Jesus is an inexhaust- Prayer activities and catechesis on the ramos el sol. El sol no se apaga, sigue brillando como siempre; y, a lo largo de la historia, la Iglesia Católica no ha dejado de ible fountain and its sole desire is to pour devotion are being held at the schools every sin embargo, nuestros ojos se vuelven reconocer las bondades y misericordias itself out into the hearts of the humble so as Friday through mid-February, which is the incapaces de absorber tanta luz. que Dios ha tenido con María, Madre del to free them…” she wrote in a letter. “From ending date of the project. A consecration to María, la bella joven de Nazareth; Salvador. Pasarán los años y donde quiera this divine heart three streams flow endlessly. the Sacred Heart Mass will be held on Feb. María, la morenita del Tepellac: ¡Bendita que se proclame la grandeza de Dios, la The first is the stream of mercy for sin- 23, with Bishop R. Daniel Conlon presiding. tú que llevaste por nueve meses al Salva- misericordia de Jesucristo, la salvación del ners; it pours into their hearts sentiments of Teachers at the schools have been encour- dor del Mundo en tu seno! ser humano, el nombre de María también María, cuéntame: ¿qué miró Dios en será pronunciado. The Diocese Celebrates the Many Years of Service by Those in the Religious Life ti, que te llamó para tan gozoso encargo? Este tiempo santo de Adviento y Bishop R. Daniel Conlon celebrated a Mass honoring those who are in their jubilee years in the religious life in mid October. The following are María, que nos regalaste tu plasmada Navidad, nos invita a renovar nuestra the jubilarians living and/or working in the diocese (listed with their order abbreviations and years of service): imagen en la tilma de san Juan Dieguito, fe, esperanza y caridad en Jesucristo y cuéntame ¿cómo fueron esos nueve su Iglesia. Este tiempo es una invitación 80 Years Sister Dorothy Birk, OSF Sister Josephine Sincak, SFCC Sister Helen Kavanaugh, CND meses de maternidad? a dejar la envidia, el rencor, el enojo. Es Sister Bernita Hessling, SSND Sister Eleanor Blake, OSF Sister Mary DePaul Stava, OSB Sister Martha Kienzler, OSF María, ¿qué hubo en tu corazón al no una invitación a ser mejor cristiano, mejor Sister M. Yvonne Brais, SSCM Sister Patricia Ann Wagner, Sister Mary Martin, O. Carm. encontrar un espacio aquella noche de hijo, mejor hermano, mejor amigo, mejor 75 Years Reverend Warren Carlin, O. OSF Sister Lois Prebil, OSF diciembre? ¿Qué sintió tu corazón al recibir al Creador en aquel esposo y esposa. Es un tiempo de gracia, es un tiempo que nos Sister Rita Greene, OSF Carm. Sister M. del Rey Waite, IBVM Reverend R. William Sullivan, lugar dedicado a los animalillos? Cuéntame, Morenita mía, lo debe llevar a la eternidad. Sister M. Judith Kurry, OSF Sister Marguerite Caulfield, Sister Patricia J. Walsh, OP OSA que sentiste, viviste, pensaste. Dime tú, la llena de gracia, tu El himno de nuestra Iglesia durante este tiempo, refresca Sister Johanna Murphy, SSCM IBVM Sister Mary Lou Wcislo, IBVM Sister Elaine Teders, OSF alegría, tu contento, tu jubilo, al ver al niño Dios envuelto en tu la profecía de María, recordándonos a la llena de gracia: “Tu Sister Elizabeth Crotty, IBVM Reverend Donald R. Wehnert, Sister Juanita Regine Ujcik, regazo. vientre se hace templo de Dios.” 70 Years Sister Julianne Diebold, OSF CSV OSF Y, a través de María, nos llega el Salvador del mundo, cuyo También, el mismo himno nos Reverend Louis B. Antl, OFM Sister M. Francis Gresser, OSM Sister Helen Zulka, OSF Brother Thomas Dominic nacimiento, desborda el pensamiento de todo mortal. Una vez expresa: “Se dará a luz a la Luz del Sister Cabrini Ganz, SSND Siste Benita Jasurda, OSB Vance, FSC más, la luminosidad de Dios nos enceguece. Una vez más, mundo.” La luminosidad de Dios nos Sister Agnes Kulas, OSF Sister Rosemary Lynch, IBVM 50 Years reconocemos y ensalzamos la grandeza y el amor profundo enceguece y nos fortalece. Sister Mildred Slabenak, OSB Sister Evelyn McCloskey, IBVM Sister Louise K. Bernier, OSF 40 Years de Dios por todos y cada uno de nosotros. ¡Qué dios es más Hermanos y hermanas, Sister Marcellita M. Weller, OSF Sister Jerome Marie Menard, Reverend Robert Colaresi, O. Sister Linda K. Hatton, SSCM grande que nuestro Dios! Nuestro Dios ha visitado y redimido hemos sido salvados en SSCM Carm. a su pueblo. Dios ha llegado a tu casa y a la mía, ha compartido Jesús, en aquel niño que 65 Years Sister Anna Marie Metz, OSF Sister Catherine Cox, OP 25 Years con nosotros el Pan del Cielo y nos ha ofrecido la salvación. María tiene en su regazo. Sister Mary Patricia Fallon, OSB Sister Thomas Leo Monahan, Sister Alice Drewek, OSF Brother Christopher Ford, FSC En este tiempo, se canta las virtudes de María, la joven y hu- ¡Feliz tú que crees! Sister M. Josephine Kallus, OSB OP Reverend James F. Fanale, CSV Sister Kamila Wojdyla, MChR milde mujer de Nazareth; como también, la misericordia y bon- Sister Mary Virginia Kallus, OSB Sister Rosemary Rafter, SP Sister Ann Freiburg, OSF dad de Dios que llega ha establecerse en medio de su pueblo. Miguel Moreno es el Director de la Oficina Diocesana Brother Bernard Rapp, FSC Sister Madelyn Gould, OSF Es imposible hablar de Jesús, sin hacer referencia a María. del Ministerio Hispano. Usted puede comunicarse con él a 60 Years Sister Barbara Rowan, OSF Reverend John Guiney, SMA Es imposible evangelizar, evitando decir el nombre de quien [email protected]. Sister Marlene Bemis, OSF Brother Nicholas Schumer, FSC Sister Judith Ann Heble, OSB

28 Christ is our Hope / December 2011 / Dioceseofjoliet.org El artículo por Miguel Moreno 29 Barbara Gfesser Barbara

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Sixth-grade students from St. James the Apostle School in Glen Ellyn recently dressed as their patron saints and/or their favorite saints on All Saints’ Day as part of a school tradition, giving them the opportunity to learn about the lives of these saints. During the Mass, which was presided by Bishop R. Daniel Conlon, they processed into the Mass and gathered afterward for a photo with the bishop.

The Diocesan Pastoral Council: An Advisory Board to the Bishop The Diocesan Pastoral Council (DPC) consists of lay members, clergy and reli- gious who meet every three months as an advisory board to the bishop. According to

their mission statement, they are “called to Frank Stock dialogue and reflect on the directions of the diocesan Church.” During their most recent meeting in early October, Bishop R. Daniel Conlon spoke of his hope to enlist the DPC to assist him in shaping the pastoral direction for A Mass for persons with disabilities was celebrated on Oct. 16 at Holy Family Par- the diocese, said Sharon Pierscionek, the ish in Shorewood. The brunch after the Mass was provided by the Joliet Chapter of council’s vice chairperson and a parishioner the Knights of Columbus. The volunteers were from several councils from around the at Christ the King in Lombard. Diocese, including the Father Frank Anksorus Council 6521, who did all the cooking, With that in mind, the Council created a and officers of the Joliet Chapter. Several of the volunteers pose during the brunch with list of 33 suggested topics to be presented Bishop R. Daniel Conlon, who presided at the Mass. to the four regional commissions for consideration – and who will then return to the full DPC with a list of four priori- role in organizing the Diocesan Assembly, bers are able to serve in compensated ministry, ties. Some of the topics include figuring which is held every two years. Accord- leading to a sharp decrease in income. By 2019, out how to assist those in financial distress ing to Kappel, “It usually has a significant National Religious Retirement Oce data while community programs diminish; theme and the whole diocese is involved. projects that retired religious will outnumber promoting marriage; and encouraging There’s a prominent speaker, and it’s a real wage-earning religious by nearly four to one. vocations. shot in the arm to the participants from our For more information, visit www.retiredre- In addition to the clergy and religious parishes who attend. It’s an invigorating ligious.org. who serve on the council, each diocesan diocesan-wide event.” cluster has two representatives, one man Join Bishop Conlon and Bishop Siegel in a and one woman, who meet with the par- Annual Collection Provides Support Pilgrimage to Ireland ishes of their clusters, said Tom Kappel, the for 34,000 Elderly Sisters, Brothers, Bishop R. Daniel Conlon and Auxiliary Council’s recording secretary and a parish- Priests in Religious Orders Bishop Joseph M. Siegel will be going to the ioner at Ss. Peter and Paul in Naperville. The 24th national collection for the Re- 50th International Eucharistic Congress in Following the cluster meetings, written tirement Fund for Religious will be taken up Dublin, Ireland, from June 9-19, 2012. Join reports are filed and then presented at the in most U.S. parishes on Dec. 10-11. Spon- them on this pilgrimage of faith, which will next full council meeting. sored by the National Religious Retirement also include other cities and sites of interest to “Bishop Conlon wants to know what’s Oce in Washington, the annual appeal Catholics in Ireland. The cost is $3,498 per on the parishes’ minds and where the dio- asks Catholics to Share in the Care of more person. For more information and to register, cese can essentially be of the most help,” than 34,000 women and men religious past contact Patrick McKenna at 800-206-TOUR, said Kappel. age 70 who benefit from the collection. ext. 109, or at [email protected]. Or go Another big aspect of the DPC is its As religious continue to age, fewer mem- to www.pilgrimages.com/bishopconlon/

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