DISCOVER CREATE ENJOY

YOUR GUIDE TO MAKING YOURS EDITOR: Alexa Szegedi

ASSOCIATE EDITOR: Aryeh Kaminetsky

CREATIVE DIRECTOR: Shari Weisenberg

DESIGNERS: Andres Moncayo Rachel Olson

CONTRIBUTORS: Rabbi Sammy Aronson Rabbi Dovid Bashevkin Rabbi Jacob Bernstein Rabbi Tzachi Diamond Ms. Shayna Gewirtz Mrs. Nechama Kamelhar Mrs. Leora Lesher Rabbi Yossi Schwartz Rabbi Simon Taylor Rabbi Aryeh Wielgus Rabbi Moishe Zucker CONTENTS Introduction ...... 5

Preparing for Shabbat Introduction...... 7 The Island of Shabbat...... 8 Pre-Shabbat Checklist...... 9 Recipe: ...... 10 Recipe: Potato ...... 11 How to Light ...... 12 Why Light Candles...... 13

Friday Night Introduction...... 15 What’s Going On @ the Friday Night Meal?...... 16 Lecha Dodi...... 18 ...... 20 Recipe: Chicken Cutlets...... 22 Recipe: Chicken Soup...... 22 Recipe: Fish...... 23

Shabbat Day Introduction...... 25 What’s Going On @ Shabbat Lunch?...... 26 Song: Yom Zeh Mechubad...... 27 Board Games to Beat...... 28 Recipe: ...... 29

The Third Meal Introduction...... 31 Why Do We Eat a Third Meal?...... 32 Song: Gam Ki Eileich...... 33 As Shabbat Ebbs Away...... 34

The End of Shabbat Introduction...... 37 What’s Going On @ the End of Shabbat?...... 38 How to Make Havdallah...... 39 Recipe: Pizza...... 42 4 | YOUR GUIDE TO MAKING SHABBAT YOURS INTRODUCTION

Discover. Create. Enjoy. This is your guide to making Shabbat yours.

A rabbi once remarked that God can be found wherever we let Him in. We would all be better, more spiritual people if we took the time to let God in. But that isn’t easy. In today’s fast-paced world, it’s becoming harder and harder to find the time to put in the work needed to feel God’s presence in our lives.

Shabbat exists as an island of time amidst the chaos of modern life. Once a week, we carve out time to recharge our spiritual batteries and try to let God into our lives a little bit more. We invite Him into our homes and offer Him a seat at our meals. We create a microcosm of Heaven on Earth.

The more active we are in creating our “Shabbat space,” the more it will affect us. That’s why it is so important to make Shabbat our own. This guide is designed to enable you to create your own unique Shabbat experience. Through Shabbat, may we all let God into our lives.

INTRODUCTION | 5 6 | YOUR GUIDE TO MAKING SHABBAT YOURS PREPARING FOR SHABBAT

One of the fundamental keys to success is being prepared for whatever lies ahead. This is even more important in times of transition. Let’s use air flight as an example: The two most complex parts of a flight are when the plane takes off and when the plane lands. These transitional maneuvers necessitate skill, experience and concentration from the pilot.

Similar to take-off and landing, on “erev Shabbat” (Friday afternoon), there is the transition from regular weekday to the spiritual oasis of Shabbat. The only way to truly achieve a meaningful Shabbat is to be well-prepared. First, there’s the time allocated to study the deeper meaning of Shabbat and how to celebrate it. Second, there are the weekly routines that take place to ensure that everything is set up to make Shabbat special.

The active preparations that we do for Shabbat reflect an overarching theme about how to keep Shabbat as a whole. In the words of Rabbi Aryeh Kaplan:

Shabbat must also be a do-it-yourself project. In order to really feel the Shabbat, you cannot wait for it to come to you. You must get into it. The Torah tells us (Shemot 31:16) to “make the Shabbat.” Every person must make his own Shabbat. You must prepare yourself and get into the mood. Only then will you be able to feel its true significance, for Shabbat is not an intellectual exercise. If it were, meditating about it would be enough. We might provide explanations, but true understanding only comes from doing and feeling. In a way, Shabbat is like (being in) love. You can talk about love for the rest of your life, but if you have never experienced it, you will never understand it. Once you have been in love though, no further discussion is necessary.

In order to take flight and arrive at the optimal altitude for Shabbat, you will need to first prepare and then make it your own. We hope this guide will pre- pare you to make your own incredibly uplifting Shabbat.

PREPARING FOR SHABBAT | 7 THE ISLAND OF SHABBAT

When the sun sets on Friday night, we don't just shift gears into Shabbat, but rather we shift everything in our lives.

When we light the Shabbat candles, we transport ourselves and our families to a new dimension. It's as if we have arrived on an island named "Shabbat." On this island, everything is different. The rules we follow, the clothes we wear, and the food we eat are all unique to this special island. While we are on this island, we not only enjoy everything so much more, but we also show that we understand that we are not in charge. The island is run by God, the Master of the world.

By returning to our special island every week, we also show that He is in charge of things while we aren't on the island. But for now, kick back and enjoy the time on the island - the Island of Shabbat.

8 | YOUR GUIDE TO MAKING SHABBAT YOURS Pre-Shabbat Checklist Wash dishes to help clean the kitchen Prepare a dish for a Shabbat meal (All foods should be cooked before Shabbat as per Jewish law.) Clean your room Power down electronics Blast pre-Shabbat playlist

אין קדושה בלי הכנה There is no holiness without preparation.

PREPARING FOR SHABBAT | 9 RECIPE CHALLAH

At the center of the Shabbat table are challah and wine. They both taste wonderful, but there is added significance as to why these specific foods have such a central role on our Shabbat tables: Wine gets better with age, whereas challah is best fresh. So it is with Shabbat: Shabbat gets better with age. As our commitment deepens and our personal memory deepens, Shabbat becomes more and more instinctive. As we age with Shabbat, it’s not just a day — it becomes a friend. But Shabbat must also be fresh. The spirit of Shabbat requires joy, spontaneity, and a freshness that ensures Shabbat is not just an obligation but a celebration. To preserve our relationship with Shabbat we need some- thing old and something new. A little wine and a little challah. Ingredients: 5 lb. bag of high gluten flour 2 ½ cups sugar (divided) 2 Tbsp. salt 4 Tbsp. active dry yeast 5 cups warm water 3 eggs 1-1 ½ cups canola oil Directions: In a large bowl, sift together flour, 1 ½ cups sugar, and salt. Make a well in the center of the flour and pour in 1 cup of sugar, yeast, and warm water. Wait about 10 minutes for the yeast to activate and bubble. Begin to knead the dough and slowly add eggs and oil. Once you have incorporated all the ingredients into the dough, continue to knead the dough for a few minutes. Allow the dough to rise in a warm and dark place. Preheat the oven to 350° F. Separate challah (see instructions on the card included in this box). Divide the dough into four equal portions and braid each one. Allow to rise. Brush with egg wash and add toppings (eg. “everything but the bagel” spice, poppy seeds, sesame seeds, etc.) Bake for 50 minutes.

Please note: The recipes showcased in this guide should be prepared and cooked before Shabbat as per Jewish law.

10 | YOUR GUIDE TO MAKING SHABBAT YOURS RECIPE Ingredients: 5 lb. Idaho potatoes (minus 3) 2 large onions 1 Tbsp. salt ½ tsp. black pepper 6 eggs ¼ - ½ cup oil

Directions: Heat oven to 400° F.

Fill a large bowl with cold water. Peel potatoes and temporarily add to the water (to prevent browning).

Grate onions and potatoes in the food processor, one at a time, until all the potatoes have been grated.

Pour potato and onion mixture into a bowl and add the eggs, oil, salt, and pepper. Mix well.

Carefully pour potato mixture into a 9x13” pan.

Bake for 1 hour at 400 degrees, then turn it down to 350° F for an additional 45 minutes.

PREPARING FOR SHABBAT | 11 HOW TO LIGHT SHABBAT CANDLES Shabbat candles are lit 18 minutes before sunset. After sunset has already passed, Shab- bat automatically begins, and one can no longer light the Shabbat candles.

STEP 1 Light 2 candles that are STEP 2 Extend your hands over the large enough to burn candles, then draw them for 2-3 hours, or until inwards in a circular motion, the Friday night meal as if to bring the light toward has concluded. Some you. This symbolizes that have the custom to 3x you’re drawing the spiritual- light 1 candle or many ity and holiness of Shabbat candles. Ask your Rabbi into your home and into your which custom to follow. life. Do this motion 3 times. Then cover your eyes.

STEP 3

Say the blessing while your eyes are closed: בָּ ּרו ְך אַ ָּ תה ה' אֱ לֹקֵ ּינו מֶ לֶ ְך הָ ֹעולָ ם אֲ ׁ ֶ שר קִ ְ ּד ׁ ָ ש ּנו בְּמִ צְ ֹותָ יו וְצִ ָ ּו ּנו לְהַדְ לִ יק נֵ ר ׁ ֶ של ׁ ַ שבָּ ת. Ba-RUCH ah-TAH ado-NOY eh-lo-HEY-nu MEH-lech ha-o-LAM a-SHER kee-d’-SHA-nu bi-mitz-vo-TAV vi-tzee-VA-nu l’-had-LEEK neir shel Shabbat. Blessed are You, Hashem, our God, King of the universe, Who has sanctified us with His commandments, and commanded us to kindle the light of Shabbat.

By saying this blessing, you are accepting Shabbat upon yourself. As soon the blessing is finished, prohibited activities (such as using electronics) cannot be done.  The candlesticks should not be moved because they are “.” STEP 4 Talk to God when you’re done saying the blessing. Take a moment to thank God for everything He has given you, and ask for all that you desire for the future. God loves to hear your prayers! You can use this time to pray for yourself or for others who need good health, relief from pain, or any other need. Open your heart and speak to God.

12 | YOUR GUIDE TO MAKING SHABBAT YOURS WHY LIGHT CANDLES?

Light represents clarity. Shabbat is a day of clarity, when we can see our purpose in this world with greater clarity. All the distrac- tions of technology and regular weekday pressures fade away. We spend a precious 25 hours focusing on the needs of our souls and our spiritual connection to God.

Candlelight brings closeness. Couples light candles at romantic dinners because the dim light brings people closer together in a deep way. Shabbat is our “date” with God because on this day, we can focus totally on God without the regular distractions of the busy week.

Light brings peace. The Shabbat candles usher peace into the home because the soft glow of the candles provide a peaceful ambiance. Practically speaking, light also helps keep peace at home because it prevents us from stumbling in the dark, and allows us to see our food better so we can enjoy it more as we eat it. Shabbat is a day of peace and rest when we can focus on our families, friends, God, and all that is dear to us.

The soul is called a “candle of God.” Just as the soul infuses spiri- tuality into the body, Shabbat infuses spirituality into the week. The spirituality of Shabbat lights up a week that would otherwise be shrouded in darkness, confusion, and materialism.

PREPARING FOR SHABBAT | 13

14 | YOUR GUIDE TO MAKING SHABBAT YOURS FRIDAY NIGHT

In the middle of March, as the world slowly began to shut down due to COVID-19, UPS and FedEx announced that they would no longer require a signature on most shipments. However, both companies specified that certain valuable packages would require someone present to accept the package.

Shabbat is a valuable gift from God that begins at a specified time each Friday evening. But we can’t just wait for God to “deliver” this package; we must actively participate in the rituals of Friday night so that we can properly accept the gift of Shabbat. Candle lighting, the Kabbalat Shabbat prayers, and Friday night kiddush are all different ways that we accept the beginning of Shabbat. While Shabbat still technically starts without any rituals or acknowledge- ments, Shabbat is too valuable a package to be delivered without someone being present to accept it.

In , each day is counted starting from the previous night. It is specif- ically when darkness begins to descend that individuals can create their own light and make an impact. Each Friday evening, as the sun begins to set, the Jewish people are given the opportunity to actively accept Shabbat and create the light of their own Shabbat experience. Shabbat doesn’t have to only be delivered, it can also be actively accepted.

On Friday night, Shabbat doesn’t just happen; Shabbat is created.

FRIDAY NIGHT | 15 WHAT’S GOING ON @ THE FRIDAY NIGHT MEAL?

LIGHTING CANDLES Every Friday afternoon, Jewish women light Shabbat can- dles, providing a beautiful and calm aura to the home. Women pray at this time that just as they are bringing light into their home, their children should bring light into the world, too. If no women in the home are lighting candles, any man can light the candles instead.

BLESSING THE CHILDREN Before the meal, many parents have the custom to bless their children. During these loving moments, parents have the opportunity to focus on appreciating their chil- dren and connecting with family.

SINGING EISHET CHAYIL Originally written as a tribute to Sarah, the mother of the Jewish people, this song is an appreciation for wives and mothers who work so hard to prepare for Shabbat. On a deeper level, Shabbat is the queen of the Jewish nation, and this song welcomes the serenity and sanctity of the Shabbat “queen” into our homes.

SHALOM ALEICHEM Two angels accompany a person home from synagogue on Friday night; one good and one evil. These angels represent the two parts of a person that finally find peace with each other on Shabbat, as both body and soul enjoy the Shabbat experience.

16 | YOUR GUIDE TO MAKING SHABBAT YOURS KIDDUSH During Kiddush, we give testimony that God created the world in six days and rested on the seventh. Just as one testifying in a Jewish court must stand, we stand while testifying that God created the world.

WASHING HANDS Eating the Shabbat meal is not just a function of getting food in; it’s an opportunity to elevate the mundane act of eating into a spiritual activity. We therefore wash our hands before the meal to eat in a state of purity, imitating the way that the priests washed their hands before serving in the Beit HaMikdash (Temple).

EATING CHALLAH We place two at every Shabbat meal to remind ourselves of the kindness that God did after we left Egypt - God fed our entire nation for forty years in the desert with a miraculous food called “muhn.” While our food today might look less miraculous then it did then, challah reminds us that all sustenance comes from God.

SHABBAT SONGS Shabbat songs are not simply tunes. They were written by some of the greatest sages in our history and they contain many secrets and much depth. Every day of the week, the angels and cre- ations praise God, but on Shabbat, we, the Jewish people, are the only ones allowed to sing.

FRIDAY NIGHT | 17 LECHA DODI

The prayer of Lecha Dodi welcomes the Shabbat Queen into the community, and we welcome her and the Shabbat with joyous song and dance. This poetic song talks about everyone preparing themselves to greet Shabbat and is sung together as a congrega- tion. The chorus compares the Shabbat Queen to a bride, and we wait in anticipation to greet her. At the end of Lecha Dodi, everyone turns around to face the door and actually bows slightly to welcome the revered Shabbat Queen into the shul.

Lecha Dodi is a unique opportunity to think, reflect, and plan every week. Take ten minutes (one minute for each of the points below) before Shabbat and con- sider how your past week went and how you plan to spend your next week.

GO... TO GREET WAKE UP, WAKE UP Go somewhere with limited Awaken your senses and appreci- distractions and take a deep breath. ate where you are at the present moment. OBSERVE & REMEMBER Reflect upon the past week as if DO NOT BE EMBARRASSED you are watching its recap video. Did you hold yourself back this week due to embarrassment? SOURCE OF BLESSING What blessings emerged this AS A GROOM REJOICES OVER past week that you wish to HIS BRIDE hold onto? Do your relationships bring you joy? Do you bring joy to others? FROM AMIDST THE TURMOIL What turmoils of the past week are WE WILL BE HAPPY AND REJOICE you leaving behind? When do you feel happy? Is it when you feel personal fulfillment? SHAKE YOURSELF OFF Shake it out. Leave the turmoil COME IN PEACE behind you. Take a deep breath. What brings you peace of mind? Can you bring that into next week?

18 | YOUR GUIDE TO MAKING SHABBAT YOURS לְכָ ה ֹדודִ י לִקְרַ את כַּלָּ ה ,Go, my Beloved, to greet the bride ּפְ נֵ י ׁשַ בָּ ת נְ קַ בְּ לָ ה .Let us greet the inner light of the

ׁ שָ מ ֹו ר וְ זָ ֹכור בְּדִ בּ ּור אֶחָ ד Observe” and “remember” in one word“ ׁהִשְ מִ יעָ ּנו אֵל הַמְּ יֻחָ ד .we heard from the one and only G-d ה' אֶחָ ד ּו ׁשְ ֹמו אֶחָ ד ,G-d is One, and His Name is One לְ ׁשֵ ם ּו לְ תִ פְ אֶ רֶ ת וְ לִ תְ הִ לָ ּ ה .For renown, glory, and praise

ִ ל קְ רַ א ת ׁשַ בָּת לְ ּכו וְנֵלְכָ ה To go out and greet the Shabbos, let us go כִּי הִ יא מְ ֹקור הַ בְּרָ כָ ה .For she is is the source of blessing מֵ רֹ א ׁש מִ קֶ ּ דֶ ם ְ נ ס ּו כָ ה From the beginning, [she was] chosen ֹסוף מַעֲשֶ ׂה ׁבְּמַחֲשָ בָה ּתְ חִ לָּ ה .The ultimate deed in the initial thought ְ מִ קְ דַ ּ ׁ ש מֶ לֶ ך עִיר מְ ּלוכָ ה Sanctuary of the King, a royal city ְ ּקומִ י צְאִי מִ ּת ֹוך הַהֲפֵכָ ה Rise up, leave from amidst the turmoil רַ ב לָ ְך ׁשֶ בֶת בְּעֵמֶק הַ בָּכָ א You have dwelt too long in the valley of tears וְ ּהוא יַחֲ ֹמול עָ לַ יִ ְך חֶמְ לָ ה .And He will have mercy on you

הִ תְ ַ נ עֲ רִ י מֵ עָ פָ ר ק ּו מִ י Shake yourself off, get up from the dust ׁלִבְשִ י בִּגְדֵי ּתִפְאַרְתֵ ְך עַמִּ י Wear your glorious clothing, my nation עַ ל יַד בֶּן ׁיִשַ י בֵּ ית הַ לַּ חְמִ י Through the son of Yishai from Bethlehem קָרְ בָה אֶ ל ׁנַפְשִ י גְּ אָ לָ ּה .Come close to my soul, redeem her

הִ תְ ע ֹו רְ רִ י הִ תְ ע ֹו רְ רִ י Wake up, wake up כִּי בָ א ֹאורֵ ְך ּקומִ י ֹאורִ י For your light has come - rise and shine ּעורִ י ּעורִי ׁשִ יר דַ ּ בֵּרִ י Wake up, wake up, sing a song כְּ ֹבוד ה' עָ לַ יִ ְך נִגְלָ ה .The Honor of G-d is revealed upon you

ל ֹ א תֵ ֹ ב ׁשִ י ְ ו ל ֹ א תִ כָּ ְ ל מִ י ,Do not be embarrassed, do not be ashamed מַ ה ּתִ ׁ שְ ּת ֹ ו חֲ חִ י ּו מַ ה ּתֶ הֱ מִ י ?Why are you downcast, why are you astounded בָּ ְך יֶחֱ ּסו עֲ נִיֵּי עַמִּ י In you, the poor of my people will take refuge וְנִבְנְתָה עִיר עַל ּתִ לָּ ּה .And the city will be rebuilt on its former mound

וְ הָ י ּו ִ ל מְ ׁשִ ּסָ ה ׁש ֹ א סָ ִ י ְך May you plunderers be plundered וְרָחֲ ּקו כָּל מְ בַ ּלְ עָ יִ ְך And all who devour you shall be kept away יָשִ ׂ י ׂש עָ לַ יִ ְך אֱ ל ֹהָ יִ ְך May your G-d rejoice upon you כִּמְ ׂש ֹו ׂש חָתָן עַ ל כַּלָּ ה .As a groom rejoices on a bride

ָ י מִ י ן ּושְ ׂמֹאל ּתִ פְ רֹצִ י ,Right and left you will spread וְאֶ ת ה' ּתַ עֲרִ יצִ י And G-d you will laud עַ ל יַד אִ ׁיש בֶּן ּפַ רְ צִ י Through the hand of a man from the Peretz family וְ נִ שְ ׂ מְ חָ ה וְ נָ גִ י לָ ה And we will be happy and rejoice

ּ ֹב אִ י ׁבְשָ ֹלום עֲטֶרֶ ת בַּעְ לָ ּה Come in peace, the crown of her husband גַ ּ ם בְ ּ שִ ׂ מְ חָ ה ) בְּ רִ נָ ה ( ּו בְ צָ הֳ לָ ה In happiness and good cheer ּת ֹו ְך אֱ ּמונֵי עַם סְ גֻלָּ ה Among the faithful people, a treasured nation בּ ֹואִ י כַלָּ ה בּ ֹואִ י כַלָּ ה .Come bride, come bride

FRIDAY NIGHT | 19 KIDDUSH SANCTIFYING THE SHABBAT OVER A CUP OF WINE

The Friday night Kiddush begins with an excerpt from Genesis 2:13 which describes how God created the world in six days and rested on the seventh day (Shabbat). God made Shabbat holy and separate from all other days of the week. Throughout the week, we run around doing our best to climb the ladder of success, or at the very least just to keep up with the many given responsibilities that fill our days. From schoolwork and extracurriculars, to familial demands and professional commitments, we get wrapped up in the chase, in the pres- sure, to forget who we are and get lost in the natural rush of the everyday. Kiddush begins with the following introduction: וַיְהִי עֶרֶ ב וַיְהִ י בֹקֶ ר ֹיום ּׁהַשִ ּׁשִ י. וַיְכֻ ּל ּו ּׁהַשָ מַ יִם וְהָאָרֶ ץ וְכָל צְבָאָ ם. וַיְכַל אֱ לֹקִ ים בַּ ֹיום ּׁהַשְ בִ יעי מְ לַ אכְ ּת ֹו ׁאֲשֶ ר עָשָ ׂה ׁוַיִשְ בֹּת בַּ ּי ֹום ּׁהַשְ בִ יעי מִ כָּל מְ לַ אכְ ּת ֹו ׁאֲשֶ ר עָשָ ׂה. וַיְבָרֶ ְך אֱ לֹקִ ים אֶ ת ֹיום ּׁהַשְ בִ יעי וַיְקַדֵ ּ ׁש ֹאֹתו כִּ י ֹבו ׁשָ בַת מִ כָּל מְ לַ אכְ ּת ֹו ׁאֲשֶ ר בָּרָא אֱ לֹקִ ים לַעֲ ׂש ֹות.

It was evening and it was morning. The sixth day. The heavens and the earth and all their hosts were completed. God finished by the Seventh Day His work which He had done, and He rested on the Seventh Day from all His work which He had done. God blessed the Seventh Day and made it holy, because on it He ceased from all His creative work, which God had created to fulfill its purpose.

The one who is leading Kiddush then makes the following blessing over wine, and all others respond, “Amen.”

סַ בְרִי מָרָ נָן וְרַ בָּנָן וְרַ בּ ֹותַ י! בָּ ּרו ְך ּאַתָ ה ה' אֱ לֹקֵ ּינו מֶ לֶ ְך הָ ֹעולָ ם ּ ב ֹו רֵ א ּפְ רִ י הַ ָ ּג פֶ ן .

Attention, gentlemen, rabbis, and my teachers! Blessed are You, Hashem our God, King of the universe, who creates the fruit of the vine. (Respond: Amen)

20 | YOUR GUIDE TO MAKING SHABBAT YOURS Kiddush concludes with the following blessing that thanks God for giving us the Shabbat and for choosing us as His special nation. At the end of the blessing, all respond, “Amen.”

בָּ ּרו ְך ּאַתָ ה ה' אֱ לֹקֵ ּינו מֶ לֶ ְך הָ ֹעולָ ם ׁאֲשֶ ר קִדְ ּ ׁשָ ּנו בְּמִ צְ ֹותָ יו וְרַ ָצָה בָ ּנו וְ ׁשַ בָּ ת קָ דְ ׁש ֹו בְּ אַ הֲ בָ ה ּו בְ רָ צ ֹו ן הִ נְ חִ י לָ נ ּו ִ ז כָּ ר ֹו ן ְ ל מַ עֲ שֵ ׂ ה ְ ב רֵ א ׁשִ י ת . כִּ י ּהוא ֹיום ּתְ חִ לָּ ה לְמִ קְרָאֵ י קֹדֶ ׁש זֵ כֶ ר לִ י צִ י אַ ת מִ צְ רָ יִ ם . כִּי בָ ּנו ּבָחַרְתָ וְ ֹאותָ ּנו קְדַ ּ ׁשְ ּתָ מִ כָּל הָעַמִּ ים וְ ׁשַ בָ ּ ת קָ דְ ׁשְ ָך בְּ אַ הֲ בָ ה ּו בְ רָ צ ֹו ן הִ נְ חַ לְ ּתָ נ ּו . בָּ ר ּו ְך אַ ּתָ ה ה' מְ קַ דֵ ּ ׁ ש הַ ׁשַ ָּ ב ת .

Blessed are You, Lord our God, King of the universe, who made us holy with His commandments, has desired us, and has given us, in love and goodwill, His holy Shabbat as a heritage, as a reminder of the Creation. It [Shabbat] is the first day of the holy festivals, commemorating the Exodus from Egypt. For You [God] have chosen us and sanctified us from among all the nations, and with love and goodwill given us Your holy Shabbat as a heritage. Blessed are You Lord, who makes the Shabbat holy. (Respond: Amen)

When Shabbat arrives, we gather around the table and say kid- dush. We separate this day from the rest of the week. Moreover, we separate ourselves out of the chaos, the distraction. We’ve spent six days working, running, doing, creating, just as God spent those first six days creating His world. Now, the time has come to set it all aside and focus on holiness. When the blessings are complete, the one who led the blessings should drink at least 2 oz. of the wine or grape juice. The rest of the kiddush wine or grape juice is then distributed to everyone else to taste. Afterwards, everyone goes to wash their hands before eating the challah.

FRIDAY NIGHT | 21 RECIPE

CHICKEN CUTLETS Ingredients: 1.5 lb. chicken breasts (or chicken fingers) ½ cup mayonnaise 3 frozen garlic cubes 3 frozen basil cubes ½ cup duck sauce 4 cups cornflake crumbs (optional)

Directions: Preheat oven to 350° F. Cut chicken into strips. Combine mayonnaise, garlic, basil, and duck sauce in a bag. Add chicken, let marinate for a while. Coat each piece in corn flake crumbs (optional). Spread the chicken onto a cookie sheet. Spray with Pam cooking spray. Bake for 25 minutes. CHICKEN SOUP Ingredients: 2 lb. chicken bones 1 beefsteak tomato 1 yellow onion ½ bag carrots, chopped into large pieces 1 celery stalk, chopped into large pieces 1 parsnip, chopped into large pieces Water Salt, to taste Pepper, to taste

Directions: Place all ingredients in a large pot. Add water until pot is full. Bring to a boil. Cover and simmer for 4 hours.

22 | YOUR GUIDE TO MAKING SHABBAT YOURS RECIPE

FISH

Everything about Shabbat has profound meaning. Every custom and every traditional food is there not just to enhance the day but to express a deeper reality. One of the oldest Shabbat customs is to eat fish (not necessarily the kind that lives in a jar...) at every one of the . What profound idea can possibly be hiding under that forkful of fish with horseradish?

One of the main focuses of Judaism is to uplift the physical and mundane by injecting it with meaning. Just as the neck connects the head to the body, we try to fuse this world (the body) with a higher purpose (the head/soul).

On Shabbat, Hashem reveals His infinite love for the Jewish people by telling us to enjoy the world that He created for us. On Shabbat, the act of eating itself becomes a . We don’t need to connect our physical actions to something spiritual because taking care of our physical needs themselves becomes a way to connect with spirituality.

Unlike all other creatures, fish have no neck connecting their head and body; their bodies and heads are one. This perfectly reflects the idea that on Shab- bat, the soul (symbolized by the head) no longer needs to be connected to the body, because the body and soul — the physical and spiritual — become one. Ingredients: 1 Tbsp. brown sugar 1 tsp. honey 1 Tbsp. dijon mustard 1 Tbsp. soy sauce 1 Tbsp. olive oil 2 tsp. grated ginger 1 whole salmon fillet

Directions: In a small saucepan over medium heat, melt the brown sugar with honey. Remove from heat and stir in mustard, soy sauce, olive oil, and ginger. Allow to cool. Marinate for one hour and grill.

FRIDAY NIGHT | 23 24 | YOUR GUIDE TO MAKING SHABBAT YOURS SHABBAT DAY

Shabbat Day is the epitome of serenity. It is the feeling of waking up on a holi- day, when there is nowhere else you want to be. No phone to check, no food to cook, no chores to do — everything was prepared beforehand. It is the peace of already knowing what the day will bring: enjoying home-cooked meals with loved ones, and spending time to rest, read, and recharge.

Shabbat day allows us to achieve one of the most sought-after life goals: being present. As Rabbi Jonathan Sacks says, “Shabbat is the day we stand still and let all our blessings catch up with us.” Because Shabbat comes every week, we rely on it. We depend on it for our much-needed break from the hustle and bustle of everyday life, to put aside our work, our stress, our to-do lists, and focus on relationships, purpose, and peace.

Shabbat day is designed from start to finish to feel like a vacation. Similar to how we await vacation, counting down the days as we anticipate the escape from “have to’s” to “want to’s”, Shabbat is something to look forward to throughout the week. On Shabbat day, we commit to living in the moment. We remove ourselves from our work, our worries, and all the mundane responsi- bilities of daily life. The plans have already been made, and all we have left to do is enjoy.

Everyone deserves a day for reflection and recalibration. Shabbat not only gives us a break from the stress of the week, but it allows us to take a step back and focus on the big picture. Shabbat day is a set time to see what has been accomplished, appreciate where we are, and reinspire ourselves for the upcoming week.

SHABBAT DAY | 25 WHAT’S GOING ON @ SHABBAT LUNCH?

KIDDUSH During Kiddush, we give testimony that God created the world in six days and rested on the seventh. Just as one testifying in a Jewish court must stand, we stand while testifying that God created the world.

WASHING HANDS Eating the Shabbat meal is not just a function of getting food in; it’s an opportunity to elevate the mundane act of eating into a spiritual activity. We therefore wash our hands before the meal to eat in a state of purity, imitating the way that the priests washed their hands before serv- ing in the Beit HaMikdash (Temple).

EATING CHALLAH We place two challahs at every Shabbat meal to remind ourselves of the kindness that God did after we left Egypt - God fed our entire nation for 40 years in the desert with a miraculous food called “muhn.” While our food today might look less miraculous then it did then, challah reminds us that all sustenance comes from God.

SHABBAT SONGS Shabbat songs are not simply tunes. They were written by some of the greatest sages in our history and they con- tain many secrets and much depth. Every day of the week, the angels and creations praise God, but on Shabbat, we the Jewish people are the only ones allowed to sing.

26 | YOUR GUIDE TO MAKING SHABBAT YOURS SONG YOM ZEH MECHUBAD

The rest and relaxation of Shabbat leads to reflection and revelation. In Kiddush, we describe Shabbat as “a reminder of Creation.” We step back from our own work and marvel at the work done by God in creating the world.

Shabbat meals play a significant role in this process. By recognizing God as the Cre- ator of everything and recognizing His handiwork in our food, we are able to connect with Him through our meals.

To help internalize these messages, we incorporate songs of Shabbat into our meals to turn them into Meals of Holiness.

This day is more important than all the rest, for ֹיום זֶה מְ כֻבָּד מִ כָּ ל יָמִ ים, כִּ י ֹבו ׁשָ בַ ת ּצור .today the Creator of the world rested ע ֹו לָ מִ י ם : For six days you should labor, and the seventh is ׁשֵ ׁשֶ ת יָמִ ים ּתַ עֲשֶ ׂה מְ לַ ּאכְתֶ ָך, וְ ֹיום ּׁהַשְ בִ יעִ י for God. On Shabbat you should do no work for לֵ אלֹקֶ ָיך, ׁשַ בָּ ת לֹא תַעֲשֶ ׂה ֹבו מְ לָ אכָ ה, כִּ י כֹל .everything was created in six days עָ שָ ׂ ה ׁשֵ ׁ שֶ ת ָ י מִ י ם . (...Repeat: This day is more) ֹיום זֶה מְ כֻבַּ ד... It is the first of all holy days, the holy Shabbat is רִ ׁאש ֹון ּהוא לְמִ קְרָאֵ י קֹדֶ ׁש, ֹיום ׁשַ בָּ ֹתון ֹיום -a day of rest. Therefore everyone should say kid ׁשַ בָּ ת קֹדֶ ׁש, עַ ל כֵּן כָּל אִ ׁיש בְּ יֵ ֹינו יְקַדֵ ּ ׁש, עַ ל .dush with wine and cut two whole loaves ׁשְ ּתֵ י לֶחֶ ם יִבְצְ ּעו תְמִ ימִ ים. (...Repeat: This day is more) ֹיום זֶה מְ כֻבַּ ד... Eat rich foods, drink sweet beverages, for God אֱ ֹכול ׁמַשְ מַ נִּים ׁשְ תֵה ּמַמְתַ ּקִ ים, כִּי קֵ ל ּיִתֵ ן gives to all who cling to Him - Clothes to wear and לְ כֹל בּ ֹו דְ ּ בֵקִ ים, בֶּגֶד לִלְ בֹּ ׁש, לֶחֶם ּחֻקִ ים, בָּשָ ׂר .their allotted food; meat, fish, and all delicacies וְדָ גִ ים וְכָל מַטְעַמִּ ים. (...Repeat: This day is more) ֹיום זֶה מְ כֻבַּ ד... You will lack nothing, you will eat, be satisfied לֹא תֶחְסַ ר כֹּל בּ ֹו וְאָ כַ ּלְתָ , ּוְשָ ׂ ּבָעְתָ ּובֵרַ ּכְתָ and bless Hashem your God whom you love, for אֶ ת ה' אֱ לֹקֶ ָיך ׁאֲשֶ ר אָהַ ּבְתָ , כִּי בֵרַ כְ ָך מִ כָּ ל .He has blessed you beyond all others הָ עַ מִּ י ם . (...Repeat: This day is more) ֹיום זֶה מְ כֻבַּ ד... The heavens display His glory and the earth is full ּׁהַשָ מַ יִם ּמְסַפְ רִ ים כְּ ֹבו ֹדו, וְגַם הָאָרֶץ מָ לְאָ ה ,of his Kindness! See everything that He has done חַסְ ּד ֹו, רְ ּאו כִּי כָל אֵ לֶּ ה עָשְ ׂתָ ה יָ ֹדו, כִּ י ּהוא .for He is the Creator whose work is perfect הַ ּצ ּור, ּפָ עֳ ֹלו תָמִ ים. (...Repeat: This day is more) ֹיום זֶה מְ כֻבַּ ד...

SHABBAT DAY | 27 Wash dishes to help clean the kitchen In a world buried in the noise of technology, Shabbat afternoon has evolved into Prepare a dish for a Shab- the perfect time for board games. Some time on Shabbat afternoon, as your meal bat meal begins to settle, just before total exhaustion hits, you’ve discovered the perfect amount of time to not only set up a board game, but play one, too. Below is our Clean your room list of top 5 Shabbat board games to beat.

Power down electronics SETTLERS OF CATAN Blast pre-Shabbat playlist Channel your inner biblical Jew. Live off the land, compete for resources, and pray to God for a bountiful harvest.

CODENAMES Rabbis are great at giving entire speeches based on a single word from the Bible. In this modern classic, you work with a teammate and try to communicate using only one-word hints.

BANANAGRAMS Impress your friends and family with your vocab or just use a bunch of 3-letter words. Either way you have fun!

OTHELLO Nothing is more Jewish than a game entirely in black and white.

MONOPOLY Embrace your Jewish heritage and get into real estate. You may not have a family business to join but in this game you can buy, sell, and dream your way to the most glamorous properties.

28 | YOUR GUIDE TO MAKING SHABBAT YOURS RECIPE CHOLENT

Cholent is one of the oldest traditional Shabbat foods. The custom of eating this overnight cooked dish began in order to counter the view of the Saducees — a misguided ancient group of — who maintained that one cannot have a fire lit on Shabbat, even if it was lit before sundown. They would there- fore sit in the dark and only eat cold food.

The Rabbis wanted to demonstrate that this wasn’t just a technical halachic mistake; it is a basic misunderstanding of the spirit of Shabbat. Shabbat is not a day of abstention from the enjoyments of the world but of taking pleasure in our relationship with God. They instituted the custom of eating a hot dish at the Shabbat afternoon meal to show that we can leave a fire on that was lit before Shabbat, and that it is a day of enjoyment — not of sacrifice. Ingredients: 3-4 pieces of flanken meat or chuck 1 cup barley ½ cup kidney beans 1 onion, chopped 4 potatoes, chopped into large pieces ½ cup onion soup mix 1 tsp. paprika 1 tsp. onion powder 1 ½ tsp. garlic powder Salt, to taste

Pepper, to taste

Directions: Place ingredients in a crock-pot (slow cooker) and fill with water until all the ingredients are covered. Cook on low for 24 hours.

Serves 5-6.

SHABBAT DAY | 29 30 | YOUR GUIDE TO MAKING SHABBAT YOURS THE THIRD MEAL

The strongest part of a building must be its foundation. It needs to be embed- ded deep into the ground in order to support the edifice above. The taller the building stands, the deeper and stronger will be the foundation supporting it.

Shabbat is different.

Shabbat grows in its awesomeness as the day progresses. It can be likened to a snowball: You start with a little bit of snow but its greatness shows only when you keep adding snow to it.

Every moment of Shabbat adds to its spiritual potency.

Shabbat’s most impactful moment is often referred to as , which means “the Third Meal.” This is quite perplexing. Why is the most spiritually-in- fused moment of the week celebrated by being hyper-focused on eating, even to the extent that it is literally named for the meal we eat at that time?

The layers of holiness that are added as every second of Shabbat passes create such a powerful moment to the point where even our eating is completely infused with holiness. Yes, the most spiritual moment of the week is celebrated by eating, to the extent that it is literally called the meal we eat at that time! While it is especially true here, it actually applies to all aspects of us and who we are. So enjoy this meal filled with spices, spirituality, and Shabbat.

THE THIRD MEAL | 31 WHY DO WE EAT A THIRD MEAL?

Although on weekdays we eat two main meals, on Shabbat we add a third. The purpose of eating this third meal (when we’re often too full to eat!) is to demonstrate that all of our eating on Shabbat is for the purpose of honoring this special day. We call it “Seudah Shlishit” — meaning “the third meal” — since this meal reveals our ultimate goal from all three of the Shabbat meals.

On a deeper level, the third Shabbat meal is a time for reconnecting to our spiritual roots. The first day of Creation was Sunday, which — in the Jewish calendar — begins the night before, on Saturday night. The moments before God created the world, therefore, was the time of the third Shabbat meal. During that time, God decided to create each one of us, and in these precious moments, each of us has the chance to reconnect to who we are and what we want to be.

32 | YOUR GUIDE TO MAKING SHABBAT YOURS SONG GAM KI EILEICH

We’ve all had those days, when everything that could go wrong, will go wrong. We find ourselves struggling to stay afloat as the mishaps, mistakes, and misfortunes pile up. All we feel like doing is crawling into bed with a tub of ice cream and our favorite movie while shutting out the rest of the world. We throw our hands up toward heaven and scream “WHY ME?!”

One of the special songs for the Third Meal of Shabbat is Psalm 23, known as “Mizmor L’Dovid - A Song of David.” One of the most famous verses in this psalm begins with the words “Gam Ki Eileich”:

גַּם כִּי אֵ לֵ ְךבְּגֵ יא צַ לְמָ וֶ ת לֹא אִ ירָא רָ ע כִּי ּאַתָ ה עִמָּדִי ׁשִ בְטְ ָך ּו עַ ׁמִשְ ּנְתֶ ָך הֵמָּ ה יְנַחֲמֻ נִ י.

Even when I walk through a valley of darkness, I fear no harm, for You are with me; Your rod and Your staff — they comfort me.

It seems to be a very profound and encouraging line. Even in the darkest of times, God is with us. But what is perplexing is the last part: “Your rod and Your staff — they comfort me.” How does a rod or staff comfort? If we were going to list items of comfort, we would normally say: pillow, couch, blanket.... But a rod or staff? Those things seem to be hard and uncomfortable.

The Malbim explains that this verse is referring to God as a shepherd. Just as a shepherd uses his staff to guide the sheep to where they need to go, he may also strike the sheep to keep them on track and avoid danger.

Hashem is our shepherd, guiding and redirecting us to stay on track. He uses events in our lives as guiding points and redirection cues to help us recalibrate and recommit. Sometimes those events are minor inconveniences, and some of them real moments of tragedy and sorrow, yet they are always done with our best interests in mind, if they lead to personal introspection and growth.

“Gam Ki Eilech” is teaching us to reframe and refocus. It’s teaching us to use the waning minutes of Shabbat — before we re-emerge into normal life — as a time for us to think about the challenges that we encounter not as difficulties, but as opportunities.

THE THIRD MEAL | 33 AS SHABBAT EBBS AWAY

Ebbing: present participle of ebb | to decline or decay; to fade away

As we near the end of Shabbat, the reality of the week ahead sets in and we begin to feel sentimental for each fleeting moment. As Shabbat slowly ebbs away, we hungrily look for continued inspiration and spirituality that we can bring into the next week and carry toward the next Shabbat.

The following story demonstrates how the eternality of the Jewish people and Shabbat is clear.

In the mid-nineties, a Jewish advertising executive wondered: What if the New York Times – the “Paper of Record” – printed the Shabbat candle lighting time each week? Imagine the Jewish awareness and pride that might result from such a prominent mention of Shabbat each week. He contacted a Jewish philanthropist and sold him on the idea. It cost nearly two thousand dollars a week but he agreed to fund it. For the next five years, every Friday, Jews around the world would see “Jewish Women: Shabbat candle lighting time this Friday is _____”

Eventually the philanthropist had to reduce the number of projects he had been funding. And, so, in June 1999, the little Shabbat candle lighting notice made its last appearance in the New York Times. At least that’s what people thought.

On January 1, 2000, the NY Times ran a Millennium edition commemorating the paper’s 100th anniversary. It was a special issue that featured three front pages. One contained the news from January 1, 1900. The second contained the actual news of the day, January 1, 2000. And the third front page, featured projected headlines of January 1, 2100. It included such stories as a welcome to the fifty-first state: Cuba and a debate over the issue of whether robots should be allowed to vote. And so on. And, in addition to the creative articles, there was one extra piece. Down on the bottom of the Year 2100 front page, was the candle lighting time in New York for January 1, 2100. Nobody asked for it. Nobody paid for it. It was just put in by the Times. The production manager of the New York Times – an Irish Catholic – was asked about this curious entry. His answer speaks to the eternity of our people and to the power of Jewish ritual.”We don’t know what will happen in the year 2100. It is impossible to predict the future. But of one thing you can be certain. That in the year 2100 Jewish women will be lighting Shabbat candles.”

34 | YOUR GUIDE TO MAKING SHABBAT YOURS THE THIRD MEAL | 35 36 | YOUR GUIDE TO MAKING SHABBAT YOURS THE END OF SHABBAT

When three stars appear on Saturday night, it means that Shabbat, and the special energy it carries, has ended. But, much like the respite of a vacation carries into your return to work, Shabbat can carry into the week ahead. The truth is that Shabbat doesn’t really just end. In fact, there is a mitzvah to extend Shabbat past its concluding time. Shabbat only ends when we recite havdallah, the special ritual that marks the end of Shabbat. In their best-sell- ing book The Power of Moments, Chip and Dan Heath argue that “ending moments” carry an extra power in the memory and experience of participants. Creating impactful moments at the end of an experience will leave a lasting taste going forward. Havdallah doesn’t just end Shabbat; it begins the new week with the lasting taste of holiness. It empowers us to use the Shabbat experience to infuse the upcoming week with energy. It begs us to find time during the week to be pres- ent, to put our phones away and live in the moment. It reminds us of the beauty of a table surrounded by family and friends and challenges us to slow down when we re-enter the rat-race of life. Sometimes though, an extra effort is required to carry Shabbat into the week. Here are a few suggestions to try to take some of the energy of a restful Shab- bat afternoon into a hectic weekday: 1. Pick one meal to be distraction-free. Have one dinner with your family with no phones, and no emails. Recreate that experience around your Shabbat- turned-Tuesday-night table. 2. A central theme of Shabbat is stopping new creations and appreciating what you already have. Take a moment to reflect on, and appreciate the blessings you have been given. 3. You don’t only need to look back, you can look forward as well. Plan for next Shabbat. Think about menus, company, and plans that could enhance your Shabbat. In other words. Shabbat doesn’t really ever have to end.

THE END OF SHABBAT | 37 WHAT’S GOING ON @ THE END OF SHABBAT?

BLESSING OVER WINE Just as we welcome Shabbat in with wine and candles, so too, we honor Shabbat as it leaves with wine and candles during the Havdallah ceremony. It is customary to pour wine into the cup until it overflows to symbolize our hope that God will give us overflowing blessings in the coming week.

SMELLING SPICES We smell spices during Havdallah because our sense of smell is the sense that is least often used for doing evil; it relates to the purest part of a person. As Shabbat ends, we reconnect to the deepest and holiest part of our- selves, and from there we grow and change.

BLESSING OVER A FLAME When Adam and Eve first sinned, they we expelled from the Garden of Eden in shame, fear and darkness. God then gave them the wisdom to create fire to illuminate the night. The Havdallah candle reminds us that we can always find light even in the darkest places.

MELAVEH MALKA MEAL “Melaveh Malka” literally means “escorting the queen.” Shabbat is so precious that we never rush it out the door; rather, we escort the Shabbat Queen with a festive send- off. Throughout our history, great people were careful to make special foods for the Melaveh Malka meal, so as to properly honor Shabbat as it leaves.

38 | YOUR GUIDE TO MAKING SHABBAT YOURS HOW TO MAKE HAVDALLAH “Havdallah” literally means “separation”: in a world with so much confusion, we often struggle to differentiate, separate and prioritize. Ultimately, this wisdom to differentiate between right and wrong, between the important and unimportant, makes us more refined human beings. It is a skill that we strive to incorporate into the coming week as we leave the serenity of Shabbat and become engrossed in weekday matters once again. Just as we welcome the Shabbat Queen in with Kiddush, we escort the Shabbat Queen away with the Havdallah ceremony. Havdallah extends the holiness of Shabbat into the week. It is a time to think about how we will carry over the spirituality we gained on Shabbat into the activities we will do in the coming week.

ENDING SHABBAT When the time for the end of Shabbat has passed, recite the following words. This will allow you to do the weekday activities necessary to prepare for Havdallah: בָּ ּרו ְך הַמַּ בְדִ יל בֵּ ין קֹדֶ ׁש לְ ֹחול. .Baruch ha-mavdil bein kodesh le-chol Blessed is the One [God] Who separates between the sacred and the mundane. PREPARING FOR HAVDALLAH (1) Fill a kiddush cup with either wine or grape juice, until the liquid overflows a bit onto the plate below. (2) Light the Havdallah candle (a braided candle with at least two wicks, or two candles held with their flames touching each other). (3) Make sure you have spices available — we typically use cloves, but check with a Rabbi if you want to use a different spice.

THE END OF SHABBAT | 39 INTRODUCTORY PARAGRAPH Hold the wine cup in the palm of your right hand (or in your left hand if you are a "lefty") and recite the following paragraph: הִ נֵּה אֵ -ל יְ ׁש ּועָתִי אֶ בְטַ ח וְ לֹא אֶפְחָ ד ,Hineih Eil yeshuasi, evtach ve-lo efchad כִּי עָ זִ ּי וְ זִמְרָ ת ּיָ-ה ה׳ וַיְהִ י לִי לִ ׁיש ּועָ ה. ki azi ve-zimras Yah Adonoy, va-yehi li ּו ׁשְ אַ ּבְתֶ ם מַ ֽ יִם בְּשָ ׂ ׂש ֹון מִמַּעַ יְנֵ י lishu’ah. Ushav’tem mayim be-sasson mi-ma’ainei ha-yeshuah. La’Adonoy ha- הַ יְ ׁש ּועָ ה. לַ ה׳ הַ יְ ׁש ּועָה עַל עַמְּ ָך ָ .yeshuah, al amecha bircha-secha selah בִרְ כָתֶ ֽ ך ּסֶ ֽלָ ה. ה׳ צְבָ ֹאות עִמָּ ֽ ּנו מִשְ ׂגָּ ב Adonoy tzeva’os imanu, misgav lanu Elohei לָ ּנו אֱ לֹקֵ י יַעֲ קֹב סֶ ֽלָ ה. ה׳ צְבָ ֹאות אַשְרֵ י Ya’akov selah. Adonoy tzeva’os, ashrei אָדָ ם בֹּטֵ ֽחַ בָּ ְך. ה׳ ֹהו ׁשִֽ יעָה הַמֶּ ֽלֶ ְך יַעֲ ־ ,adam botei’ach bach, Adonoy hoshiah נֵ ּֽנו בְ ֹיום קָרְאֵ ֽ ּנו. לַ יְּ ּהודִ ים הָ יְתָ ה ֹאורָ ה -ha-melech ya’aneinu ve-yom kareinu. La וְשִ ׂמְחָ ה וְשָ ׂ ׂש ֹון וִ יקָ ר. כֵּן ּתִ הְ יֶה לָּ ּֽנו. yehudim hay’esa ora ve-simcha, ve-sason vikar. Kein ti’heyeh lanu. Kos yeshuos esa, כּ ֹוס יְ ׁש ּו ֹעות ּאֶשָ ׂא ּו ׁבְשֵ ם ה׳ אֶקְרָ א. .uve-sheim Adonoy ekra

Behold God is my salvation, I will trust and not be afraid. Indeed, God is my strength and my song and He has become my salvation. You shall draw water with joy from the wells of salvation. Salvation belongs to God; may Your blessings be upon Your people, Selah. The Lord of Hosts is with us, the God of Jacob is a refuge for us, Selah. Lord of Hosts, happy is the man who trusts in You. God, save us; may the King answer us on the day we call. "The Jews had radiance and happiness, joy and honor." So may it be for us. I will raise the cup of salvations and invoke the name of God.

BLESSING OVER WINE While you are still holding the wine cup in the same hand, recite the following blessing. (Skip the first line if you are making Havdallah alone.) סַ בְרִי מָרָ נָן וְרַ בָּנָן וְרַ בּ ֹותַ י: :Savri maranan ve-rabanan ve-rabotai בָּ ּרו ְך ּאַתָ ה ה׳ אֱ לֹקֵ ּינו מֶ לֶ ְך הָ ֹעולָ ם -Baruch ata Adonoy, Eloheinu melech ha olam, Borei peri ha-gafen. ּ ב ֹו רֵ א ּפְ רִ י הַ ָ ּג פֶ ן .

Listen, honored and distinguished ones: Blessed are You, God, King of the Universe, Who creates the fruit of the vine.

40 | YOUR GUIDE TO MAKING SHABBAT YOURS BLESSING OVER SPICES Pass the wine cup to your left hand. Now pick up the spices in your right hand, and recite the following blessing: בָּ ּרו ְך ּאַתָ ה ה׳ אֱ לֹקֵ ּינו מֶ לֶ ְך Baruch ata Adonoy, Eloheinu melech הָ ֹעולָם בּ ֹורֵא מִ ינֵי בְשָ ׂמִ ים. .ha-olam, Borei mini vesamim Blessed are You, God, King of the Universe, Who creates various kinds of spices. After reciting the above blessing, smell the spices. If other people are present, pass the spices around for everyone else to smell.

BLESSING OVER THE FLAME With the wine cup still in your left hand, recite the following blessing: בָּ ּרו ְך ּאַתָ ה ה׳ אֱ לֹקֵ ּינו מֶ לֶ ְך Baruch ata Adonoy, Eloheinu melech ha-olam, Borei me'orei ha-aish. הָ ֹעולָם בּ ֹורֵא מְ ֹאורֵי הָאֵ ׁש. Blessed are You, God, King of the Universe, Who creates the lights of fire. Hold up your fingers to the candle, and gaze at your fingernails under the candle's illimnation. If other people are present, they should do the same. FINAL BLESSING Pass the cup of wine back to your right hand, and recite the concluding blessing: בָּ ּרו ְך ּאַתָ ה ה׳ אֱ לֹקֵ ּינו מֶ לֶ ְך הָ ֹעולָ ם ,Baruch ata Adonoy, Eloheinu melech ha-olam הַמַּ בְדִ יל בֵּ ין קֹדֶ ׁש לְ ֹחול בֵּ ין ֹאור -ha-mavdil bein kodesh le-chol, bein ohr le לְ ׁחֹשֶ ְך בֵּ ין יִשְ ׂרָאֵ ל לָעַמִּ ים בֵּ ין ֹיום -choshech, bein Yisrael la-amin, bein yom ha ְ shevi'i le-sheishes yemei ha-ma'aseh. Baruch ּׁהַשְ בִ יעִ י ׁלְשֵ ׁשֶ ת יְמֵי הַמַּעֲשֶ ׂה. בָּ ּרוך .ata Adonoy, ha-mavdil bein kodesh le-chol ּאַתָ ה ה׳ הַמַּ בְדִ יל בֵּ ין קֹדֶ ׁש לְ ֹחול.

Blessed are You, God, King of the Universe, who makes a distinction between sacred and mundane, between light and darkness, between Israel and the nations, between the seventh day and the six days of work. Blessed are you, God, Who makes a distinction between sacred and mundane. Drink at least 2 ounces of the wine. Use the rest of the wine to extinguish the flame: pour some wine into a dish and immerse the flame in the wine until the fire goes out. It is customary to dip your fingers into the spilled wine, and place some drops onto your eyelids or ears as an omen to "see and hear" good things throughout the week.

THE END OF SHABBAT | 41 RECIPE

PIZZA

Ingredients: 1 package of dry yeast 1 tsp. sugar 1 cup warm water 2 ½ cups flour 2 tsp. olive oil 1 tsp. salt

Directions: Preheat oven to 450° F. In a medium bowl, dissolve yeast and sugar in warm water. Let stand until creamy. Stir in flour, salt, and oil. Whisk until smooth. Let rest for 5 minutes. Pat and roll dough into a flat round circle. Add desired toppings and bake for 15-20 minutes.

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