THE BOW VOL 26, NO.11 December 2018 www.thebowtimes.com FREE 17 PATIENCE and By Donna Deos Patience… is a that we sometimes don’t have! I know, because it happens to me too and I see it frequently in others. At this of the year espe- cially our stress levels rise causing our emotions to more easily flow and our patience to decrease. Since this is happening to each of us this makes it even more im- portant to remember the word patience. We need to have patience Sometimes this can be humorous person we all want for them to be figure that out and can let it go, with ourselves, with each other, as well as the ones without filters again. you solve the issue. with the long lines in stores, and tend to say aloud what our “in- Okay, so please be patient. I If you need help with this, let with the person on the road in side our head voice” is thinking, know it is hard. I know that on me know. I am happy to help you front of us who seems to have which can be very funny indeed! one hand I’m telling you to feel or refer you to a therapist who no clue where they are going. We (Unless you are the one the leak your feelings and anger is a feel- can! also need to have patience with offends). ing; and on the other hand I am Good luck exercising patience our loved ones who appear to be This is also a time of year saying try not to be angry. This is this holiday season! I wish you all having mood swings. where we miss our loved ones because anger is just not one of the the best, as always. When you feel your blood who are either far away or on the feelings that suits folks well over Fondly, pressure rising and the anger other side now. It is okay to miss the long run. Anger is an emotion Donna boiling up inside you, I you them. It is okay to wish they were that is best to recognize and ad- will think of this little reminder still here with you. It is also per- dress right away. You can over- and say “yes, I need to take a fectly fine to enjoy the time you come anger when you turn your deep breath. Whatever is bugging spend with the friends and loved attention toward calling it out for me right now is temporary and in ones still here. Sometimes we feel what it is. Then you can say, “yes, the greater scheme of things, not guilty enjoying ourselves when that makes me angry, but is that really such a big deal.” Please try we think we should be sad – or really what I want to feel?” Or, do not to use angry words toward vice versa. We do not need to feel I want to take a deep breath, real- the other person. It will not help guilty for our feelings. We need to ize that whatever made me angry either of you. Neither will hand embrace them and move through is not worth it and move on? gestures. These things only esca- them. That is what they are for: to Long ago I was told “if some- late situations. We all know this help us become better people and one has a problem with you, that and yet somehow, in the moment, let go of things that we no longer is their problem.” It took me a we cannot help ourselves. Yes, need to hold onto. long time to embrace that one. “Happy Hookers” I too can be guilty as charged. Along that same vein, please The flipside to this is that if you Knitting Club You know you are too. Some- do not tell other people how have a problem with someone or Meets at 9:00 AM times we need a reminder that the they should be feeling. Everyone something that is your problem. “inside our head voice” is better is entitled to their own feelings. Yikes, right?! Being angry with Tuesdays used there than the “outside our Just because we prefer them to them is not really the issue then at White Rock head voice” and, yes, we all slip be happy does not mean that is is it? Some other issue needs to be up sometimes. Forgive yourself what they really need to be feel- dealt with so you can no longer let and others when these leaks hap- ing right now. It is not about us the anger occur. I find that most pen. In addition, the older we and our wants and needs. It is times I come to this point I look get, the more this seems to hap- about everyone’s own wants and at myself and say, okay so is it pen so when Grandma has “lost needs. Please allow others to feel worth it then? What do I need to her filter” please know she does what they need to. This is how get over so this person no longer not mean to hurt your feelings. they heal and can get back to the pushes my buttons? When you

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