B2 THE UNION-TRIBUNE SUNDAY • JULY 8, 2018

MEDIATE THIS ! A TEXTING DRIVER, A COLLISION AND A BAD LOAN BY STEVEN P. DINKIN you will need each other’s this secret from your par- support to fix the rest of this ents is burdening you with Dear Mediator: mess. stress that will accrue over My roommate and I have Approach your room- time. What’s the best way to been best friends since mate with a peace offering of come clean? middle school. She texts her favorite snack. Tell her If your roommate contin- while driving, which is a you care about her, then ues to behave irresponsibly, problem. She clipped a light start reconnecting with a tell your parents the whole pole in April and was afraid go-to conflict resolution truth. to tell her parents. So I tool, the open-ended ques- If she straightens out loaned her $1,000 for the car tion: “How’s everything and makes amends, tell repair out of savings my going?” most of the truth. You hasti- parents set up for me. She Mediation strategies ly lent money to a friend for hasn’t paid back any of it. often seem counterintuitive. a car repair, and you’re Now I’m afraid my parents Since she’s the one who trying to get repaid. will notice the withdrawal owes you money, shouldn’t Assure them you know and ask about it. My room- she make the first move? this was an “immature” mate and I are barely speak- And shouldn’t you immedi- decision, and you have ing. And I think she’s still ately press for payment? learned a lesson. For par- texting and driving. The answers are “no” ents, “immature” acts as a Messed Up and “no.” When a dispute code word. It is a subtle in Linda Vista involves a person who needs GETTY IMAGES reminder that, eons ago, help, addressing that need This week’s question is posed by a reader who helped a friend when she had an they too were young and Dear Messed Up: is a first step toward resolv- accident while driving and texting. acted imprudently (see On the bumpy road from ing the standoff. opening sentence). adolescence to full maturity, Your roommate’s poor determined by the decisions cellphone in the back seat firm stand and risking her young adults have a knack judgment and irresponsible she makes. while driving. alienation. Steven P. Dinkin is a professional for turning one calamity behavior may signal she’s Texting while driving is A This is non-negotiable. If As for the debt, this has mediator who has served as into three or four. A media- struggling with an under- Very Big Problem, the kind she vacillates or starts taught you that loan repay- president of the San-Diego based tor would start by unpack- lying issue. Sometimes the that gets people killed and arguing, you will have to tell ment terms must be stipu- National Conflict Resolution Center ing your shared bundle of greatest act of friendship is lands drivers in jail. You your parents all about the lated before money is han- since 2003. Do you have a conflict challenges and working to listen closely while some- cannot directly stop her accident, and they are cer- ded over. that needs a resolution? Please through each one (including one pours out what’s on her from this illegal conduct. tain to tell her parents. If your roommate can’t share your story with The Mediator the “red alert” item in the mind. But you can lay down a When you deliver this pay back the $1,000 at once, via email at mediatethis@ pile). You want to empathize marker to curtail it. news, emphasize that, given she should start paying ncrconline.com or as an online Your first priority is to with her. You also want her Given that she’s already what you know about her installments that she can submission by visiting repair your friendship. You to empathize with you. You had one texting accident, collision, you now feel re- afford. www.ncrconline.com/MediateThis. two have a longstanding are in a real predicament. she must make a personal sponsible for her safety. Now for the problem that All submissions will be kept bond worth sustaining. And The actions you take will be pledge to you to stash her That’s why you’re taking a is strictly yours. Keeping anonymous.

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EDUCATION: LAURA GROCH OUTDOORS: ERNIE COWAN Teens earn 2018 FFA Degree awards Anza-Borrego sheep count is extreme San Diego County students are among Brad Hines, Cameron Horton, Steven Hull, True nature lovers can’t be fair weather recipients of the 2018 State FFA Kyra Keppeler, Alfonso Lizarraga, Miranda friends. Degree, given in recognition of years of aca- Medford, Tanner Paquette, Lenny Ray, Sure, we all enjoy going for a refreshing demic and professional excellence by the Madi Reaves, Ariana Reyes, Serena Snyder, summer nature hike in the mountains, California FFA Organization. Alondra Villa, Shane Wickerd. maybe a spring visit to the desert for wild- Besides having held a Chapter Degree Pine Valley-Mountain Empire: Osvaldo flowers, or a stroll along the shoreline dur- for at least a year, State FFA honorees must Cruz, Alyssa Hobbs, Ashley Platel, Hector ing seal pupping season. put in at least 500 hours on their Supervised Rodarte, Sujhey Rosas, Dylan Shea. But the true nature lover is up for adven- Agricultural Experience program. They Poway: Keely Blucher, Catalina Gonza- ture and discovery anytime, 24/7, no matter must earn at least $1,000 from an agricul- lez, Joshua Goodman, Taylor Nasland, the conditions. And the rewards for that tural enterprise or other agriculture-re- Cody Nelson, Kelsey Oliveri, Austin Patter- can be outstanding. Just ask Ashley Kvitek, lated work, which they have deposited in a son, Heather Pearson, Ryan Steed. an effervescent young lady who works for bank or otherwise invested. They also must Ramona: Jonah Beene, Loreena Dun- the Anza-Borrego Foundation, sponsors of demonstrate leadership in various ways. away, Trevor Herman, Megan Kelly, Della the 48th annual Desert Bighorn Sheep ASHLEY KVITEK Earning degrees from local chapters were: Linnell, Russell Sorbo, Trevor Stemper, Ja- Count. Counters set up an outpost at the Escondido: Brianna Davis, Jasmine cob Youngblood. The annual sheep count is not a walk in Fourth Grove in Upper Palm Canyon. Hoofard, Kassidy Martin, Kasin Martin, San Marcos: Evelyn Castillo, Patricia the park. In fact, they call the event the “Ex- Breyden Scates, Sierra Takacs. Garcia. treme Sheep Count,” because it happens teers who hiked about 4 rugged miles in the Fallbrook: Liliana Arteaga Wigle, Brandy Valley Center: Hailey Bjerknes, Cather- each year at the peak of summer heat when summer heat to set up an observation post Bowlin, Naomi Cavanaugh, Madison Evans, ine Leishman, Elijah Martineau, Elise McK- few people venture into the zone of triple- at Fourth Grove in Upper Palm Canyon. Raelynn Holmes, Katherine Kehl, Alexander insey, Gregory Nicholas, Alannah Pena, digit temperatures. This was her fifth count. Maier, Marison Salas, Isai Soto. Rachel Utter. This year’s event ended successfully “I took the plunge and went all-in crazy. I Lakeside-El Capitan: Hector Altami- Vista: Lindsey Courduff, Enrique Es- with more than 70 volunteers scattering to backpacked in and stayed from Thursday rano, Troy Attig, Kyle Bachar, Cody Brown, trella, Kierra S. Newsom. remote locations, some spending most of evening through Sunday,” she said. There Cayla Burgio, Cole Dexheimer, Elizabeth Warner Springs-Warner: Ash Laidlaw, four days camping out and living out of were three other veteran counters in her Giddings, Chloe Harris, Patricia Herrera, Desert Laidlaw. backpacks. team. The annual citizen-science project is an During the day, with temperatures important source of information for wildlife climbing to 102, her team sat on a ridge managers who use the observations to de- above the palm grove where the sheep come San Diego Datebook “Monty Python’s Spamalot”: 7:30 p.m. Wednes- termine population, condition, movements for water. In the evenings, counters would days-Thursdays; 8 p.m. Fridays; 3 and 8 p.m. and potential threats to the small herd of move down into the canyon to camp. Art exhibit: opening today and on display Saturdays; 2 and 7 p.m. Sundays, through sheep found here only in a narrow band “On our way down to camp, I stepped through Jan. 20, 2020, at the San Diego His- Aug. 5 at the Cygnet Theatre, 4040 Twiggs along the western edge of Anza-Borrego right over a juvenile speckled rattlesnake. It tory Center, 1649 El Prado, Balboa Park. St., Old Town. Tickets are $35 to $60. Infor- Desert State Park. was not happy with me and slithered over to “LGBTQ+ San Diego: Stories of Struggles mation:(619)337-1525orcygnettheatre.com. This year’s count recorded 225 animals, a snake-sized cave to curl up into a defen- and Triumphs” explores the history and “Once”: 7:30 p.m. Tuesdays and Thursdays; 2 compared with last year’s tally of 207. The sive posture,” she said. evolution of San Diego’s LGBTQ+ commu- and 7:30 p.m. Wednesdays; 8 p.m. Fridays; 4 highest total of 356 was recorded in 2009. Later in the count, she started to get up nity. Donations of $10 are suggested. Infor- and 8 p.m. Saturdays; 2 p.m. Sundays, One significant observation was the re- from her chair and realized she had been mation: (619) 232-6203 or sandiegohistory- through Aug. 12 at Lamb’s Players Theatre, turn of sheep to Rattlesnake Spring, an ex- sharing it with a scorpion. .org. 1142 Orange Ave., Coronado. Tickets are $28 tremely remote location in the Santa Rosa But there were rewards that few get to Art exhibit: through today at the New Ameri- to $78, with discounts available. Informa- Mountains. Last year, counters saw no enjoy, such as a chorus of frogs at night, cans Museum, 2825 Dewey Road, Liberty tion: (619) 437-6000 or lambsplayers.org. sheep there because the spring was dry. bats, damsel and dragon flies and tadpoles. Station in Point Loma. “Beyond Bollywood: “Vanishing Images” art exhibit: Through July 20 at This year, water has returned to the “While filtering water each night, we Indian Americans Shape the Nation” is a Mission Trails Regional Park Visitor Center spring and there were 35 sheep counted, were able to observe a plethora of aquatic traveling exhibit from the Smithsonian In- art gallery, 1 Father Junipero Serra Trail, and that was the highest number seen at wildlife in the stream,” she said. stitute that includes work by local artist San Diego. In this new exhibit, Mary and any one location, except Second Grove in You might think she would be ready to Bhavna Mehta, photographs, artifacts, and Michael Peddecord have selected their fa- Palm Canyon, which also recorded 35. escape the shimmering summer heat of the interactive learning stations. Free. Informa- vorite photos from their trips to Kenya, Ant- The sheep count is about numbers, for desert, but she is now looking ahead to sum- tion: (619) 756-7707 or newamericansmuseu- arctica, Yellowstone National Park, Alaska those unusual people who thrive in the mer thunderstorms. m.org. and Arctic Svalbard to demonstrate the desert summer heat, it’s far more than that. “When the rains come in summer, my fa- Mini Exhibition at Sparks Gallery: through Tuesday need they see for conservation of the ani- During their adventure, the sheep counters vorite thing to do is look for the elusive fairy atSparksGallery,530SixthAve.,downtown. mals they’ve photographed and their natu- will see wonders that only the hardcore will shrimp. They are absolutely magical,” she This exhibit of 10-by-10-in or less pieces high- ral habitats. Free. Information: (619) 668- experience. said. lights the work of 28 previously featured and 3281 or mtrp.org. Some count locations are short hikes What would you expect from a hardcore new artists, all of whom are from Southern that allow volunteers to come out and at nature lover? California. Free. Information: sparks- Send Datebook items at least 14 days before desired night enjoy the comfort of a local hotel. gallery.com. publication date to: [email protected] Kvitek, however, was one of the volun- Email [email protected]

FROM THE ARCHIVES | LOOKING BACK OVER 150 YEARS

KAREN HANTZE CAPTURES TWO WIMBLEDON CROWNS SUSMAN WINS AT WIMBLEDON By Dave Gallup Karen Hantze Susman, a pretty, brown- The San Diego Union-Tribune will mark its 150th anniversary in 2018 by presenting a sig- eyed blonde with a reserved smile and a nificant front page from the archives each day throughout the year. soft, shy voice, Saturday brought the All- England women’s championships, both singles and doubles, back to San Di- Sunday, July 8, 1962 ego. From La Jolla to Chula Vista and at Mor- In 1962, Karen Hantze Susman, 19, became the youngest women’s competitor since San ley field and throughout the area, tennis Diegan Maureen Connolly to win the women’s singles title at Wimbledon. buffs rejoiced at the news from Wimbledon of Here are the first few paragraphs of the story: Karen’s great triumph, the first of its kind since San Diego’s Maureen Connolly Brinker won three straight in 1952, ’53 and S.D.’S KAREN WINS WIMBLEDON TITLES ’54. Time, fate and talent caught up with Diegans — they first saw her as a pigtailed 9- Karen whipped Vera Sukova, a 30-year- Karen Hantze Susman Saturday on the year-old when she caught the eye of another old Czechoslovakian, 6-4, 6-4, for the singles famed Centre Court at Wimbledon, England San Diego Wimbledon champion, Maureen title, then she and Billie Jean Moffitt, a fellow — and San Diego embraced another cham- (Little Mo) Connolly. Californian from Long Beach, defeated San- pion. In a prophetic profile in 1952, Karen and dra Reynolds Price and Rene Schuurman of Karen, 19, won the World Series of wom- Maureen were featured in the pages of The South Africa, 5-7, 6-4, 7-5, for the doubles ti- en’s tennis with a steady, determined 6-4, 6-4 San Diego Union’s Parade magazine. At 9, tle. victory over Vera Sukova, 30, of Chechoslo- Karen was being mentioned as a woman’s And husband Rodney gets a big fat assist vakia. champ “around 1962.” for Karen’s brilliant march. And then she teamed with Billie Jean Every champion has a start. Karen began This was the verdict of Karen, a native Moffitt of Long Beach to win a second crown by winning San Diego’s Ink Tournament (for San Diegan now residing in San Antonio, — women’s doubles — 5-7, 6-4, 7-5, over San- junior and senior high school students) six Tex., when interviewed by telephone Sat- dra Reynolds Price and Rene Schuurman of straight times. Maureen Connolly did that, in the second set to clinch the singles title. urday following her triumph. South Africa. too. No other woman has. Karen’s victory made her the third- “He’s been a terrific help,” said the 19- When it was all over, 15,000 Englishmen youngest player to win the title and returned year-old bride of 10 months. “He’s been my roared their approval and tennis-loving San A REAL FIGHTER the championship to the for sole practice, and he knows a lot about ten- Diegans nodded knowingly — Karen was on But what San Diegans may have known the first time since 1958, when nis. He watches the other girls play, studies top, as they knew she’d one day be. first — and what the world found out Sat- triumphed. their games, then together we map out a urday — was that Karen Hantze Susman is a Part of a trans-Atlantic interview with strategy.” KNEW HER WHEN fighter. Tongue in her teeth, scrambling for Dave Gallup, The San Diego Union’s tennis “You mean he scouts the other girls?” Following Karen had been easy for San every shot, she fought back from a 0-3 deficit writer, from Page g-1, appears next: asked the interviewer.

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