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III This isNiii • Katie Mahaney and Bobby Belscy at the GAGVs Sweetheart SMttonA Ball/Black and Red Bash. Toddy Bears and Rams 3 Page A14 Newsfronts 4 Interview: NTID's DeafGLO 6 Making the Scene ~.^ 14 SMtlonB Entertainment: B«uitiliil Mind..». I Colun>nflsts S Home/Travel/Style: Dining out in San Juan, traveb in Vermont...^ 10 Gay Groups - 12 Community Center News.» 14 Classifieds 15 Number 344 Calendar : , «„ ,„,. 16 March Cartoons .™ ^ ^^«.,.23 A Publkation of the Qxf Alliance of the Genesee Valley ,— -.... •„,—^ -..I—I— I ^—^^^_ ACLU asks state to MewsFronts end discmnination • LOCAL AND STATE Will appeal ruling on lesbian partner denied benefits InCommunity funding woricshops start March 4 By Susan Jordam "I can't say.l was totally surprised (at What happens to couples who the outcome of the hearing), espe The Gay Alliance's first can*t marry legally, but are then cially after some of the judge's com InCommunity workshops for area told that they are ineligible for ments. I had a feeling it might not go not-for-profits on fundraising and benefits because they aren't mar our way. I v/as obviously disap board-building will be held March ried? pointed, but he's not the last word 4 and 5, in conjunction with the Currently* New York State does — wc are appealing." Denver-based Gill Foundation. not recognize same-sex partners Newland said that she applied for The workshops will be pre as "spouses," and therefore re unemployment only after many sented by Gill Foundation employ fuses to give the same unemploy months of futile job-hunting. "I ees, hosted at the Red Cross's ment benefits that are available to waited quite some time before I headquarters at 50 Prince St. Jeanne Newland. center, with her partner Natasha Doty and their dog opposite sex married partners to even applied," she said. "I'd been out The March 4 workshop is "Build Duke. Newland v^ras denied unemployment benefits after she left her job lesbian and gay partners. The of work 10 months when I applied. a Better Board." and the March S to move from Rochester to Virginia with Doty, because the couple is not ACLU, in the case of Jeanne I v\âs so sure I'd get hired, but the workshop is titied "Fundraising allowed to legally marry. Thc ACLU has taken their case. Newland. Is asking New York bills kept coming in and things started Fundamentals". Activities begin at State to change its discriminatory getting really bad. Not only did it 2 p.m., with registration, refresh policy and include sanne-sex hurt to be denied benefits, but if ments and networking, and the couples, who are unable to legally win. It will be great on paper — but workshops run from 2:45 to 6:15. marry. it wasn't there when I really needed Each workshop is $ 10. Jeanne Newland and Natasha it. Now it's more a ntatter of prin Further workshops will be held Doty have been together for over ciple than need." April 22 and 23 ("Dive Into Fund four years. They moved to Roch Newland said that her former ^^.Wmî^fm^ym^l^r^ k:fbr p.m^ w^ mn^Jbt lc>a)^ on "Donors"); Sept. 17 and 18 ("Nitty A year later, after Natasha found a ing, my employer showed up to say Gritty of Getting Grants Part I" job in Vir;ginia, the coupte moved they felt I deserved to get the ben and "Part II'*); Oct. 9 and 10 ("Su to Richmond, Va. Due to the re efits, even though it will cost them ri)«imfa^theYoudiAdyl^ WHh th«* ^ddWon* and per Special Events" and cession. Jeanne was unable to find some money. But they want all their ^$9i«dffJUpofYouth Grot^ni^m^ ctun^get^ w» w^ now be «jMo «a "Incorporate Corporate Sponsor work for 10 months, and tried to employees to get benefits; they said. JM^^^ÔOthO^^^ MTVf ^4ich b^»n^ in mM<^ ships"); and Nov. 13 and 14 f Con flje for N.Y.S. unemployment ben go ahead and pay the claim, even jg«^^.^.h|w bjEMf ilâ«dr«.„ Jfiho€*1g«s?^^ aifg^ ?3, riM«iii« quer a Capital Campaign" and efits as a "trailing spouse." but she though It might ultimately raise their Jîr^htn#ith««iicr«f^ I)od¥yo9i^jan^<^dttryotî^ "Breathe Life Into Planned Giv was refused because she Is not insurance premiums. The company %«#t^jffMAh coti$lii^.ô4hopro* . mmtmMbre^ < ing"). married to Natasha. had domestic partner benefits when For more information, call the A "Rochester Community Con I worked for them, but it never :%||4»;l>l3Pîdtwhoî^«f^^ ^««^^|hftô»^^9^^ GAGV at 244-8640. versation on Discrimination entered my mind that I'd need un International Women's Against Same-Sex Couples" was employment—or that being straight ^'^Wt^p^pww*" ^\ -•. ^^yBBii^««ril.^T8^^ everyone. held at the GAGV Community or gay would be an issue. ^^ 11^r«tiifeofallour|^^ Y0m'^9d^ Day event is ^ March 9 Center onjan. 24. Shordy thereaf- Marriage isn't an option for me,' Hit^ Addtdon or a rtiw,^|6 f\ women, will be observed here on

ter. who ruled against Newland, social services, benefits and all those * V «^ March 9 with a day of workshops but an appeal Is underway. things have that criteria." She said and speakers at the Unitarian tl Newland. who has now found she finds it ^^ry controlling that Church, 220 S. Winton Rd. empbyment. told the Empty Ooset ACLU continued on p. 3 Activities will start at 8:45 to 9:15, with registration and wel come, followed by workshops which witl Include "Gay, Lesbian Judy Shepard speaks at Nazareth on hate crimes and Transgender Workplace Or- By Misty WaJUng ^inlaitions", scheduled for 9:20 saki. Because her son Matthev/'s life *'lt's a phone call no parent should Silence so thick It could be cut with to 10:50 a.m. was cut short due to a horrific hate ever have to get,** she saki, "and my razors. A stillness hung heavily in After the two sctgrnents of morn crime, hts noother is now on a mis hope is that It Is one no parent will the air, as over 300 people waited ing workshops, lunch catered by sion, dHven by k>ve to make sure ever have to worry about getting In the main lecture hell ac Nazareth Savory Thyme will be from 12:30 people all ovar the worid know of ever again." Collie Arts Center fbr the Intro- to 1: 15 p.m. Afternoon workshops his story, in hopes that ntr^^r again When asked how we can tum ductkMi of Judy Shepard on the win run untH 3. p.m, when there will agay person's life be so brutally this dream into reality, ''education night of Feb. 6. wiU be a vmip-up and evaluation* ended. and acceptance" was her response. As she was introduced by Amy The conference fee Is $6 which Judy Shepard spoke atgraat Iengdi Many of us thou^t noere toliwance Ju^ Sheperd at Nazaredw Fox. the president of Lambda at aboutthe events IbHowlngthe phone was the key to a safe environment Includes lunch. For re^stration and tnformatk>n, caN Eva Nasiadka at Nazareth, the auditorium erupted caH she receded nodfying her and '*We tolerate bad hair days,** she filled wfth hope for the future. She (585)262-444a IWD bsponsored wfth applause, as it wouM several her husband Dennis and younger sakl with a sH^ smile. "We don't continues to travel the country by lietro-jusdce's Intemational tln>es as the night went on. son Logan about the horrible fate tolerate people.** taNdng to people from all waHcs <^ Ufa, reaching OMt to try to revwse Women's Day Conmilttae. **Vm not a-publlc spealcer. Tm a that had beMlen Matthew that Oc* Althoui^her seory Is one of heart* mom with a story."* Mrs. Sheperd tober day back In 1998. break, her heart and words were Sheperd contimied on page 3 Newsbriefc cont. <»n p. 3 irinm

-1^4^^:^^^^: ^^mt^'H^'^'^^- nor wW ¥M lit a forum fcr ongoing dis LETTERS TO THE EDITOR: putes between /*.j>^^r^,^^ ACLU continued from p. I the same situation in the future would probably Th« opinions of columnists, «dftorial wrlt- the right to ediclar apace anii c£rft^M«t t have to go through the same process (before an •rs and oth«r contributing writers *r« heterosexuals are forced to marry in order "*" r"*"* 1 '^n%^n ic'ihi mt.!,' ' Administrative Law fudge), whereas ifthe Appeal ih«lr own md do not necessarily reflect and phone number are provided to the to get benefits, while gays are forced not to the collective attitude of the Gay Alliance Board rules in our favor, it would seta precedent Editon confidentiaUty vrill be respected nnarry, even If they want to. Perspectives ofthe Genesee Valley or the Empty Closet. Submissions are due by the ISth ofthe fbr atl of the state which would be binding on This whole thing has been dlffkuit," she We will print letters at the editor's discre nwnth actlia Empty Ooaet. 179 Atlan judges." saki, ''not just what I went through not tion and on a space avallabie basis.We will tic AvflL Rochester NY 14607*1255; email viewpoints that matter not print personal atucks on individuals. This past summer, the ACLU won a landnnark empcydoset@gayaHtaiM:e.orz getting unemployment, but this whole ex case at the highest court of New York that says perience. It's important to challenge things " -t *'. ' ' '-^ J> - ' - -^ . \V J^jiK-vWtXV .^ ^ ,^^>;J^ ^J^ ' that discriminating on the basis of marriage is a ^:^?..*v- ^V> IHce dtis. I feel privileged that Tm actually form of discrimination against gay couples. able to do something about it. Other people don^t always have that opportunit/. I'm not Shepard continued from p* I IVewsfronts • LOGALAND STATE NEWS saying I'm some sort of martyr, but one the dangerous effecthate has on the community, reason I did this was to make sure this fVliJftti^-rfhntfi^ r so that someday we wilt all be free to iove. doesn't happen to anyone else. I wasn't on When a member of the audience asked her the street or destitute; t was fortunate that how she felt about Jerry Falweli's comment Turning the Comer Natasiia had a job. But som« people aren't Thank you all following the SepC i I attacks (statements in in my situation, and this could be devastating which he directiy blamed our community, among to them. Even though i have a job now, (stilt others), she smiled and said, "If he only knew By Bill Hawley, Executive Director think it's important to continue with this." An Empty Cbset Editorial by Susan Jordan how much good he does to strengthen the unity Newfand's attomey Romy Mancini told of our community, he would just shut the heck hen r was growing up in rural All this good steady growth, service and the Empty Ooset, *The Adminstrative Law up." This brought the audience to its feet in ur lgbt commanity, as thc abbreviations show, is made up of divetse gtoups — Pennsylvania, everyone wished progress brought us to a comer a few years judge said he was constrained by a 1989 diunderous applause. lesbians, gaymen, bisexuals, transgendered (and intersexed) people. There are many Wthat our school districts were ago, when the GAGV obtained a state grant decision in which an unmarried hetero When Bit! Hawley, Executive Director ofthe other "neighborhoods" of different kinds within the community. We vary widely O rich enough to have football. We only had through the LGBT Health and Human Service sexual coupte applied for benefits, or rather Gay Alliance, presented her with a bouquet of in our class and ethnic backgrounds, our life experiences, our incomes and professions/jobs, soccer. We thought we were behind everyone Network. GAGV added more staff and started the female partner did. The judge in that flowers, she wiped back tears and hugged him, our degree of openness, our political and religious beliefs. else, never dreaming that soccer would be so the Teen-Age Support and Services Program case found they didn't have 'good cause'; then thanked us for allowing her to come to Althou^ the one thing we all have in com- ously in time, enetgy and money to help the popular now. Who knew? (TASS). Rob Gelder, as our first Executive because they were not married, the woman Rochester But the real thanks goes to the mon is, at some point in our lives, loving and/ GAGV this year, sp>ecifically at the Sweet The desire to be like the big schools finally Director, began to guide the GAGV around didn't have a 'compelling* reason to follow Shepard family for educating the world, in hopes or desiring f>ersons of the same gender, even heart Bail in February. All of those names are won out, whether our community could af the comer. We remain grateful for his leader her partner and leave her former job. The of making it a safe place for everyone. within the area of love and sexuality there is a only the tip of the iceberg. So many have ford it or not. Just as I entered high school, ship and work io helping the organization to Administrative l-aw judge said that constitu "Matthew wouldn't have wanted me to go wide range of different oudooks and behav- tionai arguments were being made that he helped and contributed over the years, as each our school started a varsity football team. enter the tum. home and do nothing; he would have wanted mc couldn't address; he said Ue doesn't have lors. In short, the "gay community" is hardly generation has passed on the torch. We de- So why would a kid like me care whether or Now as I begin to lead the GAGV, as its to do something." she said, "tf I could prevent the monolithic entity perceived by those who enough authority to change the rules against pend on our volunteers — and that includes not we had football? It meant, ofcourse, that second Executive Director, I realize that we th is from happening to another famiiy, just once... would stereotype us, and who talk endlessly benefits for unmarried couples." the members of the Board, who volunteer the band had to leave the concert stage and hit are still in the midst ofthe turn. I can't help but then I've done my job, and Matthew didn't die in and condemningly about "the gay lifestyle". A Ram with a bear. without thought of recognition or reward. the football field and march! Learning how to recall how much easier it was for the band to Mancini said tiie next step is to file an vain." There is no such thing. We don^t have The editor would like to take this opportu make eight steps in a straighc row for each 10 march in a straight row than to tum a comer. appeal with the Unemployment insurance For more information on how you can help "lifestyles," we have lives. And, whiie of nity to thank the Etttpty Oi?jtf/volunteers who yards wasn't too difficult. But then we had to Just as funding for the Tcen-Age Support Appeal Board. "We're in the process of stop hate crimes in your community, log onto course there are many similarities and com Visually impaired. Regular and Adaptive ing since November, He has just now (Dec. are currendy making it possible to bring you learn how to make a comer. Ftn not even and Services becomes more secure in the appealing/' she said. "The Appeal Board the following web sites: www.hrc.org; mon values within our community, no two this paper every month — and here again, it may or may not hold another hearing; prob Physical Education, Counseling and Play 19) started working again. I have been going to mention pinwheels. Marching in a govemor's Executive Budget, our grant is more www.matthewsplace.com; www.PFLAG.com; lives are exacdy the same. won't be possible to list all the names, even of straight line was one thing; making a clean, ably not. They have the option to call an Therapy are the major services supplied. extremely worried that my children were than halfway through. In April we will enter AOL keyword matthew's place. For more com While this diversity often makes it hard to those who have helped out just in the past few sharp comer, keeping each row straight as it other hearing; to remand the case to the If you were there for the November not going to even get Christmas this year. the fourth out of five years. In the next two ment on Judy Shepard's talk, see Womanspirit in come together — what does a banker from months. Deep gratitude and appreciation to: pivoted, was quite another. On top of it all, same or adifferent administrative law judge, bar night, "The Rams* First Annual Christ Thank you again. years, a lot of fiinding will need to be replaced the Columnists sectton. Fairport have in common with an inner-city the director expected us to play our instru or to base their decision on the transcript of mas Toy Drive." you saw the pool table Sincerely, Doug, Dave, Joe, Marj, Don, Jim E., by on-going regular contributions, other grants, teenager, or a 40-something lesbian mom with Jean, Tony, Brad S., Eric, Ove, Dennis T., ments in tune. the hearing and the lawyers' briefs. The piled several feet deep with all the toys. Becky, Dustin. Garrett, Lacritia and Jason and fiirther fund-raising. Rams receive thank- X ' a single gay man aged 21? — when we let Migucl, Deb, Tom, Mark, Jeff, Karen, Afteryears of making a difference by steadily Appeal Board can hear the case de novo, Rich R. of the Rams has worked at The Board also has lots of great ideas about "Thanks so much for your donation of diversity unite us rather than divide us, we Sheila, Jeannie, Rosematy, Jack, Herb, going forward since 1973, the Gay Alliance of which means they don't have to defer to the Roosevelt for four years, and was de how the GAGV can expand its program and yous for Xmas toys toys for this holiday season. Due to circum become a powerful and effective constituency, Maty, Dennis M. and Shadow, Jim C, the Genesee Valley began to tum a comer a first judge's ruling. They most often decide lighted to take 14 large leaf-size plastic outreach. The community center is bursting at stances beyond my control (my husband with access to every circle and level of the Wendee, Erik, Misty, Robin, Deanna, and few years ago. Thanks to advertisers and do cases on paper, so that's what I think they'll By Rich R., President 2002 bags full of toys to the Children's Center. the seams and often space is nor available for left me and my four kids a few months ago) larger society, from the streetcomer to the everyone else who has written, taken photos, nations from members, our most visible con do." The Rochester Rams Annual Christmas Toy The Rams selected Roosevelt in an every group that would like it. We hope to I was very worried about making it a speciaJ i boardroom. We have queer friends and straight proofread, typed, worked on layout, stuffed sumer product and service, Thc Empty Closet^ Mancini said her argument is based on the Drive was a great success this year. Collections effort to have a more direct contact with reach out to the communities and areas out Christmas for them. Now they each will allies, support instead of isolation. envelopes and helped wirh bulk mailing and gave voice to our LGBT community when fact that the 1989 case and the Newland were made at the Rams' November Bar Night, the destination of our toy drive. And to side of Rochester, and truly be thc Gay Alli have at least one really nice toy they will The Gay Alliance not only fosters that unity, distribution. accessing the mainstream paper was extremely case are very different, in that the unmar and The Bachelor Forum donated the proceeds our surprise, the Roosevelt community ance of the Genesee Valley, and not just enjoy! it depends on it. Our mission statement man It's not some faceless, impersonal entity difficult. The GAGV sponsored a film festi ried heterosexuals could have chosen to of a special raffle held the next week. Well over made direct contact back to the Rams, Rochester's Gay Alliance. Thanks and God Bless— dates that thc GAGV empower all the diverse called the GAGV that magically produces val and gave birth to Image Out, which is now marry, but lesbian and gay couples like 300 toys were collected, and atso nearly $300 in and through them lo the Rochester gay I am very gratefiil for the support of this Stacy X." eletnents within the community so they can advocacy and services all year for passive an institution on its own. Other otganizations Jeanne and Natasha cannot. "If the rule cash donations. community, with many touching thank- cotnmunity and am excited about bcgirming *To whom it may concem: thrive both collectively and as unique individu recipients. It's YOU who actively make good like thc Empire State Pride Agenda found tums on marriage, that has to have a ratio This year the Rams selected the Roosevelt you notes and cards - notes on lined my service to you. I hope you will continue to t would like to thank you for the Christ als. But if the Alliance gives, it also needs to things happen for yourself and your commu space in our cotnmunity center. A program nal basis," she said. Mancini added that the Children's Center in Newark, N.Y. as the spon school paper torn out of a wire binder, support die work ofthe GAGV by volunteer mas gifts. take, in order to keep providing sup{x>rt and nity, through your generosity, hard work and coordinator was added, supporting our com Equal Protection Clause in the state and sored organization. Roosevelt serves all of Wayne notes on "cards" made out of construc ing and participating in our mission and pro My son loves the cars and dinos. He plays connection to those who, 30 years ago, had commitment. Thank you all! munity through programs like thc Next Step federal constitutions protect everyone, in Councy and some of northern Ontario and tion paper, notes sent in on Christmas with them all day and sleeps with the dinos absolutely nothing but silence, invisibility, and, groups, Datir^ 101 and the referral line. Out gram. Tuming the comer takes more work and spite ofthe fact that no state or federal laws Seneca Counties, supplying Early Intervention cards. at bedtime. My daughter loved the Barbie all too often, self-hate. Reading copies of thc reach to thc greater community was also ac effort than the straightaway, but it's worth the explicidy protect Igbt cidzens from deniai of (Infant and Toddler) and Pre-School Programs. Most of these thank-yous will be up in eariy £^Ccirca 1973, we see news items like the From Our Readers complished through Safe Zone Training and effort. I hope you'll help us tum the comer. About 325 students are serviced in 21 classroom the Rams Showcase in the Bachelor Fo and the coloring pages. The musical bear one about thc teenage boy arrested for loiter was a great gift for the baby. other efforts. Ironically, the negative ruling by the Ad sets (in the main building in Newark and in rum for a while for you to see and read. ing "effeminately" at Midtown Mali. If that Thank you again for everything. May God ministrative Law judge may have been bet satellite classrooms) and In on-the-road home- We want to share some of these with the teenager were living in Rochestcr today, s/he Discrimination in (did I mention northeast comer?) bless you in the New Year. He left SW another person came in. I finished, ter for the cause of same sex coupies. since based and head-start based individual programs community who made this toy drive pos could find support, connection, counseling, We went there together and I entered the Carey X" Marlcetplace Mall? washed my hands and left. Meeting him by the a positive decision by him would not have all over the area. sible: and kids like hirself to talk to and bond with at stall as he was at the urinal. He asked what wc "Thank you for your thoughts this season To the Eclitor: escalator, we descended and proceeded to the had as much impact as a decision by the Roosevelt supplies regular classroom experi "Dear Ram Motorcycle Ctub, the GAGV Youth Gtoup. Making that kind of were doing after thc mall and I mentioned we exit. during the rough times, and for keeping the One day in January, my lover and I (to Appeal Board wilt have. '"One Administra ences and many special needs experietKes. Spe I want to say thank you very much for support happen took decades of dedicated needed to go to Wegmans. At that point, hope and joy in our family. We will never be gether 15 years) were in Markeq>lace Mall, Imagine my shock and surprise when I was tive Law judge can't change the law for the cial Education, Speech Therapy, Occupational the gifts for my children for Christmas. effort, and it's not over yet. someone came in. Obviously, I don't know shopping for vitamins. Having a case of approached by security and asked to follow entire state," Mancini said. "All couples in Therapy, Physical Therapy, Education of thc This year my spouse has not been work- Rants continued on p. 12 who, but I said, "I'll see you at the escalator." The thank-you ad elsewhere in this issue cramps, I mentioned that I needed a men's Letters continued on p* 10 mentions some of the individuab, businesses room, quickly. Thc nearest one was a major bur confidential GAGV Membership indudes an Etnpty Closet and otganizations which have given gener- department store that shall remain nameless A Publication ofdie Gay AUiance . ^^_^. ^êufa|wri|ifCT^p^^ of thc Genesee Valley The Empty Closet 179 Adentic Aw. • Roehe«n NY l4tf07-125S \A^*;-^; Edfeer-lii-Clii«r SuMn Jordan Por More I«fo™w.i« 00: (S«5)244.»030i tmp.rcU.c.©gi,rf«ae.org R«ielneas Manager Jo«eph OToole EH Subscribe! Stair PhoCeipiipher DougMcszlet the Gay Alliance of the Genesee Valley! • Enclosed is a check payable to GAGV Q Renew CMIMA Mde drM4ap OT phcMogpîlw. fMr doM it poM •rfveraiu^ ^^ AW ..RocheMtt NY. 14W7.1255, or c«U (S«S)244-40M. We'd like to ask you to become MMM thfti IIK pctKM pktund itt the ad it fer wis, or chu 7«M wfl''(EC* thu MEMBERSHIP IJSVELS (PLEASE CHECK ONE) Q Please charge my a VISA or O Mastercard account pwocuter pcnoA ifyou {wnoate the MWihlUlamw •drcfiked. G««« Vdky, !«.. » ,wtad itt dw brU- or that onttiutfeo. 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Out Spanisli priest Dade Co. rights up fbr The etacement appeared M the February after lajn. (Feb. 8), a lesbian couple's home one to knowtiiat thb does not represent days after the murder of MicheUe HM. « challenges church Issuôtthe Aodem/sjoumall^dttlite It In Missoula. Montana was gutted by Urm l>e» Montana. We caH on everyone In thb state to man In civiHan dothes. befieved to be « grabs in November saidin pare ^'..chiMren who are bom to or caus« they were pert of a lawsuit fHed that raHy arourM these women and make sure polke ofRcer. fired siiots at u ansgender An openfy gay Spanish priest. battHi^ what adopted by one member ofa same sex week sealdng iiealth iieneflts fbr same'sex th^re abfo to live safafy and ¥dth dignity." activbt Paofa Sanchez. Although Sancheft The Jgbt dtizens of Dade County and Miami, he calls the "caveman mentality" of the coupie deserve the secuHiy of two lagalfy panners of lesl»ian arM giy University of Mon Lambda lAfd Defisnse and Education FurM successfiiHy escaped uniiarmed. polteai«d^ Fb. are facing a possible repeal of the three- CathoUc Church, has disappeared. recpgnfized parents^ It is Important that a tana emptoyees. released a stttenient on Feb. 8 saying diat fkers enterad her home a few hours liUr year-oM amendment to the human rights The Rev. jose Mantero-Garcia. 39, has broad etfikai mandate exist nationaHy that "Adrtanne Neff arM Caria Grayson took LanrMa b "horrified and outraged by the and arrested iier witiiout a warrant, ordinance whkAi protects them aplnst dls- become a rnedlastar in Spodn for his hon WiH guide the courts in providing the nee- dielr Infant son and headedfor tiiefron t door sensefoss atCKk on die... home of Adrienne Vkky Martinez and Kevki Capoce. aiw crimlnatten on die basis of sewial orientation. i\ es^ about his orientation. He came out in esaai^ protection for chiMren through co- - onfy to find a wirii of fk^ Bade In tlie Neff arM CaHa Grayson.... Our hearts go out transgender activists, were arrested on Newsfronts The ordinance offers protection aplnst late January hn an incerview with a gay parent adoption. bedroom. AdiiaiMie pessed the beby out die to Adrienne. CaHa arM tiieir infant son. Wc Jan. 16 and were heM for three days at La • NATIONALAND INTERNATIONAL NEWS sedcual orienution discrimination In housing wkMow to Caria» then stniggled to escape Isabefica, tiie focal prison. Capote re magazine, 2în, In wiikh he revealed that The AAP ttasament notes diat dthou^ stand with our coHeagues at tiie ACLU In i employment, financing and public he realteed he is gay when he was 12. He chMren of aame s«c parents appear to herself." The iiouse was surrounded by fire. depforing tiib iielnous act of arson arM de- ported t>ekig severefy beaten by poHce to visit their chiMren ''during any time when accomodations. The repeal wiH be on the then dM not show upfor Sunda y services develepând adjust in a manner simliar to â4iich officiais saM was ahnoM certainfy tiie marnHng diat thb unthkikable crime l>e fulfy offkers before i>eing taken to prison^ Court: cMI unions (one) coiiablts with or has overnight stays baltet next Sept. 10. due to an effort led by at Our Udy of Rest Church kl Valverde det chiiranrtfaedby heterosexuals, onfyafaw result of arson. investigated arM prosecuted. On thb sad d^, On Feb. 5. polke offkers from die not valid in Georgia with any adult*" to whom they are not mar two r^t wing organizations. Take Back Mi Camino. stassetMweolBcteify approved 9ecorid-par- "Whoever set this fire dM not Intend to we resolve to fi^ iiatred atM l>igotry wiier- Comando defa ^rroqufaCatedrai forced ried or related **wtthin the second degree . ami and the Christim Coalition. Mantero Garcia has started a national ent or co-perent wioptitom. simpfy frighten or kitimMace thb famify. They ever it rears its iiead In our country, and to Gal>riefa Ofeda kito a polke car. Siie was A lesbian nM»tt)er kast her visltatkxt rights Freer has saM that she dM not have good SAVEDade. a gay advocacy group, led a media debate on g^ rights and die incki- The AAP commented that chiMren Ihfing meant to Mil diem. Two days after the case work fbr die een adiieved." Maury OvkMo, the president of rfteapeto a ncgttN^ rulliY '^' Ac the end of Januaryt a three-judge panel a ••Save Our ChiMren" campa^ which over officials and conservative commentators. benefits, such as the l«^ Hght of tiie dyke:'" A spedal fiirM has been establbiied to afa PersonaUdad (Respect fbr tiie PMwn- Susan'and iSebra Freer were denkMl die of tiie Georgia Court of Appeab upheM tfie turned the first-of-its-kind legislation (for a Church rat- ment in case of emergencies. On Monday. CaHa toM a room fifH of report die fire and subsequent security measures, On Feb. 8. die inteUigence department Mcanta hcnne the two women slwre, due the legality of same sex maniage. Jennifer for gay and iesbian citizens. Sexual orientation ing mass and admkiisteHng sacraments. Tiie entity, conservative Famify Re ers arM supporters diat she was a pfaftitiff In decks can be makepayaUe to "Relief Fund" of La Comandanda General de PoHcia. to her ex-luidMnd's opposition. He is rep l.evl, senior staff attomey for <^ and Les- was again added to the ordinance In 1998. The Mantero Garcia totd the gay maôine, search Council, based in Washington D.C. th^ ACLU's fawsuit ag^st the university, and sent to P.O. Box 775, Helena. UT 59624. die Carai>obo Police headquarters, is resented by aconservativehwgroup which l>ian Advocates and Defenders (GLAD), saM, New York Times has called the current refer "Bekig gay not onfy is not a sin, It's a gift opposed die AAP statement on the ^xuinds where she is a professor, because Adrieruie -ACLU. Lambda i.«gal Defense and Educa* sued a search warrant for Oviedo. Since Is using the case to deal a bk»w to recogni It's a very narrow ruling. We know civil endum fight "the second batde of Miami," and from God. It's a ^ from God equal to that it wouM result In polkies liarmful to needs to have heaith beneHcs to stxy at iiome tionfHjrM 2000, Amnesty Intemational iias urged tion of same sex civil unions in GeorEia and unk»ns are not marriage... and the court believes the effects couM befar-reaching for being iieterosexual. If iie created you gay, the nation's chiMren. The ¥RA rejected tiie arM care for their baby. I'm e lioth pys and religious conservatives. he wants you to be gay. At no point does scientifk res«uxh of the AAP statement as protect my famify,* she saM aboutthe lawsuic Threat to transgender to ensure the safety of tiie transgender her 2000 dvil unk>n counts as a marrlitge, afforded otiier recognltten in Georgia. Tiiat Heddy Pena, chair of SAVEDade. saM, "We he want you to regret being so." "invalM." and claimed that chiMren of lesbi on Monday. community vfa Urgent Actions. In Octo thus enabling iier to visit with iier children. remains an open question." people in Venezuela v^ll win this battle at the balfot box next Some of Mantero Garcia's parishioners ans are "foss ilkefy to fit traditional gender "Today, we redouble our efforts to protect ber 2000, Oviedo had filed a compfctint Matthew Staver, director of Tampa's Freer saM her reaction was one of devas Amnesty intemational has mobilized its worid September through hard work and determi did not agree with the Church position. roles and more Ilkefy to engage in iiomo- this famity - and continue figiiting on beiialf of 'with the Inter-American Commission on right ^ng Ui>erty Counsel, said that the tation. "How couM they do this to my wide noembership on beiialf of die transgender nation. iHJt we cannot do It atone. To be "He preaches well," saM Dofores Lorca, erotic refations." others IHce them. We are working with focal Human Rights attc^g diat a pofice offker case is a major defeat fbr civil union community ki Valencia. Venezuela, which has chlMrenr she asked. "I'm not asMng anyone victorious will take thousands of volunteers -Lou Chibbaro Jr.. The Washington fikide and universicy ofFkials andfaw enforcemen t to had IdHed transgender person Dayana suporters. **This is a huge case because it is "and people are as God created them." been subjected to numerous attacks and ar to a^reewlthmylifestyie, (Mily that asalawfiil and more dian one million dollars to effac- ensure diat thb heinous crime b fulfy kivesti- Nieves. Oviedo b currendy hMIr^ arM the first to say tiiat Vermont civil unions -Associated Press; Wosfifngton fikide rests kl recent weeks. American citizen, I am entitied tobe with my tively get the message of tolerance and accep Arson attack ûed aiM prosecuted - atM thatthe famHfos fearsfer her life. are not the equhoient of marriage, and kMs and live with wiiom I dioose" The abuses, reportedfy at tiie hands of tance to voters. We need every person who involved in thb lawsuit are not vulnerable to "We are disturbed by reports tiiat die that applies to every other state in the Pediatricians back threatens lesbians, polke offkials, foHow die murder of Michelle Legal experts say that Freer has three believes that all people deserve equality under further attack. The case b i>eing liarMled as a police may be behind die attadcs on tiie union," he sakl. Pazonjan. 11, and indicate tiiat die transgender options: go i>ack to the trial court to ask for tiie law to step up to the plate and help in baby in Montana triple attempced homkMe, aiM federal offi trangender community," saM Midiael In January, a Floyd County Superior a ciiar>ge in the visitation stipulation, appeal adoptions by gays community conthfiues to be at risk for extras some way." Arson forced a lesl>lan couple and dieir cials have t>ecome irwolved in the Investiga Hefiin. Director of AILÂ's OUTfront Court Judge ruled that Freer's civil union to die fiiH Court of Appeals, or appeal tn the The American Academy of Pediatricians iudkial execution due to their perceived sexual For more information on volunteer activi baby from dielr Montana iiome on Feb. 8. tion. program. "The govemmenc muse send a does not satisfy the "legally married" por state Supreme Court. issued a statement 6n Feb. 4 catling on orientation arM gender Mentity. Furdiermore, ties, or to make a financiat contriixition, go to The attempted liomkMe was due to die "Thb b not the first tinne In our hbtory diat clear message thac chis wiil noc be COICH"- tion of a consent decree in which she and Laura Douglas-Brown, TTie Wdshington courts and lawmakers to permit joint adop transgender activists have denounced polke vtfww.savedadeorg. or call (305)751-7283. couple's role In an equal kieneflcs lawsuit. people iiave i>een attacked, and bumed out of l>rutaHty, leaving diem easy targets fbr repris atedand take action to ensure tiiat iiuman her ex-husl>and Darian Bums agreed not fikide tion by same sex couples. -SAVEDade; TTie Wtsshir^t\ Bhde Matt Coles. Director of the ACLU Les their own homes, for trying to get Justice als. rights wHi be respected." dirou^ our court system. Butwe want every bian & Gay Rights Project. saM. "Shortfy Th«^ iiave l>een several incidents. Two -Amnesty Intemational

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Most disturbingly, 81 per many months In tiie hospkal vAere the Rams Night" present an Interactive meeting, **Deallng Thank You sent the entire collection taken at the Forum cent reported tiiat focuky and staff rarely Tkkets whkh usually go for $10 wilt be Wkh Anti- LGBT Statements.** on Mon Coll the weekend arfcer che Bar Night: intervened when hearing such remarics. available for $7. The deadline for reserving day, March 4, from 6:30-8:30 p.m. at the Dealing Wkh Anti>4-GBT Scatements b an "Dear (Rams) and Friends, tkkets b liarch 26. You can mall ticket GAGV Communky Cencer, 179 Adantic opportunity for LGBT students, parents, y^^ My family and I want to ciiank you for your orders to Gay Alliance Njght Rochester Ave. We thank the following IndMdtMls generoa^ and kindness. 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I wlH The third annual AIDS Rochester Auctfon ment However, as teadiers and stu the cUmate in their halhAâys and classrooms, Ally ftOonna Howell Avon Inn not soon forget what you all have done for will be heki on March 23 at Gateway and dencs know, che use of derogacory words aja noodle co would like to invite you my fomily and next ymr, when things have and to educate others to do the same. Company, 277 N. Goodman St diat include slurs a^nst LGBT peopfe Eric Bdlmann changed, I wilt return the fovor. The meeting wHI be lead by Dr. GerakI to experience our healthy and $150 The event will run from 6 to 10 p.m., and are some of the most common insuks Bristol Vdley Theater Begy, board member of GLSEN Rochester. Shirley Bowen ft Tracy Perkins Merry Chriscmas arMJ God bless, will Include siksrvc and Ih^ auctions, live en heard in hallways and classrooms. Some exciting cuisine, aja noodle co's Brownbag Bookstore Dr. Begy b an Associate Professor of Educa- Kkn Brumber ft Sharon Kowalski Greg. 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LGBT bias in the schools. Craft Company No. 6 GLSEN Rochester b a leading local orga Gregory H. Partridge & Douglas Potter The overwhdmkig majority of 900 home with leftovers, and oxxr entire Paula deChelly & Lee Brind*Amour nization working to end anti-LGBT bias in Julianna Sikes ft Patty Hayes mkidle and high school iqped LGBT stu Downstairs Cabaret Theacre n^nu is under eight dollars. Several Blen Yacknin ft Cathy Mazzotta dents who responded to the GLSEN schools. For further information, call the Elteabeth King Durand 2001 national school dimate survey re GLSEN-tine at 585-271-4937, or e-mall vegetar iam and vegan entrees are George Eastman House veal that for thb popubtion, anti-LGBT GLSEN at BSURI@aol com. Geva Theatre available. Come visit us in Brighton Table Captains: Jennifer Gravitz, Esq. 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BALL AMD BASH: GAGV Board President Shiriey Bowen greets guests at the *i Sweedi^ut BalL Behind hen interpreter Abie Abrams and emcee Aurora Borealis.

Adam Schmidt and partner Mike Nichols of Batavia dance the night away.

A NIGHT ATTHE MOVIES: Bob Day hugs Jamie Whitbeck at the ImageOut anniversary screening of 8/ock /s, 6/ock Ain't, at the Little Theatre on Feb. 14.

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l^liSiC MAN: Tim Rhoads of Bassically Treblemakers Band wich his new saxophone at the first rehearsal of the season.

Greedr^arrivab atthe Ball/Bash. Left: Board member Pam Barres, Executive Assistant Joe GAGV Executive Director Bill Hawley talks with artist/EC columnist Eric Bdlmann at OTooijpb volunteers Matt Ctingerman and Julie White. the Sweetheart Ball dinner dance on Feb. 9 at the Four Points Sheraton.

-a The GAGVs Sweetheart Ball/ Blacic and Red % Bash: hot Icisses on a cold winter's night DRAG KINGS: Below: Joan '^Dakota West" Blackman ofthe Rochester Kings prepares Chocolates, cookies, chilled champagne and hair. Emcee Aurora Borealis was fetching in ing place that evening, in the midst of the backstage for a Kings' show at Muther's. Above: Blackman performs. hot kisses were among the items on the menu a skintight red vinyl catsuit, with thigh-high queer revels. Aside from one reported ho at the. Gay Alliance's Sweethean Ball/Black boots, among other outfits. Aggy Dune and mophobic remark, the two groups got along and Red Bash at the Four Points Sheraton on Naiomy Kane made appearances (Naiomy quite well. Several debs and their escorts Feb. 9. did a fantastic Tina Turner). DJs Barry checked out the Bash, and one deb bid on an Around 225 people enjoyed an evening of Robinson of PumplRochester (the Bash) item in the silent auction, which her father dancing, flirting and bidding on silent aucdon and Chuck Argento (the Ball) kept everyone ended up buying for her. Meanwhile knots items ranging from a large tiled Mexican mir dancing till 1 a.m., and some energetic of fascinated lgbt people clustered to watch ror to Moschino sunglasses. Several partiers clubbers went on to Muthers or lilt aftcr- the very s{Mrited Ukrainian folk-dancing, with observed the theme by dressing in red and/or ^(rard. its wild leaps and kicks. Some of us wanted to black sequins, silk, feathers, tights and even A Ukrainian debutante ball was also tak join in. Next year — Gay Polka?!

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!p«^cm ^^ '%Qd k^btet &om bdr^ pet* cditred sis s^ Rapp, who played the roie of Bender, one SbaJk0speartmLtwew^sATnov\c that took us back of Na^hV I^foidefon dftMmt<^^^ to the days when boys played women's roles on to ^kii&ni^ftov JS^«£f 1^^ the Bridsh stage. Playhouse CreaiuftSy now run that Howsttd ^'didn^t wcstt »iybfie ^ Middle ning at Siiipping Dock Theatre, moves us for ward in history to the moment when thc first ift ¥«ti<^Miie IS sb^ actresses trod the boards, and l>ecame thc glam orous, scandalous megastars of their day* Plqyhottsi Creatttrt^, a play by April DeAngelis, directed by Barbara K. Biddy, will tun at the Slaifîng Dock Theater, 151 SL Paul St. in the St Psul Quarter through Saturday, March 9. The comic drama is set in 1669 ~ a bawdy and troublesome time in Restoration London. Thc dieaters have just re-opened after 17 years of suppression under the Putitans, encourag ing agteat upsurge in dramadc activity. Of vital importance to the devdopment of drama was lead the gay and lesbian movement^', several Huena (Cmttttg Ota^tiritttalfy). Correspondents the entrance of the first English actress upon Tlcitets are $18 General Admission, $16 se candidates sharc mixed reactions. ITL Inter Tanya Barfield and Jonathan Capeiiart and the stage. The author has taken &ve ^mous niors and students Sunda}^ only. CaU 232- views longtime activist Virginia Apuzzo about guest RuPaul Andre Charies )oin series host figures '- Nell Gywn, Elizabeth Fariey, Rebecca 2250 for reservadons. managing the Clinton White House. The life Katherine Linton in this episode. Marshal, Doll Common, and Mary Betferton - of dvil rights acdvist Bayard Rusdn is exam - and g^ven us a fascinating look at the precari In the Life for March ined, as well as whter/activist Kdth Boykin's Spiderwoman conies ous lot of actresses at the dme. effort to educate both blacks and non-black » A moving and often cotnlc account of thc examines leadership gays about homophobia and discrimination. to Buffolo inarch 14 true lives of Restoratfon actresses (with some ITL highlights die first openly gay man to Ujima Co., Inc., of Buffalo, presents earthy language and bawdy situations), /^£«y- be kn^hted. Sir lan McKellen, and the gay Spiderwoman Theater Company in Ptrastatts c/ jboitse CftaiMfs features Vicki Casarett of Mayor of Bunceton, Mo., Gene Ulrich. ITL Mtmtfty^ wntten and performed by Lisa Mayo, Bcii^ton, Cheryl Famey ofRochester, Pstnda also tallcs to The Hon. Deborah A. Batts about C^ria Migud and Murid Migud, diiected by Lewis of Geneseo, Maureen Mines of Fairport her 8qf>pointment as the first out African- Murid Miguel, opening March 14 and continu and Kerty Young of Ontarfo. *--• American lesbian judge in the U.S. Federal ing tiuou^ March 31 at TheatetLoft, 545 Critics say, "...With deltdously absurd es- Courts, and spends tiie day with Sabrina So- Elmwood Ave. in BufEdo. ttacts ftom the heroic repertory and frantic ioumer, tiie first out African-American les Ticlcets are $25 generd admissfon, $21 for dressing room scenes, die ptevaiiiog tone is bian dected to Congress. In tlie last story. seniors and students and group rates are avail comic, but you ate not allowed to foêt tiie Rep. Tammy Bddwin is profiled as die first abk. Performances ate Wednesda3^, Thurs gxtxet waitir^ to teddm these glttterir^ fig Kddi Boykin woman to represent Wisconsin, as well as ttie days, Fndays, and Saturdays at 8 p.m. and ures.'* {Ths Jttd^tsttdntt mt JjMflby); **...flesh and >y h its L^, America's sward-wmniiig gsy snd first out, American ksbian dected to Con Sundays at 6 pjn. Cali 883-0380 for tickets and ,..iV-- blood iieToines...youll come away moved and ieslMsn cdturd oewsmags2tne*s March episode gress. reservations. ins{Mxed and with a few more fiemstes stan^>ed (to atr here on WXXl on April 7 at 11 pjn.) /TlLcontinucs ^'History Moments," a seiies Spiderwoman Theater uses storytdHi^ to firmly oo your iieart" {Tmt Otif^. indudes stories firom its archives about giy snd of persond reflectfons about tiie progress interconnect and weave stories and fragments The performances sre oa Fridays st 7:30 lesbian leadets and pfoneeis in leadership. sdiieved in the LGBT community, with activ of stories with words, song, music, film, dance p.m^ Ssturdays at 8 pjn., Sundays at 2 pan. Intesponse to tlie question, "Wiio siiould ist Scott Seomin and writer Chrbtian de la and movement to create a complex emotional. culturd and poiiticd tapestry in an ovetky of incorporating a Greek chorus, which not only rive sign: such cekbrity revelations arc making intedocking designs. provides comic tdkf, but also reinforces the ECTV; Rosie comes less news. Let^s see if Rosie can still hang with Spiderwoman was founded in 1975 by the more serious, tiiree-dimetjsiond qualities of peers such as Oprah and Martha, and her Nick Williams on Men 2 Men out; two shows on sexuality won*t be the ONLY thing that de three Migud sisters, of Kuna and Rapaliannock die two lead ciiaract«^rs. In preparation for tlie Rochester Gay Men's grips with his life situation. It is all about fines bet. By thc way, Rode's appearance Jan. ancestry. It is the oldest continually-running •*I actudly describe Dritn'9S a cpniedy/' Matthew Shepard Chcmis upcoming concert, "Men 2 Men," on being tiiere to hdp and protect as that friend women's tiieatte company in North America. Vog^; told Arthur Holmberg^ Uterary dicector 30 as a gay mom on NBC's ''Will and Grace" March 23 at-the Hochstdn School ofMusic, goes tiirough a difficdt time in hk life. Nick Williams, music director of the .- By Brad Smith was a hit, so shell be back for six mote epi These versatik performers liave acted together ôf d^c Anteîcan Repertory Theatre, in i tecent RGMC Music Director Nick WiUiams agreed And a third example is "Kiss You Naked*'. Rochester Gay Men's Chorus. The Chorus Our community will make its share of news on and separatdy around the worid, from China to interview: '*Of course, it'snot, but die first lidf sodes. to sit for an interview with John Owen. In the past, RGMC has not sung about men WiH present Men 2 Men on March 23 M tdevision this month. Rosie O'Donndl's new Panama. Thcy are actors, singers, writets end ^yeiy inuch fimctions as a comedy,.: For b^ Matthew Siiepard k on TV tiiis month. Two Owen: How would you describe the con bdng openly sexud, at least not bktantiy so. Hochstein School of Music, at 8 pjn. For book Find Me is due next month. She ptomises teachers, providing much inspiration foryoung' cbmbimx^sadhessandcomedyh^^ênebt^ versiotis ofhis murder tiear Latamie, Wyoming cert,'*Men 2 Men*"? Yet we all know that not all rdationships are tickets cdl (585)423-0650. The concert will to discuss her family (she has three adopted Aborigind artists. \ Wc don't Wirit to, \^ taieen by sui^dse,! so we were supposed to debut on tiic same night, Williams: We've chosen songs about rek about 'rdationsiiip'. Some are strictiy about feature a performance by die Rociiecces. childrcn), her rise to fame and her rekdonships After 26 years, Spiderwoman Theater, the ioeôuTfûdrd up. t^cmecfy'^foses-diatvigt- March 16. But HBO refiiscd to let NBC get on donships between men, mostiy love rektion- the sexud encounter. This wonderful David with.women. Her fans are curious. lotigest nmning feminist performance group in , kncc; sp^ in; the next motnent, we $xe udpte- the air first and lias moved up to March 9 the ships, but ako styles of rektionship. We will be Sereda piece minces no words. Don't talk Orders for die book ate making it a bestseller existence, continues to present vibrant, origi- paretf for the explosion." •.'•.• premiete of 'The Laramie Project," the inde singing about sex, about best ftiends and al>out about marriage, just shut up so I can kiss you on the intemet Good hype hdps sell books nd work that entertains, challenges and en *Taula Vogd presents a woman who is a pendent film that premiered injanuary at the fiunily. flaked! and thete's plenty with this one. ABC's Diane lightens audiences around the world. survivor, not a victim," sdd director Wendetiich. Sundance FestivaL "The Laramie Project" is Owen: What was theprimafy inspiratfon Owen: My penonal fiivorite, ^HPHio Will Sawyer will have the "first television inter KR: People freak out, but we have to discuss country, teenagers are not having a liard time. On March 9 Jttst bttffalo and the Ujima The 'The amazing thing is that she does this with from thc same Broadway producer beltind the behind your choice of music? Love Me as I Am?**, firotn thc mudcal view." It wasn't easjr; she had to beat out that with complexity. If you can only discuss it The reality is that a lot of these GS As liave six atre Company will celebrate the 25th Anniver such humor. Thc montage-flashback look at pky tbat was once perfotmed here (at Shipping WUliams: RGMC has never sung a concert SideShattt, speaks volumes to all those office-mate Barbara Wdters and Katie Couric whete the older guy k an abuser, tiie ordy tok members, and a lot of them are supportive V sary of Spiderwoman Theater with a specid the relationship between Li'l Bit and her Unde Dock Theatre). It's based on extensive inter of songs rekting just to men. As a gay Chorus, people just coining out. It is ao common straight giris. A lot of these high schook are from the Today Sho», you're leaving for jroung gay men is victim. And reading and performance by nationally re Peck is wonderfully crafted and disarmingly views of Laramie residents in what's billed as a this should be a ptimary reason for our exist to foel somewhat fteakkh at that time that's such a tired cliche. We're a lot more still butcher shops for gay youth. nowned poet and writer Alexis De Veaux and It*s a stnall victory: don't you think Rosie "culturd pulse-taking" docudrama of the gay hilarious." ence. So, "Men 2 Men". and this song encapsuktes that feeling resilient than that And there's a huge number of pe<^le Buffdo poet Shatika Milan. The reading will be will say something on her own show? (4 pm man's killing. The film cast includes Dylan Althou^ Vogd is regarded as one of the Owen: How do specific pieces of music so well. The other think I liked in tfae Ixiok a fot waa ^dio, even if the school has a GSA, tbey at 7 p.m. at Theaterioft, 545 Elmwood Ave. weekdays, TV 10). She's in TV Guide this Baker, Tom Bower, Clancy Brown, Steve greatest pky>yrights of our time, her road to you liave prognunmed support thk inspi Williams: That's why wc programmed it the tone. It was very present tetise, as far as wouldn't go anyndiere near it. I fove thk Tickets are $10. week, and the May edidon of her own maga success has been difficult Her early years were Buscemi, Kathleen Chdfant, Jeremy Davies, radon? Owen: FinaUy, Nick, for people com pure intellectual level diat if we put tfak zine, Rt^sie, is due next month about the time teUing us things as you were living them The reading will be followed by a welcome marred by her parents' divorce and the loss of Clea Duvall, Peter Fonda, Ben Foster, Janeane Williams: Let me give you some examples. ing to Hochstein on March 23, what do then, but at the same time, h would Idck in thizig there, everything is solved. the book is released. Dan Brewster, president recepdon for Spiderwoman Theater Company, her father, whom she didn't come to know until Garofdo, Bill Irwin, Joshua Jackson, Terry '*Biggcr is Better" is |iot about wfaat you may you hope they take home firom the con that you were writing it later in life. And the and CEO of Rosie magazine's publisher G+J ICR: A GSA k a support system for gay whose muldmedia performance event, Persis- kter in life, when her brother, Cari, died from Kinney, Laura Linney, Amy Madigan, Camryn thinkl It*s a song about those of us xdth gener cert? balance worked reaDy welL youth. It's not a solution to homophobia. A tettct o/Me/ttoty, begins a two-and-a-hdf week USA, told Mediatveeit magazine, "Let's face it Manheim, Christina Ricd, Lois Smitii, Frances AIDS. Her eariy attempts at pky-writing didn't ous girth still being desirable, sensuous, sexud Williams: I hope they take away a satisfac KR: What I did was, I moved from San Fran meeting with dozen students once a \êek or run of Persistence ofMemot y at Ujima beginning — this is not the first magazine that has had a Stemhagen, and Mark Webber, plus Kelli fare much better. After losing her scholarship human beings. It is a very fimny song. tion about themselves. I hope they realize dsco to the middle of nowhere. I had nothing to once in a month that makes them feel better March 14 through March 31. gay editor." to Bryn Mawr College, Vogd (who, by then, Simpkins and Andy Paris, members of "Come in from the Rain" by Mdissa that their beliefs, their ideak, thdr thoughts do all day except write and think about what I was about themselves is not the same as a full Do you still care? Did anyone make a big Longtime /iw/ bttffalo friend Alexis De Veaux realized she was lesbian) graduated from Catho Broadway's Tectonic Theater Company, who Manchester and Carole Bayer Sager is about a are the same as others in the worid. going to write the next day. And I spent a lot of school assembly on deprogramming ho fiiss when Rosie said "I love you Kelly" when is recognized nationally and internationally for lic University in Washington, D.C, only to be will piay themselves. person seeing his best friend finally cotning to time looking at old yearix>oks, and I kept joumds mophobia. later tumed down by the Yde School of Drama. she accepted a daytime Emmy award injanu her many kinds of writing, including Spirits ttt tbe NBC's made-for-TV movie **The Matthew all tiirough high school, and I had photos from all Whose reacdon were you most curious Her earliest plays were dso rejected by the ary? By the time this is over, Rosie will have Street, a memoir; An Enchanted Hair Tale, her Shepard Story*' stars Stockard Channing and through high school. I had notes that I iiad atiout ^dien you wrote the book? Were you Eugene O'Neill Nationd Pkywri^ts* Confer publidy come out as many times a^ that other interview: award-winning children's book; Don*tE>plain, Sam Waterston as Matthew's parents. passed in class. I had so much stuff, and I thought wonderingwhatyour tnother wotdd think? ence. Rosie; Miss Palmer and-bd' sisters! One posi- her biography of singer Billie Holida3r, and Kirk Read's How / I wodd quote from the notes and smff, but I Or ^diat any ofthe people you wrote about Spirit TalMf her most recent book of poems. As Since then, Vogd has gone on to write a didn't end up doing that But reading through all would think? an artist and lecturer, she has traveled exten up to Usher's srnash^ lîs finally here. But Marvin Gaye in his voice. It is this rare combi numberof successful pkys,indudingîfortive mother. One of the tilings I hate about a lot of memoirs and teachers react, but that was never my higher than number 60 on the Billboard singles Thc Tide: Shatika Milan is an upcoming writer and examines thc affect of theatre on its partid Read takes an unfiinciiing look at his adoles is that they pretend to be much wiser. Usually you primary focus. My mom loves it She's read it chart. The fact that Usher was too busy to What is with the tide? Well, at first everyone performer from right here in Buffdo. As a pants and The Mineola Tiwx (1996), which con cence, and how it shaped him. Kirk Read have a 50-year-old writer approadiitig their teen like six times. centrates on the relationship between two idcn- make a video for "Pop Ya Collar" and that the thought it only had to do with the (new) release member of HAG Theatre, she has performed Many of the stories jump off the page with aged years with tliis lund of offensive wisdom, Since the book k about your life, was ticd sisters. Hott>ILeamedtoDritfe{\ 997), Vogdi's album had somehow been leaked over the date, which not so coincidentally was Ai^. 7, difficult book, because the redpe for a young in DRAGONiXiA The Vagina Monologues. She is an energy that immediately pulls you into the and I don't want to do tiiat I really wanted to there anything tfaat you resolved thtough most successful pky to date, has won numer intemet probably had a lot to do with its poor 2001 (or 8-7-01), but it is actually, according to addt book is generally to tell the story and to currentiy pursuing a degree in English and Film scene, seeing it vividly through Read's eyes. capture that awkwardness and eml>arrassment writing tfae liook? Any closure? Or was ous awards, induding an Obie, Lortd, New performance. So, in a bold move, he pulled thc Usher, how long music has been a big part of take out all die* sex. Or if you want to sdl a at the University of Buffdo. Personally, my favorite sections all involved and giddiness, all ofthe tiungs I fdt as a teenager. most of thk stuff over and dptte witfa and York Drama Critics, Drama Desk, Outer Crit dbum, saying that he wasn't happy with its young addt story to an adult audience, 3û his life: "I found music in 1987 and 2001 is Jesse FoMder, the older openly gay boy at school, I didn't want to get the book begged down in so you fust wrote about it? ics Cirde, and a Pulitzer Prize. "presenution," and recruited Jimmyjam and add more sex. And I just didn't want to be Lesbian playwright's where wc are today." Hey. it worked for Janet's the one who taught him to bdieve in himself, much reflection that I lost the immediacy. KR: I don't want to get too New Agcy Terry Lewis to co-produce four new songs dishonest about what my life as a teenager Rhythm Nation 1814^ remember? as well as to snap. I know you ako like perfortning and doitig aix>ut this. But I really did, as cheesy as tliis How I Leamed to and hdp him re-rdeasc the newly titied 8701. was Uke, which induded sex and drugs. But this is not one of those golden reflec the spoken word stuff. And tfaey all seem to sounds, I really did get to a very healing pkce. Whatever the reason, it may have been the Which k not to say it's filled with sex or Drive is at Nazareth l4oon Dancers offers ImageOut presents tions of an idealized youth, or one douded be very self-contained, ^diere tfaere's no set I was abk to forgive my classmates who were best move.Usher has ever made. Which, at 22 drugs.«« there's nothing gratuitous or over through so many years of retelling that it has up requixedL Do you tfaltdc that k because of less than kind at certain moments. But espe dcohoi-free dance years old.he deserves a lot of credit for. Many /t"$ In the Water tlie top. Evetything is told with the same strayed from reality. In many ports o f the booit. tlie foumaliam or tfae perfonning daUy with my fatnily, I was able to be very of today's artists would have had too much of even keel, ^diether it's taUdng to your By Brad Smith Read doesn't have the answers, and at other KR: Wiien I sat down to outline the book, I forgiving. for women March 16 an ego to ever allow thefnsdves to admit that Rciofn or going; to buy a pomo. Since it k ImageOut, Rochester's Gay and Lesbian Film times, you even empathize with his parents to made a list of different episodes. Prom. Getting I just tealized diat peopie who didn't imme- I>o you Wfljnt to get out and meet people, but they, could have done better and then chd- such a good lx>ok for youth, was address and Video Festivd, will cdebrate its 10th anni some degree, and wonder what this preco- ditown out of die gym. Meeting my first l>oy- dktdy accept tne were never tai^t how to hate the l>ar scene? Do you love dandng but lei3^ 0iemsdyes to do so. Well, he did better. ing that type of content a concem at all? versary with a series of specid programs this dous litde kid must have been like for them, friend. And tliat was part of getting inside the 15- accept gay people, in the same way I wastTt hate the smoke? Are you dean and sol>er but Much better. U Ettmind Me has dready been KR: I knew keeping thc sex in wodd year. The March selection is a popular one from trotting around the house in his neon-yeUow year-old, die 16-3rear-old, the 17-year-old, and taught how to be a gay person. They did the , still like to have a good time? Do you and your number one and U Got it Bad h on its way. die 1998 festivd — Ifs In the Water, directed by sweater because the Color Me Beautiful kdy alienate some peopk, and would keep it out telling the stories as they happened. Breaidng l>est tiiey could, and a fot of them came around. honey enjoy getting out, but aren't up for those The Music: KelH Herd. sdd hc was an "autumn." Or doing an ABBA of some school libraries. But I didn't want to them down into vignettes really kt me stay witiiin A lot ofmy famiiy members struggled with it kte n^ht crowds? The rest of the I4*track collection is like a Thc film will be screened on March 14 at dance number in front of a house full of his see another cotnir^-of-age story that soft- each story. If I had done huge chapters or made and came around, some Bister tlian others, Well, get oiit your dandng shoes because From hkm I Learned to Drive dance party. It starts nice and slow with U Littie Theatre Two, at 7 p.m. father's military buddies, or arguing with his pedded sexuality and hid it and doseted it it four sections, one for each year of high school, and some more gracefully dian others. But, in Moon Dancets is back and is throwing another RimindMe and pulls you in with thc help of P. That's really a disservice to queer teenagers, The Nazareth College Theatre Arts Depart Shown at over 50 filmfestivds worldwide, Bibk Bdt dad titat the Holy Trinity was ckariy then it would have been a lot more ofa "looking thdr titne, tliey came around. dcohol-ftcc, smoke-free dance for womyn. Tlus Diddy on track 3's I Don't Know. By the time it to give them all these tainbow messages and ment presents Pauk Vogd's Pulitzer Prize- Ifs In the Waterw^LS well-recdved and picked up "bulkiiit"' You get the idea. back on liig^ school" book, wiuch isn't what I Writing tiiis book alfowed me to get an event will be held on Saturday, Miarch 16 itom gets to the danceable Ifl Want To and rock- "be yourself" messages, and then lie. And in witifung pky//o^//Ltftfnm//^ i>ntf in Studio 48 severd Audience Favorite awards. Rachael Read seems to have taken great pdns to bc wanted to do. I can't stand going to a reading overview oi the \diole process they went 4c30 p.tn: to 9:30 p.m. at thc Brightbn Town edged / Can't Let UGo (tracks 6 and 7) you are our coming-of-age films and booics, sexud- of the Arts Center. The coming-of-age com Bristcrof ImageOut believes that the ImageOut as honest to his experience as possible in this where it takes an autiior five tninutes to set up through. It's so complicated. The whok diing Loc^, 777 WestfaU Rd. in Brighton. having such a great time you don't want it to screening was the only westem New York ity is dther left out or framed in a way tiiat is edy, directed by Mark Wenderlidi, is being Ixxik. And, utililce many authors for youtli. wiiat they're going to read. Or if it's a poet and about callidg peopk bigots or liomopliobes, Adtnissio^n is $5 (more ifyou can, less ifyou end. But, as all good things do, it eventually showing ofthe film. created by and for middle-aged men. You see presented March 1 - 2 at 8 P.M. and March 3 at Read doesn't shy away fit>m tallcing about tiien liave to tell you wiiat the foomotes are. I just it doesn't leave them any room to grow, or can't) to covet the cost of the space and other slows you down as it nears the inevitable, just all tiiese French coming-of-age movies with can't stand that Do a show. Give us a perfor 2 P.M. (The March 3 perfotmance is interpreted An outrageous comedy with a queer littie dn^;si, buying hk fitst pomo tmâdne, ot change. It's so imprecise. expenses. In addition, pleê bring a dish or as a good PJ will sfow things i^ as the night lurid portrayab ofgay youth that are nostd- mance. Give us sometiiing. When I go to a for tiie deaf and heaxir^-impaired.) twist, Ifs In the Water deals with life in a small havingsex with older men. The bookk broken Do you know wfaat the next tiook k snack and an dcohoi-fose beverage to share. winds down. It doc« tliis nicdy with thc sweet gic recollections of what they wish tiidr sexu reading, I do want them to be a littk bit ofa rock Tickets are $8 for regukr admission, $7 for Southem town where only the hairdressers and down into vignettes that take you from fourth going tobe? The pktes, cups, napkins, bowk and plasticware Can UHe^Me and die beautiful Latin-sound ality iiad been like as a teenager. star. I want tliere to be some mystique: I want non-Nazareth students, and $6 for senior dti interior decorators arc supposed to be gay. The grade dirough high school graduation, and it is KR: It's going to l>e a noveL will be provided. Does anyone have a big coffee ing Htm Do IStff, Usber probably shouid have Evetyone hee that, thougfa. You had diem to try to iiave an intetestisôutfit on. 1 vrant zens. For tickets and more information, call country dub set is shaken when a new AIDS justebout his life, rather tiuui bdng dt>out die You'ie done widi tfae reality for now? pot^ stopped there with, just 10 tracks dieu^ be dinic opens and they kam tliey are expected to thk beet fiiesMl, aod you were aiqsposed dicm to iiave flown in from some exotic dty, thc Nazareth Arts Center Box Office at (505) boy who took a boy to the prom, or who KR: Yes I am done with memoir for awhik. There will be music for everyone induding cause the kst four ate pretty fotgettalsie. volunteer. Hysteria and homophobia take over to tell them yoo wete gay, diey were sup having a totrid romance in diat dty, and dien 389-2170. Note: This productionccMitdns addt started a GSA, or tiie hay who tried to kick 1 wiil proi>ably compile a book of oûmns disco, swing, rock, thc macarena, country, les .TheArtiiat:< thdr lives when the town drunk makes an posed to teQ ]rou tbey weie gay, and then tush off right after the reading to go to some langiu^ and themes. ROTC off campus. Read k just a boy dandng and essays, but I want to write a novd fitst bian favorites, house music and even Old Blue , Udier is a unique breed. Whileiie appear*^ off hand comment tiiatwhatever is in tiie town's you're siqypoeed to \amx punp in bed to crazy sex party or sometiiing. Described as "gutsy" and "haunting," Hom I in front of iiis mirror, wanting to l>e Midiad How I Leamed to Snap has been ttatmed am Eyes. If you l>elieve Rocheseer needs events look like just another iup-hop pecfotmet^ Iw drinking water must be making so many gether and you're OK beceuae you bave Learned to £>ntv is a realistic look at a rurd Stipe, and reacting to aM tiie cards life deds Well, no matter faow much tbe Gey PR Honor BoeA by tbe American Libraty Attoaatma^ liice this, please dome ahd support tiiis individu kn't hip-iiop at alL He is more Rhydun afld. townsfolk ^yl each other. It's becotne tfak aicbetype Maryland family in the throes of a desttuctive litin, and ifs reftesliingbecause it has no agenda tnacfalnp k eiqdAg **OSAa aie cvetywlMue** aud mat named afittaMstfbr tbe Lambda Uteemey ally fiinded dance. If you have qiiestfons or Bluest And even diough 1^ is young, ho has diet ao rarely. If ever, exkta in teality. rektfonsiiip. The action centers on a. young More tiian a satire on Ametican t^twin^ beyond showing liim gettit^ throv^ every- end ''giqr youdi aie becter e successful oiie?) He moves men diftt aren't abusive, and dut needi to lie 7> iommemt en tbis stoty e-maii Jeff mt tiidr lelatfofisiup k strained and sesuaL Usher-8701 Tickets will be avaikbk at die box oflSce on but dien thete's stuff for die edulis. It books. much like Mhdiad Jackson eîen he's dandi^ discussed. jtff@earitma^tmn As in tnany of iier pkys, Vogei, who identi die fiight ofdic simwingtt 6 p.nt For infonna doeeaH strive for dM P-FLAG stemp of KR: There's thk notion that a ii^ scliool widi By Chfisto|rfier DeiContc and be'CailM a ikdc like S«BOy Dads jr. eîen For meet pec^k, Ifa fust a bot button fies as ieslMan, presents a taixx> subject in a tion Oh, or tickett tb, the rest of the series, caii a GSA lias no prejudice, and a fot of aduhs think h^'i^ taUdng And vhen lie sings, evetfonoe in eppcoveL keue edieteby If die guy k older lt*a In^ TbeStoty: (585)271-2640, or etnail diat liecause diete are a fot of GS As atound die startlitig new light Qfie way siie does this is^ KR: I was '^vy aware tluit I was writit^ % medletelywioug. Coming up condmiee on next After fbur years, tiie loi^ anticipated follow awiiikyouhearalitdebitofJaiMsBmRiafld ifluig6tiz@liotmaiLcom. fe^ 4. ^/>' t WM c/h o ^^ 'Sd^^-^' >^ courageous. She and her husband realized tfaat (pkyed by Russdl Crowe) is obsessed with .-T'FP^&^.V Coming up continued from previous Smidi, author of Openly Bob^ wiiich won this Mind continued frtim p. I Growing Up if they hated these men, the hatred would only fame and coining up with one, true, or^nd pege year's Lambda literary Award, now iias a new Howard's motivation for de-gaying Nash perpetuate their grieving, as well as thc very idea. While tliis obsession motivates him to liooic, Wt[y to Go, Smith. He has written for Mad would appear to i>e money. Surely the truth same negativity that had fueled the men's ac formdate an intriguing "game tiieoty,"itis not by Eric Bellmann TVon Fox^ lias toured eixtendvdy with his wodd not have ensured as great a box-office tions, and then they, too, would be victimized. Bob Smith to star in enough to expkin why the diaracter suffers a stand-up comedy act, and started in ius own success. As One of my students sdd, *Vho Following the ktter, she continued her talk mentd break down mid-way through the film. Post gay HBO Hdf kour Comedy Specid. Snoithhas wants to see a movie about some bisexud who by sharing stories of Matthew's "coming out*' first of gay comedy When one. understands the sodally schizo also a{^>eftred on Politically Ittmmct and the loses his job for propositioning a man in a Near the bottom ofmy stteet—which is not Though her stories were filled with warmth phrenic existence this bisexud man lived—an shows at Harro East Howard Stem radio show, among others. men's room? I'd much rather think hc lost his a street really but steps, thc Filbert Steps, that and humor, her message was strong: Everyone ostensible heterosexud who had secret lid- Bob Smidi has perfotmed in Rochester in job because he lost his mind." This hdf-assed dktinctive lanc in North Beach near Telegraph must exercise their ri^t to be wlio they are. Renowned gay comic Bob Smith will inaugu sons with other men —then his psychologicd EXPAND YOUR MIND ddm reveds, if nothing else, that most Ameri Hili which everyone believes is where Armistad We can't expect people to accept us if we are rate a projected series of gay comedy shows the past, snd will be remembered for hk cksdc profile may emerge morc deariy. Naturally, cans wodd rather watch dementia than gay Matiin set *Tdes of the City" — is a trolley ashamed to show who we are. This is thc only produced at tiic Harro East by Comix Cafe. jolte alx>ut coming out to his mother. '*You*re this is not to say Nash's bisexuaiity caused his ' Guide to ColwmMilS:; sex. Beware of the film tiiat dramatizes both. stc^. way tilings will change. It is dangerous to Smith will perform on Match 15 and 16, at gay? Are you sedng a pGydiiatnst" she asked. sciiizophtenk; rather, his divided persond life The trolley's southem route ends at Thc T <3ro«Û^) •»»fiW¥i*W****Mfc****M^.*»V^|«*i'*;l|*<|:ii; continue to hide. 7:30 and 10:30 pm. shows. All rickets are $15, '*No, Fm seeing a lieutenant in the Navy.** As it is^ A BeautifulMind\s a pleasant, well- may vcry wdl have aggravated his inherent Castro. Mecca. One ofthe revered locations of yvi6^mnj||^*^;4^. and doors open at 6 p.tn. One dollar from each On a more serious note'. Smith has sdd that acted fable about a woman whose loydty to propensity for schizophrenia. Judy explores society's part in creating a ticket will go to AIDS Rochester, Inc. Dinner ills kte father, a retired state cop, had been her husband remdns constant, despite his con gaydom. One of the small duster of destina , < V V -* •• culture that could allow such hate crimes. She But Ron Howard is not concerned with show tickets are offered at $30 each, plus tax more accepting of his son than Bob had red- siderable mentd deterioration. This "stand by tions we dream of, like Oz, as a haven, as ours: ^Stiy Ouesidonixomb«*«M»«.#«.wM*..»«k4M6 reminded us that we as Americans were all artistic integrity or emotiond honesty. In A and gratuity. These tickets guarantee preferred ized. Only after liis father's death did he leam jrour man" sentiment is controversid at best, South Beach, Provincetown, Chelsea, The rwadventiNWS In Bitstjâaia**^*^,»*^ja victims ofthe hate crime of 9/11. She empha BeantifulMini happy days are here agdn. Russell seating. $35/person (plus tax and gratuity) that his father had rebuked "fag" jokes at a and certainly worthy of discussion on its own Castro. sized that we must come forward and shcnv all Crowe's queer role in The Sum tf Us is long entitie the purchaser to "Gold Cirde" seating Policeman's Ball by saying, **My son's gay, and terms. But if Alida Nash's choices remain I went to P-town itt. the ''70s when I was those who arc stuck in fear-based thinking that forgotten, and John Nash — who's stiU alive Jl- dose to the stage, and features Rund's on the it takes a lot more guts for him to ded with unquestioned, any possible explanation for young and it still had a diic cachet despite a i-ft ^- ' it is NOT acceptable to hate. and holditig office hours at Princeton — is Ridge traditiond buffet Tiiere is a possibility being gay than it does for jerks like you to sit John Nash's schizophrenia is, likewise, unde- êttcK fwdl: queers weren't allowed in The Her message was challenging to the old way only partially honored by this over-simplified that the gay cotnedy shows at Harro East will there tdking with your mouths full and your vdoped. Moors afi:er 5 p.m. Provincetown bubbled with coffee, two eggs, and dry toast. I do get that you know? It's what you can't figure out that is of thinking. Byherexample, she was helping to tribute. be a regular feature in coming months. heads empty." Under Ron Howard's direction, John Nash energy, sex was everywhere, the tnen were hot. Plus a frown. And a bill for $9.50! the challenge. Is the server with thc tipped hdr shift the audience's way of seeing the world I came to South Beach late but still it was Burp and off to explore. Aha, a decent gay? Is the grungy rat in baggy clothes wiping and its potentid. The insights later expressed exciting: Tlie Wintet Party fmde on the beach cookie shop and a very good Different Light off tables straight? Are those two guys in a by students in my cwo Nazareth psychology packed with buffed bronze gods, most Iikdy, bookstore, but as I amble further, far too huddle in the corner buddies or what? classes were proof of it. c:v'^J^rINE COIFHXJTFLES when I thought about it, husders of signifi many junky shops selling rainbow anything, [email protected] What would happen if every person felt free Small Breed II>o^ C^rroomin^ cance. Over thc years I've watched Chelsea storefront windows decorated with cock rings enough to be all that they could be? VChat and dildos. Ho hum. Lots of sieazoids sitting GrooiDed'witb love £ast side location supplant the West Village as the epicenter of would happen if we stopped projecting our ^HIHI on the sidewdk, no outdoor cafes, a couple of by HHNH near gay life in Manhattan. Now Fve made it across Wbmanspirit fears on women, the poor, gays, people of the country to San Francisco. trashy club-wear clothing stores and card shop Margo Giunta ^^^^B^.^^HK. HH Winton and Blossom color, different religions, other countries? If In a week Fd done just about everything a after card shop. A tourist trap. Tliat is what the By Dr. Paula CaU in we owned our part in creating human suffer B^'^^Ê tourist is supposed to do in San Francisco, Castro has become. As Gertie Stein observed 451-2405 my bome-bascd deChelly ing, would we have the potential to tnanifest a even had my photograph taken at the base of about Pasadena, **There's no there there." Or world of global unity, care, support and love? . for an appointment Grooming Shoppe the Golden Gate Bridge, just like Kim Novak the there that was here went elsewhere. Ever>'' time we judge someone who is differ «Ro»ic" in "Vertigo", before 1 hopped that trolley. I Is this it? I return four or five days, hopeful. Matthew's Mom speaks ent from us and treat them with hatred, we add supposed I was like the diner who saves the Yes, there are a few hunks sauntering by. I to the collective darkness. Every time we do best morsel for last — a specid treat. crane my neck upwards towards second-floor My maternd grandmother was well known not allow ourselves to be out as who Ave are, wt Truth be told Fd gone flat line with San gyms. Nifty pavement graffiti: "Stop Think in our small town for the multitude of grudges push our light into the shadows and give power Francisco. I mean how many hills are there? 57, ing About Sex" stenciled on curbs. Finally, on she had developed, and held onto, throughout to the collective darkness. ifyou need to know. Chinatown is tacky. The secondary streets, better cafes, a couple high- her long life. When I was a teenager, I began to Judy Shepard's commitment to educate the Mission district, with those endless murds, is end import shops. Something is off. I long for see that her approach to dealingwith her anger public through her speaking engagements pro cool. Of course the weather in October was New York. Am I an east coast snob? There when "crossed," which was to not dc2l with it, motes a greater understanding of gay issues ided and the views are great and the scde of isn't any tension here, no urgency. It's too alienated friends, family and our community. and crimes of violence. Beyond that, her ex buildings is nifty. But it's hard to find a normd mellow, almost bland- Besides tacky, the Castro She died a bitter and londy woman at nearly ample of being who she is and taking a stand to joint for breakfast North Beach has lots of feels stde, frozen in time. 100 years of age. ; speak her truth, delivers an even more empow tucked-away thrift shops, and it's a good a I collapse back at the apartment Fve been Her older sister, by contrast, was sweet, ering, light-bearing message. pkce as any to meander. There are coffee bars lent, and my host, a cool strdght man in his loving, open-hearted and totally acccpnng of I wish my ow^n family of origin had lived and swank pastry shops forever, but scrambled early 30s — he met me at the airport with a everyone for exactiy who they were. (She lived long enough to see the progress of humanity in eggs, forget it. house key, a flashlight (those Filbert steps are kitty comer to my family.) My grandmother learning thc lessons of the heart. Maybe my So, about day nine» I climbed aboard the treacherous at night) and an ashtray — drops had stopped tdking to my great aunt many grandmother could have opened her heart to trolley heading to the Castro. The trolleys, in by and sheds a Iitde light on matters. Mike has years before I was bom because, I've been told, let in thc ache of sorrow that we cannot escape themselves, are a treat — very European. It's a lived in San Francisco for 12 years and held a of a misunderstanding between my grandfa today. That ache, which connects us to one long ride to the end ofthe line, and one passes couple of really good executive jobs. Hc tells ther and my great unde. another in these mrbulent times, might have dong the way unnerving enclaves of homeless, me his boss is gay, his job-share is gay, so is I was reminded of this formative family helped her keep the connection to those she veritable tent cities. Unlike Manhattan's home their gofer. And you wouldn't know it unless dynamic while listening to the lecture given loved and who loved her. less who hug shadowy doorways or cur! into they told you. No earrings, no tattoos, at any here by J udy Shepard in early February. Judy's Paula deChelhft Ph.D., is a psychotberapist and anonymous blanket-covered iuinps, derelicts rate nothing visible. Just guys, regular guys, son, Matthew, died after being brutally at educator whose commitment to empottvrpeople to be all in San Frandsco excel at aggressiveness. On who wonder if Mike, as regular looking as tacked l>ecause he was gay. The tragedy and that they can he equals ber sincere appreciation ofthe one excursion a homeless man slumped be they, might be gay, too. circumstances of his death brought nariond lessons ofthe heart. hind me flipped out at a woman yakking on her What gives is this: these men are the next attention and an outpouring of public outrage cell phone. **Who wants to listen to her?" he generarion ofgay men. They didn't flee to San for the growing epidetnic of these kinds of hate bellowed. He kept it up and it pleased the other Frandsco. They came for careers because it crimes. Conundrums passengers, all ofwhom clearly had had it with was an established gay culture. They didn*t have The auditorium at Nazareth College Arts cell phone users. OK, one small vote of appre to march or protest They are rather like the Center was packed with students, facdty and dation for thc homeless. daughters of feminists, I tiiink. Thcy have people from the community. Lambda, the stu By Ove Overmyer Anyhow, Mecca is at the end of the line. reaped the rewards of thdr forcliearers* efforts. dent gay organization on the Nazareth cam The Final Out Immediately I notice exacdy what I wanted, a They are post-gay. pus, had attracted a diverse audience to hear greasy spoon, Raêdy Andy, a counter diner It's an interesting concept what Matthew's mother had to say. but one with fag glitz: posters, gewgaws, ex Why live in a ghcno? Rents are liigh. The Judy Shepard spoke sofdy, yet ddibcratdy. I Every few years, text about Adolf Hitier treme rdnbow decor. Such a relief to finally streets stink. Tourists from all over the worid was struck with her candidness, her authentic finds its way on to retdl bookshelves every- find a pkce for a normd breakfast! Hmm. The stdk aroand with video recorders. Thc fact is, ity, her wisdom. It was clear that she was wiiere, trying to entice an dready satiated pub counter man. He is very muscukr, ofa certdn the whole dty is gay. There is not just one gay determined to use the untimdy loss ofher son lic They just keep cotning. Wiiat could posd age, prol>ably on the dark side of 40, but very, neighborhood. And the gay citizens of San to make a difference in the worid. bly be new? very fit He has a shaved head. He has a nose Frandsco have blended in. You cannot tdl She shared with us the letter she had read to Well, the most recent publication out tliere ting, a vety krge one, one suitable for a prize any longer who we are. the jury before the two young men were sen is telling us that Der Fuehrer was gay. It's not bttH He is wearing a white T, black boots laced I got my ear pierced when I was 40. I got tenced to life imprisonment for Matthew's as if Hitier's sexuality codd shed any undis to ilk knees. He has severd tattoos. And, if that anotiier {Meteuig five yeats kter. I was late to murder. Tiie fetter's intent was to present Mat covered light on, say. 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a bk)od test There k NO cure for HSV. There reach meetings to date.) I asi^ severd ques ktter was wearing during that encounter. ASce have sex as it k driving me nuts, but I am Michadangdo, Whitman, Wilde, and Stein, I think you get my point. ate, however, treatments that a doctor can tions of Pam and Patty. Pam answers dietn in The Chapters was dso drawn by Gertrude*s deep and coin- scared. I just don't know what to do. this colunm; Patty's answers wiU be featured manding voice, as weU as iicr impressive Ca^ letter has been examined by other historians, there will dso be a Hitier. I do believe there is a direct line of commu pcescriiie to sootiie/niiniinize symptoms. Once # t A: You have a lot going on in your mind in a future column along the same Hnes. sar-styie haircut and found to be credible. However, Machtan So, the next time you see tiie new, great nication between my heart and my cherry. syn4>toms liave cleared up, however, it k im Seldom Told right now and it is understandabk tiiat you are sdd he is the first to take the correspondence biography of Der Fuehrer, you can say 3rau've Sure, there have been times when I thou^t I portant to rememi>er that you ate stiU infected As to wiiere are aU tlie young Ttanssexuak, Although some sources bdieve that Gertrude feeling scared and confused. If you fed like Pam Barres had this to say: By Miguel Colon and Toklas were Uving togetiier soon aftc^ "seriously." been there — done tliat was in love. And I've been in long term tda- and may have fiiture outbreaks (which wUl ••?. ^ you are not ready to come out, regardless of The lover was named Ernst Sciimidt Mend tionsiiips. My longest was three years. But no often bc preceded by "prodrotnd'* symptoms **The percenuge(of TG) in the popdation thdr meeting —witiiin a jâr—fxiost source* why, then that is fine. Bc patient with yourself Ortiz said the two were inseparable for five years. Misadventures matter what my heart was telling me. ("He's such as itdiing or buming at the dte of infec tnay be ^ small, and the instinct of some TG agree that tlik Uving arrangement waa made until the timing is better. Remember, thougii, after five years of knowing each other. One Additionally, police reports fiom Munich after the one you've been wdting for") my cherry tion). Tliere are dso ord antivird drugs that people is to 'pass*, so honest percentage fig The PilUu- Beside Gertrude in Boyland that die timing will probably never be "per ures wodd be hard to come by." tiling is dear, their home in Paris was tlie place the First Worid War ako suggest that Hitkr knew better ("Don't be fooled by his sweet can he prescrii>ed i>y a doctor if necessary. Stein fect". There will dways be unicxiown variables to see and be seen. was pursued by police because of his sexud tdking. He's not die one. And he's wearing How do you protect yourself/your part Q: If the figures on die gay populadon k By Troy Robinson — lilce how people react putported to lie about five percent, doea Even though the socid mores of the time proclivities. As a •*broMmshirt" (fasdst) activ brown shoes with a black leather coat. What ner? Safer sexud practices such as udng a We have often heard the name of Gertrude Your family and fnends love you, and, with that five percent include the TG? aUowed these women to share a Uvii^ space, ist, Hitier managed to lure many young men to arc you thinking") My cherry has a wonderful condom CAN pky a role in HSV prevention, Stein strewn about in conversations, but do we Virgin territory time, they will hopefiiUy come to accept you PAM: In my opinion, no. the fact remained that it was not sodaUy ac his side, but not just for poiiticd reasons. sense of fashion. but ate not always effective if the sores ate not know much about the woman who supported I'm a 31-year-old virgin. for who you are. You may want to see a Q:Doea the lack of olivioua TG youth ceptable for Stein and Tokks to iiave a totnan- These men were often imemployed street ur In the end, my heart can bc broken a million on die head or siiaft of the penis. Ckariy, not her during her years of wtiting? And who was God, I don't know what's scarier — admit counsdor to discuss all ofthe feeHngs you are reflect a small popukdon, or a **genere- tk rektionship. Thk generd mindset did not chins with no fiiture or direction. times, but it can dways be repdred. Not true coming in direct contact with sores is dso next to her, entertaining aU tiie famous figures ting my tme age or the fact that I'm a virgin. having. Try not to worry too much about being don g^** ofthe Internet Idtid? seem to bother the couple as they became the "If we look at the drcle of people around with the cherry. ^ don't subscribe to the whole advisable (which, ofcourse, means that if pos who came to thdr Paris home? That's right, believe it or not, but IVe never a viîn. You wiU have sex with thc right best hosts to the artistic communiry in tlie Hitier, an awareness of iiis homosexuality bom-agdn virgins idea. I believe tliis to be sible you should try to take a peek first). Hon PAM: Posdbly, but aU Transgender people AUce B. Toklas was bom in San Frandsco had any foreign (or dotnestic) objects near my person at the right time — there is no need to French cs^td. makes it easkr to comprehend how a man like some conspiracy tnade up by cheerieaders or esty and communication can pky a key role need contact with a peer group, particularly on thc 30th of April 1877 to a middle-dass (how to say this delicately) "spedd place." him with no cormections or infiuence codd sorority sisters who lost tiieirs during a kegger put pressure on yoursdf . There are many people liete as weU! Ask your partnets about STD youth. Jewish and PoUsh-American fanuly. Even as It was a rumor in Paris that a negative com Now, I've slept with women in my crazy Q: Doyou think tbat iii^rovingthe vis- become so powerful," Machtan sdd In a recent or underneath the high school bleachers and older than you who liaven't had sex yet dther. history and disciose your own. most of her early Ufe took pkce in the now ment fiom this weU-known couple could make days of youth, so I'm not a "vitgin" in that interview (Source://*flSpr Was Gay^ Interview, are pathetically trying to reclaim their purity.) Try to content yoursdf with having sex with As I liave advised with aU of the other STIs ibliity of BuppcMTt gtoiqie will gfow thek eclectic CaUfomia dty, she also had the oppor or break any artist's career. In essence, Tokks sense. And I've slept with many, many, many took die more nurturing podtion in the house-r Clifford Coonan, Rueters News Service^ Octoi>er Once die cherry is busted, nothing can put it yourself for tiie time bdng. Ifyou do choose to covered in tliis column, having and using the numbera? tunity to attend the University of Seatde. Un men (I've got the scars to prove it, both the hold, even though Stein was famous for bdi^ 10, 2001.) The book dso supposedly illumi back together again ~ not all the king's horses experiment sexuaUy, be discreet and be safe above information is your first step in staying PAM: Oh, yes. Thc Gay AUiance GLBT fortunately for her, the sudden death of her emotiond and the physicd kind). My tongue, the Ustener. Toklas soon put her gods aside to nates the takeover ofthe SA (Sturtnabteilung, or all the king's men. and do not target yout best friend as a potentid hedthy. If you shodd need further informa youth group is growing by leaps and mother required that she work as a house lips, hands, and fingers are definitdy not "vir partner. bounds.This proves that *Virtud reaUty" is be able to support Stein in her writing. From a paramilitary organization used for violent So here I sit, a 29-ycar-old virgin (I've de tion or suspect you might have cause for con keeper untU her departure to Paris, France in gins." Plus I haven't nicknamed my penis "Mr. not enough for aU. keeping the home to arranging the sodd meet intimidation) and the murder of Ernst Rohm, dded its scarier to reved my red age than my cem know what resources are avaikbk to you 1907. Happy" for nothing, but I've never been a Q: What suggestions would you give to ings, Toklas did it aU. the openly gay SA leader. The contention put virgin status) and proud of it. and access them. And ofcourse, as always, be It was during the great earthquake and con bottom or have never bottomed. (I never know Healthy and aduita dealing with TG Idda? In exchange fbr AUce's support, Gertrude forth is that I-litler was not necessarily dis how to phrase that correcdy). gay, bc proud, be HEALTHYl sequent fire of 1906 in San Frandsco that gusted with Rohm's sexuality as previously Erik Ubey is Gay Health Coordinator at AIDS PAM: Let them be themsdves.Give them showered her parmer's Ufe with prdsing po I can hear you gasp as you read this. Gay Tokks had the good fortune of tneeting Leo thought, but rather that he ordered the killing(s) Rochester Inc, andean be reached at 442-2220, or by the support that they need to lead the Ufe that etry. In a bit of irony, Grertrude's most popular And you're probably thinking one of two Stein (Gertrude's brother) and his wife. The to keep him quiet about details of his own AsicGay email at [email protected]. Art archive ofhis they need to Uve. work is The Autolnoff-cphy of Alice B, Toklas. things, 'êah, right! Virgin my ass." By Erik Libey Steins made the trek to the ravaged dty upon persond escapades. previous articles, as tvell ets otber gay health it^rmtt- Q: What do you feel that vre as a society hearing of the disastrous fire. Remarkably, this book was written by Stein Or, *'Why are you wdting?" Questions in general must do to be^ these Idda? about her own Ufe, but from AUce's point of • Given the hostile attitude of most historians STI Part 7: Jeepers Creepers tion, can befound at bt^//tvww.aidsrod)ester,otg/ Toklas was immediately impressed by the Fve used my body like a flesh factory and view. toward homosexuality in the 1950s and 1960s, •com ^health. PAM: We need to ACCEPT difference, and have been a human tilt-a-whirl too many times Stdns' recoUections of France, and by the it might seem reasonable to assume that any OK, admit it WeVe aU met a creep at some reaUze that Transgendered people are as natu Matisse paintings they brought dong. Their After Gertrude's death in 1946, AUce gained to recount (but I do keep a list of natnes of corroboration that the 20th century's greatest point in our life that we wish we'd never met rd as rain. friendship seems to have blossomed enough a similar reputation for her writing, in particu people I have slept with Uke my own littie orgy By Mark McFee villain was dso a gay viildn should have re- and never want to see again. Thete is one Of the youngest Trannies I've personaUy to have encouraged them to keep in touch. lar for her first book, Tbe Alia B. Toklas Cook odometer). So why haven't I done the nasty? oeived plenty of attention. Machtan thinks all GayQuestions.com has been answeringgay- specific creep, however, that the CDC reports TransGender View talked to (ages 22 and 23, both members ofthe Within a year of meeting the Stein fanuly, book, with over 300 redpes. Posthumously, I like to think of doing that particular act as the important indicators of Hitier's sexuality related questions on a variety of issues posed over 45 million Americans have met: HER Byk.lc Rochester FTM Group), one has sdd that he Toklas made the trip to the French capitd. tnany ofher friends attested tiiat tiie redpe that my find frontier. The one act to do with my PES. had fdt these feeUngs since young childhood, made her book famous — Toldas' Hasliish were ignored until now by German scholars by the intemationd community. Starting this Upon her arrivd in Paris she met — once true love. It is my one last symbol of fdth to Fudge — was not even tested by the writer. because there was a "taboo" agdnst any dis month, some of these questions and their The word herpes is from the Greek verb "to Where are all the young and was probably perceived by peers in school, {âin — Mrs. Leo Stein. It was wliile at the bestow upon my beloved. creep," and recent data say^ that one in every etc., as simply a "butch" lesbian. He agreed Some may question her legacy to the GLBT cussion of homosexuality in his country until res{x>nses will be highlighted here in the Empty Steins' home that Toklas met the woman who ACK! Gag! I know. I know it sounds like a five of us over the age of 12 are infected with Transsexuals? that support was, in his ex|>erience, more community, but one thing remains dear: the "the last two or three years." He states that Closet. Ifyou have a question, feel free to stop wodd change her Ufe. As AUce always sdd, bad Judy Blune Hne from one ofher novels for it The herpes virus is actuaUy a family of necessary for a hidden group Uke Transsexu- passion between AUce and Gertrude was strong other historians fail to mention Hitier's gay by the website! I know that they exist, I was one mysdf. As there were only three occasions w^hcn an indi lovesick high school giris. I never sdd I wasn't ak, and encouraged teen support type groups, enough to endure the socid tnorcs surround tendencies because his private life -was ex Q: I am 53 and am married with three kids. viruses that includes a numberof lesser-known were most of the members of the TG Roches vidud came into her Ufe whose genius made the emotional equivalent of 15-year-old, ing them. We can't dismiss the fact that thcy tremely dull compared to his poiiticd cateer. I realized five years ago that 1 was gay and not infections such as Epstein Barr and cytomega ter gtoups. sayii^ he'd have gladly gpne to them if they her hear beUs in her head. The first of these bubble-gun1-snapping,j .Lo-wannabe. At least were pioneers in our quest for equaUty. In Evidently, this author didn't think so. Con interested in women anymore. I have a gay lovirus (some of which we may address in Thcirdtcsjcrowd the Internet; we hear about had existed in his hometown. geniuses was Gertrude. The others were Pablo I admit it. Plus when I go through the laundry many ways AUce sacrificed to ensure her part versely, many serious historians have previ boyfriend and even though he is only 32, we fiiture artides). their stories on TV,and we're told how to ded Obviously, the concept of "supportgroup" Picasso and Alfred North Whitehead. list of one-nighters, I'm very happy that Fm ner succeeded in her career. We can aU leam ously mentioned that Hitkr had plenty of arc in love and have a fantastic sex life. When The best known of these viruses, however, with thdr problems and issues when we run is invduable to Transgender teens, and shodd AUce's first topic of conversation with still clinging to my cherry. about love from her Ufe with Gertrude. openly gay friends and allies, especially in the 1 confided in a friend, she was disgusted and is herpes simplex virus (HSV). HSV comes in across them in regard to schools. be explored much morc in depth by aU Ameri Gertrude Stein was about a cord brooch the The sdlor on shore leave didn't get it. early part of his career. sdd that I was too old for him; is this true? two types: HSV I, most commonly associated The question is, where AI^ they? Not in can communities, as a further commitment to The professiond ice skater didn't get it. Machtan does a good job suggesting that A: It is not uncommon to find gay rcktion with sores around the mouth or nose ("cold 'Virtud reaUty," but in good old traditiond improving the Uves ofour kids. (OK, he was Grover in a Sesame Street review on Hider was never very interested in women. ships with age differences ranging from 10 to sores^'), and HSV II, causing simikr sores on reaUty. So my condusions are, in part, that possibly ice, but he still gets pdd to bc in the ice rink. I Even his rektionship with Eva Braun, the 25+ years satisfying the different preferences the anus and/or genitd region. An important Is it a question of "coming o ut" as in "CAN'T the younger Transsexud population gets its was finding purple fiir in the strangest places woman he married in his Berlin bunker in 1945 men liave. If you and your boyfriend are in point to note right off the top, however, is that come out — Fm in gender heU in my high support either directiy or indirecdy from thc for days.) "CaU the Gay CPA" just before they both commined suidde, was love, happy, and enjoying yourselves, that's even though this is their most common mani school"? Is it a question of support, as in "I intemet (either in actud onUne groups, or The pom star didn't get it (All right, he most certdnly platonic, according to Machun. wonderfd! It is unfortunate that your friend festation, these two types of HSV are not have no support groups," or "I can't find simply from visiting individuak* sites.) And For all your accoimting needs filmed homemade videos and sold them on the Moreover, to assume Hider was homosexud was unable to be happy for you when she told restricted to those areas. For example, it is any...?" (a front burner problem now being since the word that's been created to describe internet, but how many actud pom stars are requires a leap of faith — which, so far, only you about your boyfriend. Not surprisingly, possible to contract HSV II oraUy or HSV I on dedt witii, at least in Rochester, by the Gay tills wliolc group of people , 'Transgender," there in Rochestet?) Machtan has been willing to make. And he this type of situation sometimes evokes nega the gcnitak (through ord sex, for example). AUiance's Youth Group director PattyHayes, covers so many types of expressions of gen The UPS guy didn't get it (dthough he had jumps in with both feet, asserting the Nazi tive reactions from people, including those Once infected with HSV, the virus generaUy in conjunction with the RTG.) der, from the old butch and femme to actud a nice package). dictator was a practicing homosexud. who are close to us. We need to understand has an incubation period of two to 20 days When originaUy contacted by me in Novem gender crossing (with hormones and/or sur The frat boy didn't get it Hitler^s Secret is touted as a major biographi that it isn't easy for some people to initially before sores wiU appear. Symptoms may begin ber of last year, Patty Hayes discussed the fact gery), the more extreme gender-benders may The two Marines didn't get it Full service income tax preparation cal achievement, bei^ published in eight lan accept a relationship that they may perceive to with an itching or tingling sensation in the that she actuaUy had few if any vcry young constitute otily the tip of the iceberg. The banker didn't get it (and neither did the guages simultaneously. However, I found be a father/son rektionship. As long as you infected area. Sores wiU then often appear, and Transsexud or Transgender kids (at that time) SUPPORTING this group of young people QectroDic filing butcher, the baker, or the candlestick maker, -." o Machtan's work to be full of probabilities, and your parmer arc feeling secure with jrour may range from tiny red "pimples" to latge raw actuaUy SEEK support group hdp. (Far more in an effective, non-virtud way wiU truly bc dthough I do recall having three men in a AU other states available (that have an income tax) inferences and must-have-beens. It ako comes relationship and view the age difference as bUsters. These sores, which usuaUy last be prevdent is the "G&L" aspect of aU support one chaUenge that we face with our kids for shower at one time). with lots of unnecessary foomotes, and clunky manageable, try not to allow others to take tween two to seven weeks, can appear any groups generaUy anyway, yet you might think the future. Thc bartender didn't get it. Corporation, Trust and Partnership returns cliche jargon. Too many assumptions and too away from your happiness! where you had contact with the virus, but are that the far more sodaUy "unacceptable" gen (KK is a member ofthe RTG, and founder ofthe The wdter didn't get it. few facts highlight an uneven, unbelievable Q: Fm HlVpositive and hedthy. My vird most commonly seen around the lips, nose, der benders would need confidentid support Rjochester FTM Grot^,Fer mon info, piease see our o ir Avaiiabie year round for tax questions The other wdter didn't get it. biography. load is undetectable and myTcdls are fine. Fm penis, vagina, and anus. They can dso be groups even more;) website at: HYPERLINK bttp:// The wdter with red hdr didn't get it Hitier was Nazism, and Nazism was about about to begin a relationship with someone. found intemaUy, such as in the mouth/throat Hmmm! www.geocities.com/rochestertransgendergroup Year end planning for the lowest legal tax The wdter with the shaved head didn't getit red perversion. Like Hitler's sex life, iiis poiiti When is the "right" time to disclose my status? or rectum. -Other symptoms you may experi When surting this column I dedded to go www.gtoeities.eom/roebtstertransgemdergroup/ The wdter with the Cabin attdHobbes tattoo' cd life was ako unconventiond. Dreams of A: Ultimately, the "right" time is when you ence may indude fever, muscle aches, and i>ack to Patty, and dso tdk to a few other RTGbtml didn't get it world domination, the hatred of Jews and feel comfortabk disdosing this information generd flu-Uke symptoms. An important point people, such as RTG group leader Pam Barres, Thc wdter...(dairm! there are a lot of wdters Bolshevilcs, theories about radd purity, fits of —* dthough it shodd be before you have to note here, however, is that oniy ^prod- and get THEIR input (We at the RTG and the in this dty... and none of them got it) madness, cruelty and meanness — these were intimate contact with your partner. Hopefully, matdy 10 percent of those infected report GAGV youth group have liad two youth out- The guy with the pierced nipples didnH get just his hobbies. In telling Hitier's story, our your partner will react favorably, but you need having S3nnptoms of the virus. it (585) 586-6160 author has done something I would otherwise to give him time to listen to what you tdi him, Having this information now rdses some The guy with the pierced navel didn't get it. Svsaa SaaVilippo, C.8.W. think impossible. He made the great monster discover what this means to him and your vety relevant questions: Ilease call fOT an {4)pointiiimt The guy with the pierdng "down there" of the 20th century boring. rektionship, and share with you his feelings How k HSV passed? It is primarily passed 334-3861 didn't get it. (What if that had snagged on to Sure, Hider was queer ali right My glib and thoughu. As you know, this is a delicate through contact wth open sores (induding something? Yikes!) Conn—Hug tk PsyehothMrapy undcrstandingof Hitier's supposed homosexu process and you need to treat liim with respect sexud and/or casud contact). It k ako some The Canadian didn't get it ality sectns to be the lens through wiiich iiis througout HopefiiUy, he will do the same. times possibk for an HSV infected individud -Wlj€ai$'ti^ltefair9 The Englishman didn't get it sexud-giamour-hypnotism reveds itself iiis- Q: 1 am a 24 year old gay man. I am afrdd to pass thdr virus even wlien they do not iiave -If Idtaitgp,miUmyparttter9 ^v The Jamdcan didn't get it 31PuttingGreenLaiie,Pîfielk with coming out yet I am iri attention fiom your doctor or an STD dinic. The Mormon didn't get it it docs show that no matter what generation love with my liest friend who is 100 percent Tiie mostcommonway to diagtioseitis duou^ 500 Helciidale Road, Suke 155» Bocfatatcr N.Y. 14M9 The nun didn't get it (OIC, I threw that last you have lived in, there will ahwrays l>e someone sttaight and has no idea that 1 am gay. 1 need to visud examinatfon of the sores, but it is dso one in to see ifyou were still paying attention). there to "out" you. 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": 1st / AiDS Rocliester Women's Health Rochester Renegades Women's a non-profit, volunteer or^nization. HPA raises and distributes funds to support programs Outreach* 1350 University Ave. ARI has Rugby. New players always wetcome. Call provkiing services to people living with HIV/AIDS in nine-co. area. Hotiine (585)987-1853. %^ i services for HIV positive wonrten and odi hotline at (585)234-3066; online at Gay AUiance of the Genesee Valley peer îlltators can provide referrab to physicians ers In the lesbian community. 442-2220. www.reneigadesrugby.com and serVkc agendes. Person on du^ Mon/Thurs. 1-9 p.m., FrL I -6 p.m. Message machine WHY SHOP ANYWHERE ELSE! www.thebreastcancersite.com (click • ONLINE: other times. (585)244-8640. NYS DoH anonymous HIV testing third Wednesdays. CO donate site) Upstate LesConnect: http.^/ Center for Heaith and Behavioral Training of Monr<»e County, 691 St. Paul St., 4th WE DELIVER ^^ L- Community Health Networic 758 groups.yahoo.com/group/up5tatelesconnect; fk>or. Collaboration of Monroe County Heafth Department and U.R. Provides year-round WE SHIP IN NYS SPECIAt ORDERS WELCOME Sou* Ave. 244-9000; TTY (716)461 ^9202. email LesConnect@a^.com training in prevention and management of STDs, HtV, TB and related issues, such as [bthname HIV and Primary care medical services for RochesterDyices: www.rdykes.com; e- domestic violence and case managment. (585)530-4382 v/tty. RF.Al.TORst-' HIV positfve women, dieir negadve part mail [email protected] ANNIVERSARIES * OFFICE PARTIES * BIRTHDAYS * FAVORS Community Health Network (CHN). 758 South Ave. Comprehensive HtV care and ners and famiiy members. OB/GYN, HIV WOWcny: emaH: [email protected] DINNER PARTIES * WEDDINGS AND UNIONS * HOLIDAYS * Richard Sarkis Micheal Faucher pre-test and post-test counseling. Confi primary medicaf care for individuals who are HIV positive, their negative partners and adult GENERAL: famity members.CHN offers Nutritional evaluation. Neurological evaluation. Vision screen GRADUATIONS * "WILL & GRACE" NIGHT dential or free HIV tilting, Women's Resource Center. YWCA. ings. Gynecological care. Medical case management and counseling. Out-patient trîtments Associate Brokers • 442-1800 x211 or x253 Altematives for Battered Women. Hours: Monday-Wednesday 9 am-9 pm / Thursday-SatunJay 8:30 am-9 pm 175 N. Clinton Ave. 546-7740. and infusions on-site. Liaison nurses to coordinate home care needs. Educational resources www.richardsarkis.coin • [email protected] 232-7353. Shelter, counseling. Lesbians wei Slice of Life Cafe. Feminist vegetarian and supportgroups. Access to clinical trials, lab and fârmacy services on-site, and Referrals come. restauranc 742 South Ave. 271-8010. to substance abuse programs, psychotherapy, and other specialized health services. Victim Resource Center of Wayne Coalidon for Lesbian Visibility. Di (7I6)244-9000.TTY (585)461-9202. 'your Cotnmunity Realtors with Over County. Newark N.Y, Hodine 800-456- verse group of women hokiing poducks/ Rochester Area Task Force on AIDS (RATFA) is a collection of agencies providing 1172; office (315)33l-t 171; fox (3150331- socials in Finger Lakes area. Second Satur a multiplicity of resources and services to the upstate New York community. Their offices 27 Years of Experience" ^ 1189. days. Becky Bly. (315)539-6271. are located through the Finger ludces Health Systems Agency, which also provides CREATING COUPLEHOOD Mary Magdalene House. Women*s Color Outside the Line Crew. Con medical literature and newspaper clippings, as welt as demographk and statistical data for use in developing heatth care servkes. (585)461-3520. outreach center for HIV positive women tact Jackie Wiiriams. 482-4945. with Ttr. Paula deChelly & Lee Brind'Amour and women at rislc 291 Lyell Ave. Open Men of Color Heaith Awareness Proiect (MOCHA). HIV prevention focus for men 6-Weelc Introductory Tlierapy Group Mon-Fri. 6:30-9:30 pm 458-5728. Checic our monthly and ongoing who have sex with men (MSM) in the minority community. Support groups, one on one êmr POLITICAL: Calendars and the Gay Groups section education, safer sex workshops, referral services, buddy testing. Sibley Tower Building. 25 for leshian couples who want skills, insight & support Wom^n Against a Violent Environ for more groups and events, and call Franklin St., Suite 1060.420-1400. *Starts March 20th* call 716-473-3050 ment (WAVE.) Issues of vk>lence against the GaySource infoline for referrals, at vwmen. PO Box 15650, Rochester NY 244-8640. And send us your informa Monroe Community College maintains an AIDS Resource Library in the Leroy V. Good Library, 1000 E. Henrietta Rd. 424-5200. 14608.234-9709. www.mooreresults.com/ tion! Monroe County Health Department, at BSS W. Main St., offers testing and counseling for HIV and other sexually transnrutted diseases. (585)464-5928. F««Hng Isolated? DcpreaMMl? Sexual, Relationship Addiction Issues? Strong Memorial Hospital provides a complete range of HV^ medkal care, inciuding AIDS DIRECTORY GONTINUED access to experimental treatment protocols, and HIV cesting. Also provides individual and group psychotherapy. Training of health care professionals also available. Infectious Disease Clinic, (585) 275-0526. Department of Psychiatry. (585) 275-3379. AIDS Training Catholic Charities AIDS Services. A multicultural and bi-lingual staff providing services Project, (585) 275-5693. to a diversity of people infected and affected with HIV. We provide Intensive home-based case management for aii ages; a clinical crisis manager; a child/adoiescent case worker; AIDS Remembrance Garden. Highland F^rk South, Rochester. Infoline: (595)234- transitional case management for children and family meml:>ers going through bereavement; 164a Mailing address: 935 EastAve., Rochester NY 14607 recreational and support groups for children and teens, and camping experiences including Camp SOAR. We coordinate HOPWA (Housing Opportunities for People with AIDS) Planned Parenthood of Rochester and Genesee Valley offers testing and informa short term emergency assistance with rent/mortgage/utiiity payments and limited subsi tion (585) 546 2595. dized housing. 1945 E. Rkige Rd.. Suite 24. Rochester NY 14621 (716)339-9800. 496 ^Tiitc SprucG Blv Threshold Youth Center provides confidential testing for young peopie ages 12-25. Fees on sIkiIng scale, no one denied servke. Threshold Center for Akemative Youth Services. Rochester. N\' 14623 80 St. Paul St. 454-7530. Free oral HIV testing Thursdays 2-4 pm., ages 12-25. 585-327-2121 Rural HIV testing, anonymous and confklenttal. in Alleghany, Livingston, Ontario, wakell^'insiMrîiâolc Schuyler, Seneca, Steuben, Wayne or Yates Counties, call 1-800-962-5063. Weekly Gay Men's Planned Parenthood Action Front Center (Action for a Beuer Community.) Provkies HIV prevention Residential Rewiring Our Specialty Group Since 1997 education and case management servkes. Training and technical assistance to servke Free Estimates • Fully Insured • Licensed Master Electrician needs volunteers providers. Resource library open to public. Att servkes free and confidential. Multicultural Phone# 654-8642 • [email protected] • Emergency# 202-0402 and bilingual staff. Rudy Rlvva, program manager. 25 Franklin St., Suite I IOO. Hours 8:30- TrareêrKier-lHtersex 5 pm, Monday-Friday. 546-6180; fax 546-5669. Free anonymous HtV testing on walk-in On^qp Fonning Consider volunteering at Planned Parentiiood ofthe Rocliester/Syracusli b«sb; Thursdays 9 am- 4 pm, provkled through NYSDOH 9t Action Front Center. 242 Region (PPRSR). Currentiy, PPRSR is recruiting for Its Rape Crisis Ahd^#ft^ St. Carmen Hau, 262-4330. Servkes (RCS) program. Anthony Jordan Health Center Prevention and Primary Care Program. HIV RCS continues to search for recruits to become volunteer counselors. counseling and testing (free if uninsured). cv>mmunity outreach. Center in-reach with strong EUSCTR Volunteers are the backlsone of this important community service, which focus on education. Comprehensive HtV care and servkes, including medical treatment. 'nUeOoH WHhmii Shorts" serves victinns of sexual assault and their families, providing advocacy, CD4 and viral toad monitoring, medkations (on-site pharmacy). OB-GYN care, opthamology. referrals and crisis-intervention and by lending support during medical dental, nutrition, mental health andsubstance abuse servkes, case management, community Richard D. exams, police investigations, and court proceedings. Monroe, Livingston, service referrals, support groups., assistance with medicaid and dt$aNlity.'82 Holland St., Rochester NY 14603; 423-2879. Genesee, and Orleans counties are all In need of new volunteer*. Each Fenwick county will provide training this winter for qualified applicants. Volunteers Evergreen Health Services. Primary care, HIV and family care, HIV testing and L««rn to: must be at least 20 years old and able to make a one-year commitment. counseling: (585)847-0328. Contractor Interviewing and screening is taldr^ place niyw, so ifyou are interested, • Olve vole* to your emotlone CDC Nationai STD and AIDS Hotline. 1-800-^42-2437; 1-800-227-8922. EngMsh Now OffMing HunlM'.OoiigIn please cali Kathy Pexton, 585.546.2771, ext. 318 or e-mail to HYPERLINK • Develop your etrengthe *"majlto:[email protected]*' kpexton4^>prsr.org. service 24 hours a'day, seven days a week. Spanish sessvc^x 1-800-344-7432, 8 am- 2ftm, • % louv^ draptt & Kktch mini * • Improve your reletieneliipe Additional volunteer needs are for Clinic Escorts, Graphic Design Profes seven days a week. TTY servke; 1-800-243-7889, 10 am- 10 pm. Monday-Friday. sionals, Health Educators, Library Aids, advocates, clerical roles and • Conquer your feere Public Interest Law Office of Rochester (PILOR), 80 St. Paul Sc Suite 701. Free legal OMign,DryWM,Dwla, IndivktumlM, Coupl9s,Fmmify mtd Oroup Psyeltottwrmpy special events volunteers. There are many opportunities In which PPRSR services to HIV positive persons, families, Spanish bilingiai advocates available. All civil cases ^^JkMi&AaîftJ flyuha^KflAu 66^HBflUHMktfHMl6 could benefit from your time and talent, so cali now and get involved by except dhôrce; no criminal cases. Ask to speak to someone in PILOR. 454-4060. Edith Bernstein, CSW sharing a meaningful volunteer role this year. (>flrpoiiiiy> rroptny innpiMni . Planned Parwithood protects and supports every person's right to make a Heaith Association HART (HIV/AIDS Residential Treatment) Program. 250 Flexible hourg 624-A Plttelbnl-Vioti0rllood voluntary. Informed decisions alMHft sexueKty and reproduction In cNtier East Ave (585)232-6382. Provides housing assistance, acupuncture, nrossage, reiki, support Repairs to full reptamment auatuMlte Basin 14SS4 groups, referril servkes. Positively Alive (HfV + women's support network). B>1 mkHng feo 90uto to lead a healthy and fbHIIIing Ufe. To ifo this, PPRSR provides health care, Tal: ne eea BOTO education, counseling and leadership in preserving the right to FreeeslimalM Iêstside Health Services. Brown Square Heaidi Center, 175 Lyetl Ave. (254-6480); CaN & leave message FeK 716'aM 0427 reproducQve freedom. Woodward health Center. 480 Genesee Sc (436-3040). HfV/AIDS servkes. support. nxN-e. Special emphasis is given to w«»men who have limited access to services. w^^;

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I do like snow, however. There> oo 104 in Csmbiidge, about seven 'm3es fiom /www.tnbfcyssnowshoes.com", and youll see great aMut estiog here is tiist tfae diefr need to aoov in New Yotk Oty and i^s aInxMt the end Smuggês^ Notch. We did a wine-and cheese foryoutself. impress the customers witfa their ctestions. of February. As long as thete ase wann dothes pairing. Wines like Leon MlDot, Se3rval Blanc, Lesbisiv^flanneL Need I say more? Ver Fancier is their other site, Butier's, located at and a fireplace in ^gduch to dispose of old Cajruga, Nortiiem Spy Dry, Gteen Mountain mont Flsnnd Con^ttny (vemiontflanneLccmi) The Inn at Essex—Iknow—you want tiie— Food and passion: dining out in Old San Alberto Nazario sdcphctfie books, Fm gleeful I just came back Classic Reserve, Apê Raspberry, Vexmont sells clothing inthe area. Thit flannel is Vety Ma|^ Reserve — a white wine made from Hey, that's why tiiere is a website called fiom Vermont. Smug^r^s Notch on Route uan at tlie 'Âphrodisiac Restaurant** on««* tightly knit, but not bulky. You can even use fermented Northern Spy apfês with maple dogpile.com! 108 South (HYPERLINK "http:// Homosexual!^ in Puerto Rico: them fbr pajamas. I did not give up my sandals» syn^, Rtvetbend Red and Glogg. Oh, yeah, Up near the timeshare on Rte 108 is tiie www.smuggs.com". By Dennis Tucker, axxonnpanied by Miguel 4 entree, a selection of fresh grilled prawns : "Gay men follow two paths in Puerto thou^ Yesfs ago I found the utmost in san they also have their own nubile syrups, too so Yankee Smugger Restaurant. Downr^tgood As usual I •êtblued" (gay ftiendly and great Colon Ortiz served wid\ wild rice. My appetizer was a |^te Rico. They lose themselves and blend into dals wfaile beingin PHTown. The company went you need not go elseiiêre for the sweetness food, such as Yankee Scallops that ate bacon ptioes—www.jetblue.com) to my destination Alberto-Nazatio is an artist, a performer — a of delicious broiled chorizo: slices of rich, the anonymity ofthe crowd; or they become under but this guy in Vemiont bought it. I wear — of maple syrup, that is. Ix^ on to — you wrapped and glazed with Vermont Alaple of Buriington. Checked out car rentals prices showman, even. His palette includes fresh sea flavorful sausage with a garlic sauce fbr dip leaders and role models for their communi- tiiem tiH year round — honcstiy. Can't find guessed It — www.boydenvalley.com or call Syrup. Seafood is fresh. Vermont Chicken: beforehand and found Thrifty to have the best food, ftruit, and wild tice; the cries of parrots ping. This was followed by a culinary invention nes. shoes tisat ate as comfortable, and in ti&e winter 802-644-8151. boneless breast smiled with Vermont supples, and the gende chirping of Puerto Rico's coqui ÔO-THRDPTy). They're on the main road of Alberto's: a crispy crepe stuffed with chicken The IJfeatyie ofthe Traveler: I can wear bulky woolen socks, keepix^ me Although the winety has some outstanding cheddar, and smolced ham grazed with Ver fipgs, and warm troptical air stirtifig the quenepas outside the airport and don't charge extra if and cheese, accompanied by a grilled ted po •Whenever you briefly settie somewhere wanner tlisn wearing shoes — just can't wear wines — teally, they do — the best for wine mont apple dder and maîte syrap sauce! Phone and mango ttees in his San Juan restaurant's yoor domestic parmer wants to take turns at tato widi house sauce and alfalfa sprouts. and then move on, take one thing you can't them in thc snow. Oh, yeah, tiiey're called Ftpg and cheese pairings is located at 156 Church number (802)644-5511. courtyard. dtivii^. For dessert, Alberto posed this question: live without. This will gradually surround Sandals and are not in the stores — Needless to say, I just had to go to tiie Fve been to Smugg^r's Notch in tiie fidl. St,inadowntownBuriit^;tonrestaurantcalled Ostra Cosa is billed as '"The Aphrodisiac "Among thc flavors of passionfiruit, coconut, you with what you've become." www.6ogsandals.comu Even my chiropiactor Vetmont Teddy Bear factory on Shelbume Loved it. Hmeshare muts are a plus. You can Smokejacks. The tasting usually consists of Restaurant", and the experience of good din and chocolate, which is your favorite?" He ^veatS'titem. two to four cheeses with a gâss of wine. For Rd. (Route 7) in Shelbume. Not only do they The Risks of Dining: do your own cooking and there's a driving ing is cleariy one of Alberto's passions. Miguel then brought for me a scooped-out papaya "In every other restaurant, thc risk is com OK, between the two trips, I ate and drank instance. Orb Weaver "Farmhouse sell same sex bride and groom sets, but tiiey Atberto Nazario, owner of Ostra Cosa range. Hitting the balls proves to be great and I enjoyed thc company of our gracious filled widi homemade chocolate gelato f *Made my way around. Ben & Jetty's factory. Green Cheesc"(New Haven, Vermont), Does' Leap now have a Gay Pride Bcari Yup, tiiete's a restaurant in San Juan, Puerto Rico pletely on the customer, who pays whether exerdse, and they have a miniature golf course host as he joined us several times bct\i'cen without milk," Alberto said, "from the oils and Mountain Coffee. Cabot Creamery. Lake Farm •Tomme"(East Fairfield, Vetmwn). runtxiw tattoo sewed on to tiie atm. Andrc^- they really like the food or not. At Ostra as well Strength in the amis fbr better bug aperitif and after-dinnet cordials one evening essence of chocolate."). Fot Miguel, a sphere," he says. His guests dine in the court Champlain Choo^tes (the/ce making ice Hillman Farm Harvest Cheese (C<^ratn,Mass.) nous. Cosa, I prefer to take that risk as your host. ging, I don't swim, so my pattner went canoe- in February. After fixing us a chocolate martini passionfruit hull filled with a sorbet of that yard of a 16th-century Spanish mansion in cream too). Lake Champlain and Cabot share and Taylor Farm Gouda (Londotideccy, Vt.) Eventually 111 be making my way to tiie Ifyou don't like your meal, why should you it^ while I leamed to paint and a Cuba Libre (rum and Coke with lemon), tropical fruit. Viejo San Juan, the capital's historical "old an Annex in Wat^bury on Route 100, 1.4 were paired with a white Butgundy, Guillemot- Southem Vermont area. I don't Icnow if it's as pay for iti*" Back 10 winter. I cefisse to paysotneone to Alberto setded into a nearby chair. "Gende "Food, forme, is an aphrodisiac, a passion," dty" of cobblestone streets and colonial for mUes north of B&J (800-881-6344). Drop by Michel, Macon-Villages, Burgundy, France. great as being around Buriington, but they do men, let's talk food," hc said, and with that Creativity: fidl down tiieir mountain, so I stripped tiie says Alberto. "I don't worry over 'authentic tress towers. With seadng for f)erhaps 10 duringlunch time and san^le loads of cheddar 12 cheeses/four g^ses of wine. I never real say, **I lovennontf'! introduction he explained his restaurant's phi '*We should strive for passionate creativ skiing. However, having visited tiie Tubbs Puerto Rican cuisine'. I create what pleases couples or small parties, the atmosphere is losophy. ity, especially we gays. How many chicken me, food you won't find anywhere else." cozy and romantic, like a private garden, with breasts have you eaten? A million. That's '*You have two alternatives," he told us. This creative spark served Alberto well in the noise of the faraway streets muted by tall why I invent my own menu, things you ^'You could lead your life as nortnal: otder his "previous life" as an advertising exccudve trees and tropical plants. won't eat anj^where else." from thc menu, get your fbod, eat it, perhaps in New York City. Bom and raised in Ponce, Surrounded by Puerto Rican flora and fauna, Restaurant Information: compare it to other meals of that sort that EMPIRE STATE PRIDE AGENDA Puerto Rico (on the southem side ofthe is Alberto explains The Mango Rule C*If a mango Ostra Cosa, 154 Cristo Street, Old San you've eaten before, then pay the bill whether land), he journeyed to New York when he was falls on you, dinner is free. If it falls near jrau, Juan, Puerto Rico. Telephone: 787-722- you Uked the food or not. Or—" and he leaned 19 years old. "1 interviewed at Avon one mom it's dessert") and Thc Coqui Rule ("Ifyou see forward intimately, "you could throw che menu COSA. ing, had eight more interviews that day, and a coqui, jrour dinner is on tiic house" — the tiny away, and simply say, 'Alberto, feed me!'" Appetizers include seafood such as was hired by Avon later that evening," he ftogs are often heard, but rarely seen). \Xîth his theatrical delivery of this line, we were vinaigrette-^marinated anchovy fillets and recalls. **So much for the tough New Yotk I'd From start to finish, our drinks were well- SAVE DATE! pulled — quite willingly — onto Alberto's minced conch; also salads, turnovers, and heard so much about." mixed, the service polite and prompt, and the stage. other house recipes. $5.50 to $8.95. His advertising cpteet led Alberto into a food imaginative, well presented, and tasty. Entree selection is heavy on seafood, and "I'll ask you some simple questions to get an Creative Director posirion, with clients includ Combine these ingredients with a charming also includes pasta, meat, and vêtarian idea of your tastes, then I'U prepare an appe ing large food companies. Traveling the worid, and creadve host, set the table amidst tiie tizer and an entree suited to you. Ifyou like dishes. $11.95 to $17.95, with some seafood and enjoying rare access to the kitchens of histoty, flavor, and warmth of Old San Juan, at market price. them, you pay. Ifyou don't, you can go back to intemational companies such as Kraft Poods, and you have an evening to remember. E SltVE the menu, and dinner is on thc house." Dishes are ranked by their "Aphrodisiac he cultivated an appreciation of good cuisine. For fldigesti f Alberto brought us two shots Level": from "Oh!" to "Wow!!" to "Ay ay Judging by our meals, Alberto doesn't need Alberto moved back to Puerto Rico several of Sambuca, Italy's anise-flavored liqueur. to redeem that offer vcry often. ay!!!" THIRD ANNUAL SPRING DINNER. years ago to be closer to his family. Opening a "With this you really know diimcr's over," he Desserts are homemade and may vary Miguel, the seafood lover, started with, restaurant made perfect use of his entrepre said with a chuckle. And then, sadly, it was. minced octopus lighdy brushed with vii^n according to season. Thc restaurant also has SATURDAY, MAY 4, 2002 neurial and design skills. "This is perhaps the a full bar. olive oil, basil, tomato, and pimento. For his oldest restaurant locadon in the Westem Hetni-

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- -^-IWIKJ^** ,'H,*^'-V<»-''«k •*•-*• Butch Femme mately $102 per person^Check with oonoC^tiiuC website and tind out where come back. We would like to **WEL- through our series of bar nights — a^âr in Blackfriars Theatre pro area, tiiot]^Buffak>,Syracuse,Utic«t any Community Council member at the wcîMl wiB be and when we'll be COME" everyone to thc group and and to the community-at-large duction of Tbe Eiephattt Man. Darrdl and the southem tier are also repre Connection our services for more information tiiete-KieiltesnowtubinginBauvia.^ are looking forward to getting to through charity work, donations and plays the hospital director. The sented. spring is almost here and it's time to on how to sign up. Or m^te jtw^d ratiier go ice skat know you. Wc usually begin our our annual toy drive at Christmas. Blackfriars production runs March 2 For more information, call our come on out atid enjoy tiie start of Dignity-Int^ty Rochester is a ing Jb^rte yoa ptefer to test your meetings with an update of that past Once a year, we hold the celebrated through March 23, and tickets are information line at (585)234-7641 or warmer weather (hopefully!). living fiuth community of gay, les brain. ^ V join OS at Trivia Ni^t at tile two weeks, then discuss a topic of Rams Rim in a seduded campgtound available by calling (585)454-1260. contact us at our E-mail addtess: £>ue to a previous fiuxiilycotnmit bian, bisexual, and transgender GAGVl^^*da» over a cup of cofiGee interest selected by the partidpants. in Upstate New York, where over a wnyromans@hotmaiLcom or wdte ment, there will not be a Discussion people and thdr friends who wor with u»«C Java's on Thursday ni^ts. Our meetings are open to all fathers, hundted Leatheimen converge an ROMANS ROMANS, PO Box 92293, Roches ship openly with on^ another. Wc Ni^t on March 1. However, our Wayne Cotmty. women, there's induding past members, that have nually for a weekend-long getaway. Rochester Male Naturists (RO ter, NY 1469Z GAYS ALCROUPL ABOUT HAVING FUN S celebrate liturgies in the Episcopal sometiiilpC Aew espedaliy for you! If interest in our group. Please fed ftee Hard hats, coveralls, and more ... Sodal Event Ni^t on Wednesday, MANS) is a sodd organization of to atcend at any time. Frontrunners/ Knighthawks'game on the 16th. Hie Match 27, will be Hobby N^^Bring and Roman Catfaolic traditions, and the soell|^4tt#Wt^ttetoo much for a Join the Rams and the guests of the gay naturists who en|oy camaraderie Empire Bears BEARS will be out in force to see our in an arts Sc crafb project, poetry, wdcome all to come—regardless of drive li)^pi|ll^^^ can suy Our group consists of gay men Bachdor Forum in thdr celebration in the nude. Our affiliations indude Frontwalkers your religious affiliation (or lack of dosei^l|iîri|iP'^lE^^ ingots, a and in some cases> their same sea of thc '^working man" with 'TSlue Mr. Empire Bear 2002 will be hdd at brothers perform in the RGMC con scrapbook, whatever you enjoy as a Gay Naturists International (GNQ The Rochester Frontrunners/ one). Worship with us on Sundays at partners, WeareallatdifiSefentstages Collar Night." That's Saturday, tiie Forum during our bamight on cert on March 23, We've heard gteat Idsutdy pastime activity and share it gtowdMite and Intemational Men Enjoying Frontwalkers invite all to join us Sat 5 pjn. in St Luke and St Simon in our lives: some are married; some March 16, at Thc Bachdor Forum. March 9. Come to the Forum and things about some of the songs in with us! at tiiemii^lratt Pna Kitdien m Naturism (IMEN). urday, March 16 for our 9 a.m. nifv^ Cyrene Church, 17 South Fitzhugh are going tiirou^ the separation/ Don't fotget Can-Am Weekend is join in the fun. Everyone is invited to this concert, and are espedaliy look- It's 7-9 p.m. at tiie GAGV, 179 We meet monthly at members' wdk from the George Eastman Atiantic Ave., comer of Elton/At St. — yes, the church with the pink changt^ i^M iMe to check our tnes divorce process; and are in various coming up on Victoria Day Week partkapate. Bear, Daddy and Cub for tog forward to **Bigger Is Better", a homes during the year. Some meet House — wear green! steeple! After services each week we sage bosid befote heading out. stages of coming out. This is a sup end! Check tills spot or the Rams' 2002 will be named. song that gets the BEAR point of lantic Ave. Bring a snack/non-alco ings have themes or activities, such Well go for coffee afterward at sodalize at a coffee hour where you Spedal for^MOite r and tiie wonder port group (not therapy) intended to website at http:// Prior to the bamight, well hold view. holic beverage to pass. For grot^ as massage, gay literature, swimming, O'Bagefo's, 165 State St. and at 10-JO are wd^yme to join us. ful Rochester weatiier is our Chat discuss the challenges fodng gay fa our monthly potiuck at the GAGV. Also this month, well be going vtp info, call Keny at 865-4619, email www.rochesterrams.com for more hiking, and travd to nude facilities. cheer on severd of our members For mote infonnation about Dig- Ni^t joia OS in die BBS Chat Room thers. Some to^^cs for discussion It starts at 6:30 p.m. every second to Buffido for a get togetiier with the DressyFemfne@aQLcom, get on our details. Meetings are planned for September wholl be partidpating in tiie 5K nity-Int^rity, please call the D-I Mondays at 7 pjn. Youll start to love indude dealingwith wives, ex-wives, Saturday, and March's theme is Irish Buffalo Bears on Saturday, March online meetiflg notification list at through May. Some of the summer Johnnie's Runnin O'the Green at Info-Line at 234-5092 for recorded Mondays* or children; coming out to children, and Scottish foods. Bring a lai^ 30. RocfaBFConnBcd[iM@jafao9gôupsxx«n, Men's Chorus meetings ate hdd at members' homes the Four Comers. If you're a first information or to leave a voice mes parents, spouses, co-workers; build dish to share, and we'll do the rest. Join us at any event. Check or send maU to P.O. Box 60698, You can also join us at home from RGMC is busy preparing for "Men 2 who have a ptivate area in thdr yards, timer — the coffee's on us. sage, see our Web page at http:// ing new relationships or maintaining Our movie nights continue strotig us out at cmpirebears.org, or call Rochester, NY 14606. See you there! die comfort trfyour own computer! Men," March 23 at 8 p,m., at ti!ie or at Jones Pond. Thc Jones Pond We meet each Samrday at 9 a.m. www.ggw.org/DI-Rochester/ or existing relationships; issues with every Monday. It's a great way to get 234-3381. Be safe, be good, and bting Browse our personals/dassiBeds, Hochstein Music School. meetit^ are over a weekend with and Wednesday at 6 p.m. Itx the Chess Club Dignity Integrity send us E-mail at di- children and your parmer. The meet to meet the BEARS. Come to Md's a pic-a-nic basket. WOOF! find a list of focal and women-ori Tickets are available by caUii^ camping and a Saturday picnic which Geotge Eastman House on East Ave. [email protected]. ings are hdd on thc first and third is open to members who drive down Test your knowledge atid stratiegic Diner at West Henrietta and March will be another busy month ented linlra* look at all ofour planned (585) 423-0650. This is a fuU choral Contact us at 720-1856 or skill witii a relatively new dub that Unbroken events, or tneet new friends on our Tuesdays ofthe month, from 6^30 to concert and will indude a perfor for the day. Occasionally we travd to Jefferson at 6 pan. There are usually for Dignity-Int^rity Rochester. As RDykes ro c h f r fw@ hotmail.com has come to tiie Gay Alliance: a chess about 20 members seated in the din we continue our Lenten joumey, well Message Board. 8:30 p.m. at the GAGV, 179 Atiantic mance by the Rochettes. jointiymeetwith another gay natiuist dub! ing room. Becky, the best waitress in Threads take some time out for an Irish- We know where the women are! Do For more information, e-mail Ave, Please call the GAGV at 244- Thc RGMC Board has chosen group. Wbed Whackers This dub, which welcomes all, Rochester, gives us personal service Spring is rapidly approaching — join themed potluck dinner on St. you? Sabiina@RD)^cesxom or visit our 8640 ifyou are interested in finding Saturday and Sunday, June 1 and 2, During our January meeting we Wc are a sodd group of mde whatever the person's skill levd, with a smile and a dirty joke. She also us in cdebrating the end of winter Patrick's Day, Sunday, March 17. Our Rochestcr Dykes is the oldest website at http:// out more infotmation. We have bro for the annud Gayrage Sale. If you finalized plans for our spring and gardeners who meet the second Fri meets every second Thursday at 6:50 knows all our favorites. We ea^ laugh, and make an item to wdcome in the Lenten joumey condudes with Holy online sodal dub for women in the www.RDyfces.com/. chures about our gtoup also avail have items to donate, please call the summer meetings. In particular, the day of each month. Our next meet- p.m. in the Gay Alliance*$ first floor and have a good time. Then some season! Week (March 24-30) and Easter Sim Genesee VaUcy, Our membership able at GAGV. number listed above. two Jones Pond weekends are 19-21 stretches from Jamestown to S5rra- Gay Fathers conference room, the Lewis Nopper people head out for a movie. UsuaUy Due to health drcumstances there day on March 31. Long time bass Chorine Bob July and 23-25 August. Weather co- GAGVYouth Room. Thc Community Center is at it's the cheap tickets at Movies 10, will be one meeting of UnBroken Details on Holy Week and Easter cuse to Ithaca and continues to grow! It was good to get back on our meet Rochester Rams Griffith is recovering at home from opecadr^, tiic June tneeting will be 179 Atlantic Ave. but sometimes we'll go for the finer Threads, on Monday, March 4, from cdebrations at Two Saints and D-I In March, look for a brand new ing schedule in late January and Feb The Rochester Rams (or, offidaily, a nasty bout with pneumonia. Bob is an outdoors meeting. We also have Group things. Hope to meet you there. 7 p.m. to 9 p.m. at thc GAGV, 179 feature on our website! We won't tdl the person responsible for both the severd non-nude events scheduled, Refreshments will be provided, can be found at any ofour services, ruary. We survived the holidays and **The Batteting Ram, M.C") is the The Youth Group and you should bring a chessboard if Our Sunday brunch get together Atlantic Ave., comer Elton/Atlan or by calling our Info-Line at 234- what it is ... you'U have to come to vacations to Florida! Wanner days are titie of Rochester's foremost gay annual holiday poinsettia sale and one of which will be at the Maple you have one. The president, Paul will be eariy tills month, due to the tic Bring a new or current arts & 5092. our website and find out for your coming, so we want to invite all of motorcyde dub. It is a small band of the food collection for AIDS Roch Tree Inn in eariy March. update for the month Forcella, would love to instruct you holidays. We'll have it on the 17th, at crafts project and all* needed sup Planning ahead, we will be having self. those gay dads to come out to our men of similar interests: mototc3rdes, ester. Wc wish him a speedy recov Membership is of>en to mdes over can be found on page on how to be a better player. noon at the Shanghai. Dim sum can plies. a retreat at Thomfidd in Cazenovia, Our "cruise director" has also meetings in March! leatiier, fraternity, and good dmes. ery. 21 years ofagc who have an interest BIS (Connnnunity Come one, come alll See 3û there! be lots of fun. We're going to a For further info contact Kerry at N.Y. on thc weekend of April 12 [banned many fiin events for this We have had several new members The Rams provide community Fellow bass H. DarreU Lance has in social nudism. Most members Center News) 86S-4619 thru the 14th.The cost is approxi month! Look at thc "Events" sec- attend our meetings and continue to service both to the gay community - taken a leave from "Men 2 Men" to fomc from the greater Rochester 1 Third Presbyterian Church £>arbara Oebes, M-5- a IMore Light Church First Universalist Churchi Elaine Elkins M.S. A WelcoMiag CoBfrâtiM e where glbt persons are welcomed as t5e OtettHi Ave. Rockester, NY. i (_.ounselof>/Lesbian 71«-S4<^2aM Psychotherapist partners in ministry We affirm and promote the inherent worth and dignity of every penson IntUvitbuU and relationshi counselmg: Sunday Worship 1C):30 a.m. (Chdd care available, wheelchair accessible, atie:3SAM E.ncouragement looped for hearing impaired) anxiety & depression W« iiihMi cUlTCB«f GLBTruvM* 1 loneliness & separation Monday (IstandSrd) resolving conflicts GLBT Support Group 7:30 p.m. communication skills (juidancc sexual abuse recovery Dignity-Integrity Rocfiester at East Ave and Meigs St (Roman Catholic-EpJscopal) drug& alcoholism Respect Rochester, NY 14607 grief & loss 244-4837 271-6513 Wc welcome all regardless of worship tradition www.thirdpresbyterian.org or sexual orientation. :?^:5 park Avenue Liturgy cvciy Sunday at 5:00 p.m. Romma CathoUc - first, third, mndBhh Sundmy ofthe maath. Spiritus Christi Church Bpiteepmi - sectmd nod fmsTth Suadaf of Ac moath. ll A Ciiriat-cwrtered Catlielk Churcii reacliing beyond ttoe iastitetkHiai Social Hour around 6:00 p.m. Geri Stanton churcii to lie inclusive of all Potluck Dinner every third Sunday ofthe month. •;"""' -.VC'rk, • r.-r/(ivT>i, j;, „;* w" r Mtttgies: Thiffsday: 7:00 p.m. at Spiritus Christi Church Church of St. Luke and St. Simon Cyrenc SatunJay: 5:00 p.m. at SpsntusChriai Church Sunday 7:30 am. at Spiritus Christi Church (the chtirch with thc pink steeple) ogether we will create an 9:30 am. at Hochstein, 50 N PtymcMtfh Ave. 17 South Fitzhugh Street (Comer of Broad and S. Fitzhugh) T environment that protnotes Rainbow Bridge Meetings: 3'^ Mondtoy 7:00-8:30 pm. D-I Info-Line: 234-5092 EXPERIENCE YOU CAN TRUST 60BittBerSt Rochesier NY 1445§• 325-llW (Recorded infbrmation and voice mail) healing, provides supportfor exi E-mail: [email protected] Individual, Couple and MS.Ed., MS.Ed. Web Site: ht^://www.ggw«ofg/DI-rochestci/ Group Therapy National Certified Xk)unseLr your personal joumey atid empc Certified Clinical Mental you to trwke self-resvectina rJmii This Euchanstic communitjr exists ^)ecializing in Conoems of: 1^ toworshipGod Isolation and Loneliness, Health Counselor w«o ^ 9o]^6oekdm thegoenlnews ef/esus Chnst i*>' Relationships, Separation, \ i ( \ .! I I ( 11 I M 9 ia witness to the rcAlity ofGuistimngaty, lesbisn, Sdf-Esteem, Abuse, and .-> *^jrK -VA. w:»4.v^, MS. Ed. biscxuei, snd tnmsgender peopie Sexual Orientation TDD (716) 533-2041 Nationally Certified Vole© (716) 325-7180 Individual, Couples/Gioups Join us in celebrating 25 years Sign Language Prescient ^6) 385-4735 in our community!

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Shirley Bowen, president of tiie Gay tee; for three years on tiie FinaiM:e as in some of the outiying areas, like Alliance's Board of Directors, grew committee; thtee years CHI tfae Ex Geneva, Canandaigua, Batavia and up in Moravia, N.Y. She has tiiree ecutive committee; the Awards com- Geneseo. I expect the GAGV to be younger brothers. After graduating tnittee for tiie Leadetship Luncheoti; setded into anew building with space Coniinuiuty Center from SUNY Cottiand, she came to liaison fbr thc GAGV to the Gill to expand our existing programs, Churchviile-Chili to teach physical Foundation fbr tiie InCommunity and offer additional oj^wrtunities, GAGV education. She waa the atiiletic direc gran^ co-chair witii Tanya Smolinsky like a coffeehouse, aerobic exercise tor at Eastridge and Brixton, prior for tiie Northeast Regional Cotnmu ptognms,artshows, volleyball, CPR Community Center Volunteer of to moving to tiie Assistant Principal nity Centers Conference; Board classes, book discussion gtoups, etc. position at Brighton Hi^ School. President 2001-2002. (I mi^t as well dream!) I expect the Information the Month: Shiriey says, "I currentiy reside in GAGV: What do you feel are the Etttpfjt Closet to be a weekly paper CAOyCommunltyCenter. 179At- Board Pr^kteit: Shirley Bowen Penfield with my parmer, Tracy, and moat important thhiga the GAGV with additional advertising and more lantic Ave., RochesterN.Y. 14607-1255. Execudvo Dfr^ctor: m Hawley Jim Ehmann Community Center phone: Prosram Director: Tanya our 16-year-old daughter, Stephanie. news about sports fbr fexnales as Shiriey Bowen doea tot the lgbt cotnmunity? (716)244-8640 StrJmsky '^ I enjoy golf, fimess activities, bilting, The most in^K>rtant thing the well as males. I worit witii Janie ôhc on the pride in our community^ EmpCyClosetphone:(585)244.9030 Empty Closet Editor Susan reading, travel and friends.** GAGV does for the community is The staff will increase, and so will national boaxdofThatAllMayFreely GAGV: Wbat would 3û aay to GAGV/EC fax: (585)244^246 ^^^ K^^ coreor Misan GAGV: How long have you education—not surprising, coming the budget. Servingon the board will Serve (wfaich aims eo open die Pres aomeone wfao ia tfainldng of Joint GAGVE-malk lnfo@gayallbnceorg Youth Progrmm Coordinator: t>een a lx>ard member? from an educator. The education of be just as rewarding and challenging, bytetian Church to lgbt people). I ing the board? Empty Closet E-mall: Patty Hayes I have been on the board for tiiree the entire community, as well as the but in different ways. am on the SUNY Cortland CV-Qub Ifthe thought of joining the board «fnptydoset@ga,^^^ Executive Assistant: Joseph GAGV Web site: OTooic years. lgbt community, happens in a vari GAGV: Arc you out, and if ao, Board and current president-elect I is daunting, consider working on one www^yaHlance.org M^tt^^spa^ is n^hee/îr accessible. GAGV: Why did you decide to ety of ways: thc programming ofthe ^1^ did yon decide to come out, have been chair ofthe Church Chris ofour many committees to see how Cmntmr hours: Mon/Thurs.. 1-9 pm; Boarti meetings are scheduled far the second foin the board? GAGV, the youth programs, thc and wliat waa the ptoceaa Ukc for tian Education Committee, and a it feeb. The GAGV always needs Fri. I -6 pm. Wednettky i^tbe month. I decided to become more active speakers' bureau, the info-line, the you? deacon. volunteets. The Picnic, Luncheon, Yes, I am out. It was a gradual in thc GAGV when I retired from Htteptjf Closet^ the Luncheon, and thc GAGV: Is community service Sweetheart Ball, Finance, Program/ exercises, group discussions and new Empty Closet volunteer Jim When did you first t>econie ac What has been particuiarly re Brighton High School. I had time staff and board being thc GAGVs process over many years, witii the in^portant to you, and if ao, wfay? Outreach, and Development com Youth Group found stratês, participants will un Ehmann says, "I have been out to quainted with the GAGV? warding about volunteering with more bold steps taken in recent years, avaiiabie, and I wanted to give back representatives in the community. Absolutely. I believe that we need mittees each give you the opportu cover their true selves and leam to myself since I was 14. I actually felt I started helping witii the Etttpijt The Eep^ty Closed as I have survived becoming middle update for to the community. GAGV: Where would you like to share our skills for the common nity to "get your feet wet" and make lead more satisfying and productive that I was different much eariier, but Closet in the late '80s or early '90s, I I tind working on a product that GAGV: What committees/ toseetheGAGVin 10years*time? aged. good, and realize that the giver re a contribution befbre diving into ser March: art lives. didn*t really know that I was gay until don't remember the exact date. My gives so tnuch to the community very GAGV: Are you active in other pio}ects have you wocked on? In 10 years, I expect thc GAGV to ceives more in the long run, such as vice on tiie board. "The Gay Alliance is alivays creat 1 was 14. I came out to my jnom paitner (at the time) and I wanted to rewarding. The EC, 1 feel, is a very I have worked on the Second be going strong, serving morc people glKf gxoi^My or non-gay coounu meeting many neat people, and find- But do get sorted—you won't be project for rally ing innovative programs. Meeting when I was 18.1 came out to the rest give back to thc community, so he important communication tool to the nity groi^, and ifao , îdii^ ones? Sweetheart ball planning comnut- in the Rochester community, as well ing a sense of accom;tohment and sorry. By Patty Hayea, Youth Program thc needs of the glbt population of my family when I was 28. did his thing (facilitator) and I did community. I don't reaUy feel like I builds a stronger commimity," ex "I came out at work in 1993 (age mine at the EC. do much, because what I do comes ng will be in Man^. Coordinator zation to take action on pro-life con Homophobia's one such threat. plains Michele Bonura, Workshop 30), after the March on Washington, easy to me. I like to see the end Thc meeting place varies each Wbmen's Hiking PLAGAL During the month of March, Lynn Then I became more involved victions until the Pro-Life Alliance of Abordon's another. Interested? Have Facilitator and GAGV Intern. I am very fortunate to have a sup product and know that I helped in 3ionth, with past meetings being held Duggan, an art professor at Nazareth with the Lambda Network at Kodak; Says Donna Marie Kearney, ProLife Gays and Lesbians. In 1990 PLAGAL questions? Join us." "Leamitig to empower oneself en portive and lovit^ fatnily, and to some small way. it members' homes, a plant shop, Ladies, come join us each month College, wiil be working with mem and now I am back with the EC Alliance of G^ and LesHans Vice- came into being out of the cock- PLAGAL,P.O.Box33292, Wash hances this concept." work for such a progressive com lursery, and botanical gardens. We for our fun hikes at local parits. All bers ofthe GAGV Youth Group on more regulariy. I am still active with What îroidd you say to others to Presidentof NewYoikSutc, "In the bottom belief tiiat when anything ington, DC 20033. (202) 223-6697. pany, Eastman Kodak Co. I became lave membets ofall ages in the club, different ages and hiking abilities are a special art project. The project will Fees for thc workshop will bc of Lambda; I support the newsletter encourage them'to get invohred history of the gay and lesbian com tiireatctis human life, ri^ts, or dig- Emaib (^[email protected]^. Website: involved with thc Lambda Network rhete are no dues to belong; the only fine. involve making art pieces for a 'Take fered on a sliding scale between $10 and the web site that will be launched with ocganizationa like tfae GAGV? munity, there has not been an organi trity, that threat must go. www.plagaLotg at Kodak (I was on the board for request is that members RSVP and This is a great way to meet fim and Back the Night Rally" which will bc and $20. Scholarships are available soon. I also worked at one of the Giving feels good. Try it — youll three years), which helped mc to :>ring a snack to pass to thc meetings intetestit^women. And rooms, bring held at Nazareth College on April 17. to those who cannot afford the ftiU GAGVs '*Bid From tiie Heart" auc like it. You get what you give. grow, come out to more people more to make it eauer on tiie hosts). Most your kids! They make it even better.t Youth Group members will make price. Pre-registrationis required. For tions. We really appTeaper to the Take the Next ence in '98." played as part ofthe rally at Nazareth teered maybe three to four years. community. HEALTH College. Step in April more comfortable with their sexual This month will also bc the start of The Next Step Group is scheduled orientation or gender identity, com a new youth group and some re- to begin in early April. It will meet Handyman ing out at work or to family, or feel Thank you. NETWORK strucmring of thc youth ptograms for six-consecutive Thursday eve Plumbing. Carpentry. Electrical. Painting (sec article on page Al). ing more integrated into tiieglb t com nings at the GAGV Conimunity The Gay Alliance of the Genesee Valley thanks businesses that Residential & Commefdal Spectalbt *Our new youth programs sched munity. Center. The group is of>cn to gay, contribute to our work and mission through sponsoring events, adver Any Job • Any Time • Any StoB • Anywhwo ule is: Group for Youth 18-23, Thc fee for the group is on a slid lesbian, bisexual and transgender in tising in Tbe Empty Closet, and through gifts in kind. Sundays, 12-1:30 p.m., GAGV ing scale from $35 to $60 for all six BRAD WINDERL HIV/ AIDS medical care can save your life dividuals who want to take thc next This month we thank Arena^s Florist for donating the lovely buildings Group for Middle and High sessions. However, no one will be 271-1156 step in their coming process, whether bouquet of flowers that we presented to Judy Shepard at her recent School Aged Youth, Sundays, 2 — 4 turned away because of limited in they have been out fbr ye^xs or are address at Nazareth College. p.m., GAGV building; Youth of just ncu-ly coming out. come; several scholarships arc avail www.communityheaIthnet.org able to those individuaJs who can*t We also thank the Rochester Athledc Club for their pledge of Color Group, Tuesdays, 3-5 p.m., Through facilitated discussions, afford the full price. For more infor con^>limentary guest passes for the Gill Foundation Trainers who will MOCHA Project, 25 Franklin St., interactive exercises, and journal RAli]>Y^ 716.244.9000 mation or to register for thc group, be visiting Rochester for their InCommunity Program, This program Suite 1060. writing, thc two leaders for thegroup contact Tanya Smolinsky, GAGV of Organizational Development and Fundraising Workshops, which is If you have ideas, questions, or will help participants identify their Program Director, at 244-8640, dr at being sponsored by the Gay Alliance of the Genesee Valley is sure to AsnstdL Pi]r),Thursday (venina":; Community Center, 179 Atiantic GAGV Ccmnmunity Center Spcdaliring Photo Ave., which is located north of tiic 179 Atiantic Ave. ^;,r-Mi: -^ eariy April avMiteg and 8«ft«»dAll i^pta. «v«iiaM* InPhoto Mouse Rids Montoe/Park Ave. area. \ :.h t GAGV •^ V n if"^:unity Ct-f .ter TSeeSkiits The Self-Empowerment Work felt posters shop has been specifically designed Sweat Shifts BaUoon-A-Giaiiis Calendeis for gay, lesbian, bisexual, and $10^01 SU^ng Setffo. 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