The Goodland Daily News / Friday, March 22, 2001 5 kit and carlyle Men can find help when suffering abuse DEAR ABBY: In the past, you My mail tells me that not all law have printed letters from men who abigail enforcement agencies are sensi- have been physically abused by van buren tive to the issues concerning fe- their wives. We want to thank you male-to-male abuse. I am pleased for helping to make the public your organization is providing aware of this aspect of domestic •dear abby training to law enforcement for violence. Male victims of domes- this ugly, often ignored problem. tic violence face grave difficulties. www.safe4all.org. The Web site DEAR ABBY: I am being mar- Chief among them is having few lists services that are sympathetic ried in June and have no one to places to turn for information and to this underserved population, as walk me down the aisle. My fa- help. well as a number of highly quali- ther is deceased, and I have no One of the first things these men fied professionals ready to pro- brothers or male family members need to know is that they are not vide training to law enforcement, who can escort me. alone. A national survey funded health-care providers, social ser- This isn’t so much a problem for by the Centers for Disease Con- vice, crisis lines, etc. in how to myself as it is for my mother. She trol found that nearly 40 percent identify, support and properly re- insists it would be “horrific” (her of all domestic violence victims fer male victims of domestic vio- word) if I go it alone — which is — or 835,000 men a year — are lence. exactly what I want to do! physically abused by their inti- SAFE also provides a brochure What do you think, Abby? mate partners. for male victims and their con- Would it be acceptable for me to SAFE (Stop Abuse for Every- cerned family and friends. It iden- walk down the aisle solo? I have for better or for worse by lynn johnston one) has a Web site where male tifies domestic violence, lists typi- been reading your column since I victims (straight and gay) and les- cal reactions and provides specific was little, and I’m eager for your bian women can share their sto- advice. opinion. — READY TO GO IT ries with others. It is Anyone wishing a copy of this ALONE IN MISSISSIPPI brochure should send a self-ad- DEAR READY: Some women daily horoscopes dressed, stamped envelope along ask their mothers to escort them with a $1 suggested donation to down the aisle when there is no SAFE-Male Victims Brochure, male relative available. Others ask P.O. Box 951, Tualatin, OR a respected male friend to do it, 97062. SAFE is a 501(c)3 chari- or walk down the aisle alone and table organization and donations “give themselves away” as a femi- are tax-deductible. — PHILIP nist statement. arlo and janis by jimmy johnson Saturday, March 23, 2002 COOK, NATIONAL VICE- Do as you wish, dear. It’s your CHAIR, SAFE wedding and your decision. In the year ahead, you’ll be bet- DEAR PHILIP: Thank you for CONFIDENTIAL TO FEEL- ter able to control important mat- your important letter. The com- ING UNAPPRECIATED IN ters than you have in the past. plex problem of domestic vio- RANDOLPH, NEB.: Real gener- Once you get a handle on things, lence will not be resolved until osity is doing something nice for success should follow in your government, private agencies and someone who will never find out wake. the public become aware that do- who was responsible. 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