)anua~1998 FRl ENDS ~~~~ht and OURNAL T;~~y An Among Friends Independent magazine serving the Another Voice for Change Religious Society of follow-up to my column last month, in which I quoted young people in Friends Costa Rica speaking out about land mines, here's another letter-this one from the pages ofFellowship . It is written by an even younger voice for change: Editorial Vinton Deming(Editor-Ma!lllgn-), KennethSunon Dear President Clinton, (ksociat~ Editor}, Claudia Wair (Assistant Editor}, For Christmas my mom wants peace, love, and justice in the world. My gift for my mom is to AaronJavsicas (Intern), Judith Brown (Pomy Editor} write this letter to ask for your hdp because you are the president. Please stop spending Production money for weapons. Spend more money on food and things to hdp people. We learn in Barbara Benton (Art Dir«tor},Alli. Podolsky school to share and not fight. It's simple. You can do it. (Production Assistant}, John D. Gummere Christopher Connors, six years old (Special Proj~cts) Circulation and Advertising Well said, Christopher. You cut right to the heart of it. It reminds me of a Nagendran Gulendran (Mar/wing andAdvmising MaMgo-), Nicole Hackel (Circulation Assistant) moment when my daughter Evelyn (then age six) and I visited an IRS agent in Administration Philaddphia to discuss my reasons for not paying my federal taxes. During a pause in Marianne De Lange (Administratiw &cr~ry), the conversation Evy aske4 the agent, "Why do you try to make my daddy pay Lucinda Hudson (Boolruper}, Henry Freeman money for killing other people?" The agent looked down, shuffied through his (Dro~lopmm t Consultant}, Pamela Nelson (Dro~lopmmtAssistan t}, Roben Sunon (Voluntur) papers, and announced that the meeting was concluded. Board of Managers Our January issue picks up on the theme raised by our young people. It is about Irwin Abrams (Ckrlr}, LucindaAnuim, Quaker witness and service, and the very human form this may take: sharing a cup of Paul Buckley, Susan Carnahan, Sue Carnell coffee, which serves to build trust in war-tom Bosnia; opening one's home to a (Tr~asum}, Elizabeth Cazden, Helen Fields, Deborah Fisch, Ingrid Holcomb, Roben Kunkel, Bosnian student, then traveling to Mostar to meet the student's family and to gain Mary Mangelsdorf, Rachel Messenger,Judy Monroe, new insights into perplexing questions; opening ourselves to the moving words of Caroline Balderston Parry(Rrcording Ckrlr), Ruth Peterson, Lisa Lewis Raymer, Margery Rubin, Suad Slipicevic, that same Bosnian student, who has now returned to his country to David Runkel, Larry C. Spears, Larry D. Spears, study law; accepting Gilben White's challenge to Friends to renew our commitment Carolyn Sprogell (Assistant Ckrlr), Wdmer ljossem to volunteer service; and there is more. Most ofall, this is an issue that may speak to FRIENDS JouRNAL (ISSN 0016-1322) was established each of us at the deeper human level. in 1955 as the successor to TkFrimd(l827-1955) What better way to greet the new year and to renew our commitment to work for and Frimdsln~Uigmc0'(1844- 1 955) . peace. That is the wish of each of us here at the JoURNAL. • FRIENDSj OURNAL is published monthly by Friends Publishing Corporation, 1216 Arch Street, 2A, Philadelphia, PA 19107-2835. Telephone (215) 563-8629. E-mail [email protected]. Periodicals postage paid at Philadelphia, Pa., and additional mailing offices. Next month In Friends Journal: • Subscriptions: one year $25, two years $45. Add Answering the Love of God $6 per year for postage to countries outside the U.S., A Wailing Wall Canada, and Mexico. Individual copies $2.25 each. • Advenising information and assistance is available Finding the Divine Center on request. Appearance ofany advenisement does not imply endorsement by FRIENDS JouRNAL. • Postmaster: send address changes to FRIENDS Friends Journal staff and volunteers (from left): · joURNAL, 1216Arch Street, 2A, Philadelphia, PA Nagendran Gulendran, VInton Deming, Pamela Nelson, Robert Sutton, Alia Podolsky, 19107-2835. Marianne De Lange, Kenneth Sutton, John D. Gummere, Lucinda Hudson, Nicole • Copyright© 1998 by Friends Publishing Hackel, Aaron Javslcas, Barbara Benton, Ruth Peterson, and Claudia Walr Corporation. Permission should be received before reprinting excerpts longer than 200 words. Available on microfilm &om Universiry Microfilms International. PRJNTED ON RECYCLED PAPER

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7 Coffee Diplomacy 2 Among Friends Suzanne H. O 'Hamick When high-level diplomats foil to bring peace, sharing a cup ofcoffee 4 Forum starts the dialog. 25 Witness 10 Actions Reshaping Our Beliefs 28 Reports and Epistles Warren A Witte A family hosts a Bomian student and in doing so brings a foreign 30 News of Friends war close to home. 31 Bulletin Board 12 A Brief Bosnian Story 33 Books Suad Slipecevic A teenager's Life has been shaped by war. 34 Milestones 14 Quaker Volunteer Service for the Future 36 Classified Gilbert F. White How can Friends organize long-term, Spirit-Led service? 16 Anatomy of a Leading: Poetry How I Am Being Prepared Connie McPeak 17 First Snow Preparation for ministry often takes surprising turns. Wendy McVicker 1B Elizabeth Gurney Fry, 1780-1845: Friend of Prisoners Jill Boughton Her Life was fiLLed to bursting with family, educational concerns, and prison reform.

Elizabeth Gurney Fry and her husband Joseph Fry with some of their children, 1830

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fRIENDS ]OURNAL january 1998 Forum Death and dying as a great adventure. I wonder why in the questions of There are very defined tasks that have abottion and euthanasia, Quakers find I want to try to add my own experiences to be done as part of living your dying. themselves arguing for death. I also question and thoughts to what was so thoughtfully The most important is to share with those whether we can handle through laws the put together in the October 1997 articles on closest to you your feelings about what you problem of people ridding themselves of "Death and Dying." are going through. This will open up the troublesome elders. Wife beating is against Death, that never welcome, never way for them to talk about their feelings. If the law also. unwelcome visitor in our lives, does present you have unresolved issues with any a challenge to Friends, for even when least member of the family, simply tell them all judith Monroe ready for its visit we must quickly find a way the positive things that you honestly feel Sugar Land, Tex. to make ourselves ready. In my case, it was a about them. This will dear up any former spouse who announced recently to negativity left behind about the issue. I was pleased to see that you are helping her friends that she wanted to plan her us explore physician-assisted suicide and transition. I'm told it came through other end of life choices. My dad ended his beautifully. life voluntarily in 1993 with the help of a To the spiritually oriented person, this physician, and in taking that adion he may be seen as primarily entry into larger changed my understanding of these issues at life, but not all remaining on this side a very deep personal level. He was convinced share that view. that pancreatic cancer would mean a painful My dear former wife Ruth now is where and debilitating "natural death." My brother she wanted to be, and because she desired it and I were part of his decision to choose the so much, we could not deny it to her. It time of his death. I ended up writing a book was for her a clear choice she had to make. about how much he taught by his living and Friends will understandably differ from his dying-The Choice: Seasons ofLoss and one another in their understanding of life Rmewalajkra Father's Decision to Die. (The after death, or more sensitively put, "life excerpt below is from Chapter 111- Eds.) after life." I wonder if it were cettain that every jim Best single one of us would die of pancreatic Tucson, Ariz. cancer, of that particularly painful death, would the Michigan legislature still pass In response to Dorothy Trippel's article, the bill prohibiting assisted suicide? Then let me say that we must never forget that it is it would be a law sentencing us all to an against all natural law and especially God's equally painful death. It would no longer law to destroy a human life, be it our own or be a law for some, for the minority who another's. now suffer such a disease. And I think of jeamu Beisel Dad saying how angry he was that the Philadelphia, Pa. legislature would take such an action, Realize that at all times you are in control would sentence the dying to an At 80 years, I am very much for a choice. and have options. You can choose the type excruciating end. H e particularly could not I do not want to become an Alzheimer's of treatment or decide to discontinue it. understand his hunting buddy's suppott idiot or have my resources squandered on an You can choose your diet, the amount of for the legislation, although he knew it to expensive nursing home. I am now without exercise, and what you want to do with come from honest religious belief. "When family, and I think about how to die with your remaining time. You can change we hunted, we would always track down a dignity. I eat well, exercise, and am very doctors. wounded animal," Dad said. "We active in community affairs championing Look at the routine jobs you have been wouldn't let a deer suffer like this." peace and ecology and the simple life. doing and start training others to take over I have the hospice atticles about how Recently my mentally ill sister died after as the need arises. This is especially pain can be managed in almost all cases. 25 years of torment. The mentally ill have important for those jobs for which you Almost all. They 5ay pancreatic cancer is no choice. Her last years of disintegration have assumed complete responsibility, such the worst. Fast, but brutal. Even the were too terrible to behold. Even as the finances. doctors say that. I am driving to my organizations such as the Hemlock Society Decide how you want to dispense with mother-in-law's. The exit from Route 50 don't face the issue. Can Friends help bring your belongings. Such gifts from you to her home in Annapolis has a new name. it out into the light? personally are much more important than I wonder where that came from. Mary ValiceRuge the family making such decisions after your Parish calls, to tell me why the boulevard is Duxbury, Mass. death. named after a local man. "I knew him," Allow yourself to live your dying. It is she said. "He was an elegant, soft-spoken Recently, a very dear friend, Walt, died an impottant part of life, and finishing up leader in the Annapolis community, a after a long bout with cancer. During the relationships will help your family adjust to medical doctor. I met him once at a past year, I appointed myself a committee of what is happening to you. It also provides a session I did for doctors. Very impressive dearness for him to help him with his dying. wonderful role model for them. man. The day that he was diagnosed with I learned from the chaplain who ministered pancreatic cancer, he drove from his to Walt in his last weeks that he died Mary Lou Beatman doctor's office to his minister's home, sat without fear and that he regarded his dying Felton, Del. in his car and shot himself to death. They 4 january 1998FRIENDS ]OURNAL named the boulevard in his honor." society around us, rather than becoming by no means perfect. Is a stockbroker really Her statement takes my breath away. A part of it. wonh three times as much as a good teacher? doctor who committed suicide rather than Some people view suicide as a gift to More to the point for Friends, do the capital live through the disintegration of the living, saving them the burden and gains (or losses) from stock or real estate we pancreatic cancer. Drove from his doctor expense of illness. No one should feel own have anything to do with our wonh as to his minister and ended his life on his guilty for dying. If a family member is people? own. A conscious choosing of death over dying, then that person needs and deserves While I have not chosen to withhold life. Death rather than an end of our resources even more than those who taxes, for some of the reasons Ross Worley disintegration and disorientation. A are healthy and remain with their lives cites, I respect those who do. Those who doctor's choice. This is not about suicide ahead of them. Dying itself can be the gift. choose to keep income low can and should as much as it is about choice and the A common argument for euthanasia is contribute through volunteer work or quality of life leading up to death. to alleviate the person's pain and suffering. offering professional services to wonhy Conscious dying. Civil disobedience. Much suffering is due to neglect, agencies less able to pay. The value is in just and unjust laws. Questions to be ignorance, and fear. I would say most of the fruit of the labor, not the price it decided in our courts, and in our homes, the pain is in feeling alone. The argument brings. and in our hearts. How did all this work is that people should not have to suffer, Allm Treadway its way into our lives? How will we come and some suffering cannot be ameliorated. Decatur, Ill. to grips with this issue of our dying and with If it cannot be avoided, it must be the many ways in which technology changes embraced, with love. We do not bear the Camouflaged racism that issue and yet leaves it the same? We will burden alone. Hubris is thinking our be faced with choices. As individuals, as ability to give comfon, or to bear dying, I am taken aback upon reading "Friends families, as communities, as institutions, as comes from ourselves and not from God. be aware" (Forum Oct. 1997). In my view societies, for better or for worse. We will There is the argument that suicide can as an African American male Quaker, it has disagree, but we must choose. Finally, we provide a death with more dignity. Why a decidedly racist ovenone. The warning is will all, in one way or another, face the should we consider it undignified to die nothing more than a respectable wanted choice, the difficult decision. dependent? We do not consider it notice for an African American man who I sense that as a society, it is still hard for undignified to be born dependent. Are evidently took advantage of Pittsburgh us to believe we are going to have to learn only strong, healthy people dignified? I Friends' innocent attempt at good will. I our way into this reality together. There is a think it is hubris for us to think life is only read the warning this way: "Friends be tendency to think that the "grown ups" have of value when it fits what we define as aware- there is a large, engaging African this all planned out and that we are simply desirable. Where is the dignity in denial? American man going around flim-flamming trying to guess what they have in mind. By deciding that life best fits a us good hearted people!" It perpetuates a Instead, we might assume that all of us are preconceived image, we limit its real harmful and prevalent racial stereotype and learning, that the patterns of the future are potential for us. By failing to accept life as pathologizes black men regardless of their determined by the way in which we all it comes to us, we are denying life. socioeconomic status. It presents an image civilly and compassionately contribute to When a person asks to die, I think it is of black men as dangerous. Given each other's education about these hard safe to say they are probably suffering contemporary race/crime tensions, this questions. There is no longer some agenda physical or psychic pain. When we are in profile could and probably will lead to that we are all trying to "buy into." We have such pain, we are not asking from trouble for many other "large, engaging to figure this one out together. strength, but from the feeling that it is all African American" men. too much for us. As the family and friends Mainstream U.S. society uses race in their judy Sorum Brown of someone in such pain, we must provide descriptions only when they are referring to Hyansville, Md. comfon-physically holding and loving, "non-whites." Quakers are doing the same making it known we value every minute thing, and it is a clear example that Quakers I am deeply disturbed by your of their life. We must give each other the are active participants in American racism, discussions of euthanasia. I write not only strengrh. If we do not feel we have it, we where anything outside the norm of as a cancer survivor, but last year I lost have probably forgotten that of God "whiteness" must be identified. I believe that someone very dear to me afrer a long and within ourselves. Friends-the jOURNAL and others-have painful illness and death. Frances Foulkrod participated in an act of unintentional The very framing of the issue is, I Flounown, Pa. camouflaged racism. The somewhat simple, believe, putting us on the wrong track. For unintentional racism I describe here is an Friends, this cannot be only a political or example of how deeply rooted Quaker medical issue, but ultimately a moral and Friends and taxes meetings are in American racist practices spiritual one. By discussing the pros and Ross Worly's letter (Forum Oct. 1997) without awareness. Actually coming to cons of euthanasia, it appears we are raises valid questions about the real effects grips with institutional and cultural racism already on the slippery slope. The sanctity of the war tax witness. I like his hard will be very difficult because of the very of life has traditionally been at the heart of thinking, but I find myself in disagreement nature of Quaker practice and its reliance our Testimonies. The question should be with his statement, "it is only fair and on individual responsibility. Identifying, not whether killing, of ourselves or others, right-sharing to suppon yourself at an accepting, atoning, and making restitution is appropriate, but how we treat death economic level commensurate with the for Quaker racism may be a difficult with the same reverence we view life; how economy where you live." While there is process because Friends practices make it do we confront the destructive attitude certainly a correlation between income vinually impossible to mount the kind of toward death, and therefore life, in the and one's contribution to society, this is organized, long-term effon that other

FRIENDS joURNAL january 1998 5 religious and secular organizations have of time digging up a designated number of at the insistence of these groups to say: found necessary. mines (1 ,000? 2,000?) in exchange for 'established by members ofSarasota One of the powerful privileges that amnesty with probation. They would be Monthly Meeting and Sarasota Evangelical Quakers tend to enjoy is the use ofsilence trained, ofcourse; be required to work under Friends Church.'" This statement is when the difficult matter of Quaker racism guard. But they would be doing something misleading and false. Contrary to your is brought up. It is in this silence that worth doing. And they could hope to win statement, we were for our first 14 plus Friends are most like other Americans of freedom-perhaps even a measure of thanks months under the care ofSarasota Monthly privilege who deny the harm racism does to from society-for a terrifying job Meeting. We never advenised that we the fabric of our society. accomplished. They might meet, face to were established by the Sarasota Friends I feel that the publication of"Friends be face, crippled survivors who would not be Church. aware~' was a gift we can all work from and ungrateful. If I were in prison on Death The following statement in the article is learn from. It is a message ofimpottance Row, or for life, or for 30 or 40 years, I erroneous: "When the Yearly Meeting and from Pittsburgh Friends. It is also an think I might be tempted to accept this Monthly Meetings declined their opportunity for the perspective of an African desperate offer. sponsorship, the group organized themselves American male Quaker, who is hutt and Complicated? Yes, indeed. VISionary? as a Friends Meeting and secured its 501-c-3 insulted by the racism in the message Cettainly. Wrapped and snarled in miles of status as such." This is the most irresponsible expressed. John Lam pen in his wonderful red tape? Without doubt. But necessary. and false statement in the article. 501-c-3 book Mending Hurts says: "If we are looking No Fairy Tale Princess to cut the tape. status was secured in the fall of 1996 while for proper healing, forgiveness, harmony, Only her admirers. So where do we begin? still under the care ofSarasota Monthly and justice, there is often much to be done: Meeting. We secured status as a religious reconciliation, making amends, making a josephine H Phillips organization as our application indicated we new start, and planning how things can be Newtown, Pa. were planning to establish a new and different in the future." Where do we go separate meeting at Woodmere. After we from here? changed our bylaws to remove Sarasota john L johnson Monthly Meeting, we filed these Washington, D.C. Woodmere at Jacaranda amendments with the IRS, which promptly I would like to respond to the article in notified us that there was no change in our We apologize for our lack ofawareness and the FRIENDS JouRNAL December issue IRS status. are grateful for the honest statement offeelings. entitled, "Controversy between Friends' Finally, the article concludes: "The The jOURNAL ediwrs hope tQ oppose racism in Housing and Care, Inc., and local Florida organization also compiled its own 'Faith aU its forms, intended and camouflaged. We Friends escalates." There are four statements and Practice' to Hie with its corporate welcome articles and letters on the subject and in the article which need to be corrected. papers." Since we had created a new worship wiU continue to give space to this in the Friends' Housing and Care, Inc., held its group, we adopted our own Faith and magazine. -Eds. first organizational meeting on January 1, Practice on June 9, 1997. In no way was it 1996. At the initial board meeting, the done to be filed with our corporate papers. It board members all agreed to invite Sarasota was done to make it clear that this Quaker Offering a choice Evangelical Friends Church to participate in group was a Christian group to which all working with Sarasota Monthly Meeting on Christian Friends were welcome. The Fairy Tale Princess is dead. Long this retirement community. On March 11 , 1997, the board, after live her vision of the human race free of The corporate charter requires that a seeking a legal opinion which determined the threat of sudden death from land majority of the board be members of the that the bylaws provision requiring Sarasota mines. But there are still 100,000,000 land Religious Society of Friends, but does not Monthly Meeting's approval for changes in mines infesting our earth in Mghanistan, proscribe any particular branch of Friends. the bylaws was inconsistent with our charter Cambodia, Vietnam, Bosnia, the Middle Our members saw this as an oppottunity to and state law, we changed the bylaws to East, Mrica, Europe. Every 20 minutes help bridge some of the wide gaps within the eliminate the need for Sarasota Monthly someone is killed or maimed by a buried Society of Friends. Due to theological Meeting to approve appointments to the land mine. The task of removing them is conflicts, the Friends Church could not board. Because of the severity of this action, unimaginably daunting, but the need to formally join in the venture. But an equal and in accordance with State law, after remove them is unimaginably great. number of their members elected to reaching a consensus we took a recorded Here is one suggestion. The jails of this participate as board members. vote to sustain the ruling of the chair and the world are bursting with millions of The article erroneously stated that we subsequent amendment of the bylaws. The prisoners incarcerated at great expense, "raised several concerns as it attempted to vote was 13 voting aye and two stood aside. warehoused without hope of rehabilitation, gain nonprofit status with the State." We Consequently, until that time we were under and learning nothing except from other had nonprofit status with the State from the the care ofSarasota Monthly Meeting, and it inmates. Without work, without help, day we submitted our charter under the was by our initiative that we broke this without hope, many spend their lives nonprofit statutes of the State of Florida. relationship. locked up, or if they come out, embittered, Further, the article stated: "Bill Martin, I trust that this will clarify the erroneous all too often they find their way back to chairman of the Board ... had advettised statements of the article. prison to do another futile stretch. Woodmere as 'established by Sarasota Is it beyond the capacity of the human Monthly Meeting ... and Sarasota Friends WiUiam R Martin, chair brain to devise a way for cettain categories Church'" and that "because neither group Herbert HaUman, of prisoners to be offered a choice: corporately supponed the venture, Friends' chair, Finance Committee Volunteer to risk your life for a set period Housing and Care changed their advenising Friends' Housing and Care, Inc.

6 january 1998 FRIENDS j OURNAL went to Bosnia for the first time summer free. I received an urgent call the neighbors," I was told. I did. And I because I felt led to do so. from CPT's executive director asking me studied the local language assiduously. I I was new to the field ofconflict man­ to go to Bosnia for three months. I ex­ The serving and ritual associated with agement and transformation. My work plained to him that I was the last person coffee are very imponant in Bosnia, a land for many years had been in international he would want to send, for I had not more commonly known in former times professional exchange and training. The worked in that pan of the world and did for its outstanding hospitality. I came to most exciting aspect of that had been to not speak what used to be called Serbo­ appreciate how we could touch each other's bring together disparate groups and see Croatian. There was no one else to send, lives through this ritual, with few words them discover that, in spite of their many however. CPT had promised colleagues and many gestures. A typical scene differences, there was more they held in in Germany to try to find someone to might find me, while common. It was fascinating to see former join them for at least three months in the antagonists discuss together potential new town of]ajce, Bosnia, to help develop the solutions to old problems. peace effon, aimed at the reintegration of After a number of years, however, I refugees into the town. It was an odd found that while I still believed the field of moment, for though I felt my skills were international exchange to be imponant, I not a good match, I also felt very drawn needed to shift my own efforts to a differ­ to go. I met with a clearness committee ent arena. It was in meeting for worship from my moiuhly meeting who posed that I made the decision. Silence, both good questions for me to consider corporate and individual, introduced me about vision, risk, and family obliga­ to my own inner conflicts, and I began to tions. I decided to follow my lead- confront them· with greater honesty. Professionally I had been drawn into consulting with organizations strug­ gling through change and conflict. While the decision to leave one area of work seemed sudden at the time, the process had been a gradual one that took walking down the place over years. street, stopped by a I sought further neighbor woman who training for dealing would invite me in for with groups in con­ coffee. It is the women flict. Having found Diplomacy who make coffee. The much supponwithin other favorite drink, my Quaker community, I turned to rakia, a plum brandy, is the province of Quaker Peace T earns. At their recom­ men, who tendJajce's famously bountiful mendation, I applied for training with plum trees. Christian Peacemaker T earns. A later by Suzanne H. O'Hamick The serving of coffee is a leisurely course with John Paul Lederach at East­ business, and each woman has her own ern Mennonite University about strategic special technique. It is said that a woman planning for international peacemaking Slowly, as we sat and is not considered marriageable until she reminded me of the community and or­ sipped, their stories of has mastered the an of preparing good ganizational development work that was the war would emerge, Bosnian coffee! I learned a variety of already so familiar, but added an interna­ ways of preparation, from the selection tional dimension. tales of sorrow, of the proper pot to the grinding offreshly Handing over the program I had nur­ sometimes of horror, roasted beans by hand as we sat, waiting tured for many years to fresh hands and for the water to boil. Some food would fresh ideas, I left my job, depaning with­ often with·few words. also be offered, if there was any. In the out a qualm. I had plans to do research at summer, this was most often fruit, which Pendle Hill over the summer and then to ing, and it was soon time to go. I had little grew plentifuJly still, in spite of the war­ travel to Chiapas, Mexico, where I had in the way of pertinent language skills time bombings that had decimated much learned ofpeace efforts with the Zapatistas and a head fuJI of theories about strategic of the town. The women could work and the government. planning in peacemaking. miracles with the humanitarian flour they Pendle Hill chose someone else to con­ When I settled in Jajce, I discovered received. A delicious pita might appear, a duct research, and suddenly I had the that few people spoke English, and none national dish made with the thinnest of spoke any of the other languages I spoke pie dough and a stuffing of some veg­ Suzanne H O'Hatnick is a member ofBalti­ (French and Spanish). No one on my etable or fruit grown in the garden. more (Md) Meeting, Stony Run. team responded to my questions about Slowly, as we sat and sipped, their © 1997 Suzanne Hubbard O'Hatnick strategic planning. "Go have coffee with stories of the war would emerge, tales of

FRIENDS j OURNAL january 1998 7 Page 7: Suzanne {right) with Amela In Jajce, Bosnia Right: A Muslim woman In Tuzla, Bosnia, offers fruit to an American visitor. Inset: Charo, who lost all but one room and the beautiful garden of his home In Jajce Page 9: Suzanne with neighbors In Jajce

sorrow, sometimes ofhorror, often with few words but with much emotion and gesturing to speak. Miraculously, as with the old that showed the missing windows and man, I discovered people who lived in window frames, the ripped-out plumbing joy, even without any of the material and floor tiles, the place in the garden goods I so casually take for granted, where a beloved brother had been killed. and without the safety. Often we were joined by neighbors as we Without the distractions, wonder­ sat together. I was touched by the gentle ful though they be, of home, commu­ patience of those with whom I visited, as I nity, family, and friends close at hand, struggled both to understand and to speak I learned to put away the past and the their language. future and pay attention to the mo­ There was humor, too. I particularly ment I was in. Although it was some­ recall the tale of one cheerful older man times very uncomfortable, I learned to be ment was for only two months as a tem­ who recounted how he had been a captive with that feeling and to accept where I porary officer. I worked long hours in an during World War II in a Nazi concentra­ was. I discovered that ifi stayed with these office setting, only returning in the evening tion camp and had escaped. He never sad moments rather than avoiding them, to my second-story flat in a private home. expected as an old man, he said, to have a there was another side, a richer and deeper Then I would sit with the family and with repeat performance! He and his wife had experience precisely because I chose not to their friends and drink coffee and hear been under siege by the Serbs, were cap­ run away. Confronting my own fears, I what they had to say about their lives and tured by the Croats and lined up for ex­ could more easily empathize with others' politics. ecution, then escaped during a bombing fears and release my own. My organization dealt with casework run. They were given shelter by another I discovered that listening was the great­ for those seeking to return to their homes. Croat, kicked out by Muslims, and finally est skill I practiced. I could see how im­ We relied, however, on both the rule of returned to J ajce, to a home that was once portant it is to have a loving relationship law and international political pressure at a spacious house in the Austro-Hungarian with not only the victims but also the the highest levels to implement the Day­ style and was now reduced to one habit­ perpetrators. Often a gentle question can ton Peace Accords. The concept of "rule able room, the rest in ·rubble. Yet he was be more thought provoking than direct of law" turned out to be quite arbitrary, happy, and he told jokes about his escape confrontation. and if political pressure at the highest over mined fields, leading his wife and ten There was much I learned on that first levels had any effect at all, it certainly was other women to safety, so that we laughed. trip to Bosnia. Though I needed to re­ not felt by those seeking to regain their He pointed out their flourishing garden turn to the United States after the three lost homes. of vegetables and flowers, with pride and months were completed, I knew that I Just before I completed the assign­ real pleasure. He taught me that, no mat­ would return to Bosnia. ment, I was invited to attend a high­ ter what the circumstances, we do have I don't think I fully appreciated the level strategy meeting ofinternational gov­ choices about our response. value of those cups of coffee, however, ernmental groups charged with oversee­ Over time I became trusted in this land until my next assignment in Bosnia. I ing the implementation of the Dayton where trust is not given easily. Perhaps was working for a large, hierarchical in­ Peace Accords. The frustration level was because I was trying so hard to learn the ternational governmental organization in high, and the chairman of the meeting language, I also learned to listen as well as a different part of Bosnia. My assign- suggested a most radical approach to a

8 january 1998 FRJENDS JouRNAL troublesome dilemma where local media Over time, trust can be help to create a safety zone for honest in a town were whipping up fear among reflection. I find it useful to be with some­ residents against a group of potential built, confidences shared, one in much the same way a clearness returnees. committee can work I remember how "We must counter this propaganda. and tense situations my own clearness committee listened to We can no longer wait for high-level diffused simply because all that I said and then, without challenge political pressure to take effect. If this to or agreement, spoke from their own expe­ situation falls apart, the world will ask us someone took the time rience and posed questions. Especially in what we did. We can't just sit on our listen with empathy. times of high emotion and conflict, it is hands . . . but we can just sit . .. in the cafes, in people's homes, with a cup ofcoffee. We can tell them what is really happening, and coun­ ter the propaganda. And we can buy local radio time." The situa­ tion was so tense that it was not possible to call a town meeting. People would be afraid to at­ tend. We could, how­ ever, increase the inter­ national presence there, not with troops but with civilians. It was a desperate measure, born out of frustration and not likely to suc­ ceed as a short term ef­ fort, but the chairman had grasped a certain truth in his approach. Sitting in cafes and visiting in homes, prac­ ticing "coffee diplomacy," means taking another town had been burned by yet helpful to listen without judgment, so time to listen, to talk, and to share hospi­ another family, from a third ethnic group. that the person one is dealing with can tality. It is by its nature informal and off I returned to listen more, to be a vessel in arrive at his or her own conclusions. Some­ the record. Over time, trust can be built, a way, to carry off the extra grief and rage one who feels the need to hide behind confidences shared, and tense situations and pain. It was not enough that I listened personal defenses can see clearly neither diffused simply because someone took the to both families who were there, but even self nor other. time to listen with empathy. Empathy that listening lessened the tension between I am home now, and it is good to be does not necessarily mean agreement, but them, if only for a little while. here. I know I will keep returning to it gives space to the other to speak freely In another case, a disabled woman and Bosnia. There may be only small acts of and perhaps to explore dearly held beliefs her children had been beaten by a neigh­ listening that I can do there. I guess we in a new light without the need for instant bor, a man who had come first to take care can never know the results of our efforts, defense. of a house and then to occupy it. The but they feel worthwhile, nonetheless. I At one point after listening to so many international community rallied around keep learning so much every time I go: to stories of human rights violations from the victimized family, visiting them daily release the past and the future in order to every side, I became frustrated. "Why can as a public witness. But no one visited the be fully present, to listen in love, to be at few here see beyond their own misery to neighbor. ease with being ill at ease, to take pleasure empathize with or understand that others, We extend empathy easily and will­ in small perfect moments, and to marvel too, have suffered?" A wise woman re­ ingly to the victim, but less often to the that there are these moments, no matter marked to me, "until one is heard, really perpetrator. If we cannot look for that of what the circumstance. It isn't that strate­ heard, there is little space for empathy for God in everyone, especially the one who gic planning is not important. It is. It is others." I had just met with a family who has done harm, how can we expect that only that those quiet moments of"coffee had been forced at gunpoint from one person to act out of a holy place? We feel diplomacy" remind us of our humanity, floor of their home by a family from a uncomfortable. What can we say? It is less of our communion with one another, second ethnic group, whose own home in what we say and more whether we can and with the Divine. D fRIENDS jOURNAL january 1998 9 One day the announcements after meedng Included a report that a local school had agreed to provide a scholarship to a Bosnian student. All that was missing was a host family. We lOoked at each other and, on the spot, raised our hands.

he interplay between the transition from war and its beliefs and experience aftermath-including the has always been an death of his father in 1993- 11mportanc aspect of to a setting ofnormalcy, or for Quakerism for me. To para­ coming to grips with the phrase Henry Cadbury, while Actions trauma he survived and the our beliefs often lead Friends stark questions that still re­ to action, those actions can in mained about the future-for turn reshape or refine our ani­ RESHAPING OUR him, his family, his town, and mating beliefs. Over the past his country. two years Pat Witte and I have Happily, Germantown experienced this interplay at Academy was generous not work in our lives as we have only in providing a hefty pack­ become engaged in the lives of age offinancial support; it also young people from Bosnia. Beliefs offered faculty members who One fall day in 1995 the were able to provide personal clerk's announcements after meeting for support to a proud, struggling young man worship included a report that a local desperately eager to succeed and to find private school had agreed to provide a himself Furthermore, the Community of scholarship to a Bosnian student and that by Warren A Witte Bosnia Foundation, the program that a well qualified young man from Mostar found the scholarships, the host families, had been identified and was ready to come. support to a young person who had sur­ and the students, identified the psycho­ All that was missing was a host family. Pat vived the slaughter seemed both compel­ logical needs ofSuad and a number ofhis and I looked at each other and, on the ling and possible. fellow Bosnian students and identified a spot, raised our hands and said that we Suad Slipicevic flew into Philadelphia skilled counselor experienced in working would be interested in such a role. in mid-January 1996. He was quickly with trauma survivors. She began meeting We have a large house, and our chil­ challenged to make the transition from an with a small group of them on a weekly . dren are independent adults living in far­ adolescent engaged in helping his family basis, a gathering in which they were loyal flung parts of the world. We had agonized survive the hellfire of bombing and death participants for more than a year. during the long months ofwar in Bosnia in Mostar between 1992 and 1995 to the During the first part ofhis senior year, as we watched the death, torture, suffer­ life of a student in a demanding, private Suad went through the motions of pre­ ing, and destruction on TV and read the American school, surrounded by the chil­ paring for college in the United States. wrenching news reports. It was one of dren of affluent suburban families. Only His academic record qualified him, and those situations of human tragedy that toward the end of his time with us, as he he and others from Bosnia who were caused us to feel helpless and, at times, to graduated and prepared to return to his corning to the end of their high school simply look away. As pacifists we had family in Mostar, did we understand the careers were encouraged to apply for schol­ been less than enthusiastic about occa­ magnitude ofthis challenge. We had been arships at a number of colleges interested sional calls for stronger U.S. military en­ aware of the obvious difficulty of adapt­ in supporting them. The prospect was gagement or arming the Muslims. Yet the ing to a different educational system in a obviously troubling to him, and he de­ unfolding ofthe ethnic cleansing and geno­ language that he had studied only as a cided to return to Mostar over the winter cide and the prospect of an internation­ foreign language. We were also aware of school vacation to consider his future ally-brokered agreement that honored the the loneliness of separation from friends with his family. When he came back to massive removal of people also were re­ and family. We had less imagination for Philadelphia, he announced that he would pugnant to us. Against this enter law school in Mostar in background, the simple sug­ the fall. gestion that we could provide In our hearts we had hoped he would go to college in the Wan-en Witte and his wife, Pat, Philadelphia area and we could are cun-ently the host family for sustain the warm relationship Dijana Cehic, a Bosnian student ftom Bihac. Wan-en is a member that had become important of Chestnut HiO (Pa.) Meeting, to each of us. Yet we couldn't which has provided support and dispute his need to return to encouragement to them and an­ live with his mother. Nor other meeting family that has be­ could we argue against his come a host to a Bosnian student. judgment that the conditions

10 january 1998 FRIENDS j OURNAL Page 10: Suad (center) celebrated his graduation from Germantown Academy with friends and family. His sister and brother-In-law are on either side of him. Left: Site of the historic Ottoman bridge In Mostar, destroyed by bombing Below: A Mostar street

own automobile license plates. As we were taken in by Suad' s family and as we walked the streets of Mostar (the east side) and as we met teachers and st1,1dents in the local the U.S. would place on his entry would school, we saw re­ have been intolerable had he stayed markable evidence of for college. He would have been pro­ human resilience. hibited from returning home during Here were people his college years, and his family mem­ who had been iso­ bers would have been prohibited from lated, surrounded, visiting him. and shelled for more We decided to visit Suad's family than three years, the in Mostar as a way of deepening our target ofmassive fire­ relationship with him and strengthen­ power and of ethnic ing the likdihood that it will continue. cleansing. They had The four days we spent there in May­ been abandoned by entering through Split, Croatia, and the international with a side-trip to Sarajevo-provided community during the hoped-for opportunity to know most of their ordeal Suad's family and to understand a bit and literally had no­ more of what he had experienced. It also sister, in her effon to save a woman shot in where to go had they wanted to escape. hdped frame some of the questions and the head by a sniper, had herself come Here they were in mid-1997, rebuilding, dilemmas with which we continue to under sniper fire for several hours before opening shops, and resuming life. struggle. being saved by UN troops; another sister In their anificially divided city, how­ Suad' s father had been an architect and had been separated from her Serb hus­ ever, many are unable to live in their his mother an engineering technician. band for nearly a year, not knowing previous homes. Refugees expelled from They and their three daughters and Suad whether he was alive or dead; and Suad, a Western Europe are now flowing in, put­ had lived a comfortable and fulfilling life member of the local corps and participant ting new pressures on scarce housing. Aside in historic Mostar. As Muslims, they had in combat by the time he turned fifteen, from the few who are employed by inter­ fdt deep attachment to the historic Otto­ had carried out the daily responsibility of national agencies, unemployment is the man bridge, the mosques, and other mani­ finding, cutting, and hauling firewood rule, the result of the destruction of a festations of the city's heritage, even as and carrying water while being exposed to modem industrial economy. The leaders they valued its tradition ofmultiethnicity sniper fire and shelling. who designed the policies ofethnic cleans­ and mutual respect. We were as overwhelmed by the ing and genocide remain free and influen­ The Slipicevic family's life-along with warmth of Suad's family as we were tial, continuing to foment division and that ofeveryone dse in Mostar and that of shocked by the tangible evidence of the hatred. Tensions arise at any number of the city itself-was unalterably changed war. Even as people pointed to the evi­ flashpoints between Muslims and Croats. by a massive Serb bombardment of the dence of reconstruction, our eyes were They are aware of the strong pressures in city in 1992, followed by a prolonged drawn to the rubble and destruction, signs the United States and Western Europe to Croat siege and devastating shelling and of the unrelenting assault that had, by the withdraw the NATO troops that have combat from early 1993 until mid-1995. middle of 1995, left no building in the kept those hostilities from escalating into By the time the fighting ended, Suad's city with a roof and little of historic or a resumption offull-scale fighting. father was dead (killed by a shell immedi­ cultural significance standing. We were This is the setting to which Suad has ately outside of his house, where Suad stanled by the depth of the division of the returned, and it is a setting to which our stumbled over his dying body, and re­ small, once-proud multiethnic city, with minds and hearts continue to return. The ceived in triage by his daughter in the its Muslim east side under Bosnian gov­ people are no longer an indistinguishable nearby war hospital); the Slipicevic family ernment control and its Croat west side mass of humanity; they have names and had been expelled from the east side of (successfully cleansed of most Muslims) faces and stories. While we met mostly Mostar to the west by the Serbs and then functioning with its own government, its Muslims, we know there are Croats and again to the east side by the Croats; one own currency, its own passports, and its Serbs who similarly have suffered, have

FRIENDS ]OURNAL]anuary 1998 11 been displaced, and who have had their those who suffered the siege of Mostar the need to end the killing and displace­ lives distorted by a war they didn't want have little reason for confidence in the ment of entire peoples. We tended to and by politicians they don't support. intentions of international bodies, those engage in the discussion of Bosnia most The experience has led us to reflect we met felt that NATO forces are an vigorously when there was a question of freshly about our assumptions and beliefs essential ingredient in creating a more hope­ U.S. involvement and to be less attentive as Friends. ful future. when the question was posed in relation We share the common optimism of Our further reflection on this complex to the suffering of a whole people. most Friends, inclined to believe that con­ matter has led us to acknowledge that we, The experience has led us to examine flicts have solutions, wanting to focus more in our opposition to militarism, took po­ difficult questions. They are not new or on hoped-for outcomes in the future than sitions that made us complicit with others novel. Certainly they were questions with on the results ofpast actions. Yet in Bosnia in the international community who were which pacifists grappled in World War II. we have been struck by the sheer evil that reluctant to acknowledge the genocide that They are questions that have come alive to has occurred and that continues to hold occurred in Bosnia. To have recognized it us in the context ofBosnia, although they sway. While it is often personified by the would have obligated the international could apply equally in other parts of the war criminals, it also is manifest in the community to intervene, and few found world in which genocidal killing occurs. continuing ethnic division ofa nati~n and such a role compelling, for few found • Is there a way we Friends, as a reliable the massive, forced dislocation of hun­ their national interests tied to interven­ core ofthe peace movement in the United dreds of thousands of people. tion. We, as pacifists, found our well­ States, can find fresh insights into our We have become convinced that no estabHshed stance against the use of mili­ peace testimony in situations ofgenocide? peaceful and viable resolution of the con­ tary power to be more compelling than • Can we factor into situations such as flict in Bosnia is possible until this evil is frankly acknowledged and its results re­ dressed. However we as Friends mayyearn for opportunities to share our conviction Suddenly everything was quiet again. that nonviolent resolution of conflicts is A Brief Sunrays were slowly penetrating the heavy possible, we find ourselves deeply skepti­ smoke and the abundant particles ofburnt cal about the efficacy ofsuch an approach explosive that floated about in the air. It was going to be a sunny day. unless it is directly linked to support for Bosnian vigorous international prosecution ofthos e I carefully removed my debris-covered responsible for the genocide and insis­ blanket. Over an extensive period of time tence on conditions that allow displaced Story I had been begging God repeatedly for the people to return to their homes. same favor, therefore I refrained from curs­ We also share with most Friends an by Suad Slipecevic ing in order to stay on good terms with abhorrence of the deployment of military the'Almighty. When the smoke and dust force and resorting to military action in t had been a long time since I had settled down, I went to the living room. I the face of international problems. Thus, that feeling. As my soul separated flatly announced that a grenade had fallen while we were appalled by the reports of from my body, I enjoyed the won­ in our back yard again, and still deaf from the terror in Bosnia in the rnid-1990s, derful world of peace and calmness, the blast, I sat down and drank my coffee Iand I rejoiced in long forgotten feelings. At without waiting for response, as another we were not among those who called for U.S. intervention or a more vigorous UN last, I felt alive and free, not knowing my day in the inferno started. engagement. name or where I was; all my memories After five minutes or so my hearing In retrospect, we think we were wrong, stayed well hidden from myself, thus grant­ came back, and I heard somebody knock and we now support a continuation of ing me the recuperation and rest that I briefly on our door, and then our neigh­ the NATO presence in Bosnia. I have needed in order to stay healthy and sane. bor came in. He was in his sixties and we wimessed U.S. and U.S.-supported mili­ Unfortunately all good things come to an knew him very well; he was from our tary presence in other parts of the world end. troop. He looked more worried than usual. and recognize the arrogance it has fre­ As a blast wave struck my room the "Suad, tell your father that we all have quently represented. I have seen the disas­ windows exploded, turning into glass dust. to go to the meeting place. Something is trous consequences when our nation has Thick, black smoke swept over my face, going on." allied itself with militaristic and repressive torturing my lungs. Warm, compressed "Do you know anything more about it?" forces that oppose movements for justice air caused acute pain on my eardrums, but "No," he replied, "but I think that this and change. The NATO role in Bosnia I knew I had to stay down. Powerful shrap­ is it, we have been waiting for far too long. does not fit the conditions I have wit­ nel went straight through the protective This is our chance." nessed elsewhere. In our brief time in wall built in front of my window and My father came, and we took our gear. Bosnia we wimessed the NATO presence struck the wall above tpy bed. I was careful not to tell my mother "Don't imposing stability and holding at bay Suad Slipecevic lives in Mostar, Bosnia, where worry." During World War II, her father those who have a stake in renewal ofwar­ he is studying law. This essay was written for a said the same thing to her mother, and he fare. The force is not aligned with repres­ class in English composition at Germantown never returned. We exchanged some kind sion but is substantially providing protec­ Academy in Philadelphia, Pa. words, and my father and I were on our tion to the victims of genocide. While

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Bosnia both our long-standing conviction dency to cast whole groups of people in that all killing is wrong and an equally the role ofenemy and beyond the bounds powerful conviction that our deepest be­ ofour concern? liefs about the value ofhuman life compel Engaging these questions is difficult us to support effective international ef­ and uncomfortable. Answers are likely to forts to protect innocent lives? be more ambiguous and less absolute. They • Can we as Friends find ways of sup­ lead to less moral certainty and demand porting deployment of armed, multina­ astute and prayerful reflection. Quaker Values Coeducational tional forces in essentially peace-keeping These are some of the ways in which Academic Excellence and protective roles, even as we recognize our experience with a teenager from Preschool - Grade 6 the desperate need for the international Mostar has unsettled our Quaker outlook 610 · 642 ·2334 community to devise more creative, non­ and assumptions about our relationship 851 Buck Lane Haverford, PA 19041 violent alternatives? to events in the world. If Henry Cadbury • Can we take such a stance and was right, our faith will be strengthened, still maintain the clarity of our witness not weakened, by the experience. We look against militarism and our concern for back at our impulsive decision more than Make friends, reconciliation? two years ago to become Suad's host fam­ Make music • Can we more forthrightly identify ily and can only be grateful for the chal­ and support efforts to stop genocide and lenges that his very presence has forced us at its perpetrators while resisting the ten- to acknowledge. 0 Friends Music way. We dragged our feet slowly, depressed The funeral procession was held dur­ by the lengthy siege of our town that had ing the night in· order to avoid sniper fire. I Camp sucked the life from our souls, replacing it had lost my war, and I was defeated; noth­ ages 10-18 with animal-like instincts and rage. With­ ing else mattered. Our minister guided us July 5-August 2, 1 998 out divine guidance my town, together through prayers for my father. 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FRIENDS ]OURNAL january 1998 13 Quaker Volunteer Service FOR THE FUTURE by GilbertE White

he future of Quaker volunteer ser­ of that initial mission of AFSC as being a an office of volunteer opponunities is to vice in the United States was a testimony in a time of war-suffering to a be established, and careful attention is to Tquestion of keen and probably way oflife that took away the occasion for be given to affirmative action, I find no decisive interest in 1997 because of two war. I served in 1942-44 as a conscien­ explicit mention of channels for volun­ parallel developments. The first develop­ tious objector overseas, and in 1945 and teer service or workcamps. ment was the decision by the Board of 1946 I assisted Clarence Picken as a staff I reaHze that the recent boards and the American Friends Service Commit­ member in his effons to orient the AFSC . staff of AFSC have taken this course of tee to adopt a strategic plan for its future around the concept ofproviding channels policy for reasons they regard as sound activities. The second is the ongoing, ofopportunity for Friends and other Hke­ and desirable, but I believe that they ne­ converging interest of a large, diverse minded people to demonstrate their reli­ glect two major considerations. One is number of Quaker organizations in pro­ gious belief in service to others. Since the demand on the pan of Friends for viding more effective channels for con­ then, through volunteer activity with pro­ opportunities to live their deepest beliefs cerned Friends and other like-minded grams for college students, urban rehabili­ in daily action. In our increasingly com­ persons to testify to their beliefs through tation, and conferences for diplomats, I plex society it is difficult for concerned voluntary service. Clearly, there is a deep have observed with continuing interest individuals to find such opportunities un­ and widespread demand for more such the changing role of the AFSC in this encumbered by strong commitments to opportunities, but it is uncenain how and field. With the exception offour coopera­ panicular social reform ideologies. There when that need will be met, and no tive service projects with yearly meetings are now a few such openings, as in the concrete plan for action yet has emerged. lasting a week and exposing the partici­ case of the Quaker Workcamps Interna­ As one Friend who has both observed pants to visits and a few days ofwork with tional ministry to burned churches, but and panicipated in parts ofthese develop­ needy communities, it no longer provides the number, while not large and widely ments over the past 55 years, I feel it is domestic workcamps for young people. It available, is growing in creative ways. imponant to engage our larger commu­ has two internships with the Quaker A second consideration has to do with nity in thoughtful discussion of some of United Nations Office and one with Davis the long-term health of the Religious So­ the issues involved. The choices ahead are House in Washington, D.C., but does ciety of Friends. There is reason to be­ likely to affect the well-being ofboth indi­ not seek to find appropriate channels for lieve that much leadership for the endur­ viduals and the Religious SocietyofFriends service by concerned Friends. The full­ ing Society comes from women and men as a whole. The AFSC has experienced time unionized professional staff in the who have given volunteer service. For major shifts in its position toward volun­ national office is more than 80 percent several decades much of the imaginative, teer service, while the extent and diversity non-Friends. The staffing patterns in the devoted participation in Friends affitirs of interest by other groups in such service regional offices tend to follow this trend. came from those people, and it is fasci­ has also changed. We may be at a kind of To my view, the AFSC has focused on nating to follow the subsequent lives of crossroads in policy. Something new is advocacy ofdesirable social change to deal former members of weekend or summer needed, and may be happening. constructively with imperfections it per­ workcamps. Many of us can look with While early Friends emphasized the ceives in society at home and abroad. warm appreciation at the contributions essential quality of translating fundamen­ The staff is recruited to work effectively ofdedicated Friends such as David Richie tal belief into daily action in many ways, in those directions, and any discrimina­ in weekend camps, or Sam and Miriam large-scale voluntary service did not take tion according to gender, ethnic group, Levering in shaping the Law of the Sea, shape in the United States until the First or religion is avoided. It has largely aban­ or Leonore Goodenow in reforming atti­ World War. Then, the American Friends doned primary responsibility to provide tudes toward Colorado prisons. Service Committee was established ini­ service opponunities. "Promoting peace Most current judgments as to the im­ tially to provide channels for service. I and justice: A plan for AFSC's future," pact of volunteer service upon the life of was first exposed to the concept ofvolun­ emphasizes that it is to be a Quaker orga­ individuals giving and receiving, and of tary Quaker service through a conversa­ nization and that its programs will have a the society as a whole, have not been tion with Rufus Jones in 1930. He talked significant impact on social change di­ tested by rigorous scientific analysis. Since Gilbert F. White is a member ofBoulder (Co/Q.) rected at peacebuilding and demilitariza­ studies sponsored by the Carnegie Cor­ Meeting. He is a former chair ofthe Board ofthe tion, social justice, and economic justice, poration in the 1950s on the effects of American Friends Service Committee (1963- with youth primarily as a program con­ workcamp participation, there have been 69). stituency having its own network While almost no searching appraisals of those

14 january 1998 FRIENDS JoURNAL effects on behavior and Photos of the Burlington organization. A few schol­ conference: A steering ars have evaluated the committee meeting and some Quaker voluntary consequences ofcommu­ service In the kitchen nity service among gradu­ ates of Haverford and in other religious traditions, notably Roman Catholi­ cism. It is to be hoped in war-tom areas. In the cur­ that additional studies of rentyear three young women Quaker actions will be are carrying out service en­ undertaken. Meanwhile, tailing: one can only speculate or •directing the Chicago Fel­ exchange impressions about continuing network­ lowship of Friends summer day camp some of the outcomes. ing among individu­ program; .... There is no doubt, how- als and groups with •working with Friends Board Training ~ever,"' about the enthusiasm converging interests. and Support Project to find and train j'and sense of shared devotion Thus, the experience young Friends as volunteer board mem­ ~currently expressed by a large of a small AFSC/ bers; and ~and growing number of yearly meeting group •going from Greensboro, North Carolina, ~ Quaker groups. A gathering visiting and working to panicipate in a workcarnp in Ramallah, § of more than 100 concerned with a Native Ameri­ West Bank. ~ Friends at the old Burlington, can community for a The Burlington consultation was dear ~ New Jersey, Meetinghouse on few days was viewed that the activities reponed need to con­ April 18-20, 1997, served to alongside the com­ tinue and expand. It was not dear how exchange diverse experience with Quaker plex process ofliving with a South Caro­ this is to be accomplished. An interim voluntary service and to focus attention lina community for several months while group was proposed to create and operate on its role-past and future-in the life jointly rebuilding an African American some kind ofcontinuing organization that of the Religious Society of Friends. A congregation's burned church. Impres­ might help assure strengthened volunteer broad and rich body of critical thinking sions of what this meant to all persons service opportunities. This step awaits fur­ was assessed. The conference was orga­ concerned were exchanged and evaluated. ther communication and consultation. nized by a committee from IIJinois Yearly Although it was not headlined at Some participants are fearful that if that Meeting, which issued the invitations and Burlington, the kind ofservice that might responsibility were to be assumed by a had, over a period of a year, worked out be volunteered on a larger scale is illus­ bureaucratic AFSC, the underlying em­ the program in consultation with other trated by the activities of Friends sup­ phasis on volunteer service and its distinc­ groups. Panicipants included representa­ ported by the Picken Fund. That fund, tively Quaker oversight would be lost. tives from various activities and interests created in memory of Lilly and Clarence The challenge now is for imaginative across the branches ofFriends, including Pickett, liberates Friends to express their Friends to step forth and carry the enthu­ programmed and evangelical meetings: 19 concerns in selected communities. In re­ siasm and dedication joined at Burlington other yearly meetings, several colleges with cent years it enabled a Homewood (Balti­ into a new era of nurtured volunteer ser­ workcamp experience, the Philadelphia more, Md.) Friend to interpret the world vice. We should involve a broad spectrum Weekend Workcamps, Washington population problem among Friends and a of persons committed to recreating chan­ Quaker Workcamps, the Casa de los Boulder (Colo.) member to work toward nels for service fitting to our time and for Amigos in Mexico, Friends Peace Teams, finding ways of dealing with land mines the generation to come. D the AFSC, PRO-NICA, Youth Services Opportunities in New York, the Arizona For information on the Burlington Conference, the author thanks Harold Confer, Prison Project, Quaker Experiential Ser­ David Finke, Kenneth lves, judy Jager, and Marti Matthews. vice and Training in Seattle, and Friends Copies ofthe following materials may be obtained by communicating with the Disaster Service. organizing committee for the Burlington Conference: A final epistle and conference report is Epistle available from the organizers. These Report record a broad examination of the spiri­ List of panicipants and interested organizations tual process in Quaker service, including Directory of Quaker Service, Training, Witness, and Internships, 1996 waiting for and discerning a leading, reach­ Mailing list for Newsletter ing dearness, receiving oversight and ex­ ercising accountability, and both giving Address: Judy Jager, 1002 Florence Avenue, Evanston, IL 60202 and laying down support for concerns. Phone 847-864-8173 Careful attention was given to ways to E-mail: [email protected] keep service projects truly Spirit-led. Web site: http://www.uic.edu/~conant!qvstc The gathering laid the ground for

FRIENDS JOURNAL january 1998 15 ANATOMY OF A LEADING Broadmead Howl Am

INOVEMBER 1996

by Connie McPeak ast spring when it started to look like way was really opening for me A Friends Continuing Care Retirement Community to go to Fairbanks, I found myself feeling uneasy. I recognized that I An Accredited Non-Profit Facility Lwas feeling fear, and I know &om experi­ ence that the antidote to fear is faith. I asked God to give me what I needed to be ready for this sojourn. I asked to be pre­ pared, and the context through which I have seen my life since is the knowing that indeed God is preparing me. 13801 York Road Cockeysville. MD 21 030 One Friend in my meeting very lov­ 410-527-1900 Est. in 1979 ingly offered me an insightful comment. As she thought about what might be needed to undertake such an opportunity, she felt she would need to have all old business pretty well cleaned up and that FRIENDS JoURNAL announces the publication of she would need to examine how God had been with her in her life up to this point. As I look back I see how God has been BENJAMIN working in my life. In the past year I have been given new The Meetinghouse Mouse understanding of how to practice the presence of God. I have learned that to by Benjamin, as told to Clifford Pfeil, recognize God's presence in my life by with illustrations by John D. Gummere truly thanking God for that gift of pres­ ence opens me to the true reality of it. A Ifyou remember the Benjamin stories grateful heart seems to be a key to God's in past issues, you will be happy to share kingdom. I have been taught that to envi­ sion myself and the person with whom I them-now in book form-with your -am having difficulty (either because of children, grandchildren, and Friends! fear, resentment, or some projection of my own worst parts) in the loving arms of Look for Benjamin in Friends bookstores or order directly from FRIENDS jOURNAL: God immediately changes my relation­ Please send me _ _ copies of Benjamin @ $6.00 each, plus $2.00 shipping and handling ship to that other person. I know God's ($3.50 for shipping and handling outside U.S., Canada, and Mexico). My check is enclosed. unconditional love and can know that it Nrune ______applies to the other person, as well. From this simple exercise comes insight, toler­ Address ------ance, love, and courage to act. These new City State __ ZIP------Connie McPeak, a memberofC!eveland (Ohio) Country, if other than U.S. ------­ Meeting, is Friend in Residence at Chena Please mail to FRIENDS JoURNAL, 1216 Arch Street, 2A, Philadelphia, PA 19107-2835. Ridge Meeting in Fairbanks, Alaska. She has If any questions please call (215) 563-8629. two grown children, and she is a hospice nurse. Further reports from Connie wiU. be published in foture issues.

16 january 1998 FRIENDS jOURNAL 2 Being Prepared

understandings are essential to living a life how God has been at work in my life up not yet brought my story through to the in the Spirit. to this time, I have to go back a year and a present. There were times about which I I have had a miraculous reconciliation half. I planned to go to the FGC Gather­ was asked to write that were very painful with my ex-husband this past year. I have ing in July of 1995. When I prayed for for me. I found that in the rich stillness of been given the opportunity simply to love guidance about what I was to do at the the Silent Center I was held as I remem­ him as he is, and I feel deeply blessed. In conference, I was given a very clear bered these painful times. Somehow, read­ moving in with my parents I have had the directive: that I was not to take a work­ ing a bit ofJohn each morning as I began opportunity to revisit my past. I have had shop. I was to go to the Silent Center acted to ground me. It was a profound some old, unfinished issues surface in re­ each morning and I was to read the Gos­ experience. I now have this partial testa­ lation to my childhood and have been pel of John and I was to start writing a ment to the power of God's love in my able to deal with them in the Light rather spiritual autobiography. life and know that there is more to come than have them remain repressed, holding This was strange stuff for me. Writing when the time is right. This may be one a part of me captive. is difficult at best for me, not my natural of the things I work on while I'm in While asking what I might need to inclination. I did understand that to look Alaska. I have been asked to speak this sojourn in Fairbanks, I saw that I need to back at my life and see how God had month to a Gathering of Women on be more hospitable. A deep hospitality of been at work and to write it down was a living a purposeful life. I expect that I will the heart was in order, and I needed help testimony. It was a gift I could give to look again at how God is shaping the with that. I found that after I asked for God, a spiritual discipline saying, "Yes, purpose of my life in preparation for this help with hospitality the issue of celibacy God, I do see at least some of the ways talk. surfaced as a theme in my life. During you have loved me, and I'm grateful." I At present I feel I am being prepared my reconciliation with my ex-husband I did not understand why I was to read through a physical malady that has forced came to realize that I am a celibate. I John at the same time, and I still don't. me to slow down. I've been suffering came to understand in prayer that my The experience of looking and writ­ from vertigo, and the metaphor about soul mate is actually God. This was a ing has been powerful, although I have balance in my life doesn't escape me. Ifi startling and uncomfortable realization am to live a more contemplative life in for me. It made me sad on the one hand Alaska, I need to start now. I need to be because it meant giving up the dream ofa willing to give up some of my activities human partner; on the other hand there FIRST SNOW to have more time to be with God. was great comfort because I know how This is a struggle for me, and I am perfectly God loves me. I then read about The oak leaves that cling praying for help. celibacy in The Cloister Walk, a beautiful to their branches whisper I believe that each day brings new book about contemplative life given to as it passes. gifts in preparation for my sojourn. me by special friends. I had a conversa­ Having the meeting take my journey tion about celibacy with a Friend at the The red leaves under its care is a gift. To know that contemplative retreat I attended in June. Friends are praying for me and offer­ In my reading and conversation with my of the euronymous hedge glow ing their thoughts is a great comfort Friend, I learned that the gift of inten­ like holly berries. and gives me courage. I continue to tional celibacy is hospitality. I was amazed. ask God for guidance and for the tools, I had accepted celibacy as a reality in my The roofs are white and the sky understandings, and helpers I need life, and then I discovered the promise it as pale as water along the way. 0 held. What I have discovered in the living of it so far is that by not being on the in a bowl. lookout for a partner, a part of me is unencumbered and open. There is noth­ The birds are silent. ing held in reserve for someone else. The earth rests. There are no ulterior motives. This is a new understanding for me, just having -Wendy Me Vicker been born this past spring. I feel I know very little about it at this time, but it feels Wendy McVicker is a member rightly ordered. I expect I will learn more. ofAthens (Ohio) Meeting. When I look at the discipline ofseeing

FRIENDS JoURNAL january 1998 17 Elizabeth Gurney Fry, 178o-I845: Friend of Prisoners

''I!:~:. :~!r:z!w~f:!1ipe~~!ga~:L almost impossible to Fry in 1812. At 32, she had many reasons to say, her mother's keep up to the prin­ to be content. Her husband Joseph was a death when Betsy ciples of Friends ... successful London merchant and banker, was 12 affected her without altering ~ although financial woes lay hazily on the deeply. my dress and d horizon. Husband and wife were active John Gurney speech .. .. They ~ together in their meeting. The happy was a Quaker by appear to me a son _,t couple were expecting their eighth child. habit rather than of protector to ~ Elizabeth found time for various charities, choice. Particularly the principles of ~ from nursing sick relatives to running a after their mother Christianity in the t soup kitchen at their country estate. died, his daughters present state of the .E Yet she felt restless. In 1808 she wrote, enjoyed more liberty world." Giving up ~ "My course has been very different from in dress and enter- card-playing, dane- .a . th d .t: what I expected, and instead of being, as. tainment than "plain" mg, eater, an mustc ~ I had hoped, a useful instrument in the Quakers. "Being religious" were difficult in the ~ Church militant, here I am a careworn attracted Betsy, but her midst of her music-loving i wife and mother!" Her faith knew the creed was a vague deism. family. -~ answer to such discouragement: "What I On February 4, 1798, William Betsy confessed, "There is an- t.t:: desire is a heart fully, simply, and singly Savery, a traveling minister from other little matter that I do wish most dedicated to its creator and to be always Philadelphia, visited their chapel. The heartily I could obtain which is to write ready to wait as a servant ought for or- Gurney girls' attire scandalized Savery, and speak english better." Her writing is ders, and not, in my own activity, come but his ringing words touched Betsy. "He full of misspellings and erratic capitaliza­ forward." said the deist . . . looked at nature, ad- tion, but Betsy soon realized she was suffi­ Betsy Gurney was the fourth ofa dozen mired the thunder, the lighming and earth- ciently educated to be a great help to children born to a wealthy country banker quakes, as curiosities; but they looked not others. She began with one little boy and in Norfolk. Frequently bothered with up through them to nature's God. How was soon reading Bible stories to as many stomachaches and toothaches, she wasn't well he hits the state I have been in." as 70 children every Sunday evening, then a very energetic student. "I was considered Betsy wrote in her journal, "I have had teaching them how to read. and called very srupid and obstinate.... I a faint light spread over my mind. ... We In her pupils' homes, Betsy discovered think having the name of being stupid had much serious conversation, in shon the personal face of poverty: hunger, sick­ really tended to make me so, and discour- what he said and what I felt was like a ness, menial labor, and unemployment. aged my effons to learn . ... I was disposed refreshing shower upon parch'd up earth She attempted to live out her new faith in to a spirit of contradiction, always ready that had been dried up for ages." That practical charity, preaching to a dying to see things a little differently from oth- night Betsy had her familiar dream, but servant, visiting a crazy woman, and using ers, and not willing to yield my senti- this time the sea did not engulf her. ln- her allowance to suppon a poor girl her ments to them." stead, she found herselfsafe on a rock she own age. She was also plagued by fear and had a recognized as faith. The 17-year-old dated In the summer of 1798, the Gurneys recurrent nightmare of being drowned. her conversion from that day. entenained the younger son ofa rich fam­ After reading the story of Abraham sacri- On a family trip to Wales, she met a ily. A plain Quaker, Joseph Fry was more ficing Isaac, she was afraid to go to meet- Quaker named Deborah Darby. "I only at ease on a hunt than in the drawing ing with her parents lest the same thing fear she says too much of what I am to room, but everyone loved his hearty laugh. should happen to her. She used to get up be-a light to the blind, speech to the Betsy refused his proposals several times. at night to make sure her mother was still dumb and feet to the lame. Can it be? ... She wasn't in love, and she wasn't sure jill Boughton fives in South Bend, Indiana. This I kn?w now what the moun~n is I have marriage. was for her. Wouldn't it hold article is adapted .from a book in pr~aration to climb. I am to be a -~er. her back from Christian service? Betsy about exemplary Christian women .from many Gradually Betsy stmphfied her dress talked this out with Joseph and found denominations. and adopted the "thee" and "thou" of him a sympathetic confidant, willing to © 1997 jill Boughton plain speech. She explained, "I find it let her follow God's calling even if it took

18 january 1998 FRIENDS j OURNAL by Jill Boughton

her away from their home. He renewed his suit, and she couldn't turn him down. A non-profit They set the wedding date for Sunday, retirement community August 19, 1800, the first wedding in the and healthcare provider Gurney family. operated by members For several months, the newlyweds vis­ of the Religious ited in-laws. In the strait-laced Fry family, Society of Friends. Betsy-more often called Elizabeth now that she was married-suddenly found Residential Apartmmts herself "the gay, instead of the plain and Assisted Living/Personal Care scrupulous one in the family." Her in­ Skilled Nursing Care laws were often hard to please. FOULKEWAYS AT GWYNEDD At home in London, family and church 1120 Meetinghouse Road . Gwynedd PA 19436 . 215-643-2200 obligations crowded in on them. They e-mail: [email protected] * http://www.foulkeways.org ~ lived in the same building as the ware­ For more information, call Nancy B. Gold, l..!:.r house of the family tea and spice busi­ Director of Admissions, at 2 15-643-2200. ·=-..=:."" ness. On November 2, the day after Eliza­ beth and Joseph moved in, the Fry family came for dinner after meeting. The new family's home was so close to the meet­ inghouse that this arrangement was taken Do you have for granted. A Friend who arrived from America on November 7 made their home the balance you his headquarters for six weeks, frequently turning their family evenings into "dull need for the Meetings." market ahead? A Socially Responsible, Although she was six months preg­ Balanced, No-Load nant, Elizabeth entertained 50 or 60 Mutual Fund people during yearly meeting in May. A stocks reach historic $10,000 Investment ·S>O.ooo "Engagement follows engagement so rap­ your balance becomes more important 15-Yeor Total Return: • $60,000 idly, day after day, week after week, ow­ s~.ooo ever. At times like this, a fund that $69,729 ing principally to our number of near above-average total return with ·uo.ooo connextions, that we appear to live for average risk might be a wise $30,000 • $30,000 others rather than ourselves." To com­ your portfolio. . $10.000 pound the challenge, "Household mat­ ,.,. ,.,. ,.,. ,.,. ,.,. ,.,.·so ters are to me a real trial. I feel so inca­ Pax World Fund uses a blend of rnrllluiiV\1 a2 as ee '' •• "' pable of commanding my servants from chosen stocks, bands, and government a foolish weakness and fear of them. rities to seek income, preservation of f -800-767-f 729 Inclination I believe would lead me hardly and moderate growth. The fund ever to go out or have company. I feel so consumer basics such as food, clothing, flat with people." shelter, items people need in good times Yet Elizabeth reached out to others. In bad. And, of course, Pax World Fund 1803 her younger brother Sam joined ues the commitment to social issues that the Fry household to learn something it a pioneer in socially responsible ·mvE!shrlQ.J about banking. She nursed both of Figures 9uoted represent f?.Osl performance, whj,dfiiiiiOiiilronl·ee cipol value mpy rose or fcill. For more rnmnl.;r.,'fny,,,.,..,.trN. Joseph's parents in their final illnesses. prospectus wh1ch should be read Other relatives frequently sent for her in times of need. After her own father died in

FRIENDS )OURNAL]anuary 1998 19 1809, Elizabeth reflected on "not-returning Time . . . . Now to have father, mother, and nurse all taken from us, and to be our­ selves occupying the situa­ tions they then held and to have children coming on, who are in the same way to succeed us." Fortunately, Joseph became a dearer friend in the midst of all these pressures. "I accepted myJo seph more from duty than anything else, and how much I now love him." Elizabeth Fry bore six daughters and five sons, the first ten in 15 years. She breast fed all eleven and par­ ticularly liked cuddling them as infants, bur preg­ nancy and childbirth ex­ hausted her. "The prospect of more children is sweet at times, very sweet, but my weak nature sadly flinches at suffering." She had at least one miscar­ riage, and another child was stillborn after they never talk when going to bed, but was able to write of "the pleasure of hav­ a very difficult pregnancy. In 1815, her 4- retire quietly after reading a portion of ing with my children the double tie not year-old namesake died after being sick the holy scriptures." She later came to only of mother and children but a friend­ for a week. regret such strictness. "I begin seriously ship formed upon its own grounds." She found it increasingly difficult to to doubt whether as it respects the pecu­ The first time Elizabeth spoke at meet­ manage her lively family. In 1806, a com­ liar scruples of Friends, it is not berter ing was probably after her father died of mittee of Friends called to see whether quite to leave sober-minded young per­ scarlet fever in 1809. On her way home she and Joseph might be delinquent in sons to judge for themselves." from the funeral, she had a lot to think their parental duties. She confessed, "I All but two of her children married about. She felt "like a bottle that has been fear they suffer much from my not hav­ nonFriends. Strict Quaker discipline pre­ corked up and pressed down and now ing the knack of managing them.... The vented her from attending these wed­ there is an opening inside, there is much children not being more orderly has tryed dings, although she hosted receptions af­ to run our." me ... bur I do desire best direction and terward. Elizabeth tried to be tolerant. In 1811, Elizabeth was officially re­ I have both hope and, I hope, a little faith She wrote: corded as an approved minister. Strangers concerning them that it will be well with and family members criticized her for leav­ Those things on which we, the Society of ing her six young children when she trav­ them eventually." Friends, differ from the world in general, "Eventually" was a long time coming. should not, I think, be impressed upon them eled in the ministry. She tried to accept H er teenage children rebelled against by only saying, as is often done, "because this humbly. For the most part, Joseph Quaker discipline and "two of them ... Friends do it," but singly and simply as things faithfully supported her. are induced to treat me and to speak to that the Christian life appears to us to require. Despite the demands of ministry and me at times in a manner that cuts me to ... They should also early be taught that all her large family, Elizabeth always had a the very quick. . . . I have not towards have not seen exactly the same, but that there heart for others. H er interest in education them that patience and forbearance that I may be many equally belonging to the church continued. Her meeting appointed her ought to have." of Christ who may in other respects be as visitor to a school and workhouse at Elizabeth set strict standards for her much stricter than ourselves as we are than Islington, where she enjoyed reading to they in these matters. teenagers. When her 16-year-old son was the children. traveling abroad, she told his tutor, "Never She grew closer to her children as they After Joseph's parents died, he and allow the boys to be out alone in the themselves became parents. Her youngest Elizabeth moved to their country estate, evening; nor to attend any public place of child, H arry, was born the same day as her Plashet, where Elizabeth got to know the amusement.... I advise thy seeing that daughter Rachel's first child. By 1834 she poor in the neighborhood. She ran a soup

20 january 1998 FRJENDS j OURNAL kitchen in her barn, gave medical advice, and vaccinated children against smallpox. She began a school for about 70 poor girls. She visited the gypsy camp and took her children to "Irish row," where the houses were full oflaughter and livestock. She even donated money for funerals, preferring not to ask whether they were Catholic masses. Back in London in 1819, the winter was so severe that a boy froze to death in the street. Within six hours, Elizabeth had helped organize and furnish a homeless shelter that served as many as 800 a night. She made sure there were classes and work as weU as soup and bread. Later she traveled to Brighton for her health. Because she didn't know those who begged from her, she organized a District Visiting Society to determine needs and encourage the poor to start a savings program. This idea soon spread to other towns. In 1825 she formed a Ser­ vants' Society for domestics. On the same visit, she noticed a coastguard worker watching for smugglers. H er concern for Bobbi Kelly, extensio.n 137 his lonely life eventually helped create (800) 742-3150 or (610) 566-4507 libraries at 500 coastguard stations and on board ships. She undertook a similar project on behalf of shepherds in Dartmoor and fishermen at Cromer dur­ \\ ashington, DC/ Baltimore :\rca ing their off-season. Late in life, she established a nursing school in London. Unlike the slovenly FIVE or SEVEN DAY BOARDING women who had previously tended the sick, these trained nurses served the poor Grades 9 through 12 without charge. One of these "Fry nurses" took care of Elizabeth in her own final Supervised study, planned activities for nights/weekends. illness. Five day boarders spend Saturday and Sunday at home! Many were her concerns, but the great 0 PRE-K THROUGH 12 COED DAY SCHOOL OAP COURSES work of her lifetime was undoubtedly her work with prisoners. In fact, the recogni­ OTRAVELABROADOPPORTUNITIES OSTRONGARTS, ATHLETICS tion she gained from this work made her OCOLLEGE PREPARATORY OTRADITIONAL QUAKER VALUES well enough known to accomplish the charities she undertook after 1817. Her first introduction to prison life occurred in 1813 after Stephen Grellet 16923 NORWOOD R OAD, SANDY SPRING, :MD 20860 visited Newgate Prison, a windowless Phone: (301) 774-7455 Fax: (301) 924-1115 building with poor drainage and ventila­ tion. No clothing was supplied, and only Reservations are required for display ads in FRIENDSj OURNAL. prisoners with outside help could supple­ Display ment their meager rations. Women of all March issue: Reserve space by January 5. sorts-young and old, prostitutes and Ad Ads must be received by January 12. forgers, those awaiting trial, those con­ Deadlines April issue: Reserve space by February 2. victed of murder, and those waiting to be Ads must be received by Febl"llao/ 9. deported to Australia-were crowded into two long rooms with their depen­ Ad rate is $28 per column inch FRIENDS dent children. Appalled, Grellet appealed Call (215) 563-8629 now JOURNAL to Elizabeth. with your reservation or questions. W ithin a day, Elizabeth and some

FRIENDS ]OURNALjanu~ry 1998 21 friends had sewed layettes for prisoners' the prison. Elizabeth shrewdly got them babies. She and Anna Buxton took them to state in writing that space was their only to N ewgate. "The railing was crowded objection. She went back to the women, with half-naked women, struggling to· who agreed on a room they could spare as gether for front places with violence and a classroom. begging in loud voices." Those in front Thirty pupils under the age of 7 filled begged money for drink while those be­ the small room, but soon Elizabeth had a hind pushed, punched, and pulled the new challenge. Teenagers and older others' hair. Elizabeth was haunted by the women crowded the doorway begging to sight of two prisoners stripping clothing learn to read. They wanted meaningful from a dead baby to clothe a living one. work like sewing to occupy their time. She and Anna dressed several babies. In Even her brothers-in-law were pessi­ two subsequent visits, they brought soup, mistic. They were sure the women were dean straw for bedding, and warm cloth­ too lazy to learn and would steal the tools. ing for the adults. Undaunted, Elizabeth took her case to a Elizabeth was not able to return to dozen women. They formed an associa­ Newgate Prison for four years, but the tion "to provide for the clothing, instruc­ scenes there remained etched on her heart. tion, and employment of the women; to Meanwhile she gave birth to two more introduce them to a knowledge of the A Quaker Conference Center children and buried her daughter Eliza­ Scriptures, and to form in them, as much 340 HIGH STREET beth. In 1816 a group including two of as possible, those habits ofsobriety, order, P.O.BOX246 her brothers-in-law formed a society to and industry, which may render them BURLINGTON, change laws such as those mandating the docile and peaceable whilst in prison, and NEW JERSEY 08016 death penalty for 300 offenses and to end respectable when they leave it." The Available for day and overnight use the practice of transporting felons to Aus­ women took turns going to the prison 609-387-3875 tralia. While these issues mattered to Eliza­ every day to supervise the sewing and beth, she was more burdened for the indi­ learning. They raised money to pay a full­ The Bible Association of Friends viduals she met in prison. She not only time matron, got drapers to donate fabric, in America campaigned to make capital punishment and found merchants who would buy since 1829 has offered Bibles, New Testaments, more rare but petitioned for the pardon of goods to resell in New South Wales. Eliza­ and Ponions free or at cost to Friends individuals and stayed with women the beth knew they wouldn't pay a competi­ institutions, individuals, and others worldwide. night before their execution. tive price, but she realized a small income Write to: P.O. Box 3, Riverton, NJ 08077 Ironically, it was a financial crisis that was better than idleness. freed her to turn her attention to Newgate The first woman to testify before a again. Joseph's banking business was on committee of the House of Commons, 1H8 very shaky footing, yet the family was so Elizabeth said in 1818, "I have never pun­ Luby Casey prominent they were expected to live os­ ished a woman during the whole time, ... Campus Ministry tentatiously and found it difficult to econo­ and yet I think it is impossible, in a well­ Visitor, mize. "Money appears to leek on every regulated house, to have rules more strictly Admission Office Carrie Newcomer side and it seems almost impossible to attended to." One inmate told Elizabeth 5800 West Friendly Avenue prevent it. How I can feel for those fallen she would rather have a Bible than new Greensboro, NC 27410 January 26-28 in life." When things worsened in 1816, clothes as a reward for good behavior. 910.316.2100 the Frys farmed out their older children to Elizabeth testified, "I have seen, in reading 1.800.992. 7759 schools and relatives, leaving only three the Scripture to these women, such a power FAX 910.316.2954 Quaker Educadon little ones at home. Elizabeth missed her attending them, and such an effect on the www.guilford.edu Since 1837 children very much, but a great burden minds of the most reprobate, as I could was also lifted from her shoulders. not have conceived .... It has strongly In January 1817, she returned to confirmed my faith." Newgate. Talcing a child in her arms, she She also urged practical reforms: em­ began, "Friends, ... I am distressed for ploying only women warders to super­ Mn. for Students your children. Is there not something we vise women prisoners, separating differ­ with Learning can do for these innocent little ones?" ent sorts of criminals according to the Differences Instead of imposing her ideas on the gravity of their offenses, ending solitary women, they made plans together. She confinement, more adequate food, cloth­ College preparatory • Grades 7-12 • &: Summer School asked them to select a schoolmistress from ing, soap, and sanitary facilities. She boldly Call (610) 640-415{) for info & a video their own number. Getting permission proposed that the government buy its D ELAWARE VALLEY F RIENDS S OIOOL from the sheriffs, chaplain, and prison soldiers prison-made uniforms. 19 E. Central Avenue, Paoli, PA 19301 governor was a formidable challenge. They The work mushroomed. In March were sure no such school could succeed, Elizabeth admitted, "I hope I am not CELEBRATING A HOME OF OuR OWN! and besides, there was no unused space in underralcing too much, but it is a little like

22 january 1998 FRIENDS j OURNAL being in the whirlwind." She prayed, "0 cate her success in other places. drunk and smashing things. They were Lord, may I be directed what to do and In 1827 Elizabeth wrote a small book chained together with irons that cut into what to leave undone; and then may I on her prison experience. "The visitor their legs and driven to the ships in open humbly trust that a blessing will be with must go in the spirit, not of judgment, carts, accessible to taunts and missiles. me in my various engagements." but of mercy." She counseled kindness, Elizabeth stayed with them in the prison This work was deeply satisfying to firmness, and dignity rather than famil­ the previous evening and accompanied Elizabeth. On April 12, 1817, she wrote: iarity. "And those who engage in the them to the ship. She appointed leaders interesting task of visiting criminals must and made sure they had fabric to keep I have found in my late attention to not be impatient if they find the work of them busy during the journey. From that Newgate a peace and prosperity in the un­ reformation a very slow one." time on, Elizabeth helped organize every dertaking that I seldom, if ever, remember to In the introduction to this book, Eliza­ have felt before. A way has been opened for one of the 106 convict ships that sailed us beyond all expectations to bring into beth reflected on women's role in soci­ before her final illness in 1843. Elizabeth order the poor priso.ners; those who are in ety, not only in the home but ministering pressed a further question: What hap­ power are so very willing to help us-in to women in difficult situations: pened to these prisoners once they arrived short the time appears to be come to work in Australia? She was appalled to learn among them. Already, from being wild beasts, During the last ten years much attention that no provision was made for them they appear harmless and kind. has been successfully bestowed by women on there; many turned to prostitution in or­ the female inmates of our prisons, .. . but a der to survive. She lobbied Parliament similar care is evidently required for our hos­ That summer all nine children carne until a barracks was built to house these home to Plashet. "At times they appear pitals, our lunatic asylums, and our work­ houses . ... Were ladies to make a practice of women until they could find regular em­ too much for me, at others I greatly enjoy regularly visiting them, a most important ployment. them; . . . My beloved children do not check would be obtained on a variety of Domestic concerns continued to bur­ appear sufficiently under the influence of abuses. den Elizabeth. Things carne to a head in religion. I am r~dy to say, oh! that I could November, 1828, when Joseph Fry's bank prosper at home in my labours as I appear One day Elizabeth learned that some had to dose its doors. The import busi­ to do abroad." She drew her oldest daugh­ of "her" prisoners were about to be trans­ ness remained viable, but the Gurney ters into the work. They helped answer ported to Australia. In the past, such pris­ brothers took over, retaining Joseph as an letters from people who wanted to repli- oners had spent the previous night getting employee. H e worked hard to repay his The Holiday Cheer that hsts aU year-and beyond! This New Year, give a special Gift Subscription # 1: This is a gift from: gift to those special people in NAME MY NAME your life, the perfect reminder throughout the year of your love ADDRESS ADDRESS and friendship. You'll have no parcels to wrap 0$25/ 16 issues (special New Year offer) or post, either. We'll do all the Send renewal notice Oto me Oro recipient Total mclo~d: $,______work for you-and we'll send a card announcing your gift too! for all subscriptions listed above. (I am including $6/ Gift Subscription #2: year/subscription for postage outside the U.S., To each new gift subscription Canada, and Mexico.) NAME you order we'll add four extra O Enclosed is my check OBill me months-that's 16 issues for the ADDRESS Charge my: O MasterCard OVISA price of 12. We'll also extend your own subscription by two months for each gift you send. 0 $25/16 issues (special New Year offer) EXP. DATE Send renewal notice Oro me Oto recipient Please send your gift subscription orders by January Gift Subscription #3: 14 in order to start with the FRIENDS February 1998 issue. NAME JOURNAL Let your message ofgood will ADDRESS 1216 Arch Street, 2A continue after the holiday Philadelphia, PA season! 19107-2835 0$25/16 issues (special New Year offer) (215)563-8629 Send renewal notice Oto me Oto recipient Fax: (215) 568-1377

F RIENDS JoURNAL january 1998 23 personal debts in less than a year. Al­ Friends General Conference though the Frys were forced to change lfii their lifestyle drastically, Elizabeth tried to be cheerful. "I see that I have many bless­ Pendle Hill I ings left and do earnestly desire to esti­ mate them as I should." More devastat­ fD Philadelphia Yearly Meeting ing, their meeting formally disowned Joseph for his financial failure. This expe­ School of the Spirit • rience embittered him, and for a rime he gave up Quaker dress and customs, which deeply wounded Elizabeth. How­ ever, Joseph had some son of religious experience in 1833, and the meeting rein­ stated him in 1837 at his humble request. Invite you to a weekend gathering Elizabeth's work attracted interna­ tional attention. U.S. Congressman John Co.mpanions Along the Way Randolph reported that he had seen Elizabeth Fry preaching to the inmates A Conference on Adult Religious Education at Newgate, "the greatest curiosity in for Quaker Spiritual Life London." Between 1838 and 1843, Elizabeth made five trips to the continent, June 12-14, 1998 visiting prisons and insane asylums. She urged that their inmates be treated as hu­ George School, Newtown, PA man beings, not animals. Frederick, king of Prussia, visited her home. She warned Program leaders will include: the king of France, "When thee builds a prison thee had better build with the Paul Anderson Chel Avery Margaret Benefiel thought ever in mind that thee and thy Nancy Bieber Max Carter Renee Crauder children may occupy the cells." Kathryn Damiano Steven Davison Shirley Dodson Her travels exhausted her. In 1840 she Marty Grundy Jan Hoffman Thomas Jeavons wrote, "I have been poorly enough to have William J . Kreidler Patricia Loring Patricia McBee the end of life brought closely before me, Marcelle Martin Ann Miller Phillip Mullen and to stimulate me in faith to do quickly Allen Oliver Sally Palmer Chris Ravndal what my Lord may require of me." After Deborah Saunders Virginia Schurman Daniel A. Seeger her 1843 uip, she had to manage her Brad Sheeks William Taber household from her bed. Her mind remained dear. She was car­ This Gathering is for Friends who: ried to the 1845 yearly meeting and spoke •Organize adult religious education programs in local Meetings from a wheelchair, comparing different • Facilitate courses in Quakerism, Bible, and other themes for adult Friends temperaments to the stones used in con­ • Lead retreats suuccing a building. In her last letter to •Offer spiritual guidance to other Friends the Ladies' Committee, she wrote: • Want to support the spiritual life of their Meeting I still feel a deep and lively interest in the This Weekend will include plenary sessions, workshops, and other cause of poor prisoners. . . . May the Holy opportunities on: Spirit direct your steps, suengthen your hearts, • Adult religious education for Friends: what is it and why is it important? and enable you and me to glorifY our Holy Head in doing and suffering even unto the •Quaker spirituality, and how Friends can support each other in our spiritual growth end; and when the end comes, through a • Practical ideas and resources for organizing and leading adult religious education Saviour's love and merits, may we be received programs in Meetings into glory and everlasting rest and peace. • Suggestions for drawing on the wealth of resources from other traditions • How to nurture teachers, retreat leaders, and Friends who offer spiritual She suffered a stroke, then became co­ companionship to others matose, dying on October 13, 1845. • Exploration of many themes which draw Friends together for study, conversation, Late in life she wrote her own simple and worship sharing testament. "Since my heart was touched at 17 years old, I believe I have never To request detailed information and registration materials, please contact: awakened from sleep, in sickness or in Shirley Dodson, Philadelphia Yearly Meeting of the Religious Society of Friends, 1515 Cherry Street, Philadelphia, PA 191 02 ; (2 15) 241-7182; fax: (2 15) 567 -2096 ; or health, by day or by night, without my e-mail: [email protected] first ~ng thought being, 'how best I might serve my Lord."' 0

24 january 1998 FRIENDS JoURNAL Witness THE HICKMAN Facing the Roots ofViolence by Maia Carter Independent Uving and Personal Care took a class this summer entitled Com­ circulated a few days before, and I believe the ConYenient to shops, businesses, munity Problem Solving Seminar. In it day of our visit was the first of the latest round and rulturol opportunities we examined many of the challenges fac­ of "clashes." I remember the trepidation that Reasonable • Not-for-Profit I Founded and operated by Quol

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yarmulke. Likewise, Israelis (and foreign tour­ violence stem from oppression and from a ists) do not have many opponunities to inter­ lack of basic needs. The unemployment rate DISCOVER QUAKER PHILADELPHIA act with Palestinians. The government and in the W est Bank is 60o/o, which gives many Two-hour walking tours of William Penn's the tour guides discourage anyone from enter­ people nothing constructive to do and no original city of brotherly love, in honor of ing the Palestinian territories, telling them the income to provide for their families. For years Penn's 350th birthday. area is "unsecure" and "dangerous." As Pales­ the people of the W est Bank have been under Send a SASE for schedule to: QUAKER tinians are restricted in their movement (70% occupation, and many areas still are, which TOURS, Box 1632, Media, PA 19063. of one privileged high school class had never sometimes leads to a mentality that none of been to Jerusalem- a 10 minute ride-be­ society's rules or regulations apply to them cause their ID badges do not allow them), the because they were imposed unfairly. Lack of only way for real interaction is for outsiders to housing is a severe problem, and the govern­ visit them. Both Palestinians and Israelis are ment recently announced they are demolish­ G thus raised in relatively homogeneous com­ ing between 2,000 and 20,000 Palestinian munities receiving extremely negative (and homes in order to expand one of the Israeli F generally false) interpretations of the other settlements. Those living in the homes will society that lives on the same land. not be compensated in any way. Palestinians s The paralld to Richmond (or any other have distinctly colored ID badges, and license city in the United States} is stunning. One plates ofWest Bank residents are differently Ge.t:mantown Friends School only has to read the newspaper or watch the colored and only allowed to travel within the (215) 951-2346 news to hear stories of the "dangerous" down­ "autonomous" territories. While underemploy­ Please come to our Open Houses: town, and many suburbanites feel it is "un­ ment, not unemployment, is the primary prob­ • Saturday, Oct.18, 2-4 p.m. safe" to travel to certain areas of the city, lem in American cities, the outcome is the • Tuesday, Nov. 11, 8:30-11 a.m. especially after dark. Schools, as in Israel and same. Adequate and affordable housing is not • Friday, Apri/10, 8:30-11 a.m. the W est Bank, remain segregated, although often available to those with low incomes, and the segregation in the United States is not some African Americans feel that since they official or state-sanctioned. Lack of public were brought to the United States against Expt:riential transportation restricts the movement of their will and have lived under oppression, those Living in the city from those living in they therefore do not need to observe some Destgns Organizational development Ellen Brownfain, and consulting worldwide the suburbs, and both communities interact societal regulations. And while African Ameri­ Principal & Friend Specializing in team building. minimally. The bias of the media is obvious cans and other inner city residents are not 415-241- 15 19 l~de rshi p development and in both the Middle East and Richmond. forced to carry ID badges, many in our society 1218 Leavenworth St di....ersity training. Ask about While in Hebron, all of the news cameras still judge people by the color of their skin. SF CA 94109-4013 our upcoming spirit quests ... were on the side of the Israeli soldiers. Not Although we saw and heard many discour-­ one single camera was on the side of the aging things during our three-week stay, we Palestinian youth. Listening to the news on also met with wonderful people, Israeli, Pales­ the flight returning home we heard a repon tinian, Jewish, Muslim, and Christian, who on Hebron and Jerusalem. Entire chunks of are committed to creating peace and who the story, critical to comprehension, were hope to see a time when two distinct nations Excelling missing. Lengthy stories are told of soldiers can share the same state. We experienced who are wounded, but not even the names are generosity, love, and kindness from strangers IN A CHANGING WORLD given of the Palestinians who are killed. This who became our friends. We formed a bond reminded me of newspaper articles reporting with our Palestinian hosts as together we loaded the deaths ofAfrican American teenagers whose rocks and spread dirt around the new science names are not given, and whose life stories are building, and we connected with religious not recounted. Likewise the media in the com­ people everywhere as we visited the Dome of Pre-K to 12th grade munities, whether in the West Bank, Israel, the Rock, the Western Wall, the Mount of the inner city, or the suburbs, will not air the Olives, and Roman temples. And as I sat on a 17th & Benjamin Franklin Parkway positive stories of success, of empowerment, hill outside the Church ofthe Beatitudes look­ Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 19 1 o 3- 1 2 84 ofcoope ration. When only despair is available ing across the Sea ofG alilee towards the Golan to see and hear, it is difficult to remain hopeful. Heights, I hoped humanity would come to 215-561-5900 On a much more basic level, causes of believe that "blessed are the peacemakers." 0

26 january 1998 FRIENDS j OURNAL SCHOOL OF RELIGION

Dean of the Earlham School of Religion

The President and the Search Committee of the Earlham School of Religion seek nominations for and expressions of interest in the position of Dean of the Earlham School of Religion.

Founded in 1960, the Earlham School of Religion is the nation's first fully accredited Quaker seminary. It offers master's degree programs in preparation for ministry to students from all branches of Friends, as well as other traditions and faiths. Together with Earlham College and Conner Prairie (a living history museum), ESR is one of the three parts ofEarlham. Enrollment currently numbers 63 students (53 FTE). There are 7 full·time faculty and 3 part·time. In 1994, ESR entered into a partnership agreement with Bethany Theological Seminary (Church of the Brethren), which shares its campus.

Reporting to the President of Earlham, the Dean will be the chief academic and administrative officer of the Earlham School of Religion, and also Vice President of Earlham. Responsibilities include providing leadership to the faculty in program and curriculum development, coordina· tion of planning activities, budget preparation and oversight, institutional advancement, and representation of ESR to Quaker constituencies.

Qualifications include an academic record appropriate to appointment as a member of the faculty and a record of successful leadership and administration. The Dean will be a member of the Religious Society of Friends with a firm commitment to Christian Quakerism and an understanding of decision-making within Friends' institutions.

Active screening of candidates will begin on November 1 and will continue until the position is filled. Nominations, applications, and letters of application should be submitted to: Douglas C. Bennett, President's Office, Earlham, 801 National Road West, Richmond, IN 4 7374.

Earlham is an Affirmative Action/Equal Opportunity Employer. As a Quaker educational institution, Earlham is committed to building a vigorous academic community reflecting the gender and racial diversity of society at large. We welcome applicants from members of racial and ethnic minority groups.

FRIENDS j OURNAL january 1998 27 Reports and Epistles 105 North Fourth Street HENRY Centerville, IN 47330 North Pacific Yearly Meeting Phone: BOD-707·1920 FREEMAN Fax: 765-855-5278 Greetings to Friends everywhere, from ASSOCIATES Friends gathered on the campus of Gonzaga University in Spokane, Washington, July 17- 20, 1997. We stood poised on the 25th anniversary 0 Capital Campaigns of the inception of our yearly meeting, look­ 0 Fundraising ing backward to our past and forward to our future. Paul and Margaret Lacey, Friends­ 0 Planned Giving in-Residence, helped us explore our theme­ "Silence, Voice, and Story." We entered the Based near Richmond, Indiana, Henry Freeman Associates provides silence together, listened for the authentic voice services to organizations and institutions throughout the country, with that called to be spoken, and shared with each many clients located along the eastern seaboard (Washington, D.C. to other our story-how we decided to become a Boston) and in the midwest. We are uniquely suited to meet the needs yearly meeting, how we have grown, and where God is leading us. of institutions with well-established fundraising programs (colleges and Twenty-five years ago, we were only eight universities, for example) and organizations (such as many small monthly meetings and a few worship groups. non-profits) that are relatively new to the fundraising process. Now we are three quarterly meetings with seventeen monthly meetings, one preparative Recent Friends-affiliated clients include: Pendle Hill, Earlham College, meeting, and thirty worship groups. We are Friends World Committee, Friends Journal, Earlham School of Religion, maturing into a healthy spiritual community Friends United Meeting, Friends Council on Education, Cambridge capable of embracing an expanding diversity. Friends School, William Penn House, and White's Residential and Our yearly meeting sessions this year were Family Services. characterized by a tender spirit of worship gathering us into an ever-widening circle of We invite you to contact us. inclusion with love at the core. The cohesive presence of our teenage Junior Friends, their responsible example, and their compassion for each other have ministered to us all. Espe­ cially hearrwarming were our Young Friends (ages 18-30+) who coalesced into a diverse gathering with future plans for spiritual en­ richment, community fellowship, and fun. · We continue to bear witness to the Quaker testimony of the equality of all people. Our The ESR Equation: corporate leading to affirm gay and lesbian civil rights led to our heartfelt approval of a 1. A supportive, Christ -centered, learning community-plus well-seasoned minute supponing legal recog­ 2. Rigorous academics-plus nition ofsame-sex marriage. We also approved 3. Diversity of age, race, gender and faith traditions-plus action plans to carry out our suppon. Twenty-five years ago, we intentionally 4. Afocus on personal spirituality-plus kept our focus dose to home. In the ensuing 5. Many small, engaging classes-plus years, we have grown into active relationship 6. Opportunities to work closely, one-on-one, with caring faculty-plus with many other Quaker bodies. This year, several young people, out there on the "from 7. Aplace where family members are included. lines" of Quaker social witness, shared the complexity of their experiences and challenges at a new leadership workshop sponsored by It all adds up the American Friends Service Committee. Some of us have been building exciting to transformation. and enduring relationships with nearby programmed and unpmgrammed Friends Earlham School of Religion- through the Pacific Northwest Quaker (A QUAKER SEMINARY OFFERING MAsTER OF DMNliY, Women's Theology Conferences. As a yearly MAsTER OF MINISIRY AND MAsTER OF ARTs DEGRW>) meeting, we are also beginning to consider a the right answer for a solid education more active relationship with Friends General and personal preparation for minist:Iy. Conference. Having celebrated our binhday, we wait in Call Nancy Nelson at 1~1377 expectant silence for the movement of the 228 College Avenue, Richmond, Indiana 47374 Spirit among us. We thank you, Friends I around the ·world, for writing to us of your

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1... 111.1 ..... 1111 ... 1••• 11.1 •• ••11.1 ••• 111 ..... 11.1 experience of how Truth has fared among WESTTOWN SCHOOL you. We send you our love. -Ann Stever, clerk Britain Yearly Meeting It is 73 years since our yearly meeting last gathered in Wales. We met on a hillside over­ looking the town ofAberystwyth and the sea. We have also been made aware that the beauty conceals hardship and a history ofoppression. We now understand better that these things are part ofour life as British Friends. We invite you to discover the value of a Westtown education... Some 250 of the 1,500 participants were under the care ofthe Philadelphia Yearly Meeting since 1799. under 19. Sixty overseas visitors have joined us, many of whom have come straight from the FWCC Triennial in Birmingham, *Challenging programs in academics, the arts, and athletics England. *Strong Quaker presence in student body and faculty We have been reminded that there are *310 day students in grades pre-K through 10 Friends who are in refugee camps, in prisons, *290 boarding students in grades 9-12 (boarding required, 11-12) or in war zones. To you, our dear Friends, we send our deep love and prayers. *Diversity of racial, geographic, economic and religious In our meetings for worship for church backgrounds among students and teachers affairs we have experienced a deep and pow­ *Weekly meeting for worship and strong sense of community erful leading· that has brought us to a special are central to school life. kind of discipline. There has been tenderness and selflessness, as we have imperfectly searched for words. Westtown School, Westtown, PA 19395 (610) 399-7900 We have heard with joy of Friends around the world experiencing reconciliation with one another. We sense that there is a new mood of trust, but we do not underestimate the pain and risk this process has demanded. Oakwood Friends School For several years we have found it difficult to talk to each other about spiritual matters. A located in the historic Hudson Valley 75 miles oorth of New York City comfortable silence has been easier. It is time to answer the question: "Who are we?" We need to answer as a community, not just as individuals. We have been called to remember that we belong to a family with deep roots and many connections. Our ministry has drawn on sources within the Christian tradition and outside it. All our ministry needs ro be heard. We are a people of God. That means we must be bold and truthful in proclaiming to each other and to the world who we are and where we have come from. Actions alone are not enough. They need to be explained in a language of equality, simplicity, justice, and peace. Waldo Williams, the Welsh Quaker poet, spoke of "cadw ty cwmwl tystion;" we are "keeping house among a cloud ofwitnesses." Coed boarding and day school for grades 7-12 and postgraduate We have much hard work ahead of us: in discerning priorities in our corporate work, in Rigorous rollege preparatory curriculum Small class sizes carrying forward our testimonies, and in com­ Visual and performing arts Unique Senior program ing to terms with the implications of our Strong, nurturing rommunity Athletic program membership of ecumenical bodies. International program Community service We carry away from this meeting a new confidence that ifwe are steadfast and faithful in listening to God's call, we shall be guided. Please contact the Admissions Office: 515 South Road, J>oughkl-cpsic, NY 12601 And even when we falter, we know we shall be (914)462-4200 lovingly upheld. -S. jocelyn Burnell clerk

FRIENDS j OURNAL january 1998 29 Q News of Friends

A student brings the AIDS Quilt to Gennantown Friends School Ashley Harvey, a senior at Germantown Friends • maJlf'la~e ce}'CtFJcaces School in Philadelphia, devotes much of • 3.ID$S • msc~1pc1ons • her time to helping people affected by • e1~C12 announcemencs • AIDS and raising awareness of the • ~~eec11Xi ca£b bes1qns • disease among her peers. "So many kids •mV1cactons • sc~olts · seem oblivious to AIDS. Some of them know people with HIV, but they haven't :HIVtlf:f!TNTesr actually seen the body deteriorate from it. "When Ashley learned ofthe NAMES 609-786-JSZ+ Project, which oversees the AIDS Me­ 0 J~ ~ morial Quilt and makes sections of it available for display at schools and other Germantown Friends School student public places, she presented the idea Ashley Harvey and an AIDS quilt panel of hosting a section of the Quilt at Friends' Germantown Friends School in October 1997. Ontario Provincial Police attacked the en- • • She initiated several activities in conjunction campment by sea, land, and air, killing one C E N T R A L with the Quilt's visit. "I think seeing the AIDS citizen. CPT will begin training in spring For over 150 years ... Quilt will open a lot of eyes," said Ashley, "it 1998 to prepare for possible violent ·conflict will help kids to see that AIDS can strike next summer. • Excellence in academics anyone and everyone ifyou're not careful. We • Respect for the individual aren't invincible, and people need· to recog­ • Community service nize that." The Quilt also was available for Correction: Friends' Housing and Care, Inc., • A diverse student body public viewing in the school's auditorium. W ood.mere at Jacaranda. After publication of • Outstanding college Visitors were invited to put their thoughts "News of Friends" (Dec. 1997) regarding placement about AIDS and the Quilt on fabric panels Friends' Housing and Care, Inc. (FHC), we Friends' Central School displayed nearby. These panels will serve as a became aware of certain inaccuracies in the ( 61 0) 649-7 440 ext. 208 memorial to the Quilt's visit. Said Cleve Jones, report. First, we did not intend to imply that founder of the NAMES project, "I think the FHC had problems in gaining nonprofit sta­ Quilt is rooted in Quaker belief, that there is tus with the State of Florida. Second, FHC that ofGod in all people. Friends for centuries never advenised that it was established by have always sought to find that Light within Sarasota Evangelical Friends Church. William all of us-and that is what the Quilt is trying R Manin, chair of the board ofFHC, reports to do." that FHC changed its advenising to say "es­ ~ tablished by members of" the meeting and nI~&~~~ Jack Ross, member ofArgenta (B.C.) Meet­ the church; this was done, he reports, afi:er • Quality care in the Quaker tradition. ing, was released from jail following a 71-day FHC terminated its relationship to Sarasota imprisonment. He and other demonstrators Meeting by amending FHC's corporate by­ • 42 apanments for independent living, were anested on August 6, 1997, for demon­ laws on March 11, 1997. Third, FHC is no 60 private personal care rooms, 120 strating against logging in the Slocan Valley longer under the care ofSarasota (Fla.) Meet­ nursing home beds. watershed. The 76-year-old nonviolence in­ ing, but it originally was established by • Peace of mind. Supponive medical structor protested the building of logging the meeting, as stated in earlier Woodmere at Jacaranda advertisements. In addition, and social services throughout your roads and was put in jail pending a hearing on the case. During his 71-day stay at the William R Manin states that FHC "never stay. Kamloops jail, Jack fasted and wrote letters sought any relationship with Southeastern • An active lifestyle in a beautiful, to his supponers, confident in his witness Yearly Meeting." Finally, FHC submitted an graceful setting. against the destruction of the watershed. The application for taX-exempt status with the two-month stay in jail affected his health, IRS on April 23, 1996, and indicated at that • Meals, housekeeping, transportation, already damaged by Parkinson's Disease, time that it is a church. FHC supplied SEYM's cultural and social activities. and on October 15, 1997, Jack reluctantly Faith and Practice along with its application • A history of caring since 1904. signed a document stating that he would in answer to the question "Does the organiza­ not protest the contested site and secured his tion have a formal code of doctrine and disci­ Stapeley In Germantown release. pline for its members? If 'Yes,' describe." William R Manin states, "Since we had cre­ 6300 Greene Street Christian Peacemaker Teams will open an ated a new worship group, we adopted our Philadelphia, PA 19144 office in Ontario, Canada. Conflicts over na­ ownFaithandPracticeonJune9, 1997. In no Call Carol Nemeroff tive fishing rights and unfair treatment of First way was it done co be filed with our corporate Admissions Director Nation peoples motivated a proposal to open papers. It was done to make it clear that (215) 844-0700 the office to provide suppon for native peoples. this Quaker group was a Christian group In September 1995, First Nation members to which all Christian Friends were welcome." occupied a park in Ontario, stating that it We regret the inaccuracies in our report. contained one of their burial grounds. The -Eds.

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32 january 1998 FRIENDS j OURNAL Books Isaiah servant, "it cannot be said too often that the Listening is the foundational practice of works of justice, the vocation of the Servant, all Quaker spiritual disciplines. Listening is By Dan Berrigan. Fortress Press, Minneapolis, are the preeminent form of honoring and presented as a way of life focusing on the Minn., 1996. 156pages. $17/hardcover. glorifying God. They are true worship." transformation of the will to conformity Most of us know Dan Berrigan as a result May we worship in this manner. with God's purpose. More specifically, some of his witness for peace and justice for which of the other practices described are devo­ the government imprisoned him on many -Arthur Berk tional reading, varieties of meditation and occasions. He deserves recognition, if not ad­ prayer, personal retreats, the witness of miration, for his participation in nonviolent Arthur Berk is a member ofMiddleton (Ohio) lifestyle, and spiritual friendships. resistance to the violent conflicts perpetrated Meeting and is convenor ofOhio Yearly Meet­ In exploring personal spiritual practices by earthly powers as well as for his concern for ing's Peace and Human Rekltions Committee. one needs to listen to what is being called the poor and oppressed. He is an active member ofthe New Foundation forth in one's life. In this way the practice Yet few of us recognize Dan's scholastic FeikJwship and the author ofF ox and the Bible often chooses us since it is already part of our accomplishments, particularly his biblical com­ and Fox and the Book of Revelation. everyday life. Readers are encouraged to find mentaries. Dan's book on the most sympa­ their own rhythm by noticing the "climate thetic ofthe Hebrew prophets underscores his Listening Spirituality: of the heart." The author assures us that the concern for the human condition in a most spiritual life is "less like a course ofst udy than telling fashion. Personal Spiritual Practices like cultivating a relationship that will last and Dan translates Isaiah's writings from He­ deepen for many years, undergoing many shifts brew and also uses the Jerusalem Bible to Among Friends as our circumstances change and we continue comment on Isaiah 53, which depicts the By Patricia Loring. Openings Press, Washing­ to grow." agony and triumph of the suffering servant, ton, D. C, 1997. 207pages. $12/paperback. Spiritual practices are not just a privatized Christ Jesus. In the past Friends "caught" spirituality by activity. Instead we are asked to join our Naturally, Dan refers to Isaiah 2: 4, "They living in closer intentional community. In will to God's in the work of healing and will beat their swords into plowshares, their present times there is a need to articulate reconciliation in the world. The true fruit of spears into pruning knives, nevermore war, spiritual practices that can point us to God. the inner life with God is reflected in the never again," in his commentary on the This book should be welcomed by Friends in outer practice of embodying or incarnating universal message of this great, and as Dan providing this missing link. the Divine Spirit for others in our own lim­ reminds us, humble, servant of the Lord. The reader is offered the first volume of a ited ways. "To persist and be faithful in the The author's interpretation of this com­ longer work on Quaker spiritual formation. attempt to embody God's living, listening mand speaks to our condition--<>ur separa­ The author's underlying vision for the series is presence in daily life requires an utterly tion from God. to integrate personal practice, corporate prac­ counter-cultural humility." Dan writes, "The truth of this transforma­ tice, and ethics, which are seen as inseparable The book defines terms well and does not tion oracle, 'swords into plowshares,' is abso­ within Quaker formation and transformation. assume previous knowledge. For example, lutely crucial to the prospering of nations and This work is meant to be primarily a standard notations for scripture passages are cultures, to the survival ofindividuals, of chil­ practical book rather than something you explained. At the same time it will speak to dren and elderly and the ill. It is crucial to curl up with for the night. The reader can the spi!itually seasoned reader. Exercises and honor, to religious faith, to a civilized sense of pick it up and put it down without losing queries at the end of each chapter are excel­ the human-crucial to the fate of the earth." continuity. The book is illustrated with black lent resources for additional reading or can be As Jesus' message is not limited to those and white sumi-e artwork that provides for a used for personal or group reflection. who call themselves Christians, Isaiah's proc­ contemplative visual experience. lamations, as Dan astutely discerns, were di­ This volume is the fruit of Patricia Loring's -Kathryn Damiano rected to Gentiles as well as Jews. This prophet, years of teaching, retreat leadership, and spiri­ as a matter of fact, was more critical of the tual nurture ministry. Grounded in Friends Kathryn Damiano is a member ofMiddletown Hebrews than he was toward the nations. He spirituality, the content offers a translation (Pa.) Meeting. She is cofounder ofthe "School of admonished the Jews to disarm even when and adaptation of a variety of spiritual prac­ the Spirit" ministry and currently serves as they were surrounded by "enemy" troops; tices into a Quaker context. Spiritual Nurturer for the staffof Pendle HiU. Isaiah understood that the Lord is our shield. For me, Dan's de'piction of the suffering servant (Isaiah 42-53) is most inspiring. Al­ Quaker Quiptoquotes'------, though he recognizes that Jesus is the "Servant of servants," we also have the power to serve by Adelbert Mason the Lord if we are open to God's calling. Dan reminds us that if we are obedient, we may The foikJwing is an encoded quote from a famous Friend. The letters have been transposed not be "successful." We may even feel lonely, for your puzzling pleasure. enduring the pain of obedience. Yet we know, AL UB WCMB XNDCYA ANBE , CY AL UB F as Isaiah knew, we must say yes to our inward teacher. XNDCYACFE. FEZ DBTBEBDFACLE CY ANB LEWG As servants, sometimes we are ordered to speak out. Other times God orders us to re­ SFG AL ANB MCETZLH LR TLZ SNCXN. SB QDFG main silent. Above all, God moves us to be RLD. faithful. -Answer on page 36 Dan writes this commentary on Isaiah's

FRIENDS ]OUWAL january 1998 33 Milestones Births/Adoptions Socci-Dominic joseph Socci, on July 8, 1997, to Orchesua and became a respected piano tuner. He Bettina Bussey Socci and Edward Socci of Xenia was an active and valued member of Mickleton Bowennan-Cody AlJm Bowaman, on May 30, (Ohio) Meeting. Meeting and of the neighborhood. He is survived 1997, to Rene and Jeff Bowerman ofFriendsville by a daughter, Nancy E. Barrow; a brother, Ed­ (Tenn.) Friends Church. Marriages/Unions ward L Bond; and two grandchildren. Dainton--Samut>l Dutton Dainton, on June 10, Lutz-Marietta Matthews Lutz, 85, on Oct. 11, 1997, to Lisa Heath Dainton and Stephen Balcombe-Bezek-joanna Bezek and Philip 1996, in Milwaukie, Oregon. Marietta was born Dainton. Lisa is a member of Moorestown (N.J.) Balcombe, on May 23, 1997, in Baltimore. Philip · in Boise, Idaho. She worked as an in-home caregiver Meeting. and Joanna are attenders of Germanmwn (Pa.) to support herself while she earned her teaching Meeting. Garrett-Liana Kathmne Gamtt, on June 7, diploma from Lewiston Normal School. In 1944, 1997, to Betsy and Jim Garrett ofStony Run Davison-Lewandoski-Christine LewarukJski and afrer teaching school in Idaho for 12 years, she (Md.) Meeting. Strom Davison, on June 7, 1997, under the care married Arnold Lutz. Following their marriage, of New Brunswick (N.J.) Meeting, of which Marierta and Arnold made frequent moves, neces­ H uesris-Nicok Rachel Hut>stis, on Aug. 1, 1997, Steven is a member. sary because ofArnold's work. In 1969 they retired to Wendy and Jesse Huestis. Jesse is a member of to Ogden, Utah, where Marietta joined the local DeKay-HartmaJ1-judy Hartman and Mike Wrightsmwn (Pa.) Meeting. Friends meeting. She and Arnold had Swedish on July 20, 1997, at Forr Washington DeKay, exchange students in their home for many years Morris-Brody Lee Morris, on June 20, 1997, to State Park, Pa., under the care of Moorestown and ofren took in young people who were in Brian and Susan Morris of Hardin's Creek (N.J.) Meeting. (Ohio) Meeting. difficulry. Personal service and family were central Harper-HaveU-Robin Evans HaveU and David to their lives, including a very special, close rela­ Purcell-Tony Hatton PureeD, on June 6, 1997, Turpin Harper, on May 17, 1997, in Chevy tionship with their son Jay. With close friends in to Rhonda and Tony PurceU of Hardin's Creek Chase, Md. David is a member ofWUrnington Ogden they sponsored a Viemamese family (now (Ohio) Meeting. (Del.) Meeting. in Australia). A member of Mulmomah Meeting Reed-Alexander fames &ed, on June 24, 1997, in Portland, Oreg., Marietta will be remembered to Leslie Johnson Reed and Jamie Reed ofXenia Deaths as the slight, sprightly, white-haired lady seated in (Ohio) Meeting. meeting for worship near the door. At the close of Sherman-Benjamin Cole Sherman, on July 3, Bond-Amos P. &nd, 79, on May 9, 1997, in meeting, she would go quickly down the steps to 1997, to Jennie and Bill Sherman. Jennie is a Woodbury, N.J. Amos was born on a farm be­ wait by the outer door for her devoted husband, member ofWrightstown (Pa.) Meeting. tween Mickleton and Clarksboro, N.J. He at­ who brought her each First Day on his way m tended the New England Conservatory of Music church. Arnold and Marierta were much-loved Snyder-Katherine Perry Snyder, on May 13, in Boston for two years, then joined the Army Air participants in Mulmomah Seniors' monthly noon 1997, m Joan Pearce Snyder and Bayard J. Corps Band. He served in Lubbock, Texas and in potluck. Her caring and spiritual depth, as well as Snyder. Bayard is a member ofWilrnington Brazil. When he returned m New Jersey forryyears her sense of humor, are found in her poetry­ (Del.) Meeting. ago, Amos joined the Glassboro State College Burah Creek (1983) and A Child Went Forth (1996).

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34 january 1998 FRIENDS JoURNAL Marietta is survived by her son, Jay Arnold Lutz; Marshall. He died after a long illness in 1981. In housing for some 20,000 people in Philadelphia, three sisters; and one brother. 1985 Gertrude hosted the first Alternatives ro Bosron and Cambridge, Mass., Chicago, Princeton, N.J., Washington, D.C., California, Maryland, Marshall-Marble-G(trud( Mc/v(r M athews Violence Project training workshop in Missouri in her home and soon became a facilitator in the state New York, Texas, and Virginia. Morris began his Marshali-Marbk, 83, on May 23, 1997, in Colum­ work as a builder bur in the 1960s, after failing an bia, Mo. Born in Providence, Rl., Gertrude at­ prisons as well as in community workshops. AVP became the principal focus of her energies, and she effort to build an interracial community in all­ tended Wellesley College and majored in music. white Deerfield, Ill., he and his associates bought She settled in Columbia with her first husband, found the ideal co-facilitator and partner in Robert existing housing and changed the rental policies to Paul Mathews, who taught music education at the Marble, a retired Methodisr missionary. They were accommodate African Americans. Among the com­ University of Missouri. The couple raised three married in 1988 and shared three happy years panies he established is the Fund for an Open children during their 32 years of marriage, during before Bob's death in 1991. Gertrude continued Society in Philadelphia, which helps people who which Gertrude directed the children's choir at a serving the meeting and building up the Mid­ move to integrated housing to obtain low-cosr Presbyterian church and the community "Mother Missouri AVP Council. She was honored with the mortgages. In 1968 Morris was the first recipient Singers." She also was a community activist, co­ Volunteer of the Year Award in Columbia just a of the National Human Rights Award from the founder and chairwoman of the Voluntary Action month before her death after a year-long struggle Department ofH ousingand Urban Development. Committee and a member of the board of Every­ with cancer. She is survived by three children, He is survived by a son, Gene; a daughter, Betty; day People, a subsrance abuse recovery shelter. She three seep-children, and 11 grandchildren. and a sister, Mary Parker. was a long-time member of the League ofWomen Milgram-MorrisMi{gram,81,on June22, 1997, Voters, serving as president of the local chapter in Langhorne, Pa., ofasr roke. Born in Manhattan, Odenheim-I.aum Grachm Odmh~m, 50, on and on the state board. In the 1970s she estab­ N.Y., the youngest of six children of an immigrant July 8, 1997, at her home in Arlingron, Va. Born lished Highfield Acres, a low-cost, racially inte­ family, Morris grew up with Socialist principles. in Irving, N.J., Laurie spent ten years of her youth grated, rural housing development near Colum­ He was expelled from City College in 1934 for in Mexico, where she attended a French language bia. Gertrude was instrumental in establishing the opposing a reception for visiting Fascists, and then school. She graduated in 1967 from the University Peace Studies program at the University of Mis­ earned a BA in 1939 from Dana College, now a of California with a degree in French. In 1974, souri, and she endowed the Peace Perspectives part of Rutgers University. He then worked in following the death of her husband, Larry Barnes, Lectureship. She was a founding member of Co­ New Jersey for the Workers Defense League, a she moved with her son to Washington, D.C. For lumbia (Mo.) Meeting, where she served in many civil rights organization founded by Socialises and the last 18 years, Laurie taught at the preschool day capacities, sharing her profound concerns for peace liberals primarily to help Southern sharecroppers. care center at the National lnsritures of Health in and justice, her spiritual insights, and her organiza­ He devoted his life to constructing open housing Bethesda, Md., where she incorporated diverse tional skills and energies as clerk of the meeting for blacks and whites. "If we don't learn to live cultures and music into her curriculum and pro­ and of the Ministry and Worship, Peace and Social together, soon the world is going to come apart, • moted active parent involvement in school activi­ Concerns, and Overseers committees. Gertrude he said in 1969. Until he moved to a retirement ties. Her fluency in Spanish and childhood in was a spiritual center of the meeting with her quiet center in 1990, Morris lived in the developments Mexico caused Laurie to have a special concern for and cheerful leadership and vocal ministry. After he built, practicing what he preached. He was Central America. In 1985, she translated tapes of Paul died in 1971, Getrude married C. Edmund instrumental in building or managing integrated Latin American speakers after the UN Women's

Sojourners No More: The Quakers in the New South, 1865-1920 Damon D. Hickey A despised minority before the Civil War, southern Quakers became leaders and "sojourners no more" in the "New South" by 1920. lbis story of the heroism of Quakers between the Civil War and World War I dramatizes the changes that took place for Quakers in the South during one of the most significant periods of southern history. 176 pp., illus., index. $20. Friends in the Carolinas J. Floyd Moore lbis revised edition of Friends in the Carolinas by J. Royd Moore provides a succinct overview of who Carolina Quakers are and what they have done. Awareness of Carolina Quakers' past and present contri­ butions as a community of faith can help Friends everywhere begin shaping a future worthy of our history. 48 pp. $4.50. Who? What? When? Where?- Quaker Trivia Linda R. Willard lbis book, in a question and answer format, is fun and suitable for young Friends as well as adults. Tidbits about U.S. presidents, noted Quaker women and men, Carolina and British Friends, and more entertain and teach. 88 pp. $5.95. Titles can be purchased from distributors, or by writing the North Carolina Friends Historical Society, P.O. Box 8502, Greensboro, NC 27419, or the North Carolina Yearly Meeting ofFriends, 5506 W. Friendly Ave., Greensboro, NC 27410.

FRIENDS j OURNAL january 1998 35 conference in Nairobi. In 1987, she uanslated for Warren-Luthn- E Wamn, 106, on April 10, whom he met at Wilmington College, died the Fund for the Remembrance for Martyred 1997, in Wilmington, Ohio. Born into a Quaker in 1982. After his second maniage in 1984 to Women. She also worked as a simultaneous trans­ family in C linton County, Ohio., Luther was Margaret Winder, he also became active in Ohio lator for Central American refugees. Among Quak­ brought as an infant to the first session of Valley Yearly Meeting. Lucherspokeofren in meet­ ers, Laurie was a frequent Friendly Adult Presence Wilmington Yearly Meeting of Friends in 1892. A ing for worship with a strong voice and great clarity at Baltimore Yearly Meeting Young Friends' re­ conscientious objector and peace advocate, Luther of thought, in a way which held the attention of ueats and conferences. Laurie joined Langley HiU served in the first American Friends Service Com­ all, including the children in the meeting. One of (Va.) Meeting in 1980. As amembershewasofcen mittee group to do reconstruction work in France Luther's main themes in vocal ministry was the a leader, serving on many committees and as an during World War I. He spoke of his experiences necessiry of putting our beliefs into action and Overseer. In the summer of 1994, Laurie repre­ in war-ravaged France on many occasions, espe­ standing for them no matter what. Celebrated at sented Langley Hill on a journey co El Paisnal (a cially to children and young adults. Luther's career Luther's memorial worship was his major charac­ sister church in rural El Salvador), co which she was in education. H e received his BA from ter trait of steadfasmess: steadfast in convictions, in brought supplies co help scan a school. From an Wilmington College in 1917, followed by an MA commitment to truth, in peacemaking, and in early age, music and singing were cherished activi­ degree from Haverford College. Luther often said putting beliefs into action. Luther was preceded in ties for Laurie. She was a member of NOVA he had taught at every level from elementary to death by a daughter, Sara Lu. He is survived by his Chamber Singers and che Langley Hill Round graduate school. He was a member of the faculties wife; and two sons, Robert and William. Singers. Laurie played the guitar and sang at many of Hillsboro, Ohio, High School and Friendsville Academy in Tennessee. He earned a PhD from informal gatherings of Friends. She also sang with We publish Milestones that meetings and the Washington Choral Arcs Society atthe Kennedy Western Reserve University in Ohio. Luther served as professor of education at Mount Union College families send us. If you would like to have Center. Laurie was a member of Educators for items listed here, please send them to Social Responsibility and of the National Associa­ in Ohio and dean at both McPherson College in Kansas and Huntington College in Indiana. After FRIENDS jOURNAL, Milestones, 1216 tion for the Education ofYoung Children. She led Arch World Warn he worked as a career advisor, fi rst training sessions around the nation for the Child­ Street, Ste. 2A, Philadelphia, PA 19107. for the Veterans Administration and then for hood Development Association. In the months Wilmington College. In whatever position he held, preceding her death, Laurie created a small, elabo­ Luther spoke "truth to power» and, like many of rate, and very beautiful flower garden at her home his Quaker forebears, suffered the consequences. in Arlington. Laurie will be remembered for her Answer to Qulptoquote He served for many years on Wilmington Yearly generous, loving spirit, her caring warmth, her Meeting's Peace and Social Concerns Board and gentleness, her hugs, her laughter, and her search­ on the Advisory Committee for the Wilmington To be like Christ then, is to be a Christian. ing vocal ministry. She is survived by her son, College Peace Center. Luther's own personal sign, And regenn-ation is the only way to the Toby Odenheim; two brothers, Erich and Ken which he consistently carried at demonstrations is Odenheim; a sister, Lynn Kalmer; four nieces, kingdom ofGod which we pray for. now in the Peace Center. It reads, "Life is Sacred­ Carla Odenheim, Tanya and Ana Kalmar, and End War.» Active in the yearly meeting, Luther William Penn (1644-1718) Elena Odenheim-Myers; and two nephews, Keith was recorded a minister in che Religious Society of Some Fruits ofSolitude and Erich Odenheim. Friends in 1934. Luther's first wife, Saretta Elliott,

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38 january 1998 FRIENDS jOURNAL "Sure, Friends run great programs for seniors . . . but I can't afford any ofthem! Even ifI could, their waiting lists are so long I doubt I could get in." With these assumptions, some Friends don't even consider the wide Arbor Glen range of Quaker facilities and other programs in the Mid-Adantic Barclay Friends region that attract people from around the country. Broadmead They should! Cadbury Let's look at some facts: Chandler HaO •!• Many Quaker programs have options with surprisingly affordable Crosslands entry fees and monthly charges. Some have no entry fees at all! Foulkeways at Gwynedd Foxdak Vi!ktge •!• A number have taken extraordinary measures to remain accessible Friends Home, Kennett Square to people of limited resources. Some even provide subsidized housing. Friends Home at Woodstoum •!• Some Friends programs use endowments and other resources to Friends Hospital provide financial assistance on a case-by-case basis. They place a high Friends lifo Care at Home priority on attracting Friends. Friends Rehabilitation Program •!• A number of the Quaker nursing homes are certified for The Greenleaf reimbursement through Medicaid and Medicare. Inpatient and The Hickman outpatient services in Quaker hospitals also are covered by Medicare Jeanes Hospital and Medicaid-as well as most managed care programs. Kendal at Longwood •!• While some residential programs have long waiting lists, the longest The McCutchen tend to be for the largest living units. Smaller units are often readily Medford Leas available. And there is rarely a wait for home-based services. Pennswood ViUage •!• Residents in all of our programs come from different economic, Stapeley in Germantoum professional, religious, and racial backgrounds. So don't disqualify yourself or a loved one from the residential and home-based programs that have earned Friends such a fine reputation for quality services.

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Last year, a loyal alumna of George School created a in tuition aid that is given to boarding and day stu­ fund so that excellent students, regardless of their dents based on economic need. Nearly 200 families economic level, may attend George School. Four are currently receiving aid. $10,000 Anderson Scholarships will be awarded each To find out more about these programs and the year to boarding students who embody the principles educational advantages of attending this internationally­ of social involvement, respect for others and a com­ recognized, coed, Quaker boarding and day school, mitment to academic excellence. At least one of those contact the George School Admission Office. scholarships must go to a Quaker student. George School, Box 4460, Newtown, PA 18940 Quaker students, or students whose parents are phone: 215-579-6547, fax:2 15-579-6549 Quakers, may also apply for John M. George Scholar­ e-mail: [email protected] ships. All students may apply for the $2.5 million www.georgeschool.pvt.k12.pa.us