Manresa Matters Manresa Jesuit Retreat House 1390 Quarton Road • Bloomfield Hills, MI 48304-3554 Spring / Summer 248.644.4933 www.manresa-sj.org 2017 To help men and women grow spiritually through prayer, reflection, guidance and teaching according to the Ignatian tradition

Be still and know that I am God . . . From the Editor hat a joy it was working with the publications team and other talented contributors to bring you this issue about experiencing W click here for EMAIL sign-up God in the silence! Perhaps the greatest click here for US MAIL sign-up. blessing was the privilege of interviewing Fr. Henry Chamberlain to his passing earlier this year (see page 9). Every spring/summer issue spotlights one Manresa Staff of our Jesuits, and he had been selected Fr. Leo Cachat, SJ for this issue. Little did we know at the Fr. Francis Daly, SJ time that the profile would become a office@ Executive Director memorial for Fr. Henry instead. Ann Dillon Fr. Peter Fennessy, SJ The cover photo was taken in 2015, Fr. Steve Hurd, SJ shortly after the completion of The The four movements of lectio divina, Thomas Hurley Labyrinth at Manresa. Walking a which include reflective silence, can be Controller labyrinth is one of many ways to pray applied to other spiritual reading as well; Steve Raymond in silence. (Pamphlets about this Associate Director and so I invite you to read the articles Anne Smith are available in our lobby and also in this issue slowly and prayerfully, Ruth Ann Stevens accessible via our website: click here for a pausing to savor a word, phrase or image Business Manager downloadable brochure.) that speaks to your heart. Our hope is Rita Tinetti One of my favorite methods of that you will be touched by something Development Director prayer is lectio divina, which allows you read and inspired to experience Board of Directors God to speak uniquely to us through the silence at Manresa for yourself. reading, meditating, praying with and Other opportunities include Christian Fr. Timothy Babcock contemplating Scripture. (Click here Meditation in the main chapel after Robert Babinski Tuesday morning Mass (see pages 6-7), Joseph Basta for a brochure about lectio divina.) The John Bernia, Jr. opportunity to pray lectio with a group making an individual retreat (page 8), Fr. Fran Daly, SJ is available for everyone immediately enjoying the grounds (pages 14-15) and Fr. Peter Fennessy, SJ following the 8:00 AM Mass on the first attending one of our conference retreats Mary Gresens Monday of every month, as well as five (see schedules on pages 18-19). Isaac Hanna Mondays during Lent, and for women There’s so much more to share inside . . . Fr. Si Hendry, SJ twice a month from 9:30 to 11:30 AM. James Hicks (Click here for Women to Women dates.) May you find God within, Patti Koval Peter Kreher Chair P. S. Click here to go to the four gold-edged pages that recognize the Keller McGaffey many of you who help support Manresa’s Mission. God bless you all! Frank Migliazzo Another way to join Fr. Ted Munz, SJ our e-mail list! David Nona Just send your email address Vice-Chair by text message . . . Brian O’Keefe Text: Sergio Pagés Check MANRESA us out Gerald Seizert to 22828 to get on the started! Fr. Gary Wright, SJ * web (Message and data rates may apply.) * www.manresa-sj.org Manresa Matters is published Comments, suggestions, story ideas? biannually by Manresa Jesuit The Publications Team would Retreat House, 1390 Quarton Publications Team (left to right): love to hear from you! Road, Bloomfield Hills, MI George Seroka, Fr. Peter Fennessy, Grace Please write to us via email at 48304. For more information Seroka, Steve Raymond, Paul Seibold, [email protected] phone 248.644.4933 or email Hugh Buchanan and Anne Smith. [email protected]. or use Manresa’s postal address.

Page 2 From Our Executive Director s I walk the grounds of Manresa, God calls to me through the freshness ofA new life and the beauty of the coming spring. God is always trying to break into our space, but I think we have so many distractions in the midst of our busyness that we do not feel or see Francis J. Daly, SJ God’s abiding presence. The Grace of Silence With the theme of “Silence” for this issue of Manresa The following is read aloud at the beginning of every Matters, I was reminded of a poem I once saw written by conference retreat. “A Concord Pastor” in his blog. I want to share part of it While you are at Manresa Jesuit Retreat House, we with you: ask you to keep silence so that you can hear God’s voice speaking the words your soul longs to hear. Slow me down, Lord: These days are God’s gift to you, a graced time for you when I can’t stop the merry-go-round on my own, to spend with the Lord alone. We ask you to contribute slow me down . . . the gift of your silence to the atmosphere of our house When my ears and mind, so that your fellow retreatants can also hear what God wishes to say to each of them. my thoughts and heart are filled with noise, slow me down, Lord, If you are not used to being silent on a retreat, we are and show me a path to a quiet place . . . confident that you will find it restful and refreshing— even if sometimes difficult! Bring me to a quiet place where I can hear my own breathing and your Spirit breathing within me: a place I might hear just what I need to hear . . . Help me savor the silence and find some peace of mind and heart in the quiet, in my soul . . . * Even though silence is good for our mental and spiritual health, how often do we experience a silent moment or a time for quiet reflection? Men and women who come to Manresa for a conference retreat or a day of reflection often comment that they most appreciated the silence and the solitude. In their quiet space, they were able to place their While silence in your retreat at Manresa involves not anxieties and concerns in God’s hands and listen to His talking to each other, it is more than that. It means words of peace and encouragement. Silence in itself is not quieting yourself both on the outside and the inside so the goal of a retreat, but silence helps us to listen and pay that you can be totally present, so that God can reveal attention to what God is trying to tell us. Himself to you now in these days of retreat. Silence helps us let go of the preoccupations of the past and In some of the following articles, you will be introduced to the anxieties about the future so that we can discover the value of silence and different practices of silent prayer our deepest desires—it is in these deepest desires that and reflection. Manresa Jesuit Retreat House offers you an God speaks to our souls and opens up new possibilities excellent opportunity to slow down, appreciate the new life for our lives. of spring, and encounter the love and peace of our merciful If you need to speak to another retreatant, please be God. aware of that person’s need for silence and only speak Please keep Manresa retreatants and staff in your prayers. briefly to that person outside the building or in a place inside that will not disturb other retreatants. Thank you very much for contributing to the prayerful silence of our retreat house. * 10/22/13 entry from http://concordpastor.blogspot.com/ Page 3 The Role of Listening as a Spiritual Companion

Mike Timm completed also require a freedom (mentioned above) that comes from the Internship in our own listening and being listened to. Spirituality program at Manresa in 2006. He is happily married “God gave us two ears and one (i.e., a good listener) for mouth so that we can listen twice as 33 years to Barb, and the proud father (i.e., much as we speak.” ~ Epictetus sometimes still learning to listen) of four grown To paraphrase Teresa of Avila, “Christ has no ears but children. He listens as ours.” The role of listening as a spiritual companion means a spiritual companion we grow in relationship with God through learning to with others, and as a listen as well as helping those we walk with. May God mentor and leader in bless us all—listeners and seekers—each of us. IT project management. ~ by Mike Timm He also enjoys listening while camping, traveling and sharing Silence meals with friends. s I’ve journeyed, especially these past 15 years— Silence is much more than the absence of noise, highlighted by a good friend teaching me to listen even if physically quiet—we still have our minds to God’s loving message for me through Scripture making loud sounds. (atA a Manresa retreat)—I’ve come to appreciate a few key Silence is a gift of grace. learnings: Holy silence we can actually “hear.” • the gift of awareness (self-awareness, intellect, In the grace of silence feelings, hurts, God’s gifts, God’s love) we know the presence of God. • the gift of freedom (from disordered attachment) We can’t make it happen by ourselves. It is a gift. • the gift of discernment It is presence, peace, and calls for active • the gift of choice and will passivity. And all of these I gained more through the gift of being This active passivity is not easy. listened to, as well as through listening to that small, still We must wait for our minds to clear voice within (1 Kings 19:1-18). and empty ourselves in order to receive. I’ve also been privileged to spend a great deal of time with There can be a restlessness in the waiting. a fantastic and very gifted group of listeners at Manresa, It takes great patience not to give up who have helped me become a better listener. In short, and walk away. they have modeled for me and mutually shared how For me it is always like listening as a spiritual companion helps others: going through a dark tunnel • learn to pray—how to relate to God (talk AND during which I often pace, listen), how to experience God recognizing it is coming. The gift is then immersion into the silence. • learn to know, deep in their heart, how God has revealed Godself to them, how deeply God loves them It is a silence that we savor. If we remain within the silence, • get in touch with their gifts, their pains, their deepest we are moved into Solitude desires—and ultimately how God is calling and experience our Oneness with God. One other dimension of listening as a spiritual companion Our only response is praise and gratitude is to hear the deeper meaning of what’s being shared by which all happens silently in the solitude. being attentive to the gentle movement of the Holy Spirit. From this holy listening, we might discern a question to help go deeper, or simply rephrase to help a directee hear (The author of this poem, who has a long history and affirm what he or she is unable otherwise to hear. with Manresa, has asked to remain anonymous.) This holy listening and the art of asking good questions Page 4 The Prayer of Silence here are many ways 14th-century work, The Cloud of praying, four main of Unknowing. Centering types probably: with Prayer differs from Christian words,T ideas, images and Meditation in that it seeks silence. They are also the ways quiet by letting go rather than a disciple traditionally absorbs by concentrating and focusing. the spirit of the master: through The prayer word is not just a conversation, pondering the constantly repeated mantra, but master’s teachings, watching it is chosen to best support one’s how the master lives, and intention to be in the Lord’s simply looking at him and presence and open to His divine resting in his presence. action, and one uses it only Christians learn Christ through when needed to keep one in talking to the Lord as a friend quiet before God or to call one talks to a friend, through back. pondering the Scriptures But before Cassian and the and through contemplatively desert fathers, The Cloud of visualizing the events of the Unknowing, and other forms Gospel. And if we persist in of mantra prayer people knew these forms of prayer long how to be silent before the enough, our prayer will become Lord. They listened to the more simple—with ever fewer Scriptures that told them: “Be words, ideas and images—until still, and know that I am God” we enter the fourth way of (Ps. 46:10), “For God alone my loving and attentive silence soul waits in silence” (Ps. 62:5) before the Lord. It has been Baby in Red Chair, c. 1810-1830, unidentified artist and “The LORD is in his holy called the prayer of silence, or of possibly , 22 × 15 inches, oil on canvas. temple; let all the earth be silent simple regard, or of presence or Courtesy of Abby Aldrich Rockefeller Folk Art Center, before him” (Hab. 2:20). of acquired contemplation. Colonial Williamsburg, VA. Some teachers would lead us more quickly to this prayer. St. John Vianney, the Curé d’Ars, once noticed a farmer In 1974 the Benedictine John Main began teaching who would come into church and sit for hours before the Christian Meditation drawing on the early Christian Blessed Sacrament. The saint asked him what he said spiritual practice described by John Cassian during that time. The man replied, “Nothing, I (c. 360 – 435 AD) and the Eastern meditation just look at Him and He looks at me.” he had learned in ef Kuala Lumpur. “The LORD is in his holy temple; let all the Such prayer has been After Main’s compared to a mother death Laurence earth be silent before him.” ~ Habakkuk 2:20 silently gazing at Freeman, his her sleeping infant fellow Benedictine, who has led several retreats ef with love, or a person at Manresa, became the chief proponent of this prayer. It beside an unconscious friend in the hospital. I consists basically in repeating a mantra (a word or sound like the story of the young Native American who went to to aid concentration and keep the mind from wandering) visit his uncle. He told him, “I’ve come to visit you.” The and otherwise sitting silently in God’s presence. uncle motioned him to a chair and they sat there in silence for an hour until finally the uncle said, “Thank you for In the mid-1970s also, three Trappist of St. Joseph’s visiting with me.” Most of us think we have to fill up the Abbey in Spencer, —William Meninger, time with words, but being there is enough. Basil Pennington and —proposed Centering Prayer, especially for young people who were Baby in Red Chair is for me the image of a Christian soul drawn to Transcendental Meditation and other strictly in such prayer—quiet, peaceful, loved, protected, full of Eastern practices. They also traced their form of prayer to unreflecting joy. Cassian and the desert fathers, as well as to an anonymous ~ by Peter Fennessy, SJ

Page 5 My Tuesday Mornings

ass has ended. The last candle on the altar is What do I experience? extinguished. The overhead lights are turned Comfort. Understanding. Trust. Peace. off. Conversations fade as the doors in the back What do I bring? Mof the chapel are gently closed. I ready my mind, heart and Me. My most honest, real self on any given Tuesday. soul by taking slow, deep breaths. I settle back into my chair and still my body to listen. Then, a single, resonating Five years ago when newly retired, I sought direction. chime signals. Silence. My time in prayer begins. What’s next? How will I know? Two years later, my husband, John, was diagnosed with stage four cancer. I The red candle’s flickering flame— sought acceptance and grace. I thanked God for this the heart of Jesus beating. “heads up” in our lives. Over the next 17 months, I so The bronze tabernacle— looked forward to those Tuesdays. Some days it was hard a link to churches and cathedrals in my past. to ready myself, to take deep breaths and settle into my chair. I could hardly wait to bare my soul, my emotions, The detail and design of my fears . . . All the time, that red candle was flickering. the stained glass window, AMDG— The heart of Jesus was still beating, but now it was beating home. with mine. Then, John’s heart stopped. AMDG. I make myself vulnerable and Two and a half years have gone by. My life is completely know these next 30 minutes can be different. I still feel a little “suspended in air,” but Tuesday powerful and intense. Or uneventful. mornings remain the same. The Manresa chapel. The It just depends. Silence. The red candle still flickering—the heart of Jesus still beating. Inviting me. Waiting for me to join Him. Kathy Mills has been making retreats I just have to make myself vulnerable, available. Thirty and practicing Christian Meditation at minutes of heaven, here in Manresa’s chapel. Such a gift. Manresa for the past five years. She first heard of Manresa as a child from her No one is turned away. father, who was a regular retreatant. ~ by Kathy Mills

Christian Meditation

hristian Meditation, also known as Holy Name on Thursdays, Contemplative Prayer or Prayer of the Heart, is 7:00–8:00 PM. Cecilia Yee a discipline in which one sits still and in silence, leads a group at Manresa’s Cwith eyes closed, repeats a mantra and invites the Holy La Storta on Wednesdays, Spirit to come into one’s heart. 7:00–8:30 PM, as does Phyllis I’ve been practicing this discipline for over 22 years, Trif at St. Hugo’s library on and it has turned my life around. It not only healed my Mondays, 10:00–11:15 AM. “big black hole” that 20 years of therapy couldn’t fill, but Praying with a group helps by meditating twice a day, morning and evening, from to foster this discipline and 20 to 30 minutes, my mind is clearer, my heart is more bonds the meditators in a Elizabeth King learned compassionate and I am at peace. I learn to live in the community of love. Contemplative Prayer present moment, let go of my ego, let go of judging and In addition to the spiritual over 22 years ago and still continues this practice with controlling, and accept the day with its challenges and and mental benefits received, her husband. blessings. I become more of a human “being” instead meditation also has physical of a human “doing.” The mantra I use is “Maranatha,” benefits and is known to lower blood pressure and which means “Come, Lord” in Aramaic, the language of improve general health. Christian Meditation is Jesus. practiced in more than 140 countries, and our website is: Together with my husband, Albert, I lead two www.wccm.org. For more information, call John Shriver meditation groups on Tuesdays, 7:00–8:00 PM and (248.540.0213), Cecilia Yee (248.855.5471), Phyllis Trif Wednesdays, 10:00–11:00 AM in the small conference (248.879.9719) or me (248.935.8881). room at St. Regis’ rectory. John Shriver leads one at ~ by Elizabeth King

Page 6 Why the Silence? feature of Manresa’s adult retreats, whether they be group or individually directed, is SILENCE. To grasp the importance Manresa places on silence, perhapsA a confusion about “retreat” needs to be clarified first. “Retreat” has a number of meanings besides the obvious military one. It can be a refuge. It can be a time of solitude, of being alone. For corporations, companies, hospitals, schools and colleges, it is a time for staff to get away from their home base to an outside facility, where they can concentrate on particular issues free from the disturbances of ordinary routine. In such a setting talking, discussing and conversing are absolutely necessary to Manresa’s chapel remains open for prayer every Tuesday following achieve their goal. the 8:00 AM Mass for anyone wishing to pray in silence. While Manresa does offer its facilities to such groups Thus we need to enter into the deeper silence, a silence from time to time, primarily it is a place for those seeking of the heart, where words drop away. It is important to a deeper relationship with God. Ignatius of Loyola in remember that in whatever prayer form we use, when his Spiritual Exercises makes clear that the progress made we experience something more than ourselves, we stop in the Exercises will be greater the more the retreatant whatever we have been busy with, we become silent and withdraws from all friends and acquaintances and from savor what IS. all worldly cares. The progress one makes in deepening a relationship with God usually depends on giving If we want to pray, we must learn to be still, to quieten undivided space to be alone with the ALONE. ourselves. In fact, this very quietness, this silent stillness frequently becomes prayer when God manifests the Divine A form of such solitude is intentionally refraining from by responding in stillness. In and through this silence, speaking to others without need so as to attend to “raising this stillness, you will attain things that money cannot buy, the mind and heart to God.” Of course, we all experience things like wisdom and serenity and joy and God. our own inner chatter, the so-called “monkey mind,” when we settle down to be silent in prayer. We want to listen to ~ by Fr. Leo Cachat, SJ the deeper voice of God, but often all we hear is our own thoughts, worries, preoccupations. Thus, if we are serious, we learn ways to quieten ourselves, or at least to become more aware of what we are saying to ourselves, in the hope that we might occasionally notice that God is also present, sometimes even speaking to us, but most especially just being with us, holding us in being. Fr. Anthony de Mello, SJ in his book One Minute Wisdom offers this: Formulations “What is it you seek?” asked the Master of a scholar who came to him for guidance. “Life,” was the reply. Said the Master, “If you are to live, words must die.” When asked later what he meant, he said, “You are lost and forlorn because you dwell in a world of words. You feed on words, you are satisfied with words when what you need is substance. A menu will not satisfy your hunger. A formula will not slake your thirst.”

Page 7 Remembering Fr. Henry Editor’s note: The following comment was submitted in response to Prior to this, I had made four confessions in six months, the survey question, “What was most memorable about your retreat all to the same person—my parish priest. Even though he experience?” Although written in January 2015, it was clearly has been very kind, I wondered whether his kindness was meant to be shared at a time such as this. typical or atypical. Plus, I haven’t completely mastered the It may sound strange, but my most ritual, so I carry a “cheat sheet” telling me when I speak memorable experience was my and when the priest speaks, and what each of us says. confession to Father Chamberlain. Even then, my confessions tend to be a little “bumpy” as I Please don’t misunderstand. There fumble my way through. was not one aspect of the retreat I didn’t bring my cheat sheet to Manresa and I was afraid I didn’t enjoy. However, I have that Father Chamberlain might be a little irritated at been a Catholic for only seven my fumbling. I also tend to be intimidated by paternal months. I was baptized, confirmed authority figures (a vestige of childhood) and never and received First Communion confess face-to-face. None of that mattered to Father on June 1, 2014, after completing Chamberlain. He was not the least bit irritated, but was a nine-month RCIA program in fact extraordinarily patient and kind as I bumbled my . . . In my late teens and early way through my confession. It probably wasn’t a very twenties, I had been a member memorable experience to him, but it was very memorable Fr. Henry Chamberlain of a fundamentalist, evangelical and meaningful to me. He concretely demonstrated why at the 2014 Leadership Baptist church. From about 1983 it is called the Rite of Reconciliation. It Banquet. to 2013, I was totally nonreligious. is a sacramental rite through which a I would describe myself as a product of the “[Pope] Francis sinner is reconciled back to God through effect.” Many of the rituals of the Catholic Church have the intervention of the priest. Father proven to be quite alien to my life experiences. Nothing, Chamberlain reminded me of what Pope however, has shown itself to be more so than the the Rite Francis has said: “God never gets tired of of Reconciliation. The prospect of voluntarily confessing forgiving us.” my wrongdoings is discomfiting. ~ by Thomas Berryman Savoring My Private Retreat Editor’s note: While interviewed last birds tweeting and cackling, the stream November (see next page), Fr. Henry said that cascading over rocks and tree trunks, he particularly enjoyed guiding individual squirrels and chipmunks scampering up retreatants. The following feedback was received trees and an occasional deer cracking in July 2016 after a retreatant’s first-time through the underbrush in the woods. experience at Manresa. How did your experience at Manresa What attracted you to Manresa? change you? The idea of a silent retreat, eight days I slowed down and relaxed. I trusted in long. After being on family leave for God and learned His will for me while almost two years to care for my elderly slowly walking the labyrinth. I took time mom, I knew I needed a “time out” from to listen to Him. I developed patience. my hectic life, time to stop and listen Any other comments you care to make? to God, to seek His will, to take a deep I am thankful for this breath before returning to the REAL unique opportunity. WORLD! I found all that and more in I had never been on the silence of Manresa. a silent retreat or an How would you describe your individually directed experience? What was most Experience the solitude and beauty of Manresa during a private retreat before. I didn’t memorable? retreat. This summer’s opportunities know what to expect. As one day turned into two and two into are: June 12-21, July 17-26 and I just knew I needed it three, the silence developed depth—a August 9-18. To register, click here and God was calling me to it! personality of its own. Outside in the for the online registration form sanctuary of nature, I listened to the or call 248.644.4933 Ext. 10. ~ by Denise Mullane-Platzer Page 8 In Memory of Fr. Henry Chamberlain, SJ ittle did he know the adventures in store for him until his next adventure, as when he entered the seminary at age 18. Eighty-six Fr. Henry related: years young at the time of this interview, Fr. Henry “Then, in 1992, my provincial Lhad traveled over a million miles in the friendly skies received a letter from Rome during his 69 years as a Jesuit. And it happened simply saying that they would because he did what he was asked to do . . . like me to be the financial Born to Henry Sr. and Mary Josephine on the north side liaison for all the Jesuit of Chicago on April 14, 1930, Henry was the oldest of provinces that sent their Fr. Henry was interviewed at four children. His brother John and sister Catharine both financial reports in English Colombiere last November for a married and had a total of seven children. His brother or French. That included “Spotlight” feature article. He gave his approval on all of the Frank, seven years younger, became a Jesuit priest and has not only the US, but all the facts in this article before his been missioned to a town in the Peruvian Andes. Commonwealth countries, passing on January 12, 2017. Henry Sr. was dean of the Commerce School at Loyola France and Belgium, most May he rest in eternal peace. University in Chicago, and Henry Jr. attended Loyola of Africa, India, Australia, Academy, graduating in 1948. Henry felt called to the the Philippines, Singapore, Indonesia, Japan, Korea priesthood and entered the Jesuit seminary at Milford, and China. Every year I was required to travel to several Ohio later that year. His decision was solidified and provinces within those areas. he took his first vows two years later at the end of this “I must admit I enjoyed the travel but it could be difficult. opening phase of Jesuit training. You just don’t know what’s going to happen, especially The second phase, also for two years and at Milford (then when a plane makes a stop that wasn’t anticipated and a division of Xavier University, Cincinnati), marked the you’re in a place where you never expected to be. Once start of undergraduate study stressing languages and I was bumped off a flight from Nairobi, Kenya to philosophy. That led to his AB degree in 1953 at another Khartoum, Sudan and put on another flight through division of Loyola University in West Baden Springs, Addis Ababa, Ethiopia. After arriving in Khartoum, I Indiana, and then to a graduate degree in philosophy. was able to get a plane for the last 600 miles to Wau in Besides subjects such as Latin, Greek and French, he southern Sudan, where I had to visit another Jesuit school. chose math as an elective and found that he enjoyed it “On a different occasion, I was on a train in India. A cow very much. “Like most of my classmates, I was qualified wandered onto the tracks, and the train had to stop until to teach English, Latin or history. But Detroit needed an the cow moved.” algebra teacher in the fall of 1955. So, for the third phase After his 15-year assignment in Rome, Fr. Henry had a of Jesuit formation, I was sent to teach at U of D High sabbatical at Oxford and lived at Campion Hall at the School for three years—the first phase outside a seminary.” University. He was then sent to another Jesuit retreat He then returned to West Baden for the next phase, house at Milford (2008-2009) before joining Manresa’s theology. He was ordained on June 11, 1961 and received staff in the fall of 2010. He spent a quarter of his time a graduate degree in theology in 1962. here reviewing Jesuit financial records inCleveland, At the request of his Chicago provincial superior, Cincinnati, Indianapolis, Toledo, Chicago and Detroit. Fr. Henry next pursued an MBA at the University of But most of his time at Manresa was ministerial: retreats, Michigan. Afterward he apprenticed at the finance office healing services, confessions, etc. He most enjoyed giving in the Chicago Province and then served as treasurer at individual retreats where “you can see growth in the St. Ignatius High School, Chicago, until he was called to retreatant over those five to eight days.” Seattle University. “I was asked to hold the fort until they Hearing the focus of this issue, Fr. Henry reflected: found a replacement for their financial VP, who chose to Silence is a much misunderstood term. People think resign just before Labor Day, a peak period for a financial that it’s just “not talking.” Yes, it’s that. But if it office at a university.” stops there, your mind is still free to roam anywhere, After Seattle, Fr. Henry went to the Missouri Province and then it’s not silence. Silence is really being office inSt. Louis and was a “frequent commuter” to that open to whatever graces God may send during that province’s missions in Belize, Honduras and Wyoming. period, and you need a certain amount of quiet and But two years later (1978), he was called back to Detroit reflectiveness to pick it up, maybe argue a bit with to replace the province treasurer, who had died at his desk God, and then reach a decision. one morning. That assignment stretched into 14 years ~ by Paul Seibold and Anne Smith

Page 9 year-long schedule of festivities marking Manresa’s 90th anniversary concluded in outstanding fashion at the 13th annual Gala in September 2016. Many thanks to our sponsors, donors, guests and volunteers who made it such a memorable evening. An especiallyA warm thanks to: • Bob & Gladys Walsh • Super Steel Treating Co. • Lourdes Senior Community As we look forward to the next 90 years and our 14th event, it is time to shake up the evening and unveil something new! Anticipating that, we are moving our Sprit of Manresa event to the spring of next year: May 5, 2018. While the details are still under wraps, I have some highlights to share about the next Spirit of Manresa event: • It will be totally reimagined! • It will be beautiful! • It will be memorable and fun! ~ by Sally Janecek

SAVE THE DATE: SATURDAY, MAY 5, 2018 Please plan to join us! Sponsorship opportunities are available for individuals and corporations. For information contact Rita Tinetti at [email protected] or 248.644.4933 Ext. *815. Proceeds will benefit Manresa Jesuit Retreat House. Manresa is a 501(c)3 organization. Contributions are tax deductible as allowed by law.

BOARD OF DIRECTORS MEETS ITS MATCH A Message from Manresa’s Board Chair

Dear Manresa Family,

In November, I announced on behalf I thank each and of Manresa’s Board a matching gift every one of you who opportunity to encourage a big response for generously responded our year-end appeal. This appeal is crucial to our request. Because of you, Manresa can in filling the gap between what is donated Peter Kreher, Board Chair at retreats and Manresa’s bottom line. continue to be a place where retreatants come I am pleased to report that the challenge to encounter the living God. was successfully met and we reached our $12,000 goal. May God bless you for your generosity,

Page 10 “Adoptee” Says Thanks any years ago a friend from high school called Manresa has become a very and invited me to go to Manresa for a retreat special place to me. I suffer with him. I had no idea what to expect and from bipolar disorder, and Mwent with eager anticipation of what the weekend had in there are times when the store for me. scale tilts too much for At the beginning of the retreat, Father spoke about the me. When this happens, importance of silence. He explained it was in this silence I know I need to take that we are able to hear God speak to our hearts. I time to refocus, to revisit remember thinking, “Yeah, right.” I could not remember Manresa. I have made 36 a time when God had tried to talk to me. I now realize retreats now and I look that though God spoke to my heart all the time, I never forward to each one even heard because I never listened. While on the retreat, more than the last. I experienced several of what I now call “Manresa As a Manresa retreat Pat Irmen, Manresa captain Moments.” It seemed that no matter what I picked up captain, I am often and read, even if it was only a paragraph or so, it was asked about the cost to attend when I am making calls exactly what Father talked about in the next session. It and recruiting people for retreats. It is a question that didn’t take too many of those “shots” for me to realize that I love answering. Often, the first thing the invitee says it was God’s way of speaking to me. How powerful it is is, “Whoa, that is more than I can afford!” I explain the when you listen! amount is a donation and the Jesuits would rather have you come and not pay than not come at all. I am proud I could not remember a time when to pass on to them that there is a group of people who God had tried to talk to me. I now “adopt” retreatants who can’t afford to pay their way. realize that though God spoke It is with great gratitude and pride that I offer my thanks to my heart all the time, I never to all those generous people. heard because I never listened. ~ by Pat Irmen YOUR GIFTS AT WORK The world is a beautiful but broken place. We need each other to make a meaningful difference. Every act of generosity matters. Imagine this world a better place because your gift made a positive impact on one life, like Pat’s. Thank you for the profound difference your contribution makes in the lives of those who come to Manresa. The graph on the left below represents gifts received in fiscal year 2015-2016 vs. the budgeted goal. The graph on the right indicates the percentage of retreatants you have helped as identified by retreat type.

GOAL vs. ACTUAL

Page 11 JESUIT GARDEN UPDATE Donor Interest Grows with the Jesuit Garden anresa has another reason to watch the light drove the plant selection,” Sterling eagerly for spring this year. Thanks explained. “The maple tree was the biggest to the many generous supporters factor to work around. Not only does it affect Mwho purchased memorial bricks and plaques, light conditions, it also affects soil moisture. we will be installing our planned Jesuit Garden The plants selected for around the base of this spring. the tree—lady’s mantle and coral bells, for instance—were picked with that in mind.” As Sterling Weber, senior landscape designer well as choosing plants less appetizing to the from English Gardens who is assisting us with wildlife! this project, estimates that installation could be in April. Their crew will begin by re-grading Arborvitae on the south side will give a sense the area and installing the bricks around the of enclosure year round. Viburnum, while they Tuomey Fountain. The brickwork should take will lose their leaves in fall, will still provide a about a week and the landscaping another few nice sense of privacy, being densely branched, days. and they will provide good structure and interest for the winter months. The plantings have been chosen specifically to There is still time to purchase a brick at the achieve our goal for a space that feels private: a introductory cost of $300 or a plaque for the quiet place for prayer and remembering loved Wall of Remembrance. You may use the form ones. “The fact there are deer and rabbits below to place your order. in the area and a big maple tree filtering ~ by Rita Tinetti

Return this form to the attention of Rita Tinetti 1390 Quarton Rd Bloomfield Hills MI 48304 or [email protected] 248.644.4933 Ext. *815 Name______Email______Phone______Address______

______4X8 Brick First 100 bricks sold at $300 thereafter $500 Those who have remembered ______4X6 Wall of Remembrance Plaque $1,000 Manresa in their will or trust are invited to join the St. Ignatius ______6X6 Wall of Remembrance Plaque $2,500 Legacy Society. Among other ______12X12 Wall of Remembrance Plaque $10,000 benefits, members will be listed on a special plaque in the garden. Plaques are custom designed. Sizes may be approximate. Please indicate if you Bricks include up to three lines of copy with up to 16 characters/ are, or wish to become, spaces per line. We will contact you in the spring about the a member. specific engraving.

Page 12 Charis Comeback El Regreso de Charis ack in 2014, Fathers Greg Hyde, SJ, Manresa’s l pasado 2014, los padres Greg Hyde, SJ, el then executive director, and Tom Florek, SJ, entonces director ejecutivo de Manresa, y Tom mentor to El Rincón Ignaciano, invited some Florek, SJ, mentor de El Rincón Ignaciano, Hispanic leaders to assess the Charis methodology for invitaron a algunos líderes Hispanos a evaluar la B Emetodología de retiros para jóvenes adultos de Charis y young adult retreats and eventually offer them to the community. eventualmente ofrecerlos a la comunidad. Ante el hecho de que una gran cantidad de jóvenes Faced with substantial numbers of young adults leaving adultos estaban abandonando la Iglesia Católica, Charis the Catholic Church, Charis was founded in 2000 fue fundada en el año 2000 por la entonces Provincia de by the then Chicago Province of the Society of Jesus la Sociedad de Jesús de Chicago, para llegar a hombres y to reach out to men and women in their 20s and 30s. mujeres en sus 20s y 30s. Incorporando el don único de Incorporating the unique la espiritualidad Ignaciana, gift of Ignatian spirituality, Charis se asocia con grupos Charis partners with Catholic católicos de todo el país, para facilities nationwide to help ayudar a los jóvenes a ver esta young adults see this grace, gracia, o “charis,” en medio or “charis,” in the midst de cambios en sus carreras of transitions in careers y relaciones, de sus luchas y alegrías. and relationships, in their struggles and joys. A partir de investigaciones y un proceso de discernimiento, After some research and se formó el equipo de asesores discernment, a core team para retiros de jóvenes for young adult retreats was adultos, y en diciembre del formed, and in December The Seekers (Los Buscadores) 2015 Manresa aprobó el 2015 Manresa approved the project to renew the proyecto para renovar la sociedad con Charis, así como partnership with Charis and to prepare team leaders to para preparar a un equipo de jóvenes para ofrecer estos offer these retreats to the Hispanic community. retiros a la comunidad Hispana. Al comienzo del 2016 el equipo de asesores y líderes, Early in 2016 the core team and team leaders began their iniciaron su preparación y formación, incluyendo la formation and preparation, which included attending asistencia a un retiro de Charis. El equipo de asesores a Charis retreat themselves. The core team consists of está integrado por: Alejandro Barrera, Cecilia Pacheco Alejandro Barrera, Cecilia Pacheco and Bernardo y Bernardo Pacheco. El grupo de líderes lo forman: Ari Pacheco. The team leaders areAri Gil, Isaura Mendoza, Gil, Isaura Mendoza, Diego Ramirez, Kari Ramirez y Diego Ramirez , Kari Ramirez and Juanita Sanchez. Juanita Sanchez.

On November 19-20, 2016 the first retreat for Hispanic En noviembre 19-20, 2016 se llevó a cabo el primer retiro para jóvenes adultos Hispanos en Manresa. Dieciocho young adults took place at Manresa. Eighteen retreatants, jóvenes, la mayoría de ellos en sus 20s, participaron the majority of them in their 20s, participated in the en el retiro de Buscadores. Algunas de las charlas Buscadores (Seekers) retreat. Some of the talks shared compartidas durante el retiro fueron: “Conociéndose a during the retreat were “Knowing Ourselves”; “Values, uno mismo,” “Valores, Prioridades y Oración,” “Oración Priorities and Prayer”; “Prayer and Discernment” and y Discernimiento” y “Nuestros Deseos más Profundos.” “Our Deepest Desires.” Through individual reflection A través de reflexiones individuales y de conversaciones and small-group conversations, the retreat exposed these en grupos pequeños, el retiro expuso a estos jóvenes a young adults to fundamental elements in Charis retreats elementos fundamentales de los retiros de Charis, como such as silence, prayer and discernment. son el silencio, la oración y el discernimiento.

This retreat’s success will form the basis for future Charis El éxito de este retiro será la base para futuros retiros de retreats at Manresa by the Hispanic community. Charis ofrecidos por la comunidad Hispana.

~ by Bernardo Pacheco ~ por Bernardo Pacheco

Page 13 Waiting to Hear Jesus is our connection to the Father: “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except n C.S. Lewis’ The Screwtape Letters, one of the through me.” (John 14:6) strategies that the senior devil, Screwtape, advises to We cannot reconcile ourselves to the Father alone: it is his pupil, Wormwood, to make man fall is to merely only through our relationship with Christ that we are create so much noise that man cannot hear his God. I brought into harmony with the Father. While The Screwtape Letters is fictional, the net effect of living in a noisy world can indeed have a deleterious effect Perhaps the most essential element to any healthy on our relationship with God . . . if we let it. relationship is communication, but the overwhelming busyness and clamor in our culture and our lives make that difficult and underscore the need for us to spend time with God in solitude. I love this excerpt from the prophet Isaiah: “By waiting and by calm you shall be saved, in quiet and in trust your strength lies.” (Isaiah 30:15) The above verses speak to me of the importance of “wasting time” with our God in silence, but I find that I first need to listen with my heart; only then can I hear the Truth in His whispers: “While from behind a voice shall sound in your ears: ’This is the way; “The Resurrected Jesus” at Manresa. walk in it.’” (Isaiah 30:21) So many times I hear people describe how they came In praying humbly to our Savior Jesus, we open our hearts close to someone famous: “I was from here to there to “hear” His love. Let us find stillness in our lives for from So-and-So.” I find it curious that we embrace Him today. such moments with excitement while often ignoring the ~ photo and article by George Seroka opportunity we have to commune with the Creator of those As a member of the publications team, George Seroka’s photographs often celebrities. And ironically, our God is even closer—just a grace the pages of this newsletter. This is his first solo contribution of a prayer away—because He is waiting to save! written article. (See George’s picture with the team on page 2.) Scout Projects Continue to Enhance Manresa’s Grounds n calendar year 2016, Manresa continued to (1) On April 30, stabilizing the nature trail at its west end accommodate local Eagle Scout candidates who wish by strengthening the trail embankment, filling and leveling to “plan, develop, and give leadership to others in a new mulch on the trail surface and constructing two lengths Iservice project helpful to any religious institution, any of wooden fence at the trail entrance. Project leader was school, or your community” in fulfillment of Eagle Scout Dennis Fassett of Troop 1037, affiliated with St. Hugo requirements. The 2016 projects focused on the north of the Hills church in Bloomfield Hills. Dennis, son of end of the grounds, where the terrain, while scenic, is less Dennis P. and Marily Fassett, is 18 and a senior at Brother developed. The three projects were: Rice High School. (continued on next page)

(2) Casper Padilla on site with fellow Cubs (1) Dennis Fassett (kneeling, center) with project team. Brian Cleveland (l) and Dmitri Krick (r). Page 14 God’s Movement in Silence aven’t we all had The waters gently rippled, moments when we the tree branches swayed in stepped outdoors, into symphony, a breeze danced across HGod’s cathedral, and it took my face, a bird swooped for food our breath away? Moments of and shapes of homes stood out. standing in awe, not moving, Color and movement gave a hardly breathing, when we were new depth to the silence. Life seeing or hearing something emerged! extraordinary? These are One July evening at Manresa, moments of God inviting us into while I was coping with the His work! silence of my first retreat, I One warm August evening I encountered a buck near the was driving home on a rural edge of the woods. Stock-still, Minnesota highway to visit Mom with only ten feet between us, and Dad. I glanced across the we watched for each other’s vast field on my right and became movement. Finally, the buck mesmerized by what I saw: a called it! He kicked up his hind galaxy of fireflies! There was a legs, lifted his white tail, looked continual movement of light back and snorted three times, across the horizon silhouetted then bounded to his woodsy by rows of corn. God’s light This photo by staff member Jenny Chapman home. Oh my—I laughed! dancing at dusk! was captured on Manresa’s grounds while on God, You are so good! At twilight early one morning, her way into work one early morning. Constantly delighting us— in utter silence, I watched light breaking into our silence with break open the darkness of the night. So gentle, quietly movement, light and surprise. You are always with us in opening up the sky and announcing to all life that a new Your creation as its energetic stillness exposes us to life, day was coming. Your masterpiece! ~ by Grace Seroka

Scout Projects - continued Grace Seroka completed the Internship in Ignatian Spirituality (2) In September-October, rebuilding a viewing platform program. She leads Christian Yoga facing north near Station V by clearing old structure to and outdoor reflections at Manresa ground level, laying gravel foundation, fabricating frame and is a member of the publications and attaching deck. Project leader was Casper Padilla team. (Also see Grace’s picture with of Troop 1634, affiliated with the National Shrine of the the team on page 2.) Little Flower Basilica in Royal Oak. Casper, son of James J. and Nathalie Padilla, is 17 and a senior at University of Detroit High School. (3) On November 5, clearing excess growth from the east end of the nature trail by trimming branches and vines, cutting and removing saplings, and cleaning up debris, to include stacking the cut saplings on a slope adjacent to the trail head. Project leader was Carlos Pagés, also of Troop 1037, affiliated with St. Hugo of the Hills church. Carlos, son of Sergio and Jackie Pagés, is 17 and a senior at University of Detroit High School. ~ photos and article by Paul Seibold

Paul Seibold is Manresa’s staff photographer, a regular contributor to this newsletter and a member of the publications team. (See Paul’s (3) Granddad Freddy Sosa, M.D., Carlos and Dad Sergio Pagés. picture with the team on page 2.) Page 15 Paws for Prayer call and response, the signal for her to jump on my lap for some one-on-one connection. The decision to join me eet Panterita. is always up to her. How many times have I heard God She’s our calling me to connect with Him in prayer? How many domestic times have I failed to respond? shorthair cat with sleek M Panterita and I then settle into a comfortable chair. She black fur from whiskers to nuzzles me and purrs while I stroke her and softly chant tail. Panterita is reclusive, an endearing phrase or simply repeat her name. I am but I’ve found my daily reminded that repeating a word or phrase is a recognized interaction with her, way to relax the body and clear the mind for encountering as brief as it might be, God. provides an effective model for entering into prayer. Then both Panterita and I commune in the fullness of one another’s presence. Both of us remain still and silent. Our encounter always Our wordless dialogue can last a few moments or several begins at some distance. Patricia Seibold with minutes. Satisfied, Panterita ends the session with a In silence I view this single her prayer companion, powerful leap from my lap, reminding me that God’s grace creature, God’s blueprint Panterita. This is Pat’s is sufficient for me until our next communion in prayer. third contribution to of feline perfection. Manresa Matters. She is Observing the natural Feline spirituality was not lost on English writer a long-time volunteer and “catness” of Panterita Christopher Smart (1722–1771), who extolled his cat in community member. makes me aware of my the poem, “For I Will Consider My Cat Jeoffry”: “For he own fallen human nature. purrs in thankfulness when God tells him he’s a good Cat.” We greet one another with a triple meow, initiated either ~ by Patricia Seibold by me or by her. (Having taught music to young children Editor’s note: Christopher Smart’s poem can be read at for decades, I can imitate a pretty good “meow”!) It’s a http://www.poetrybyheart.org.uk/poems/for-i-will-consider-my-cat-jeoffry/ The Value of Silence

attended my first silent retreat in June 2001. I was usual self-focused trappings that support me. It opened encouraged to attend by my then pastor, who had me to receive what God had in mind to give me. completed Manresa’s Ignatian Spirituality program. The result was a kind of love fest with the God Who 1 I knew little about silent retreats, but as a busy mom of “knit me together in my mother’s womb.” I was two young children at the time, I was taken with the idea reminded that though He “examines my heart and knows 2 of three days to myself to read, write and reflect. everything about me,” He still loves me. He affirmed His unwavering devotion to all His children, who “cannot I attended the retreat with three other women who are escape from His Spirit, nor get away from His presence.”3 all “talkers.” We chattered the entire 30-minute drive to God knew what I needed, and the silence was the conduit Manresa. We wondered how we would ever manage our through which He met my need. time without saying a word, and we acknowledged our anxieties about what we might experience spiritually as a When the time came for us to leave, I was torn. Though I result of 40-some hours of silence. wanted to return to my family, I was hesitant to leave the cocoon of love that had been My doubts and fears were quickly dispelled as I leaned spun in the silence. into the peaceful surroundings, the quiet of my womb- (1) Ps 139:13; (2) Ps 139:1; like cell and the warmth of the Holy Spirit’s presence. (3) Ps 139:7 ~ by JoAnn Amicangelo Psalm 139 was my focus in meditation that weekend. I read it over and over again, looking for meaning. I JoAnn Amicangelo is a freelance meditated on it, waiting in the silence to hear God’s voice. writer and church communications The psalmist’s words became my prayer. specialist who continues to seek God in the silence. She blogs at As I walked the grounds, I began to realize the value of joannamicangelo.wordpress.com and the silence. It allowed me to drop the masks I tend to lives in Dearborn, MI with her two hide behind. It left me bare and unencumbered by the daughters.

Page 16 Silent Meals? IGNATIANISMS: Consolation and Desolation Ami wrote this journal entry during her first silent retreat Listen to Your Heart. That’s the best advice I can give last fall. At her spiritual about the impact of consolation and desolation on your director’s urging, she submitted desire to be a faithful disciple. There are many insightful it for publication with the hope books and helpful materials to explain these terms, and that her reflection might help I recommend seeking them out. However, we need a others overcome their concern comfortable starting point . . . about eating in silence. I can’t help but draw a parallel from years of teaching literature, particularly poetry, to high school students. ave you ever shared a meal with others you Their resistance to studying poetry was motivated by know at the same table and refrained from their fear of getting it wrong. Once after we read a uttering a word or two, or simply not even poem by Shelley, I asked a student for her impression. looked at them? This is not exactly the norm we would H “How does the poem speak to you?” Her response was, expect in daily life. “I don’t know.” After a few prompts I eventually asked I attended a silent retreat at Manresa, without perhaps two questions: “Do you have feelings?” and “Do you completely understanding that “silent” means silence read?” She tentatively answered yes to both. I said, in at all times, including meals. I must admit that it was that case, she could allow the poem to speak to her. We uncomfortable in the beginning. During the first silent started with a word and the feelings it prompted in her. meal, a breakfast, I actually choked in an attempt to She responded and gained more confidence because she refrain from talking, by hurriedly swallowing the food trusted her feelings. Others in the class jumped in, and and drink I kept putting into my mouth. Well, that was we were off and running. It was after they experienced scary! It got better, though, and mealtime was alright. that level of comfortable confidence that we could begin It was only on the third day, during supper, when I to look at the technique, metaphors and symbols the started truly appreciating and reaping the benefits of poet employed. a silent meal. It dawned on me that when the body is This same dynamic is operative in your desire to infirmed, you can’t feed it with just any kind of food. experience Jesus in the Gospels. Saint Ignatius Likewise, when the spirit is broken or burdened, you experienced consolation and desolation while can’t feed the spirit with just any kind of food or in just convalescing from his battle injuries. He became any kind of way. Somehow the body and spirit must be more comfortable and confident in what his heart was in harmony. The silence during a meal, complemented telling him as he reflected on the life of Jesus and the with soft background music or spiritual readings, brings lives of the saints. I suggest following his experience. the body and spirit in synchrony with each other. The Choose a Gospel and wander through. Pay attention to atmosphere allows both body and spirit to move in the what naturally draws your heart to embrace peace, joy, same constructive rhythm creating a peaceful wholeness refreshment, hope or challenge. Identify what draws within. you out of yourself, toward Jesus. That is consolation. I was deeply touched by this realization that I can Embrace it and allow the feelings to positively challenge eat quietly and peacefully because I feel whole. I can you. Conversely, what turns you in on yourself or leads breathe deeply with each bite, relieving the tension to withdrawal, fear or confusion is desolation, leading harbored inside as the food enters my body and brings you away from Jesus. Name that movement and don’t nourishment. I can pause, take time, breathe again let it deter or have power over you. and be relaxed because my body and spirit are at work This is the way Ignatius continued to respond to his desire together in a healing way. It is actually a gifted moment to become an ever more faithful disciple. It is an invitation to be able to savor food with all its flavors and feel to a journey that leads our hearts closer in union with the grateful to God for the gift of His bounty. heart of Jesus. Silence is the invitation for God to share the meal with ~ by Bob Ytsen, SJ us in an intimate way, a healing way, and in our own Fr. Bob leads retreats and days of reflection special way. Needless to say, the rest of my silent meals at Manresa, utilizing his background in during the retreat became flavorful prayers shared and Ignatian spirituality and Jesuit history, enjoyed with God. along with his love of literature and ~ by Ami Payne teaching in secondary education.

Page 17 PREACHED RETREAT SCHEDULE Choose any gender-specific retreat date that best fits your schedule—these are not restricted to the groups named. To register call 248.644.4933 Ext. 10 or click here for an online registration form.

Conference Retreats for Men

DATE NAME OF RETREATS & GROUPS DIRECTORS

WEEKEND RETREAT for MEN: GRAND RAPIDS - METAMORA; ST. IGNATIUS LOYOLA; WYANDOTTE - Mar 31–Apr 2 Fr. Tim Babcock DOWNRIVER [Patron: Blessed Francis Page] PALM SUNDAY MEN’S WEEKEND RETREAT: PALM SUNDAY; TRAVERSE CITY Apr 7–9 Fr. Bob Ytsen, SJ [Patron: St. Gabriel Lallemant] HOLY WEEK MEN’S RETREAT: HOLY WEEK - ST. REGIS - ST. OWEN Apr 13–15 Fr. Steve Hurd, SJ [Patron: Fr. Pierre Teilhard de Chardin] WEEKEND RETREAT FOR MEN: MOTHER OF GOD; ST. ANDREW BOBOLA MEN; ST. IRENAEUS, Apr 21–23 Fr. Peter Fennessy, SJ ROCHESTER; U OF D HIGH ALUMNI [Patron: St. Andrew Bobola] WEEKEND RETREAT FOR MEN: FRANCES CABRINI K of C; ST. HUGO; ST. PETER CANISIUS MEN Fr. Fran Daly, SJ & Apr 28–30 [Patron: St. Peter Canisius] Sr. Kathie Budesky, IHM WEEKEND RETREAT FOR MEN: BROTHER RICE ALUMNI; DETROIT POLICE & FIRE FIGHTERS; MEN May 5–7 OF MANRESA; MT. PLEASANT; ST. MARY MAGDALEN - ST. CONRAD; GAYLORD; GESU, DETROIT Fr. Leo Cachat, SJ [Patron: Our Lady of the Way] WEEKEND RETREAT FOR AA MEN [Patron: Fr. Jack Schuett, SJ] Aug 4–6 Fr. Joe Redican $40 non-refundable deposit due at registration. WEEKEND RETREAT FOR MEN: LEONARD STUMM; ST. BEDE (Theme: Last Lectures—if this were the Aug 25–27 last retreat Fr. Peter would ever give, what spiritual insights would he most want to pass on to you?) Fr. Peter Fennessy, SJ [Patron: St. Stephen Pongracz, SJ] WEEKEND RETREAT FOR MEN: McDONALD-McHARDY; ST. MARY OF THE HILLS; SERRA OF OAKLAND Sept 8–10 Fr. Bob Ytsen, SJ COUNTY; SHRINE – REICHENBACH [Patron: Blessed Sebastian Kimura, SJ] WEEKEND RETREAT FOR MEN: BERRY; FEUERSTEIN; K of C DETROIT ARCHDIOCESE; MAHER; ST. ANTHONY, TEMPERANCE; ST. ELIZABETH, TECUMSEH; ST. LOUISE BEDE (Theme: Last Lectures—if Sept 29–Oct 1 Fr. Peter Fennessy, SJ this were the last retreat Fr. Peter would ever give, what spiritual insights would he most want to pass on to you?) [Patron: St. Francis Borgia, SJ] Oct 5–8 4-DAY RETREAT FOR MEN: R. WEISENBURGER – SERRA [Patron: St. John Ogilvie, SJ] Fr. Tim Babcock

WEEKEND RETREAT FOR MEN: CATHOLIC LAWYERS & PHYSICIANS; FORD TRACTOR; OAKLAND ST. Oct 20–22 Fr. Leo Cachat, SJ VINCENT DE PAUL; CHARLES TALBOT GROUP [Patron: St. Alphonsus Rodriguez, SJ] WEEKEND RETREAT FOR MEN: BODDE – SCHWEIHOFER; ST. CLARE OF MONTEFALCO; Oct 27–29 OUR LADY STAR OF THE SEA; ST. FRANCIS OF ASSISI, TRAVERSE CITY (GAYLORD DIOCESE) Sr. Linda Sevcik, SM [Patron: St. Stanislaus Kostka, SJ] WEEKEND RETREAT FOR MEN: ASCENSION; HOLY NAME, BIRMINGHAM; IMMACULATE Nov 3–5 CONCEPTION, IRA TOWNSHIP; ST. BONIFACE, OAK HARBOR, OH (TOLEDO DIOCESE); ST. CLEMENT - Fr. Tim Babcock CENTER LINE; SS. PETER AND PAUL JESUIT CHURCH [Patron: St. Rupert Mayer]

Dec 1–3 WEEKEND RETREAT FOR MEN: BAYER - TOLEDO – DEFIANCE [Patron: St. Francis Xavier, SJ] Fr. Steve Hurd, SJ

Conference Retreats for Both Men and Women

DATE NAME OF RETREATS & GROUPS DIRECTORS

May 19–21 WEEKEND RETREAT FOR THOSE WHO GRIEVE Sr. Sally Smolen, RSM

June 2–4 HISPANIC WEEKEND RETREAT (conducted in Spanish) [Theme: Come to the Silence (Ven al Silencio)] HISPANIC TEAM Fr. Bob Scullin, SJ & June 23–25 URBAN PARISHES WEEKEND RETREAT FOR MEN & WOMEN Team July 28–30 SILENT WEEKEND RETREAT FOR TRADITIONALLY MARRIED COUPLES [Patron: St. Ignatius of Loyola] Fr. Sylvester Taube

MANRESA WEEKEND HEALING RETREAT [Theme: An Encounter with the Healing Christ] Fr. John Esper & Sept 22–24 $40 non-refundable deposit due at registration. Ms. Debbie Tourville

Page 18 PREACHED RETREAT SCHEDULE - continued Conference Retreats for Women DATE NAME OF RETREATS & GROUPS DIRECTORS

PALM SUNDAY OVERNIGHT RETREAT FOR WOMEN (Theme: Entering Christ’s Passion) Fr. Fran Daly, SJ & Apr 9–10 Cost: $75 due at registration. Sr. Kathie Budesky, IHM

May 12–14 MOTHER’S DAY RETREAT FOR WOMEN IV [Patron: Mary, Mother of the Society of Jesus] Sr. Linda Sevcik, SM

WEEKEND RETREAT FOR AA WOMEN I [Patron: Fr. Fred, SJ] May 26–28 Fr. Joe Redican $40 non-refundable deposit due at registration.

June 8–11 4-DAY RETREAT FOR WOMEN VI (Thursday-Sunday) [Patron: Sr. Mary Ward, IBVM] Fr. Tim Babcock

Fr. Fran Daly, SJ & Sept 12–14 MIDWEEK RETREAT FOR WOMEN VII [Patron: Blessed Francisco Garate, SJ] Sr. Kathie Budesky, IHM

Sept 15–17 WEEKEND RETREAT FOR WOMEN III [Patron: St. Robert Bellarmine, SJ] Fr. Tim Shepard, SJ

Oct 12–15 4-DAY RETREAT FOR WOMEN VIII [Patron: St. Dominic Collins, SJ] Fr. Bob Ytsen, SJ

Nov 10–12 WEEKEND RETREAT FOR WOMEN IX [Patron: Blessed Miguel Pro] Fr. Leo Cachat, SJ WEEKEND RETREAT FOR AA WOMEN II [Patron: Edward Dowling] Nov 24–26 Fr. Bob Ytsen, SJ $40 non-refundable deposit due at registration.

Conference Retreats for Religious DATE NAME OF RETREATS & GROUPS DIRECTORS Fr. Fran Daly, SJ & June 11–17 SISTERS’ SIX-DAY RETREAT (Sunday-Saturday) [Patron: St. Margaret Mary Alacoque] Sr. Kathie Budesky, IHM

RETREATANT AWARDS (August - December 2016) Manresa Pin Manresa Crest (presented on the 15th Retreat) (presented on the 25th Retreat) Mary Brooks Vera Beauford Fred Conley Pat Jamoua Martha Lucas Eugene Canestraro Thomas Brell Brenda Fava Paul Kohser Garry J. Schoenherr Kathleen Chadwick Virginia Bueche Roger Greger Mary A. Schroeder Lou Scieszka Daryl Rollins

BORN INTO THE RESURRECTION (August - December 2016) Come, you who are blessed by my Father. Inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world. [Mt. 25:34]

Name Retreat Group # Name Retreat Group # Babetta Becker Manresa Ladies IV 11 Steve Minnick Men’s Retreat 2 Danate Cimini Men’s Retreat 5 Richard H. Schweihofer Bodde-Schweihofer 59 Edward Donoghue Alhambra 36 Joseph Studer Leonard Stumm 50 John R. Hayes John Lau 33

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Well Used Reflection Fawning Over Nature Young Adults Return page 9 page 6 page 15 page 13 IN APPRECIATION OF OUR DONORS We at Manresa are continually humbled and honored by the outpouring of support for our Mission by so many. Regardless of whether it’s for a capital project (like our Jesuit Garden) or to defray the cost for a fellow retreatant (see Pat Irmen’s story on page 11 of the current issue of Manresa Matters), someone always steps up and makes it happen. We are forever grateful for each and every gift. Please keep our benefactors in your prayers and join us in thanking those who give of their treasure to preserve our “Spiritual Oasis.”

This list represents donors giving contributions of over $100 received in 2016 for the McGrail, Annual and Capital Funds and Adopt-a- Retreatant program. Because of space constraints we are not able to list everyone, although we hold each donor gratefully in our hearts. A - B C - E (continued) Louie Abbo Larry Berch Eliezer & Myrna DeLeon Helen Domingo Patrick Adamcik Jim Berlucchi Gerald Dendinger Dennis Drenikowski Joan Akl James Berry Timothy & Susan DeNeen Phillip & Dorothy Dubensky Mary Aley John Berry Gregory Denlea Lucia Dubois Jerry Alig Richard Berry Matthew & Linda Derby Ann Duke Ghassan Allo Robert Berry Kathleen DeSchryver Clark Durant Mary Andrecovich Thomas & Marie Bewick Elizabeth Devereaux Durnell Construction, Inc Virginia Antakli James Bezaire Gino & Luciana DiClemente Tony Dworack Joseph & Sandra Aoun Basim Binno Thomas & Mary Dierich Michael & Patricia Edwards Alivia Kassab Arabo Michael Bliss Joseph & Julia Dierker Steve Eick Auday & Alivia Arabo Martha Bober Dalia Dimock George & Marilyn Elworth Carolyn Arafat Ronnie & Heather Boji Tim Dimock Elias & Amelia Escobedo Lorraine Armstrong Eliya Boji Sharon B. Dixon John & Margaret Arthurs Robert & Kathy Bolya Rev. Timothy Babcock Sheila Book F - I Basil Bacall Colleen Booth Dan Farchone Patrick Grady Albert Bajjoka Joseph Borst Louis & Linda Farinola Mary Judith Gregart Hughes Bakewell C. Jack & Joann Brinkman Ferenc Fehervari Mary Gresens Arthur & Kimberly Baranowski Michael & Peng Brooks Daniel & Virginia Finkiewicz Gerald Greve Michael & Sue Barczak Gordon & Marilyn Brown Jacalyn Foot Tom Guarente Thomas Bargone Nadine Brown Joseph Frederick Richard & Debbie Haller Joseph Basta William Brown Robert Frederick Schuyler & Nora Hamill Eric Bauer Charles & Margaret Brunhofer R. Patrick & Lucy French Isaac & Balsaam Hanna William & Margaret Beauregard Hugh & Mary Ellen Buchanan Kathleen Fulgenzi William Harahan William & Mary Bechtel Bill & Denise Bull James Fuller Nelson Hartrich Marianne Bellanca Franklin Bush Diana Gac John & Marilyn Hasley Rick Benedict Brian & Renea Butler Alfred & Diane Gade Gerald & Diana Hawkins Richard & Julie Ganfield Felix Heitz Joyce Gardner Myrtle E. & William G. Hess C - E William & Carol Geary Charitable Trust C. M. Profit Group LLC John Conway Kathleen Geissler James & Jacqueline Hicks Mary Cafferty Marie Corbin Timothy Gelletly William Hill Mary Campbell Joseph & Anne Cornillie Imad George Paul Hindelang Frank Cancro Robert Cosgrove William Glaab Thomas Hughes Anne Carey Kevin & Mary Counihan Donald & Nancy Glubzinski Robert & Kristin Huntsman Michael Carter Kenneth & Maureen Courtney John & Theresa Godwin Kenny & Adora Ibrahim John Casey Raymond & Jane Cracchiolo Henry Goitz Daniel Irudayaraj Ross & Jenny Chapman Barbara Crisp Phyllis Gorski George Charnley Francis Cronin Carolyn Chau Ellen Crowley J - L Dave & Erin Chekal Peggy Cummins Eugene & Patricia Jacoby Peter & Maryanne Kelly Adam & Sue Cheslin Douglas & Geneva Cunningham Sally Janecek Jeff Kendall Carol Chisholm Veronica Cusick James Jennings Robert & Lee Kendell Rodney & Patricia Chryst Douglas Czinder Gary Johnson Kenneth Kerscher Linda Ciaccia-Ghith Patricia G. Dahlin Jennifer Johnson Pamela Kestner Donald Clayton Kelly Dalloo Julie Jones Ray Kettel Thomas & Joan Cliff Kevin & Linda Daly George Jurkowich David & Laurie Keyser William & Mary Cohan Dennis Darin James Kane David & Rita Kieras James Coker Judith Darin Michelle Kane Elizabeth King Martha Condit Lorraine Davidson Neran Karmo Charles Kipp Steven Condit Chip & Mary Jo Dawson Burt Kassab Patricia Klecha Eric Conn Barbara Day Kenneth Kaucheck Connie Kleinstiver Arnold Connors Marjorie Decapite John Kello Anne Klima DONORS (continued) J - L (continued) M - O (continued) Lori Kneisler Joan LaPointe Jack & Kathleen McInerney M. J. Moroun Thomas Knuth Carole Laramie Kathleen Mcintosh James & Denise Motschall Victor & Carolyn Kochajda Bruce Larva Joseph Mckay Donald Mott Francis Kohler Francis Leblond Mary Mclaughlin Denise Mullane-Platzer Edward Kolodziej Alan & Toni Lecz James McNulty Glenn Mustion Patti Koval James Lefere Robert & Christine Meehan Thomas Myers Majid Koza Daniel Lenahan Harry & Anne Meeth Pauline Myler Zouhair & Sahira Koza David Lengyel Charles Menard James & Colleen Nagle Michael & Joanne Krampe David & Marguerite Lentz Anthony & Patricia Merlo Joseph Najor Jack Krasula Robert Lessnau Salim Metti Chanelle Namou Jeffrey Krause Harry Lindback John Meulendyk Fred & Betty Navarre Peter & Julie Kreher Karl Litle Patricia Michalski Charles & Mary Neff Sharon Krill Ginny Little Frank & Gail Migliazzo Jesse Nemer Ed & Margaret Kronk Margaret Lonz Elaine Miller Jerome Neyer John Kruse Martha Lucas Louise Tuller Miller Trust Barbara Niman John Kullen Robert Miller Dave & Holly Nona Stanley & Marcia Kwasiborski Karen Millikin Michael & Linda Norris Kathleen Mills Gregory Oatis M - O Tony Minish Michael & Suzanne O'Brien Thomas & Catherine Mitchell Patrick & Joanne O'Brien Michael Madison Arlene Marcy Scot & Amy Moceri Phillip O'Brien Michael Magoulick Maroun Maroun Molinello Family Foundation Richard & Christine O'Connell Michael & Cindy Maiberger Eric Marshall William & Marie Molnar John O'Gara James Majercik Leonard & Cynthia Matusko Paul Molnar Suzanne O'Leary Donald Maladecki Elizabeth Maxwell Mary K. Moloney Kirk Oliver Catherine Malerich Alda Marie McCook Susan Mooney-Smith Kurt Olzmann Chad Manna Ronald McCormick J. Moore Joseph & Joann Oram Martin Manna Mavine McCoy Luke & Carol Moran John O'Shea Manresa AA Alonzo McDonald Carl Morganti Patrick & Ellen Owens Faiz Mansour Keller & Debra McGaffey Marlene Morlock Daniel Marcin Robert McGrail

Visit http://www.manresasj.plannedgiving.org/ DONORS (continued) P - R S - T (continued) Robert Paesano Steven & Susan Raymond Edward & Amy Sponseller Clarence & Deanna Tabar Sergio & Jackie Pagés Anthony & Suzanne Rea St. Anne Church Michael & Anne Taglione Albert Papcun Catherine Reedy Blake Stanwick Michael Tahy Dominick Pastore Mary Reising Leo & Susan Steinl Randall Tavierne Steven Pellegata Victoria Repen Ronald & Joanne Steinmayer Edmound & Helen Tepas Robert & Stacy Penkala Mark & Nancy Rider Janet Stenger Helen Thomas Richard Perry Terence Rielly Mary Stephenson William Thomas Charles Peters William Ris James Streacker Robert Thompson Phyllis Peters Look Paul Robertson Dorothy Strzelewicz Michael & Barb Timm William & Lynne Pfannes Allan Rodrigues Michael Stuart Msgr. Anthony Tocco Frank Phelan Daryl & Rosanne Rollins Jeremiah & Carole Sugrue Lawrence M. Tomczak Mike Pigorsh Jonathan Rose Ann Sullivan Deborah Tourville Marc & Marylynn Pomerleau Tony & Ann Ross Lawrence Sych Thomas Trimmer Christine Pompili Renee Rourke Carolyn Price Andrzej Rozecki John Racciato Gasper Ruffino U - Z Frank & Elaine Ramacciato Kenneth Rusiniak Stanley A. Ulman Mary Kay Weibel Angelo Ramaci Thomas & Marylee Ryan John Ulrich Michael & Paula Weibel Frederick Raupp University of Detroit Jesuit High James Weller School and Academy Richard West S - T The Jesuit Community University Nancy White Joseph Samulowicz Frank & Barbara Seichter of Detroit Mercy Melvyn Wicks Joseph Samyn Gerald Seizert Patricia Urban William & Linda Wildern Francine Sanak Grace Seroka Joseph Valenti Mark Wilke Robert & Elly Sattler Nicholas & Janice Sharkey Ralph & Christine Valitutti John & Helga Wise Frank & Susan Scerbo Anthony Shonis Roger Veitch Daniel & Shivaun Wois Therese Scharbach Joseph Shrader John & Chris Visser Barbara Wojtas Donald Scheer John Sier Ann Vote John Wright Howard Scheer Sue Sikkema Thomas & Mary Wakefield Lee Wurm Joseph & Karen Schodowski Bradley Simmons Joseph Walsh Michael & Jennifer Xenos Thomas Scholler Donald Smith John & Theresa Wangler Jim Yaw Ann Schroeder Mark & Mary Sobeck Ronald Ward Paul & Cecelia Yee Robert Scullin Keith & Martha Soltis Theresa Weber Fakhri Yono Paul & Patricia Seibold William Sowle Marguerite Weibel Thomas & Sandy Youngblood HONORARY AND MEMORIAL GIFTS

Manresa is very grateful whenever you memorialize or honor your loved one with a gift to us. Thank you for your contribution. The following gifts were received in 2016.

IN HONOR OF DENISE ANDERSON IN MEMORY OF KENNETH CUMMINS IN MEMORY OF RON AND Nicholas & Janice Sharkey Peggy Cummins DONNA MAKOWSKI IN MEMORY OF MARY BALLEW IN MEMORY OF WILLIAM DAHLIN Mark & Maria Makowski Doris Luria Patricia G. Dahlin IN MEMORY OF JEFF MCAULIFFE Sherry Pianko IN MEMORY OF NED DARIN Michael McAuliffe Michael & Kathy Schultz Judith Darin IN HONOR OF ALDA MARIE MCCOOK Peggy Smith IN MEMORY OF NORA ANN FRANCIS Robert Skubic Ron & Janet Strote Edward & Judith Morad IN MEMORY OF RON MCCORMICK IN MEMORY OF MARION BILYK IN MEMORY OF CLIFFORD AND Denise Acierno Tina Bey SARAH GANFIELD Nancy Evanson Robert & Mildred Christie Richard & Julie Ganfield Marcia Klucznik-Gradolph Nita Firestone IN MEMORY OF JIM GROMMERSCH Edward & Celia Lipsky Selena Jones Margaret Grommersch Frank & Gail Migliazzo Walter Kabalka IN MEMORY OF JOHN R. HAYES Michael & Joey Randall Little Caesars IT Department Lewis Baughman James Sarlevs Colette McIntosh Peter Beer Spartan Machinery, Inc. Erica Silvestri Porter & Linda Blakemore Jeanette Sui Ann Vote John & Mary Lou Burns IN MEMORY OF F. JAMES AND Melissa & Drew Winnicker Don & Phyllis Byerlein MARY L. MEHELAS IN MEMORY OF CLIFF BISHOP John Clawson Thomas Mehelas Sharon Mikesell Christopher & Donna Craft IN MEMORY OF JOHN MOULTRUP IN HONOR OF HUGH BUCHANAN Eric & Virginia Cranbrook Helen Moultrup Michael & Elaine McIntosh Jerry & Emilie Dancik IN MEMORY OF FRANCIS X. O’BRIEN Mary McKeon Dexter Field Hockey Francis & Patricia O’Brien Carl Morganti Richard Durkin IN MEMORY OF PAUL J. PEMBERTON University of Detroit Jesuit Joan Emerick John & Linda Jacobs High School and Academy Dave & Jill Everson IN MEMORY OF JOHN POLLOCK IN HONOR OF FR. LEO CACHAT Bradley & Laura Host Patricia Pollock Veronica Cusick Hyunhee & Taekyung Kang-Kim IN HONOR OF TONY AND SUZANNE REA Barbara Niman Joel & David Kirsch Anthony Rea Carolyn Price Paul Lyons IN MEMORY OF JOE RICE IN MEMORY OF PORKY CAMPBELL Scott Manteuffel Camalia Mann Connie Kleinstiver George & Dorothy Marudas IN MEMORY OF DANIELLE AND IN MEMORY OF STEPHEN CAMPBELL Peter & Irene Marudas AL ROCCHINI AND FAMILY Gerald & Diana Hawkins Thomas & Georgia Marudas Charles Peters IN MEMORY OF ROBERT CHECK Thomas Myers IN MEMORY OF MARY JANE SIMMONS The Bergin-Milan Group Sam Patterson Family Bradley Simmons Joan Borowiec John & Michele Politis IN MEMORY OF JOSEPH AND Gino & Cheryl Centofanti Dale Prentice LILLIAN STACEY Brian & Allyson Champa Carolyn Price Dennis & Ann Stacey John & Esther Johnson Joyce Raymond IN MEMORY OF THOMAS TIERNAN Dan & Janice Justice Regina Athletic Department Kasco Inc. R. A. Kaplan, Inc. Mark & Arlene Rubinstein Michael & Beverly Kloian John & Virginia Lewandowski Michael & Deborah Savoie Terri Koller Joseph & Rhonda Mahaz Don Schima Frank Matson Charles Main Michael & Mary Schloff Patricia Roark Nora Martin Lynn Talbert Karen Ryan Michelle McNulty Paul & Laurie Walters Daniel Sarafian Chuck & Elizabeth Milan William Weaver Jack Withrow Gilda Nicosia IN MEMORY OF JOHN AND IN MEMORY OF MARTY AND Francis & Patricia O’Brien HEATHER HENDRICKSON SANDY TROMBLEY Thomas Post Saralou Hendrickson Renee Rourke Julio & Carole Puzzuoli IN MEMORY OF BERNARD HIGGINS IN HONOR OF HELEN VARDON Gregory Randazzo Roberta DeBaldo Mary Judith Gregart Daniel & M. Christine Sawicki IN HONOR OF JOHN AND Jerry & Mary Sawicki IN MEMORY OF PARENTS THERESA WANGLER FAMILY Jay Sawmiller Daniel Irudayaraj John & Theresa Wangler Larry Sharp IN HONOR OF DONNA KOHN Michael & Laura Skvarce Francine Sanak IN HONOR OF PATRICIA WARD Michael Stender IN HONOR OF PATTI KOVAL Jennifer Johnson IN MEMORY OF A. B. CHETTLE Peter & Julie Kreher IN MEMORY OF FRANK WESLEY Gregory Denlea William & Kathie Nienstedt Robert & Mary Morian IN MEMORY OF JERRY COYNE IN MEMORY OF JACK LUCIER IN MEMORY OF CHARLOTTE WHALEN Thomas & Lynn McGann Patricia Lucier Fred & Betty Navarre

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