How To Turn Your Woman (Women) Into Your Dream Lover(s) The ideas shared in this program are simply ideas, beliefs and practices designed to bring out more sexual connection and pleasure. Because every individual different, some of the concepts, exercises or techniques may offend, challenge or surprise you. You are free to choose what works for you and integrate it into your own personal life and sexual or erotic practice. If you have any questions or concerns regarding your mental or physical health, please consult a professional. This work is meant ONLY for consenting and empowered adults. The author and publisher are not responsible for any effects this material may have on the reader or the readers’ partners. All users of this information are beseeched to apply it from a standpoint of love and nurturance, profound respect for yourself and for any partners you may encounter. Please use all physical and emotional precautions to magnify love and pleasure and safety in applying this information to your life and the lives of others. INTRODUCTION Everybody wants to have his or her fantasies fulilled. But few people get their fantasies fulilled. Nearly everybody has sexual desires beyond what they get to experience in their lifetime – which is… tragic. And the main reason they don’t get what they want is that so few people ask for what they want. In this program, I will show you not only how to ask for what you want, but also how to cultivate yourself AND your lover(s) so that they… (1)open more deeply to you, (2)feel safe (3)become eager to fulill your sexual fantasies (4)open to more adventurousness and new edges (5)feel encouraged to ask for what they want and push their sexual edges… All of which should open up whole new dimensions for you. By your learning how to do these things in this book – your lover(s) will be on the path to become the best lover they can be for you. The best lover you’ve ever had. Your dream lover. And – bonus here – you will grow into becoming the best lover they have ever experienced. This is not a program for the timid, nor for the piggishly sel4ish. It is not a book for revenge nor is it for damaging, wounding or hurting your lover(s). It is, in fact, the exact opposite. This is a program that is designed to open both you and your lover(s) to primal, emotional and deeply connected openness, freedom, surrender, acceptance, healing, bliss and ful:illment beyond your previous imagination. You can apply what I offer here for your multiple lovers, if that is your life, or for your one beloved. There is no judgment in this program for your preferences, your kinks, your true desires – as long as your sexual interactions remain between two consenting and empowered adults – and you come from your best place of love rather than cruelty. In other words, from the best man that you are. Because what you have before you is not merely a manual for sexuality; it is a guide for living in erotic immersion, profound minute-by-minute- gratitude and, really, human grace. What most people don’t admit – or are afraid to admit - is how the realm of sexual desire is where we get unmasked. And the happy surprise is that, beneath the fear, we all yearn to be unmasked. This is where your advancement into a true connoisseurship of erotic and sexual mastery really begins. With this knowledge… We all want desperately to live our truths and be seen – and wholly accepted – in our truth. This goes for you and for your lover(s). But, in our workaday, family and even marriage worlds – we slap on our social masks. Sometimes they protect us - especially for women, who are rightfully cautious about seeming too openly or availably sexual in public. Sometimes they suffocate us. So here’s where we begin… If you want to experience amazing, mind-blowing, startlingly connected sex, you need to peel off those social masks with your lover… … and open yourself to a whole new kind of erotic language, a new vulnerability, a recovered, unmasked openness – so that your partner can connect with the masked truths of who and what you most beautifully, genuinely, achingly are. And what you are – at core – is the desire to just 4inally love and be loved, without fear, without holding back, without limit. You can accomplish this with your lover(s) only in an ecosystem that you create… of safety. As the man who evinces natural masculine authority, the man she looks to for leadership, in order to cultivate the best lover in her – you’ve got to help her drop her masks so she can let go and offer you those hidden primal parts of herself. Parts of herself, by the way, that although she often won’t admit in polite company – she is dying to express and experience with a man she can trust. When I say, “trust” – I mean trust that you take her physical and emotional safety seriously, and will not damage her willingly or unconsciously, to your best ability. And when I say, “dying to express,” I do mean dying. Most people in our repressed, constricted, work-obsessed society, with all the religious shame that has been vomited over our heads – are dying inside. Dying because they are not living their sexual truths. Dying because they know that there are people having great and exciting and even profound erotic experience, but for lack of courage, or lack of self-love, or foully induced religious shame, are sitting on the sidelines as their precious lives tick by. I don’t want you to be one of those people. There are enough miserable, frustrated people on this planet. And they cause trouble for others as well as themselves. I want you to be one of the elect few – men who respect themselves enough to ask for and to go for extraordinary experiences in this lifetime – and that includes, often right at the core – awesome sex. This manual is speci4ically about how to turn your woman (women) into your best lover ever, your “fantasy lover.” Almost everyone has securities. Yes, even beautiful women – especially beautiful women because they know, deep inside, that their attention, popularity and success has been hinging on a diminishing asset – their looks. So a woman often wants to prove to you that she is a capable and imaginative lover, that she “knows what she’s doing.” You will probably 4ind, especially among young women in their early 20’s that they will do things to you that are daring and edgy. They will swallow you whole and still 4ind room to lick your undercarriage clean, while holding a mouthful. They will be more aggressive with anal pleasure, with crazy positions and with verbal cries and dirty talk. Why? Well, yes, 4irst, they want to prove themselves. Second, they have probably learned about sex mostly from porn. And while this has its advantages in terms of giving them inventive ideas and making them more adventurous and willing to try new things, there are also great disadvantages. Because porn is so “outer-” or “show” focused, younger women will often be disconnected during sex. Not only disconnected from you as they thrash and scream as they have witnessed online… .. but importantly – disconnected from themselves. And it is your opportunity – your privilege really – to bring them back into their bodies, to bring them present – to make them present to their true bodies and desires as well as to you during sex. If you’ve been with enough women, disconnected sex can get pretty dispiriting. The real joy of sex is in the dance of two awake consciousnesses exploring, thrusting, retreating, daring, connecting, playing, communicating, nibbling, tasting, guiding, surrendering and in all ways discovering each other. Two bodies “getting off” with each other is nice, sure, like a fast-food meal when you’re hungry. But it’s hardly the feast that sex can offer. This program in your hands is your invitation to the feast. There is so much more waiting for you - as well as for her. But this book is not about you waiting for things to happen to you. It’s about you taking the lead – the enlightened lead, the nurturing lead, and often the dominant lead – to help cultivate the most generous, adventurous, trusting lover from the women in your life and bedroom. You can not only teach her about the physicality of sex, you can teach her how to receive pleasure, cherishment and love – feelings that are far deeper and far more satisfying than mere touch and physical sensation. Note: if you want your lover to grow more and more devoted to your pleasure, to making your erotic dreams come true – then what I have just said may be the most important instruction you will get in this entire program. You are with her not merely to fuck her. You have to opportunity to “fuck her open” – that means, very seriously – through your caring, aware, informed and sure, guiding hand, you can open her to whole new experiences of self- acceptance, self-love, healing and connection not merely to you, but to love itself. To life itself. To 4inally feel that she “belongs” here on Earth and, if only for the moment, feels to be part of the love that is available. This may be the noblest gift you ever give in your lifetime. To not only enjoy women – which I wholly encourage and embrace – but also to heal women.