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The Art of Really Living JohnKCoyle.com Microsoft Project For Dummies Project Plans That Work! A Process Flow Chart Primer Date and Decision gates The Secret Life of Jeff Brown The Early Years (1981 – 2000) Applying Design Thinking to Strengths and Weaknesses UNDERSTAND EMPATHIZE IDEATE PROTOTYPE What is the central question? Tonya Nancy You can do it Try harder Never give up Never give in When the going gets tough, the tough get going Work harder Good things come to those who wait Never quit Quitters never prosper If at first you don’t succeed... try, try, try again. The definition of insanity is repeating the same thing over and over and over again… and expecting different results. If at first you don’t succeed. QUIT THANK YOU! 500,000,000 250,000 1 in th 2,500 99.98 % 10,000,000 52 If at first you don’t succeed. Race your strengths, design around your weaknesses Assessment #1: A) Know (and accept) your weaknesses What are your weaknesses? - choose your top five weaknesses - write them down on the sheet \ Sample Weaknesses: • Superficial • Sloppy • Rigid • Perfectionist • Inconsistent • Rebellious • Disorganized • Irresponsible • Shy • Emotionless • Boring • Frantic • Blunt, rude • Quick tempered • Passive • Distracted • Critical • Apathetic • Impractical • Disloyal • Conformist • humorless • Impatient • Lenient Assessment #2: Max Power Test – 30 seconds, 710 Watts resistance 30 second averages Average J. Coyle Power Power Output (watts) Time (seconds) Assessment #2: Max Power Test – 30 seconds, 710 Watts resistance (watts) 15 second averages Output Average J. Coyle Power Time (seconds) Assessment #2: Max Power Test – 30 seconds, 710 Watts resistance 1 second averages Average J. Coyle Power Output (watts)Output Power Time (seconds) B) Know (and accept) the specific nature of your strengths What are your strengths? - choose your top five strengths - write them down on the sheet Sample Strengths: • Polite • Big picture • Organized • Meticulous • Adaptable • Activist • Creative • Adventurous • Thoughtful • Calm • Cautious • Dynamic • Direct • Passionate • Cooperative • Exploring • Realistic • Content • Idealistic • Flexible • Traditional • Serious • Spontaneous • Compassionate “Most men live lives of quiet desperation.” Thoreau ACCEPTANCE weaknesses are often strengths in disguise Which of your strengths Are also your weaknesses? • look at your strengths and weaknesses • are any of them the same? • draw a line between those that are the same Strengths and their Inverse: Polite Superficial Big picture Sloppy Organized Rigid Meticulous Perfectionist Adaptable Inconsistent Activist Rebellious Creative Disorganized Adventurous Irresponsible Thoughtful Shy Calm Emotionless Cautious Boring Dynamic Frantic Honest/Direct Blunt, rude Passionate Quick tempered Cooperative Passive Exploring Distracted Realistic Critical Content Apathetic Idealistic Impractical Flexible Disloyal Traditional Conformist Serious humorless Spontaneous Impatient Compassionate Lenient - now look at weaknesses that do NOT have a corresponding strength.. - Is it possible that these are hidden strengths? MADDOCK DOUGLAS, INC. | © 2014 ALL RIGHTS RESERVED A Design Thinking Equation: “A reasonable man adapts himself to his environment. “An unreasonable man persists in attempting to adapt his environment to suit himself.” “Therefore, all progress depends on the unreasonable man.” George Bernard Shaw 2002 Winter Olympics: Top 10 Aggregated times for 500M Name Time Δ Δ from 1st 1. Casey FitzRandolph USA 34.62 0.00 0.00 2. Hiroyasu Shimizu JAP 34.63 0.02 0.02 3. Kip Carpenter USA 34.74 0.11 0.12 4. Gerard van Velde NED 34.76 0.02 0.13 5. Lee Kyou-hyuk KOR 34.79 0.03 0.18 6. Joey Cheek USA 34.80 0.01 0.18 7. Mike Ireland CAN 34.80 0.00 0.18 8. Toyoki Takeda JAP 34.91 0.11 0.29 9. Jan Bos NED 34.93 0.02 0.31 10. Erben Wennemars NED 34.95 0.02 0.33 A Free Speed skating Lesson: Free Speedskating Lesson… C) Design around your weaknesses… D) Race your Strengths… 1995 World Championships Team Trials World Championships Team Trials: 1995 World Championships Team Trials Racing My Strengths: 1995 World Championships (Time Classification) Race Your Strengths: Definition Strengths Each person’s greatest room for growth is in the areas of his/her greatest strength. You will excel only by maximizing your strengths, never by fixing your weaknesses. And you must also be able to derive some intrinsic satisfaction from the activity. Now, Discover Your Strengths – Buckingham, Clifton Building a Strengths Based Team: 1994 Olympics (Relay Final) My First Coach: Produced more than: • 120 national champions • 28% of all post-world war II national cycling medalists • 12 world champions • 10 Olympians • 4 Olympic medals All in a club of about 70 Families based in suburban Detroit Dammit Coyle! What the hell are you doing? Applying Design Thinking to Strengths and Weaknesses UNDERSTAND EMPATHIZE IDEATE PROTOTYPE Innovating Human Performance Strengths: Central Question: Instead of fixing weakness, how to maximize strengths? The Art of Time: Really Instead of Living more years in Resiliency: your life, how Instead of to create >intense decreasing memories more stress, how to life in your perform better years? under more stress? 1) UNDERSTAND: GATHER DATA TO DEFINE THE REAL CHALLENGE: A) Know (and accept) your strengths B) Know (and accept) your weaknesses C) Design around weaknesses D) Race your strengths Myers-Briggs StrengthsFinder Forté DiSC Four Color Test FIRO-B RIASEC Code Enneagram LSI Oxicon Kolbe Insights Discovery The central question was not how to “go faster,” or “improve endurance.” The real challenge was “get to the finish line in less time.” 2) EMPATHIZE: BE “IN THE SHOES” Use the lens of strengths and BE the customer, the challenge, the situation you are trying to solve. • If the challenge involves springs, “be” a spring • If it involves an aerobically weak, anaerobically strong athlete, understand their true capacity • If the opportunity involves customers, understand your strengths through the eyes of the target customer (You are NOT the target) • If the situation involves relationships, truly understand their perspective and put your best foot forward. 3) IDEATE: GENERATE IDEAS • Generate a lot of ideas… Throw out the bad ones • Suspend judgment during the ideation process • Think laterally, not linearly • Infuse outside thinking: “You can’t read the label from inside the jar.” Ask others for their candid opinion. Ask a lot of “somebody else’s.” Opinions are free. WHO CAN YOU ASK? - Anyone Anchor to the positive. Acknowledge or toss the rest. 4) PROTOTYPE: SELECT AND TEST A SOLUTION ALIGNED WITH YOUR CORE STRENGTHS • Don’t just pull the lever faster. Don’t just work “harder.” Refocus on the actual outcome. • Pay attention to your internal hum. You’ll know it when you see it / try it. • Your best days at work, at home – what do they have in common? 4) PROTOTYPE: ABIDE BY THE TWO YEAR RULE If you’ve legitimately worked and trained and practiced toward a certain skill for more than two years without results, it is probably time to reframe your approach, change your environment, or…quit. This sounds easy, but altering the trajectory of one’s life is anything but easy. “Most men live lives of quiet desperation, and go to the grave with the song still in them.” Thoreau Epilogue: Why Pursuit of a Strengths Focused Life Matters John– I am deeply touched and moved by your words and reaction. After I read your e-mail I went up to Alex’s bedroom and looked at his bulletin board that holds only the most meaningful awards and memories of his childhood and skating career. Pinned near the right border in a ziploc baggy is a napkin from Steamer’s Pub with your signature on it dated 1994, along with the picture of You with Alex and your Silver Medal. I then went to our Italy photos and found the picture of You with Alex and his Bronze Medal I printed it off and returned to the bulletin board and carefully opened the bag, gently slid the new photo in, re-sealed the bag and pinned it back in the exact same hole. I stepped back and contemplated the many things that had to have taken place in so many people’s lives in order for those two photos to be in that bag together, hanging on a bulletin board in a boy’s bedroom where he only dreamed of such success. As I stood and stared I was overwhelmed by emotion as I again attempted to comprehend the awesome unifying power of the Olympic Games and values. Thank you for sharing your success with us 12 years ago and thank you for including Alex (and me) in this circle of success 12 years later. “I guess you never know what role you may play in someone’s life or just how important the things you choose to do or say, or choose not to do or say, may turn out to be.” 1994 2006 The Art of Really Living JohnKCoyle.com Text STRENGTHS to 773.770.4377 for a 1 page summary of key points Please connect on LinkedIn! John K. Coyle Questions?.