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6 A View of "the Steeple" from 2 Among Friends Jerusalem 4 . Forum Catherine Peck Fox's admonition continues to have meaning, and it fits 18 Witness sublimely with our peace testimony. 19 Reports 8 Portrait of Our Lydia Reva Griffith 22 News of Friends Over a thousand friends gathered to mourn her tragic death and to celebrate her many gifts. 23 Bulletin Board 10 Dawn Song 23 Calendar Phyllis Hoge 24 Books Each morning in China the dance becomes a new one, the songs serve as a blessing. 28 Milestones 11 Christocentric and Universalist 29 Classified Friends: Moving Beyond the Stereotypes Poetry Greg Pahl The words and differences gently fell away. Love was quietly at work 8 The Catharsis David Ray 13 In the Presence of God Marty Grundy Being taught by the Inner Teacher is the first motion, the starting place for Quakerism. 15 Some Advice From John Woolman on Meeting for Business Michael Birkel ' His words may both inspire and guide us at those times when we are not in unity. 17 Restorative Illness Carole Hope Depp It's a sobering thought: Despite the best ofcare, serious illness and adversity can happen.

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A colorful mystery Friends had a balance of ministers and protests before they start, and engage in civil Henniker is a small rural town in New elders. When we do remember elders we disobedience after they start. often conceive of them only as admonishers. Hampshire, whose claim to fame is that it is Expression of opposition to the Vietnam "the only Henniker in the world." (It's also Elders in fact were those who in hidden War did not abate after Nixon ended the the home of New England College.) Outside ways mid-wifed the gifts of Friends tender draft. I with others demonstrated against that of town, about three miles down an old dirt in the Spirit. They acted as spiritual guides, war throughout most of its duration. For us road, one finds the Henniker Friends as channels of the Spirit in their listening to and, I believe, most objectors, the end of the Meetinghouse set in a small grass plot others. They grounded the meeting for draft did not change the war's wrongness. surrounded by woods. It is a wood frame, worship through their lives of prayer, often Another factual error of Anderson's is that single story, cape-style structure dating back without saying a word. Elders were able to "sons of the well-to-do, educated" were sent to about 1820. It has the traditional two sense the spiritual condition of individuals to Vietnam. Some went, but a great many doors for men and women, and multi-light and of the group." evaded the draft by getting college student sash windows. Inside, there are plain David Clements rightly notes that the deferment. As a university professor I was Ministry and Oversight Committee's wooden benches. A pole cut down by a quite aware of this situation. Casualties in responsibility is to protect the sanctity of our beaver supports part of the ceiling. A few that war were disproportionately high meetings for worship, in large measure by Friends gather here on alternate First Days among poor non-Caucasians. during the summer and fall. None live making sure Friends know about our Anderson considers the state a leviathan nearby. "Quaker Etiquette." I have collected perhaps in which citizens automatically obey their 18 statements prepared by different government's commands. I am thankful this Arriving on a recent September morning, the attenders were greatly surprised to find meetings to guide first-time visitors. In one has never been fully true and that excessive the building had received a fresh coat of way or another, all mention vocal ministry; nationalism is now waning. white paint. The real surprise came when none comment on the sacredness of a time Study of public policy should include the Friends realized that one door was painted interval between message sharers. Some do history of opposition to government policies. pink and the other blue. suggest that attenders let seemingly I would recommend to Jonathan Anderson inappropriate messages glide by and return So far, all attempts to find the doers of The Quaker Peace Testimony by a non­ this deed-I hate to use the word culprits­ to their own center. Friend, Peter Brock (Syracuse University have failed, though one local resident did In the 45 years I've been associated with Press, 1990). H. recall seeing an elderly couple in the yard the Religious Society of Friends, I've come Ralph Pickett one day. to conclude that messages that should have Lima, Pa. been but were not shared far outweigh Silas iJ. Weeks messages that might better not be spoken. Jonathan Anderson correctly states that Eliot, Maine That of God in each of us hardly compares in a representative government "we cannot with that of God in Jesus, the Prophets, or escape responsibility for our government's Elders in meeting the lexicon of saints; nor with the Albert actions." From there he arrives at his Barrett Caldwell (FJ May) and David Schweitzers, Mother Theresas, Mahatma recommendation that the draft be Clements (FJ August) point to conditions Gandhis, or Martin Luther Kings of more reinstituted to involve more than volunteers that exist or have existed in every meeting of modern times. We cannot expect the typical in the army. As he says, this suggestion which I have been a part: the idea that speaker to come forth with earth-shaking involves "pragmatism and politics." "those who are supposed to take care of that insights or profound utterances, for it is only I would prefer the Society of Friends to sort of thing" don't. We appoint many kinds the tiny part of God and not the entire oppose the institution of the army itself and of officers, and some meetings even have Creator of the universe that speaks through hold up the ideal of a warless world. Friends job descriptions outlining the duties. On the us. And few of us can match the gentle are not called upon to be effective but to be administrative level, most do a creditable persuasion of John Woolman, who might faithful. Our slogan should be: "No gays in job. When it comes to enhancing the vocal have approached an untimely speaker with a the military, no women in the military, no ministry or settling internal disputes, "1 was moved by what you had to say, but straights in the military, no conscripts, no however, our structure tends to collapse. was so wrapped up in what the previous volunteers-NO MILITARY!" Elfrida Vipont Foulds ("The History of speaker said that I missed much ...." Franklin Zahn Quakerism," FJ Jan. 1, 1969) writes that We seem to educate by teaching only Los Angeles, Calif. elders originally were chosen "not for their half-rules: the corollary to "experience is a gifts in the ministry but for wisdom, great teacher" is "but only a fool learns from God said, "Thou shalt not kill." Friend discretion, and judgment" Although being no other"; and the corollary to "speak truth Jonathan Anderson is saying, in effect, "eldered" came to be "synonymous with to power" is "and you just might well get "Thou shalt kill." We do indeed live in a being criticized adversely by a person who clobbered." crazy, mixed-up world, don't we! tended to be repressive rather than George Newkirk Duane Magill encouraging and forward-looking," it was Ocala, Fla. Los Angeles, Calif. assumed that such a person spoke with authority on matters of faith and practice. Reinstituting the draft? Antidote to helplessness The word has largely disappeared from use, Jonathan Anderson's Viewpoint (FJ Oct. Recently I overheard a Friend who had but the attitude remains; and we adults­ 1994) could be called, oxymoronically, just returned from Russia telling about an Friends or nonFriends-are frequently self­ "Why an Objector to Military Service incident that happened in a Moscow appointed elders, busily engaged in Supports Requiring It." Anderson says that subway. She was going down a passage eldering-in telling it as we choose to think when the U.S. government takes military when she heard shouts and saw a policeman it is, or as we wish it might be. action "it acts on our behalf." But "our'' swinging a club. An African man crouched And Kathryn Damiano writes ("Quaker cannot correctly refer to past or present at the policeman's feet, warding off the Women and Religious Leadership," FJ Dec. Quaker responses to such actions. We are blows. Her first impulse, she said, was to 1987), "We have forgotten how early not responsible if we oppose them by shrink away like everyone else, the

4 January 1995 FRIENDS JOURNAL circumstances being so threatening, and for struggle with whether they are "good" have, with William Penn himself presiding several moments she stood paralyzed. But enough or "committed" enough to ever be a over one in 1683. finally, instead of running, w_ithout being true Quaker (or feel comfortable among The defendants were two Swedish women, sure of what she was doing, she shoved her Quakers ...)? This is my story. Margaret Mattson and Getro Hendricksen. . shoulder into the struggle, put her hand on Jenny According to the complainant, 20 years earher the African man's head and said a silent Santa Rosa, Cali£ Mrs. Mattson had bewitched somebody's prayer, then prayed for the policeman, too. Yes, we would welcome an article or two cows so that they gave little milk. The owner of the animals testified that only one had gone While being dragged off, the African on this subject. Is anyone interested in dry, and she had no evidence that even that seemed angered and bewildered. He turned writing such a piece for us? - Eds. poor bovine was under a magic spell. and spat over his shoulder in the Friend's However, another witness recalled that Mrs. direction. Perhaps he thought her to be in Mattson's teenage daughter had once told league with the policeman, she couldn't tell. Did we do right? someone that her mother was an old witch. The whole incident was over in an Irwin Abrams (FJ Sept. 1994) raised Upon hearing this evidence, Penn turned to instant, chaotic and mystifying, as such questions very difficult to answer. I believe Mrs. Mattson-no testimony was ever happenings are in real life. But the Friend the Quakers [in Nazi Germany] could not introduced against Mrs. Hendricksen- and had more to add. She spoke of the terrible, have done more. My parents told me that asked her, "Hast thou ever ridden through the debilitating sense of helplessness she felt at they thought it was impossible to have air on a broomstick?" first. It was only when she found herself changed Hitler's mind. There was always The terrified woman, who spoke little able to act, able to do something- almost propaganda and a publicity campaign from English and probably misunderstood the anything-that she felt whole again, that her 1933 until the end of the war, telling how question, vigorously nodded yes, whereupon a humanity was restored. right Hitler was. You could not put anything thoughtful Penn replied, "Well, I know no law The feeling of helplessness she described against it. against it." . is familiar, I suspect, to many of us, weighed The Religious Society of Friends did a The jury found the two women not gmlty down as we are almost daily by news of lot for Germany in sending relief after the of being witches, but guilty of being thought violent conflicts. Commitment to war. They have been a great help to to be witches. Penn put each woman under a nonviolence is fundamental to Friends' Germany and showed an extraordinary sign £50 bond to keep the peace, which meant, testimonies, yet how often do we as ofhumanity . I believe no German will ever apparently, that they were no longer permitted unauthorized flights. individuals find opportunities to feel we are forget this. able to make an impact practically and Klaus Martin Finzel Bruce Grimes positively on the lives of those suffering Cologne, Germany Sumneytown, Pa. such violence and oppression? While I am not on the line first-hand "Did we do right?" asks Irwin Abrams. helping those who are struggling, thankfully First names only Perhaps it piques me because our Bible Betty-Jean Seeger's review of Martin & I am able to aid some of the new seminar in Gainesville (Fla.) Meeting is Malcolm and America: A Dream or a professional peacemakers who are. starting to work on the book of Job. Nightmare (FJ Aug. 1994) made me Specifically, I am speaking of a Friend, lsn 't his question skewed by his uncomfortable. Both Martin Luther King, Jr. George Lakey, who has dedicated his life to presumed judgment that the truth was not and Malcolm X were addressed by their first learning the disciplines of nonviolent action, spoken to power, in the cited episodes? If names throughout the review. In all other and teaching these disciplines to others, what was spoken then was not the truth, reviews and references, leaders and people particularly those struggling with what was it? Truth comes in an infinite in general are given the respect of their full oppression. George is an internationally variety of sizes, forms, garbs, and name if not their title. The author is referred recognized leader in this field of effective intensities. to as "James Cone" and the article is signed peace waging. He has been called to such Perhaps he is lusting after the whole by "Betty-Jean Seeger." I'm sure that no far-flung places as Sri Lanka, Northern truth. That's O.K. But who but God can ever harm is meant and that Friend Seeger is just Ireland, and South Africa to train local speak the whole truth? Indeed, maybe even carrying out the style of the title. Still, I leaders in peaceful, effective forms of social God can't. become afraid when an unusual familiarity and political action ("Global Adventures for Which creature can ever hear the whole is shown two black leaders and no one else. Nonviolence," FJ April 1994). And, mindful truth?-<>r even say conclusively what is of needs in our own country, he has worked right? Jim Harris with oppressed minorities here as well. At Irwin Abrams probably suspects along San Jose, Cali£ this important juncture in our world's with me that the more realistic and valid movement toward peaceful settlement of question is, "Did we do good?" Also, that conflicts, George's ministry needs the the answer is, "Yes, thank God!" financial support of Friends and others more John Lepke than ever. Gainesville, Fla. FRIENDS JoURNAL welcomes Forum con­ (To contribute to George Lakey's work, tributions. Please try to be brief so we checks to "New Society Educational Fund" No law against it may include as many as possible. Limit may be sent c/o Central Philadelphia letters to 300 words, Viewpoint to I ,000 I saw this humorous piece in a large Monthly Meeting, 15th and Cherry Sts., words. Addresses are omitted to main­ coffee-table book (Philadelphia, by John Philadelphia, PA 19102.) tain the authors' privacy; those wishing C. Anthony Junker Guinther, 1982) and thought you might share it. Although the big Penn celebration to correspond directly with authors may Lansdowne, Pa. send )etters to FRIENDS JOURNAL to be is now past, a good laugh is always timely: forwarded. Authors' names are not to be Aspiring to Quakerism In Massachusetts in the 1600s, they used for personal or organizational so­ Could you write more articles for executed witches. Not so in tolerant licitation. - Eds. nonQuakers who aspire to Quakerism but Pennsylvania, but witchcraft trials they did

fRIENDS JOURNAL January 1995 5 A View of "the Steeple" from by Catherine Peck t is impossible to live in Jerusalem sitting in this chapel no time for anyone to without exploring the magnificent edi­ one day I suddenly wonder about the fate I fices to faith that are here. As a Quaker remembered the of the 600 families well-schooled in the idea that churches Spears's Bible Study who had lived there. are unnecessary to faith-are in fact im­ Technique, which asks He offered no descrip­ pediments to faith- I am nonetheless of every verse, "What tion of refugee camps drawn into the spaces meant to commemo­ does this passage mean or shattered lives. rate sites where Jesus performed his min­ to me?" Studying the Such complexities istry. No less compelling are the Western images of Peter's or­ have been rendered Wall of the Temple Mount, which the deal rendered in stun­ moot because this Jews hold as their holiest shrine, and the ning mosaics, I could ground was taken for Dome ofthe Rock where Mohammed left only ask myself in a holy cause. to take his midnight ride to heaven. what ways I deny Let me not appear Aside from the fact these spaces pro­ Christ many more than to judge. The conflict vide an atmosphere where I may encoun­ three times every day! that won the Western ter transcendence, I go to them also as a So I have learned Wall and its plaza for voyeur, to observe what other people find to appreciate the chap­ the Jews is part ofthe there. At the Western Wall one can see els, the synagogues, history of Jerusalem, men and women resting on their fore­ the mosques as spaces a layered history of heads, their cheeks, their lips on the huge where it is possible to domination and sub­ Herodian stones and murmuring as if to withdraw from a world jugation. In this blood­ lost relatives. At the Dome of the Rock, loaded with distrac­ soaked holy land, few as people kneel and touch their foreheads tions, and to make sense of that world in people on any side of the conflict ques­ to that holy ground, their hauntingly me­ the light of faith. tion the right, indeed the duty, of believ­ lodic prayers rise like articulate birds fly­ But in Jerusalem, above all places, I ers to protect their symbols from "the ing to God. And in the Church ofthe Holy am also troubled by these holy structures, other." So intense is the air of fear and Sepulchre, just inside the entrance, hun­ for nowhere has more blood been spiiled hostility in Jerusalem, and so frequent are dreds of pilgrims kneel each day to kiss for the sake of edifice. the incidents of violence in the name of the flat rectangular stone on which Jesus There is a photograph that is famous claiming or re-claiming holy space, that is said to have lain after he was crucified. here, rendered on postcards and poster. It most people who live here eventually On first observing worshipers at the is a sparkling black-and-white photograph, reach a point where they can no longer holy sites, I was cynical. The places are taken in 1967, which shows the faces of sustain outrage. They learn simply to shrug so constantly filled with tourists who three young, exhausted Israeli paratroop­ and say, "It's just human nature to fight glance around and then leave that it is ers gazing with a mixture of disbelief and over these spaces; it's just the way of the easy to imagine they were built for tour­ awe at the Western Wall of the Temple world." This is just the point George Fox ists alone. But because I have the privi­ Mount. They had just spent six days fight­ was making when he ranted against the lege of spending time in them, I am even­ ing hard to liberate the site from Jordan, evils of worshiping "the steeple." Since tually reminded that each site was lov­ and they were seeing the Western Wall Fox was so articulate on this point, it falls ingly built to focus the rambling sensibili­ for the first time in their lives. I confess it to us to question "the way of the world." ties of worshipers on some aspect of their raises in me strong emotions. It is a pic­ I present the photograph of soldiers at faith. Given God's grace, such a focus ture of triumph in a holy cause, and I am the Western Wall as emblematic of the will open the door to a clearer under­ as susceptible as the next person to the spiritual compromises we must make standing of God's will. catharsis of that moment. when we attach ourselves to places. Jew­ A good example is the chapel on Mount But behind the photograph is a killing ish law strictly forbids killing and the Zion that commemorates the day Peter field where many Jews and Muslims lay oppression by Jews of another people. denied Jesus three times. Why, I won­ dead, killed in fighting for access to this But while establishing the State of Israel, dered when I saw it, would the French holy place. What is not shown in the Jews killed or displaced hundreds of thou­ choose to build a shrine to denial? But photo are the homes of Arabs that stood sands ofArabs, and they now occupy the on the site before the Six Day War. Dur­ West Bank where they rule over hun­ Catherine Peck and her husband, Chip Poston, ing a recent walking tour of the old city, dreds of thousands with violence and fear. share the position of peace development worker for the Mennonite Central Commit­ the Israeli guide told our group that after Last February, when Baruch Goldstein tee. As Quakers, they live in Jerusalem with the 1967 war, "We cleared the slums opened fire on 700 worshipers at the Tomb daughters Hannah and Ellie, "who are learn­ away from this area to create the beauti­ of Abraham and Sarah in Hebron, he did ing a great deal, " Catherine writes, "about ful plaza that provides a place for Jews to so because his ideology claims that shrine the complexities of living nonviolently in a come and pray." He tossed off this bit of as an exclusively Jewish place of wor­ violent world. " information and then moved on, leaving ship.

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Likewise, the Koran deplores killing. Left: the Yet just last month a Muslim activist Westem Wall bombed a bus in Tel Aviv killing 22 Is­ and the Dome raelis and wounding many more. It was of the Rock only the most recent of many attacks on Below: a Jews. To protest past and present abuses, street scene some Muslims retaliate against the Israe­ lis with violence, engendering towards all Arabs fear and hatred within the Jewish population. Violence begets violence. That truth is constantly before me here. Living in proximity to such religiously motivated incidents is spiritually deadening for one who strives to believe in the possibility of a ''peaceable kingdom." Here, it is even impossible to tum to Christians for vision. To choose only one example of Christian conflict, the Church of the Holy Sepulchre has been divided into several parts. The Roman Catholics, the Greek Orthodox, the Armenians, and the Ethiopians all vie for holy dominion Peace Testimony, and as such renders thick with hostility while such questions over this site where Jesus was crucified comfort to the conflict-weary soul strug­ were debated as whether to expand, and buried. So bitter is their conflict that gling to make sense of "the way of the whether to air-condition, whether to spend no single denomination is allowed to hold world." thousands on a "historically accurate" the key to the church. For centuries a Are we Quakers immune to the temp­ renovation or hundreds on fiberglass? We Muslim family living nearby has held the tation to invest our meetinghouses with often take our meetinghouses too seri­ key, and each night it is a Muslim who holiness and to fight for dominion over ously, and in so doing we let them come locks the door. them? Of course we are not. Our history between us and worshipful fellowship. Seeking release from the pain of hav­ is rife with conflicts between factions who To discern the difference between good ing to watch as religious people descend wouldn't relinquish their meetinghouses stewardship and edifice-building is to as­ into bitterness and violence for the sake to "the other." The most colorful and sure that the meetinghouse will never take of holy places, I find solace by turning to disturbing is recounted in Larry Ingle's the place of God as the seat of faith. Fox's prophetic witness in asking what book, Quakers in Conflict. During the I recently heard a speaker distinguish makes a place holy. For Fox did answer Hicksite/Orthodox split, it appears that between an icon and an idol. An icon is a that question. He understood that once Friends carne to blows at Clear Creek window to God, he explained. But an idol you allow "the steeple" to become the Meeting in Ohio, and in the melee the inevitably becomes an object of worship symbol for the faith you hold dear, then clerk of the meeting was bodily thrown itself. Living in Jerusalem, among the you cannot bear to see it destroyed, or out the back door of the meetinghouse. splendor of symbols, I have come to un­ worse, used by "the He is reported to have derstand their usefulness. I like to think of other." Andsoyoumust asked at that moment, the various churches I enjoy here as icons, protect your faith with "What kind of religion as "windows." But in looking through murderous symbols of is this?" To which I them I must constantly keep before me worldly might and might reply from my the knowledge that the human mind is power. Butifyoudonot perspective in Jerusa­ quick to convert an icon-especially a invest your faith in sym­ lem, "It is a religion like beautiful, expensive, or historic on~to bols, then it cannot be any other." But Friends an idol. Once we allow that to happen, we destroyed, and there will are not called to be a cannot rest in the Spirit, for an idol can be be no need for outward religion like other reli­ altered or destroyed, and we begin to live weapons. One of the gions. in fear ofits destruction. Among the many magnificent aspects of Conflicts over build­ ways George Fox challenged us to sepa­ George Fox's theology ings continue to plague rate ourselves from the "way ofthe world," is that it is all ofa piece. meetings. Which of us his warning against the building ofsteeples His admonition against has not sat in a pro­ is basic to all we believe about living the building of steeples tracted business meet­ fearlessly and peacefully, and about find­ fits sublimely with the ing where the air was ing our strength in God alone. 0

FRIENDS JOURNAL 7 PORTRAIT OF Our Lydia by Reva Griffith ow can we frame a portrait of Now, as we bring Lydia into focus, we of their lives. Of Lydia, Jay said, "Those a young person who dies too ask, "What was it about her that brought of us with AIDS think she walks on water." Hsoon? We are left with a pic­ forth such an outpouring of grief and Now, as patients and staff of the clinic ture half-finished. We can only guess love?" recover from the tragedy, thoughts turn to what might have been, had the normal keeping the clinic open. Judith Dennis, span of this life not been interrupted. office manager, reports there is hope for Yet, the bold strokes are in place. An First, Lydia the doctor. state funding. "But," she says, "it won't indistinct but certain aura hovers about In 1985 she helped found Family be the same without Lydia." the picture. We see and feel the tanta­ Health Services, Inc., a nonprofit clinic in lizing promise and are grateful to have Kansas City, Kansas. At the time of her Then, Lydia's life as a observed the essence of a life lived death, 5,000 patients were being served, well, though not long. many of them medically indigent and/or lesbian. This is the way it is with our por­ elderly, some 200 with the mv virus or The day after Lydia's death, Ann trait of Lydia Moore. We think, if AIDS. Lydia, the only full-time physician Clendenin, her spouse, seriously injured only . ... of the clinic, worked 60-70 hours a week in the accident, looked up from her hospi­ But it was not to be. On August 14, at $10.50 per hour. She volunteered in tal bed through blackened eyes and said, 1994, Lydia, only 38 years old, died two other clinics and had only recently ''We've lost a very special person and," in an automobile accident in western been appointed medical director ofa medi­ she paused to gain control of her voice, "I Kansas. A few hours later, Friends in cal care unit for AIDS patients, the first mv feel so lucky she chose me." Their rela­ Penn Valley Meeting in Kansas City, unit of its kind in Kansas. tionship from friendship, to commitment, Missouri, felt a stab of pain at the Lydia saw her patients as whole be­ and finally to marriage heartened mem­ news. And while they struggled to ings. They describe her as calm, pleasant, bers of the gay and le.sbian communities absorb this unthinkable blow, it was and humorous. One pa- apparent they were not alone. The tient said, "She didn't act next day the media and busy phone like a doctor, she acted lines revealed that hundreds ofpeople like a friend." Her dress were suffering shock and grief at the was casual; she often wore The catharsis death of our Lydia. jeans and sandals at the We seldom see a grown man cry, This unassuming young Quaker, a office or on rounds. She yet Aristotle told us family practice physician, would have made house calls in her been astonished that I, 100 persons faithful pickup truck. that in a well-made tragedy gathered at a memorial service for her In Kansas City, she was the fable alone August 28. Coordinated by Penn Val­ one of the pioneers in the ley Meeting, it was called to celebrate treatment of the mv virus should inspire pity and fear. her life and mourn her death. After a and AIDS. There was no No need for spectacle, few opening minutes of silence, a re­ stigma in her treatment of specifics, irrelevant details, costume. lentless stream oftributes from friends AIDS patients; they came And thus this stranger and patients; children and the elderly to the clinic like everyone and all ages in between; black, white, else. Jay Wright, now a from another city stands in our yard, hispanic; straight, lesbian, and gay member of Penn Valley hears of our Lydia poured forth in music, poems, and Meeting, was the first and begins to weep. "I had not known stories. For over two hours, those clinic patient diagnosed by of such a person," he blubbers, present were suspended between tears Lydia as having AIDS. He and tender smiles, as the too-short told how she insisted on life's journey of one young woman being a partner with her "and I am so sorry I missed her." unfolded. patients in the treatment We comfort him, lamenting his loss. Reva Griffith is a member ofPenn Valley of the disease. She also (Mo.) Meeting. Retired, she writes and considered not only their -David Ray does volunteer work. disease but other aspects A member ofPenn Valley (Mo.) Meeting, David Ray is the author of a number of books ofpoetry , including Sam's Book. 8 of Kansas City and ofQuakerdom. Lydia Moore Heterosexuals as well, through Lydia and Ann's patient example, gained increased understanding of a lifestyle different from their own. compassion). She was The couple did not look upon them­ an inveterate recycler. selves as trailblazers; nevertheless, When she spotted an their straightforward path has in­ object on the side of fluenced others. the street that might In the summer of 1987, Lydia work into some far and Ann brought their request for distant plan, she marriage to the meeting. When the stopped, put it in her clearness committee met with Ann truck, and took it and Lydia, it was clear they ex­ home for storage in pected to be treated like any other the basement. There couple asking to be married under wasn't a piece of pa­ the care of the meeting. The com­ per or a magazine that mittee attempted to do that, even­ Lydia felt unworthy tually recommending their mar­ enough to trash with­ riage. The wedding, a joyful cel­ out serious delibera­ ebration, took place October 10, tion. 1987. There were many In the 1988 minute book oflowa other things Lydia Yearly Meeting (Conservative), the might have done. marriage of Lydia Anne Moore (Ann remarked, and Mary Ann Clendenin is noted "Lydia could do al­ in the yearly meeting statistics. most anything, except Notice of their marriage was also sing.") She simply did. listed in the FRIENDS JOURNAL. It a not have the time to was one of the earlier lesbian mar- r/) do all she wanted to riages within Friends meetings. do. The long hours Many persons in the gay and ~ spent in a practice lesbian communities of Kansas ~ where she happily City rejoiced in this marriage. A served those in need few eased out of the "closet." Others felt Missouri Valley Friends Conference of her skills sometimes left her frus­ more relaxed in their way of life because attenders recall Lydia's presence at MVFC trated with the price she, Ann, and her this doctor and her beloved bad the cour­ since childhood and her growth ''up, and family and friends paid. The pace of age to quietly be who they were without up and up"; her radiant personality; her her life didn't leave enough of her to fanfare. playful nature; her gentle spirit. . . . No go around. At the time of her death, doubt Friends in Iowa Yearly Meeting she was exploring options for change. (Conservative), the local American This was our Lydia. Lydia, the Quaker. Friends Service Committee, the national Once in a while we look up into the Daisy Newman, in her book The Pro­ board of AFSC, Friends General Confer­ heavens and see a star that stands out cession ofFriends, wrote of those anony­ ence, and Friends for Lesbian and Gay from the others. We don't know just mous Friends at the heart of Quakerism Concerns can recount similar memories. how it is special, but we know it is. ''whose diligence in love illuminated their Lydia was a person you noticed and re­ Such a star in the human heavens was homes, their fields, their meetings, their membered without any attempt on her Lydia. neighborhoods, their classrooms, their part to gain your attention. Her death leaves us groping for offices. .. ." words. It's as if we are struck dumb. Lydia qualified as one ofthose anony­ Then there was Lydia So we mouth words to describe her­ mous Friends. A birthright Friend with a but none, not even all, really reach the long Quaker lineage, the daughter ofTom just being Lydia. heart of it. and Anne Moore of Philadelphia Yearly A very appealing piece ofLydia's por­ Insofar as we human beings are Meeting, she was a much-loved member trait would show her in a pair of old able, given the imperfections of our ofPenn Valley Meeting at the time ofher overalls acquired during medical school, world and ourselves, Lydia, appar­ death. Penn Valley Meeting remembers working in her yard and garden. Perhaps ently without conscious thought, came Lydia for her tall, lanky figure; her gift of her most prized possession was a chipper/ as close as any to fulfilling the admo­ discernment; her beeper; her beautiful, shredder (with which she cut off the end nition of George Fox to ''walk cheer­ long brown hair; her hugs; her floor chats of her right index finger and afterward fully over the world, answering that with the children; and so much more. declared the bobbed finger increased her of God in every one. 0

FRIENDS JOURNAL January 1995 9 Dawn Song • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • by Phyllis Hoge • • • ••A• wonderful solitude surrounds around him in that one sound, entirely the little park near the university each single one of the indifferent to all the rest of us on that entry gate. I don't know why I chose millions of Chinese people. If field. Yet we were affected by him, our that place, but when I arrived I found they like, they can pull down a clear spirits rising as the sound grew louder, a dozen or so old men airing their curtain which closes them his single note becoming our own birds, and their birds sang from their completely away from everyone morning hymn. cages in the trees as the men talked else in the whole world. They can He has since appeared every day­ quietly beneath them, visiting with enter into the center of their being. expected, welcome, and solitary. each other. At the university where I teach, Then another morning brought us All these songs continually bless early every morning I head out to another singer. This was a girl holding a the air they rise into. They were the track on the playing field along a book, who stood at the opposite end sung, they are sung, regardless of path, which crosses a small wooded from the man on the field itself, off the whether or not anyone is listening. area. There I pass the slow-moving track. She walked a few paces back and And when we do listen, we hear figures of men and women forth to the sound of her slow song­ clear voices riding like promises on concentrating on their tai chi. I can and this was a song-her voice purely the wind, solitary and free. D tell that they feel themselves alone. lyrical, rising and flowing They are not surprising to me: I am over us like a morning mist. in China where the dance began Like the man, she took no long ago. I half-expect them, and notice of the runners, but their graceful motions raise my spirit paced absolutely alone, so that I always feel mildly happy as absorbed in her own music. I reach the track and join the others Yet though she was circling the field-three of us, then apparently unconscious of us, ten of us, twenty of us, and, by 6:30 we were all affected by her­ a.m., whole teams of students out impossible not to be filled for a warm-up jog before their with the calm of her spirit. regular physical education class. For a while the pressure of And all during the fine weather work kept me from going to our exercise is accompanied by ten the track. Then, when I did go minutes of the painless but annoying back, I discovered yet a third wake-up music, which floats over singer, a third song, a third the campus every day at 6:15a.m. mood. This was a baritone One morning a while ago I heard who walked across the middle a new sound-a single note, which of the field, equally distant gradually grew stronger and from the singers of the single stronger before it ceased abruptly, note and the soprano song. He then again, the same long note sang one note first, and slowly sounding across the field. And once added more as he crossed, again. augmenting the note until it Seeking the source, I saw a man became a scale, repeating the at the edge of the playing field lean scale until it became a song. slowly backwards, and as he leaned He then disappeared behind he pushed that single long note the tennis backboard, and outward from his body. Then he remained there, bouncing his song stopped, straightened up, and began against the board for 15 minutes or again-arching back, sounding the more. I found myself doing a couple long note, and ceasing. He was more laps just to listen, to absorb the alone, his utter solitude closing new energy, the new music. And he too was isolated, unmindful of us. Phyllis Hoge teaches in China at the That morning I carried such Beijing Language and Culture University. happiness with me that when I left the She is a member ofAlbuquerque (N.Mex.) track I didn't feel like stopping, and I Meeting. decided to continue my walk as far as

10 January 1995 FRIENDS JoURNAL by Greg Pahl t sounded intriguing, "Christocentric than trying to label the divine, we would and Universalist Friends," the title be discussing our experience of God in · ofworkshop number 11 at this year's the succeeding days. DFriends General Conference. There "The way each of us experiences God were so many other tempting workshop is different, but each experience is equally choices it was hard to make a decision, valid," Marty said at the beginning ofour but finally, after a good deal of vacilla­ second session. The group was then asked tion, I opted for what I assumed would be to think about times when things were were gging lo get to a lively exchange of differing views on a going well in our lives, and to try to controversial topic, if nothing else. I was identify what was at work or how it hap­ wrong. What actually took place was pened. Many of the responses contained something altogether different from what references to brief moments of mental I, and many of the other participants, had clarity and receptiveness to objects or expected. sensations in the immediate environment, The 22 participants represented a fairly resulting in a feeling of peaceful connec­ good cross-section of Quakerism, both tion or heightened awareness or love. Most we woull mapage geographically and philosophically. Marty of the participants noted that these mo­ Grundy, from Cleveland Heights, and ments came about on an irregular basis, ·Connie McPeak, from Painesville, Ohio, but that meditational breathing or walk­ the workshop co-leaders, began by ask­ ing exercises or even an activity such as ing us a series of questions. Did we like gardening could trigger them. cats? Did we like chocolate? And so on. The workshop then broke into small Those who answered in the affirmative groups to discuss the periods in our lives went to one side of the classroom, those when things were not going so well­ in the negative to the other side. As the when we were not in touch with God. We that picture was going to fit into the con­ questions continued, the groups shifted, were asked to consider what was at work text of the workshop. The session ended and it quickly became apparent that each during these times. When the group reas­ without any resolution of the concerns of us had our own unique set of prefer­ sembled, there was a wide range of an­ that had been raised. ences. When the last groups had formed, swers. Fear, guilt, shame, issues of con­ "We already seem to be running into Marty said, ''Now, this is the last time trol, anger, dishonesty, feelings of power­ difficulty, and we haven't even started to we'll separate ourselves by any kinds of lessness, stifled feelings, meanness, cyni­ discuss Christocentric or Universalist be­ labels." cism, isolation, lack of communication, liefs yet," I said to a Friend later in the She then asked each of us to share our conflict, and alienation were considered day. I was beginning to wonder how we favorite personal terminology for "God" the main culprits. "When I keep getting were going to manage to accomplish that with the rest ofthe group. The diversity of involved with these negative things, and I without really getting into trouble. the responses was impressive: God; Dear know I shouldn't, over and over again, I At the beginning ofthe next session, a God; Dearest God; God the Father; Awe see that God is missing," one Friend ob­ number of the workshop participants in­ ofGod; Spirit; Holy Spirit; SpiritofChrist; served. dicated that, upon reflection, they felt the Energy; Consciousness; Loving, Suffer­ At this point, another Friend expressed focus on our "dark sides" on the previous ing Companion; DNA of the Universe; confusion about the direction the work­ day had been both necessary and useful Lord; Lord Jesus Christ; Beloved Teacher; shop was taking, and failed to see the to the process. "I accept my dark side just The Divine; Transcendent Oneness; relevance of the discussion to the work­ as much as my light side. In order to heal, Ground of Our Being; Source ofAll That shop title. Another participant voiced some we need to fully explore the dark side and Is; Creative Energy; Process; Love; Good; strong discomfort with the session's em­ the hurts that are present there," one Friend Supreme Being; Higher Power; The Grand phasis on the negative, dark side of our said. The workshop continued, although Ah Ha Marty then explained that rather experiences. "It reminds me too much of many of us continued to wonder when we the rather fundamentalist religious back­ were going to get to the real heart of the Greg Pah/, a member of Middlebury (Vt.) Meeting, is on the staff at Middlebury Col­ ground I thought I'd left behind," he said. discussion. lege. His previous contributions to FRIENDs Another Friend disagreed, and felt that Connie and Marty then asked the group JOURNAL were "Beyond the Power of Myth" it was important to view "both sides ofthe to consider how each of us experienced (Dec. 1990) and "Mythology and Thee" (April coin" in order to gain a complete picture, something greater than ourselves, and how 1989). although she was also unsure just how it affected us. Once again, we broke down

FRIENDS JOURNAL January 1995 11 into smaller discussion groups. When the fourth session. "I was able to appreciate groups reassembled, there seemed to be the message that was behind the tradi­ general agreement that the simple act of tional words that used to make me feel so being still and listening tended to encour­ uncomfortable." age moments of connection. As in the Once again, we broke down into preceding days, there was a great diver­ smaller groups, this time to discuss the sity of experiences. question ofchoice . It was pointed out that Most of the participants described a we all have the option ofcontinuing along series of many small connections-see­ our normal paths, or we can intentionally ing a blue bird in a tree or a drop of tum towards God. We explored the rea­ moisture on a blade ofgrass reflecting the sons why we did or did not make that sunlight or moonlight-anything that fo­ choice at various times in our lives. Issues cused one's attention on the present mo­ of "my" will versus "God's" will were ment. Many had experienced small raised, and one major reason for not turn­ promptings at one time or another and felt ing to God was the fear that what we in touch with something beyond their nor­ would be expected to do would be diffi­ mal condition at those moments. Receiv­ cult or not what we wanted. Surrender of ing and sharing messages in meeting for control was a major issue, and becoming worship was felt to be one of the most a channel for something greater than our­ common examples. The act of sharing selves was viewed as a difficult decision our experiences with one another in the for many participants. "I had to suspend the skeptic in myself in order to see what might happen if I let go of control," a Friend recounted. "At one point, nothing felt safe, and I finally not clear on what I should do, if I wait had to say, 'O.K., I give up.' Ever since patiently for the promptings-sometimes then, I have tried to be open to what a big, sometimes small-1 eventually gain greater wisdom wants me to do-there the clarity I'm looking for." have been wonderful surprises and a great It was felt that with many leadings deal ofjoy as a result." there is a gradual build-up process from "Way will open when we get out ofthe first insight, through gathering informa­ way," another Friend observed. tion or weighing options, to the "crunch "I think I see a real sense of tenderness point" where a decision on whether to act and respect for each other developing or not has to be made. A number of the here," Marty observed at the beginning of participants noted that leadings frequently the fifth session. It was true. A feeling of do not tum out the way you had imagined. trust had also developed that allowed the It was felt that looking at "failed leadings" participants to share their experiences can also be useful, and that sometimes a without fear of being judged or labeled. Once again, we broke down into small groups to discuss our individual experiences of workshop itself was viewed as another. leadings, nudges, hunches, callings Although physical location was generally (or whatever term we felt comfort­ not felt to be a primary factor, some able with) that led to some sort of Friends related experiences that had taken personal action. place on the beach, on a mountain top, or One Friend described his deci­ while living with Native Americans. Most sion to return his draft card in the of the experiences tended to be cumula­ 1950s, an act which marked the tive in nature, although one Friend related beginning of his role as a "radical having a major, transcendent adolescent pacifist," which eventually resulted experience of light, and felt that she had in his imprisonment for a year. "I been spoken directly to by God. didn't see it as a formal leading at By the end of the third session, while the time, but it certainly was a we had shared an impressive number of major life-altering event," he said. interesting personal experiences, we had Another Friend said that her not yet discussed Christocentric and Uni­ leadings had "led to a saner way of versalist Friends. living" and improved her home "I went to a Bible-focused discussion life and parenting skills. "Learn­ group last night, and I must say that ing to let go oftight control of my yesterday's session helped me to bridge daughter was a very positive step­ the gap between different theologies," one for both her and me," she said. Friend said, before the beginning of the "When I get to a point where I'm

12 January 1995 FRJENDS JoURNAL failed leading "failed" mainly because "This sure wasn't what I expected at another participant said. "Almost every­ what you thought you were going to gain all, but I'm glad I stayed," one participant thing at the conference has seemed to tie from it does not occur, but that frequently said. "I hoped to learn more directly about in with our workshop one way or another, something ofeven greater value can come Christocentric and Universalist Friends, it's been very exciting." from the. experience. For many of the but the emphasis on individual experi­ "My struggle, but also my joy, has participants, leadings have been life-giv­ ence was a valid and useful approach." been overcoming the words that divide ing, and have helped them to find direc­ "It was a pleasant surprise to be able to us, both here in the workshop and at the tion at key moments in their lives. "To see get so deep with our sharing without all conference. I have become more com­ things actually happening as a result of a the usual labels getting in the way," an­ fortable with other people's experience leading- there's something really thrill­ other participant said. and their descriptions of them and less ing about it," another participant said. "Ifyou ignore the frrst part ofthe work­ threatened by them," another Friend said. We still hadn't discussed Christocentric shop title, I think we've done pretty well," "This has really helped me to feel the joy and Universalist Friends, and some of us another Friend commented. "The fine print of other people's experience." were beginning to wonder when it was in the Advance Program said: 'Exploring "What we've done here, sharing our going to happen. "We've only got one our common experience of the Divine, spiritual experiences, is one way to help session left- it's tomorrow or never," one moving beyond the stereotypes of words break down the artificial barriers we find participant commented as we left the class­ to a deeper understanding of our Quaker within our own meetings," another par­ room. journey,' and that's just what we've been ticipant said. On the final day of the workshop, it doing. We've been sharing our experi­ "I wanted to learn more about was time to pull all the lose threads to­ ences rather than going through an intel­ Christocentric and Universalist Friends, gether and compare what we had learned. lectual exercise, and that's made all the but what I actually learned was that I We never really did discuss Christocentric difference," he added. need to learn more about myself," an­ and Universalist Friends directly, but by "I've had a number of little insights other Friend said. "I hope to take some of this time most of the group had more or and openings that, taken together, have less figured out why. had a substantial impact on my thinking," Continued on next page

orne people carne to our work­ then, was to eschew labels and overt shop because polarization in their theology, and approach the issues ex­ meetings hampers ministry and perientially. Each person reflected on threatens to tear the meeting apart. his or her "condition"; a few disliked Some acknowledged at the end that they the negativity that surfaced. Next we had not read the description of the work­ looked to our own experiences ofwhat shop. It said: "Exploring our common or who spoke to our condition. Then experience of the Divine, moving beyond we reflected on our response. We the stereotypes of words to a deepening spoke a lot about leadings or nudges understanding of our Quaker journey. we have experienced, and what we Come prepared to suspend your disbelief, have learned as we follow or disre­ hungering for a relational experience with gard them. the Divine, expecting to be touched and We initially hoped that by listening taught by the Inward Teacher." carefully to each other's experiences, Some participants expressed disap­ we would find common threads and pointment that we did not grapple fron­ points ofcon vergence. We hoped that tally with the theological differences be­ there would be "aha! " moments when tween "Christocentric" and "universal­ one person would say to another, "Oh! ist" approaches to unprogrammed You call it that, and I have called it Quakerism. My experience with such this, and they are really the same!" grappling comes from the eight-year ex­ This is not what happened. Instead, ercise in my meeting with the issue of something/someone else carne into the same-gender marriage, in which we equation, moved among and within grappled frontally, sideways, and from us, and brought a different ending. the back. I have come to realize that is­ Each night the leaders prayed for each sues that live in our hearts and guts (or participant. Each night they held up whatever image or geography best de­ the day's work and asked for help in scribes this for you) cannot be solved or facilitating the next day's process. By resolved by the intellect alone. Issues that the middle of the week there was con­ touch us psychologically and spiritually cern because things were going so must be addressed on several levels in quietly. Nobody was expressing dis­ Marty Grundy is a member ofC leveland addition to our most creative and careful tress about the workshop, but there (Ohio) Meeting and serves on the FRIENDS thinking. JoURNAL Board ofMana gers. What we tried to do in the workshop, Continued on next page

FRIENDs JoURNAL January 1995 13 Continued from previous page vidual experiences. I had a hard time iden­ "I started the workshop with a vision tifying who was who in terms of of what I thought Friends ideally should this back to my meeting." Christocentric or Universalist beliefs." be," Marty said. "I was hoping that by "It's been very clarifying for me," an­ And that, ultimately, was the main point dispensing with labels we might eventu­ other participant said. "Hearing the indi- of the workshop. ally come around to my vision. But I've learned that my vision doesn't matter. This experience is ultimately personal, and each one is equally valid. We get stuck when we insist on labels-our la­ bels." But something else was quietly, pow­ erfully at work on this fmal day of the workshop. We had come to an experi­ ence of group unity, where all the words and differences had gently fallen away, leaving nothing but the experience... and the presence of The Spirit. "Although we've hardly mentioned the word specifically in our discussions, I feel that love was quietly at work here," Marty finally said. "I think we've gotten the message-­ why not practice love all the time?'' a Friend added. 1:1

Continued from previous page ourselves in a line along a theological I have found that the prerequisite spectrum. We realized, in that moment, for creating the space in which the were no dramatic breakthroughs, ei­ that we were all held in love, and held Spirit can work involves a letting go ther. The work had been taken out of each other in love and affection. Labels of my own desire to control the out­ the leaders' hands and was taking were irrelevant. come. It may take the form of listen­ place within each member of the We suggest this is an answer to the ing to another with a tender and open group. polarization within our meetings. The an­ heart, accepting in love, withoutjudge­ On the last day, when we were swer is not a theological formulation. It is ment, what their experience has been. trying to articulate what each of us an experience, arrived at through a pro­ It may take the form of acknowledg­ had discovered in the week, some cess. This involves an openness to some­ ing that we are powerless to craft a expressed frustration that we had not thing beyond each individual that knits us solution that will be acceptable to all. boldly confronted the issu·es and together, subtly, quietly, but in a way that At its core, the ultimate authority wrestled them into submission. Some­ is very real. It implies that perhaps we for us as Friends is our own experi­ one suggested that since even after a have been asking the wrong question, ence of something other than our con­ week of deep, personal sharing, we seeking resolution the wrong way. In fact, scious self. Early Friends described were unclear where most of us stood everyone in the group, despite initial hesi­ this as being taught by the Inward theologically, we stand up and form tation, discovered they were willing to Teacher. That, in a stark and simpli­ ourselves into a line, with "Jesus suspend their disbelief and be ''taught by fied sentence, is what Quakerism is freaks" at one end and "atheistic uni­ the Inward Teacher." People who love a about! tarians" at the other. We postponed good argument, who delight in making Or rather, that is the first motion, this exercise until everyone had had fine distinctions and drawing on a broad the starting place for Quakerism. As an opportunity to speak of what they and erudite familiarity with others' ideas, you are willing to reflect on your ex­ had learned or discovered. Then, right put this aside and listened with quiet re­ perience, and to the degree that you in the last few minutes at that final spect to each other's experience. yearn to move toward increasing these session, we experience unity. This is We spoke very little of unconditional experiences, you will move deeper what Barry Morley writes about in love. Instead, participants were demon­ into the possibilities that Quakerism his Pendle Hill pamphlet, Beyond strating it. As we listened, tenderly and offers. In the final analysis, Quaker­ Consensus: Salvaging Sense of the respectfully, we discovered a great deal ism is not a head trip. It is an experi­ Meeting. This is the root Quaker ex­ of affection for each other. Through the ential, whole-life, heart trip. It is con­ perience upon which all else is based. safety and trust built among us, individu­ firmed and moves forward by mo­ It was very quiet, very unspectacular. als accepted affirmation and validation of ments of unity when Friends, as a If we hadn't spoken of it, we might . their experiences. There were many small group, experience being melded and not even have noticed. Our differ­ and treasured moments when someone melted into a community that is more ences disappeared. We were united. would come to understand their own ex­ than just a group of people. We are in We did not want to label and arrange periences in a new way. the presence of God. 0

14 January 1995 fRIENDS JOURNAL Some Advice From John Woolman on Meeting for Business

by Michael Birkel

e other traveling ministers in his ness and proper weight on our minds to speak, ay, John Woolman attended his it behooves us to avoid useless apologies and share of business meetings. After repetitions. Where people are gathered from attending:u a couple of particularly long­ afar, and adjourning a meeting of business winded gatherings in the fall of 1758, he attended with great difficulty, it behooves us all to be cautious how they detain a meeting, recorded astute observations in his Jour­ especially when they have sat six or seven nal. When he writes in his unassuming, hours and a good way to ride home. even understated style, "Here I had occa­ sion to consider," he leaves it up to read­ hnagine how it feels to others. ers' imagination and memory of their own In three hundred minutes are five hours, and experiences at business meeting to fill in he that improperly detains three hundred the gap-and perhaps to groan. It's hardly people one minute, besides other evils that a satisfying endeavor to try to reduce attend it, does an injury like that of imprison­ Woolman's wisdom to rules of thumb, ing one man five hours without cause. After pure witness but we might summarize his points. (All this meeting I rode home. passages are quoted from Phillips That fmal sentence, coming as it does within us Moulton's edition of The Journal and after "I had occasion to consider" and "a Major Essays ofJohn Woolman, Oxford, good way to ride home," again reveals 1971.) Woolman's mastery of understatement­ is reached and invites us to take solace in this candid Know whereof you speak, and disclosure that even the saints had their speak from the center rather limits with windy Friends. we are open t:haD from preconceived notions. But there were other business meet­ Each of these Quarterly Meetings were large ings as well, many in which John and sat near eight hour. Here I had occasion to Woolman was led to take the unpopular to spiritual consider that it is a weighty thing to speak side in a controversial issue. He gave much in large meetings for business. First, except our minds are rightly prepared and we literally decades of his life to the cause of growth, ready clearly understand the case we speak to;in­ ending slavery, particularly slave holding stead of forwarding, we hinder business and by his fellow Quakers. He labored to bring make more labor for those on whom the bur­ yearly meetings to clearness on the evils to receive den of the work is laid. of slavery and, when it finally came, to minute that clearness. When the English Speak with economy, atten~ and French exported their rivalries to the what to us more to the matter at hand thail North American continent during the to yourself as speaker. Seven Year's War, he opposed the pay­ is new truth. If selfish views or a partial spirit have any ment of war taxes, which was certainly a room in our minds, we are unfit for the Lord's minority view among Friends at that time. work. If we have a clear prospect of the busi- So John Woolman often went to busi­ ness meetings anticipating conflict. As a Michael Birkel is a member of Clear Creek result, he had a few things to say about Meeting, Richmond, Indiana. such conflict, and here his advice is timely:

FRIENDS JOURNAL January 1995 15 Don't pretend the conflict isn't are enlarged in love and our minds are DELAWARE VALLEY there. purified to understand the true nature of FRIENDS SCHOOL To see the failings of our friends, and think righteousness. As Friends, we believe the Morris & Montgomery Avenues hard of them, without opening that which we Spirit of God can lead us into truth and Bryn Mawr, Pa. ought to open, and still cany the face offriend­ unity, when we are truly open. We can For Students with ship-this tends to undermine the foundation become bearers of that truth for one an­ Learning Differences of true unity. other, but this is a delicate task If we feel Value real comrmmity. led to be such bearers, particularly on College preparatory, Grades 7-12 controversial matters where there is not Summer School Like his contemporaries, Woolman unity, then we must speak in a way that Come to·an Open House placed a great value on community. The invites genuine listening. 526-9595 for info & video, community was where the leadings ofthe "Learning with a Difference" Holy Spirit were discerned. True ministry Humility and charity work best. arises from the center but happens only in John Woolman was not the only Friend community: one's ministry begins in one's 0 in his day opposed to slavery. He knew of own community and from there travels others whose harangues against Quaker out, with the blessing of the home com­ slave holders had little effect in changing munity. Even when Woolman had to wait them. Woolman seems to hint at such for most of the rest of Quakerism to catch when he writes: up with him on many controversial is­ • m~ac;e C<:flClpcaces sues, he continued to believe that the gath­ If such who were at times under sufferings on account of some scruples of conscience kept • aw3.120s ·lt25Cfllpctons • ered body open to divine guidance was low and humble and in their conduct mani­ • e1llef2 announcemencs • the place where wisdom becomes incar­ fested a spirit of true charity, it would be more • Cjfl<:eClfXj Ca£b beSl(jnS • nate. He cared enough for his own com­ likely to reach the witness in others, and be of • 1t2VIcaG1005 • SCJlOLLS • munity-the Society of Friends-to seek more service in the church, than iftheir suffer­ patiently to teach it. He was not the sort of ings were attended with a contrary spirit and .:llanzt:f:TI11resr purist who chose schism and separatism conduct. 609-786-JSZ+ as the solution to a community that does It has been my experience at some not always live up to its ideals. 0 meetings for business that some Friends were so zealous to be at the cutting edge Keep your eye sine;le to of Quakerism that they didn't seem to righteousness, not seli-image or mind who got cut off along the way. One pathway to peace self-righteousness. Other Friends were engaged in an honest leads right through the Purity was a focal concern for John searching of their souls, which is not a halls of Congress Woolman, but it was not a purity that hasty business. Zeal is not always known worried most of all about keeping his for its patience, and there were some un­ own hands clean. Instead, he believed in kind grumblings and accusations of stall­ a profound connectedness of things and ing and maneuvering. Although my per­ that he was in fact tainted by the injustices sonal stand on the controversial issue lay A6k how you can h~lp of the world. But this did not lead to a more with the progressive party, it hurt to brinf1 Fri~nd6' conc~rn for paralyzing guilt. It led him instead to fo­ p~ac~ and ju6tic~ to Capitol Hill watch seasoned Friends, who were still cus on those injustices and how to play a struggling to find their way, treated in an FRmNDSCO~EONNKnONALLEG~LKnON role in bringing about their transforma­ unvalued manner. 245 Second Street N.E. Washington, D.C. 20002-5795 tion. The great thing about this focus, this singleness of vision, is that it freed him Righteousness and love are from self-righteousness-that enormous inseparable. temptation for the morally sensitive. Just For John Woolman, justice and right­ Let us design your newsletter, as a misplaced concern for appearances eousness are what love ofGod and neigh­ brochure, or letterhead! can tempt us to ignore and avoid conflict, bor look like. They are the shape that love so likewise an overgrown concern for our takes when it is lived out. When we allow --We produce quality type.-- individual appearance as a good person ourselves to be touched by the Spirit of ----We're flexible.---- can pose a significant obstacle to resolv­ God, "a tenderness of heart is felt toward ----We'll help.---- ing differences and arriving at unity. all people, even such who as to outward --WE'RE AFFORDABLE.-- circumstances may be to us as the Jews - We're experieneed.- Strive to reach the pure witness were to the Samaritans." When our con­ in others. cern for justice and righteousness is firmly FRIENDS JOURNAL John Woolman used the expression grounded in universal love, we can stay Typesetting and Design "the pure witness" to refer to what many centered in that love when controversy attn: Kenneth Sutton modem Friends call "the Inner Light." arises in business meetings. A measure of 1501 Cherry Street When the pure witness within us is the universality of John Woolman's love Philadelphia, PA 19102-1497 'If 215.241.7282 reached, we are open to spiritual growth, is that he was able to love those whom it is ready to receive what to us is new truth. often hardest to love: those fellow Quak­ In the language of Woolman, our hearts ers with whom he strongly disagreed. 1:1

16 JanU£lry 1995 FRIENDS JOURNAL Restorative I by Carole Hope Depp

• Quality care in the Quaker tradition. neezing, coughing, a fever! I can't believe this is happening to me! I • 42 apartments for independent liv­ Stake good care of myself, eat well, ing, 60 private personal care rooms, get lots ofrest, and am conscientious about 120 nursing home beds. fresh air and exercise. How could I be • Peace of mind. Supportive medical sick? and social services throughout your First, denial: This can't happen to me. stay. Next, anger: How dare this happen to me! And then, reluctantly, acceptance: I feel • An active lifestyle in a beautiful, terrible! graceful setting. About the fourth day into the flu and • Meals, housekeeping, transporta­ cancellation of all plans for the week, tion, cultural and social activities. with time on my hands, I began to wonder what might be the lesson I was meant to • A history of caring since 1904. learn from this experience. Could it be that I had less control over my life than I thought? Did I need another reminder Stapeley In Germantown 6300 Greene Street that I take my usual good health too much Philadelphia, PA 19144 for granted? Do I have more difficulty accepting illness than others because I am Call Carol Nemeroff one of the thirty million persons living in Admissions Director this country without health insurance? (215) 844-{)700 When our daughter was born eleven years ago, I chose to give up my career in order needed reminding. Illness is a brush with to stay at home with her and to advance mortality and our ultimate lack of control my husband's and my plans to live more over life and death. Small classes, strong simply in accordance with our con­ My week-long bout with the flu slowed FRIENDS academics in a sciences. My husband chose to retire early me down. I had ample opportunity for SELECT supportive, caring two years ago so that we could live on reflection, reading, and writing in myjour­ SCHOOL environment less than a taxable income in order to nal. Gradually I entered the recovery emphasizing Quaker avoid paying for our government's vio­ phase. I could go out again. A trip to the values. lence and militarism. While living in grocery store was a big event! Reentry • Pre-K thru 12th greater peace with our consciences has and a fresh perspective. ' ' Day School been a blessing, living without health in­ Weeks later while reading a book about e • After School Program surance can be a source of anxiety at crime and justice, by Howard Zehr, I • Summer Day Camp times. Perhaps my health and well-being began to realize that my experience with 17th & the Parkway were more a matter of fate than careful illness was not only about power and Philadelphia, PA planning. The realization struck like light­ control but also about justice. Because I (215) 561-5900 ening that anyone could at anytime be hit lived a healthy lifestyle, I not only ex­ with catastrophe far beyond her power pected good health, I also believed I de­ and control. served good health. That was what the A sobering thought and a humbling anger was all about. Zehr's book refreshed Educational excellence one: I can take the best possible care of my memory that the Bible is full ofstories myself and still not avoid illness and ad­ where God is merciful and does not give for over 200 years versity. Anything can happen at any mo­ the individuals what they deserve (such ment. While I may be wise to lead a as in Cain's case, where the usual death healthy lifestyle, I am wiser yet to be penalty was not applied to murder). I aware of my limitations. How foolish I knew that none of us should hope to get was to think I could control illness and what we deserve considering our poten­ health. I can appreciate good health when tial for love and kindness and how miser­ I have it and can accept ill health when it ably short we fall of that potential. happens. This was a lesson of which I Finally, the lesson was complete. I am sick not because I deserve it, and recover A past clerk of Richmond (Va.) Meeting, not because I deserve recovery; but be­ 110 East Main Street, Moorestown, NJ Carole Depp is currently an attender at cause a power beyond my power is in 609-23>2900 ext. 227 Ashland (Va.) Preparative Meeting. control. 0

FRIENDS JOURNAL January 1995 17 Witness Is Prison Ministry for You? by Jack Fogarty

or centuries Quakers have been involved prisoners to another in prisons, both inside and out. Many way oflooking at them­ Findividuals in Philadelphia and Balti­ selves and others. This more Yearly Meetings do prison visitation, is the Alternatives to teach, or are othetwise employed in correc­ Violence Project or tional institutions. As one example, for over a A VP, as it is called. decade Baltimore Friends have held a regular This project started in Monday night Quaker meeting for worship at New York Yearly the Patuxent Institution in Jessup, Maryland, Meeting and is spread­ and have just started another one at the Mary­ ing. The A VP 20-hour land Correctional Institution-Jessup (MCI-J). 20-prisoner weekend Participants in these services have come from workshops are done in Sandy Spring, Homewood, Adelphi, Gunpow­ Goochland, Virginia, der, Annapolis, Pipe Creek, and Frederick and in three Baltimore­ meetings. Two meetings are being held area prisons. Volun­ monthly at the Eastern Correctional Institu­ teers go through the A VP training, plus a the criminals. Long sentences are only vindic­ tion near Salisbury, Maryland, by Salisbury training-for-trainers session, before running tive and diminish a person's ability to recover Friends Meeting, which is part of Philadel­ the in-prison workshops. The goal of A VP is life in the "real world." True, the young will phia Yearly Meeting. Frederick and Pipe Creek to bolster prisoner self-image and present new age before they get out-and that helps-but Friends regularly visit at MCI-Hagerstown as ways to avoid confrontation. Often this is the at $55 a day per prisoner, we surely ought to well. In 1994 the Committee on Criminal and first time a prisoner has considered anything do more than warehouse human beings! The Restorative Justice was officially established except belligerence! United States has the highest per capita num­ in Baltimore Yearly Meeting to encourage Many prisoners have no one to visit them. ber of its citizens behind bars ofany country, monthly meetings to become more active in Consider joining the Prisoner Visitation and and most corrections professionals agree this prison ministry and social justice in their areas. Support organization. Quaker Lake (Va.) is not the way to "correct" people. Write to Quaker prison ministry can take many Friends have adopted the death row prisoners your government officials and local newspa­ forms. For a Quaker meeting to be established at Mechlinburg Prison. Too much? Perhaps pers suggesting alternatives to incarceration. in a prison, the prisoners themselves must you'd be willing to spendjust Christmas morn­ How do you feel about the death penalty? Let request it. A prison is a noisy place for "si­ ing in jail with the Holiday Project team in them know! lent" worship, but once they're used to the your city. On a lesser note, the Friends House Often prison officials wish they were bet­ idea, prisoners seem to appreciate a time of (retirement community) in Sandy Spring, ter known in their community. Check on the quiet. Yes, a prison can be scary the first time Maryland, donates their old magazines to a possibility of "field trips" to correctional fa­ those iron gates and bars close behind you, nearby detention center. cilities for your scout troop or high school but as a volunteer you're welcomed by men Meetings can actively assist released pris­ social studies class. (Security considerations (and women) who need contact with people oners adjusting to a world in which they have always rule.) "on the street." to make their own decisions after existing in a Talk about what you and your meeting can Holding a meeting for worship is certainly regulated environment. Four Baltimore-area do to continue this tradition of Quaker activ­ not the only way you can help. Volunteers are meetings assisted one member in making the ism for better handling of our criminal "jus­ often needed as classroom teachers, librar­ transition and are considering two others as tice" system. As you can tell by now, I would ians, and tutors, as the literacy rate is apt to be their sentences wind down. "Support" can be like to convince monthly meetings to develop low in a prison population. Are you good at limited financial backing and/or providing re­ a relationship with a prison near you. Want to mediation? Counseling? Listening? Many source persons to help parolees find suitable do something about crime? Get to know a prisoners were abused as children, sexually living arrangements and employment. Volun­ criminal! Bring a Quaker viewpoint to those and othetwise. They may need a group facili­ teer at the Offender Restoration and Support who may not have heard of non-violence. If tator-Qr just a good listener! Are you a law­ facility in your area. you would like to make a real difference in yer willing to put in some "pro bono" time? A more distant but still personal contact is lives, perhaps prison ministry is for you. 0 Call the Volunteer Coordinator in your local writing to those behind bars. Names (and "correctional" facility to see how you can numbers) may be obtained from those who For more prisoner support information, help. are involved in direct visitation, but who are contact: Yes, violence is frequently a way of life not able to be "pen pals" to everyone who • A VP-USA, P.O. Box 2974, Liverpool, NY for those caught in the loop ofcrime, but there needs it. As always, you don't need to prom­ 13089-2974, telephone: (315) 453-7311 is a Quaker program designed to introduce ise more than you want to fulfill-these people • PrisonerVisitationandSupport, 1501 Cherry will get out someday. Street, Philadelphia, PA 19102, telephone Jack Fogarty is co-clerk of Sandy Spring And moving along to the social justice (215) 241-7117 (Md.) Meeting 's Prison Committee, and co­ arena, legislators must be educated that "lock • Criminal and Restorative Justice Commit­ ·clerkofBaltimore Yearly Meeting's Criminal 'em up and throw away the key" practices are tee, c/o Baltimore Yearly Meeting, 17100 and Restorative Justice Committee. expensive for taxpayers and not corrective for Quaker Lane, Sandy Spring, MD 20860

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IntennolUltain Yearly Bales, a Friend from the pastoral tradition and cofounder ofthe Friends ofJesus Community Meeting in Wichita, Kansas. He stated that reconcilia­ For 20 years Friends scattered throughout tion is the key to community. To be success­ the Southwestern United States have gath­ ful we must be "knit to each other and knit to ered to reconnect and support one another the Lord." He invited us to reconcile our faith under the care of Intermountain Yearly through action as exemplified by the radical Meeting. Jesus. As we anticipate the FWCC Triennial In years past we have grappled with issues in New Mexico, hear about current AFSC which have tested our endurance and our com­ concerns, and learn more about the Peace mitment and which left us at once energized Team Project, our sense of community takes and exhausted from the struggle to overcome on world-wide proportions. personal agendas and rightly honor that of We challenged ourselves to articulate the God in each of us. core ofour beliefs in undertaking the crafting Challenged to explore the theme of"Liv­ of our own "Faith and Practice." We are hum­ ing the Community of Faith," in Durango, bly drawn to this adventure, while some of us Colorado, June 15-19,1994, we approached fear that the printed words of"Faith and Prac­ our time together in a spirit of acceptance and tice" will hinder continuing revelation. Ours healing. Striving to understand "community" is a community of wide-ranging individuals, Eric Wright leads singing at in all its forms, we sought spiritual connec­ and we cherish the diversity of our spiritual Intermountain Yearly Meeting. tion to the Light as individuals and as a corpo­ foundations, even as we grieve the absence of rate body, recognizing our hunger for guid­ some familiar faces in this year of our recon­ and address the increasing problem of mid- ance from the "still, small voice." We looked ciliation. 20s dropout. We are enriched by them all. at communities ranging from personal to lo­ Through it all the children remained moti­ May we hear the call when it comes and cal to global in all their intimacy and vulner­ vated and have inspired us with fun, including heed it with vigor. May we choose to make a ability. We have heretofore trusted one an­ time for Messy Games for all ages. Senior difference. May we never forget to nurture other to come together in meaningful spiritual Young Friends report an increasing attention one another, even as we are ourselves nur­ connection, but this year we approached one to matters of the Light. They also considered tured by that of God in our hearts. another with a new tenderness born of recon­ the development of a new, older group of ciliation and the grace of God. Young Friends that would facilitate the tran­ -Bill and Genie Durland, Co-clerks We welcomed our guest speaker, Dorian sition ofS enior Young Friends to adult Friends (Reprinted from Friends Bulletin, Sept. 1994)

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FRIENDS JOURNAL January 1995 19 DISCOVER QUAKER PHILADELPHIA Two-hour walking tours of William Penn's original city of brotherly love, in honor of Penn's 350th birthday. North Pacific Yearly paying for war with our taxes; backing for the Send a SASE for schedule to: QUAKER Code of Conduct for Arms Transfers Act as a TOURS, Box 1632, Media, PA 19063. Meeting first step in halting the international arms trade; and a minute challenging us to find a North Pacific Yearly Meeting gathered for "Loving Response to Hostility toward Homo­ our 22nd annual session, held in Corvallis, sexual People." Seeing on-going campaigns Oregon, July 14-17, 1994. During these four to establish legal discrimination based on Washington, D.C. is Affordable days we created a colorful mural of hands that sexual orientation, accompanied by escalat­ at William Penn House attested to the presence of 304 adults, 60 ing violence against sexual minorities, we Enjoy simple lodging on Capitol Junior Friends, and 71 children. It also re­ acknowledge our own tendency to "match Hill. A short walk to the Capitol, minded us that ''there are no hands but ours to this energy" by reacting negatively; but we Supreme Court, Library of Con­ do God's work." assert that all violence separates us from our­ The theme of our gathering was from selves, from God, and from each other. As gress. Groups welcomed. Breakfast Micah 6:8-"Dojustice, love mercy, and walk Friends, we seek a response that arises from included. humbly with your God: turning faith into ac­ the Light within and cares for the human tion." Our Friend in residence, Mary Garman, dignity of all people affected by conflict. Public Policy Seminars challenged us to know, understand. and re­ We have sensed a growing spirit of will­ Your meeting or school group can claim the concept of righteousness. Through ingness to work toward unity. Our annual meet with government officials, lob­ poetry and heroic stories she demonstrated session has challenged us with new possibili­ byists, diplomats, activists, and that righteousness, justice, and peace are part ties for turning our faith into action. Our charge members of Congress to discuss is­ of Creation. She cautioned us to differentiate is to be faithful, even if we are not successful sues of concern to you. between righteousness and self-righteousness, by worldly standards. noting that it is frequently the marginalized - Marge Abbott, Clerk William Penn House and afflicted who call us back into right rela­ (Reprinted from Friends Bulletin, Sept. 1994) 515 East Capitol Street SE tionship with others and with the Divine. Washington, DC 20003 After two years of prayerful consideration and seasoning, the Mulling-Over Committee Northwest Yearly Meeting (202) 543-5560 forwarded proposals for changes in yearly meeting structure allowing our Steering Com­ of Friends Church mittee to focus on the spiritual well-being of "Communion with God" was the theme of meetings. We hope the modification will al­ Northwest Yearly Meeting ofFriends Church, low more effective nurturing and communi­ as over 500 Friends met July 24-29, 1994, for cation among our 40 widely scattered meet­ the 102nd annual session at George Fox Col­ ings, preparative meetings, and worship lege in Newberg, Oregon. In addition, about groups, as well as isolated Friends in five 150 high school Friends and children met in states. separate locations. Concern for our young people continues Although membership in Northwest Yearly to be expressed in the State of Society reports Meeting has decreased from an 8,000 high to and in plenary sessions. Our intergeneration the current 6,200, there has been a marked worship-sharing continued this year. Junior shift and growth taking place primarily in Friends have representatives on the Mulling­ Newberg, Portland, and West Hills, Oregon. over Committee and Steering Committee, but This is partly due to the vigorous youth and we must remain mindful that inclusion of young adult programs of the last ten years. Junior Friends is an on-going process. Elders of each church select middle school FUND RAISING Prior to annual session, Donna Sweeney, students of promise for an intensive confer­ * Annual Fund ence on Friends history, beliefs, testimonies, * Capital Campaigns Quaker educator, gave a workshop of Quaker * Major Gifts/Planned Giving religious education for children. She encour­ the Bible, and the central place of Jesus. Each aged us to meet children where they are, using student has an adult mentor who helps coun­ MANAGEMENT stories, games, and exercises to help children sel. This is a serious program, but does not * Strategic Planning discover their own inner wisdom. Through­ replace "fun" or service weekends. One can­ * Organizational Assessment out the gathering she provided skillful leader­ not but be impressed with the enthusiasm of *Marketing ship with the various age groups. Her work these young people who sat attentively during Currently serving Midwest, Southeast touched our hunger for a deeper ability to the two-hour evening services that featured and East Coast clients. nourish our children's spiritual lives. Calvin Miller, Baptist teacher and writer, This year's presentation by a Quaker or­ whose amusing stories and homilies held his ganization was led by the AFSC regional audience spell-bound. HENRY B. executive director, Judith Kolokoff, and a Another highlight ofNWYM was the par­ panel from the Gay and Lesbian Youth Pro­ ticipation of members in daily meetings of FREEMAN gram. Participating young people brought a boards and workshops. Boards include edu­ human face and experience to the debate on cation, evangelism, stewardship, missions, Consulting gay rights. They introduced the work of Lam­ social concerns, ministerial service with com­ 713 S.W. 15th Street bert House, a place of safety, fellowship, and mission on media, family life, and ethnic min­ Richmond, Indiana 47374 support for gay youth. istries. Thirty-six workshops covered a wide 317-983-1578 We approved minutes on three concerns: spectrum from an update on Evangelical Over 20 years experience with Quaker organizations support for the U.S. Peace Tax Fund Bill, Friends Missions, relations among pastors, which would provide a legal alternative to elders, and the congregation, to death as a

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Through the life and have already sent $15,000 for relief of the power of the spirit, identified by George Fox suffering. as "even one, Christ Jesus," she continued, Qv.u£11 RrniiEMENT REsiDENCE Friends lamented the demise of the Evan­ "we are enabled to return to the harmony of IOOyeors Reasonable Rates gelical Friend. Fear was expressed that the the garden. We now find •an things new,' ofcoring Not (or Pro(t new eight-page newsletter would not be able (Rev), a renewed creation of closeness to PersondCore to include expression of concern and articles God." Cofl\oenient to Shops and Businesses on issues facing Friends today. By deepening its spirituality and asking 400 NorthWalnut Street The yearly meeting includes one or two itself what it can do to make its witness more WestChester,PA 19380 (610)696-1536 Spanish-speaking churches; but there were effective and more deeply rooted in faith, the few Hispanic members in attendance, except Renewal Committee told us the yearly meet­ <'·' the two Friends from Bolivia, and no English­ ing might be renewed. They went on to con­ Spanish interpretation was provided. clude that the only way to renew the yearly Some Friends from Northwest and Pacific meeting is for each individual, each monthly yearly meetings met privately to review the meeting, each regional, quarterly, and half­ ~~ - 1992 Western Gathering and share their vi­ yearly meeting, and each committee through­ \ ~/ '>! rx sion for the future of relationships. These out the yearly meeting to rededicate itself to Healing is no.} tile ~e os treating or included a ministry of joint intervisitation, a revitalization. ., toration or western hospitality directory, literature ex­ A young Friend reminded us that children curing-he~lingi'iine- change, and participation in the 1995 annual and young adults are an essential part of re­ return to:wholeness andresulls in a " meeting of FWCC, Section of the Americas newal. Their nurture and inclusion are vital. balllnced life. in Portland, and the Women's Theological In gardening, one of the greatest chanenges to \ Group conference in Newberg, Oregon, June a new plant seeking the sun's light is that The';i/e4'"" " i oumal pr vides a 8-11 , 1995. other more developed plants may inadvert­ forum tor healthcare profe\Sionals -RobertS. Vogel ently get in the way, blocking the natural process of the new plant's growth cycle. We and patients to dialogue thtough New York Yearly Meeting see our youth and children as a reminder of art, poetry~ profiles and "~nal the presence of the Spirit in an our efforts to essays about illness ex~riences. Four hundred and eighty adults and 169 live more spiritual lives. Many of us find children gathered for the 299th session of great joy through the renewal of family rela­ \ Winner of a 1993 Brorl JAward ~ New York Yearly Meeting July 24-30, 1994, tionships and the inter-generational nature of ·,·., /-l i at Silver Bay on Lake George, N.Y. ., ..· ~ yearly meeting, where participants of an ages . reore infor-mation, or if you '; Our keynote speaker, Marlene Morrison worship, work, and play together. w . the Healing Pedigo of the Chicago Fellowship of Friends, l ifik~ ~~~ceive f During the past 17 years, as we have la­ Jo~ nal ($30/1 year), wr·.te to: brought us a message of renewal through bored over revision of "Faith and Practice," Christ as the seed. Referring to her childhood sessions have sometimes been stormy. This on an Iowa farm, she reminded us of the slow year, we, as the branches of the vine, have growth ofseeds in darkness underground. We borne good fruit. This has required patient try to remember this process in all of our cultivation. The Practice section was approved meetings. A Friend introduced us to the idea in 1987, and this year the yearly meeting has of "pointless significance": Our process is approved an parts of the Faith section; most CREMATION mysterious, full of seemingly pointless mo­ for final reading. The parts of the Faith sec­ Friends are reminded that the ments whose significance is only later uncov­ tion on Covenant relationships and Children ered. And just as plants grow in the garden, Anna T. Jeanes Fund were given preliminary approval. Although will reimburse cremation costs. we need the light of Jesus, a theme brought we have reached a sense of the meeting, we (Applicable to members of forth by Noel Palmer of Westbury (N.Y.) have often grieved during this process, and Philadelphia Yearly Meeting only.) Meeting, during opening worship. Noel also some Friends stin feel not heard. We pray that For Information, write or telephone asked us what it meant to be friends of Jesus. from this pain may come new growth. SANDY BATES "Henceforth I call you not servants, but SJSO Knox Slreet Philadelphia, PA I 9144 friends." (John 15: 15) The light of Jesus is -George Rubin, Clerk fRIENDS J OURNAL January 1995 21 WilHam Penn's 350th anniver­ Make friends, sary and continuing legacy was Make music celebrated in Philadelphia, Pa., at on Oct. 22, 1994, with a day full of activities. Beginning with morning worship at the historic Arch Street Friends Meetinghouse, over 577 Friends from as far away as North Caro­ Music Camp lina, Oregon, Canada, England, and ages 10-18 Japan then assembled and began a July 9-August 6 Penn's at Barnesville, Ohio Landing events For brochure, write: aHracted a FMC, P.O.Box 427, crowd of Yellow Springs, Ohio 45387 3,000-4,000 Phone 513-767-1311 or 513-767-1818 people (above). Children helped lead a procession ::; through the r?-. streets of t' Philadelphia ~ (left). ~ Q 0 ~

procession through the streets of Philadelphia stroyed. Neither have flood insurance. As a to Penn's Landing. Leading the procession result, Live Oak's meeting for business on was a banner stating Penn's guiding prin­ Oct. 23, 1994, established a Flood Victims ciple, "Let us then try what love will do." The Fund. The meeting also contributed $200 to Arch Street Meetinghouse location featured each to provide them with immediate cash. historical and information displays, video and Messages of support have been arriving from slide presentations, music, dancing, a drama­ throughout the United States, and, thanks to tization of "The Trial of William Penn and donations from individuals and area meet­ 1851 Quakerdale has William Mead," and arts and crafts. Penn's ings, the Flood Victims Fund totaled $4,360 history, vision and Christian values to strengthen Landing events attracted a larger crowd, esti­ as of Nov. 14. Meeting members immedi­ youth and their families. mated at 3,000-4,000 people. Here activities, ately formed work crews to help with the Treatment services encourage exhibitions, entertainment, and displays fea­ flood clean-up, and the homeowners want to positive change for teens and tured Penn's contributions and how his vision rebuild. Another result of the flooding was the their families, empowering them has impact on us today. In addition, many cancellation of a weekend retreat with San to face the furure with hope. Quaker and peace-related organizations were Antonio (Tex.) Meeting. Apparently the road For information on how you can represented at information booths. One of the leading to the site was under water! Those help build Quakerdale~ afternoon's highlights came during Quaker wishing to contribute to the Flood Victims endowment for the 21st cenrury singer Susan Stark's performance, when ac­ Fund may send checks, made out to "Live and to see the video "If I Only tors portraying William and Hannah Penn Oak Friends Meeting," to the meeting at I 003 Had A Chance" call or write: arrived on Philadelphia's tall ship, "Gazela." Alexander St., Houston, TX 77008. (From Donna Lawler Quaker poets, musicians, actors, and story­ The Acorn, November 1994, and Mel Boeger) Q (Phone 515-497-5294) tellers also participated at other locations Quakerdale &x 8 New Providence, IA 50286 throughout the Philadelphia area and in meet­ Alternatives to Violence training is in Mi­ ings throughout the world ami, Fla., thanks to the dedicated work of Friends on the A VP ad hoc subcommittee of Live Oak (Tex.) Meeting is coming to the Peace and Social Concerns in Miami (Fla.) JOURNEY'S END FARM CAMP Is a farm devoted to children for sessions of two to aid of members hurt by flooding in the Meeting. The programs were filled to capac­ eight weeks each summer. Farm animals, garden­ Houston, Tex., area. The good news is that no ity when 22 people participated in the Oct. 7- Ing, nature, ceramics, shop. Nonviolence, simplic­ Live Oak Meeting members were injured or 9 training, and 16 people attended the Oct. 14- Ity, reverence for nature are emphasized in our program centered in the life of a Quaker farm killed. The bad news includes severe property 16 train-the-trainer module. The effort received family. For thirty-two boys and girls, 7-12 years. damage and the loss of several homes. When excellent financial support from the commu­ Welcome all races. the San Jacinto River swelled beyond its banks nity, with adequate monies raised to cover all CARL & KRISTIN CURTIS in mid-October, one member' s home disap­ expenses, food, and planning for a future event. Box 136, NEWFOUNDLAND, PA 18445 peared, swept away in the cresting water. A Stephen Angell, from New York Yearly Meet­ Phone: (717) 689-7552; 3911 neighboring member saw the house she built ing, co-facilitated the workshops. (From herself completely flooded and virtually de- Quaker Quarterly, Fal/1994)

22 January 1995 FRIENDS JOURNAL .. Bulletin Board --

•"Simple Riches: Reflections on the Work of information, contact Personnel Dept., AFSC, The Quaker Parent," is the title of the 25th 1501 Cherry St., Philadelphia, PA 19102, tele­ ~l!~r.~--:-. HAVERfORD ~ annual Quaker Lecture in Florida, sponsored phone (215) 241-7295. (From the Fa//1994 by Southeastern Yearly Meeting, Jan. 15- 16. Peace Resource Center Newsletter) 851 Lane Pre-Sdiool-Grade VI Judy and Denis Nicholson Asselin, members Haverl"ord, PA Coeducational of Westtown (Pa.) Meeting, will be the fea­ •The 1995 Transcontinental USA Peace Walk (610~2-ill540PEN HOUSE Extended Day tured speakers for this Michener Lecture and is being organized to mark the 50th anniver­ Seminar at the Orlando (Fla.) Meetinghouse. sary of the nuclear age and the nuclear bomb­ Wednesday,February 1, 9:00-ll:OOam In addition, "A 'Kids Care for Everything and ing of Hiroshima and Nagasaki, Japan. The Friends School is devoted exclusively to Everyone' Seminar for Children ages 4-14" nine-month trek across the United States vis­ elementary education with an erniiJ.asis on will be lead by Jean Michener Nicholson, iting military bases and weapons centers will academic excellence and Quakec values daughter ofDwight and Ardis Michener whose protest the continued preparations for con­ memorial fund is subsidizing the event. Sug­ ventional, nuclear, and space wars. Begin­ gested donations include $4 for lunch, $3 for ning at the Trinity Atom Bomb Test Site in the lecture, and $3 per session for the seminar. New Mexico on March 30, the walkers will To register, contact Cathy Gaskill, P.O. proceed to Los Alamos, Colorado Springs, VERMONT Box 93, Windermere, FL 34786, telephone U.S. Space Command, and various centers of (407) 876-2191. the Pentagon's high-tech global war machine. Adventure The group will then split, with some partici­ • Does your meeting have an established prac­ pants heading east and ending their journey at The Farm & Wilderness summer camps tice regarding "caring for the dead and be­ Cape Canavaral, and the other walkers head­ offer challenging adventures for children reaved?" Monadnock (N.H.) Meeting would ing west to visit areas including Nevada Test ages 9-17 in a nurturing atmosphere. like to know. The meeting, now having a Sites and Vandenberg Air Force Base. For Farming, canoeing, hiking, swimming, meetinghouse and a plot of land, has ap­ more information, contact "Hope From the work projects & crafts are offered on un­ pointed a committee to explore the possibility Ashes," P.O. Box 7061, Santa Cruz, CA spoiled lakes deep in the Green Moun­ of more specific care and nurturance, records, 95061. (From the May 1994 New Zealand tains, 54 years under Quaker leadership. advanced directives, and possibly a burial Friends Newsletter) Write or call Linda M. Berry, ground. The committee is asking other meet­ Farm& ings who, through experience and practice, Wilderness, may have information and advices to share. Calendar HCR 70, Contact Friends Care for Their Own Dead Box 27, Committee, Monadnock Monthly Meeting, JANUARY Plymouth, 300A Lehtenen Rd., Peterborough, NH 03458. 5-9-Evangelical Friends International-North VT 05056 America Region Annual Session, Wichita, Kans. (802) • Friends for Lesbian and Gay Concerns Contact John Williams, 5350 · Broadmoor Circle, 422-3761 (FLGC) will meet in Philadelphia, Pa., Feb. NW, Canton, OH 44709, telephone (216) 493- 17- 20, for their annual midwinter gathering. 1660. This year's theme, "A Joyful Visitation of the 6-14-Australia Yearly Meeting, Hobart, Adelaide Spirit. . . ·Called to Be Queer," will be ad­ Hills, Australia. Contact Topsy Evans, Box 119, N. dressed by keynote speakers Judy Williams Hobart 7002, Tasmania, Australia, telephone 002- and Ron Mattson. In addition to worship and 349055. fellowship, the weekend will include busi­ 29-1995 "Souper Bowl," an effort to raise money Oakwood School ness sessions, consideration of bisexuality as for the hungry and homeless. Begun in 1990 by a it relates to the FLGC community and name, Presbyterian Youth Fellowship group in Colum­ and a panel of Friends whose ministries focus bia, S.C., the idea is for church youth to collect one Grades 7-12 and Postgraduate on addressing homophobia and gay rights dollar from each church attender who is planning on watching the game on Super Bowl Sunday, then Friends Boarding and Day School within the Society of Friends and the wider donate the money to soup kitchens, food banks, community. Entertainment for the gathering shelters, and other helping ministries. To order a Emphasis on.: will include a coffeehouse, an art exhibit, and "Souper Bowl EduKit," telephone (800) 358-SOUP. • College Preparatory Curriculum a dance. For more information, contact Jeff In January-Central and Southern Africa Yearly Keith, Registrar, 2032 South Bouvier St., Meeting, South Africa. Contact Anita Kromberg · Challenging Senior Program Philadelphia, PA 19145. and Richard Steele, Box 15045, Bellair, Durban, · Learning Center 4006 South Africa, telephone (031) 301 -5663. · Personal Growth •Summer community service opportunities in • International Program Mexico and Cuba are available to young adults FEBRUARY • Visual and Performing Arts through the American Friends Service Com­ 3-5-Quaker Silent Retreat at Camp Huston, Gold · Sports Program mittee. For over 50 years in Mexico and since Bar, Wash. Sponsored by Pacific Northwest Quar­ 1981 in Cuba, the AFSC has sponsored com­ terly Meeting, participants will create a temporary For a tour and more information munity service and dialogue opportunities for intentional community in which silence is funda­ young people ages 18- 26. People with good mental to fellowship through meetings for wor­ contact: Spanish language skills who are willing to ship, vegetarian meetings for cooking and eating, Oakwood School and unscheduled time. Young people willing to engage in physical labor with other interna­ 515 South Road accept the discipline of silence are also welcome, Poughkeepsie, NY 12601 tional volunteers are encouraged to apply. however no child care will be provided. The retreat Cost for the Mexico program is $750 plus costs $40 and· registration is due by Jan. 31. Tele­ Te1ephone:(914) 462-4200 airfare, the Cuba program is $300 plus airfare. phone Deborah Gottlieb Lewis at (206) 385-7070, Fax:(914) 462-4251 Partial scholarships are available. For more or Margaret R. Gottlieb at (206) 526-5412.

FRIENDS JoURNAL January 1995 23 Books Jesus, A Life By A. N. Wilson. W. W. Norton & Co., New York, NY., 1992. 316 pages. $21/hardcover. Early Quakers would have found great empathy with A. N. Wilson's intuitive inter­ pretation of the present activity in historical research into the life of Jesus. This search has never had so many new materials, both docu­ mentary and archeological. Wilson has kept up with all of them. Many of Wilson's con­ clusions are confirmatory of George Fox's insights into the message Jesus sought to bring to his society's practices, both public and private. From examination of recently discov­ ered documentation contemporaneous with the life of Jesus, Wilson infers that: "The feeding was Jesus' greatest sign. Make the men sit down! .. . That meant to live together in peace and to accept their unity as sons and daughters ofthe creator." Out ofJesus' practi­ cal expedient may have grown the miracle of the loaves and the fishes, as seated neighbors lay aside their divisive passions and shared their small packages of food with the net effect that the multitude was fed. Dr. Albert Schweitzer's book, The Search for the Historical Jesus, popularized many years ago, was a largely academic enterprise. With materials unearthed since then, Wilson gives us new insights into Jesus, sometimes in overlooked, important ways. For example: "Christianity gave to the human race a sense of the individual, slave or free, male or fe­ male, Gentile or Jew." Again: "It is precisely because he refused to define himself that he was so vulnerable to the assaults of theolo­ gians and fantasists." Wilson's book is based soundly on scholarship, but reads like an un­ folding story. Wilson brings us a reminder that we have not come to the end of knowing Newtown, PA 18940 all of Jesus' profound insights into human nature. Paul Furnas

Paul Furnas is a retired data processing con­ sultant and a member ofMinneapolis (Minn.) Meeting. From Liberal to Labour with Women's Suffrage: The Story of Catherine

Founded in 1893 by the Society of Friends, George School is a co­ Marshall educational boarding and day school for students in grades 9-12. By Jo Vel/acott. MeGill-Queen's University The college preparatory curriculwn emphasizes Friends values and includes: Press, Toronto, Ont., 1993. 518 pages. $55. • Courses on 4levels of challenge • International Baccalaureate (18) This book, the first of a two-volume biog­ • Advanced Placement (AP) • International workcamps raphy of Catherine Marshall, is of interest to • English as a Second Language (ESL) • Required community service contemporary Friends on several levels, and • Foreign study • Required full-year courses in the arts would be a valuable addition to meeting li­ • 13 interscholastic sports for boys and girls braries. Although Catherine Marshall, who For more information, please contact the Admissions Office: 215/579-6547. was born and lived in England from 1880 until her death in 1961, was not a Friend, the

24 January 1995 FRIENDS JOURNAL issues she was involved in, and a history of Has your time come for those issues, deeply involved Friends. The author is a member ofThousand Islands Meet­ renewal and study, ing, of Canadian Yearly Meeting; she is also to strengthen the an Honorary Fellow at the Simone de Beauvoir Institute, Concordia University. spiritual basis ofyour This part of Catherine Marshall's biogra­ work in the world? phy covers the years of her growing up and her deepening involvement in the women's suffrage movement. Conditions for women were very different when Catherine was grow­ ing up than those we take for granted today, PENDLE HILL SCHOLARSHIP OPPORTUNITIES even in a liberal family like the Marshalls. Her parents were both teachers, although, like ~· For a Quaker scholar doing research ~· For persons working for social jus­ most women of that time, her mother gave up related to the Society of Friends, the tice, the Wilmer Young Scholarship. teaching when her first child was expected. Henry ]. Cadbury Scholarship. ,... For Quakers pursuing biblical and However, her interest in education continued, ~· For an educator who is Quaker or Quaker studies, the Kenneth L. and Catherine was to benefit from the sup­ portive educational atmosphere at home and working in a Friends' school, the Carroll Scholarship (restricted to also at her first school, a place where learning Helen Hole Scholarship. certain yearly meetings). was carried out in a happy setting. She was ~· For leaders or potenti al leaders in the ~. Student inte rns hips and some also encouraged to think for herself; in her Society of Friends. the Vail Leader­ general fina ncia l a id are available words " .. . [I would] try to get at the underly­ ship Grants. as well. ing truth which I felt even then [in her child­ hood] would reconcile and explain the appar­ ently conflicting facts... my very ignorance PENDLE HILL A QUAKER CENTER FOR STUDY AND CONTEMPLATION was in one way an advantage, affording as it Schola rship applications are now being accepted for 1995-1996 (due March 15). did an outlook unclouded by prejudice, a[n] (800) 742-3150 • Box F • 338 Plush Mill Road • Wallingford, PA 19086 independence of attitude unfettered by con­ I ventionalities." As the author points out, this was a remarkable way of training her mind for future political exercise. Catherine's personal life is of interest, but just as interesting and instructive for us is her deepening involvement in the nonviolent suf­ frage movement. Those of us currently con­ cerned about peace or the environment have salutary lessons to learn from Catherine Marshall and her manner of working. STTOWN She and her co-workers in the National SCHOOL Union of Women's Suffrage Societies {NU) were mindful of the pitfalls ofbeing seen as . Westtown, Pennsylvania- Founded In 1799 attached to a particular party or class and built a network across these lines, and here too we can learn much from them. Westtown is a Quaker school of 600 students in Pre-K through As the author points out, 12th grade, co-educational, college preparatory, day and boarding ... Catherine had every reason to feel at home among Liberal and Unionist politicians, who were, almost without exception, from her own • Excellent academic programs class. But we should not lose sight of the fact that one of the strongest barriers to women's • Individual attention within a caring community enfranchisement lay in the indoctrination of • Before and after school day care programs that class of man with a view which was far from a good environment for the notion of • Performing and fine arts women's equality to grow in. • 600-acre campus with lakes and woods Since at that time there was not universal suffrage for men either, the notion of equal • Outstanding facilities (science center, arts center rights had a long way to go. fieldhouse, 25-meter indoor pool) Of great importance as a model for our own time and cause was their thoroughness of preparation. At one point ". . . she orga­ For more information and to arrange to visit classes, nized a great deal of invaluable reference material .... Immensely detailed information please call Sarah Goebel, director of admissions, Westtown School, came to her for the compilation oftrade unions, Westtown, PA 19395 (2151399-0123) names of secretaries, whether and when they

FRIENDS JOURNAL January 1995 25 had considered women's suffrage resolutions, and if so with what result" Nor were her efforts directed only at trnde unions. "There is also a twenty-eight page typed list of 'Liberal M.P.s, December 1913' complete with ex­ haustive notes of their voting records, brief quotations from speeches, ... all duly refer­ enced and dated ... and another twelve-page one of 'Liberal Candidates: January 1914'." The best strntegies for electing M.P.s fa­ vorable to women's suffrage were also de­ When weight loss is an obsession, bated. A constant worry was what the violent you lose more than pounds. tactics of some advocates of women's suf­ frage were doing to public opinion and the Anorexia causes serious health risks -- from chemical changes to heart failure -- thai can possible votes of M.P.s. ultimately be life-threatening. And in their relentless pursuit of thinness, anorectics are too When I finished this book, I was sorry. obsessed to recognize the other sacrifices they make in relationships, school and careers. Not sorry to have read it- I became deeply The Eating Disorders Program at Friends Hospital is headed by nationally-renowned psychia­ involved-but sorry that this volume ends trist Dr. Michael Pertschuk, who has more than two decades' experience helping people with with 1914. The rest of Catherine Marshall's anorexia, bulimia and binge eating. After evaluation, people in the program are treated by life, her anti-conscription efforts, and her in­ Dr. Pertschuk and a team of therapists, nurses and nutritionists. The Eating Disorders Program volvement in the Women's International at Friends offers both residential and day treatment in an attractive homelike environment. League for Peace and Freedom, must wait for We meet with fami lies and can work with schools and employers. the next book. Hurry up, Jo Vellacott-I want There's follow-up, to provide support and help people get better more. and stay better. Betty Polster Friends delivers the finest medical care while maintaining tradi­ tional Quaker compassion -- an important factor in the treatment FRIENDS Betty Polster is a former clerk of Canadian of eating disorders. When you need Friends, we're here. HOSPITAL Yearly Meeting andformer recording clerk of Ask your famil y doctor or call us. 464 1 Roosevelt Boulevard Friends United Meeting. She was a Friend in Residence at Woodbrooke in 1991, and cur­ FRIENDS HOSPITAL ACCEPTS A VARIETY OF INSURANCE PLANS Philadelphia, PA 19124 21 5 - 831 - 4600 rently teaches courses for Pendle Hill. She is a member of Victoria Monthly Meeting, Canadian Yearly Meeting.

Dead Man Walking: An Eyewitness Account of the Death Penalty in the United States By Helen Prejean, C.S.J. Random House, New York, N. Y., 1993. 278 pages. $211 hardcover. Scattergood Friends School is a co-educational, college In the midst ofthe public and media clamor for harsher sentences and quicker executions preparatory, boarding and day high school for 55 students of criminals, Helen Prejean's moving account of the execution of Patrick Sonnier is like a great light piercing the darkness created by • Excellent success in placing graduates in colleges and universities ignorance and the thirst for revenge. Inter­ • 4: 1 student to faculty ratio spersed throughout the narrative are all the arguments and statistics necessary to dispute • Small classes and attention to the needs and interests of individuals the efficacy of the death penalty. But most • Extensive outdoor and farm experiences convincing is the journal account of her rela­ • Caring and supportive community life tionship with condemned killers. It begins when, at the request of a friend, she starts • Emphasis upon cooperation rather than compe tition writing to Patrick Sonnier. Their correspon­ • Affordable tuition with extensive financial assistance dence flourishes and Helen extends the rela­ tionship and visits him. She gives a vivid account of the rather frightening journey the For additional information, or to arrange a visit, visitor must make and how her stomach can read the words Death Row better than her call or write, Director of Admissions, Scattergood Friends School, brain. She continues in her role of spiritual Route I, Box 32, West Branch, IA 52358-9715 (319) 643-7600 advisor for the next two years; visiting, listen­ ing, praying, and just being there for him.

26 January 1995 fRIENDS JOURNAL She does not condone his crime, rather she What kind of a has the ability to see beyond it and experience him as a fellow human being created by God ·world do you want It is this capacity to accept him as he is that nurtures Patrick and changes Helen from a ENVIRONMENTALLY SOUND? "politically neutral" nun to an ardent activist. This is not an easy stance for her. She is PE ACEFU L? appalled and disgusted at the cruelty and graft ofofficials ; at the racism and ineptness of the W ITH EQUAL O PPORTUN ITY? judiciary; and at the hypocrisy of her own church on the question of capital punishment. Then Consider Pax World Fund• She also must face the needs of the victims' For a free prospectus Pax World is a no-load, diversified balanced families and the conflict her relationship with and other materials mutual fund designed for those who wish to Patrick, and later with Robert Lee Willie, call toll·free creates. 24 hours a day: develop income and to invest in life-supportive This is not just an account of a sociologi­ products and services. Pax invests in such cal, political, and ethical problem but an en­ 1-800-767-1729 industries as pollution control, health care, food, grossing, compassionate narrative enlived with housing, education, and leisure time. great dialogue. Helen Prejean writes with great Pax World Fund shares clarity, bringing us along with her as she a re available far sale in The fund does not invest in weapons production, all 50 states. weaves her own spiritual journey, the lives of nuclear power, or the tobacco, alcohol or the inmates on Death Row, and those of their gambling industries. Various opportunities are victims' families, with the political, socio­ logical, and theological strands into a color­ available: Regular Accounts, IRA's, Educational ful, moving tapestry that indicts the death Accounts, SEP-IRA's, and 403(b) Pension Plans. penalty and presents us with a clear picture of Minimum investment $250. Send no money. our own shadow side. Dead Man Walking is a must for all in­ * PAX W ORLD FUND IS THE ONLY MUTUAL FUND IN THE volved in prison ministry, in assistance to NATION AFFILIATED WITH A FOUNDATION THAT, FOR TW ELVE homicide victims' families, in reconciliation YEARS, HAS SUPPORTED TREE PLANTING IN AR EAS O F THE of prisoners and victims, as well as anyone DEFORESTED THIRD WORLD. · straddling the fence or on the other side ofthis difficult question. MaryM. Peel Mary M. Peel is a member of Jacksonville Claiming Our Past: Assuring the Future (Fla.) Meeting. What better way to give expression to your Quaker values than by leaving a portion of your In Brief estate to FRIENDS ) Ol.IRNA!? You will assure the growth of Quaker thought and life long into the Talking Peace: A Vision for future. Consider a provision in your will for the Next Generation FRIENDS jOURNAL. By Jimmy Carter. Dutton, N. Y. , 1993. 177 pages. $16.99/hardcover. In the search for For more information, contact: peace in a world of violence and suffering, FRIENDS j oURNAL, 1501 Cherry Street Jimmy Carter, founder of the Carter Center's Philadelphia, PA 19102-1497 (215) 241-7280 International Negotiation Network, offers a vision of hope and a challenge to youth and adults. Carter describes the missions he has undertaken since the experience of Camp David, missions ranging from mediating in­ ternational conflicts, to supervising elections, WILLIAM PENN CHARTER SCHOOL Est. 1689 to assisting in post-war reconstruction. He Kindergarten through envisions a future in which nonviolent peace­ 303 Years of Quaker Education Twe lfth Grade making can greatly lessen the killing, destruc­ Operated under Charter issued by William Penn. The William Penn Charter tion, and disruption ofwarfare. Carter stresses School is a Quaker college-preparatory school committed to nurturing in girls the power of citizen activity in a world where and boys the education of the mind, the quickening of the spirit, and the peace advocacy and citizen diplomacy can development of the body. Penn Charter stresses high standards in academics, meet crises for which national leaders are not the arts, and athletics. equipped. The concluding chapters carry a special message to youth. The younger gen­ Friends are encouraged to apply both as students and as teachers. eration has the future in its hands, and each Earl J. Ball Ill, Headmaster person can take initiatives toward the vision 3000 W. School House lane, Philadelphia, PA 19144 ofa better, more peaceful, and more challeng­ (215) 844-3460 ing world.

fRIENDS JOURNAL January ] 995 27 Milestones

Births/Adoptions McGuire-Spickard- Jim Spickard and Meredith on April 4, Alderson-Caleb Benjamin Alderson, McGuire, on May 29, 1994, at 1994, to Susan Alderson and Thomas Doran, of San Antonio (Tex.) Meeting. Rogue Valley (Oreg.) Meeting. Capozzalo---Raleigh Douglas Capozzalo, on ReiUy-Kronick-Qren Collier July 10, 1994, to Lorraine and Douglas Kronick and Kathleen Reilly, on Aug. 27, 1994, under the care of Capozzalo, of Scarsdale (N.Y.) Meeting. Haverford (Pa.) Meeting, of Czarnik-Neimeyer- Jacob Nicholas Czarnik­ which Oren is a member. Neimeyer, on May 10, 1994, to Cindy and Jake Czarnik-Neimeyer, of Madison (Wise.) Meeting. Schwab-Alexander-Jeffrey J. Alexander and Janine M. Drake-Jessie Faith Drake, on July 31, 1994, to Schwab, on Aug. 28, 1994, Barbara and Andy Drake. Andy is a member of under the care of Haverford Montclair (N.J.) Meeting. (Pa.) Meeting. and environmental work of the Women's Interna­ Evans-Ky le Stokes Evans, on April 16, 1994, to Taylor-Rostkowski-Chuck Rostkowski and tional League for Peace and Freedom. They also Ellen and Peter Evans. Peter is a member of Cynthia Taylor, on June 12, 1994, under the care found community, inspiration, and nurturance in Haverford (Pa.) Meeting. of Salt Lake City (Utah) Meeting. the Unitarian Church and the Friends Meeting in Greenler~cott Majors Greenler, on June 18, Eugene, Oreg. Len was an idealist with a genuine Ursell-Lewis-Peter Lewis and Ann Ursell, on 1994, to Karen Greenler and Penny Majors, of commitment to truth and honesty. He refused to June 19, 1994, under the care of Friends Meeting Madison (Wise.) Meeting. profess beliefs he did not personally experience, of Washington (D.C.). and because he could not honestly say he had Hayslip-Brandon Michael Hayslip, on June 7, experienced any divine encounters, he remained 1994, to Becky and Jodie Hayslip, of Ada Chapel (Ohio) Meeting. Deaths an atheist. Some Friends felt uncomfortable with his disbelief, but through mutual love and open­ Homstad-Annika Homstad, on July 15, 1994, to Bacon-Robert C. Bacon, 87, on July 6, 1994, at ness ofmind, discomfort was increasingly replaced Sara Branson Homstad and Leigh Homstad, of home. A life-long Friend born in Philadelphia, Pa., with grace and understanding. Len was an artist, Community (Ohio) Meeting. Bob was a graduate of Antioch College. In 1932 he showing considerable talent as a painter. He had an married Elizabeth Newcomb, who passed away in Keener-Jacob Giampaolo Keener, on August acquisitive mind, and was an avid reader. Len was 1985. As a young man Bob was employed in a secular humanist with a profound vision of how 8, 1994, to Alessa and Blaine Keener, of banking. He then moved to Cambridge, N.Y., where Baltimore (Md.) Meeting, Stony Run. the world could be if people would act ethically he farmed as alternative service. Later he worked and responsibly. As a way of expressing his com­ Ludlam-John Miller Ludlam, on Sept. 8, 1994, at Abington Friends School, Abington, Pa., and mitment to global understanding, he studied the to Carolyn A. Miller and John M. Ludlam, of North Country School, Lake Placid, N.Y. In 1963 international language of Esperanto, and carried a Third Haven (Md.) Meeting. he and Elizabeth became founding directors of the "World Citizen" passport. He volunteered many Youth Program at Powell House, the retreat and Thompsoo---Cassidy Dawn Thompson, on July hours of service with Friends Committee on Na­ conference center ofNew York Yearly Meeting, in 4, 1994, to Beth and Norval Thompson, ofThird tional Legislation, and attended annual meetings. Old Chatham, N.Y. Since his retirement in 1970, Haven (Md.) Meeting. He loved children, and was especially tender with he continued to work for peace and justice, and the young Salvadoran children that were in sanctu­ Walden-Emily Joyce Walden, on July 22, 1994, was active in Old Chatham (N.Y.) Meeting until ary in the care of Eugene (Oreg.) Meeting. Len to Sherry and Keven Walden, of Reno (Nev.) his death. Bob is survived by his second wife, also demonstrated a deep concern for energy con­ Meeting. Kathryn P. Bacon; a son, Robert C. Bacon, Jr.; a servation through an interest in human-powered daughter, Deborah Wood; two grandchildren; and vehicles. He was eccentric, unpredictable, and ~anriagesAJnions a brother, Edmund N. Bacon. funny, and will be deeply missed. Len is survived by his wife, Estelle; and a son, Robert. Arment-Ruvlra-Pablo Ruvira and Mary De Benson-Sarah Rhoads Benson, 86, on Dec. 29, Arment, on June 25, 1994, at and under the care 1993, in Moorestown, N.J. Born in Germantown, KimbalJ-Mary Smedley Kimball, 86, on Feb. 27, of Media (Pa.) Meeting. Pa., Sarah graduated from Earlham College in 1930. 1994, at home in Mountain Lakes, N.J. Born in She then taught English and was assistant dean at Westtown, Pa., she was a direct descendant of Boisuert-Saunders- Harold Saunders and Westtown School for a year. In the 1930s she was George Smedley who purchased land from Kathy Boisuert, on July 4, 1994, under the care of very active in the Young Friends Movement, and William Penn in 1684. Mary attended the Univer­ Atlantic City Area (N.J.) Meeting, at Seaville was head resident at Pendle Hill, Wallingford, Pa. sity of Pennsylvania where she earned a B.S. and a (N.J.) Meetinghouse. · In the 1940s, with her husband, Lewis Benson, she master of arts degree. She then taught English in Curtin-O'Banion-James Dean O'Banion and served as caretaker of the John Woolman Memo­ both public and independent schools in Pennsylva­ Pamela Jeanne Curtin, on July 16, 1994, at and rial. In recent years she was active in the New nia and New Jersey. In 1945 she married Dudley under the care ofWillistown (Pa.) Meeting, of Foundation Fellowship, and traveled with her hus­ Baldwin Kimball. While nurturing their young chil­ which James is a member and Pamela is an band in ministry as far away as Japan. Sarah was a dren, Mary shared her love of poetry as well as her attender. member of Manasquan (N.J.) Meeting, where she deep sense of caring and concern for others. She served as an Overseer and as clerk of Ministry and was involved in community affairs through the Dutton-8hen-David Shen and Judith Dutton, on Counsel. Sarah was preceded in death by her hus­ League of Women Voters and the American Asso­ June 18, 1994. Both David and Judith are band, Lewis. She is survived by a son, John Benson; ciation ofUniversity Women. In 1965 Mary joined members of Central Philadelphia (Pa.) Meeting. and three brothers, Edward R. Potts, Asa W. Potts, Montclair (N.J.) Meeting. Her warm greetings at Klimovitsky-Kronick-C. lvar Kronick and and Thomas I. Potts. the rise of meeting and her service on the Edward on Aug. 21 , 1994. Ivar is a Anya Klimovitsky, Field-Leonard Field, 87, on July 9, 1994, in R. Pierson Education Fund Committee are fondly member of Haverford (Pa.) Meeting. remembered. Mary is survived by two daughters, Cottage Grove, Oreg. Born and raised in the Santa Mary K. Kimball and Jane S. Kimball; a son, J. Lakey-Nalley- James Nalley and Ingrid Lakey, Ana, Calif., area, Len attended Eastern Oregon Dudley Kimball; and two grandsons. on July 9, 1994. Ingrid is a member of Central Normal School. He married Estelle Champion in Philadelphia (Pa.) Meeting. 1955, and their son was born a year later. Both Lyon-Nora Lyon, 59, in Sept., 1993. Born and McCorkle-Yang-Xiao Ming Yang and active Unitarians, the couple became involved in raised in Detroit, Mich., Nora graduated with hon­ the Santa Monica (Calif.) Meeting in 1964. Len Katharine McCcrkle, on June 18, 1994, under the ors from the University of Michigan. She married joint care of Media and Pittsburgh (Pa.) meetings. and Estelle moved to Cottage Grove, Oreg., in John Cross after graduation and the couple moved 1976, where they were active in the peace, justice, to England, where she lived until the late-1970s.

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