Understanding Attachment Theory, Emotional Availability and Application in Early Childhood Settings
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Understanding Attachment Theory, Emotional Availability and Application in Early Childhood Settings A practical resource for staff working in early childhood education and development programs based on research and findings of 15 years of action research work undertaken at Gowrie SA Child Centre within the Children’s Programs and in the “Through the Looking Glass” project. Author: Yasmin Harman-Smith PhD, University of Adelaide Published by Lady Gowrie Child Centre (SA) Author: Yasmin Harman-Smith PhD, University of Adelaide These resources report on 15 years of action research work undertaken at the Lady Gowrie Child Centre (SA) within the children’s programs and as part of the “Through the Looking Glass” project. In writing these resources we have referred to formal evaluations of the Through the Looking Glass (TTLG) project, professional learning materials developed by Gowrie SA and from interviews conducted with staff from multi- disciplinary teams participating in the TTLG project across a number of sites and early childhood educators in child care centres across Adelaide. Facilitated professional learning sessions to support implementation of this material is available. For more information contact Gowrie SA Professional Learning Program: Email [email protected] Phone 08 8234 5219 Published by Gowrie SA. The writing of these resources has been made possible through funding from the Department of Families, Housing, Community Services and Indigenous Affairs (FaHCSIA). © Copyright Gowrie SA, 2011 Understanding Attachment Theory, Emotional Availability and Application in Early Childhood Settings 3 Attachment and what it means for early childhood educators This resource will discuss attachment, as described by Attachment Theory, and its importance in early childhood. The resource will focus on the formation of relationships between people; specifically, between children and the adults who care for and educate them. The resource also discusses the ways educators can integrate aspects of attachment theory and use self reflection to enhance their relationships with children in their care, in order to help children feel emotionally secure, provide optimal developmental opportunities for children, and cultivate a harmonious working environment. The Importance of Attachment Attachment: Relationships and Relating Attachment, first described by Bowlby (1977a, 1977b, Patterns of attachment can have positive or negative 1986, 1988b), is a term that describes the bond that is effects on our daily interactions with others. Reflecting formed between people as a result of their interactions. upon our relationships, we can all identify those we In a way, attachments might be thought of as the glue enjoy and others that we might find challenging or that holds people together in social units. Social units unpleasant. Fortunately, relationships can change. can range from the closest family units (e.g. bonds connecting parents and their children) to broader The method for changing relationships is through organisational units (e.g. bonds connecting co-workers). changing interactions. The link between social experiences and attachments is bi-directional. That is, Child-adult relationships differ from adult-adult attachments and interactions each affect the other. relationships in the reciprocity of adult relationships. Each interaction is effected by the bond that people These bonds influence the way people feel about already share and in turn the interaction has an effect others, the sorts of ways in which they behave around on the attachment. Thus, changing interactions is the others and the way in which they think about others. way in which relationships can be changed. Simply put, attachments shape the way in which people behave within relationships. For that reason, For that reason, attachments are fluid and constantly attachment might be argued to form the basis of the changing rather than fixed and inflexible. Good social world, a social world that begins in infancy. relationships can sour, just as poor relationships can improve. Educators who are positive, consistent, Although attachment was first described by Bowlby and responsive in their interactions with children in relation to child-mother interactions, later research provide a basis for the development of stable secure has found that it plays a key role in early childhood attachments. education settings. In fact, recent large-scale research has found that between educational staff and children Although each person experiences numerous the types of interactions that form healthy attachments attachments throughout life, arguably the first are also vital to children’s later educational outcomes attachments between an infant and his/her caregiver (Melhuish, Phan, et al., 2008; Melhuish, Sylva, et al., are the most influential in that they have the ability 2008; Shriver, 2006). to shape the child’s cognitive, social, and emotional development. It is these early attachments that Bowlby For this reason according to Cooper, Hoffman and first discussed and on which much research focuses. Powell (2009) “all children want to feel safe and secure”, therefore it is important for early childhood Early attachments affect not only the way children educators to understand the basis of attachment and relate to their parents or caregiver, but it also affects be able to assess their own interactions with children in how children feel about themselves and how freely their care to provide the best possible environment for they are able to learn about the world. children. © Gowrie South Australia, 2011 Understanding Attachment Theory, Emotional Availability and Application in Early Childhood Settings 4 Following is a more detailed look at each of these anything they can think of, all the while feeling tense domains: and distressed. • Building relationships; The educator thinks that the problem is the baby’s • Developing a sense of self; and temperament because nothing else seems to be wrong. In other words, the educator thinks that the cause of • Cognitive development. the problem is something about the child. Resulting relationship: Interactions Build Relationships Over time, the educator might come to view the child as a ‘difficult’ baby. This can lead to the educator The fluid nature of attachments means that each blaming the child’s early temperament for a later poor person bears some responsibility for the quality of his/ relationship with the child. By viewing the problem as her relationships with others. Through people’s actions something about the child, it is difficult to affect any and reactions they are able to change the nature of change. The child will continue crying and the educator their relationships with others. When working in a will continue feeling out of control and distressed. relationship we find challenging it is important to remember that: Alternative way of interacting: • the relationship influences our behaviour Despite the fact that this is a difficult situation, it is neither the child nor the educator’s fault. Some babies • behaviour can affect the relationship cry more than others, despite there being no medical problem or other apparent reason. It may be that these • the relationship can improve babies are finding it harder to adjust to being in an • we are able to influence the relationship early childhood setting. As educators working with young children, who Another way of viewing the problem is as one of are less capable of managing their own behaviour relating. That is, thinking of the situation as a problem than an adult, the responsibility for the quality of in relating or as something about the situation. that relationship falls to the adult. While the child’s If, instead, the educator were to consider how the temperament, behaviour and style of relating can crying impacts them, what they think and how they certainly challenge our expectations, relationship, and feel, the educator can influence how they react to the the way the educator might feel toward the child, it is child and, in turn, build a more positive relationship the educator who shapes the relationships with the and view of the child. If each time the child cries, the children in his/her care. Educators of young children educator were to stop and think about how the child’s will have the best possible impact on children in their cry is making them feel, they would then be able to care if they are able to keep in mind that, although it begin to change the way in which they react to the is not easy, it is always possible for educators working situation. The educator might think to themself (or with children who exhibit difficult behaviours to even say out loud): improve a challenging relationship. The following example is intended to illustrate the way “I feel like I have no control over the situation and I in which relationships can form. The example presents am feeling increasingly agitated/angry/distressed. a situation along with possible resulting relationships There doesn’t seem to be any obvious reason that the that might develop as a result of differing approaches baby is upset (isn’t cold, wet, hungry, etc). The baby is to interaction. feeling something I cannot fix, but she still needs me The situation: to be there for her during this difficult time. The cry is A baby who is difficult to settle and cries much of the horrible to listen to but the baby has no other way of time. expressing how she is feeling. While my best efforts The interaction: (cuddling, rocking, singing, etc) may not make the The educator feels stress and agitation whenever the crying stop right away, it will teach her that I am here baby cries. Often, the educator tries, in vain, to soothe for her in her time of need (even when it is hard for the child by rocking, feeding, doing everything and me)”. © Gowrie South Australia, 2011 Understanding Attachment Theory, Emotional Availability and Application in Early Childhood Settings 5 Accepting that this is a difficult emotion for the educator to manage and taking time to calm themself before attempting to calm the child will help the educator get through those challenging interactions feeling much better about themself and about the child.