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Guest Speakers 3
Conference Descriptions 6
Conference Handouts & Notes Pages 8
Southern Baptist Seminaries 50
1 WELCOME TO
Thank you for joining us for a unique training opportunity with You Lead Virtual! Our prayer is that this resource will be a helpful tool in your leadership development. The phrase “leaders are learners” is not just one we often say, but this virtual conference puts it into practice. Whether you are leading in the local church, a non-profit, in your home, or in the marketplace, You Lead Virtual is designed for you.
Included in the digital pass are a variety of topics that a select group of LifeWay Women trainers teach at our live conferences. They have been condensed in a manner that you can easily watch at home or with a ministry team. While these topics normally take an hour to teach, each of these sessions are approximately 20 minutes in length. The notebook includes handouts that you can use as you watch along. Many of them include “extras” that are used in the longer sessions. As always, our desire is to be unashamedly biblical in our approach.
Thank you for entrusting us with your time and leadership investment. We are grateful for the opportunity to serve you—even if we can’t be with you in person. For more information about our live You Lead events, go to LifeWay.com for details. We would love to see you face to face!
Kelly King Manager of Magazines/Devotional Publishing and Women’s Ministry Training LifeWay Christian Resources Nashville, TN LifeWay.com/WomensMinistry Twitter: @kellydking Email: [email protected] Instagram: kellydking
2 GUEST SPEAKERS
KELLY KING [email protected] • @kellydking
Kelly King is the Manager of Magazines/Devotional Publishing and Women’s Ministry Training for LifeWay Christian Resources. She is the author of Ministry to Women: The Essential Guide to Leading Women in the Local Church and the Bible study Living By Faith: Women Who Trusted God. She is the co-host of LifeWay’s {Marked} podcast with Elizabeth Hyndman. She holds a Master of Theology Degree from Gateway Seminary in Ontario, CA. In addition to her work at LifeWay, she serves as the Women’s Ministry leader for Green Hill Church in Mount Juliet, Tennessee.
CATHERINE INMAN [email protected]
Catherine Inman is the Event Project Coordinator for Women’s Leadership Training Events at LifeWay Christian Resources. Prior to her current role, she served as Girl’s Ministry Director at Bellevue Baptist Church in Memphis, TN and Sherwood Baptist Church in Albany, GA. She also was a missionary in Europe, Africa, and Asia serving in various ministries. Catherine is passionate about biblical literacy and equipping women to reach their full potential in Christ. She aspires to minister to ladies, while cultivating rawness and vulnerability. Catherine enjoys spontaneous road trips, conversations with friends over a cup of coffee, spending time exploring nature, and watching sports!
MICHELLE HICKS [email protected]
Michelle Hicks is the managing editor for Journey devotional magazine with LifeWay Women. Michelle served as a freelance writer, campus minister, and corporate chaplain before coming to LifeWay to minister with the event and publishing teams. She is a graduate of the University of North Texas and Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary. Michelle has a deep hunger for God’s Word and wants others to discover the abundant life they can have with Jesus as their Lord and Savior.
3 ASHLEY CHESNUT [email protected]
Ashley Chesnut serves as the Associate Singles 20s/30s Minister at The Church at Brook Hills in Birmingham, Alabama. She has a Master of Divinity from Beeson Divinity School and a Certificate of Biblical Counseling from Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary. While Ashley has a passion for discipling young women, she also loves her city and has written a children’s book about it called Down in the Ham: A Child’s Guide to Downtown Birmingham. When she’s not at the church or meeting with girls, you can probably find her at the farmer’s market or trying some new local restaurant.
SHARI EDWARDS genesisgirlsministry.com | @sharibeth88
Shari has been active in Women’s Ministry leadership for over 20 years and currently serves as Adjunct Instructor of Women’s Ministry at Ouachita Baptist University Pruet School of Christian Studies, as well as chair of the Pruet School Advisory Board. She is a Coordinator for the Arkansas Baptist State Convention Inspire Women’s Conference and a session leader for the Called 2 Ministry Retreat, a conference for high school students who sense a call to ministry, held at Ouachita Baptist each summer. She served as the Hot Springs 2018 YouLead Coordinator and is currently enrolled in New Orleans Baptist Theological Seminary Leavell College, pursuing a Women’s Ministry Certificate. Shari is a wife of 31 years to her college sweetheart, mother of 3 sons and a beautiful daughter-in-law, and “Sibby” to 2 precious granddaughters. She resides in North Little Rock, AR and an active member of her church. Shari is the founder of Genesis Girls Ministry and loves to encourage women in their everyday and leadership lives.
LESLEY HILDRETH @lesleyhildreth
Lesley is the Women’s Discipleship Director for the Summit Church in Durham, North Carolina. She is responsible for the discipleship of over 6,000 women spread over ten campuses and spends the majority of her time developing and equipping leaders who share the task of making disciples. Before this role, Lesley was the Assistant Director of Women’s Life at Southeastern Seminary where she received her MA in Christian Studies. She also served eight years with her family with the International Mission Board in Western Europe and Central Asia. She has a passion to see all women participating in God’s mission, using their gifts to serve the church, further his kingdom, and bring God glory. She is married and has two adult children and one grandson.
4 CYNTHIA HOPKINS
Cynthia Hopkins is a writer, speaker, and the founder of Platform 320, a nonprofit minis- try for women. Cynthia has been writing articles, Bible studies, and devotions for LifeWay for 20 years, and serves as content editor for smallgroup.com. She is the author of “What Now?” a 30-day book of devotions for students, and “Side By Side,” team-building devotions for the Gospel-centered workplace. Through Platform 320, Cynthia leads multi-church women’s retreats, ministry wives retreats, and women’s mission endeavors. Her husband Clay is the associate pastor at their church, FBC College Station, TX. They have two young adult children, Brandon and Abby.
JESSIE SENECA
Jessie is the founder of More of Him Ministries in Bethlehem, Pennsylvania. She has been leading women in the local community and churches for over twenty-five years. Jessie offers an annual women’s leadership conference called SHE Leads. She has also worked with LifeWay as a Living Proof Live and Priscilla Shirer Live City Coordinator and Northeast Simulcast Specialist. She enjoys seeing women get into the Word of God and the transformation it brings into their lives. Through God’s Word, Jessie shares what true leadership looks like along with practical teachings from her personal experiences. Her message inspires women to move into a whole-hearted lifestyle, one devoted fully to God. Jessie’s passion and wisdom is to use the gifts God has given her to speak into the lives of her listeners and readers. She is a wife and mother of two adult daughters and wonderful sons-in-law. Most days you can find her walking her two golden doodles, Murphy and Bella.
COURTNEY VEASEY @courtneyvz | @courtneyveasey
Courtney Veasey is a PhD candidate in biblical interpretation at New Orleans Baptist Theological Seminary. She is the former Director of Women’s Academic Programs and faculty member also of NOBTS. Prior to living in New Orleans, Courtney attended Golden Gate Baptist Theological Seminary in San Francisco, California where she served with the Marin County Young Life and helped facilitate collegiate ministry at Dominican University. Courtney has also held church staff positions in South Carolina, Florida, and served with the Fellowship of Christian Athletes. Courtney is a frequent speaker for women and teenage girls and has contributed numerous articles, devotionals, and book chapters for such publications as Essential Connections and Parenting Teens magazines, LifeWay’s Ministry to Women blog, and most recently Broadman and Holman’s Daily Devotional for Women and The Psalms and Proverbs Devotional for Women. While continuing her itinerant ministry, Courtney currently resides in her home state of Florida where she enjoys being near family, spending time on the water, and cheering for her beloved Florida State Seminoles.
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CRICKETS, DAISIES, AND OTHER TIPS FOR LEADING EFFECTIVE 8 BIBLE STUDY GROUPS — CYNTHIA HOPKINS
Every woman who has ever led a Bible study group wonders if she did it well, and every woman who hasn’t led one hesitates on some level when asked to do so. We know that Bible study groups are an important part of becoming and making disciples, but we often struggle to find the kind of engagement and transformation we long for. In this session, we’ll explore 9 ways to effectively lead Bible study groups. We’ll also learn about some resources available to equip you as you invite God to help your group experience transformation.
ENCOURAGEMENT FOR THE ALL-DAY WORKER — COURTNEY VEASEY 10
Moses, Jonah, Martha, the older brother to the Prodigal Son…these are ones in Scripture we might call “all-day workers” as described by Jesus in the Matthew 20 parable of vineyard laborers. To be a worker in God’s vineyard is both an honor and privilege, but it doesn’t come without times of frustration, hurt, and exhaustion. Join Courtney in this session, as together, you seek encouragement from the Scriptures. Discover how God led His laborers to keep their hands to the gospel plow, and how He still directs us today.
FINDING MY PLACE: CULTIVATING NEXT GEN WOMEN’S MINISTRY LEADERS 12 — SHARI EDWARDS
Many young women today do not identify with the women’s ministry model they witnessed among their mothers’ generation. In addition, they are being influenced by a culture that challenges them to be strong women in their own power instead of in Christ alone. How can we communicate to the young women of the next generation that they are needed and valued in the church? We must take intentional steps to bridge the gap between the generations and strengthen the leadership bonds among women of all ages. In this session we will learn strategic methods and creative ways to effectively develop biblical leadership qualities in the next generation of women’s ministry leaders.
6 IDENTIFYING AND ENLISTING LEADERS — JESSIE SENECA 16
Through this session, you will see the importance of establishing a well-rounded team and enlisting like-minded people who are not exactly “mini-mes.” You will learn how to identify and enlist those who have the same passion but different giftedness, which in turn will make your team successful. Explore how to identify God’s call using His wisdom and discernment to apply the gifts He has given you to build a healthy and balanced team for His work and glory.
LEADING IN TIMES OF CRISIS — KELLY KING 21
Throughout God’s Word, leaders faced crises—whether it was famine, political upheaval, or persecution. Church history is filled with examples of leaders who also faced disease, wars, and corruption. So, how do you face and prepare for the crises of today or the unknowns of our future? In this short session, we’ll examine some simple truths of God’s word and be confident of God’s character and His promises. We’ll look at some practical ways you can minister to women in light of today’s technology and how you can use it for His glory.
MINISTERING TO WOMEN IN LIGHT OF #METOO AND #CHURCHTOO 25 — ASHLEY CHESNUT
Sadly, one woman is sexually assaulted every 45 seconds in our country. Statistics like this demonstrate how abuse affects our families, friend groups, and churches, but how are we as God’s people supposed to respond to the abused and to the abusers? In this session, learn why abuse is a biblical issue for us to address, how trauma affects us, and how to respond when someone tells you about their abuse.
SUFFERING: LEADING AND TEACHING — LESLEY HILDRETH 29
Because we live in a broken world, we will experience suffering. As leaders, we will either lead out of a place of suffering or teach others how to suffer well. This session will consider what it looks like to be in a season of suffering and still uphold the hope of Christ. We will also consider how to walk through the trials of life personally and with others and still count suffering a blessing. Learn how you can lead out of suffering and teach others to do the same all for God’s glory and for your good.
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CYNTHIA HOPKINS Crickets, Daisies, and Other Tips for Leading Effective Bible Study Groups
1. Know and embrace your role. 2 Cor. 3:5, 12:9
2. Regularly evaluate.
3. Be flexible and think outside the box.
4. Ask questions that prompt discussion.
• Ask open-ended questions.
• Ask yourself the questions you plan to ask the group.
5. Look to explore what people are learning more than what they already know.
8 6. Embrace silence.
7. Invest in people more than a program.
8. Invite exhortation.
James 1:23-25; Jeremiah 23:29; Psalm 119:105
9. Pray boldly and pray big.
Ephesians 3:20-21
Resource: Smallgroup.com
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COURTNEY VEASEY Encouragement for the All-Day Worker
Parable: One of Jesus’ chosen ways of teaching; a way of expressing ideas, instruction, concepts, etc., through means of illustration and/or analogy; often presented in short story form.
Three good questions to ask when interpreting parables: • What is the literary/historical context? • What kind of parable? (i.e. kingdom, accountability, freedom, etc.) • What does this story teach me/tell me about the Storyteller?
I. Be Encouraged, He knows—Matthew 20:1-16 • vv. 11-12, Jesus inserts the details • Also see Matthew 10:29-31; Psalm 139:5-20; Colossians 1:15-16
10 II. Be Mindful, the Authority is His • Matthew 20:15 • No matter how “scorching the heat,” vineyard work is still far better!
III. Be Assured, Everything of His is Yours • Luke 15:25-32
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SHARI EDWARDS Finding My Place: Cultivating Next Gen Leaders
Cultivate: “to come to have gradually; to help the growth or development of; to look after or assist the growth of by labor and care; to work by plowing, sowing, and raising crops on” — Merriam-Webster Dictionary
As women who lead in various capacities in ministry and church settings, what does it mean for us to Cultivate Next Gen Leaders? Here are some practical steps toward developing the young leaders in our circles of influence.
C-are about those who are coming up behind us. Look around and notice someone who is in a younger season-pay attention and comment on a skill or gift you see in them.
U-nderstand their perspective.
L-isten to their concerns. Give them a safe space to share real concerns.
T-ake time to get to know them. Let them know they have value.
I-deas - they have great ones! Seek them out and ask for their input.
V-alue Them. They are the future and actually the “now” of leadership. Lean into their creativity and passion!
A-sk questions. Start a dialogue to learn from one another. (See attached list of 10 questions to work through with a group of leaders of all ages).
T-ry something new! This generation is full of new ways of thinking about ministry, about reaching people with the gospel, about studying God’s word.
E-xpect growth. As we continue to tend and nurture young leaders as they step into leadership roles, we should encourage them as we see positive leadership qualities emerge.
“But the seed in the good ground, these are the ones who, having heard the Word with an honest and good heart, hold on to it and by enduring, produce fruit.” Luke 8:15
12 Practical Suggestions:
Older Leaders: • Be proactive about intentionally providing opportunities for younger leaders to apprentice, to shadow, to serve alongside. • Understand the importance of developing emotionally healthy leaders. Ask the deeper heart questions. • Pay attention to our own personal leadership and spiritual development. Before we can lead others well we need to develop ourselves. • Create pathways for younger leaders to discover and develop spiritual gifts and leadership skills.
Younger Leaders: • Seek out older women who are leading and modeling healthy leadership. Ask to meet with them and get to know their leadership journey. • Be patient - understand that leadership is seasonal and takes time to grow and develop. Serve and grow where you are and be ready to step into the next thing! • Study women in scripture God used to accomplish His kingdom purposes. Make a list of spiritual and leadership qualities they exhibit. (See attached list)
Helpful Scriptures on Cultivating Next Gen Leaders: “Trust in the Lord and do good; Dwell in the land and cultivate faithfulness. Delight yourself in the Lord; and He will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord, Trust also in Him, and He will do it.” Psalm 37:3-5 (NASB)
“But commission Joshua and encourage and strengthen him, for he will cross over ahead of the people and enable them to inherit this land that you will see.” Deut. 3:28 (CSB)
“Joshua son of Nun was filled with the spirit of wisdom because Moses had laid his hands on him.” Deut. 34:9 (CSB)
“Be strong and courageous, for you will distribute the land I swore to their fathers to give them as an inheritance. Above all, be strong and very courageous to observe carefully the whole instruction my servant Moses commanded you.” Joshua 1:6-7 (CSB)
13 Start the Conversation: Questions to Work Through Together
1. As a young leader, what is something that you wish you’d been more prepared for?
2. How do you think older leaders can benefit from younger leaders? How can younger leaders benefit from older leaders? What does each generation have to offer - to bring to the table?
3. As women who serve in various capacities of leadership, what are ways in which we can help young leaders develop confident leadership skills in whatever leadership setting they find themselves?
4. What are some barriers that exist, or some we may not see, that hinder us from cultivating leaders in the next generation?
5. What are some assumptions that we make as younger leaders about older leaders? What are some assumptions we make as older leaders about younger leaders? And how can we overcome or push past these assumptions?
6. What advice would you give your younger leadership self?
7. What’s something you wish older leaders understood or knew about younger leaders?
8. What’s something you wish younger leaders understood or knew about older leaders?
9. What are some ways we can be more intentional about developing leadership skills in high school and college young women?
10. What are some things we can actively do as older leaders to help create leadership pathways for younger leaders?
14 Read the passages listed beside each woman’s name. Look for insights, spiritual qualities, leadership qualities, lessons we can learn today as women God can use for His purposes. Make a list of these qualities and any other truths God reveals to you about women through His word!
Women of the Old Testament Eve: Genesis 3:1-24 Sarah: Genesis 16:1-6; Genesis 18:9-15; Genesis 21:1-7 Miriam: Exodus 15:19-21; Numbers 12:1-10 Deborah & Jael: Judges 4:1-9; Judges 4:14-24; Judges 5:1-3, 31 Naomi & Ruth: Ruth 1:1-22; Ruth 4:13-17 Abigail: 1 Samuel 25:1-44 Gomer: Hosea 1:2-3; Hosea 2:5-23; Hosea 3:1-2 Esther: Esther 3:1-10, 13-15; Esther 4; Esther 7 & 8
Women of the New Testament Elizabeth: Luke 1:5-6; 36-45; 57-58 Mary: Luke 1:46-55; 2:19; 2:40-52; John 2:1-12; 19-25; Acts 1:14 Anna: Luke 2:36-38 Samaritan Woman: John 4:7-30; 39-42 Mary Magdalene: Luke 8:1-3; Mark 15:37-41; John 20:11-18, John 23:54-56; 24:1-12 Joanna, Mary, mother of James, Susanna, Salome, Mary & Martha (of Bethany): Luke 10:38-42; 11:1-5; 11:17-44; Luke 12:1-8 Tabitha: Acts 9:36-43 Lydia: Acts 16:11-15; 40 Prominent Greek women, Damaris: Acts 17:1-4; 10-12; 34 Priscilla: Acts 18:1-4; 18-19; 24-28 Phoebe, Tryphena, Tryphosa, Junia, Julia: Romans 16
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JESSIE SENECA Identifying and Enlisting Leaders
Exodus 3, 4 & 18 • Moses was not a natural leader • Moses had others help him • Moses had an inner circle
You don’t need to be a “natural” leader to be an “effective” leader. You simply need a heart for God and a teachable spirit.
Why we don’t delegate
1. Base our worth on results
2. Don’t believe 1 Corinthians 12 (each person is given the manifestation of the Spirit for the common good)
3. Have not seen good delegation modeled
4. No time to train others
5. Control Freak
6. Bad experience with delegation
7. Have a plan to see others giftedness
8. Fear others will do it better
9. Don’t pray enough for leaders
16 Six ways to develop others 1. Believe they can lead as well as you if not better 2. Train others to not just see, but lead 3. Delegate to others within their giftedness 4. Coach others by providing assistance when needed 5. Encourage them to not grow weary in doing good
6. Utilize their talent
Enlisting a Team
• PRAY! • Consult with your Pastor • Observe those you do ministry with • Are they available? • Are they passionate about the ministry? • Are they willing to learn and receive help and council from others? • Ask
Qualifications of a Leader
Giftedness - Teaching, administration, encouragement, leadership are the most typical gifts of Bible study teachers
Attitude - Heart for God: Positive
Committed - To serve
Authority - Submissive to God’s Word
Spirit-filled - Manifest the fruit of the Spirit: Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control (Gal. 5:22-23)
Faithful - Follows God’s leading
Available - Flexible to be of service
Teachable - Willing to learn and receive help and council from others
17 Pace-setter - Models godliness - What followers want in a leader: • A Calling • Insight • Charisma • Talent • Ability • Good communication skills • Character
Growing - Continual and planned for
Facilitator - Not a preacher, teacher, pusher, prodder or authoritative figure with all the answers. Talks little and lets group members discover, participate and apply the Word of God to their own lives. Moves people to dependence on Jesus Christ rather than themselves. — Beth Moore
Shepherd - Cares for those in ministry with you
Acrostic for T.E.A.M T ogetherness (Create a sense of togetherness) E mpower with authority and presence. Humble yourself in order to build a team. A ccept each others gifts - we are diverse, but we are called to serve without division. M entor others - share your gifts and knowledge with those you lead.
Proverbs for Leaders (Proverbs 25-31)
Proverbs 25:5 (CSB) Remove the wicked from the King’s presence, and his throne will be established through righteousness.
• How careful are you when you are putting your team together?
Proverbs 25:6 (NIV) Do not exalt yourself in the king’s presence, and do not claim a place among his great men;
• As others notice the quality of your life, then they will draw attention to you. In God’s time he will exalt you.
18 Proverbs 25:15 (ESV) With patience a ruler may be persuaded, and a soft tongue will break a bone.
• Soft speech can crush strong opposition.
Proverb 27:2 (CSB) Let another praise you, and not your own mouth—a stranger, and not your own lips.
Proverbs 27:21 (NLT) Fire tests the purity of silver and gold, but a person is tested by being praised.
• How you react to praise reveals your maturity and relationship to Jesus
Proverbs 27:17 (NIV) As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.
• Two friends who bring their ideas together can make each other sharper • Build a good team!
Proverbs 27:23 (NIV) Be sure you know the condition of your flocks, give careful attention to your herds;
• Put your heart into caring for those on your team or under you.
Proverbs 28:2 (CSB) When a land is in rebellion, it has many rulers, but with a discern- ing and knowledgeable person, it endures.
• There is stability with wise and knowledgeable leaders.
Proverbs 28:26 (CSB) The one who trusts in himself is a fool, but one who walks in wisdom will be safe.
• The wise person depends on God.
Proverbs 29:1 (CSB) One who becomes stiff-necked, after many reprimands will be shattered instantly—beyond recovery.
• Accept criticism.
19 Proverbs 29:18 (CSB) Without revelation people run wild, but one who follows divine instruction will be happy.
• Obey the law, it brings happiness.
Proverbs 31:30 (CSB) Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
Resources: Abound, A Call to Purposeful Servant Leadership, Jessie Seneca Jesus on Leadership, C. Gene Wilkes Ministering Through Spiritual Gifts, Charles Stanley Ministering to Women, Kelly King The Top Ten Mistakes Leaders Make, Hans Finzel The 21 indispensable Qualities of a Good Leader, John Maxwell The Power of Passion in Leadership: Lead With Your Heart, Not Just Your Head, Hans Finzel
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KELLY KING How to Lead Through Crisis
When written in Chinese, the word “crisis” is composed of two characters. One represents danger and the other represents opportunity. –John F. Kennedy
What are various kinds of crisis leaders face?
• Natural disasters • Wars or conflict • Disease • Relational crisis such as a moral failure • Death • Finances • Personal and family crisis • What else?
What are commonalities of crisis?
• They are unexpected • They demand a need for strong leadership • They affect a broader population than just one person • They are opportunities to create a better future • They require faith—the reality of what is hoped for, the proof of what is not seen (Heb. 11:1)
What does the Bible say about crisis and trouble?
• John 16:33 (CSB): “You will have suffering in this world. Be courageous! I have conquered the world.”
• James 1:2-4 (CSB): “Consider it a great joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you experience various trials, because you know that the testing of your faith produces endurance. And let endurance have its full effect, so that you may be mature and complete, lacking nothing.”
• Psalm 18:18-19 (CSB): “They confronted me in the day of my calamity, but the LORD was my support. He brought me out to a spacious place; he rescued me because he delighted in me.”
21 In short, we know that trouble will come. Crisis will happen. But leaders must ask themselves these questions:
• Will I trust in the Lord? • Will I lead or will I react? • Will I be like Esther and embrace that God has called me to lead in such a time as this? (Esther 4:14)
Practical Ways You Can Lead In the Midst of Crisis
Lean Into the Lord and Not Yourself
Colossians 3:16 (CSB): “Let the word of Christ dwell richly among you, in all wisdom teaching and admonishing one another through psalms, hymns, and spiritual songs, singing to God with gratitude in your hearts.”
During times of crisis, there are things you can do to draw near to the Lord: • Spend time in prayer and Bible reading (Psalms for comfort, Proverbs for wisdom) • Journal • Meditate and memorize God’s word • Grieve losses • Connect with biblical community and always provide hope
Communicate With Those You Lead
Proverbs 16:13 (The Message): “Good leaders cultivate honest speech; they love advisors who tell them the truth.”
During times of crisis, you can take these steps: • Acknowledge the current situation • Acknowledge various sides of the situation • Have clarity in communicating your decisions • Communicate the mission and “why” • Communicate often • Allow opportunities for two-way communication
22 Assess the Reality and Know Yourself
Proverbs 23:12 (CSB): “Apply yourself to discipline and listen to words of knowledge.”
During times of crisis, ask yourself: • Am I leader who often reacts intuitively or with facts and data? • Am I being authentic and transparent with those I lead? • Am I displaying a tone of calm or chaos? • Am I involving others on my team that can fill in my weaknesses and who have knowledge I don’t? • Am I being tone deaf to the hardness of the crisis?
Set New Priorities and Realign Your Strategy
1 Corinthians 9:22-23 (CSB): “To the weak I became weak, in order to win the weak. I have be- come all things to all people so that I may by every possible means save some. Now I do all this because of the gospel, so that I may share in the blessings.”
During times of crisis, remember: • Crisis is an accelerator for creativity and change • Be flexible and pivot strategies without sacrificing the mission • Priorities may shift in the midst of crisis • Things may never be “normal” or the “same” when the crisis is over.
“Crisis can be the cradle of innovation.” –Carey Nieuwhof
Make Relationships a Top Priority
Phil. 2:3-4 (CSB): “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility consider others as more important than yourselves. Everyone should look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others.”
During times of crisis, maintain relationships by: • Remembering that this isn’t a time to take advantage of others in the midst of a crisis • Be generous to others • Be personal and prayerful • Prioritize practical, spiritual, and emotional needs of others
23 Create Plans for Future Crisis Management
Prov. 15:22 (CSB): “Plans fail when there is no counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.”
While the Lord directs our steps and knows our future, wise leaders create plans for the future. • Develop a crisis management team and assign various aspects that each person will be responsible for. • Be prepared for future crisis—it will come. Learn from the past and use it as a guide from which you can learn. • Trust that God is in control.
Matthew 6:34 (CSB): “Therefore don’t worry about tomorrow, because tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”
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ASHLEY CHESNUT Ministering to Women in Light of #MeToo and #ChurchToo
“The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim liberty to the captives and recovering of sight to the blind, to set at liberty those who are oppressed,” – Luke 4:18 (ESV)
How Trauma Affects You
- Physical Effects • Physical Symptoms • Hypervigilance • Intrusions & Triggers
What to Say When Responding to a Disclosure • I’m so sorry this happened to you. • I believe you. • You do not deserve what has happened. • Thank you for telling me. • What do you need? • You’re not the only one who has responded this way. You’re not crazy. • God hates what has happened to you. • What has happened to you is sin. It’s wrong. • What happened is not your fault. • There’s hope. Things can get better. You can get better.
- Emotional Effects • Avoidance & Disassociation • Overwhelmed Emotions • Shame
- Spiritual Effects • Faith Questions
25 What Survivors Wish You Knew
How to Respond How NOT to Respond
Just listen. Understand that there are Talking over me, telling me what I need to moments, days, or weeks when I’m unable do, and trying to fix me/my situation when to talk, so being ready to listen when I am you can’t fix what has happened. able to talk.
Offer to spend time with me (a conversation Avoiding me (because you don’t know what or doing something fun). Remind me I’m to say/do or because I’m “too much”) or not alone. Pursue me relationally. I’m not waiting on me to reach out first. as likely to reach out and don’t want to be a burden.
Because of everything I have experienced Not inviting me to social gatherings and am processing, my emotional bandwidth with groups or to hang out one-on-one is small, and large groups of people may because I decline invitations so often. Not seem overwhelming. I may isolate – even understanding why I decline invites and to an unhealthy level – because making it not being sensitive to me feeling uncom- through the day requires so much effort and fortable or unsafe in group environments. hypervigilance is exhausting. Let me know you care, even if I withdraw or go radio silent.
Understand that I likely struggle with Telling me that I’m anxious or sad depression, anxiety, panic attacks, and other because I’m not trusting the Lord. mental health issues as side effects of my Thinking that I can just pop a “prayer pill” abuse. Sometimes, I don’t know what and be fine emotionally. triggers me emotionally or why.
Recognize I may need help (for a variety Minimizing what has happened to me or of reasons) calling what happened to the impact that it has had. Not recognizing me “abuse.” my trauma for what it is.
Understand that forgiveness is a process and Telling me that I should forgive my abuser isn’t easy. I may not be ready to forgive yet, and and expecting me to do it quickly. it’s something that I have to work through.
Distinguish between forgiveness and Thinking forgiveness and reconciliation are reconciliation. Acknowledge that synonymous and expecting me to forgive reconciliation with my abuser may never and to be in a relationship with my abuser, happen and may not be wise or safe for me. as though nothing has happened
Listen for my faith questions and ask me if Trying to give me a theological quick fix: I’m ready/open to discussing them. I may telling me it was part of God’s plan/will for not be now, but I might be later. my abuse to happen or that everything will be okay/that God works things out for good.
26 What Survivors Wish You Knew
How to Respond How NOT to Respond
With questions about spiritual disciplines in my Being judgmental if I’m not consistent in life, consider how my abuse colors my view of spiritual disciplines or if I struggle with even God. I may struggle with prayer or studying wanting to do them. Not affirming steps the Bible because I’m still trying to figure out I have taken and not acknowledging that if God is safe, good, and trustworthy in light of change and healing take time. all the hurt I’ve experienced. If spiritual abuse is part of my story, I’m still sorting through what’s true biblically and what’s not true (but was twisted by my abuser)
Being patient and understanding as I identify Judging me for my coping behaviors. Not and deal with bad/sinful coping mechanisms understanding why I’ve coped the way and cognitive distortions related to my I have. Expecting me to change quickly abuse. Understand it takes time, therapy, and once I’ve identified them, not recognizing community to help me unlearn unhealthy that these have likely been patterns in my behaviors and to learn new, healthy ones. life for years and will take time to change.
Know that trauma is something I will deal Expecting that I can always know how I will with to varying degrees my entire life. I do respond to stimuli/circumstances/people. not know what will trigger me to remember Thinking that abuse is something a person my abuse or cause me to struggle in various “gets over” or that they can recover from it seasons. Triggers differ for each person. quickly. Telling me to “get on” with their life.
In a domestic abuse situation, be patient Becoming impatient that I’m not ready yet with me if I don’t leave my abuser immedi- to leave my abusive situation. Giving up on ately (even after several conversations or me, leaving me alone in my abuse without times of being hurt) or if I go back to my a lifeline. abuser. I’ve been manipulated, controlled, and conditioned by my abuser, and it’s likely that I care about the person on some level, even though they have hurt me. I may even blame myself and think that I am at fault (or have been told repeatedly that it’s my fault).
Recognize that every survivor’s experience Thinking that we will all feel the same is different and how they respond to their things or experience similar effects of trauma will vary. abuse. Categorizing or labeling me and my experience instead of listening to the particulars of how I am uniquely affected by my abuse.
27 Recommended Resources
• National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233) • National Sexual Assault Hotline (1-800-656-HOPE) • Suffering and the Heart of God by Diane Langberg (for alongsiders) • On the Threshold of Hope by Diane Langberg (for survivors) • Becoming a Church that Cares Well for the Abused edited by Brad Hambrick • Rid of My Disgrace: Hope and Healing for Victims of Sexual Assault by Justin & Lindsey Holcomb • Is It My Fault? Hope and Healing for Those Suffering from Domestic Violence byJustin & Lindsey Holcomb • Shame Interrupted by Edward Welch • Side by Side by Edward Welch • “Sexual Abuse in Marriage: Part 1, 2, & 3” by Darby Strickland • Videos from the 2019 Caring Well Conference (ERLC’s Vimeo page)
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LESLEY HILDRETH Suffering: Leading and Teaching
Because we live in a broken world, we will experience suffering. As leaders, we will often be called upon to lead during seasons in which we are suffering OR we will be given the opportunity to lead others through dark seasons in their lives.
It is not “if” but when
• Genesis 3 — the curse of sin
• Romans 5:12 - 21 — our sin nature
• Romans 3:23 & Galatians 6:8 — our sinful choices
Suffering is a result of sin and sin is part of life on earth.
29 Some causes of Suffering in Leadership
• Outside Circumstances: things beyond our control
• Self-Inflicted: mistakes or immaturity in leadership
• Sin-inflicted: Idols of the heart
Suffering Matures and Equips us for Ministry
Don Carson: One of the blessings given to suffering believers is the prospect of being more fruitful than they could have ever imagined. (How Long O Lord?: Reflections on Suffering and Evil, p. 109)
David Powlison: When you’ve passed through your own fiery trials, and found God to be true to what he says, you have real help to offer. You have firsthand experience of both his sustaining grace and his purposeful design.” (Suffering and the Sovereignty of God, p. 166)
30 How can you embrace, not merely survive, leading through suffering?
• Cling to the reality that you are a child of God.
• Confess your need to God and others.
• Learn from mistakes.
• Learn from God.
• Move towards, not away from suffering.
• Trust — He will redeem/use your suffering.
• Keep going.
• Fight for joy.
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